how to forgive yourself | moving on from past mistakes and overcoming shame & guilt
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OMG YAYYY FINALLY!!!
I love rage rooms, I'm so glad you talked about it in this video. And always teaching a healthy way to release emotions. Specially, for me a person who suffered from anger issues from several years, you've helped me a lot to overcome it. Now, I always pen down my emotions and just burn it. Thankyou tam for everything ♥
ممكن متابعة 🤍🤍🤍
Hi Tam, i need some advice. Im 14 and recently I've been feeling like the whole world has turned against me. My grades are slipping and my parents aren't paying attention to me anymore. Honestly I feel like GIVING UP ON EVERYTHING. My school life, sports, friends and family. Please help me I'm really stuck and don't know what to do.
P.S if anyone else has ideas feel free to tell me :)
“You were meant to make that mistake to lose that person” 🤯
Wow
That hurrrt
L.
i was litrlly strugling with my life and regretting my mistakes and apologizing continuously to god and then this videos pops up on my page . THANK YOU SO MUCH
samee ✨🫡
Same!
You are on the right path🎉🎉🎉
Wow is it like a wave or what coz I was doing the same, thing, except I wasn't apologizing to God. But talking down at myself, seeing incompetences everywhere. Been doing this for 3days(i am so tired of it)until I just decided to reach for my phone & this video).
Same
How do you always post the right video at the right time 😭😭😭
Exactly like she knows. .what we really need in our exact situation 🥺
I was thinking the same🙄
Actually, how do we all go through the same things at the same time?😭😂
@@akshayaparashar1922 That's a good question 😂
Ikr🥹
once i read something that made my self guilt stop "you are a good person for feeling guilty for your mistakes, because there are people out there who don't feel guilty after doing anything." and you are NOT a bad person for making a mistake, even when you knew better. im sure you dont wake up everyday thinking you will go out there and mess up and make yourself feel unloved. you dont, right? nobody does! and those who do arent concerned about wanting to forgive themselves
i just screwed up with a friend of mine, i was feeling sooo guilty, but your comment is making me feel so much better, thank you. 💓
@@cristal_0012 my pleasure, hope you fix everything with the friend of yours!! and if she doesn't know how much you care about her, make sure to tell her about your overwhelming guilt of hurting her that brought you to this video. hope you have a good day!!!💖
I think I might have messed up my relationship and she wants to break up because of it and I feel guilty that the reason we were always up and down was because of me and I want to let go of that situation and get better within myself, any advice?
@@ananyasingh8218 keoot
@@luDMiLa-ov3vi man, I really can't comment on your relationship because I haven't lived it. but I would say, sure enough she is doing the best for herself -- like if she wanted to stay you would know and if she doesn't, then there's that. it doesn't mean any one of you is a villain, but it's just that you all aren't good for each other.
BUT see if you really genuinely fix the issue and change yourselves for the better because relationships become intolerably toxic when any of the 2 people stop growing but if both of you are really to grow and strengthen the relationship, then do it. or if you jus wanna separate, do it and get better until you get into the next relationship and never stop growing!! growth is the law of nature, going against is only brings misery.
yup, that's it. take care !! and make sure to let her know that even if you both separate you did love her at one point and are grateful for her no matter what.
also, remember when Robert frost says : life in 3 words is -- it goes on.
every saint has a past and every sinner has a future
Oooooooo that was good❤i love it
@@JustasPretty-vh5jf it’s a quote from a Saint
In Ramadan, we are repenting all our sins and it just made me so uncomfortable last night how much mistakes i have done in my life so far. I prayed for forgiveness and also help for help to get pasr of this shame and YOU JUST POSTED THIS!!!!!! Its a sign and you are help from God!!!! Tam you are an angel❤
Salaam 🥰 I am also Muslim and a fan of Tam, I hope you're having a good Ramadan so far insha'Allah 🤲🏼❤️
Wsalam❤ I am so happy to hear from you. This ramadan feels special and i am praying for everyone’s healing and peace for our fellow muslim brothers. May you have a blessed Ramadan too❤
True 🥺. May Allah forgive our sins. Also let's move on girl 💌🦋
Ramadan Moubarak!
Hey if you have done something wrong to people it's better to ask forgiveness from people because Allah don't forgive hakukul insan but yes for other sin you can ask forgiveness from allah❤❤
I AM NOT EVEN KIDDING WHEN I SAY THIS SHOWED UP AT THE RIGHT TIME.
SAME GIRL
No way... The universe REALLY wants the best for me. This video just came in the right moment it's almost scary. I felt bad for like 3 days for a dumb mistake I made, a missed opportunity. I wanted a video to make me feel better but nothing convinced me, I just wished you made a video like that one day because I trust you... And the next day you DROP THIS MASTERPIECE. ily Tam ❤
For me they come before something happens so I’m pretty lucky 🍀
I just said: I don't have to punish myself anymore because if what I did to him. I'm sorry, I forgive myself and him. And I'm free of it. I have grieved this, and I allow myself to process any emotions that might come up. I'm open to new people.
EVERYDAY IS A REBIRTH
You know few months ago, I had a huge fight with my family, and my grandmother told the changes I had in myself, I became very upset, angry and irritated at all times. Because of that my impression in my family became really bad. I used to think that no one loves me and I used to cry so much, at times I felt like I was in depression. Seeing all this my grandmother told me to see a therapist but I refused thinking I will look mad, then I figured out you, your channel and I started watching it. Just in like 1-2 weeks i started noticing changes in myself. I started being more happy and focused on myself. My parents and family also started noticing changes in me, they told me that they were really proud of me for changing myself and being happy. They all told me that being a teenager you need to be more confident and active to have a successful career that’s why they were stressed over my mood which made them shout at me. Now I feel really happy about it, i don’t regret fighting with my family cause it made me realise my mistakes and work on them by your guidance ❤. Thank you Tam ❤
Still no one had right to shout on you tho❤❤ but I hope you heal dear
Aww so proud of you girl ✨🎀...keep going 👏🏻
@@Miracleofnight__ thank youuu 💓💓💓💓
@@siddhikataneja9516 omggg thank you 🩷🩷
I wasted my high school with people who disrespected me..I was just asking myself to forgive me..Covid period was a great opportunity but I wasted it leading to failing in an Competetive exam two times..I am really stuck.I overthink.I feel like the day just passes I hope I will get better this year💖💖g
As much as I believe forgiving yourself and others is important, it is so so important to not confuse forgiving yourself with not holding yourself accountable for your mistakes. If you hurt someone in a very bad or evil way you can’t just jump to forgiving yourself without missing the steps of honestly apologizing and taking accountability and responsibility for your actions and those consequences. However If you did these steps it is important to bring yourself peace and forgive yourself. But the mindset that everyday you are a new person and your past doesn’t matter and who you hurt in the past doesn’t matter is a wrong way to go.
taking accountability doesn’t mean to shame and dehumanize others if they have done mistakes (except if they’re criminal or borderline criminal or went out of their way to hurt others) some people really feel guilt over really petty things that happened in school years or situations and they can’t forgive themselves over it, there’s nothing else they can do but be a better person if it happened in the past, and move on, but i understand your point.
i mean like “cancel culture’s” version of accountability like we see on social media 95% of the time
Tam mentioned at around 17:40 she doesn't justify hurting others on purpose. And several times has mentioned that coming to terms with mistakes and THEN doing the work to rectify them, learn, communicate, etc are what put you on the right path. But it all starts with the mindset shifts, and then you can take actions to move out of guilt and be accountable.
I think those who clicked on this video already know this
@@elizabethgracefashion +1
23:42 From now on I’m going to trust my journey and stop beating myself up because of what I’ve done in the past, accept that I did what I had to do back then and let myself feel light-hearted until I’m ready to be even more resilient
You were meant to make that mistake to lose that person , such a powerful quote omg
Gurl, when ever she says 'Women' I feel soo good I'm literally 13 and just because of Tam I went from insecure af to the girl boys fight over, the girl with straight As, the girl with a nice body and perfect skin all because of Tam. I love you and I'm literally soo gratefully to you. You're like my big sister. I follow all your advice. LUV YA TAM!!!❤❤❤❤❤THANK YOU SOOO MUCH SISTER
Bro this is the cutest comment ever😭
Ramadan Mubarak to all my Muslim girls who are tam kaur team too, stay positive and healing and growing and glowing up in this Ramadan spiritually and physically ❤
Same to u tooo❤
I’m promising to do a huge glow up this summer by starting with mindset shifts because it all starts with how we think….thanks tam can’t wait for my exams to get over ❤
Yes, you can do it girlie
I've never experienced a day (including today) without the plague of a loop of all the unwanted memories.
same girl
I had a conversation with my therapist this week about how I've felt guilty for such a long time and how I should forgive myself and realise that there is no way a person can be perfect and make no mistakes. This video came right on time! Thank you so much for blessing us with your wisdom and words. Also, your hair looks lovely
I love how tams tone of voice matches the concept she's talking about all the time, like this topic is quite heavy and you wouldn't want someone to give you such advice in a harsh and aggressive way, but she manages to say calm and give the advise in the most sutulist of ways while being realistic, but also when it's about haters and building confidance she just uses a different tone than the one in this video where it's more motivational and like go go go. She probably does this unconsciously but it has a great affect on me personally and hopefully on everyone else ❤ as always love you Tam ❤
Sometimes it scares me how precise Tam Kaur is with her videos. It's literally always the right topic at the right time.
Experiencing the " you will keep be putting at the same struggle until you REALLY learnt from it " moment - and you now posting this? THANK YOUUUUUU
GIRLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLL!!!!!!!!
The thing you said at 17:48 ...
Literally changed my whole thinking processssssss.....
I am now able to forgive my ex and my friend..(definitely not going back)
and most importantly
MYSELF ❤❤❤❤❤
Thank you!!!!!!
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I LOVE YOU SO MUCH❤❤❤❤❤
Is it an omen sent by the Universe through Tam every time? How is it possible for you to come to our rescue at the exact time. It feels right to learn from the right person. Love you dude not just as a creator but when you don't find such frnds offline, it's a pleasure to have you as a long distance frnd.
i was literally crying about my situations and universe always helped me by providing your exact same video on my situation...........thank youuuu so muchhh❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
Omg I NEEDED this!!! Ive been hating myself since 2020 for mistakes. The spirit of jealousy took over me and even though I know it a human emotion, I feel horrible for the pain I may have inflicted on the other person who was going through alot. The amount of times Ive replayed my mistakes to the max point Ive not wanted to dress up, go out out of fear something bad will happen to me and also I feel I dont deserve good things in life
I love rage rooms, I'm so glad you talked about it in this video. And always teaching a healthy way to release emotions. Specially, for me a person who suffered from anger issues from several years, you've helped me a lot to overcome it. Now, I always pen down my emotions and just burn it. Thankyou tam for everything ♥
Hi Tam! Recently I figured that I've been so hard on myself about the mistake that I did 7 years ago and that is deeply rooted in me and its the reason why I have low self-esteem and struggle with self-image issues and you uploaded the video at the right time! I love how the universe aligns itself and how life is a beautiful one and often times we just focus on the negative experience and the emotions we feel from it that we totally forget about the teachings it has to offer. Thank you Tam for widening my perspective. Love you !!
“their judgment of me doesn’t equate to how big your mistake was”. wow.
omg omg omg this is EXACTLY what I needed. I held grudges and shame toward myself for more than 5 YEARS. And this is the very first time I feel better about all of these relationship and friendship mistakes; THANK YOU SO MUUUUUCH
Omg ure so close to 1 million girl i’m prayinggg
HOW CAN SOMEONE BE SO POSITIVE...KEEP GOING GIRL ...
Please make video on how to be authentic self
And how to overcome anxiety,fear
THIS IS WHAT I NEEDED THANK YOU SOOO MUCH TAM!!!💗
mainly , just trust your gut ladies !!!! if something is off its definitely is off , no going thru breadcrumbs and thinking that it might get better later .
YOU HAVE CHANGED MY LIFE
i swear. best timing ever. thank you tam
This is crazy…this is the very thing I was struggling with today and the first video on CZcams recommendations was this…THANK YOU UNIVERSE
The timing is perfect ❤
I love your hair like this, you literally look so good
I was struggling over everyting like break ups,dealing with problems in my life,self sabotaging for mistaking.but after video i really realised i have to move on from past to build my future before it gets late.thanks for the video❤❤❤
Whenever i do any mistake or something bad happens to me i just question myself - " Is this situation teaching me something?" It really helped to shift my mindset and energy in a positive way. ♥︎ Thankyou Tam!!
exactly what i needed 😭 thanks Tam ❤
Literally I go through something and Tam uploads the exact video I need 😭😭❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
THE QUEEN IS HERE AGAIN 🎀🎀
Girl, I needed this. Thank you.
THANK YOU FOR POSTING TAM❤❤ I literally look forward to your videos Every Single Day ❤❤❤
i like how you always talk about what i need , love you so much Tam!!❣
loveee your mindset and your content, i’ve been watching you for over a year now and your videos have been helping me out so much 🫶🏼 btw u are slaying in this video girl
this is everything i've needed to hear for a while , thank you tam
her videos always align with my life so perfectly
You add so much positivity .. u are unbelievable
Tam you’re literally always serving looks and great advice 💞🙏
You raise my vibration. I feel joy when I watch your videos and hear you speak.
Today,was my result,I scored less than expected in my final exams and I was very disappointed and sand about it bcoz i worked really hard. I really needed this video and you just posted, maybe that's a sign by God. THANK YOU SO MUCH!!!!!!
I love you so much Tam! You've changed my life. I am so grateful for you
how is your timing always so perfect Tam??? whenever I need a video on a certain topic you post it exactly when I need it. you're a life-saver AND a mind reader fr. thank you so much❤
Omg one of the best videos Ive ever watched! Thank you so much girl 🙏💞
its just absolutely unreal how accurate and healing this can be and what changes it could potentially bring in persons life for the good
Finding this video at this exact point in my life is exactly what I needed. I cannot thank you enough. I really needed these words so thank you
I needed to hear this so badly. Thank you ❤
You just uploaded this video at the right time tysmmmm❤
Exactly the video I needed atp! thankyou so much tam💗❤
I CANNOT TELL YOU HOW MUCH I NEEDED THIS, this is actually insane??? you're literally so good. bless you.❤️
This is so perfect thanks for all your help
i needed this sm thank you ily🥺
oh my god there are so many insights, I stop the video every minute to process this all! thank you, Tam, so much!!
you are my favourite content creator, tysm💗💗
I feel like not many people acknowledge how important this is so thank you so much for this bae I love how you always want to help people in every way possible Love you Tam ❤❤
This video could not have been posted at a better time. Thank you! 💖
Oh My Goodness! I do not think I have heard shame described this way before! Prioritizing another person's feelings before your own!! THANK YOU!!!❤
YOU ARE GLOWING OMG
TAM YOURE SOO STUNNING
TYSM 💗💗💗💗💗💗💗
Thank you tam ❤
Literally right time..I needed this thankyou so much tam!❤❤
Your hair looks on pointtt
exactly what i needed! Thanks Tam 💛
i am so lucky to have you, because you create the videos that i need ❤ thank you so much
Tam is like my big sister❤️❤️ best advice ever!!! Love you❤️
i was waiting for this video/ topic from my fav creators for so long. you are a queen!! today i watched your vlog from your second yt channel and i was just like: woah i love this woman, so inspiring!!
and it’s so true! can’t wait for your podcast comeback and tysm for doing this🤍
You are an angel in my life. Thank you Tam ❤
Thank you so much Tam...You have no idea how much I needed and appreciate this 💗
What i learned is that i am human. I dont mean like just an organism that exists but a person with feelings, a life, a heart. I make mistakes, i say wrong words, i dont feel my best sometimes but that’s totally okay!! Anyone else would be feeling the same exact thing if they went through what i went through. Im not alone in this ❤❤ there is always a happy ending 🫶🏻
I've been wondering how to do exactly this lately after some journaling last night so the timing! Thank you so much!! 💙
Thank you very much! This video helped me a lot!
I was holding it a long time ago ago... I was dying to have a video like this thank you so much for this I'm so thankful I swear
JUST PERFECT TIMING
Really needed this video in particular, thank you
Girl thank you I really need this video I now feel so much better
really needed you to talk about this topic ~ 🌸💕
And yess MAMA i was in need for thisssss!!!!!!! How should I thank you tam di !???? This is insane THANK YOU UNIVERSE 🙏💝
i needed this tam thank you
This girl has changed my mindset so well, idk how to thank herr'
you have no idea how much i needed this i feel like you’re talking directly to me :’) thank you tam
I genuinely love this video
Girl your timing is impeccable🤌
I love your videos. I usually watch them three times.😊
Thank you Tam for everything you do! I somehow found you right after taking myself out of a toxic manipulative situationships and you have helped me so much on my journey of self love!! Thank you!!!!