Be The Warrior Not The Worrier - Fighting Anxiety & Fear | Angela Ceberano | TEDxBedminster
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- čas přidán 26. 06. 2024
- What if there was a way to systematically fight every single fear you have?
Angela has worked in public relations for over a decade, gaining invaluable experience and contacts throughout the industry. In the last ten years, Angela has represented some of the biggest international celebrities and brands. At 28 she saw an opportunity to create a new-school PR agency that was obsessed and addicted to results. Angela began Australian based Flourish PR in February 2010 and the business has grown from a home office into a busy dynamic agency.
Angela runs a dedicated team of publicists and creatives who are new school thinkers in the world of PR.
This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at ted.com/tedx
She is right in saying that everyone should be a warrior, fighting their own fears. Anxiety is a feeling that few can get rid of because it's quite impossible to have control of your thoughts, negative thoughts. She is giving some advice because she overcame it. I don't see arrogance or self confidence, it is just an attempt to help others.
Much respect to you sister.
I wish you all the best of life.
We are all in this together. You are never truly alone. We know the struggle.
Never stop chasing who you truly are!
+CJ -Chan Excellent Video clip! Forgive me for the intrusion, I would love your thoughts. Have you heard about - Koryzary Calmer Ambience (Sure I saw it on Google)? It is an awesome one off guide for getting rid of panic attacks minus the hard work. Ive heard some super things about it and my friend after a lifetime of fighting got excellent results with it.
Good info the best results that ive ever had was with the Seans Shy Program (i found it on google) - without a doubt the most useful resource that I have ever tried.
Oh hai! Nice video you have there! Hope you wont mind me sharing.. have you tried " Vidadsmedia Child Anxiety Treatment " (search on google)? My sister had some business with them and was impressed by their awesome treatment when the anxiety attack was completely treated !
Kortyzory ambience
If I were in her shoes and asked to do a Ted Talks lesson, I think my thought process would look more like:
1. Wow, this is amazing!
2. Are they sure they want me? Is this a joke?
3. I can't do this.. There must be someone better for this..
4. I choke up in public speaking. I literally, physically can't do this..
5. That's it. I'm cancelling .. cancelling this once in a lifetime opportunity that I *know* I'll regret but I can't get over my temporary fears for the lasting satisfaction of acting on this opportunity...
I haven't found one talk yet that I can relate to fully regarding anxiety, and that told me something I could actually use to get over it. For example, my anxiety doesn't disappear at work because I'm confident there. Where there are people, I'm anxious about interacting with them, when I need to present it's even worse, when I'm alone at home I worry about future problems and things I didn't do properly, and I miss having intimate social connections that I know I can't have anyway because I'm not capable of conversations the same way other people are, and I just don't feel comfortable enough around people to make friends. So yeah, it's easy to say you need to break the loop, but how do you do that when you actually believe there's something wrong with you and others are aware of it? I can't seem to get my mind off of: this person probably thinks I behave strangely, this person probably thinks I'm weird, I'm probably saying something strange now, I will probably not know what to say, O dear I don't know what to say and now the situation get's really awkward. It really drives me insane. Sometimes I wish I could shut off my feelings so at least I wouldn't have to feel broken and lacking all the time.
There you have it.
I think it is the lack or not being true to yourself mate..that is how I treat my angst. Use it as an indicator that you are not quite where you are. Also, tell at least one close friend you are suffering. Opening up works..like a catharsis.
I identify with this comment so much. Especially being in college, my anxiety just seems to be getting worse because I'm very ambitious but not enough to silence my anxiety.
+jackdawcaw I know how you feel. It's hard, because you don't know what they think. I'm dealing with this too. Hang in there. Good luck.
Look into another ted talk about psychedelics. See if it's for you.
Hypnotherapy worked really well for me.
The problem is that if you have bad anxiety, you can't work because your mind is all over.
this is so true I want to work so bad just to get health insurance....
Physical symptoms are the worst.
I have anxiety and work it hard yet you can do it
That is OCD. and low serotonin
Train yourself before!
That statistic about 8% of worries being likely was the most helpful thing I've heard for a long time. Definitely not forgetting that one
I watched this video on New Year's Eve when my anxiety had really got the best of me. I got my journalling book and started making notes. I really appreciate her honesty although I have to say I am shocked that she suffers with anxiety. She looks so bubbly and confident. Her ending statement, be a warrior not a worrier was so inspiring.
I also agree with what she said about her husband being happy because he did so many things. I think its so important to pursue interests: go places, meet people, try new things, volunteer. It's only when we are uncomfortable that we can be truly be comfortable.
Kelle Salle ii
As someone diagnosed with two anxiety disorders, including Generalized Anxiety Disorder, I appreciated this talk. It was very inspiring to me. Thank you for giving it, Angela Ceberano, and I hope you continue to conquer your fears - and that this talk helps others hearing it conquer their fears as well.
From studying the topic of fear and anxiety, she is absolutely correct to all you nay sayers. You have to tackle you fears, in whatever category they are in, to be at peace and to be happier. How you overcome your fears when you tackle them, is something that you will figure out if you put in a serious effort. This isn't a math equation people. If your looking for some kind of voodoo trick to overcoming anxiety and fear, your not going to find it.
Jacob Dix Dix Shots fired.
anxiety is caused by fear - mainly irrational based on some traumatic experience from years past - which is being repeated by an amygdala that is firing - as it has 'paired and conditioned' with trigger settings. Much as this women is good looking, and is probably annoying with the Life I Want stories, facing fear is the way to reduce anxiety. Its graduated exposure - will re-set the mechanism: the amygdala.
I don't agree. I have swallow anxiety for a few months now and face the fear at least 3 times a day. This on itself does not create progression, it's more in the approach rather than 'just doing' is my experience even though I am far from 'anxiety-free'.
Anxiety is a fear response of the amygdala. The only way to change it is my confronting the fear in a graded way, and then - over time, the neurons that originally fired stop, and the new ones do fire without causing amygdala response. You can read the current research on neuro-plasticity and amygdala responses. Cognition, and new behaviour is the solution.
Greg Ingram Thanks Greg, do you have a link?
What a crock. If anxiety were as simple as fighting a fear, I wouldn't be laying in bed at 1.30am feeling like I'm in a damn horror film and having no idea why!! There isnt a direct fear to bloody fight. Sheesh
Exactly
I can relate so much until it's almost comforting...
K... guess this comment saved 11 minutes of my life. Being a mess for no reason sucks.
This is one of my favorite talks! She said something that really stuck with me “have I been fighting my fears in life or just fighting no”.....I’ve fought many of my”no’s” that I’ve mistaken for fear only to still be anxious once I got them. Great way to look at our fears. Thank you @angelaceberano !
She inspired me. You can't wait to get your anxiety under control before you act. You have to act in spite of it, while at the same time doing what you can to minimize it.
This is actually very helpful, I used to have very bad anxiety, now it is getting better. I still have anxiety presenting in front of people and I have deep fear answering calls on the phone.
Lately I was suggested by someone to call a bunch of random company like phone company and ask questions. You can say this is my fear project. Even commenting on youtube videos is part of the fear project for me.
Fear will always be there unless you do something about it. The more you face it, the less fear you will have. Sitting there feeling sorry for yourself or replaying the fear in your mind wont help at all! you must face your fear, and you must create fear projects and eventually the more you do it, the more numbers you call, your fear will be gone.
This helps me because I have Anxiety.
I couldnt get to sleep most nights. I took control over my Anxiety and kicked out so happiness could come back in.
I always tell people who ask that I was born stressed and worried. This video has helped me incredibly. I completely relate to the excitement, to the self-doubt, than back to the excitement of overcoming my anxiety and fear. Except, this happens usually when its too late and my opportunity has passed. This is definitely a video that must be rewatched and listened to it over and over again.
Thank you for sharing. This video was great! Starting my business at 28 and had my first panic attack recently. Choosing to have a warrior mindset is truly good advice, because if you feel like a victim of your anxiety, you will truly just worry more which leads to more anxiety and panic. Her point is to do things that give you a sense of strength and empowerment.
As helpful as this video was, I just don't feel it's explaining "Anxiety", every day problems yes, but not going through what people really go through. Panic attacks, heart beating so fast you can barely breathe. Tears streaming down your face and you can't control the panic. Shaking and not knowing whether to turn left or right or just run.
Yes! thats the Anxiety and Panick i know!
Yeah, this lady is not in the same arena
I feel you! I haven’t heard of a description of her personal anxiety before but I actually related to it 100%.. i never knew what to call my anxious thoughts and how to deal with them until this video. It’s interesting to see the different levels/experiences of anxiety from a completely Different perspective.
You need medical help rather
@@subratarabidas4090 luckily I did see a GP as well doing tasks to stay active. It really had and has helped. Thank you
Ride the wave as I like to say. It wasn't until I stopped running from or looking for reasons not to confront my subconscious beliefs that recovery happened. Riding the wave means accepting who you are in that moment, therefore loving who you are, and seperating what you're currently doing (behavior) from what your true identity is (warrior).
The thing is, a person with anxiety can be very different to another person who also suffers anxiety. You are who you are based entirely on what you experience in life, every single second of every single day, you are always changing very gradually as a result. That’s why no two people are the exact same. Then there are all of the many, many other things that go on in your brain that create what you are. You can listen to others but ultimately you know yourself better than anyone and you will do whatever you think is best for you even if it isn’t, unbeknownst to you, the best thing to do.
I'm the Warrior Worrier. Nobody worries as much & as fiercely as I do. I will DEFEAT you with my warrior skills of worrying.
I am a mage warrior!I defeat anxiety by giving anxiety anxiety, so it won't give me anxiety.
This sounds like healthy, normal anxiety to me....
Det handlar om att upptäcka risker, hot, förebygga säkerhet, samt att hitta tänkbara system, som förklaring, varningar som måste lösas. En del har sådant privat, andra i stora projekt utanför sig själva.
I love the way she talks. It is gentle and kind of like a tinkling in ears. I see people have commented that the anxiety she addresses is not the clinical, horrible leveled one that some people experience, but if you look at the other talks, they too offer the same remedy. Go for it and tackle the fear.
I liked the talk. Refreshing and light.
I also have experienced anxiety growing up. There were many things you mentioned in your talk that resembled my life. I also use to wonder as a teen, when will I stop worrying?? I also was told I couldn't accomplish more in my life. Thanks to the grace of God, I've been a teacher for 16 years, am married to a wonderful man, and have two healthy kids. Watching your video inspired me to be a strong person and you have shown me a way of how to overcome my anxiety. Thank you!
Believe me- you don't suffer from severe anxiety! Mild to moderate at most!
As I always say, "with change comes opportunity", and yet we are so resistant and fearful of change, thus limiting our own opportunities. Loved watching this! Very pleased for you xx
I needed to hear this message during this time in my life. I believe it was no coincidence I found and started watching Queen of Sheba on You Tube. I never imagined that watching vlogs could lead me to such a brilliant talk that would inspire me so much. Angela, you did an amazing job and I am now on a mission to stop worrying and be a determined warrior. What have I got to loose, right?
This actually helped me. I did suffer from anxiety attacks early in life, but I never thought it was the source of my problems and the reason for my unhappiness. To attack your fears, head on, regardless of how hard it may seem, makes the most sense. I like the idea of a fear project.
I feel like most of the hate comments come from people struggling deeply with anxiety. It can be frustrating when someone calls being busy and having a stressful life an anxiety disorder. She doesn't relate much to real anxiety with panic attacks, and where it's so bad getting out of bed, and going to work is an accomplishment. Maybe she deals with this type of anxiety as well but she didn't get down to that level. However, her message was inspiring I just wish I could relate.
👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼🙌🏼 I love the idea of having a fear project as I am a worrier myself. Queenofsheba did an amazing job! 👌🏼💪🏼👊🏼 proud subscriber right here 😊
Lovely message. God Bless🌺
Such mean spirited comments for this woman are a reflection of you more than her.
I agree. I started to reply to some comments to suggest a similar point of view but I felt that would also only be met with criticism. Everybody is at a different point in their journey. I like this quote: “I am a workhorse. So I am going to enjoy the benefits of this life. It’s human nature. Some people will see it & take positivity from that, they will look at that and take inspiration and it will go and inspire them to push for that. Others will shell up and critique and be negative towards it, but one thing that’s for sure, those people will stay where they are. The people who take inspiration from it will rise up and one day experience that life.”
Daniel b I feel like this particular video is a dimensional crossroads, because in its comments I have seen the widest scope of perspectives, at least a couple have blown my mind already, and what you just wrote is exactly what I've been thinking about lately. In short, thanks!
and such a judgement for everyone is a reflection of you.
"be the warrier, not the worrier" genius.
1:44 EXACTLY what I’m doing right now... also still gotta say I’m actually subscribed to her channel and I was surprised to see her here! So proud of her ❤️
Very proud of you, Ange. Very proud. Great stuff. xx
I'm your subscriber but this will be my first comment.You are incredible women,such inspiration,smart,strog, beautiful.... proud to know you. Congratulation Angela!b:)
Any ideas for people that get nervous when they are the next person in the big circle and have to say their name and a few things about themselves? What do you do when you feel like youre gonna pass out when the guy next to you is blabbing and you know youre next and you want to run through a wall to get away?
These people in these videos ramble on for 10 mins about themselves just great. Very good for them
Very inspiring. Thank you for sharing your story. Anxiety does not all look the same. Yes, someone who is professional, posh, and carries designer handbags can suffer from it. I loved this talk and I'm saving it to re-watch again. ♡
Phobias are irrational fears. I have a few phobias and I don’t think I’ll ever get over them. This lady was just nervous to get in front a camera, yet she has 26k subscribers on CZcams💀 she also works in PR, so I don’t think she really experienced the mental disorder of anxiety, she only had some basic fears that many experience, but was able to get over them so easily🙄
IDK if this is how you still feel but you can't pretend to know half of someone's experience anxiety starts in the mind. It's not a competition of her level of anxiety. It's the fact she understands
such an amazing talk
Anxiety is a very complex condition and it impacts people in different ways. Not everyone is going to be helped by this video, but I do agree that if you have disabling fear/anxiety you should go see a mental health professional and possibly explore medications. The part of her talk that is very accurate is that without confronting your fears it has a way of ruining your life, costing you opportunities, happiness, and a sense of peace. If you cannot figure it out on your own, go seek professional help. At the end of the day, you deserve to be happy, authentic, and centered.
Real anxiety is very hard to conquer, you are paralyzed and can't even move. I found that anti depressants are a big help and meditating. Stay away from alcohol believe me I know.
...and caffeine.
... And nicotine
What anti depressants work for you may I ask?
She helped me. There is something to be gained from everything and if you didn't derive something useful/she didn't help you personally I invite you to get over it.
Amber 180 😂👏👌🏻
Really wonderful personal experience to fight fear. Thank you so much for presenting and sharing your experience that is very much useful!!
Amazing! You are an inspiration to me. I'm a worrier. Will work on being a warrior.
Angela Ceberano>>>> You got a beautiful bud Ange! And a beautiful soul...
The thing is there's so much stigma and shame associated with anxiety and depression and mental disorders, so much so that those living with have an added worry on top of what they already endure. Those who don't have it never understand or appreciate how profoundly it affects a person.... We need more awareness....
It is sad that the fears and anxieties that most TED speakers talk about are common and normal fears. And there is a tendency for them to IGNORE talking or even just mentioning anxieties and fears that are clinically diagnosed. So, without really intending to, they appear to be trivializing such anxiety disorders or making such disorders look like they don't exist. I am not suggesting that clinically diagnosed fears and anxieties can be overcome after hearing one or a few talks.
What I am suggesting is that they get people who were clinically diagnosed and who got well, talk about how they did it and what methods worked best. There are tons of people out there in the world who are in desperate need of such assistance, INSPIRATION, and some uplifting. I am not also trivializing normal or common fears. But neither should TED talk organizers ignore the great need of clinically diagnosed victims of anxiety and fears who hardly have people who support them, for they are hard to cope with. These are the victims who usually have to face rejection by their loved ones and loneliness. They need help the most.
God bless us all.
I love that you’re conquering your fear and it’s inspiring ❤️⭐️ thank you
probably one of the most helpful videos on youtube in regards to Anxiety.
A lot of people talking about anxiety on here are super cliche.. and say a lot of humdrum things. But this actually helped me evoke emotions that change my mind about anxiety.
What an amazing display of how Class, Beauty, and professionalism can nurture the hungry soul. The content fed the mind and spirit. You are Gorgeous.
Thank you so much for this talk, Angela! It's helped a lot and given me not just ideas for tackling fear, but also a way to take away its power. Good luck for your and Phil's careers!
Being rich and beautiful gives you the luxury of worrying about all sorts of things that don't really matter. I mean, the worry is independent of real concerns. It is a result in search of an reason. She's right. Dealing with the worry itself is the necessary effort, not trying to eliminate the less important and endless causes.
My anxiety is getting worse. Lately it’s manifesting in harsh physical symptoms. The right side of my body feels like it’s shutting down. My digestion is a mess, I have vision disturbance. Dizziness. Panic attacks. All on my right side. I’m yet to find a way of breaking free from it.
She is beautiful and successful. I think a lot of these terrible comments are made out of jealousy. I really liked the talk, and felt it was helpful.
Just because her anxiety and fear levels aren’t fully disabling, does not mean they are not valid. It takes a lot of guts to do a Ted talk, and she got up and was vulnerable in front of the whole online world. Great job, and your talk as very useful for those of us who deal with a lower level of anxiety. I could really relate to the work vs personal life scenario.
You are an inspiration! Face your fears and a big BRAVO to Phil!
Wow Angela you were beyond fantastic! As a fellow Aussie & an extremely anxious person by nature, I couldn't be more proud & patriotic to see you up there! (No more of that tall poppy stuff!) If this warrior moment doesn't deserve a new Hermes, Chanel or an LV, I don't know what does! 😉
Thank you Angela Ceberano for the posts.
Such a wonderful talk, thanks for sharing yourself with all of us!!
Congrats for having such a great life. And nice PR over TedX, but it stole my time!
Thank you for the inspiration
Be a fear fighter. Face your fear head on. Be the warrior not a worrier ❤❤❤
Great job, Ange. You were so very poised and eloquent. One would never know you have a fear of public speaking. Your message resonated with me, as I too deal with anxiety and depression. Taking your worries and fears and using them to propel you into new arenas and ventures is a compelling idea. You are such an inspiration. The world is truly your oyster. xo
This is exactly what I needed right now
I agree...... thanks
LOVE the idea of making a hobby out of the very thing you fear...! Bravo, Angela :)
Ange, we are so similar, I have alway had to conquer NO! And I started my YT channel and it helped me speak in front a camera, I to have to speak to a lot of people at work on all different levels and do presentation and YT has helped me so much! Great topic! You are an inspiration!!
Soo proud of you Angela, you did amazing!! xxxx
Angela! Very well spoken and so touching! Thanks for being an inspiration!
Cure for anxiety: The Power of Play. Look it up. Cures EVERYTHING. True story.
it's all well and good if you have some confidence and part of your life is good but other people are completely crushed with barely an I've of strength left. I guess they have to start small but it's so hard! Good talk but all the same not for the really badly affected people...Not to mention if you have depression as well...
Be the warrior not the worrier!! YESS I ABSOLUTELY LOVED THIS AND RELATED TO THIS ON SK MANU LEVELS!! Thank youu!!!!
Fantastic talk, Angela! It's given me a lot to think about in facing my own fears. Thank you for sharing you experiences. 😊
As soon as she mentioned "my husband" I switched off. She has someone to love, someone at home to care for her, she probably knows very little about real anxiety.
I love the idea of a "fear project" I'm going to add that to my list. Thank you for your talk . Well done!
I have GAD, part nature, part nurture in my case. It's a constant struggle. Like the presenter says, it's a bouncing around between excitement and worry. I'm working on learning on how to manage it. It's nice to hear these type of lectures and see how they cope and manage it.
This has actually put me in more anxiety।
Anxiety and fear are two diff things. For a person having anxiety .. getting out of comfort zone is not so easy as that
Love this and i shared it to my friends and family. Now i understand, why I kept jumping from one hobby to the next! 👌👍👏
Im an anxiety sufferer too. I believe her point was mainly about countering the negative thoughts/expectations which actually helps in certain degrees but what really helps is faking happiness whether you are alone or not.
Conquer your fears and you will be happier, it will not work right away but its a slow process, it will work eventually and even if you relapse get up and keep walking as if nothing happened.
Prayers to all of you who suffers from any mental illness, just know you are not alone suffering from this. Here i am same as you all, diagnosed with Generalised anxiety disorder. It will not stay there forever thats for sure 🙏
Thank you!
Ange! You are amazing....I'm going to think of a fear project for myself. Super proud of you! x
Real anxiety will make you disable totally , you can't even stay 10 second steadily it won't let you , your thought will comes and goes in split second ,your decision changes every minutes you can't remain in one place for a bit , how would you fight when you have nothing at all ? What you got is just anxiety monstrous anxiety and its mighty bigger than yourself , i always find myself in this storm , nothing works .
Literal tears. So beautiful and real! Xx
Thank you for encourage 🌻
Great ways to overcome fear and anxiety. Thank you ❤
Gatekeeping anxiety guys? Your emotions are yours, no one is belitteling them, so don't belittle those of others, everyone has a right to feel.
Super super. You gives me a lot of hope. Thanks very much. Because I now live with high functioning anxiety which some times don't let me go out of my room.
Angela, amazing!! So proud of you.. and i cant believe that you have any fair... you talked amazing! Its like.. i dont know.. amazing!!!! It was sooooooo interesting to listen.. good job!!!
YES! Be the warrior! Great video, thank you Angela!
Awesome talk Angie!
This is one of the best TED talks I have ever seen. Well done! Great job. John
You delivered like a true pro. Well done.
Brave and honest. Thank you.
she's so sweet and love how much she loves her husband
This video made me quite anxious.....and depressed 😰
+Faustus
I'm a professional empath and I feel your pain, bro. For help, contact me.....
*#ImaprofessionalempathandIfeelyourpainbro*
Joe Hazelwood - Can you help me? I have no confidence and I'm not brave; people constantly dare me to do things like cross the road, and then call me chicken if I don't do it ;^(
+tasteslikechicken
Sorry bro, I was just joking. I'm not really an empath, but I do feel bad that people are always saying you're 'chicken.' You need to chicken-up and cross that cluckin' road, bro ;)
Wow how amazing! What a contribute to our lives this is. And great to see and Aussie on here 😁🇦🇺 thank you for this amazing life changing talk, with love from Melbourne.
Excellent points, very well made - Thank You!
If you struggle with fighting fear and anxiety, just remember that most of us aren't born with confidence. We learn it and so can you :)
Good on you Ange - you were fantastic!! I have struggled with anxiety for years but you've made think that I can use it as a driving force and not something to try and run away from - so thank you :)
Thank you