Why Men Don't Marry Non-Virgin Women: Exploring Insecurity and Feminism
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Brother Gabriel make sure your so called alpha male course is on looking at issues from deeper perspectives and from the angles of both sides than just trying to blame women for everything and speaking like a red piller gynocentric I'm sure women deserve at least look at things from their angle too before blaming them on everything and making them the villian and men as saints so please 🙏 brother Gabriel give us a fair point In the name of almighty Allah.
Glad he's addressing women who have been ran through and now can't pair bond.
Huge respect to you brother Gabriel, you tackle these subjects with good manners and in a humble manner, Jazak Allahu Khairan
I have been watching a few of your videos, and I wanted to say thank you. Thank you for tackling very real issues in a very respectful way. May Allah bless you. ✨
HELLO GABRIEL 🫂 Soy Española 🇪🇸y me gustaría ver tus vídeos en español, sería posible . Gracias ❤️
Bro gabriel one thing you need to understand is wheather we women have money or not we are always looking for a man that will be our companion and good life partner even if we don't have any money if a husband is not treating us like a life partner that won't stop us from getting out of the miserable marriage.
Being touched in your mind is waves better than being touched in your private parts
Sounds gay
True.
And yet... You'll find out that being "touched in the mind" can mean 50% overlap with the problems found in "being touched in ..."
Hyper-s3xualized social media, pron, films, music. =
Conditioning for infidelity, selfishness, brokenness
Au'dhu billah
بارك الله فيك ارجوا الترجمة العربية
Trueeee. @7:34
Assalamualaikum a Muslim man looking for a wife anyone interested revert or born Muslim his 40yrs old jazakaAllahukhair
I love the balance in opinions! Neither blaming women only, nor blaming men only rather exposing the issue with both in a calm and respectful manner.
Please gabriel make a translation to arabic
For many men, it may seem more advantageous and relaxin to marry a virgin woman. I guess we shouldn't obsess about virginity. Unfortunately, some men going deeper with women's pasts too much. There is no need to reveal a sin forgiven by allah, but there is no need to be a weak man too. Now we live in such a time that Muslims have forgotten the beauty they once had. The standard for a Muslim man was to be able to take care of more than one wife. Whether this happens or not is not the question, but in the past the capacity of a Muslim man was at this level. A Muslim woman, on the other hand, was proud of being a independent woman who loved her husband. I am personally hopeful for the future. hope we will have better days again than before.
@jshsywhsksoaj it’s obvious… innit?
ALLĀH.capitalize the letters
@jshsywhsksoaj Dude, his comment has a great balance. Just read between the lines 👀
Punishment for a Haram past is death.
@heyhihiye Agreed. But same goed for women. I prefer my future husband to be a virgin.
If a man has a preference in marrying a virgin woman he is insecue? but if as woman had preference in a man such his height or finance etc. she is called empowered/go getter. Clown world. Reason for marrying a virgin for the most part is because its gives the man the best probably chance for the marriage to work no matter how many tomes the man was in a marriage.
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However the man needs to do work. LOL if a man has money he is automatically a 10/10. So for the men if you worked on yourself never settle and do not take on another man leftovers, you never know she might of been aplha widowed. But if you do just know all the facts before going in.
Other men's leftover!!!! Please tell your mom if she is you're father's leftover and just a disposal object who has no value whatsoever.
Muslims haven't evolved to have these kinds of conversations yet.
@@rosemarie6347 LOL my mom is the one who taught me to never look at these women. But it doesn't matter. Other man can have these women just not me. MEN are allowed to have preferences.
@@thedon8384 no one cares about your preferences but don't dare to call other women leftovers while trying to hide your manhood insecurities.
@@rosemarie6347 Clearly you do care or would not have replied to me. And me having preferences and not being afraid to voice them makes me the opposite of insecure.
*Because not cause.
Ar fi de mare folos daca ai făce asemenea videoclipuri în romana. Soțul meu arab și musulman ma luat creștină și cu un copil din alta relație. Avem 10 anii de casatorie și Lhamdullilah m-am convertit din propria voința și practic de 2 anii religia islamica.
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Un adevărat bărbat căsătorește NUMAI o muiere virgină!
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Româncele sunt foarte nebune femei și rele! 👎
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O muiere /nevasta bună rămâne cu soțul ei.
În vremuri bune și rele.
Și nu sa divorța ca cum tu ai făcut.
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O muiere bună face ce spune bărbatul.
@Gicybb Jcybh I am a Muslim now so of course my children's are Muslims lhamdullilah
Da mai Mihaela dar tu trebuie sa înțelegi ca sexul exte celmai intim lucru care se poate întâmpla între un bărbat și o femeie și este mult mai intimp pentru femeie deoarece bărbatul is bagă organu in ea și nu invers. Eu unu nu vreau o non virgina nu am so simt niciodată ca pe nevasta-mea sau jumătatea mea .😊
@@Zamolxes-eg5yvif a woman doesn’t have a kid, or has never been married before but not a virgin, the deen allows her to get married as a virgin. She shouldn’t expose herself. Be chaste and you will get your virgin. Screw around and you’ll get a fake virgin!
At what age will a man be unlikely to find a virgin lady to marry? By the way, most European people are encouraged to lose their virginity at a very young age!
An east Men shall Take an east woman.
I don't know if this happened in Muslim countries, but in my country the girls, you could say, some virgins are very crazy, not all of them, but their way of thinking is too open minded. many divorced women and mothers of adolescents are often old school, we don't get divorced many times, in my country many are single mothers, men do not commit themselves and only use women. so sometimes it's not just the women's fault.
Ofcourse nothing is the wmn's fault. It's always the mn's fault. Typical wmn you are. 🙄
Women are always victims. Don’t forget that
Not interested in a woman who have bin hit by other brothers. Too many slags and revert slags on the market.
Thank you for the video brother.
I do want to point out a thing though: While not *every* woman who is a virgin is mentally uncorrupted, it's simply a matter of probabilities: The older a woman is and the more partners she has had, the more likely the chance that she has been corrupted, damaged or abused in some form. This creates trauma in a woman, or at the very least unrealistic expectations for the next husband, because women tend to - more than men - grab the best features of every partner they had and then project all of those best features onto the new "dream husband". He must be as tall as my first husband, as handsome as my second, as loving as my third...
If I had a son, knowing what I know today, I would of course strongly encourage him to aim for a virgin woman - but purity and the deen is more important of course. So it's still a case by case situation. Jazak Allahu Khairan
As a Divorce it was Opposite...PLEASE DONT BE LIKE THE EXES. Never heard Sisters saying the New Husband should be like the Ex...There is a Reason why the Ex is an Ex...for sure not because the Wife was so happy with them. Everytime Sisters searched a new Husband they made sure he is different then the Ex. I dont know where this is coming from that Women comparing exes. Never heard of that, except when the New Husband was a Monster compared to the Ex.
Just saying Men are doing the Same. My Ex wanted me to be a Copy of his Ex while i m an Individual Person and was completly different then her in terms of Makeup and Clothes.
@@susanneal6063 u shouldn't have gone for a guy with an ex then
@@susanneal6063 May I ask: why did you or he divorce?
@@LazyPepe2359 His Ex was not the Problem. It was his Jahiliya. Thats why im so confused when Brothers like Ali and Gabriel say Women who have a Past, it has high Konsequenzes for them. My Ex admitted towards the End of Marriage the Reason why he was chasing Sisters for Polygyny, was because he in Jahiliya never had the same Face in front of him. He needed always new things. Even Brothers said to him his Behaviour is not normal.
Also i was married before so i was not like "Judgemental" i just saw his huge beard and Sunnah clothes and Naive as i was i thought its gonna be a nice Marriage.
@@Rankhole123 In end it was because i could not be Kim Kardashian or Jennifer Lopez with the Huge Butt which lead him to not give me my Rights towards physical contact and i was sick of always beeing fearfull of what comes next? Does he repeat chasing sisters in Facebook who themself wear skinny jeans while i was wearing Niqab? Does he command Brothers to look for Sisters for him while he did not give me the rights? By the way i also had to pay for everything he was without Job and didnt intent to find one.
Taken from the IslamQa website, supervised by Shaykh Muhammad Saalih al-Munajjid:
As for worrying about the fact that she had another husband, and they did together what a man and wife do, this is an idea that is worthless. What is off-putting for a man with dignity is if a woman soiled herself by having haraam intimate relations. As for that which Allaah has prescribed and permitted for His slaves, there is no reason it should be regarded as off-putting!
Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning):
“It may be if he divorced you (all) that his Lord will give him instead of you, wives better than you ___Muslims (who submit to Allaah), believers, obedient (to Allaah), turning to Allaah in repentance, worshipping Allaah sincerely, given to fasting or emigrants (for Allaah’s sake), previously married and virgins”
[al-Tahreem 66:5]
Allaah says that there is blessing in marriage to a previously married woman as much as in marriage to a virgin.
No he doesnt. Prophet Muhammad encouraged us to marry virgins. You are only copy pasting a portion form ialamqa.
Islamqa CLEARLY says it is bstter to marry virgins
@@taimurahmad I’m not talking about virgin men marrying non virgin women.
I'm sure many women are going through abuses physical emotional financial psychological abuses toxic relationship lack of sexual satisfaction infidelity bad treatment gabriel you didn't mention any of this you just think divorce is a hooray for women they will just wake up and desire it.
Yes very frustrating that nobody is mention this. Its like all of sudden none of this Problems exist and all Women are just divorcing for the sake of Feminism. Are they Blind? There are Sisters who get beateb till blood and divorce. Then this Brothers say well you take extrem examples...This Problems you mentioned is not the Minority Problems but the Majority Problems. I rarely heard of evil Women want destroy Husband and went into Divorce* for no reason. Also "they are to independent to stay married with you" sounds like they are angry that the Women is able to move away from abusive and Unhappy Marriage. Instead of beeing Happy that you have a high life quality. Where i life Women cant divorce even with getting beaten up cause no gouverments funds and the Familys dont want their Daughters back with 10+ Kids and so they pressure them to stay with the Husband. The Husbands have no Problem if the Wife is Evil he marrys another one. I feel this Western Brothers are Delusional in some Aspects.
That’s called the typical definition of being emotional and lacking logic. You need to compare it with the past and then you will understand that it’s not mistreating of women that has increased lately but has decreased.
@@susanneal6063 You western wmn are the deluded ones in reality
It is actually because they are rewarded for it. They get half of the mans wealth and the children as well. Modern Wmn are deluded into thinking that if their husband doesn't allow them to marry another husband, then he is toxic/abusive etc. It's pathetic.
سلام عليكم و جزاك الله خيرا..
So he should be looking for a virgin.
Simply like that..
Yes but sisters which not virgin complaint for that part
Well man is defferent build in the buddy and mind
Dont think like females
People need to understand man s organ is deferent from women s organ
Women s organ changes when she not virgin
The man s organ never changes
Im
Not saying man shouldnt be virgin
But in man brain when he see women not virgin is man nature he doesn’t feel comfortable
If he can take that than ok
@@Pajtim2023 yes..
And through out History it's been like that naturally when Society was more building values built on our Deen including men ..
Masculinity isn't about running around with bad girls then marry a good woman.
I see this Attitude here and there .
I am living in Egypt.
@@aminahbergliotrolsdorph7557 Good wmn should increase their standards and shouldn't get married to such mn with a past.
@@user-ir7og3lx2d every one is free to see what's most important to them
A true man marry only a VIRGIN!
This is Sunnah!
Brother Gabriel, I have one question if woman divorce more because today "they do not need Men", what does it really mean if it really is the only reason, then maybe some Man should start making a difference. I try to explain better could it be that if today financially a lot of woman are secured by themself they now in first instance do not marry any more for "need" but for companionship. Could it be that Man are still there focusing to much on the "I want to be needed part"? and lacking in simply being a good Companion. Is it all just because of the Woman? What do this 70% tell us about the Man in general. When there is a divorce it is always some responsibilty on both parts. Am I wrong? As a Woman I can garanty you that if a Woman declares that she dos not love her Husband any more it is mostly out of respect, to not give details out. It takes a lot to take a Woman to the point to not love her Husband any more, Netflix is not enough.
Nonsense. You're just making excuses for your beloved f'em'i'n'ist sisters.
Wmn have been deluded into thinking they deserve the top 10% of mn therefore they divorce their husbands for the smallest things. Shame on you for trying to justify it!
Why are you saying 'Companion' not Husband ?????
@@curiouscat5229 because everyone can be a husband but some can also be a companion that makes the difference
@@Rowena410 A husband by default is provider, protector , mentor , supporter , the most intimate companion a women can have.
@@Rowena410 Even a woman can be a companion. So why don't you take a woman as a companion??
Only a man can be a husband and a husband is much more than just a companion.
Sometimes a woman can be divorced five times and be a good person and can be virgin and be corrupt so all the population are not the same as muslim just pray to have a good wife that Will give you tranquility.
If someone makes 5 accidents, are they a good driver 😂
@@rachid9924 maybe is lacks of good practicing muslim men now a day
@@anonymousanonymous870 Everyone is responsible for their own actions .
Woman can't blame men for their own faults and shortcoming
Your stat doesn't apply to the muslim community. Be carrefull with the numbers.
I think he is talking about western Muslim women who are brain washed by feminism. I am Somali and even our Somali women in Sweden and Europe are effected. Btw i grew up in Somalia and Sweden and the difference is crazy. there are still good western Muslims but they are few in numbers meaning those who don't follow man made laws and ideology. hope u understood my point. god bless.
So what laws do you follow in Sweden,
It is not about insecurity.
Why would we choose someone who has failed a marriage 5 times . When we can choose an untouched girl
You mean a young lady who’s heart wasn’t broken.
@@thecuriousapple exactly.
Those things like bodycount, zinaa, failed marriages they all matter
@@rachid9924 wait, there are Muslim arab girls who do zina???
@@thecuriousapple unfortunately, yes there are. especially when they go to the west. and even in muslim countries.
@@rachid9924 WHAT 😱 never in a million years would I think arab women would do that…. is it across all Arab countries or specifically certain countries.
Wcs
I'm sure women don't just file for divorce without a legit reason like you claim bro gabriel some women are suffering in silence no one is hearing them out the only time people hear them out is if they filled for divorce they began to put the blame on them and refused to see things from their perspective and reason with them on what prompted them to want to leave the marriage.
Some are filing for divorce for real reasons, however, the majority are doing it for petty reasons.
One thing young brothers forget to cover in their videos is to be kind to your spouses.
And brother many women get divorced now due to abuse and neglect. Please live in the real world and cover this.
Why does Feminism arise in our community? Because brothers deny sisters their rights in Islam and have harshness towards sisters.
Nonsense. You should change your name to "apologetic muslim".
Spoken like a true feminist.We need to bring back sharia and put women where they belong and encourage polygamy.All these problems would go away.
Virgin good true believers women only for virgin good true believers men!!!
The fornicator does not marry except a fornicator or polytheist, and none marries except a fornicator or a polytheist, and that has been made unlawful to the believers. Surah 24 verse 3 An-Nur
Exactly. Virgin men have every right to want a virgin woman.
Bro gabriel if men are thinking divorced women have been torched five times in five marriages then divorced which is totally halal to be a divorcee and get married so women need to be saluted for been in a polygamous marriage where you know your husband is presently sleeping with another woman called his wife so if he is in insecure about her ex husband torching her before which is halal then he should not think of polygyny the blood that runs in your veins run through her too .
Sister, maybe you don't even know this but you seem to hav very deep rooted problem of feminism. Dont let your wounds take you to misunderstand and question the things that Allah swt has made lawful.
@@rouh
She didn't say anything that indicates she's a feminist. Way to disregard a valid point she made, which is about men disregarding and look down upon how women feel about something, at the same time they feel strongly about the same thing when it affe©ts them. Stop pushing sisters away this is a sIanderous term being thrown around like it means nothing.
@@u-kneeque i understand that she is hurt but just because of our feelings we women shouldn't question the law of Allah. This is what feminist do. I didn't call her feminist tho but she can go there as you can see soo many comments of her on this video. Very triggered.
I lost my respect for Muslim sisters and for our Imams. A Muslim Virgin Man is criticized in a way that he is the worst war criminal in the history just because he wants a wife who has never been touched by another man. They say that her sins are forgiven. What if I sleep with some women and then repent. I will be forgiven too. Sisters argue that man can sleep with women and can have the virgin wife, but if a women do the same there is a problem. Sisters are right but they are supposed to say it to their boyfriends or EX who slept with them. Not to a Muslim Man who is a Virgin. And also, sisters who slept with those bad guys, they made their own choice. What a world I am living in. The bad guys will commit Zinah and good man have to pay the price. I have decided not get married in this life. There is no way to confirm that I will have a wife who has never been touched by another man. Still, I will be criticized. People and relatives will criticize me this time for not getting married.
Dont worry about things like this, coming from a man get married and pray to Allah that he gives you the type of wife you desire
@@user-ur9hs7sf8q No brother, I cannot destroy my life. Death is even better than this.
My beloved brother focus on your deen and akhirah. Focus on learning the religion and do not consume yourself with these thoughts. In Sha Allah Allah will give you the wife you desire.. Have best hope in Allah.There are many untouched women out there.Personally after reading adultery stories I also get this fear but I calm myself down and think rationally and pray to Allah. My heart calms then my brother. In Sha Allah I will make dua for you my brother, for I as a muslim man, my ghairah doesnt allow me to marry a touched women whether through halal or otherwise
Learn your deen! You sound like a simp ! I’m sorry, why do you care what some sisters or imam say? You are free to Marry whoever you wish! I’m a single mother of 3, I’m no longer interested in polygamy cos the brothers who practise polygamy are either users/ advantage takers or womanisers. They want to marry me for intimacy only. Nobody has given me satisfactory reason for marrying me but intimacy. I feel disgusted as a woman. Do I care what any man or imam says? No!!! I know what I want and that’s final!
You better marry whoever you want cos giving up is the trap of shaithan! You will end up committing zina if you are not careful. Plus Nikah is Sunnah!
Just be careful cos I know a brother who was like you but married a sister who wasn’t a virgin, cos islamically if a sister was not married nor has kids, they don’t have to expose their sins and can get married as a virgin.
I know of a virgin who had many boyfriends before marriage. So be careful and make duah and think good of Allah. Don’t give up on your virgin wife!
May Allah make it easier for us all, ameen!
First husband beggin use drugs divorced him, second cheat three times i ask divorced so o am bad woman??
Most likely you married a non practising man by your own choice. All the signs must have been there but you ignored them. These things don't just happen out of nowhere. If you were practising yourself you can normally see though a person in a few minutes of asking them questions. If this is not the case then I'm norry that you had to put up with these stupid men. Look for someone that is actually practising.
@@shadowstorm5261 I agree.
@@shadowstorm5261 there are not much practicing muslim men around the world, otherwise , the ummah wouldn't be in the situation we are in
Why did you marry such men in the first place?Sounds like you were hanging out in the clubs like them 🥺
@@abd5414 No i was not muslim, i was Christian and i don't like clubs, I did't know he use drugs i thought he was just weird.
Come on . Virginity disappeared long time ago . I’m talking about conservative countries let alone to western countries.
You are trying to say practising muslim people are committing zina in muslim countries?
@@deathmarch8354 I can’t say everyone . But it’s very common. You need travel more
@@HMD1986-it’s not 😭😭😭very rare for a woman especially
Muslim women in muslim cluntries majority if them are pute. One kf my frienda who camr to study in the weat was SHOCKED how shameleas muslim women behave in the west.
He clearly told me how zina is ALMOST IMPOSSIBLE in muslim countries and he isnt even that practicing
A once saw a non proper hijab wearing women say that the best gift a woman can give her husband is her chastity
No virginity don t disappear in conservative countrys . Sex is the most intimate thing that can happen bettwen Men and women and sex is much intimate for women than for Men why because in sex Men enter in woman body a non virgin woman is a easy woman with nothing to offer.
From begining to be w#0re was praise and normal in West idea of loyality and virginity come from Asia with Christianity.