Not accepting the, "im 19 and dont know what im doing" excuse. At 19yr, i knew better than to trash a place and run away. It's irresponsible and ungrateful.
Then to make matters worse, she posted an idiotic video. All she did was bring attention to it. Doesn't seem like Demi had any intention of doing a "Where Are They Now?" update.
I'm a uni student living with 4 other students, not much older than her and we are keeping this house in the best condition we can. One of the showers clogs so often and I'm there every time with a plunger and sometimes bleach. To leave a house in that state of awful especially when you got it for free
Same. Hell, I was paying rent, utilities, buying food, etc. And no. Not all people who live like that are people dealing with MH issues. Some are just plain old dirty people and others are just straight up lazy...
Im a single dad with two kids and literally no shot at ever owning a home and if i had been given that gift and chance i would’ve licked the floors clean daily if thats what it took to give my kids a home…..i cant even fathom that
Lmfao. One day this 19 year old will grow up and realize the opportunity she lost, and how ridiculously disrespectful she was. “I’m young” is such a trash excuse. You asked for the home, then ruined it. That’s not an age problem.
I basically think that's what happened. She realised just how much she screwed herself and couldn't live with it, so she lied or became self-delusional.
Also so annoying to think of all the 19 year olds out there struggling through school and multiple minimum wage jobs to live in shitty cramped flats or dorms or with their parents, with no financial stability, some of which have families to provide for, who would be so grateful and absolutely cherish that opportunity and the massive lifelong impact it could have on so many 19 year olds from disadvantaged backgrounds and she just let it go to waste and then blamed it on her age
Even if we believe that a 19 year old and her boyfriend are too young to understand responsibility (we’re not) his mother lived there too. She’s a grown ass woman. What’s her excuse?
They’re all addicts who basically used the house as a trap house for a month then left back to their house in PA, bc she didn’t even need the house and tbh they’re probably wasn’t as many dealers in that area.
Seriously. 👏 I’m so sick of people acting like anybody under 35 is a child that doesn’t know what they’re doing. Little kids know better than to trash houses.
I've seen this and I felt so bad for the lady that went above and beyond not only to give a house but also to accommodate the girl every step of the way. She arranged for her packages to be kept safe, she was patient and understanding. Only for that girl to come to the internet telling BS.
I literally only wish u could have been blessed to be in her situation. My landlord is a disaster 🙄😅 I feel so bad for this woman, this is what happens when people are kind, they get taken advantage of by undeserving individuals
@@shybie2798yes exactly! I also believe she cldve just tried talking to Demi about the issues she was having. And she would've willingly helped in any way possible. So sad.
@@shybie2798 stuff like this is why the housing crisis can't be solved by just giving everyone a tiny home. Theres this weird thing where people often value free things less.
@@christinecole6565based on the state of the house, she was living there, her issues were so deep she couldn't get packages from the doorstep or sign papers for an hour.
You said “ give a house” but rights to take back ? Thats isn’t gifting. That is the issue - if the home was truly gifted then legally ownership would have been exchanged the day the family moved it. But it wasn’t … So the home was sold to many as it was gifted or traded but really it’s just the ability to live in the home. It’s not okay - we aren’t seeing the full picture. Many would be upset and no longer care if they were told on camera “ the house was hers- she won” but then as late as 14 months- the home was never legally Shay’s. I agree the TT Shay posted wasn’t okay considering… but we don’t know why she FELT that way. Was it because she’s the only one who knows deep down the home was never going to be legally hers ( because that matters). Most of us have contracts and legal documents linking us and protecting us in our home. She didn’t have any contact it seems or her belongings wouldn’t have been legally able to be removed without time to collect them or a proper eviction ? Demi entering the home with another set of keys - that sounds like a landlord/tenant relationship. Not home ownership or trading a home … So what are the requirements for the home to be Shay’s - seems like it was hers as long as she did …. What if Shay didn’t want someone texting her about a damn rug, neighbors knowing the house is someone else’s enough to text the legal owner, for future content to be created. At what point in time if things went differently would the home legally belong to Shay? I’d trash the home too if I was told I “ won and it would be legally mine “ but catch on to the idea that maybe it’s not and won’t be and I have no documents protecting me in the home. I’d be pissed too that I moved states away - What happened in the first month that made Shay leave - was it related to the home ? Or was moving states away to find out you are just a TT famous tenant. I’m not saying the homes condition is acceptable but many believe she’s just entitled or lazy but I think there is more to the story - as what time if any would legal home ownership be exchanged? I don’t think if ever would have been and that’s why she left and why she left and didn’t have fund to come back. We don’t know -
@@laurasc84366yeah, I don't know how she thought a 19 yr old who had been giving her excuses after excuses just when it came to packages, free ones at that, was going to pay the bills like water, electricity, etc? Hopefully the next time she does this she'll make sure the winner has at least a job. This story was wild...
And don’t give it to someone who already has a house and didn’t even need that house, trashed it, then left for over a year back to her real house in PA.
Can drug tests be part of the "background check" in the future? I certainly would want to ensure that whoever I'm gifting a home to isn't currently the type of person who would use it as a trap house and then FO and leave me to clean up the mess.
My rent is $1800 a month and being given a home would literally change my and my children’s lives. I can’t believe someone could be given a gift that significant and waste it away.
I rent to a family & charge about 65% less than market value. I don't make videos about it or treat it as a big giveaway because that's stupid for everyone, and our town is in a housing crisis, everyone deserves dignity & those with space should pitch in. And I do charge them because I know that helps them feel invested and because that's the normal way, and I have expenses like utilities. I want to help them stabilize, but I'm not just throwing money around or making myself a target by trying to make that my job on social media. Doing nice things quietly works out much better.
That house wasn't just neglected, or used as a depression pit, it was wilfully destroyed. It looked like they'd had a month long tantrum in there tbh. Also, what happened to all her pets whilst she was away from the house? Demi is a goddamn saint imho, and I hope Shay gets the help she needs.
And it was such a cute little house inside before that too. Shay really needs help. Demi went above and beyond helping her just to be thrown under the bus.
I think the implication is that they came, tore the place up, panicked upon realizing she'd come back, and then ran and never came back. That was aggresive can-kicking in those messages. There's no way that something just "comes up" that many times in 4 months without even a hint of "hey I know I said this but this just happened and I have to delay for Y".
@@ZeromusNightmare122 the good thing is that she got it back, , I would like to know how she pick her out of everyone,? I just glad that the girl did not have a kid, and what happened to the pets?, and his mom was there too, and let this happen , what was the house look like before they moved in? They were living some were before,?? The house were she meet her at look nice, so many questions ,
i disagree im suffering from PTSD and endometriosis my house is a mass (not as much but still) theres mold at some places and mountains of laundry it got better lately but depression can lead to it
The entitlement, lack of respect and accountability is disgusting! She destroyed the house! Reprehensible behavior and I’m sorry, why are we sad for this person?! Not demanding accountability is destroying our society! You can have compassion and still hold others responsible for their actions!
I agree. I would have been content thinking she had something deeper happening but her video throwing a hissy fit makes me think that she's just trash. This is why give-aways like this need some sort of vetting process.
She will never take care of herself and always blame her story for why she sucks. At some point you gotta put on your big girl panties and do what is nessary
I have no shot of owning a home ever and to see someone only a few years younger then me ruin her chance at being a homeowner due to entitlement, no respect is extremely disheartening. She clearly has things going on but her boyfriend and his mom were there too, they could have not only helped her but helped keep that house beautiful and clean. All 3 of them neglected that house and destroyed it. Demi is a saint, she's too kind and deserved better than the treatment that she got.
@@Mama_Bear524 I understand your POV, unfortunately logic doesn't always overcome a kind heart. I've had a few incidents in my life (nothing anywhere as serious as this) where kindness was mistaken for being a sucker. It's a hard lesson to learn; over time I've found the right balance and I'm grateful for lessons learned w/o becoming bitter.
Not only that, there was like willful damage it seemed with the towel bar being pulled off the wall and stuff? Also I understand not having energy to do a lot of cleaning and having messy floors or piles of dishes but garbage that makes it to a closet could have been put in a bag and taken out almost as easily between 3 people (and it didn't seem like they were hoarders, just lazy) for example
@@Mama_Bear524being 18 or 19 doesn't prevent them from taking out garbage 🤷 but I agree they should have given it to someone with kids or a more desperate living situation rather than someone who had time to figure their own shit out
It's parents who excuse everything their kids do to other people and their property growing up with "they're just a kid, they don't know better" rather than teaching the kid better. Yeah, they don't know better because they haven't taught them yet. It's way easier to teach a small child how to take responsibility for their actions than someone who made it to adulthood without ever having to take responsibility.
My former best friend rented my dad’s house for ten years when I moved across the country. I spent a lot of money fixing it up, and he was practically family, so we rented it to him cheap. I recently moved back only to find that he caused tens of thousands of dollars worth of damage. He and his brother urinated and defecated all over the house, in addition to not cleaning anything, ever. They also never told us the basement was flooded, then filled it with garbage, and didn’t tell us the roof was bad. Absolute animals. They peed on one of the radiators for so many years that it ate away at the wood on the windows above it. I am in the process of gutting the entire house. I can’t even comprehend what they did.
Jesus, someone needs to make a video about your story! Imagine being grown men and not respecting your home enough to go to the bathroom in the bathroom! Wtf??
Were your friend and/or his brother all mentally there? Usually things like urinating and defecating in places other than the toilet and keeping literal trash (and from the sounds of it, I'm guessing some serious hoarding) are usually signs of *extreme* cases of mental health issues and disabilities that require some kind of outside care and assistance.
@@cyanidesmile7263Mental illness was the only logical reason, but he’d been my best friend for so many years and I never in a million years saw it coming. I honestly have no idea but I’m assuming drugs were involved in the brother’s part. As for the friend, he was a lazy compulsive liar, and he played me like a fiddle. He scammed me out of a lot of money in the meantime too.
Sadsly this will fall on def ears if you know what i mean. A mob of people is going to always act like a mob of people. People love to dog pile before they even know whats going on it’s reactionary. Drama excites people and everyone likes to think they are on the right side or being the hand of justice because it makes them feel better then others. I wish it wasnt the case but here we are
How about just not joining any witch-hunts about anything, ever? Do people really have such comfortable lives they can waste time on this kind of stuff?
I could accept she's 19 and stupid and she trashed it and ran away... But then she made a video about it saying how it wasn't her fault and someone stole her stuff. That's what sticks for me. She literally bit the hand that was feeding her. I wouldn't say the house is destroyed, but it is trashed and may need serious repairs.
My brother is like this, my brother will receive all the help in the world, trash it and blame everyone else but himself. Sometimes people are just disgusting and ungrateful. Not everyone who has issues and trashes stuff is "going through something" some people just live like that and see no issue
Why do you think they see it as no issues? Cuz their issues are so deep they don't even see them. I mean, I can take the premise that some people just don't care. But I'd argue their experiences in life led them to that point, that they weren't born being a messy careless/ignorant person like that.
@@daniellebalouise9596 my brother has always been ungrateful, my parents raised him like all of us but he always thought he was above working and studying. He would lie about going to college and be gaming in lan houses. Some people are just selfish. I would know because i have to have two jobs to get myself a house away from him while he lives for free and doesn't work while having a kid. I clean the house otherwise it will look like this girl's house. Some people are the victim to their own bad choices. Stop making excuses for them
My sister is the same way. My parents bought her multiple houses just to make sure her kids were safe and she trashed them every time. She one time had the audacity to tell me my parents spoiled me because they gave me a laptop when I started college -- they were unable to help me in any other way because they had to pay 2 mortgages because of her. I don't speak to her anymore because she's literally 50 years old and she still acts like everyone owes her something.
@@LawanaWalkeroh girl your sis sounds like my bro !my parents have spent hundreds of thousands of dollars spent on his almost 40 year old asses nonsense constantly cleaning up his messes !!homes and cars lost and it’s alway someone else’s fault !!!
This didn’t just make me angry. It made me cry. My kids and I are about to be homeless, and this woman trashes a free house?! I just can’t understand this.
Goodluck. If you've been priced out of your market, the best thing to do is to just leave the state for an area that has affordable housing/market rates. (I hope there are some affordable markets out there, but I feel like there aren't).
the big issue is not her struggles, its the fact that u shouldnt take the house if u cant handle it- she blocked someone elses blessing with selfishness and entitlement
Imagine being given a whole damn house and doing this! And then trying to make the person who did this for you look bad! What a disgusting, undeserving person!
seems like the screening process for who you give these houses too needs to be a lot tougher. I'd love to "win" a house and wouldn't treat it like a flop house. Such a shame, so much time and effort just to be trashed by an entitled 19 year old when there are so many people who would *actually* appreciate the opportunity.
I’m ashamed to say it but this is how I was living as a heroin, meth and crack addict. So yeah, yeah she’s def got a lot going on… however - I would have NEVER EVER even on my worst bender EVERRRRRR do something as heinous as what she did by playing the victim so Demi would look like the bad guy in the situation! I don’t care if she’s an addict, it’s not an excuse! You don’t do that to other people, period!
I don’t have TikTok so I love the drama Markie is able to bring to CZcams (I feel awful for the people affected, of course, when it’s cases like this or worse)
I didn’t know this literally happened about 45 minutes from where I live! I’m a disabled student with kids I would have been praising God if I got that house!!
@@daniellebalouise9596 I’m having to live with family at the moment. I’ve been waiting to get disability for almost 3 years now. If it wasn’t for my family I’d be homeless. God has taken care of me this far I know He will continue too.
I have the same problem, but there is a hhuge different between clutter and shoving literal trash in closets if what this video says is correct. Obv I haven't seen what the house was like in person but I'm guessing it was clearly trash in there and not just "junk" or unorganized stuff
Agreed, I was expecting to see something really bad from how they were talking. It wasn't destroyed, it was very messy, and it looks like she didn't appreciate what she had. But not destroyed. My house with my three kids can look like this on a summer day when I'm feeling depressed. I feel like I'm missing something. It just needs a good cleaning.
@@ashleyirvin7350 All this has me saying, "Wow, are most people in happy healthy unproblematic supportive environments?" It makes me feel like offering cleaning services for free/pay what you can for people who can't help themselves like that. That house would be an easy clean imo.
@ellaella5537 yeah, that's why I think I'm missing something. From the picture I could get that place looking good in just a day. Destroyed to me means water damage, broken walls, windows, flooring, fire damage etc etc. Something that you would have to call your home insurance up to fix. This just looks very messy.
@@ashleyirvin7350I think this is a little different than a messy house from kids. She stuffed her garbage in the closets instead of a trash can, had bio hazards on the floor, and the fridge looks trashed. The thing is that this was all sitting like that for 14 months. Having waste like that rotting for over a year is going to cause damage as it seeps into the things around it. Getting that fridge clean is going to take a lot of effort.
I still get so shocked how people, literal strangers, take what they see as true and go and verbally attack someone. Like how bored with your life are you that you're going out of your way to be hateful lol
@@swaters5127 All of the people who went to the house gifters page to bash her with no proof that she did something wrong? Did you not watch the video?
They should’ve immediately discussed that the house will be put in her name when they moved in. How did they even know she had enough to afford a house and property taxes, utility bills etc for a long time?! Doesn’t seem like they discussed that at all. Why make a wishlist for a house that’s not even hers? She made a horrible decision.
Yeah, kinda weird. Doesn't sound like anyone was "given a house". Sounds like someone was getting free rent for a period of time. Obviously the tenant had a deal though, and she obviously wasn't supposed to destroy a home
I'm guessing Shay, being 19, threw a giant party that probably was open to anyone that wanted to attend as celebration, and/or, her bf also invited people over and they just irresponsibly wrecked it. Thing like pee being on the ground were probably from her dog being anxious from all the people there. Shay probably got overwhelmed at what happened to the house shortly after getting it for free and was too embarrassed to say anything and instead fled hoping to find some sort of solution before coming back, but being young and getting something for free, instead just put it out of her mind and low on her list of priorities. I can only assume she was given the idea to villainize Demi from someone else, which is dumb. But all that doesn't absolve any responsibility or accountability from Shay's end (and still just all assumptions on my end)
i think she was also expecting for demi to fix the damage and extend more support to her beyond just the house. I just don’t understand how someone could mess up an opportunity like this this badly
@@leena5875Did you see other videos? I don't watch TikTok nor did I follow either person. How much support was she expecting? She was given a house and what seems like on a decent amount of land. It's disheartening and disrespectful. I hope whoever has the next opportunity does something amazing with this because Demi deserves all the positivity in her life that can possibly be given. Not everyone can be as compassionate as her.
Yes and also someone who is responsible and able to afford costs like taxes and insurance. Maybe someone who has been paying rent for a long time but can't afford to buy a house
That said, do your research into the charities you donate to. SO many are basically scams where over 90% goes into some greedy person's pocket under the guise of "operating costs" or something. I prefer to donate my time, not my money, so I can see the work being done.
i think she's just evil, trying to ruin the reputation of someone so nice WHO LITERALLY GAVE YOU A HOUSE?? an opportunity like that would change my life omg 😭 there's no excuse!!!
I woulda took that house back. going through something or not, Acting that ungrateful and trying to cause someone’s downfall, someone who’s been so nice to her is just evil.
This is why homeless people "choose to be homeless", cuz of attitudes like this, that to be housed, you have to be grateful and do what everyone else tells you to do, while they ignore you have such a traumatic life where everyone has abandoned and betrayed you. But a homeless person can't possibly be bitter, upset, or even a hint of "ungrateful" or pushback.
@@daniellebalouise9596Wow, that’s what you took from this ?🤡🤡🤡🚨. This is why people like you and her are called ungrateful. You are literally trying to help a bad person dodge accountability because you empathize with her and not the innocent home owner who had her place destroyed.
At 19 I had my first child and was out of my parents home. I'm sick of people acting as if 19 is the new 7. It's not, your an adult, a fresh adult, but still an adult. With how much this lady reached out to help with the lawn ect I'm sure she could have said I can't handle cleaning the home I let it get to bad and I need help and a cleaning crew would have rocked up booked by this lovely lady.
As someone who will probably never get the chance to own my own home, this is beyond frustrating to hear about. Just the fact that she tried to play the victim after trashing the place is so disgusting. Hopefully this doesn't stop the original girl from doing nice things like this in the future.
I’m 28, disabled, and I have 2 kids. I work full time & so does my husband, including OT. We can’t afford a house. But here’s someone getting one for free & not only disrespecting the house but disrespecting the PERSON WHO GAVE HER A FREE HOME. I wouldn’t have done that at FIVE, let alone 19!!! I’m happy for people who get this blessed, but those who destroy it & are ungrateful are TERRIBLE.
God as a poor mentally ill person that’s been homeless in the past hearing a story like this makes me hurt, I can’t even began to imagine how positively my life would change if someone gave me a house😭
The fact that a 19 year-olf got gifted a house in this economy, then trashed and abondend it, is baffling to me. Some 16 year-olds are more responsible to her
What gets me is after the plethora of these dramas where one party lobbies false allegations against the other, usually using very cropped messages removing context if even that much, why can't people wait to hear both sides before grabbing the pitchforks? Poor Demi. I hope this experience hasn't killed her helpful nature. We need more people like her in this world.
Shay’s video seems extremely manipulative to me. After 14 months of feeding lies to Demi about how she planned to return, IMO Shay thought that she could make a video and get everything back and then some. She is a full grown adult and is fully responsible for her behavior regardless of her circumstances.
Imagine fumbling a whole ass house in this economy…… That said though, why would she gift the house to a random 19 year old when she could’ve given it to a struggling single parent or something like that. Weird story all around lol
It's is , 😢 still don't get why? She did not open the donation stuff up, 😔 and why some one would leave it in the rain, and they had the boyfriend mom there ? Worder why she didn't clean up, , still trying to see what her story was for her to choose her? , it looks like they left everything behind
19 is very young to get a house just off-the-bat like that. It seems she didn't have much support in her life to make this a success. It's a shame because the impression I'm getting is that it could have been hers outright and then she could have sold it and satyed in her original area if she wanted. I think giving a house to someone this age from a totally different area was a bit reckless and maybe in future there should be some counselling/support offered to help it go smoothly.
But Demi was trying to give it to her outright and couldn’t even get her to keep in contact enough to make it happen. That’s not someone who is capable of putting a house on the market and selling it successfully. Taking care of a house IS a lot of responsibility, but I don’t agree that age explains this outcome… there’s a difference between forgetting to take out the trash or mow the lawn and.. whatever you call this. Demi also was giving support, she said she would take care of the yard and do whatever Shay needed, you can’t blame her for Shay’s actions (or inactions).
@@sydneysovern You have kind of made my point for me here. It's not about 'blame' as such to my mind. This is why things have gotten out of shape I think. To me it's about a well-meaning person (Demi) and an overwhelmed person (Shay) not reaching a common goal that seems to be in both their interests. The fact Demi said she would help out after-the-fact I think shows that she recognised a need to support Shay, but by then things were already out of shape. Maybe Shay didn't have the money to go back once she left and couldn't clean up the place even if she wanted to?? Maybe Demi shouldn't have made the 'shaming video' where she is crying and somehow becomes a victim in alll of this. Both sides then are online tying to save face, and things go further downhill. I think they both made mistakes that could, and perhaps should, have been avoided, and to some degree both sides seem to lack the maturity/capability to have made a better outcome. There are lessons to be learned for everyone here I think, and it's a shame that both people seem a bit damaged from the situation now. I think it could have been avoided with better planning and support, and a a robustness from Demi when things went wrong.
okay. look. i'm so sick of hearing that someone is clearly going through something so you can't get too upset with them. lots of people are going through shit and would NEVER do something like this. like, she's going through shit? congrats, does she want a medal or something? i'm going through shit too. i recently got out of the hospital! if i did something like this and used my shit as an excuse, i would want the people in my life to slap me. i......i feel like i'm getting, like, way more pissed off then the situation calls for, but......i'm so tired of people using issues as an excuse to avoid the full backlash that bad actions deserve.
Exactly. Demi needs to acknowledge she made the wrong choice. She could've chosen a family, it was a big place. 19 is too young for such a responsibility. Plus Demi should've had no claim once it was won, it's for the girl to do with whatever she pleases if she won the house
Depressional pit. I would say a druggy house if there was proof of drugs, as I’ve been forced to stay in a house like that on the weekends. But I would be upset too.
Such a shame I think it really depends on the person some 19 year olds are more responsible than some 30 year olds I know but some aren’t, a house and a move across state is a big move to make it’s a total shame my 22 year old daughter would be so greatful for this opportunity she works hard and is paid well but can’t move out because rents are so high like double mortgage prices and she hasn’t got enough for a deposit and couldn’t afford to buy alone, it’s so tough for the generation sitting between 18-25 housing wise
I don't know what her process was to find someone to give the house to but I really wish that she actually gave it to a small family, immigrants, low income families, even a young couple in an apartment or something. Not on her to be able to predict peoples behaviour but I feel like there were probably way better options besides this couple that would not have taken this opportunity for granted and been so disrespectful. Ive seen cleaner crackhouses. "Going through shit" is not an excuse, especially with her behaviour after trashing the house like that. Doesn't seem like she needed it or appreciated it in the first place. My family was literally in a shelter when I was 19 and I had to rent a room in another city, never trashed my place just cause I was "going through shit".
I would like to know how they chose this person to get the house…? This sincerely pisses me off. As I am a single mother who has health issues, I’m having to live in my mom’s basement… if someone was nice enough to GIVE me a house, I would NEVER do something like this. Like she could have gave it back if she couldn’t handle it, but she should have definitely at least TRIED to clean it up. But no. Just use and abuse this woman’s generosity and then dipped. Horrible behavior.
Shay is a disgusting person. She destroyed that house. Idc what issues she has or what she has going on. It’s not that difficult to NOT destroy a house. She DESTROYED the house. In ONE month. There is NO excuse.
A house is a life changing event. Moving states is huge. Maybe if she gives the house to someone else, only give to someone, at least in that state.🤷♀️
It’s so hard watching someone completely squander such a gift like a free house and free appliances. As a 30 year old woman trying to build a life for herself, I think I’d literally give an arm or a leg just to have a home of my own. It’s clear that Demi was just meant to own the house, and she has good karma coming her way.
My friend went through something similar. We didn't give a mom in need a home, but we gathered money for a deposit for an apartment. Furnished it etc. All donations from the community and the mom destroyed everything and took off. It was heartbreaking and we never heard from her again.
I can't believe this. So many people, myself included, would have been soooo grateful for this. The girl also got a check for $10,000 when she moved in. I can't explain just how much I hate this girl for ever even being offered this opportunity.
I don't understand gifting it to a 19 year old party girl when there are working families living in their cars, homeless parents and children, people that have known struggle for decades, disabled senior citizens that worked all their lives to end up in a shitty weekly rent motel room
It's perfectly fine to give a house to a younger person. The hard part about doing that is vetting the young adult AND their family. No one really expects anyone to know exactly what they're doing when they get their first house, that's what your family and friends are for. They should be able to help pick up slack or coach you through some things. I have 0 issues with a 19 year old getting a house. You just need to vet them properly. If you don't want to go through that kind of hassle then don't give it to a 18/19 year old. Honestly though there are people older than her who trash houses just as equally or worse for their age. Age means nothing when it comes to human maturity levels.
I'm a 28-year-old with congestive heart failure and a defibrillator I found out last month I have a mass on my liver we don't know what it is yet. My husband has to stay home and help me And I am literally in the middle of trying to find someone to move a very old broke down trailer to my property so that way I can fix it up some and get my girls myself and my husband in a better living situation than what we're currently in.... I couldn't imagine being given that opportunity and throwing it away it is seriously heartbreaking.
This is why it’s best to help those who are actively trying to help their self. Seems like this was the chicks one chance of owning a home & now she likely never will… no one to blame but herself.
This happened in my town too and I didn't hear about any of the damages to the house and that drama until now, that's insane! That girl didn't deserve that house at all, I hope it went to a good family, as we have had families struggling after the recent tornados last year. :(
I live in a noisy apartment and have had my car broken into 3 times, if someone offered me a house it would be life changing, why would you waste that opportunity.
She’s going to grow up and realize the absolute BLESSING she gave up. As a 21 year old girl who has given up on the dream of owning a home one day, I would kill for this opportunity. Most people in my generation will likely never own a home and even if they do they’ll likely never pay it off.
Who does this? Who trashes a house like that. She could have respectfully declined the home if she didn’t want to move and wouldn’t care for it. I didn’t leave my dorm room like that at 19.
I was 19 and pregnant living in a hostel. I am autistic with mental health issues. I get the issues with taking care of stuff but to be given a home, given everything like furniture too. This woman would have helped her had she said she was struggling with maintaining it and wasn't sure she was old enough. I hope someone in need gets the house or gets it cheap to rent. Hopefully, someone with a child or disabled. I think the fact she tried to villainise this kind soul is where i have lost sympathy. And that is as someone who has had struggles with maintaining a home. Was in a few flats but mainly bnbs and hostels from 17 to 20. My mental health has caused issues, no doubt. But to try demonise someone who did nothing but care and offer an amazing opportunity after you direspected it is where i lose all empathy or sympathy and think you are just not nice at all as a person.
yeah, no. i'm 19 and know a hell of a lot better than to leave a house in such condition... if someone literally gave me a house i would treat it with the utmost care. some people are just slobs... it's such a shame that this one was given such a beautiful house.
As a disabled individual who can’t physically work this is unbelievable to me. I would have been so thankful wtf. Its hrd enough paying rent while i wait on ssi i have to have a third party help me pay omg whats wrong with people
No 19 year old should be gifted a house unless they can prove they would care for it properly and be able to pay for the taxes etc. I think the idea is great but yeah 19 is super young and there were probably people who needed that house a lot more and would have appreciated it.
What a disgrace. I ran away from home at 15 because of the abuse. I'm 65 now and have NEVER trashed a house in my life. At 16 l lived in a rental house with 4 others and we had a cleaning roster that we took turns with EVERY weekend. We didn't even have a washing machine or a vacuum cleaner and l can still remember how difficult it was to handwash sheets and the blisters we'd get from sweeping the fitted carpets and how grateful we were when out landlord bought us a wringer washing machine AND being terrified of getting my hand pulled into the wringer. It would never have occured to me not to clean some where l lived. Her being 19 is a nonsense excuse.
Im a former foster kid from a group home in the uk where the staff would literally feed us twice a day, make sure we were inside at curfew and at least left the kids home to go to school. We werent shown how to manage a home, clean, pay bills etc and at 16 i was kicked into my own house and told to deal with it. I didnt even know how to use a microwave and yet my home was fking SPOTLESS every damn day. I couldnt even imagine living ina home like this at 16 and now, at 33, i still couldnt ever imagine letting my home look like this! This is just a quarter of the filth i was forced to live in from birth to 7 when i went into foster care. Who the F at NINETEEN lets their home look like this?! There is literally NO excuse!! People can say "she wasnt shown how to do XYZ" but thats BS! My husband grew up in literal squalor with a hoarder mother and grandmother, my husband lived in a home where there were FULL dirty cat litter boxes from FIFTEEN years ago that had grown mouldy because of his mother and right up until 2020 he had NEVER been shown how to do anything in a home, 2020 hemoved in with me and right from day 1 he has taught himself and had me help him learn how to do things he shouldve been taught years ago. If me and my husband have managed to learn how to run and clean a home and can keep our home spotlessdespite both being physically disabled and having a maine coon and a Norwegian forest cat, then there is absolutely no excuse for a 19 year old to live in such disgrace. And dont even start with the poor mental health crap! I have bipolar, autism, adhd, ptsd and severe anxiety. Im also physically disabled and will be completely and 100% non weight bearing and having 6 more surgeries to completely rebuild my ankle over the next 18 months. Ive been in plaster and unable to put weight on my foot for the past week and a half and ive still managed to keep my house clean while also having a brain tumour and cancer treatment. There. Is. No. Excuse. This girl shouldve been so effing grateful and ecstatic to receive such a beautiful home!
Seriously, do you make videos with tips on how other people with mental and physical health problems can maintain their environment? Cos I'd be really interested..
a massive well done to you and your husband for doing so well despite your incredibly difficult starts to life. you were both dealt very difficult circumstances yet what you describe here is a remarkable display of hard work, strength, and tenacity. you should be so proud of yourselves for how well you're doing each and every day you wake in the morning, as simply making it from day to day can be very tough, especially when one has issues such as those you mention, so getting through the day is something to be celebrated. all the best with your cancer treatment and upcoming surgeries, i wish you a quick and complete recocey and hope that the treatments themselves are as free of pain and uncomfortable side effects as much as possible. sending you the abundant love and support that you deserve ❤
I cannot fathom being gifted an ENTIRE HOUSE and trashing it and then just leaving?? YOU GOT A HOUSE DOG??? I would clean every inch of the house with my tongue every day if that's what it took for a cute little house FOR FREE. It's so heartbreaking to see someone so kind taken advantage of like that. Especially in this day where it's absolutely insane to try to just live let alone to buy a house. I truly hope whoever is blessed enough to receive the house takes wonderful care of it.
given that Shay was in a house when Demi gifted her the new one - given that Shay only resided in the house for about a month before abandoning it - given Shay and Co arrived in a RV camper van -AND given that after confirming she earned the revoking of the house Shay posts begging for it back in a "i'm the victim" way -> leads me to conclude two hypothesis -> The couple was couch surfing and realized they didn't/couldn't find the resources to survive after the move OR That Shay was residing with her Bf ( in rental or with family or roommates) they abandon the house in favor of his life, and now they broke up so she doesn't have somewhere to go
Just curious-of all the people who she had to choose from to give the house too WHY did she pick this girl Shay??? Wtf give it to an able-bodied 19 year old and not someone who is struggling like a single working mom, an elderly person, or a disabled person?
No one can tell me that drugs and alcohol weren’t involved in the destruction of this property. I say this as a recovering addict. Shame because it can discourage people from helping those in need.
I've been in that mental state she was in with the house... it's difficult to explain how overwhelmed your brain gets, how it's like you're drowning in the mess, and the guilt. The guilt is suffocating. And it spirals... the worse it gets, the more paralysed you feel, which only makes it worse. Which is probably why she didn't return... she couldn't face it. It's a fucked up mental state I've learnt is connected to my ADHD and autism... a form of meltdown, literally neurological. These days I pay for a cleaner once a week to help prevent getting into that spiralling state of mind. She's only 19 so hopefully with time she might learn to see the pattern and findhealthy ways to manage it. God though. What I'd do for a home. I'm terrified I'm going to end up homeless when my mum dies and she's 80... my disabilities have made life so difficult and expensive. I get why people are mad at her for letting this gift fall apart.
My family picked me and my fiance to rent my grandma's house from her as she lives in assisted living now. We've made $400 of improvements and spent a week painting it and we've only had it a month. This is literally unfathomable to me.
If Demi "gave her the house", everything would have been in her name. How can Debbie then come back and take it away from her? Did they not do the legal paperwork to make her the legal owner of the house? Why is Demi even involved anymore? When you give someone a house you quit claim it and you walk away... It's no longer yours to worry about. It sounds like Demi just let her live there.
The legal process of giving the house was still underway and then because the would-have-been new owner was away for 14 months Demi went to check on the property and found it destroyed.
Okay clearly the house should never ever have been in that state. Treated like rubbish. However… giving a house to a 19 year old? Maybe don’t do that again that didn’t seem to wise to me.
I lived across the hall from a young woman about shay's age. It was her 1st apartment, and she went bonkers over there. The first thing she did is throw a party for her friends and apparently their friends. She had so many lease violations that she was booted in about 3 months. Just young and dumb.
A complex situation. The girl is obviously mentally unwell. Neurodivergent people deserve housing. But she's not using it, taking up space someone else needs more. Unfortunate. Hope the house finds an owner in need and the girl gets better one day.
Not accepting the, "im 19 and dont know what im doing" excuse. At 19yr, i knew better than to trash a place and run away. It's irresponsible and ungrateful.
Then to make matters worse, she posted an idiotic video. All she did was bring attention to it. Doesn't seem like Demi had any intention of doing a "Where Are They Now?" update.
I'm a uni student living with 4 other students, not much older than her and we are keeping this house in the best condition we can. One of the showers clogs so often and I'm there every time with a plunger and sometimes bleach. To leave a house in that state of awful especially when you got it for free
Same. Hell, I was paying rent, utilities, buying food, etc. And no. Not all people who live like that are people dealing with MH issues. Some are just plain old dirty people and others are just straight up lazy...
SAME! Had my first place at 17 and I took a huge amount of pride in it.
@@lilaccreeper2005some draino might help get rid of the hair and soap scum that can build up in shower drains
Im a single dad with two kids and literally no shot at ever owning a home and if i had been given that gift and chance i would’ve licked the floors clean daily if thats what it took to give my kids a home…..i cant even fathom that
😢 sad 😢 why she had everything and blows it's,
Exactly! So,so many people would've been beyond grateful! 🙄
I know, right?!
Hey single father, just here to say you’re doing a great job and those babies are so happy to have you. One day you can get there, you got this.
You’ll get a house man don’t doubt yourself.
Lmfao. One day this 19 year old will grow up and realize the opportunity she lost, and how ridiculously disrespectful she was. “I’m young” is such a trash excuse. You asked for the home, then ruined it. That’s not an age problem.
I basically think that's what happened. She realised just how much she screwed herself and couldn't live with it, so she lied or became self-delusional.
Don't forget that her Mother was living there as well. What's her excuse?
You’d think so, but no. Entitled adults, even at 19, don’t tend to change that mindset. Karens are a great example.
Also so annoying to think of all the 19 year olds out there struggling through school and multiple minimum wage jobs to live in shitty cramped flats or dorms or with their parents, with no financial stability, some of which have families to provide for, who would be so grateful and absolutely cherish that opportunity and the massive lifelong impact it could have on so many 19 year olds from disadvantaged backgrounds and she just let it go to waste and then blamed it on her age
@@kassiopiajudkins2722 She probably wasn't happy it's not a mansion and stopped caring.
Even if we believe that a 19 year old and her boyfriend are too young to understand responsibility (we’re not) his mother lived there too. She’s a grown ass woman. What’s her excuse?
Exactly
They’re all addicts who basically used the house as a trap house for a month then left back to their house in PA, bc she didn’t even need the house and tbh they’re probably wasn’t as many dealers in that area.
Exactly
For REAL! I moved out and rented my first nice apartment at BARELY 18! This is crazy
Seriously. 👏 I’m so sick of people acting like anybody under 35 is a child that doesn’t know what they’re doing. Little kids know better than to trash houses.
I've seen this and I felt so bad for the lady that went above and beyond not only to give a house but also to accommodate the girl every step of the way. She arranged for her packages to be kept safe, she was patient and understanding. Only for that girl to come to the internet telling BS.
I literally only wish u could have been blessed to be in her situation. My landlord is a disaster 🙄😅
I feel so bad for this woman, this is what happens when people are kind, they get taken advantage of by undeserving individuals
@@shybie2798yes exactly! I also believe she cldve just tried talking to Demi about the issues she was having. And she would've willingly helped in any way possible. So sad.
@@shybie2798 stuff like this is why the housing crisis can't be solved by just giving everyone a tiny home. Theres this weird thing where people often value free things less.
@@christinecole6565based on the state of the house, she was living there, her issues were so deep she couldn't get packages from the doorstep or sign papers for an hour.
You said “ give a house” but rights to take back ?
Thats isn’t gifting. That is the issue - if the home was truly gifted then legally ownership would have been exchanged the day the family moved it. But it wasn’t …
So the home was sold to many as it was gifted or traded but really it’s just the ability to live in the home. It’s not okay - we aren’t seeing the full picture. Many would be upset and no longer care if they were told on camera “ the house was hers- she won” but then as late as 14 months- the home was never legally Shay’s.
I agree the TT Shay posted wasn’t okay considering… but we don’t know why she FELT that way. Was it because she’s the only one who knows deep down the home was never going to be legally hers ( because that matters). Most of us have contracts and legal documents linking us and protecting us in our home. She didn’t have any contact it seems or her belongings wouldn’t have been legally able to be removed without time to collect them or a proper eviction ? Demi entering the home with another set of keys - that sounds like a landlord/tenant relationship. Not home ownership or trading a home …
So what are the requirements for the home to be Shay’s - seems like it was hers as long as she did …. What if Shay didn’t want someone texting her about a damn rug, neighbors knowing the house is someone else’s enough to text the legal owner, for future content to be created. At what point in time if things went differently would the home legally belong to Shay?
I’d trash the home too if I was told I “ won and it would be legally mine “ but catch on to the idea that maybe it’s not and won’t be and I have no documents protecting me in the home. I’d be pissed too that I moved states away -
What happened in the first month that made Shay leave - was it related to the home ? Or was moving states away to find out you are just a TT famous tenant.
I’m not saying the homes condition is acceptable but many believe she’s just entitled or lazy but I think there is more to the story - as what time if any would legal home ownership be exchanged? I don’t think if ever would have been and that’s why she left and why she left and didn’t have fund to come back. We don’t know -
14 months went by where someone who ACTUALLY needed that home and would’ve taken care of it could’ve used it. START DOING REFERENCE CHECKS !!
And credit history. And job history.
@@laurasc84366yeah, I don't know how she thought a 19 yr old who had been giving her excuses after excuses just when it came to packages, free ones at that, was going to pay the bills like water, electricity, etc? Hopefully the next time she does this she'll make sure the winner has at least a job. This story was wild...
And don’t give it to an 18 year old!
And don’t give it to someone who already has a house and didn’t even need that house, trashed it, then left for over a year back to her real house in PA.
Can drug tests be part of the "background check" in the future? I certainly would want to ensure that whoever I'm gifting a home to isn't currently the type of person who would use it as a trap house and then FO and leave me to clean up the mess.
My rent is $1800 a month and being given a home would literally change my and my children’s lives. I can’t believe someone could be given a gift that significant and waste it away.
yeah she should've picked someone older who understands the value more
I rent to a family & charge about 65% less than market value. I don't make videos about it or treat it as a big giveaway because that's stupid for everyone, and our town is in a housing crisis, everyone deserves dignity & those with space should pitch in. And I do charge them because I know that helps them feel invested and because that's the normal way, and I have expenses like utilities. I want to help them stabilize, but I'm not just throwing money around or making myself a target by trying to make that my job on social media. Doing nice things quietly works out much better.
@@montananerd8244 I love that 💜
@@Llkolii18 is more than old enough to understand how to take care of a house, she just didnt care enough to learn.
Out of curiosity, how much do you make per month? that amount is double my salary and seems bonkers
That house wasn't just neglected, or used as a depression pit, it was wilfully destroyed. It looked like they'd had a month long tantrum in there tbh. Also, what happened to all her pets whilst she was away from the house? Demi is a goddamn saint imho, and I hope Shay gets the help she needs.
Right like… WTF?!
And it was such a cute little house inside before that too. Shay really needs help. Demi went above and beyond helping her just to be thrown under the bus.
I think the implication is that they came, tore the place up, panicked upon realizing she'd come back, and then ran and never came back. That was aggresive can-kicking in those messages. There's no way that something just "comes up" that many times in 4 months without even a hint of "hey I know I said this but this just happened and I have to delay for Y".
@@ZeromusNightmare122 the good thing is that she got it back, , I would like to know how she pick her out of everyone,? I just glad that the girl did not have a kid, and what happened to the pets?, and his mom was there too, and let this happen , what was the house look like before they moved in? They were living some were before,?? The house were she meet her at look nice, so many questions ,
i disagree im suffering from PTSD and endometriosis my house is a mass (not as much but still) theres mold at some places and mountains of laundry
it got better lately but depression can lead to it
The entitlement, lack of respect and accountability is disgusting! She destroyed the house! Reprehensible behavior and I’m sorry, why are we sad for this person?! Not demanding accountability is destroying our society! You can have compassion and still hold others responsible for their actions!
I 100% agree. Accountability is definitely lacking in this situation and society.
I agree. I would have been content thinking she had something deeper happening but her video throwing a hissy fit makes me think that she's just trash. This is why give-aways like this need some sort of vetting process.
She will never take care of herself and always blame her story for why she sucks. At some point you gotta put on your big girl panties and do what is nessary
Amen. Vicki, my thoughts exactly !
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I have no shot of owning a home ever and to see someone only a few years younger then me ruin her chance at being a homeowner due to entitlement, no respect is extremely disheartening. She clearly has things going on but her boyfriend and his mom were there too, they could have not only helped her but helped keep that house beautiful and clean. All 3 of them neglected that house and destroyed it. Demi is a saint, she's too kind and deserved better than the treatment that she got.
Yup. The mom is obviously older and they're is the boyfriend too. All of them are super dysfunctional? What? There is more to this.
Demi is kind. But no offence, she’s not too bright. Who gifts an 18 year old a home?! There’s no logic to it
@@Mama_Bear524 I understand your POV, unfortunately logic doesn't always overcome a kind heart. I've had a few incidents in my life (nothing anywhere as serious as this) where kindness was mistaken for being a sucker. It's a hard lesson to learn; over time I've found the right balance and I'm grateful for lessons learned w/o becoming bitter.
Not only that, there was like willful damage it seemed with the towel bar being pulled off the wall and stuff? Also I understand not having energy to do a lot of cleaning and having messy floors or piles of dishes but garbage that makes it to a closet could have been put in a bag and taken out almost as easily between 3 people (and it didn't seem like they were hoarders, just lazy) for example
@@Mama_Bear524being 18 or 19 doesn't prevent them from taking out garbage 🤷 but I agree they should have given it to someone with kids or a more desperate living situation rather than someone who had time to figure their own shit out
I'm getting sick and tired of the I'm just a kid argument when people are at an age where they should have common sense.
It's parents who excuse everything their kids do to other people and their property growing up with "they're just a kid, they don't know better" rather than teaching the kid better. Yeah, they don't know better because they haven't taught them yet. It's way easier to teach a small child how to take responsibility for their actions than someone who made it to adulthood without ever having to take responsibility.
19 is an adult. I bought my first house at 19. No excuse
there is no should, it depends
My former best friend rented my dad’s house for ten years when I moved across the country. I spent a lot of money fixing it up, and he was practically family, so we rented it to him cheap. I recently moved back only to find that he caused tens of thousands of dollars worth of damage. He and his brother urinated and defecated all over the house, in addition to not cleaning anything, ever. They also never told us the basement was flooded, then filled it with garbage, and didn’t tell us the roof was bad. Absolute animals. They peed on one of the radiators for so many years that it ate away at the wood on the windows above it. I am in the process of gutting the entire house. I can’t even comprehend what they did.
Jesus, someone needs to make a video about your story! Imagine being grown men and not respecting your home enough to go to the bathroom in the bathroom! Wtf??
Were your friend and/or his brother all mentally there? Usually things like urinating and defecating in places other than the toilet and keeping literal trash (and from the sounds of it, I'm guessing some serious hoarding) are usually signs of *extreme* cases of mental health issues and disabilities that require some kind of outside care and assistance.
I’m sorry, what?! They peed and pooped all over the house? That’s insane!
@@cyanidesmile7263Mental illness was the only logical reason, but he’d been my best friend for so many years and I never in a million years saw it coming. I honestly have no idea but I’m assuming drugs were involved in the brother’s part. As for the friend, he was a lazy compulsive liar, and he played me like a fiddle. He scammed me out of a lot of money in the meantime too.
@Nancys_on_fire damn sorry bro that must hurt
See under: Why it's a bad idea to hate on people and join a witch hunt prior to giving both sides the chance to explain their side of things.
Facts!
Sadsly this will fall on def ears if you know what i mean. A mob of people is going to always act like a mob of people. People love to dog pile before they even know whats going on it’s reactionary. Drama excites people and everyone likes to think they are on the right side or being the hand of justice because it makes them feel better then others. I wish it wasnt the case but here we are
@@1llustrousking Regardless, where I can, I remind people how easy it is to pile on the quietest person. Pretty much my life.
How about just not joining any witch-hunts about anything, ever? Do people really have such comfortable lives they can waste time on this kind of stuff?
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I could accept she's 19 and stupid and she trashed it and ran away... But then she made a video about it saying how it wasn't her fault and someone stole her stuff. That's what sticks for me. She literally bit the hand that was feeding her. I wouldn't say the house is destroyed, but it is trashed and may need serious repairs.
My brother is like this, my brother will receive all the help in the world, trash it and blame everyone else but himself. Sometimes people are just disgusting and ungrateful. Not everyone who has issues and trashes stuff is "going through something" some people just live like that and see no issue
Why do you think they see it as no issues? Cuz their issues are so deep they don't even see them.
I mean, I can take the premise that some people just don't care. But I'd argue their experiences in life led them to that point, that they weren't born being a messy careless/ignorant person like that.
@@daniellebalouise9596 my brother has always been ungrateful, my parents raised him like all of us but he always thought he was above working and studying. He would lie about going to college and be gaming in lan houses. Some people are just selfish. I would know because i have to have two jobs to get myself a house away from him while he lives for free and doesn't work while having a kid. I clean the house otherwise it will look like this girl's house. Some people are the victim to their own bad choices. Stop making excuses for them
My sister is the same way. My parents bought her multiple houses just to make sure her kids were safe and she trashed them every time. She one time had the audacity to tell me my parents spoiled me because they gave me a laptop when I started college -- they were unable to help me in any other way because they had to pay 2 mortgages because of her. I don't speak to her anymore because she's literally 50 years old and she still acts like everyone owes her something.
@@LawanaWalkeroh girl your sis sounds like my bro !my parents have spent hundreds of thousands of dollars spent on his almost 40 year old asses nonsense constantly cleaning up his messes !!homes and cars lost and it’s alway someone else’s fault !!!
This didn’t just make me angry. It made me cry. My kids and I are about to be homeless, and this woman trashes a free house?! I just can’t understand this.
I’m so sorry. I don’t understand how Demi chose her over everyone else.
Goodluck. If you've been priced out of your market, the best thing to do is to just leave the state for an area that has affordable housing/market rates. (I hope there are some affordable markets out there, but I feel like there aren't).
the big issue is not her struggles, its the fact that u shouldnt take the house if u cant handle it- she blocked someone elses blessing with selfishness and entitlement
Imagine being given a whole damn house and doing this! And then trying to make the person who did this for you look bad! What a disgusting, undeserving person!
seems like the screening process for who you give these houses too needs to be a lot tougher. I'd love to "win" a house and wouldn't treat it like a flop house. Such a shame, so much time and effort just to be trashed by an entitled 19 year old when there are so many people who would *actually* appreciate the opportunity.
I’m ashamed to say it but this is how I was living as a heroin, meth and crack addict. So yeah, yeah she’s def got a lot going on… however - I would have NEVER EVER even on my worst bender EVERRRRRR do something as heinous as what she did by playing the victim so Demi would look like the bad guy in the situation! I don’t care if she’s an addict, it’s not an excuse! You don’t do that to other people, period!
There’s no shame in the things we did in our addiction! ❤ We weren’t in control of ourselves…
@@LosAngelesLaura you’re totally right I shouldn’t have said ashamed :) thanks for the reminder and the kind words! 💜
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So happy that you are on the other side!
I don’t have TikTok so I love the drama Markie is able to bring to CZcams (I feel awful for the people affected, of course, when it’s cases like this or worse)
I didn’t know this literally happened about 45 minutes from where I live! I’m a disabled student with kids I would have been praising God if I got that house!!
Contact her and tell her your location and situation! It's worth a try!
That just further proves Shay didn't have to make that Tiktok. The world likely wouldn't have known about this.
How are you making it? What your experiences looking for help been like?
@@daniellebalouise9596 I’m having to live with family at the moment. I’ve been waiting to get disability for almost 3 years now. If it wasn’t for my family I’d be homeless. God has taken care of me this far I know He will continue too.
My house gets almost that bad (just the clutter, not the rot) but I spend a day cleaning it to brand new before my wife gets home.
I’d say the food rot is a pretty important detail😅
Right like if it's just clutter it's really not THAT big of a deal in my opinion. But like....the rot. 😐
Yeah being messy and being dirty have distinct differences though 😂
@sydneysovern Yeah, when my place gets messy, Ill ignore it for a few days. If it gets _dirty_ I clean it right away.
I have the same problem, but there is a hhuge different between clutter and shoving literal trash in closets if what this video says is correct. Obv I haven't seen what the house was like in person but I'm guessing it was clearly trash in there and not just "junk" or unorganized stuff
Not destroyed but definitely not acceptable for a home she got for nothing. The lady who gave the house away is such a great hearted woman.
Agreed, I was expecting to see something really bad from how they were talking. It wasn't destroyed, it was very messy, and it looks like she didn't appreciate what she had. But not destroyed. My house with my three kids can look like this on a summer day when I'm feeling depressed. I feel like I'm missing something. It just needs a good cleaning.
@@ashleyirvin7350same. Unless there was a bug infestation from the garbage?
@@ashleyirvin7350 All this has me saying, "Wow, are most people in happy healthy unproblematic supportive environments?" It makes me feel like offering cleaning services for free/pay what you can for people who can't help themselves like that.
That house would be an easy clean imo.
@ellaella5537 yeah, that's why I think I'm missing something. From the picture I could get that place looking good in just a day. Destroyed to me means water damage, broken walls, windows, flooring, fire damage etc etc. Something that you would have to call your home insurance up to fix. This just looks very messy.
@@ashleyirvin7350I think this is a little different than a messy house from kids. She stuffed her garbage in the closets instead of a trash can, had bio hazards on the floor, and the fridge looks trashed. The thing is that this was all sitting like that for 14 months. Having waste like that rotting for over a year is going to cause damage as it seeps into the things around it. Getting that fridge clean is going to take a lot of effort.
I still get so shocked how people, literal strangers, take what they see as true and go and verbally attack someone. Like how bored with your life are you that you're going out of your way to be hateful lol
pretty sure JK Rowling laughing read this
Who are you referring to here?
@@swaters5127 All of the people who went to the house gifters page to bash her with no proof that she did something wrong? Did you not watch the video?
@@r01d2 Wtf does JK Rowling have to do with any of this?
@@swaters5127the people who attacked the nice person after Shay-the ungrateful idiot-posted her ‘ I want my house back’ crap.
They should’ve immediately discussed that the house will be put in her name when they moved in. How did they even know she had enough to afford a house and property taxes, utility bills etc for a long time?! Doesn’t seem like they discussed that at all. Why make a wishlist for a house that’s not even hers? She made a horrible decision.
How does that justify destroying the house and trying to tarnish the other person's reputation?
@@Ranoldopereztroikait doesn’t. Didn’t imply it did. Just said she made bad decisions
Yeah, kinda weird. Doesn't sound like anyone was "given a house". Sounds like someone was getting free rent for a period of time. Obviously the tenant had a deal though, and she obviously wasn't supposed to destroy a home
I'm guessing Shay, being 19, threw a giant party that probably was open to anyone that wanted to attend as celebration, and/or, her bf also invited people over and they just irresponsibly wrecked it. Thing like pee being on the ground were probably from her dog being anxious from all the people there. Shay probably got overwhelmed at what happened to the house shortly after getting it for free and was too embarrassed to say anything and instead fled hoping to find some sort of solution before coming back, but being young and getting something for free, instead just put it out of her mind and low on her list of priorities. I can only assume she was given the idea to villainize Demi from someone else, which is dumb. But all that doesn't absolve any responsibility or accountability from Shay's end (and still just all assumptions on my end)
Solid hypothesis
i think she was also expecting for demi to fix the damage and extend more support to her beyond just the house. I just don’t understand how someone could mess up an opportunity like this this badly
Every teen I know would have been so much more responsible than this. Those people are just trash.
@@leena5875Did you see other videos? I don't watch TikTok nor did I follow either person. How much support was she expecting? She was given a house and what seems like on a decent amount of land. It's disheartening and disrespectful. I hope whoever has the next opportunity does something amazing with this because Demi deserves all the positivity in her life that can possibly be given. Not everyone can be as compassionate as her.
It's either this or Shay is sick or on some drugs
She needs to give it to someone that already lives in that town!
Yes and also someone who is responsible and able to afford costs like taxes and insurance. Maybe someone who has been paying rent for a long time but can't afford to buy a house
Ignorance is not an excuse. Information is more available today than ever. And it sounds like the woman was willing to walk her through it
Kindness is so rare, and seeing it 'rewarded' like this is just infuriating.
Now you know why many people make donations and prefer to be anonymous. You just help and forget. As it's said, no good deed goes unpunished.
That said, do your research into the charities you donate to. SO many are basically scams where over 90% goes into some greedy person's pocket under the guise of "operating costs" or something. I prefer to donate my time, not my money, so I can see the work being done.
@@whelkpeopleofdoomlike the goodwill that got all the stuff! 😭
i think she's just evil, trying to ruin the reputation of someone so nice WHO LITERALLY GAVE YOU A HOUSE?? an opportunity like that would change my life omg 😭 there's no excuse!!!
I woulda took that house back. going through something or not, Acting that ungrateful and trying to cause someone’s downfall, someone who’s been so nice to her is just evil.
This is why homeless people "choose to be homeless", cuz of attitudes like this, that to be housed, you have to be grateful and do what everyone else tells you to do, while they ignore you have such a traumatic life where everyone has abandoned and betrayed you. But a homeless person can't possibly be bitter, upset, or even a hint of "ungrateful" or pushback.
@@daniellebalouise9596Wow, that’s what you took from this ?🤡🤡🤡🚨. This is why people like you and her are called ungrateful. You are literally trying to help a bad person dodge accountability because you empathize with her and not the innocent home owner who had her place destroyed.
At 19 I had my first child and was out of my parents home.
I'm sick of people acting as if 19 is the new 7. It's not, your an adult, a fresh adult, but still an adult.
With how much this lady reached out to help with the lawn ect I'm sure she could have said I can't handle cleaning the home I let it get to bad and I need help and a cleaning crew would have rocked up booked by this lovely lady.
As someone who will probably never get the chance to own my own home, this is beyond frustrating to hear about. Just the fact that she tried to play the victim after trashing the place is so disgusting. Hopefully this doesn't stop the original girl from doing nice things like this in the future.
I’m 28, disabled, and I have 2 kids. I work full time & so does my husband, including OT. We can’t afford a house. But here’s someone getting one for free & not only disrespecting the house but disrespecting the PERSON WHO GAVE HER A FREE HOME. I wouldn’t have done that at FIVE, let alone 19!!! I’m happy for people who get this blessed, but those who destroy it & are ungrateful are TERRIBLE.
God as a poor mentally ill person that’s been homeless in the past hearing a story like this makes me hurt, I can’t even began to imagine how positively my life would change if someone gave me a house😭
The fact that a 19 year-olf got gifted a house in this economy, then trashed and abondend it, is baffling to me. Some 16 year-olds are more responsible to her
Not her playing the “ I’m 19” card… a lot of us moved out at 19 or earlier and didn’t act like that
I recall someone on Craigslist or something similar bartering for bigger and bigger things. I believe there was a documentary about it
Yeah, that was… 15 years ago? Or 10?
I want to say he started with a pencil or something
Paperclip, I think.
The One Red Paperclip guy! Yep! That whole saga was amazing.
@@malice4777 that’s right! I’m pretty sure a pencil was the thing he got for the paper clip, then.
And then a whole TV series was born from that idea. Barter Kings? I the no that's the one I'm thinking of
When this girl is 30 she'll look back on this situation and hate herself.
What gets me is after the plethora of these dramas where one party lobbies false allegations against the other, usually using very cropped messages removing context if even that much, why can't people wait to hear both sides before grabbing the pitchforks?
Poor Demi. I hope this experience hasn't killed her helpful nature. We need more people like her in this world.
Shay’s video seems extremely manipulative to me. After 14 months of feeding lies to Demi about how she planned to return, IMO Shay thought that she could make a video and get everything back and then some. She is a full grown adult and is fully responsible for her behavior regardless of her circumstances.
Imagine fumbling a whole ass house in this economy……
That said though, why would she gift the house to a random 19 year old when she could’ve given it to a struggling single parent or something like that. Weird story all around lol
That's what i was wondering.
It's is , 😢 still don't get why? She did not open the donation stuff up, 😔 and why some one would leave it in the rain, and they had the boyfriend mom there ? Worder why she didn't clean up, , still trying to see what her story was for her to choose her? , it looks like they left everything behind
@@Renee-wy1po yeah I would be very interested to hear the story for why she was chosen
i was thinking that too… a clearly middle class 19 year old? so many people who actually have responsibilities need that house
Imagine shaming someone for giving a house away. Seriously ?
Hope you get feeling better, Markie
19 is very young to get a house just off-the-bat like that. It seems she didn't have much support in her life to make this a success. It's a shame because the impression I'm getting is that it could have been hers outright and then she could have sold it and satyed in her original area if she wanted.
I think giving a house to someone this age from a totally different area was a bit reckless and maybe in future there should be some counselling/support offered to help it go smoothly.
It all made sense when she said she was 19. I was like "ah... okay"
But Demi was trying to give it to her outright and couldn’t even get her to keep in contact enough to make it happen. That’s not someone who is capable of putting a house on the market and selling it successfully.
Taking care of a house IS a lot of responsibility, but I don’t agree that age explains this outcome… there’s a difference between forgetting to take out the trash or mow the lawn and.. whatever you call this. Demi also was giving support, she said she would take care of the yard and do whatever Shay needed, you can’t blame her for Shay’s actions (or inactions).
@@sydneysovern You have kind of made my point for me here.
It's not about 'blame' as such to my mind.
This is why things have gotten out of shape I think.
To me it's about a well-meaning person (Demi) and an overwhelmed person (Shay) not reaching a common goal that seems to be in both their interests.
The fact Demi said she would help out after-the-fact I think shows that she recognised a need to support Shay, but by then things were already out of shape.
Maybe Shay didn't have the money to go back once she left and couldn't clean up the place even if she wanted to??
Maybe Demi shouldn't have made the 'shaming video' where she is crying and somehow becomes a victim in alll of this.
Both sides then are online tying to save face, and things go further downhill.
I think they both made mistakes that could, and perhaps should, have been avoided, and to some degree both sides seem to lack the maturity/capability to have made a better outcome.
There are lessons to be learned for everyone here I think, and it's a shame that both people seem a bit damaged from the situation now.
I think it could have been avoided with better planning and support, and a a robustness from Demi when things went wrong.
okay. look. i'm so sick of hearing that someone is clearly going through something so you can't get too upset with them. lots of people are going through shit and would NEVER do something like this. like, she's going through shit? congrats, does she want a medal or something? i'm going through shit too. i recently got out of the hospital! if i did something like this and used my shit as an excuse, i would want the people in my life to slap me. i......i feel like i'm getting, like, way more pissed off then the situation calls for, but......i'm so tired of people using issues as an excuse to avoid the full backlash that bad actions deserve.
The girl was 18, she didnt even have experience renting an apartment... Why on earth was she chosen?
Exactly. Demi needs to acknowledge she made the wrong choice. She could've chosen a family, it was a big place. 19 is too young for such a responsibility. Plus Demi should've had no claim once it was won, it's for the girl to do with whatever she pleases if she won the house
@@paradiseinthemountainsthe house wasn’t in her name.. even if she did win it, she never did anything to put the house in her name.
Depressional pit. I would say a druggy house if there was proof of drugs, as I’ve been forced to stay in a house like that on the weekends. But I would be upset too.
Such a shame I think it really depends on the person some 19 year olds are more responsible than some 30 year olds I know but some aren’t, a house and a move across state is a big move to make it’s a total shame my 22 year old daughter would be so greatful for this opportunity she works hard and is paid well but can’t move out because rents are so high like double mortgage prices and she hasn’t got enough for a deposit and couldn’t afford to buy alone, it’s so tough for the generation sitting between 18-25 housing wise
I don't know what her process was to find someone to give the house to but I really wish that she actually gave it to a small family, immigrants, low income families, even a young couple in an apartment or something. Not on her to be able to predict peoples behaviour but I feel like there were probably way better options besides this couple that would not have taken this opportunity for granted and been so disrespectful. Ive seen cleaner crackhouses. "Going through shit" is not an excuse, especially with her behaviour after trashing the house like that. Doesn't seem like she needed it or appreciated it in the first place. My family was literally in a shelter when I was 19 and I had to rent a room in another city, never trashed my place just cause I was "going through shit".
I would like to know how they chose this person to get the house…? This sincerely pisses me off. As I am a single mother who has health issues, I’m having to live in my mom’s basement… if someone was nice enough to GIVE me a house, I would NEVER do something like this. Like she could have gave it back if she couldn’t handle it, but she should have definitely at least TRIED to clean it up. But no. Just use and abuse this woman’s generosity and then dipped. Horrible behavior.
Shay is a disgusting person. She destroyed that house. Idc what issues she has or what she has going on. It’s not that difficult to NOT destroy a house. She DESTROYED the house. In ONE month. There is NO excuse.
A house is a life changing event. Moving states is huge. Maybe if she gives the house to someone else, only give to someone, at least in that state.🤷♀️
It’s so hard watching someone completely squander such a gift like a free house and free appliances. As a 30 year old woman trying to build a life for herself, I think I’d literally give an arm or a leg just to have a home of my own. It’s clear that Demi was just meant to own the house, and she has good karma coming her way.
Why give a house to a 19 yr old? Why not an adult with kids who needs a helping hand?
My friend went through something similar. We didn't give a mom in need a home, but we gathered money for a deposit for an apartment. Furnished it etc. All donations from the community and the mom destroyed everything and took off. It was heartbreaking and we never heard from her again.
I can't believe this. So many people, myself included, would have been soooo grateful for this. The girl also got a check for $10,000 when she moved in. I can't explain just how much I hate this girl for ever even being offered this opportunity.
I don't understand gifting it to a 19 year old party girl when there are working families living in their cars, homeless parents and children, people that have known struggle for decades, disabled senior citizens that worked all their lives to end up in a shitty weekly rent motel room
19 year old now, 18 year old 14 months ago
My thoughts exactly!!!!
I agree., a single parent with kids would had been better. She messed up giving it to someone who is not mature at all
Same question!! It makes no sense to me
It's perfectly fine to give a house to a younger person. The hard part about doing that is vetting the young adult AND their family. No one really expects anyone to know exactly what they're doing when they get their first house, that's what your family and friends are for. They should be able to help pick up slack or coach you through some things.
I have 0 issues with a 19 year old getting a house. You just need to vet them properly. If you don't want to go through that kind of hassle then don't give it to a 18/19 year old. Honestly though there are people older than her who trash houses just as equally or worse for their age. Age means nothing when it comes to human maturity levels.
I'm a 28-year-old with congestive heart failure and a defibrillator I found out last month I have a mass on my liver we don't know what it is yet.
My husband has to stay home and help me
And I am literally in the middle of trying to find someone to move a very old broke down trailer to my property so that way I can fix it up some and get my girls myself and my husband in a better living situation than what we're currently in.... I couldn't imagine being given that opportunity and throwing it away it is seriously heartbreaking.
This is why it’s best to help those who are actively trying to help their self. Seems like this was the chicks one chance of owning a home & now she likely never will… no one to blame but herself.
omg, that is a brilliant way of framing it. Thank you for the lighbulb,
This happened in my town too and I didn't hear about any of the damages to the house and that drama until now, that's insane! That girl didn't deserve that house at all, I hope it went to a good family, as we have had families struggling after the recent tornados last year. :(
I live in a noisy apartment and have had my car broken into 3 times, if someone offered me a house it would be life changing, why would you waste that opportunity.
Is it very messy, leaving garbage for a year will attract bugs.
But I don’t see any damage? Just looks like it needs a good clean
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Absolutely heartwrenching. Do NOT be sad for the vandal. At 19 there is NO EXCUSE! NONE!
As a 19-year-old, I completely agree 100% No excuse.
She abandoned the house for 14 months, which means the original owner was paying taxes on it. Which is crazy!
She’s going to grow up and realize the absolute BLESSING she gave up. As a 21 year old girl who has given up on the dream of owning a home one day, I would kill for this opportunity. Most people in my generation will likely never own a home and even if they do they’ll likely never pay it off.
Who does this? Who trashes a house like that. She could have respectfully declined the home if she didn’t want to move and wouldn’t care for it. I didn’t leave my dorm room like that at 19.
I was 19 and pregnant living in a hostel. I am autistic with mental health issues. I get the issues with taking care of stuff but to be given a home, given everything like furniture too. This woman would have helped her had she said she was struggling with maintaining it and wasn't sure she was old enough. I hope someone in need gets the house or gets it cheap to rent. Hopefully, someone with a child or disabled. I think the fact she tried to villainise this kind soul is where i have lost sympathy. And that is as someone who has had struggles with maintaining a home. Was in a few flats but mainly bnbs and hostels from 17 to 20. My mental health has caused issues, no doubt. But to try demonise someone who did nothing but care and offer an amazing opportunity after you direspected it is where i lose all empathy or sympathy and think you are just not nice at all as a person.
This is the most reasonable take I've read so far.
@@daniellebalouise9596 thank you. I try to be fair and reasonable. Have a great rest of your week :-)
yeah, no. i'm 19 and know a hell of a lot better than to leave a house in such condition... if someone literally gave me a house i would treat it with the utmost care. some people are just slobs... it's such a shame that this one was given such a beautiful house.
As a disabled individual who can’t physically work this is unbelievable to me. I would have been so thankful wtf. Its hrd enough paying rent while i wait on ssi i have to have a third party help me pay omg whats wrong with people
pulling the age card AND that defamatory tiktok? yeah, she definitely pulled her age to deflect responsibility and took advantage. Gross
No 19 year old should be gifted a house unless they can prove they would care for it properly and be able to pay for the taxes etc. I think the idea is great but yeah 19 is super young and there were probably people who needed that house a lot more and would have appreciated it.
i hope she can salvage it and do a merit based giveaway of the house to someone that’ll appreciate and respect such a blessing and generosity
What a disgrace. I ran away from home at 15 because of the abuse. I'm 65 now and have NEVER trashed a house in my life. At 16 l lived in a rental house with 4 others and we had a cleaning roster that we took turns with EVERY weekend. We didn't even have a washing machine or a vacuum cleaner and l can still remember how difficult it was to handwash sheets and the blisters we'd get from sweeping the fitted carpets and how grateful we were when out landlord bought us a wringer washing machine AND being terrified of getting my hand pulled into the wringer. It would never have occured to me not to clean some where l lived. Her being 19 is a nonsense excuse.
This is just so absolutely mind boggling. She should honestly try to find someone local to the home to give the house to. So crazy.
Im a former foster kid from a group home in the uk where the staff would literally feed us twice a day, make sure we were inside at curfew and at least left the kids home to go to school. We werent shown how to manage a home, clean, pay bills etc and at 16 i was kicked into my own house and told to deal with it. I didnt even know how to use a microwave and yet my home was fking SPOTLESS every damn day. I couldnt even imagine living ina home like this at 16 and now, at 33, i still couldnt ever imagine letting my home look like this! This is just a quarter of the filth i was forced to live in from birth to 7 when i went into foster care. Who the F at NINETEEN lets their home look like this?! There is literally NO excuse!! People can say "she wasnt shown how to do XYZ" but thats BS! My husband grew up in literal squalor with a hoarder mother and grandmother, my husband lived in a home where there were FULL dirty cat litter boxes from FIFTEEN years ago that had grown mouldy because of his mother and right up until 2020 he had NEVER been shown how to do anything in a home, 2020 hemoved in with me and right from day 1 he has taught himself and had me help him learn how to do things he shouldve been taught years ago. If me and my husband have managed to learn how to run and clean a home and can keep our home spotlessdespite both being physically disabled and having a maine coon and a Norwegian forest cat, then there is absolutely no excuse for a 19 year old to live in such disgrace. And dont even start with the poor mental health crap! I have bipolar, autism, adhd, ptsd and severe anxiety. Im also physically disabled and will be completely and 100% non weight bearing and having 6 more surgeries to completely rebuild my ankle over the next 18 months. Ive been in plaster and unable to put weight on my foot for the past week and a half and ive still managed to keep my house clean while also having a brain tumour and cancer treatment. There. Is. No. Excuse. This girl shouldve been so effing grateful and ecstatic to receive such a beautiful home!
Seriously, do you make videos with tips on how other people with mental and physical health problems can maintain their environment? Cos I'd be really interested..
I'm genuinely sorry you're going through all of those things. I do hope things improve in the future, sending you all the very best.
a massive well done to you and your husband for doing so well despite your incredibly difficult starts to life. you were both dealt very difficult circumstances yet what you describe here is a remarkable display of hard work, strength, and tenacity. you should be so proud of yourselves for how well you're doing each and every day you wake in the morning, as simply making it from day to day can be very tough, especially when one has issues such as those you mention, so getting through the day is something to be celebrated. all the best with your cancer treatment and upcoming surgeries, i wish you a quick and complete recocey and hope that the treatments themselves are as free of pain and uncomfortable side effects as much as possible. sending you the abundant love and support that you deserve ❤
I feel awful for Demi, but also why did she give it to a 19yr old?
I cannot fathom being gifted an ENTIRE HOUSE and trashing it and then just leaving?? YOU GOT A HOUSE DOG??? I would clean every inch of the house with my tongue every day if that's what it took for a cute little house FOR FREE.
It's so heartbreaking to see someone so kind taken advantage of like that. Especially in this day where it's absolutely insane to try to just live let alone to buy a house. I truly hope whoever is blessed enough to receive the house takes wonderful care of it.
People make it really hard to do nice things for them.
given that Shay was in a house when Demi gifted her the new one - given that Shay only resided in the house for about a month before abandoning it - given Shay and Co arrived in a RV camper van -AND given that after confirming she earned the revoking of the house Shay posts begging for it back in a "i'm the victim" way -> leads me to conclude two hypothesis -> The couple was couch surfing and realized they didn't/couldn't find the resources to survive after the move OR That Shay was residing with her Bf ( in rental or with family or roommates) they abandon the house in favor of his life, and now they broke up so she doesn't have somewhere to go
That honestly makes sense, because the mom being involved and then just ditching the house after what looks like a party is just so random.
Every single day another terrible person is giving the kindest/most empathetic people a reason to not be so generous….🤦🏼♀️👋🏻
One thing I have learned in my life is that no good deed goes unpunished. Every time I have tried to help someone… it has blown up in my face.
The garbage moved into the closet instead of the garbage can or outside is NOT an age thing. It is a lazy problem.
Out of all the people she could have picked tho why a 19 year old
Just curious-of all the people who she had to choose from to give the house too WHY did she pick this girl Shay??? Wtf give it to an able-bodied 19 year old and not someone who is struggling like a single working mom, an elderly person, or a disabled person?
No one can tell me that drugs and alcohol weren’t involved in the destruction of this property. I say this as a recovering addict.
Shame because it can discourage people from helping those in need.
How can ppl be so ungrateful for something wonderful?! And HOW do you trash it like this in 14 months??
I've been in that mental state she was in with the house... it's difficult to explain how overwhelmed your brain gets, how it's like you're drowning in the mess, and the guilt. The guilt is suffocating. And it spirals... the worse it gets, the more paralysed you feel, which only makes it worse. Which is probably why she didn't return... she couldn't face it. It's a fucked up mental state I've learnt is connected to my ADHD and autism... a form of meltdown, literally neurological. These days I pay for a cleaner once a week to help prevent getting into that spiralling state of mind. She's only 19 so hopefully with time she might learn to see the pattern and findhealthy ways to manage it.
God though. What I'd do for a home. I'm terrified I'm going to end up homeless when my mum dies and she's 80... my disabilities have made life so difficult and expensive. I get why people are mad at her for letting this gift fall apart.
My family picked me and my fiance to rent my grandma's house from her as she lives in assisted living now. We've made $400 of improvements and spent a week painting it and we've only had it a month. This is literally unfathomable to me.
At 8 years old i knew not to ruin people's stuff. 'Just a kid' doesn't work at 19- when you can Vote, smoke, buy guns, etc
If Demi "gave her the house", everything would have been in her name. How can Debbie then come back and take it away from her? Did they not do the legal paperwork to make her the legal owner of the house? Why is Demi even involved anymore? When you give someone a house you quit claim it and you walk away... It's no longer yours to worry about. It sounds like Demi just let her live there.
The legal process of giving the house was still underway and then because the would-have-been new owner was away for 14 months Demi went to check on the property and found it destroyed.
Okay clearly the house should never ever have been in that state. Treated like rubbish. However… giving a house to a 19 year old? Maybe don’t do that again that didn’t seem to wise to me.
I lived across the hall from a young woman about shay's age. It was her 1st apartment, and she went bonkers over there. The first thing she did is throw a party for her friends and apparently their friends. She had so many lease violations that she was booted in about 3 months. Just young and dumb.
Sure, but her mom and boyfriend were there too…? I’m assuming her mom isn’t 19.
I can't fathom being GIVEN A HOUSE FOR FREE and then treating it like this. This is most people's dream, to own a home. I just can't. 🙄
you posted at the perfect time, I was just looking for a video of urs I haven't seen LMAO 😭 also, hope u feel better soon !
Did you say the winner was 19 years old? That was the first mistake. I wasn’t even washing my sheets regularly at 19.
I was full on raising my nephew and taking care of my whole household at 17. Age isnt a factor it's immaturity.
im 19 and this legitimately blows my mind its so disgusting how people try to use their age to justify incompetence???
If any of those packages she donated were delivered by USPS then it’s a federal offense to take mail without your name on it.
A complex situation. The girl is obviously mentally unwell. Neurodivergent people deserve housing. But she's not using it, taking up space someone else needs more. Unfortunate. Hope the house finds an owner in need and the girl gets better one day.