authenticity | why i hate shy people RANT

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  • čas přidán 20. 05. 2020
  • a chatty rant about authenticity, likability, and shyness. i'm assuming i have a ton of unpopular opinions so beware. p.s. shy people don't come for me too hard. lemme know what you think and LIKE if ya feel me.
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  • @Dvrkwulf
    @Dvrkwulf Před 6 měsíci +203

    Extroverts when they think you owe them a conversation

  • @bakugoubean2924
    @bakugoubean2924 Před 10 měsíci +290

    You’re definitely the girls I actively avoided in highschool

    • @las9582
      @las9582 Před 7 měsíci +59

      She the kind of woman I avoid now lol.

    • @bakugoubean2924
      @bakugoubean2924 Před 6 měsíci +11

      @@las9582 lol

    • @ezyccn30
      @ezyccn30 Před 3 měsíci +3

      Same

    • @TJDW
      @TJDW Před 2 měsíci +7

      Some people never grow up, like this one above.

    • @MyNigga69420
      @MyNigga69420 Před měsícem

      Racist

  • @hannabeyene3608
    @hannabeyene3608 Před rokem +241

    girl being shy doesn’t mean you’re not confident or inauthentic…this whole vid is just a no

  • @LifeisaBeautifulting
    @LifeisaBeautifulting Před 2 lety +442

    I think people just don't talk to you because you're annoying, doesn't mean that they're shy they probably just don't like you

    • @bunni9843
      @bunni9843 Před 2 lety +86

      Glad someone said it. She keeps mentioning that people say she’s overbearing but won’t take that criticism cause she’s too “real” for the rest of us.

    • @Africanbeautyy93
      @Africanbeautyy93 Před 2 lety +78

      Lmaoo right that’s what I was thinking, she’s so rude. How does someone even think it’s okay to post this

    • @drfifteenmd7561
      @drfifteenmd7561 Před rokem +7

      🤣

    • @drfifteenmd7561
      @drfifteenmd7561 Před rokem +27

      @@bunni9843 oh that’s definitely a red flag I hadn’t noticed. People who say I have no filter or I speak nothing but the truth are usually assholes, like is any of that shit you talked to your “friend” really something you should’ve said considering their feelings? 🤔

    • @jasonmoore2339
      @jasonmoore2339 Před 10 měsíci +7

      Most accurate comment

  • @viscosity7893
    @viscosity7893 Před 3 lety +743

    It's always the people who talk the most that don't think things through

    • @shantysencion8069
      @shantysencion8069 Před 3 lety +58

      Bro facts I rather have a person who doesn’t talk that much than a person who doesn’t know when to fuckin shut up 🤐

    • @thedoctor7784
      @thedoctor7784 Před 3 lety +88

      Ain't that the truth.

    • @incubus_the_man
      @incubus_the_man Před 3 lety +60

      I was always told that we have 2 eyes 2 ears and one mouth for a reason.

    • @shantysencion8069
      @shantysencion8069 Před 3 lety +88

      @@fatlemondemon6810 alot people think that being shy is annoying but dont know what happened in their lives to make them be shy, something traumatic, etc. So many reasons on to why you can be shy. So it pisses me off when someone thinks being shy is lazy, or why is it so hard to talk to people.

    • @glenn5517
      @glenn5517 Před 2 lety +8

      You aint lying 😀

  • @han4574
    @han4574 Před 2 lety +193

    she seems more insecure than the shy people she’s talking abt lmao

    • @allthatjazz9000
      @allthatjazz9000 Před rokem +12

      Wait...she? Genuinely thought it was a boy. Just a loud mouth boy.

    • @jascelectronic
      @jascelectronic Před 6 měsíci +7

      @@allthatjazz9000 😂😂😂

  • @arbitrarylib
    @arbitrarylib Před rokem +288

    It tells a lot when people are bothered by others not showing them the attention they want.

    • @janeeyx5672
      @janeeyx5672 Před 5 měsíci +22

      That they are narcissistic

    • @Sisandangcobo26
      @Sisandangcobo26 Před 4 měsíci +5

      THIS!!!!

    • @TJDW
      @TJDW Před měsícem +2

      Fr, like how am I bothering you, by not bothering you?

  • @levarmitchell3962
    @levarmitchell3962 Před 2 lety +817

    It's so odd for you to feel bothered by people who go out of their way to not bother you.

    • @Jasjwjwjwhw
      @Jasjwjwjwhw Před rokem +132

      @@nxbxxha_1764 well maybe it’s just exhausting to talk? Maybe it’s just better for us to observe and think? What’s wrong with that? We do nothing.

    • @nxbxxha_1764
      @nxbxxha_1764 Před rokem

      @@Jasjwjwjwhw EXACTLY, You guys do NOTHING. LAZY AF

    • @nxbxxha_1764
      @nxbxxha_1764 Před rokem +3

      @@Jasjwjwjwhw Tired even to talk? Alright. Also, I get tired of talking too. I also love peace sometimes and observe, I do understand but I'm still an Extrovert because human beings are social Creatures, we need to express ourselves and open up you know...

    • @Jasjwjwjwhw
      @Jasjwjwjwhw Před rokem +65

      @@nxbxxha_1764 yes, but we can do that at our own time. I take a lot of time to open myself and that’s okay.

    • @nxbxxha_1764
      @nxbxxha_1764 Před rokem +4

      @@Jasjwjwjwhw yeah but some people are just shy and insecure and It's like they're not here...

  • @anonymousloner9686
    @anonymousloner9686 Před 3 lety +940

    I find it offending how you think people who are shy are praised and put on a pedestal, while in actuality if you are shy literally no one cares about you

  • @0_Katt_0
    @0_Katt_0 Před 6 měsíci +110

    I dislike loud, obnoxious people

  • @breakingzilian5371
    @breakingzilian5371 Před rokem +133

    In a nutshell: why a narcissist hate shy people?

  • @banko1808
    @banko1808 Před 2 lety +554

    I lost my job because of people like this, people who couldn't mind their business and not harass innocent people who's done nothing to them

    • @glenn5517
      @glenn5517 Před 2 lety +137

      Man its horror working with a bunch of extroverts who talk and are so social and youre so quiet it makes you feel unwelcomed and scared

    • @jordanferguson2254
      @jordanferguson2254 Před rokem +81

      Same. I wasn't bad at my job at all, but simply because I didn't kiss ass and eat lunch with them they thought I thought I was better than them?? Like you can see the insecurity seeping out of them. That's why they're in the huddle and you're not. You're comfortable in yourself. They need constant validation and attention. I know people who can't keep quiet for even two minutes. I know people who call people when alone on the bus stop. Who's really the insecure one here? Ironically, the extrovert.

    • @drfifteenmd7561
      @drfifteenmd7561 Před rokem +1

      @@jordanferguson2254 and then some bitches be like, “insecure, no you’re insecure with your quiet ass” sounds like projecting to me 😂

    • @Jo-ds3xv
      @Jo-ds3xv Před rokem +42

      Same. Truly horrible people project their issues onto shy people

    • @user-wv8zr7zi1s
      @user-wv8zr7zi1s Před rokem

      @@jordanferguson2254fact

  • @bigcoop3717
    @bigcoop3717 Před 6 měsíci +52

    These type of people are what makes the workplace hell, this is how workplace mobbing starts

    • @sigmasiren777
      @sigmasiren777 Před 5 měsíci +13

      Yup! Currently dealing w ppl like this in my classroom.

  • @mello.1483
    @mello.1483 Před 3 lety +519

    *Me a shy person:* *reads title*
    *Me:* *goes straight to the comments*

    • @heysquimble
      @heysquimble Před 3 lety +23

      ikr also tbhk!!!

    • @mello.1483
      @mello.1483 Před 3 lety +11

      @@heysquimble yeah it’s a wholesome anime☺️

    • @heysquimble
      @heysquimble Před 3 lety +3

      @@mello.1483 im a simp for natsuhiko :v

    • @mello.1483
      @mello.1483 Před 3 lety +2

      @@heysquimble Actually it’s Kou-

    • @SlepuTheGreat
      @SlepuTheGreat Před 3 lety +8

      SAME THATS THE EXACT THING I DIDDDD

  • @Memememmememe6565
    @Memememmememe6565 Před rokem +179

    Shyness is not an expensive handbag we wear as an aesthetic to show off
    It’s a pair of handcuffs

  • @rez4866
    @rez4866 Před 2 lety +883

    I don’t get why people hate shy people when shy people bother nobody and always get bothered

    • @rez4866
      @rez4866 Před 2 lety +3

      @Eynis Rose Varda ?

    • @harshitatirumalasetty339
      @harshitatirumalasetty339 Před 2 lety +4

      I am shy

    • @jbbrad6798
      @jbbrad6798 Před 2 lety +6

      Because there’s this thing how are you going to get mad that ppl don’t talk to you when you do not talk to them every shy person I met does this

    • @seanguzy9601
      @seanguzy9601 Před 2 lety +2

      @@jbbrad6798 Bc they are not shy, haha shyness is not real. They are just cowards.

    • @datnohi8612
      @datnohi8612 Před 2 lety +2

      goes both ways I hate loud people that talk to much, all they do is cause chaos with their big fat mouth, try shutting up sometimes because I personally don't want to hear you

  • @Ms42069666
    @Ms42069666 Před 3 lety +460

    Your very negative when it comes to shy people. You are impatient and want everything to be just given to you by the looks of it you don't like building friendships. The foundation of one is building it through time,and shy people and people who are the shyest are actually the most genuine people you'll ever meet. Its actually people like you who can often times be cold and distant not wanting to know someone just because you don't understand them. Obviously you said it yourself "I know you guys have issues" if you know it so what? You don't know why they are being shy there's many reasons for every unique individual. You also sound angry at the fact that you feel like you are straight up and genuine and people don't praise you for that vs the shy person does nothing and they are well liked for doing nothing at all and are more approachable and liked. Within time you'll see that this video was not something to be uploaded but more of a private video for yourself to analyze and see your own problems. Pride vs humble. Often times Pride is loud and fake while humble is quiet and true. Education is Key.

  • @meredithelise9465
    @meredithelise9465 Před 2 lety +426

    Wow. People like you are the reason I have had severe anxiety for the past 20 years.

  • @zach4627
    @zach4627 Před 3 lety +411

    Just need to put this out there. Shy kids are bullied by both teachers and students in school. Never praised, just talk down to

  • @billymorris-watts3766
    @billymorris-watts3766 Před 11 měsíci +94

    I hate rude, loud and opinionated people....most people do

    • @ladybird491
      @ladybird491 Před 8 měsíci

      U are opinionated just hiding it behind shyness

    • @ash.ohhhhh
      @ash.ohhhhh Před 7 měsíci +24

      @@ladybird491 Having an opinion is not the problem. Opinions are like asses, everybody’s got one. It’s the constant need to express your opinion out loud in effort to be seen and/or validated that is the problem. Some people that are labeled “shy” are just really confident in their truths and don’t need validation. The loudest is the room is oftentimes the loneliest :/

    • @thomasanderson468
      @thomasanderson468 Před 5 měsíci +10

      @@ash.ohhhhh the loudest in the room is often at times the most insecure also

    • @littleleah310
      @littleleah310 Před 2 měsíci +1

      True

  • @deiyaerin7273
    @deiyaerin7273 Před 3 lety +1010

    Being introverted and shy is very difficult in a world filled with extroverts. If I had the choice, I wouldn't be this way. Please, don't make our lives harder by acting like a victim and saying that you hate people like us while you make zero effort trying to understand why we are like this 🙃 That's so incredibly damaging.

    • @strawberriesblueberries2258
      @strawberriesblueberries2258 Před 3 lety +211

      It’s because of videos like this is why shy people feel bad about being themselves. Everyone is born different! And there’s nothing wrong with being who you are!

    • @ventaliq
      @ventaliq Před 3 lety +40

      @@strawberriesblueberries2258 i agree

    • @HipHop-Connections.Official
      @HipHop-Connections.Official Před 2 lety +10

      So true

    • @Cleenishere
      @Cleenishere Před 2 lety +10

      I’m shy but stop saying “we” it’s fucking creepy

    • @Jax_brix
      @Jax_brix Před 2 lety +2

      Same with me I'm a introvert and shy

  • @lovelykeeya532
    @lovelykeeya532 Před 4 měsíci +11

    Real title: why introverts stay away from narcissists

    • @littleleah310
      @littleleah310 Před 2 měsíci +1

      Ding ding!!

    • @TJDW
      @TJDW Před 2 měsíci +1

      Or how to sound like an idiot for 7 minutes and 22 seconds.

  • @briannam1398
    @briannam1398 Před 3 lety +244

    This video was very insensitive and probably something you should’ve kept to yourself. It’s extremely rude to insinuate that someone has no personality just because they’re shy. Being shy also doesn’t mean that a person is scared to show who they really are, and it isn’t something you can just stop overnight. Plus, have you considered that they may just not want to talk to you? Not everyone will and that’s ok. It doesn’t mean that they have walls up or are “hiding who they are.” I personally have no interest in getting to know random strangers on a deeper level, and they probably feel the same.

  • @lolitagoddess5171
    @lolitagoddess5171 Před 3 lety +1200

    Because of people like you I’m struggling to survive high school and life in general. Just leave us alone

    • @DreamingHearts
      @DreamingHearts Před 3 lety +137

      Don't worry. After school is over, that kind of stuff doesn't matter anymore. Popularity also doesn't matter anymore. Many of the popular kids in my school ended up gaining a lot of weight, not to mention their personalities did a 180.

    • @Lord0606
      @Lord0606 Před 3 lety +12

      Exactly !!!!!

    • @Lord0606
      @Lord0606 Před 3 lety +46

      After the quarantine us introverts will have our rise!!!!

    • @Lord0606
      @Lord0606 Před 3 lety +62

      I disliked the video before I watched it, 😂

    • @mello.1483
      @mello.1483 Před 3 lety +7

      @@DreamingHearts well damn🤣🤣

  • @frenchie4364
    @frenchie4364 Před 4 lety +605

    a lot of shy people actually aren’t shy but have social anxiety. especially when you have selective mutism, trying to talk is some sort of challenge. a lot of quiet people were belittled for many years and because nobody tries to help them they hide themselves so they don’t get hurt anymore. a lot of it also develops into trust issues.

    • @avelyseodle9278
      @avelyseodle9278 Před 4 lety +50

      Omg yes. I struggle with this as well as the fact that nobody listens to me

    • @dreamscometrue246
      @dreamscometrue246 Před 3 lety +83

      Why does someone feel someone's rude for being quiet? Is there some reason those that need to hear themselves speak can't survive in a silent situation? If you walk into a room and the person doesn't say hi that's one thing but being obligated to speak why? I hate speaking for the sake of speaking

    • @mello.1483
      @mello.1483 Před 3 lety +49

      @@melmcbride Smh y’all think it’s SO easy..

    • @gabrielguzman6018
      @gabrielguzman6018 Před 3 lety +86

      @@melmcbride Usually people who say this have egos or self centered not everyone has to socialize just to make you feel good about yourself

    • @thedoctor7784
      @thedoctor7784 Před 3 lety +11

      She sounds like she has an ego problem.

  • @joiwa7853
    @joiwa7853 Před 3 lety +208

    she talks so much..

    • @eliasa2318
      @eliasa2318 Před 2 lety +15

      ....... She probably thinks she doesnt say enough

    • @ninaboston4714
      @ninaboston4714 Před 2 lety +14

      Right! But you dont see me making a whole video about it. Who would think that being a shy person causes her to be this enraged.

    • @_devil__0nline67
      @_devil__0nline67 Před 2 lety +1

      @@ninaboston4714 I don’t think she’s shy, she’s just open minded, which is not a common trait among unauthentic people

    • @joiwa7853
      @joiwa7853 Před 2 lety +2

      @@_devil__0nline67 pretty sure they meant that people who are shy make the lady in the video mad, not that that lady is shy, its really just the opposite,, she is very obnoxious

  • @06jsil
    @06jsil Před 2 lety +134

    People like her are the ones people don't like because she is forceful and feels that she can dictate to the world.

  • @solus8685
    @solus8685 Před 5 měsíci +27

    "Don't ever hit my line"
    Girl you're talking about people who actively avoid others, you don't have to worry about them hitting you up 💀

  • @bellefairydust
    @bellefairydust Před 3 lety +194

    God forbid there’s more than one personality type! People are multifaceted!! Don’t tell people to stop being shy!! Ask yourself what is it in you, that it bothers you so much! Worry about your own life!!

    • @allthatjazz9000
      @allthatjazz9000 Před rokem

      I don't think he\she quite gets that through its stupid skull. Gross little person it is.

  • @idaudo5977
    @idaudo5977 Před rokem +74

    A lot of shy people grew up in emotionally abusive households and literally can’t help it bc they grew up trying to protect themselves

  • @beatrizbvidal
    @beatrizbvidal Před 3 lety +106

    Girl, you think you have a strong personality but you are just rude and uncomfortable to be around. I hope you realize that in the future, it will make your life easier...

    • @Oshunnn
      @Oshunnn Před 2 lety +15

      exactly! she’s nothing but some random rude woman up here talking about absolutely nothing

    • @TJDW
      @TJDW Před měsícem

      I was watching this video, and my face was all scrunched up like there was a stank ass smell in the air, because that’s all this video produced.

  • @shreyasalgarkar925
    @shreyasalgarkar925 Před rokem +120

    I'm so proud of the people in the comments section ! These so called extroverts who consider themselves authentic are actually the biggest bullies ever and can't digest the fact that not everyone is loud, annoying, judgemental and obnoxious like them !

    • @SanviJaiswal-gz4el
      @SanviJaiswal-gz4el Před 8 měsíci

      As an extrovert myself I am sorry to say this, but you clearly do not know what the word Introvert means.

  • @Moon-lt5bi
    @Moon-lt5bi Před 3 lety +309

    I wouldn’t want to live in a world with one personality type. You’re basically saying people should conform to your ideas of how a person should be. Let people be different.

    • @strawberriesblueberries2258
      @strawberriesblueberries2258 Před 3 lety +15

      Amen I agree

    • @Audhdqueermenace
      @Audhdqueermenace Před 2 lety +6

      Diversity!! Let's goo!

    • @emmahere7087
      @emmahere7087 Před 2 lety +13

      Yes one personality type, thats boring, if theres one personality type then everyone would be boring and probably like the same things, we need diversity.

  • @DefineMorena
    @DefineMorena Před 3 lety +510

    I really like how everyone is dragging her 🤷🏾‍♀️

  • @catherineb6889
    @catherineb6889 Před 2 lety +50

    I talk, I get told to shut up, I stop talking and I'm told to talk more...

  • @calebcooper5922
    @calebcooper5922 Před rokem +24

    and i hate people who talk too much or bully someone else for being different. your point is..

  • @Eumedonia
    @Eumedonia Před 8 měsíci +24

    No wonder they “switch up” and don’t wanna be friends w you😭

  • @EM-Ree
    @EM-Ree Před 2 lety +63

    School Bully Vibes

    • @Socceristhebestfrfr
      @Socceristhebestfrfr Před rokem +4

      Yea

    • @shreyasalgarkar925
      @shreyasalgarkar925 Před rokem +12

      Yupp ! She's definitely bullied a lot of people in her life !! Can't even imagine how miserable it must have been for them !

  • @heysquimble
    @heysquimble Před 3 lety +338

    Some people have mental illness and you can't just say stop being shy, well it's hard okay! If it's that easy, there will be no shy people in this world.

    • @slimytoilet7735
      @slimytoilet7735 Před 3 lety +1

      _You're ruining our image_

    • @shantysencion8069
      @shantysencion8069 Před 3 lety +15

      Omg that's what people need to understand

    • @kacey7
      @kacey7 Před 3 lety +25

      exactly that’s what people need to understand! maybe we are shy cause something happened in our lives like bullying

    • @strawberriesblueberries2258
      @strawberriesblueberries2258 Před 3 lety +28

      There is nothing wrong with being shy. It’s okay to be yourself. I have social anxiety that’s why I’m shy.

    • @heysquimble
      @heysquimble Před 3 lety +9

      @@strawberriesblueberries2258 i also have social anxiety

  • @SceobaeJ
    @SceobaeJ Před 3 lety +343

    No one puts shy people on a pedestal, they get forgotten. If anything society puts people like you on kings throne and let you get away with anything

    • @strawberriesblueberries2258
      @strawberriesblueberries2258 Před 3 lety +78

      I completely agree. Shy people get teased and laughed at as children, and as teenagers, they get dumped by boyfriends and girlfriends. Everyone worships the out-going and out-going people are always popular and the biggest bullies too.

    • @Once_2
      @Once_2 Před 2 lety +22

      @@strawberriesblueberries2258 yes and even my classmate who i thougt was my friend said she dosnt like me because im shy and not active and i almost cried

    • @bobduncan4167
      @bobduncan4167 Před 2 lety +37

      Exactly, I feel like extroverts are more openly praised, noticed, and gravitated towards. Shy people don't really get attention at all. At least it's hard to, cuz we're so freaking quite and boring

    • @zbj4240
      @zbj4240 Před 2 lety +8

      @@Once_2 I'm sorry, you'll come across a lot of people like that in the world though. It's best to just open up to people who actually care about you, and tell everyone else to get f***ked. Of course you gotta be careful who you open up too, or else you'll get a repeat of that, or worse get stabbed in the back. Keep your head up

  • @kaybull1945
    @kaybull1945 Před 3 lety +157

    I saw ur title and clicked. But r u serious?? to all my shy and quiet people their is nothing wrong with u guys. I’m shy and quiet myself and people like this use to make me hate myself for it.

    • @strawberriesblueberries2258
      @strawberriesblueberries2258 Před 3 lety +36

      I completely agree with you. I was shy all my life. This person is obviously a bully, and very ignorant.

    • @Livviegirlie
      @Livviegirlie Před 2 lety +12

      All my life I felt like something was wrong with me. Am I weird or something but this girl is a bully, she is giving me Regina george vibes.

    • @Jjl-gu8qj
      @Jjl-gu8qj Před 9 měsíci +1

      ❤😮

    • @R0WANL0VESR0WLET
      @R0WANL0VESR0WLET Před 6 měsíci +2

      This person screams narcissistic

  • @NinaBlow
    @NinaBlow Před 3 lety +114

    If you’re overbearing you don’t scare people you just turn people off. It seems like you are trying to control people instead of allowing people to be themselves. If you don’t like shy people just go find ppl who are more extroverted and stop focusing on ppl who are shy. Then ppl may care to be your friend

  • @saleen7409
    @saleen7409 Před 3 lety +122

    You sound insecure. You don’t have to admit it. You know deep down inside your heart,that you are. You’re covering up your insecurities. You don’t want the world to see the “flawed” you,so you hide it. Work on your insecurities instead of hating on people that you don’t even know.

  • @eazzuh
    @eazzuh Před 3 lety +52

    why do we bother you so much? what did we even do to you lmaoo

  • @strawberriesblueberries2258

    For those of you who hate shy people! Shy people hate you too!

  • @las9582
    @las9582 Před 7 měsíci +22

    Im a social introvert, this chick is the type of person I wouldn't allow to know me.

  • @kittyjiniii
    @kittyjiniii Před rokem +96

    On behalf of other shy ppl,
    *LEAVE👏🏻 US👏🏻 ALONE!!👏🏻*

  • @toestealer6947
    @toestealer6947 Před 2 lety +163

    I've literally been bullied since I was in 5th grade for being shy, people spread rumors about me, talked about me RIGHT INFRONT MY FACE, I had NO friends, and even the fucking teachers would judge me and my OWN mother. Then when I tried to stand up to myself, they always to fight me, and no one even took up for me... The whole school was against me, for just literally not being social.

  • @ASafeSpacewithKay
    @ASafeSpacewithKay Před rokem +104

    Just because you don’t mesh with shy people doesn’t mean there’s something wrong with them. I’m a shy antisocial woman and I would 100% avoid you lol. Maybe it’s a insecurity within you that needs the validation of someone being exactly like you to feel comfortable. People don’t have to change themselves to please you just move around..

    • @user-ui7tn1fq2b
      @user-ui7tn1fq2b Před 11 měsíci +5

      Do you mean asocial lol

    • @MeloBurgers
      @MeloBurgers Před 10 měsíci

      @@user-ui7tn1fq2bexactly. i like that u caught that 🤙

    • @jclyntoledo
      @jclyntoledo Před 7 měsíci

      ​@@user-ui7tn1fq2bYes! I was going to say this too. Other than the misuse of antisocial this comment is awesome and I fully support it.

    • @h.h8766
      @h.h8766 Před 6 měsíci

      Asocial not anti

  • @wisekrown864
    @wisekrown864 Před 3 lety +119

    It’s weird to “hate” someone for that you could be annoyed by it but to “hate” is actually weird

    • @strawberriesblueberries2258
      @strawberriesblueberries2258 Před rokem +3

      Why would you even be annoyed by it?

    • @Err_404_
      @Err_404_ Před rokem +3

      i doubt she actually "hates" shy people. its most likely just to get more clicks. and even if she does, ok so? Who cares if some loudmouth on the internet 'hates' you lol. Thats actually hilarious. Just keep living your life

  • @montgomerygator4732
    @montgomerygator4732 Před rokem +43

    Tell me that your insecure, without telling me that your insecure.

  • @allthatjazz9000
    @allthatjazz9000 Před rokem +29

    I hate loud irritating self obsessed people...

  • @kanekiken-wg3uk
    @kanekiken-wg3uk Před rokem +51

    It's because of people like you that I have severe social anxiety.

  • @makhiahhh
    @makhiahhh Před 2 lety +130

    the hard parts of being shy
    -can’t talk to people even if you wanted
    - can’t do things around people
    -notice everything but don’t GET noticed
    - act differently around friends
    - try to follow the trends
    - think your not perfect
    - wish they were different
    -can’t ask questions in class
    - wishing they were popular
    - some are suicidal
    - wishing they were like the tik tokers and wanting to be perfect like them
    - being nice to everyone but being treated like CRAP
    - being the best person they can be but don’t feel like one
    - being told “why don’t you talk” and “stop being shy”
    - having to follow but not lead
    - seeing videos like THIS and being depressed
    - doesn’t talk to peoples cause you don’t know what to say
    - only has online friends cause ur to scared to talk to real ones
    stop and walk in someone’s shoes or watch Dhar Mann for a change lol

    • @heysquimble
      @heysquimble Před 2 lety +16

      This is really accurate

    • @vaeh_xx
      @vaeh_xx Před 2 lety +11

      story of my life :(

    • @glossiangelz
      @glossiangelz Před 2 lety

      Um maybe not Dharmann he makes..not very good lesson videos from a critical view

    • @Alyssastudytubebee
      @Alyssastudytubebee Před rokem +7

      Exactly, when I was in school, one of the women asked why don't you talk? Also I start to sweat when I talk to someone. I've been really wanting to talk normally to the kid next to me, but I just can't, I can't make conversation. I'm the only one in my family that does't have friends. When my sister mentions her friends, I start to cry, If I can talk, I'll make short conversation, I even got Isol for people who don't speak English but I know it. Being shy is just be trying. I always think before I speak. I really wanna make friends. YES I Had therapy but I haven't went for a year

    • @sassoukhabou1225
      @sassoukhabou1225 Před rokem +3

      Spot on! As a shy person, I relate to almost all of these! Thank you for sharing.

  • @hiddenblush
    @hiddenblush Před 3 lety +60

    I see.. so you're a person who can't put yourself in other peoples shoes

  • @lynn7107
    @lynn7107 Před 3 lety +80

    Who hurt you? Sounds like a YOU problem.

  • @Jax_brix
    @Jax_brix Před 2 lety +41

    In fact, you know what disgusts me? Extroverts they never stop talking and get pretty annoying

    • @magenta-rosepark4965
      @magenta-rosepark4965 Před 6 měsíci +3

      True the irony of extroverts saying people like me and you are annoying, when they are irritating. She thinks I am "mousey". Yet she would not be saying that if she heard me sing louder than a barking dog. 🤦‍♀️

  • @w3n33dam1racl3
    @w3n33dam1racl3 Před 5 měsíci +10

    The thing about quiet people we are very discerning and your personality is something we would pick up and not like

  • @Alex-vr8sw
    @Alex-vr8sw Před rokem +56

    I think most people see shyness as social rejection…so this is mostly based on her insecurities and lack of empathy. It’s actually really sad. Who cares if a shy person doesn’t feel like talking to your ass, you’re probably not that interesting or welcoming to be around anyway.
    Y’all don’t even need to watch the video, just dislike and move on. Nothing to see here. Don’t let her insecurity make y’all feel bad about your shy personalities. ❤ Be you. If you’re shy or introverted, you’re still valid. If you’re loud and extroverted, you’re still valid. Just fucking let people be themselves, shit.

  • @DeityCloud
    @DeityCloud Před 2 měsíci +8

    I dislike obnoxious people who always talk. They’re like no substance. They talk nonstop that they don’t have time to think and reflect. “Empty cans make a lot of noise” that quote suits you very well.
    I like keeping to myself. Quiet people are just them being themselves. They become real to people they trust. Maybe you’re just not trustworthy.

    • @littleleah310
      @littleleah310 Před 2 měsíci

      Exactly why she made this video and posted it🤣

  • @van-os5hs
    @van-os5hs Před 3 lety +117

    how does this affect you though.. if you don't like someone because they're shy, than just don't hang out with them, but with people you like. making a video like this though, that aint it. it's just offending
    also about the social media thing. Our online self is the real us. We talk freely and we're chill because we don't have to look at an actual person, feeling their judgemental look, we don't have to frantically think about what to say next or if our voice sounds weird.. Look, if we could be like you and say what we thought, talk how we want, trust me, we would.

    • @van-os5hs
      @van-os5hs Před 2 lety +3

      @Friskies Catfood yes fr

    • @Livviegirlie
      @Livviegirlie Před 2 lety +18

      Exactly, GOD sometimes I wish I was more like other people, but that's not who I am and wouldn't change it for a thing.

    • @van-os5hs
      @van-os5hs Před 2 lety +4

      @@Livviegirlie YES preach

    • @evildalejr4570
      @evildalejr4570 Před 2 lety +1

      Facts

    • @Jjl-gu8qj
      @Jjl-gu8qj Před 9 měsíci

      exactlyy💯

  • @maddiejane8
    @maddiejane8 Před 2 lety +94

    I’m constantly trying so hard to talk and reach out but I can’t, and when people say stuff like this it absolutely shatters me because even when I put the most effort into trying to be extroverted people still notice I’m bad at talking and shy. Not all people have the ability to be open and loud and talkative.

    • @unknownkillerjackson2787
      @unknownkillerjackson2787 Před 2 lety +17

      Stay true to who u are because it's good for the soul don't listen to this young lady because it's clear she has no sense

  • @lr2683
    @lr2683 Před rokem +168

    I would much rather stay shy than be friends with someone like you. Shy people are not incapable of making friends. We just know when someone is worth befriending and we open ourselves up from there. If shy people aren't picking you specifically, that sounds like a you problem.

    • @Three721
      @Three721 Před rokem +9

      ❤❤❤

    • @Err_404_
      @Err_404_ Před rokem +10

      daaaaam told em

    • @SamsungAndIphoneuser
      @SamsungAndIphoneuser Před 11 měsíci

      ​​@@Tenebrae6918 SHUT UP PLEASE

    • @di3486
      @di3486 Před 8 měsíci +8

      Why people can see through her. She is not genuine and kind and we introverts can sense it.

  • @chaeffected2711
    @chaeffected2711 Před 9 měsíci +21

    Shy and introverted are two separate things. Maybe they don’t wanna open up to you because they either have anxiety or they just don’t trust/like you! As an introvert I love showcasing my personality, just not to ppl I don’t fw 💀

  • @wall.daisies2952
    @wall.daisies2952 Před 3 lety +94

    If I were to try to be more outgoing, I wouldn't be authentic to who I am. I am authentic in my quietness. I own it. Quiet people are quickly drained from social interactions. It's biological and i honor that in myself and care for that. Ive come to love myself even more because of the judgment ive taken from people like you who don't try to understand people who arent accepted by societal standards. Quiet people are not put on pedestals. We are harassed and judged and ignored by society. However it's great not needing to be surrounded by others to be happy. My happiness comes from within, not from external validation. I prefer a few quality friendships rather than quantity. Im quiet, but am judged for minding my own business throughout the day. I can hold a conversation, but dont force them. Im creative, thoughtful, wise, and have a lot to offer to those who dont judge me for something as superficial as being quiet. Im happy being the way I am, as are you. We don't want people prying into our lives, breaking down our "walls." They aren't walls, they're boundaries, and it isnt anyone's "job" to violate them and pry them open. I only hear a lot of judging what you don't understand. That same judgement is the reason we decide to stay quiet. If it bothers you SO much, then I encourage you to look at your relationship with your parents. You can talk to them about it and learn from them. Even if you don't understand, at least try to accept the differences instead of judge. We will only open up to people who can show they are accepting, understanding, and not so pushy. Otherwise we know we will just face more judgment. I don't see myself as having any type of illness. Im just not a clone of society. I think for myself. When I speak I offer value and thought. What's wrong with being different?

  • @mythoughtsexactly2014
    @mythoughtsexactly2014 Před 2 lety +62

    What a weird person ain’t nothing wrong with being shy. People like you are sometimes why people are shy.

    • @dinajones2761
      @dinajones2761 Před 2 lety +15

      She doesn’t realize how immature and weird she is

  • @leptoceratops
    @leptoceratops Před rokem +44

    It's always the people crowing about how "real" they are who have the least amount of self-awareness.

  • @starchannel123
    @starchannel123 Před 2 lety +49

    Shyness tends to come from trauma so shy people tend to be more empathetic, unproblematic, and open minded. The world is designed for extroverts to thrive and oppress the introverts/shy/anxious people in this world.

  • @shubk9343
    @shubk9343 Před 9 měsíci +19

    Imagine telling someone to stop being shy, it isn't a setting that can be turned off, that sounds like a 1 brain cell argument.

  • @Ilovesky1223
    @Ilovesky1223 Před 3 lety +64

    This is a very personal thing to disclose, but i was abused my whole childhood in every way imaginable! I was painfully shy as a kid, and as an adult I've grown out of much of the shyness but not all of it! You have no clue what a shy person may have gone through to make them this way! I don't like people like you, because you're a bully!

  • @UnidosdoCeu
    @UnidosdoCeu Před 3 lety +67

    Shy people are actually aware that they are potrayed as shy to certain people because they dont wanna open up to that person simply because they are not their vibe and they dont feel like wasting their time on that person. So if you are dealing with shy people is time for self reflection. You might discover that shy people have a small list of quality friends which they do open up fast.

  • @lizzy.2968
    @lizzy.2968 Před 3 lety +81

    Honestly if u meet a shy person there going to be the best friend u ever had and that’s a fact. 💅🏽

    • @Leauhh
      @Leauhh Před 3 lety +23

      Lol too bad a shy person won't become her best friend

    • @strawberriesblueberries2258
      @strawberriesblueberries2258 Před 3 lety +25

      They are the most loyal mates too

    • @lizzy.2968
      @lizzy.2968 Před 3 lety +5

      @@Leauhh LOL PLS

    • @lizzy.2968
      @lizzy.2968 Před 3 lety +4

      @@strawberriesblueberries2258 ikr

    • @beckhammarilla
      @beckhammarilla Před 3 lety +15

      Exactly. When people met me they thought I was shyest person ever. But I'm just observant. And when they got to know me, they would talk to me non stop, always come to me everything. Invite me to everything.

  • @Ali08
    @Ali08 Před 2 lety +150

    I don’t think you have to worry about any shy people coming your way. Your unaware presence is likely repelling for many. And it is a good thing! You said so much about yourself within 7 minutes that I could easily break down who you are. Please continue to stay in your own bubble with types like yourself. People who are truly communicative and sociable respects other differences, perhaps research why someone is the way they are. If you don’t have time or patience to educate yourself about shy people, that’s okay! Some people ain’t meant to gel with certain others but the ignorance is very unnecessary. And it sounds like you have personal problems that makes you on the strong defense against shy people. Only you can figure that out of on your own. Self reflection helps, including some QUIET time to sort out your frustration. 😊

  • @johnplunkett7120
    @johnplunkett7120 Před 3 lety +48

    You're obviously projecting. You should really learn about people before you hate on them.

  • @ch3m1c4l_c0ff1n
    @ch3m1c4l_c0ff1n Před 2 lety +14

    "personality that scares people away"
    nah just an annoying personality

  • @Outlawgurl24
    @Outlawgurl24 Před 6 měsíci +10

    What did us shy people do ? We’re just trying to live our lives like you .

  • @natalia.a020
    @natalia.a020 Před rokem +26

    Believe me, no one wants to be shy. With shy, i mean - poor social skills, being nervous and scared around people, some degree of social phobia or anxiety... I don't want this lol. It sucks. I didn't choose to be this way and it's not because I'm trying to be edgy and "hate people." It's like an irrational fear that holds you back. Just avoid us but there's no need to be rude.

    • @ladybird491
      @ladybird491 Před 8 měsíci +1

      Alot of people fake shyness, are narcs.

  • @zubeirje
    @zubeirje Před 3 lety +76

    People who talk endlessly (ahem) tend to not know how to think sometimes and it’s showing in this video.

    • @thedoctor7784
      @thedoctor7784 Před 3 lety +20

      It's like she wants all shy/introverted people to disappear.

  • @Zydonie
    @Zydonie Před 2 lety +19

    Why are you even on CZcams to be insulting people like this. Get off

  • @littleleah310
    @littleleah310 Před 2 měsíci +7

    extroverts are the least authentic people tbh

  • @hiddenblush
    @hiddenblush Před 3 lety +42

    why do u need to go to shy people tho? just go to outgoing ones??? why do u have to blame them?

    • @silent935
      @silent935 Před 2 lety +5

      Exactly.

    • @TJDW
      @TJDW Před 2 měsíci

      Exactly her arguments are so stupid.

  • @jamerejackson3233
    @jamerejackson3233 Před rokem +11

    “Like omg their all losers and I’m the awesome one”
    Pretty much all this video talked about 😐

  • @pauvalr
    @pauvalr Před rokem +21

    Normally I am open minded and say "to each his own" but in this case I can't, this whole video is ridiculous, from the title to the last second, literally her only argument is that "being a shy person is synonymous with being aesthetic and fake". Ignorance at its highest potential

  • @kevin1seven923
    @kevin1seven923 Před 2 lety +18

    I just KNOW u talk about ppl behind their backs

  • @user-yl4rh8vn8c
    @user-yl4rh8vn8c Před rokem +24

    I don’t know why anyone would want any to talk to you if this is how you are.

  • @PandaKit909
    @PandaKit909 Před 9 měsíci +17

    This video is an eye opener, now I see how bullies think because that is literally how it starts. Bullying doesn't have to only mean getting pushed around in the school yard. It can also be people like this person in this video or being ostracised in the workplace for not laughing at your boring, nonsensical "jokes". People like this are the reason I'm shy.
    She thought ahe would get tons of approval and likes from us but she is close minded and thats worse than being shy

  • @janeeyx5672
    @janeeyx5672 Před 5 měsíci +9

    Why can’t people like you understand that some people just want to be left alone? The ones you talking about don’t f with you and you’re triggered by it. They want nothing to do with you and that bothers your ego. I’m an introvert and am only very social to people that I feel I have a connection to.

  • @shreyasalgarkar925
    @shreyasalgarkar925 Před rokem +17

    Since when did extroverts become authentic ? Y'all are confusing authenticity with rudeness !

  • @princessjasmin4218
    @princessjasmin4218 Před 3 lety +36

    I'm guessing you were one of those annoying, chatty, mean girls in high school🤨 riiiight? Lol, you are a prime example of why people don't like a lot of extroverts🤣

    • @workphone6883
      @workphone6883 Před rokem +1

      I HIGHLY doubt it.... Definitely not "mean girl" material

    • @snoozyq9576
      @snoozyq9576 Před rokem +5

      ​@@workphone6883 she's literally being mean in the video. read the title

  • @lafoxy1909
    @lafoxy1909 Před 2 lety +49

    You know what I've always found sad about extroverts? (Because lets be clear, there are just as many cons of being an extrovert as there are for being an introvert). Ive always noticed that extroverts can never actually relax either. Like they always have to be DOING something or always have to have other people around them to be comfortable. If they have to be alone with themselves, they just ITCH AND SQUIRM. Another thing is that they often speak before they think (kinda like this whole video). Introverts have a better ability to observe their surroundings and that actually comes in handy for having positive interactions with people and for safety situations as well. Also i have to add that nobody knows what the hell you're talking about when you say that shy people are on a pedestal. We constantly get bullied, walked on, insulted, disrespected, etc. I see no pedestal here. But either way, i like who i am as a quiet person because im also an extremely caring, loving person who can be comfortable in my own skin whether im alone or not and whether im at home or in public. I will never have to feel the same anxiety as you do if im not constantly surrounded by people and pointless noise. And you know whats best about people like me? The things we do choose to say are usually things of value and are positive. We dont just blat loud dumb stuff at a constant rate so we can feel liked lol

  • @blakejames9743
    @blakejames9743 Před rokem +14

    Being shy has nothing to do with authenticity. In fact, you're trying to paint naturally shy people as being "inauthenitc" is your insecurity towards people you can not understand. It's one thing to think they're "interesting" sure, but your title includes an actual emotion towards someone that isn't even paying attention to you, and you can't stand that. That's called insecurity.

  • @silentsoulamaze
    @silentsoulamaze Před 3 lety +93

    Being an introvert is so scary in this world. People hate me when I mind my own business and staying to myself. It so fucking annoying

    • @glenn5517
      @glenn5517 Před 2 lety +20

      Yeah its even harder at work

    • @snoozyq9576
      @snoozyq9576 Před rokem +14

      yep. it certainly is hell at work.

    • @yakzivz1104
      @yakzivz1104 Před 10 měsíci +2

      yeah I have introvert qualities and I don't care what anyone thinks.

    • @sigmasiren777
      @sigmasiren777 Před 5 měsíci

      ​@yakzivz1104 what I'm noticing is even when u don't care, they will try to make you care by harassing u.

    • @silentsoulamaze
      @silentsoulamaze Před 4 měsíci

      @@sigmasiren777 I was harassed for a year and a half straight, everyday

  • @hkd8328
    @hkd8328 Před 2 lety +30

    No they aren’t a shell. Shy people take time to open up but once they do they are just as extroverted with you as the next person. If a shy person remains shy around you it’s means they aren’t comfortable with you.

  • @Overly_nourished_entity
    @Overly_nourished_entity Před 3 lety +32

    People that ramble on is like hearing a dog barking to me lol.

  • @SaysTheTeacher.
    @SaysTheTeacher. Před 2 lety +27

    Now I understand the bible verse which says ''the voice of a fool is known by a multitude of words''

  • @bigcoop3717
    @bigcoop3717 Před 6 měsíci +10

    Basically you’re compensating for something and don’t want to be picked on about it so you’re overly extroverted to appease the group and introverts intimidate you because they don’t need the validation that you seek.

    • @myu5519
      @myu5519 Před 6 měsíci +5

      That’s exactly what I get from this video tbh.

  • @hehwsss5347
    @hehwsss5347 Před 2 lety +323

    You're the kind of person the world doesn't need

    • @magnifique9666
      @magnifique9666 Před 2 lety +19

      FR

    • @cielsushisub5942
      @cielsushisub5942 Před rokem +1

      Tf no

    • @mrcs02
      @mrcs02 Před rokem +9

      Exactly

    • @juliane2102
      @juliane2102 Před rokem +8

      I get that you're upset but comments like that are pretty dangerous

    • @hehwsss5347
      @hehwsss5347 Před rokem +12

      @@juliane2102 for God's sake, please dont look at it from some racist angle cause it's not, she's legit talking bullshit and all I'm saying is she should really change her thinking because the only thing 'dangerous' around here is her mindset

  • @MMCV963
    @MMCV963 Před 2 lety +18

    Hating people just because they aren't the way you want them to be makes you an AH sorry.

  • @gabrielbyrresen1146
    @gabrielbyrresen1146 Před 2 lety +17

    Bro wtf is this

  • @Zydonie
    @Zydonie Před 2 lety +18

    This video is absolutely disgusting, insensitive and offensive. So heartless and rude