A Simple Game To Never Run Out Of Things To Say In Conversation

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  • How To Never Run Out Of Things To Say In Conversation
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    We’ve all been there - you’re in conversation, things are humming along nicely and then out of nowhere the awkward silence rears it’s head. At just that moment, your mind goes completely blank, you don’t know what to say and you can sense the other person’s eyes wandering as they look for someone else to talk to.
    That scenario sucks so here are 5 tips to make sure you never run out of things to say in conversation
    0:20 Play Reminds Me of
    0:54 Ask open-ended questions
    1:40 Use revival questions
    2:37 Make a complimentary cold read
    3:00 Flip the script and let them be the one to talk
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  • @ziimbo3957
    @ziimbo3957 Před 4 lety +17822

    Flirting with the bartender: “you come here often?”

    • @user10842
      @user10842 Před 4 lety +101

      😂

    • @rpeshbhujade3974
      @rpeshbhujade3974 Před 4 lety +74

      😂😂😂

    • @skullj2872
      @skullj2872 Před 4 lety +116

      Bro, why.

    • @claudizero6964
      @claudizero6964 Před 4 lety +105

      I swear, if she’s that type of cool girl, she’ll laugh and that’s the spot where you want to be! Now order a se+ on the beach and she’ll be all yours 😏

    • @mitsuracer87
      @mitsuracer87 Před 4 lety +60

      "You, come here often."

  • @DanielVoyles
    @DanielVoyles Před 4 lety +6360

    "I see you have a big mouth, do you like to talk a lot?"

  • @FonchoVidal
    @FonchoVidal Před měsícem +478

    - Whats are you doing?
    - Drinking
    - Why?
    - Because I want to forget
    - What?
    - The shame I feel for drinking
    (Awkward silence)
    - This reminds me of that time I was in Toranto

  • @Dr.Discombobulated
    @Dr.Discombobulated Před 2 lety +3955

    One of the best feelings is when you're so close to someone that even the awkward silences aren't awkward anymore and you're just enjoying one another's company.

    • @imusingmymomsandroid2375
      @imusingmymomsandroid2375 Před rokem +153

      Bro I feel that.. I'd love my date to be just like me, to enjoy and embrace the silence, exchanging smiles and eye contact, that kinda something

    • @user-dy1vf7lu3i
      @user-dy1vf7lu3i Před rokem +8

      Nice name

    • @gameseeker6307
      @gameseeker6307 Před rokem +68

      🗿🗿
      2 bros being bros in silent peace

    • @ada5851
      @ada5851 Před rokem +75

      It's so rare. If you meet someone that vibes with you like that never let them go, whether they're a lover or a friend.

    • @callasan1681
      @callasan1681 Před rokem +13

      pulp fiction

  • @nachocabo4221
    @nachocabo4221 Před 4 lety +5510

    -So, how do you like Toronto?
    -I've never mentioned Toronto...
    - ... Why?

  • @Gigatless
    @Gigatless Před 4 lety +20397

    Me: How old are you?
    Her: 21
    Me: *Why*

    • @fiorenzacavallini6730
      @fiorenzacavallini6730 Před 4 lety +212

      lol

    • @brianwalendy3735
      @brianwalendy3735 Před 4 lety +519

      Because I drink the blood of babies, of course

    • @nopeq7993
      @nopeq7993 Před 4 lety +733

      Well, I was born at an early age and I've been alive ever since.

    • @ragnasheen8950
      @ragnasheen8950 Před 4 lety +215

      Her: Because I was born at a very young age.

    • @ShadowZone1996
      @ShadowZone1996 Před 4 lety +133

      Have a date in an hour. I’m using this as a pick-up line for sure dude lmao

  • @kookiesjams595
    @kookiesjams595 Před rokem +3205

    1. Say ‘this reminds me of..’
    2. Ask open ended questions.
    3. Ask ‘why?’
    3. Use revival questions - like ‘How do you guys know each other?’
    5. Ask them about their future plans
    6. Compliment them
    7. Allow the other person to move the conversation by maintaining eye contact, or repeat the last words they said to encourage them to continue

  • @jamesq7954
    @jamesq7954 Před rokem +6948

    Me: "as an introvert, I've had a lot of experience with awkward silence."
    Therapist: "and what have you learned?"
    Me: "How to weaponize it against my enemies."
    Therapist: ......
    Me: .... "So how do you know Toronto?"

    • @Twowheelsandadream4
      @Twowheelsandadream4 Před rokem +344

      There is something wrong with my mind… TheRapist is how I read Therapist.

    • @drumerdude2661
      @drumerdude2661 Před rokem +27

      I lived there once but I had to get out there u know because of the dream killing and the boring silence and the bloody hippies smoking weed

    • @idrinkwater1124
      @idrinkwater1124 Před rokem +79

      @@Twowheelsandadream4 💀💀

    • @lilyoda4208
      @lilyoda4208 Před rokem +12

      @@Twowheelsandadream4 nawh same

    • @cloudfinraptor
      @cloudfinraptor Před rokem +39

      To pack even more tips into there: *So why do you know Toranto?*

  • @camryn9597
    @camryn9597 Před 4 lety +4839

    me at his house-
    “so do you come here often?”

    • @FBWUniverseMode
      @FBWUniverseMode Před 3 lety +128

      That is a nice way to talk to a thief he'd peacefully leave.

    • @Xinyannya
      @Xinyannya Před 3 lety +31

      @@FBWUniverseMode"and that's how me and your mom met son"

    • @mistertrueromance
      @mistertrueromance Před 3 lety +7

      Maybe we should just be friends
      Mind: She's insane, just distance yourself, man.

    • @uttkarshkumar6897
      @uttkarshkumar6897 Před 3 lety

      That will Bring more Awkwardness

    • @2trekkers777
      @2trekkers777 Před 3 lety +1

      Why

  • @sovereignty7897
    @sovereignty7897 Před 4 lety +39459

    Me flirting in class -
    "So which school are you from?"

    • @Kuza01
      @Kuza01 Před 4 lety +1960

      Why?

    • @mandystop1077
      @mandystop1077 Před 4 lety +840

      @@Kuza01
      Just Asking

    • @AlexandruRadu96
      @AlexandruRadu96 Před 4 lety +981

      @@mandystop1077 how do you like Toronto?

    • @advancedtheories1332
      @advancedtheories1332 Před 4 lety +807

      @@AlexandruRadu96 Toronto? isn't that a city? that reminds me of where I'm from. which is kind of like a city but much smaller.

    • @dragonicbladex7574
      @dragonicbladex7574 Před 4 lety +172

      @@AlexandruRadu96 yes

  • @tetrabirac779
    @tetrabirac779 Před rokem +1730

    My dad, who is really great at socializing, taught me one rule:
    Try asking your conversation partner questions about he/she. Not only will it lead to new conversation topics like they mentioned in the video, it also gives you time to think about how to follow up after they finish. As an introvert, this works greatly for me.

    • @caramelese8520
      @caramelese8520 Před rokem +73

      Till the person says I'm good you?

    • @tetrabirac779
      @tetrabirac779 Před rokem +76

      @@caramelese8520 usually it does not continue like that, but if it does thennn bruh it's gonna be awkward silence again

    • @jadenpina3989
      @jadenpina3989 Před rokem +21

      @@caramelese8520
      after that talk about something that happened to you recently that might continue the conversation (in a good way obviously)

    • @ahleenah
      @ahleenah Před rokem +11

      Ohh I got the same tip! He even used it on me without me realizing and after I finished talking he said “see”
      Stuck with me since then and as a shy introvert, has helped me a lot

    • @as8kay
      @as8kay Před rokem +7

      Please gimme some more tips like this I really die during a conversation have nothing to ask or say and the conversation ends right there with awkward silence from both sides

  • @jordwright507
    @jordwright507 Před rokem +87

    It's amazing the wit and humour in this comment section, from people who are here because they believe they struggle to hold a conversation!!

  • @PatoValdes18
    @PatoValdes18 Před 4 lety +9142

    me in an airplane: “so, where you going?”

    • @shotgun_daddy-1089
      @shotgun_daddy-1089 Před 4 lety +98

      On a plane

    • @panlis6243
      @panlis6243 Před 4 lety +385

      @@joaquin991 to Toronto?

    • @flymb3358
      @flymb3358 Před 4 lety +151

      I did do that once actually

    • @MrDoon-ez5qm
      @MrDoon-ez5qm Před 4 lety +23

      somehow that's what I get ask all the time

    • @vmillio7564
      @vmillio7564 Před 4 lety +11

      Is this directed at someone or just a question out of nowhere hoping someone replies?

  • @blacklarry998
    @blacklarry998 Před 4 lety +6045

    *me flirting at a funeral
    "So, do you come here often?"

    • @nicktokar2459
      @nicktokar2459 Před 4 lety +140

      Who you trying to flirt with at a funeral?

    • @blacklarry998
      @blacklarry998 Před 4 lety +405

      @@nicktokar2459 the widow

    • @Xelexment
      @Xelexment Před 4 lety +32

      That funeral comment made cry bc my grandma died not to long ago and now im sad

    • @kaysas9686
      @kaysas9686 Před 4 lety +86

      @@Xelexment why? Did you flirt with someone there?

    • @terrencesora1174
      @terrencesora1174 Před 4 lety +30

      @@Xelexment Why...

  • @elizabethwest5949
    @elizabethwest5949 Před rokem +601

    I always say, “you too” at the wrong times. Usually it’s at the end of a conversation. Like to someone working at a movie theater and they say, “enjoy the movie”, and I say, “you too”. Or when the doctor ends with, “make sure you take your medicine”, and I’m just like, yea, “you too”.

    • @ahhwe-any7434
      @ahhwe-any7434 Před rokem +5

      1st person: hryd today
      Me: I'm ok 🤔🤷🏻‍♀️
      2nd person 1 sec later: hryd today
      Me: pretty great, & you?
      Most ppl: idrc
      Me: yeah me either
      Response back sometimes: nothing. Maybe just an acknowledgement
      Replys to Greetings: hi (that's not what they asked)
      I c u
      I c u 2
      Ok cool
      Cool
      Bye
      K bye

    • @mouplayerbr
      @mouplayerbr Před rokem +34

      - Happy birthday to you ☺
      - u2 😊
      - 🤨
      - 😰

    • @skillatar4572
      @skillatar4572 Před rokem +13

      Imagine the doctor telling you to remember to take your medication and your just like, “yeah you too” as if they are crazy or something or you think they need help lol, it just sounds aggressive to say “you too” back to a doctor about taking medication lol

    • @scarlet7960
      @scarlet7960 Před rokem +8

      Btw if this ever happens, just laugh it off. Like seriously, sometimes embracing the fact you can't talk changes the mood from awkward to goofy.
      People don't realize it but good conversations are more about feeling comfortable then being charismatic

    • @megamaser
      @megamaser Před rokem

      You too

  • @JetBlackJester
    @JetBlackJester Před rokem +387

    I tried that complimentary cold read technique at a work event - "What do you like to do for fun" and "You look like you're pretty into fitness" after introducing myself. The woman (a complete stranger) thought I was flirting with her and I ended up in a disciplinary with HR for inappropriate behaviour. Be very careful who you use this advice with.

    • @danny.ray101
      @danny.ray101 Před rokem +110

      "It seems you were hitting on that female coworker. What are your thoughts?"
      "Don't worry, I have learned the lesson. So you all look like you enjoy eating a lot?"

    • @JetBlackJester
      @JetBlackJester Před rokem +8

      @@danny.ray101 Not really. I had been talking shop all day and was looking for common ground. If it hadn't been a networking event and I wasn't already supposed to chat to people I didn't know I might have seen it that way.

    • @danny.ray101
      @danny.ray101 Před rokem +7

      @@JetBlackJester Then it's even more ridiculous...

    • @abodieqwerty4678
      @abodieqwerty4678 Před rokem +1

      Don't trust women.

    • @theinacircleoftheancientpu492
      @theinacircleoftheancientpu492 Před rokem +30

      @JetBlackJester
      I think that talking about fitness to a woman brings up different connotations than if you talk about fitness to a man, quite simply because a man talking to a woman about her body is considered flirting or at least borderline usually, while guys are not as sensitive on the topic.
      That said, at a setting where people are supposed to interact, and given the information I am aware of, I feel like she could have cut you a little more slack and tried to guage your intentions before coming to a conclusion.
      In summary, I believe all parties involved could have done better, its just a little unfortunate that the learning experience for you was rather awkward.

  • @_username
    @_username Před 3 lety +4780

    “The weather nice today huh?”
    "Thanks, you too"

  • @oppelo5981
    @oppelo5981 Před 3 lety +18545

    “Do you like Toronto?”
    “Yes” *awkward silence*
    “How do you like Toronto?” 😌
    “It’s good.” *awkward silence*

    • @fl3tched
      @fl3tched Před 3 lety +1214

      Why

    • @nil4897
      @nil4897 Před 3 lety +851

      So much for an open-ended question lol

    • @cartanfan-youtube
      @cartanfan-youtube Před 3 lety +480

      That’s when you ask then what they like about it

    • @roscoe4943
      @roscoe4943 Před 3 lety +29

      Yes

    • @mg-lb3tm
      @mg-lb3tm Před 3 lety +250

      i’m from toronto and i can confirm it is good

  • @willandrews8577
    @willandrews8577 Před rokem +20

    I've never wanted to meet someone who's been to Toronto this much in my life.

  • @oljenka88
    @oljenka88 Před 3 měsíci +31

    Most important thing imo - make yourself genuinely interested in the person. A lot of the conversation will just fall into place by itself instead of trying to come up with the next best thing to say 🙂 This helped me so much in life

  • @clutch_zone72
    @clutch_zone72 Před 4 lety +8083

    Awkward silence:
    Why and Toronto: I'm about to end this man's whole career

  • @carageak
    @carageak Před 4 lety +57199

    Me with my girlfriend at their place meeting her family: So how do you all know each other?

  • @monaebreak561
    @monaebreak561 Před 23 dny +16

    People who you can just be silent with are the best!!! ❤

  • @seaweedcat4267
    @seaweedcat4267 Před rokem +59

    What I've found is that people looove to talk about themselves! If you want to keep the conversation going, act like everything they say is the most interesting thing you've ever heard and you want to hear every single detail.
    You study commerce? What do you do? What job would you pursue in the future? What are the assignments like? Your parents made you study it, what do your parents do? What would you rather be studying instead, why? Every single piece of detail is a prompt that you can keep building on.
    And most of all, remember that the other person is a human being too! Chances are they want to keep the conversation going too and they'll want to cooperate with you. While trying to come up with ways to keep it going, remember to actually listen to what the other party is saying as well!

    • @siphons5737
      @siphons5737 Před dnem

      That's the only thing I know how to do, keep a conversation alive ? Yeah, start one, might need to call help on that one.

  • @rainyclouds7631
    @rainyclouds7631 Před 4 lety +4557

    “you look like you would be great with kids“
    “Oh actually not really“
    “well I had the impression because you look like my mom“

  • @jobless5866
    @jobless5866 Před 3 lety +9244

    Them: How old are you?
    Me: Toronto
    Them: That’s not an age
    Me: Why?

  • @Wheredidigetthismuffin
    @Wheredidigetthismuffin Před rokem +54

    The more I see videos like this, the more I understand that I just have anxiety. I follow this script, I don't do anything incredibly weird. But my mind puts everything under a microscope. And sometimes I just got to accept that I just don't vibe with everyone. Some conversations just arent going to be great.

  • @sniper6081
    @sniper6081 Před rokem +4

    I was wondering why this video was recommended to me until I saw the comments section. It all makes sense now.

  • @Judoka008
    @Judoka008 Před 5 lety +14598

    Person: "So where are you from?"
    Me: "Why?"
    ..............*awkward silence*
    Me: "That reminds me of all the other awkward social interactions".

    • @hansitorsnes5020
      @hansitorsnes5020 Před 5 lety +311

      Pure gold

    • @RhinoGamin
      @RhinoGamin Před 5 lety +362

      The funny thing is that could actually be a really hilarious conversation😂

    • @amyh1755
      @amyh1755 Před 5 lety +89

      I'm screaming laughing at this

    • @Zgtsu
      @Zgtsu Před 5 lety +78

      you cant hear me right now but im clapping

    • @tuyuu2191
      @tuyuu2191 Před 5 lety +9

      @@Zgtsu 😂😂

  • @saadanwar9559
    @saadanwar9559 Před 5 lety +9374

    Me meeting my friend standing with his father
    Me:So how do you guys know each other?

  • @LucianoBAF
    @LucianoBAF Před rokem +62

    1. Open ended questions (how do you like ?)
    2. Ask about their motivativations with a simple "Why?" (Why did you decide to get into ?)
    3. When the conversation stalls, use revival questions:
    - "How you guys know one other?"
    - "What's your story?". The person might give options on what specifically, then you can read which option was mentioned in a more excited tone of voice
    - "What are your plans to the future?"
    4. Complimentary cold read (you look like you are pretty into )
    5. In a cold silence, deep breath and keep easy eye contact. Alternatively, repeat the last words they've said

    • @Prizm44
      @Prizm44 Před rokem +3

      Jesus Christ, does anyone else want to write yet another comment stating the exact same thing that was in the video?

    • @xhvsh
      @xhvsh Před 14 dny

      how do you like toronto?

  • @DrownedInGames
    @DrownedInGames Před rokem +34

    I have a friend who asks questions like the ones from this video when trying to hold conversations, and now I think he got the conversation ideas from this video.

    • @joanna4500
      @joanna4500 Před rokem +8

      ask them how they like toronto and see what they do

    • @DrownedInGames
      @DrownedInGames Před rokem +1

      @@joanna4500 I'll do that sometime hahah

  • @Aubjordan
    @Aubjordan Před 4 lety +2707

    “I had a good time yesterday at the party.”
    “So you had a good time yesterday?”
    “Um yeah like I just said...
    “Why?”
    “...Because I went to the party...”

  • @oblobbles
    @oblobbles Před 3 lety +4874

    A depressed person:"sometimes I just feel like this world would be better without me"
    ....
    Me: "so what are ur plans for the future?"

    • @DeadeyeToya
      @DeadeyeToya Před 3 lety +78

      You know the word future reminds me of a state that is my destiny to behold my actions a period of time following the moment of speaking or writing; time regarded as still to come.

    • @thinginground5179
      @thinginground5179 Před 3 lety +94

      "I wanna kill myself"
      Me: "Toronto"

    • @meowww7557
      @meowww7557 Před 3 lety +71

      why?

    • @jimsclub8080
      @jimsclub8080 Před 3 lety +28

      Why would be better ;)

    • @iiCounted2134
      @iiCounted2134 Před 3 lety +41

      damn that went dark quick lmfaoo

  • @fa5rani
    @fa5rani Před rokem +81

    One thing I learned through my conversations, "some people are boring" don't push it, it they are exciting or excited in you, you'll never stop talking.

  • @deli_bread
    @deli_bread Před rokem +101

    I just like to ask completely random questions out of the blue. I don't mean stuff like "Where'd you get your shirt from?" or something. I mean questions like "Is soup a drink?" or "Do you pour cereal or milk first?" since those types of questions usually lead to a debate, or just an interesting conversation. Also yes, both of those questions were food related. Food is always a good conversation topic, since most everyone enjoys food (or at least has an opinion on it). Some other good questions to ask are hypotheticals. I like these since they're pretty interesting, and if you run out of them it's really easy to just make one up. Ex: "Would you rather fight 10 5 year olds or 2 20 year olds?" or "Would you eat a gallon of mayonnaise for 10,000 dollars?" You can also elaborate on the question, or change it slightly depending on their answer, like instead of "Would you eat a gallon of mayonnaise for 10,000 dollars?" it'd be "Would you eat a gallon of mayonnaise for 3.5 dollars?" Sorry for the long comment, and thanks to anyone who read all the way through! Hoped this helped!

    • @R9naldo
      @R9naldo Před rokem +28

      How to get friendzoned in just one interaction

    • @CosmicRando
      @CosmicRando Před rokem +1

      @@R9naldoyeah 💀

    • @hazelmint6671
      @hazelmint6671 Před rokem

      My cousin always asks us these kinds of questions lol!
      Its usually very crazy so we roll our eyes each time he starts with a 'would u rather...' 🤣🤣
      Questions like, 'would u rather, marry/date a person who is shockingly ugly, (he also includes some kind of abnormality, like he has unstoppable diarrhea) but he has the best personality (factually) and loves u dearly , or would u rather marry someone who is impossibly gorgeous and rich but has the shittiest personality..
      This is tame actually, compared to some of his other ones 😂🤣🤣

    • @pinkroses135
      @pinkroses135 Před rokem

      😂 love that approach! Not too personal yet allows someone to display their personality and go into other subjects.

  • @levince9315
    @levince9315 Před 4 lety +5501

    *The gods have given us this outstanding comment section.*

  • @_tronk_2529
    @_tronk_2529 Před 5 lety +6771

    Bold of you to assume that I engage in conversation.

    • @treblinka9530
      @treblinka9530 Před 5 lety +31

      James Hickok I have aids :)

    • @sus3509
      @sus3509 Před 5 lety +17

      Swear bro I ain’t never starting a convo

    • @stevesbonesai
      @stevesbonesai Před 5 lety +60

      @@treblinka9530 so.., what do you enjoy most about having aids?

    • @bl8d5uck3r
      @bl8d5uck3r Před 5 lety +2

      noo i feel bad for liking your comment and making the number iLlUmInAtI

    • @VisionVaultArchive
      @VisionVaultArchive Před 5 lety +1

      @@bl8d5uck3r dw i changed it :)

  • @dbliss741
    @dbliss741 Před rokem +68

    There’s nothing cooler than curating a vibe where you sit confidently with a dash of aloofness during those “awkward silences”

    • @Mo-.
      @Mo-. Před rokem +2

      I do that practically all the time by accident bc of not often starting convos (unless with already established friends)

    • @megamaser
      @megamaser Před rokem +2

      I disagree. I've been practicing this my entire life because I enjoy silence. But it hasn't made me "cool" or curate any kind of vibe that anyone else notices. Mainly it makes me forgettable, which is good. I don't want boring people to remember me, only the ones worth talking to.

  • @yahdood6015
    @yahdood6015 Před 3 lety +25299

    [ awkward silence ]
    Me: [ sees glass of water ] “heh, reminds me of how humans need to stay hydrated”

  • @alyssa3415
    @alyssa3415 Před 3 lety +4806

    me: what's your name?
    them: Emma
    me: why?
    them:
    me: so how do u like Toronto?

  • @bean2468
    @bean2468 Před rokem +5

    This video was so helpful I talked to a woman and she didn’t run away! 10/10 would recommend

  • @majadinicc
    @majadinicc Před rokem +12

    seeing that this video has so many views makes me feel less alone. we just all have some problems with social skills but hey, nothing that we can't overcome

  • @Whydoothercomments
    @Whydoothercomments Před 4 lety +6795

    Me: How old are you?
    Girl: 19
    Me: when I was your age I was 21

  • @rohan1748
    @rohan1748 Před 3 lety +4148

    Her : So do you like Toronto ?
    Me : Hey that's my line !!
    Her : Why?
    *Awkward Silence*

    • @babayaga3064
      @babayaga3064 Před 2 lety +76

      Man what a hilarious comment section, I wish I cud meet u all and make more jokes about this video, that would be epic! I'm so weak for good humour 😂😂

    • @missingpatel7349
      @missingpatel7349 Před rokem +104

      @@babayaga3064 We are really doing okay in comments section but chances are it will be *severely awkward silence* if we meet in real life.

    • @ungewohnlich510
      @ungewohnlich510 Před rokem +6

      Uno reverse :D

    • @IoannisFragiskos
      @IoannisFragiskos Před rokem +1

      Underrated comment 😂

    • @muhammadraza2766
      @muhammadraza2766 Před rokem +1

      😂😂😂😂

  • @SGWV
    @SGWV Před rokem +4

    I love this video solely because of its comments section

  • @chookers1074
    @chookers1074 Před rokem +19

    With the right person, you’ll never run out of words

  • @d.lastbreath2272
    @d.lastbreath2272 Před 5 lety +16803

    We all lack social skills , don't we?

    • @kblc7952
      @kblc7952 Před 5 lety +147

      D. Lastbreath no just had that a few hours ago.. damn that was the most awkward thing. long story short she turned me off with one sentence and then i had to change my sentence i wanted to say and then i left..

    • @peterg9798
      @peterg9798 Před 5 lety +17

      @@kblc7952 thats what you get for being a oldhead

    • @kblc7952
      @kblc7952 Před 5 lety +25

      Apree i’m 15 lmao

    • @peterg9798
      @peterg9798 Před 5 lety +20

      @@kblc7952 you can be 15 and an oldhead tf

    • @kblc7952
      @kblc7952 Před 5 lety +13

      Apree yeah aight u a oldhead too?

  • @trevorwhiteboy2649
    @trevorwhiteboy2649 Před 3 lety +27201

    PRO TIP: You can’t run out of things to say if you never initiate a conversation

    • @harsha307
      @harsha307 Před 3 lety +372

      The other person is just not interested

    • @ultrablitz9673
      @ultrablitz9673 Před 3 lety +621

      Me after reading this: kalm
      Me after someone else initiates a conversation: PANIK

    • @igorbednarski8048
      @igorbednarski8048 Před 3 lety +97

      Big brain stuff

    • @ETn4606
      @ETn4606 Před 3 lety +15

      Fax

    • @ashbash8716
      @ashbash8716 Před 3 lety +7

      Catch this radio
      (This is a joke)

  • @kyettterry
    @kyettterry Před 32 minutami

    Yall I'm fourteen and I just spent like four hours with my girlfriend saying almost nothing to her I needed this thank you

  • @helved807
    @helved807 Před rokem +6

    I've come to learn a bit about this, and it took me a while to understand that it's not only me in a conversation that is struggling, it's both sides, (or in a group, all sides). This made me less worried about the responsibility of the conversation failing falling on me.

  • @pikarizardcharikachu2573
    @pikarizardcharikachu2573 Před 3 lety +3581

    I can tell from this whole comment section that we are all introverts.

  • @anythingbutme6602
    @anythingbutme6602 Před 4 lety +7943

    Me: You look like you are really into food!
    Her: I'm pregnant.
    Me: ...Why?

    • @FirstnameLastname-es1ko
      @FirstnameLastname-es1ko Před 4 lety +276

      Anything Butme Who the hell says that in the first place?😂 “You look like you are really into food!”

    • @xapokalypse
      @xapokalypse Před 4 lety +168

      @@FirstnameLastname-es1ko that's why they watch this video! 😂

    • @aaliyahs.adventures.
      @aaliyahs.adventures. Před 4 lety +6

      🤣🤣🤣

    • @itzelneptune
      @itzelneptune Před 4 lety +26

      She allowed herself to get nasty

    • @benderisgreat95able
      @benderisgreat95able Před 4 lety +46

      Seriously. Why? Smart people stopped having kids in 2008.

  • @justmechanicthings
    @justmechanicthings Před rokem +3

    The open ended questioning was one of my key plays on first and second dates, along with asking what favourite and to elaborate on what makes it so

  • @marcusfarrands9311
    @marcusfarrands9311 Před rokem +3

    short, ad straight to the point, no unessecary buildup or intro, love it

  • @zacadoole1
    @zacadoole1 Před 3 lety +2936

    If someone asked me "so what's your story?" I'd break into a cold sweat

    • @thefork4416
      @thefork4416 Před 3 lety +232

      why

    • @loot3647
      @loot3647 Před 3 lety +469

      @@thefork4416 toronto

    • @AvaRose06
      @AvaRose06 Před 3 lety +140

      this reminds me of the time I got -cold- feet and ran out on my wedding.

      so what’s Toronto like?

    • @linasbubble
      @linasbubble Před 2 lety +22

      @@loot3647 PAHAHAHA YALL LEAVE. IM CRYING

    • @dinowattz
      @dinowattz Před 2 lety +11

      @@linasbubble why?

  • @pasteltheunicorn3899
    @pasteltheunicorn3899 Před 3 lety +9221

    “So...tell me a bit about yourself”
    My mom at the dinner table: “..what?”
    *pointing to vase on table*“This reminds me of a vase I have at home”
    “????”

  • @thijsbruijn3512
    @thijsbruijn3512 Před rokem +3

    Toronto saving every conversation

  • @Isaiah-Hughes
    @Isaiah-Hughes Před rokem +2

    "Great weather today!"
    "Thanks, you too."

  • @hamza3065
    @hamza3065 Před 4 lety +6338

    Laughed my lungs out!!
    This comment section is on fire!!

  • @augustuscaesar5076
    @augustuscaesar5076 Před 4 lety +7659

    Her: I had a fight with my sister
    Me: How do you two know one another?
    Her:..... She's my sister
    Me: *why?*

    • @IsaiahReitanFilm
      @IsaiahReitanFilm Před 4 lety +203

      Augustus Caesar her: because we’re related
      Me: because you’re related?

    • @KingLoof
      @KingLoof Před 4 lety +153

      @@IsaiahReitanFilm Me: Actually that reminds me of a friend who, just recently, got into a fight with her sister

    • @hankiedave
      @hankiedave Před 4 lety +28

      @@IsaiahReitanFilm Her: uh..yes
      Me: *_why?_*

    • @user-dc4yr2ev5h
      @user-dc4yr2ev5h Před 4 lety +16

      Augustus Caesar Well her parents did the big f*ck twice.

    • @AdmiralBonetoPick
      @AdmiralBonetoPick Před 4 lety +21

      Her: Toronto

  • @Skeletone56
    @Skeletone56 Před rokem +4

    With this, I was able to bring back a conversation with my grandparents at dinner.
    This was very helpful, thank you.

  • @andresf.3472
    @andresf.3472 Před rokem +4

    The one that always help is remember about “FORD”: Family Occupation Recreation Dreams. Also using open statements questions like why, how, when, where instead of closing ones.

  • @brunotheexpert8230
    @brunotheexpert8230 Před 4 lety +28428

    Teacher : Where is your homework ?
    Me: At home , and yours?
    Teacher : what?
    Me: why?
    Teacher : *confused*
    Me: So what do you do for living?

    • @ashleyw5579
      @ashleyw5579 Před 4 lety +833

      Bruno The Expert thank you for making me actually lol 😂😂

    • @ernarjandos1031
      @ernarjandos1031 Před 3 lety +644

      Thats just “how to escape homework”

    • @jeamychun
      @jeamychun Před 3 lety +243

      This made me laugh 😂😂😂

    • @swoop155
      @swoop155 Před 3 lety +95

      Omg this was awesome hahahaha

    • @user-sl1ry6op7m
      @user-sl1ry6op7m Před 3 lety +32

      😂😂😂😂

  • @haironyourscreen4848
    @haironyourscreen4848 Před 4 lety +15370

    Me: hi
    Her: hello
    Me: tell me your story
    Her: I was born in Switzerland...
    Me: so how do you like Toronto?
    Her: I said Switzerland
    Me: you said Switzerland?
    Her: yes
    Me: Why?

    • @masud_1
      @masud_1 Před 4 lety +720

      i thought there was a hair on my screen, Lol

    • @moural1133
      @moural1133 Před 4 lety +230

      @@masud_1 ibwas blowing it the whole time until i read ur comment😂

    • @ananya1541
      @ananya1541 Před 4 lety +154

      I literally thought there was hair on my screen and was blowing on it the whole time until i saw your username lol

    • @sarahB06
      @sarahB06 Před 4 lety +119

      oH lol I tHoUghT tHEre wAs A hAiR On mY ScReEN

    • @therebelartisteofficial
      @therebelartisteofficial Před 4 lety +8

      😂

  • @donna-elizabeth
    @donna-elizabeth Před rokem +10

    It's all about the weather in the end. If you run out of things to say, the weather talk saves the situation...it always leads on to other subjects that spring from how the weather is affecting you, your plans ahead etc. Well known thing in the UK 🤣

  • @ronvavra
    @ronvavra Před rokem +4

    My wife and I had dinner with people we see occasionally. Not real close. The other couple are very outgoing and talkative but we came to one of those grinding halts where everybody just sits there wishing they were not there. Then the host asked "read any good books lately". We were off and running. It was brilliant.

  • @ltv9784
    @ltv9784 Před 3 lety +4553

    I tried to make my crush laugh by extra saying “Why” “Toronto” etc.
    But she just watched me awkwardly.
    Then I remembered that not everyone knows this comment section.

  • @socklips7655
    @socklips7655 Před 4 lety +3484

    1. Maintain an unblinking stare
    2. Randomly and substantially change the tone of your voice.
    3. Respond to all of their responses with "As was foretold in the prophecy"

  • @cultless699
    @cultless699 Před rokem +6

    Ayy this was a GREAT video. It was very friendly and positive, not making you feel awkward imagining saying these things because you also brang out some arguments with them. Also, very important is, for someone with ADD like me, and with poor memory too, this video was very short and to the point and you even made a recap at the end to remember easily. I mean, first off, it’s important to always be yourself but this video really help out people with social anxiety. Thank you, I will use this in my future conversations!❤

  • @iansarmiento23
    @iansarmiento23 Před 2 lety +1

    This is great... For 1 on 1 conversations. I've got a friend who won't shut up in a group conversation and won't let anyone have a word in and he'll eventually change the subject.

  • @f.b.iagent3971
    @f.b.iagent3971 Před 4 lety +3080

    Me, talking to my cousin at her mum’s funeral
    Me: this reminds me of that time my aunt died

    • @bingbong5786
      @bingbong5786 Před 4 lety +17

      John McKenvil r/woooooosh

    • @Zangetsu_
      @Zangetsu_ Před 4 lety +11

      John McKenvil LMAO

    • @fade2008
      @fade2008 Před 4 lety +33

      @John McKenvil But you didn't give any signs that u understood.
      Sooo how do you like Toronto

    • @MushisCow
      @MushisCow Před 4 lety +17

      @@fade2008 *_Why?_*

    • @fade2008
      @fade2008 Před 4 lety +16

      @@MushisCow ummmm *_Nice weather, huh?_*

  • @audreythorpe6962
    @audreythorpe6962 Před 3 lety +9388

    My fav question to ask when convo goes quiet is “how do u think chairs would work if our Knees bent backwards” I’ve had some wild convos from it

    • @harambe8302
      @harambe8302 Před 3 lety +1288

      That question is so random lol

    • @fercam4792
      @fercam4792 Před 3 lety +97

      Lmaoo

    • @rustyshackleford3917
      @rustyshackleford3917 Před 3 lety +257

      You’re a saint Audrey

    • @tomjones6277
      @tomjones6277 Před 3 lety +839

      Having read this comment yesterday and asked this question today I can confirm the results are legendary

    • @edsonq.valencia1802
      @edsonq.valencia1802 Před 3 lety +523

      Or something like "have you ever asked yourself if hippos think that rhinos are unicorns?"

  • @SG003
    @SG003 Před rokem +2

    I'm quite introverted and I'm more of a listener than talker so I'm good with people who talks a lot.

  • @averyward2116
    @averyward2116 Před rokem

    I feel like as long as you're a good and kind person you can just say the first things that come to mind

  • @airyballoon
    @airyballoon Před 4 lety +3601

    *at a bar*
    Me: you look like you come here often
    Her: What, I look like an alcoholic??
    Me: what’s your story
    Her: I don’t have a drinking problem!
    Me: Tell me why

    • @nelmae6026
      @nelmae6026 Před 3 lety +226

      *Her, starts to get drunk and proceeds to loosen up:* ain't nothin but a heartache

    • @ej_matthewsart
      @ej_matthewsart Před 3 lety +25

      @@nelmae6026 glad I wasn't the only person who though BSB lol

    • @sarahgebhardt404
      @sarahgebhardt404 Před 3 lety +78

      🎵Ain't nothing but a heartache🎵

    • @fiipknife3830
      @fiipknife3830 Před 3 lety +44

      @@sarahgebhardt404 TELL ME WHY

    • @sarahgebhardt404
      @sarahgebhardt404 Před 3 lety +40

      @@fiipknife3830 ain't nothin' but a mistake

  • @reallynoname
    @reallynoname Před 2 lety +17068

    I told my first date „You look like you enjoy McDonalds quite a lot!“
    She really opened up, even raised her voice. It brought so much energy to the conversation.

  • @AstraalSolace
    @AstraalSolace Před rokem +6

    I like how some of these tips are the things that annoy me the most when people do them to me lol

  • @zxkredo
    @zxkredo Před rokem +3

    Also learning not to be akward in silence is great too. You don't need to be talking all the time.
    Very helpful video anyways! Sometimes you just wanna talk but don't find common ground.

  • @rottencheeseballs2496
    @rottencheeseballs2496 Před 4 lety +2773

    Me: So what’s your story?
    Her: What do you mean by that?
    Me: ... Why?
    Her: *leaves*
    Me: sits to rewatch this video and take notes

  • @LegitSarchie
    @LegitSarchie Před 3 lety +26921

    Teacher: where’s your homework?
    Me: *takes deep breath whilst maintaining eye contact*
    Teacher: what are you doing?
    Me: so why did you decide to be a teacher?
    Teacher: excuse me?
    *awkward silence*
    Me: How do you like Toronto?

  • @katlibby83
    @katlibby83 Před rokem

    I’ve been using your tips at job interviews and they’re working great! Thank you!

  • @matthewclark7952
    @matthewclark7952 Před rokem +3

    Good tips, I shall definitely give this a go. I suffer badly from social anxiety disorder but I’m trying to improve the whole time.

  • @Zwervar_
    @Zwervar_ Před 4 lety +3665

    Barber: "So what do you do for work?"
    Me: "I'm a cashier, what about you?"
    *awkward silence*

  • @unacuentadeyoutube13
    @unacuentadeyoutube13 Před 3 lety +3320

    - This place reminds me of my grandma's death.
    - Maybe that's because it's my mum's funeral.
    - How did she die?
    - I don't want to talk about it, please.
    - Ok. How did you meet each other?
    *Akward silence*
    - How's your mum doing?

    • @penglu364
      @penglu364 Před 3 lety +32

      🤣🤣

    • @frossknight3209
      @frossknight3209 Před 3 lety +71

      This one's underrated

    • @kylewadley5031
      @kylewadley5031 Před 3 lety +53

      That sounds like something that Oversimplified would write for his videos😂

    • @Lucas-gx8ic
      @Lucas-gx8ic Před 3 lety +7

      Ouch 😂

    • @rhitoja1
      @rhitoja1 Před 2 lety +4

      I'd love to like thus comment vut really dont wanna ruin the fine like counts 420

  • @vatos3367
    @vatos3367 Před rokem +5

    Whenever I have a silence with someone I ask him whether he/she wants to talk or enjoy the environment. When they wanna talk I‘ll ask which topic he/she wants to discuss. You‘ll build easily a conversation again.
    If he/she chooses the other option it’s not awkward anymore. Besides they will start a convo again about how happy they are/like the environment/ you know when….etc

  • @mohsenjan4540
    @mohsenjan4540 Před rokem +1

    that was great. thanks for your precious channel. I really appreciate it. many many thanks.

  • @aurilio5633
    @aurilio5633 Před 4 lety +3768

    Me: *Looks at flower*
    Also me: Woah, That flower reminds me of flowers.

  • @whim_tv
    @whim_tv Před 4 lety +8704

    "how do you like Toronto"
    "I've never been there"
    "why?"
    "because I live in another country"
    "this reminds me of the time I didn't have anything to say"

  • @angelogabriel2316
    @angelogabriel2316 Před rokem

    what a fantastic video! i have some problems about talking to other people, i think acctually that it is the bigest problem i have, so with this video i learned some things new im will try next time i see someone. THANK YOU

  • @LifeIsGood1992
    @LifeIsGood1992 Před rokem +1

    This is the no BS content that is helping us in real life 🙏👌

  • @jaimieomalla8676
    @jaimieomalla8676 Před 3 lety +9063

    I haven't laughed/cried this hard in ages. Love this comment section

  • @Ant-jt7ur
    @Ant-jt7ur Před 5 lety +4882

    friend: i got an A in my maths exam
    me:why?

    • @NoblestStrive
      @NoblestStrive Před 5 lety +185

      Why did you decide to get an A?

    • @Choo-choo-chookcha
      @Choo-choo-chookcha Před 5 lety +220

      friend: i got an A in my maths exam
      you: So how do you like Toranto?

    • @justinchoi6334
      @justinchoi6334 Před 5 lety +76

      Her: I hung out with my family and i really enjoyed it
      me: *getting comfortable with silence*
      me: so you enjoyed yourself?

    • @jeffrenjr
      @jeffrenjr Před 5 lety +76

      Friend: *I got an A in Maths*
      Me: *How do you guys know each other?*

    • @AnnaMarianne
      @AnnaMarianne Před 5 lety +10

      Actually... that wouldn't be too bad a question. "How did you get an A?" That opens up lots of possibilities to start talking about studying, school, how he other one has felt in the past weeks, personal habits, things the other one is or isn't interested in, etc.

  • @AbsurdShark
    @AbsurdShark Před rokem +1

    Thank you, i tried the mentioned tips, and my cat reacted nicely.

  • @jonny_sm884
    @jonny_sm884 Před rokem

    I'd really like to learn something here...
    BUT I CAN'T STOP VIBING TO EXURB1AS MUSIC!!

  • @deusvult3103
    @deusvult3103 Před 4 lety +2900

    Girl sitting alone on the bench.
    Me: Hi
    She: Hi
    Me: So how do you guys know each other ?

    • @amirtamang4210
      @amirtamang4210 Před 4 lety +30

      🤣🤣🤣🤣

    • @f.b.iagent3971
      @f.b.iagent3971 Před 4 lety +94

      That one was on you, if you had replied “why” then you guys would have had a better conversation

    • @deusvult3103
      @deusvult3103 Před 4 lety +9

      @@f.b.iagent3971 hahahah you are right FBI...I'm gonna remember it for the next time.
      Thank you ✌

    • @izzys1035
      @izzys1035 Před 4 lety

      😂😂😂

    • @OldVids_
      @OldVids_ Před 4 lety +4

      *runs away*

  • @Anny-me9ny
    @Anny-me9ny Před 4 lety +3527

    “So how do you like Toronto?”
    “ I don’t”
    “Well that’s *N I c E*

    • @MrMastermeier
      @MrMastermeier Před 4 lety +20

      How do you like Toronto?
      Yes it’s Nice

    • @davidkamski5286
      @davidkamski5286 Před 4 lety +25

      Annnddd we're back to square 1 lol

    • @dee8163
      @dee8163 Před 4 lety +14

      "i don't"
      "Is it the traffic or crowd? I've heard it can get crowded?"
      (I'm learning so much from this channel)

    • @madmisskelly
      @madmisskelly Před 4 lety +8

      I always laugh and add "well at least you're honest!"

    • @kblc7952
      @kblc7952 Před 4 lety +12

      *WHY?*

  • @Anonymous-ev3rl
    @Anonymous-ev3rl Před rokem +3

    I usually try to convince myself to stay calm like I'm comfortable in the silence and then the other person becomes comfortable as well. It usually helps if there's somewhere I can look off to like the sea or people walking by

  • @drew3030
    @drew3030 Před 14 hodinami

    Great tips I'm sure for people who like conversations. Can't say I'm that fond of them.

  • @spethmanjones2997
    @spethmanjones2997 Před 4 lety +1234

    Awkward silence with a single person
    “So how do you all know each oth-wait, damnit that’s not it...”