Why I'm Not Getting "The Surgery"
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- čas přidán 4. 07. 2024
- I'm transgender, but here's why I'm not getting "the surgery". Y'all know which one. :X
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I'm interested in the hard statistics because I'm a statistian and like to read the studies myself.
Love your videos Blaire!
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Unlike the majority of the trans community, I won't judge you for getting the surgery or not getting the surgery. It's your choice and if you feel you are a valid trans person, then you are.
@@Termimator_T1000
Lol Blaire is great and Eden looks......fun ;-)
You know. I have no issues if you're gay, trans, straight etc... but we have a problem if you eat your hotdogs plain lol
@Sam Lung, I know, right!!! I kept thinking WHERE IS THE MUSTARD??? Either way, to each her own! Good video.
one of my friend does that
@@@lunadilts468, I like onions with the mustard!😋
I got cottonmouth just watching her. LOL
I hate everything except the hot dog. I only want the hot dog
#nohomo
It's so sad that you can't talk about suicide without being demonetized. This topic gets censored sooo much and it just annoys me, people are dying in silence every day because nobody dares to talk about it.
Funny because CZcams says it promotes mental health awareness and then demonitizes people for actually.. talking...about..mental health.. awareness...
@@unknown-if9ed YUp. There was actually a case where they demonetized a video made for talking people out of suicide and the algorithm prevented it from being recommended and lowered it in the search results
I blame all the people that put out bad depression related videos...there's more people uninformed talking about it than people who actually know and want to help.
She said it before talking about vaginas not suicide
MeannCat no. It’s advertisers. They get all the way on what we can and can and can not do.
You are the most sane transgender person I've ever seen.
@@Gold_Microphonehe’s a quack and a weirdo
I’m new to your content and my gosh I find myself cheering you on and deeply agree with your opinions! I’m a mum of a 17 year old son, who has a bestie from the age of 11 who is trans, female to male. He is normal and accepted by the community and we love him exactly who he is, as he is!
Transsexual*
transgender. @@jikookpm
@@Gold_Microphoneshe's an leftist. They're all insane
I’m glad you did your research and decided against the surgery. There’s a lot of cases coming out now where trans women have gotten the surgery and now have serious complications.
They are the minority...
@@myaisheree not really, they are too embarrassed or ashamed to come out. Give it another 10 years, I bet your comment doesn’t age well.
@@myaisheree most of us have seen the Jazz Jennings video, the open wound that's created is forever trying to close and they have to use a dilator
@@myaishereeand you know this because.......?
@@EmmaDaisyI underwent GRS a couple of years before she made this video and I’m happy. I’ve read about the statistics and they are against White’s message. Pretty much all manage to climax. The satisfaction rate is one of the highest of all surgeries. The complication rate is around 1%.
"rent is still due" .... I'm not trans but I felt that
Anyone else disturbed with the hotdog not having mustard or ketchup.
Right?!? I was like “Blair, WTF?!?” 🤣
Ketchup? Gross
@@emilymulcahy I have to agree, ketchup is gross but definitely needs MUSTARD! ;)
@@GreatGreebo my thing is chili, cheese and mustard
@@emilymulcahy yummy! That is definitely the way to go!
Blair, I’m a 72 year old great-grandmother who has been very interest in understanding the trans issue in our nation. I think that you and Buck Angel are the most level headed people I’ve run across in ages. I have a gay grand-daughter who dresses as a male. I love her dearly. She has addiction issues so my mother, her great auntie and I pray for her. Thank you for being a voice of reason in a world of crazy. I never thought I would live to see so much craziness. Please take care of yourself and keep up the good work. I will be praying for you. Luv GG Joy
I’m praying for this county the USA 🇺🇸 everyday. I wish it was the good ole days again. ✌️
🙏🏻💜
Bless u grandma
bless you, i have a transsexual boyfriend who introduced me to the Transmed ideals and i agree with them entirely, gender dysphoria is a very real thing and it’s so sad that this trans-trend going on can ruin the help that true trans people want/need
GG Joy I promise you there are a LOT of level-headed, smart and loving gays/trans in this world!! Just not as loud as the woke mob. Keep your head up, all is well :)
Blair, don’t cut it off. Just keep your junk and stay healthy.
Absolutely !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!1
Are you okay which female on earth wants to have a dick? your crazy man only men want their penis not women
please do not mutilate yourself !!!!
Yes, its just gonna be an open wound that will have to be open
@@atinybruh no you can orgasm from it it’s. Not a wound and it can also self lubricate depending on which surgery you get do your research and don’t be transphobic
A close friend went through with the entire surgery, less than a year later I attended a funeral. My friend said that shebexpected “the surgery” to make things better, when it made things worse she couldn’t rationalize or make peace with it.. RIP
Sorry for your loss, that sucks.
Aw man, I am ever so sorry. It’s so hard to lose a friend this way.
Please take care.
Big rip. Hang in there buddarino.
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This is the typical end story so sad.
WOW... I never knew about having to “keep the wound from closing up”. That’s terrifying. 😟
Yeah I'd be really scared x.x
According to credible reports the process of dilation is extremely painful. I can well believe
From what I’ve heard, it’s really painful too
You know I never used any type of thing down there before having sex. So my hymen was a tiny hole that can fit a finger. Needless to say first time penetration was extremely painful. I can't imagine how can a person endorse the pain for keeping it open and felt the pain everytime they try have sex.
You don't have to keep it from closing up that's bullshit, I know as I had it done 15 years ago.
Yes, this is why "Detransitioning" is not always possible. Children need to know this, and know that feeling uncomfortable in their current body is pretty normal. Thank you for speaking out! You reaffirm to me that I am not "the bigot" for speaking the truth.
I agree I had doubts about my sexuality at 13….but it turned out that I stayed within my biological body. Parents should not push or have their children indoctrinated at age five. To me that is utterly sickening and it must be punishable . Wait until they become adults only then they can decide . If a five years old thinks that he is Superman would anyone let him fly out from the window???? Even though he or a she seems convinced to be Superman or superwoman???
Their parents should know better! Since they went trough puberty . Teacher should stay out of teaching the under age that is ok to transition . Parents have every right to oppose it! It is child abuser !!!
It’s NEVER possible.
Its not not always possible. It is NEVER possible if you have surgeries. And if you take the pills Hormone therapy... it is only reversible by a certain amount. Never perfect.
You can detransition whenever you want no matter what surgeties, including SRS, you have had. I’ve had SRS and my girlfriend paid for a boob job (she made a mint in mining stocks), but ‘ve been detransitioned since 2016. Where there’s a will, there’s a way.
Don't risk not being to orgasm. The person that loves you will accept you the way you are. All of you. No one cares if your spouse is gay or straight or bi or whatever. Don't take the risk of what could go wrong when you have perfectly parts down there! You are a woman in your soul. Changing your down there parts are not going to change that
we can still orgasm although its from playing with the clit rather than penetration, ofcourse theres no sperm in the fluid aswe know longer have our eggs
That's good advice,Katherine !!!! Don't mess with stuff that WORKS !!!
What makes you people think it works when it's being drowned - DOWNed - in female hormones? 😂 His sex drive is going to be severely affected with all the drugs he's taking. I love Blaire and watch all his videos but, as he's fully admitted, he's a man and he has very low sex drive. So, yeah, don't assume it works. It can't possibly work with all the testosterone suppression, and why would he even need it to unless he's going up the exit door, which he does not strike me as being the type to do.
Well said!
Sis- this is the realest tea. The lgbtq community needs to stop making this a taboo topic because people are rushing in blind and facing the hard consequences without proper preperation :(
TT4Days not a sis .... more like a bro ... hence the dick
@@vieuphoria1008 she's hot as hell
Monkeybubbles Supperdude101 she’s hotter than me and I’m a biological woman
@@bboi5845 she is hot...and I'm sure you are too..😁
vieuphoria1008
stop. liking. your. own. comments.
Wow I've never even thought of the fact that it's an opening that your body would keep attempting to close. The maintenance and care after surgery is probably so tough.
It's literally an open wound that the body is trying to heal. That's why it's trying to close it.
It was giving me shivers thinking about it. I can totally see why someone would end up regretting it, I'm sure it would hurt like a bitch and just be generally uncomfortable.
Schnoz Chan dilation is also very boring, since you have to lie in a sitting position for a few hours to get it started. Trans woman CZcamsr Autumn Asphodel covers this topic in great detail if you’re interested.
Princess Jules is a CZcamsd that had bottom surgery and she talks about using dialaters and the process and stuff. I think at one point she said she got lazy using them and her vagina got more shallow than it was meant to be.
Schnoz Chan it’s just reconstructive surgery really. Biologically speaking, the penis is an evolution of the vagina, since all fetuses start out as female, so the surgery technically reverts it back to its starting form.
I just saw an interview by Candance Owens with Brit Ivy - 22 yo girl about the complications of this surgery. i am so sorry for her. Good you make other people conscious of side effects ❤
I will look that up!
HE. Not she. Ivy is a MALE. No hate, just fact.
THANK YOU, BLAIR! I live in San Francisco where many trans have gotten the vaginoplasty and the results are in...it is a HORROR STORY & because they put so much hope in that surgery, you are absolutely right, the suicide rates, post op, are substantial. God bless you for speaking truth.
The suicide rates aren’t higher than pre-op or non-op. People misread Cecilia Dhejne’s study and compare the rate to non-transgender population.
You should interview Jazz Jennings. She had the bottom surgery and could give a perspective about the surgery. She's got a channel too.
I saw part of the video when she had her surgery to remove her penis. It was sooo sad, they even had a "good bye penis" cake for her.
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@@joyfulmax5741 Why sad??
@@joyfulmax5741 o.O I probably should watch this video but I think I have to be prepared for that one.
@@joyfulmax5741 I'm pretty sure they dont "remove" the penis during SRS. My understanding is that they actually turn the penis into a vagina. It's actually a very detailed and intense surgery.
“The Rent Is Still Due”. Simple but very powerful statement
It is because a lot of people subconsciously delude themselves into thinking that all their life problems are due to 1 or 2 things and if they 'fix' those 1 or 2 things their lives will be perfect. But it ain't.
Blair you made an intelligent choice not to get bottom surgery. Most trans women I’ve watched on CZcams have severe not only physical problems, but also emotional issues too. I’m so glad you have a happy and well adjusted life. Xx
Blaire, I'm not trans or homosexual but I have a lot of friends who are and I find your information very helpful! One thing that makes me so angry is that the statistics about bottom surgical transitioning are so off. Hearing that hardly anybody regrets the surgery just can't be right. How would one figure out what the true statistics are of those who lose their ability to have sexual pleasure or orgasm anymore? Sex isn't everything but when you're young, it seems just so tragic that you can't have that part of your life anymore!!
As for grooming, confusing, and "educating" little children about their gender choices, that's just evil!
Detransitioners are often ignored and gaslighted when they express regret... By pretty much everyone, including their doctors. I'm sure the statistics are completely wrong.
THANK YOU for including sexual pleasure that ISNT orgasm in the conversation! Everyone talks about can they orgasm, can they orgasm? It's never, can you still feel pleasure from sex? Thank you!!
The fact that people who get this surgery done have to "keep the hole open" genuinely instills fear in me
I'm actually freaking out
Only women do that.
And in the final stage it's only once per week after 3 months.
There is necessary to do that even for XX women that have problems with the vaginal cavity.
They do the same work as transsexual women, and those with MRKH.
You do this only if you are actually a genuine woman, not a performance.
Gitana Maldita what is this bunch of bullshit. Real women with real vagina have no need to do this.
@@ALT-vz3jn actually yes some biological women have to do that do have a useable vagina.
@@averytokar9612 no (female) woman has to dilate a neovagina, tho
A very good cis girlfriend I have does not have a usable vagina. The dilators trans women use after surgery were originally designed for cis women. Many women have issues with intercourse.
It's been a year and a half since my surgery. I dilate about once every 4-5 days. It's suppressed to be once a week but I find it gets pretty tight on the largest size after a week. I feel it's because I weight train (lift weights) and it's just muscles closing in. Guys haven't had any complaints😅
Just thinking of using a toy on an open wound gives me sympathy pain.
I was cringing thinking of that😭 like ah no!
the whole thing makes me cringe. and they must have to have a catheter or some kind for quite a while after, too :/
Watch joelina mennen‘s videos. She talks about her journey with it.
IKR
I have no sympathy for anyone who intentionally put themselves into that position.
No more surgeries, especially the "final" one. You're perfect the way you are now.
She looks old now she should have stuck with botox after this point at most not all the other things
@@C6Wolvesshe doesn’t…
@@C6WolvesLooks sexy to me
then shes not a woman. hes still a man doing drag pretending to be a trans. as a trans man myself whos done most of the surgeries most of the shit she says is just oxymoron. cant take him seriously.
@@C6Wolves She honestly aged herself up with the excessive filler and Botox. She looked younger when her jaw was wider
You are so wise to not have that surgery. I've been listening to detransitioniers stories that are dealing with awful scenario's. I can't imagine not being able to enjoy sex or becoming sterile, developing fistulas or battling a whole that wants to close making it impossible to have sex. Not being able to pee & ending up with a bag. Your beautiful and don't have to prove anything to anyone. Your successful & you have someone that loves you. Thank you for sharing because you just might help someone for making that mistake.💗
My significant other is in the process of transitioning (mtf). I grew up in a heavy Christian background and am trying to come to terms so I can be supportive for them.
If you're into it you're into it if you're not you're not. Don't force yourself if it feels wrong. I know it's complicated with someone you love but a relationship can only work organically.
Sarah Hamilton I appreciate the feedback from both of you. Maybe I worded it wrong but I was trying to lean towards the fact that I do love her and am just trying to shift the ideals I grew up with. It is different for me but I am willing to come to terms and accept it. It’s not something that will happen overnight but I cannot see myself letting her go.
@@BlueHorse17 Glad to hear, I did read it as you having a hard time coming to terms with it. Wish you guys a happy relationship.
@@BlueHorse17 you're amazing your partner is v lucky
I wish you the best in your relationship with your partner. My husband came out as bisexual and it was difficult at first for me to come to terms with. I was in shock but when you love someone, and they love you, I think time and communication is all you need.
I have to confess....i was so opposed to Transexual man and women.....however because of YOU ,I can say ,YOU have helped me see Trans people in a different light. Because you talk on a mature level and don't try to cram it up my @##*. Thank you for being you and being how you are. Continue being great. Take care.
MrYou2dan That was very honest and courageous of you to say, and I applaud you for saying it. The fact that you were able to take a negative/negative way of thinking/however you felt, and then see/listen to someone n click with them to where they were able to help you take that negative kind of thinking n turn it into a positive is wonderful.
you're disgusting
@@haileyandgabistyles why though?
Jonny Enough bitch.
@@haileyandgabistyles i think blaire is very intelligent and im glad to hear she influenced someone to become more open minded. as an lgbt person i have seen people go from grossed out to having best friends that are lgbt. we should encourage fixing bad mindsets instead of insulting people for their old ways AFTER they changed their mindsets.
Blaire, I think staying away from the bottom surgery is very smart. Good decision.
As a straight guy, I am glad to see content from you, Blair. You geniunely make the world a better place. :)
Thank you for this video. I’m a 58 year older grandmother who wants to understand but had no one to ask. I truly appreciate your candor and time. It made a huge difference in my thought process regarding trans and gender dysphoria.
Awesome
Wow! This makes me so happy to see. I always hear people say older people are just stuck in their ways and I've been around a lot of older people (my parents, grandparents, aunts, uncles, friends family members) who never actively seek out new information. Seeing your comment makes me feel really good that someone older like you with absolutely no one to talk to about this is seeking to have their mind opened and potentially changed. Good for you! Keep on going!
Awe, bless your sweet heart! I wish more people were as tolerant and empathetic as you! Keep learning and stay sweet!
Damn this lady have lived long time
How was the cold war?
How was the French revolution?
How was hitler?
How was napoleon?
@@imcloud305 shut tha hell up
Honestly your surgeon is an artist your face looks so natural amazing
No look at her before allways gorgous so subtle
Blaire is very good at contouring too though ;)
It does not look natural, but she looks amazing for sure.
A.girl can only eat maybe I jhotdog. Even if she is hungry.always plain you don't want to get anything on your clothes
Annzey annie
@Jane Doe and a nose job
Honesty and clarity, outstanding attributes Blaire. I've learned far more about transgender identity reality from your channel than from anywhere else. You are prepared to contradict other narratives with factual evidence and the authenticity of your experience and of course, true empathy.
Respect 🙏🏼🖖🏼
My thoughts exactly.
I demand a haircare video from you, your hair is like Pantene commercial shit, its so beautiful, luscious and healthy.
She isn't handling her haircare
It’s called extensions 😅
Its call being a guy, have anyone noticed that guys with long hair always have healthier and shinier hair than girls?... Sorry Blaire 😅, you are still beautiful...keep up the good work. I think you are spot on with your opionions about transgender issues in kids, thats why I ended up watching your videos).
Nutrients plays a huge role, water quality and know your hair type. Oily scalp is a dry scalp trying to compensate so moisture is necessary. Also try a cowash or two instead of regular shampoo. If you want regular shampoo try avocado oil based, try cleaner products and less chemicals.
Pretty sure it’s a wig! ❤
Even though this has been really personal for you to talk about, I think it’s a really good thing for others to hear. I used to be close with a trans man who was going through the surgery and it seemed HORRIBLE. So many hoops to jump through just to get it, so many long term complications, such an effect on mental health & the whole world around them afterwards. You talking about that can help not only trans people considering the surgery but also those non-trans who lack the empathy to realize that no one would put themselves through that surgery unless they really truly felt it necessary.
Love this reply couldn’t have said it better myself.
Not necessary for survival. So no empathy from me!!!!!
Hiya Mykie :)
MYKIEEE
Omg fancy meeting mykie here
Never realised how complex it actually is.the way a lot of people talk about it as if its a simple procedure
Glasgow Blues u can google it and get computer imagery on the process. It shows EXACTLY how everything is done and it is far from a simple procedure. I’m not sure I could ever do something like that to my body unless it was life saving
I know right, people make it sound easy. When in reality that shit sounds painful af!! And you have to keep it open, I would be completely freaked out!
There's actually a video on CZcams of a surgeon performing the procedure. It's insanely complicated.
Elisha Paolini Where’s it called
Fr! Thx south park😒
I've had a lot of major surgeries like C-sections and knee replacements. Several years ago, I also had breast reduction surgery. I had four feet of incisions, and if all the surgeries I've had, the breast reduction surgery was the hardest, most traumatic, and most brutal. Having "bottom surgery" must be far, far worse than that! I can't even begin to imagine what that would be like!
That would be a hell. Instead of having a real, functioning male genitalia...you get an open wound what is unable to clean itself like a real vagina would do that.
My grandson is currently experimenting with female hormones. He says he is being monitored by a doctor. He is of legal age. I'm worried about him. That is one of the main reasons I watch your videos all the time. I have Learned alot from you. Thank you 💕
Your reasons for not “snipping” are very understandable
MeowieCakes Shes hung
Her body, her choice
@@thevoicesaysimalmostoutofm5710 the person said it's understandable that she doesn't want to
@@min_says_h3110 exactly what I was agreeing with when I said that
Losing all the fame in a split second sure makes for a compelling argument.
Genitals are central to sexuality, unlike breast enhancement, nose job, etc. As you said, once you do that, there's no going back.
but some say it is mean to have a prefernce
@@kaiyodei I'm not sure I understand. A trans woman will talk openly about all aspects of transitioning, but the issue of getting rid of male genitalia is not discussed, yet it is central to being identified as male or female. Thus Blaire White writes above, "I'm transgender, but here's why I'm not getting "the surgery." Y'all know which one."
kaiyodei
Sexuality has nothing to do with “preferences”. Sexual attraction is liking men or women.
A preference would be hair colour or height.
But the attraction would always be a man or woman.
@@CassidyStarke Thank you for getting back to me. Sexuality, sexual identity and identity in general are, for some reason, closely linked, identified, whatever, with genitalia, be it male or female. There are many expressions in probably all languages linking bravery, honesty and power to genitals, especially male genitals. The word "testify" is related to "testicle"; ancient Romans used to take oaths or make promises while holding on to their balls. I kid you not. Similarly, a woman who cannot conceive, who is "barren", is looked upon as a lesser person, traditionally that is, than one who is "fertile" and can bear children.
One of the things I have noticed about transgender women on CZcams is that they will talk endlessly about breast enhancement, facial and cosmetic surgery of all kinds, as well as endless make-up tips and hand bag content. Transgender women are, however, generally quiet about being "pre-op" and "post-op" and view it as an invasion of privacy, an infringement, when asked about it by guys they meet.
I am not judging the choices you have made. You are in a tough spot and, in my opinion, nature played a dirty trick on you.
Eugene Pomeroy
What choices have I even made?
As a transgender woman and undergraduate in psychology specializing in gender identity I think you are absolutely wonderful with how you get your message across. One question I might have is why do people say your a horrible person in the trans community? I shared a video or two of yours to help educate individuals and I got nothing but hate for it. I don't understand because your are so down to the facts and just telling it how it is. Like I said I think you are wonderful... Keep up the positivity and truth about our community ❤️🏳️⚧️
Because she says things people don’t want to hear, despite being true. I think she’s awesome. We need more people like Blaire.
Personally, I think it's mostly pure jealousy. Blair is so pretty and easily passes as a woman, she has a bf that loves her for her, and she's a very successful social media influencer. Not sure if you've noticed, but the ones that hate her the most are the ones that will never pass as the opposite gender, and they KNOW this but try to say she's a horrible person. They never have any valid reasons why they hate her, bcuz there are none.
I think it's mostly because people don't check. I would know because I was one of them. One influencer who doesn't like her opinions goes "blaire white transphobe" and everyone just accepts it without checking themselves first. Now that I checked her out, I am really impressed and also don't understand why everyone seems to hate. I disagree with her on a few topics but she seems like a very rational, clever and even nice individual (I say even because everyone made her out to be that b*tch). So yeah, I guess that's it.
I think the main reason is many lgbt people are just so stuck in their bubble that every different opinion is a threat to them. For example Blaire is against hormones for children, which alot of people in the community heavily want. So instead of listening to her arguments they label her transphobe immediately. Same with her views on nonbinary.
Transgender people like Blair I can respect
I'm so happy I've found your channel. My nephew transitioned from Female to Male a few years ago. He also doesn't plan on having the surgery and your content helps to understand his decision to do that.
As a straight, married man, this is something I’ve wondered about for years. There’s a lot of stigma around even straight men just simply asking questions; so I very much appreciate your openness.
I remember a time when we were allowed to ask questions, when it felt safe to talk to anyone and the worst thing might be a little awkwardness, whereas now it feels like you're trying to cross a minefield of traps. Saying the 'wrong' thing or asking a 'wrong' question now gets you branded a bigot, banned, fined... I want to go back to where I used to meet and talk happily to all sorts of folks without fear. To where it was safe to talk and make mistakes. That was a better time.
LOL
@@themudpit621 then go back to 1930 grandpa
@@uhm_5414 im 23 and i agree with him you stfu
There’s nothing wrong with being gay. Just admit it and save your wife the pain.
All excellent reasons. Surgery of an kind is a serious life altering decision and shouldn't be taken lightly
Ironic fact: One of the leading _pioneers_ in trans surgery was, I wish I was kidding, a doctor called John Money. A sick and twisted man who convinced a young boy to become a girl who later committed suicide. He basically murdered someone after calling the transition a success, saying "gender identity is learned" . A testament to how sick this guy is, one of the last appearances of him on anything was a 2006 documentary on zoophiles. People who push these kinds of surgeries on people who are confused about who they are are abhorrent monsters.
This girl’s legit, hella respect the content
He* he is legit for being honest
As a medical student I actually came across the ACTUAL surgery procedures complete step by step diagrams, actual photos and charts/diagrams. I was shocked at HOW MANY STEPS the doctor needs to do, how complex the procedure is. Blaire is correct, you in a very basic concept “flip” the skin inside out of… you know. And then after literally several multiple procedures you’re done. But really there’s no going back. If anything there MIGHT be I think it said, but never the same like it was. So yeah, it’s a crazy decision(I mean in terms of complication risk), a very serious decision to make even IF you are financially ready. Oh btw, even after post op, even if the procedure were to be 100% considered to be successful, you, I believe for the rest of your life, have to do daily “tasks” if you know what I mean. Those that know.. know what I’m referring to. Cheers.
Bruh wdym by have to do "daily tasks" . Everyone has to do taily tasks dont they
@Tabassum Sarah, you have to maintain the wound for ever. Otherwise it closes up and then will require another surgery for intimate relations. Google if you are still unclear... A vagina plasty made from a penis is not like a cis vagina.
@@tabassumsaraah Dialation to maintain the vagina.
@@tabassumsaraahshe meant dilating the new vagina so it doesnt closed up
@@tabassumsaraahI think they mean you have to keep uh..certain objects of varying sizes 'inserted' for hours at a time in order to prevent 'it' from closing up.
What you have "Down There" is nobody elses business.
Karron Swinn
It’s only her business and her sexual partners business. I do think if you meet blaire at bar and start making out you should be made aware if she has a penis. That’s not asking a lot.
If she introduces herself as a SHE
&
If she presents herself as a WOMAN
It is totally reasonable to assume she has a vagina & if you’re a sexual partner or potential partner ( just started dating or something ) you should be made aware.
Pre- & Post surgery
I think not disclosing your biological sex to a partner is wrong. No matter what. If your pre op or post op.
In a way, never talking about it makes it taboo. Not everyone has to talk about it, absolutely not, and nobody should be obsessed with what other people have in their pants. But if some people accept to answer the question when it is asked, it won't be a taboo. I personally think that you can ask all questions you want if the formulation is polite, if you don't ask it in a place that is not appropriate for the topic, and if you respect that the person doesn't want to answer. If people can't ask some questions, they will try to find the answer another way that sometimes isn't pleasant at all, like asking other people, talking about someone behind their backs, trying to look for clues, etc. Because we know that people are intrigued by what they're not supposed to do or ask. If they know they can ask the question, sometimes they don't even bother asking.
On a slightly different topic, why isn't it called "sex re-assignment surgery"?
It is if you want a bikini wax or any other 'intimate' service. Otherwise, you do you.
It is someone's business if Blair meets a heterosexual man who thinks Blair is real woman with a vagina and not man pretending to be a woman.
You're definitely right about the trans community being taboo about bottom surgery. FTM Bottom Surgery is insanely taboo especially and involves several stages and even with the best surgeons complications are still common. I guess I'm slowly getting to the point where I genuinely just need to get it, and my insurance does cover it, but I'm waiting until I literally can't hold out on my dysphoria any longer.
Thanks for sharing your feelings on this though, it's really important to get information out there especially for trans people doing research on CZcams :)
Yo if it isn’t THE controversial prince visiting the controversial queen
Daddy Kalvin and mommy Blaire? I’m not ready for this
Yo I'm trans too, but could never bear the surgery even if I could afford it. I'd rather have my birth genitals than today's average fake dick. It'd cause huge mental problems for me to have such a huge scar on my arm/leg too. But good on you for wanting it.
Honestly if your 'soon to be husband' doesn't care what you have down there it's not worth the risk. Besides there are other holes that work perfectly fine.
kalvin
hi
There is so much people don't know. I am glad you were an adult and did what helped you be happy. You did lot of research. I don't see any long term research on this stuff with minors. Except for the twins that were experimented on because of a botched circumscision (can't spell). It's like all of these children are lab rats and parents are sacrificing them.
I have so much respect for you, I admire your rationality and honesty while discussing all of these issues. I learned so much from this channel, which is pure gold tbh.
You still got to get Joey pregnant
Im like 420 😎
@SUBSCRIBE TO ME JUST BECAUSE I SAID SO yes.
SUBSCRIBE TO ME JUST BECAUSE I SAID SO loool
@subscribo2059yes she's a transgender
You're saving lives with this video. It's a dangerous surgery, especially for those who don't experience the fulfillment they thought it would bring. Peopl need to be honest with themselves and I admire th honesty you bring in your videos
Nonhomosexual transitioners of either sex should never have GRS. Look, the classic Western male profile of nonhomosexual transitioner is a middle-aged, married, masculine man with no chance of passing on a dark night in the rain, who has a paraphilia called Autogynephilia. 80% remain fully heterosexual after the surgery. This person will not use the neovagina for the purpose intended. Intalling one is a sop to their delusion. How could any such person be 'fulfilled'? They lopped off a functioning organ that they used and replaced it with a facsimile of one they never will. And the lunacy is even worse for nonhomosexual female transitioners, who are heterosexual women who have their breasts and entire reproductive systems removed and are encouraged in this by venal 'professionals '. Gaah the stupid is like treacle.
Male HSTS (eg Blaire) are different. If they have GRS they will use the neovagina. They orgasm through it and while nobody knows whether it feels the same as a woman's, they don't seem to complain. I have yet to hear a verifiable HSTS express regret.
Is it like that for FTM surgeries too? Like other than that it obviously won’t solve all my problems
@@louisadordelmann1188 I don't know exactly what's involved but think deep before making any permanent change to your body. Reflect on why you wish to be a male and make sure it's not rooted in sexual or other abuse, memories of being shamed/rejected for female traits, rewarded for exhibiting male traits. Make sure you address any wounds if they exist. You'll be giving up your ability to have biological children and increase health risks, so make sure this is really what you want. This is an article I think is a good place to start:
www.hli.org/resources/what-percentage-of-transgenders-regret-surgery/
It is not dangerous in any way! And has not been dangerous for over 50 years.
"people need to be honest with themselves"
HAH , that's a funny one.
She's happy and beautiful and that's all that matters!
BUT SHE HAS A DICK AND BALLS........
As a biological female, I lowkey feel jealous of how easy it is to pee as a dude. No touching public toilets for a tinkle. Plus, no menstruation cycles, Ovulation mucus globs, and frequent Urinary track infections.
As a trans person myself, and yes I am dysphoric about what’s in my pants, but I just don’t see the surgery as worth it.
It’s not gonna be like 100% the same thing. It’s going to hurt, it’s going to be expensive, and it’s going to have several risks.
What’s in my pants is going to only be seen by myself and my partner, whose not going to mind because they love me for me.
I don’t think at all it should matter what’s in your pants that makes you a “real” trans.
YUP!
yeah, i feel like it's a bigger pressure on trans women to get SRS than it is with trans men. but trans men SRS isn't as advanced as the one for MTF's.
the most i will probably get is top surgery and consider meta. i'm extremely dysphoric though on my bottom half, but hormones will lessen it.
@@0MGitsRayRay Well, it's just a lot easier to make a vagina than to make a penis. It's not as if doctors aren't trying to improve the methods to get the best results possible.
I'm still going to get SRS because the methods aren't going to advance much more. Or at least not in the forseeable future.
And there are surgeons who get really good results now.
I somehow stumbled across your channel with all of this Yaniv BS, and have been watching your other content. I have to admit, as a hetro, cisgendered woman, I haven't been all that concerned about the specific issues facing the trans community. However, Blaire, you are so genuine and real, and your stories are so relatable. Thank you for helping me better understand and appreciate the trans community (which is very diverse), but I think you make a phenomenal spokeswoman! You are super fabulous!
Exactly the same here. Found her through the Yaniv stuff and am now going through her vids and learning a lot! 😊
And same here!
You mean hetero?
Why do you describe yourself as hetero cis gendered.
It's called being normal
The reality of a whats quite essentially (or least often) called a vaginoplasty (it's I believe clinical name) is about using the foreskin not sure about reversing it and using the inside of it rather though but it is especially about the reconnection the blood vessels its how an organism is achieved variably some of them don't ever reconnect back up though its a highly skilled operation (akin to that though they're entirely different things a Whipple it's sort of more common name for people who contract Pancreatic cancer since it's though about not just that reconnection of blood vessels but the bile ducts ontop of that).
The reality is it's not just for trans people either there's at least a few other reasons like say the rectum goes into (a form of I suppose hernia) that part of the abdomen who sometimes require that or some form of trauma.strictures (narrowing of a sort of form of tube like is common with Ileo Pouch surgery can happen with this kind of surgery as well) as well as fistula's tunnels of tissue where they've not filled in properly naturally post op when fluid runs through them and I know for a fact (since I had a few at least exposed nerves due to the bowel shrinking it was the most unbearable pain imaginable), from a fistula abcesses are a huge risk as well.
I don’t understand why we can’t just have men & trans men, women & trans women….. no pressure for surgery unless you really find it’s right for you. Saying a trans women is a women and a women is now a cis women….. why ???? Accept what you are and don’t try and make other people change what they are to accommodate you.
After watching Shape's video about her surgery and ALL of the COMPLICATIONS she went through TWICE, it's obvious that surgery DOESN'T work for everyone!!!
seems like it doesn't work for most...
I'm glad that I'm just gay. Life is stressful enough.
@Your Majesty I'm just talking in terms that I'm glad I don't want surgical intervention. I mean stressful as in bills and the day to day grind ect.
Your Majesty See ya there then sis 😘
Crazywaffle5150 lol
Toxic White Male Glad you agree ☺️
Your Majesty nice trolling
"You have to use that thing to keep yourself open for up to a year" "people have had their urethra's close up" I... can see why people don't get this done. *faints*
Yeah I...yeah x.x
I was slightly traumatized after hearing that
There is one Thai CZcamsr who claims that even after all the dilation she still has to have sex anally because of the pain. Then I know others who have had no issues at all and are delighted, including one who, as soon as she was functional 'went to Ibiza to road test it with as many men as I could' and loved it. Most HSTS seem happy with the surgery or at least, I've never heard one complain. (The aforementioned Thai is AGP). With GRS it appears very much to be 'you get what you pay for.
And educational for those who are clueless (like myself). You’re a beautiful person, inside and out, and I’m glad you exist.
Thank you for being so vulnerable. I appreciate your show so much! (I’ve been listening to you for a while but my first time to see a really old video of you. You are so loved!
And imagine you lose sensation. That would be horrible
Regina Phalange that’s a big reason why most men who’re trans women don’t have it done.
@@valkyrie1010 oh good.
Regina Phalange Having had other surgeries myself, the loss of sensation is pretty common. With it being the genitals and sensation being so important, I can see why people might hesitate.
mine ended up more sensitive then before my surgery. I believe loss of sensation is from poor aftercare. It feels quite amazing.
@@sarahunter4544 Doctor skill is a huge factor as well.
Personally, I think having my junk cut open sounds KIND OF terrifying.
I grabbed my crotch for dear life just thinking about it lol
Rachel Fourie OMG I did the same thing! Lmao 😂
@toulouse666 that's the joke
Rachel Fourie same
DeadPool-Priestess HasEnteredTheChat i’ve seen the surgery and still having a vagina, it made my stomach turn into knots. I was fascinated but scared af
I’ve read and watched interviews about the bottom surgery , it’s very dangerous …please don’t do it Blair , you’re gorgeous and you seem actually happy with where you’re at ….dont change !!! Much love 😘😘😘
Even thought that is very personal to talk about publicly I think you have such a following and more to come that (for someone like you) to make a video on this topic will give those people who have gender dysphoria or questionable the reality check they need, to know it isn’t necessary to have ALL OF IT done, and I feel (by you sharing this) is kind of like that conversation mothers have with their daughter’s about their periods, meaning young adults who are thinking about having the surgery now KNOW from someone (like you) who has gone through it responsibly and not make an impulse choice. Great content, and who knows Blaire you might have saved a life too! ❤
Doesn't matter what you have down there, out of my league anyway....
i_lasag Okay who asked
Ju‘s Journey who asked you to reply
Ju‘s Journey what
You're doing it wrong when a straight guy complimenting a trans girl gets you triggered....
Just sayin...
@@julianowak1896 Nobody asked,
also nobody asked me to go to your channel, see your playlists and say to you you're on the right path and it shows you want to improve yourself. And I really think that's awesome.
Nobody asked me to applaud you for that.... but I still do...
And I hope this learns you a lesson that not everything people say is meant in a negative way or as a means to trigger people.
Wish you the best, keep believing in yourself....
My best friend transitioned and ended up taking her own life thru an overdose less than two months later. She was miserable. I feel like the went thru with the full transition due to peer pressure. She died because she overdosed - she didn't die because of transphobia like the people who I believe pressured her into transitioning claim. I miss her so much.
Well. Lying is a speciality of trans rights activists.
Thanks for sharing this. I’m so sorry for your friend’s pain, and for your loss.
I think the pain of most trans people runs deeper than the activists realize.
Thanks for sharing. I’m so sorry for your friend’s loss and yours.
So sorry for your loss...
So brave to speak about something so personal, but such an important topic all the same.
I was taking a sip when the video first started and all I saw the bite of hot dog and I freakin choked laughing! Holy hell... just spit monster all over my shirt! 😂
I had heard of someone on Reddit who got the surgery and ended up regretting it. I don't want that to happen to you. ❤
Logical Conservative liberals acknowledge this issue
many do
Logical Conservative which forum would that be then 🧐
@Corn Soup good for you :) but I get it that not everyone wants it.
@Corn Soup haha fucking liar
"Rent is still due." lol I love you Blaire! And yes - I learned a lot, you're always so informative
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You’re so generous and caring to share such personal stuff with us strangers. But it’s so educational and helpful for creating discourse and empathy ❤🙏🏻
I’m happy you found your happiness.
Thanks for opening up and sharing. You really help others, including straight people like myself, better understand what you go through and how tough many of your choices must be. I'm glad to see anyone as happy as you seem to be.
HaVe YoU hAd ThE sNiP yEt
Have a Like, for reminding me of Ella.
E G
Wise words of trap supreme.
The Ella squad is everywhere and I love it
@@alekt-s3035 she's our favorite trap for sure
@@callumwarren3342 She's our Trap Supreme!
this is a viewpoint that i feel like is hardly discussed & even though you don’t owe anyone an explanation, i’m so glad you gave us this new perspective!
Love you hun I’m happy to know I’m not the only one out there (HRT 1.5 years still look very male) the hate I’ve gotten from the Lgbt and trans community is crazy just because I don’t follow their ideology
This is my first time finding you on your channel and you are so very wise and eloquent! Thank you for answering such difficult questions
I'm not trans or anything, but I found this entire video very informative and educational. Thank you!
Same here
Do you have to be trans to find a video like this informative?
@@danehrencrona4847 no.
Dan Lundberg
Some lefties think that you can only relate to lgbt people if you are also lgbt, so it’s a thing to say when people don’t feel like having to explain stuff, or be harassed
@@slushu_6865 I'm no more interested in your opinion or Dan Lundberg's than I am in ANY of your political agendas. All I meant was that it was an extremely interesting topic that shed light on a lot of questions about transgenderism and body dysphoria that I didn't know I had, and haven't experienced, AS a cisperson. So both of you can take your self-righteous, flag-waving BS, and troll elsewhere.
Anyone else think Blair would be a fun person to hang out with? She seems so chill.
YES!! I adore the both of them! 💗💗
THINK??? I KNOW!!!
I'd love to be her friend
I actually dreamed one night me and her chilled out in Blackpool with Jaclyn Glenn and joey sarson I wish it was real
Yeah and she’s intelligent
This is a very logical approach it is refreshing and enlightening to hear. And you are right. There is much more to life than what’s “down there.”
You can cut the antlers off a buck but it's still a buck.
Thanks for not using the premiere feature. Credit where it's due
Whats with the blue star by your name? It isnt an emoji
mlm mommie You get it for being a member to the channel 😛
I don't see it because I'm still using the faster old style youtube.
Your sick voice is adorable? I actually can't handle it lol.
it's so cute and when my husband sick it he also sounds so cute
Agreed
The Charitable Death Eater ASMR I couldn’t really tell. When I’m sick, I sound like a man and like I’m even more dead inside.
Real sick
Blaire, I had to find this video after watching the reaction video on Dylan M. I was surprised you did not get the big snip. That’s only because I thought you did do it. No matter. I love you and have huge respect for you. ❤
Love that there is one sane voice in this conversation thank you Blaire ❤❤❤
"Gender dysphoria something REAL transgender people have." I dieddddddd!!! you're the best random CZcamsr I've stumbled upon in awhile. You really don't care about other's opinions and aren't apologetic about it. I love you
facts don't care about opinions
Isn’t “not caring about others’ opinions” generally thought to be close-minded?
@Poodle Froke holy shit do you know what periods are
That's why were all here, dude.
@@risingsuperstarfrost3096 Not necessarily, I don't care what other people think about me or anything else, but I do recognize and honor their right to their opinion. I generally don't do anything with their opinion because that's all it is. Their opinion, not mine. Now if I hear something that makes sense and I resonate with it then I can and do incorporate that new info into my own perspective. In my opinion that is openmindedness.
So you are sick from hanging out with a friend... Was this what the psychic meant by an unhealthy relationship?
@@Jtzkb yikes
Jtzkb
This psychic deserves an apology lol 😄
@@Jtzkb 😂
HAHHA
You are right, dont destroy your body.
She did though. She ended up getting the full surgery recently.
@@gwengwen4535no she didnt
I think it's absolutely wonderful that you're putting and you have put that much thought and Research into this not only to give others information and knowledge on this but also to take the best care of you. In the end, it's about you your person. Prayers always. Stay sweet and stay informed!❤
That thumbnail made me shiver
Lol
I cringed and laughed at it
You made good points. I think the main reason the surgery might cause depression is the fact that it’s usually the final step in transition. After bottom surgery there is no other ways to deal with dysphoria. People are just hit with the realisation that all the remaining post-surgery dysphoria is something that’s going to follow them for the rest of their life- they lose their last bit of hope.
Wiktor the pigeon showing it's all in people's heads, so always a man like it or not
I never would have thought of that...that's crazy. And explains a lot...
thankyou for showing what being a real transgender is about @buchner funnel
my bottom surgery eliminated dysphoria completely in my case
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I totally agree with you. I had my face fixed and saving for my boob surgery. I had forehead , rhinoplasty, mini lip lift and tracheal shave, later fillers in my cheeks and lips. I was getting lasered for a year to get rid of my facial hair. I felt like I was turning i to the warewolf, so I had to become as feminine as possible. I am not afraid of the full surgery. Just want to be able to wear short skirts comfortably. I don't expect it to fix everything and I am definitely not going to miss the part of my body which genuinely makes me very uncomfortable. In the UK it is free, but the quality is not as great as from private doctors. FFS however was £ 25000 I took out as a loan. The boob surgery is subsidised and costs around £5000.
You're beautiful x
I am so glad you are here to give a voice to this issue. Also, please tell me what color your eye shadow is, I love it so much!
Blaire’s nose is the cutest 😵
She had gorgeous eyes as well.
@@s.ormgamalson6489 had?
@@OldworkbyEmmaCRB Probably just a typo, lol
It's so perfect!
@♔HaroldsCat♔ well that's very rude.
Absolutely spot on with your decision Blair, I think , such a level headed person , good luck
I’m so happy to be a normal male without gender dysphoria
I wish haha
@@emmaandersson5733 hehe
I wouldn’t mind re-rolling as a woman, to benefit from female privilege, free drinks at the bar, earn more money from twitch streams all the rest of it, but being a guy is fine too 🙃
@@Phoenix-ov5gg yeah i understand😊
Excellent video. Same deal with women who build their life around getting married and THE WEDDING. you're still you.
Trish A. you are right, it concerns most people. have a nice day
This was so wholesome
You're so right, Trish.
Thank you. My best friend rushed into marriage because all her friends were. She's on her 2nd husband whose a selfish jerk. We all told her she didn't need to get married but since we all were she had to. It's so stupid I never planned to get married hence why I ended up eloping. I didn't want the drama I just wanted the guy.
@@wharrington8587 for most people marriage is not a good option it stucks some in a uncomfortable situation or is done without feeling
There ain't many trans girls out there who I can relate to, but you've been an inspiration for me for quite a long time now. However, I may have to add my 2 cents on this topic, cuz I feel like this surgery was somehow projected as "doing more harm than good stuff".
I had SRS 20 months ago in Thailand, at a place thats well known for its good SRS results, not anywhere near 30k$ tho, maybe like a half of that, but I gotta tell you this surgery really changes your life for good, if you REALLY wanted it. Yes, its risky (not the surgery itself nowadays, more like the recovery which indeed takes a lot), you may or may not have complications (I did, I had to stay in Thailand 37 days, and when I got back to Romania, I had one more year of struggles with UTIs and yeast infections, which are sometimes there within the first year). I did go thru the worst pain of my life but I swear to God it's been nothing but fulfilment. It was my journey but in the end I am at peace with my own body, I dont have to hide anything, I can go to the beach with no worries, I look at myself and I finally look how I should've been born. Sexual pleasure is ok too, and I feel like even today's technology, is enough for providing good results. I totally get the need of facial feminisation surgery, I started with that one as well, but don't reject the idea of getting SRS. It may not "change your family situation, job situation, social situation" etc. but it surely does change the way you're feeling with your own self as a woman and also cuts off a lot of HRT.
Good luck anyway! You're the only one who knows if that's what u want or neah
I am so so happy for you and that this made you so complete 😊😊 congrats!
I think at the end it depends on the person. And I think it's only reasonable to say that such a big decision needs to be though very long and carefull about
You clearly wanted it and it mattered to you, while Blaire was very clear in saying that said she doesn't really want it and it doesn't matter to her.
Her whole point was that people do this thinking it's always validating and that everything will be better for them. I'm happy for you but your experience was shaped by the fact that this truly mattered to you. Most people are pressured to think that this should matter to them, you yourself even imply that it WILL 100% make anyone feel more womanly just because it did for you. You're positive experience doesn't mean people shouldn't be educated about the statical risk of post-op depression.
Oh my god, I'm so happy to see romanian lgbt people on youtube! I looked through your videos and subscribed, you're really funny :')
@@NortonTaylor if you really have gender dysphoria and you don't like that part of your body, there's no way you can be depressed post-op. Problem here is that people have weird expectations from any kind of surgeries, whether its FFS, BA or SRS. You gotta be ok with yourself before getting any kind of surgery. People who actually regret SRS are people who either were not trans to begin with (as happened with SRS victims in the XXth century), or people who unfortunately had MAJOR complications which probably made their life miserable, resulting in pain or no sensation (which is kinda rare these days too, especially at very good surgeons).
The surgery is not only expensive it can also cause a lot of complications.....As a woman ..it's hard just having a gyno appointment can be uncomfrtable. A trans woman will have to dialate her body there for a long time..Your rearranging your parts so there's risks of all kinds of infections ..I'm not anti trans but I am against people under 18 having any surgeries due to psychological and physical complications.Thank you Blair for your honesty..You and Alexis Blake are the best to talk about the trans journey..and are lovely people.Take care
Thank you beautiful! I adore you! I am working on repairing my relationship with my FTM adult child and you inspire me to have hope that they may attain happiness. You keep it real and give informed advice. I appreciate you so much! All the love in the world for you girl!🤗