Lost Truck, Lost Money, and Lessons Learned: A Real-Life Financial Wake-Up Call.
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I'm almost speechless here. You're a psychologist you're a teacher you're a counselor, you're the one that doesn't get paid enough.
The funny thing is, he pays himself what his lowest paid employee is paid. I remember him talking about that if he can't live off of what he's paying someone then they should be paid more
@@yu-rie he is truly a unicorn and an amazing man
He knows his sh!t.
No, he’s a pater familias.
I would add Preacher/Pastor to that list.
I physically cheered when said "boss, can you help me file for divorce?"
I'm so happy this guy took out the trash and not only got rid of a physically and verbally abusive spouse, but is now happier engaged to someone who sounds like they love and appreciate him! James you're a good dude. Both as a boss, mentor, and a friend to all your employees.
I have severe autism, so I get giggly and childish. I squealed and cheered when the employee said that. Nobody deserve to be abused. It's always a triumph when victims of abuse decide they've had enough.
These are the kinds of stories that can impact people in a positive way!!! Hats off yet again for the kind of content that people need!!
Mee tooo!
I'm also glad that a female abuser, an often overlooked part of the overall picture of DV, actually did get ousted.
Hopefully she was charged but honestly I doubt it. The legal system here is absolutely useless when it comes to handing out sentences to female criminals and even moreso in charging them to begin with.
It's gotta change. I mean this dude came into work every day for a lazy, do-nothing husband beater and she gets away with a mere no-fault divorce to go do it to another man?
That's ludicrous. If a dude was the abuser, he'd never get out with a mere divorce. He'd be in jail and probably forced to pay mounds of money for restitution.
And importantly, it seems like he became more financially wise to prevent the situation from happening again!
In 20 minutes I have gained total respect for you, good sir. Anybody would be lucky to have a boss like you.
Absolutely!
If this guy was my boss I'd wade through a lake of poop for him.
You said it !... Is he hiring ?
I find that bosses are who they are from the employees they have had
'with skills like that she could probably get a job with the government' 😂😂😂😂 I'm dying here he's so on point
I worked for a woman like that, she was making $150k a year as a city manager meanwhile Bank of America took her to court over an almost $15K debt. She got fired for misusing the city credit card, went to another town, got fired from there for the same thing. Not sure what her mental malfunction is.
I was trying to eat lunch and nearly choked at hearing that line
@@brianleeper5737 Misusing the city credit card would have likely sent her to prison in Michigan.
@@mharris5047 This happened in Virginia. I'm *not* surprised that Michigan has stronger laws against corruption than Virginia. I think most states do.
How, to "go on..."? Folks, they have CHOSEN. Do you understand, that if they had their way, you would NOT HAVE A CHOICE?? How can "co-existence" EVER APPLY when the "They", is bound to destroy your freedom, and eventually you?? Diplomacy?? Compromise?? Words for Defeat, my good People.
It isn't that Potato-headed POTUS. It's the whole enchilada. The derelict, lawless and renegade FRANCHISE, known as THE UNITED STATES SERVICE CORPORATION(i.e., the "Federal Government"), must be served Writs, of Mandamus, and Quo Warranto. It is a standing testament, to the treasonous capacities of compromised men. Lawless Act, after Lawless Act, "passed" by past Traitorous iterations of "Congress", buttressed by the lawless "Executive Orders" of the Executive branch, and then blithely overlooked by a supposed "Supreme Court". The entire Franchise, has abused the Constitutional Contracts of the Franchise, and must be remanded to We, the People, through our State Attorney Generals, who have the standing to file these Writs. Period. We can then Vote new "leaders" into position, to begin repealing decades of despotic "legislation", that have seized control of the "free market", early, and often.
YOU WILL NOT JUST "VOTE" YOUR WAY OUT OF THIS, "US CITIZENS". That you call yourselves "US CItizens", shows how much damage was done by the allowance of the formation of the Rockefeller-controlled "Department of Education". Clueless Nation, led by those who bear false witness. As Yahweh Elohim stated: "My people are destroyed, for lack of knowledge.."
Democracy, is a garbage word. The closest thing, We have, to freedom, is a Representative Republic. Sadly, those who have been "selected" to serve, in far too many cases, were little more than shills for the Banksters. What needs done,is a return to COMMON LAW which is LAW OF THE LAND. The reason: These PIRATES, who use admiralty law(Ever notice the US Flag with the Gold Fringes), to commit FRAUD against We, the People, who were ONLY EVER TO BE RULED BY COMMON LAW. The Treasonous Tripe, aka the 14th Amendment, LAWLESSLY "created" a new class, the "US CITIZEN", in direct contradiction to what the Constitution had provided. So many "acts" and "amendments", that have GROSSLY INSUFFICIENT CONSTITUTIONAL BACKING, are now considered status quo, that the UNITED STATES SERVICE CORPORATION, IS DE FACTO.
What is it called, when you tell half-truths, or deceptions, and it costs someone else their money?? FRAUD. What is it, when you tell half-truths, or deceptions, and it costs someone else their life? MURDER. Guess what? The UNITED STATES SERVICE CORPORATION(aka, "the Federal Government") is commiting both CRIMES, EVERY DAY. IF WE HAD LAWFUL, CONSTITUTIONAL OATH-BEARING SHERIFFS, WE COULD HAUL EACH AND EVERY OFFICER, OF THE UNITED STATES SERVICE CORPORATION, WHICH IS CHARTERLESS DUE TO ABUSE OF THE FRANCHISE, INTO COMMON LAW COURT, AND CONVICT THEM ALL, FOR BOTH FRAUD AND TRESPASS.
TRESPASS. These "Officers", of the UNITED STATES SERVICE CORPORATION, need to be hauled into Common Law Courts, and held liable for the Fraud, and Trespass, they have performed, upon State Nationals, of the Geographic location, known as The United States of America. US CITIZENS, are RULED, by the USC, the UCC, and the CFR. Unless you are a physical RESIDENT of Washington, D.C., OR, are a Public Servant, YOU ARE NOT A US CITIZEN, and thank the Maker you aren't, because US CITIZENS, do NOT ENJOY, the Protection of Natural Law Rights, that the Constitution of the United States of America, was Crafted to give.
Bread and Circus?? LEARN YOUR COMMON LAWS, PEOPLE. DEFENSE, IS NOT JUST FOR THOSE WITH MONEY, NEVER WAS. FIGHT FOR YOUR OWN RIGHTS, PRO SE. LEARN YOUR COMMON LAWS....THINK MAGNA CARTA, FOLKS. THINK THE CONSTITUTION OF THE UNITED STATES OF AMERICA, BOTH WRITTEN, IN COMMON(NATURAL) LAW. Few even understand, that LAW, is an acronym, for the Three, Separate Areas of Jurisdiction and Jurisprudence. Land, Air, Water. Land is RULED, by Common Law. "Air", is RULED by Ecclesiastical(Think the Vatican) Law, and Water is RULED, by Admiralty Law. Think of THE OUTRIGHT PIRACY, THAT HAS BEEN COMMITED, EH??
"Religion", was employed HEAVILY by the First Fruits, which were CUT DOWN, by the Elohim, in Jeremiah 4:23. It is the same old stupidity, that the Remnant of Atlantis who established the first few "EgyNope. Voting in national elections, is bread and circus. The Narrow Road, is beginning the process of vetting those who are running for Sheriff. Don't care the County(or Shire). Get it in your head, that where the Rubber meets the Road, Common Law, IS THE LAW OF LAND, PERIOD. Sheriffs, are the Chief Law Enforcement(A COMMON LAW "PRESIDENT") in their County, and ANSWER ONLY TO THE ELECTORATE(Populace of that County). Key Key Key. The Magna Carta(for the UK), and The Constitution, are both Written in Common Law, as they Govern the Land. Legal, refers to either Admiralty Law(The Waterways), or Ecclesiastical Law(Think the Vatican). The introduction, of any matter of jurisprudence, in a jurisdiction other than, the one already prescribed, is PIRACY, and must be Treated as Trespass. Toss in Fraud, for the added LAWFUL KICK, and We, with the Aid of Constitutional Oath-Wielding Sheriffs, can drag Each and Every Officer, of ANY National, State or Local Franchise(or it's subsidiaries), into Common Law Court, Try Them for Trespass, and Fraud, for EVER USING LEGAL PROCEEDINGS, AGAINST THE UNFRANCHISED, COMMON LAW FREE PEOPLE OF THIS LAND. Legal, pertains only to Admiralty, or Ecclesiastical Laws, as they deal with FICTIONAL ENTITIES. LEARN COMMON LAW, TAKE BACK YOUR LANDS.
ptian Dynasties", brought with them, that then the soft-headed Babylonians borrowed. RELIGION IS THE SAME OLD VOMIT, SO DONT BE THE DOG
Remember Mr. Bill Cooper, as well...he lost everything, for the Truth. My Anchor, is the Knowledge, that I Will Be There, to Witness Their Oblivion. That They will be Gifted a One-shot Existence, for their Short-lived Reign of Error(or Evil, if We must) in this Place. That Truly, Noone, is above Yahweh's Law
I was 33, married, paying bills on one income. Marriage counselor tells me let her have a chance to pay the bills. In 3 months the water, gas electric and rent haven't been paid once and there's no money in the bank. It ended in divorce. Decades later, I have an 800+ credit rating, everything is paid. Life is good.
Yeah, I had to let fmr husband pay bills when ill.
Got evicted
Mange money wins
My husband doesn't have to worry about that. I make sure all the bills are paid AND that we budget appropriately. Once a month, we sit down and talk about our finances and how we need to adjust, what we need, and what we can live without. I was taught that its not how much you make, but how much you get to keep.
@@ScarletBrimstone you deserve a gold star
@@animetalk8132why? Im just doing what is expected from any other adult. I know the consequences, so why would I not be responsible?
Lol, i smile every time james casually mentions "my wiveS"....love it
I caught that too.
How many does he have 😅
@@dovaro23772 I think
Current, ex, 2ex, ...or Mormon ?!
@user-nc9hb4pf9x ah... Makes some sense. aah... the Wife and the Ex-Wives.
Got it!!!
In 20 years of being in the workforce, I’ve never seen an employer care for his employees half as much as you do. God bless you man.
... you will hopefully find your great employer never stop being the best as the cream will always rise to the top ... the money will follow ...
you should already know a good employer from just an employer ...
Long time fan. We need common sense people like you in Government.
I worked with a woman that was married to an airline pilot. They were pulling down $280k together, PLUS rental income on multiple properties, and they were in financial trouble
She used to try and get sympathy from me, while I was making $62k. I used to laugh at her.
Yep, my parents are doctors and some of their doctor friends were always whining about being broke despite earning $400k+ (back in the early 2010s). You can't out-earn stupid spending habits.
The amount of things you do for your employees helps restore my faith in humanity
Truth, agreed.
Take care of your employees and they'll take care of you
I love this guy. His story telling is so amazing that I've listened/watched to more septic videos than I ever imagined. So seems to be a good dude and awesome business owner/boss.
If we all had a boss like this it would make not just work but life so much better. God Bless this man
I know many employers that do this for their employees, including myself. I haven't really seen their lives improve much. The folks who's life improves are the ones that take accountability for themselves and make the necessary changes. Ultimately, there's very little the employer can do.
Good Lord, man. Your parents must be so extremely proud of you as a man and as a business owner. I am in awe of your heart, your skills, and your intelligence. God bless you.
His dad was horrible, so I'm not so sure about that
The plum fact that you were willing to help him with his divorce tells me that your a good boss
You're a good guy for giving him that advice. Glad he got his life on track.
I have to wonder what she said that triggered him to ask for devoice in a single sitting as being angry is not the reaction, if its been on his mind for a while. The emotion is usually resignation as they conclude they have to go though with the last step.
I imagine it was she was cheating on him.
This world needs more mentors like you.
I taught economics for 27 years , if I hadn’t retired… I would show this to students!
Put this in freshman orientation!
Picking the wrong women can ruin your life.
@@SGTSLACKASS
Woman... I've been married for close to 50 years. My father-in-law was self employed. He refilled vending machines he placed at swimming pools, hardware stores, and similar places. He retired with over 2 million dollars in the bank. How? Sacrificing and investing. They lived frugally and planned for the future.
But, they didn't teach their children anything about money.
I grew up with a mother who tightly managed money who didn't teach us anything about handling money. Dad was a college professor. Her taught us everything about religion, society, politics, and life skills. But not money.
When I got married I turned the money over to my wife. In 6 months we were in debt. We took years to get out. Then it dawned on me that I'd never had money issues until I got married. I took over all the finances. My wife was thrilled. She became a better wife (and mother) in every way.
It's a very good thing I took over the finances because we've both had serious health issues. I'm recovering from my 27th surgery a little over 3 weeks ago. It'll be repeated on my other hand and there's more coming. My wife is recovering from Red Skin Syndrome (very painful) and has other issues.
I managed to pay off our house, but did something I thought I'd never do; invested in a relative's business, which COVID (actually the government) caused to fold and now we have a mortgage again because of it... I wish I could retire, but now I don't know how I can.
Just ask Prince Harry, any of the Lardashian’s ex-husbands.
Great video. Did I hear him wrong? His “wives”?
@@soonerfrac4611 Wife.
Good on you. Hit her with the facts and didn’t stoop to her level and kept calm. Even helped your employee in more ways than one. I wish I could have a boss like you, love the content
Become a boss like him.
That dude is lucky to not have a kid
I reckon the employee's eyes were opened to some ugly that evening in that office... if not, who knows what else would have happened to him...
@@r.samuelfranks3615 Good managers are entirely too rare. The expression that people don't quit companies, they quit managers is common for a reason. I've quit jobs I enjoyed to ditch a management team.
Some people go above and beyond and there should be more people like you Mr.Butler . Your story helps me keep the faith that whatever we do on this earth matters. Thank you for your efforts.
Oh my god this story was amazing. If there has ever been a great boss on this planet, that day, when you offered to help him with divorce, you were a great boss. I am glad things turned out well for all the people involved except that abusive "wife"
So glad you helped him get out of that abusive marriage. Nobody deserves to be treated like that. Good for him because it's not easy! I hope he has a long and very happy marriage with a woman that treats him well.
Who knows, it might even have knocked some sense into the abusive wife also. It might just take longer for the results.
now some unsuspecting dude is in danger now shame you didn't hang a red flag on that one when she left
Sadly depending on where that money went it may have gone well for the wife too... And she's likely back with another man doing exactly the same thing. She'll die alone after bouncing from husband to husband to husband, but she'll destroy a lot of men along the way.
@@Goodgu3963 you are probably correct, I was just trying to be optimistic. Its hard to change people's behavior. His behavior was not really "changed" as much as he was made aware of how destructive his situation was. Sounds like he is a hard worker, willing to put in the hrs and willing to learn a good trade, he just lacked budget skills. She on the other hand knew darn well what she was doing and milking the situation at his expense. I don't know either person but I wish James employee well as I have sympathy for him.
So what the hell was she doing with all the extra money? Did he not notice all the Amazon packages? Was she intentionally not making his truck payment? Was she hiding the overdue notices from the bank? No kids but couldn’t find a job to contribute? Thank God he divorced before kids came along.
I’m betting the closets at their house was filled with new outfits for her every 6 months or so. Either that, or she was at the local casino every day while he was working, trying to win back the money she lost the day before.
dude they waste money on the most useless junk online, its wild
Doesn't matter. Immaterial. She wasn't paying the truck payment. You pay the bills first, and if you want to strike a match and set fire to the rest that's your business. But you pay the bills first.
I don't get why he let her walk all over him like that, she never finished high school and spends all his husbands money and takes it away? While never going to work? No kids, no mortgage? And she still treats him like crap and has an attitude toward everyone, she must have been spoiled as a child and thinks the world should be handed to her. Emotional and financial leech, she deserves to be homeless for the rest of her life.
@@seriouslyreally5413 But she doesn't get to "strike a match and set fire to the rest" because it's not her money, she did not earn it, material or not.....
What a BOSS! I wish there were more bosses like this in the world 😊
Your videos are great! Not only entertaining...
Thank you.
It is a terribly sad story, as well as uplifting. We live within a strict budget. I have been a stay-at-home mom for 18 years now, raising my daughters. Each time a child leaves home, I get a budget cut for the household. All expenses, like school fees, electricity, etcetera, are part of my budget. It gets paid each month. To such an extent, our electricity bill is paid in advance.
We learned a few things over the past few years. Allways remember: penny wise, is pound foolish. If you need to fix something, buy the best you can. Going cheap can and WILL cost you three times more over time. If you are not sure how to go about fixing something, get someone to do it for you. We learned that the hard way.
"Boss, can you help me file for divorce?" is one of the best things I've heard this week. It sucks he had to go through that but I'm glad he got out. Really shows how good of a person you are for helping him like you did
Didn't he say he was on the phone with his girlfriend? So he's married too or did he misspeak?
As a retired Texas plumber I didn’t know bosses like you existed. You have a heart of gold my man. I hope your employees appreciate you.
Your employees are fortunate to have a boss and friend like you. I am so happy your employee is happy and engaged. God Bless.
That boy is so lucky to have you as a boss. Many would have let him flounder and flame out. But there's method to your madness. You have a valuable employee for life. Win-win!
I hope you younger viewers are listening to this because it's absolutely 100% true. You can't out earn wasteful spending and never stay with anyone that doesn't love and respect you.
Never have I heard the story of my second marriage told so succinctly. Luckily, it only took me 8 months to figure out my bipolar psychotic ex-con female was never going to stop trying to prove her balls were bigger than mine. And luckier, I also found someone who checked all the proper boxes and our 30th anniversary is coming up next month.
jeez, glad ya escaped that one brother
Third time's a charm, brother. Congratulations!
My ex was just a train wreck that I never should have married, drugs, theft, cheating. Divorced her less than a year after getting married, she is now a guest at the Department of corrections.
I applaud you for not only teaching the job but life lessons along the way.
Great video!! Thank you!!!
James, love the low key flex of how well your employees are doing compared to the rest of the industry. 💖💰
Ain't getting rich, but it's a life without worry plus some fun if you are careful. I make about the same and I really don't need a budget, I buy what I want and do normal saving for, like, a new motorcycle, because I can save it in pretty short time and not finance it.
Western NC shouldn’t be a high cost of living area either.
when your business is successful, you pay employees what their worth and you can afford, not the going rate. each time you hire, you're making a future investment in your business, even if they're unskilled when you hire them. we're a very small garage, rural and only 2 bays, so our need for employees is very limited. by the time our former apprentice left us, fully trained and licensed, he was paid more than average. we were sad to lose him, but he got a job offer and a chance to raise his skills, so we encouraged him to take it. we're now talking with him, 2 years later, about him buying our garage and taking over, so my hubby can retire.
James. The world needs more employers like yourself.. you seem like the type of boss that id actually want to work.
I would wake up excited to go to work for a man like that.
James is the real deal entrepreneur that wants his employees to have high morale because he knows it will result in better quality, customer satisfaction, profitability. A true success no matter what the elites say. Of course in the northeastern U.S., California, Oregon, Washington- James would be portrayed as a monster.
You are a blessing James,absolutely love hearing you lay it straight.
I needed to hear this. Thank you sir.
My older brother was in a relationship like this in the 90s. It was more mental and financial abuse than physical abuse. My brother is a sound guy and used to travel with some of the biggest bands of the 80s and 90s. He went on tour about 3 months after they got married and was sending his paychecks home so she could pay the bills. She worked as well, but my brother was the main breadwinner. He came home after 8 months, and he was broke, and his condo was in foreclosure. I dont know where the money went, and neither does my brother, but we know she spent $4500 on Christmas gifts for her family. My brother sorted the foreclosure out and filed for divorce. Her mother had the audacity to say that my brother should sell the condo and give her daughter half the money. My brother laughed at her.
Good on your brother. My uncle got a smooth talking lawyer and got his ex-wife to waive alimony and splitting the property for a lump sum. She then blew through that in 3 months and laughably lost the case suing him for more. Plus she had to pay attorney fees.
"Gold digging whores" - Billy ginger ballsack
You're a good man, James, for how you take care of your employees. I hope I was 1/2 the supervisor you are.
I thought of something I was told years ago by a fellow business Owner. "If you don't take care of your employees, someone else will, Without good employees, you don't have a successful business."
@@chrisanthony579 As a past business owner (I am now retired), I agree. My father and I paid better than any other employer in our business (logging), we had good employees and likely paid more than the local Sheriff paid cops as we even had a former cop working for us.
@chrisanthony579 absolutely right. They teach you the same thing in the military.
Sir, you have consistently shown me what I need to be to be a better person. Never compromise on your values, because they are helping so much more than just the people that work for you. I really do appreciate these videos
Great story! Thank you
It's so true about what you said about the amount. A friend makes close to 1/4 million a year and his wife (who doesn't work) "handles the finances". He checks the mail one day and finds a letter from the bank detailing how their house is going into forbearance due to payment not being made for the last 5 months. When he asked her about it, she got mad and told him not to worry about it. He started actively looking at their financial situation and was shocked. He's earned pretty much $1million in 4 years and had $12 in their bank account. She couldn't account for the first $40k he had made this year. He has taken over the finances and filed for divorce. It's not an income problem, its a spending problem.
It's not what you make, it's what you do with it. I was very lucky to learn that at a very young age !
Its the reason why most lottery winners often end up more broke than before.
Poor thinking leads to poor pockets.
He would always keep an eye on the account
I love that when you own the home you drop the insurance, meaning that when is finally all your money, you are prepared to lose it...
that one struck me too. the insurance is only a few hundred bucks a year usually unless you got a mansion.
I would bet it’s a paid for mobile home. The insurance on those after they are 10+ years old is stupid high for the coverage.
What State do you live in where insurance is only a couple of hundred dollars? I'm in Fla. And carry no insurance but on high ground, never flooded, ben through a dozen hurricanes. Only danger would be fire, helps the house is brick. My niebor just retired and is thinking of dropping because his insurance has doubled in the last 6 years. Now nearly 4k per year.
Just. FANTASTIC!! Thank you so much in MANY ways!!!
Amen, brother. Had to learn that lesson, and now I preach the same lessons.
James, the new Renaissance man. Multi-language, small business owner, uses words like congruent, helps people in life and money yet his skill is in storytelling. Well done sir.
if anyone deserves 100 million subscribers, it's this guy. The stories are great and the life lessons are amazing.
Excellent!! I learn something every time I pop in.
I think his math class is showing through, though I love it as we all really can understand a higher level of word usage than the t.v. gives us credit for. We can all also talk in very long run-on sentences just so we don't have to push 'shift' to type a capital letter. 😊
Excellent story well told.
James, I wish you and your employees all the success in the world.
Good work, keep these stories coming and thank you.
Pete
What about cromulent ?
Another great story. I was told by an Army Recruiter just as I left for basic, remember these 10 two letter words- “If it is to be, it is up to me “. You made the point and the young man is on his way.
Bravo, sir.
Spot on. What a great video!
You sir, know how to tell a story. You had me listening the entire way, and I learned quite a bit from you. Thank you for the work that you do!
A person like her, it doesn’t matter what their income is, they’re just gonna blow through it.
James Butler, your combination of wisdom, communication skills, street sense, mentorship, hustle, intelligence is extremely rare and f’ing refreshing.
Little Miss "I spend my husband's salary" likely found herself another victim... 🤦
Solid advice. I'm glad this video popped up on my homepage
I love the things you put out. Life lessons are sometimes a tough thing to put into words but you do it well.
Robert Heinlein once said, "if you want to make people angry, lie to them; if want to make them livid with rage, tell them the truth".
Heinlein is a favorite writer of mine.
I'll always like a Heinlein quote.
The best part of the story was James was able to walk his employee through the thought process so the man would understand that his wife was totally doing him wrong. It's bad enough that she was physically and emotionally abusive, but she was also deliberately wrecking the finances. I'll bet she had very nice clothes, makeup etc, while not making his truck payment. Loved the end of the story.
or she had a drug habit like meth or something
This was by far one of the greatest videos and life lessons I've ever had the pleasure to experience. Bless your fricken soul dude.
Great story you shared!!
I did not realize how much my marriage was like this guy's marriage until it was all over. I took crap I should not have for many years.
Note to all business owners, James is the text book definition of a great boss.
no doubt.
Dammm straight on that comment!!!
Mr. Butler I luv this video and will be sure to share it. 🌻👍🌻🤟🌻
Great boss. Good job and a good out come. Thank you for the video.
I hope this message gets out to a ton of people. I've seen this many times in my life and it's hard to watch a hard working person struggle because they have the wrong person in their life.
It hit home with the struggling part not due to my wife she actually try's her best to do what she can it's hard for her to find work due to medical problems and my jobs is weather dependent pays good but they also just cut us to only 40 hours a week so it hurts a lot
I went through this same thing. Thank God we weren't married. Now I am married to the most wonderful woman. She works from home and I am a plumber. We both do our part. I voluntarily pay a little more of the bills because I make more but she pays for all or our entertainment and groceries. Spending the money is not an issue. It's the fact we both contribute and it works great.
@@nuduce123 that's kinda how my wife and I do things and it really takes 2 incomes these days if you want to have anything nice and go enjoy life along the way. I'm glad you found a good woman!
Dude, I needed this video 25 years ago when I was in a marriage just like this. I didn't make that kind of money. I could have if I wasn't with her. I was offered a job with the post office, and she never told me about it. I later found out she was intercepting my mail, too. I was stuck in a cook job because she would stop me from ever getting calls, when we did have a phone, with job offers. It was down hill from there. Thank God, I don't have to live with roaches anymore. The rest of those 35 years I had to pay child support that kept me even poorer. I got cancer in 2007 and that was the end of my working life. I got on Social Security Disability in 2009 because of the cancer treatments. Now I get more money per month than I ever did when I was still paying child support. I am remarried and the happiest I have ever been in my life.
This is why people should never get in a relationship or have kids. You never know what could happen or know what people’s intentions are. I’ve heard so many horror stories of marriages gone wrong, and it could never be me. I’ve ruined quite a few relationships by telling them marriage is never and will never be an option, but I do not care.
@@yammmit Never have kids? Never have THE most Rewarding experience of you Lifetime? It isn't for You, Sir, but people in general
want this kind of life, where they can Love, Grow, and Prosper, and instill the same Beauty in their own Children. Legacy.
I hope you are feeling well and healing. Thank you for sharing your story. 😀
Good advise and thanks for sharing.
Right on!! You Rock!!❤
This is both a story about money management and the importance of having real friends in your life.
Love what ya did for him. So glad there were no kids involved in this situation.
wow great way to handle that situation!! well played!!!
dude. i just love your way with words. every time i watch one of your videos i leave in stitches.
Twenty years ago that was me. I trusted without question because I believed in her word. Then, when things started to go wrong and I questioned, all Hell broke lose. I was that fool that drank the cool aide laced with snake oil because the sex was okay. My advice, lonely is far better than miserable. Now I have a dog & a cat and they are gloriously happy to see me every day when I come home.
I hear that!
They're not all like that. Better luck next time.
My last job lasted 29 years. I wasn’t paid what the industry standard was for what I did. However… the job was stable and flexible. I invested 15% of my wages during that time in a 401k. We took nice vacations, put our 2 kids through school, made charitable contributions annually, were generous with family and friends, I retired debt free, with a nest egg. It’s not what you make, it’s what you do with it! Work smart.
Yes and no that only applys once you hit a certain level. Like think about it today rent what it is food etc. If you got paid a dollar a day would that apply? How about 50 dollars a day what about 100 or 200. End of day no amount of "managment" can eliminate need for food or rent. It can lower it 10-50% depending on circumstances. But if all the best deals in town and cut everything but essentials and it adds up to 2500 and you make 1800 doesn't eliminate it.
You definitely made enough tho
Non-union and same job for 29 years? You're out of touch with today's cost of living.
Dude I love your stories and what you do for the people around you.
Hell yeah what a great ending and message.
This guy does so much for his employees... A lot of people should watch his videos and learn from him.
I asked his employees
LOL
I think he likes the fact that he can see an issue, that to him and many of us is easily fixable by exercising nothing more than a little common sense. Sometimes it can be tough to see your way out of a problem when you are too close or emotionally involved in it. He can see what the employee couldn't see. I am willing to bet he knew the "fix" to this employee's problem long ago but since he doesn't like to get involved UNLESS HE IS ASKED or the problem ends up affecting him and his business, he remains silent aka "minds his business".
@@thomasjoseph5876honestly he took the correct approach to this too. He recognised, acknowledged and presented the problem to the employee, then stepped back to give him space to make his own decision. But he stepped up when the employee asked for help. Such an amazing boss. ❤
Paternalism is a thing.
The fact that you went through this entire video without calling that woman every expletive in the book is a testament to your professionalism.
I work at a factory rn and i am one of their most consistent and versatile forklift drivers, can do any job they ask and im always early on time and eager to learn more and I pick up more than my fair share of overtime. However every time ive applied to an advanced position its always been someone else, seriously considering going to a different job and leaving them even more short staffed than they are currently.
Middle management midwits never promote the competent guys, because they can't find a replacement for them.
You committed the 'cardinal sin' of being too good at what you do and they don't want to lose you in that position.
The only way out is to ask for a raise that you would be happy with or find work elsewhere.
I was in the same situation a few years ago where I was too good at what I did. The boss came up to me and told me all I had to do was apply for the promotion and I'd get the job. I did not get the promotion and I left. A year later I was making 3x more an hour with significantly better benefits.
Same here
@@QargZer Yup... if they won't move/promote you higher up for more pay, they have to pay to keep you where you are...
My dad always said, “If you can’t be replaced, you can’t be promoted.” That’s your situation, I bet. Good luck with your new career! 🍀🍀🍀
Thanks for the story.
You speak from experience, most small business owners have been through this personally in some form or fashion, and this defining characteristic is what's sets us apart in how we do business to seek a greater outcome than just the simple transaction for services. I'm in a similar boat with an employee who's in need of a more reliable vehicle, and being in my line of work as an auto repair shop owner, I bought something that need fixed, and gave hit to him, bc his finances don't allow a car payment, I'd rather lose the few grand giving a car away, then to lose 10x that money on the loss of productivity. And it's a win win, he doesn't have the pressure of another bill added,and it keeps my work atmosphere clean, and positive. Kudos to you man.
mentioned it to my WIVES" and THEY said...
dude.. you in a plural marriage....?
would love to hear about that..
I love stories with a moral.. and a happy ending.
good job.
I heard this too. And would like to know also
My guess is that his ex-wife works for him and he says it like that for fun.
@@ChrisMeade18
good point..
cause he doesn't have the frazzled look most polygamous men have .. lol
and he appears to have too much insight and common sense to have more than one wife..
Well done sir. You helped that man turn his life around and did it all with dignity. I hope his ex wife sees this video.
This was a great story and you’re a great boss.
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Thank you Sir I needed that! Appreciate it. I am going to reevaluate myself.
Great video. I was just like your employee 25 years ago. Physically and emotionally abused, financially strapped. If I made $1500 a month my wife spent $1700. It was awful. Divorce is painful but necessary. I am now doing much better, and am happily married to an awesome woman.
You're a good man, Mr. Butler. Not only are you a boss, you're a great mentor.
Wow, you held me for 20 mins ! Great story, perfect delivery and factually on point!! Well done!!
I thoroughly enjoyed this video! Thanks for sharing!
A master story teller can make a situation happening to millions of people so captivating.
I love how you say master story tell!!! Truth is I think I suck at talking. I this video took 4 days and 8 hours of recording to get it right, because I am really not that good at talking. But I appreciate your comment, and its nice to know the time paid off.
@@JamesButlerWellAndSepticLifeyou are a great talker. Love the blunt truth and no matter what you keep a straight face. We need more stories with your brother too. I was married to a fake narcissist woman for way too long. Now I am with a loving woman that believes the relationship is a 2way street.
@@JamesButlerWellAndSepticLife All great works take effort and hard work. It doesn't mean the person doing it sucks at it.
@JamesButlerWellAndSepticLife But, my friend, you make it look easy. That counts for much.
Now if I could just bottle up your story and administer it to some friends.....
@@JamesButlerWellAndSepticLife any decent writer knows the value of editing, and your efforts paid off. It may not have been a graceful process to make this video, but it was a smooth, effortless thing to listen to, which is the standard for any creative product. You made 15 minutes go by quick, and I could've listened to 15 more. Good job.
James your the best employer ever. My employer does everything to screw us, the employees.
Wow what a story so glad you helped that guy out in such a short period of time. Life Coach.
Nicely done! So many people need to hear something like this.
You are definitely the weirdest sewer contractor king that I've ever heard of.
You're brilliant, you're very level headed and I think you'd fit in quite well wherever you might choose to go.
You're definitely not stereotypical.
However you got to where you are, I'm thinking you probably pulled yourself up by your bootstraps and made it happen by sheer determination.
You've made yourself into quite an admirable man.
Congrats, your hard work has definitely paid off and then some.
The world needs about 100 million more of you! 😊
I love how you are simultaneously the sweetest and bluntest person I've ever "met". Never change.
Perfect way to put it.. he'd probably be walking around with a black eye all the time if he couldn't quickly defuse anything he gets into :D
All great advice!
Great story sounds like a few families I know.
Great explanation of the events
And thanks for being a real friend to this young you changed his life
This man deserves, at least, a nomination for "best boss of the decade." Keep up the amazing work you do in all things.
The world needs more bosses like james
Man, your rmindset and how you work is amazing
This is a great story. Once again sir you are a amazing boss to have. Divorce was all dude could uave done to get out of that. Thank goodness he didn't have kids with the witch. An im glad he still working and doing better daily. The wrong woman will definitely drag life down.
At least the story got the ending it deserved!
new favorite youtube channel. love it
Love this! Soooo true!
Employer of the year, for real. Very well done sir.
Your employe sounds like a good man that deserved much better than that evil person he was married to. I’m happy that he’s happy now and found a woman who loves and treats him as much as he does for her. Also he is very lucky to have a boss that cares about his employees beyond the job site.❤