American vs European Mentality: 4 Biggest Differences Explained
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- čas přidán 31. 05. 2024
- I talk about the biggest differences in mentality between Europe and America. From the "you can do it" optimistic attitude vs European realism (and cynicism), to the small talk culture, to nudity and individualism vs conformist culture of both places. I break up the differences by various countries and also add in Canada to the mix. Hope you enjoy!
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0:00 Intro
1:02 "You can do it" American attitude vs realistic European attitude
4:49 Small talk and positivity vs no talking to strangers
10:07 Nudity in America vs Europe
13:14 Individual vs community
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Portugal, Spain, France and Germany have the tall poppy syndrome too.
I could relate to the part about smalltalk in some European countries. I'm German and my boyfriend is Spanish. For years and years, I was always told "you're so negative, you're so pessimistic etc.". Realizing that complaining together is one of the most common ways of bonding with others in German culture - but isn't in Spain - was a huge step in improving our communication.
Interesting!
Very interesting
Same here. I am from Belarus, then I lived in Poland for some years. I think subconsiously I felt (and still feel) that talking about problems and complaining means "being real and honest", like as if it's bonding me more with another person, while saying "I'm great, family is great, work is great etc etc" is a "fake answer" that means you want to keep the person on a distance.
Now I live in Spain and multiple close friends of mine of Spanish/Latin American background told me the same thing: "you make certain situations feel heavier than necessary"; "it's annoying to hear so much negativity".
While I, in comparison, saw their "I'm great :)))))" in situations that seemed clearly not ok as "toxic positivity".
Like.. dude, you can just tell me the truth, you'll feel better if you let it out...
Anyway, now I force the "fake positivity" and it feels, paradoxically, cold to me :)
lol. Its not fake, its choosing a certain energy. They are lighter energetically and more open. Being negative and heavy will pull them down.@@ari_jean
@@LisaSoulLevelHealing yeah, probably you’re right
I am a Canadian and the reason we all try to be nice and get along is we have this thing in Canada called WINTER, with extreme cold and miserable conditions. What does this have to do with being nice, well its hard enough to try to survive and make a living in this environment where you can be hours away from any civilization, so it becomes easier if we all help each other hence the niceness!
Because none of the European countries have winter themselves?
Winters in Canada are significantly more harsh.@@ghostid544
@ghostid544 Canadian winters are colder and longer. I'm European and live in Canada (unfortunately), and temperatures can go down to -30°C here.
As a Latino raised in Nyc I've always gotten along with Eastern/Centeral European women. New Yorkers ( especially older generations ) are more direct, loyal & genuine than most Americans . While most Americans perceive New Yorkers as rude I prefer the directness & genuine loyalty of New Yorkers & Eastern European. Fyi my wife is Slavic.
Hopefullly you looked for warm, hospitable, family-oriented people
Is your wife Polish?
@@MCADHD-rf5kl Yup.
As an American, sociable introvert, when I was in Europe this summer, I felt like I was midway between reserved northern and outgoing southern Europeans and easily adaptable to both. I was in a lot of social situations and had a lot of good conversations and met interesting people from all over Europe, UK, Australia, US, and Canada. At home, I don't go out often, usually just to see a band. In Europe, I was going out frequently and staying out late. I noticed I'm far more sociable when travelling.
I think it's true for almost everyone to be more social while traveling, there are factors like excitement, newance, adventure and greatly reduced social shame that is particularly evident in tourist girls which are renowned for their "openness"
That's because it doesn't trigger your mind's anxieties. It's like being able to feel freer and less inhinbited by moving out of your home town for many people.
@@jeanjacqueslundi3502and he may also feel safer🤔
@@arnodobler1096 Yeah, it's definately true. I'm sure there's ,many places in Europe that feel safer on average than America. But the person actually being more sociable....usually has more to do with a change of attitude when you are abroad. You feel less inhibited often...and being the foreigner affords you some leeway in how you approach people etc
@jeanjacqueslundi3502 true. What I meant was that it also made him more relaxed.
Random small talk is pretty common in Ireland but in France they’ll think your crazy
Continantel Europe support introverted qualities and value authenticity
In France, the North is very different from the South... I mean even the language was different only 100 years ago. The South is culturally closer to Spain, even if now everyone speaks French (with an accent still).
No, that is not correct. If you speak French, they are very open to it.
true, observed it as well....actually several people both on the street and even at bakery or in supermarket, in line, tried small talk with me and my friend..rly enjoyable trait, wish I was adequately able to answer without sounding like a potato. @@thomassenbart
you + are = you're
Italy: you are rich when you have a big family with surgeons, lawyers but also people in the country that prodce healthy oil and wine. My sister is in Germany, I'm sending oil and sausages she's sending cookies and senf. Wherever you are, you need a family of loyal friends. We look through history, sometimes for a generation is hard sometimes you can collect money but most importantly homes for your nephews. We value middle class dignity, too much wealth is a sin, being low class is shameful. A good woman is a mother (the divine) or a generous aunt (minor divinity), a good man is not muscles, he's is brain and social skills. When you approach good Italians they offer you to be part of the family, you fail when they understand you can't be trusted. Men want to feel motherly loved from their partner and it takes a lot of patience for their childish behavior but on the long run we adapt, we understand sins and we are not afraid of a matriarchal organization of the house. Family (+friends ) is what matters, whose who doesn't understand are gipsies
Why would a man expect "mother love" from a partner? She is not his mother and should never replace that role. Roles are completely different. Spouses are equal. Parents are above a man. For a man his woman is his best friend, a lover and a wife. For his children she is mother.
She would love her man as his wife, it's totally different love from we as humans feel from our mother.
@@aryungurueva4083 because we want the one for our children, not really for our bedroom, that's short time and replaceable 🤷🏻♂️
E: could you replace god with " spiritual partner"?
Wow. That’s an amazing “summary”, Marina! Finally I’ve got a perfect video I can share with friends who ask me why I initially wanted to live in Canada, but then ended up “finding my crowd” in the (supposedly) not-so-friendly Germany.
Hehe thanks and yes, I get it. I struggle with Canada as well 😂
Welcome to Germany 🇩🇪🙋♂️🍻
@@arnodobler1096 Dankeschön! 😊
@@paulotaviorod Bitte schön, gerne.
nice that you chose Germany! you're also welcome in Austria btw :)
New York is very direct and to the point. NYC and eastern Upstate was a Dutch colony before it became British. The business culture is definitely derivative of the Dutch direct way. It permeated into the social structure; however, being a city that has had so much immigration, every little subculture has left its mark. THe city is also impacted by the sheer population density; it is definitely not like the rest of America.
that is very well noted. There are even video series on youtube about how much Americans know about their Dutch roots, especially New Amsterdam that we all know today was - New York city. I personally have never been in New York city or New York state, but I can highly suggest Amsterdam as someone''s holiday destination. Awesome city with lots to see and do in ALL seasons plus Dutch people, even the elderly, are the most fluent in English from all non native English countries/people. So - easy to get around, ask for directions, have a random talks and so.The city and the whole country, I would say, is very picturesque.
@@AmericanDreamer I know a lot about the Dutch roots and influences in America because I grew up in the Hudson Valley and have lived most of my life in NYC. There is evidence of it all up and down the eastern part of the state, from town and street names to architecture and culture. Albany, formerly Fort Orange, even has a Tulip Festival. Amsterdam is a lovely city and if you like it there, you’d probably enjoy a visit to NYC!
I love the way you present your case …to the point and very understandable…I just Love all your videos…you do a great job 👏🏻…Alex🇬🇷
Thank you!
As usual great job !
Wonderful video. Congrats Marina❤😊 As a Brazilian, I can also understand why we're so loud and talk so much to each other. We're not only Latin but a country formed by lots of immigrants
Yes interesting point!
Really good video about this subject 😊
Two consistent things that always struck me on American MTV dating show „Next“ back in the Noughties, and which have been confirmed in real life as well: When a candidate said that he or she was still a virgin, the other contestants always praised them and were extremely respectful. But when someone mentioned that they were still getting money from their parents and were not able to support themselves financially, that was always the biggest red flag. Of course it was only a game show, where candidates tend to be acting (then again, real dating can involve a heavy amount of acting as well), but it revealed something about how sexuality and financial independence are treated among young Americans and Europeans. I reckoned that in Europe those things would be handled very differently. There is nothing shameful over here about receiving financial aid from your parents when you‘re in your twenties (in many Southern European countries it is actually preferred to getting money from the state). But being, say, 27 and still a virgin would not be something Europeans would confess proudly on a date, not even in the more traditional countries.
Thanks for that essential and educational video!
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7:50 as a Southern Italian living in the UK (Northern Ireland), this is something that confuses me very much.
If someone started talking to me in a pub or similar, I would expect this small talk to turn out into more stable relationships. I was disappointed when I found out that it was often not the case. And I agree, small talk with strangers is often about complaining.
One thing is cultural norms of “you can do it”, another is actually be able to do it, which involves means, resources, income, family history etc. so, given that not everyone can actually do it, but the cultural norm is that you can if you want, you have quite a number of frustrated and/or stressed out people on the States.
For me this video is pretty close to a masterpiece. Lots of food for thought. Reminds me a tiny little bit Michener's "the drifters". Do not know how's gonna be for everyone ele it packs a lot of information. Some of it requires a baggage. Keep it going. If I don't use this info for dating I will sure be an entertainment in a party or pub somewhere.
Wow. Thank you ☺️
I remember I went on a date with a Russian girl. She gave me the whole peaches and coconut talk.
Very informative video ❤
Awesome video
I think this was a wonderful and insightful overview. I have travelled a little and I noticed these traits. Thank you for your time and insights.
Thank you!
Loved your video.
I really enjoyed it!!!
🤣😹🤣 6:24 ….. 😹🤣😹 Subscribed !!! To CZcams annnd anywhere else … hilarious, informative and can’t wait for more
Hehe thank you! That's the ultimate goal so happy you liked it 😊
Im traveling through europe very heavily. Its definitely a challenge many times. For example, I was at a latin dance club in paris, by myself. Being from the united states, being by yourself and dancing quite heavily and intensely, means nothing. it doesnt matter if people are with you. I was jamming and realized all the parisiens energy changed because I was off the group, dancing very well, showing people up - we are not supposed to do that. It was a subtle energy shift. Right now, I am navigating how to be myself and shine, in a place that only wants you to shine in a certain way in the parameters they believe socially acceptable. Its very interesting. On another hand, I do a social dance where the women wait on the sides to be "chosen" by a man. Well, in France, the men make sure all the women get a chance to dance and i felt absolutely sure it would be a fun night and i would be asked to dance. And thats what happens, even i dont know anyone. They are very gentlemanly and inclusive and have concern for those in the place. I went to the same dance in america - so much social anxiety induced because of being ignored, people just stick with their friends, there is no consciousness of looking around to see if everyone is okay because they barely made it through the shark infested waters. Same dance, just an individualistic culture vs community culture. Socially, I prefer the european (in this case french) more inclusive culture for social life. I prefer money and business individualism of america. Just my personal opinion, i fly to europe just about monthly now for about 2 weeks at a time. Nice video :-)
"how to shine", why do you need to shine on another continent?😅 do sth else while you're here. No one is waiting for your arrival and for you to "shine"😂
@NoctLightCloud American culture is naturally a commanding one, where being exceptional and showing it, is central. So, I don't do it for others, I do it for me. However, I noticed that was not the thing to do, to draw attention to yourself at the expense of others. I thought I wrote it very clearly, do you understand now?
We shine, stand our wherever we go. We have a very commanding energy and attract attention, and are used to doing that in the states.
@@LisaSoulLevelHealing I do, but do consider that different folks, different strokes😆 Some people might even laugh at you if you feel like a princess and demand attention.
@@NoctLightCloud its not being special. Its being normal. And being a performer or exceptional dancer, and better than anyone else, is par for the course. Not special. Its natural. We have some of the best dancers in the world in certain genres, its as natural as breathing. Its normal. You think its exceptional, but we are simply existing, but to a self effacing culture where you are not supposed to stand out in comparison to others, sure, they might think its exceptional. Its really just our standard operating procedure.
@@NoctLightCloudyou can't read, can you?
Never been to Canada but always in my list. Looking forward to see Canadian there :)
Mia, Bali-Indonesia
I would take into consideration the historical lack of statehood in the US in general but in the western frontier in particular when it comes to certain social traits, not just just immigration
Accurate assessment
"Let's not ferget the Balkans. Where you meet a guy named Dragoslav and he invited you to a family party and you just meet him 5 min before at the cevapi stand" 😂😂😂😂 100% true!!!
Love my balkan people out there ❤😂 I life in Germany my whole life, my family is from Serbia and through my job I am also in contact with many many nations and cultures. Your video is so true and I recommend your channel to many friends :) Wish you all the best 💐🎂🎊
Haha thanks!
You have similar characteristics to women from northeastern Brazil, specifically from Ceará, where my family came from, I commented because I thought you looked very similar to an aunt of mine from São Benedito
I love my new country, Ireland, and have plenty of complaints about my birthplace, the US. However, here in Ireland, we have a HORRIFIC housing problem and I’ve never seen such a lackadaisical approach to solving the problem. In the US, people would be running around with their hair on fire trying various new ideas, with no particular penalty for ideas that didn’t work out. Here in Ireland, new ideas are shunned. Rather, we are told by the government to ‘trust them’, they’ll solve the problem. Of course, absolutely nothing happens. Ireland would rather watch half its young population emigrate, instead of even remotely considering new ideas. It’s maddening.
The best way to sum up the difference between the US and Europe is Americans ask, “Why not?” and the Europeans list all the reasons why something won't work. Then, the Americans solve the problem anyway and sell it back to the Europeans.
America is ‘results-orientated’. Europe is 'life style-orientated'.
This is a good explanation
Ireland and UK is not Europe lol. In Germany and continental we solves issues fast. Ireland is smth else
Ireland was opressed by UK like East countries by Russia therefore they have more of the submissive attitude. but because they English speaking capitalistic system now run by greed thats why u get this situation.in continental Europe is different story, theres no issues with housing in nun of the main countries because this is on priority list
You're wrong about this. What you have said is extremely surface level. Ireland is a country filled with creative and highly educated people. You're comparing populations where one is only 3% of the other.
As for the housing crisis, it's not because people aren't trying new solutions, we have strong rights for the people already living in an area so new builds are blocked or limited in size. We can't have high rise because of how little light we get in winter and we have a shitty transport system because we evolved extremely fast from essentially a 3rd world country to one of the wealthiest in the world.
You Americans are so fast to think that your ability is the reason for your success when that is rarely the case. It's luck and timing. Your country is not 'results-orientated', it's wealth-orientated and individualistic.
Seriously, don't talk shit about Ireland because Irish people will hate you. Especially because you have no idea what your saying.
That was awesome- I ❤ ur channel!
Having lived in Portugal do you feel Portuguese people don’t speak to strangers? My experience in Portugal is that we always speak to strangers. Heck I was in Prague and heard Portuguese and immediately talked to the two ladies who told me if I needed something from back home, like as if Portugal had 50 people on the whole country! Also coming to the USA random Portuguese people just offered me Portuguese pastries, God forbid I missed Portuguese pastries! Then every time I meet a half Portuguese person or a person of Portuguese ancestry I make sure to go above and beyond to hock them up with anything I can, I always feel I am treated the same way! Every time I go I also have to go meet a Portuguese person who is the child of a friend of a friend of my mom! So I have all these “blind” dates! Fun!!! (This really happened at least four times for me: USA, Germany, Austria, within Portugal itself!)
Away from that subject but really everytime that I see you jumps into my head one idea. U r the next America/Canada sweetheart. U look like them, talk like them, even ur voice is exactly like those sweethearts of America.
Love the video ❤ But here's my take. As someone who's an American watching this video (first generation to be exact) let's not forget that there are differences even among regions and even racial groups in the United States and regions. I'm from the Northeast (Connecticut, New England) and we are more reserved than someone from the Midwest. Furthermore, as a first-generation Haitian American, there are more differences between the Haitian community and other Black ethnic groups in the US. These are some of the examples.
Great point 👍
multitude of subcultures. So many.
I notice this about people from me England.im seeing someone from there and I notice they are more reserved and I like that as an Irish women hahaaha
For those us who are religious, the religious experience is different, too. In America, there is a stronger emphasis on your individual relationship with God. In Europe many people nowadays don’t go to church (or other religious services) very often or pray but do identify strongly with a religion culturally. I’ve been to Greece, where many people don’t attend church or pray but because of cultural associations with the Greek Orthodox Church many people still identify as orthodox and if you marry a Greek they may ask you to convert - even if they aren’t very religious. You see the cultural affiliation with some ethnic groups in the US, but the diversity makes it more of a personal experience. In America, the average agnostic prays more than the average churchgoer in Europe.
as far as I'm concerned, Florida, south of "Alligator Alley" (I-75) may as well be its own country and might be deserving of its own piece of dedicated content. It is so different than the rest of the USA
Being from England and a Nudist myself I can say the amount of British people taking to Naturism was slowly growing especially among those aged 22-40 year by year before the first pandemic lockdown but I’m not so sure what it’s like now since my local Naturist club went out of business due to the knock on factors of the original UK lockdown
Yes, I did!
6:30 Larry David: I’m trying to elevate small talk to medium talk
Perhaps a video of csnadian social peculiarities other than the obvious social and gender politics .
Happy Thursday, Marina! Great video today and sending love ❤ from Miami, Florida
Little Miss Sunshine ❤😂
1. "You can do it."
There are people who think that way. Also "you can be who you wanna be". The sad fact is that 99% of the people cannot. Planting false hope into people's mind isn't a good thing. Have you heard about toxic positivity?
I'm not saying being negative is a good thing. But being realistic isn't equal being negative. Being realistic is the best in the long run.
2. Small talk.
I never got it what's the point of small talks? It's meaningless and doesn't lead anywhere. There are people (culture) who prefer this, but honestly... Does it make any difference if you small-talked to a stranger or not?
3. Nudity.
Most of the world is prude. (Because most of the religions want to control sexuality.) So they think if/when somebody is naked it is sexual. It is as stupid as saying that watching a baby born or breastfeeding is sexual. "You can see her fanny, so it's sexual. You can see her boobs, so it's sexual." Are you agree with that? (Probably not.)
Then why do you think that when people not dressed it is automatically sexual? It is not. Plus it has a not negligible effect: more nudity means less body shaming.
4. "It's great to be unique. You are special."
The first sentence is one of the most empty phrase of all. EVERYBODY is unique because everybody is different ("I'm not."🤣). The second one is (most of the times) a blatant lie. Some people are special, but telling everybody that they all are specials rules out the meaning of the word 'special'.
Great video! Great content! Keep going!
12:29 I don’t know if 5 beaches count as “many” but there are some good ones here in Florida for enjoying nudism. As a nudist myself I love the nude beaches but if you want a safer environment then nudist resorts are better.
"We should hang out sometime." Then, nothing. I don't know about the U.S. in general, but that is "Welcome to Minnesota" if I ever heard it.
Very true.
I would prefer more insightful video about deeper values that defines each continent
I'm an American but in some ways I'm more suited towards european life. Like I have a more realistic attitude instead of a you can do it attitude like most americans have. When I went to southern europe last summer, I visited many countries: Italy, Greece,Turkey,Montenegro, and Spain, I didn't want to return to the US at the end of my 3 week trip Because it was so much fun for me there.
Marina, you sooooo pretty and elegant on this video. ❤
Now I know why everyone in Swiss trains were staring at me😬
Why?
Americans focused on the big fish for the same reason they developed rugby into (American) football: an unconscious belief that there must be one person to tell everyone else what to do and take all the glory when they win (the quarterback).
Loved the video! It didn't fall into these generic type of videos that just mention the differences or give a superficial opinion about them: you went more in depth into the reasons behind them and even talked about the differences between different American states and European countries (and also, Canada). Great job, Marina! I enjoyed every second of it.
Thank you! I got tired of seeing the same things hashed out time and time again, so I really wanted to get deeper. This means a lot 😁
@10:07 as for nudity, one can look at local/municipal laws allowing or prohibiting topless/bottomless beaches, saunas and clubs. in many (but not all) US municipalities, topless beaches are legally allowed for women as a kind of anti-sex discrimination statute when men are allowed to bare their nipples/chests. full frontal nudity is often banned for both sexes as "indecent exposure", although police can use discretion in enforcing the law, if people are not otherwise causing a ruckus (like being drunk or noisy).
one could also look at laws regarding pornography (video and photo), which are very liberal (that is, freedom loving) in the US.
The weird thing about nudity is that a lot of Europeans are more open to being nude on beaches but their everyday clothing is more conservative
As a Brazilian who lives in countryside state, I say it is not uncommon to find US ideas inside many Latin-Americans too. Since I started to date my gf who is Bulgarian, I've been seeing how American I can be compared to her friends and family. They're just so Europeans and I didn't expect that in the beginning.
Denmark and Sweden are similar to UK jante law.
Nudist culture is changing, even in Germany and France for sure. Nude beaches are mostly populated by old folk these days.
American individuality is offputting. It comes across as uncaring and competitive. Prisons are businesses . War on drugs and obesity epidemic are all examples of people refusing to help each other and blaming people for the awful state they are in .
From my point of view Americans turns almost everything into a weird transactional atmosphere, even in romantic relationships
A lot of character and values depend social system country has
I throught that America is a continent not only one country
thats in many way wrong or misguided. first of all, USA is the only country which has 'America' in its name. America is just a shorty (in difference to some anti american conspiracy theories). the other aspect is that there is not just one but two continents with the name America (North America and South America. 'Central America' is not a real continent but just like Mexico part of the North American continent) ...
I dunno about the being shamed for standing out thing in Europe. Maybe in some European Countries but I’ve seen some very eccentric people in The UK & Europe and mostly no one gave a shit
Le small talk ne marche pas au Québec.
Sa dépend ...
@@cxplorerv3 j'ai vécu à la ville de Québec. Les gens pensent que c'est trop bizarre. À Montréal parfois ça marche. Même à Québec c'est possible mais c'est rare en tabarwhat
As a German I can say that complaining about life is just our way of bonding
I am an American (basically Midwestern, as I was born in Sharon, PA [a town on the Ohio state line] and lived most of my life in Ohio, not that far from my hometown) and am not comfortable being naked publicly. I am actually more uncomfortable than many of my fellow Americans, including those more conservative, as I generally cover everything below my waist in public, and always wear a shirt. (I am fine with short sleeves.)
Great video 🙂 I love watching your videos on different cultures. I think when you talk about the US, its cultural varies from: the state, city, and area.
Not aš much as countries in Europe tho
Thank you!
The Balkans seem to be a blind spot in your videos. We are waiting! 😄
Really? Because I specifically went to Serbia to film a video and have done a bunch of Balkan themed videos in the past 😁
@@DatingBeyondBorders Well, there are another Balkan countries also... When you compare the cultural groups in Europe with the US the Balkans are somehow missing - it's like we are not a 100% part of that cultural dating map of yours... It's understandable because this is an old cultural boundary but it's sad it continues to exist nowadays. By the way I really liked this comparative video and the connection between dating and general mindset in different countries that you make! I'd like to see more content of this 🙂
@@eliali6484Maybe because she didn't travel or met anyone from there.
Keep asking and maybe she will do new episodes
@@eliali6484 I actually like being separated from the rest of Europe
Love all of the effort you put in your videos. I love the belief system of you can do anything but I do not like the idea of giving participation trophies. Meritocracy is the best way to develop a society as it breeds healthy competition and avoids delusion
Thank you!
But a meritocracy society doesn't exist, look at those who work the hardest with the most dangerous jobs are the one receiving the smallest of income
@@baobabbaobab6487 that’s actually not entirely true. Apart from police officers and firefighters, the most dangerous jobs do actually make a lot of money. Divers, coal miners, construction.
We also live in a capitalist society so if you are able to have a skill or product that people want, you can capitalize on it. Skills are also based on perceived value so if you know what skill or product many people value, you can learn it to increase your earning power.
@@RivyOThe only real meritocracy is probably in sports.
I feel all these surface videos made for US public and it scratches just the very top of the huge iceberg that is culture . Every culture is made by historical events that fueled political and economical system that created certain attitudes and values plus individuals on top of that. Europe was always settled unlike UK US that more lean on action and travels therefore Europe values stability ect.
Do you really believe that Europeans travel less? Maybe I misunderstood you. In Europe, life also takes place more outdoors, including sports.
Well, I live in Texas and sometimes we like to call it the "Republic of Texas" the culture is different from the other states. I'm not speaking about all Texans but some of them I encountered act like this: If it is something that they don't want to hear they will cut you off and end the conversation in a blunt way. Also, politically Texas is different from the rest of the country as in extreme right wing politics.
Everything is bigger in Texas.
Small talk happens in Amsterdam the Netherlands too.
I just had a conversation with an American lady, early 50 s and she was commenting how she has no friends or lost friends after divorce! Making true friendships is very difficult in the USA!
Interesting
No it isn't. I have very good friends that I trust. After a divorce it can be very polarizing for the friends of the couple. That's a different situation
@klimtkahlo: and next time you talk with a Lady, early 50ties with good friends and you conclude that making true friendships is easy in the USA? general rule and never forget it: smart ppl never generalize single experiences.
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Hey marina good video, I've been watching your content for a long time. Marina what Country are you from?? I love looking at new cultures.
I think she said Russia, but grew up in Canada.
Exactly. Came to Canada when I was 12 (still speak it fluently/know the culture well)
I am an African American woman residing in Eastern Europe. My mere presence draws attention, but I remain indifferent to others' opinions.
Unless it's Hippie Hollow, you don't find topless folk around Austin unless they're homeless 😅
The expression is 'taken aback', not "taken back".
Americans : more friendly , more extroverted , more confident , more fat , smile more , talk more , talk louder , Europeans ( even though it's a continent ) : more cold , more "down to earth" , more reserved , more introvert , less fat , smile less , more trustful , dressed better
No.
In a nutshell.
@@whatmeworry7184 it’s not.
None of this is even factual let’s see a statistic.
Not bad, but Europeans are not 'down to earth'. Americans are the most practical people in the history of the world. (I've been traveling for 40 years internationally and been in 40 countries.) Americans are the best 'out of box' thinkers, due to their individualism.
You named it. The poppies. If a place hates tall poppies, there won't be any tall poppies -- or they leave.
And really, you don't want to see Americans naked anywhere. It's not Puritans. It's nasty, nasty obesity. If I am naked at the pool, you don't want to be at that pool.
Tbh, tall poppies can be the solution to many problems.
I'm sick and tired to explain to the Americans : There is no such thing as the people from Europe. There are 50 VERY different contries - different history/ contries with thousands years history , and contries with just few centeries or less, / , different culture, languages, food , social structures, values, law ...There is a huge difference betwen the people from North and South sometimes /the first ones are reserved, strict, punctual, and the others are smiley ,open, joyful, family oriented . There is difrence between the West , and the East ...Yes , there are some common European values shared from all the people here , like the importance of piece, education, culture ...Is the same if you've been once to New York and to think that you know the life in Puerto Rico.
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Prison for nudity in Canada , why I'm not surprised, let's talk of religion in Canada... Actually no, it's pretty grim 💀
No talk about it
Very well stated. I recall a video years ago pointing out some differences through sketches and it was very much to the point as well.
(Also to make this clear as the way it was said all together might confuse some people, Mykonos is in Greece, not Italy. I assumed Marina meant he met people from Italy in a trip in Mykonos.^-^")
Yes I went to Mykonos from Italy 😁
Florida man here. Nudity is legal in certain situations here, but if you're taking off your clothes for your own intimate satisfaction or there are minors around then we have a special list for you.
Europeans have also experienced war in their country's histories which Americans have never experienced since 1776.
Well, thank god they didn't
Civil war 1861-65 ?
But I know what you mean.
Can I just say as (21 year old British) European person I feel like I'm somewhere in middle of Europe and North America mentally. I think thoughout my whole life I feel greatly influenced by Europe (some of my favourite countries include France and Portugal) because of living here of course but I'm also heavily influenced by America too (maybe I'll live there one day too). Another point I'll like to make is I'm pretty sure I have SAD so I dream of living somewhere warm by the sea (for example in the Mediterranean, Florida or California etc)
Correct lol
Continental is more socialist nothing socialist about uk lol
My Europian self now - this video as shallow and without sharp insides as US lol
You need to complain in Europe. If you don't complain you come across as a weak character. If you complain, you might get a promotion. "Wow, this guy is complaining a lot. He really knows things"
It gets annoying
as a German individual I say that the problem is that too many Europeans think that 'complaining' is the same as 'being critical' ...
🇺🇲🇨🇦 are generally circumcised while 🇪🇺 generally are not, which can create confusion. In U.S. health care is a "business", in Europe it's a public utility.
in Europe its also a business, you have government and private ones. And what many idiots forget to tell is that in the cases of a forced health care like in many european countries there are many ppl who run in depts due to that while in the US you just select it if you want which is more individualist and less collectivist (similar to paying for 'state owned broadcasting services' (which I do NOT want as German - too much left wing propaganda (and left wings are the real antisemitic/antizionist Nazis - together with Islam). In the US, if you dont like such 'services' than you just dont buy them. So, its also up to you. Are you more a lemming who things others/gov can better take care about your money or do you rather thing that yourself can decide better over your own life (individual approach)
America is a melting pot of various cultures. Our friendly dispositions helps to defuse misunderstandings and smooth out differences. Its not an act. Its for survival.
I knew it's not only the europeans that call us citizens americans and that refuse to call canadians americans
Americans don't understand nudity or naturism.. it is still considered naughty or sexual. Even naturists in the States don't understand towel etiquette.
People from US are more friendly and confident than European in general , but usually Europeans in genersl tend to be more trustful and honest than people of US
European's are less fake as well.
@@whatmeworry7184agree
Bruh no one’s friendly in the US.
It is very difficult to generalize, but as a Spaniard I have verified that Americans are often more sociable than Spaniards, they start conversations with strangers even in a supermarket checkout line but on the other hand they maintain physical distance even more than in the Nordic countries. In my opinion, what has harmed sociability the most in the United States has been its disastrous urban planning, which prevents, as happens especially in Spain and Great Britain and Ireland, people from being able to walk to drink a beer after work.
@@CarlosGarcia-gs1wd bro no one talks to each other in the check out line here wtf lol
Again, ignoring important cultures of Europe, as in whole channel.
Europe is not only about France, Germany, Nordiics and Spain+ Italy, and Balkans.
There are much more cultures and they differ. Please, stop with the unification, you make this channel for so many years and it’s been my favorite because of the unique focus. But please, bc you’re having all this history and success with this channel it’s a bit your moral responsibility educate your listeners that the culture is diverse (not just by saying “it’s generalization and there is more to that” but by actually mentioning more. In every channel you’re putting this excuse instead of actually naming the other cultures or countries. Thank you 🙏 and fingers crossed 🤞🏼😊
I have mentioned a ton of countries in this video, from Ireland to Ukraine to Greece. And yes this is a video on the difference of two continents so I obviously don't have 2 hours to dive into every country in Europe. I do that in other videos about Estonia or Lithuania or Hungary.. So I am genuinely curious - which countries did I miss on this list that you feel I never talk about?
@@DatingBeyondBorders as a German I also insist on that you dont forget Liechtenstein, San Marino, Vatican City (should also be further analyzed regarding the dating culture!) and Andorra ;)
Great video but is the Netherlands really "one of the most conformist countries in Europe"? Maybe with the much older generation, but not among people younger than 50. Even with respect to fashion, I see Dutch people wearing some of the oddest clothes - like bright orange leggings (on men).... Dutch people seem to be very stubbornly individualistic. Also in downtown Amsterdam, I noticed it seemed to be a city of people walking and riding their bikes all alone. Even among the pedestrians there was almost no one walking together in groups.
Great point and I agree, however ask any Dutch what their most common saying is and it's "being normal is crazy enough" so yes, they are individualistic in some ways but there are also specific rules they live by that may not be so obvious. But for clothing I agree! I have seen a lot of leopard for ex. Having said that, younger generations around the world are of course less conformist than their parents
I think the most common collective rules the Dutch live by involve money and their social circles. In my experience Dutch people seem to have something have like mental calculators that are constantly adding up how much money is being spent, and who owes what amount of money to whom, down to the last cent. They are very careful with and aware of money. Also regarding social circles, they are VERY tight with the small group of friends they grew up with in elementary school and high school, these friends come first and foremost and it's incredibly hard for an "outsider" to penetrate that social barrier.
@@DatingBeyondBordersI guess I don’t completely agree with your last sentence. I have seen the children of the 68‘er generation being way more conservative and conform than their parents. Those traits don’t always come automatically with age. 🌸
What i love about America, it is where you are from. We are made up of different places. Every one reps there city or State or town which is cool. America is very unique. 50 states but 48 continuous states are connected. I love meeting new people from different places.🇺🇸
You're still in the same obese country with the same federal laws & citizens who have never seen a passport.
In Europe I drive a few kilometers and am in a different country, with a different language, food and culture.... A North German does not understand the South German dialect. Diversity is not just a US thing.🤷♂️
People in Europe tend to be more reserved and respectful than Americans.
France? :)
I think overall, if Europeans can conceive of American differences without it leading to a cascade of insults that would be the first step toward understanding. There are differences I see with European culture without those differences being insulting. Americans are outgoing (talkative), friendly, and engaging, but there are excellent reasons for this, and for the most part those characteristics are sincere.
There's a lot I like about Europe, but I find the 'small talk' to be total nonsense. Do you want to go through life frowning or smiling? Easy decision.
I think US is very much built on Capitalistic neo liberalism that Europian don't like that's why