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Salam. Your theories are oversimplistic and you have a clickbait-y title that's not good for your credibility. "Man downscales/woman upscales" are the stuff of hookup apps we Muslims should not waste our time in. Men have high intimacy drive and healthy men could do with somewhat lower-in-the-scale women, but in the kuf ar hookup scene. These theories don't have practical implications in traditional marriages and people like you should not push these theories on Muslims the way you are doing. What is an ideal (high value) man and ideal (high value) woman are the same whoever you ask. Men don't want to date down and women don't want to date up. They both want what is ideal. If i put your theory into a scenario of "a 24 year old Muslim guy with great looks and potential (high value) could be interested in the rich divorcee Muslimah of 34 (lower value), but a 20 year old good looking well-raised Muslim sister with no career ambition (high value) would only be interested in the same 24 y.o. guy" - it is unrealistic and is pushing feminism, whereby VIP-treating girls and subjugating boys. Socio-material hypergamy is the stuff of toxic people, seen among both males and females. A lot of men would only want to befriend men who are richer than them for example. Please discourage this toxic mentality, this is not fitra that should be upheld. And something about this phenomenon of females choosing a guy based on photos (and stats). When the choice based on photos alone, the female brain is not designed to make decisions that way. You either have someone else make the decision for her, or you provide her more info she won't have until she sees the man in person. But the culture of apps and websites forces females (into almost a historically unusual position) to #1. Have their choice of a guy #2. based on their photos. That's why this whole modern practice of apps and sites is a disaster, a total failure
Brother and Sisters please dont forget about our uyghurs brothers and sisters.Please do talk about them and if any among you are attending this world cup do raise the uyghur flag and raise awarness there as there will be many people who are still ignorent of china s atrocities on our uyghurs brothers and sisters. Jazāk Allāhu Khayran
Theres a sister who is about 15+ years older than me. Her husband who i used to pray with for ten years passed away from covid. I really like her. We dont talk, but she buys food from the store i work at and helps the owners wife with various things. I asked her sons (raised in america) if she would marry again, but they dont really understand life from islamic pros and cons so they may not take a hint to ask her for me.
May Allah grant you the best in this world and the hereafter and a pious wife whom you will enter jannatul firdous with, Aameen. In'Shaa Allah it'll work out!!
sons are usually jealous brother, unless they are very aware muslims don't expect them to ask their mother. Aslong as the iddah is over ask her directly. Maybe book a session with br. Gabriel also, since ther might be pitfalls for marrying an older women with children that you might not consider
Yes is does exist! I never even for a moment desired another man when I was married to my ex. Even at one point after 10 years of marriage I had lost attraction to him, I did not tell him and I did not look to other men. It’s about fearing Allah and trying to do the right thing
thank you so much . i myself im not married just a19 years old girl tryna learn about marriage because sadly my parent never teach me about this stuff but rather push me to have a career with high salary . i've watched a looot of your videos even the one with T3M . jazakallahukhair brother
One advice to you never become career centric. Our priority should be family and when it comes to progress of lands man should be engaged in tech companies and various other fields and we need sisters for women hospitals and women educational institutions that's all . But don't take it to far that you can't look after children this applies both for men and women.
Wow 😮 SubhanAllah, you're 19 and already looking for marriage. This is a good thing. I wish the young women around me were like that. The one I see are in their 30w and still can't make up their minds. Not to mention they want me to move and go live with them 🤦♂️🤷♂️ why can't I find a young wife in these modern times?
As salami alaikum, I hope you are doing good brother Gabriel. I agree with your points and opinions. I strongly agree with your point on how women prioritise their emotions over other factors when it comes to choosing a husband. In my experience, I was going to consider one brother who was not at the same education level as me yet he was a good and hardworking man.
@@ik5441 Maybe the former, let's think the best of her and not look into her intentions May Allah grant us all spouses who have taqwa and grant us and them jannah, Aameen
@@equityjustice2695 that's a broad question that's impossible to fully answer, I mean I'm reverse why are there so many divorced men also? Who knows in either case?. You are talking about millions of people. People should be free to look for what they want. If you don't want to marry a divorced woman then don't marry one, if someone else does want to then they should. There shouldn't be a social stigma however that's completely against Islam as it was practiced by the early muslims. And it's just cultural nonsense. I have no problem with someone who does not want to marry a divorced woman, I have a huge problem with people stigmatizing divorced woman just like I have a problem with people stigmatizing divorced men. It works both ways. Either way there's nothing wrong with encouraging marrying divorced women or men, after all the early Muslims had no problem marrying divorced people whatsoever, and this is well documented. The first three generations pretty much married and divorced constantly and that's an absolute fact from akhbar and tarikh. If you want to emulate them do what they do, if you don't then do what you want. Everyone is free.but don't claim to want to emulate the first generations if you don't actually do what they do. I have no problem with people living their lives the way they want to and making their own choices of what works best for them. But I have a huge problem with hypocrisy, and I also have a huge problem with seeing people who are divorced as damage goods. You don't know what happened in a marriage that led up to a divorce. And that attitude is from the pagan kufar, it's not an attitude from Islam originally. So if you want to act like a pagan then that's fine, everyone is free. Just be clear about it and don't pretend to be about this Islam business. But if you want to act like a Muslim then have a Muslims attitudes. There's nothing in the deen of the first few generations of Muslims that would stigmatize divorced women and present them as damaged goods. That's some rubbish from Hinduism and Christianity to be honest. If you don't want to marry a lonely divorced sister then no one is forcing you and holding a gun to your head to do so. Being men, if someone encourages something that we don't want to do then we just carry on. We don't get our tails in a bundle and get all prissy about it and emotional and feel triggered. If you don't want marry a divorcee then don't do it. Find the kind of spouse who WILL make you happy in YOUR life. But if someone wants to encourage marrying divorced people and that's not something for you then why would you even care? Unless it pushed an emotional button? And if it did then why did it?
In my experience. A person who settles for a partner in marriage, whether religious or non religious never works. Hence the rising divorce rates. True desire simply cannot be negotiated.
I think men and women are equally hurt if you compare them to someone else. If I brought up how attractive and beautiful I thought Monica Bellucci was and how I wish she would look more like her, she would be just as hurt as if it were to happen to me.
Brothers in islam, let me tell you. I’m married, I don’t look at other men, I make sure my husband knows that he’s my top choice and I’m still very much in love with him after 11 years of marriage. He is the best husband al7amdulillah. Not looking at attractive men is a struggle to me too ya aghi. I wear a khimar and train myself to fight it. We are not robots, we women have eyes too. Dont think it hurts us just a little bit when the husband checks out a woman. I cant get that moment out of my mind years later and i still know what the woman looks like. I just wanted to put it out there. Men and women should stop looking at others, save your spouse from the hurt. I like your videos very much. May Allah reward you.
For me its actually a positive if a woman exclaims that certain actor (or K-Pop artist) looks handsome and attractive. In the days of LGBTQ+, the LAST THING I want is to feel insecure that my wife might have romantic feelings towards her female friends, with whom she spends time with! I understand that in a relationship the emotional bond and love is the most important, so it doesn’t bother me if she says a certain actor is good looking because you can like someone’s looks and not love them. I can find another girl attractive but I still love my wife. And Allah (S.W.T.) knows best.
Nope. She is jealous because introducing another woman into your life is a threat to your 1st wife's quality of life, resources and attention. She doesn't care about you, she only cares what she will lose if you marry a 2nd woman.
This is why I only want to marry a man who I'm attracted to, who I respect, love and can rely on. Then he will be the centre of my life after Allah SWT.
This is why its stupid for women to go really far in their career. They only end up not marrying, and they end up lonely because of their hypergamous nature. They'll now want a man even higher in intelligence, wealth, than before. I don't get these families that send their daughters to university, get debt. She ends up alone.
i dont agree with the fact that its stupid, sometimes its beneficial for the brain specially if its a pious righteous career, like an islamic teacher or a psychologist, but definetly every thing comes with pros and cons if they are happy that way let them, if they arent they will look for a husband or find what makes them happy
@@michelleyamazaki7118 Women don't look for men. They wait on them. They're not us, we're the ones looking. Hardly any career in modern day education is pious. In hospitals you have to wear revealing clothing that show your backside. And shirts. As dentists you have to work in a T shirt. I'm all for this in a Islamic matter, segregated, but it's not where I live.
A university degree doesn't automatically equate to having a high paying job. I got my degree in English literature and I can assure you that most salaries relating to teaching are rubbish, and not worth pursuing.
We aren’t ourselves without what we have anyways. For example, we are Muslims because we have eemaan. When a wife loves her husband for the sake of Allah, that is the best way to love one’s husband.
Dear sisters, if a man comes to you and there is something he has to work on, let him change and prove himself before marriage. It is a condition for nikah and is better than expecting him to change after he marries you.
How did you come up with this? A girl tells a guy to "work on something". And the guy dutifully diligently "works on that something" because he so madly desperately wants that girl. And he goes to the girl again, then she accepts. Would any self respecting guy put up with this total horsec**p?? Stuff like this makes me understand how mgtow is a totally natural response to this nonsense, men are losing interest and checking out. You should instead teach women how to respect men and not take an interest for granted.
@@Pagalchhagal would you marry a lazy woman expecting her to change? By your aggressive response I get you are not Muslim and also the kind of man who needs to be disciplined and ambitious..
@@BlueBlue23 i'm an immensely disciplined principled guy and i was upfront about it with my wife. I can tell you are not someone who would be interested in a guy who has integrity and personality. You would be interested in a doormat reflecting your own low value. Females like you need to learn respect and manners and are a sad product of bad parenting. Br*ts spoiled by fathers like yourself should've got much stricter parenting and disciplining
@@Pagalchhagal you are just coming across as some insecure average chap talking about things you don't know. If you were Muslim you woul fear Allah and discipline your bad thoughts about women. I stick to my words. Many women marry men expecting them to change and this is a huge mistake. I still don't know what triggered you so much. Don't be insecure 😜
@@BlueBlue23 you sound too young to even understand how attractions work. Your parents should not let you use mobile devices this much. And i hope you research Islam which is the truth, the reality. I hope you're guided and become a Muslim
I don't really see it as a double standard because it's equally in a woman's fitrah to look and desire a higher quality man than her husband. It's natural.
What's happening with this ummah, now any wahi has come that it is Permissable to Lie. At the time of our Prophet saw, some has committed zina & said to the Prophet that they have sinned & they want to be purified, so they accepted death penalty Razi ALLAH hu Ann. The beloved waqiah was of women who commits zina, got pregnant, came to our Prophet, Prophet saw said u have child in you, come afterwards, after birth she comes ready to accept death, Prophet saw said your child Is dependent on ur milk, feed the child come later, She so truthful to the Deen of ALLAH swt, may Allah swt give her the highest rank in AL firdous. After 2 year of feeding the child, she come again & was given death penalty. One of the best & loyal women to ALLAH swt & his messenger. Now women or men just need an excuse to sin & when you say to lie, they will say Sheikh Said to lie, so we can lie, & there will be no sin. You are unintentionally encouraging them to lie, & they will Lie whenever they feel they can face the problems. Instead you should encourage Them to avoid sin, & that is the only way for Jannah, person cannot sin & Lie, & expect to be among the sadiqeen. Rasul saw never lied once, even Abu Bakr never lied once in the entire life. Ummah is so affected by Fitna they just need a push from Sheikh, so they can use it as a reference that sheikh said it allowed to do that. Just a generation back our mom's & grand mom was married when they reach puberty just as mentioned in Islam, but this age of Fitna, we gave extreme importance to education, & now marriage for women is delayed from 14 Years to 26-28 years minimum, so what do you expect they all will be virgins men & women, in this hyper sexulised society. Extremely majority will have multiple sex partners before marriage. Hadith is fulfilled already, that zina will be wide spread in end times. Sheikh should encourage or stress upon marrying early as they reach puberty no matter what society or world says, instead you are giving them cover, by saying you can lie straight to the face Waow. Marry early as it is the Order From ALLAH swt. But we chose to lie. Look at the position of this ummah, we are trying cheat, & in return everyone is cheating us. Human rights for every one, but not for muslims cheating. Freedom of speech for every one but not for Muslims & so on That is the reason Sahih Hadith : Prophet said end there will be so much Fitna & it will be impossible to avoid, to avoid it leave the town & move towards mountain & in other Hadith he mentioned lock ur self in the home until death comes to you. Coz out side fahisa is so wide spread in society, if you want to be part of society, you have accept & be a part of it. People will not able able to resist after seeing luxuries of the world & beautiful men & women, they will be craving for it. So it better to be in the country where you can follow deen truely, with the least possible Fitna, like some Arab countries. But our Nafs will Always prefer West, wiling to die for it, thats Fitna. Bro person will be Munafiq, if say something & have other thing in the heart. Where it is mentioned to sin & then lie about. Ummah is crashing. ALLAH swt save us, be careful of what you say bro
Why don't women want you brother? You need a woman brother? Why do men not want women brother? İf you're really keen for a woman to want you brother, I can help.
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Salam. Your theories are oversimplistic and you have a clickbait-y title that's not good for your credibility. "Man downscales/woman upscales" are the stuff of hookup apps we Muslims should not waste our time in. Men have high intimacy drive and healthy men could do with somewhat lower-in-the-scale women, but in the kuf ar hookup scene. These theories don't have practical implications in traditional marriages and people like you should not push these theories on Muslims the way you are doing. What is an ideal (high value) man and ideal (high value) woman are the same whoever you ask. Men don't want to date down and women don't want to date up. They both want what is ideal. If i put your theory into a scenario of "a 24 year old Muslim guy with great looks and potential (high value) could be interested in the rich divorcee Muslimah of 34 (lower value), but a 20 year old good looking well-raised Muslim sister with no career ambition (high value) would only be interested in the same 24 y.o. guy" - it is unrealistic and is pushing feminism, whereby VIP-treating girls and subjugating boys. Socio-material hypergamy is the stuff of toxic people, seen among both males and females. A lot of men would only want to befriend men who are richer than them for example. Please discourage this toxic mentality, this is not fitra that should be upheld.
And something about this phenomenon of females choosing a guy based on photos (and stats). When the choice based on photos alone, the female brain is not designed to make decisions that way. You either have someone else make the decision for her, or you provide her more info she won't have until she sees the man in person. But the culture of apps and websites forces females (into almost a historically unusual position) to #1. Have their choice of a guy #2. based on their photos. That's why this whole modern practice of apps and sites is a disaster, a total failure
Brother and Sisters please dont forget about our uyghurs brothers and sisters.Please do talk about them and if any among you are attending this world cup do raise the uyghur flag and raise awarness there as there will be many people who are still ignorent of china s atrocities on our uyghurs brothers and sisters.
Jazāk Allāhu Khayran
Theres a sister who is about 15+ years older than me. Her husband who i used to pray with for ten years passed away from covid. I really like her. We dont talk, but she buys food from the store i work at and helps the owners wife with various things. I asked her sons (raised in america) if she would marry again, but they dont really understand life from islamic pros and cons so they may not take a hint to ask her for me.
wishing you the best bro! inshallah if allah wills you will marry her,make dua and tahhajud read surah baqarah. good luck i hope it turns out well !
May Allah grant you the best in this world and the hereafter and a pious wife whom you will enter jannatul firdous with, Aameen. In'Shaa Allah it'll work out!!
Ask her to be sure, if not. Move on, akhi.
sons are usually jealous brother, unless they are very aware muslims don't expect them to ask their mother. Aslong as the iddah is over ask her directly. Maybe book a session with br. Gabriel also, since ther might be pitfalls for marrying an older women with children that you might not consider
@@thaknobodi Marry an unmarried woman and lower you gaze if you're not serious.
Yes is does exist! I never even for a moment desired another man when I was married to my ex. Even at one point after 10 years of marriage I had lost attraction to him, I did not tell him and I did not look to other men. It’s about fearing Allah and trying to do the right thing
Jazakallah khayran, this is really helpful ☺
thank you so much . i myself im not married just a19 years old girl tryna learn about marriage because sadly my parent never teach me about this stuff but rather push me to have a career with high salary . i've watched a looot of your videos even the one with T3M . jazakallahukhair brother
One advice to you never become career centric. Our priority should be family and when it comes to progress of lands man should be engaged in tech companies and various other fields and we need sisters for women hospitals and women educational institutions that's all . But don't take it to far that you can't look after children this applies both for men and women.
Women don't want you. Women don't want me.
We're not the same.
*Gus fring sorting out his tie looking very seriously *
Wow 😮 SubhanAllah, you're 19 and already looking for marriage. This is a good thing. I wish the young women around me were like that. The one I see are in their 30w and still can't make up their minds. Not to mention they want me to move and go live with them 🤦♂️🤷♂️ why can't I find a young wife in these modern times?
Try using sunnahmatch
@@Expiringsoon InShaAllah 🤲🏼 that's my plan, may Allah swt make it easy for us all Ameen.
As salami alaikum, I hope you are doing good brother Gabriel. I agree with your points and opinions. I strongly agree with your point on how women prioritise their emotions over other factors when it comes to choosing a husband. In my experience, I was going to consider one brother who was not at the same education level as me yet he was a good and hardworking man.
wa alaykum salam wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuh
There are alot of lonely sisters out there that are divorced good women older women no one should grow old alone
exactly
Agree
@@ik5441 Maybe the former, let's think the best of her and not look into her intentions
May Allah grant us all spouses who have taqwa and grant us and them jannah, Aameen
The question is 🤷♂️ why are they so many divorce VVomen? Why rescue damage goods, we need to know.
@@equityjustice2695 that's a broad question that's impossible to fully answer, I mean I'm reverse why are there so many divorced men also? Who knows in either case?. You are talking about millions of people. People should be free to look for what they want. If you don't want to marry a divorced woman then don't marry one, if someone else does want to then they should. There shouldn't be a social stigma however that's completely against Islam as it was practiced by the early muslims. And it's just cultural nonsense. I have no problem with someone who does not want to marry a divorced woman, I have a huge problem with people stigmatizing divorced woman just like I have a problem with people stigmatizing divorced men. It works both ways.
Either way there's nothing wrong with encouraging marrying divorced women or men, after all the early Muslims had no problem marrying divorced people whatsoever, and this is well documented. The first three generations pretty much married and divorced constantly and that's an absolute fact from akhbar and tarikh. If you want to emulate them do what they do, if you don't then do what you want. Everyone is free.but don't claim to want to emulate the first generations if you don't actually do what they do.
I have no problem with people living their lives the way they want to and making their own choices of what works best for them. But I have a huge problem with hypocrisy, and I also have a huge problem with seeing people who are divorced as damage goods. You don't know what happened in a marriage that led up to a divorce. And that attitude is from the pagan kufar, it's not an attitude from Islam originally. So if you want to act like a pagan then that's fine, everyone is free. Just be clear about it and don't pretend to be about this Islam business. But if you want to act like a Muslim then have a Muslims attitudes. There's nothing in the deen of the first few generations of Muslims that would stigmatize divorced women and present them as damaged goods. That's some rubbish from Hinduism and Christianity to be honest.
If you don't want to marry a lonely divorced sister then no one is forcing you and holding a gun to your head to do so. Being men, if someone encourages something that we don't want to do then we just carry on. We don't get our tails in a bundle and get all prissy about it and emotional and feel triggered. If you don't want marry a divorcee then don't do it. Find the kind of spouse who WILL make you happy in YOUR life. But if someone wants to encourage marrying divorced people and that's not something for you then why would you even care? Unless it pushed an emotional button? And if it did then why did it?
In my experience. A person who settles for a partner in marriage, whether religious or non religious never works. Hence the rising divorce rates.
True desire simply cannot be negotiated.
I think men and women are equally hurt if you compare them to someone else. If I brought up how attractive and beautiful I thought Monica Bellucci was and how I wish she would look more like her, she would be just as hurt as if it were to happen to me.
Monica who? Lower your gaze G
Exactly what I thought may Allah help us not expose our sins
@@kingkatiin2658 😅🤣
Are you attracted to monica beluchi?
Assalamu alaykum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuh
have good thoughts about your brother, he just made an example how did your comments come
barakAllahu feek
Brothers in islam, let me tell you. I’m married, I don’t look at other men, I make sure my husband knows that he’s my top choice and I’m still very much in love with him after 11 years of marriage. He is the best husband al7amdulillah. Not looking at attractive men is a struggle to me too ya aghi. I wear a khimar and train myself to fight it. We are not robots, we women have eyes too. Dont think it hurts us just a little bit when the husband checks out a woman. I cant get that moment out of my mind years later and i still know what the woman looks like. I just wanted to put it out there. Men and women should stop looking at others, save your spouse from the hurt. I like your videos very much. May Allah reward you.
May Allah ta'la bless you abundantly sister.
Yes, both men and women shouldn't look at non mahrams. 😊
I love how the brother always records in his car 😂😂
For me its actually a positive if a woman exclaims that certain actor (or K-Pop artist) looks handsome and attractive. In the days of LGBTQ+, the LAST THING I want is to feel insecure that my wife might have romantic feelings towards her female friends, with whom she spends time with! I understand that in a relationship the emotional bond and love is the most important, so it doesn’t bother me if she says a certain actor is good looking because you can like someone’s looks and not love them.
I can find another girl attractive but I still love my wife.
And Allah (S.W.T.) knows best.
Very good advice!!!
I actually have a question regarding this. Am I the centre of my wife’s world if she is super jealous? 😅
Nope. She is jealous because introducing another woman into your life is a threat to your 1st wife's quality of life, resources and attention.
She doesn't care about you, she only cares what she will lose if you marry a 2nd woman.
I think all wives would be jealous regardless of whether they liked or didn’t like you
Professional speach brother 9/10
This is why I only want to marry a man who I'm attracted to, who I respect, love and can rely on. Then he will be the centre of my life after Allah SWT.
جزاك الله خيرا كثيرا
wa alaikum salam wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuh
I am the centre of my wife's world Alhamdulillah.But she is super jealous If I talk about polygamy 😂
That’s exactly how I was….it’s a slippery slope, be careful
@@maymoonahadly i can relate
What do you do to be the centre?
@@yoyo-gv8zs you get married. that connection would build very quickly
This was a powerful video. Thank you brother.
I will be real brother its easier marrying back home from the village thats what everyone does esp from kashmiris
Women in uk have high bodycounts
VVoman 💅 don't want me. Okay 🤷♂️ I'll just stay alone. Thx
@King Sultan easier said than done
@King Sultan marriages is too hard, with so many responsibilities
@@aabdo1770 fun fact, salt is unmarried, unemployed, and uneducated
@kingsultan3 said the munafig that can't get a simple job
احبك في الله اخ جبرائيل
Thing is men can love more than one woman (really love them) whereas woman can love only one man by her fitra.
Agreed
ngarang ah cuk
@@TrianaLestari999 👍
Gross
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This is why its stupid for women to go really far in their career. They only end up not marrying, and they end up lonely because of their hypergamous nature. They'll now want a man even higher in intelligence, wealth, than before. I don't get these families that send their daughters to university, get debt. She ends up alone.
i dont agree with the fact that its stupid, sometimes its beneficial for the brain specially if its a pious righteous career, like an islamic teacher or a psychologist, but definetly every thing comes with pros and cons if they are happy that way let them, if they arent they will look for a husband or find what makes them happy
@@michelleyamazaki7118 Women don't look for men. They wait on them. They're not us, we're the ones looking. Hardly any career in modern day education is pious. In hospitals you have to wear revealing clothing that show your backside. And shirts. As dentists you have to work in a T shirt. I'm all for this in a Islamic matter, segregated, but it's not where I live.
I went to a university and I’m married.
@@DSJWIX Exceptions exist. There's also a line of educated earning women unmarried because they have send men away for the reasons I've mentioned
A university degree doesn't automatically equate to having a high paying job. I got my degree in English literature and I can assure you that most salaries relating to teaching are rubbish, and not worth pursuing.
Life is strange.
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Shaikh now you are at dubai cjty
If a guy marries down he's garanteed to have a girl that only likes him 100%. Been there .. lol
She doesn't like you. She likes what you provide/have. Big difference.
We aren’t ourselves without what we have anyways. For example, we are Muslims because we have eemaan.
When a wife loves her husband for the sake of Allah, that is the best way to love one’s husband.
@@automotivetv9861 It's not just money. So, don't know why you brought up the fact that you were unemployed.
@@automotivetv9861 It was an illusion that was never going to work.
@@vost2916 my point still stands, if you want a loving partner then dont go for models
Sharukh Khan 😅
Dear sisters, if a man comes to you and there is something he has to work on, let him change and prove himself before marriage. It is a condition for nikah and is better than expecting him to change after he marries you.
How did you come up with this? A girl tells a guy to "work on something". And the guy dutifully diligently "works on that something" because he so madly desperately wants that girl. And he goes to the girl again, then she accepts. Would any self respecting guy put up with this total horsec**p?? Stuff like this makes me understand how mgtow is a totally natural response to this nonsense, men are losing interest and checking out. You should instead teach women how to respect men and not take an interest for granted.
@@Pagalchhagal would you marry a lazy woman expecting her to change? By your aggressive response I get you are not Muslim and also the kind of man who needs to be disciplined and ambitious..
@@BlueBlue23 i'm an immensely disciplined principled guy and i was upfront about it with my wife. I can tell you are not someone who would be interested in a guy who has integrity and personality. You would be interested in a doormat reflecting your own low value. Females like you need to learn respect and manners and are a sad product of bad parenting. Br*ts spoiled by fathers like yourself should've got much stricter parenting and disciplining
@@Pagalchhagal you are just coming across as some insecure average chap talking about things you don't know. If you were Muslim you woul fear Allah and discipline your bad thoughts about women. I stick to my words. Many women marry men expecting them to change and this is a huge mistake. I still don't know what triggered you so much. Don't be insecure 😜
@@BlueBlue23 you sound too young to even understand how attractions work. Your parents should not let you use mobile devices this much. And i hope you research Islam which is the truth, the reality. I hope you're guided and become a Muslim
Shahrukh Khan🤭🤣🤣
Brother is perfect😂
lol he's 5'6, vast majority would reject him.
@@taym2720 And still he pulls more women than u
@@Sara-216 he deserves the truth sister💀🤣
@@tentax762 Where?
Brother Gabriel how are u ? Heard that u were attacked 😳
😮😮😮😮😮 what?? Where when how why?? By who??
@@ibnamanot By a possessed woman. Check out the 3 Muslims podcast.
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That happend years years ago
Not now
dont worry brothers
I don't really see it as a double standard because it's equally in a woman's fitrah to look and desire a higher quality man than her husband. It's natural.
Just don't do that after you get married.
@King Sultan It's a 304 mindset
@King Sultan it's not a mindset, it's female nature. That's how Allah made women.
@King Sultan did you not watch the video? Women are hypergamous, and that's a biological fact and yes, it's part of our fitrah.
@TestOfStrength if they're virgin, yes. This no longer applies to women who have had more than 1 sexual partner as the bonding is much weaker
The double standard is part nurture too
What's happening with this ummah, now any wahi has come that it is Permissable to Lie.
At the time of our Prophet saw, some has committed zina & said to the Prophet that they have sinned & they want to be purified, so they accepted death penalty Razi ALLAH hu Ann.
The beloved waqiah was of women who commits zina, got pregnant, came to our Prophet, Prophet saw said u have child in you, come afterwards, after birth she comes ready to accept death, Prophet saw said your child Is dependent on ur milk, feed the child come later, She so truthful to the Deen of ALLAH swt, may Allah swt give her the highest rank in AL firdous. After 2 year of feeding the child, she come again & was given death penalty.
One of the best & loyal women to ALLAH swt & his messenger.
Now women or men just need an excuse to sin & when you say to lie, they will say Sheikh Said to lie, so we can lie, & there will be no sin.
You are unintentionally encouraging them to lie, & they will Lie whenever they feel they can face the problems. Instead you should encourage Them to avoid sin, & that is the only way for Jannah, person cannot sin & Lie, & expect to be among the sadiqeen. Rasul saw never lied once, even Abu Bakr never lied once in the entire life. Ummah is so affected by Fitna they just need a push from Sheikh, so they can use it as a reference that sheikh said it allowed to do that. Just a generation back our mom's & grand mom was married when they reach puberty just as mentioned in Islam, but this age of Fitna, we gave extreme importance to education, & now marriage for women is delayed from 14 Years to 26-28 years minimum, so what do you expect they all will be virgins men & women, in this hyper sexulised society. Extremely majority will have multiple sex partners before marriage. Hadith is fulfilled already, that zina will be wide spread in end times. Sheikh should encourage or stress upon marrying early as they reach puberty no matter what society or world says, instead you are giving them cover, by saying you can lie straight to the face Waow. Marry early as it is the Order From ALLAH swt. But we chose to lie. Look at the position of this ummah, we are trying cheat, & in return everyone is cheating us. Human rights for every one, but not for muslims cheating. Freedom of speech for every one but not for Muslims & so on
That is the reason Sahih Hadith : Prophet said end there will be so much Fitna & it will be impossible to avoid, to avoid it leave the town & move towards mountain & in other Hadith he mentioned lock ur self in the home until death comes to you. Coz out side fahisa is so wide spread in society, if you want to be part of society, you have accept & be a part of it. People will not able able to resist after seeing luxuries of the world & beautiful men & women, they will be craving for it. So it better to be in the country where you can follow deen truely, with the least possible Fitna, like some Arab countries. But our Nafs will Always prefer West, wiling to die for it, thats Fitna.
Bro person will be Munafiq, if say something & have other thing in the heart.
Where it is mentioned to sin & then lie about. Ummah is crashing.
ALLAH swt save us, be careful of what you say bro
U r absolutely right bro... How old r u..
if they are married they receive the death penalty. (adultery)
nicely written and very well input
But you should not compare your wives to other women as well
sahih
Why don't women want you brother? You need a woman brother? Why do men not want women brother?
İf you're really keen for a woman to want you brother, I can help.
Bro, how did you know?? 🥲😅