Assuming The Narcissist Is Over You Could Be Scary.

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  • Assuming The Narcissist Is Over You Could Be Scary.
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Komentáře • 256

  • @redone2184
    @redone2184 Před rokem +19

    After 3 year No Contact , I woke up this morning and thought... I finally have Peace of Mind......something the narc will Never have.....Peace of mind....

  • @Melissa-HoneyBee
    @Melissa-HoneyBee Před rokem +10

    It's pure arrogance on the Narcissists part. The Narcissist assumes you have forgotten everything.

  • @mariecherry921
    @mariecherry921 Před rokem +29

    That feeling of your heart pounding in your chest and your hands going clammy should be an indication that it’s not the right thing to do to answer when they call you - it’s a reminder of how you used to feel everyday, that nervous, walking on egg shells, panic, worrying you’ve done something wrong feeling. Great video Dave thank you

  • @lisamooney6297
    @lisamooney6297 Před rokem +125

    💯 Dave they wait until they think it has been enough time for you not to be angry and then they reach out. Don't engage it will just be a story of lies.

    • @susantodd7169
      @susantodd7169 Před rokem

      💯 truth! They are
      Walking with the devil, lies and deception.

    • @therealbronxilla
      @therealbronxilla Před rokem +3

      Thanks for the tip. That makes a lot of sense.

    • @traceybiles2061
      @traceybiles2061 Před rokem +1

      They have nothing I want or need..I may be alone but I am at peace and will be ready for a real meaningful reltionship not a monkey vine reltionship on to next victim like them..that is difference between them and us

    • @tinajones5548
      @tinajones5548 Před rokem +4

      Soo true, like a naughty child trying to win back favour with a parent..

    • @josephflamm2262
      @josephflamm2262 Před rokem +2

      Love it? Totally on point! Thank you! It has been four years and have not heard this that I can recall. Really needed this! Have made great progress. She was one of the great teachers in my life. Much better now however this process has been awesome. I have challenged many long term relationships, some fifty years or more, male or female, love interests, and yes own mother and brother. AND MYSELF.

  • @myunpopularopinion4818
    @myunpopularopinion4818 Před rokem +14

    The dating sites never turned out well. Just met more narcs. But now I’m starting to date again meeting men the natural way and it’s wonderful! Now I keep my boundaries up and always pray to God to show me their true nature

  • @aalexnavas
    @aalexnavas Před rokem +9

    Let them live with that mistake for the rest of their lives..

  • @amypurks1892
    @amypurks1892 Před rokem +52

    My ex reached out to my daughter A couple of weeks ago trying to get to me. This is not our child together we were together only seven years she is 22. I am now 4 1/2 years out of that relationship and my first husband and I reconciled and got remarried two years ago. I am assuming he knows this but still reached out. They are relentless! I just calmly told her to block him and I ignored it. God has healed me up from those wounds!! Praying for anyone who is going through this it is a nightmare!🙏

    • @kimberlyfloyd1009
      @kimberlyfloyd1009 Před rokem +6

      I was just wondering while going through this divorce if they will try to come back years down the line. Terrifying!!!!!!

    • @elizabethjimenez9729
      @elizabethjimenez9729 Před rokem +1

      Thank you sister

  • @stevebosley8642
    @stevebosley8642 Před rokem +41

    What Dave says is exactly the trajectory of what they do. Mine showed up a few months ago at my door. Leaving multiple letters begging for a face to face meeting. Saying she was really tortured in her feelings about the breakup. Having nightmares. Of which I believe. You can't go thru life doing this to people and not be haunted in your subconscious. I never responded nor opened the door. The best thing you can do is change your number. Don't worry about blocking on your phone just get a new number. No contact drives them crazy and they can't get beyond Grade A supply if you never respond. It kills them. Mind you the discard in my case was 5 years ago. Time means nothing to these demons. Trust the process!!!!!

    • @augustvirgo6773
      @augustvirgo6773 Před rokem +8

      Omg five years how far will they go?

    • @riana5817
      @riana5817 Před rokem +1

      I’ve changed my number about 8-10 times in a year, he still manages to find it. We have no friend/family connections so the only thing I can think of is he manages to find it with my iCloud email. Just bought a new phone yesterday, and I’m getting rid of the old one. These people are sad.

  • @rclark7807
    @rclark7807 Před rokem +5

    I shut [her] down ENTIRELY! I moved, changed my number, new job and told her to never contact me again in any way, shape or form! Then months later she got me on email.....I filed a harassment incident with local police and they contacted her - I KNOW that REALLY upsets a narcissist, but she can't so much as click 'like' on FB or she'll be in trouble! I SLAMMED that door for good!
    ......the best part is that narcissists cannot stand being told NO!

  • @1991windsor
    @1991windsor Před rokem +29

    Mine showed up on my front door step in the middle of the night, banging on my bedroom window. This was 3 years after the discard! He woke me up from a dead sleep, and though I never answered the door, he finally left after several minutes. I can tell you my legs were shaking uncontrollably. I don't think I went back to sleep at all that night.
    Personally, I've never been on a dating site before nor will I ever. I actually like being by myself.

    • @ms.generatorsnatcher9974
      @ms.generatorsnatcher9974 Před rokem +3

      I hope that never happens to me, but in the back of my mind I anticipate him doing something like that to me. If it happens, I plan to punch security code on my home alarm and wait for the police to arrive.

    • @Narcologyunscripted
      @Narcologyunscripted  Před rokem +1

      Amen

    • @rogerwoodard7867
      @rogerwoodard7867 Před rokem +2

      I understand, there are good men/women out there. It's not good to be alone, best with a good man. I'm going to know someone very well before I get involved.

    • @treelover1050
      @treelover1050 Před rokem +1

      Good idea to buy a gun & continuously train how to use it. Know the local gun laws. Narcissists can be dangerous & unpredictable.

  • @Red-Iceberg
    @Red-Iceberg Před rokem +5

    I walked away almost 3 yrs ago. Got a friend request just yesterday, I BLOCKED. there will be NO RESPONSE, I don't want this monster in my life period....(Evil is what evil displays)

    • @peacefaith560
      @peacefaith560 Před rokem

      yup, its been 10 yrs and he still trying !! lol

  • @jordangrice3565
    @jordangrice3565 Před rokem +15

    The dating sites were absolutely horrible in my opinion. Everyone on there had some pretty intense issues ..it's like they burned the bridges with everyone around them so they have to reach further out.

    • @fairpoet81
      @fairpoet81 Před 11 měsíci +2

      That's probably an accurate estimate on them having to "reach out further". Hadn't considered that. 🤔 Blessings to you, Jordan. And, my own experiences on the dating apps were horrible and Narc-filled on this end. Widowhood and living in a very small town lead me that route, and it was nightmarish! 😱

  • @angiesizzlepants
    @angiesizzlepants Před rokem +6

    Me: I've burned that bridge. They're never coming back
    The narc: hold on lemme drop in on this hot air balloon

  • @JudyLBeres
    @JudyLBeres Před rokem +6

    No dating sites. No desire to date at all. My narc’s engaged. Again. Good riddance.

  • @FredaFaithkennedy2523
    @FredaFaithkennedy2523 Před rokem +9

    Still on my toes Dave! I will never ever underestimate the narc. The lord carries me. ✌🙌. I've learned to trust in the lord with all my heart an lean not on my own understanding. This gives me the upper hand over the Narc the devil has no entry.!

  • @JaneJ993
    @JaneJ993 Před rokem +5

    Mines been gone 4-evs, but he has been known to ghost for months on end and then appear out of no where. I went no contact, so as long as I stick to it, I'll be okay🙏. No dating sites for me. My future seems to be me and Jesus

  • @jeanmarie3258
    @jeanmarie3258 Před rokem +29

    i have hope that i did enough to stop him ever contacting me. i dont ever wanna clap eyes on him, im 3 years free and still healing. i have cptsd and pnes seizures brought on from trauma and stress, i have had seizures from seeing someone that looked like him, i dont ever wanna see him again, thanks for all you do Dave x

    • @BR9900-w5l
      @BR9900-w5l Před rokem +2

      I did everything right by blocking any contact. Now he calls and hangs up on me using a private phone number. Fake Facebook accounts one after the other. Everything he sends is ignored. These people are truly disorded.

    • @djnquire
      @djnquire Před 28 dny

      I have strange feelings when I see my ex out and about

  • @cherihill1687
    @cherihill1687 Před rokem +7

    I left the matrix - I have no feeling, no emotion, or reaction to feed the parasites that are multiplying like rats on this planet. I have my soul and am content and at peace living in the present moment. I rarely go out into the masses for anything as I have most of what I need. Most people live their lives on an ego based level, their false self. Trying to impress others, to validate themselves, to feed their ego, to get their “fix” by destroying good souls. The demons are real. But so is karma. I don’t have to do anything but be at peace with my self and give it to God for he can take care of all the wrongs in this world much better than I could. There is nothing behind me that deserves a look back. Thank you Dave and may God bless you for educating and helping heal those who have escaped the demons yet don’t quite realize it was their biggest blessing of all!

    • @Makinzie_77
      @Makinzie_77 Před rokem +2

      Not to promote another channel but check out Batel Skater on here. She’s goes in depth about this. So true!!

    • @LenaKrupinski-vg5wi
      @LenaKrupinski-vg5wi Před 4 měsíci +1

      ✨🕊✨ Its true we live in a society that's insane ! ✨🕊

  • @dailystriver2727
    @dailystriver2727 Před rokem +14

    She probably is over me since my narc ex gf discarded me in the most painful and brutal way. She dumps me out of the blue then ghosted me, gave me the silent treatment and when I approached her after a month of her doing this she was cold and nasty. Showed no empathy or emotion or remorse. After she sent me one message telling me to not contact her again and leave her alone. Then few weeks after I got served a restraining order made up of false allegations of emotional abuse which were a projection of her own behaviour to me in the relationship to play the victim and give me the final discard message of I don’t want to speak to you anymore and want to be left alone with the new supply.
    I just find these effects very difficult to live with of being discarded like this and all the psychological and emotional effects of the pain and trauma.
    Narcs don’t just break your heart they ruin you and your soul and discard brutally. All of this pain for a woman I fell in love with. Getting completely crushed and used only for supply the whole time.

    • @therealbronxilla
      @therealbronxilla Před rokem +6

      I went through the same thing. Fell in love with her, did EVERYTHING for her, even went to India to help her bring her father to the US for medical care. We had to deplane in Dubai because her father got sick in flight. During the week there she got cold and nasty and basically discarded me so she could sleep with a 20-year old hotel staffer (she was 52)! It was incredibly painful. Came out of nowhere. What I have come to learn is that it had nothing to do with me. I am a good, loving person. She picked me because I was an easy target. Ultimately she is a person with no morals - infidelity was just one thing. I am now free and have my own life back. It has been a hard process but you do get there. It was not you. You too will find peace. I tell Jesus that I trust him with what he is doing in my life, and that makes it all better.

    • @ms.generatorsnatcher9974
      @ms.generatorsnatcher9974 Před rokem +4

      It's a hurting thing. Grieve your loss and keep moving forward. Look out for yourself. Take care of Yourself and do something nice for you. Try not think about them!

    • @dailystriver2727
      @dailystriver2727 Před rokem +3

      @@therealbronxilla I appreciate your words of support bro. Finding others to relate to us and understand is rare in the real world cause many don’t get it when they haven’t been in a narcissistic relationship.
      Even though it Chips away at my self esteem and confidence especially with how she brutally rejected me and made me feel so unwanted, unattractive and undesired during the discard. I try to remind myself regularly that what she did to me had nothing to do with me as a person or my worth or value as a human being. She may believe she won in the end by dumping and discarding me but that’s not reality or the truth that’s just her living in her delusional ego which all these narcissistic people do.
      It’s crazy how with time, the truth comes to light. It’s only since October that I’ve been learning about narcissists and narcissistic relationships that so many of the answers about her and the relationship come to light. I realised she was not the person she showed me to be, that I fell in love with a mask, with someone who never existed and so many other things. I realised she probably cheated on me during the relationship since she already started dating someone else as soon as she discarded me but I also realised that that was the final discard last October and that since one year before that from September/October 2021 she had already started discarding me by the things she told me and how she was acting but I didn’t realise what was happening at the time.
      We got completely deceived and played and they never loved or cared about us we were just a source of supply even though accepting this truth hurts us but like you said it’s been tough but I will feel better and heal with time.
      Glad you’re feeling better now and hope that with time you’ll keep healing and feeling even better.

    • @dailystriver2727
      @dailystriver2727 Před rokem +2

      @@ms.generatorsnatcher9974 thanks for your words of support it really means a lot. I am moving forward now whilst working on these scars and the effects and pain and trauma that this person has inflicted on me but I try to remind myself that I will find peace and heal.
      If you have also been in a toxic:narc relationship I hope you’re doing better now in every way..

    • @therealbronxilla
      @therealbronxilla Před rokem +1

      @@dailystriver2727 Wow. Almost identical experiences. Looking back I also started connecting dots and confirming her lies, like ordering a woman’s beach bag for me. She ordered it for herself but sent it accidentally to me but didn’t want me to know because she goes once a year to a gathering in Montauk where she apparently tries to hook up with someone. Totally immoral. I will keep you in my prayers brother.

  • @MrBogeyman00
    @MrBogeyman00 Před rokem +4

    As Johnny Depp said to Amber Herd,"You will never see my eyes again".

  • @missb1982
    @missb1982 Před rokem +27

    Another great video. I felt everything you said. Even though im mostly healed, this narc spirit, monitoring spirit may try to attack us our whole lives because the enemy has no new tricks and knows at some point, this tactic worked on us. Its a life long battle. If its not the ex narc that hoovers, the spirit may be in someone else that attempts to enter your life. Be vigilant brothers and sisters.

    • @debbiemckee1975
      @debbiemckee1975 Před rokem +3

      This is very true

    • @tripleccc123
      @tripleccc123 Před rokem +3

      Agreed

    • @KAT-eb1qg
      @KAT-eb1qg Před rokem +5

      Yes I agree, the same spirit is in multiple people. You leave one person and it appears in another.

  • @onedayatatime746
    @onedayatatime746 Před rokem +4

    I am at peace I am single for rest of my life. (60 years old) very content. The Lord is with me. I learned a harsh lesson by being with a narc. Nc almost 2years.

  • @ianfink9277
    @ianfink9277 Před rokem +9

    She walked into the room on one occasion and without a word gave me the most deep and passionate kiss. I was bowled over and jokingly asked her if she wanted a child. She smiled and walked back out of the room. A couple of minutes later she walked back in and repeated the process. In that moment I intuitively knew I was being played. Such are the manipulative tactics of the malignant narcissist when they weaponise intimacy. Vile creatures. Btw I wised up and divorced her.

  • @louiseventer6580
    @louiseventer6580 Před rokem +6

    It has been two months of no contact, haven't seen or heard from him. Yesterday I went shopping like normal and lo and behold he was suddenly shopping there too. Which means he drove far out of his way to get there. He cornered me and told me how miserable he was, how horrible the new supply was blah blah blah. I just stared at him and when he was done all I said: "That sounds horrible, good luck with that." I walked straight out the shop and in the car I couldn't help laughing at the shock on his face. But I think it was also the adrenaline because afterwards I felt drained! Thank you for your calm explanations🌹💜. (Never been on a dating site)

  • @jrlatina
    @jrlatina Před rokem +8

    Dave since I've been hoovered so many times it's actually exactly how you are describing it, they start out with that "hey" shit and as soon as you say No they start to say hurtful words! I'm like so done with that demon!

  • @susantodd7169
    @susantodd7169 Před rokem +5

    He is probably 💯 % glad to get rid of me cause I ran out of his fuel

  • @debbiegalica2992
    @debbiegalica2992 Před rokem +3

    I'm not planning on going back to the Narc. I have never been on any dating sites in my life. If he ever calls I pray I'm ready for that phone call. But God has me.

  • @EButta71
    @EButta71 Před rokem +7

    I guess I am over confident. I caused a HUGE narcissistic injury this last time and haven't heard from him in over a month. I left him speechless and I'm happy. And I do believe that he won't come back because this last time WAS him coming back and I told him where to go and how to get there. But I can certainly attest to the fact that they believe that "time heals all wounds." So he may try to come back like nothing happened. But he better not, don't know what I'll say if anything but I'll start mentally preparing... although I don't want to, I just want to be done because he literally has the same toxic demeanor and attitude and I never want to deal with that again.

    • @kkdream99
      @kkdream99 Před 5 měsíci +2

      Oh if he’s a narc he will be back :)

    • @EButta71
      @EButta71 Před 5 měsíci +1

      @@kkdream99 indeed he came back lol He seems to have grown. But that's great for him from a distance.

  • @matermatuta1462
    @matermatuta1462 Před rokem +2

    Say no to the narcissist, see how they act 100% spot on

  • @susantodd7169
    @susantodd7169 Před rokem +6

    Dave, I never got on any dating site. I don’t think I am ever looking again. I am happy being alone. God will have to do a creative MIRACLE, and He can- but I won’t go looking again. Divorced 2 x already. I must say-NOT INTERESTED.

  • @stevewilliams8573
    @stevewilliams8573 Před rokem +6

    In regards to your question of the day, I went to 2 different dating sites almost immediately after my discard. Even though I was an emotional wreck. If nothing else, they are great for a laugh. Everything on there is basically a lie or some type of deception. People post photos from 20 years ago and then wonder why you don't recognize them when you try to meet for a drink. 😄
    Don't do it, I found I wasn't ready to date for nearly 2 years. And even then it was still a struggle. But I finally got myself into a good, loving relationship now.

  • @darthrasheed8248
    @darthrasheed8248 Před rokem +8

    Dating sites suck and a lot of females with luggage

  • @prettynatural1973
    @prettynatural1973 Před rokem +5

    We love you. I felt the Same way I would not pick up the phone I said no he doesn’t deserve to hear the joy of my voice

  • @ddavis7338
    @ddavis7338 Před rokem +8

    NO CONTACT!! It'll hurt like hell in the begining but it's the only way. Don't engage with them. You beat them at their game by SIMPLY NOT PLAYING IT. Mine already started popping up at my job but I wasn't there. If I see her black eyes I'll act as of she won't exist. I'm pretty sure there's a smear campaign happening but I don't give a damn hell her "friends" who still work with me know she's a deeply disturbed person. I don't feel sorry for her at all because we all have a choice in how we behave mental health be damned. I already escaped hell and I'm not going into any one else's. As a man once said "You're on your own". These people throw away good hearted people who care and love them despite their flaws. Feel good in knowing that you had good intentions for them. And let it be. Don't respond to the Hoover or Smear Campaigns. Those are pathetic attempts to get your golden heart back. Never give it to them cuz they don't deserve it. Let them go play in filth cuz that's what they want. Reprobates bar none.

    • @peacefaith560
      @peacefaith560 Před rokem

      yup, narcs are liabilities they bringing nothing to the table but lies, drama, and chaos, and when you wake up, and you will, no contact will be a breeze!! lol

  • @JaneJ993
    @JaneJ993 Před rokem +10

    We're just friends all the way to We're trying for a baby. I love the cognitive dissonance they live in. They want you to live in crazy town with them, and we can't anymore. Once God shows you some truth, you can't go back to the lies

  • @balanceskateboarding8807

    Mine is aging fast on the wrong side of 40 but has set himself up pretty nowadays thrown himself into playing music in a band! His ego is monstrous! Atm plenty of supply, band members, fans, gigs, tours, concerts, social media projects and videos.

  • @JesusSavedMeFromASuicideAtempt

    The most painful thing for me was finding out this woman who I fell so hard for due to so many reasons only saw me as a panick pick… I was temporary supply and the discard along with my addiction to gambling and me being haunted by the legion is weighing on me… I appreciate you and your subscribers Dave…Thank you…

    • @markthornemarmaduke
      @markthornemarmaduke Před rokem +3

      Hope you do well soon. Tough times, I know it hurts. reach out whenever you need to, and enjoy your own time if need be. Keep moving, movement is good for the body, and what's good for the body is good for the mind. Wish you peace and healing

  • @anndra1160
    @anndra1160 Před rokem +6

    Yes, they ALWAYS try to keep tabs on you in one way or another. It's very disturbing behavior. Rational, normal, HEALTHY people don't behave like that. I have been narc free for over a year, and have never or will EVER look on dating sites! Social media has created the perfect outlet for these sad, disturbed narcissistic individuals and I'm not going to fall prey to one again!!! When, and if, God chooses to bless me with a suitable companion is fine. I'm never alone with God in my life! 🤗🙏 Thanks for all you do, Dave, to spread knowledge and healing on this subject! 👏❤

  • @gypsy2268
    @gypsy2268 Před rokem +4

    It’s been 4 years apart! I’m a Mrs stay the hell away, been there with hoovering even though blocked everywhere, they still find a way. Be strong, to them it’s just game . I will never give my Power away! 💪

  • @debbieramsey2696
    @debbieramsey2696 Před rokem +2

    It has been 9 years since I divorced him and he still drives by my house. He doesn't even live in the same state. Never let your guard down.

    • @peacefaith560
      @peacefaith560 Před rokem

      lol ikr....after 30 yr history, he hoovers and tries to stalk my fb page !!

  • @Queenoftherats1
    @Queenoftherats1 Před rokem +13

    The ex narcissists mask dropped when I sent him to jail and he got a DV charge and I stupidly missed him due to the trauma bond and to make a long story short I made an ass of myself plain and simple for the following year. All hell broke loose after that and I should of licked my wounds and counted my tremendous losses financially and emotionally because I thought I knew evil before that phase.. oh no I didn't. It just got progressively worse. A couple new damaging form of abuse were implemented after that too. This was before I educated myself on narcissism and the abuse cycle and since then i changed my number and moved. In hindsight I knew i had fears of going back to the narcissist due to him and his narc family after the smear campaign but never go back after you have caused such a narc injury such as this for instance. S.O.S signals in the air wave!! I'm not sure if he will come back to me since this whole year together was a total cesspool and he was telling me how he wants to be done with me and all this bs. I don't care now that I'm free. It's no more skin off my bones which I haven't already put up with in tenfold! I will no longer be a supply to him for his wicked needs. He can go bum his supply off the multiple girls he chatted with online before during and after I knew him!
    Once you finally know what you're dealing with YOU KNOW what to do!

    • @gabriellemaes4078
      @gabriellemaes4078 Před rokem +3

      I’d never go back. I know he still stalks me. They are grotesque. Not human and you will die a horrible death if you stay married or together with these creatures. It’s tragic because there’s that sweet little boy/girl in there but the legions of demons they are possessed with make it similar to trying to baby a viper. Glad you made it out!❤️🙏

    • @Queenoftherats1
      @Queenoftherats1 Před rokem +1

      @@gabriellemaes4078 yes there is a tragic aspect to it. That's what kept me latching onto the toxicity. All the childhood guilt stories. But one thing I remember vividly is him saying how his love from his childhood was taken away from him. That's all I needed to know then and there and had I known what I know now I would of saved myself massive heartache. We will get through it. Yes, they're vipers for sure. All the times he called me a snake and all the things he was is comical looking back at but is still enough to put me in a dark place if I let it. I really like that analogy. It is like babying a viper! I'm glad you too made it out! The best is yet to come! ❣️🙏🙏

  • @michaelmorgan7893
    @michaelmorgan7893 Před rokem +9

    True. My way of thinking post narc, is "Assume nothing, and watch everything, staying vigilant". I know, even for me that's often times easier said than done. That's why I'm still here, to learn, and maybe see something (from a different perspective) that I never thought of. It always pays great dividends to stay vigilant.
    Oh, by the way, that "Pepsi" was for me, lol.
    Great video Dave. God bless you for all your work and ministry.

  • @Langolin1998
    @Langolin1998 Před rokem +2

    So spot on! I was hoovered after our divorce, and made the horrible decision to go back, because I had not healed. It was a matter of weeks after going back before things went very wrong very fast, and were way worse than even the first go round! I left again for good after a couple months and haven’t spoken or heard from him in two years and three months. For the first time in that long, I was contacted by him two days ago, by text. Because I have learned, and transitioned into a Mrs. A, since then, I did not respond to the Hoover! It doesn’t matter how badly things end, all of the videos out there, regarding their eventual return, it’s true! Stay strong! Do not let them back in.
    It’s true, too, that you feel anxiety when you see their name, pop up on your phone, and that is definitely something to warn you that communication with them will only fill you with anxiety!

  • @peggyeldridge4827
    @peggyeldridge4827 Před rokem +1

    I am still am single (since July) no dating sites. I am enjoying my life alone for now.

  • @kostradivarius2375
    @kostradivarius2375 Před rokem +1

    Thanks Dave , words of wisdom!

  • @balanceskateboarding8807

    Yes Dave this is helping!

  • @shirleymadiva6886
    @shirleymadiva6886 Před rokem +4

    I am afraid of dating sites🙌🏽. NOPE!!

  • @therealbronxilla
    @therealbronxilla Před rokem +4

    I was shocked that my ex tried to hoover me and actually asked for access to an online account when her appropriating another online account of mine was what led to the end - it was the last straw. It made no difference to her at all. The gall was insane. I mentioned that to her and her attempt to cheat no me and something she did to shame me. She did not respond. That was five weeks ago. She is in desperate financial straits and might lose her place. I can definitely see her trying to hoover me again some time in the future, when she will probably really, really need help to get bailed out of whatever jam she is in. I pray for her to change, not so that we can reconcile, but just because it would be a good thing and even a miracle, but I know she has a heart of stone that only worships status and material things. I think she's hopeless.

  • @rosesantiago174
    @rosesantiago174 Před rokem +1

    ALWAYS A THUMBS UP! THANK YOU!

  • @neti-neti4727
    @neti-neti4727 Před rokem +1

    Found your channel lately
    . I enjoy you content! Thanks!

  • @d.w.7114
    @d.w.7114 Před rokem +8

    Good reminder! Thanks for making this video, Dave. They show you how little you mean to them and betray you in the worst ways, so it feels like they won’t contact you again. I feel sick thinking about him. He caused so much damage to my life. Maybe I should change my phone number.

  • @susantodd7169
    @susantodd7169 Před rokem +8

    So glad you didn’t talk during ur Hoover phone call. It’s best to never talk to them because it just reversed all the healing you have been working on

    • @treelover1050
      @treelover1050 Před rokem +1

      Don't start texting them again like I did either. They talk only BS and manipulations. They are very good at persuading us to do what they want us to do again even though I knew he was a liar.

    • @treelover1050
      @treelover1050 Před rokem +1

      People on dating sites can pretend to be anyone or anything they want. Too many liars there. Better to meet people in person and test them out over time with God's help.

    • @irstalina
      @irstalina Před rokem

      Is it reversing ALL healing/progress really?

    • @susantodd7169
      @susantodd7169 Před rokem +1

      @@irstalina I don’t know really. I’d just hate to go back. It’s so lonely sometimes , you may just be remembering your good times with them and wanting that. Just don’t forget the other 90% of my time I spent in hell fighting with that X- NARC. That stops me from falling again, for anything from him! Because if I go back it will just be him faking his admiration and he will just finish me off the next time. So I’ve chosen not any interaction with him.

    • @irstalina
      @irstalina Před rokem

      @@susantodd7169 very well said! I totally agree and understand where you're coming from. I would regret the rest of my life that I was so stupid taking him back even tho knowing all I know. And then be left like trash anyways later on at some point, but even more scarred and weak! Ugh! This is our only chance taking back our power and walking away I believe. Because that demon will eat you alive as soon as the honeymoon-phase is over and the mask comes off again...

  • @cathy_clarinet
    @cathy_clarinet Před rokem

    Thanks, as always, Dave

  • @JaneJ993
    @JaneJ993 Před rokem +1

    You're here! Love it. What a great day🌠

  • @irstalina
    @irstalina Před rokem

    Your eyes are pure light, warmth, wisdom and love! Thank you, sir. ❤🙏

  • @priscillalopez3265
    @priscillalopez3265 Před rokem +1

    Thank you for sharing this video!!! It has helped me so tremendously!!! You are so amazing!!! So amazing!

  • @flyawaybutterflyhealingchannel

    Dating sites...no way..I tried met another narc and ran as fast as I could. I Pray that God has a plan for me

  • @lkmn2462
    @lkmn2462 Před rokem +2

    Looking good and healthy, Dave.....your hair looks great too. Your videos (and messages of course) top the list of all the numerous videos on CZcams on narcissists. I always look forward to them. Thank you for being real. God bless you for the awesome work you've been doing. Everything you say always resonates with me and my experience with narcissists.

  • @KadyPowellAEROPOLEONEKD
    @KadyPowellAEROPOLEONEKD Před rokem +1

    Put GOD first 🕊️ Love you infinitely Dave

  • @LoriSings65
    @LoriSings65 Před rokem +1

    Love you thank You so very much 😘

  • @ShantaFuentes
    @ShantaFuentes Před rokem

    This was so freeing! Especially about the dating apps 😭

  • @annereed9568
    @annereed9568 Před rokem +5

    Hahaha,3 years clean.
    Haven't seen you in a long time,hope you are very well Dave.

  • @JaneJ993
    @JaneJ993 Před rokem +1

    Thanks!

  • @ritadoran5039
    @ritadoran5039 Před rokem +3

    I like how truthful you are im admitting my flesh missed him cuz i was in love but the hurt outweighs the charm

  • @lookatthetrees7494
    @lookatthetrees7494 Před 11 měsíci

    Thank you. Everything you say is extremely helpful. You are helping many. ❤

  • @esthero1994
    @esthero1994 Před rokem +1

    That's what I told him, you never really knew me. But that's good it works in my favor. Thank you, Dave 💞

  • @princessmandy1757
    @princessmandy1757 Před rokem

    Thanks Dave! ❤

  • @susantodd7169
    @susantodd7169 Před rokem +4

    I have to sit next to mine at my sons graduation in May! Never know how to act. Ready to be strong and not say too much . Just short, to the point answers -if he even talks to me.

    • @ms.generatorsnatcher9974
      @ms.generatorsnatcher9974 Před rokem +3

      Gray rock! Or, no replies.

    • @angelacahill9083
      @angelacahill9083 Před rokem +1

      Me too at the end of March for graduation....best to show no emotion and keep the exchange to a minimum.....God bless

  • @cathypalmer2554
    @cathypalmer2554 Před rokem +6

    One of my favorite songs right now is first things first. I will always put him first and I know he will take care of me from there. Thank you Dave for all your wonderful help.

  • @TheAmazingRandy
    @TheAmazingRandy Před rokem

    There's great wisdom in your shared stories. Very helpful. Thanks much

  • @algentles5361
    @algentles5361 Před rokem

    Most definitely it's helping me...

  • @JennyGaston
    @JennyGaston Před rokem +2

    Thanks for another great video. It's even more challenging if you're co-parenting with them and share children because this constant hoovering.👀

  • @Hopper11
    @Hopper11 Před rokem +1

    I really understand everything you say. You’re saving lives. Thank you

  • @TheUsurperGuy1
    @TheUsurperGuy1 Před rokem +2

    Narc texted me on July last year and asked if I was "ok" and asked where I currently stay. I used your grey rock knowledge to simply respond with one worded answers and not disclose any information regarding my location. She then said something that triggered me a little bit, she said "I just wanted to make sure you are ok and happy" to which I responded
    "You don't really care. You're dead to me tbh. Do not contact me again." And promptly blocked her before she had a chance to respond. Fast forward to now and I have not heard from her since. But should I meet her randomly one day I won't be angry or anything. She'll receive the same "respect" as a complete stranger but a stranger that I used to know.

  • @Dalal9911
    @Dalal9911 Před rokem +9

    I feel like I’m dying. It’s been three months since I left my narcissistic husband.

    • @ms.generatorsnatcher9974
      @ms.generatorsnatcher9974 Před rokem +6

      Mourn your loss. You were married to him. He was not married to you. I started my grieving process before we separated.

    • @JaneJ993
      @JaneJ993 Před rokem +6

      It will get better. Promise!🙏

    • @rhondathompson6592
      @rhondathompson6592 Před rokem +4

      It's difficult at first but will get better. Please practice self care and continue to listen to these videos.

    • @peacefaith560
      @peacefaith560 Před rokem +2

      its gonna take time to heal...prayer and get counselling if you have to , I did. but you are gonna live !! take it one day at a time and trust God !

    • @jaslyn5501
      @jaslyn5501 Před rokem +1

      Just keep pushing! It feels like death but just get up every morning and do the very best you can. There is joy waiting for you on the other side.

  • @christinaholtzclaw2738
    @christinaholtzclaw2738 Před rokem +2

    Happy Tuesday Dave, admittedly I’ve thought that little weasel is gone for good. I know better now. No dating sites.Great video. Hugs

  • @HonestyIsAVirtue7
    @HonestyIsAVirtue7 Před rokem +2

    My worst nightmare is him trying to ever rear his evil devil head anywhere near me. Just the thought of him makes me cringe...

  • @touchpoint4christministries444

    Dave 🥰It’s always a blessing to hear from you ,Gee this is an on time word thank you for allowing the Lord to use you.We must keep it forward and keep our eyes on the father he is our guide .These Narcs need to heal however they believe it’s Us that need the healing & in most cases it’s True especially after breaking free from the death transactions. God bless all that may read 🙏🏾✝️

  • @Dalal9911
    @Dalal9911 Před rokem +5

    This is helping I listen to you all the time your voice is like music to my ears. You lift me up every time I feel like I can’t breathe. Thank you so much.

  • @LoriSings65
    @LoriSings65 Před rokem +1

    Love from Florida 😘

  • @MelanieTims-gs7ej
    @MelanieTims-gs7ej Před 11 měsíci +1

    Ty for your videos its been only 4 months since he dumped me. I keep thinking its me and still in shock. He considered me so ugly since the car wreck . in my moment weakness I tried to reach out because I have no one to talk to. I hate myself for this. Please pray for wisdom and strength from our Father to heal. 😮😢

  • @josephflamm2262
    @josephflamm2262 Před rokem +2

    Although I met a great friend on Plenty Of Fish, seriously, she is the only possibly. That was ten years ago. My advice is to avoid clubs, dating sites,etc. I have through the troubles.

  • @ritadoran5039
    @ritadoran5039 Před rokem +3

    Hi Dave
    Why I listen to your vids they keep it fresh in my mind to remind me don't be tempted cuz they will strike not happening to me I'm with Jesus

  • @cleovintora59
    @cleovintora59 Před rokem +4

    My ex Narc came bk and he apologized and acted " accountable " for his actions everything he said he would come out the way to see me...I didn't believe a word he said and I decided ton" see" and when he hasn't made effort I didn't say anything, coz I expected it and I don't care

  • @davidjthayer7417
    @davidjthayer7417 Před rokem

    I had the knowledge !!
    I felt so nasty seeing her
    ( Years ago ) took a long time to wash that off !! I was angry with myself and hurt by her on so many levels my Soul cried out for Mercy !!!

  • @ST-cy6we
    @ST-cy6we Před rokem +1

    6:39 heartbreaking.. You can feel his pain. I have to prepare myself for this moment, for when it happens that I remain strong.

  • @audreyroche9490
    @audreyroche9490 Před 4 měsíci

    God bless he turned up after 2 years I ignored him u totally right

  • @karltaylor6391
    @karltaylor6391 Před rokem +1

    I'm on dating sites about yr later after discard and have yet to talk to but a few people and have never met anyone to be fair its not worth it

  • @lizwillson3349
    @lizwillson3349 Před rokem

    You explain things so well. Advice well taken. Do you do counselling sessions?

  • @Scorpio200
    @Scorpio200 Před rokem

    Every word 1000% .

  • @jsamanthawise1379
    @jsamanthawise1379 Před rokem +3

    My divorce is final no contact for eight months my narc will never come back. He has plenty of supply when he went back home to his crazy family. Of course he never loved me to begin with. I don’t know why I married him.

  • @multi_verse8636
    @multi_verse8636 Před rokem +1

    I’m on those dating sites and I hate it I can't help it but it destroys me a little more each day

  • @peacefaith560
    @peacefaith560 Před rokem +1

    he knows to never darken my doorstep...but the bible says...watch n pray !! because he had a rage when i discarded , a rage i never seen before ..i know he lurking.....

  • @Tamburyn
    @Tamburyn Před rokem +3

    To bo honest i tried dating sites to boost/renew my ego but i had a feeling that i am cheating my cheater to even talk to someone . Now after many narc yt knowledge i am affraid and i will wait for my one and only with patiance.

  • @deannawiley5327
    @deannawiley5327 Před rokem +2

    They won't come back after 8 years and your child passes away. He became even more raged and evil than before. He still blames me I'm sure

  • @lovingme408
    @lovingme408 Před rokem +3

    Very scary he showed up unannounced after 3 months of no contact at my front door

  • @robyncampbell9624
    @robyncampbell9624 Před rokem +2

    The narcissist i was with comes to my home i want answer the door to him as if I spoke to him he would only try to get back thanks Dave for all your great videos

  • @diamondsdenim5479
    @diamondsdenim5479 Před rokem +1

    I don’t think mine will ever come back. I was married and having an unhappy marriage at the time and had just lost my dad. I’m still married and my husband and I have worked very hard on our marriage. Just remember these predators like to prey on weak traumatized women too. I pray I never see him again. He used to live right next door to me.

  • @cleovintora59
    @cleovintora59 Před rokem +1

    Guilty !! I did right after the first Narc abs ran right into another one worse way worse he was a strongly demo. Possessed, and I saw the res flags and ran 🏃‍♀️ that time

  • @tiffanykilpatrick-winter165

    I have kids with the narc. Now that I am armed with info I don't get suckered in as much they become so predictable that it's easy to manipulate situations to my benefit

    • @Narcologyunscripted
      @Narcologyunscripted  Před rokem

      you know it Tiffany!

    • @peacefaith560
      @peacefaith560 Před rokem

      he tried to get me pregnant...thank god for birth control...problem is, it was the best sex 😔😅