7 Reassuring Things To Say To Someone With Anxiety

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  • čas přidán 7. 07. 2021
  • Is someone you care about suffering from anxiety or an anxiety disorder? Are you concerned about their mental health recently? Do you find yourself at a loss over how to react when the topic does come up? There are many ways to be supportive without overstepping boundaries or taking on more than you can handle. It's important to help you understand from a psychology-oriented perspective, the thoughts and emotions behind anxiety so you can be well equipped to be supportive.
    Disclaimer: This is meant as a self-improvement guide and should not be used as self-treatment. If you or someone you know is struggling with anxiety or any mental health issues, be sure to seek help. Even though having a supportive environment does help but professional help and advice can go a long way.
    We also made a video on the things to say to someone with depression: • 7 Things to Say to Som...
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    Princing, M. (2018, May 18). What to Say (and Not to Say) to Someone with Anxiety. Retrieved July 23, 2020, from rightasrain.uwmedicine.org/mi...
    Todd, C. (2018). 5 Helpful Things to Say to a Friend Whose Anxiety Is Skyrocketing (and 3 to Avoid). Retrieved July 23, 2020, from www.self.com/story/what-to-sa...
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  • @Psych2go
    @Psych2go  Před 2 lety +438

    Disclaimer: This is meant as a self-improvement guide and should not be used as self-treatment. If you or someone you know is struggling with anxiety or any mental health issues, be sure to seek help. Even though having a supportive environment does help but professional help and advice can go a long way.

    • @hongkongers9160
      @hongkongers9160 Před 2 lety +2

      How fun when the word "treatment" has been stolen by the pharmaceutical industries

    • @ceciliomartinez2921
      @ceciliomartinez2921 Před 2 lety +4

      can you make something like this for someone that has been abused by a narcissist, i know it's not an officeal term but the closes i have see is "Narcissistic abuse syndrome" (because it's not in the DSM-5 there is not a lot on this and it seems to be very common in today's times ....that's kinda how i found your channel ) I'm a Aircraft engineer but mechanic by heart and someone i am getting close with is a beautiful person and i want to know what are some possible landmines or triggers. I feel that knowledge is over half the battle in any situation, but there seems to be hard to find anything set about this and i can see why ....a lot of it is situational ....and i run countless scenarios in my head and organize them by probability according to personality and yes i have been proven wrong, i make mistakes, but when i do make them i obsess about learning where i went wrong and how never to make the same mistake ever again ..... i hold myself to an unhuman standard, but people are a can of worms its a never ending rabbit hole that grows every month ......but this one hits closer to home. this is now something im digging for, because i care for this person... thanks to this video i have an idea of how to maybe make them feel more at ease.....i hope .... i'll cross that ditch when i get there ....just hope there is a bridge instead...even if it's full of holes.

    • @aneesfatima3331
      @aneesfatima3331 Před 2 lety +3

      I've known someone who is struggling with anxiety..but the person is not ready to open up..it's been 3 years since the conversation with the person has become less talkative and struggling to stand in a seminar hall n all..how do I help?

    • @aneesfatima3331
      @aneesfatima3331 Před 2 lety

      @Lacie Mabe well that person is my family member

    • @Velvet62211
      @Velvet62211 Před rokem +1

      I’m pretty sure I have anxiety but my anxiety makes it impossible for me to tell my mom because it just fills my mind with negative thoughts when I even think about telling her. Can anyone recommend me some ways to tell someone about it or how to give them hints of my anxiety?

  • @keerthanavarma3345
    @keerthanavarma3345 Před 2 lety +2905

    Hey there!
    1. 1:21 - You have my attention (or) I am listening
    2. 1:52 - What can I do to help you?
    3. 2:20 - Hey let's go for a walk. We can talk about it, or we can just get some fresh air
    4. 2:48 - Is it okay if I give you a hug?
    5. 3:25 - I'm here for you, no matter what is happening
    6. 4:04 - Would advice be helpful or should I just listen?
    7. 4:40 - I don't know what to say, but I'm here for you
    People with anxiety should be taken care as delicately as a glass, I know the pain.. I suffer from it too. Hope this helped you 💜

    • @owens.studios
      @owens.studios Před 2 lety +60

      Thank you, friendly time traveler

    • @Kpopminnie
      @Kpopminnie Před 2 lety +26

      Thanks time traveler, I have anxiety, I always wished people would at least do number one

    • @chloepatterson5519
      @chloepatterson5519 Před 2 lety +16

      Yes this helped thx. I suffer from anxiety and panic attacks. Your not alone. 😊 ❤️

    • @NetchoCheese
      @NetchoCheese Před 2 lety +7

      Thank you so much!

    • @keiron.4612
      @keiron.4612 Před 2 lety +12

      Well nobody has ever said any of these things to me a hug never get them all I do is live with my illness

  • @ShortHax
    @ShortHax Před 2 lety +2731

    You can calm me down, but you can’t stop all the ‘What if’ scenarios in my head

    • @birbhay
      @birbhay Před 2 lety +103

      I tip I've heard of to help with the what if scenarios is to think about what you'll do and how you'll react to it in response if the scenario actually happens.

    • @munchilvesyou.6592
      @munchilvesyou.6592 Před 2 lety +38

      @@melissahenry8431 And saying things like that do nOt HelP

    • @melissahenry8431
      @melissahenry8431 Před 2 lety +16

      @@munchilvesyou.6592 Yeah, I just figure it out, thanks

    • @theironrubberduck
      @theironrubberduck Před 2 lety +8

      @@Psych2go woah that’s facts

    • @krzysiek8776
      @krzysiek8776 Před 2 lety +2

      Death

  • @ComicalRealm
    @ComicalRealm Před 2 lety +545

    "Anxiety and fear are cousins but not twins. Fear sees a threat. Anxiety imagines one" - Homer Simpson

    • @silverink1824
      @silverink1824 Před 2 lety +22

      I wish sure he's not a genius and he just doesn't realize it he does say some very profound things from time to time

    • @ntmfalloutproductions4713
      @ntmfalloutproductions4713 Před 2 lety +18

      Wait what no way Homer said that

    • @aiiiia9971
      @aiiiia9971 Před 2 lety +4

      Since when is Homer so wise and insightful

    • @sarcasm8007
      @sarcasm8007 Před 2 lety +5

      That's a really good quote.

    • @sarcasm8007
      @sarcasm8007 Před 2 lety +2

      @@silverink1824 All smart people are dumb, so he could be.

  • @imiss1d968
    @imiss1d968 Před 2 lety +761

    "Is it okay if i can give you a hug?"
    If someone says this i am gonna burst in tears

    • @emycharaa
      @emycharaa Před 2 lety +52

      Me too. I don't even know why.

    • @namelesssoul104
      @namelesssoul104 Před 2 lety +43

      I don't know how long it has been since I have hugged anyone

    • @littlewheekers662
      @littlewheekers662 Před 2 lety +9

      Me too

    • @elm8662
      @elm8662 Před 2 lety +29

      someone did ask me this and i burst into tears and i immediently ran away, i felt so bad after

    • @gelyn5199
      @gelyn5199 Před 2 lety +21

      I'll give you all a virtually hug

  • @kaylapannell9152
    @kaylapannell9152 Před 2 lety +267

    As another person who suffers from anxiety.... just having someone text me something random to distract me or having someone just sit with me and just be there... not even really to talk.... especially if I cant talk or just don't wanna talk about it.... that helps a lot.

    • @sarcasm8007
      @sarcasm8007 Před 2 lety +8

      I know it depends on the person, some people it makes them anxious to have no one talk but for me sometimes just knowing someone is there to comfort you quietly even when no words are exchanged it really does comfort you because it's just... "We can talk when you're ready, but we don't have to."

    • @dewaparkha4612
      @dewaparkha4612 Před 2 lety

      I wish too😔

    • @m1yuuu_combatseawolf
      @m1yuuu_combatseawolf Před 2 lety +8

      I'm here to reach out to you about your car's extended warranty
      Hope this makes your day

    • @Psych2go
      @Psych2go  Před 2 lety +11

      Thank you for sharing.

    • @Owibi
      @Owibi Před 2 lety +2

      @@m1yuuu_combatseawolf LOL IT DID I applaud to you for that

  • @NegativeLegend
    @NegativeLegend Před 2 lety +1435

    This is wonderful. My girlfriend has bad anxiety and usually I don't have a problem knowing what to say but I'm always seeking out a way to make her feel better.

    • @allukaxqqyt6656
      @allukaxqqyt6656 Před 2 lety +84

      woah your a nice boyfriend, hope it does work

    • @odessawales
      @odessawales Před 2 lety +7

      Why does everyone brag aboht their girlfriend? Like bro...tf? It makes others feel so jealous. Recently broke up with my boyfriend and guess tf what? Now i have unstable intense anxiety. Im done. Im going crazy. Wtf? Stop telling me to move on! Leave me alone!

    • @allukaxqqyt6656
      @allukaxqqyt6656 Před 2 lety +137

      @@odessawales he isn’t bragging??? it’s just telling how he’s reaching out to her to help her with her anxiety

    • @tawsifdayan2734
      @tawsifdayan2734 Před 2 lety +24

      Damn your a Chad. Wish you and your gf a happy life .

    • @odessawales
      @odessawales Před 2 lety +28

      @@allukaxqqyt6656 ik sorry. Im just distressed at the moment.

  • @aaryannalouie6994
    @aaryannalouie6994 Před 2 lety +200

    “How do you feel about the points in the video ?”
    Me: YESSSSSS

  • @leafyyplant
    @leafyyplant Před 2 lety +104

    2:48 - EXACTLY. i had a panic attack at school and one of the teachers did half of them helping me, then another teacher asked me if i wanted a hug, and she just just me a huge bear hug and made me feel better on top of the other teacher calming me down

  • @dodekex.
    @dodekex. Před 2 lety +95

    I love her voice
    So soft

  • @anonymoushuman6961
    @anonymoushuman6961 Před 2 lety +190

    This channel is an escape from my anxiety and depression

    • @popyye
      @popyye Před 2 lety +6

      Same, litters watch their CZcams vids repeated so much I think I might need help-

    • @jal9761
      @jal9761 Před 2 lety +7

      Her voice makes me feel safe and more relax lmaoo

    • @popyye
      @popyye Před 2 lety +2

      @@jal9761 same

    • @glowter22
      @glowter22 Před 2 lety +1

      TRUTH

    • @specialcookie9995
      @specialcookie9995 Před 2 lety +1

      FACTS!!

  • @MonkyDollqueen
    @MonkyDollqueen Před 2 lety +236

    “When you realize nothing is lacking, the whole world belongs to you.

  • @peachdoesart3798
    @peachdoesart3798 Před 2 lety +127

    When people say “you worry too much” or treat me like im being stupid, it hurts so much because i can’t do anything about it.

    • @spaixii
      @spaixii Před 2 lety +5

      Or when they say "just calm down" THATS LIKE TELLING A DEAD PERSON TO JUST BE ALIVE

    • @diamondcookieoftruth898
      @diamondcookieoftruth898 Před 2 lety +1

      Just ignore them. That's their own stupid thing. You are not stupid for having your feelings and worries. You have to know that your feelings are valid.

    • @cattydaelling4733
      @cattydaelling4733 Před 2 lety +2

      Bruh my mom is like that 😔

    • @shortforlife1282
      @shortforlife1282 Před 2 lety

      Awe, would you all like a hug? :]

    • @shortforlife1282
      @shortforlife1282 Před 2 lety +2

      @@roseworld1290 here you go 🤗😊

  • @yaqiza
    @yaqiza Před 2 lety +137

    if only you could explain this to my parents and if only they would actually try to understand

    • @lonewolfnergiganos4000
      @lonewolfnergiganos4000 Před 2 lety +2

      Yeah

    • @erinshannon8031
      @erinshannon8031 Před 2 lety

      SERIOUSLY My dad is the worst offender...

    • @yaqiza
      @yaqiza Před 2 lety +2

      @@erinshannon8031 same

    • @kamomilo3532
      @kamomilo3532 Před 2 lety +4

      Start by bringing it up, nothing ventured nothing gained. You know your parents best so its up to you on how you go about it and where those personal boundaries lay so be careful but yeah totally go for it

    • @yaqiza
      @yaqiza Před 2 lety

      @@kamomilo3532 thank you i'll try 🤍

  • @rakel6977
    @rakel6977 Před 2 lety +20

    I'd cry if anyone would say anything like this to me

  • @lonewolfnergiganos4000
    @lonewolfnergiganos4000 Před 2 lety +449

    It's hard to deal with anxiety when you have toxic friends.

    • @popyye
      @popyye Před 2 lety +38

      It really is, I have a severe anxiety and it’s so overwhelming when you have a toxic friend group

    • @drinasun6984
      @drinasun6984 Před 2 lety +7

      I know, right?

    • @popyye
      @popyye Před 2 lety +42

      @@Psych2go I’ve cut off ALL contact with them now, and found some best friends that know how to respond when I’m having anxiety about stuff - they know when this happens. but still am dealing with depression and anxiety. But I can get past that

    • @snek714samantham.n.4
      @snek714samantham.n.4 Před 2 lety +27

      Please if you can, get away from them, friends are not supposed to hurt and belittle you. I'm sure you'll find people who love you and appreciate you, but with them you may be in danger. If you need someone to talk to, I'm willing to listen. Have a beautiful day

    • @lonewolfnergiganos4000
      @lonewolfnergiganos4000 Před 2 lety +5

      @@snek714samantham.n.4 thanks for the advice.

  • @BakedBeans47
    @BakedBeans47 Před 2 lety +289

    I tell my mom about my anxiety. Judges me later. In fact, tells me I'm dramatic. She even uses it against me during an argument.
    My father just doesnt believe in it. If I talk about it, its weak. Its pathetic
    Sooo....
    Edit: share your feelings in this comment, I'm reading all of them
    Edit a year later: My parents are getting a divorce, my mother left and is now with someone else. I feel so much better now 😌

    • @givemeloveplease2482
      @givemeloveplease2482 Před 2 lety +31

      I believe we have all those kinds of "parents"

    • @BakedBeans47
      @BakedBeans47 Před 2 lety +11

      @@givemeloveplease2482 that's even worse...

    • @AlyxTheProtogen
      @AlyxTheProtogen Před 2 lety +29

      @@givemeloveplease2482 i dont tell anything to my parents because i fear they will be like this

    • @aaryannalouie6994
      @aaryannalouie6994 Před 2 lety +12

      Yes 🙌🏽 or hits u with you have got to change every one isn’t out to get u or ur grown u should be able to do this on ur own

    • @keiron.4612
      @keiron.4612 Před 2 lety +11

      Exactly the same I don't even talk about how I'm feeling anymore my scars were no accident

  • @minasbabycub8112
    @minasbabycub8112 Před 2 lety +31

    My bestfriend literally says all of these to me when i have anxiety and she is the most precious and wonderful friend anyone could ever ask for

  • @themagicalmess4742
    @themagicalmess4742 Před 2 lety +235

    Literally the worst things you can say are
    "Calm down"
    "Everything's okay" (especially when you don't know what they're going through)
    "Don't be anxious/depressed" (especially if they have been diagnosed with anxiety/depression or have many symptoms)

    • @izzy_bell
      @izzy_bell Před 2 lety +13

      I mean.. I don’t know if I actually have anxiety, so I never jump to the conclusion that I do, but when I do tend to get overly-anxious of unreasonable things, my mum always tells me to calm down and it’s not the nicest thing when you just wanna say “if I could, I would”

    • @themagicalmess4742
      @themagicalmess4742 Před 2 lety +7

      @@izzy_bell yeah. ive had people tell me to just calm down and like, yeah, why do you think I'm having a panic attack? Because I'm choosing to?

    • @gelyn5199
      @gelyn5199 Před 2 lety +2

      that is what literally everyone is saying to me :')
      (I'm diagnosed with depression & anxiety- pls don't be harsh to me)

    • @dewaparkha4612
      @dewaparkha4612 Před 2 lety +1

      We all have bad days, but these tears and fears help us grow up, and make a better person😉😊

    • @BunnyBounce161
      @BunnyBounce161 Před 2 lety

      @Wittiest Gopher Yeah, that should never be said to someone going through shit.

  • @oliviacshwe6451
    @oliviacshwe6451 Před 2 lety +47

    Just a cute moment I encountered ^^
    I was so anxious and paranoid about a task a few days ago. My anxiety was so strong that I couldn’t even rest or eat, that was until a white moth flew in my house. I caught it in my hands and I was looking at it in awe. For a good while i forgot my anxiety and loved the time with the cute moth. That moth really made me happy 🥰

    • @aiiiia9971
      @aiiiia9971 Před 2 lety +4

      You seem really wholesome and bless you and that moth
      I'm glad you two crossed paths

    • @littlewheekers662
      @littlewheekers662 Před 2 lety +3

      I'm glad that happened to you!

    • @PeterArnold1969
      @PeterArnold1969 Před 2 lety +2

      When my step father passed away in 2012, a moth started to hang around in our apartment. Mum believed that my stepfathers spirit was with that moth. Mum was quite comforted with it being around. Take your moth as a sign of something beautiful.

    • @Owibi
      @Owibi Před 2 lety +3

      Oh my gosh that’s so wholesome, I’ve done that with those little Rosy maple moths.
      Once when I was having bad anxiety one was perched on a leaf next to me and I watched it for a little while, then picked it up. It like, circled on my hand and then nuzzled it’s ADORABLE little moth face into my palm- it was so fluffy and precious-

  • @whatnow548
    @whatnow548 Před 2 lety +31

    "I have anxiety"
    "Do your plants need watering?"
    "..."

    • @1kuzuki
      @1kuzuki Před 2 lety +3

      I mean… sure… it’s winter and they’re all dead but sure XD

  • @phycowaffleart1239
    @phycowaffleart1239 Před 2 lety +29

    The empire’s new groove reference! Chef’s kiss

  • @kaycortez3586
    @kaycortez3586 Před 2 lety +19

    "Like a physical reminder that your not alone" I started crying to this. Because lately I've needed a hug and don't want to ask for one because everybody thinks I hate hugs/touchy stuff. But in the moment, sometimes its comforting.

    • @Psych2go
      @Psych2go  Před 2 lety +4

      Here's a hug from all of us

    • @kaycortez3586
      @kaycortez3586 Před 2 lety +3

      @@Psych2go u actually replied-
      Wow I'm honored lol

  • @sheripoland4742
    @sheripoland4742 Před 2 lety +19

    I don't have a good friend right now. I walk my dog in a nearby park and "talk" to the trees. Big trees are good listeners 🙂

    • @aranyajana5906
      @aranyajana5906 Před 2 lety +3

      I am in 24/7 curfew
      lucky for u that u can walk outside

    • @sheripoland4742
      @sheripoland4742 Před 2 lety

      Thanks! Good days and some not great, like all of us ❤

    • @didjaseemyjams1582
      @didjaseemyjams1582 Před 2 lety

      I also make friends with the trees! Glad I'm not the only one!

    • @didjaseemyjams1582
      @didjaseemyjams1582 Před 2 lety

      @happy vibes 😊❤️ All the best people are. 😉

  • @pamelajordan2890
    @pamelajordan2890 Před 2 lety +39

    A panic attack is real..this is good .. let's talk about hyperventilating..."don't take a breath while counting to thirty.. it's ok if you make it to only 15. Again.hold . Count..as long as you can .. one more time..you will always get a deep breath because your body will take over..this has helped me so much.
    .

    • @dragonzrsick2543
      @dragonzrsick2543 Před 2 lety +2

      When I'm having a panic attack I have to be very careful with my breathing. If breathing feels wrong I slip back into hyperventilion or, at the least, utter panic.

    • @Study_with_txt
      @Study_with_txt Před 2 lety

      @@dragonzrsick2543 i am sorry i dont know much about anxiety but I am really curious
      what do u mean by hyperventilion ?

    • @BunnyBounce161
      @BunnyBounce161 Před 2 lety +1

      @@Study_with_txt If I understand correctly, it’s when you breathe really short, quick breaths, which usually just cause you to not get as much oxygen as you should be getting. Usually a side effect of panic attacks, high stress, etc.

    • @BunnyBounce161
      @BunnyBounce161 Před 2 lety +1

      Don’t quote me on that, I may be wrong. But I think that’s what that is.

    • @Study_with_txt
      @Study_with_txt Před 2 lety

      @@BunnyBounce161 ohhh like asthma u mean?, except its more sudden

  • @givemeloveplease2482
    @givemeloveplease2482 Před 2 lety +41

    This is by far the channel that is more helpful than therapy

    • @Owibi
      @Owibi Před 2 lety

      Lol definetly, therapy never helped me honestly. I don’t like talking to people about my problems unless they’re an extremely close friend that I trust

    • @The-Legend-of-P
      @The-Legend-of-P Před 9 měsíci

      @@Owibimight be why it didn’t work tbh

    • @Owibi
      @Owibi Před 9 měsíci

      @@The-Legend-of-P nah I was like 7-8 when I went to therapy, I told people back then but still it didn’t seem to help at all
      now therapy would be much worse bc talking to people is hard

    • @The-Legend-of-P
      @The-Legend-of-P Před 9 měsíci

      @@Owibi then sorry for judging so quickly das on me. And yeah it sucks talkingto people about it. I just realized that if I’m like paying or insurance or something then I might as well just get over the hurdle of telling someone. It seemed to help but sometimes not and I just internalize on what I choose to be helpful. It’s hard to be open to someone you don’t trust though.

  • @kolibambangg
    @kolibambangg Před 2 lety +33

    The last one is very helpful! I often say "I'm speechless" when people vent to me, especially when their problems are quite hard to comprehend/solve. And I always feel bad about it. I feel like I couldn't connect with them. Plus, saying "I'm speechless" seems like I don't want to try to empathize. Now I know what to say :)

    • @Owibi
      @Owibi Před 2 lety +2

      I usually try to say something kind if someone vents to me, then it ends up coming out sarcastic/mean because I’m bad at talking to people xd

    • @kolibambangg
      @kolibambangg Před 2 lety

      @@Owibi lmaoo same. i feel so baddd

  • @TwinTails100
    @TwinTails100 Před 2 lety +25

    Amanda could start a creepypasta reading channel, and I'd still watch it.

    • @maxim_ssc
      @maxim_ssc Před 2 lety +2

      yeah, me too
      I'm sure it would sound great

  • @fatimaashraf3009
    @fatimaashraf3009 Před 2 lety +20

    One of my friends have anxiety so this helps when she has another attack. This also helps me but I'm not diagnosed.

  • @cobaltblu4196
    @cobaltblu4196 Před 2 lety +68

    I disagree with most of these and I'd like to give my opinion on each, as I do suffer with anxiety
    You have my attention (or) I am listening
    this one can be super helpful however If you say this please watch your tone, because if it's a muttered "yeah, im listening" It can lead them to believe you
    are being burdened by them, and that Is the last thing we want
    I'd replace this with "I'm here to listen" or "If you want you can tell me about it"
    What can I do to help you?
    this one leads me to feel like a burden, even if it's "is there anything I can do to help you?" or "any way I can help?"
    honestly I'd just scrap this one, I in no way want to inconvenience anyone when I'm spiraling.
    Hey let's go for a walk. We can talk about it, or we can just get some fresh air
    The last thing I want to do right now is go outside, I'm dealing with my mind, I'm scared, I'm paranoid. I've been here with this one and
    It literally just led me to just being afraid for my life for like a solid hour.
    I'd replace this with "wanna play some (insert game they like here) ?"

    Is it okay if I give you a hug?
    This one I love, this one makes me very happy, however doesn't really work over the internet or in a quarantine
    I'm here for you, no matter what is happening
    no complaints here, it feels great not to feel alone
    Would advice be helpful or should I just listen?
    Watch your tone with this one. this can come off sarcastic really quick. any hint of frustration and I'll feel like the worlds biggest Jerk
    I might replace that one with "would you like some advice? If not I can continue to listen"
    I don't know what to say, but I'm here for you
    A very sweet yet hollow feeling It's rather bittersweet but that one is just me.

    • @shellykapel9023
      @shellykapel9023 Před 2 lety +6

      Thank you for sharing this

    • @Psych2go
      @Psych2go  Před 2 lety +10

      Thanks for sharing!

    • @Owibi
      @Owibi Před 2 lety +6

      Thanks for sharing, I do love your opinion on these tbh

    • @taytaythehufflepuff8532
      @taytaythehufflepuff8532 Před 2 lety +2

      Thank you for sharing, like so much. I'm watching through some of these vids so I can be more prepared when things come up with my friend. I tried the "what do you want to do?" or something similar one time and it didn't help--I found that decision making when she's already stressed isn't really effective.
      But yeah, these all seem like things you need to make sure you genuinely mean or else it'll just come off as rude. I'll take note of that going forward.

    • @cobaltblu4196
      @cobaltblu4196 Před 2 lety +3

      ​@@taytaythehufflepuff8532 if they want any advice to help the panic, some other tricks I've learned over the years.
      ask them to
      1. breathe in 4 seconds, hold 7 seconds, breathe out for 8 seconds. repeat 3 - 5 times.
      2. name 5 things you can see, 3 things you can hear, 4 things you can touch, 2 things you can smell, and 1 thing you can taste.
      3. sipping slowly on some nice cold water helps me often. (Doing this as I'm typing because I'm having a bad anxiety day)
      4. try talking to friends about anything, doesn't matter what the subject is. just go on a little conversational journey. it can be about what they are panicked over, or it can be about the newest thing the're into..
      hope some of these can help :D, Anxiety is a tricky thing, and people seem to want people to just "get over it" but that's not how it works.

  • @starletjoachim4580
    @starletjoachim4580 Před 2 lety +17

    The insecurity of tomorrow makes more and more people suffer from anxiety and depression.

    • @seneynah
      @seneynah Před 3 měsíci

      It’s manufactured and it needs to stop! Social media algorithms and media push anxiety inducing stories and click bait. Plays on our deepest fears. Covid woke me up to this reality. Viruses have always killed old and unhealthy people, new viruses do it more effectively. A new virus makes its way into a nursing home and you will see massive carnage suddenly. This is nothing new or sensational until the media makes it so. Same with “climate crisis” the earth climate changes, always has, it’s not necessarily an existential threat. If it wasn’t for the media, none of us would’ve cared about Covid, and we wouldn’t even think the climate was an issue either it’s all manufactured.

  • @localhuman8566
    @localhuman8566 Před 2 lety +2

    Don't you love it when people say they will listen and you could always talk to them but then they don't listen and make fun of you or get mad when you open up

  • @evershadowvii7848
    @evershadowvii7848 Před 2 lety +15

    I'm stuck within a situation where someone I care for gets anxious around me. I'm really anxious to let them know that everything's alright though, and I also want to understand how they feel. We both have our problems. I wish I could've done better.

  • @boomboom1258
    @boomboom1258 Před 2 lety +7

    I still have trouble being there for my housemate who has severe anxiety and sometimes I struggle to be there for him because I too have anxiety and I am a highly sensitive person.
    This is a good reminder, to just ask what he needs from me and I'm here to listen.

  • @manash5897
    @manash5897 Před 2 lety +28

    As someone that has Anxiety all of these are pretty accurate, Especially the last point. Usually when i talk to someone about my Anxiety or Worries they tend to give me advices and comparison with what they've been dealing with, which didn't make me feel any better
    (。ŏ﹏ŏ)

    • @Psych2go
      @Psych2go  Před 2 lety +2

      Sorry to hear that. What would you like to hear next time you talk to someone about your anxiety?

  • @riverly7275
    @riverly7275 Před 2 lety +8

    I have bad Anxiety, and It would be nice to hear these things, and for someone to let you talk to them without them talking, or reacting. Or, them telling me I’m perfectly fine, It will be okay, calm down, nothings wrong, or are you okay. It really just makes the problem worse. Mainly because some of these things I said make it seem like we have a problem, and it’s easy to fix. But, we just can’t. But, I hope to, one day, have someone in my life that will listen, and try to help like this when I need it. Thank you.

    • @spooky1487
      @spooky1487 Před 2 lety +1

      What advice would you give to someone who is trying to be a good supportive friend to someone with Anxiety? I've never dealt with it and don't quite understand but when I ask my friend questions to understand it more they get distant and aren't really good about communicating how they feel.

    • @riverly7275
      @riverly7275 Před 2 lety

      @@spooky1487 Don’t ask questions about it, thinking about what your dealing with can, most times, make the problem worse. Also, people don’t experience it all the time. One moment the day is going great, and the next, you feel like you’re dying. And, most times the person doesn’t even know what’s going on themselves. Maybe try asking if they need anything, or silly random questions, while in the panic. Try giving them some water. But, only do this towards the end of it, or when it is just beginning. Just, don’t leave them alone, don’t try to reassure them that everything is alright, and just be there to comfort them when it’s happening. But, DO NOT ask ANY questions about it. Answering these questions makes the person feel stupid or like they’re faking the whole thing. I hope this helps any.

    • @spooky1487
      @spooky1487 Před 2 lety

      @@riverly7275 Definitely helpful but probably too late. I've already done most of the things you mentioned not to do because they make logical sense but emotions aren't supposed to make sense so that would explain why she's been distant probably :/ Ig I'll know for next time :( Thank you so much for the reply

    • @riverly7275
      @riverly7275 Před 2 lety

      @@spooky1487 You’re welcome! I hope things get better with her.

  • @anastasiaanjelita2844
    @anastasiaanjelita2844 Před 2 lety +10

    Actually it's hard even to see people just walking towards me... So many things happen in my head that time like "how i should deal with them?" "What if they talk to me?" "What i must answer them if they asking?".... You know, like i don't wanna make them feel bad cause my anxiety...
    So, that time i just smile and that smile became weird😂
    (Sorry bad english... Hope you understand what i mean...)

  • @rithizi5398
    @rithizi5398 Před 2 lety +17

    This channel is my safe place, it has really made my life better, thank you so much ❤

  • @haphephobia
    @haphephobia Před 2 lety +2

    As a mini therapist with bad English, i saw both the title and thumbnail, thought the things i said to comfort others was actually wrong, but now i'm happy :')

    • @maxim_ssc
      @maxim_ssc Před 2 lety

      that's nice, that you are happy rn :D

  • @jokeloy4916
    @jokeloy4916 Před 2 lety +1

    You, yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe, deserve your love and affection.

  • @rya2037
    @rya2037 Před 2 lety +3

    There are many people with anxiety. There are lots of people to love them but few to help them.

  • @chrisw207
    @chrisw207 Před 2 lety +10

    On number 2, it's important to follow through. I've heard this a lot, told people what I need, and found it was too difficult for them to do, even of it was as simple as knock on my door before entering, or pre comminocate items for meetings and it killed my faith in even the idea I can get help when I need it.

  • @itsmegrayce
    @itsmegrayce Před 6 dny

    I've been watching alot of videos about it nowadays, so I can support my bf with anxiety, I love him and I don't want to lose him because of this situation it's wasn't easy and need alot of patience , but I know it's worth it !
    Sending love to all of you guys who experiencing with anxiety ❤

  • @xtinamariem3683
    @xtinamariem3683 Před 2 lety +7

    "Consent is key" this is very true, especially for those of us who have not been allowed space for self determination, and it allows the person experiencing anxiety to determine what kind of support is helpful in the moment

  • @kautsaraliandra1396
    @kautsaraliandra1396 Před 2 lety +4

    I just want to say that's a very nice art style. I love it.

  • @soup_bites_back8774
    @soup_bites_back8774 Před 2 lety +46

    This just made me feel better c:
    But still i have anxiety I’m fighting
    But
    This is amazing!

    • @maxim_ssc
      @maxim_ssc Před 2 lety

      I'm sure it made many people feel better too :)

  • @kevindavis4709
    @kevindavis4709 Před rokem +1

    It takes truelove commitment to stay around somebody like that and not walk away.

  • @therealcosplayqueen
    @therealcosplayqueen Před 2 lety +13

    Big thanks to Phoebe for animating this one! You’re doing an incredible job, and personally you’re my fave animator so far! ❤️

  • @aza7813
    @aza7813 Před 2 lety +10

    I knew someone who anxiety but unfortunately we aren’t friends anymore. I feel bad for her sometimes but I am not her friend anymore so things are different now. I tried to help her but she just kept pushing me away

    • @aiiiia9971
      @aiiiia9971 Před 2 lety

      Mmm I know how that be.
      My best friend has anxiety issues and has tried to convince me to leave them or to trick me out of being friends with them more times than I can count despite craving my company.
      I love them but it is something I definitely took notice of so I totally feel where you are coming from. People often can't accept love that they don't feel they deserve. It's sad to see but you can't make it change out of force of will.
      Anyways I wish you luck and I hope both of you are doing well wherever you are

    • @aza7813
      @aza7813 Před 2 lety

      @@aiiiia9971 thanks u too. and i agree u cant change everyone

  • @miaumiau9624
    @miaumiau9624 Před rokem +3

    i always try to be nice and include everyone because i know social anxiety sucks

  • @treatmenice1564
    @treatmenice1564 Před 2 lety +2

    Don't ever say "I'm here for you" unless you really mean it! I never met anyone who really meant it.

  • @hatersgottahatewejustgotta198

    OCD is just killing me. I can't take it anymore I don't know if I'll ever be the old me, I don't know if my therapist is a good one, I just wanna feel happy and calm and good again.

  • @zaraharis
    @zaraharis Před 2 lety +17

    I always feel like it's my fault for i have anxiety. Everyone struggles. The world doesn't only revolves around me. I just want everyone to be happy.

    • @BunnyBounce161
      @BunnyBounce161 Před 2 lety

      Anxiety isn’t your fault. What can I do to help?

    • @zaraharis
      @zaraharis Před 2 lety +1

      @@BunnyBounce161 your words already helps. Like, a lot. Thank you so much :')

    • @BunnyBounce161
      @BunnyBounce161 Před 2 lety +1

      Glad I could help! 🖤🤍💜

  • @Shirin1128
    @Shirin1128 Před 2 lety +7

    im literally watching this for myself, my cat passed away 2 days back and I just feel sadistic :D

    • @jeannefochessati8014
      @jeannefochessati8014 Před 2 lety +2

      I am so sorry to hear about the passing of your cat.

    • @Shirin1128
      @Shirin1128 Před 2 lety +1

      @@jeannefochessati8014 its okay we cant change it :)

  • @ruru_kmgsn
    @ruru_kmgsn Před 2 lety +2

    This video actually helped me alot- my friend is usually always sad and I feel a lot more confident when trying to comfort them now

  • @veronikajohansson4303
    @veronikajohansson4303 Před 2 lety

    Thank you for making this video. Sometimes it's really hard to communicate those things that might trigger anxiety rather than comfort.. so thank you all for this tool that can make it easier

  • @reddragonlegacy
    @reddragonlegacy Před 2 lety +13

    #5...it's why I don't feel like I can talk to any of my friends online. I took a break from a group chat because it was too much and overwhelming. When I mentioned dealing with anxiety and depression, I was met with "We're here for you"...but I never hear from them anymore...and when I could really use them most...with friends like these, who needs enemies, right?

    • @ridamdahiya6591
      @ridamdahiya6591 Před 2 lety +1

      exactly 🥲

    • @reddragonlegacy
      @reddragonlegacy Před 2 lety +3

      @@ridamdahiya6591 I'm sorry to hear you're dealing with something like that too. When I confronted them all about it, one gave me "I don't really talk to anyone", another gave me "I don't really talk to anyone except ______" and then the 3rd one didn't even give me a reason. The only person I'm not mad at or disappointed in is the one who 1st checked on me when I left and continued to do so afterwards. I keep deleting and reinstalling social media, I left the main chat room on Discord (still have a few that have at least 2 of them in them, and not many others). I keep logging out ofy sites too so I don't get passive-aggressive more. Not that they'd tell me they had a problem with it. You'd think I'd be able to let them all go, but I can't. I care too much about them, even though they clearly don't care about me. I hope you're able to find the right kind of people to surround yourself with. Seems like this channel might not be a bad start haha

    • @ridamdahiya6591
      @ridamdahiya6591 Před 2 lety +3

      @@reddragonlegacy Yeah may be :) Thanks for your reply .

    • @reddragonlegacy
      @reddragonlegacy Před 2 lety +1

      @@ridamdahiya6591 you are most welcome :) honestly can't make promises on time or frequency, but I'm available if you need to chat

  • @laniakea3393
    @laniakea3393 Před 2 lety +3

    OH GOD!! I CAN'T HELP BUT APPRECIATE EVERY ANIMATER'S WORK IN EVERY VIDEO. Plus I love the thumbnail...

    • @maxim_ssc
      @maxim_ssc Před 2 lety

      yeah, me too
      and 2:44 ist just a masterpiece

    • @laniakea3393
      @laniakea3393 Před 2 lety

      @@maxim_ssc Ikr. I love the lighting...and....the way their plants on their head is moving.

  • @rebeccajoyner3858
    @rebeccajoyner3858 Před 2 lety +1

    I’ve definitely heard these phrases in my struggle with anxiety. It’s always comforting.

  • @grass750
    @grass750 Před 2 lety +1

    Been struggling with severe anxiety the past week. This video came in such great time!

  • @paige172
    @paige172 Před 2 lety +3

    guess i gotta say these to my self then.

  • @popyye
    @popyye Před 2 lety +6

    I’m have a SEVERE case of anxiety, I literally shake and cry till im so drained to the point of giving up everything. This would have been so help for all of my friends that didnt care about me

  • @nina4683
    @nina4683 Před 2 lety +1

    I love how you post everyday! It helps me so much please continue making these vids!

  • @millerelena8674
    @millerelena8674 Před 2 lety

    This video is not only heplful, but also it's so heartwarming. I deeply love the animation! I was crying just watching how one person was trying to help another to make them feel better.
    I have Anxiety as well and atm I'm some sort of mental crisis. I'm fighting, I'm trying to fix it. But this video made me feel better. Thank you, Psych2Go.

  • @x.nonbinary_nightmare.x8379

    HI! How is everyone?

  • @cube4547
    @cube4547 Před 2 lety +25

    Try not to you use your own perception and experience when trying to show that you understand them. This might actually make them feel misunderstood.

  • @Owibi
    @Owibi Před 2 lety

    This is a very helpful video.
    My beloved online bestie suffers from anxiety and depression, and I’m always trying to help her in different ways. I truly care about her and would literally die for her without hesitation, so learning things I can use to help her is very appreciated.
    Thank you :)

  • @birbhay
    @birbhay Před 2 lety +1

    as someone with severe social anxiety, I really appreciate this video. tysm

  • @shashwata.s3667
    @shashwata.s3667 Před 2 lety +19

    Sometimes I feel like life is beautiful ,
    Then I realized that I am just drunk!

  • @lynossa8130
    @lynossa8130 Před 2 lety +6

    Wish I could do all these to my friend who is suffering with anxiety right now but we are still in (some sort of) lockdown. Is there a way to show our support from afar? Sometimes I’m afraid they would think my words are empty.

  • @mielli2791
    @mielli2791 Před 2 lety

    This is so so helpful, thank you sm! My friend group is basically just made up of introverts, including myself. And as much as I want to help them feel better, I don’t know how. I always try to say something but it’s hard to think of something not too dramatic or vague for that specific person while the other needs actual hands-on help.

  • @OldRob3302
    @OldRob3302 Před 2 lety

    So thankful for this channel.

  • @rjlupin.variant
    @rjlupin.variant Před 2 lety +4

    I have horrendous anxiety along with ADD and ADHD… and most of my friends don’t look like they care or know…

    • @Psych2go
      @Psych2go  Před 2 lety

      Sorry you have to deal with those things. Have you shared with your friends?

    • @rjlupin.variant
      @rjlupin.variant Před 2 lety

      @@Psych2go my mom works it out with their parents and then they understand more because I’m not the best at explaining

  • @thebluejay5016
    @thebluejay5016 Před 2 lety +5

    My best friend is dealing with anxiety, and I really want to help her, but it seems like every time I ask if she’s ok, if she wants to talk about it… she always has to go. Idk if she’s purposely being evasive or if shes actually busy. I really hope she’s doing alright. I’ve really screwed up sometimes, and now that I think about it, I’ve been kind of saying the kind of thing that can be a little triggering for someone with anxiety. I screw everything up, and I feel really bad about that. Maybe it’s my fault that she doesn’t want to talk to me. Shit, that sounds really self-centered… idk anymore

    • @dewaparkha4612
      @dewaparkha4612 Před 2 lety

      Just give her a hug 🤗
      Also you didn't screw anything up, you were just trying to help.

    • @thebluejay5016
      @thebluejay5016 Před 2 lety

      @@dewaparkha4612 thank you

    • @dewaparkha4612
      @dewaparkha4612 Před 2 lety

      @@thebluejay5016 Welcome ☺️

  • @m.s9875
    @m.s9875 Před 2 lety +1

    That's amazing...it helps me reflect on myself...and all the decisions ,I try to make..thank you,as always ‼❤

  • @mattwells9904
    @mattwells9904 Před 2 lety +1

    Will definitely be sharing this thanks for the video guys keep up the good fight

  • @bc8724
    @bc8724 Před 2 lety +4

    This video was really nice:)
    As an anxious person i assure you that i would appreciate someone saying/doing such things for me:)))
    *[Hah if only i had friends:')]*

    • @bc8724
      @bc8724 Před 2 lety

      @sosooorna aw thx you're so sweet:))))

    • @bc8724
      @bc8724 Před 2 lety

      @@janita5262 aww really???that would be very nice haha:))))

    • @bc8724
      @bc8724 Před 2 lety

      @@janita5262
      Awww thx there's no need haha^^
      You're really nice:D
      *[Imma sub to you too]*

    • @bc8724
      @bc8724 Před 2 lety

      @@janita5262 :D

  • @shel3535
    @shel3535 Před 2 lety +2

    Everyone in the comments: now i can help my friend with anxiety! 😊
    Me: I AM the friend with anxiety *dies*

  • @rere11345
    @rere11345 Před 2 lety +2

    Thanks for makeing this :) my friend has been struggling with anxiety and low self esteem I want to help so much but I never know how to say something they would believe. This helped :)

  • @lizillusion2318
    @lizillusion2318 Před rokem

    Both my bf and I struggle with anxiety, so we have some of these in our arsenal already. It’s nice to see these phrases shared more, because it’s really important for somebody with anxiety to feel heard, valid, and in control.

  • @theindigotree
    @theindigotree Před 2 lety +3

    All I'm thinking about is Isolde, Chione and Renee.

  • @DepressionTalks1
    @DepressionTalks1 Před 2 lety +5

    If you’re reading this, please know you are not alone🧠✌🏾❤️

  • @CoasterQueen8799
    @CoasterQueen8799 Před 2 lety

    I needed this! I have several friends with anxiety and I have always been unsure what to say to them when they deal with an attack.

  • @BrokenEvil
    @BrokenEvil Před 2 lety +2

    this brought tears to my eyes, so true

  • @ausy5903
    @ausy5903 Před 2 lety +3

    Do you see people with anxiety? Slap them hard. They will ask why you do that instead of what if 🤣

  • @gokumidoriya6340
    @gokumidoriya6340 Před 2 lety +2

    I also suffered from anxiety for almost 2 years and had no one to talk about it because I was afraid of everyone, and no one was close to me(that's what I thought). Now I am great and in the journey of making myself happy even in alone times and I don't want to see someone suffer like I did with anxiety. Thanks Psych2Go!

  • @valh4196
    @valh4196 Před 2 lety

    This was very helpful!! Thank you!

  • @SwiftKey_253
    @SwiftKey_253 Před 2 lety

    just hearing these from this video feels calming.. thank you

  • @jchrismoonlitshineworld1889

    Perfect. Thank you.

  • @UltraHylia
    @UltraHylia Před 2 lety +1

    From now on, I shall watch this video whenever I get an anxiety attack

  • @bellatvlover610
    @bellatvlover610 Před 2 lety +1

    I don’t have any friends to comfort me,but watching your videos make me so comfortable 😊

  • @Sn0wyy_
    @Sn0wyy_ Před 2 lety

    I got diagnosed with anxiety a while ago and these kind of videos is really helping me because I can send them to my friends so that they know how help, so thanks:)

  • @hirayamanawari6868
    @hirayamanawari6868 Před 2 lety +1

    Psych2Go its such an honor to have you all on youtube😭

  • @sage_..
    @sage_.. Před 2 lety +2

    Love y’all’s channel

  • @ninalim471
    @ninalim471 Před 2 lety

    Thank you for the video. The above words are really reassuring for people with anxiety. I hope to apply above tips when I can.

  • @xoch9372
    @xoch9372 Před 2 lety +1

    Hey psych thank you so much for making these videos!! I love learning new things from your channel!!💛

  • @AmaryonsWorld
    @AmaryonsWorld Před rokem

    This made me feel understood so well, the examples you gave of touching made my anxiety go up but then explaining how someone can help resolve this calmed me back down. I got into an fight with my girlfriend, because I was having an anxiety attack and she didn’t know, and she tried to grab me and tried pulling me towards her and immediately jerked away.. she got upset I pulled away from her, but I was freaking tf out and that triggered me. I’m definitely sending her this video.

  • @thedac85
    @thedac85 Před rokem

    This was helpful. Thank you!

  • @chionItz
    @chionItz Před 2 lety

    Completely agree and find it helpful for people to understand people with anxiety more

  • @aubreysnyder338
    @aubreysnyder338 Před 2 lety

    Consent about touching is definitely important. Some days I really want to hug. other days my chronic physical pain is so great even clothes on my skin hurts. This is great information thank you.