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Another brilliant video. 10# Their absence is a relief !!! This says it all when it comes to dealing with toxic people. When they are not around, we don't have to be in "fight or flight" mode any longer.

Brilliant video. When you begin to trust your gut feelings and tap into how other people make you feel both during and after an encounter, you will begin to sense energy vampires more quickly. It actually takes time to recover from having been around such people. Avoid and limit your contact with such individuals or organisations.

My mother was an expert backhanded compliment giver. "All of that exercise must make you hungry. You're nit lising any weight."

Hi from U.K. I am not a JW but I love listening to you. You are such an articulate speaker and it’s fascinating how you deal with the various issues . I will try to find your book too.

I’m estranged from my family because I’m a physically disabled single father who has always had a problem with having a job , and has been on disability for most of my adult life….. although I’m as independent as I possibly can be as a person who has a physical disability most days are very difficult for me….. physically, mentally and emotionally exhausted. Because I’m not working, having held a job for a long period of time ( my family and others look down upon me , especially when in our society our identities are oftentimes equally tied to our jobs and what we provide for others, money and other resources and so on) I grew up in a family where yes they know I’ve got a disability but never really understood how my disability affects my daily life: physically, mentally, emotionally; as well as always trying to compare me to others in society. Where it’s someone else’s who’s more successful in life or someone else who has a worse situation in life than I do. It’s hard to not be accepted because of having a disability that has robbed the life that others “ conditionally expect “ U to have but also trying to make U into the version of what they want you to be so they can accept you as they accept everyone else’s etc.

My parents want my disability charity they will disown me I really can't help that my nieces and nephews have disowned me my parents have disowned me I'm pretty much a black sheep of the family my sister disowned me they said it's my behavior they said unless you improve your behavior we will disown you I ❤the1 be hospitalized for dehydration because I wasn't eating or drinking because I was being screamed at everyday and told I was disgusting and Abomination onto the lord. No one answers my questions they scream in my face like a drill sergeant and tell me they're putting me in prison or an institution for speaking. They say I have no thoughts and opinions I'm not allowed to leave the house they're going to put me in a conservatorship if I speak. Play talk about how much they love my sister's nieces and nephews and they don't love me because I was born disabled in my behavior is terrible and they can't accept it. They said they wanted a normal boy and not a girl with a disability. They scream in my face everyday and browbeat me and I'm not allowed to speak if I speak they threatened to put me in prison

Thanks so much for sharing 💜

Love the name of your channel 😂

All of them resonate. Thank you.

My wife is constantly telling me she'll leave me if XYZ ever happened or if I believed in something different than what she does. My mother was this way growing up. If I didn't express my emotions I would get rewarded.

I used to think love should be unconditional but now know love is a condition, Love in any type of relationship is conditional unless we don't care about morals and standards

My mom suspected I relapsed so when I left the house she went in my room and took the bad stuff out of my room. Is this protecting me or is this a violation of my privacy even though I'm in her house. I know this is a tough one

In a nutshell, I come from a difficult, dysfunctional and psychologically abusive relationship with my father who was a covert narcissist and had robbed me of my self-worth, I was homeless with him for a very long time during my upbringing and never had a good home life growing up. I managed to escape that and had to go great lengths to get away from him. I went to go be with my extended family that had found me on the internet, they thought I was a gift from grandma that passed away, I genuinely felt that I would belong with them and I thought they felt same way, but unfortunately, I guess they didn’t. What seemed like a gift from the universe, just turned into something that only contributed to my psychological and emotional wounds, I was only with them for 3 months because of how difficult they were to live with, and how conditional their love and regard was towards me, their love was like a benchmark, I couldn’t really be loved or accepted for just the way I am and only if I meet certain criteria, and had to constantly jump through hoops in order to be loved, and if I wouldn’t, then it’s basically ‘bye peace out can’t live with your family’. It’s just unfair to me how my upbringing pretty much got robbed by a narcissist father and is something no kid should ever have to go through, while my fully related brother got to have what they called a ‘privileged life’. Yet, some online stranger on discord invalidates me saying “you haven’t made it sound any better” when I told him that I finally got to be with my brother I never got to grow up with, and he even went on to say “why should they love you” and “who are you and why should you be loved and cared for” and another person made a negative comment about me wanting a life there with my family and he said “you don’t seem to realize you want a warped and distorted view of your family.” and calling me a “poster child of emotional immaturity”. 😓…even a former friend laughs at me and invalidates me saying “well they raised your brother and not you so he’s their kid and not you why do you think you deserve everything he always gotten.” and that put more salt in the wound…and my aunt didn’t even have any idea why I went to go be with them, even though she invited me and was like “why not come stay here?”. It has put me in a constant endless loop of rumination. I remember I stayed with a friend of mine and his family because his mom couldn’t sleep at night knowing that I was sleeping in a car in a parking lot somewhere. They treated me as equally as their 2 boys… I wanted that with my brother… every other kid gets to have a family home life with their families and their siblings, I believe it is the most basic thing a family can give… but I can’t? I’m not supposed to?… I have had someone that recognized the validity of my feelings though, and that person said “how on earth can you not be allowed just the same if not more”. all that I wanted was a life there with my family… why would anyone be wrong for that?

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I love how the folks that are the thing come up with all the descriptions to help the rest of us understand what we're dealing with.

Powerful! Thank you! I see this is from 3 years ago and I'm just seeing it and it moved me at a time I needed it! 👏

I am a ex jw hi 👋🏻

I think I met one...

Cool video

No scapegoat has ever hated or resented their siblings. The only factor that determines who is the scapegoat is that the factor of who is the person who is not going to mistreat & abuse others, even less, the defenseless people. Not wanting to abuse others without reason doesn't mean u dont have the right to defend yourself from any disrespect & discontinue people who r not good to u or if you don't like their character.

Thank you for this very insightful video! Bless you!

Cool video. INFJ?

true

Best video on the topic

Blessings ❤️ New here!

Wow, what a beautiful video. Thanks for this! ❤️

My ex girlfrinds twin was an energy vampire. She sucked the life out of my ex and ruined our relationship

Its amazing how many people reach out to you when you stop reaching out to them. I have noticed that the ones who don’t reach out to you often (but you reach out to them) are the ones who tend to ignore and hang up on you when there is a slight disagreement over the phone. It makes sense, since power is given to them by giving them more attention than they really deserve. I recently stopped reaching out to people who rarely reach out to me, even family. Its not worth my energy or time.

Bjj, fitness and dark psychology have helped me a lot when it comes to setting firm boundaries from these as*holes

This is why i got into bjj, fitness and dark psychology, its my way of protecting myself from these energy sucking vampires. My life had been that bad but its getting better.

Ms. Bethany Leger you are high quality material. Of course you know this but just a reminder because in the way you put it made a lot of sense. I was aware of many of the things you talked about but the context in which you put was splendid! Learned a few new things too. Good programming you have achieved up to this point in your young life. ! You have a bright future in front of you. And you are !! Thanks, it was very helpful.

Thanks for sharing ❤😘

I was married to a vampire. Thank sweet Jesus, I left her.

I love this video but I was really hoping for some tips with how to deal with them 😅 my mother in law talks my ear off with negativity I’d love some tips with how to help this, she drives me insane and brings my positively to negativity!!!

Well said, great video.

After I (the scapegoat) went no contact with my family, it surprised me when our narcissistic golden child became the new family scapegoat.

This is the best enerygy vampire video that popped up in my search for the term. Thanks for making one that resonated with me. Additionally, my eyeballs very much enjoyed having you in front of them.

How u overcame this share it. Boooks oyther sources to heal

I'm the scapegoat in our family. I was the only girl. My dad hated me, while favoring my brothers. My mom was too afraid of her husband (my dad) to defend or protect me.

They are like mosquitos. Dont let them suck your essense. Dont feed them and watch them slowly die.

Thank you. Nice summation.

Love exists as much as the tooth fairy or santa clause. Possibly less. A new age is dawning. One without the bitter illusion of unconditional love

I grew up as the scapegoat. Now I’m 2 years no contact

They talk excessively

I work with the worst energy vampire I've ever met. I should not feel completely drained and exhausted after being around someone for only a few hours. I absolutely hate working with this person. It feels like they deliberately try to make the day harder. My other coworkers feel the same about them. Some have even called off just because they were scheduled with this person.

My parents are Asian so the love that they give is extremely conditional

What do I do to get my mother to understand my needs for personal space? I tell her every week: Mom, I'm almost 40 years old, I NEED my own space. I will not be available this weekend. When weekend comes: Your dads tv died. can you come and fix it?... "your grandma got problems.. " "I can't do XYZ on my own.. " "I can pick up you.. and rive you home".. and then they make me spend the whole day forsaking myself. What do I do? I'm constantly moody, snapping a lot and I feel that I'm about to explode.

I always found it disheartening that i was excepted to forgive snd forget anything harmful done to me but any actions i took that weren't inline with their teaching was punished severely. 30 years later and im still dealing with manipulation and silent treatment from my parents. The joys or pain of childhood can stay with you for life.

I want to get my own personal space like going on a walk , movie by myself but they always say I'll go with you. I just want some time with myself they just don't allow me