How You Will Restore The SET POINT WEIGHT? Why Are People Overweight Then? // Q&A #2
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How come I tell in my videos that your body will go back to the set point weight if there are so many overweight and obese people in the world? How come you will not just keep gaining and gaining endlessly? With eating whatever you want with no limitations you will surely get overweight, right?
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Yes absolutely!!! I had a very restrictive mentality! So even though I didn't calorie restrict a ton, I mentally was always trying to restrict and it naturally made me want to overeat, which made me gain weight. It's crazy how your mind set affects your body.
how did you stop the restriction mentally 🥺
@@jenzieisreal1433 I'm going through this journey myself still, but I think it has to do with changing your mentality around the way you look. There are so many other important and great things about you other than the way you look!
Think about yourself as if you were a friend or your future daughter/son. Would you like the way she sees herself? Do you really judge your friends or your family based on the smallest things like if they gained some weight or if they aren't skinny?
No. We think about their personalities, likes/dislikes, how they make us feel, their dreams or goals, how funny they are, how cute they are, etc. So why see yourself any differently from that?
I need to remember this
It means a lot for me to mention that you didn't was underweight and didn't lose weight in your eating disorder. Talk more about that because it's really important❤️
What a great and helpful video!
Lately I’ve been wondering if all I’m recovery is for me. My whole life I’ve been a bit overweight (I’m 5.3 feet tall and weighed 176 pounds) and I ate whatever I wanted, whenever I wanted too. I’m also convinced that I overate a lot too.
Exactly one year ago I started dieting. I cut out any sugar, carbs, ate less and exercised a lot (half an hour a day, six days a week + walking about 10.000-20.000 steps a day). At the beginning it was rather intuitive, but than I started counting calories. I ate 1200-1400 calories and continued with cutting out everything. I even cut out fruits because of the sugar in it.
I was scared of food, scared of gaining weight. I couldn’t stop thinking about food, planing every meal. When I wanted to eat out with friends, I had to make sure the food was on MyFitnessPal so I could calculate everything. I felt trapped, scared, unhealthy and unhappy.
Everything lead me to a weight of 121 pounds, which isn’t underweight, but I still only ate eggs and vegetables. And last month I couldn’t do it any longer. People around me got concerned and I started to reflect a little more. The fact, that I haven’t got my period for 5 months lead me to start all in recovery.
And I just forced myself to completely stop thinking about calories and just enjoy the food I craved. It worked. But with the extreme hunger, I’ve gained a lot of weight I suppose. Because I don’t weigh myself anymore, I only see and feel the changes. And this makes me very uncomfortable. I feel like in just a month I’ve gained all those pounds I lost back and because of my past I am scared I will just keep on gaining. On the other hand I feel like my hunger has decreased a little.
I just don’t Know, if I should continue to listen to my body, since I had the tendency to overeat in the past. I also don’t Know what my set point weight is. What I know is that I just feel very uncomfortable right now. I can’t shower without crying and I avoid looking in the mirror at all costs, which is so so wrong, I know.
Will it get better? Should I continue to listen to my hunger cues and eat whatever I want? Will I become overweight again?
Those are questions that keep me up at night and I don’t know the answer. I suppose I should learn to accept and love my body. And this is the hardest part.
I’m wishing everyone who read this a wonderful day/night! Sending lots of love❤️ and I would be very happy if some people could share their experiences and thoughts💕
I hope you are better now 😿
im currently in the exact same position as you and is also stressing out a lot. Since you wrote this a year ago, may i listen to your updates currently? How was everything? You are really strong for enduring all of that and i truly respect you. i'll look forward for any updates thanks!!
Elisa, I've struggled with an ED for a little over 10 years now. The past couple years it has completely consumed my life and I can't even get into details because it's just too dark. I know I've gained a few lbs because I can see some changes and I feel more energetic and balanced with my hormones but I'm still super afraid of gaining the weight just because it's so uncomfortable and I got so thin that that's what felt good to me. I feel very stuck right now. I still restrict so much. Your videos are so helpful though. Especially knowing recovery is possible and essential. Thank you from the bottom of my heart for sharing your story and knowledge with us.
Hope you are doing well now and are in a better place ❤️ all of us here have all been there! 💓
Before I started this video, I was struggling with wanting to eat a subway chocolate chip cookie and some Oreo cookies that I really wanted. After watching this, I ate them! I’m getting a little anxious but I know that’s my ED talking!
You have contributed so much in my recovery. I can’t express my gratitude.
All of your videos make me feel so calm and i love it so much. Thank you for helping me recover from bulimia. I owe you eveything
Thank you for this video. I really needed to hear this. I am in recovery but still struggling with restrictive thinking.
Knowing that the restrictive thinking has to go for the body to heal was a very important point for me.
Also healing the body from the inside. I notice how anxious and tense my body feels even when I think of loosing weight or forcing myself to exercise. No I see how this thinking stimulates the production of stress hormones which increase appetite and decrease energy and metabolism.
Now I'm focusing on relaxing my nervous system by meditating and exercising when I feel like it. Having fun with it, feels much better. Makes me feel like a playful kid.
I'm grateful for your work. Thank you.
Really does that help? I hope I will try this
It’s interesting but very generalized and over simplified. Definitely worth the listen to because giving in to cravings does reduce them and I say this as a person w hormonal and brain disturbance. But everyone is different and for instance a lot of ppl are overweight because they do not know they are lactose intolerant. Just an example. Thank you for your words there was some revelation in it.
thankyou for answering my question in a whole video!
I'm in recovery about 9 months and I had noticed that my hunger is so much normal than before. But I don't have the same hunger every day, One day I have a normal or less hunger and one day I have so much hunger. I worry about fluctuations but what happen if my hunger is less every day? I gained 35 lbs and I lost about 5lbs so slowly that I don't even notice, I'm not restricting because when I did it I gained weight inmediatly
I wonder how are you doing today?
Cata Valderrama how are u doing
I can relate so much! How are you doing now?
I heard before in her video that hunger fluctuations are normal and many factors affects it like hormones, stress, etc
How are you now?
Omg! Your video almost made me cry, I feel like you’re speaking of me and not have you, your story between binge eating but not being underweight restricting calories and binging on junk food, that’s me, do you have any other videos on how to help me get over the fear of that, fear of food, and binging,
Elisa i love your videos ! Could you make one to get back in touch with hunger cues? I don't know when I'm craving something or when I'm hungry :(
It doesn´t matter. Just eat.
it is such a well-edited informative video, Elisa, I love it! 100% agree with you, and you have many amazing facts to point out xx Thank you!!
how do i tell if i'm at the set point weight yet?
Wow this video was so informative and helpful! God definitely designed our bodies so wonderfully. This gives me such hope. Thank you Elisa. ❤️
everything you say resonates with me so much :) thank you-your videos have been a huge comfort to me and give me so much hope
Hi!! This speaks to me sooooo much... I have been restricting my food for about 3 months and I am so ready to get out of this cycle of dieting and binge eating. However, I am worried that once I start eating normally, I will gain so much weight. I am trying to not restrict and count calories mentally, but I'm struggling to not feel obsessive. How do you stop restricting without gaining a lot of weight?
Hey, how is going? U gained too much?
this has helped me SOOO MUCH. THANK YOU
Your hair looks gorgeous ✨
watching all your videos as trying to recover from AN for the second time.
Elisa, how long did the extreme hunger last? the days where you ate 3-4 thousand calories? Im 1.5 months in and im really hungry always ..im affraid of gaining more, i already gained 35 lbs, and over shot my orignal weight by 15 lbs
katelyn Buls my recovery lasted over half a year
Perla Ochoa and does the water rention, bloating and extreme hunger last that long? and the weight gain? :(
its very individual. can be a few months, half a year, a year. if its a year it doesn't mean its every day, but the symptoms are maybe coming and going, gradually decreasing over time. everybody is different. the best you can do to "speed it up" is to stay very consistent with recovery, don't fall back to relapse and just keep doing all the recovery things like eating enough, resting more, working on body image etc. 1.5 months is very early in recovery, so give it plenty of time, even when you do everything "correctly" your body just needs time as well. and 35 lbs is not all fat, it can be mostly water weight, bloating, more food in your belly, restored glycogen. fast weight gain is a sign of water retention, this is why some people can put on 15+ lbs in just a week, it's a clear sign of water retention...and stop weighing yourself, you don't need that trigger, it will only sabotage your recovery.
katelyn Buls water retention is so much less in my case, at first it was severe, and I used to avoid salt for that reason, but now I eat out and I'm currently in a trip, I eat with my husband what he eats, I eat till satiety, and take my leftovers if I get full, eat them if I'm hungry an hour later too, I may even eat small meals all day if I need to. Honestly, I bought bigger and loser clothing, I feel prettier, cute lose blouses, and jeggings, new comfy heels, do my hair pretty.... my confidence is now in my success rather than being in the bones.
You are absolutely right, i need to be more patient with myself here, .. i forget that sometimes
This was very helpful, Thankyou
what i needed to hear today.. thank you x
Thank you very much! thanks to you I understood what being in recovery means. You made my life normal again. I have a question: If I don't have any eating disorder habits, is there a chance to not relapse, or is all people relapsing?
my0s0tis super that you are over that habits!
aww thank you SO much! so happy you have made so much progress! and its totally possible to not relapse. Know ALL your previous habits that kept the ED alive, write them down, and simply recognize them as soon as possible, to not let them progress further. don't worry, over time this becomes easy and your triggers can fade away and will not affect you anymore.
Anyone nauseous after breakfast or if they don’t eat consistently.. I’ve been nauseous a lot I’m 3 months in recovery I feel a lot better my weight is on the higher end of BMI because of binging and restricting . I’ve also had symptoms of pms way ahead of time . Like tired ness and sadness
I always feel a bit bleh after breakfast, but after lunch, I am completely fine and I don't know why. Usually, for breakfast, I have a large bowl of cereal with milk and some fruit. I really don't get it tbh.
Sarah Portlock thankfully things are pretty normal now no nausea and my hunger cues are great 👍
@@abigailgade4945 that's great to hear! I guess we just have to keep on eating
Sarah Portlock haha just keep eating eating eating 🥰
Loved this video and your advice. Thank youuy :)
I've been overweight/obese for as long as I can remember, I've gone through anorexia with overexercising, i tried veganism, keto, IF, and I just kept gaining and losing all the time. When i started IE again for the 3rd time last july, i ate A LOT of cheesecake (just coming from keto, lol). Now, if I really listen, i notice that i don't get hungry much. I think it's working, but I'm wondering about where my set point is, as I've always been overweight in my experience. We shall see.
Once you get to a point where you’re energy balanced and the thought of food doesn’t consume your mind, you aren’t restricting and you’re basically maintaining your weight no matter what, that’s where I’d say your set point is. Even if it’s “overweight.” If your body is happy and healthy, and dieting/restriction is not part of the equation at all, that’s where you should be!
@@lisay9859 Okay, so then it's a matter of taking weight out of the equation when it comes to ''health''? As long as my body is functioning optimally, weight doesn't matter (even with high bmi etc)?
BlackOreoCookie I would say, definitely! Restricting gets you nowhere. Let your body show you where it wants to be ❤️
@@ketherlily I know this is a old post but we are kinda in the same place when I eat intuitively I gain to obesity everytime I'm going into my 7th time gaining back to obesity after dieting down with a eating disorder last time I was 220 and I'm 411 in height I could hardly walk or wipe my butt or take care of my kid I'm crying like crazy writing this and like you I don't have be eating like that show my 600 pound life to get there I have gained 30 pounds in 60 days and still gaining and yes it is fat I had a bod pod and RMR done I was 18 percent body fat now I'm 29 percent I'm so afraid but it is sad to say when I become obese again I will probably die early as most obese people do and then I will be free I take comfort in that I don't want to die that is why I haven't just offed myself but I do want to be free from a body that has become my hell my prison so I'm just letting things take it's course naturally.
tree of life I’m wondering whether you’re actually eating enough? like if you aren’t eating enough to maintain your weight your body will continue to hold onto excess weight...
Hi this video is so helpful to me, Ive been in and out of an ED for 4 - 5 years now, what I eat is very restricted I only eat certain meals which my food is weighed out and I habe one day off a week. My weight is at the healthy end of BMI but mentally I still do not feel as if I am recovered. My weight has not changed much since I was 16 I am now 21 and am thinking if the only way to recover would be to get to a higher weight and conquer my fear foods?
Why does my body keep depleting my vitamin d levels during recovery?
Really helpful. Thank you x
Why do I binge on sugary foods if I allowed sugar and carbs in my previous diet?
maybe your body still needs more calories or you restrict them now?
Hele-Mai Vettik Maybe you just need fast calories and your body's favourite source of energy is actually carbs! It's not so weird, I had a period where I wanted to be a raw vegan for weight loss and when I came out I had cravings for pasta (which is still carbs) and chocolate 😂
I only binged on sugary the first days. It got much less now. I´m barely binging anymore. My mind still tells me to eat this and that, but my body doesn´t want to.
The SAME exact thing is happening to me, especially foods like pop tarts! Although I did restrict sweet processed foods most of the time, I allowed myself to eat them on some occasions, but I still felt horribly guilty. The only explanation I could think of is how these foods contain higher amounts of energy and are easily accessible and usable by our bodies! Just going to trust the process and see where I end up xx
I am scared because I stopped exercising and I am loosing muscle):
What if someone is obese? What should that person do?
offwithurhead I believe the approach is the same.
Thank you so much my dear 💜
Thanks Elisa! Will you be talking about overshoot in your next video? :)
Thank you for what you are sharing. I was wondering about the influence of age on this, since the metabolism can slow down, as the hormonal functionning, with stress too. what are your view on that? thankks a lot!
farah bwd I don’t believe it makes a difference.
my daughter was on a diet and went to the extreme of eating only one banana a day, when she went back to eating normal she gained 100 lb in a year and still going up. I dont know how to help her to return to a normal weight help!
From what I got from her videos is is if your daughter is still not eating enough calories to beal he metabolism, she'll stay in a quasi reco very state .Shell eat more and then restrict some and then eat nor.al and keep cycling up. This is what has happened to me and I haven't quite gotten out of the .middle ground ,when I eat more I start to gain, so I eat less and do the whole process over again.Instead you're supposed to eat till your body stops gaining and then it will start to find it's own weight set point.
@@petegail3185 are you better now Pete?
I am not hungry at all on 2100 , tomorrow day 1 2500 , I don't feel hungry at all I am so scared
Also, people who have been overweight for very long periods of time have the opposite problem from caloric restriction, so their bodies are use to being at a higher weight than their set point. Now, if these same people begin a healthy diet program, notice that they will lose weight VERY quickly, because their body has been trying to go down to their set point for a long time. If they choose not to lose weight, then they are eating so much that the body cannot fight the high calorie intake. And yes, many people have other issues besides just overeating.
They are perhaps taking medications that interfere with their bodies going down to their set point. I have found it very easy to stay at my set point, because it is the weight that my body has decided is right for me. That's not to say that I sit around and eat like a pig. But I do eat what I want, in normal moderation, with no fear of getting overweight for my height. I just eat like a normal person who likes food, but is not obsessed with food.
I have only been obese in the last five or six years and if was never from eating too much.iwouldnt lose weight easily and in fact I didntt lose at all anymore for years.It,dieting only worked once or twice.I joined bootcamps and kept restricting cause I thought I was Eating too much cause that's what the diet world tells us.So,its not easy for all obese people to lose weight.Stereotype.
I have anorexia and I'm now gaining weight, but I easily gain a kilo a week on a diet of 2000 calories. I'm not severely underweight anymore, I still hold myself back a lot and don't follow my dietplan, because I already gain so much and that makes me scared.
Jade Nanarjain I'm in the exact same situation , I gained about 13-12 kg ( about 28pounds) and honestly it's all mental , I don't hate my self , I'm enjoying life , I'm eating unhealthy (and who cares!!!) I'm going out with my friends more eating desserts with them enjoying mytime not thinking about food and exercising almost at all . I thought about it , for me I would never ever judge someone by the way they look or by their weight , I don't love my friends because of their skinny figure or sth , so why should I care about this so much!!! This is so silly , and my friends still love me and enjoy time with me . Just stop thinking about it , look at yourself in the mirror and love the way you look , I know it's hard but you'll get there . And the best thing I did was to throw all my old clothes away (all of them) I bought clothes that make me feel comfortable , they hide my "all the time bloated stomache" . But I know that I won't keep gaining weight ( cause I know that there were weeks in which I ate around 5000 calories aday and like they didn't make me fat ) and I know that I'll be a normal eater soon , cause now I'm starting to feel full and feel that I don't want to eat ( not restricting or sth , I just don't feel like it ) ( before I was never full , I could eat and eat and binge ) . anyway , I hope that helped cause I know what you're going through and it's not easy but just keep going . And if you can get a consultation with "this girl audra " it would be great she'll def help you , and go check her channel out . Wish you the best ❤
Jade Nanarjain oh and yeah stop counting your calories , don't say I'll eat 2000cal , eat whatever you want without thinking about it . Delete your calorie app ( I deleted and reinstall it many times , it's ok , but at last I deleted it and never though of it again and that really helped )
this actually helped me! im in recovery and i feel so bad for gaining weight and i still have a restrictive mentality, my bloating stomach isnt making it any better but what keeps me going is that someday is gonna go away and my body will function normally again ): رهف Rahaf
@@rahafrahaf73886 how long did the extreme hunger start dialing down for you? 🥺
@@eggandplant3682 hey dear! It's been along time now that I can't quiet remember but it def took more than I wanted or I thought it would take, but there's a bright sight after all and I'm now a "normal eater"
I changed so much from the person I was back then, all for the better. I hope you feel better soon and have peace with yourself.
I would like to recommend to you few channels Stephanie buttermore and Greg doucette, i like them both though they approach things quiet differently but I they were helpful in their own different ways, hope you can get something usedul out of them for yourself.
Be strong, these days will pass trust me!
Thank you so much for your work, information and inspiration.
Trying to find my set point... but found so far only extra 8 pounds(
How much time did it take you to stabilize your relation with food?
Elisa, I have been intuitively eating for 9 months with some lingering thoughts of control, which i'm working on letting go. Chocolate is my issue. I allow myself to eat all the candy I want but still binging on it and not able to stop despite body signals. Any tips? Thank you
Doctor Barby hey any update on what happened? Also i think it might be because your dependant on the thought of resitricting it and not needing it in the future whicb makes u want to have if
if u let yourself have chocolate everyday, you will not have the desire to binge on it! restriction causes binges! xoxo
@@nightandday7704 yes, I discovered it was because I was mentally restricting! No longer having this issue a year later. Thank you
THANK YOU
Lovely :)
I'm in my second month of recovery and i had 2 relapses but my feelings are very messy-which it was not when i first started recovery- sometimes i really dont feel hungry its not because of ed i really really dont feel like eating or sometimes i am never full but my digestive system seems to work well and i only had an ed for 6 months and i had lost 13 kg but i gained 5 kg now.And i also have an urge to binge on sugary foods like chocolate and i have this urge mostly at nights.Is there something wrong?
recovery is very messy sometimes but no u are not doing anything wrong when u listen to your cravings. you crave sugar, your body needs carbohydrates, eat lots of fruits and potatoes, bread etc to satisfy your body requirements. the only thing that would be wrong is you listening to your ED and restricting! xoxo
Hello, just checking up, how are you doing :)?
@@vex2877 well i am much better in every way but i am not fully recovered yet :)
@@insomnia3807 that's good! and I hope we both recover fully! Thanks for replying back btw :)
@@vex2877 i hope too :))
Guys I'm so confused pls anyone tell me should I eat more to recover even though I don't crave some food or I should only listen to my body and don't eating stuff I don't crave??? Anyone answer me pls!
Trust your body.
I still have a very big appetite. Sometimes I can eat 2 more slices of bread and a banana after having a good dinner, and still not feel satisfied. Is this normal? I'm 10 months in recovery and I overshoot my weight. What should I do?
She would tell you to eat.If you're still hungry yougotta eat no matter how much you've gained.
Hi San San how are you doing now
@@marinamarina4482 I can proudly tell you that I'm fully recovered now! I went to stages of extreme metal hunger, and because I did not take care of my mental health, I started binge eating sometimes. Now I'm in a stage where I don't care about my weight and what I eat. I just eat whatever I want to and I don't practice the sports I don't like to do:) I had gained some weight because of the binges, but it dropped very quickly without following a diet, when I started to not care about food. I can really recommend you to find a great therapist to help you, because your mental health is KEY to recovery!
@@santjevana8279 did you overshoot by a lot? I’ve been letting myself respond to mental hunger and I feel like i’m going to overshoot into oblivion 🥵
@@eggandplant3682 No, just a little. I felt the same as you, I thought I would gain weight forever, but I didn't:) And I think it was necessary for me to overshoot a little, to repair all the damage from the inside
Hi! I am recovering from bulimia and I have had extreme hunger/binge eating for 2 weeks now and it gets physically uncomfortable, but I don't purge. I started recovery in a normal weight, a bit overweight actually, but I used to binge and purge every day. I am terrified that I will gain too much weight and whether bingeing is an eating disorder or actually recovery.... I've been panicked about this for a couple days now... Can you please help me? Did I have a restrictive disorder even? These are the questions that have been on my mind. I just want to recover and it's so hard...
Dasha Lukyanenko hi I have bulimia I’m almost overweight and I don’t binge and purge a lot maybe twice in a week sometimes more. Did you keep this path on your recovery ?
But men and women have very different metabolisms so surely the outcomes would be different if women were being studied. That's why I have a hard time believing the outcomes of the Minnesota starvation experiment. Men's metabolism is much different. I wonder what would've happen if they'd done this with women. 1500 calories a day isn't as little for a woman as it is for a man, so of course they're going to be "starving" on that amount. If women did this, and then started eating 10,000 calories a day, surely they would've gained a lot more weight than the men, maybe even becoming overweight.
Women and mens’ metabolisms aren’t THAT different. I usually maintain around 2500 and lightly active, and I’m a female with a bmi of around 19-20. According to online calorie calculators, I’d be gaining at least 2 pounds a week eating this amount, and what do you know, I‘m maintaining. According to these calculators I should be eating 1400 to maintain, and I drop pounds like crazy on this amount. I wouldn’t believe everything I hear so fast.
lisa y saaaaameeeeee
this calculators are such a mess
actually the research showed that average female has the 2500 metabolism ( 3000 if active ) , men 3000 ( 3500 if active ) . i maintain at 2500 and I’m not really tall or active
Some people are addicted to food though and cannot do intuitive eating, eating what they want. In that case, this would be bad advice.
Oh god I think love you
What about when you're already obese? Like legitimately obese.
She has another video for that check it
@@erenikorllos9747 I'll look for it, thanks.
What’s set point weight?
saraa x the weight you body wishes to be. Where it feels safe.