As Ben's aunt, I'm just so grateful to this girl for interrupting my brother's latest political rant. I'll buy the ring, if she promises to do this at every family gathering.
As Ben's younger brother, I'm so glad nobody is asking if I've been crying because my eyes are so red. I just have to be stoned to get through these things.
Youth these days. I heard Ben's cousin flunked nursing school and his brother in law has a drinking problem. I always knew something wasn't right with this family. Tch. Pity.
As Ben’s younger sister, I’m glad this rant has kept my grandmother from commenting again on how she thinks it’s strange my old college roommate and I share a one bedroom apartment and are too old to be roommates at our age…and when will I settle down and find a nice young man to marry.
As Bens alcoholic aunt who’s going through my third divorce, I just wanted to thank you for taking the attention away from me stealing sips of everyone’s wine while they’re not looking. You’re the best, xoxo
the PHYSICAL discomfort this caused me. your ability to communicate awkwardness and a lack of social awareness is genuinely impressive and uncanny. you’re a genius.
That is the exact same thought I had “this lady is a damn genius “the very first time I viewed her😮😂😂😂😂😂❤❤❤✊🏼✊🏼✊🏼✊🏼👌🏼👌🏼👌🏼👌🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼👌🏼👌🏼👌🏼👌🏼👏🏼👏🏼👌🏼👏🏼👏🏼👌🏼👌🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼
As someone who grew up in the fakest WASP community, she nails it perfectly! The, "trying to act like your life is so perfect while you're crying inside at the holidays because yet again you are not being proposed to by your boyfriend", is so relatable. And most of my friends would agree. The other friends are going though a post-pandemic divorce. Her acting is always comic gold and captures the "types" of people perfectly. She needs to be in major movies.
It would have been less embarrassing if she had got down on one knee and proposed to Ben. Well, at least it would have been over in less time! (Also, women suck at proposals.)
As Ben’s older brother I just want to thank this lady’s speech because without it, Ben would not have had the courage to come out to us on New Years. We love you Ben!
Ben's parents are glaring at her through the entire speech, especially the mother. She refers to her only as "that drunken floozie" and together they try to reason with their son, "You've had your fun with her, Benjamin. It's time to grow up and start thinking of this family's image." They later replace her with a serious brunette lawyer who doesn't want children, but will have one for the sake of the family's image. She doesn't mind, the nanny will do all of the icky parts. This is one of the few characters I feel nothing but empathy for. She's not the usual self-centred, obnoxious brat we love to hate. She's an insecure, sweet girl who can't read the room AT ALL, and thus can't tell that no-one wants her to make this speech, and sadly can't tell that the guy she's so desperately in love with is absolutely not interested in her beyond the short term. He doesn't need his parents to tell him she's not fit to be a part of this family. He just needs them to tell him that he's been dragging out this one night stand for too long.
That is almost exactly what I thought. Only instead of the brunette lawyer, Ben had a 20-year-old reiki instructor sidechick that he's been seeing since before Thanksgiving. Let's face it, Ben has always been a disappointment to the family.
@@11cabadger Lol, I can see Ben juggling multiple unsuitable women. It's a hardening mission for his parents to finally get him to that acceptable lawyer, and it's a wonder they even found another family to negotiate with - he was becoming the talk of the country club for his embarrassing antics!
There's just something about constantly seeing the words "Girl Who Is Absolutely Not Getting Proposed To By New Years" on the screen that makes this even more excruciating to endure. You can almost imagine being Ben's cousin sitting at the table and enduring this, knowing full well that Ben just texted you last week that the past few weeks have been hell and that he is breaking up with her before Valentine's Day.
Oh noooo, she will be crushed and calling me to bring her some Ben & Jerry’s ice cream, red wine & a dvd of “Bridget Jones’s Diary” and I just can’t handle her right now. Ben, she’s threatening to burn your clothes. 🏃
As Ben's younger sister, I am glad this speech interrupted our relatives questioning me about how university's been going and are going to be distracted with my brother's drama for the next few weeks. No one needs to know that there will be no graduation ceremony because I've dropped out months ago. Or that I have been saving up to run away to Europe to escape all my problems and elope with some guy I've been dating for five months. Thank you, Bethany, I'll send you a post card ❤️
There’s a reason she said “we’ve had an amazing year” and not “we’ve had X amazing years”. They’ve only been dating for a year, less actually. Ben wasn’t going to invite her to his family’s Christmas, but she strong armed her way into it through passive aggressiveness and trying to make him feel guilty. Which he didn’t, but he wanted to make her shut up
Bens been fucking someone else and is waiting out the holidays to find the courage to say “im so thankful that we met you’re truly a special person who deserves someone uhhhhh Julia from work is pregnant…waiter could you bring me the check….soon anyway Julia is pregnant actually remember that night you left after the knife thintg its a funny story…
"I moved in with her so that I didn't have to commute for sex. She thinks it's because she's auditioning for wife". Meanwhile she's sabotaging her birth control to force the issue. Seen it happen many times. Ladies, if you want to move in with a guy for yourself, do it, but never do it thinking you are auditioning for wife unless you've specifically had a conversation about it where the guy says a heck of a lot more than just "uh yeah, maybe, someday I guess?"
This caused me so much discomfort that I'm thinking of valid excuses to give for leaving a party that I'm not even attending. This was a hard sit through.
Gosh the sneaking in line about the “convos I shouldn’t hear i’ll make myself scarce LIKE I HAVE DONE THIS PAST WEEK” just kills me xD You know the mom doesn’t approve!!
Caitlin's biggest talent isn't the characters she plays (although she's scary good at that), but her ability to make you build the context around her characters in your head so completely despite never seeing anyone else in her videos. You can build the entire rest of the scene, including how other characters are reacting, perfectly in your head based on her performance of just one person.
Exactly!! Completely agreed!! That is my favorite part of watching her videos - just imagining the stares and facepalms of everyone else in her company!!
Precisely this. Somehow I am seeing a long table with people looking disgusted and Ben slowly sinking away under the table while the food is getting cold.
@Sam S I think they had a good run (they only seemed to be together for one year) but she is getting needy and desperate. I feel pity for Ben, he has to break up now, preferably before new years eve. It's going to get ugly .
@Sam S There are so many different scenarios you could imagine, but the most remarkable thing to me is that it doesn't occur to this woman that she could just ask Ben to marry her. We live in the friggin' 21st century.
As Ben, I had to give the "be polite, let her talk; I'll explain things later" look to the family. I want her to do well, but realized she wasn't going to be the one to help me become the best version of myself. I got the heck out of that relationship, but I felt bad about ending it. In the end, it was the best thing though... I didn't want to waste anyone's time and I hope the best for everyone involved.
As Ben's weird cousin, I'm just glad she interrupted before my grandmother and aunts started asking about my own partner because we are absolutely not ready to have that conversation. Thank you girl now we can spend the rest of the night murmuring about how you and ben are absolutely not the best couple we've seen
Ben was just minding his own business, having a good time with family. Now look at him, he's cringing, painfully smiling and nodding wanting the year to end. Poor Ben 😔
i too feel like one of Ben's sister's bestfriend for 8yrs who has been part of their family's christmas gatherings since then, and rolling my eyes while she tells her speech because I know that Ben can do better than actually proposing to her because they just met the 2nd year of pandemic 😂
As Ben's older sister, I'm glad that everyone is going to be talking about her and not about the fact that my husband recently got passed over again for a promotion at our family business because of his supposed "drinking" problem. He does NOT drink all day. I for one have never seen him drink in the morning, he always goes to work, and he doesn't even drink spirits. Jeez.
@@Kattywagon29well, I for one think that it was most of the family’s judgmental attitude towards her boyfriend that stressed her out to the point of failing. Don’t you know after you told her to stay away, she ACTUALLY LEFT HIM, and the depression afterwards meant she just stopped going to her clinicals? YOU should be ashamed :(
@@nyc_nurse Don't put that on me! Everyone was talking about it, but I was the only one who cared enough to tell her that he was cheating on her and you know what? She already knew!!!!
I interpreted the spill as planned. The character here was offering Ben an opportunity to kneel to clean up the spill but then suddenly and out of nowhere propose to her.
@Robert Yang I didn’t interpret it as that but more so that she was just clumsy and generally inept. But the drink spilling was definitely planned by Caitlin
Bens cousin here, I am stoked because you ruined any possibility that anyone else in the family is going to ask me how rehab went. Run Ben!! Run far away as fast as you can!! Longest 2 minutes on the internet, you have amazing talent.
That was the detail that made me think this speech was a last minute, desperate gambit for a proposal - if she had prepared it in advance, she would have LED with "In these unprecedented times," instead of starting with "In times like these- in these unprecedented times" and amending it on the fly.
@@jjjjjjjjkigghh8662 I actually use that phrase, haha. Although not in casual chat in real life but when I'm using it as a performative figure of speech to drive a point home. I'm not saying you're wrong either, at least about the first bit. I have a mouth on me. Unfortunately i dwell in a bog of existential turpitude. The sounding off is probably my best coping mechanism.. along with satire ;) I can't quite imagine using it in a speech at a dinner. I love how inappropriately self important it is Edit: turpitude doesn't even mean what i thought it means, i think i mean torpor. I just like it because it sounds a bit turnipy. Thereby perhaps proving your point about people who use "unprecedented"
Gotta say these bits are really good for practicing social anxiety management b/c watching them evokes the same emotions as being in an uncomfortable/fumbled social situation. It’s incredible how immediate this made me feel like I was in a room full of painfully silent family members watching this poor girl struggle to keep it together.
Agree with some of the comments. It's one thing to deliver your lines but a whole difference when no one is standing opposite to receive. And yet she made me truly believe there's an entire room of people around her at a party. I didn't just see her expressions but of the people around her as well. Master performer.
Her interpretation is so good that i can see the faces of the boyfriend's family looking at each other knowing how awakward this is but the most important part is that i can see the boyfriend's face looking at her with such an embarassment, really impressing
Caitlin’s acting is so nuanced- the history of their relationship and family dramas coming through in one speech expressed through every subtle glance, awkward pause or nervous laugh. Crazy talented!
If this were a romantic comedy, she would be dumped as soon as the cute girl who’s opened up her bakery, that she’s never at, but it somehow stays open comes into town or whatever.
In a way I feel bad for her because you know Ben is just stringing her along because it’s too hard to break up. But you also somehow know her friends and even his family have been trying to point this out for months to her and she just keeps laughing it off. Caitlin, you’re incredible
POV: You told him at the beginning of the relationship (7 years ago) that you never wanted to be married and now all of your friends are getting married so you start panicking.
@@ajogoz I wonder why do parents make preasure about getting married? I am from Andorra ( Europe) and this doesn't really happen in my culture. Parents don't care if you get married or not, they would just care about it in case you are marrying somebody they think its harmfull. Otherwise most parents would make preasure about studies or jobs but not about other things related to personal life. I imagine that must be horrible because then you must have a hard time knowing if you are chosimg something freely or just because you feel you should. That can potentially destroy your life if you do things you dont truly want or feel or where ready for. How do you deal with it?
@@Agape122We tend to just careen from one relationship to the next like a moth to flame. All this while we are bombarded with artificial images of the "perfect lives" of the wealthy and celebrities. Definitely not sustainable!
All those little jokes and bits that this character developed over the years as defense mechanisms are used to EXPOSE her right here... that was heartbreaking to watch.
Omg these are so accurate that they are genuinely uncomfortable. I'm not even sure if they're funny, they're just masterful and accurate and respect must be paid for how well they're done.
The one thing that makes this even more believable for me is the very last couple of frames where it dawns on her that she will not be getting proposed to, and needs to leave immediately. That glimpse of actual, genuine, embarrassment and realization is what sold it for me. Kudos to you
I don't think that's about her being embarrassed. I think she's saying she is giving her boyfriend space that he is expected to use for ring shopping or talking to his parents and her parents about his desire to marry her. Except for perhaps the final second.
God the fact that I lived through this. My cousin's 1st gf did this at a party and it was the most awkward shit ever. Nobody even pity laughed when she "messed up" her words and tried to make it funny, and kept glancing at him and insinuating he had a ring for her. We were completely dead silent because we all knew he was planning on breaking up with her soon. He broke up with her after the party too lmao. She wasn't bad but she had a tendency to make everything about her and just never shut up so it was a relief when she was gone
That last sentence, "She wasn't bad but had a tendency to make everything about her and just never shut up so it was a relief when she was gone." That hit home so hard, and while I could string out a story to support this, let me just say that I told the girlfriend of one of my best buddies this to her face almost word for word exactly this in front of him and her friends during the second or third mass gathering I had been invited to. While it was rude, I was also vindicated. At the time, before Whatsapp or whatever, we used Yahoo Groups in the early 2000's. I was sent private messages after the "confrontation", I was later told by multiple "friends of hers" how thankful they were that somebody said it out loud. I was obviously never invited to gatherings with her again, and I have some inclination that it might have been the last time they all met together like that and I said the quiet part everyone was thinking/feeling out loud.
As Ben's single aunt, I'd like to say "Thank you for distracting everyone from asking me about when I'm having children because I'm already 29 and my ovaries are at risk of turning my child into Quasimodo. And for distracting Ben's sister from defending her husband, while only looking at me, even though I wasn't the one who suggested he had a drinking problem to begin with.
I think part of it is this isn't an ahole character, just a person who really wants a commitment and is delusional about the prospects of that. It's fun when Karen gets her due, it's hard to watch somebody humiliate themselves.
I think the long, mortified pause after spilling booze all over herself was a perfect touch. Eg this kind of minor accident is something people do all the time after having a certain amount of drinks and gesticulating with a glass in their hand, and not everyone is going to respond in shame. But it's like the character experienced this abject epiphany of not being able to rely on herself at the moment it matters the most, the dislodged expression mid-speech and stretched out intrusion of self disappointment and alienation/disconnect in that moment is HILARIOUS and something i feel like anyone who's ever been drunk should be able to relate to, especially in a situation where they felt uncomfortable (and were drinking to mask it then lost some of their inhibitions). When you're drunk, it's reasonably common than you would feel like you have something profound to say that needs to be expressed immediately, while having lost the wherewithal to recognise that aspects of one's speech or motor skills have been affected. It's a schism between the sober neurosis and the drunken moment, and done beautifully. It's just mortifying. I love it, and am so relieved to feel at a massive distance from the crux of this scenario
I honestly don’t know how she bears up under the weight of being this perceptive. Seeing how weird people can be at this level would drive most people insane.
Truly there is no couple who has weathered the storm as much as you have! Especially considering the times and all. Right? You are an inspiration to us all. We look forward to next Thanksgiving. And thanks for the card. Drive safely.
this feels SO MUCH LONGER than 2:28 and honestly i can't help but applaud you for that (your 'girl who is absolutely getting dumped' series is my favorite)
Is it passive aggressive? I thought she was just very socially awkward tbh. I didn’t interpret her as being aggressive, but more so using the speech to subtly (because she doesn’t know the definition of subtlety) hint to Ben and give him the go ahead in case he’s scared she’ll say no. I read the character as being ditzy physically and emotionally, but not malevolent.
@Mary Webb Yes, insular! This is the kind of person who implodes when you criticize them. Instead of changing their behavior, they are so self-focused they will either refuse to believe the criticism, or if you do get through to them they will just turn internalize it and get low self-esteem. But they will turn everything inward and never make the connection. Always self-focused
You know how real this is when you start trying to tune her out within 30 seconds, then remember it's just Caitlin being too convincing
the automatic response to a speech like this is to tune out for 30 seconds she's just so good I did it too 😆😆
I know right! 😂💀 my instincts to take a mental vacation were definitely engaged.
Yes 👏
Exactly. It was really hard to watch till the end. This girl is really talented.
So true 😂😂😂
As Ben's aunt, I'm just so grateful to this girl for interrupting my brother's latest political rant.
I'll buy the ring, if she promises to do this at every family gathering.
Your brother? As in Ben's dad? 🤔😂😂😂
I'm Ben's brother and I'm also grateful to her for stopping dad's latest political rant.
As Ben's dad's insurance agent, happy new year 🎊
BWAH HAHA
I know. Those democrats are so insufferable
As Ben's younger brother, I'm so glad nobody is asking if I've been crying because my eyes are so red. I just have to be stoned to get through these things.
Lmaooooooooooo
Youth these days. I heard Ben's cousin flunked nursing school and his brother in law has a drinking problem. I always knew something wasn't right with this family. Tch. Pity.
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I LOVE ALL OF THESE COMMENTS!!! 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
most relatable youtube comment
I've been in a wheelchair for 20 years and I cringed so hard I can feel my legs again.
Omg😬🤣🤣🤣
Im paralysed but i got up to walk out the room to avoid the cringe
@@Ukraineaissance2014 lol…you guys are way to much!🤣🤣🤣💖💖
😂😂😂
The video was amusing but this comment made me laugh out loud.
I’m Ben’s cousin who is so relieved that this lady’s speech has distracted the family from discussing how I flunked out of nursing school
Hopefully this will distract them enough to not ask again
*TURNS HEAD* SO CELESTE! What's goin- lmao
… I now have a plan for everyone asking about why I haven’t graduated yet
😂
This was about as funny as the actual skit. Bravo.
it’s just her but you can still feel that secondhand embarrassment like there’s actually a roomful of people. so good!
Exactly what I was thinking! I feel so awkward and I don't even know her like that...or Ben...and she's acting.
😂😂😂😂
yeah idk if i can stomach this one and ive never been in her shoes 😭
Right?! I could literally feel my chest tightening as the awkwardness dragged out.
i know i literally have to keep pausing the video
As Ben’s younger sister, I’m glad this rant has kept my grandmother from commenting again on how she thinks it’s strange my old college roommate and I share a one bedroom apartment and are too old to be roommates at our age…and when will I settle down and find a nice young man to marry.
Did you hear about Ben's cousin who dropped out of nursing school?
Look, Grandma has a point. We all know the guy your little "roommate" is seeing other women.
Just a couple of besties
Nahh. Gran gran is down with you two lezzing out
Gran has a point. When ARE you going to find a nice young man to marry?
As Bens alcoholic aunt who’s going through my third divorce, I just wanted to thank you for taking the attention away from me stealing sips of everyone’s wine while they’re not looking. You’re the best, xoxo
I'm gonna need a glass too after that speech
I kept cringing from second-hand embarrassment, oh god. Caitlin, you're too good.
THIS! I was like trying to crawl under my blanket from the cringe. She is so GOOD.
I almost made myself into a black hole, collapsing in on myself from embarrassment and cringe. 🤣
😂
sameee
Same😂
the PHYSICAL discomfort this caused me. your ability to communicate awkwardness and a lack of social awareness is genuinely impressive and uncanny. you’re a genius.
She is so good, that I actually got a headache from watching her.
I came here to say this. This was physically painful to watch. I wanted to hang up the phone the whole time. Nailed it
She’s funny and talented, but her cringe bits are soo strong that I can barely watch her videos.
That is the exact same thought I had “this lady is a damn genius “the very first time I viewed her😮😂😂😂😂😂❤❤❤✊🏼✊🏼✊🏼✊🏼👌🏼👌🏼👌🏼👌🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼👌🏼👌🏼👌🏼👌🏼👏🏼👏🏼👌🏼👏🏼👏🏼👌🏼👌🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼
What do you mean? This is real footage.
If someone is unmarried and without children and talk about “weathering storms”, I assume someone cheated.
Jknhmh
Yup. She hid letters when they played Scrabble.
Wait did you mean she was boning other dudes??
@@jimgray3346no, he was…
As someone who grew up in the fakest WASP community, she nails it perfectly! The, "trying to act like your life is so perfect while you're crying inside at the holidays because yet again you are not being proposed to by your boyfriend", is so relatable. And most of my friends would agree. The other friends are going though a post-pandemic divorce. Her acting is always comic gold and captures the "types" of people perfectly. She needs to be in major movies.
Wasp community?? What??
@@LavroseRovender White, Anglo-Saxon, Protestant
She’s in Marvel movies, she’s an incredible actress
@@pennym1056bro are you talking about Caitlin Reilly or about the Wasp I’m confused 😭
As someone who grew up Catholic in Ireland, I'm concerned by how much I relate to WASP memes.
I don’t think we will ever learn what her actual voice sounds like
Search for videos of her outside her skits
True, Caitlin is a true voice chameleon!
She's been on podcasts before! Hopefully that's her real voice lmao we'll never be sure
If you follow her on Instagram, she posts a lot of stories in her regular voice.
czcams.com/video/lnnzuABVhbI/video.html she definitely uses her real voice in this episode
You can just imagine the embarrassed murmurs of Ben's parents and relatives after this speech. "HE'S NOT LITTLE, HE'S A GROWN MAN!" was the highlight.
Trina Q. I see you everywhere!
Lmfaoooo this 😂😂😂
You’re the next just some guy without a moustache.
The passive aggressive, not so subtle, “WHAT’S THE NEXT STEP, WHAT ARE WE GOING TO DO NEXT?” absolutely sends me 😂
As Ben’s youngest brother I really had no idea what her speech was about until that point. You hear she’s a communications major?
It would have been less embarrassing if she had got down on one knee and proposed to Ben. Well, at least it would have been over in less time! (Also, women suck at proposals.)
"we've had an amazing year" knowing damn full well that they met 7 months ago
😂 yes! And you know she’s been saying they have been together for almost a year for the last 4 months!
It is NOT easy to get through these in one sitting lol. She does an uncanny job of making it feel like it's taking forever. Exactly like real life
That’s so accurate
Literally thought this video was 10mins long. 😭
This character is so annoying I'm about to click off! 😄
I can't even finish the video lol it's too embarrassing
the cringe was fucking violent coming off of this one
there is NO WAY this was only 2 minutes long. it felt like a lifetime watching her awkwardness.. insane talent
To watch this 25 times in an hour, without looking away, that might ruin your whole year
This video is like a time paradox. I had to pause and continue several times so that it would be *less* long.
i literally had to pause three times to recover.
I skipped forward and it's still going.
fr time went by too slow
As Ben’s older brother I just want to thank this lady’s speech because without it, Ben would not have had the courage to come out to us on New Years. We love you Ben!
Ben's parents are glaring at her through the entire speech, especially the mother. She refers to her only as "that drunken floozie" and together they try to reason with their son, "You've had your fun with her, Benjamin. It's time to grow up and start thinking of this family's image." They later replace her with a serious brunette lawyer who doesn't want children, but will have one for the sake of the family's image. She doesn't mind, the nanny will do all of the icky parts.
This is one of the few characters I feel nothing but empathy for. She's not the usual self-centred, obnoxious brat we love to hate. She's an insecure, sweet girl who can't read the room AT ALL, and thus can't tell that no-one wants her to make this speech, and sadly can't tell that the guy she's so desperately in love with is absolutely not interested in her beyond the short term. He doesn't need his parents to tell him she's not fit to be a part of this family. He just needs them to tell him that he's been dragging out this one night stand for too long.
Dude, I can literally see what Ben is *wearing*.
This is spot on!!!
It's the brunette lawyer who doesn't want kids but will have one for the image 😭😭
That is almost exactly what I thought. Only instead of the brunette lawyer, Ben had a 20-year-old reiki instructor sidechick that he's been seeing since before Thanksgiving. Let's face it, Ben has always been a disappointment to the family.
@@11cabadger Lol, I can see Ben juggling multiple unsuitable women. It's a hardening mission for his parents to finally get him to that acceptable lawyer, and it's a wonder they even found another family to negotiate with - he was becoming the talk of the country club for his embarrassing antics!
There's just something about constantly seeing the words "Girl Who Is Absolutely Not Getting Proposed To By New Years" on the screen that makes this even more excruciating to endure. You can almost imagine being Ben's cousin sitting at the table and enduring this, knowing full well that Ben just texted you last week that the past few weeks have been hell and that he is breaking up with her before Valentine's Day.
Valentine’s Day?! You mean New Year Eve! 😂
I see why Ben is ending things....imagine what she is like once the drinks kick in....😮💨
@@MissSuperNerd oh I’m imagining all right
@@WhyTheHorseface now we all need a strong drink🤣🤣🤣
Oh noooo, she will be crushed and calling me to bring her some Ben & Jerry’s ice cream, red wine & a dvd of “Bridget Jones’s Diary” and I just can’t handle her right now. Ben, she’s threatening to burn your clothes. 🏃
I've never been more aggravated and annoyed by a speech. Fantastic job!
Indeed, Caitlin does a masterful job of making you feel secondhand embarrassment on behalf of people who aren't actually in the room with her.
I even said " ewwwww " when she said 'we have' talking about how amazing her year was
I'm betting on Tina Belcher voice.
As Ben's younger sister, I am glad this speech interrupted our relatives questioning me about how university's been going and are going to be distracted with my brother's drama for the next few weeks. No one needs to know that there will be no graduation ceremony because I've dropped out months ago. Or that I have been saving up to run away to Europe to escape all my problems and elope with some guy I've been dating for five months.
Thank you, Bethany, I'll send you a post card ❤️
Good for you for following your dreams!! Your brother sure knows how to pick em’
youve described my fucking life. ill leave them like a painted pinecone or some shit as a souvenir before i fuck off to italy
As Ben’s cousin that is most definitely not having kids, I appreciate this speech so much. It’s just a little bit of holiday weight, Susan.
"holiday weight" lmao
A quiet moment to appreciate that she did this in one take. ONE TAKE.
Well it could've been multiple takes of this lol
You have no idea how many takes
No cuts, though. Very impressive
@@kiwk8139 yea I think that's what op meant
I can't tell if the spill and mistakes were intentional. Amazing.
do i know this girl is fictional? yes. do i hope she processes the breakup in therapy? also yes
There are many real versions of this girl
I'm somehow hoping she finds someone better than Ben...
@@its-MK... Ben is the one who can do better
@@oldmedstudent1750 Maybe they both need time alone to work on themselves and find a better match.
Why are we invested in these fake people? 😂
I’m the cousin who’s relieved this speech distracted from my teen pregnancy with the boyfriend they didn’t like and warned me about.
There’s a reason she said “we’ve had an amazing year” and not “we’ve had X amazing years”. They’ve only been dating for a year, less actually. Ben wasn’t going to invite her to his family’s Christmas, but she strong armed her way into it through passive aggressiveness and trying to make him feel guilty. Which he didn’t, but he wanted to make her shut up
And they’ve “weathered a lot of storms” - he wasn’t prepared to be exclusive until three months ago.
What kind of crap did you just made up?
@@tablat1651 It’s called backstory, and it doesn’t need to be canon.
@@TPRM1 It's called "inventing or projecting whatever crappy story or trauma I just felt like".
@@tablat1651 Yes. As a (non-canonical) backstory.
I'm always amazed by how much depth Caitlin can give characters in such a short video.
Agreed, Caitlin's character is actually a little sympathetic, you can't help but pity her, even if she's making a fool out of herself.
She needs to get hired for something.
I feel like every movie should begin with a scene like this. No need for pointlessly long exposition
It's world building really.
She is epic! As are all the characters she conjures up. Fantastic!🤩
It's like I can see Ben smiling softly, and yet, with overwhelming fear in his eyes, gently shaking his head "no".
Bens been fucking someone else and is waiting out the holidays to find the courage to say “im so thankful that we met you’re truly a special person who deserves someone uhhhhh Julia from work is pregnant…waiter could you bring me the check….soon anyway Julia is pregnant actually remember that night you left after the knife thintg its a funny story…
Yes same!
@Sinbad Ren 😂😂😂😂
😂😂😂😂
"I moved in with her so that I didn't have to commute for sex. She thinks it's because she's auditioning for wife". Meanwhile she's sabotaging her birth control to force the issue. Seen it happen many times. Ladies, if you want to move in with a guy for yourself, do it, but never do it thinking you are auditioning for wife unless you've specifically had a conversation about it where the guy says a heck of a lot more than just "uh yeah, maybe, someday I guess?"
This caused me so much discomfort that I'm thinking of valid excuses to give for leaving a party that I'm not even attending. This was a hard sit through.
Gosh the sneaking in line about the “convos I shouldn’t hear i’ll make myself scarce LIKE I HAVE DONE THIS PAST WEEK” just kills me xD
You know the mom doesn’t approve!!
Caitlin's biggest talent isn't the characters she plays (although she's scary good at that), but her ability to make you build the context around her characters in your head so completely despite never seeing anyone else in her videos. You can build the entire rest of the scene, including how other characters are reacting, perfectly in your head based on her performance of just one person.
Exactly!! Completely agreed!! That is my favorite part of watching her videos - just imagining the stares and facepalms of everyone else in her company!!
Absolutely
Precisely this. Somehow I am seeing a long table with people looking disgusted and Ben slowly sinking away under the table while the food is getting cold.
@Sam S I think they had a good run (they only seemed to be together for one year) but she is getting needy and desperate. I feel pity for Ben, he has to break up now, preferably before new years eve. It's going to get ugly .
@Sam S There are so many different scenarios you could imagine, but the most remarkable thing to me is that it doesn't occur to this woman that she could just ask Ben to marry her. We live in the friggin' 21st century.
You know she agonized over what color to get her nails painted for the christmas proposal she felt so sure was going to happen.
😂
This comment hurt worse than the video did, dayum 😭
OMG yes! You know she over thought it.
She told the nail tech all about it
As Ben,
I had to give the "be polite, let her talk; I'll explain things later" look to the family. I want her to do well, but realized she wasn't going to be the one to help me become the best version of myself.
I got the heck out of that relationship, but I felt bad about ending it. In the end, it was the best thing though... I didn't want to waste anyone's time and I hope the best for everyone involved.
As Ben's weird cousin, I'm just glad she interrupted before my grandmother and aunts started asking about my own partner because we are absolutely not ready to have that conversation. Thank you girl now we can spend the rest of the night murmuring about how you and ben are absolutely not the best couple we've seen
Ben was just minding his own business, having a good time with family. Now look at him, he's cringing, painfully smiling and nodding wanting the year to end.
Poor Ben 😔
I'm hoping a Drunk Aunt pulls him in the kitchen and hisses "Don't you dare marry this one" to him.
Hopefully this will give him enough courage to finally break up after "thinking about it" for the last three months
More the fool Ben for dating her! Grow a pair of balls and dump her
Poor Ben ✊️
Aka the speech that saved Ben's life for he dumped her by new year's.
This was so good that I caught myself half fake smiling and nodding along while I desperately hoped she'd finish quickly while I half listened
i too feel like one of Ben's sister's bestfriend for 8yrs who has been part of their family's christmas gatherings since then, and rolling my eyes while she tells her speech because I know that Ben can do better than actually proposing to her because they just met the 2nd year of pandemic 😂
@@blessing291 lmao 🤣
@@blessing291 😂
Lmaooooooooooo
I couldn’t look directly at it! 😬 wow!
I love how Ben's family tuned in to explain their gratitude to this woman in comments ❤
The way it actually feels like other people are laughing when it’s literally just her in the room just shows how immaculate her delivery is
As Ben's older sister, I'm glad that everyone is going to be talking about her and not about the fact that my husband recently got passed over again for a promotion at our family business because of his supposed "drinking" problem. He does NOT drink all day. I for one have never seen him drink in the morning, he always goes to work, and he doesn't even drink spirits. Jeez.
Did you hear that Ben’s cousin flunked nursing school? What happened? She was doing so well
@@helplessnarwhal3722 🤣🤣
@@helplessnarwhal3722 It was that boy she was dating! I told her to stay away from him. Such a shame.
@@Kattywagon29well, I for one think that it was most of the family’s judgmental attitude towards her boyfriend that stressed her out to the point of failing. Don’t you know after you told her to stay away, she ACTUALLY LEFT HIM, and the depression afterwards meant she just stopped going to her clinicals? YOU should be ashamed :(
@@nyc_nurse Don't put that on me! Everyone was talking about it, but I was the only one who cared enough to tell her that he was cheating on her and you know what? She already knew!!!!
She didn’t even break character when she spilled her drink, bro I could never have that level of talent.
Why are you gay ?
GIRL CAN'T CATCH A BREAK
I interpreted the spill as planned. The character here was offering Ben an opportunity to kneel to clean up the spill but then suddenly and out of nowhere propose to her.
@Robert Yang I didn’t interpret it as that but more so that she was just clumsy and generally inept. But the drink spilling was definitely planned by Caitlin
@@robertyang4365 I interpreted it as intentional but as a oh no clumsy kinda drunk I'm silly
Bens cousin here, I am stoked because you ruined any possibility that anyone else in the family is going to ask me how rehab went. Run Ben!! Run far away as fast as you can!!
Longest 2 minutes on the internet, you have amazing talent.
This is physically difficult to watch. Excellent work
She really dropped the “in these unprecedented times”
Lol so many cliches 😂😂 This person just likes to hear herself talk, and never reflects
lmfao right
That was the detail that made me think this speech was a last minute, desperate gambit for a proposal - if she had prepared it in advance, she would have LED with "In these unprecedented times," instead of starting with "In times like these- in these unprecedented times" and amending it on the fly.
I had a friend in school and we would deadpan look at each other across the room every time someone would drop that little word salad.
@@jjjjjjjjkigghh8662 I actually use that phrase, haha. Although not in casual chat in real life but when I'm using it as a performative figure of speech to drive a point home. I'm not saying you're wrong either, at least about the first bit. I have a mouth on me. Unfortunately i dwell in a bog of existential turpitude. The sounding off is probably my best coping mechanism.. along with satire ;) I can't quite imagine using it in a speech at a dinner. I love how inappropriately self important it is
Edit: turpitude doesn't even mean what i thought it means, i think i mean torpor. I just like it because it sounds a bit turnipy. Thereby perhaps proving your point about people who use "unprecedented"
That verging-on-hysteria-but-trying-to-keep-it-together laugh is a work of art.
why do i keep watching these!? they are so painful....
Gotta say these bits are really good for practicing social anxiety management b/c watching them evokes the same emotions as being in an uncomfortable/fumbled social situation. It’s incredible how immediate this made me feel like I was in a room full of painfully silent family members watching this poor girl struggle to keep it together.
“Weathered the storms” 😂😂😂😂
Gettin strong bridesmaids speech competition vibes 💀😂
just the mere IDEA of proposing a toast at a holiday that is NOT YOUR IMMEDIATE FAMILY’S sends me spiraling into an anxiety typhoon
"Anxiety Typhoon" works on so many levels. But mostly it just made me laugh.
I mean it can be done. But you gotta not be like… this.
Same 💀
Wodine? Tadashii desu ka?
Turning every one-take mistake into a "lol quirky girlie" is peak comedy
Peak agony
Agree with some of the comments. It's one thing to deliver your lines but a whole difference when no one is standing opposite to receive. And yet she made me truly believe there's an entire room of people around her at a party. I didn't just see her expressions but of the people around her as well. Master performer.
Her interpretation is so good that i can see the faces of the boyfriend's family looking at each other knowing how awakward this is but the most important part is that i can see the boyfriend's face looking at her with such an embarassment, really impressing
Caitlin’s acting is so nuanced- the history of their relationship and family dramas coming through in one speech expressed through every subtle glance, awkward pause or nervous laugh. Crazy talented!
She's a great actor!
She’s so insanely good 😅
"Weathered storms"
The last look in her eyes while taking a sip, is sudden realization she's going to end up in tears and hysterics again.
🤣
Yes
Yees
It's the again part that really seals the deal
Ikr 🤣😭🤣
This actually made me squirm and hold my breath so as to avoid inhaling the toxic fog of awkwardness. Excellent work, as always. Brava! Bravissima!
If this were a romantic comedy, she would be dumped as soon as the cute girl who’s opened up her bakery, that she’s never at, but it somehow stays open comes into town or whatever.
"girl can't catch a break!" That delivery was great
@Mary Webb so what do you study?
@Mary Webb math and physics, I aspire to end all existance with my mind
In a way I feel bad for her because you know Ben is just stringing her along because it’s too hard to break up. But you also somehow know her friends and even his family have been trying to point this out for months to her and she just keeps laughing it off.
Caitlin, you’re incredible
When you gaslight everyone including yourself so hard you actually manifest a wedding out of sheer toxicity
That, or the sex must be really good.
@Mary Webb But he did invite her to have Christmas with his family.
👁👄👁
What's so bad about her can someone please explain
Love that she’s so nervous to give a speech that was neither asked for nor wanted!
I love how all her skits make you go "there are actually people like this."
POV: You told him at the beginning of the relationship (7 years ago) that you never wanted to be married and now all of your friends are getting married so you start panicking.
😂😂😂😂 just proposed to my girl a month ago. We have been together for 7 years lol
And your sister just got married. And your (distant, divorced) mom has taken to making passive aggressive comments re: your age.
@@ajogoz I wonder why do parents make preasure about getting married?
I am from Andorra ( Europe) and this doesn't really happen in my culture.
Parents don't care if you get married or not, they would just care about it in case you are marrying somebody they think its harmfull.
Otherwise most parents would make preasure about studies or jobs but not about other things related to personal life.
I imagine that must be horrible because then you must have a hard time knowing if you are chosimg something freely or just because you feel you should.
That can potentially destroy your life if you do things you dont truly want or feel or where ready for.
How do you deal with it?
@@Agape122We tend to just careen from one relationship to the next like a moth to flame. All this while we are bombarded with artificial images of the "perfect lives" of the wealthy and celebrities. Definitely not sustainable!
@@Agape122 My personal coping mechanisms and self soothing techniques include sarcastic clap backs and eating my own weight in holiday foods. 🤷♀️
All those little jokes and bits that this character developed over the years as defense mechanisms are used to EXPOSE her right here... that was heartbreaking to watch.
Yeah no, this is literally one of my family members mannerisms, had me sad asf bc it’s def a “bullied in hs” thing lmao
@@Fallenemiko the mannerisms…. Ouff! Mine is Spanish (Spain) she has a backbone. She’s assertive but not desperate.
My hair stood up within the first 5 seconds of the video, the character is so cringe inducing is brilliant.
Omg these are so accurate that they are genuinely uncomfortable. I'm not even sure if they're funny, they're just masterful and accurate and respect must be paid for how well they're done.
The one thing that makes this even more believable for me is the very last couple of frames where it dawns on her that she will not be getting proposed to, and needs to leave immediately. That glimpse of actual, genuine, embarrassment and realization is what sold it for me.
Kudos to you
I don't think that's about her being embarrassed. I think she's saying she is giving her boyfriend space that he is expected to use for ring shopping or talking to his parents and her parents about his desire to marry her. Except for perhaps the final second.
Yeah, no. There's no realization. She's still in full denial lol She's just leaving so they can talk about the "proposal plans".
lol same here
The last few frames really made it 👌
Huh? She didn't realize anything. She's offering to leave because she thinks they need to get the proposal ready.
God the fact that I lived through this. My cousin's 1st gf did this at a party and it was the most awkward shit ever. Nobody even pity laughed when she "messed up" her words and tried to make it funny, and kept glancing at him and insinuating he had a ring for her. We were completely dead silent because we all knew he was planning on breaking up with her soon. He broke up with her after the party too lmao. She wasn't bad but she had a tendency to make everything about her and just never shut up so it was a relief when she was gone
That story warmed my heart.
That last sentence, "She wasn't bad but had a tendency to make everything about her and just never shut up so it was a relief when she was gone." That hit home so hard, and while I could string out a story to support this, let me just say that I told the girlfriend of one of my best buddies this to her face almost word for word exactly this in front of him and her friends during the second or third mass gathering I had been invited to.
While it was rude, I was also vindicated. At the time, before Whatsapp or whatever, we used Yahoo Groups in the early 2000's. I was sent private messages after the "confrontation", I was later told by multiple "friends of hers" how thankful they were that somebody said it out loud.
I was obviously never invited to gatherings with her again, and I have some inclination that it might have been the last time they all met together like that and I said the quiet part everyone was thinking/feeling out loud.
@@paulgaither R/AITA
@@paulgaither Love that. I love bluntness. Why beat around the bush? Like, yes, the truth hurts, but it’s the truth.
@purplvurpl 0 Damn.
What an excruciating watch. Well done.
This was like watching someone fall down the stairs in a slow and controlled manner
The boyfriend JUST had a conversation with someone in the kitchen about how he's gonna break it off as soon as their joint-lease is up.
Her BF def waiting for MLK Day so he can break up with her after the Holidays but far enough from Valentine's day 🤣
This speech is exactly why it's Ben's fault. He's giving her false hope & needs to stop stringing her along.
As Ben's grandmother, i can confirm our whole family hates her. She does this every year.
As Ben's single aunt, I'd like to say "Thank you for distracting everyone from asking me about when I'm having children because I'm already 29 and my ovaries are at risk of turning my child into Quasimodo. And for distracting Ben's sister from defending her husband, while only looking at me, even though I wasn't the one who suggested he had a drinking problem to begin with.
How old is Ben if his aunt is 29?!
I could feel my entire body collapsing in on itself from cringe. You deserve Oscars
I imploded lolol
Same.
Yes! She wrote out this script AND performed it, she’s so amazing
I can imagine the family hardly laughing at her cracking up on her weird jokes and then watching awkwardly when she says she's "ready"
The way she pronounces the S's makes me feel some type I can't explain it ! 😭😭😭🤣🤣🤣
I've never actually gotten embarrassed by these characters, but this one reeled me in I was sooo uncomfortable for her 🤣
I think part of it is this isn't an ahole character, just a person who really wants a commitment and is delusional about the prospects of that. It's fun when Karen gets her due, it's hard to watch somebody humiliate themselves.
I know. I keep scrolling in the comment section!
@@rachelk4805 I actually warmed to her on the second watch. She’s such a dork that it’s almost endearing.
I think the long, mortified pause after spilling booze all over herself was a perfect touch. Eg this kind of minor accident is something people do all the time after having a certain amount of drinks and gesticulating with a glass in their hand, and not everyone is going to respond in shame. But it's like the character experienced this abject epiphany of not being able to rely on herself at the moment it matters the most, the dislodged expression mid-speech and stretched out intrusion of self disappointment and alienation/disconnect in that moment is HILARIOUS and something i feel like anyone who's ever been drunk should be able to relate to, especially in a situation where they felt uncomfortable (and were drinking to mask it then lost some of their inhibitions). When you're drunk, it's reasonably common than you would feel like you have something profound to say that needs to be expressed immediately, while having lost the wherewithal to recognise that aspects of one's speech or motor skills have been affected. It's a schism between the sober neurosis and the drunken moment, and done beautifully. It's just mortifying. I love it, and am so relieved to feel at a massive distance from the crux of this scenario
I was just wondering where her friends were.
As someone named Ben, I experienced a wide range of emotions watching this
😂😂
I really hope this gal gets jobs in comedy asap. Her ability to capture the deepest subtleties of human behavior is uncanny. She’s brilliant
It's insane how good you are at playing hateable characters 😂
I honestly don’t know how she bears up under the weight of being this perceptive. Seeing how weird people can be at this level would drive most people insane.
That's so true man, thanks for mentioning it
Such a good point
Exactly! She’s very intuitive honestly she could have been a spy
This hurts to watch, just, the secondhand embarrassment 😭
Great job, you’ve shapeshifted again!
I'm halfway through, and I'm not sure I can finish, it's so painful
Caitlin, you are so wonderful at recognizing the nuances of human behavior. Fabulous and hilarious.
My shoulders were next to my ears with how much I was cringing the whole time. Well done
Out of all of her videos, this one was hardest to get through from secondhand embarrassment..
Yeah, this was genuinely tough.
I couldn't do it, I had to tap out and run to the comments.
@@RandoFromMars ~30 seconds in and I'm doing the same
My guys, i was fighting so much to finish it, had a little stop pit for the comments 😅
The “storms they weathered” are the simplest every day issues you can think off 😭
@blude oh, 1000%
She’s adorable, I want to give her a hug 🤗
Truly there is no couple who has weathered the storm as much as you have! Especially considering the times and all. Right? You are an inspiration to us all. We look forward to next Thanksgiving. And thanks for the card. Drive safely.
The aggressive "I LOVE YOUR SON!" had me!!😩🤣
this feels SO MUCH LONGER than 2:28 and honestly i can't help but applaud you for that (your 'girl who is absolutely getting dumped' series is my favorite)
I love this lady! her skits are PERFECTION
These skits reaffirm my decison to move to the mountains from nyc. I dont always click on em, but when I do, I laugh. Thank you!
I'm autistic so I am very sensitive to secondhand embarrassment and this legitimately almost killed me, five stars
It's literally me babe. It's literally me. (Fellow autistic.) (At least his mom loves me) (...she's also autistic)
Diddo
SAME
😂😂 this comment is golden and confirms how funny this video really is for me too
same lmao
I'm the niece who was playing on their phone and wasn't paying attention anyway but jumped when the gf yelled "I LOVE YOUR SON!"
Not only was I afraid of clicking into this, I had to stop myself from secondhand embarrassment fast forwarding.
These skits make my skin crawl, and yet I keep finding myself coming back for more.
How do you make yourself so fuckin awkward on purpose it's amazing
"I can't think of a couple that's weathered the storms we have"
she's totally talking about their offer getting rejected on a house in upstate NY
NO she’s definitely talking about their three-day “break-up” in July 😂
Guys, it's storms plural. It's the house upstate, the three day break up AND the other seven major incidents
This is so amazing. You nailed that character so well.
That was absolutely phenomenal! 👏👏👏
The passive aggressive laughing is so accurate 😂
Is it passive aggressive? I thought she was just very socially awkward tbh. I didn’t interpret her as being aggressive, but more so using the speech to subtly (because she doesn’t know the definition of subtlety) hint to Ben and give him the go ahead in case he’s scared she’ll say no. I read the character as being ditzy physically and emotionally, but not malevolent.
@Mary Webb Yes, insular! This is the kind of person who implodes when you criticize them. Instead of changing their behavior, they are so self-focused they will either refuse to believe the criticism, or if you do get through to them they will just turn internalize it and get low self-esteem. But they will turn everything inward and never make the connection. Always self-focused
@Mary Webb. You are exactly right, very insular and self-focused