The Power of Zero Tolerance | Isabelle Mercier | TEDxStanleyPark
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- čas přidán 13. 06. 2016
- 95% of North Americans either go to bed or wake up worrying about something. Yet, worrying is the #1 killer of creativity, performance and dreams. When revolutionary brand strategist Isabelle Mercier-Turcotte discovered “What we tolerate we worry about,” she realized a little structure brings a lot of inner flexibility and freedom. The result is her simple yet powerful model to help you instantly decrease worry and increase peace of mind.
Isabelle Mercier - isabelle@leapzonestrategies.com - is a ‘no-nonsense’ dynamo born to catapult passionate entrepreneurs to build infectious and impactful brands, businesses and lives.
This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at ted.com/tedx
"Worry is the interest you pay in advance for a debt you may never owe."
That's brilliant.. I may make some art with that, as the basic concept .. if that's ok..
"If you never say NO to what you don't want - you will never have the energy to say YES to what you DO want..." very good
Very true.... I've start doing that after three years long sickness, and I'm surely more at ease with meself. no beating around the bushes , no excuses, just sorry I had no willing to do that. or no thank you.. its had calmed me down, I'm more serene and so rewarding...
I don't see the logic in this, but I guess it sounds oke...
@carieyoung1 I agree. At the undilluted core, the concept borders on the profound. Good advice at ANY time.
@@4DAcademy It doesn't have to make sense in order for people to clap and cheer. It just has to give you the feels. Nevermind that it's nonsense!
carieyoung1 Sounds good but it’s NOT True for everybody
My name is Stephanie and I was also the bully at my school. I am so sorry to anyone who felt my wrath. I was isolated within my own family due to my mother's rejection of who I was. My sadness & loneliness manifested into anger & ruthlessness. I hope that anyone I hurt has healed and went on to meet life with nothing but acceptance and success.
Ditto , bully light
It takes courage to take responsibility for your behavior like that. Props.
Awe thank you!! God Blessyou Steph!!!
Good job, Steph. Keep up the good work on yourself. We'll get there someday 😊
-fellow bully
Well I see a pattern here...
This talk really pushed me forward to try and break away from a toxic friend that's been causing me worry for years. So thank you, because I really needed this inspiration.
brrylln same, all the TED talks are really inspiring !
BRAVOOO good to you
How did u end up
Just be like me and have no friends.
hobs - I recently ended a long friendship turned toxic for the last five years and it is so incredibly liberating, like a weight lifted off me. Life immediately improves.
Advice from a man turning 102 years old:
"What is the secret to a long life such as yours?"
" 2 things:"
"1. Love what you do."
"2. Don't worry. It never healed anyone and it
will make your body sick."
to not worry about ANYTHING seems like a bad advice
Ok,then worry
@@VictorAndradaMusic 😂😂
@@HaiTran-qd9iq What I've noticed, is that when people worry, they don't take action. It seems to reduce their ability to problem solve.
Thank you. 😊
TED Talks are totally giving me the education I didn't have as a child ! I'm so glad I can speak and understand English as a Frenchy ahah !
Marion MetathInk You are so right.
"J'suis pas icitt!" Et dans ma tête "Oh mais elle vient du Québec c'est certain!"
True. Me too
pareil ;-)
@@johannieblais8029 Bretonne ^^
Dont be afraid to speak your truth
-what you tolerate you worry about
Jhena Bee we don’t get our own truth .. truth just is.
So easy to say.
@@Lyrakill we do get our own truth.
The way she delivers her message is incredible with her level of energy and enthusiasm....I loved it.
im worrying because im watching this instead of doing a research paper...
EmPit13 Same here LOL
I have a report to write and it's like 20 pages
One year later, someone else is watching this instead of writing an assignment lol
Sameee. Escapist activity
Me, is doing this instead of reading research paper😂
Watching inspirational tedtalks make me happy and bring me back to what I really feel is important when I feel lost
Christina Fernandez you are absolutely right. These speeches are helping me so much.
Christina Fernandez, Absolutely true.
Truth. Trust you gut.
I love her charisma and edge and the ability to present herself so interestingly charming than most ted talkers. Taking notes 📝
iluvubb247 😂--also taking notes
Same here 😂
no, shes not. she's boring
Her grooming hasn't improved since nine.
40% never happens
30% already happened
12% health worries
10% petty things
8% actual true worries
My mom says: "99 percent of what we worry about will never happen" ~ a good reminder!
@@praisegod3768 sounds priviledged but ok
"Worry is the interest you pay in advance for a debt you may never owe."
@@sabserab Or maybe it’s wise. We can’t trust much of what we think. Especially if you have anxiety.
Easier to worry than actually do the work.
Isabelle....your speaking style and humour make it seem that you were meant to "live" on such a stage! Well done.
Thanks Gurdeep. I had a blast ;-)
Exactly.
They say third times a charm, I have pass my step 1 finally🎉🎉 for all my repeat test takers don't give up and don't be discouraged.
I failed 3 times, i lost money to reviews that never helped but the major thing is that I've not lost hope
You will pass Every one has their own season,just keep going pray and believe you will receive
@@sarahmatt1176 I'm sorry about your plight my friend but i was once in your shoes before i was recommended to Mrs Catherina Moore and that's how i passed My USMLE Steps exam
I only studied a lot when i went for the first time last year but the second time was so easy, all thanks to my aunt who introduced me to Mrs Catherina Moore am really grateful
I have sat for USMLE Step 1 Exam for the 4th time now and still failed, i guess licence isn't meant for people like me😭😓😭😭
Where is the "I love it" button?!
Thanks Ricardo ;-)
yeah..wasnt that incredibly good? thats exactly what i was thinking ,that it s so much superior than the norm,so alive n real
@@Isabelle-Mercier-LeapZone you rock! ❤️
Exactly. Blessings to you.
this woman is sunshine!!
amy bastian
Sigh. Can we not do that?
I really enjoyed this TED talk - I thought it was smart, funny, insightful and honest. The part that stuck with me the most was: "If you can't say no to what you DON'T want, you'll never have the time or the energy for what you DO want." Awesome!
Great talk :)
Yup! I remember when my mom first told me that...I stuck with me too...it's VERY powerful when you apply it in everything you do. Thanks for sharing Claire ;-)
Hygs. Z
Not avoiding, is exhausting as well! I was bullied ....from my first school, my family (no family protected me)...to school (no teacher defended me), work (no manager supported me). My patients loved me, my family members loved me...but I never had any defense. Up tp two years ago, bullied by the healthcare system that left me to die. I survived, and then still got no help. I never EVER enabled a bully. Don't think I am boasting and all proud, because while I can thank God for the strength and fortitude, I wasn't unscathed - a lot of abuse FOR not going along with the bullies. Excellent though, agree about the "smart" deVICEs which I believe was one of THE worst inventions. SocialistDistancing 101. Very,very good. Thank you :)
wow!! inspirational!! keep going on buddy
If you have no goals and/or aspirations than you worry. A daily/weekly checklist with the things you both want & want to accomplish. Don't live worrying about what others have planned for you(i.e...ur boss, family, etc.) Worry about accomplishing your goals.
I've experienced that, when a week feels like a month of suffering. Everything was toxic with the person I'm with before, I am just glad that I had the courage and strength to get out of that relationship.
It feels like a never ending cycle
This reminds me of a book of "Boundary" in which it teaches us say "no".
Thanks Isabelle.
That book series changed my life..I had a hard time saying no..
Ellie SB Kim Hi. Is the actual name of the book actually "Boundary?" I would like to purchase this.
Boundaries by Henry Cloud
Second time in two days I'm seeing this recommendation.
@@MichL_71 it's a sign
Wow. That is quite an interesting insight. "What we tolerate we worry about". Means we aren't taking action. I suddenly see worry as a friend, just getting my attention to do something about what I'm tolerating. Like a light on the car dashboard indicating I need to make an adjustment. Cool. That is quite a paradigm shift.
Your talk saved my relationship. I can't thank you enough.
Marianne. I am humbled and honored.
Marianne J. Nesmith happy to hear that
Yes I know it could save my marriage as well . 😉
Could you elaborate as to how this saved your relationship, please?
Lance , in one day I gained CLARITY regarding what I was tolerating. I am no longer paying for things that are not my responsibility. I am sharing clef at how much I've been tolerating . I'll practice for ninety days and check back . 🙃😜😉😌
nothing in the world is worth of your peace of mind
Exactly.
That seems to be a bit selfish.
@@walidchtioui9328 is it selfish to care about your own mental health?
@@mahaswetadas7260 That is not what I meant, I should've clarified.
I think it is possible to take care of your mental health without becoming apathetic to what is happening around you.
@@walidchtioui9328 I was saying this on the reference that not all battles need to be fought.
This has changed my life ....My God, i over worried about almost everything, thank you so much. I was almost surrounded with negative energy all day long and it was draining me but didn't know how to go about it. you've saved a whole life here
This ted talk, is confirmation for me to do, what I've been wanting to know for so long. I had to be the bigger person and tonight i sent the message. I embraced the hero in me today. No more worrying 🤓
I had difficulty saying to no to my family, and they weren't a big fan of me saying no. They don't want any trouble from their kids, but they also don't want to be accountable for fishy requests that got me in to trouble.
So, 20+ years later, I had it. And I took control, and established boundaries.
She is so charismatic. I am absolutely in love with this woman. Thank you so much for sharing, this is what I am really needed today.
Hearing her voice without watching the video feels totally different
What a FANTASTIC message that every single person needs to hear. Tolerate = worry; such a simple formula that when embraced, can make the difference between success and failure. Great delivery, very funny but not in a way that dilutes the important message. Congratulations on your successful TEDx Stanley Park talk Isabelle! You truly are "Built to Rock"!
Thanks David. Build To Rock...all the way ;-)
What an amazing woman and an such an inspirational talk.
Thanks Jennifer. It's takes one to know one ;-)
@@Isabelle-Mercier-LeapZone
You're both amazing and inspirational!
You're real heroes.....
Thank you Jennifer. Your commend means a lot to me ;-)
Love it !! Thank you for this ! Another good one is “ people only come to you because they know you will say YES every time even if you don’t want to . So your yes doesn’t really mean squat to them, but if you learn to say NO, when you do say YES finally they will feel special because they know you want to help them this time which means way more to them 💙
Very compelling video about worry. I like "what you tolerate, you worry about." Kill worry with decisive action.
Tx Isabelle, this is one hell of a powerful talk.
Tx Marjorie. I had fun delivering it and I learn A LOT about myself in the process.
Ester perdê-lo
I like u
Marjorie J. Renn only if you put it into practice :) Good luck blossom
Isabelle Mercier-Turcotte ... I discoevered this talk quote by chance but at a real struggle in my life. I just brought a book to help me lay out the steps in to succeed. Thank you, Ms Mercier-Turcotte. This has been a breath of fresh air. :)
What a privilege to be there live to witness this talk!!
Loved loved loved having you there. Experiencing this great moment with you was a total treat ;-)
I have a ritual of talking to God every day through out the day. I cast all my worry on God who cares about my life. He gives me wisdom to handle things and sometimes directs me to listen to Ted Talks. I listened to Harriet today and she talked about apology ...it was really englightening...so is yours ! thank you !
Great speech and energy, Isabelle! I loved every minute of your wisdom, character, and humor.
This brought tears to my eyes. Beautifully said. So empowering. I WILL OWN THE HERO IN ME! And I will not tolerate anything or anyone that dose not serve me greatness because greatness is what I deserve! Thank you Isabelle Mercier for this!
I don't know how i land here, but thank youtube for provide me this brilliant talk. I've seen many talks latlely and this one is in my top 3. That was all that I needed to hear. Thanks a lot Isabelle Mercier-Turcotte .
Natan Moreira what are the other two?
man, this is what I needed as a teenager... but growing up in the 90's we did not have youtube or TED Talks... todays youth is SO lucky
I could listen and watch you talk all day
Thank you Rach...what do you love about it?
Loved this Isabelle! Wrote down some good notes. :) My favorite points were ritualize and schedule a date with worry - realizing it's 92% unnecessary anyway. You have such a loveable personality too. Thank you for sharing :)
You are very welcome Rachel and thanks for taking the time to connect with me and sharing your gems...I really appreciate it ;-)
thank you Isabelle. I really needed to hear this tonight.
Great talk and I particularly appreciated the way in which you admitted to still worrying yourself.
In Buddhism there is this idea that "what you turn your mind to you become"and I very much paralyse myself with worry much of my life.
Learning to live in the moment and put worries aside for later is a very good thing.
Never thought I'd be writing one of *those* comments but... man, If only I had heard this when I was a kid.
I love LOVE the line what you tolerate you worry about.
I was bullied as a child...thanks for sharing.
You are welcome Carolina. Yes...there is NOTHING pleasant about being bullied...AND...not tolerating it is the first step to freedom. You rock!
Carolina R. Smith
Same here...but by family as we, which turned into co-workers later. It follows you until you stop tolerating it internally. Amazing how deep those wounds can do, no? xo
Abused at home bullied by a teacher and pupils 7th-8th grades
I would say one of the best Tedtalk I have ever watched. First time I listened to it was a couple of years ago. It changed my tolerance to bs and I value myself a lot more.
This is awesome and very well told! Love your style and you do look free from worries! My father was a worrying person until the day he died. He worried about his children, family, loved ones, even the politics and the country, so we, as the children, have to make him not worry. I quit that cycle because it was manipulative and I don’t want to hide things just to make him not worry. I was hated big time by the family when I told the my truth. Felt guilty a bit but I felt free and liberated to be me and live my life. It is my life, his happiness is his responsibility, not mine.
This is so deep. "What you tolerate, you worry about."
Wow!!!
So true! After I going though separation from my ex, my "appointment's with worry" was my therapy I had for a year. Talking about everything that I was upset about and going through used to make me feel worse. I felt relieved when it ended. Going to the gym during that year was very therapeutic and empowering. Also, saying "no" to toxic people. 💪
Amazing TED talk, thank you!🙌❤☺
Isabelle's passion and amazing energy is contagious and addictive - simply amazing
When she said to treat ourselves as good as we treat others. It hit so hard in me.
"what you tolerate you worry about.... when you say yes and you really want to say no. what you tolerate will always sooner or later, drive you to worry"
that's why Jesus says let your yes be yes and your no no
These individuals really need to grow up yes if that's what you want to do... And no to things you don't agree with or unacceptable behaviour it really is that simple and the sooner we learn this lesson the better our lives will be.
2021! She was so engaging and so inspiring! Just in time with what im experiencing!WorryHolic!
Love her hair and looks!Thank you Isabelle and Ted Talk!You Rock!
J'ai été surpris d'entendre quelque chose d'aussi familier dans un ted talk! Content d'y voire un québécoise!
Teedjay Gendron Moi aussi! J'adore reconnaitre d'autres quebecois parler en anglais
"Do not be afraid to speak your truth" That's exactly what I did 7 weeks ago before I handed in my notice of resignation after 11&1/2 years as a financial controller of a private co., instead of slaving long hours for another 6 months to implement a new system with no guarantee of a promised pay rise. Bloody Amazing feeling to take back one's power when your boss denies your request for a review & attempts to discredit you 'as a person' to justify his decision instead of judging my "impeccable work" performance. Yes you read that right "impeccable..." - and those were his words.
A wise man once told me "If you wake up tomorrow morning, and you think 'Gee, I'm glad I worried about that!' then it was worth the worry... if you worry about something, think "will I be happy to have worried about this tomorrow morning," dismiss that thought and do something that makes you or others happy instead.
I'm always seen as someone who observe zero tolerance, which my family and friends find it quite annoying. Sometimes, I feel I'm being mean to others because of this, so it's nice to know from this talk, that all this while I was doing justice to myself for a worry free life (:
Beaming from ear to ear.....thank you Isabelle...it's for you:) Love it.x
Today I spoke my truth and got rid of such a weight !!! THANK YOU.
I'm glad I stumbled upon this eye opening message a few days ago. I've been very stressed about a project I was asked to volunteer for. At first I was in but once I started to get more information about it and start to work with the team I had this guy feeling inside of me telling me I wasn't feeling it and that I didn't want to do it.
But I didn't listen to myself and tried as hard as I could to force myself into it but deep down, I knew I was forcing myself (and not in a good way).
It was litteraly consuming me with worry.
So today I decided I was going to be brave and SPEAK MY TRUTH, be HONEST.
And guess what ??? The person I spoke with was really understanding and kind and thanked me for my honesty.
I am so happy that I took the decision to be honest. Now I feel so relieved and I feel stronger.
What a charismatic woman!
I was feeling really low. Your talk helped me through. Thanks a ton :)
Fantastic! Merci Isabelle! My mother made me embrace my hero within when I was around 12 yrs old, and I am also forever grateful. Love your energy, your passion and your humor!
Things are never as bad as we think and they will never be as good as we want them .to be !!!! so we just gotta take things day by day and appreciate the life we are blessed with .
I worry about everything. Your talk is really good, it opened my mind
and this is how it's done!
LOL! Thanks Mary!
Absolutely brilliant how she connect with the audience.
Absolutely loved this video! Thanks for the inspiration. I've had quite a bit of worry and I think it's time to make an end to all these unnecessary worries
i love the way she present her speech !
Love this talk in every way possible. Thank you.
Wow empowering changed my prospective. Im one of those who always finds herself saying yes and constantly worrying the outcome or why i have to always. Working out of those habits that do contribute towards worrying. Amazing talk!! 👏
One of my favorite episodes of all times. I re-watch it from time to time as it is a fantastic reminder 😊
I just found this. It's my birthday 05/21/22 and this was exactly what I needed to hear. LOVED IT!!!
I love talks like this one, where the speaker is sharing the wisdom that they learned from life. Be true to yourself, and don’t tolerate anything less than that from yourself.
Thanks for this talk, Isabelle. I am a therapist and I can definitely use some of these ideas with my clients. Great stuff!! :-)
Same here!!! Hello my fellow change agent👋🏾
What an energy Isabel has!! 😍 Impossible to worry after SUCH speech!!
A power-packed presentation - tons of take-aways. Thank you, Isabelle!
I so needed this right now. Thank you ❤
Very inspirational
Loved your presentation!!!😃 Some of my friends tell me all the time that I worry too much. I’m definitely going to take what you suggested to heart, and start working on changing that negative aspect about myself. ❤️🌺
Stumbled across this....an absolute game changer! Thanks Isabelle for your words of wisdom. Merci!
Imagine having to go through this with your older brother
Congratulations!! One Million plus!!!
Thank you so much Isabelle. You're giving me the courage to go have a very serious talk with my parents now.
We’ve met today and Isabelle has the same driven energy as 6 years ago. Success is a commitment without worries…
Oh how I needed this talk right now ..Very insightful and a down to earth charismatic lady delivering it .Thank you
“Do not be afraid to speak your truth.” 👏
I can’t hit the like button enough. This is something I need to forward to my entire family, to my kids and hear a couple times til I get used to not tolerate the things I know I will worry about if I do. She is brilliant.
Thoroughly enjoyed your worry speech! Great job! Thank you!
Worry comes from the ego. Unconditional love comes from the soul. And when you get in touch with your soul, you will learn your self worth,your value as a divine being, and you find you have no need for worry. This is a great talk, thanks for sharing!
So well spoken! Kudos!
AMAZING! Many Blessings Isabelle (and mother) and Thank you TEDx❤️❤️❤️
One of the best talks ever. Thank you.
Hoje nem imaginava ouvir esta palestra, tinha a intenção de estudar, mas algo anda me impedindo, acorrentando. Após ouvir esta mulher tão intensa, divertida e principalmente, fez com que eu percebesse meu ¨problema¨. Preocupações inúteis que atrapalham o raciocínio, a coerência e o que realmente importa na vida de cada um de nós. Parabéns, Isabelle, amei a palestra.
So happy to see a Québecoise on the stage! Great talk Isabelle!
amlafontaine ouii jme demandais si elle était Québécoise:D
Oh bin oui elle vient de parler francais lool
One of the best TED talks that I’ve ever heard!
One of the best TEDx Talk I've watched. God bless you more!
The most inspirational talk I've ever heard. Bless you wherever you are.
Anastasia G. Thank you soooo much for taking the time to comment. I am on Vancouver Island and loving it ;-)
I LOVE her hair, her outfit, her showcasing that tattoo AND what she’s saying. She’s being herself and I love it. Also love the shoes. 😊
Very deep. I think more people need to listen to this amazing woman. Thank you Isabelle.
She has such a great personality!! Best talk I've seen