Interview: He Used His Child To Manipulate Me

INTERVIEW: HE USED HIS CHILD TO MANIPULATE ME // Have you ever felt like you're on a rollercoaster ride because of your loved one's addiction? Lots of ups and downs and uncertainty of what's ahead.
So why do we stay on that ride (or keep coming back)?
Tune in to this new podcast episode to hear a woman explain how her ex-husband used their child to manipulate her and how she found herself in a financially abusive marriage. But despite everything she's been through, she's now healthier and happier than ever, thanks to the work she's done for her own healing.
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[@lisasutherland6084]

So far, I'm at 15 minutes into this and in shock at myself. "I wish you were a better man" the idea of him being what I want and need and can SEE, if he would just see what I do. The potential, the right way to have it to be. 15 minutes in, and paused and went to find and listen to this song. ❤️
Then, immediately the financial situation. An exact mirror. Nothing..is in my name alone. Nothing. I alone, have no assets. I am at moment a housewife, due to closing down my daycare temporarily because of this emotional situation and the pandemic. Our mortgage, utilities, my cell, everything is paid by my high functioning Alcoholic. I feel..sick. I feel absolutely overwhelmed to how I live everyday and am sincerely.. desperate. I've worked so so hard this past full year and a half to dig so deep and I'm trying so hard for these changes for me. And they are being met horribly with negativity, disrespect , now verbal abuse(name calling to me) and minimizing my worth and value to him("all I do is stay in the house and drink coffee all day") and 2x he got physical when I made motion to record him on my cell, To show him how he is to me when drunk. (That happened in August).I see now I hold onto the vision of someone he "could be" but listening to this...Isnt.
I keep my home absolutely spotless and organized and I feel I must control this because I have no control. I am feeling SO actually broken because this is me and this shows me further how badly I need to keep trying hard to put the focus on myself. I am NOT HAPPY and I've tried to detach here. It's the most difficult daily task and I am so so grateful for this is interview. So grateful. It gives me some hope. For myself. I am in constant anxiety and emotions and as much as I'm trying hard to wait financially, my voice says don't. Things happen for a reason, and when your guest spoke of going to the bathroom, cried and prayed asking for a sign, I did the exact same thing 2 nights ago when I was again devalued and minimized of my worth here, and when I answered calmly that I do not want to be in the presence of him drunk, he reminded me he pays for everything and will drink how much he wants .and where.
Today, I know this..I want peace. I need and want happiness and I'm the one to look to for this. Thank you for this interview today. As much as I feel so alone in this pain, it helps me to know that I am NOT ALONE and that other people have felt exactly the same.

[@bluethyme]

I hope you make it out of the unhappiness and pain as soon as you can

[@lisasutherland6084]

@@bluethyme thank you truly for caring. I will find my courage

[@loveoveraddiction54]

Hi Lisa - you're definitely not alone. And be sure to give yourself lots of grace. Taking baby steps for moving forward with your own healing and future will be so important. You've got this. We know it can feel overwhelming sometimes, but you'll get it figured out little by little. We're sending you many supportive hugs xoxo

[@lisasutherland6084]

@@loveoveraddiction54 thank you for this encouragement❤️

[@mindyasmrvacs2201]

Listening to this, and my husband says I'm going to let it get to my head

[@dianaclapp8779]

Thank you ❤😢