TheOne TheOnly is that's true and glad you're now 3 years away from that. it's a learning experience. when you know yourself, you'll just laugh at social rejection while learning what went wrong with either the other party or with you. s'all part of life, homey.
No it isn't. I got rejected probably the 4th time now, if you get rejected, you are going to gain more confidence, and you are not going to feel any "pain", you can't describe how it is, it is just like to say okay to something, example: you need to study? Ok You need to clean something? Ok You got rejected? Ok no big deal You probably never got rejected bc u never asked someone out, try it, it isn't bad.
I'm both an introvert guy and a shy guy.I have been that way all of my life.I believe i was born that way.I'm a mentally challenged single middle aged man without kids.
I have struggled with shyness and social anxiety my whole life, and now that I have excepted who I am I have been doing a lot better when it comes to talking to people.
I feel shy because I think I am not as smart as people in my class they are so talkative, talking anything and people like respond yes what they say is always right...and when I talked or shared my opinion they just respond "flat" and some of them said my opinion was too "brave" and out in a wrong way. I dont know is it just me ? or them that actually cannot understand.....because if I share my opinion to my friends or close friend they really can understand what I talk is normal even though.. sometimes they also have disagreement with me. (and I'm sorry if my english is bad...^^)
Okay I’m a very shy person. I’m the quietest in my grade. I just can’t talk to people that I don’t know, around my friends I’m normal and say what’s on my mind. But the cool girls/boys in my grade I just CANT talk to any of them. I can’t even talk to groups of my grade. I want to but I can’t cause it’s like my brain puts a wall in my head only allowing me to say “no thank you” “sure” “ok” “thanks” or nodding/shaking my head to say no. I feel like they are judging me, like judging my everything. My face, my weight, my voice, my clothes, my hair, my everything. I don’t get bullied. I don’t think people talk crap about me. I’ve never done drugs, none of my parents do drugs either. I’m a good kid and I’ve never been through anything traumatic. I’m just shy. Maybe it’s me being unconfident about my weight, idk.
I was the mist popular kid in school then I moved to a new city and started middle school and I'm so shy nobody likes me I have no friends and I can't even talk to anyone it feels like
Intellect equals knowlege and you pick up a ton of more knowlege from observing and noticing certain things, I feel like this contributes to a lot of introverst being more smarter than not.
Hey, remember me from fb? Two weeks ago I started hitchhiking Europe with no money, and it was fantastic. I have a lot more confidence now. I can finally give that social anxiety a real battle. But about five days ago I was robbed all my stuff, so I was stuck in Barcelona for three days with no money, passport or phone. But I'm alive. And I'll be back on the road in a week, going down towards Italy:) Looking forward to your series, even though I might not be able to see it when I travel.
you must have a fear for rejection, people not liking the REAL you can be scary. You don't want them to judge you, but in reality people dont watch and judge every little thing you do. I've started being myself and it can be horrifying at first because you see what people really think of you and if they accept you, but it is rewarding to find people that accept your inner self. These people won't make you feel nervous and scared to say the wrong thing. You just need to accept yourself first
I was born shy, more excessively around women. Add a life time of verbal put downs to my already horrible social anxiety. It is extremely painful! Now I'm so insecure about my looks and a multitude of other things. I wish I can be more outgoing with females... I want to be more outgoing but that little voice in my head starts telling me how stupid and ugly I am and that everyone will notice it. So stay home in my comfort zone looking at life from the inside. No one but no one would help me no matter how much I cry out. I get laughed at and made fun of. I don't know what to do or how much I can take! My confidence and self esteem is very low. Thanks for bringing awareness to shyness
I was told I was shy for a long time, and never really thought to consider why... thanks so much for the good info! One on one, I can totally open up, (if I'm talking to someone who can actually have a conversation, because there are people, (well, one that I know of...) that cannot have a normal conversation) but in a group setting, the reason I have found I don't talk a whole lot, is because I am listening and taking it all in...
Iam not a very shy person.....i participate in class,talking with friends and i sometime practise sport....but sometime when a teacher or some girls ask me or try to talk with me my face turne red and sometime i dont know what to do...
I’ve never really understood why I was shy. Kinder through 2nd I would be the most talkative person ever. I guess that’s cause my friends was always in my class. But then in 3rd we got separated and I guess that’s when I became shy. Being called on in class is one of my biggest fears. I hate when the teacher says speak up cause I always try to but I just speak even quieter than before. I’m also not good at talking to new Iraola and making friends. I always stick with my current friends cause those are the only parole I feel safe with. Honestly I hate being shy but I don’t know how to over come it
when i began being quiet, it was the time when presenting comes, i used to have alot of friends and was very talkative. I talked about anything! Now, im so shy now because of presentations in class started. :(
I do not really ask myself why I am shy. I am an introvert who was educated in a family of three, my two parents also being introverts. So, not much in the visit and social relations category outside of school, where I almost always relied on others to initiate the relation. If I say I am shy while also saying I am introverted is that I feel quite nervous and relatively bad around people, and even if I have the need of a lot of lone time, I also feel the need to talk to and have fun with others. And, yeah, I'd probably be ok with no friends even if, y'know, I had a girlfriend. Also, I go crazy with hypothesis of who might love me. That makes me thing I have a type of the 5th one, because I generally read people ok, except in the love department.
Your video is really excellent. I was pathologically shy during childhood and my young adult years. I think it was my parents teaching me that I would not fit in and was not good enough. It became a self fulfilling prophecy. I didn't present myself well in social situations and was rejected because of my poor social skills. I was also more sensitive than my siblings and let things bother me more than they did. It took years to get past it. I worked on my social skills since that was what true problem. I didn't come across well . I avoided eye contact and spoke too softly ect. Also you need to focus on the other person when in a conversation and not just yourself. Basic Dale Carnegie skills are very helpful if you are having issues with shyness. Never tell anyone they are just born shy, all humans need contact with others. Extreme shyness is maladaptive behavior often brought on by low self esteem. Sadly shy people get bullied more because they are not able to speak up for themselves. It is a never ending vicious cycle. I know this because I lived it. There is a happy ending. I have enough social skills to function in my work and my life. The extra polishing up on my social skills really paid off. I am also able to handle being alone better than many people after all those years of isolation. I enjoy being with other people and I enjoy being alone. I have the best of both worlds now.
awesome vid,this is what I need. some kind of tutorial 'how to not to be shy and live a better life'..well done,lookin forward to that video. keep it up, greetings from Slovakia.
No I'm not an introvert. The funnest days of my life were spent with people doing things. I'm just not very good at talking to people so I don't have a lot of friends to do things with. I want to be that guy in the school that always knows what to say and is never nervous around girls or while giving speeches, and goes out with people every day and is the most ecstatic person at every football game. That's the life I would like to have to be happy. Never in a million years will I choose to think of myself as an introvert and just prefer playing video games over socializing.
I ended up in Barcelona even though I didn't really want to go there (don't like big cities), so I thought I could get out of the city pretty quickly. But that seemed impossible, so I went to find a park to sleep in. So I found a park where I thought I could sleep in peace. And I actually used my backpack as a pillow for my head. But when I woke up it was gone. I went there the next night to see, and there were a group of ten people just walking around and watching all those entering the park.
I'm a shy person in the class and the time I felt like just wanting to rip off the door and make a swan out of it. When I was working and the teacher was calling names to check role and I had'nt noticed she called my name because i was simply trying to do my work then a kid screamed right into my ear and said: CAN YOU HEAR ARE YOU DEAF!!??? HELLOOO!? And omfg I felt like turning and just throw her out the window and she screamed so loud my ears were ringing then I kept looking down ,let my anger go and said I'm here and not deaf then continued my work. I will never forget that day :/
Am shy I always been right from kindergarden to 7th grade now. I really don't talk alot I keep things to myself unless its on paper. I try to think of things to say to start a conversation with someone in school but nothing comes to mind so I perfer to keep quiet before I say something wrong and start drama.
yeah! I wish i could talk "random" to people but they will think im weird so i keep my mouth shut. When I was in kindergarten,i used to talk alot but since 1st grade I DONT EVEN KNOW WHAT HAPPENED!!
I think the reason I'm shy is because of social trauma which is upsetting because when I was younger I was the exact opposite - but I'm coming out of my shell bit by bit😊
Being shy/introverted sucks because I feel that it will get in the way of my dreams of hitchhiking because it involves aspects of socializing. Like, I don't mind the company of people, I'm just not the most social person.
Whenever I Have to speak to my class etc. I get out of breath I forget what to say, my whole body starts to shake and when im done with talking I shake for another 2 minutes But beacuse of all scenarios I side my head thet are about "oh am i gonna say this how I want to" and stuff like that I dont even think about am i being judged But than after im done speaking I think about what People think about me
wows.....2 &3 are the reasons i'm shy. i moved round a LOT when i was a kid like from 5 or 6 to i think 10 or 12 i don't remember and then one more time to and back again when i was 14-15. also the icing on the cake was my last gf who i loved a freakin' LOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOT and she broke up with me for the last time. it tore my heart in 2 that day. that was 4 years ago tho and i've since gotten over it but because of that experience i'm even more shhy about relationships and other people. come to find out it's just my personality type as well so yeah.....
So that's what they do for a living. They were probably watching me all night, and I thought I was alone. And I heard from locals that sometimes they had even used spray to make their victims fall in deep sleep, so maybe that's what they did to me, I don't know, but that's just crazy. But I won't let that ruin my dream, so I'll be back on the road soon when I have fixed a new backpack and all other essentials :)
I'm not good at talking in conversations and tend to say something wrong and weird most of the time can you help. Or make a video that teaches me how to talk in conversations. Thank you.
I’m shy because I had a friend who wanted me to leave them alone the whole time and they left me and I told them all my problems. And now I don’t want to make new friends because I’m afraid people will secretly hate me.
taduska042 It takes time. You have to be consistent and patient. Do your research on tracking calories and weight training + cardio and stick to it. Trust me, I was at that stage but through hard work, you'll get better.
You forgot that some sort of conditions could cause shyness. Like low latent inhibition with a high IQ level. Or some other types of autism could result in it. Just because someone is quiet doesn't mean they're shy or nervous, it could be that they are a genius and think more than they speak.
well I'm active and talkative around friends and family members but when it comes to new people or people i just don't know I get a bit shy... but personally i think I've improved with this. cause I have even said hello and even hug to those that I don't know very well. Like I just do it and don't think about it that much, you know.
I am not shy. I am just always on guard against others. This is why I have no friends. Humans will turn on you and attack you with no provocation. Thus, I do not socialize with them.
Great video. I was born shy, I believe. Sometimes I feel fine in social environments but I usually need to smoke to calm my thoughts and it really helps with my nervous system. I had horrible experiences in the past (before I smoked) when I vomited in front of my entire high school :( or where i need to RUN to the bathroom (TMI). Anyways, I think my main problem is over thinking... I always think people are talking bad about me or maybe they dont like me. I've been told, I'm too sensitive a lot.
this s so true and thanks for sharing.. i was a shy kid.. and people talked to me what ever they want.. and once i came over it and started talking to them like how they treated me now they get frustrated and insulted... and they think i am rude.. actually they taught me everything.. right ?
I get nervous around people and I do prefer to be alone sometimes, but I also like being around people that I like and I want to keep them close to me.. In college, I don't talk much and I get really anxious in some situations that demands participation. I don't know what I am haha
I got in a fight years ago when i got in a argument with someone and ever since ive avoided getting into arguments and i even avoid talking to people just so i can avoid this :( Before the fight i never felt this way and its been bugging me ever since
ur right im shy cz im sensitive. i also watch my words nd actions in order not to look mean to others. can this be genetic? if so, is there a chance to change??? im beautiful nd educated. but why shyness controls my life!?
I think I'm shy because I'm not a people person, I don't say any words in school and mostly at home, being too smart for my grades, being bullied, wonder about things beyond what know, and even more. I'm always thinking about other things that I realy dont know about. people say I am too shy and they try touse me to o their dirty work but I'm always in my wonder world so I don't care about what people say nabout me. I do me and they should do them.
I became shy when I became ugly, I lost confidence in myself and am hard on myself. I am no longer comfortable when looking people in the face and that's why I became shy.
@ age 13 I had a firecracker blow up in my face blinding me from my right eye- it made me sort of cocked eye. I'm 25 and I try to not look at people in the face because I don't want them to look at me in the eyes so I avoid talking to people especially girls. It's shitty I because I'm worried what people will think about me. I've gone for so long avoiding people that I don't how to interact. Well if you read this thanks. Benjamin thank you too! your beard rocks!
+Cesar Brito well, if it doesnt effect your seeing too much, try wearing an eyepatch. people will always think they look cool and you will always have an conversation topic as everyone at some point will ask what s the story behind it.
I have friends and I talk to people at school but I've been depressed because I don't really have SOCIAL friends who want to hang out with me everyday, I usually end up having a few real friends I see everyday in my school life. But I want to change...And I don't know how to change into being more social because depression is really getting to me... I feel so upset everyday when i'm alone at home....(Part 2/2)
Every thing u said was exactly like me but I'm always afraid of what people are going to think of me and when I'm nervous or shy I do stupid or embarrassing things. I get scared of everything......
MrTitmeister I have spent months studying treating shyness naturally and found a fantastic resource at Seans Shy Program (google it if you are interested)
There are several components to treating shyness naturally. One resource I found which succeeds in merging these is the Seans Shy Program (google it if you're interested) it's the most helpful plan that I have ever heard of. look at all the super info .
Haha yes, I guess you could call me that or just a "creative person" because I dabble in lots of different mediums (paint, paper, jewelry, home decor) and I love making all kinds of crafts. I think Im lacking some major self discipline, I have a lot of ideas but I have a hard time knowing where to start.
maybe thats why im VERY shy . I never had more than 2 friends but i always end up betrayed by them😢. also i never,EVER, had much physical contact with other people just with my 27cat, 7dogs,2ducks,2turtles ,6birds,5fish, a mouse and a hamster im lonely
What if you're shy and also an introvert? I mean, I know I'm shy about talking to people, but do I "have" to talk to people? It's so draining. The problem I face, on almost a daily basis, is that so many people around me seem to think there's something wrong with me when I honestly just don't want to hang out with them. I mean, sometimes these folks just won't leave me alone. Why are some extroverts not willing to accept introverts for what we are?
I've been very slowly breaking out of shyness, I try not to think about how nervous I am.. And I try to talk to people normally, sometimes I screw up the volume of my voice and I talk to low so I try forcing myself out and not think about nervousness and my shyness... I believe I was born shy because I never spoke but I knew how to say words when I was really little.(Part 1/2)
i think im a introverted person and shy i get anxiety and nerveous alot and my breathing gets all messed up and .. and school is very hard i get so tired at school my eyes just wana close even if i slept good. but then i get home and feel alive and wana do stuff
social rejection is way way way more painful than physical pain.
and its pain lingers for a long long long time.
TheOne TheOnly is that's true and glad you're now 3 years away from that. it's a learning experience. when you know yourself, you'll just laugh at social rejection while learning what went wrong with either the other party or with you. s'all part of life, homey.
you're right it's excruciating!
Yes bro I didn't experience it but I am afraid to experience it.
No it isn't. I got rejected probably the 4th time now, if you get rejected, you are going to gain more confidence, and you are not going to feel any "pain", you can't describe how it is, it is just like to say okay to something, example: you need to study? Ok
You need to clean something? Ok
You got rejected? Ok no big deal
You probably never got rejected bc u never asked someone out, try it, it isn't bad.
SargeantDick it’s true I would rather go through physical pain than get rejected
I'm both an introvert guy and a shy guy.I have been that way all of my life.I believe i was born that way.I'm a mentally challenged single middle aged man without kids.
I have struggled with shyness and social anxiety my whole life, and now that I have excepted who I am I have been doing a lot better when it comes to talking to people.
I just spelled accepted wrong, damn it.
don't worry I read it as accepted and didn't notice until you mentioned it...also there's an edit function in youtube now
eskyvike1000 I did too hh.
I feel shy because I think I am not as smart as people in my class they are so talkative, talking anything and people like respond yes what they say is always right...and when I talked or shared my opinion they just respond "flat" and some of them said my opinion was too "brave" and out in a wrong way. I dont know is it just me ? or them that actually cannot understand.....because if I share my opinion to my friends or close friend they really can understand what I talk is normal even though.. sometimes they also have disagreement with me.
(and I'm sorry if my english is bad...^^)
Me too (shy + my english bad)
I have same problem I think we just have too much imagination :) I am proud of that .
Alan Czyzykowski yap ^^
it's probably them bruh, you're like bill gates talking to ordinary people, that's what's up. fist bump, homey! bam!
I feel you bro
Okay I’m a very shy person. I’m the quietest in my grade. I just can’t talk to people that I don’t know, around my friends I’m normal and say what’s on my mind. But the cool girls/boys in my grade I just CANT talk to any of them. I can’t even talk to groups of my grade. I want to but I can’t cause it’s like my brain puts a wall in my head only allowing me to say “no thank you” “sure” “ok” “thanks” or nodding/shaking my head to say no. I feel like they are judging me, like judging my everything. My face, my weight, my voice, my clothes, my hair, my everything. I don’t get bullied. I don’t think people talk crap about me. I’ve never done drugs, none of my parents do drugs either. I’m a good kid and I’ve never been through anything traumatic. I’m just shy. Maybe it’s me being unconfident about my weight, idk.
I was the mist popular kid in school then I moved to a new city and started middle school and I'm so shy nobody likes me I have no friends and I can't even talk to anyone it feels like
I See You Everywhere I’m sorry. I really am
Yea I had the same problem.
I’m just so shy I never really hade friends
Intellect equals knowlege and you pick up a ton of more knowlege from observing and noticing certain things, I feel like this contributes to a lot of introverst being more smarter than not.
Hey, remember me from fb? Two weeks ago I started hitchhiking Europe with no money, and it was fantastic. I have a lot more confidence now. I can finally give that social anxiety a real battle. But about five days ago I was robbed all my stuff, so I was stuck in Barcelona for three days with no money, passport or phone. But I'm alive. And I'll be back on the road in a week, going down towards Italy:) Looking forward to your series, even though I might not be able to see it when I travel.
you must have a fear for rejection, people not liking the REAL you can be scary. You don't want them to judge you, but in reality people dont watch and judge every little thing you do. I've started being myself and it can be horrifying at first because you see what people really think of you and if they accept you, but it is rewarding to find people that accept your inner self. These people won't make you feel nervous and scared to say the wrong thing. You just need to accept yourself first
I was born shy, more excessively around women. Add a life time of verbal put downs to my already horrible social anxiety. It is extremely painful! Now I'm so insecure about my looks and a multitude of other things. I wish I can be more outgoing with females... I want to be more outgoing but that little voice in my head starts telling me how stupid and ugly I am and that everyone will notice it. So stay home in my comfort zone looking at life from the inside. No one but no one would help me no matter how much I cry out. I get laughed at and made fun of. I don't know what to do or how much I can take! My confidence and self esteem is very low. Thanks for bringing awareness to shyness
Yeah it's super tough, glad to hear you have a lot of self-awareness and thanks for sharing on the video
That is a beautiful beard.
I was told I was shy for a long time, and never really thought to consider why... thanks so much for the good info! One on one, I can totally open up, (if I'm talking to someone who can actually have a conversation, because there are people, (well, one that I know of...) that cannot have a normal conversation) but in a group setting, the reason I have found I don't talk a whole lot, is because I am listening and taking it all in...
I'm not shy I'm reserved. I am peacefully and comfortable in silence. Not shy, I am selective. Not shy, exclusive.
Iam not a very shy person.....i participate in class,talking with friends and i sometime practise sport....but sometime when a teacher or some girls ask me or try to talk with me my face turne red and sometime i dont know what to do...
Introverts arent same as shy people please dont say that as introverts dnt feel lonely a lot being shy i know wat lonlieness feels like
I’ve never really understood why I was shy. Kinder through 2nd I would be the most talkative person ever. I guess that’s cause my friends was always in my class. But then in 3rd we got separated and I guess that’s when I became shy. Being called on in class is one of my biggest fears. I hate when the teacher says speak up cause I always try to but I just speak even quieter than before. I’m also not good at talking to new Iraola and making friends. I always stick with my current friends cause those are the only parole I feel safe with. Honestly I hate being shy but I don’t know how to over come it
If you want to overcome it you can just practice talking more, little by little. If you want to be quieter though, that's cool as well :)
I'm shy because I have a social phobia 😕😩
Me too
Same
6 years now you are shy???
i have no friends because im shy thanks for sharing tips it means a lot
I really think this will help me self-realize and help me in the social world
Best of luck, thanks for sharing
when i began being quiet, it was the time when presenting comes, i used to have alot of friends and was very talkative. I talked about anything! Now, im so shy now because of presentations in class started. :(
I think I started being shy at a young age, been exposed to a lot of bullshit but now I'm almost 25 and ready to escape this shitty shell.
I do not really ask myself why I am shy.
I am an introvert who was educated in a family of three, my two parents also being introverts.
So, not much in the visit and social relations category outside of school, where I almost always relied on others to initiate the relation.
If I say I am shy while also saying I am introverted is that I feel quite nervous and relatively bad around people, and even if I have the need of a lot of lone time, I also feel the need to talk to and have fun with others.
And, yeah, I'd probably be ok with no friends even if, y'know, I had a girlfriend.
Also, I go crazy with hypothesis of who might love me. That makes me thing I have a type of the 5th one, because I generally read people ok, except in the love department.
Your video is really excellent. I was pathologically shy during childhood and my young adult years. I think it was my parents teaching me that I would not fit in and was not good enough. It became a self fulfilling prophecy. I didn't present myself well in social situations and was rejected because of my poor social skills. I was also more sensitive than my siblings and let things bother me more than they did.
It took years to get past it. I worked on my social skills since that was what true problem. I didn't come across well . I avoided eye contact and spoke too softly ect. Also you need to focus on the other person when in a conversation and not just yourself. Basic Dale Carnegie skills are very helpful if you are having issues with shyness. Never tell anyone they are just born shy, all humans need contact with others. Extreme shyness is maladaptive behavior often brought on by low self esteem. Sadly shy people get bullied more because they are not able to speak up for themselves. It is a never ending vicious cycle. I know this because I lived it.
There is a happy ending. I have enough social skills to function in my work and my life. The extra polishing up on my social skills really paid off. I am also able to handle being alone better than many people after all those years of isolation. I enjoy being with other people and I enjoy being alone. I have the best of both worlds now.
awesome vid,this is what I need. some kind of tutorial 'how to not to be shy and live a better life'..well done,lookin forward to that video.
keep it up, greetings from Slovakia.
No I'm not an introvert. The funnest days of my life were spent with people doing things. I'm just not very good at talking to people so I don't have a lot of friends to do things with. I want to be that guy in the school that always knows what to say and is never nervous around girls or while giving speeches, and goes out with people every day and is the most ecstatic person at every football game. That's the life I would like to have to be happy. Never in a million years will I choose to think of myself as an introvert and just prefer playing video games over socializing.
I ended up in Barcelona even though I didn't really want to go there (don't like big cities), so I thought I could get out of the city pretty quickly. But that seemed impossible, so I went to find a park to sleep in. So I found a park where I thought I could sleep in peace. And I actually used my backpack as a pillow for my head. But when I woke up it was gone. I went there the next night to see, and there were a group of ten people just walking around and watching all those entering the park.
I'm a shy person in the class and the time I felt like just wanting to rip off the door and make a swan out of it. When I was working and the teacher was calling names to check role and I had'nt noticed she called my name because i was simply trying to do my work then a kid screamed right into my ear and said: CAN YOU HEAR ARE YOU DEAF!!??? HELLOOO!?
And omfg I felt like turning and just throw her out the window and she screamed so loud my ears were ringing then I kept looking down ,let my anger go and said I'm here and not deaf then continued my work.
I will never forget that day :/
keep moving forward , forget the past look what will happen in the future
Am shy I always been right from kindergarden to 7th grade now. I really don't talk alot I keep things to myself unless its on paper. I try to think of things to say to start a conversation with someone in school but nothing comes to mind so I perfer to keep quiet before I say something wrong and start drama.
It's cool to see someone else going through the same thing ;3
yeb me too
I totally understand you same thing here
yeah! I wish i could talk "random" to people but they will think im weird so i keep my mouth shut. When I was in kindergarten,i used to talk alot but since 1st grade I DONT EVEN KNOW WHAT HAPPENED!!
Omg kindergarten was the worst but in high school it turned better
Well, that was unexpected. Wise words my man. I suppose I shouldn't be prejudiced against the bearded :D
What if you're shy and an introvert?
+MintStarlight Not everyone who is shy is an introvert, you know.
+kandiiyuutaamu agreed, im really shy and people think im introvert, but im really not im just scared to express myself.
@@datownkidd yep me too
I think the reason I'm shy is because of social trauma which is upsetting because when I was younger I was the exact opposite - but I'm coming out of my shell bit by bit😊
Being shy/introverted sucks because I feel that it will get in the way of my dreams of hitchhiking because it involves aspects of socializing. Like, I don't mind the company of people, I'm just not the most social person.
Whenever I Have to speak to my class etc. I get out of breath I forget what to say, my whole body starts to shake and when im done with talking I shake for another 2 minutes
But beacuse of all scenarios I side my head thet are about "oh am i gonna say this how I want to" and stuff like that I dont even think about am i being judged
But than after im done speaking I think about what People think about me
He knows he knows
wows.....2 &3 are the reasons i'm shy. i moved round a LOT when i was a kid like from 5 or 6 to i think 10 or 12 i don't remember and then one more time to and back again when i was 14-15. also the icing on the cake was my last gf who i loved a freakin' LOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOT and she broke up with me for the last time. it tore my heart in 2 that day. that was 4 years ago tho and i've since gotten over it but because of that experience i'm even more shhy about relationships and other people. come to find out it's just my personality type as well so yeah.....
if u listen to this guy without reading the silly writing on the side...he makes alota sense !
Thank you Jesus.
I'm not really that shy, its just this one girl that makes me nervous to talk to her.
Thats how I am
yo same
same. But don't know how to talk to her ??
So that's what they do for a living. They were probably watching me all night, and I thought I was alone. And I heard from locals that sometimes they had even used spray to make their victims fall in deep sleep, so maybe that's what they did to me, I don't know, but that's just crazy.
But I won't let that ruin my dream, so I'll be back on the road soon when I have fixed a new backpack and all other essentials :)
I'm a thinker, now I'd like to be a motivational speaker!!!
I'm not good at talking in conversations and tend to say something wrong and weird most of the time can you help. Or make a video that teaches me how to talk in conversations. Thank you.
Omg!!! Who is this😮
Is this the Benjamin whom I subscribed in 2021 😄😄😁
What a transformation😀
Is that a wig?
I’m shy because I had a friend who wanted me to leave them alone the whole time and they left me and I told them all my problems. And now I don’t want to make new friends because I’m afraid people will secretly hate me.
I began being shy ever since I gained weight
topsui me2 :(
taduska042 I began going to the gym 6 months ago and lost weight and that brought back some confidence, you should try it.
I'm going to the gym it helps a little but i cant lose weight that as quick as i want to :(
taduska042 It takes time. You have to be consistent and patient. Do your research on tracking calories and weight training + cardio and stick to it. Trust me, I was at that stage but through hard work, you'll get better.
ok ty dude
Lady gaga then you said "born that way" :o one of her songs
You forgot that some sort of conditions could cause shyness. Like low latent inhibition with a high IQ level. Or some other types of autism could result in it. Just because someone is quiet doesn't mean they're shy or nervous, it could be that they are a genius and think more than they speak.
I have to say i agree with everything you say!!!!!!!!!!!
I am a really shy person,especially with girls...you helped me a lot.Thank you!
well I'm active and talkative around friends and family members but when it comes to new people or people i just don't know I get a bit shy... but personally i think I've improved with this. cause I have even said hello and even hug to those that I don't know very well. Like I just do it and don't think about it that much, you know.
I am not shy. I am just always on guard against others. This is why I have no friends. Humans will turn on you and attack you with no provocation. Thus, I do not socialize with them.
Great video. I was born shy, I believe. Sometimes I feel fine in social environments but I usually need to smoke to calm my thoughts and it really helps with my nervous system. I had horrible experiences in the past (before I smoked) when I vomited in front of my entire high school :( or where i need to RUN to the bathroom (TMI). Anyways, I think my main problem is over thinking... I always think people are talking bad about me or maybe they dont like me. I've been told, I'm too sensitive a lot.
this s so true and thanks for sharing.. i was a shy kid.. and people talked to me what ever they want.. and once i came over it and started talking to them like how they treated me now they get frustrated and insulted... and they think i am rude.. actually they taught me everything.. right ?
I get nervous around people and I do prefer to be alone sometimes, but I also like being around people that I like and I want to keep them close to me.. In college, I don't talk much and I get really anxious in some situations that demands participation. I don't know what I am haha
I got in a fight years ago when i got in a argument with someone and ever since ive avoided getting into arguments and i even avoid talking to people just so i can avoid this :(
Before the fight i never felt this way and its been bugging me ever since
ur right im shy cz im sensitive. i also watch my words nd actions in order not to look mean to others. can this be genetic? if so, is there a chance to change??? im beautiful nd educated. but why shyness controls my life!?
I have spent months researching treating shyness at home and discovered a great website at Seans Shy Program (google it if you're interested)
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Listen, understand what’s going on in your head so u can learn bout ya self
Nice....you seem to have a gift of encouragement and fun to hear! Well done!
Excellent video Benjamin, you just taught me a lot about myself. Very helpful, thank you.
I think I'm shy because I'm not a people person, I don't say any words in school and mostly at home, being too smart for my grades, being bullied, wonder about things beyond what know, and even more. I'm always thinking about other things that I realy dont know about. people say I am too shy and they try touse me to o their dirty work but I'm always in my wonder world so I don't care about what people say nabout me. I do me and they should do them.
I like this. I'm shy. And I think too much. Thank you for sharing this.
I became shy when I became ugly, I lost confidence in myself and am hard on myself. I am no longer comfortable when looking people in the face and that's why I became shy.
I am sure you're not "ugly" even though you feel that way, in fact, The Lord made you AWESOME!
ronalda silverberg The Lord?
@ age 13 I had a firecracker blow up in my face blinding me from my right eye- it made me sort of cocked eye. I'm 25 and I try to not look at people in the face because I don't want them to look at me in the eyes so I avoid talking to people especially girls. It's shitty I because I'm worried what people will think about me. I've gone for so long avoiding people that I don't how to interact. Well if you read this thanks. Benjamin thank you too! your beard rocks!
+Cesar Brito well, if it doesnt effect your seeing too much, try wearing an eyepatch. people will always think they look cool and you will always have an conversation topic as everyone at some point will ask what s the story behind it.
ben Jenks has gotten all 5 sighs right about me!I sincerely thank you Ben Jenks=)!!!!!
I have friends and I talk to people at school but I've been depressed because I don't really have SOCIAL friends who want to hang out with me everyday, I usually end up having a few real friends I see everyday in my school life. But I want to change...And I don't know how to change into being more social because depression is really getting to me... I feel so upset everyday when i'm alone at home....(Part 2/2)
You will be fine Jesus got you
I hope you got better
Dude looks like Jim Morrison!
i find this true especially tip number 3 im seemed to become shy after my parents divorce and it sucks I hate being shy but I don't know how to change
Thank you for this!
Glad it was helpful!
background music is too loud... hard to hear what you are saying.
Thank you u just opened my mind
everything in this video is true. thank you for giving me knowledge of that i am not the only one who is like this.
Loving your video's mate, have just begun my Europe adventure and I get very inspired learning about your experiences. Keep on man :)
sometimes we are shy cuz we are not PERFECT and that makes us be shy and it sucks :(
Dude this was healing! :)
Every thing u said was exactly like me but I'm always afraid of what people are going to think of me and when I'm nervous or shy I do stupid or embarrassing things. I get scared of everything......
But I will support you cause I like to support you.
I've been struggling with shyness my whole life...I agree with the end and I have been trying to do that...but it's still very very difficult.
Him: why are u shy?
Me: idk
Wow thanks jesus.
Lol
Well I'm not the only one who thinks he looks like Jesus
MrTitmeister I have spent months studying treating shyness naturally and found a fantastic resource at Seans Shy Program (google it if you are interested)
Dude, you gotta start this jam back up. I'm just finding your vids now, but they were dope.
There are several components to treating shyness naturally. One resource I found which succeeds in merging these is the Seans Shy Program (google it if you're interested) it's the most helpful plan that I have ever heard of. look at all the super info .
Thx so mouch! I really needed to know about it :)
Haha yes, I guess you could call me that or just a "creative person" because I dabble in lots of different mediums (paint, paper, jewelry, home decor) and I love making all kinds of crafts. I think Im lacking some major self discipline, I have a lot of ideas but I have a hard time knowing where to start.
maybe thats why im VERY shy . I never had more than 2 friends but i always end up betrayed by them😢.
also i never,EVER, had much physical contact with other people just with my 27cat, 7dogs,2ducks,2turtles
,6birds,5fish, a mouse and a hamster
im lonely
I learned to be shy to protect my fee!ings☺
But I also leaned I'm a shy introvert 😉
Hey Janei, it can be necessary to protect our feelings and I wish you well 😊
@@bjenks thanks 😊 sorry about my name change. I had my middle name up there lol
Everyone is not shy just during certain situations
I am shy because I don't know what to do or say in social situations, feel me anybody?
I feel you, thanks for sharing and good luck
well some people just talk to much shit
Cool track in the background whats the name of it?
My grandsons been shy all his life
What if you're shy and also an introvert? I mean, I know I'm shy about talking to people, but do I "have" to talk to people? It's so draining.
The problem I face, on almost a daily basis, is that so many people around me seem to think there's something wrong with me when I honestly just don't want to hang out with them. I mean, sometimes these folks just won't leave me alone. Why are some extroverts not willing to accept introverts for what we are?
Introversion is not shyness, don't confuse them 😉
Or perceiving faces
I'm not shy... i just feel misunderstood 😞
I've been very slowly breaking out of shyness, I try not to think about how nervous I am.. And I try to talk to people normally, sometimes I screw up the volume of my voice and I talk to low so I try forcing myself out and not think about nervousness and my shyness... I believe I was born shy because I never spoke but I knew how to say words when I was really little.(Part 1/2)
So true! Thanks for this.
I have spent months investigating reducing shyness naturally and discovered a great resource at Sebs Shyness Tactic (google it if you're interested)
I wish I can be perfect, but I no everyone isn't born perfect
very good video.
I wanna learn!!
i think im a introverted person and shy i get anxiety and nerveous alot and my breathing gets all messed up and .. and school is very hard i get so tired at school my eyes just wana close even if i slept good. but then i get home and feel alive and wana do stuff
Very helpful video! Thanks a lot!
How many times have you changed your channel´s name and what were they all from the get go?
I had a blog called Adventure Sauce so it used to be called that. Then Benjamin Jenks. Somebody mentioned to try American in India so I tried that now