I Went To Therapy To Figure Out Why I'm Transgender..
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- čas přidán 8. 02. 2024
- I went to therapy to figure out why I'm transgender. Celebrity therapist David Sutcliffe sat down with me for a non-politically correct psychoanalysis of both my gender identity and childhood trauma.
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I feel that this is important but Blaire giving up her privacy is a huge sacrifice. Love and Respect to Blaire.
Yes, she's the only one that honestly puts herself out there, will tell the real truth, although she 'feels' like a woman, has the surgery to look like a woman, says she will only ever be a trans-woman, and that's the truth... but people like her are more readily accepted as they Are honest, Do tell the truth, Do accept what they are and what they will never be, but live the life that makes them feel comfortable.... let's face it, none of us could see Blaire as an Alpha male, but we can all vision her as a housewife. 😊❤
Kinda; Nobody ASKED Blair to broadcast a therapy session to the world. That's clearly something Blair CHOSE to do, for the sake of the channel.
But it may make money and grow the channel, but it also makes the """therapy""" not really therapy, if you're holding back, can't be completely honest, and aren't ONLY focused on working thru all these intense, deeply personal issues, but are ALSO juggling concerns about "hows my audience gonna react to this? Gotta remember nit to talk about XYZ, coz my family would get mad if I aired that dirty laundry. I better not get TOO in depth, coz the video will get de-monetized if gets TOO heavy... etc"
This is more like Dr Phil """therapy""", where they may be SOME bits of genuine therapy in the mix... But it's intended for AN AUDIENCE, not for Blair to work thru his demons, like real therapy would be.
I honestly hope Blair DOES book some real therapy, in private, enough sessions to really get serious, where he CAN fully open up, without all these distractions/competing priorities.
It's literally IMPOSSIBLE to talk about real, serious issues like these, in public, in front of an audience, knowing that literally EVERYONE (your parents, other family, your partner, casual friends, potential future employers/co-workers, your worst haters and critics, EVERYONE...) will be able to see it, and somehow STILL get any of the real value of actual therapy, out of it.
Plenty of psychologists will DO this kind of pseudo-therapy session on camera, for the right price... But (like Dr Phil """therapy""" sessions) there isn't a competant therapist on earth, who'd consider a session recorded for a huge CZcams channel, to be ACTUAL therapy...
@@baconsarny-geddon8298 the point of this whole therapy session though really is different than that of the likes of “dr” Phil. Blair is trying to make a bigger point, a point a lot of trans activist have tried to deny. Being trans is a psychological condition, and a lot of it stems from abusive families and unwanted sexual situations when you are very young.
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The fact that Blair can acknowledge that her being trans is a trauma response says so much about how smart she is and how ok she is with being the way she is
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Being trans isn't a trauma response for everyone; is a good thing to remember!! I'm trans too and it's definitely NOT a result from trauma. I know you didn't specify that it is, but there's always going to be people that hear what Blaire says and runs with it.
The “downside” of having trans become legit means that now it goes from “either bad or good” to “complicated”, which is something most people don’t have the time & energy to confront. Keep educating everyone on how you’ve educated yourself.
She never said it was, only that it "might be". Huge difference. Remember she said everyone said she was effeminate from birth.
the word is HONEST
As a gay man, we have conversations like this all the time in real life and most gay men and trans people agree that there is an element that is based in trauma. I’ve talked to my own parents extensively about it and it was very healing.
Do you have any references to your statement that "most gay men and trans people agree that there is an element that is based in trauma"? Scientific one that is.
just to be clear, the studies being discussed are based on causation (gender discrimination LEADING to trauma) and not correlation
@@sofialotussen I may be wrong, but I believe that @myleswright7996 is speaking about the gay men and trans people he has the conversations with agree. Sharing his personal experience and those conversations go.
@@sofialotussenyes there are many but hilariously they are difficult to find because they are hushed.
How many gay/transgender people had early sexual experiences?! That’s a big question.
"Look what my body did to survive" that made me cry instantly because I also went thru horrific abuse as a child and went through major issues because of it.
I'm so sorry you endured that. Stay strong and know you're loved!
"I'm not gonna let anyone hurt you " could tell she waited her whole life for a grown man to tell her that 😢
I literally started bawling my eyes out the moment he said that to her, maybe I need therapy too….
Yes but you know calling him a "she" is doing more harm than good. You are encouraging that person to wallow in their trauma, instead of letting them face it. The transgender was an escape from child abuse.
i agree, but he does look like a she. So its confusing to call her a him. Can we agree on it? @@davidryke113
He is a MAN
Yes, it should have been her father ☹
"Primary job of the father..creating safety". Love that line
Sorta goes without saying dontcha think lol
yup@@fu8713
@@fu8713 a lot of people don't know that that's what normal is for a father to do, so you're right, but try stepping into other people's shoes.
@@fu8713 please tell my father 😅
My father stole all saftey
As a conservative Christian woman, I have compassion and respect for you Blaire. I grew up with a physical and verbally abusive mother, a narcissistic mother. It's a relief to finally understand the abuse we went through and to get past it, to grow and to like the person that you've become. Jesus loves you and God bless you 🙏🙏💗
You can tell the Holy Spirit is talking to Blair a lot. One of the seven parts of the Holy Spirit is the spirit of wisdom. There is a level of surrender that you can read about in the book of Matthew and John, specifically Matthew seven and John 3, that Blair isn’t yet ready to give to God, but God loves Blair dearly and talks clearly to and still guides, BLESSES, and truly protects. There is a clarity to this beautiful inside and out individual with understandings of things that some Christians don’t even reach on the spiritual aspects that are so clearly discussed in scripture and seen by those who humbly help Christians receive deliverance, what Jesus calls, “the children’s bread.” Blair is going to have the healing that seems unimaginable and such a powerful testimony it will open the door to healings for millions. People are not demons, but people can be controlled by the demonic if they don’t know how to call on Jesus for help and break off even generational practices that actually are worship to things besides God. Even Exodus 20 talks about generational curses, but also generations of blessings. Samson wasn’t perfect, but he was filled with the Holy Spirit from the womb, so many are rejected from the womb by every one but God, but God doesn’t force himself on us we have to draw near and he will draw nearer(James 4 and Romans 1). I sincerely pray revelation of God’s sweet goodness and his healing power on this person and anyone reading this today. Sometimes we have to break to offer up our soul wounds to God, we have to trust his ways are perfect and his healings complete. We can trust God who makes us his children if we truly accept what Jesus did and the following he tells us to do.
From John 3:3 Jesus answered him, “Truly, truly, I say to you, unless one is born again he cannot see the kingdom of God.” 4 Nicodemus said to him, “How can a man be born when he is old? Can he enter a second time into his mother's womb and be born?” 5 Jesus answered, “Truly, truly, I say to you, unless one is born of water and the Spirit, he cannot enter the kingdom of God. 6 That which is born of the flesh is flesh, and that which is born of the Spirit is spirit.[c] 7 Do not marvel that I said to you, ‘You[d] must be born again.’ 8 The wind blows where it wishes, and you hear its sound, but you do not know where it comes from or where it goes. So it is with everyone who is born of the Spirit.” … “For God did not send his son into the world to condemn the world, but to save the world through him.”
Always brings a smile to my face seeing my brothers and sisters in Christ uplifting others. Keep sharing the love of the gospel my dear family, we shall meet each other in eternal life ❤ God bless
Idk if you guys have seen the movie carrie, That was my mother. I have a lot of issues because of it. I didn't let it turn me off of Christianity though. I love Jesus and that should be a happy thing not what my mom turned it into. My mother scared me so badly. Reading the old testimate to me at 4. Speaking in tongues during loud thunder storms. It's scary the things she did. There's too much to explain in the comments but my childhood was weird.
@@Desiree917usI’m so sorry, my heart goes out to you. Thank you for sharing a bit of your story. I wish for peace and happiness for you ❤ God Bless
I so relate. I'm a Christian conservative woman. I went through the same thing. Very abusive physically and verbally. Very controlling and critical. Still praying for my mom. Appreciate prayers from others. ❤
I don’t think I’ve ever met a trans person so self aware and willing to turn the lense on places that don’t feel good. You amaze me and I hope you find the people or person you can truly open up to very soon. You aren’t just worthy of that love but you’ve earned it 100 times over.
lmfao she isn't transsexual and it shows. she only transitioned to escape her trauma. she's not a legitimate transsexual like me. if she was she would understand her own medical birth defect.
"We don't want to be in our bodies and we find all kinds of ways to leave." I felt that in my cells.
I can certainly relate, though I think the feeling is even deeper, maybe our essence, spirit or even our soul; If you believe in such things? I've always felt trapped in my body, vessel, meat puppet or whatever you wanna call it. I just know that somewhere beneath the skin, flesh & bone that there's something hidden which only a few people have ever had the opportunity to see a glimpse of. The fact that I cannot be that which is deep inside, swaddled in this cocoon & that I cannot just wear it on my sleeve is a very lonely feeling.
Yeah I felt that one too...
Same.
@@athelwulfgallandI just want to say that I'm sure those who have had the opportunity to glimpse that part of you, are blessed for it.
@@athelwulfgalland God is a triune being, Father, Son, and Holy Spirit, but a singular God, and He created each of us, as triune beings in His image, as body, soul, and spirit, though we are singular, individual beings, each part being a full representation of the other two parts. We can only truly know ourselves as we view ourselves through the lens of God's written Word, which tells us that we are born separated from God by the inherent curse of sin that is upon the earth, thanks to the fall of humanity in the garden of Eden. We must be absolutely perfect to be in relationship with God, but we are unable to be good enough or do enough to earn any amount of favor with God to produce the righteousness that we need. Jesus came to make the righteousness of God available to us through His own righteousness, made available through His death, burial, and resurrection from the dead. Until you have submitted to Christ as Lord God and been spiritually reborn in His blood, so that HIs Holy Spirit dwells within you, then you will always have that disjointed, lonely feeling, of which, you speak. Transgender ideology is a counterfeit answer to the problem of identity and self worth, like so many other available counterfeit choices in life. The answers can only be found in God, Who created us. He loves us, and He is calling to us, while we live, during which time, He gives us ample time and opportunity to accept Jesus as Lord, and His gift of eternal salvation. If we die, having rejected Christ, then we will be eternally separated from Him in eternal agony, which is known as the second death. But once we have submitted to HIm, as Lord, and have been born again, we have the assurance of being with God for eternity, and He has promised to never leave nor forsake us, and will have His own Holy Spirit within us to comfort, lead, and instruct us throughout the rest of our lives here on earth, so that you are never alone, even if you are physically alone. Truly, the peace that you know in your spirit is so unbelievably remarkable, because it is rock solid and cannot be touched, because it is in God, not in your circumstances or your emotions! It is one of those things that is just beyond explanation, because it defies human logic, capabilities, and even the words to describe it, much less explain it, because it is the supernatural power of God. What we know, in the natural, is only a shallow, shadowy representation of the fullness of reality of the spiritual, all of which was created by omniscient, omnipotent, omnipresent boundless God, Who is Love!
Ephesians 2:8-10
8 For by grace are ye saved through faith; and that not of yourselves: it is the gift of God:
9 Not of works, lest any man should boast.
John 3
1 There was a man of the Pharisees, named Nicodemus, a ruler of the Jews:
2 The same came to Jesus by night, and said unto him, Rabbi, we know that thou art a teacher come from God: for no man can do these miracles that thou doest, except God be with him.
3 Jesus answered and said unto him, Verily, verily, I say unto thee, Except a man be born again, he cannot see the kingdom of God.
4 Nicodemus saith unto him, How can a man be born when he is old? can he enter the second time into his mother's womb, and be born?
5 Jesus answered, Verily, verily, I say unto thee, Except a man be born of water and of the Spirit, he cannot enter into the kingdom of God.
6 That which is born of the flesh is flesh; and that which is born of the Spirit is spirit.
7 Marvel not that I said unto thee, Ye must be born again.
8 The wind bloweth where it listeth, and thou hearest the sound thereof, but canst not tell whence it cometh, and whither it goeth: so is every one that is born of the Spirit.
9 Nicodemus answered and said unto him, How can these things be?
10 Jesus answered and said unto him, Art thou a master of Israel, and knowest not these things?
11 Verily, verily, I say unto thee, We speak that we do know, and testify that we have seen; and ye receive not our witness.
12 If I have told you earthly things, and ye believe not, how shall ye believe, if I tell you of heavenly things?
13 And no man hath ascended up to heaven, but he that came down from heaven, even the Son of man which is in heaven.
14 And as Moses lifted up the serpent in the wilderness, even so must the Son of man be lifted up:
15 That whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have eternal life.
16 For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life.
17 For God sent not his Son into the world to condemn the world; but that the world through him might be saved.
18 He that believeth on him is not condemned: but he that believeth not is condemned already, because he hath not believed in the name of the only begotten Son of God.
19 And this is the condemnation, that light is come into the world, and men loved darkness rather than light, because their deeds were evil.
20 For every one that doeth evil hateth the light, neither cometh to the light, lest his deeds should be reproved.
21 But he that doeth truth cometh to the light, that his deeds may be made manifest, that they are wrought in God.
22 After these things came Jesus and his disciples into the land of Judaea; and there he tarried with them, and baptized.
23 And John also was baptizing in Aenon near to Salim, because there was much water there: and they came, and were baptized.
24 For John was not yet cast into prison.
25 Then there arose a question between some of John's disciples and the Jews about purifying.
26 And they came unto John, and said unto him, Rabbi, he that was with thee beyond Jordan, to whom thou barest witness, behold, the same baptizeth, and all men come to him.
27 John answered and said, A man can receive nothing, except it be given him from heaven.
28 Ye yourselves bear me witness, that I said, I am not the Christ, but that I am sent before him.
29 He that hath the bride is the bridegroom: but the friend of the bridegroom, which standeth and heareth him, rejoiceth greatly because of the bridegroom's voice: this my joy therefore is fulfilled.
30 He must increase, but I must decrease.
31 He that cometh from above is above all: he that is of the earth is earthly, and speaketh of the earth: he that cometh from heaven is above all.
32 And what he hath seen and heard, that he testifieth; and no man receiveth his testimony.
33 He that hath received his testimony hath set to his seal that God is true.
34 For he whom God hath sent speaketh the words of God: for God giveth not the Spirit by measure unto him.
35 The Father loveth the Son, and hath given all things into his hand.
36 He that believeth on the Son hath everlasting life: and he that believeth not the Son shall not see life; but the wrath of God abideth on him.
I LOVE how she identifies with Robert, her old self AND Blair, her new self. You have to Love ALL of you to fully heal
Hearing her say her old name gave me chills!
I absolutely agree 💯❤ more people need to understand this and not stress over their "dead names".. I get it might take time, but that should be one of the goals
acceptance is key to growth :D
All of you 🥺
The good & the bad. The Mr. X of your psychology. I love diving deeper into why we trans folk are the way we are❤❤❤
Many trans people feel that way. We are put here, blaire isn't alone, she just has a platform.
One thing about blaire is so under appreciated is that she does not have the narcissism that she is any way "different" and "special" which is commonly seen in so many of these LGBT activists. She acknowledges that those differences come from a dark place and isn't something to feel entitled about.
That is what i notices too. She loves herself in a healthy way. She's quite the opposite of a narcissist.
@@bomchicabee9563 Yes, she's a truth-seeker and a truth-bearer.
I mean she kind of does “No one else did the trans stuff before, didn’t even know anyone like that” “My father’s life purpose was to lay the foundation for me, so as soon as he did that he died” but yeah compared to the pronoun crowd it’s nothing
@@gethighordiefiending I mean yeah, she IS special and different, if she weren't, she'd be "normal" as in not having gender dysphoria and feeling and living as a normal man. But this kind of different and "special" is not comparable to the kind of "special" many activists seem to believe they are. If they were Christian you'd believe some view themselves as being hand picked by Jesus to spread a new world order.
Blaire is is definitely narcissistic lol, but I do enjoy her content and listening to her talk
Thank you so much for being a voice of reason! As a psychologist I cannot stress enough how important it is to find the whys of our behavior. There's ALWAYS a reason behind it and it's the first step into healing. As a millennial, we have fought so much to bring mental health awareness mainly because for our parents generation it was very taboo to talk about it. I remember having my first panic attack and told my mom and she said "what's that?" I felt like my heart sank. I felt so alone and helpless. When we say it's ok to have mental illnesses, what we meant was creating a safe space to talk about it BUT with the objective of getting the help we need to DEAL with it and heal from it so we can become a healthy person. What I see in recent generations is accepting their mental illnesses as part of their personalities and even being proud about it. But never seeking to OVERCOME them cuz that's actually HARD.
Well said.
Well spoken. Mental health awareness for the sake of healing has devolved into perpetual therapy and identity in a culture that further weaponizes therapy to make snap judgments and cancel people.
As a survivor you don’t realize how powerful it is when someone tells you “you’re safe” for the first time after coming out of the incident.
When someone tells you "you're safe" for the first time after coming out of an incident as a survivor, it can be an incredibly empowering and comforting experience. Here are a few reasons why this simple phrase holds such power:
1. Validation: Being told that you're safe validates your feelings and experiences. It acknowledges the fear and vulnerability you may have felt during the incident and assures you that you have escaped that danger.
2. Restoration of Trust: Experiencing a traumatic incident can shatter your sense of safety and trust. When someone tells you that you're safe, it helps rebuild that trust by assuring you that they are there for your support and protection.
3. Reclaiming Control: Survivors often feel a loss of control during the traumatic event. Being told that you're safe can give you a sense of empowerment and control over your own life again. It reminds you that you have control over your present circumstances.
4. Emotional Healing: Hearing that you're safe can provide emotional healing and relief. It brings a sense of calmness, reduces anxiety, and allows you to start the process of healing and rebuilding your life.
5. Connection and Support: Knowing that someone genuinely cares for your safety creates a connection and support system. It helps you realize that you're not alone in your journey of recovery.
Overall, being told "you're safe" after surviving an incident is a powerful affirmation that can assist in restoring your sense of security, trust, control, and emotional well-being. It reminds you that you are no longer in immediate danger and can start rebuilding your life with the support of trusted individuals around you.
Blaire has been with Joey for how many years, do you really think they haven't had this conversation between themselves, and he hasn't ever told Blaire that?
@@jagdeepjano Are you asking me? I was speaking in general and relating to her emotion.
What my statement meant was, you don’t realize how much you need to hear “you’re safe” after a traumatic incident happening to you. Especially the first time it’s said to you. I’ve certainly needed to hear it more than one time, after the first.
Also I don’t consistently follow her, so I don’t know the intimate details of her life.
So true! My husband was the first man to say this to me. He has always been my warrior for that. ❤
Try being a 50 year old man, No one ever will.
Hearing her say Robert choked me up. He's still here. He's deep down inside of her and she's protecting him. She's so level headed about what she's gone through.
she’s extremely emotionally mature it’s insane
Agreed!
I think what the therapist was trying to show her is that maybe she's too levelheaded :)
Time stamp?
*he
Even though I am not pro trans, Blair White is a person that I have tons of respect for. She is not an ideologist. She is (to me) one of the most convincing trans-women. I wouldn’t mind her being next to me in a locker room. And that says something about me as well.
❤️🙏🏻
That’s exactly how i feel tooooo
It sounds like you are more pro than anti trans.
EXACTLY! She's gained that title.
I hated my father, he blamed everyone around him for his actions. He had the biggest chip on his shoulders that the world owed him something....he called me a cancer, it was my fault he was the way he was.....he later died of cancer....karma is a wonderful thing....she doesn't forget anyone.
Sounds like my husband’s stepdad. He abused him from the time he was 2 years old. He’d beat him relentlessly, break his stuff, take his hard-earned money. His cousins sexually abused him. It’s amazing that my husband is as “normal” as he is with no mental issues and is kind and gentle. He says it’s because he has God. His brothers, on the other hand, are in jail. They are narcissistic, have anger issues and drug addictions. They don’t have God in their lives.
@@sleeplesscrafterYour husband made the choice himself to be strong and to be better. Not everyone can do that.
It's common for children who experience trauma especially physical or sexual trauma, to hate themselves or their bodies. I think trauma is a huge factor in gender dysphoria and often overlooked.
Unfortunately, studies on the causes are now seen as mostly unethical and won’t be conducted.
No need for studies lol. Many lgbt people themselves will tell you.
It's glaringly obvious when you get a look at their recorded therapies (which dems want to ban, disgustingly). They sometimes feel ashamed of that body part for reacting to the SA in the way that part naturally does.
@@Minerva-fp1zxexactly, even thinking back to when I was sexually abused made me gay as a survival mechanism. Something in the brain just changes as soon as something traumatic occurs to either allow you to survive if it happens again or to adapt to the environment around you.
trauma? i was abused mentaly by my oppressive and manipolative father... i think you are sadly right
I don't care what anyone says, She's Real... and she speaks the TRUTH.
Real
She actually does the opposite... She's lied numerous times about trans people purely to make a profit. Propaganda pays well, you know.
I love Blaire but ilk concede a "they" at best.
I love Blair so much. Honestly the most real, I’ve been watching her since I was around 14-15 (now 23) I want to see her the happiest she can possibly be.
@@anarchist_parableand that’s why Blair is cool because this wouldn’t change how she feels. Doesn’t change how I feel either, when someone spends this much time and money to transition, and doesn’t look or sound like a man, “they” are a women. Not Dylan Mulvaney, that’s a man, but Blair is a woman.
The exercise at the end that David did with you was incredible! It was so powerful & so tender & vulnerable! Thanks for your willingness to do this. I am a new fan just recently so I have really enjoyed getting to know you better and your in my prayers & my heart!💓
God, that intro man, that started the tears, was not expecting that.
To be vulnerable and to ask for help is so hard. To be vulnerable in my mind is to be weak and I know it’s not true but that’s how I view it. That I had to be strong because my mom is strong and I want to be like that… but as I’ve grown up, I see more about her that I didn’t when I was younger. We are strong but sometimes we need to let others in, let others know we need support. Thank you so much for sharing this experience. It was incredible to watch and we appreciate you for doing this!
People that are humble enough to understand that they are broken. But also are unapologetically themselves are a gift to humanity.
These individuals possess a rare combination of self-awareness and authenticity, which sets them apart and makes them invaluable to society. Here's why:
1. Humility: Recognizing one's limitations and acknowledging that they are flawed or broken is a sign of genuine humility. These individuals don't let their ego get in the way of self-improvement and personal growth. Instead, they are open to learning, seeking help, and owning up to their mistakes. This humility allows them to develop empathy towards others, listen actively, and contribute to the well-being of their communities.
2. Authenticity: Being unapologetically themselves means embracing their true essence without fear of judgment or societal norms. These individuals are comfortable in their own skin and pursue their passions and interests without conformity. This authenticity shines through in their relationships, work, and creativity, inspiring others to do the same. By staying true to themselves, they encourage acceptance and inclusivity, fostering a more compassionate and diverse society.
3. Genuine connection: People who are both humble and unapologetically themselves are naturally approachable and relatable. They create real connections with others because they don't pretend to be someone they're not. This allows for more meaningful conversations, deeper relationships, and the possibility of forming supportive communities. Their ability to be vulnerable and share their experiences encourages others to do the same, ultimately cultivating a sense of belonging for everyone around them.
4. Positive influence: These individuals' presence and actions have a profound impact on those around them. By openly embracing their brokenness and imperfections, they normalize the struggles of being human. Their humility and authenticity serve as a reminder that it's okay to make mistakes, falter, or feel vulnerable. Their unwavering belief in themselves empowers others to embrace their own uniqueness and chase their dreams without compromise. This positive influence helps uplift individuals and contribute to a more inspired and compassionate society.
In a world that often encourages conformity and portrays perfection as the ideal, people who embody both humility and unapologetic authenticity are a breath of fresh air. They remind us that it's okay to admit our flaws, embrace our true selves, and create meaningful connections with others. They are a gift to humanity, offering hope, inspiration, and a blueprint for a more compassionate and inclusive world.
you found the words I wanted to write, she's done such a incredible thing by sitting in the fire infront of others, x
Humanity doesn't like us much tho. They can't stand our non-nonsense brutal honesty. We are like a mirror that shows you things that people don't want to see about themselves and humanity.
"unapologetically themselves" doesn't include unhealthy coping mechanisms btw
Wow! Beautiful words.
When I went to therapy, "just be here" is what got me. The therapist made me sit in silence for 30sec and I bawled like a baby. As long as I was talking, I was in control. As soon as he made me sit in the moment, and really feel all those feelings I was trying to keep from bubbling over, I broke.
Oh yes just be here with yourself is a hard one . Even today it gets me sometimes.
Good therapist!
I just really like this girl….
Same ❤
I watched this video after the one you made about the creepers ' response to this video. This is powerful not only for your personal journey but so many of us also have unresolved issues. I appreciate your bravery and willingness to share.
This was extremely touching and heartbreaking and helpful at the same time. I wish you heal soon! You are such a beautiful soul and so smart and insightful. Much love!
Sexual abuse is soul destroying. Bless you Blaire
You think she was probably sexually abused by his own father?
it really is.
Very true🙏
It changes you.
It changes you forever.
"Just be here." Anyone with trauma KNOWS how difficult that TRULY is. Shutting off and diassociating is like auto pilot for so many of us. I truly admire Blaire for having the courage to get therapy that will help face the trauma.
💯👑🖤
I cried 😢 my heart hurts for her but i admire how she went through it u can see her realize so much and even her body was showing how she was feeling an amazing thing to watch someone start to heal in front of u
Yes! It really is. Therapy can make u realize things u never even knew about urself.
YESS! As a christian guy i realized how important it is to sit in those feelings and actually fight them through instead of running away
Yes!! I have to dissociate to talk about some things.
Damn! I'm going to get my son to watch this, as he has SO much anger toward his father! And him being gone now is not going to heal him as much as facing it and letting himself heal. (I could just see that scared little child in your whole body when you began hitting that table. I'm going to see about getting one of those for my son.) You are SO brave to put this session out there! This is going to help so many people who have been through trauma. Much love.
Blaire, you're one strong ass chick!! I'm so glad you did this and heard those kind words you obviously needed to hear!! I also have been abused by my parents and have had no love or support growing up! I am constantly facing this life alone and with so much guilt, anger and bittnerness. It's the worst feeling ever knowing you have no one that loves you or cares about you... Then in turn I dated assholes who only further abused me and abandoned me. I needed to hear this as well!!! I hope one day to find my way!! Its a struggle every day!!! Thank you so much for being so vulnerable and transparent with yourself and with the world. Takes one brave person and youre killing it!!! You're a beautiful soul and are truly helping others as well as helping yourself heal from your trauma.which is never fucking easy!!! It's really amazing to see!!! ❤
I cried with you. Everyone should hear the words "I got you. You are safe."
Me too it made me cry!
Hasanabi is with you!
just reading the comment is making me cry and I haven't even watched the video yet!!! oh bother! 😭🥰 Yes, we all definitely need to hear that!
@@sarahl2481 BIBLE calls us all to be real, sober minded souls, who live holy lives on earth.
BIBLE calls nor expect nobody to be:
- religious of any kind
- monk
- nun
BIBLE expect us to turn our LACK OF KNOWLEDGE into KNOWLEDGE OF TRUTH (HOSEA 4:6)
Each human life on earth:
- repent
- BORN AGAIN and GO AND SIN NO MORE
- be baptised in HOLY SPIRIT /THE COMFORTER
- LIVE HOLY
= soul, after earthly death in HEAVEN. Easy logic, asks no degree in anything.
Bible calls us to give out RIGHTEOUS JUDGMENT, no to keep our mouth shut and support everything with blind eyes and deaf ears.
See no evil, speak no evil and hear no evil - that old saying, it belongs to masons, am I right again? The vow of silence of theirs.
SOULS, dare to read and study BIBLE (KJV) and search about FREEMASONRY.
Same. Hits home way too much...
As a therapist, this therapist is excellent and Blaire is so emotionally intelligent.
He is a coach, not a therapist, which is why he is actually knowledgeable, empathetic, and has answers, unlike any and all therapists. My heart breaks for the child that’s in the picture with you, because I know what the likes of you are capable of.
@@winxclubstellamusa that's really presumptuous of you. Not all therapists are bad. Yes some of them suck. But you don't know this person and it's wrong to level that kind of accusation onto someone. I'm sorry you had shit happen to you. You don't have to take it out on random strangers.
I thought the same thing ❤ I’d like him to be mine 😊
@winxclubstellamusa Jesus. You're attacking her having a child because she's a therapist? Ironically, you seriously need therapy. Obviously you've been hurt but stop spreading that around. My goodness you are damaged. I hope you work on that so you can stop spreading very weird negativity.
@@winxclubstellamusa Also the description of the video literally says he's a therapist. So that should show you that there's great therapists out there. I work with mental health clinics all across the United States. Very, very few I've worked with are not good. The vast majority of clinics I work with (I build their websites and run their ads) have great reviews about how they've changed the person's life forever for the better. The #1 predictor of successful therapy is how well the client and therapist connect. If they're not a good fit, nothing else will really work fully. So perhaps you had a bad fit but that doesn't mean literally all therapists are bad. That's like having a bad physical trainer and thinking all physical trainers are bad. Or if you have some bad food from a chef that all chefs can't cook. It's ridiculous and especially ridiculous when you take that anger out on innocent therapists that did nothing to you and you know nothing about.
This video has a tremendous healing power. I could understand more about the nature of some behaviors , thank you so much for this.
This is why so many people respect Blaire. She's willing to be open about her past and even call her gender dysphoria a trauma response, but she is the healthiest minded Trans person I know. She is okay with not always knowing the answers but fully believes in bettering yourself reguardless. We love you Blaire. You're so, so smart. I'm so proud of you after watching you for all these years ♥
“You either heal it or you spread it” that was said in a profound way for me ❤
People are so easily manipulated by narcissists (that ALL have a fake imposter identity) to flip truth on its head. Blair SPREADS it, that is pure evil via the demons that control him. How many little boys see Blair White and have since been chemically or surgically mutilated? How many little boys or young men who have so much promise have seen Blair White to then totally destroy themselves, through mutilation? Wealth and celebrity are NEVER success to realize true human potential. White is absolute proof that body and worse soul is destroyed. He doesn't even know who he is, because who he was ceased to exist when his father destroyed him as a child. White literally states that he engages in witchcraft, pure evil that is so powerful it has ended life. To embrace pure evil, and to live it, IS spreading evil in every sense of the meaning. White is the epitome of mass delusion and deception.
The way I came across this comment the exact moment she said it 🤯
I genuinely believe that the reason that I'm a transsexual is because my birth parents did a lot of meth and alcohol while I was in utero; also giving me a laundry list of other diagnosed mental issues.
I've been harassed due to insinuating this, kicked out of subreddits, nearly assaulted irl even. If you insinuate at all that gender dysphoria is a mental issue, people go absolutely nuts.
The general consensus is that substance abuse while pregnant highly increases the chance of mental issues in the baby. But gender dysphoria? Nah, couldn't be.
Hi!! Jesus loves you truly and He is the answer to anything you may be going through. I was transgender for 5 years, and i believe it was also due to substance abuse during pregnancy, mental health issues, but also childhood trauma. We are Created in the image of God, my and your identity is found in God
I've noticed that many transgender people have neurobehavioral and or developmental disorders, so I think you're onto something. I'm autistic and nearly transitioned a decade ago.
Amen. Keep sharing truth. This insane world need it.@@lamblyy
@@lamblyy nononono, he MAY be the answer, you christians are so naive you're literally making god facepalm. Why don't you guys take the approach of trying out things instead of having this narcissistic conviction that it will work, you're only pushing people away like that. It worked for you, great kudos pat on the back, but don't be acting as if it's the only answer.
That's peoples minds have been destroyed by all of the propaganda in our current age unfortunately. Politicians and politicians and a certain political party survive on pushing these issues because it gives them a voter base and that's terribly sad. I have a feeling you're absolutely correct, as drug use in utero can severely affect the delicate balance of the mother's hormones, Which in turn affects the child's hormones. The child Being exposed to a huge dose of hormones for the opposite 6 would no doubt affect other brain functions. Anyone who gets so angry about simply hypothesizing that someone could be gay or feel like they are trans because of the way their brain functions.. is simply lying to themselves. They know that as well, they simply wish it weren't so. Folks these days have came to believe they can create their own reality.. such as a trans man claiming they are a literal man. They don't realize what they are doing is bringing shame and depression to themselves... That takes away the ability of being proud and confident of being trans. Not every trans person will be so lucky to be able to 'pass', as they say.. And then they are doomed to a life I've never being able to accept themselves. Obviously our bodies are built for a purpose, men and women are different physically, biologically, and mentally for a reason, If one feels that they are not the 6 they were born or they are attracted to the same-sex that has to come from somewhere... ya know.. Because obviously it was designed by nature for men and women to be attracted to each other and continue the human race.. so I am so sorry that people are rude, dismissive ect of your thoughts & feelings.. because It's normal to wonder why we are the way we are, to try to figure ourselves out, to try to understand ourselves and how we became how we are. I wish you Many blessings and much happiness.
This is so so powerful.. thank you for allowing so many people in to your life. Sending love and hugs ❤✨This had me full of anxiety, sadness, and hope.
You’re so brave for sharing this and you’re helping so many people by doing this.
I’m finally starting trauma therapy for ptsd because I’m in a headspace now then my brain is allowing me to remember traumatic events from my childhood. It’s not easy for me to remember the abuse I suffered as a child but I know it’s crucial for me to remember these things in order to heal.
It’s not easy to be vulnerable but when you can open up and allow yourself to be with those memories and be with the emotions that come with it in a safe way and at your own pace. It can make a world of a difference.
My therapist used a jump scare in a horror movie as an example. The more you see that movie, the less scared you get when the jump scare comes. When you watch the movie enough times, it’s not scary anymore. So that’s basically how we’re gonna work with the memories I have. The more I expose myself to them, the less scary they’ll become.
“I’ve really become the exact person that childhood me needed”
I’m still not quite there yet but I’m definitely well on my way to becoming the person child me needed
Blair is not responsible for her Fathers cancer… his guilt of his horrible acts and the realisation that she may remember killed him. That’s a story I can’t even imagine going through.
My dad died of a heart attack and I blame myself every day for my actions when I was younger it’s so hard he was a alcoholic and he drank every day up until the day he died I wish I would have been a better daughter I like Blair was abused but my step dad horribly
Yeah, you don't just suddenly get cancer out of nowhere in two weeks. It takes years to grow. If anything, she probably sensed on some level that he was having symptoms that he may not have been aware of yet.
He knows that. It’s important to explore every possible narrative she told herself though, bc while it’s not true in real life, it’s true for her. And it’s part of her healing to get through that ❤❤
@@Melissa0774 my dad died in a couple months. It probably just wasn’t detectable. We had no idea my dad had it until it was fully terminal bc he had a stroke out of nowhere
@@Melissa0774but I agree. When she said that he gave her a weird look, I was wondering if maybe he already knew about it and they just hadn’t told the kids yet or something you know. I relate a lot to that story ! I feel a lot of us do these days. ❤️🩹
He NAILED it! When we have a scary childhood we don't want to be in our bodies. If you know, you know.
So true but when people are still in the mindset of being trans, they typically don't think "oh I'm trans because of trauma or abuse or being scared" they think "oh I'm trans because Im supposed to be whatever gender". That's how it was for me. I felt like my parents didn't love me and I was in the mindset that I had to change. Before watching Blaire, Ben, Brett and many others, I felt being trans was the only solution. When I first watched Blaire. I was unsure of her, but after watching her I've become aware of how being trans is harmful. I love Blaire because she acknowledges how she is a trans woman but she still says she is a man sometimes. Shes genuine, down to earth, and she speaks truth. She should be so much more popular than she is
What a nonsense. She was called a fagot. The trauma started when she wasn't accepted as the person she is, even by her parents who were supposed to care for her.
What a nonsense! They called her a fagot. The trauma started with people not accepting her for the person she is. Even her parents, who are supposed to support and love her.
I am fortunate to have had a great childhood, great parents etc. but as a teen something terrible happened , then again as an adult. & it fked me up, & I ended up on class a drugs. I can’t even begin to imagine how traumatic it is for a child to go through certain things, when it’s hard enough to cope as an adult!? Anyone who ruins a child’s childhood should get a life sentence , no let offs, no 2nd chances, nothing!
Children are innocent & should not have to go through such traumatic things! 🥺😢🥺.
With me it was a case of not wanting to be sober/ straight headed. I used drugs to forget & not have to deal with life & all the 💩y things that come with it. X.
Thank you for sharing this and role-modeling trauma recovery! I believe that your healing journey will help many others. XO
She should be a role model of nothing. She should be a role model of how trans people 45% themselves and put themselves in the ground.
This was a beautiful dialog. I pray we're ALL free to have this with one another some day soon
As a man who grew up with an abusive step dad and was sexually assaulted by a stranger at 13 (which i was too ashamed to tell anyone about), watching Blaire cry being told she was safe had my bawling my eyes out because i totally understood why she was crying.
You never truly feel safe or secure anywherr after going through childhood trauma, not even in (often especially in) your own house. You have that childhood belief that the world is safe and secure and good taken from you at a time when you're too young to deal with knowing that stuff. It's soul shattering.
I cried reading your story. It's so freeing to let go of the awful people who hurt u. I hope everyone finds that ability especially when your abusers are still alive & trying to do what they did to you. The cool part is it really doesn't affect me as much once I learn to deal with it. Abusers don't know, deny &/or sometimes don't care about what they did to you. But when you learn to lessen their affect, it's awesome. I can see it sometimes on my sister's face that she doesn't have the same affect she once did & that is so empowering. It's an awesome fuck you moment in my life where I smile bc I know I've come a long way despite what she did & continues to try to do. Good luck and God bless you in your journey.
I’m sorry you went through that.
❤ from TX
To be safe. Such a basic but intrinsic need.
I'm hugging you from Colorado.
I read this comment earlier, and liked it, but honestly, it stuck with me. It was the “not feeling safe (especially in your own house)” that really got to me. My house is the one place in the whole world I feel safe and secure and for the most part live a reclusive introvert life. For someone to not be able to feel safe in their own home, even after they have escaped the trauma… honestly, you just gave me profound insight so thank you for that. I hope you will find healing from all that you’ve gone thru as well as all the others who have experienced trauma in the space where you should be safe 😢❤️🩹
Your story sounds a lot like my husbands.
He had a poor, but decent childhood living with his single mom (never knew who his dad was) until she married a monster when he was 8.
He was beaten and treated as the family slave... his mother never stood up for him.
To this day, when hes sleeping, if he's starteled in any way, he sits straight up in bed (out of sleep) and screams, grabbing the covers for protection.
It breaks my heart to watch.
💔
When she said she feels like no one sees her, it fucked me up. I felt like the world doesn't deserve her.
Same.
Tbf, it’s not anyone else’s job to “see” you.
See yourself.
When she says I’m Blair and still Robert 😢
I love Blaire, she gets attacked more from the LGBQT community that the straight!!!😢
YES !!!! I agree ! Truth really is that we never know what someone else is going through so take time to be kind and stop for a minute ( or more ) for others. ❤
Wow Blair, thank you for being so vulnerable and sharing your therapy session. It couldn't of been easy.. I feel like i myself just had a therapy session as well. A much needed one.. Sending you much love my sister
oh Lort.... I was so damn captivated during the energy release part that I'm not even sure when it was I started crying. 😓 I wish it was more widely accepted to seek out honest and serious help in releasing all the pain and weight that is caused by trauma, and just life in general at times. Thank you, you amazing soul, for allowing us all (even the most undeserving) to see a glimpse into the road you're taking to heal old wounds and to gain understanding of what safety and healing could possibly look like, by revealing some of your extremely personal struggles and pain. I'm sure you have a decent idea already, but I hope you know how deeply important and appreciated this video (and those similar)are. Thank you.! And much love💕
There’s no way that this was easy to air out for the entire internet to see. As a semi-long term viewer, I just want to say I am so proud of how far you’ve come. The self-reflection you have shown throughout your youtube career is such a huge inspiration to others, even if they aren’t going through the exact same situations as you. Thank you for being so open and vulnerable
Yeah but it's very needed for all the peeps who division media has fed the confusion surrounding gender. Ppl need to know the psychology of what they are signing up for
He’s not even a therapist.
Hearing her say her birth name gave me chills! Mad props for the vulnerability in putting this out there, this will help so many people.
What is it ?
@@SierraPit’s Robert
That's been out for years I knew in 2019 lol
looking at this individual (blaire) and saying Robert…….. yea i dont feel it. Its just weird. She’s Blaire
@@technical_bet_144well that’s bc blaire IS socially a woman. Like that’s why I get so weirded out when ppl refer to blaire as just a man, bc she’s not biologically a woman but no one looks at blaire and thinks “yeah let me say him 🫵🏼.” Even blaires micro expressions are very feminine and I say that as a very feminine woman
I just stumbled upon your channel & I just wanted to say, you go girl! Speak up 🗣️ your voice is a blessing to us all!!Thank you for standing up & putting it all out there. That is tough & extremely vulnerable. I don’t know you but I’m proud of you 🫶🏻
“Not safe to be your body” I can so relate to that so much!
I’m so happy Blaire opened up and was vulnerable with us. It was so great thank you Blaire. It’s awesome how I can relate to her.
Me thinking/wanting to be trans (having body dysphoria and dysmorphia) twelve years ago as a teen was definetly a trauma response. So glad i healed and moved on, because for me, it would have been a big mistake to transition.
Sometime of my life i wanted to be a girl, but because the bullies of my School were boys and i felt safier with girls
That’s really what it boils down to. Thank you for sharing that. It’s so important to examine what you’re going through and give yourself space and time to get past it.
It’s a big mistake for everyone. That’s the one thing that no one is really aloud to say that it is a mistake for everyone. It’s sin. But it’s an understandable sin.
thanks for sharing ur story. It's important
I'm the exact same, went through this too and I'm just so glad I realised when I did. Also realised aside from trauma and body issues it was ok to like things that were seen as boys/men's interests and not wearing makeup like the other girls or being girly was fine
Blair is one of the few people who actually understands the deep underlying complexity and complications behind being trans, but no one in the alphabet community will listen, even though she’s dead on the money. She should be one of the main voices of the trans community. There’d be a lot more acceptance and understanding ❤
and still shows the stigma of therapy when the alphabet gang thinks drugs and surgery are the answer
There is no true "trans" it is living in your own lie..
its insanity. The most intelligent, compassionate, balanced understanding is now 'hate'
Vr What I'm understanding is that blaire was basically beaten for being an effeminate trans girl which led to trauma. The irony is that Blaire would have undoubtedly benefited from a knowledge as a child that it is ok to be gay or gender non conforming or even trans. Blaire's support for DeSantis whose policies promote the isolation of lgbt youth by removing exposure of lgbt youth to supportive content is basically saying i suffered so you have to suffer too.
Hd
I have a deep respect for Blair. She’s traumatised as all of us, but she fights back. This takes a lot of strength and courage to unravel all of this ❤
I think as she knows she’s a male, maybe something can change from there…
Just wow! So touched by your testimony! Thank you for sharing! I hope a full healing and recovery for you Blaire!
This was really powerful to witness. Thank you for sharing this Blair 🙏🏼 I hope you find more healing along your journey 💗
God, I started to cry when he asked about safety and who protects you? I saw that emotional response in your eyes.
I was surprised that her fiance isn't that person for her
@@alex-qd6ofi thought the same thing
Cuz he's not @@alex-qd6of
@@alex-qd6ofI think that she needed more of a parental figure expressing protection. Her partner really can’t be a substitute role for that.
@@alex-qd6of when you've lived through certain experiences and survived them, you might be able to love someone and at the same time feel deep inside of you that you are ultimately on your own and need to only rely on yourself. so even if you have a loving fiance that would protect and support you, at that point you can't allow yourself to feel safe
The emergence of the butterfly is not the death of the Caterpillar.
Really?? In the butterfly world it is!!
getting this tatted
That is an amazing idea. I'm going to remember this one.
@lynettefinnigan9540 and still, the butterfly is certainly thinking "I was, but now I am", so it's all there, but not the same, only MORE.
@@bellacarbeau1747 nice.👍
Thank you for sharing this vulnerable time. Even though my journey is different, I can still relate to being a vulnerable child in the care of uncaring adults. We can each overcome our trauma experiences to be our best selves. You give hope to others through sharing your truth.
Blaire, some of the most valuable healing I’ve done has been healing those little parts. They need to know they’re safe now and that you’re standing up to protect them when they didn’t have that growing up from the ones who were supposed to do it. ❤️
She articulated the fact that she is Blaire and Robert at the same time so perfectly . I wish more trans/lgbtq people would hear this
I think many of them do face the reality of what they are, but apparently someone else just mentioning it makes them go overboard with absolute violence. Many of these people don't have trans or gay or women or black issues, they got anger issues. Goosefrabah!!
Sounds very similar to something someone with dissociative identity disorder might say.
What a strange idea, but glad she’s comfortable to view herself like that. I was always me, before and after transitioning, but it’s chill to hear other perspectives.
@@senecagoes6595so your are certified to talk about mental illness and how dare you to compare a disability with being transgender
@@senecagoes6595you people want a new label for everything Jesus 🙄 armchair specialist
I don’t think I’ve ever seen someone visualize the feeling of a silent scream boiling underneath a stoic exterior like this before. Blaire has an extremely strong spirit to be handling her trauma, on top of doing this channel for so long and being the one to take so many slings and arrows for what she believes in. I understand a part of it must be because she has to, and my heart and many others go out to her for it. You sacrifice so much. No matter what the world says, you are inspiring to watch, Blaire.
Edit: I understand bottling up your emotions for so long may have unhealthy consequences, I’m just saying that Blaire hasn’t let that break her. She accepts so much about herself, and in doing so she is channeling her pain into healing the world. I can’t begrudge her for keeping truly private things close to her chest still. She’s really brave for this.
We’ll said she truly is
It’s not strong to hold in pain or emotion it’s so toxic for everybody or ourselves letting ourselves cry is so horrifically necessary to do
this. thank you for sharing & being so open.
Blaire my heart is literally melting. The protection part brought so many tears to my heart.
Thank you for being you, tha k you for this insight and awareness. ❤
Tears. One of the most helpful things I’ve learned in therapy is that anger can be a good feeling. When we feel anger it’s a part of us that is telling us that we experienced an injustice. Much love and healing vibes to you
No, a perceived injustice would be more accurate. Just because you're angry doesn't mean you have actually been wronged.
@@nothim7321its still all relative
@@nothim7321in the scenario we’re talking about that doesn’t apply but go off babe
@@Tylahh Of course it applies. A perceived injustice doesn't mean that that injustice isn't real. It just means you perceived an injustice, real or no, and you are angry because of it.
@Tylahh young Robert, now Blaire, was indeed hard done by. In this exact instance, an injustice was perpetrated. Truly. Anyone has the right to feel anger. That doesn't mean an injustice was done in reality. You have the right to feel however you feel. That doesn't mean that your perception of the event that caused you to feel that emotion is a complete understanding of the circumstance. Or that your reaction out of that emotion is justified. What Robert has done to himself, to become Blaire, I would say is extreme. The person he is now, in many respects, is a tragedy. That doesn't mean that he is without value as he is. Nor does that mean I look down on him. I just wish someone or something could have been there for him, to stand for him. As he is now, to come through what he has come through, is a marvel. Sad, but a marvel. I don't pretend to understand. I'm just really glad I had the father I did, for sure.
The way she took that hug right away broke me.
😢😢😢
So you’re easily broken.😂😂😂. Why do trans commit suicide at a highly extreme rate…. Cause they know they 100% wrong .
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Yeah, not at all trying to be a smartass or anything but in the interest of honesty and truth...He is a man.
yeah she craves affection. so pathetic :(
@craigash189 he craves it but doesn't seek it
Thank you for sharing this. Your sharing of this could be so helpful to many ppl that may have had difficult childhoods, regardless of their sexual identity. Keep up your personal growth
I would love to see more of this. It hit really close to home for me.
The therapy session/interview was SO GOOD. Thank you so much for sharing that side of you with us, Blaire. We love you so damn much.
@MaraJadeSkky
I completely agree. Frankly, I couldn't have put it any better. 🩷
I've been following you since 2016. We've interacted a few times. I've been nothing but impressed with you from day 1. I love you as a public figure. I always defend you and your mission. You've done a lot, achieved a lot, seen a lot, and changed the world. So few people actually do that Blaire, actually change the world. Your existence changed me, I learned a whole aspect of people I refused to understand from you. You changed the face of a political movement. You changed the face of an ideological movement. You created waves that most people never will. That's a lot to put on one person's shoulders. And you had to shoulder that at a young age. On top of the trauma of your childhood. But we aren't going anywhere blaire. You're incredibly brave and vulnerable for doing this. And why it's brave is because you're once again showing the open, raw, and honest parts of you that make us all love, trust and follow you. This past year I've watched you take a vulnerable and emotional step towards God and healing. You should be so proud of yourself hunny. Cause we are all incredibly proud of you.
Forever a proud member of the Blaire White army
Love you Blaire
I admire you and Blaire for the same reason. Y'all keep it 100!
@tdvwx7400 omg thank you 🥹😭🩵💙💜
STAR SAN HI
Very well said.
you, Blaire and Gothix should do a show together! :)
Cancer can be the result of self hatred and unresolved trauma. Blaire, you saying that to your dad may have not caused the cancer but have him hate himself even more to the point of activating the cancer that was already there.
I was crying right there with you! You Are so Brave! Thank You for this!
As a psychologist specialising in Trauma l sincerely want to thank you for your honesty and deep insight. You have confirmed a lot of my personal thoughts and therapeutic findings in this area. You will go on to be a leader and pioneer in this area. Bravo Blair
*Blaire 🤦♀
@@flexydex8754they missed a letter off the end, get over yourself fucking hell
@@flexydex8754why is the only thing you took from that comment a misspelling of blaires name
Already is
Idc I have to set the record straight. Blair White did not come up with this conclusion on her own. I happen to know for a fact! that she went on someone else's social media platform whose a trans man. this "conclusion," that childhood trauma has to do with why trans are trans, and even HE did not come up with this conclusion on his own. The transman had a discussion with a friend who's going to school to be a psychologist. I've watched a few of Blair's clips in discussions with other trans-women: and the insensitivity and cruelty she has towards these poor broken trans women, is disturbing. Do you really think someone who is as cruel and airheaded as she, can really come up with something like that on her own. I'll tell you why she's trans; she's a trans-women, because she became the women she needed in her life. That sassy women/character she's portraying, THAT'S the women she built up in her head as a child. she became who she needed to be, to protect her. She needed a Mother, she needed a Hero.... So she became just that. So now whenever she goes out into the world, she fully "protected". The TRUTH is the truth, and one thing I have learned..... Is the truth ALWAYS comes out in the end... And that's the truth. Credit needs to be paid where it's due! Oh Blair.... Liar Liar.
There’s a lot of CSA victims amongst trans people, it’s not talked about enough. Blaire is so very brave to do this interview/session and be so honest so publicly about it.
And a lot are abusers of children faking being trans as a cover hoping it helps hide their pedophile ways they aren't real trans people just faking it so they have a cover of sorts
He may have also badly beaten her for being effeminate. We don’t know exactly what happened. Until she feels comfortable disclosing that severe trauma- if she ever feels comfortable- we shouldn’t make assumptions. (I do agree that’s the feeling that I got when she was discussing the “type of monster” he was, though)
But with all that aside, you are absolutely correct. There are an inordinate amount of CSA survivors in the LGBT community as a whole, but especially in the trans community. 😢
not only trans people but gay people as well
Everyone I know who suffered that type of abuse is straight. Are they straight because of the abuse?
@@drts6955every gay man I know was a victim of CSA.
Blaire this was so much more vulnerable than any of us ever expected and I just wanted to say thank you for letting us into this little part of your therapy. I hope you continue going deeper with this therapist without the cameras rolling and really find some deeper healing! So much love to you.
This was so amazing to watch. What an amazing, gentle, nonjudgemental therapist! What a blessing! So many of them sit and write on their pad and are somewhere else! You are such a strong, down to earth, inspirational, beautiful woman Blaire inside and out! I just wanted to give you a hug through this whole video! 💗🙏🌺
This is what bravery looks like. Telling your kids to chop up their body isn't. This is bravery for her to sit there and not only open up her mind to therapy that isn't a scam but also show the world that as well.
Well said 🙏🏼💕
Ur it is, this isn’t gonna change anything
@@jamessmith6363 Darwin is taking care of it as we speak. All of these ego pushes by cultists are meaningless. These "flaws" are expressions of weakness. And the ultimate "boss-babe", Big Mama Nature, despises weakness.
All of this insanity will be corrected. In time.
Spreading stupid, transphobic scare memes isn't what bravery looks like, transphobe.
Everyone needs to be brave too and call him for what he is. Calling him a she, is encouraging trauma. You need to stop it so he can face reality a bit more each day and heal!
I dont know a single genuine trans person who hasn't experienced abuse. They need to research this. I'm wondering if it's a diffrent form of disassociation.
It’s like killing yourself without actually dying
It's an interesting theory, but it's hard to people accepts that, more for the trans people because... Accepts that your identity could be because something bad happened in your past.. make this wrong, like, being trans is wrong, but it's not wrong because it's not your fault, if i'd had something like depression, it's not wrong, i didn't choose that
Maybe possibly
Yes! I know it's anecdotal but I don't know a single one with a happy childhood either. I think research on that phenomenon could lead to a lot of healing for a lot of trans people.
@@Alienx520they need to pull up their bootstraps and get over it. It’s probably a fact. It’s not the same thing but I am very comfortable accepting that I’m only bisexual because I had religious abuse revolving specifically around female sexuality. If my parents didn’t focus my entire life on female purity and demonizing female sexuality of any kind then I probably wouldn’t be bisexual
I am a trauma therapist, and I’m not trained in somatic therapy but after this, I am going to learn it! I absolutely love this therapist approach, his demeanor, and how in tune he was intune to you Blair
Thank you for this, Blaire. You have no idea how much your vulnerability here will help others. I had such a similar growing up experience with my biological father. I’m a little older than you, and I’m just now unlocking past trauma and PTSD. My doctor wanted me to start somatic therapy. I thought it was a little too woo woo, but you’ve given me the push I needed. Love and light from Nashville ❤
When he said "I'm not going to let anyone hurt you" that made me feel deep shit and it made me cry too
I hope blaire is feeling refreshed and well after releasing some emotional hold up ❤❤❤❤
Me too! I sat here crying because no one has ever said that to me. I’m 55 years old and I’ve never been protected. I didn’t expect the flow of emotions that went through me.
how can he control that tho lol
@@craigash189 it's just hidden trauma....we just needed to hear that from someone that's all
@@CUXPID. you don't make sense and sound incredibly stupid.
My dad molested me and my mom is a covert narcissist who never protected me, so I can relate and appreciate this. It does so much psychological damage to have abusive parents, but there is hope and recovery. It helps people that you shared your story, so others know they are not the only ones. Thanks for sharing such a difficult and personal thing with us. You are so brave. Proud of you! ❤
Thank you for sharing, I understand. I wasn't molested by my dad(he was ab*sive in other physical and emotional ways), but I was groomed by other men. Men that she could have protected me and my sister from, but she just turned a blind eye instead. Her excuse for not calling the police is that "it was a different time back then and the police wouldn't have done anything anyway" (between 2000 and 2004). Never heard so much BS in my life. The truth is, our parents are evil beings that didn't care enough to protect us, and we deserved so much better. I'm so sorry you weren't protected. Sending you love and healing vibes. I wish you the best in your healing recovery ❤
Yup same mate . What a joke
May I please Give ya hugs from Perth !!
I’m so sorry that monster hurt you. I hope you are coping okay. Much love sent your way.
Same. Except my mother was a diagnosed overt narcissist who targeted me because she knew I was the product of one of her affairs
This is literally Chris from Gilmore Girls
I SAW HIM AND IMMEDIATELY RECOGNIZED HIM! I love Gilmore Girlsss
Thank you for sharing and being so honest and thoughtful…❤️❤️
Blaire White = Courage.
Openly acknowledging being male/presenting female takes one level of bravery. Acknowledging sexual orientation struggles as trauma responses to childhood incidents is next level brave.
High A.C.E. scores manifest in multiple ways in adult life. Some of us drink to black-out, some becomes sex/drug addicts, none are unscathed.
Absolutely. So true ! You are so smart and speak truth!
Why is it brave to be trans though, all the traumas and then throw in a million more because let’s not lie here, bring way more attention to the person, brave to hide in your own body pretending to be the opposite sex, EVERYONE KNOWS WHAT THEYRE LOOKING AT! That kind of let’s face it is negative attention all while trying to help heal mental issues. 😢 lots of questions it makes no sense.
Transgenderism is not a ‘sexual orientation’. It is a gender issue (a perception of discomfort with one’s sex) , hence the name ‘gender dysphoria’. I think what you meant to suggest is that sexual trauma can lead to many issues including sexual ones, but technically speaking transgenderism goes far beyond that.
I don't buy it. Some of my friends with the happiest childhood are gay and love their partners. If trauma caused it then 90% of the population would be gay.
@@StarHarvestOfficial Its different for everyone like Blaire said. Its not always the case, but sometimes it is. Or maybe these friends had things that traumatized them that you don't know about. Things happen behind closed doors and people can wear masks. I hope they were never traumatized, but you never know. Trauma of any kind is hard to open up about to anyone because it leaves a person feeling bare and vulnerable in ways those who haven't experienced it wouldn't understand.
I can say with certainty that my experience in childhood is probably some of the reason I'm a lesbian today. Not the whole reason, but definitely some part of it. That doesn't discredit my sexuality. It was just a contributing factor. An experienced that made me into who I became just like any other good or bad memory.
Heart broke seeing this video. Our Blaire has been through so much trauma but kept it in check, but she needs healing now. Much 💕 Blaire. And so wish Joey can be tbere as going thru this type of therapy.
Wow... this was so touching. Bless you Blaire, I'm praying for you ❤
Holy shit. The bravery to put this intimate stuff out for people.
Utmost respect.
I keep seeing the little kid inside and I just wanted to give them a hug. Betrayal really brutalizes little ones.
I have never related so much to a person, I even grew up in the same town, bravo to you to have the ability to share your story like this.
I applaud you for your courage, bravery and wisdom, Blaire! This was very powerful. Our ability to be genuinely vulnerable speaks for our inner Power. This world needs more people like you!
The word "Safety" is something that I also never thought I needed, being single, strong-headed and utterly independent, until I found my divine Partner and for the first time in my life, felt emotionally safe with someone... So much trauma was released by the feeling of safety in my body, it has been miraculous and very healing.
It's not a quick nor an easy journey but is worth it. I wish the same for you. Sending you so much love. ❤
I have felt that “being trans” is *usually* a trauma response to sexual abuse for a few years now. I started learning more about the personal lives of “trans” people via their own CZcams/TikTok channels & noticed the common denominator of sexual abuse, often at a young age, and it clicked for me.
I used to be of the opinion of “born that way”, now I really think it’s a coping mechanism.
This might be true for some people but there are also trans people without that type of history. I met a guy once and we became friends and I always felt like I was talking to a female (his aura, attitude you may name it whatever you want) and that was two years before he made it public that he was trans. I believe some really are born that way.
Well many of us suffer from sexual abuse or are being molested because of our feminine energy when we are young. So I personally think it’s a common thing but it’s not the causing thing
Same with the gays. The vast majority of were abused as children. They def were not born that way. And of course now we can add indoctrination to the list with all the alphabet propaganda that's pushed online and in schools.
It mostly is. It was a rare condition that impacted males and more deeply traumatized males.
@@Halliwell29A victim isn't abused because of their energy, but a predator spotted vulnerability and had access.
There are some instances where a teen is kicked out of the house or runs away, and that leaves them more vulnerable to abuse and trafficking. So when in the sequence the abuse occurs may be relevant in cause or result.
But people handle trauma differently and how we respond to trauma varies by other factors.
I have a friend with DID and repeated trauma absolutely caused it. But most people with trauma won't develop DID, so there are other factors at play.
“You can be mad at me, you can push me away, you can go crazy, I’ll still be here” - hearing that even through the screen brought me to tears. That’s all someone really wants to know that even at their lowest, those around them still care and won’t just walk away. This was beautiful to watch.
Honestly…I felt the same way. I truly feel like we are loved under conditions. we have to be selfless. At home everything I did effected the respect of my family. My brother in law who’s 15 older than me would try to touch me and he would take photos of me without my knowledge. I was the one that was rong. That’s what my sister told me. She said men will look I need to stop been a whore. I was barely 16 and they both were in there 30s. I always just had to be uncomfortable all my life. I’m 30 now and the only thing that soothes me is knowing my kid self would feel sooo safe, loved and protect by the adult me. This world is a lonely place.
That felt like a threat to me, and I would love to hear his analysis on that!
It definitely gave that father energy that she needed in the moment. It was very beautiful to watch for sure.
that’s exactly the point in this video that made me cry
Some abusers use the "soft, loving" approach as apposed to the violent one. @@yusmiffins
Blaire is so beautiful and powerful being this vulnerable! I’ve been watching her for years now and to watch her growth is empowering to me as a woman.
Thank you for having these conversations Blair 🙌🏽
I applaud Blair for doing this publicly.
It's become taboo to even talk about the possible origins of being T**********
How are doctors supposed to help if we're not allowed to research it?
No it's not... People like you are simply oblivious to the complex doubts and challenges and epiphanies that trans people experience throughout their lives... You think we haven't asked ourselves the same questions you probably think are deep and critical? Of course we have, along with thousands of others you will never consider in your life. We know our own shit better than any cis person ever could. Like most humans, we trace our experiences back to childhood and we reconcile with what we come to learn about who we are and where we come from. Not all trans people grew up with a lot of trauma, but most PEOPLE (cis OR trans) did. Correlation does not equal causation, being trans is often not a trauma response, but a natural response to our own predispositions. The trauma we tend to face as we age is what muddies those waters and makes this conversation so difficult.
Why have you censored the word "transgender"? How odd.
@@IllisiaAdamsAre you new to CZcams?
Because they often delete comments with no no words and while you may have been able to say it once... I promise it will become a problem if you go around saying those words often.
@@pettykittyfam Why the fudge would they consider transgender to be a "no no word"? And no, I'm not new to CZcams. I've been using it since I was old enough to lol so like a decade. I also made videos for ages. So ye, I've been around. I've never experienced any issues with any warnings about "no no words" though. I guess no one has ever reported me and you need to be reported for being offensive and the system itself does not consider these words offensive? That might explain why I have never had any issues? Just a thought or possible explanation, anyway.
I went through a lot of childhood trauma and for a period of time thought I was trans. The part about not wanting to be in your body is so true, I wasn’t connected to my body bc being a woman was unsafe. After years of healing, I’ve fully embraced my womanhood, I’m even expecting a child! I wonder if feeling trans is a very intense form of depersonalization?
Congratulations! ❤️
I am sorry for your childhood, but I'm glad you survived it. 💐
Interesting theory.
Yes, that's what it sounds like. If you were trans you'd hate your body just because, not due to any external cause such as feeling unsafe.
Cis people should never make theories about trans experiences. Questioning your identity because "being woman hard" isn't the same as actually being trans.
Omg same! I feel you girl.. And i'm also pregnant, 39 weeks actually. I wish you a wonderfull life full of love with your child.🤍
Thank you so much for being this vulnerable. ❤
Thanks so much for sharing this. One of the reasons I see this as valuable, is that it's an excellent example of how therapy works, both talking therapy and a bit of somatic therapy. And because it's uncommon for anyone to post videos of therapy sessions online, many do not have the experience of seeing how therapy actually works.
She needed someone to tell her in that moment.... It's ok to feel angry. It's ok to let it out. She's so used to being in control... It's really, really hard to let go. Blaire, you are amazing. Thank you so much for sharing this. I am crying.
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really dramatic much
She. Blaire is actual transgender person. So she deserves respect. Perhaps you need therapy?
I'm so glad you did this, Blair. I'm a detransitioner, and have done similar therapy work for complex PTSD and childhood abuse from my father. The rage work I did was a little different, but the spirit was the same. Getting in touch with the rightful anger towards our abusers, especially The Father archetype, is crucial to long-term healing. Big respect to you for doing this and sharing it publicly.
Perhaps you could help me out. I’m trans with no history of csa and such, and a friend of mine who has cptsd from csa and abuse. She has a distress of body that fits somewhere between GD and BDD by DSM-V criteria.
How would she manage this without transitioning? She’s been in and out of therapy and trying to work on it for years, and is trying to just stick with nonpermanent coping mechanisms. Obviously there’s self-distraction, and binding (with no end goal of surgery), but I can’t think of anything else. Any suggestions?
@dragonshadow4145 I hope you're able to find the answers you're seeking. You're such an amazing friend for trying to help. Wishing you peace, and lots of luck on your answers search. ❤
@funkypsych I hope you're OK, and i really hope you have good people around you who love you. You're worthy of it. Xoxo ❤❤❤
Has she tried somatic therapy? That usually is the stuff that helps you get to your trauma. @@dragonshadow4145
@@dragonshadow4145 Some smaller things: Be outside in the middle of the day for 20 minutes, longer if you live north of Atlanta, Georgia, or have darker complexion. Our current population of kids is starved for Vitamin D, the biggest source of which is the sun. You could also maybe join in with something spiritual. It doesn't have to be a specific doctrine. Bible study or volunteering somewhere works. If that's too big a step for you,there is always learning meditation, or you can get a notebook to write in. Getting it out somewhere that's not on socials can help, and speaking of socials. Practice putting the phone down when you're scared or angry. Maybe there's a song you like, that you can play while you calm down, or even better, see if there's a keyboard on sale. It doesn't have to be a full on 88 key, only something you can plug headphones in and play around on it. I also use online instrumental tracks to sing with, but I realize there's limitations to that. I hope some of those can help. I tried to stick what was cheap or free. Good luck :)
Wow, that was intense and I have some things now that I should speak to my therapist about as well. Thank you for sharing, Blaire ❤
This man is groundbreaking.... this is absolutely brilliant.. and truly brave regardless of the circumstances of the patient. Bravo
Soon as he held her hand and told her she was safe, I couldn’t stop crying uncontrollably. Child abuse is something so many people have gone through but it is one of the hardest things to talk about, especially when you haven’t fully processed it in a way that allows you to fully understand it. The pain lives with you forever. It’s so hard to let go. I’m so proud of you, Blair. This was incredible and I learned so much about you as well as myself by watching this. Thank you.