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- čas přidán 9. 05. 2023
- On today’s show, we hear about:
- How to grieve life’s disappointments and move forward
- A woman who suspects her boyfriend has high-functioning autism
- A man desperate to get his father to stop smoking after a recent heart attack
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Thank you for saying that we don't need people saying "God needed another angel..." etc. comments like that. They are SO hurtful and it just stings when you are the one who had to bury your child. Countless people have told me little sayings that just make me even more sad. How about instead of saying what we "think" is the right thing to say, we just ask "how can I help you today?". Love your show, Dr. John!!!
I'm so happy you mentioned that it's ok to take kids to a funeral. I took my kids to a grandmother that they saw weekly and told them we are going to say goodbye. They mention it occasionally and refer to it as such.
You did the right thing. I was upset with my parents because they did not take me to the funeral of my great grandfather, even though I was small (maybe 6 years). I needed closure, I was curious about death and he was the first person I knew who died. I wanted to know what happens after you die and it felt taboo without it needing to be.
The first caller's question about grief is golden. Thanks for the advice. I'll read the books. It has given me much more wisdom when dealing with myself and my loved ones.
So how do you let go of all the concessions you’ve made to navigate a 20+ year marriage after you’ve learned that your spouse is a liar and is not the person you believed they were at all.
Ugh! That sounds like such a punch to the gut. Sorry you've had to go through that.
A book I found very helpful was “It’s ok that Your not Ok’ by Megan Devine.
The caller who called in about the grief of loss of a child struck me as someone who is extremely emotionally disconnected and thats pretty concerning...
He wants to just get back in there and start having more kids.
Sounds like his wife may have let him know he is being insensitive and he called to try and understand how to feel any emotions which leads to a greater problem and concern in my opinion.
Interesting… I didn’t see it that way at all.
To me, it seems he is connected to his feelings of grief, he wants the pain to end. He seemed to be trying to do grief “right” because he wants it to end. He appears to be coming into a season of acceptance and he’s needing guidance. It’s a man that is resolving to stop fighting was is.
@@tinam761 I agree. He seems to be trying and that's better than many people.
23:54 - I agree that he was grieving the loss of his child, just in his own way. Emotionally, I’m very much like the caller who had questions about grief. This part validates that. Yep, I’m a highly analytical person, a Virgo, who loves MS Excel like he said, who - like him - is also an INTJ on the Myers-Briggs (the rarest combination for women). Very misunderstood, especially as a woman. I/We just tend to process emotions differently. It’s more mental than emotional, thinking more than feeling, but no less valid. It doesn’t mean we’re not connected or in tune.
I had a miscarriage many years ago. It was sad but I never really felt grief. But I thought a lot about it. Analyzed the whole situation. Made it make sense for myself. I think that was my way of grieving and managing the whole situation.
He sounds like a machine that wants to blend in
Grief is just noticing when you wish things were different because ... and then you allow your Grief to pass through you and put IT into a ROCK in a Garden... and there it is, forever. Repeat.
That’s interesting. I think I like that perspective.
I’ve had three babies naturally and there are sooooo many things worse. I’ve had back pain and migraines that are worse than my labors. I’ve never had surgery but recovery from surgery seems so much worse. Breaking a bone, getting burned, kidney stones, yikes! I’d rather have a baby. I work as a labor & delivery nurse and c-section recovery seems scary and painful to me. I’m glad there are good pain meds out there! Contractions are 1-2 minutes at a time and come in waves. Being in labor may be a few hours to a few days but there is a definite end to it. Surgery recovery can take weeks, months, and some people have chronic pain. Again, I’d rather have a baby.
Same here- and my deliveries were not short or simple.
Thank you John, I really need to hear this. So hard to let go, so so hard. Im going to get that book. Really appreciate the work you do.
I lost my husband 8 years ago this past June . I still miss him but I feel that I'm at the point where I'm moving on hopefully within the next few months we'll be starting a new relationship . but everybody's different and they're grieving some will take forever some will take not so much
I like what the 2 caller said about Autism . and I love the whole podcast today .you give good advice and I love your show and books .I learn alot from watching your show thank you for the wonderful advice .I learn alot on what you say on each show.I love your show Dr.John Delony .I learn alot from your show .
I recently had a miscarriage and wow, this hit deep. I've realized I have been supressing a lot of emotions and the flood gates just opened. This was my first ever pregnancy and was so surpised when i got pregnant right away. I was 8 weeks and the day it happened i cried until i was numb and havent cried since. I've now become more open with my husband and others about my feelings but this really pushed me to feel those hard emotions. Thank you ❤
I have to know about the picture in the back where the eyes are crossed out.
Thanks again Dr John.
😂 laughed so hard at the start of the woman who thinks her fiancé is autistic. I in my head said when you asked about being brutally honest I said "nope, John! Lie to me" then you had that comment. Love this advice. We are a culture of diagnostics and wanting to fix things. We need to learn how to communicate better with our loved ones.
This was very helpful
Worst physical pain- broke my wrist-worse than 3 times giving birth without any drugs- big babies too
What an awesome episode touching a 3 super helpful topics! 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻
Dr John: of your phrase, "...losers and quitters..." (?)
'Quitter' is a term I can understand, as it tends to refer to the truth of certain repetitive behaviours; 'loser' however, is an incredibly wide-sweeping, most unforgiving and presumptuous reference to struggles which - for reasons onlookers are often ignorant to - have not been overcome.
'Quitter' may arguably be a legitimate term; 'loser', however, is far too open to personal bias.
The last caller is Alex but the name on the screen says Ian
LOL that’s the best Eric Church song. 👏
With and without a spectrum disorder, anatomically perfect communication and sensory function isn't like... a real thing.
Even healthy communicators could meet a difficult mismatch in style, and because we're humans, it's likely we can find a way to make it work if we want it to and have the right guidance.
23:54 - Emotionally, I’m very much like the caller who had questions about grief. This part validates that. Yep, I’m a highly analytical person, a Virgo, who loves MS Excel, who - like him - is an INTJ on the Myers-Briggs (the rarest combination for women). Very misunderstood, especially as a woman. I/We just tend to process emotions differently. It’s more mental than emotional, thinking more than feeling, but no less valid. It doesn’t mean we’re not connected or in tune.
I had a miscarriage many years ago. It was sad but I never really felt grief. But I thought a lot about it. Analyzed the whole situation. Made it make sense for myself. I think that was my way of grieving and managing the whole situation.
Offer to pay for chantix for him. I did that for both my parents they both stopped. It also helped to give them the excuse that the government is taking advantage of them with taxes 🤷🏻♀️
Adoption is always an option ❤
Love the intro with card game
We need time stamps 😌
Kelly woke up and chose violence
The last caller's voice sounds very familiar.
I hope your dad makes the decision to stop. 🙏
28:40 HeelLLLOOOOOO lol
Rose, caller number 3, should change her name to Thorn.
Kidney pain is worse than labour and birth. 100 percent.
Not a baby, I swear the tiles on the floor are more comfortable than those back supports in the nice chairs of the er
Interesting, I have yet to give birth (and I always hope I could handle it) but I had a kidney stone and for sure I was throwing up because of the pain and I have never sweat so much in my life, I sweat so much I really originally went to the hospital because I needed help getting rehydrated. But the day the stone finally passed I was totally feeling and acting like a pregnant woman, like my mom had acted when she was in labor.
So strange to me. My ex-husband wasn’t even in town when I miscarried our first child and he told me it didn’t matter because at least 50% of pregnancies will end in miscarriages anyway. I was able to have two children after that so all was good.
Omg . That is terrible. So sorry your had to hear that 😢. Crushing.
Why are your views so low vs your subs?
First..
Shut your mouth
My god you speak some cap sometimes
Females....
1st time listener here-you popped up on my TikTok fyp..and I’m so happy you did! About to share your channel with my group therapy today. 🫶🫶