15 Things to Say to Someone With Trauma
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- čas přidán 10. 06. 2024
- Trauma is an emotional response to a terrible event like an accident, rape, any form of abuse, gaslighting, or natural disaster. Do you know someone who has difficulty in concentrating, experiences anger, irritability, frequent mood swings along with anxiety and fear? Do they often feel guilty about certain experiences in life, is withdrawing from others, feels sad, hopeless, or feels disconnected or numb? The person may have witnessed a traumatic event in their life. Here are a few ways to help them heal!
We also made a video on the signs you may have unhealed trauma: • 9 Signs You Have Unhea...
DISCLAIMER: The stats mentioned in the video may change over time. This is not professional advice, please seek out a professional if you need help. This video is created for educational purposes and awareness around different topics. Video may or may not be able to go fully in-depth in such a limited time.
Writer: Ananya Sawarkar
Script Editor: Isadora Ho
Script Manager: Kelly Soong
VO: Amanda Silvera
Animator: Aury
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References;
By Seth J. Gillihan Ph.D. (September 7, 2016) 21 Common Reactions to Trauma. Retrieved February 9, 2021, from www.psychologytoday.com/us/bl...
By Eating Recovery Center (June 21, 2017) 25 Helpful Things to Say to a Loved One With PTSD. Retrieved February 9, 2021, from themighty.com/2017/06/what-to...
American Psychological Association, Retrieved February 9, 2021, from, www.apa.org/topics/trauma#:~:....
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Thanks for taking my suggestions
No problem! Thanks for suggesting it! :)
@@Psych2go your welcome
Are you a time traveller ?
@@theunknowngamer1908 yes, in future there will be a video called "8 signs you are depressed about your life"
@@more1494 😶 WTF ???
When will this pandemic end ?
1. "I see you're in pain, it's OK to feel this way."
2. "You're symptoms makes sense given what you've been through."
3. "What has happened doesn't define you."
4. "The worst isn't happening again, even though it may feel that way."
5. "You didn't deserve that."
6. "How can I help you?"
7. "What happened to you was never your fault."
8. "I'm sorry I wasn't there for you, I will do my best to be there and never judge."
9. "It's okay to be hurt and angry, it doesn't make you a bad person."
10. "I don't understand the signs and symptoms, but I believe you and I support you."
11. "You are inspiring, even if you don't see it, the growth you've made is remarkable."
12. "You are not alone, no matter how much it feels like it."
13. "You are loved and cherished."
14. "I have been here before, just know that I am here for you and it will get better."
15. "I'm sorry this happened to you, I will be keeping you in my thoughts and prayer."
ur welcome
thank you!
💚 Thanks. Take care of yourself, take care of your mental health.
@@Elodie_N_INTJ_Analyzes awee you too beautiful
@@sushih3302 ur welcomee angel
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"You can always tell who the strongest people are. They are the ones you see building one another up, instead of tearing each other down" - Dexter
Which Dexter tho?
no checkmark, what a dissapointment :(
True..we do that
Yes!!!!
But don't feel like you have to build up others if you can :)
Ok, my school counsellor should probably get fired. She's so weird and doesn't help at all. She called me a guinea pig because she's never seen so much impact trauma has caused to a student to be shown on full display so she was all like, 'I'm going to use you has an experiment' vibes.
Honestly, creeped me out.
Same with my principal who threatened to call the ambulance on me because I was crying-
If you're wondering if I stopped crying, the answer is no
edit: btw, this was in high school
WHAT THE-
she actually should be fired
Omg…I’m so sorry..
Wtf man
I'm so sorry to hear that, hope you're doing better now
I hope you're better now. Take care. You are loved🥺💕
“The worst isn’t happening again, even though it may feel that way.” That hit hard. As someone who has social anxiety bc of past trauma, this means so so much to hear.
I'm really sorry that happend to you, would you mind talking about it? I can tell some stories aswell if you would like, i have anxiety aswell.
If that happened again I'd made everything another way. But it won't happen again, what's happening now is much worse because of that fact. It's not "happened to me" it's just me happened to them. (But that's not reason to feel bad, it was predicted)
Same here. People just dont understand and are so scared to seek to understand.
Tip: "I'm sorry" isn't really helpful.
Often times people overuse it and sometimes it just feels meaningless.
I feel this. As someone who has been through various traumatic events, when someone says “sorry” it’s like…yeah, I am too
Thats true i guess, but a "Im sorry this happend to you, you didn't deserve that" is much more helpfull as it implies that not only do you care, you also show the person that they aren't responsible for what happend and that they deserve better. a "Its in no way your fault, you didnt deserve it" is good too i guess.
Yeah..I agree. I've been in chronic pain for 20 years and I've been told that so much by so many ranges of people...it does get old.
I guess there are not a bunch of common ways to word true empathy..because it's hard to express how you feel at times without hurting/offending someone. I usually just say something like "Do your best to keep your head high no matter what. I know that this is hard but you can do this...I believe in you.". It usually depends on the situation on how I word it....but I've definitely removed the generic "I'm sorry." response from the majority of my vocabulary unless I did something wrong that I need to apologize for. I feel that using the term "sorry" so losely/commonly makes it mean less when you really are sorry(instead of trying to console someone) and need to APOLOGIZE for something.
Just the way I feel about it..but everyone is different. I hope everyone who reads this has an amazing day/night..and please know there is always someone to talk to..If you feel yourself slipping emotionally try your best to seek out help earlier rather than later.
yeah.
My girlfriend suffers from traumatic events in the past, causing her to develop trust issues, and being afraid of betrayal. I try to help her, comfort her, and say the things that I wanted to hear a couple years back when I had my own stuff going on.
And the one thing I've noticed, is that just telling her that I will always tell the truth, and reassuring her of that when it comes up, is already a great help. If you seriously mean it of course. Otherwise you'll just be part of the problem.
But sometimes it's hard to figure out what to say, and when. And some of your videos, like this one, are a big help for me personally, and probably a lot of other people as well.
So thank you, Psych2Go, for the good advice, and lighthearted videos! Much appreciated
There are people who dont habe trust issues? O.O
@@XxXBattleStarXxX Okay?
@@XxXBattleStarXxX uh ew
❤️ Good job, my friend. Keep on being a nice and honest person. Wish you both True Love and Happiness. Being a good and honest person is always rewarded by the Universe eventually, so it comes back to you.❤️
I’m glad you help each other and validate her feelings. It is so helpful to at least feel understood, even if the other person doesn’t have trauma. Just keep doing what works! I’m proud of you both!
Fun fact: these videos makes our days better
I love how everyone shares their story’s and everyone is always so supportive such a great community.
Yea im really happy i found this channel wouldn't know what to do without it.
Nope I'm not supportive I'm just a negative bastard and I hate life and everyone and everything in it.
@@idreamindarknessandsleepto1475 its never too late to be positive. 😊
We appreciate it too :)
"Crying doesn't mean that you are weak, you just have endured everything for so long...." Not mine, I just heard it from my teacher😋
That sounds like a good teacher!
@@thesaddestdude3575 yeah... she is
Wow you have a good teacher huh? I'm jealous 😔😔😔
@Ryan Stephenson back in 7th grade, my English teacher had a sister who was a psychologist. I was super depressed, so she would call her sister during lunch and I’d talk to her. (The school counselor was not good at her job…)
@Ryan Stephenson well not ALL, but I have this math teacher who really really cares about her students and this one time I wasn't in her class and she tried to contact me why I wasn't there bcs I haven't told anyone yet why I'm absent (she's strict btw), I told her that I've been having problems with something (*everything) and she told me to take things slowly, bcs I have anger and trust issues she told me to hear some relaxing music to cool down and try trusting someone slowly with starting from myself. This one time I told her that I am having this mental disorder that was called ODD and just found out I am bisexual and a sociopath which make me cry and hurt myself A LOT. I tell her how I always blame myself that I can't control myself and said that I'm weak .... She is the only one who supported me and tell me "Crying doesn't mean you are weak, you just have endured everything for so long" I was very touched, I don't really pass up her work that she gave, I didn't score high marks on her subject but she still treated me like her own daughter.... I even write what she told me on a board with everything that she told me.....
And that's why Duck + iPad = iPad Kid😀🙂
“I am sorry for how you are feeling. Here’s some ice-cream” often works well too 😅
Just kidding. Often times we underestimate how important it is to say the right things to people who are suffering. We tend to want to “fix” the other person’s feelings by offering quick solutions, or underplaying their issues, but this only makes things worse.
Empathy is key ❤️🚀🌙
yeah but sometimes no matter if you do say the right thing or don't and just try to listen some people will still get mad at you and expect you to fix their problems for them.
@Isabel reed ♡︎ I see you in El Gato channel and you are here too!
Is that supposed to be funny here's some ice-cream if your gonna self promote don't use mental health like that
Hey! You are bribing!
@@hel2727 yes, that’s fully right. Sometimes people who are hurt and suffering will react with anger, because they don’t feel in control. Anger allows them to feel that they are, in some ways, not defenseless - even if one does not mean to hurt them.
Other times it’s just toxic people, incapable of taking responsibility and blaming everybody else. All the best to you ❤️
as a person who's gone through some trauma, a lot of these feel very helpful. a lot of the time i feel as if it was my fault, and i get paranoid thinking someone's out to get me. having someone to support you helps so much.
@Santa Claus ᨆ W-WTF?
THESE BOTS NEED TO STOP, THIS CAN HURT SOMEONE EVEN MORE, MAKE THEM THINK TWHAT THEY ARE DEALING WITH DOESNT MATTER! UGH WHY AM I TRYING TO TALK WITH A EMOTIONLESS BOT...
VERY NOT MERRY ALMOST CHRISTMAS, SANTA!
(wait, almost Christmas means its not Christmas...)
IDK what happened but It wasn't your fault. No one is out there to get you, not even Freddy Krueger. Just acknowledge that something bad happened, you became sad, which is natural and normal, but you must move on, and by moving on I don't mean forgetting it but instead keeping it in your ``backup memory`` and going beck to enjoying life like before.
@@pkmntrainerred4247 What did the BOT post?
I'm really glad that you found somone that can support you, i guess what you went through in the past has caused you to be paranoid, probably a betrayal? Just know that you didn't deserve this, you are worthy of love and believe me there is somone out there who will treat you well, not everyone is callous, i really hope good things come to you and that you eventually regain your trust! But for now its okay to take things slow, time is a good healer, and even though you may never forget these memories that haunt you, thier colours will fade with time. One day at the time, your mindscape is painted over with better memories, and this will happen by itself as you go through life, be ceartain that one day you will feel better, and things will be better!
@@thesaddestdude3575 Stupid ASMR videos.
During one of the times where I felt the lowest a friend I wasn't even close to simply hugged me and held me close. I guess this might not work for everyone; some people hate hugs, but it really affected me in a positive way.
I liked hugs when i was younger but started hating them a while afterwards because when i was younger, I only let few people hug me and they either betrayed me or I left them behind when I loved to another country and I couldn’t see them again, so hugs reminded me of those and it pained me a lot and I developed trust issues but a while ago my friend hugged me and it comforted me since she’s been one of my closest friends for years and I started trusting more again
Sometimes actions mean more than words :)
I agree. I’ve been through some traumatic events in my life to the point words sound like template replies. A genuine firm hug feels much better for me, it comforts your tense muscles and soothes you when you’re shaking. I used to hate hugs but I realize that I need it.
Blessed for those people that wants to help our buddies that getting on a hardship BLESS ALL OF YOU HOPE YOU HAVE A GREAT LIFE
I hope anyone reading this is having a good day :D
Thx u too ;3
Tyyy
Thankyou, same to you 🙋🏻♀️
What? This video is about 3 minuites ago but this comment Was 3 weeks?
I dont have serious PTSD but, I get some like: when people reminds me of my father's death and the people I loved. Or some a-hole makes fun of my losses.
I haved an accident on a bike where I was a kid, with my uncle.....its my fault, for moving to much. But luckily my uncle and I survived :) Still have flashbacks of that
some people make fun of ur fathers death
come on dude I had a tiny quarter of faith in humanity left :/
@@r4yyans___ yeah...because of that, I hate my people
I'd rather have a dead but good father than that animal who pulled my mother in overwhelming debts. I don't think I'm capable for healthy relations knowing that I have same predispositions...
This video actually really helped me. I have a friend who's suffering from trauma and I always felt useless because I thought I wasn't saying the right things. I really hope I can help him go through this :( And I wish everyone who's in this situation feels okay, we are all rooting for you.
Wow
Hey vaiha, we hope your friend will be okay. Thanks for being a great friend.
Wow, this made me cry... As someone who has repeatedly experienced trauma during life and never fully recovered, I can assure hearing these things in the vid is beautiful.
💙
If you're reading this comment, one small positive thought can change your whole day & believe you can and you’re halfway there ✨. God bless you, and may your dreams come true, stay safe and have a wonderful day.🦋
Thank you I needed that :3
Thank you so much for your comment xxx God bless you
It's sad that some people who has gone through a traumatic experience come here to listen those words from a CZcams channel...... Not everyone has someone to support them 😭
"Hast thou the spirit of a slave or a free man? "
Let us not be enslaved by our past, guilt, negative thoughts....
💪💪💪💪
Freedom... it's a myth.
@@fumetsu4323 THAT is irrevocably false.
Freedom is a very real thing. It DOES come at a cost, however. That cost is the COURAGE to live and die FREE... truly free.
...AND it costs in TRUE courage, not just the loud and blustery BS version from Hollyweird.
True freedom is free of worrying about what other people think when they see you. Freedom from saying "yes" to every stupid thing asked of you. Freedom to step up and DO what you've chosen for your own reasons, rather than let someone else live vicariously and leave you to pick up the mess left behind. The courage to live and die that way comes with the weight of responsibility for your actions.
It's BS that "True freedom is never saying you're sorry". OWN whatever you do, did, or ever have done... apologies and all.
Courage doesn't come out of the barrel of a gun. It's NOT the quality of simply not being afraid... It's also NOT being the strongest or fastest or meanest player on the board... whatever the figurative board might be.
True courage is a quieter thing. It's the internal resolve to make a decision and (for better or worse) to follow through and execute that choice to its end. It's being ABSOLUTELY terrified of consequences imposed upon you, but doing what you need to do ANYWAY, because you've decided it's the right thing to do to the best of your intentions. It's CHOOSING to bear the consequences of your choices and actions, YOURSELF, rather than fobbing them off on someone else just because you could... even when it could be legal.
Courage is accepting the world as it is, not as you wish it was or think it "oughta be". It's making your choices and living with them, and not just wallowing in guilt and shame because of some dumb-ass strangers who don't know what's even going on. It's getting back up in the morning when that's the last damn thing you even want to do, and going forward. It's STILL trying to do right by others and cleaning up your own messes, because that's what you know is right.
Yes, freedom exists, but it costs the courage of accepting that EVERYTHING is a choice, and every choice comes with consequences. Some of those are good and pleasant, and some are bad and unpleasant. ONLY when you reckon with the fact that nearly anybody can kill you, but NOBODY can make you do anything you're going to do. They can't stop you doing what you've chosen to do either.
It's very real, but it isn't free. ;o)
@@gnarthdarkanen7464 everything is predicted and your opinion doesn't change anything. There is nothing to fear but there is nothing to be proud about.
It's all like written book, and in the end there is only dark nothing.
@@fumetsu4323 Not on the individual scale. There may be greater scale trends we can't calculate. On the individual scale, however, everything you say and do matters...
even only to YOU.
YOU are the one who has to sit on a porch some day not nearly as far off as you think... When YOU look back, there are going to be two things.
1. Memories and stories of the adventures you had, the things you've seen, and the people you've loved.
2. The regrets about all the sh*t you COULD'VE, WOULD'VE, or SHOULD'VE done but chicken-shitted out of...
...hiding behind a bullshit idiosophy like "nihilism" doesn't change that. ;o)
@@gnarthdarkanen7464 that doesn't matter anything for dead. I've seen it - nothing, dark nothing, without memories without regrets without feelings. People said I've lost my conscious and fell right on back of my head, struggling for a minute. In this place you wouldn't hide behind your self worth, because you won't even remember who you were. This is fate of every single human.
This channel is best friend of all the people like me, who stay away from their families🦋💜
Glad to see that we could be like your family.
@@Psych2go 🥺💜
Just watch to keep me strong, when I starting to remember my own trauma.
"The kindest of people are always the ones who suffer the most." I don't remember where I heard this quote but it's definetely true. Those who are always kind to others no matter what, are always the ones who have suffered the most. These are the kinds of people who bring you up when you're down, always compliment you, help you out when needed. And this is because they probably didn't get this kind of help when they were suffering or still aren't while they are suffering now. They want others to feel better than they did/are. And I know all this, because I am that person.
Same. I feel as though this is my struggle. After doing my best for years to be a good friend by being honest, encouraging, supporting, listening & understanding, I have been left behind during a time when reciprocation of all that would've been ideal. Didn't see it coming, no warning, just left in grief. I know I will be fine; it just hurts to realize exactly how one-sided the friendship actually was. Seeing these now, I wish I had someone tell me years ago. Gratitude for finding them now.
@@ckfodel be lucky that you found them in general. Some people never realize it and are manipulated by their friends for years and years. My friends used me because I was smart.
@@padme_amadalla Gratitude always. There are always lessons to be learned in everything, even if it feels otherwise. I've found the hardest lessons are usually the most valuable. I hope you never stop being the kind person you described, you seem smart so I encourage you to keep on keeping on, being true to yourself, the world needs more people like you. It surely sucks at times, I remember growing up thinking I was cursed, but now I believe we are meant to be this way regardless of others. We are here to help humanity, raise consciousness, because so many can't or don't feel what and how we feel, therefore so many don't act appropriately. No pressure intended, imo just you being you is enough. We can influence without realizing; setting examples of kindness along the way. ❤
Way too true, sadly
This will really help me and my boyfriend out a lot. We both grew up with critical dad that didn't make an effort to see our accomplishments and progress in the beginning. While my boyfriend learned to still build a relationship with his dad and stand up for him self, I on the other hand willted. I bent to whatever my dad wanted and told my self I'm not good enough if I can't please him and keep him happy. Our dads are better than how they were before but I still struggle with PTSD you could say. Everytime I hear his footsteps coming to my room I get anxious and try and meet him before he gets to my room. Every negative thing he says still caries a heavier weight on me and everytime I hear him being upset I hide in my room and pray he doesn't come see me or ask for me. To be very clear both dad's have never hit anyone, it was just verbal abuse. My boyfriend and I still try and help each other even tho I'm the one with the most work to be done. He's always asking how he can help and I always tell him "I don't know" or "I don't think you can really" so these sayings will help us help each other and me.
Thank you for sharing. Remember that your trauma doesn't define you - you have the power to change your mindset and how you perceive yourself. All that verbal abuse you received was someone else's view of themselves that was projected to you. Find the real you because you are strong and deserving.
@@Psych2go oh my gosh! I never thought I'd get a response from you guys! Thanks so much it's been hard but I'm letting you know that it means a lot that a channel goes out of their way to create content and awareness for mental health 😊
How are y'all doing now?
Those who are experiencing trauma, remember that it can come and go but slowly, and you'll get through it soon.
Success is not the key to happiness. Happiness is the key to success. If you love what you are doing, you will be successful
Exactly 😊
majority of people: "thanks for the help" or "thanks i know someone..."
me: ayo hol up is that Dazai?
IKR I NOTICED THAT TOO AND THAT MADE ME SO HAPPY FOR SOME REASON-
Ikr? I didn't expect Dazai-san to be in this video.
I've been on a bungou streak and even psych2go is participating lol
Ikr, kinda shock to see Dazai here. Love him ngl
YESS I LOVE HIM SO MUCH
I love how this video encourages compassion and empathy for others. When it feels like everything is on shaky ground and you're ready to just give up and say f*** it, focusing on others is a good remedy. The way you treat other people can save you some day.
"The Human Brain Is Super Complex And Advanced''
- The Human Brain
I always looked up for someone to say these things to me, to understand what i went through, to understand how i feel. Whenever i tried to share my feelings with my friends, they made fun of me and my situations. Now i am left with no courage to explain anything to anyone. But i guess i can say these things to myself while looking into the mirror.
I have experienced the same thing. I just wanted someone to listen to me. But, all I got was harsh painful words. Now, I don't talk to anyone. Because it just leads to adding more pain to what I already have.
I always cry while hearing these words while I relate to these videos.
I needed this for myself, now I just have to look in the mirror and repeat these every night I wake up at 3 am when my demons keep on staring at me while sipping on coffee, wondering what the hell I am actually trying to do
Or you can watch this video again with the narrator's soothing voice.
Another idea: write these phrases on flash cards and put them in different places in your home: bathroom mirror, refrigerator door, etc.
✨disassociation✨for you, too, eh? I wish you the best! You truly deserve it, even when you don’t think you do! Something that has helped for me (may not for you!) is putting a face to the feelings of inadequacy, hopelessness, etc, usually finding that they’re people from my family or childhood. It’s like when you give your inner critic a name; mine is my grandma bc she’s very very critical. And her name is Karen, so it fits 😌✨
You can also record yourself and replay it back. It helps, too, to find a community that you feel connected to - online or in-person :)
Thank you everyone
I never thought I would see a Sky easter egg in a therapy video ♡
It was such a relief to watch this.
Thank you for giving this piece of advice.
Thanks you so much for this, The girl I love suffered many problems or situations that have affected her in her adult life, traumas in her childhood and adolescence and very strong moments in her adulthood, this has helped me to know how to support her and not say words to the wind, thank you very much .
This channel makes me so happy, the intentions are so pure and I love it!!
Thank you for this more than relevant video. Not knowing what to say to somebody who have serious issues following a trauma is so frustrating. A lot of people want to help intimates which they feel connected, but they don't have the tools to do it. I know somebody on social networks who suffers of chronic depression, following the lost of some members of his family who meant a lot to him. Each time I can, I try to comfort him as much as I can. I used some of the ideas you mention in your video. But with the 15 suggestions you made, I'll be more in the position to help this person. He writes poetry. Dark, sad, tragic but beautiful and moving poetry. If I can lighten a little bit his wounded heart, I'll be so glad and relieved to do it. Your participation will have been crucial in my endeavor to bring some sunshine into his world, which is dimmed by pain, sadness and tears. Again, thank you so much for your priceless help.
It's been half a year since I was diagnosed with PTSD and now I'm still trying my best to overcome it. Listening to this video, I've got tears in my eyes. I really wish someone would say to me that I don't deserve what I've been through and that there is nothing wrong with me to feel this way. It's all valid...
One of my close friends has been going through traumatic family experiences, especially on her step-moms side. But ive never have gone through family trauma before though. So when she opens up about her family, sometimes it can be hard to respond because i cant relate much. I try to show that im here for her. These videos can help so much and bring our friendship closer!
Thank you for sharing this vid!!
Thank you for making this! I had requested it when you all made the video about what to say to someone with depression. My partner (who hasn’t had trauma) asks me what he can say all the time, and I never have words. Some of these may help. 🙂
Though my real life scenario is completely different but I love this community, people who at least offer an ear or try to understand. Talking politely might not end the problem but it would definitely not create further arguments. Thank you😊
this video is the best video on youtube.... i have tried to comfort people by these ways only and understanding these ways requires one to have a lot of empatrhy.
I don’t understand how people… live. It’s amazing to me that people wake up every morning and say: ‘Yeah, another day, let’s do it.’ How do people do it? I don’t know how. How do people act happy?
I'd add to any long term carers of trauma survivors to remember to take time out for self care.
My loving husband of 19 years has dissocitive identity disorder due to extreme, repeated childhood trauma. Trying to always be there for him as support and keeping up with some crazy life stuff at the time put me in the Acute Psychiatric Unit for most of a month. I burnt out, was suicidal and damaged our relationship because I didn't communicate my needs for rest, not so much physical rest but emotional, mental and spiritual rest.
Cycles over and over of constant giving, burnout and retreat can have a carer thinking really distorted thoughts and leaves the person they are caring for really confused.
If you also have your own mental health issues, get your professional supports up to date and talk about carer burnout as part of your mental health plan.
It's okay that you have limits as to how much support you can give. Don't lie to yourself and others, pretending you are okay. Get help when you need it and stay well so you can be a better carer.
Sometimes it's best just to sit next to them and this can provide more comfort than any words.
Very insightful. Thank you.
Is it me or are these videos getting better and better’
This is sooo useful for so many people, thanks for always making these videos!
yk i don’t really have a ppl who support me to deal with this trauma, but just seeing this video and the comments, it’s make me more comfortable.. thanks 💗
I have some sort of a trauma... No one ever helped me and still, after just 5 years, I start to see what progress I have made! It could also be, that this channel is cheering me up though, so I get the illusion that I am happy.
One of my friends had just had a very traumatic event with someone she trusted, her best friend, almost her sisters mom. She is terrified that she’s gonna see her everywhere she’ll go. We haven’t talked because I don’t know what to say. And she doesn’t want to talk to anyone except her boyfriend who she’s only talked to once in the past month. This video helped me so much reconnecting with her because she did not deserve what she encountered and it wasn’t her fault. She is better than them.
Thank you very much for this video. Couple of years ago, I've experienced alot of family trauma, that occurred with alcohol and drug abuse. My brother tried to kill me with a knife while intoxicated with drugs and alcohol and before that, I've been mentally abused with alcoholism from my parents. I was born with minegitis brain decease and alot of people in my community doesn't understand what that really means. So, seeing this clip, makes me realize that I could help, even though I'm not certified in any form of psychological degree. Sorry, if my writing doesn't make any sense but I hope you understand, that this video helps me alot to realize, that Life does go on and with abit of understanding and caring for others, it too can be alot manageable throughout the day. Love your channel and I hope someday, I'll get A coffee cup with your logo on it💖🌹 Have A Nice Day🦋🌹
Thank you for this video; it will help me feel less powerlessness when I try to help people. Sometimes, you wanna help out but just don't know how to express your support...
Which of these points do you not agree with? So that we can be more mindful.
Lemme preface by saying, I know you folks deal with the howling hell winds of everybody's mental illnesses. I know you do it with love and selfless dedication and I want you all to know that you are hero's with monk like patience and I love you. I think the course of this channel will be one where the subscribers grow and Psych2Go grows and it's gonna hurt but it'll be so worth it. I think I can finally diagnose my issue and reconnect with my father because of you fine folks.
All things aside I love those references, Sky: Children of the Light with The Little Prince!
Glad you caught it!
@@Psych2go Wah, Psych2Go! I just wanna say thank you for all the videos you guys making, they have enlightened me many times, and I've learned a lot from you guys, I'm very glad I discovered your channel it has helped me many times, bless and lots of love for everyone involved in creating your wonderful content! 💕
experienced all of these feelings and emotions...really good advice...♡
Wow, this is a powerful video!! Thank you
These 15 phrases can make the difference, i kind of like to help people with hard problems n their back so i really enjoy learning these
This is the best video I've seen here. Thank You so much for doing what You're doing ❤
this is so helpful,thank you sooooo much 👐🏻
This video made me sob uncontrollably, so that is probably a sign that it is helpful
I have nothing more to add
Thank you! Things like “calm down”, “stop living in the past”, and “get over yourself” are not helpful things to say to someone experiencing ptsd symptoms,
You know what i learn so much things from your videos 💜
Aww the animation was so cute.love it❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
The thumbnail: **the little prince**
The title: **something to do with trauma**
Sky kids: *Vietnam war flashbacks*
5:43 also a moth and sky kid in Hidden Forest!!!
@@AvocadoToast06 probably she/he has a trauma about krills lol
@@angielasoriano5616 you're describing me rn 😭😭
@@angielasoriano5616 Wh-what
Skywhat krillwhat
@@thesaddestdude3575 *yup moth get killed and have trauma* (in what I think lol)
This really helps 🥺💙
Thank you for making this video. As someone who is complex post traumatic stress disorder this helped my husband understand me better.
This video made me cry from the beginning
Thank you for bringing such important topics to mainstream ❤
And we can remember to tell these things to ourselves too, whenever need be :)
I've learned to use the word Survivor rather than Victim. In my case, it means I'm not defined by the traumatic brain injury or the drunk driver who caused it, I'm defined by by determination to be functional. Others have their own definitions, though we've all survived something, and most of us are better people because of it.
Thanks so much for this video
Outstanding!
We all have been through a lot of things in life. I remember my fucked up past just to value my present.
Respect to that one friend who helped me while I was struggling.
Thx A TON cuz I really needed how to handle that incase someone else that I know suffers from that in the future since I get emotionally hurt if I am helpless or not supportive enough towards a loved and close one
That's nice and I hope it helps someone. Sadly there's nobody in my life at all, let alone anyone who would say comforting things to me. Just me and my shadow, and he doesn't talk much. I guess I have a cat, she's really verbal, but it's not the same. I live alone, I'm terrified of people and every single day for 35 years I wake up crying .
Hey Carlos, how can we help you?
*”“Sometimes you don’t even realize you’re blocking your own blessings by holding onto to the past or thinking negatively. Start letting go.”*
Love from a small CZcamsr💙
I watched this so I know how to talk to other people, but when you started saying sentences good to say to someone who has gone through trama, I started crying instead. This video helped me a bit too💕
Thanks so much, my friend has been through a lot of stress and I really just wanna help her
Exactly the video I wanted
"I know you have dark days, and that's ok. Just know that I'm here for you" This shows you understand, validating their feelings and letting them know there's nothing to be ashamed of if your having a dark day. Know that something like this can't just be turned off by a switch. It's taken me a while to realize I can't fix anyone. but I can be supportive on the sidelines like a cheerleader~
hello! thank you for your videos.
hey guys, i immediately searched for this video, cause my girl has troubles in life, she has trust issues and anxiety
I followed what everybody here was doing and to confirm, it helps guys! she says she feels way better when i said these calm and healing words.
Thank you guys, and to all men out there, be a good partner to your woman. ❤
One of my friends recently had a seriously traumatic incident involving r@pe. And because he’s a boy, nobody believes him. I (f) am trying very hard to help him recover. Thank you for the extremely helpful video, it’s helped me realise that even if I don’t notice it i have already been doing some of these things.
I hope whoever you are who has taken the time to read this has a good day and here is your reminder that you are loved ❤❤
Is he doing ok?
@@ccedev Yes, he’s recovering very well!
@@Pickled_Peas That's great! You're an amazing friend for helping him through this 🙂
@@ccedev ♥️♥️
Most of these videos dont help me solve things, but prevent them for ever happening... Thank you psy2go :)
The way i needed this video😭🥺💞💞💞💞
Aw, this video is so cute and helpful!
Let them know they are safe and loved - When I was terrorised my partner (who also has ptsd) held me tight and said 'I've got you' - that made me feel safe and secure ♥
Although sometimes feels like I'm making everything worse... it's... nice to see that some of the things that I've said and done are in this list... this shows that even if I am somehow being less than desirable to them without realising it, at other times I'm also helping them.
I would like to suggest something: "Self-pity vs self-compassion"
Could you guys please make a video talking about how to tell if you're empathetic? I'm honestly not sure if I can feel empathy, so that would help me out allot to see if I can. These videos have helped me so much, thank you for this channel.❤
Hey there, thanks for your question!
Check out "Empathy vs. Sympathy: Which one are you?": czcams.com/video/35Wt8LhoVHA/video.html
@@Psych2go thank you!
Great video 👌🤘👍💯
Thank you
Thank you very much 💝
My main point is to always have discussions based on TRUE and honesty. Do not be focused on specific lines, but listen to your partner and do not judge them no matter how horrible thinks they say.
Is that the Little Prince in the thumbnail? Oh my God, that was one of my favourite books!
Thank you for this video, I was really wondering what I should say to such people :)
I almost teared up while hearing how one blame’s themselves for a certain trauma, painful events can sometimes teach you a few things and make you consider new priorities, and I sometimes think that if I hadn’t been embarrassed I would still be cringe and maybe stupid.
But perhaps that’s not always the case, honestly no one deserves to go through a painful experience to learn something, perhaps some mild or strong hardships and build a mindset to overcome stress and frustration through it, or watch a video/read about it to learn what could deeply happen if you did or did not do this and that.
But even if there is many psycological discoveries made, the world still has a lot of things to handle and finish for them to be used and symphetized with. I believe the world is still growing, trying to squeeze out of the negative emotions and mistakes we commit and create good things.
Sorry if this is confusing😅 I’m sometimes am myself😓
I came here to help a new friend whom I found out was a victim of domestic abuse for years. We haven’t met yet but I really wanna help him. I tend to be too “pryful” or something when I meet new people, I’ve learned to manage it through time but it still happens. I don’t wanna make him uncomfortable and say things that might be more hurtful than helpful.
My best friend just lost her father today, I will make sure to use the sayings in the video because I know some relate to her pain.