Lessons from My Father’s Final Days | Laurel Braitman | TED

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  • čas přidán 21. 08. 2024
  • "Life is an endless sushi conveyor belt of things that are going to test you and teach you at the same time," says writer Laurel Braitman. Exploring the relationship between bravery and fear, she shares hard-won wisdom on love, loss, self-forgiveness and how to embrace the full spectrum of human emotions.
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Komentáře • 48

  • @Ribberflavenous
    @Ribberflavenous Před měsícem +66

    I have never heard it presented so perfectly before. 'You cannot have joy without pain, resilience without challenges, happiness without sadness, bravery without fear. These things are not opposites, they are partners.' I have heard it presented as one causing or requiring the other, relegating it as a bad thing to endure for reward. The idea that the difficult is not working against you, but rather a creative force of a different kind is strangely comforting to me somehow.

    • @VICTORIA-e2i
      @VICTORIA-e2i Před měsícem +2

      Laurel Braitman’s talk on her father’s final days is incredibly touching. It's a reminder of the importance of being prepared for life's uncertainties. One way to ensure peace of mind is by working with a financial advisor who can help you plan for the future and make informed decisions, ensuring financial stability in challenging times. 💼✨

    • @Helena-dk9er
      @Helena-dk9er Před měsícem +1

      Watching Laurel Braitman share lessons from her father's final days really hit home. It’s a powerful reminder to plan ahead, especially financially.

    • @hesomhcbrso
      @hesomhcbrso Před měsícem +1

      The lessons Laurel Braitman shares from her father’s final days are truly poignant. It's a stark reminder of the need for preparedness in all aspects of life, including finances. Partnering with a financial advisor can help you create a plan that ensures you and your loved ones are taken care of, no matter what. 💖📈

    • @Danielle-vg9qq
      @Danielle-vg9qq Před měsícem +2

      This is precisely why I like having a portfolio coach guide my day-to-day market decisions: with their extensive knowledge of going long and short at the same time, using risk for its asymmetrical upside and laying it off as a hedge against the inevitable downward turns, their skillset makes it nearly impossible for them to underperform. I've been utilizing a portfolio coach for more than two years, and I've made over 800k.

    • @Helena-dk9er
      @Helena-dk9er Před měsícem

      Could you recommend your advisor? I'll be happy to use some help.

  • @fencochou1535
    @fencochou1535 Před měsícem +21

    How I wish both my father and mother held no grudges towards each other and believed that there’s always something hopeful for the future…

  • @user-cr1tm1um7j
    @user-cr1tm1um7j Před měsícem +10

    Bravo! I was listening with tears with my eyes and I'm going to call my parents.

  • @amyb347
    @amyb347 Před měsícem +2

    I'm a hospice social worker and this talk helps tremendously. I'll use your words to help the families I serve

  • @ammuchutty
    @ammuchutty Před měsícem +15

    Sadly happy and happily sad... Wonderful....

  • @anhdng
    @anhdng Před měsícem +5

    Thank you so much for this sharing. I can have the same feeling with you, My father has go to far away in recent months. He died in the hospital due to cancer, and I also received the phone call from hospital. I do not have any chance to meet my father in the last moment.
    "Everyone deserves the chance to say goodbye" I cried when you said that. I really want to meet my beloved father at that moment. I really really miss him

  • @SSHESHANTH
    @SSHESHANTH Před měsícem +5

    Regret is the most painful 😢💔
    Thank you ❤

  • @THE_PSYCHO_MEDIC
    @THE_PSYCHO_MEDIC Před měsícem +10

    Imagine knowing that your parents are going to die but can't help it... Never want it to happen to anybody...

  • @grievous5243
    @grievous5243 Před měsícem +3

    This is a sign to call your loved ones and tell them you love them.

  • @Ixkayan
    @Ixkayan Před měsícem +2

    The depth of her words!
    I really enjoyed watching this video
    I hope she lives a better happy life without suffering 💕

  • @AdenwalaM
    @AdenwalaM Před měsícem +4

    I would like to qualify the assertion made in this talk on two inter-related counts: The level of maturity at which one needs to face trauma is important. Just as we may fall and end up having nothing but a scratched skin, or we may fall and have a broken limb, or we may fall to our death, there are different levels of trauma that one can bear. Second, there is a book by, I think, D. W. Winnicott. The book is titled: "Maturational Processes and Facilitating Environment." The title is candid enough. One can bear through a trauma if there is sufficiently robust support system.

  • @peterweller8583
    @peterweller8583 Před měsícem +3

    Thanks for sharing.
    I too had a Dad who tried to prepare me for living or dying.
    I cannot find it in me to fault him anymore he knew no better.
    He passed in 1998 very much not wanting to pass away.
    Not a day has gone by that I don’t miss him somehow.
    Damaged by my own stupidity and his heavy handed behaviors.
    The shattered pieces of what is supposed to be success blossomed into a huge cow pie.
    I am not ungrateful I have had a rich life and have enjoyed oh, so many, many chances.
    But until I understood my life from not my perspective but on how my life ahas ffected
    all of you, my delopement as a human being was stunted and for that I ask forgiveness even though I feel I have little right to it. Tha only reason I am still around is to be a better man today.

  • @kevinwhitney5797
    @kevinwhitney5797 Před měsícem +3

    Beautifully stated! So much heart!

  • @gulnarnecefli8150
    @gulnarnecefli8150 Před měsícem +6

    it is so weird. Somenone talks about their life and experiences to people in order to teach something with great impressive. But you listen to that story only for learning

  • @maryland05722
    @maryland05722 Před měsícem

    putting here my heart,l wanna thank you million times as you did teach us today that it is never too late to value those who mean a lot to us 💙🙏🏼

  • @SmileyDaisyLee
    @SmileyDaisyLee Před měsícem

    So beautiful and touching... Appreciate for sharing your story.

  • @reneesteffenauer3159
    @reneesteffenauer3159 Před měsícem +2

    You are still good! He loved you, just as you are.

  • @STARK-STUDIOS
    @STARK-STUDIOS Před měsícem

    That made me realise about how the life works, truely Said we couldn't have joy without pain❤

  • @benruggiano6306
    @benruggiano6306 Před měsícem +2

    “The Lord is near to the brokenhearted and saves the crushed in spirit.”

  • @syafnilnil9675
    @syafnilnil9675 Před měsícem +1

    It was perfect on her explanation, good pronounciation

  • @sharonacosta8157
    @sharonacosta8157 Před měsícem +2

    What an excellent lecture❤

  • @jinloverIo30
    @jinloverIo30 Před měsícem +1

    I found life has an order of hapiness and sadly thing,
    so I want to think everything positive.

  • @joyyyy777
    @joyyyy777 Před měsícem

    Good mention. Nothing is divided. Simply wow

  • @ghostsoldier72
    @ghostsoldier72 Před měsícem +1

    Simply Wow.

  • @shanghai_CityVIVO
    @shanghai_CityVIVO Před měsícem

    Beautiful .. so much to learn.

  • @muhammadkabara4778
    @muhammadkabara4778 Před měsícem +1

    Profound!

  • @BrassLock
    @BrassLock Před měsícem +5

    I hope she still works with those bereaved kids.

  • @harishshaddy
    @harishshaddy Před měsícem

    I missed saying the last goodbye to some of my loved ones too... Don't worry love, the real reason for that is we never expected them to leave. And we used to always see them again so...

  • @ArunKumar-bp5lo
    @ArunKumar-bp5lo Před měsícem

    it's so hard to watch but learned a lot

  • @laurasantucci8201
    @laurasantucci8201 Před měsícem

    Thank you❤

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    @user-by3io4gn6e Před měsícem

    موفقیت..در موقعیت بین شجاعت...ترس..آگاهی برنامه ریزی شده از قبل..تزریق اعتماد به نفس..

  • @whatrtheodds
    @whatrtheodds Před měsícem

    Wow 😳😳😳 Brilliant 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻

  • @MarvelisloveMarvelislife
    @MarvelisloveMarvelislife Před měsícem

    One word: Woah.

  • @bodhi1607
    @bodhi1607 Před 20 dny

    Ohgod She'd killing me

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    @Molly_1123 Před měsícem

    Truth

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    @mohammadanisulhoque603 Před měsícem

    🖤🖤🖤

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    @shannonnefra9738 Před měsícem

    ❤‍🔥😭

  • @kaylorado
    @kaylorado Před měsícem

    🤍

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    @wotzatfa Před měsícem

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