The Brute Force: How I overcame stammering | Abhi K Ruparelia | TEDxYouth@DPSRKPuram
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- The Brute Force is probably one of the most effective techniques out there that helps you fight your stammer and other hurdles. However it also shatters probably some of the biggest beliefs most people have about stammering. And the best part - You don't need any speech therapy for this approach to work! Abhi has been working on this approach since the past 8 years and he claims it has changed his life.
Abhi is an international public speaking champion. But wait! There's a catch! - he stammers! He considers himself an oxymoron, a contradiction of my own self. One moment, he is a super shy guy who sits in the farthest corner of the room but the other moment, he is a person who gives a speech in front of a thousand people!
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Only a stutterer can understand how hard it is to even say our own name or speak of trivial matters which others don't even give a damn
It’s like being trapped in your own head
The struggle is real
how much suffering we face when someone asks for something or thing to say of go in front of crowd
💯 % agreed
I agree that !
I was a stammerer however overcame it by facing my fears. When people said try talking slow I spoke fast. When people said don't talk much, I talked a lot even if I was just blabbering most of the time. Now I earn my living by talking.😎
Give me your contact number
Please give me ur contact number, i am 29 year old in a professional job and I am suffering from statturing
Bro plz help me too give me your contact no
Really? Am scared of facing my fears
Please can we talk on Instagram?
it isn't just a stammer though, it affects lot more than just your speech, it affects your mental health, lots of people who stammer suffer from high levels of aniexty and social aniexty. also depression is also common in people who stammer. shame is another feeling that stammerers have to go through. also the fear is one of the worst parts about the disorder. it wouldn't be classed as a disability if it was just a stammer. it affects alot of people's daily lives.
bro u rock the show .its highly motivational ..i too tried it sometime speaking publicly ...gave me more confidence ..well the person who is going through the prob can only know wat they r hoing through...thanx for such a brilliant speech..stay safe be happy
thats completely true. stammering in my case has made me a very socially awkward person as i am afraid i will embarrass myself with the stutter. i has closed so many opportunities down for me and has had many more negative side-effects than just not being able to speak properly. the depression is the worst.
Slaying Greyjoy yeah my stammer has affect my social life too, I am always very scared about stammering in front of new people because of being misunderstood or judged because of the way that I speak.
yes this is 100% true .. em suffering from this all :( embarasemnt
What I have is more of a speech block. I don't stutter. It's worse when someone asks me a question. When I was a kid, if someone asked me my dad's name or where I live, I couldn't get it out. Speech therapy in school didn't help. When someone asks me the name of a person or place, my mind is running overtime about the person or place. It's like I'm seeing a description of them in my mind. It's like an over load, and I can't get the words out. I believe it comes from low self esteem. When I was in my 20-30s, I had a lot of confidence and it went away.Now, it came back in my 50s and I can't control it. I'm 63 now, and I avoid a lot of conversations. I dread people asking me questions. When I was a kid, is there a medication, like an anti depressant that can help? It's not a habit. And it's not something I can cure wth tongue exercises, etc. I wasted a lot of time on that growing up. Maybe hypnosis would help. With most stammerers / stutterers, there was some traumatic event that happened to the patient in their childhood. Some may have lost a parent or loved one in their early childhood, and this memory causes them anxiety or something subconscious. Has anyone tried hypnosis as a treatment? I hope someone can help me with this. Thank you.
I used to stutter to the point of not being able to speak at all. I overcame stuttering and I thank God for the experience and lesson and the cure. This is How I stopped stuttering: I was at work and I couldn't speak and I knew it. In that moment I became so upset and then I decided that I don't care how bad I stutter and how embarrassed that it may feel or how horrible my speech may be, that I was going to speak anyways. When I made that decision within myself, the fear and anxiety and paralysis went away and from that point on I could speak fine. For me stuttering was fear of not being able to speak or fear of speaking that was a self-fulfilling event. I had to confront the fear. Once I decided to speak in spite of the fear, the fear went away.
My son is 13 years and stammers a lot.Because of this he is losing his confidence .Reading your comment gave me hope that one day he will be able to talk fluently and overcome his stuttering Insha Allah
Give me your number plz
@@babbusingh9272 who?
@@babbusingh9272 5599337873
@@umarusman857 The anxiety is a big part of stuttering. The anxiety must be confronted directly. The anxiety is basically telling you that you can't speak and then you wonder if maybe you shouldn't speak. It is a spirit of fear and is only there to cause turmoil and turbulence. The only way to be free is by courage and faith and daring. Often times it is indignation that has to give rise to determination...perfect love casts out fear. The eternal hope of Jesus Christ gives me courage and inspiration to face my fears.
childhood with stutter is like dancing in fire.
i am glad you can over it . i will also try public speaking.
More like crying depressed in the corner
this is so true.....self confidence and enormous PRACTICE almost always eliminates stammering.
D34DLi what kind of practice?
@@aronpop1447 reading in front of the mirror, by saying tongue twister and practising abdominal breathing exercises
@@aronpop1447 I am also an stammer and I am practicing this daily for 1 hour in the morning each day.
Hats off to yr confidence man...u really spoke well....And thanx 4 encouraging all d stuttrs who r facing this problm...😊
how to overcome stammering(stuttering) and any speech disorder ? - part 1
Can I contact with you ?
I've been there and "the worst has already happened and from now this gets better" is the best approach. Nice talk.
I'm also stuttering ...but now I am working as CEO of one of the great company...ignore it guys and accept the new challenges ....
really??? how you move forth interviews..?
Haha. What great company? LOL
Shashank Prabhu how is it possible sir
I want job urgently, can u sir?
Excellent
From somebody that has suffered from stammering though my young days through my entire schooling career and university I have also come a long way . Practice practice practice . Identify your fear and run straight into it . My fear was always public speaking and now, I still have that anxiety, but it's normal and not as intense because I have understood and faced that fear that once disabled me . Fear is a death of living fully . It stops you. Fight it and shine . And most importantly, enjoy the fight and love yourself in the process. You are unique and special . The world in in your hands . God bless
How have you overcome it?
hey... I also used to stutter a lot, but through small roles in play at school to participating in debates. I have improved a lot. I still feel some days that I cannot do it, but deep down I know that I am no less than other people.
Because of this I have worked with one the top company in the world and has handled many international clients. I have almost never failed to impress at an interview even though I stutter now also. Great video... It really brings cheers me up and a small advice to all. Deep breath really helps a lot.
You're great.I'm afraid of participating in debates and making a speech.I don't know how embarrassing it'll be if I stutter on the stage.I cannot handle it.
Hey Rohit,
Can you please give your contact number to me.
Or just ping me on 8446198912.. I only stammer when I am having team meetings or professional calls (because of nervousness).
And normally I dont stammer .
I need your advice
iam confident everytime
Bt when i give presentation infront of crowd my mouth cannot speak a word even by name also even i try to speak bt i cannot..... what should i do now. Plz help
His problem was not stammering, but fear
Yeah
Ya u r right,it almost with all stummers
I am a stammerer too. I didn't know why I stammered all these days. I developed certain modifications to my breathing patterns, speed of speech and other relaxation techniques. I am able to control it much better than my painful initial years.
For those who follow IPL, this person on the video looks like Riyan Parag from Rajasthan Royals to some extent.
What modifications could you please elaborate
Amazing Speech Abhi..You are really a hero.
Thnks😂✌️
BTW I am too a stutter machine
@@internationalatheist4406 how you did to eliminate it ?
salute to your confidence abhi, I stutter in childhood but nobody help me out I always escape myself thanks
Hi ma'am I also stammred how I will get cure pls help me out
Hi ma'ma give me some tips
Been frequently stuttering for 25 years now. It kills me so much. It makes me afraid to talk and I never opened my mouth unless it is a necessity. It makes me feel less. It makes me feel I'm not normal. It makes me feel different from normal people to the point that I don't even understand myself. The thought is clear in my mind but I'm struggling to express it verbally. I hate being laughed at when stuttering tries to interrupt me from expressing myself. I feel helpless. I feel hopeless. Sometimes, I question myself why am I like this. I have never opened this to anyone (I know that they know that I stutter) and I've been thinking for therapy but it never came to realization.
But in all of this, Lord I will praise you and worship you for everything. No disorder nor impairment can refrain me not to be grateful everyday of my life. To those who stutter out there, change the way you see yourself. You're God's masterpiece.
I will pray for u..
Pray for me too
This is coming from a stammer, I can totally understand brother what you go through. I used to feel the same but SELF PITY HAS NEVER DID ANY GOOD. DON'T BLAME GOD MAN. DON'T USE HIM AS A SCAPEGOAT. I JUST SAY ONE THING EXPOSE YOURSELF TO SPEAKING, DOESN'T MATTER HOW YOU SPEAK JUST INCREASE THE NUMBER OF TIMES YOU FACE YOUR FEARS AND INSECURITIES. DO IT OVER AND OVER AGAIN SPEAK SLOWLY BUT SPEAK. DON'T BACK DOWN, LET PEOPLE LAUGH LET THEM HOW LONG THEY CAN LAUGH, REMEMBER ONE THING AFTER SOME YEARS YOU'LL ALSO DIE THE PEOPLE WHO LAUGHED AT YOU WILL ALSO DIE, NOTHING IS PERMANENT. PLUS WHEN YOU'LL DIE AT LEAST YOU'LL BE PROUD OF YOURSELF THAT YOU DIDN'T QUIT BUT THAT AIN'T HAPPENING COZ IF YOU WILL EXPOSE YOURSELF CONSTANTLY TO SPEAKING ENVIRONMENT, AFTER SOME ATTEMPTS YOULL SHOW ALOT OF IMPROVEMENT SUDDENLY AND THIS IS NOT THEORY THIS IS WHAT IS HAPPENING WITH ME IVE IMPROVED ALOT THOUGH I STILL STUTTER BUT ITS MINOR STUTTERS. AND WHAT I THINK MAJOR PART OF IT HAPPENS BECAUSE WERE UNDER CONFIDENT YEAH YOU HEARD IT RIGHT, INVEST IN YOURSELF. I HOPE YOU'LL SEE THIS MESSAGE.
Thanks man. That was a big dose of motivation. Keep safe.
@@johnjayluyao4768 I didn't thought you'd reply this fast, nice to hear from you man, I hope you're doing great in your life. You too take care brother 🙏
Great speech bro... I also stammer and it scares me when I talk to someone because I do not want to be mocked at when I speak.... Thanks again man... Go Brute Force 💪💪
True
I am stammer. You give me alot of confidence today .
Heartly i want to say Thank you so much
Great speech Abhi. Thanks for sharing your experience with us. I have been stuttering for the past 18 years or so and I'm really fed up of it now. It has become a hurdle for me while going for an interview or initiating a conversation with a stranger and especially telephonic conversations. I've been frustrated numerous times due to this speech impediment. However your speech has infused courage in me to accept my stuttering first (while controlling my frustration and ignoring all fools) and then use the brute force to fight it back. Looking forward for brighter days. Thanks and good day pal
a very very nice speech. great bro.
This is accurate based on my personal experience. Public speaking during high school and theater during college helped me a lot with my stammering
It's comforting to look in the comments and see that everyone's problem is more the fear of stammering in front of others more than the stammer itself
I promes I will distroy my stuttering 👊🔥
Same goes with me also bro i will destroy it ....
You are absolutely right about not caring if people like you. There is a saying: You walk into a meeting with 10 people you don't know. As soon as you start speaking 4 of them don't like you. By the end of the speech another 4 don't like you. Only 2 like you at the end. If you are OK with that, then that's the answer. The point is you can't please other people all the time. You just have to be yourself and not be dependent on other people's opinions.
salute to your confidence abhi, I stutter in childhood but nobody help me out I always escape myself
Yes I agree nobody helps you I have also stammering problem
To all stutters read few pages of book everyday loud. And practice it everyday.
Stuttering is just the fear in your heads.
While speaking speak slow and beleive me you will see the results
hope one day i will speak like you . i think i'm mentally strong i love to face challanges (like exam and other daily things) . but this stammering thing completely destroyed my confidence.
This guy spits the most real truth
One of the best speeches herd ever 🤩
My stuttering fades away whenever I’m holding a microphone or whenever I do public speaking, but it comes back when I am talking individually to people😂😂😆 don’t know why🧐
It happens to me also
Same
All stutter have the same situation
Me too. When i hold a microphone
I wish there could be a permanent cure for this .
It's so beautiful to be able to speak fluently. 😭😭😭😭😭
@@TheBrandC_J
Yes it’s so beautiful to speak so fluently
That's so crazy! Mine is the opposite
Thanks TEDx to escalate this issue. I know how it is Painfull because I also have same problem till 2019, Infact i stammer so much. But, Then I know it is curable Afterthat, I start working on that and by god grace i can cure my stammering💯💯
This is a very inspiring talk. I stammer and relate to you somehow. But i still haven't eliminated stuttering in my speech which will happen soon. thanks for helping me take the initiative to face my fears
Do you stammer now ?
I'm 22 years old I'm still stuttering i don't know why😭
Yes normally
Same 😇
Well done Abhi. It was great to hear your story and wish you all the best. I wish I had made a speech when I was 11. I still think about it today. That may have meant I stopped stuttering at a much earlier age. It took me over 30 years to break free and now I am on CZcams :) The stutter made me depressed and was lonely. The more people that do videos the more likely people who stutter can see that its really possible to break free.
I have stammering problem. When I was in class 8 I had participated a lot in speech conceptions and guess what my problem went away. But in 9th and 10th I had stopped to participate in these and now I am same as I was. It means that I have to participate continuously .
I am also Sutter now I am 20 year old still I am facing problem in my speech and feel very difficult when I used to talk with my friend even family also
Thank you so much for this video it's really motivated me now now I will try my best to outcome from my stammering problem 😢😢😌
Join any SHG. It will help you. There are many groups
Hats off man
Doing really great job.
Inspirational speech buddy🙌🙌
Nice speech brother im also stammering guy..i face all problem too..i recover soon while keep practicing..practice make all..
Please bring TEDx to Nigeria. There's a whole lot of audience hete
Thankx alot... M having stammering problem from 13 years... Actually more than 13 years and it's still not cured
I am so glad to hear this...
A very good speech bro.We shall surely overcome stammering with self confidence.
Loved your speech Abhi,u were really amazing!!
Hats off...
I stutter too. It helps when you move. Its' hardest when you're supposed to stay still.
Thank you so much sir
Indeed a great speech and a best advice... great.. thumbs up
Love you sir....they feel pain of stuttering problem who suffer from it...
Heye same Abhi...you are like a motivate to us.same you like stammer just me also.....some time my breath is very small so i didnt speak very well...your communication to people is good....thnks for your motivation
great inspiration for stammerer.
What a well performation
Great sir.
Thanks sir.
i've be stuttering in my whole life.but now at 22,i fell like that, it's increasing day by day where people would like to say that,i can overcome this problem.. but no..now,I'm so depressed and very tensed.. i think, it will create a great effect in my career. and it's happening.. in serious moment like interview, restaurant, shopping,unknown person, i can't talk fluently.. i try my best to be calm and cool in these situations, but can't control.. unreasonably feel more panic,excitement, depressed in every moments.. normally, i can speak fluently .slightly stuttering but ignorable..but on these situations, i try to talk easily,but that moment i can't deliver fluently.. something obstructed my talking related nerves then..
I feel u .. i'm the same actually... Each time I present a project in uni or smthg and my stuttering appears or in an interview .. I ended up crying at home and hope if I simply could talk normally .. I've been depressed by it countless times ... But now i'm facing it.. I wanna over come it ... I'll try to speak in public More .. and trust me it helps ... It's decreasing little by little .. I hope i'll get rid of it one day ... So don't give up u too... Btw i'm 21 hahah so nearly the same age hahah ... Good luck And don't be depressed
how?
I am trying to cure my stammering
I am also facing lots of problem
@@LuckySinghtrade wear a headphone in 1 ear.
@@This_tub why🤔
@@kallurathore4733 it cured my stuttering shorterm, lead to confident to cure stuteering long term
@@This_tub so wearing a headphone in 1 ear help stuttering
Sir you are heaven freind for me
I also stammer
I wanted to speak on TEDx soon, I know that I overcome this situation
As a 63 year old stammer, I have been fortunate to have my mum who pushed me to be to outgoing saying its other peoples problem not yours. I still have a number of challenges though. Saying my name in a business meeting (I cant use an alternative which is one of my workarounds when I stammer). On a similar theme, I wont read out stuff, I struggle with that. When I do business presentations I rarely read from the slides but use my own words. I am confident speaking in public but that confidence goes very quickly and turns to fear if I stammer alot and feel that others are embarrassed or frustrated by my stammer.
You're an inspiration
Abhi bro loved your confidence on stage. Know how it feels to deal with this curse. Anyway to contact you and just get answers to some questions which have been troubling me?
Regards
A fellow Stutterer
hey hi....I am also suffering from stuttering, how to overcome from it.
Hello, I'm also suffering from stammering.. I'm studying in a medical school.. I face a lot of difficulties in giving my presentations.. Plz tell me how u practice.. Either u chnge ur speech pattern.. Plz tell me sir.. I need ur help
@@abhiruparelia sir i stutter when I pronounce my name..
@@amnaanjum3501 what about your speaking ?
what a speech abhi very inspiring...can you help me I am also ... from Ahmadabad and suffering from bad stemmer
Good speak
Thanks a lot!!!!
Very Nice!!
Thanks sir.... D video is vry inspiring.... M good at public speaking but i always back out coz i stammer.... I want to overcome this... Please help me sir
Osm speech ever u r great bro..... 😇
how to overcome stammering(stuttering) and any speech disorder ? - part 1
Bahut achha sir 🙏
Inspirational speech
Thanks
I can feel you
I only stammered when I am nervous like in front of parents or teachers but when I talk to my friends or any shopkeeper I am not stammering
Bro can i have your number? I wamt to talk to you
Excellent speech
Thanks 👍.
I am not able to overcome it today also. I remembered i started stammering when i was 3 and today it has increased a lot. Now i stammer a lot more than before. Pleasee help as i am leaving out so many opportunities
You must watch as many videos of the people those who overcome this problem. It will motivate you. While you are speaking to someone try to forget that you stammer. Keep yourself away from vocal fights or dispute as it will boost the feeling of anxiety and will make you stammer even more. Try to express yourself in a calm way. You will feel the difference.
And whenever you feel nervous and anxious, forget everything and take deep breathes a few times and then continue. You will feel the difference.
@@manvander tysm.. I've been trying some of these things since then. But i can see no improvement. At First i just used to stammer in front of unknown people onlu but rn i also stammer a lot in front of my parents also (like wht fear do i have to talk in front of them). So I'm just not understanding what to do. Should i consult a neurosurgeon?
@@hardishah3442 in my case it was opposite...although i still stammer...but I am better now...many of my friends/ colleague dnt even know that i stammer…
@@hardishah3442 i dnt thnk that consulting anybody will help you.. you yourself have to find a solution...as i think that cause of stammering is different for different persons.
I'm not able to pronounce some specific words like s, sh, Ra, ri, ta.... What should I do ?
Great
Thank you
It's easy for a stutterer to do public speaking. The problem occurs when he engage in conversation
Right I have same thing to say . To interest with other prove difficult.
Yes..
This is absolutely not true
Good job bro...i have gone through this ..but now i m ok
I m also stammering 😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😥😥😥 because of tension hair is going to white
Life is not easy for everyone but I feel somewhat, money makes life easier irrespective of your issue. Poor people can't get the equal opportunity and working hard, bringing confidence where there is no opportunity is all waste, they need to drag themselves till their luck comes and bring them up but still not everyone is lucky.
just thanks you guys
i am also suffering from worst situation of stammering.How can i overcome it?
Kritika Gupta I'm also a stammer but i almost overcome it by doing reading newspaper loudly.
Do u read it alone or in front of someone?
Take belladonna 30ch for 3 days 3 times don't eat before and after 30 min in 2 teaspoon of water first boiled and cool and report after 4 days
Build your self confidence
belladonna is toxic
Speak confidentently in private but in public I shattered, specilly interview and talk to senior
👍😭😭😭🙏🙏. ..pls god help US ..I have also strammering problem. Im pursuing ITI course .I can't introduce myself clearly
I'm a stutterer.I am rejecting from interviews on these 5 years after my graduation.the intensity of stuttering varying up on persons.
well done Abhi! your an inspiration to so many! i could relate to everything u said.
what you actually did?
Is stammering a disability ??? If yes then can I take benefit in government job.
😔😔😔
Yes
@@babbusingh9272 but there are not any category for this disability in notifications.
@@nixamsilva6824 no no sorry. I m not know English. I don't understand English language.
I don't know... as a person who stutters. I kind of agree with him but I also think he is... not the brightest crayon in the box. There are a few people who stutter who are public speakers and they still stutter. Some extremely bad.
Hi, I still don't get your point. Can you elaborate?
@usman, he said, "start public speaking and you won't stutter." There are a lot of people who do public speaking and still stutter. So he is lying.
asmcriminaL Thats true. About him not being the brightest crayon in the box, after much thoughts I kind agree with you.
Unbelivable achivement
Iam also a strammar iam use so many medicines but it not control please give your phone
Then why Drew Lynch still didn't cure his stutter. He is comedian and famous youtuber. He have comedy gigs very often so he put himself in very difficult situations
u do not know what situation was he in before...If he has even improved 90 percent than that is a big thing for him...with time he will overcome that also
Iam also suffering from this thing.. Its my dream that one day i also want to speak in the stage of tedx in front of many peoples 😇😇🙏
OSU!!
Believing in yourself is everything guys.. And else stammering is just a joke
sir, how y have improve n overcome stuttering me suffering from stuttering pls pls sir how to overcome
awesome speech :) I'm a proud stammerer
kudos Abhi... am also a stutterer, rather speech block. struggling as a lawyer... u have ur contact no or mail id? u r an inspiration 🎆
Stammering and stuttering are different things. I too have a stutter and I am doing self therapy at home.
@Archana Jn ]
Hi Archana, I'm a recovering stutterer and what you say is highly confusing to say the least! Please explain what you believe to be the difference between stammering and stuttering...I'm quite certain they are in fact the same thing. North Americans use the term stammer and the rest of the world (Europe at least) use the term stutter to describe the condition.
Self therapy ?? Can u tell me what kind of tharapy ..i also stammer ..
@@manthanpathak5780 indeed, I think they are te same.
@@manthanpathak5780 please tell how you recovered from stuttering