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Really needed this today. You are a blessing!

My family does not respect healthy boundaries with me. Do you have any suggestions as to how to get through to them?

Sticks and stones may break my bones but words may break my heart.

Thank you for sharing your heart and your story. I am a year out from a 11 year narcissist abuser alcoholic marriage. Your information has helped me so much. Good boundaries and good byes gave me knowledge and the strength I needed to get out.

I Believe Proverbs 31 doesn't have to be limited to a Woman, but The Church is also The Bride of Christ and Christ is The Bride Groom, I like where Proverbs 31 says She Considers a Field and Buys it and Plants a Vineyard and Stretches out Her Hands Towards The Poor and Needy, that is something Men can do also, not just Women, Amen?

Did she write a book??????????😮 I need this (story) knowledge

My husband and I have a good marriage of 54 years. A few rough when young. My parents joined a cult religion when I as 4, 70 years ago. I have 4 siblings, one brother the 3rd child. My sister next to me in age died 2 yrs ago from a fall from a life of drugs and alcohol. Dad was verbally and emotionally abusive. Very controlling as was the religion. Dad rose in the denomination to a position similar to a pastor. We kids all left the cult in our own timing. I being oldest left very young and got on my own. I read every book I could read on toxicity. I married a Christian man but didn’t accept religion for several years scared of them. Finally found Jesus to be real and accepted Him when I was 30. All my siblings accepted Jesus after that. My brother began to preach AT us . We were in wrong place. My hubby was raised Baptist. Bro wanted to argue over trivial. Dad loved to argue and be domineering. So does my brother. It’s so twisted he thinks he has authority to tell his sister what to do. This is just minor but when our sister was dying my younger sister texted us to ask for prayers. Out text back from bro was, you can’t pray without a man present. My sis and I have prayed together for years. I’m sure God has heard our prayers. Bro wants to dominate us girls. This has been going on for years. It’s now coming to a head it’s gotten so bad. Dad died years ago. Mom got seriously ill just before our sister fell. We ended up bringing her to our home on hospice care. Doc said she could not go home. Bro has stayed at their place to watch over them in old age. But he’s never had POA . Our parents assigned the oldest kid, me! Bro has done everything to not cooperate with what needs done for Mom . She was specifically designated her wises. The emotional abuse had ballooned out of control. Bro does not respect mom or me. He told my sis the legal documents mean nothing to him. He should be in control because he’s the man. It’s doesn’t make sense why he takes this stand when his wife has a job that she is the boss over her division. Why’s it okay for her to boss men but his sister can’t do this job both our parents chose many years ago. They had strong reasons for their choice. And we all know the whys! He does too! If is all came out about his past his kids would know him. He’s hidden his life before the big change. And he’s been adamant they should never know. This was crazy talk as No ONE ever said to do such a thing. We all believe in counselors but him. Our son became a doctor of Psychology. When my brother found out what he was studying to do he condemned us all to hell. Said it! I knew years ago this strife was not going to end. Bro doesn’t want it too. He got kicked out of 2 Christian churches for his anger issues. One of his pastors told me to be careful. We were so shocked and dismayed. We, my hubby and I , had given shelter to my brother when he hit bottom in his younger. He lost everything and was sick with addictions. After he got his life better and married we gave them shelter 2 more times. One day he came by hinting of something. I asked him what was wrong. I got blasted with hot anger,,, my husband and I had done it all wrong for him…. No specifics just wrong! I call that day my wake up call! I’ve learned so much since that day. Keeping our relationship cordial has not been easy. Growing up so dysfunctional and not getting help can keep healing from happening. The healing process is on his terms. Be submissive to the man is all there is to it for him. Jesus is my Lord! My husband is the man I answer to. ( my husband sees the issues and sees it from false thinking on my bro part ) He tells me not to ever take bros bait or I’ll suffer. And it’s true! Our kids have not wanted any part of his company for years. I’m done! Some days sad for what could be, but so much abuses, you have to call it quits at this stage. We are old folks now!

It's scary how many men are abusive and manipulative and are cheaters,especially ones who claim to go to church and believe in God!! Not only are non believer men like this,but "believer" men too!! And how many of them make excuses for eachother!!

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I love the song God’s not done with you yet by Tauren wells I feel it

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I loved the book un qualified

Oh my God manifestation

Thank you

I am stuck in a grief loop therapy and prayer have been helping

Y’all

Tall are a blessing do the new you is a book I want read

Thank you Lisa your therapy session in your sermon about learning forgiveness when he said that list what hurt you opposed to what found something positive

Because it’s safe I’m trying and remember I am not alone

I self sabatage

I love this iIm learning this in therapy but I am so insecure thank you for your encouragement

“Hatred is like an acid, it does more damage in the vessel in which it is stored, than to the object on which it is poured” Unforgiveness, anger, bitterness are all forms of hatred.

Wow, this topic was so helpful! I finally can give my trauma a name - Emotional Abuse. I lived it for 4 years with my spouse. I find myself blaming myself, doubting myself, questioning myself, questioning my self worth? My feelings - the effects of emotional abuse are so deep. I experienced physical abuse as well but the emotional abuse has deeply deeply damaged my soul. Seeking healing and light 🙏🏼

Praying for wisdom and strength from God for you🙏❣️

This is so powerful! I am so amazed with these tools . I'm so blessed thank you you guys I needed this !! two years ago after 18 years. I was like in Lisa's footsteps going through the same thing especially my friends saying when are you gonna get over? That's the hardest thing ever but I need to go through it and that's what God said, you got this. We are going to go through this together and it's been so beautiful since my divorce lots of healing lots of peace lots of love and just seeing the beauty of life. I pray this blesses so many women or men going through the same thing up like a divorce separation you know it hurts but there's a way and God's way in counseling

Therapy at theologian I sure will help if I had them both to speak to and help me

The woman’s safety is more important than the man’s safety. That’s why men go to war and the women and children stay back. The valuables are being protected 👩‍👧‍👦

Exactly if it’s destroying my health and there is physical violence then I’m leaving

My husband said I was disrespectful all the time because I didn't listen to his correction. He would use the Bible to try to control me.

This is so what I needed to hear today. I'm walking through alllllllll of this and it is not by accident that I came upon this series. GOD is sooooo goood.

I enjoyed your series on working thru trauma. Can you do one on how to manage ongoing trauma, as in inescapable abusive relationships? I am being held hostage and am enslaved by houseguests that became squatters once I realized they have no respect for my boundaries. I am traumatized by their continual threats to call the sheriff and to sue me every time I do something to protect myself from their further takeover of my house. I have no support outside of my church that laughs when I tell them how I am getting screamed at and chased around by people yelling at me. I can't seem to impress them with how this is killing me. The stronger my language in describing it, the less seriously they take me. My family said they would help me evict the squatters, but after I traveled 3 hours by bus to their house to get their help filing out court papers, I ended up getting screamed at by my daughter-in-law and thrown out at midnight from their house, so I seem to have exhausted all my resources. I am elderly and disabled, and these people are draining my financial resources, making it hard to find any outside help.

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I have so much to say. I'm married to what I 100% believe is a Covert Narcissist. 30 years of marriage. I stay because 1. I don't know if its Biblically right or acceptable by God for me to leave. 2. I have no money and no where to go. 3. If I go, my pets won't be taken care of. I can't find a suitable councilor. The good ones cost money and I don't have any. I went first to the Pastor of our old church about this. He told me I was being Emotionally, Mentally, verbally and even sexually abused and that my husband has broken the marriage covenant. I went to one counseling session in our new church with 2 women who were very kind but insisted that God can change anyone even though most experts, Christian and secular that say most Narcissist cannot change because it takes admitting their guilt and they cannot and will not admit guilt. I thought at one point, after stepping up my prayers for my husband, that he was honestly trying to change but recently, I have proven to be wrong. I slept outside in tbe camper last night because he said multiple hurtful things and wouldn't stop. He follows me around continuing to verbal assault. I feel trapped and no one to talk to. I'm trusting the Lord to help me out in His way and timing. I've seen God discipline my husband and still, my husband refuses to learn from it. Instead he's put on what I believe is a fake Christianese mask. More praying, more talk about God but in between that, he continues to swear, lie, act selfish, brag and of course treat me horribly. Please pray for me. Pray for him too. We are commanded to pray for our enemies. Thank you

I'm waiting for almost 5 years for marriage 😢

So powerful: God Be With Ye. Goodbye

Great insight!!

When I was very young, I had a boyfriend that hit me. Lots of sympathy and support. 10 years later, I married a man who, instead of punching me in the face would punch me in the heart. Absolutely, no sympathy or support. Only amused, reassurance that I was married to a wonderful man. they would not believe that they did not know the man. Only the facade. But how can I condemn them, I had fallen for it too.

Excellent. Practical.

Thank you 🙏

I never hear people addressing when it is live chat porn.

So encouraging I feel like i live this loop way too much

What it the scripture being referenced here? I need it!!!

Thank you for this! This is such a hard topic. In your book "Embraced", Lysa, you gave the perfect analogy on day 60. You described being rejected as having someone you love cutting themself out if a family photo. On purpose! My narcissistic grown daughter did just that. Removed herself from my life. To be honest, I do not miss her toxic behavior. But i do miss my 7 year old granddaughter that I'd kept daily for 5 years. Its been 2 years and seems like still something brings the tears almost every day. I am seeking grandparent visitation through the court system. I pray for my daughter every day that God will soften her hard heart. I would appreciate your prayers. Keep up the good work!❤

verbal abuse is so wrong it goes deep and words are like sharp knife pains.never allow the disrespect in a marriage.

❤best serenity!🙏 Joel has your book come out yet?

I needed to hear this talk

Sometimes I think when these people 'walk away' it is God's protection over us for future glorification of HIM!!! Difficult to think about at the time. Prayers for "fair witnesses to our lives." Finding a genuine, caring community takes lots of prayer & discernment for our own self care.

I very rarely hear discussion around the residual & long term effects of the cessation of a 30 year marriage. I liken it to an earthquake or tsunami with continued aftershocks or layers of pain like layers of an onion. For instance, not only did my former husband abandon our marriage, but he went on to have a child with his affair partner & to rebuild a family unit-while I was left with no family unit or the broken vestiges of what remained with my two adult sons who live in other states (no grandchildren or extended family). I not only lost my life partner but my family unit-and the effects are far reaching & permanent.

This is so good

THANK YOU THREE FOR THIS GREAT AND USEFUL BLESSING! YOU ALL ARE LOVED AND APPRECIATED! GOD CONTINUE TO BLESS AND GUIDE YOU ALL🙏✝️❤