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It is NOT good advice to tell a drunken man that is in a rage to leave the house at all ! The safest thing is to either go to your bedroom if you don’t think he will bother you after that and if he follows you around the house verbally abusing you still then YOU GET OUT THE HOUSE ! This is a dangerous situation and can end up getting physically violent ! Please don’t take advice from this lady I know she means well but her advice can leave you in serious harm x

Still blaming the addict and no codependency accountability. Sad and victim mentality.

i feel for a 48 year old alcoholic woman. i’m 60 . she hooks up with random men and twice at rehab. abs once even in front of me . men that are 30 to 35 . i live alone on a yacht with my dog and sailed away . but she wants to come now and hooked up days ago with a young guy from rehab. this fries my head . i can’t do her anymore

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My mom divorced my dad in 1974, best day of her, our lives! Dad later apologized since we (to grown kids) got the brunt of it. I appreciated the apology.

I was with my alcoholic fiance for 2 years going back and forth with her at least 10 times because she would promise to get sober! So every time I went back it would be the same thing over and over. I also went back because of her potential. I fell in love with a great women who was sober, but when drunk my heart would just fall out. It’s heartbreaking 💔. I finally had to leave as my mental health was taking a dive. I just wanted to help her so much but it’s just time to go

I was with an alcoholic addict for 2 years off and on. What brought me back to her every time was her saying she would get sober and change and I believed it. But every time I went back she would start again. I also loved when she was sober and the potential and hope for her which I loved. But every time she would drink my heart would just drop and I couldn’t take it anymore. I finally left but it’s so hard to not go back to her because of the what ifs. If she gets sober at I going to miss out. So heartbroken 💔

I love my wife but she HATES herself. She yells at me for not wanting to have sex with her (i never say that and its not true) in reality she is angry because she hates that the drinking has blown her up to 260 lbs. 115 when we got together I still stay, I love her and our children way to much to leave.

I'm practicing self-care which can be hard, since at times I feel depressed. After 36 years I alternate between disgust anxiety & anger towards my husband. Thankfully in 36 years I've learned not to let him point the finger toward me regarding his alcoholism & addictions or for his reprehensible behavior. I've learned that if he's going to say he wants to find someone else to have sex w/bc "I don't give a s** about him," it would be really hurtful but I refuse to have him be nice for 1 hour until he gets his way, then have him be the disgusting high functioning drunk that he is

This video touched me. I am 4 years in and finally walking away. 6/5 is the final hearing. I am overcome by shame and embarrassment that I stayed and married him knowing he may have a problem. I walk away with nothing but myself which is supposed to be a good thing but it isn’t. I feel I wasted 4 years of my life. I am torn because he chooses alcohol and his enabling family over me. I just feel so alone and wondering why God would allow me to endure this. Please pray for me.

Spot on Michelle! Thank you for your words of wisdom. I’ve been listening to you for over 6 years. I have experienced all three with my husband and your words gave me the self confidence to finally leave. I have never been happier and I live for me:)

So much for "in sickness and in health". I bet the Husband is doing way better without her.

Thank you Michelle you saved my life last year.

Absolutely. Everytime I exercise boundaries my husband calls me a woke feminist.

Wow this is beautiful thank you so much

Thank you for sharing Michelle ! I never get sick of hearing you tell us we need recovery too! I definitely have/had co-dependancy issues. YES, do your own healing. It's not being selfish, it's self preservation. ❤

Also, it's not a 'dIsEaSe'. It's that they have bad character and very limited morals. Addiction is no more a 'dIsEaSe' than stupidity is.

Don't trust them. Just leave the relationshit.

Thank You!!!👏👏👏🌹😘God Bless

I married in '94. I thought drinking neat whiskey for a guy in his mid-20s was strange. But he was charming, a good dad, a good provider.... but as a tea-totaler I became the designated driver with the kids sleeping in the back, him passed out in the passenger seat. He was being a responsible man since he wouldn't drive drunk. He'd drink ice-cold beers after cutting the grass. Weekend barbecues with friends/family were the perfect time to drink and pass out and be out of commission the entire Sunday. The girls and I would spend sundays alone. I now realize he was a functioning alcoholic. He gave me the silent treatment from 2018 and the verbal abuse began. My girls told me to make a decision, so I left in 2021, divorced 2022. Now my adult daughters (in their late 20s) only see their dad.... I've started over 🌈but I lost my girls. I pray they see the light🙏❤️❤️

Some of this sounds good. But in every instant you apologize to the drunk spouse. I don’t agree with that.

I wish I could like this video a thousand times and keep it posted somewhere I could easily rewatch it. Can't believe someone else has gone through this and thinking the same thoughts as me. Its been so hard and isolating.

No, I don’t trust my functioning alcoholic husband. Thank you for highlighting how action is what I must look for. Because his words are not trustworthy

Help. I'm in an alcoholic relationship. It's so painful

Thank you Michelle

first off.. telling a drunk he has to leave his house isn't gonna fly !!

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I think survivors get caught up on boundaries, but abusers are intend on overstepping and destroying boundaries no matter how good we are at upholding them. We can't blame ourselves for the actions and choices of others.

Thank you Michelle for sharing all these thoughts. It helps so much to listen to you.

This is the second time I watch this in the span of almost 3 years. Thank you for sharing your story. I’m still trying to get the courage and financial stability to leave 😢 thank you so much ❤

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Ummm it's been a while lol that's awesome! Glad to hear your voice....your voice has helped me through some really dark times. Thank you for being a light 🕯️😊

Thank you for helping me get through This moment. And, 10:30 on- tearfully received encouragement.

Great advice.....my codependency helps me be a good caregiver but I make a point to meet regularly with personal friends that love me for me not family or job. I can unload and separate myself from people that can't give back.

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Omg!!!!! Welcome back

Welcome back! I missed you!

The "what would you tell a friend" thought activity is great for me when I get stuck in my emotions about a problem ❤

He pegged you as easy victum because you were smart, strong and successful. He broke you down and bound you like he was an evil spirit for ten years. You finally broke free!❤

Yes thankyou 🙏 for your story ♥️

24 years and here I am

Is she for real, throwing away an addicts drugs, is a very bad idea.. you might even get killed, no exaggeration . What a stupid thing to broadcast. I hope no child of an addict does that. I dread to think of the outburst it would cause, if an addict has suddenly realised he has no fix, especially when withdrawing symptoms.. drugs are so hard to get ,depending on the time of day . Trust me no exaggeration, never do what that idiotic woman has advised . She should of been saying, if there is children in the house, then get rid of the addict, which is the main source of everything ... Idiot presenter

I was just informed statistics say it takes at least 7 times before the victim leaves 💔 I'm finally out

Thank you for this. I really needed this 🩷

“Even if I’m alone” so true!!!!! Oh my goodness. That’s where I’m at just now

I am in awe ❤ your strong and beautiful and well done for doing it for babies and yourself :)

The entitled woman says..., " I was worried that I might possibly, have to get a job! ". I mean, other people should have to work and take care of me. I shouldn't have to work... What a disgusting individual.

What if you are being disrespected through a series of text messages… what should I do?

This podcast is amazing

What if you ask them to leave and they say "no, you leave."