The 3 Lies Keeping You from Your Sense of Identity
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- čas přidán 26. 07. 2024
- QUESTION FOR THE COMMENTS:
Which one of these three do you most struggle with and why?
You are what you do. You are what you have. You are what others think of you.
HERE'S HOW:
Today, take some time to consider these three statements:
You are what you do.
You are what you have.
You are what other people think of you.
Write a few sentences in a journal or notes app about how those statements affected you.
Then, from your reflection, ask someone close to you, which one of these three they think you MOST struggle with.
Thank them for their feedback. Ask yourself, “What’s one small step I can take to combat that belief?
Now, courageously do it.
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QUESTION FOR THE COMMENTS:
Which one of these three do you most struggle with and why?
You are what you do. You are what you have. You are what others think of you.
Sadly, all of the above, all the time. 😔
Great & needed. Biggest struggle is performance oriented.
Right now my biggest identity struggle is I am what others think of me.
I practice reciting the good, True, and beautiful from Scriptures - most but not all the time. 😞. My husband and I are in a season of struggle with work and the blows of lies so we catch ourselves asking why people would think so negatively about us. What God thinks of me matters most. The focus becomes turning people’s attention to God based on our actions. Like I said,it’s not all the time.
I had to think about this question all day. When I was working it was definitely about what I did for a living. Now it's more about what I have. What my home looks like.
I am listening to this for the third time and taking notes. It is so very insightful to me! 1 John 2:16 in the passion translation really opens it up for me. Thank you so much John for this teaching, glory to God.
It’s none of my business what others think of me.”
A quote from a counselor 😅
I’m going to change it a little bit and say that what I struggle with constantly is what I think of myself. I have to remind myself that Jesus loves me as I am and that I only have to work at trying to become what He created me to be one day at a time. I ask Him for that Grace and for the Grace to overcome my sins.
I struggle most with "what others think of me" or more to the point, what I think others think of me.
How crazy is it that I know and believe that. Have tasted the amazing sweetness of living in these truths, and yet still so quickly run back to my way and the three lies??!!
These daily reminders help to keep my heart and mind focused on him!
Honestly, I struggle with all three, but the most prevalent one is what people think of me. I have always been a people pleaser, but I feel myself changing. I’m starting to ask God what He thinks before I act.
I struggle most with what "Others think of me."
Yes, which can make us think that we need to do something more or better, and have certain things so that “they” will approve of us. 🤦🏻♀️ I want to be like the Apostle Paul, and become a pleaser of God, instead of a pleaser of man. Lord help me please🙏🏻✝️🕊️.
Definitely struggle with what others think of me. It can turn my stomach into knots. I am utterly amazed with people who don’t care and imagine how freeing it would be to feel that way.
It’s very important for me to always go back to the fact that I am doing what God has led me to do and to find confidence in that.
My parent is a social predator, dividing churchs, families, marriages. I struggle with what others think because of the degradation and deception that has had a very bad impact on me and my spiritual life. Thank you for bringing this to light.
Im a widow wasnt left money..its Amazing when we ask God how He opens doors..i earn small money but learnt to become contented..🙌🙌 Taste and see that the Lord Is Good 👑👏😊
Thank you, John. The struggle continues to wholly recognize who I am in Christ and not in the world. Wise wise words.
Thanks John, for opening the depth of Jesus teaching.
Love your honesty 😂 you make me laugh!
My goal this year is to not be offended…as I examine myself, I find I’m good if I keep my eyes on Christ and off of me but the evil one is always at work. 🙏
Thank you for your honesty, John. I resonated with the story of your interaction with the stewardness. The Destroyer's plan is to separate us from each other and God through our need and selfishness. God the Father's plan is to redeem us through the self sacrificing love of the Son, so that we can love that way as well and grow up into him, that is Christ.
So helpful. The 3 "have to's" are so deeply embedded. Knowing those 3 phrases for the unholy triad simplifies the battles for me.
I would say I often catch myself worrying about what others think. Probably because I grew up always trying to prove my worth
I, along with so many here, struggle the most with my identity based on what others think of me ! I am going to try to remember what that counselor told one of our fellows : “what others think of me is none of my business. “ 😅 and then turn to Jesus loving smile and see myself in him❣️
Your story at the end cracked me up because it is so real!! It also gives hope because we are all a work in progress in God’s kingdom.
This message really "hits home" with me being a former teacher who worked so hard on my reputation and identity.
Hi John and team, I am a recovering “people pleaser” and the whole Sermon on the Mount series points me closer to understanding the life I have been given. I have doubts about who I am and where I am going. your ministry and the Lord’s teaching guide me…
This is giving me so much to pray and meditate on! Thank you!🙏❤️🙌
As long as we are in this world, these 3 are constant struggles but moving towards the Kingdom of Life and living it out is so important to know WHO we are in HIM. Free to know we BELONG to the Kingdom!
Great lesson, John. It brought to mind a quote I revisit from time to time. Socrates said, "Beware the barrenness of a busy life." That barrenness can happen if we focus on what we do, what we have, and what others think of us. OK, John... speaking the truth in love... Jesus wants you to put your cell phone in airplane mode when you're flying.
Thank you, just thank you. I struggle most with what people think of me.
To be honest, all three. Some show up more profoundly than others depending on the situation, but I want to be free so I’ll be honest and admit - all three!
I think I struggle most with 'you are what you do' and have a tendancy to measure my value by my successes or failures. This can lead to either misplaced pride or negative self image, neither of which are helpful.
At this stage of my life, this message hits home! I just sold my business (changing what I do), trying to see if I can afford to retire (what DO I have?😂), and broke up with a partner (spawning all kinds of gossip with folks needlessly taking sides). God's timing is perfect😊
Ever since I was a young child, it was so important for people to like me. I would do whatever I could to make them happy, in hopes that they would like me more. That people pleasing behavior followed throughout the rest of my childhood into my teenage years where I would give away my favorite toys, books, clothes, and even money in hopes of gaining friends. The trend followed me into adulthood, and my people pleasing behavior became coupled with ending up in toxic relationships. And I couldn't understand why.
It wasn't until I met a wonderful man who showed me who I was and whose I was. All I needed to do was believe it and receive it.
I was trying to fill a vessel that was already filled. I just didn't know it or understand it. I felt empty, lonely, and out of place. But now, I know I have a place and a purpose, and I am thankful to Jesus for all he has done for me!
Love when you come to Crossings too, John!! Much love from OKC!!
Because of you I have been watching/listening to Dallas Willard, and in a series at Denver Seminary he discusses the spiritual discipline of secrecy and silence. Very interesting series. Thanks so much for these reminders that we are not what we do or how others see us.
I have struggled with this my whole life. Thank you for this. Hi from Singapore, Pastor John and Tim.
Hi!
I am a mess. My fear has been that the depth of my mess would be visible to others. My ministry would be compromised, my relationships would be affected, my outer mess would be the gauge by which I’m evaluated
I am changing. I’m still a mess, but I’m grateful for the mess I am because I’m recognizing it’s the best place for me to be in. I learn, grow, and understand so much more when I recognize and acknowledge my messiness, privately and intimately between me and God
Cindy I bless you for being so transparent here. Sister can I raise my hand alongside you and say - #MeToo! I’m really glad God’s mercy meets my messy every time. Love & blessings to you!
We all do it
Guilty of the unholy trifecta☹️
So, how do you know me so well? I have a big smile on my face as I write this because God has been trying to change my way of thinking fr years 🤔 I have spent my whole life trying to please others so they will like me (and I know the reasons but won’t go into that here) and so have tried to do what I think will cause that to happen. I am hoping that at this time in my life (age 77) I have finally realised that I just have to be me, the me that God created, and before life messed up before I knew Him. Thank you very much and bless you all heaps.
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