Shame is the Hidden Driver of Your Life | Steve Cuss & John Ortberg
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- čas přidán 7. 09. 2024
- Be gone, inner critic
HERE'S HOW: As you are living out your story today, let the King have the last word (which is love and acceptance and no condemnation). Ask God to help you remember you’re loved and not seen for your sin. Whatever you do, don't let the inner critic have the last word.
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I cant even count the number of times the words 'you are 75 yrs old and have been a believer of Jesus for over 40 years - what is wrong with you - you haven't learned this yet? Thank you for speaking the words of TRUTH today.
So glad it was helpful for you - we are grateful for you sharing a part of your day with us. Bucky
Yes! Me too!
My story as a 72 year-old faithful pastor, chaplain and this hits me in a deeply tender place. Steve and John hit all this anxious shame in my life. I love this entire series on our stories. Thank you, team.
My story as a 72 year-old faithful pastor, chaplain and this hits me in a deeply tender place. Steve and John hit all this anxious shame in my life. I love this entire series on our stories. Thank you, team.
Iv listen to this one 5 times to let sink in. I'm 77 and I'm encouraged that as Steve said ; if I can get 15% right.... that's A+.......
This truth has made me smile ☺
Wow! It never ceases to amaze me when I realize that I am not the only one with this problem! (Whatever it is.) One thing that has helped me ignore/silence my inter critic is to think, “If I wouldn’t say to someone else, I shouldn’t be saying it to myself.”
So good! Thank you for sharing - we are sure others can benefit as well. We appreciate you Bucky
Being a counselor, this is some of the best stuff regarding shame from a Christian perspective. Thank you
So grateful it spoke to you we are blessed you share our Become New journey with us Bucky
So much to unpack. I need to listen again and again, take notes…pray even more.
My thoughts exactly❤
Thank you for sharing - we appreciate you being with us. Bucky
I am listening to it again!!!
I’d forgotten about the inner critic! When I think about that I can hear it say your dumb! And you’ll never fit in… not many people in churches talk about this stuff and help with the struggles of this so we mostly stay in our shame. Thank you I need to listen more to my self talk - inner critic.
Karen we are grateful you are sharing a part of your day with us and you found it helpful Be Blessed Bucky
Bullseye! Straight to my heart.
Thanks Deborah we appreciate your feedback and glad you are with us Bucky
Sharing with those who can grab on to this. God, show me. ❤😊
Yes please! We are grateful you are joining us at Become New Bucky
Wow, this is amazing. I can't wait to forward this to SO many people. Thank you!
Please do! We are so grateful you are with us on our Become New journey. Thank you for being a blessing to others Bucky
Oh WOW! A lot to chew on and hopefully digest, producing improved health! Thank You!
We are grateful you found it helpful - yes there is a lot to unpack - take little bites daily and be blessed Bucky
Totally agree.
I felt condemned today when i didnt phone up a client within an hour when i said i would and he called up and spoke to my colleague and she said in areally lius voice you said ypu would call him in an hour keep the polycholder up to date. I felt completely ruvvish and angry with her i couldnt speak to her for the afternoon and i felt there was real ill feeling towards her. Like how dare you say that. I even heard a Joyce Meyer talk today about you are justified by My Father not condemned. The enemy really caight me off guard today. I have beem repearinf to myself. There is no condemnation in Jesus. Wow. I have never felt this towards my colleague so im renewing my spiritual armour as i drive home 😊. Normally i only do it in the morning. Clearly the enemy got to me today. Thank you Father 🎉🎉 Yes and Amen
I'm glad this touched you, Tracey, it's so wonderful when we find these reminders to keep us on the right path. Thank you for sharing! - Rob
This meant a lot to me and my walk
So grateful you share a part of your day with us - thank you for listening Bucky
Thank you!❤
You're welcome 😊 We are grateful you share part of your day with us. Bucky
Wow!! This was a good discussion! Very helpful.❤
Glad you think so, Tracy, we are so happy you tuned in today! - Rob
This is so difficult to listen to. I am so stuck here. Breakthrough is needed. Come Holy Spirit. Thank you for shining light on this subject.
Praying that God meets you right where you are - we appreciate you being on this journey with us. Bucky
Just finished reading Steve’s new book “The Expectation Gap”. Great read!
Thanks for sharing "The Expectation Gap" with us - Blessings Bucky
My inner child dictates who I am. As I’m healing from an abusive childhood, God continues to renew my mind. This was so very helpful!
We're healing along with you, and we're so thankful for your note here. - Brad
I came to know God and His love at the sweet age of 5. To this day, I have a very tender relationship towards all children, especially age 11 and under. As a result, I still see my adult self as the adored, flawed, sweet daughter of the King who covers all my sins. I can’t feel shame if I try. I’m sure plenty of others share this experience, perhaps for the same reasons.
That's beautiful, Susan, thank you for sharing with us! - Rob
Because I am Charles W Robinson, III, I tell my grandchildren that I am King Chas III. The reminder is that God has the first and last word. “it is finished” Today, as an older adult, I tell myself I can still do things like I did when I was younger, and often I can. How smart is that? I fight the inner critic daily, by taking action. I told myself I was not smart, at least not as smart as my dad, but I am now seeking education at the highest level. I am who God says I am, and I will “become new” like he says I will. Go in peace...
Beautiful - thank you for sharing a part of your story with us. "God says I am" Be Blessed Bucky
For some reason...? This morning listening to William Shattner talk about self-compassion: what if we could care for ourselves as we care for our friends. Now this whole next level Gospel lens. This pastor of a small community hears the voice, "were you really called to this?" "If you were, why hasn't God grown this church (as he has others nearby)?" Thanks for touching this pain so gently.
Thank you for leaning in to God's strength - we appreciate you being with us Bucky
My suicide attempt in 2010, was my way of trying to silence that inner critic. With mental illness, this slipping into a place of no return, when you can no longer control the anxiety and depression. is a story for many of us. With treatment and starting a supportive group in that area, it has returned me to a place of freedom from that piticular program. Ultimately, this was a divine plan that God had in store for me and others who have been blessed with a second chance at life. Thank you fir Becoming New and all of your team of Angels.
Thank you for sharing a tender part of your story - we are grateful for you Be Blessed Bucky
I had to listen to this again and probably will again! The shame attached to my inner critic has been such a terribly powerful force in my life over recent years. The spiritual battle is overwhelming and I loved the point that the King’s word is THE word. Thank you so much for this life giving message.
@@andrewjoanne2822 We are blessed by your heart ❤️. Thank you for being part of our Become New community. Bucky
15%, this is tragic...excellent teaching.
Thank you for being with us - we appreciate you. Bucky
Wow! This intersects with the grief that I have been walking through after a significant loss. I heard a speaker just this week talk about "secondary" grief/losses and it seems to me that much of that grief could be tied to the inner critic/shame. There has been a lot of "If only..." thinking...If only I had been better, stronger, etc, but none of that is true.
So glad you are leaning in and processing your journey. Thanks your for sharing a tender part of your story. Bucky
Great video
I recently saw a Dallas Willow video where he said Freud had great psychological iinsight though he was wrong on a lot of stuff. I'm guessing one of them was his non belief in the Saviour.
Anyway we can sing "Rock of Ages, cleft for me. Let me hide myself in thee. Let the water and the blood from thy wounded side which flowed be of Sin the double cure. Cleanse from it guilt and Power"
Thank you for sharing - we are grateful you are joining us. Bucky
Thank you so much, I just loved this so much and I feel extremely blessed...thank You John
You're very welcome - we are grateful you are part of our journey. Bucky
So good❤
So grateful you join us! Bucky
Timely topic.
Thank you - we are grateful it was helpful. We appreciate you listening Bucky
Thanks for this. As an Enneagram 6- we don’t just have an inner critic, we have a COMMITTEE of inner critics! :). I know what it is like to be flooded with shame storms. I am going to take some time to ruminate on this today. I’m nowhere near 50% (A+) but I’m making progress, thanks be to God! And thank God for becomenew.
Thanks for sharing a tender part of your story - we are so glad you are with us Bucky
Definitely time to have a discussion with my inner critic!
Thanks for sharing this with us. - Brad
This is such a good one. I'll listen to this again and again.
Thank you for your kind words - we appreciate you. Bucky
This was SO helpful to hear how it’s not easy to change what you believe. I have wondered what’s wrong with me that too often I can’t seem to believe -where it makes a difference in how I think and FEEL and respond-those “truths” about God, me, my circumstances. I often feel defeated and hopeless. I have even sometimes concluded that I’m the only person God can’t change. Actually I think won’t change is more accurate. I don’t doubt God’s power to do anything. So sadly, I begin to think he chooses not to change me. Either way, it is an anti-God concept.
I'm so happy this was helpful. We're journeying together in this community. - Brad
good morning ☀️ I needed to hear this today. I am so being in the state of self-condemnation…ignoring how our Father sees me only in love, flaws and all.
I am struggling through this series as my today’s feel like tests to me and ones that I am failing at.
My sweet sweet daughter said something to me the other day…pretty much revealing that it’s not my fault…let it go mom…
I am hanging on to what I was so sure I had forgiven…please pray for me 🙏🏻💕🍃
We are praying for your journey - there is nothing you can do to be separated from God's love - focus on the God we serve does not condemn you . Be strong Bucky
Grateful for the constant encouraging support 🙏🏻💕🍃
My message tends to be Not Good Enough - heard so often I've reduced it to initials: NGE. Another of the lies is that the only reason God loves me is that God can't not love but given a choice... Another of the stories is that if I want something, that must be something that God cannot possibly allow me to have because my wanting it means it's the worst possible thing for me. Some of this is stuff the characters in my story deal with - so it can be useful.
Thank you for blessing us with your thoughts - we appreciate you listening. Bucky
Spot on and thanks much for sharing. Appreciate all you do.
Thanks for sharing a part of your day with us We appreciate you listening Bucky
Thank you both for that encouragement.
You are more than welcome we are so glad you are joining us! Bucky
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Good Morning Danielle thank you for sharing a part of your day with us Bucky
I’m a Christian therapist and find that shame and grandiosity are two sides of the same “coin”-contempt. Shame-self contempt/grandiosity-contempt for others. These 2 states seem to be the hat we all struggle with.
Stanley so true - we appreciate your insights. Such a blessing. Bucky
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Thanks for being with us Jessie - Bucky
You’re supposed to learn from my mistakes then why do I keep making them
Be strong lean into Jesus use Paul as an example "For I do not do the good I want to do, but the evil I do not want to do - this I keep doing". Romans 7:19. Praying for your journey Bucky
Steve Cuss mentioned Macabe (under of spelling), may have his full name and title of his book. Thank you.
Jacob, the Priests name is Herbert McCabe, he did not mention the title of which book. He wrote several. The one I'm familiar with is "The Good Life: Ethics and the Pursuit of Happiness". I hope this helps, thanks for joining with us today! - Rob