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You changed my life by helping me identify the Narcissist Abuse ( I had never even heard of it ) And now,since i am free of the Narcissist , You've helped me by showing me ways to heal . It's a process . Thank you 🙏

Silent is Golden!

Funny. Not funny. I began recovery with a narcissistic abuse recovery therapist last week. OMG. The healing has been so painful yet the other side is bliss Why do humans make these devil vile creatures.

This is true for BPD as well.

Totally unrelated but you look so beautiful Dr. Ramani

How about also teaching how to NOT raise a Narc

The shelter dog analogy is so keen. We see the dog being abused and we treat the dog accordingly with patience and sympathy. When a human comes out of abusive relationship, they are withheld and can't be showing their true emotions. An abused person can speak of their experiences and be completely ignored. Weird

but if the narcicstik holding it all in hus hands, narcistic wants the devorce and so on...the victum is a real victum...

Here's the dumb part. They push us into therapy by telling us it's our fault, but they're the ones that end up alone because we start setting boundaries and grayrock them. You would think they would be smarter than to cause issues between people and gossip in front of others and for no one to catch on.

This describes my mother, father, sister and her husband, and my kids' father to a T! I am good when they need me and they so-called love me and are engaging and then the next minute that I can't do something for them when I just did a million things for them, they will dismiss me, they will make my life miserable, they will get very verbally abusive, talk horrible about me and behind my back in a group! And that's just to name a few! I just recently realized how narcissistic they all are! I want to find a way to distance myself! 😢

Divorces are EXPENSIVE. Esp if you go to court. Who has money leftover to pay for a therapist??? This is for the rich.

I’m sorry I made you feel like that. If I disrespected you, that wasn’t my intention

I'm an enabler, try to keep the peace, try to stay positive and yes keep the situation 'artificially stable' for the children's sake and for my sanity.

What attracts narcissists is not empathy so much as vulnerability, the shaky self-esteem they can almost sniff out in people. But what stood out for me in this podcast and a surprisingly large number of comments is something else. I'm honestly shocked that a woman could go on and marry someone sge was never attracted to or someone she actually found physically repulsive for any reason or no reason at all. There has to be a deep, deep woundedness inside for a person to override something as basic physical repulsion and choose to become intimate with, let alone marry, a man she's not attracted to. To choose to sacrifice erotic pleasure, as if the pleasure of our bodies were somehow shallow or superficial or unimportant. As a woman, I find this very disturbing.

You have amazing wisdom and discernment

Young children can’t be at fault for things, that’s not how the natural life process works. Children need help with growth, not control or shame to *force* them to be a certain way. I didn’t receive any normal guidance either when I was young. And anyone who has made it to adulthood can count themselves as survivors and be a little proud about that.

What do I do when the narcissist (my sister) is the one who every few years just stops talking to me?

Trash person and liar. She should be in jail by now.

Do narcissist not seek therapy? That would make sense in my ex husband case. I will be in therapy for the rest of my life from his abuse.

One of the therapists asked me about my boyfriend problem with alchool if i m sure that i did not make him to become an alchoolic . That was the last therapy session with her. Vlad(ex boyfriend) had an alcoholic father , a history in his family and he also drinks even today, 20 years later ,therefore, I am not the cause of his alcoholism.my luck that intuition saved me several times from the hands of these therapists who, in fact, don t want you evolve out of the trauma but will keep you in their chair to make money off of you with the help of guilt. Sad but real .I am a little desperate that in my city, i cannot find a good therapist on this traumas because i have the same as Ingrid and I don t see a way out .,I am trying for over 15 years and not very much result .Thank you very much for this podcast ,at list , I know that I am not alone and crazy in this shithole

Here’s the thing people,,, we are all egotistical, narcissistic, selfish, two faced dishonest, mean, cruel, self centered and driven people. Some hide it and control it better than others. Nobody is perfect and have a clean character nobody.

Those are still only words narcs lack empathy so they might say sorry but they don't really mean it

This is not true. Most mental illnesses push others into therapy. Addiction, schizophrenia etc

The Narcissist is often glorified and further enabled and the victim is shamed, which is the biggest problem with society. Luckily Rachel stood up, most wouldnt and that how they get away.

When a narcissist says, "I'm sorry if something I might have said or did hurt you," that is not an apology.

Even if Rachel took meals from her doesnt mean that she couldn't have got conned later, its part of the love bombing, she was trying to help a friend with her card, its very complex. Her telling her story and making money is good so there is awareness that there is people that can do this and their intentions and how they lure your in and get your to trust them, she is doing the opposite of conning, that should be rewarded. Of course the narc wont just say give me $62000 upfront, they will put you in akward position where you feel you dont have much choice, the point is they have no intention to pay it back and took it deceitfully, under false pretence. Rachel told her side and went to law enforcement as she had no other choice! Thats not turning on someoene, if someone done something terrible to you, you will have to turn on them, its you vs them, we all have bills to pay not just the con-person. Too many people are enablers, thats how Annas are born. Good on Rachel, she is brave and showed you dont need the approval of the narcassist and people pleasing does not work. This is the story that should have been glorified.

Nothing can be more truth than this🙏🏽⭐️

OMG

We went into Judges chambers as CA is a state that legally partners split conjoint assets equally. The judge told my ex that is the law and my ex actually said, “ I know and I have special needs!” The judge looked at me understanding what I had dealt with over the years. That was when I recognized my now ex was a Narcissist.

I HATED Dru with a passion! She played the insane villain so well. But maybe she got the inspiration to the role from her parents.. 😢

Narcissist people are so destructive. Thank you for your amazing insight . It probably saved my life ❤

Exactly!!!! My NM and siblings shaming and rejection ….

What if it’s a mother and daughter relationship? If the daughter stopped going to therapy and only wants the mother to go .

Thank God for her mother. Had her mother been narcissistic too she may not be here today. May all beings be free of suffering. ❤

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Therapy makes them worse… they learn new ways to manipulate you and new verbiage to use towards you … nah get away !!!

No he just said I know I hurt you but I didn't mean it.Never said he is sorry.Then the only thing I want from him is I am sorry and then never talk to him again!!

Woman abusers are just as sick as pedophiles

I have a daughter that is a narcissist and I'm pretty sure I'm not a Narc Im a strong empath I keep running into Narcissist men I just met a man from Jamaica 6 months ago and had to run I live in the USA. If I didn't stay awhile there in Jamaica I would not have found out that he is A Narcissist. I knew something was off. I kept sayn no I don't believe this, no, no no Staying in Jamaica for almost a month. The masks came off. I left him Abruptly. He was angry. The curse words the threat. He threaten to burn my house down

When I was 8 years old I watched "Bram Stoker's Dracula" :)))) it was on TV in former Yugoslavia (now Montenegro). All the highly narcissistic people in my family were at some """"party"""", it instantly became my favourite movie of all time (so far).... And "vampire" is considered a Serbian word (although the ancient origin isn't 100%)<<< and none of that is a surprise since the Balkan region is one of the most corrupt and unstable regions in the world :) (lots of vampires in the history of the Balkans :) ).

Thank you. This resonates.

This woman knows exactly what she's talking about. True True True to every word. 👍🤗

i will tell you whats going on. akk of this is planmed. yoi all get together and start saying. whats next. which direction. what do we need answers too. once that is decided. then u implament how to di it. t you know why cause its been something different everry month. if this was my problem then why we barely touhing on this issue. i think this is also to peaj my interest cauae u knoa i am filing

it takes a special person to sit next to that. i was wondering.i never hurt anyone so do u think your going overboard.. can i read my clinical exame

Basically it's the ego getting in the way.

I remember after my mom passed away my narcissistic father told whatever I did I’m sorry basically oh here’s your sorry to band aid the bs your about to go through 😢

😮 I have a question he went silent first so why does it hurt me so bad

❤😅 she's absolutely right I love everything that drama your daughter Randy talks about everyday I listen to her then they also do not know how to say thank you or please you have to remind them to say please and thank you

You can find narcissism in and outside of religion. God didn't make perfect people. I at least know I am far from perfect. I actually wished I was invisible growing up. That definitely didn't work out.

I appreciate you coming out with this Dylan. Now that I'm hearing it from you directly, it makes it more real and now I can let it sink in that I need to change my view of the man I have been a fan of all these years.