If I know one thing about INFPs, it's that if you gain their trust, you get a formidable ally. They may look stubborn with their ideas as well, but once they see that they could trust you, they would listen to you and put your words into consideration. They might even consult to you when they get drowned in their cycle of self-doubt. Fi is such a massive driving force that could make them go great lengths for the things and people they put their faith on. If you have an INFP around you, treasure them.
Don’t think I’ve had many male INFP friends, but female INFP’s seem to just FLOCK to me, lol. It’s not something I mind, however-they’re the only people whose hugs I not only tolerate but actually enjoy.
My gf is an INFP. She can be a bit intense but her knowledge and ideas are such great fuel for doing things. She in turn feels like the organisation and efficiency in doing things, planning things, problem solving, is such a relief. Her intensity to protect me, who goes about neutral and unfazed when someone becomes rude, feels so caring.
@@justcallmejon22 will certainly do so, keep up the stellar work on these videos. I find it hard to put into words what is happening inside ourselves, and you explain things excellently.
INFP with an INTJ boyfriend here, and I agree with your video. From my point of view, I just love his wit, dark humor and lovely quirkness (although he doesnt see it, and is mostly too harsh on himself 🫤). 5 years together, and we have grow sooooooo much!! And without big fights or pointless drama, just long conversations about hard topics and bad puns while chilling at home. Of course, there was lot of patience and work to do, but turns out everything we needed was someone to trust and to discuss things in a deep intelectual / emotional way (I say emotional as in a " psychological " or abstract way, and not in a shallow drama or crybaby way, that's mostly for imature INFPs). In the beginning, he saw as me as too emotional and I saw him as arrogant, but, as our connection grew stronger, we started to see pass this traits, and see the true intentions behind it. (Sorry about any english mistakes, sending hugs all the way from Brazil 😊)
Obrigado! I visited Brazil a few years ago, it's a beautiful country! I'm happy to hear about your relationship with your INTJ and that you two are growing together. Please continue taking care of my fellow INTJ and your English is perfect ✊
Maybe my INFP man is out there somewhere. Although statistically most INFP's are women (70%), and I'm (tragically) heterosexual. So it's probably not going to happen.
3:11 Exactly. My INFP friend is quite social for an I type, and whenever I get verbally questioned for... behaviour, she always stands up for me and is noticeably different from usual. I'm very thankful for this. It looks a bit awkward because of the fact that I'm taller and yet look so helpless in those situations. And this is at school. I give back to her, and help her by helping her with homework and other things.
Infps are usually really really social IF they’re comfortable. But you have to really be in that circle.. your friends really like you if they’re really vocal and loud. Otherwise in other situations they’re really quite it comes off as rude ( i know i come off that way.. lol.. but i can’t stop talking if i click with someone.. a little too much)
The stare is so accurate. A couple of my family members tell me they get concerned when I stare into space. I did it a lot when I was a child. But when they ask me "what are you thinking about".. I always say, "nothing" it frustrates them
Thank you so much for this! As an INFP I basically spent my entire 20s single because no one felt like the right match, until I met my partner in my 30s who's an INTJ. Is everything perfect? Well, like you said, we're a great match when we're in our healthiest moods, which isn't always and I'll be the first to admit that my darker pessimistic side can bring us down at times. But the trust, respect and understanding is 110% there and beyond anything I've ever experienced before!
Aaaah finally someone appreciates us! 😃 Personally, INTJs are the best for INFPs because together we make each other better people, we have different sets of skills and weak points so we complement each other really nicely. It's the ultimate relationship for personal growth.
I'm an INTJ and I have three sisters. Two of them are INFPs and the other is an ENFP. My best friend is an INFP. I know so many INFPs that it's kind of terrifying, and I can tell with 99% surety that everything in this video is correct. The INFPs in my life were really hard for me to connect to at first (since they tended to assume I had no feelings until I had a huge argument with one of them because I finally got offended about something) But every time I have a mental breakdown and one of those sisters knows about it, they *will* hunt me down. My INFP friend gets on my nerves sometimes, but that's not because she's an INFP, it's because our values sometimes grate against each other in painful ways. As I have come to understand INFPs from being around them my whole life, I can see how some INTJs would think that the two types are completely incompatible, but my INFPs are some of the smartest and most useful people I know. They're also always willing to help me out whenever I need to most, and no matter what arguments we've had, they always bounce back. I'm terrible at praise so that was probably very disorganized, I don't have time to edit it though and make it coherent.
You made a lot of sense! I agree that it's difficult to deal with them if our values don't align but once both types get to a healthy stage, one of the best partners in crime ✊
Aww I don't know but it's really stress full when others assume things about you not knowing the real you and when you are "special" here comes the pain :( I'm an infp too- but it's hard for me to fit in I'm very cold and others think I have no feelings,, I can't connect with others I have harsh arguments with my family members too I kinda hate some of em because of it but I know deep down I still love them somewhere,, from how different I'm it's difficult to know if I belong here or not, I'd just act okay and ignore and forgive but I don't forget,
When others don't understand your nature here when you get attacked for it, I wish I was logical or let go of my feelings sometimes because I feel that in this world it is not required to have people like me as they treat me like a strange animal the only thing I did was just feeling was just giving them love they didn't understand, you know who you are! You are pretty sure of what you know more than anyone it's your mind it's your heart and you know that very well even if others assumed things it's just how we analyze our nature it's pretty upsetting but we do know who we are so it doesn't really matter Be happy for yourself ur identity it's why you're special!
My roommate is an infp and they are just so adorable and great to be around. I do often feel a bit bad tho because I ofc don't have a very clear connection to my feelings in the slightest, and infps tend to have a better understanding of theirs. As such, I'm not able to show support/comfort/sympathy/etc for them in what most people consider the "correct" way, but they are one of the rare instances where I know they fully understand I care abt them in my own way. They were apparently a bit scared of me when we first met, but I'm glad we've become such good friends. We've definitely gotten each other out of some tough situations lol
Omg 😭 I’m an INFP who recently started dating an INTJ (I just found out that he’s an INTJ). I was looking into the INTJ/INFP dynamic so that I can understand him better and be more helpful to him, and this video made everything make so much more sense of why we get along so well 😂 I also wasn’t expecting this video to be such a confidence boost lmao my guy has expressed to me almost exactly some of the things you say you love about INFPs, and I LOVE that and think it’s hilarious because I didn’t understand where he was coming from. Now I do and thank you so much for this video! ♥️
An INTJ once told me not to dwell so much on introspection. LOL Basically, us INFPs love your Ni dom and Te aux mechanics; while you guys love how our Fi and Ne works. It’s so interesting how we see things in our own perspective in different ways, yet understand each other’s POV at the same time. Maybe that is one of the big reasons why we have mentally-stimulating conversations- we kinda see each other eye-to-eye. Thank you, Jonathan @justcallmejon2022, for this wonderful video. Keep those ideas and insights of yours flowing! Kudos. ♡
I appreciate the support! Agreed, there is a certain level of understanding between both types that transcends logic regardless of whether it's something we agree on or disagree. INFPs are easily one of my favorite people ❤
wow…amazing video!! I love INTJs too. You described us with such depth and nuance, especially compared to some of the INFP videos out there. It’s pretty easy to tell quickly from comments or videos who really gets INFPs and who doesn’t. But you got us even down to how long it actually takes for us to know how we feel, which most don’t understand and make room for, because they just think, well, Fi, - when Fi is really a value system. We know our values before we know what we feel about something or someone. Especially fresh was the distinction between Fi and Fe, very much agree with you that Fi allows us to focus on the individual. We both are slow to trust, both familiar with feeling unseen and unknown in a loud and aggressive E world, both have patience for each other in our own way, we both value loyalty, and if the other person meets our tests of respect and integrity to earns trust over time, you will not find a more loyal faithful and giving pair to each other. What I find extremely attractive in INTJs that I see all over this and your other videos is Ni (Ni is so hot, I always say - haha!), which is so refined and intelligent that it always seems to “know” what is going on in a given situation and what is needed (where our Fi “knows” what is going on internally in someone, and what that person needs). Also… I laughed out loud because I just did that faraway galactic stare earlier thinking or feeling into something. And …. typing two INFPs while you were black out drunk … LOL that’s too guru!!! 😂😂😂 🎉❤
INFPs are easy to understand once we acknowledge your Fi and how it controls you similar to how Ni controls us. Being around INFPs is really refreshing exactly because of what you mentioned about the Extroverted world we live in. I hope that stare lead to something positive because it really does terrify me 🙃
@@justcallmejon22 LOL. It is hard to intimidate the formidable INTJ so I find that so delightfully funny 🤓🙂. Fi is weird. One French MBTI CZcamsr, Je Crois Que J’ai Compris, said that the INFP goes to heaven and hell and back, and every shade in between, that’s how we are able to understand all the nuances of human nature (and write works of the sort that Shakespeare, Tolkien, and other INFPs did). As a writer this spoke to me. I guess Fi is the tiger I ride, that can savagely take me to the most unknown places, I’ve had to learn how to ride, be one with it. How does it work being dominated by Ni? (I so wish I had Ni, I find it so attractive. I realized over time all my close friends had strong Ni) It’s like the light saber that cuts through all the fog and muck-but the INTJ’s Ni is refined, like a scalpel thin one.
I think you did a great job with this one! I've known a few INFPs in my life and the three things I can say that have been consistent across the about every encounter are: 1. They can often come off as the "Cloud Cookoolander" stereotype when they're in their own world. I have a friend who I typed accurately just because, she had gotten a humidifier and according to her the design made it look like it had a face so she decided she was gonna call it "grandpa." As we're gaming, it had a minor hiccup or something and she went, "Everything okay grandpa?" Me being the lead wanted to be respectful of IRL stuff taking priority, so I go, "You need a moment to help your grandpa? We can stop before the next pull." And her response was, "Oh no, it's fine. I was talking to my humidifier." And without missing a beat I just thought, "OMG you're an INFP. So much stuff makes so much sense now." So then I ask, have you heard of MBTI? She goes, "Oh yeah... I'm an INFP," and I'm just like, "I fucking knew it!" and we had a good laugh from there. 2. That Fi-Dom energy is damn near impenetrable once they latch on to an idea or a value, unless they want to change it on their own. Right or wrong. This can lead to either triggering that innate defense mech for an INTJ to protect someone who may not be as comfortable protecting their ideas yet, or some of the most FRUSTRATING conversations I've ever been a part of. I had another friend who had expressed early on that they always feel like people don't notice them specifically during voice conversations because they just have a softer voice over the mic. And once they expressed that, it's like it triggered my own Fi "trauma" from growing up and feeling over shadowed cause I didn't know how to express myself, thus when they would try and say something and more extroverted or louder people may have been talking over them at the same time, I had this almost instinct to always let that person finish, and then make a point to circle back to my INFP friend and say, "Hey you were going to share a thought on that topic, what did you want to say?" But on the flip side that same friend an I have had a lot of conversations where I've had to just end it with, "We're going to just have to agree to disagree and move on, because you're logically/factually wrong and I'm not going to waste my time arguing this anymore." Only to then have them come back, usually a good while later, and be like, "You know what? I see what you were talking about with X topic and I agree with that now." And as frustrating as that is whenever it happens, I admire exactly how authentic and strongly the believe in whatever they may be incorrect about, because in a world full of fakers, clout chasers, and trend hoppers, at least the INFP was true enough to themselves to basically say, "I'll die on this hill, because it's what I believe in," and I have nothing but respect for it. 3. They are the only type I can never fully give the "INTJ Door slam" to, even if they've REALLY pissed me off in that moment. Again, probably because internally I recognize that Fi signal, even if we give them different priority, which means once I KNOW your character as a person, I can tell the difference between an intentional slight and one that could have happened and the INFP absolutely didn't mean it like that, it's just the circumstances of the moment made it come off that way. And because of that I also know that we both just need to step away, I probably need to let my Fi ruminate a bit and essentially "feel my feelings" and then come back with a cooler head and just squash the beef. Case in point, that same friend from earlier had done something last Sept. to just REALLY piss me off. And then life got busy and we never really got around to "resolving" that conflict, partially because she didn't even know she had pissed me off. Fast forward to a few weeks ago and a couple of people that we both know pretty well had a pretty bad falling out. And she hit me up because as to be expected she was concerned for the feelings of everyone, and as if there was never any beef to begin with I was giving her advice on how to comfort one party while also staying out of the drama, and reassuring her that I was already in the middle mediating the situation to a degree, not by choice mind you. But the point is where almost every other type, the door slam would have happened and I'd have just been like, "Looking at the list of shit I got going on and oh hey, guess what? Not my problem," with the INFP I couldn't help but just want to reassure them everything would be okay.
It sounds like you have great experience INFPs too and that you understand what I meant when I said that you can just kinda feel them lol. I can never imagine myself door-slamming an INFP that I once considered a friend unless the INFP does something malicious first. Keep your INFPs close dude, they're one of your biggest allies and supporter ✊
@@justcallmejon22 Absolutely! Truth be told, I was waiting for this one cause I wanted to share about those INFP friends that I hold close. But as someone else said, sometimes I just need to be extra sensitive about the way I handle or comment on a situation. I do credit the friend from example 2/3 with helping me improve communicating my intent, because I know as an INTJ, sometimes I'll just see a solution, know it will take everyone else entirely too long to see the same thing, and just say, "I'll do it myself," and act. And she rightfully pointed out how that can make people feel a type of way that was not the intent, which can muddy the results.
yeah i get the last part with getting mad at an infp friend that's naturally a jokester like Jon was saying, even more memeish then me and i'm an ENFP! but i got my feelings hurt but later on i can never stay mad because i can tell they really do mean sorry and didn't mean it in a way for me to get genuinely upset
Not being able to door slam the other is a mutual experience. As an INFP, I have gone through it with one of my INTJ friends and I cut off contact with a very heavy heart, because I was just so painfully aware of what he was struggling with internally but I needed to work on some things alone. I never really stopped thinking of him because of that and re-established contact a few years later. I don't know if I had any influence in it or if he was already aware of what he needed to change but he had kicked pretty much all the bad habits that broke our friendship and matured significantly in that time. We're now closer than ever and sort of take the role of the "existential consultant" for each other. :)
As an INTJ I get the "hope for the best, prepare for the worst" reasoning quite frequently. When growing up both types are either relegated to or adhere to the outcast roles, either by trauma or preference on solitude. Both notice how people get shallow, selfish, vindinctive, or plain disrespectful (mostly seen on unhealthy extraverts), so either we want no part on such an horrendous world (but we need to engage, unfortunately) or are unmotivated to engage. Basically my view on that phenomenon is based on Te (no tangible or long-term profit), which in turn makes me give up), while the INFP's reaction derives from Fi-Si: "It's gonna happen again, a repeating pattern from these given signals." Despite having hopes and dreams, reality takes a heavy toll on them. On the other hand, it's also possible to blend both into an Fi common factor, summarized into a low self-esteem in both INTJs and INFPs, whose feeling aspect is introverted and thus will be affected by their own emotions.
I agree that there's a long lasting negative affect for INTJ/INFPs that continues to be outcasted by society. What I want to add is that the beauty of being an INTJ is that we lead with Ni and have Te. Our motivations come from within and we will do what is necessary to get where we know we can be; That combination is what makes us great! Chin up INTJ, whatever life throws at your I hope you know that you got this ✊
As a 44 years old INFP, I didn't think I would learn anything about myself in this video. Well, well, you proved me wrong !!! I've been really enjoying your channel, Jon. Thanks 😊😊😊 and Cheers from France !
Really appreciating this relationships series. In this time of my life, I'm completely isolated from everyone, being so stubbornly focused only on my goals and making time for nothing else. But you make me want to move back to a big city, meet new people, include them into my life projects, and be included in theirs. You know, _have friends_ . Your mood is energizing. And you also show this genuinely curious, non-judgmental, almost supportive side of INTJs that people really seem not to get about our type. Our stereotypes don't do us justice in this. Anyway, can't wait for the "INTJs love INTJs" video 😁
I really do appreciate the kinds words! I've noticed that I tend to bounce around from being isolated to being super friends/family focused. I do one, then when I get tired I do the other. It's a good balance for me but I've realized how important they are to my growth as a human being. Whatever you decide to do, whether it's focus on your goal or be around people, I 100% support your decision and hoping for the best ✊
This video made me feel so warm inside - I came here because I’m an INFP wondering how I might get on with this INTJ guy I’m talking to, but I left with a unique perspective of the positive qualities that others see, which was really refreshing and encouraging.
this is the best video abt the relationship between INTJ AND INFP. my brother and my close friend are INTJs while im an INFP. so im glad u appreciate us lol. also i love talking with an INTJ. they bring so much knowledge and very well grounded. they aspire me to b more confident
Late to the party here, just found your channel mate. INTJ here, my wife is INFP (Psychologist btw). Married for 18 years and still going strong. Watching your video I had this warm grinning the whole time, we both (wife & I) feel if not for each other we would be single... the compatibility we have is fairly unique, in my case I just can't visualize being long term engaged with any other women I know, most I can't stand interacting with beyond a couple hours at a time... imagine a life together... Our relationship is very symbiotic, we provide something to each other that we lack on ourselves. I provide my wife structure and applied solutions and she's my ambassador to the "world of feelings". She deals with the emotional situations and "people's feelings" while I deal with "getting things done" and take care about our future selves. Btw, our daughter inherited a very balanced mix of our traits... she is an ISFP.
Congrats on your long and successful relationship! INFPs really do have this magnetism that's difficult to ignore if both our Fi's align. I can't date someone until I can imagine a future with them either which is interesting because I won't have that data unless I put myself out there but I don't want to put myself out there because I don't have enough data to want to. Anyways...take care of your ISFP child! My niece is an ISFP and it's been a great joy helping her nurture her Fi and learn Te confidence from me 😁
As an INFP I only recognised one INTJ in my life and I did magnetised him, but he did the same to me. It seems like the most natural dynamic for me… I hope I will see him again and we can work things out. You made me laugh. I did have the “stare” when I’m not focusing on anything, but my inner world. But you, INTJs have one as well… those soul piercing eyes
I didn't realize that the 'soul piercing' stare that I usually give is when I feel like I finally found someone's Fi. The other stare is because we're curious, but they might look like the same stare from the outside 😅
6:01 being an INFP (although I am still speaking on a personal level) I appreciate you for that as well.... it's a quality that I always desire and heavily admire
INTP here and got into MBTI trying to figure out my INTJ partner (obviously didn't know he was at the time) but it really helped me see why he is the way he is. 3 years in, its great, it just works, we never argue, have the best laughs, and he's the most sincere, trustworthy man I've ever met 😊
I'm so confused (in a good way) with this comment since you're an INTP, complimenting INTJs, on a video directed to INFPs. There's so much going on here 😂
@justcallmejon22 OK...I can explain....🤣 this was meant to be on your INTJ and INTP video...I can only conclude that it went down the playlist without me noticing and I commented on the wrong one 😬 I stand by the compliment though, I know where I stand, I know any compliment I receive is sincere and I know he's a man of his word 👍🏻
My reason (as an INFP) for wanting the best but also prepare for the worst, especially during job interviews, is as you've put it clearly in your logical verbalisation: I can't respond in the way that will showcase my abilities on the spot. I don't want to be perceived as an idiot so I prepared for the worst. It's the challenge of a proper impromptu response that makes me feel small. That's why I admired the eloquence of INTJs. We do share the same train of thoughts some times, but I just can't verbalise it as well as an INTJ.
I really appreciate this video, i can see how intjs and infps can be compatible for sure we each have the things that we long for most in each other and are able to understand and balance each other out pretty well. When it comes to us feeling small, its more than anything at least in my opinion as an infp, its because if we let ourselves get our hopes up like we have so many times in the past and if it doesnt work out (way more often than not) the crushing weight of sadness is unbearable so if we dont let it happen to start with at least it wont be as unbearable, its more than anything a protective mechanism from being subjected to so much pain and disappointment in the past
Thank you for the comment, you've helped me learn something about the INFPs! It didn't occur to me that INFPs would feel sadness just as intensely as other emotions so it makes sense not to get your hopes up. Thank you 🙂
I come back to this video a lot. It feels like a big, warm hug 🤗 I’ve been married to my husband for six months now and it’s cute how sappy he actually is on the inside
Thank you so much! INFP here and even though I don't know any INTJ yet, I always love how FJ portrays them! I value intelligence and they are kinda like what I aspire to be if I could be more clever/cartesian and able to actually do things instead of just thinking about the possibilites lolllll
I’m INFP and have like 2 INTJ friends I would KILL and die for. They’re so guarded (like me sometimes) and very beautiful souls. I low-key have a crush on one of my intj friends I can have deep discussions with them about philosophical topics without feeling like an annoying blabbermouth. Their blunt honesty can be a bit harsh sometimes ngl but I appreciate that they would never lie to me. Honestly I love them so much it’s crazy lol
Congrats on finding INTJs! The INFPxINTJ pairing is a lot more common than I used to think so I say go for it if you think being with one of them will make you happy. Good luck 🙂
🥹🥹 Got so emotional while watching this vid. Thanks for acknowledging us INFPs it means a lot.❤ Also wish the INTJ that I’m dating can learn to be a little more sensitive 😂😂 I’m not the pessimistic type and I know where my weaknesses lie, they just need to be more considerate at times when saying the brutal truth.😂😂 Loved this so much I’m gonna watch again for sure to gain more insights. 💖
I'm glad you enjoyed the video! I'm sure your INTJ doesn't mean to hurt your feelings the more tired we get the easier it is for us just to speak Te because our Fi is usually asleep at that point. Please take care of my INTJ fam 🙏
@@justcallmejon22 Yeah, thanks to your videos I understand him a lot better. 😄 I’m willing to be patient and not let his words get to be because deep down I know he’s a kind soul. ❤️🩹The same way he’s willing to apologise for what he says when he sees that frown on my face because he knows how sensitive I can be. 🙃 Every INTJ deserves an INFP, and vice versa! 🥰 I hope you’ll find yours too!
So he sent me a funny “break up with you” TikTok video to me all of a sudden.. with laughing emojis and didn’t even bother explaining anything.. 🥺 At first I thought it was a joke but he hasn’t contacted me for 3 days so I decided to block his number and move on… I really thought it would work out but I guess he decided that I maybe too emotional for him. 😞 I wish him and all the INTJs all the best and hope that he finds someone more compatible with him.. Thank you for all the videos that taught me a lot about him. 💙
@@caparitarot I'm not qualified to step in here, but wait a bit longer. Don't get your hopes up but don't go into pessimistic-land. Be patient. Also, if you feel like the INTJ isn't sensitive enough, tell him. If he cares about you, he'll understand and make an attempt. An attempt. Good luck. -INTJ female
@@FalconFDC Thank you for the reply. I’ve decided that we do need time apart to centre ourselves.. I do sincerely hope that he’ll make an attempt to reach out.. but yeah I’ve done too much and what he did really broke my heart..🥺🖤 I do believe we’ll come around if it’s meant to be! Sending all INTJ-INFP pairs so much love💖
Yes! Fe Doms or aux don't see how we Fi people build independent connections with people. Its one on one Fi connection, not the vibe in the room like Fe. So yeah, I agree, Fe doms are blind to this Fi mechanic, or don't think it's powerful. But I disagree. I may not be able to manipulate the emotional vibe of the group, but I can pull on people's individual heart strings if we are Fi connected and that pull can be very strong.
Brooooo 8:53 everytime I listen to this part, you just casually break me down so easily and I cant help but crying…. AND YEAH I AM INFP AND I LOVE YOUUUUUUU
Being an INFP is the constant battle between realizing just how capable we are of colonizing the stars and effectively using resources to the point that all living things can exist comfortably and in a fulfilled way. But also realizing that the tribalism and vices that are inherent to humanity are probably going to result in our species never setting foot off this planet in a meaningful way before we turn our home planet into a hellscape. Working in medicine, I can empathize so very intensely with my patients, but also feel such a silent rage at the inherent flaws in the system, misinformation, and just choices that got them there. :D Covid about killed me. I don't think I've ever been so angry, misanthropic, and just wanted the world to burn so much. It's not like me, and there was absolutely nothing I could do about it except be reactionary to the aftermath. It's easy to feel small when you're one speck in the herd... And the herd is full of idiots who won't listen to reason - even as they're driving themselves off a cliff.
Thank you for the response and thank you for working in healthcare! I considered it once and arrived to the conclusion that my tiny Fi heart would break too easily so it's best if I avoided it. It is difficult to live in a world knowing that the folly of man is what's stopping us from achieving greater heights, trust me, I empathize with that so much. What I also noticed during my lifetime are all the people in the background trying to remedy the issue and those people give me hope. Keep trekking on and keep taking care of people, there are tons of people out there like myself who rely on your kindness so that we can focus on improving everything else ✊
Unfortunately, (for an INTJ) I don't have any INFP friends. But it is true that I am drown to them. I had one classmate in highschool. Every small interaction with her was very soothing. But, she was always with her group of friends. So, it was kinda unreal to bypass them and form at least a friendship with her. Plus a friend had a crush on her...
Thank you so much for this video- first of all I have never personally known an INTJ- although I found it a bit late (just 1 year late no?) I am thankful that I found, no sugar coating no cynicism... everything was so adoringly said I couldn't help blushing!! It gives a positive outlook towards my own life!! Thank you thank you thank you so much!!!!
Mann you have me down to a T. Always hoping for the best/preparing for the worst. And can’t help but try to improve despite not really wanting to at times. That is exactly me
INFPs naturally inspire the INTJs because if an INFP is still trying (even after accepting how difficult life is) then the INTJ has no excuse not to work harder ✊
"It just doesn't sound like a pleasant life" T_T I'm an INFP, and so far, other than my own type, I think INTJs are the most interesting/magnetic type to me so far and I don't know why. My own favourite character at the moment is an INTJ.
INFP here, you made me realise why I don't fell acomplishement after achieving things I wanted I have a mindset of "I must achieve it and if not, that is a great shame, I will try againg though if I can" so things like loosing weight, getting As or 100% the game feel like something I had to get over with rather than something I did and should be proud of
Accepting it is the first step to becoming better! I understand the 'must' feeling, I think that's Te talking and I go through that daily on the most meaningless task like doing the dishes. I don't think it's an issue per say, but I hope that you feel as proud of yourself as we INTJs do when we see INFPs do amazing things 🙂
Maybe the "small" issue is the same one that can happen to most Fi users, but INFPs/ISFPs would feel it more because it's their dom. Basically, feelings impact us both strongly. And we're also very aware of our own motivations and judge ourselves heavily based on our own values. N types may also have it worse for being up in our heads with a running commentary at all times of how we're not measuring up to where we want to be. And so when you get yourself down, you feel extra small. As an INTJ, I know how to shrug it off because feelings aren't relevant to whatever I'm trying to do at the moment. But maybe INFPs can't or at least have a much harder time? But that's just a guess.
Your guess is correct. It's looks like we're pessimist but we can't help because our Fi is too strong. Maybe that's a kind of defensive mechanism? So when we have happy or sad or dissappointed or feeling down moments, it's feeling isn't too intense. Thanks for your explained. -infp
ISFP here going to chime a little bit. It's not only we feel it more, it's literally the first function in our stack. So turning our feeling off basically we won't be able to process anything & probably unhealthy in the long run. It's like telling you INTJ to turn off your Ni, kinda impossible I guess? And you're right about the part of negative feeling like judging ourselves, feeling extra small etc , exactly will be the very first thing to feel, and maybe we feel it more painful than Fi tertiary/inferior! That's why it's important for us Fi dom to process our feelings first through Ne-Si/Se-Ni to 'correct' our value or judgement, then act on it through Te. If this done correctly, Fi dom will 'do' feelings in a more mature way, because our feelings has privilege to be processed in such long way. I hope this make sense :)
@@throwawayaccountmine I totally get not turning your feelings off, nor would I recommend it for someone's dominant function. As you say, I'm not even sure it's possible. Maybe this is why INTJ x INFP and ISTJ x ISFP are considered good matches. The IXTJ in their mature state can handle immediate threats and give the IXFP type time to gather themselves. And afterwards the IXFP can help the IXTJ unpack and process whatever it was that happened. Because we do have to deal with our emotions eventually, it's just that we can delay it and wouldn't necessarily talk about it with someone who wasn't close to us. Also you guys understand that we may need some private processing time as well before we talk fully about it.
6:57 that reminds me how when someone wants to say/ask something from the teacher they make me go? Yes I struggle expressing myself and do have a loop (is it OK or not? Shall I? Shall I not?) But a question is a question that needs to be asked (you are so lovely and you reminded me that INTJ have Fi even if as an axillary function- but it's there- right there!!)
7:37 speaking on a personal level- it actually depends on the scenerio.. generally yes the focus would be on the person who left even if they left in anger or it was their fault- in case it was their fault and I am close to the person around I might care for both sides and would want to ensure their well being
8:56 Because I am??? I see so much hollowness in me so it comes naturally to me. I admire INTJ for being so awesome and being everything I ever wanted to be. It's simply come naturally to me.... I want the best because despite of being okie dokie with everything perfection is what I strike for- and I know I am not the best- I just think I see reality...... no?
Hope for the best. Plan for the worst. You may never feel ecstatic, but you'll never be fully discouraged. I think it's that Ne always 2nd guessing that high Fi. Sure, we may want something, but do we really want it? Can we really achieve it? It can get heavy
I see that a lot in the INFPs in my life. I feel like a lot of you just need a little extra nudge and you'll find your way (if that was the intention) ✊
Regarding your coming about not understanding why we as INFPs do not always expect the best when we put in the best it's because of how much we put in and how amazing our ideal really is we're afraid we'll be disappointed yet again and so we prepare for it. I can really only speak for myself but I know That's why I do it.
It sounds like such a tiring way to live life. I hope Te starts getting engaged with as early as possible so ya'll learn that failing is always part of the process 🙂
8:56 as an INFP, it’s like it’s just hard to keep up with the noise of the crowd (if you get what I mean), when everyone is so engaged I find it hard to kind of, assert myself into that to the point where I just fade out. And for the happiness part, I honestly don’t know how to explain it in words, it’s more of a thing that happens in our heads ig, pure emotion?? Idk
I am an INFP, and I found out from this video in fact that my partner of almost 6 months (who initiated our relationship with what was essentially a declaration of Undying Love and Devotion™ after years of being close friends) is an INTJ. I was wondering what they saw in me lol. XD
Congrats on finding an INTJ! I love this pairing because there's so much room for growth and emotional maturity between the two. Try not to take things too personally when the INTJ goes full Ni/Te mode and please take care of my INTJ brother for me 🙏
@@justcallmejon22 I will try my best "o"(✯ᴗ✯)"o" And thank you for the food for thought. Sometimes I get insecure on whether my partner's offering solutions because they're judging me; but finding out that's just the way they naturally care (and that they still find things to admire about me anyways) is a reframe I didn't even know I needed. So once again, thank you for posting such a wonderful video. It helped me (and probably a lot of other infps lol) greatly. ( ◡ ω ◡)人
Thank you for your content! I find your perspective very accurate, so that I can either relate or newly verbally understand what I was seeing or feeling. And that all you put in an understandable way. I have also some questions. Such as if you would like to make videos also to relationships with “sensors” and not only “intuitives”. I find it particularly interesting since I know only one couple of N-user and S-user. So I wonder if such relationships can be successful and happy also from the empiric and not only theoretic point of view. I also admire how many intuitive friends you have. Because my whole family, also the broader one with cousins etc., and most friends are sensors. And I know so little intiutivs. So I wonder where I can find them. And after watching a couple of your videos, I ask myself, even after watching the video about the relationship between intj and infj, what is the point of an infj. Because I get the feeling that infjs are unauthentic, unaware of own values and desires and they fail to take care of others as good and authentic as infps do. As I understand it, the identity lies by infj in Ti, so what is logical, truthful, what makes sense. Maybe which emotions and values make sense. I have to think about my emotions and about emotions of others. Perhaps. But I really admire Te, because it helps me develop and grow and realize my ideas. And I find it also really caring. But in my experience xxTJs have always prefered xxFPs. And as I hear you talk about infp or Fi generally for that matter, I do not wonder. I also find it great, they are magnetic for others. If I could I would change my personality type. From infj to almost any other type. And xxFPs are especially cool. Everyone loves them. I somehow don’t see the point in infj. What I hear is, that they can be superficial with emotions and not as deeply caring as infp. Or as deeply understanding as anyone with Fi, even the xxTJs. So I get the feeling: infjs are cool, but xxFP and xxTJ types are somehow better. Thank you for your thoughts on this in advance.
I have more Sensor friends than I do Intuitives and I'm not sure if I'm going to continue the series covering Sensors because I don't think the videos will do well. In regards to the different types, every type is amazing in their own way. I said this in my videos so many times that Fe is not fake, it just cares in it's own way. We need people with every single function in this world because their strenght is needed depending on the situation. Te has its limits where Fe or Ti picks up the slack and vice versa. The grass will always seem greener on the other side of the fence, but the truth is that the green is green where you water it.
@@justcallmejon22 Ok. Thank you so much for your elaborate answer, Jon! And the metaphor with green grass is nice and quite soothing. I am glad that thanks to you I have a better understanding and appreciation of Te/Fi. As a Te-user you have for sure insights that Ti/Fe even with the deepest research could only uneasy reach. Maybe one more question. Do you know any long lasting couples of intuitives and sensors? That also understand each other and aren´t frustrated over one another. And as you mentioned that quite a good match for intj in terms of partnership is infp, do you notice a similar tendency by infj? I know, people are highly complex and are able to make good relationships with every personality type. And that a person does not make romantic relationships only with one personality type throughout the life. But do you notice maybe a tendency to a particular type/types, as infj mature? Is it really a thing that we can notice, that Te/Fi users prefer more often again Te/Fi. And Ti/Fe more often also Ti/Fe? That was in the end more than one question. But I believe you have some nice insights on this as well. I appreciate your answer :)
This is so real he's so submissive around me(INFP) even though he (INTJ) looks scary outside and never talks outside he says so many things to me and once we fight because he's jealous he withdraws himself out of me for 3 days. 3 Days later he came back, crying and begging me😭😭 And now we have been dating for 2 years and 6 monts for now :p
3:57 Time is actually an illusion created by our brains. It's just that we are all in sync with the illusion, so, we take it as something obvious. -an INFP
@@justcallmejon22 LOL kidding! That came out way too certain XD I was thinking of it as a possibility, though, physical records do give an impression of the sense of time. But at the end of the day, we are all governed by what we like to precieve as believable
1 thing you mention about the pessimism so you where referring to finding a job and how the response to not getting it. the reason an infp responds with such dismissal is they never wanted the job. and another thing kinda important we love our darker sad fealings lol i know strange but sad stories songs memories make us feel good. its real interactions that matter to use we cant handle them for to long because the energy drain. most cant understand that reading people emotions constantly that you cant turn off all day is hard so hard. imagen going to a large gathering of any kind and hearing EVERY person think all at the same time but its not hearingg what they think its feeling what every singgle person is fealing. thats how we know instantly who narcissist's are. they are like a blank dead space to us. they feel creepy and dead. and just so you all know rocks have fealings to lol strange i know but we love nature because there fealings are strong and stable and able to trust mostly from nature we feal love and caring.
As an INFP person, I never knew which mbti goes well with other certin mbti, becuse I was never interested in those things. But when I was working, I met this person, very different from me, yet felt somewhat similar in a...weird way, it's like on the outside, you can see that person is very different for how he talks and his thought process, his attitude towards people but everything else, something just felt..similar to me, something clicked that made me thought "That's my kind of person, you're..weird (in a good way)" and the more I talk to him, the more I got curious for this person, and I feel like even he got interested in me too. It's like, we're both trying to gather each other's "data" through having conversations. Later on when I asked his mbti, he said he is INTJ Yes, sometimes he get upset (though he never said he is upset) for not having concrete plans, or why I'm not doing things right away but from what I've seen, INTJ's are literally just a cat. You know, like, they can look cold and they do enjoy some time alone, but when you get to know that person, intj tend to get..very cute in their own way like a cat and I think not many people see this. And these people really inspire me to do things, the knowledge INTJ people have is truely amazing. And from my observation, it's weird people think INTJ's are like robot, yes just a look of 10 seconds might give you that impression, but just because the way they express their worries and carrying for other people is different doesn't mean they're..robots, they do have emotions, sure for INTJ, I feel like they don't really understand their emotions to the fullest? but that doesn't mean they don't have emotions. Emotions are hard to understand in the first place. So I don't really agree with INTJ and INFP memes, I get it, but I feel like most of those are overly exaggerated.
Congrats on finding an INTJ! I've said this before and I'll continue to say this, INFP and INTJs are such an incredible pair. We're different but in a good way, there's always that curiousity in both our types that understanding that allows each type to grow to our own unique way. I enjoy some of the memes because I see it happening between the INFPs in my life and myself but yes, a lot of them are exaggerated. INFPs are way more scary than an INTJ IMO 🙃
Nice. Indeed mature INFP can be a breath of fresh air in the middle of Se chaos and toxicity. But they are not the best for INTJ that seek growth with the respect to their Ni-Te. The INFP only a comfort place for me when I'm tired and invest some times on passing them quite a knowledge and wisdom, but in the end, I'd seek some like ENTJ or INFJ for further growth. In addition, INFP who has OCD and anxiety and one that is too afraid of breaking the rule and being different kinda tires me. It's like being in a different dimension. Well I'm used to such ISTP and ENTJ boldness and XNTP low Si in daily. That INFP only reminds me on how naive I used to be during childhood. However, mature&healthy INFP with well developed functions are great.
I'm an infp and I'm pretty sure that my friend is an intj considering I'm the person that he goes to for all of his problems and anxiety or just as a sounding board for his various endeavors, there's other reasons to
I've noticed INFPs are the type I'm able to spot very easily. With the recent rise of VTubers, I noticed very quickly how many of them were INFP and which ones too. Not only that but INFPs are usually the type I can get along with easiest, provided I don't accidentally offend one with a badly thought-out joke. On that note, I both end up feeling very protective of INFPs but also _love_ teasing them and making fun of them, though not in a mean way (I don't know if it's always interpreted the correct way but it's never spiteful and always intended to be playful mocking since I do tend to like and even admire most INFPs. They're just too adorable to me). Also on the note of INFPs sticking up for me, I am friends with a couple and upon hearing things from my past, they were actually shocked and outraged and sort of tried looking out for me, which is odd because I'm really not used to it. Unfortunately where I live isn't fertile soil for INFPs (or really any intuitive type) so the INFPs that are born here tend to leave as soon as they can (I have an escape plan... and it's in motion, albeit slowly) so I really don't get to know any irl, besides maybe my sister who might be INFP.
I agree, INFPs are great! I also noticed that a lot of INFPs tend to express themselves through Vlogs or some sort of platform and those videos tend to be very Fi-Ne heavy. Good luck on your plan fellow INTJ, don't forget that you still reach the finish line going slowly ✊
@@justcallmejon22 I've noticed that too. And thanks. I think because of the stuff I alluded to that INFPs tend to take my side on, I've been in a severe bout of "Mama's Out" though for an extended period of time though that seems to be either ended or nearing the end.
I'm an infj and I don't agree that we would not care about the person that walks away from the group and we wouldn't care. We care about everyone in the group, if one person is unhappy that does mess with the harmony of the group, so we will go after the person who feels left out because it will annoy the crap out of us, because the group is off without that person not being apart of it anymore.
I agree that I could've worded it better because it hindsight, it kinda does sound like I was talking smack about Fe. We know Fe cares but I also want to point out that your comment still refers to the tribe and what I mentioned in the video is that Fi is focused on the self. Both function cares but it's not for the same reason.
As an INTJ, my friends are few in number, but all dear. ALL 3 OF THEM are INFPs, so you know I had to check this video out to figure out why? It's seems improbable...
@@justcallmejon22 We definitely have really good synergy, especially in conversation. It flows very well. 3 years ago, when I reconnected with my crush, we spent 2 hours at a nearby park. It had been 15 years since high school, and the time between us was very therapeutic.
@@justcallmejon22 That’s pretty relatable honestly. Some people do make it easy to expose a lot about myself pretty swiftly. That’s if people have a nice aura around them. If not, I stay firmly in my shell.
If I know one thing about INFPs, it's that if you gain their trust, you get a formidable ally. They may look stubborn with their ideas as well, but once they see that they could trust you, they would listen to you and put your words into consideration. They might even consult to you when they get drowned in their cycle of self-doubt. Fi is such a massive driving force that could make them go great lengths for the things and people they put their faith on. If you have an INFP around you, treasure them.
Well said! Couldn't have said it better myself ✊
Thank you! INFP here, with an INTJ husband 😻
@@MaliMaslacak526I'm an INFP with an INTJ husband as well!❤
I never had an intj drawn to me
I want to be alone alot😂
Don’t think I’ve had many male INFP friends, but female INFP’s seem to just FLOCK to me, lol. It’s not something I mind, however-they’re the only people whose hugs I not only tolerate but actually enjoy.
I went out this weekend and I met an INFP that kept talking to me all night. We are each other's magnet 😁
My gf is an INFP. She can be a bit intense but her knowledge and ideas are such great fuel for doing things. She in turn feels like the organisation and efficiency in doing things, planning things, problem solving, is such a relief.
Her intensity to protect me, who goes about neutral and unfazed when someone becomes rude, feels so caring.
It really is adorable how protective they are of us. Take care of your INFP Queen 👑
@@justcallmejon22 will certainly do so, keep up the stellar work on these videos. I find it hard to put into words what is happening inside ourselves, and you explain things excellently.
INFP with an INTJ boyfriend here, and I agree with your video. From my point of view, I just love his wit, dark humor and lovely quirkness (although he doesnt see it, and is mostly too harsh on himself 🫤). 5 years together, and we have grow sooooooo much!! And without big fights or pointless drama, just long conversations about hard topics and bad puns while chilling at home. Of course, there was lot of patience and work to do, but turns out everything we needed was someone to trust and to discuss things in a deep intelectual / emotional way (I say emotional as in a " psychological " or abstract way, and not in a shallow drama or crybaby way, that's mostly for imature INFPs).
In the beginning, he saw as me as too emotional and I saw him as arrogant, but, as our connection grew stronger, we started to see pass this traits, and see the true intentions behind it. (Sorry about any english mistakes, sending hugs all the way from Brazil 😊)
Obrigado! I visited Brazil a few years ago, it's a beautiful country! I'm happy to hear about your relationship with your INTJ and that you two are growing together. Please continue taking care of my fellow INTJ and your English is perfect ✊
What is your age? I usually havent even seen such a wise infp in my life as you one
Maybe my INFP man is out there somewhere. Although statistically most INFP's are women (70%), and I'm (tragically) heterosexual. So it's probably not going to happen.
INTJ here and happily married to my INFP husband. A match made in heaven.
Jealous 🙃
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Exactly. My INFP friend is quite social for an I type, and whenever I get verbally questioned for... behaviour, she always stands up for me and is noticeably different from usual. I'm very thankful for this. It looks a bit awkward because of the fact that I'm taller and yet look so helpless in those situations. And this is at school. I give back to her, and help her by helping her with homework and other things.
I'm happy to hear that you found your INFP! The INFP + INTJ pairing is such a beautiful relationship and I love hearing about it ✊
Infps are usually really really social IF they’re comfortable. But you have to really be in that circle.. your friends really like you if they’re really vocal and loud. Otherwise in other situations they’re really quite it comes off as rude ( i know i come off that way.. lol.. but i can’t stop talking if i click with someone.. a little too much)
@@npcimknot958 I'm INFP, and that is so true. When we're comfortable and around the right people, we can be EXTREMELY social and outgoing.
The stare is so accurate. A couple of my family members tell me they get concerned when I stare into space. I did it a lot when I was a child. But when they ask me "what are you thinking about".. I always say, "nothing" it frustrates them
That stare terrifies me 🙃
Thank you so much for this! As an INFP I basically spent my entire 20s single because no one felt like the right match, until I met my partner in my 30s who's an INTJ. Is everything perfect? Well, like you said, we're a great match when we're in our healthiest moods, which isn't always and I'll be the first to admit that my darker pessimistic side can bring us down at times. But the trust, respect and understanding is 110% there and beyond anything I've ever experienced before!
Congrats on finding an INTJ! I really love this pairing and have experienced the benefits of it personally. Please take care of your INTJ for us ❤
Aaaah finally someone appreciates us! 😃 Personally, INTJs are the best for INFPs because together we make each other better people, we have different sets of skills and weak points so we complement each other really nicely. It's the ultimate relationship for personal growth.
Agreed that we're one of the best pairings 🙂
I'm an INTJ and I have three sisters. Two of them are INFPs and the other is an ENFP. My best friend is an INFP.
I know so many INFPs that it's kind of terrifying, and I can tell with 99% surety that everything in this video is correct.
The INFPs in my life were really hard for me to connect to at first (since they tended to assume I had no feelings until I had a huge argument with one of them because I finally got offended about something)
But every time I have a mental breakdown and one of those sisters knows about it, they *will* hunt me down. My INFP friend gets on my nerves sometimes, but that's not because she's an INFP, it's because our values sometimes grate against each other in painful ways.
As I have come to understand INFPs from being around them my whole life, I can see how some INTJs would think that the two types are completely incompatible, but my INFPs are some of the smartest and most useful people I know. They're also always willing to help me out whenever I need to most, and no matter what arguments we've had, they always bounce back.
I'm terrible at praise so that was probably very disorganized, I don't have time to edit it though and make it coherent.
You made a lot of sense! I agree that it's difficult to deal with them if our values don't align but once both types get to a healthy stage, one of the best partners in crime ✊
Aww I don't know but it's really stress full when others assume things about you not knowing the real you and when you are "special" here comes the pain :(
I'm an infp too- but it's hard for me to fit in I'm very cold and others think I have no feelings,, I can't connect with others I have harsh arguments with my family members too I kinda hate some of em because of it but I know deep down I still love them somewhere,, from how different I'm it's difficult to know if I belong here or not, I'd just act okay and ignore and forgive but I don't forget,
When others don't understand your nature here when you get attacked for it, I wish I was logical or let go of my feelings sometimes because I feel that in this world it is not required to have people like me as they treat me like a strange animal the only thing I did was just feeling was just giving them love they didn't understand, you know who you are! You are pretty sure of what you know more than anyone it's your mind it's your heart and you know that very well even if others assumed things it's just how we analyze our nature it's pretty upsetting but we do know who we are so it doesn't really matter
Be happy for yourself ur identity it's why you're special!
As an INFP, i am so thankful to get your input as an INTJ. Its a mutual admiration society:)
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I think INFPs are the sweetest but I find I have to be more sensitive and it can be easy for me to hurt their feelings
Agreed with both statements 💯
My roommate is an infp and they are just so adorable and great to be around. I do often feel a bit bad tho because I ofc don't have a very clear connection to my feelings in the slightest, and infps tend to have a better understanding of theirs. As such, I'm not able to show support/comfort/sympathy/etc for them in what most people consider the "correct" way, but they are one of the rare instances where I know they fully understand I care abt them in my own way. They were apparently a bit scared of me when we first met, but I'm glad we've become such good friends. We've definitely gotten each other out of some tough situations lol
I'm glad you found your INFPs! They truly are one of our biggest allies and it really is amazing how much they appreciate us. Take care of them ✊
I'm so happy that I found your channel. I'm an INFP engaged to an INTJ. I'm middle-aged & my relationships with INTJs have been the best ♡
Congrats on finding your own INTJ! Please take care of the INTJ for me =)
Omg 😭 I’m an INFP who recently started dating an INTJ (I just found out that he’s an INTJ). I was looking into the INTJ/INFP dynamic so that I can understand him better and be more helpful to him, and this video made everything make so much more sense of why we get along so well 😂 I also wasn’t expecting this video to be such a confidence boost lmao my guy has expressed to me almost exactly some of the things you say you love about INFPs, and I LOVE that and think it’s hilarious because I didn’t understand where he was coming from. Now I do and thank you so much for this video! ♥️
Congrats on finding an INTJ! Please take care of his Fi values and you will always have the biggest cheerleader by your side 😀
An INTJ once told me not to dwell so much on introspection. LOL
Basically, us INFPs love your Ni dom and Te aux mechanics; while you guys love how our Fi and Ne works. It’s so interesting how we see things in our own perspective in different ways, yet understand each other’s POV at the same time. Maybe that is one of the big reasons why we have mentally-stimulating conversations- we kinda see each other eye-to-eye.
Thank you, Jonathan @justcallmejon2022, for this wonderful video. Keep those ideas and insights of yours flowing! Kudos. ♡
I appreciate the support! Agreed, there is a certain level of understanding between both types that transcends logic regardless of whether it's something we agree on or disagree. INFPs are easily one of my favorite people ❤
wow…amazing video!! I love INTJs too. You described us with such depth and nuance, especially compared to some of the INFP videos out there. It’s pretty easy to tell quickly from comments or videos who really gets INFPs and who doesn’t. But you got us even down to how long it actually takes for us to know how we feel, which most don’t understand and make room for, because they just think, well, Fi, - when Fi is really a value system. We know our values before we know what we feel about something or someone. Especially fresh was the distinction between Fi and Fe, very much agree with you that Fi allows us to focus on the individual. We both are slow to trust, both familiar with feeling unseen and unknown in a loud and aggressive E world, both have patience for each other in our own way, we both value loyalty, and if the other person meets our tests of respect and integrity to earns trust over time, you will not find a more loyal faithful and giving pair to each other. What I find extremely attractive in INTJs that I see all over this and your other videos is Ni (Ni is so hot, I always say - haha!), which is so refined and intelligent that it always seems to “know” what is going on in a given situation and what is needed (where our Fi “knows” what is going on internally in someone, and what that person needs). Also… I laughed out loud because I just did that faraway galactic stare earlier thinking or feeling into something. And …. typing two INFPs while you were black out drunk … LOL that’s too guru!!! 😂😂😂 🎉❤
INFPs are easy to understand once we acknowledge your Fi and how it controls you similar to how Ni controls us. Being around INFPs is really refreshing exactly because of what you mentioned about the Extroverted world we live in. I hope that stare lead to something positive because it really does terrify me 🙃
@@justcallmejon22 LOL. It is hard to intimidate the formidable INTJ so I find that so delightfully funny 🤓🙂. Fi is weird. One French MBTI CZcamsr, Je Crois Que J’ai Compris, said that the INFP goes to heaven and hell and back, and every shade in between, that’s how we are able to understand all the nuances of human nature (and write works of the sort that Shakespeare, Tolkien, and other INFPs did). As a writer this spoke to me. I guess Fi is the tiger I ride, that can savagely take me to the most unknown places, I’ve had to learn how to ride, be one with it. How does it work being dominated by Ni? (I so wish I had Ni, I find it so attractive. I realized over time all my close friends had strong Ni) It’s like the light saber that cuts through all the fog and muck-but the INTJ’s Ni is refined, like a scalpel thin one.
I think you did a great job with this one! I've known a few INFPs in my life and the three things I can say that have been consistent across the about every encounter are:
1. They can often come off as the "Cloud Cookoolander" stereotype when they're in their own world. I have a friend who I typed accurately just because, she had gotten a humidifier and according to her the design made it look like it had a face so she decided she was gonna call it "grandpa." As we're gaming, it had a minor hiccup or something and she went, "Everything okay grandpa?" Me being the lead wanted to be respectful of IRL stuff taking priority, so I go, "You need a moment to help your grandpa? We can stop before the next pull." And her response was, "Oh no, it's fine. I was talking to my humidifier." And without missing a beat I just thought, "OMG you're an INFP. So much stuff makes so much sense now." So then I ask, have you heard of MBTI? She goes, "Oh yeah... I'm an INFP," and I'm just like, "I fucking knew it!" and we had a good laugh from there.
2. That Fi-Dom energy is damn near impenetrable once they latch on to an idea or a value, unless they want to change it on their own. Right or wrong. This can lead to either triggering that innate defense mech for an INTJ to protect someone who may not be as comfortable protecting their ideas yet, or some of the most FRUSTRATING conversations I've ever been a part of. I had another friend who had expressed early on that they always feel like people don't notice them specifically during voice conversations because they just have a softer voice over the mic. And once they expressed that, it's like it triggered my own Fi "trauma" from growing up and feeling over shadowed cause I didn't know how to express myself, thus when they would try and say something and more extroverted or louder people may have been talking over them at the same time, I had this almost instinct to always let that person finish, and then make a point to circle back to my INFP friend and say, "Hey you were going to share a thought on that topic, what did you want to say?" But on the flip side that same friend an I have had a lot of conversations where I've had to just end it with, "We're going to just have to agree to disagree and move on, because you're logically/factually wrong and I'm not going to waste my time arguing this anymore." Only to then have them come back, usually a good while later, and be like, "You know what? I see what you were talking about with X topic and I agree with that now." And as frustrating as that is whenever it happens, I admire exactly how authentic and strongly the believe in whatever they may be incorrect about, because in a world full of fakers, clout chasers, and trend hoppers, at least the INFP was true enough to themselves to basically say, "I'll die on this hill, because it's what I believe in," and I have nothing but respect for it.
3. They are the only type I can never fully give the "INTJ Door slam" to, even if they've REALLY pissed me off in that moment. Again, probably because internally I recognize that Fi signal, even if we give them different priority, which means once I KNOW your character as a person, I can tell the difference between an intentional slight and one that could have happened and the INFP absolutely didn't mean it like that, it's just the circumstances of the moment made it come off that way. And because of that I also know that we both just need to step away, I probably need to let my Fi ruminate a bit and essentially "feel my feelings" and then come back with a cooler head and just squash the beef. Case in point, that same friend from earlier had done something last Sept. to just REALLY piss me off. And then life got busy and we never really got around to "resolving" that conflict, partially because she didn't even know she had pissed me off. Fast forward to a few weeks ago and a couple of people that we both know pretty well had a pretty bad falling out. And she hit me up because as to be expected she was concerned for the feelings of everyone, and as if there was never any beef to begin with I was giving her advice on how to comfort one party while also staying out of the drama, and reassuring her that I was already in the middle mediating the situation to a degree, not by choice mind you. But the point is where almost every other type, the door slam would have happened and I'd have just been like, "Looking at the list of shit I got going on and oh hey, guess what? Not my problem," with the INFP I couldn't help but just want to reassure them everything would be okay.
It sounds like you have great experience INFPs too and that you understand what I meant when I said that you can just kinda feel them lol. I can never imagine myself door-slamming an INFP that I once considered a friend unless the INFP does something malicious first. Keep your INFPs close dude, they're one of your biggest allies and supporter ✊
@@justcallmejon22 Absolutely! Truth be told, I was waiting for this one cause I wanted to share about those INFP friends that I hold close. But as someone else said, sometimes I just need to be extra sensitive about the way I handle or comment on a situation. I do credit the friend from example 2/3 with helping me improve communicating my intent, because I know as an INTJ, sometimes I'll just see a solution, know it will take everyone else entirely too long to see the same thing, and just say, "I'll do it myself," and act. And she rightfully pointed out how that can make people feel a type of way that was not the intent, which can muddy the results.
yeah i get the last part with getting mad at an infp friend that's naturally a jokester like Jon was saying, even more memeish then me and i'm an ENFP! but i got my feelings hurt but later on i can never stay mad because i can tell they really do mean sorry and didn't mean it in a way for me to get genuinely upset
Not being able to door slam the other is a mutual experience. As an INFP, I have gone through it with one of my INTJ friends and I cut off contact with a very heavy heart, because I was just so painfully aware of what he was struggling with internally but I needed to work on some things alone. I never really stopped thinking of him because of that and re-established contact a few years later. I don't know if I had any influence in it or if he was already aware of what he needed to change but he had kicked pretty much all the bad habits that broke our friendship and matured significantly in that time. We're now closer than ever and sort of take the role of the "existential consultant" for each other. :)
As an INTJ I get the "hope for the best, prepare for the worst" reasoning quite frequently. When growing up both types are either relegated to or adhere to the outcast roles, either by trauma or preference on solitude. Both notice how people get shallow, selfish, vindinctive, or plain disrespectful (mostly seen on unhealthy extraverts), so either we want no part on such an horrendous world (but we need to engage, unfortunately) or are unmotivated to engage.
Basically my view on that phenomenon is based on Te (no tangible or long-term profit), which in turn makes me give up), while the INFP's reaction derives from Fi-Si: "It's gonna happen again, a repeating pattern from these given signals." Despite having hopes and dreams, reality takes a heavy toll on them.
On the other hand, it's also possible to blend both into an Fi common factor, summarized into a low self-esteem in both INTJs and INFPs, whose feeling aspect is introverted and thus will be affected by their own emotions.
I agree that there's a long lasting negative affect for INTJ/INFPs that continues to be outcasted by society. What I want to add is that the beauty of being an INTJ is that we lead with Ni and have Te. Our motivations come from within and we will do what is necessary to get where we know we can be; That combination is what makes us great! Chin up INTJ, whatever life throws at your I hope you know that you got this ✊
ive been waiting for this one!! thank you!! my gf is an infp i love her so much
Take care and cherish your INFP Queen 👑
@@justcallmejon22 i will!
As a 44 years old INFP, I didn't think I would learn anything about myself in this video. Well, well, you proved me wrong !!! I've been really enjoying your channel, Jon. Thanks 😊😊😊 and Cheers from France !
Bonjour! I really do appreciate the support and INFPs are always going to be one of the types that I enjoy talking about the most 🙂
Really appreciating this relationships series. In this time of my life, I'm completely isolated from everyone, being so stubbornly focused only on my goals and making time for nothing else. But you make me want to move back to a big city, meet new people, include them into my life projects, and be included in theirs. You know, _have friends_ . Your mood is energizing.
And you also show this genuinely curious, non-judgmental, almost supportive side of INTJs that people really seem not to get about our type. Our stereotypes don't do us justice in this.
Anyway, can't wait for the "INTJs love INTJs" video 😁
I really do appreciate the kinds words! I've noticed that I tend to bounce around from being isolated to being super friends/family focused. I do one, then when I get tired I do the other. It's a good balance for me but I've realized how important they are to my growth as a human being. Whatever you decide to do, whether it's focus on your goal or be around people, I 100% support your decision and hoping for the best ✊
This video made me feel so warm inside - I came here because I’m an INFP wondering how I might get on with this INTJ guy I’m talking to, but I left with a unique perspective of the positive qualities that others see, which was really refreshing and encouraging.
INTJs love INFPs ❤
this is the best video abt the relationship between INTJ AND INFP. my brother and my close friend are INTJs while im an INFP. so im glad u appreciate us lol. also i love talking with an INTJ. they bring so much knowledge and very well grounded. they aspire me to b more confident
Thank you! A world without INFPs will feel like hell to me 😄
Late to the party here, just found your channel mate.
INTJ here, my wife is INFP (Psychologist btw). Married for 18 years and still going strong. Watching your video I had this warm grinning the whole time, we both (wife & I) feel if not for each other we would be single... the compatibility we have is fairly unique, in my case I just can't visualize being long term engaged with any other women I know, most I can't stand interacting with beyond a couple hours at a time... imagine a life together...
Our relationship is very symbiotic, we provide something to each other that we lack on ourselves. I provide my wife structure and applied solutions and she's my ambassador to the "world of feelings". She deals with the emotional situations and "people's feelings" while I deal with "getting things done" and take care about our future selves.
Btw, our daughter inherited a very balanced mix of our traits... she is an ISFP.
Congrats on your long and successful relationship! INFPs really do have this magnetism that's difficult to ignore if both our Fi's align. I can't date someone until I can imagine a future with them either which is interesting because I won't have that data unless I put myself out there but I don't want to put myself out there because I don't have enough data to want to. Anyways...take care of your ISFP child! My niece is an ISFP and it's been a great joy helping her nurture her Fi and learn Te confidence from me 😁
As an INFP I only recognised one INTJ in my life and I did magnetised him, but he did the same to me. It seems like the most natural dynamic for me… I hope I will see him again and we can work things out.
You made me laugh. I did have the “stare” when I’m not focusing on anything, but my inner world. But you, INTJs have one as well… those soul piercing eyes
I didn't realize that the 'soul piercing' stare that I usually give is when I feel like I finally found someone's Fi. The other stare is because we're curious, but they might look like the same stare from the outside 😅
6:01 being an INFP (although I am still speaking on a personal level) I appreciate you for that as well.... it's a quality that I always desire and heavily admire
Thank you very much , your conclusions about what infp are all about are so accurate. And also you just boosted my confidence so thanks !
Glad it was helpful ✊
INTP here and got into MBTI trying to figure out my INTJ partner (obviously didn't know he was at the time) but it really helped me see why he is the way he is.
3 years in, its great, it just works, we never argue, have the best laughs, and he's the most sincere, trustworthy man I've ever met 😊
I'm so confused (in a good way) with this comment since you're an INTP, complimenting INTJs, on a video directed to INFPs. There's so much going on here 😂
@justcallmejon22 OK...I can explain....🤣 this was meant to be on your INTJ and INTP video...I can only conclude that it went down the playlist without me noticing and I commented on the wrong one 😬
I stand by the compliment though, I know where I stand, I know any compliment I receive is sincere and I know he's a man of his word 👍🏻
I feel really moved ❤️ thank you for this positive Description of Infp
INFPs are amazing ❤
Thanks for the side by side of the cognitive functions and similarities!!! Super helpful and interesting to see the breakdown.
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My reason (as an INFP) for wanting the best but also prepare for the worst, especially during job interviews, is as you've put it clearly in your logical verbalisation: I can't respond in the way that will showcase my abilities on the spot. I don't want to be perceived as an idiot so I prepared for the worst. It's the challenge of a proper impromptu response that makes me feel small. That's why I admired the eloquence of INTJs. We do share the same train of thoughts some times, but I just can't verbalise it as well as an INTJ.
I find it interesting that INxPs feel like ya'll don't make sense sometimes. You guys make sense to us 🙂
I really appreciate this video, i can see how intjs and infps can be compatible for sure we each have the things that we long for most in each other and are able to understand and balance each other out pretty well. When it comes to us feeling small, its more than anything at least in my opinion as an infp, its because if we let ourselves get our hopes up like we have so many times in the past and if it doesnt work out (way more often than not) the crushing weight of sadness is unbearable so if we dont let it happen to start with at least it wont be as unbearable, its more than anything a protective mechanism from being subjected to so much pain and disappointment in the past
Thank you for the comment, you've helped me learn something about the INFPs! It didn't occur to me that INFPs would feel sadness just as intensely as other emotions so it makes sense not to get your hopes up. Thank you 🙂
I come back to this video a lot. It feels like a big, warm hug 🤗 I’ve been married to my husband for six months now and it’s cute how sappy he actually is on the inside
You sound like a great person and thank you for taking care of my fellow INTJ ❤️
What an incredible video! Almost always, INFPs are misunderstood. Thank you for this educational video.
I can't say that all INTJs will understand INFPs but I will say that we respect ya'll a lot ✊
Such a beautiful video! Nunca había escuchado a alguien hablar así sobre los INFP. Very helpful! INTJs are the best! I love you ❤️🔥
-INFP
Obrigado, we love you guys too ❤
I feel so seen and understood 🙏🏼🥰😊❤️ This is such a wonderful video. From an INFP 🙏🏼❣️🦋
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My fellow INTJ, you are my brother from another mother. Great video content. Subscribed!
Btw, I am certified in MBTI Step II.
Thank you and congrats on your cert! ✊
You made me feel how my baby makes me feel 🥰😂 You guys are heroes. ❤️
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Thank you for the video, I’ve never considered the INTJ and INFP relationship before! It sounds like one that can be very deep and fulfilling.
Easily one of the best pairing if both people are healthy 🙂
This video is great and you need to know im eating up these well put compliments 😂. cant wait to see more of your vids when i can.
Thank you 😊
Thank you so much! INFP here and even though I don't know any INTJ yet, I always love how FJ portrays them! I value intelligence and they are kinda like what I aspire to be if I could be more clever/cartesian and able to actually do things instead of just thinking about the possibilites lolllll
Find yourself an xNTJ and you'll be working toward your goals in no time 😀
I’m INFP and have like 2 INTJ friends I would KILL and die for. They’re so guarded (like me sometimes) and very beautiful souls. I low-key have a crush on one of my intj friends
I can have deep discussions with them about philosophical topics without feeling like an annoying blabbermouth.
Their blunt honesty can be a bit harsh sometimes ngl but I appreciate that they would never lie to me. Honestly I love them so much it’s crazy lol
Congrats on finding INTJs! The INFPxINTJ pairing is a lot more common than I used to think so I say go for it if you think being with one of them will make you happy. Good luck 🙂
🥹🥹 Got so emotional while watching this vid. Thanks for acknowledging us INFPs it means a lot.❤ Also wish the INTJ that I’m dating can learn to be a little more sensitive 😂😂 I’m not the pessimistic type and I know where my weaknesses lie, they just need to be more considerate at times when saying the brutal truth.😂😂 Loved this so much I’m gonna watch again for sure to gain more insights. 💖
I'm glad you enjoyed the video! I'm sure your INTJ doesn't mean to hurt your feelings the more tired we get the easier it is for us just to speak Te because our Fi is usually asleep at that point. Please take care of my INTJ fam 🙏
@@justcallmejon22 Yeah, thanks to your videos I understand him a lot better. 😄 I’m willing to be patient and not let his words get to be because deep down I know he’s a kind soul. ❤️🩹The same way he’s willing to apologise for what he says when he sees that frown on my face because he knows how sensitive I can be. 🙃 Every INTJ deserves an INFP, and vice versa! 🥰 I hope you’ll find yours too!
So he sent me a funny “break up with you” TikTok video to me all of a sudden.. with laughing emojis and didn’t even bother explaining anything.. 🥺 At first I thought it was a joke but he hasn’t contacted me for 3 days so I decided to block his number and move on… I really thought it would work out but I guess he decided that I maybe too emotional for him. 😞 I wish him and all the INTJs all the best and hope that he finds someone more compatible with him.. Thank you for all the videos that taught me a lot about him. 💙
@@caparitarot I'm not qualified to step in here, but wait a bit longer. Don't get your hopes up but don't go into pessimistic-land. Be patient. Also, if you feel like the INTJ isn't sensitive enough, tell him. If he cares about you, he'll understand and make an attempt. An attempt. Good luck.
-INTJ female
@@FalconFDC Thank you for the reply. I’ve decided that we do need time apart to centre ourselves.. I do sincerely hope that he’ll make an attempt to reach out.. but yeah I’ve done too much and what he did really broke my heart..🥺🖤 I do believe we’ll come around if it’s meant to be! Sending all INTJ-INFP pairs so much love💖
You and Carl Yung are the only people who brought justice to fi😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭
Thank you 🙏
Yes! Fe Doms or aux don't see how we Fi people build independent connections with people. Its one on one Fi connection, not the vibe in the room like Fe. So yeah, I agree, Fe doms are blind to this Fi mechanic, or don't think it's powerful. But I disagree. I may not be able to manipulate the emotional vibe of the group, but I can pull on people's individual heart strings if we are Fi connected and that pull can be very strong.
Exactlyy 💯
Brooooo 8:53 everytime I listen to this part, you just casually break me down so easily and I cant help but crying…. AND YEAH I AM INFP AND I LOVE YOUUUUUUU
🙂 thank you!
Being an INFP is the constant battle between realizing just how capable we are of colonizing the stars and effectively using resources to the point that all living things can exist comfortably and in a fulfilled way. But also realizing that the tribalism and vices that are inherent to humanity are probably going to result in our species never setting foot off this planet in a meaningful way before we turn our home planet into a hellscape.
Working in medicine, I can empathize so very intensely with my patients, but also feel such a silent rage at the inherent flaws in the system, misinformation, and just choices that got them there. :D Covid about killed me. I don't think I've ever been so angry, misanthropic, and just wanted the world to burn so much. It's not like me, and there was absolutely nothing I could do about it except be reactionary to the aftermath.
It's easy to feel small when you're one speck in the herd... And the herd is full of idiots who won't listen to reason - even as they're driving themselves off a cliff.
Thank you for the response and thank you for working in healthcare! I considered it once and arrived to the conclusion that my tiny Fi heart would break too easily so it's best if I avoided it. It is difficult to live in a world knowing that the folly of man is what's stopping us from achieving greater heights, trust me, I empathize with that so much. What I also noticed during my lifetime are all the people in the background trying to remedy the issue and those people give me hope. Keep trekking on and keep taking care of people, there are tons of people out there like myself who rely on your kindness so that we can focus on improving everything else ✊
Unfortunately, (for an INTJ) I don't have any INFP friends. But it is true that I am drown to them.
I had one classmate in highschool. Every small interaction with her was very soothing. But, she was always with her group of friends. So, it was kinda unreal to bypass them and form at least a friendship with her. Plus a friend had a crush on her...
This is me telling you to just go talk to the INFP! They appreciate effort since it's their 4th function 🙂
@@justcallmejon22 thanks for the encouragement. I actually do have chances.
@@EjnarRaidriar Please just talk to them, about books or films. It can't never go wrong. I always enjoy having conversation with INTJs!
- infp
Thank you so much for this video- first of all I have never personally known an INTJ- although I found it a bit late (just 1 year late no?) I am thankful that I found, no sugar coating no cynicism... everything was so adoringly said I couldn't help blushing!! It gives a positive outlook towards my own life!! Thank you thank you thank you so much!!!!
I'm glad you enjoyed the video! I think all INTJs have a special INFP in our life that helps us learn more about our Fi ❤
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Mann you have me down to a T. Always hoping for the best/preparing for the worst. And can’t help but try to improve despite not really wanting to at times. That is exactly me
INFPs naturally inspire the INTJs because if an INFP is still trying (even after accepting how difficult life is) then the INTJ has no excuse not to work harder ✊
I'm in tears ❤
Tears of joy, hopefully 🙃
My Infp wife is thank you :) Intj married to Infp
Lucky INTJ ❤
You rock my world, babe. ❤
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Thank you 🥺❤ -infp
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"It just doesn't sound like a pleasant life" T_T
I'm an INFP, and so far, other than my own type, I think INTJs are the most interesting/magnetic type to me so far and I don't know why. My own favourite character at the moment is an INTJ.
Fi is magnectic to an INTJ 😊
INFP here, you made me realise why I don't fell acomplishement after achieving things I wanted I have a mindset of "I must achieve it and if not, that is a great shame, I will try againg though if I can" so things like loosing weight, getting As or 100% the game feel like something I had to get over with rather than something I did and should be proud of
Accepting it is the first step to becoming better! I understand the 'must' feeling, I think that's Te talking and I go through that daily on the most meaningless task like doing the dishes. I don't think it's an issue per say, but I hope that you feel as proud of yourself as we INTJs do when we see INFPs do amazing things 🙂
Maybe the "small" issue is the same one that can happen to most Fi users, but INFPs/ISFPs would feel it more because it's their dom.
Basically, feelings impact us both strongly. And we're also very aware of our own motivations and judge ourselves heavily based on our own values. N types may also have it worse for being up in our heads with a running commentary at all times of how we're not measuring up to where we want to be. And so when you get yourself down, you feel extra small.
As an INTJ, I know how to shrug it off because feelings aren't relevant to whatever I'm trying to do at the moment. But maybe INFPs can't or at least have a much harder time?
But that's just a guess.
That's a good guess and I don't think they'll ever be a definitive answer so you're probably right 😁
Your guess is correct. It's looks like we're pessimist but we can't help because our Fi is too strong. Maybe that's a kind of defensive mechanism? So when we have happy or sad or dissappointed or feeling down moments, it's feeling isn't too intense.
Thanks for your explained.
-infp
@@nodamekira8580 You're welcome. I just hope it's helpful.
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ISFP here going to chime a little bit. It's not only we feel it more, it's literally the first function in our stack. So turning our feeling off basically we won't be able to process anything & probably unhealthy in the long run. It's like telling you INTJ to turn off your Ni, kinda impossible I guess?
And you're right about the part of negative feeling like judging ourselves, feeling extra small etc , exactly will be the very first thing to feel, and maybe we feel it more painful than Fi tertiary/inferior! That's why it's important for us Fi dom to process our feelings first through Ne-Si/Se-Ni to 'correct' our value or judgement, then act on it through Te. If this done correctly, Fi dom will 'do' feelings in a more mature way, because our feelings has privilege to be processed in such long way. I hope this make sense :)
@@throwawayaccountmine I totally get not turning your feelings off, nor would I recommend it for someone's dominant function. As you say, I'm not even sure it's possible.
Maybe this is why INTJ x INFP and ISTJ x ISFP are considered good matches. The IXTJ in their mature state can handle immediate threats and give the IXFP type time to gather themselves. And afterwards the IXFP can help the IXTJ unpack and process whatever it was that happened. Because we do have to deal with our emotions eventually, it's just that we can delay it and wouldn't necessarily talk about it with someone who wasn't close to us. Also you guys understand that we may need some private processing time as well before we talk fully about it.
6:57 that reminds me how when someone wants to say/ask something from the teacher they make me go? Yes I struggle expressing myself and do have a loop (is it OK or not? Shall I? Shall I not?) But a question is a question that needs to be asked (you are so lovely and you reminded me that INTJ have Fi even if as an axillary function- but it's there- right there!!)
7:37 speaking on a personal level- it actually depends on the scenerio.. generally yes the focus would be on the person who left even if they left in anger or it was their fault- in case it was their fault and I am close to the person around I might care for both sides and would want to ensure their well being
It's so accurate ☺
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The stare is 99%relatable I always try to no give off this type of vibe to other
That's like telling a person to stop breathing! But I believe in you INFP 😁
One of the most accurate videos about INFPs it actually made me tear up! 😅 ah well! 😅
I can see your soul 😁
8:56 Because I am??? I see so much hollowness in me so it comes naturally to me. I admire INTJ for being so awesome and being everything I ever wanted to be. It's simply come naturally to me.... I want the best because despite of being okie dokie with everything perfection is what I strike for- and I know I am not the best- I just think I see reality...... no?
Hope for the best. Plan for the worst.
You may never feel ecstatic, but you'll never be fully discouraged.
I think it's that Ne always 2nd guessing that high Fi. Sure, we may want something, but do we really want it? Can we really achieve it?
It can get heavy
I see that a lot in the INFPs in my life. I feel like a lot of you just need a little extra nudge and you'll find your way (if that was the intention) ✊
Regarding your coming about not understanding why we as INFPs do not always expect the best when we put in the best it's because of how much we put in and how amazing our ideal really is we're afraid we'll be disappointed yet again and so we prepare for it. I can really only speak for myself but I know That's why I do it.
It sounds like such a tiring way to live life. I hope Te starts getting engaged with as early as possible so ya'll learn that failing is always part of the process 🙂
We fear failure, disappointmen and rejection. @justcallmejon22
8:56 as an INFP, it’s like it’s just hard to keep up with the noise of the crowd (if you get what I mean), when everyone is so engaged I find it hard to kind of, assert myself into that to the point where I just fade out. And for the happiness part, I honestly don’t know how to explain it in words, it’s more of a thing that happens in our heads ig, pure emotion?? Idk
Thank you for providing context. For what it's worth, INTJs see you guys and will support you when you need it ✊
I am an INFP, and I found out from this video in fact that my partner of almost 6 months (who initiated our relationship with what was essentially a declaration of Undying Love and Devotion™ after years of being close friends) is an INTJ.
I was wondering what they saw in me lol. XD
Congrats on finding an INTJ! I love this pairing because there's so much room for growth and emotional maturity between the two. Try not to take things too personally when the INTJ goes full Ni/Te mode and please take care of my INTJ brother for me 🙏
@@justcallmejon22 I will try my best "o"(✯ᴗ✯)"o"
And thank you for the food for thought. Sometimes I get insecure on whether my partner's offering solutions because they're judging me; but finding out that's just the way they naturally care (and that they still find things to admire about me anyways) is a reframe I didn't even know I needed.
So once again, thank you for posting such a wonderful video. It helped me (and probably a lot of other infps lol) greatly. ( ◡ ω ◡)人
I'd love to meet an INTJ like you someday 😊
You're an INFP, they should be attracted to you like a magnet 😉
Thank you for your content! I find your perspective very accurate, so that I can either relate or newly verbally understand what I was seeing or feeling. And that all you put in an understandable way.
I have also some questions. Such as if you would like to make videos also to relationships with “sensors” and not only “intuitives”. I find it particularly interesting since I know only one couple of N-user and S-user. So I wonder if such relationships can be successful and happy also from the empiric and not only theoretic point of view.
I also admire how many intuitive friends you have. Because my whole family, also the broader one with cousins etc., and most friends are sensors. And I know so little intiutivs. So I wonder where I can find them.
And after watching a couple of your videos, I ask myself, even after watching the video about the relationship between intj and infj, what is the point of an infj. Because I get the feeling that infjs are unauthentic, unaware of own values and desires and they fail to take care of others as good and authentic as infps do. As I understand it, the identity lies by infj in Ti, so what is logical, truthful, what makes sense. Maybe which emotions and values make sense. I have to think about my emotions and about emotions of others. Perhaps. But I really admire Te, because it helps me develop and grow and realize my ideas. And I find it also really caring. But in my experience xxTJs have always prefered xxFPs. And as I hear you talk about infp or Fi generally for that matter, I do not wonder. I also find it great, they are magnetic for others. If I could I would change my personality type. From infj to almost any other type. And xxFPs are especially cool. Everyone loves them. I somehow don’t see the point in infj. What I hear is, that they can be superficial with emotions and not as deeply caring as infp. Or as deeply understanding as anyone with Fi, even the xxTJs. So I get the feeling: infjs are cool, but xxFP and xxTJ types are somehow better. Thank you for your thoughts on this in advance.
I have more Sensor friends than I do Intuitives and I'm not sure if I'm going to continue the series covering Sensors because I don't think the videos will do well. In regards to the different types, every type is amazing in their own way. I said this in my videos so many times that Fe is not fake, it just cares in it's own way. We need people with every single function in this world because their strenght is needed depending on the situation. Te has its limits where Fe or Ti picks up the slack and vice versa. The grass will always seem greener on the other side of the fence, but the truth is that the green is green where you water it.
@@justcallmejon22 Ok. Thank you so much for your elaborate answer, Jon! And the metaphor with green grass is nice and quite soothing. I am glad that thanks to you I have a better understanding and appreciation of Te/Fi. As a Te-user you have for sure insights that Ti/Fe even with the deepest research could only uneasy reach.
Maybe one more question. Do you know any long lasting couples of intuitives and sensors? That also understand each other and aren´t frustrated over one another. And as you mentioned that quite a good match for intj in terms of partnership is infp, do you notice a similar tendency by infj? I know, people are highly complex and are able to make good relationships with every personality type. And that a person does not make romantic relationships only with one personality type throughout the life. But do you notice maybe a tendency to a particular type/types, as infj mature? Is it really a thing that we can notice, that Te/Fi users prefer more often again Te/Fi. And Ti/Fe more often also Ti/Fe?
That was in the end more than one question. But I believe you have some nice insights on this as well. I appreciate your answer :)
This is so real he's so submissive around me(INFP) even though he (INTJ) looks scary outside and never talks outside he says so many things to me and once we fight because he's jealous he withdraws himself out of me for 3 days. 3 Days later he came back, crying and begging me😭😭
And now we have been dating for 2 years and 6 monts for now :p
Congrats on finding an INTJ! If he's showing you Fi & Se, he trusts you, so please continue taking care of him 🙏
Awe @JustcallmeJon I love this video 🎉🎉🎉❣️❣️❣️
Glad you enjoyed it 😁
3:57 Time is actually an illusion created by our brains. It's just that we are all in sync with the illusion, so, we take it as something obvious. -an INFP
Time doesn't exist for me either INFP 🙃
@@justcallmejon22 LOL kidding! That came out way too certain XD
I was thinking of it as a possibility, though, physical records do give an impression of the sense of time. But at the end of the day, we are all governed by what we like to precieve as believable
one of my best gal pals is an INFP
1 thing you mention about the pessimism so you where referring to finding a job and how the response to not getting it. the reason an infp responds with such dismissal is they never wanted the job. and another thing kinda important we love our darker sad fealings lol i know strange but sad stories songs memories make us feel good. its real interactions that matter to use we cant handle them for to long because the energy drain. most cant understand that reading people emotions constantly that you cant turn off all day is hard so hard. imagen going to a large gathering of any kind and hearing EVERY person think all at the same time but its not hearingg what they think its feeling what every singgle person is fealing. thats how we know instantly who narcissist's are. they are like a blank dead space to us. they feel creepy and dead. and just so you all know rocks have fealings to lol strange i know but we love nature because there fealings are strong and stable and able to trust mostly from nature we feal love and caring.
As an INFP person, I never knew which mbti goes well with other certin mbti, becuse I was never interested in those things.
But when I was working, I met this person, very different from me, yet felt somewhat similar in a...weird way, it's like on the outside, you can see that person is very different for how he talks and his thought process, his attitude towards people but everything else, something just felt..similar to me, something clicked that made me thought "That's my kind of person, you're..weird (in a good way)" and the more I talk to him, the more I got curious for this person, and I feel like even he got interested in me too.
It's like, we're both trying to gather each other's "data" through having conversations.
Later on when I asked his mbti, he said he is INTJ
Yes, sometimes he get upset (though he never said he is upset) for not having concrete plans, or why I'm not doing things right away but from what I've seen, INTJ's are literally just a cat.
You know, like, they can look cold and they do enjoy some time alone, but when you get to know that person, intj tend to get..very cute in their own way like a cat and I think not many people see this.
And these people really inspire me to do things, the knowledge INTJ people have is truely amazing.
And from my observation, it's weird people think INTJ's are like robot, yes just a look of 10 seconds might give you that impression, but just because the way they express their worries and carrying for other people is different doesn't mean they're..robots, they do have emotions, sure for INTJ, I feel like they don't really understand their emotions to the fullest? but that doesn't mean they don't have emotions. Emotions are hard to understand in the first place.
So I don't really agree with INTJ and INFP memes, I get it, but I feel like most of those are overly exaggerated.
Congrats on finding an INTJ! I've said this before and I'll continue to say this, INFP and INTJs are such an incredible pair. We're different but in a good way, there's always that curiousity in both our types that understanding that allows each type to grow to our own unique way. I enjoy some of the memes because I see it happening between the INFPs in my life and myself but yes, a lot of them are exaggerated. INFPs are way more scary than an INTJ IMO 🙃
Nice. Indeed mature INFP can be a breath of fresh air in the middle of Se chaos and toxicity. But they are not the best for INTJ that seek growth with the respect to their Ni-Te. The INFP only a comfort place for me when I'm tired and invest some times on passing them quite a knowledge and wisdom, but in the end, I'd seek some like ENTJ or INFJ for further growth.
In addition, INFP who has OCD and anxiety and one that is too afraid of breaking the rule and being different kinda tires me. It's like being in a different dimension.
Well I'm used to such ISTP and ENTJ boldness and XNTP low Si in daily. That INFP only reminds me on how naive I used to be during childhood.
However, mature&healthy INFP with well developed functions are great.
I feel like anyone who is more mature is open to the idea of INTJs and growth 🙂
my crush is an INFP and this is really true, as an INTJ myself
Good luck with your INFP crush 😘
Is your camera in mirror mode, or did you find a reverse-layout keyboard somewhere? That could be handy for gaming...
I forgot to flip the video 😂
Please sir, may I have some more compliments? I could listen to you talking about infps forever
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I'm an infp and I'm pretty sure that my friend is an intj considering I'm the person that he goes to for all of his problems and anxiety or just as a sounding board for his various endeavors, there's other reasons to
You're helping him more than he will ever be able to express. Please continue taking care of him 🙏
New sub...INFP.
Hi! 👋
I've noticed INFPs are the type I'm able to spot very easily. With the recent rise of VTubers, I noticed very quickly how many of them were INFP and which ones too. Not only that but INFPs are usually the type I can get along with easiest, provided I don't accidentally offend one with a badly thought-out joke. On that note, I both end up feeling very protective of INFPs but also _love_ teasing them and making fun of them, though not in a mean way (I don't know if it's always interpreted the correct way but it's never spiteful and always intended to be playful mocking since I do tend to like and even admire most INFPs. They're just too adorable to me). Also on the note of INFPs sticking up for me, I am friends with a couple and upon hearing things from my past, they were actually shocked and outraged and sort of tried looking out for me, which is odd because I'm really not used to it. Unfortunately where I live isn't fertile soil for INFPs (or really any intuitive type) so the INFPs that are born here tend to leave as soon as they can (I have an escape plan... and it's in motion, albeit slowly) so I really don't get to know any irl, besides maybe my sister who might be INFP.
I agree, INFPs are great! I also noticed that a lot of INFPs tend to express themselves through Vlogs or some sort of platform and those videos tend to be very Fi-Ne heavy. Good luck on your plan fellow INTJ, don't forget that you still reach the finish line going slowly ✊
@@justcallmejon22 I've noticed that too. And thanks. I think because of the stuff I alluded to that INFPs tend to take my side on, I've been in a severe bout of "Mama's Out" though for an extended period of time though that seems to be either ended or nearing the end.
I'm an infj and I don't agree that we would not care about the person that walks away from the group and we wouldn't care. We care about everyone in the group, if one person is unhappy that does mess with the harmony of the group, so we will go after the person who feels left out because it will annoy the crap out of us, because the group is off without that person not being apart of it anymore.
I agree that I could've worded it better because it hindsight, it kinda does sound like I was talking smack about Fe. We know Fe cares but I also want to point out that your comment still refers to the tribe and what I mentioned in the video is that Fi is focused on the self. Both function cares but it's not for the same reason.
bruh I'm crying. - infp
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As an INTJ, my friends are few in number, but all dear. ALL 3 OF THEM are INFPs, so you know I had to check this video out to figure out why? It's seems improbable...
Congrats on your INFPs! What seems improbable?
Wtf, that was so sweet and nice. QuQ
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One of my high school crushes is an INTJ. One of my closest friends is an INTJ.
Happy to hear that you found your INTJs! INFPs are super easy to get along with so I understand the appeal 🙂
@@justcallmejon22 We definitely have really good synergy, especially in conversation. It flows very well. 3 years ago, when I reconnected with my crush, we spent 2 hours at a nearby park. It had been 15 years since high school, and the time between us was very therapeutic.
I wonder what the difference and similarities are between INFP and INFJ because I got 52%J first time and 52%P the second time.
Regardless of what you are, welcome to the community! Look into cognitive functions because the INFP and INFJs operates completely different ✊
My mum always taught me
“Never get your hopes up about anything.”
So I just….don’t.
That's horrible. Don't deny yourself of happiness!!
@@justcallmejon22 I’ve since learned that a lot of what my mum taught me is bad advice. So I’m working on trying to unlearn it
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Me, an INFP, who is always a background extra:
Wait, I’m not *actually* invisible?
Your Fi is so loud, people just need to ask the right questions to get the chance to see it 🙂
@@justcallmejon22 That’s pretty relatable honestly. Some people do make it easy to expose a lot about myself pretty swiftly. That’s if people have a nice aura around them. If not, I stay firmly in my shell.
do something for intj and istp
I'm going over all types. Starting off with N's first because they're the easiest to talk about 🙃
@@justcallmejon22 since N types is much more relatable for types like Intj's btw keep up the good work, youre doing great!!
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the Sigma and the Omega
Yo.. ok that’s accurate.. i dunno if I’m infp.. but i do talk pause talk pause talk pause jump pause lol.. 2:53
That Fi/Ne pairing 😂
I need an intj in my life 😭
We're everywhere, you just need to show us your Fi so that you stand out in a crowd 😊
No please save yourself from these narcissists.
7:07 lmao me at parties 😂😂
I notice you INFP 🙂
its because they are trying to protect their feelings
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Because my boyfriend is an INTJ, but he doesn't care about me. I want to know more about his personality.
Why is he your bf if he doesn't care about you?!
Dump him. That Robot isn't worth your time. Yes, they care only about themselves.
I dumped that mofer. He came back, but I didn't buzz.
1:19 intjs can…….feel?😂😂😂😂😂 lol damn 😂😂😂 jkjk