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  • čas přidán 15. 08. 2024
  • When you are a Fearful Avoidant, or you have the Fearful Avoidant Attachment Style or even dating a Fearful Avoidant, you might recognize these common patterns. In this video, I will share the 5 most common relationship patterns with you.
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    00:27 Going all in
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Komentáře • 35

  • @MindGymMeditations
    @MindGymMeditations Před 5 měsíci +23

    1.Going all in and chickening out (now they feel they have to perform)
    2. Being in love until the chase is over. (Fear of connection)
    3. Falling for emotionally unavaioable people.
    4. Wanting approval until the moment of commitment and then searching for faults.
    5. The highs and lows/push and pull

  • @coreygeiger81
    @coreygeiger81 Před 5 měsíci +13

    2 years later on this channel , and it still FREAKS me out how well you know me without knowing me

    • @jellyrcw12
      @jellyrcw12 Před 5 měsíci +3

      Seriously, I feel the same way. But that means we're not alone

    • @breemarie9393
      @breemarie9393 Před 16 dny

      How are you doing now??

  • @stefmrqs
    @stefmrqs Před 5 měsíci +6

    This is the sad truth...
    I would love it if you could do a video on how did you overcome these paterns in yoyr own relationship 😊 how to give affection and love when you have those mixed feelings

  • @user-zw6bc4cg8z
    @user-zw6bc4cg8z Před 5 měsíci +5

    My FA admitted that we had the most other-worldly connection. Needless to say, that triggered her like crazy and the sabotage started from there. Some of the things that were done were insane but exactly according to the script that you have outlined in this video.

  • @denisedavis-pierre6665
    @denisedavis-pierre6665 Před 3 měsíci +2

    So helpful… now I understand why I would feel so safe and then I felt like my FA partner would pull the rug out from under me leaving me off balance and confused….. getting to close

  • @umutkara739
    @umutkara739 Před 4 měsíci +1

    Perfect video. My ex did everything you told here. And maybe you can add that these behaviors are very hurtful for their partners.

  • @jellyrcw12
    @jellyrcw12 Před 5 měsíci +3

    Your channel is amazing. I relate to everything you're sharing. Before i began healing I legit fell into every single pattern you mention. Ty so much for sharing your wisdom and stories with us!

  • @gregariagirl
    @gregariagirl Před 5 měsíci +2

    All of the above, I'm going through this right now. I am so grateful to have found your channel!

  • @dianasternspeaks
    @dianasternspeaks Před 4 měsíci +1

    Loving your channel Paulien, thanks for share us all your knowledge and experience 🤍

  • @MntRprznt
    @MntRprznt Před 5 měsíci +1

    Best video. This one really targets some things I struggle with DAILY.

  • @Yoni189
    @Yoni189 Před 5 měsíci +3

    My ex, all of them....

  • @kerensegevnoy
    @kerensegevnoy Před 5 měsíci

    All the patterns! You are a genius 😮

  • @srraaabdelrasoul5996
    @srraaabdelrasoul5996 Před 5 měsíci +1

    You’re amazing, thank you 🙏❤

  • @littledevil8146
    @littledevil8146 Před 5 měsíci +4

    I see. When I don't want to talk much to my FA (due to being burnt out or just tired) they act how the card will fall. Either become anxious too and give me a lot of attention, or become even more avoidant and we barely contact. That's a bit sad, that I need to push them away in order to feeling loved...

  • @SS-in1ts
    @SS-in1ts Před 5 měsíci +3

    What should we do as partner’s of FA’s? When it’s been months or even years of this behavior?

    • @jellyrcw12
      @jellyrcw12 Před 5 měsíci +3

      Depends on your needs and wants. As FA we need a lot of stability and acceptance. I had a lot of ups and downs with my boyfriend when we first started dating. But he was very stable and truly wanted me to stick around. One time we were getting into and he just said "I wish you would let me love you" and it really helped me feel more secure. But you have to know your own limits too.

  • @moulee7448
    @moulee7448 Před 2 měsíci

    How can you describe me on point without even talking to me 😭😭😭

  • @noahplays3698
    @noahplays3698 Před 4 měsíci

    I recognize all.

  • @RomanNavy87
    @RomanNavy87 Před 5 měsíci +2

    I've been dating an FA for 2yrs with all of these patterns. I'm SA, so it's been very difficult. I'm not sure how much longer I can deal with it without it being harmful to me. I really want him to start to heal, but I know he has to want to 😢

    • @laurenmountain-ledoux6901
      @laurenmountain-ledoux6901 Před 4 měsíci +1

      I’m in the same boat. He recognizes there’s a problem, I think I start seeing progress, says he’s open to therapy but then falls back into the same patterns and rinse and repeat. So painful!

    • @RomanNavy87
      @RomanNavy87 Před 4 měsíci

      @@laurenmountain-ledoux6901 😥

  • @jellyrcw12
    @jellyrcw12 Před 5 měsíci +1

    I legit feel like you're reading my diary lol

  • @purplefenix2946
    @purplefenix2946 Před 5 měsíci

    Good video

  • @StudioSGS
    @StudioSGS Před 5 měsíci +1

    Is there an FA pattern of panicking and having emotional outbursts in a relationship once commitment and safety have been established?

  • @Ad-nu4tk
    @Ad-nu4tk Před 4 měsíci

    I find that I do relate to this except once they like me back I still think highly of them and want to be with them so badly but my feelings turn to nothingness and I become anxious/repulsed that they like me and wish that I could like them back too without getting so anxious/dreadful. Can anyone relate or explain this?

    • @Ad-nu4tk
      @Ad-nu4tk Před 4 měsíci

      it’s so immediate that I can’t even get into the relationship to begin with. It all stops once they show they like me back:/

    • @MrMalum
      @MrMalum Před 2 měsíci

      ​@@Ad-nu4tkyou should ask for reassurance. It's probably because you think you are a bad person.

  • @alyajewellery
    @alyajewellery Před 5 měsíci +1

    I don’t go all in at first I’m pretty cold and need persuasion.