"My Life Felt Ruined" - Talk w/ Detransitioned Woman
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- čas přidán 24. 07. 2024
- Today we're interviewing a young detransitioned woman who recently appeared on '60 Minutes'. She's speaking out on her experience and attempting to help others through her story.
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If you respect a transition..you have to respect detransition..its all about freedom of choice..right?
Its about who can be used as a pawn and their lives being used a political currency.
not in that toxic community. they act like they're all about freedom. they're not. there's a reason why they call anyone with a different opinion a bigot, sexist etc etc etc.
Yeah
lol. freedom of choice. the trans movement is about using it as a hammer to crush western society so they can build a communist paradise on its ruins who gets ruined in the process is irrelevant.
we are not even talking about trans or no trans. its about the extremism in pushing it this person suffered that she got zero push back before she did this permanent change to her body and that is because of the religious zealotry pushing it.
I respect it but she's really dumb for not thinking it out she REMOVED HER BREASTS without even thinking.
I'm glad this wasn't a "thing" when I was growing up. I was a big Tomboy and preferred outside, physical activities to playing with dolls and learning to cook and clean. I HATED puberty!! I hated my first bra and my period starting at 11. I never once thought I was really a boy though. As I got older I embraced my femininity and happily got married and had children. I'm so glad I wasn't influenced by society into thinking I was a boy!!
It’s honestly sad seeing so many young girls being influenced into think that being a Tom boy = being trans.
My daughter has questioned her gender because she is boyish, and as parents we're telling her that how she is as a girl is fine. Thankfully she's showing signs of getting over that, and is even showing signs of accepting femininity.
@@Mark_T I'm glad. It took me a couple of years and I know it would've been a lot worse with today's influence!!
@The Violinist The Barbie mindset is to blame! Not all biological women do like to look and act like Barbie! God loves all women. "Tom boy" and "Barbei" alike. He says to you: You are beautiful! ❤️
@The Violinist Oh my gosh!!! All my horse friends are like me. And we're NOT lesbians!! Do they know what the definition of a lesbian is? Someone who likes females sexually. Not someone who likes to camp and fish and hike and ride horses, etc. Plus, we would rather be out cleaning the barn than cleaning the house! Hopefully they'll get around to realizing there's a huge difference.
The fact that there's so much hate against detransitioners makes me think there's something more going on. Like maybe there are others regretting their choice but would rather attack someone who admitted it than allow themselves to come to that painful realisation
It's the cult-like thinking. You are trying to get people to transition, which have staggering high suicide rates, sterilization, medical complications and possibility of never having an orgasm. Why would people want other people to do this? Misery loves company.
Depopulation I think
Glad you saw the scam agenda with these mental issues
The transgender agenda is pushed foremostly by the pharmaceutical companies, because they make huge money from it..This all madness is not a grassroot movement but forced on us from above.
@@parishers6351 It's a brainwashing cult.
Honestly the phrase “any negative comments you have towards Grace, send towards me” is such a badass line
I have serious respect for Blaire for giving these people the platform to tell the truth about their own experiences.
both Blaire and Grace seem like great people
Blaire one of the very, VERY , few trans people I really like and accept. She is a great ambassador, quite the opposite to the creeps
Puberty for young women is extremely uncomfortable and often painful. I can’t imagine how many young girls are confusing that discomfort and awkwardness with dysphoria..
Being sexualized from a young age is terrifying. I can absolutely see why young girls want to escape that.
@@nararabbit1 u mean sexualised
@@tiredcat6653 Yes, autocorrect error.
Yes and men become a threat u realise that very young. Most times naive girls are prayed upon by creepy adults then they learn to fear men.
@@nararabbit1 I feel like boys also are sexualized, it's just less people are concerned or it's more normal...? Which it isn't? Could it be the opposite as to why boys my accidently transition is that they don't fit in being stereotypically masculine enough?
People need to realize that most detransitioners are not transphobic or anti-transition. They are not trying to invalidate your trans experience, just speak on why it wasn’t right for them.
I thought phobia meant fear. I think its gross 2 guys kissing is gross. I'm not scared though. It doesn't make sense. I think warm milk is gross am I a dairyphobe?
@@MrTripplenipple You're being deliberately ignorant. A phobia is not a fear, it can be, but it's more complicated than that. Phobias fall more along the lines of intense negative emotions or dislikes, the two most common feelings being anger and fear. Read a book.
@t p The problems we have today are actually because too many people have silenced those who have detransitioned, which gives a false sense of gender transition being a win-win situation for all who go that route. If more people (parents and children alike) were more aware of the benefits and pitfalls of transitioning, they would be able to make informed decisions based in reality instead of emotional decisions based on 'feels'.
Some who want to transition are, in fact, confused. They are bombarded by a nearly one-sided, rose-colored glasses view of becoming the opposite gender. By giving them the facts from all perspectives, they can see their way through the confusion to make the life choice that's best for them. Isn't that what everyone deserves? To make the choice that's right for them? I know people who have thrived after a full transition, and for them it was the right choice (insert wave to Blair here). The difference with those people is that they didn't do it to follow a trend. They did some major soul searching and went into it with their eyes wide open.
Everyone contemplating transition to the opposite gender deserves to have access to both sides of the issue.
@t p I agree. It’s always right wing’s fault not the actual detransitioners however.
@Candy Ribbons some detransitioners are so traumatized by their experience they are completely against transgenderism and transition and I can honestly understand given their trauma. I just think it’s important we put out the statistics that for the high majority of trans people, transition is a life saving medical treatment. I believe all voices of the trans experience are valid and deserve to be heard even if they are not in the space to support transition yet due to their trauma. People that are educated enough can still listen to these stories without weaponizing them.
Detrans reddit was one of the first places I went when deciding to trans. I wanted to understand what reasons people regret doing it. No one in the medical community, not even my therapist ever once challenged my decision. I had to look for it on my own.
Can we ask what your decision was ultimately?
@@lkass1107 I've decided to transition socially and medically. I don't believe I'll end up detrans (can we really know ourselves that well?), but I highly doubt I'll regret trying it out of I do detrans. I'm happier looking fem, and I like the feel of the clothes as well as the variety! I've always envied women's fashion, but never had the thought I could engage with it. I stepped out of the box, and I'm happy with it.
@@emalee8366 I think what really matters is you have done the research yourself and informed yourself of the possibilities. I fully support adults doing what they know they need to do to live their lives happily. I think you were wise to look further into it.
old reply sorry, but i think we've gotten so fearful of being perceived as transphobic in the medical community, that we've swung in the complete opposite direction and don't even prod further when someone thinks they might be trans. you're basically diagnosing yourself and providing your own treatment and that is so dangerous to me, especially when kids are involved. there needs to be a balance between impossible barriers to transition and immediate transition without question. the process needs to be worked on a LOT. and i've noticed a theme with detransitioners is that they didn't necessarily have dysphoria or hate their bodies but they hated how society perceived and treated them- mostly women. and i think that's a problem that is going to take a lot longer to work on.
@@skrittle555 pretty sure it extends outside the medical community too. I'm concerned about the children (teens incl) making decisions they can't undo.
This is EXACTLY what happened to me. I was 14-15 so luckily I didn't have permission from my parents to get surgeries. I used to bind and was consumed by the LGBTQ community. I made it my entire personality and was miserable. My entire life I've been modest, I hate showing off my thighs, bottom and breasts. And kids online that were older than me convinced me it was because I was meant to be a boy... As it turns out, I'm really just a modest person. It's so scary to think of what would have happened if my parents didn't take social media away from me at that time. I was able to soul search. I just had deep rooted misogyny toward myself and thought men had it easier. I am now 17 and love being a girl. If people ask for my pronouns all I say is that I'm a girl.
As my mom always tells me, sometimes simplicity is better
Thank you for sharing. I am a mom of two girls- one is 2, one is in the belly still. I worry a lot about them getting swept up in this or in other things as a teenager and having no way to stop them or intervene, because they'll be too big to just sit down in a time out or pick up and carry away from whatever I see as a threat to them.
Were you angry when your parents took away social media? Did you threaten to run away or anything like that? What did your parents say that helped? What did not help?
@@Kathleen-vl5ws In all honesty, I've always been a very obedient kid. If I started to argue with my parents, as soon as they'd raise my voice I'd stop. I was never angry about them taking my social media away, I was more sad than anything. I NEVER threatened to run away... even though I got a bit distant from them during that time, I was still very close to my parents. I never wanted to leave them, rather I just desperately wanted them to, I guess, 'understand' me.
My parents kept telling me to use my moral compass. They told me to think about what **I** want, not what others want. The biggest thing they told me was to come up with how I'd introduce myself to someone in 3 sentences. It used to be an automatic bringing up of my gender and sexuality. Over time it changed to 'Hello, my name is ___. I am an artist and musician. I am very family-oriented and open minded.'
It all depends on the kid. Luckily, I was raised to be respectful to my elders. I was taught at a young age that I don't know everything and I accepted that. Some kids don't want to believe that they aren't fully developed and don't know what they want with their lives yet. That's something very important to teach kids...
Lastly, a lot of kids will say that 'misgendering' makes things worse. From my perspective, it didn't. All it did was remind me of my reality and come to terms with the fact that I am a biological woman, and nothing can change that.
I know this was long, but your response and questions are very important to me. As someone who might want to start a family of my own in the future as well, I wish all parents the best. I don't want kids to fall into the same hole I did. Congratulations on your baby
I am really sorry my heart ❤️ you are best girl on the world don't worry for past ❤️ 💕 💗 ♥️
Much much love ❤️
@@livelybrytnie you're so lucky to have your parents!! Wish more parents were like that, glad you found yourself:) its scary the online indoctrination!
Consider two cases:
1.) A woman gets a wrong diagnosis of breast cancer and gets her breasts amputated upon (wrong) medical advide.
2.) A woman gets a wrong diagnosis of gender dysphoria and gets her breasts amputated upon (wrong) medical advice.
Why do some people consider one case medical malpractice but not the other?
I suspect that's coming down the road. Esp. if it's younger kids, who never should have been able to make these decisions before they can drive or drink, but yet no problem to removing body parts.
Doesn’t mean diagnosis is wrong it mean solution is wrong! you can’t change your gender! you can change the construct that you lived under but you can’t change your gender and this is where all is wrong everybody’s acting like I could be whatever gender I want and gender is a construct!!! no gender is not a construct !!! there is a construct around gender that’s built by society and all of those things and that can definitely be played with but you can’t change your actual damn gender.
@@freeyourdreama7822 You are right that one cannot change sex. I am not so sure about gender, because my native language does not really have a word for it, just for biological sex (although people try to change the meaning...). If gender is something arbitrary and meaningless without connection to reality, then everybody can make up their own gender and self-declare membership however they please. But in that case, everybody elso should be free to ignore that declaration and not be forced to "validate" or "affirm".
Well actually there are plenty of women who come away from a breast cancer scare disfigured because of what's referred to as excisional biopsy aka lumpectomy aka partial masectomy aka breast conserving surgery or therapy. Many of them that undergo that surgery, "for further testing", end up getting results back benign. They're relieved to get a green light on their health regarding the matter but oftentimes the breast is disfigured and there are several accounts of nerve damage. Furthermore Breast Reconstruction seems to be contingent on an actual Cancer diagnosis. My recollection of what I read about the Oncoplastic Lumpectomy option is subject to scrutiny. It may have a similar contingency due to The seeming reservation of that term being when cancer has been determined and subsequent treatment is to take place during (such as IORT)and or afterward. As a woman who was threatened with the possibility of this procedure being proposed recently, words can not express my level of rage concerning how Western Healthcare has successfully normalized Breast Amputation, disfigurement and injury for this cause or that.
@@freeyourdreama7822 Bravo, for everything said, esp. this: " there is a construct around gender that’s built by society".
I got my breasts removed due to cancer. The grief hit me harder than I ever imagined it would.
sorry to hear that hope you doing well 💝
and PS I transgender that only has tiny boobs to me I like it sometimes I wish they where bit bigger but can't tho 😔
I'm sorry, it's very sad.
You are still feminine and beautiful. I'm happy you are still here in this world today.
This happened to me as well but glad to be a 14 year breast cancer survivor. I had a private moment of grief for my breasts before my surgery, which helped me.
One more thing: Self hatred is a valid part of adolescence because it can be gross and scary. More open hearted conversations about that please.
Body dysmorphia and dissociation often become an issue in adolescence as children struggle with their changing bodies. Unfortunately, being uncomfortable in your own body is often met with the idea of surgery which should be a last resort.
@@soxpeewee I remember when I was 14 I wanted plastic surgery real bad, I wanted to have my nose done. Now as an adult I can't imagine operating on it since is my favorite facial feature, teens aren't informed enough to alter their appearance for a moment of discomfort
Yesss
I wanted to be a boy for a long time. I hated bras so I still don't wear them to this day, I use a cup because I hate pads and tampons.
I never considered becoming a boy though because I didn't believe anything to be wrong with being a masculine female. I think it's sexist to think women can't have masculine temperaments.
Honestly I think some traits that are considered "masculine" should be genderless!
@@soxpeewee And vice versa!
Yes thank you! 100% agree
I hated my developing breast. I would have done anything to stop it. Very scary to think now kids have access to hormones.
@@pink4078 as a sheltered boy who taught that girls peed from their buttholes at 14, i hated how inconvenient my penis was especially when i had random erections and it would like, push against my pants and get in the way and feel uncomfortable.
I wished it wouldn't get hard or that it was smaller. (And i am perfectly average in height and size, its not like it was abnormally large or anything)
‘Trans activists’: be proud of whatever you do with your body!
Person: *detransitions for their own purpose*
‘Trans activists’: this is unacceptable
@Brittany Du ?
@Brittany Du do you know what a meme is?
Remember not to feed the trolls, y’all
@Brittany Du All YOU seem to have are the same default throw away responses....
@Brittany Du ok chief, let’s forget activists spreading image positivity while harassing detransitioners
If Transitioning is going to be talked about, De-Transitioning should be as well. You cannot make a fully informed choice without both sides, and it's just ignorant to think you can. So glad to see this video!
they could care less. They're chemically castrating children and nobody stops them now.
They are not interested, their ideology would be proven a lie and big phaarrma would lose money
And the #TransPoliticalBullies are making sure that if you try and talk about every aspect of Transitioning and De-Transitioning they make sure to label you "Transphobic". I'm not scared of them, label me whatever it just means they're scared of the whole truth because maybe they didn't get the whole truth. We know how misery loves company🙄🙄🙄
Agreed..more talks like this also means we touch up on the nit and grit we need to talk about which includes costs, and health concerns that go hand in hand when making irreversible choices.
Exactly, that’s the point they don’t want both sides being shown for some reason they seem to be encouraging this confusion in young kids…
She’s absolutely beautiful and my heart absolutely breaks for her. 😭😭😭
I am trans and I 100% believe that this topic is so sooooo important! It needs to be talked about much more, especially with youth
'Is it traumatic?' 'I don't really know what that word means anymore.'
So true.
Yes I just passed that part. This girl is special and I mean that in the sweetest way, I'd be proud to call her a friend. I'm getting such a vibe of strength and trustworthiness from her and she's very feminine.
This is particularly sad to me bc ppl who have rly experienced trauma and need to talk about it are often overshined by ppl who want to maximize on the traumatic experience as a way for attention or bc of being tonedeaf or other less judgy reasons like mayb they just honestly don't know
@@stevenstaint8882 u have common sense
most dont
trauma. id the cops are called, guess what
They are literally shaming her for having gender disphoria and wanting to feel comfortable with herself. Wtf?
The left will literally attack anyone who doesn't do exactly what they say. Always has, always will.
@@theemoustache3436 and you guys don't?
@@theemoustache3436 So why are all the transphobes, homophobes and racists on your side then?
@@HUNKunit labelism is a problem no matter what...... ... . . .
Because it's the wrong kind of gender dysphoria
We're going to see a lot more people like Grace in the next decade. I'd be very interested to know how many people transitioning today, would be the same in 30 years.
It’s so true that girls carry such a burden when they develop. Being sexualized before your mind is strong enough to handle it is horrible. I developed early and said out loud I want to cut them off, crying, but that was then. You grow into your person and you gain confidence. Some female bodies are obviously boys trying to get out but I see a lot of just girls that just aren’t ready to be women making this decision too.
The saddest part of this video is that Grace's story is just the beginning. There will be a wave of people detransitioning in the future.
Yes so so true. Wish them the best.
@@nonloso20 very clever
@@nonloso20 Ok handmaiden
@@nonloso20 very articulate.
@@nonloso20 it isn't transphobic to state that many young people may change their minds - signed an enby
I was sexually assaulted many years ago, and as a result ended up developing what I thought at the time was dysphoria but now know it was a way of dealing with trauma. But at the time I felt it would fix me if I transitioned, and that I wouldn't experience what I went through again. I thankfully never did transition, but I was incredibly close to doing it, it was only through dating my partner who is legitimately trans that I realised my issues weren't gender identity based but trauma based. I'm so glad that I didn't go through with anything. But I'm greatful that we can talk about this, I hope we can look further into this and work towards supporting each other on all ends of the spectrum.
This is such a great perspective on the whole matter
I'm sorry you had to go through that.
Glad you're doing well now.
That's a very valid point, especially since I've seen a few "trans" people who say that they don't necessarily feel like they're the other gender, they just don't want their body to develop. We have to understand transsexuality isn't caused by trauma.
I hope you're healed. Thanks for sharing your experience as it will help a lot of people
I hope your okay now
My goodness she is such a beautiful girl and the deep sorrow she possesses is so noticeable. Absolutely heartbreaking
I am a cis woman, but I remember being extremely uncomfortable with my body and often fantasizing about being a man in high-school. I hated the way I was treated by men, I hated having breasts and curves, and I felt like life would be easier as a man. I also was bisexual (I still am) and I wished I was a man so that it would be easier to date girls. Thankfully I grew out of that phase, and I love being a woman now. But I can see how many other young girls would go through that phase and end up taking it to the next level (actually becoming trans) BEFORE their mind has had time to fully develop. It's very unfortunate
Thanks for sharing your story I think it's more common than we think to feel insecure about our body, gender and sexuality.
Yeah - I relate to your experience 😢
You are a WOMAN
You and me have the same story
i have the same story, sometimes i still wear tomboyish clothes but im feminine also, i dated girls but at the end i live with my boyfriend ,a man and i feel really in love with him, he accepts me. i felt really relate to your story.
I’m so thankful to my parents, who didn’t allow me to take puberty hormone blockers until I was 18. I have grown out of my “I want to be a boy” phase when I was 16. I’m extremely feminine now. I can’t even begin to imagine, how depressed I would be now if my parents weren’t reasonable enough.
My parents were super religious so I was too terrified to come out but I thought I was trans from 13-19.
I joined online trans communities who all reaffirmed my validity as a trans man and said it was just my internalized transphobia speaking when I started having doubts at around 18. I even had someone in Colorado offer to let me live with them and help me get on hormones. I would have if my sister hadn't gotten sick and wasn't able to do anything without help.
I was too busy helping her to keep regular constant with my friends in the trans community and eventually realized.
It wasn't some coming to jesus or religious thing(I'm not religious). I just had issues I needed to work through and bad dysmorphia.
Even people in the trans community said my dysmorphia was dysphoria.
Transitioning would have been the biggest mistake of my life.
@@maggiethedruid9010 this is a genuine question meant with all respect. Looking back on your experience do you feel as if you were being pushed at all? Do you feel like it was almost “cult-like” in your personal experience?
Thank you for saying that. We put on the brakes with our daughter and reaped nothing but hatred from her, and we’re called transphobes by other parents. It has been hard and it’s not over yet
@@whitneyfry3236 I think you know the answer to that.
@@maggiethedruid9010 what made you realize?
I’m a therapist and I believe this is such an important issue to discuss. Thanks for talking about it Blaire.
Thank you for being a sane therapist. There seem to be so many that are afraid to do the job for which they went to school. Really talking about these things could save some people from going through something that they later regret. People don't seem to realize that you cannot make an informed decision if you don't have both sides of the discussion.
We should discuss also how, as a side effect of such testimonies, so many people are detransitioning from labeled "transphobes" to "human beings" again.
I cant imagine how hard it must be for mental health workers with everything going on now. God bless you😊
Thank you for being someone who won’t immediately push patients to transition the second they mention it to you… I know people who have transitioned because of this exact thing and I wonder how people call themselves therapists when they are in fact pushing people to make these types of choices as if the second you have those thoughts you must need to transition.
"I want to transition."
Medical industry: Cha-ching!
"I made a mistake, I want to de-transition."
Medical industry: Cha-ching!
"Holy shit, my life is so fucked up."
Psychiatrists: Cha-ching!
Transitioning and detransitioning will leave permanent marks that you can't get rid of and it fucking sucks.
Exactly right!!! I heard it cost $1.3 Million to transition!! It's all about $$$$
@@lydiapetra1211 not to "transition", surgery cost about 30,000$, life long hrt costs 1.3 million $.
@@InAllHeavy thanks for clarifying!
💯 🎯
I just found out my niece is now transitioning. I'm not happy about it. It's becoming a dangerous fad in my opinion. She's only 16 and her voice is already changing. I asked my cousins daughter if she knows any Trans kids and she knows 2 in her high-school and it's a small town. I just don't believe that all these kids are actually suffering from true body dismorphia. I truly think it's a fad.
dysphoria*
Dear no hate but it’s democratic . Only God can save us from this
oh shut up
being trans doesn't hurt anyone
@@KillKhal nah. Nobody at all. Can't imagine my kid telling me that the name I gave him is his " dead name" atleast wait till you're like 25 before you make a decision like this.
@@sixfootben4892 Dead naming IS disrespectful and wrong, regardless of if you're their parent or not. They feel as if they were born in the wrong body, and that their gender is different from their biological sex. You really need to learn to accept your niece for who he/she is. And I don't know what could be wrong about your daughter knowing 2 trans kids in her high school, explain that.
Plus, you do not need to wait until you're an adult, I am 16.
I don´t agree with Blair in a lot of thing but I have MAD RESPECT for her for giving a voice to detransitioners, the trans community does invisibilize them a lot and there really is no need for it. Detransitionesr do not invalidate the trans identity
What do you disagree with her about? 🤷♀️
@Brittany Du that makes zero sense, Brittany. She did a pretty thorough transition, including top surgery - how is that someone who's "afraid" of trans people??!
@Brittany Du How is she transphobic? She literally was so respectful when talking about the trans community and did not say anything transphobic
@Brittany Du So what is your problem with people sharing that they thought they were trans and transition and now regret it.. is their story less important than that of a trans person? is them spreading their truth in the hopes that no other person has to deal with the same problem less valuable that trans people bringing awareness?
I have mad respect for you, for actually listening to people you disagree with.
I really mean that.
she has the right to feel whatever she is feeling. people should not condemn her.
I agree. People are so aggressive about other people's life.
Tea dude tea
Yeah, and she more or less keeps it to: "this is my experience, and medical professionals are failing us."
I agree, sadly the LGBT-Marxists do not...
@@DenmarkRadar Not all LGBT people think like this though. But the Marxists however.....smh...
Here's my concern, I've heard it talked about on these videos. She even said she had 10 minute appointment and walked out with hormones. This is the only segment in society where the patient tells the doctor what to do and how to do it, with no investigation into underlying issues, counseling or current mental health. Perfect example, I went to ER with a migraine. Told dr I had a migraine, he immediately had a bad attitude and said "let me be the dr and diagnose" But in this community people say im this trapped in this body so start cutting parts off.
Doctors have god complexes anymore. It's like I'm not living in my body and I somehow don't know anything about it. I hate how reliant people have become on the medical system
As a woman with chronic illness and pain, I can't even begin to describe how impossible it has been to get proper medical treatment and be taken seriously. It blows my mind that it's this easy to get these kinds of medications and treatments when there are people suffering from medical conditions and aren't helped.
It's because this is part of a bigger issue than being part of the LGBT community! It's a push to sterilize, confuse, and divide people! It helps for the one world government to take over!
@@lkass1107facts it’s so sad that most issues doctors don’t even care about but with these they immediately treat you…
Women who suffer from endometriosis or the effects of menopause get not attention whatsoever. Yet, hormones are readily available for people who hate their gender. Worse, even: kids who don't like the toys and clothes assigned to their gender!
Unbelievable.
she’s so beautiful. i feel so horrible that this culture brainwashed her into mutilating herself. i’d still give her a chance for sure. beautiful person and beautiful soul. thanks blair for always keeping shit a buck and going for these hard topics.
My niece temporarily became my nephew. My niece was dealing with untreated mental issues in which she thought she was trans and liked girls. Her psychologist said she wasn't trans but the doctor she had mentioned she was trans to didn't skip a beat and started transitioning her. Once my niece's psychologist got her mental state leveled out my niece realized she wasn't trans and stop the process as well as thinking she liked girls. Luckily my niece didn't get that far in transitioning before she realized this. So no real permanent damage was done except some light facial hair
Thank God!
That this line of thinking isn't treated as a mental illness is the true tragedy.
How old is she and how do you know no permanent damage was done?
@@arsewellshe was only on them a couple months
Her story should be told. It's probably an issue for any millenials too.
This girl is still absolutely gorgeous and looks very feminine- could have been so much worse. I'm thankful she is brave enough to share her story.
Yes and her voice sounds good !
As a lesbian, I'd definitely date her if our personalities clicked
Her looks and voice remind me a lot of Zooey Deschanel.
A woman who I personally think is quite pretty.
Yes she's absolutely stunning, could easily be a model. Hopefully she is able to see past the trauma or difficulty, and see that she is still so so beautiful + super feminine!
That's what I was thinking
My heart goes out to everyone struggling with dysphoria, transitioning and detransitioning. This shouldn’t be a taboo topic. Good job Grace.
transitioning is a big choice and there are many tests that you are required to take in my country (China). it ensures that you are actually trans and not just being impulsive and to also makes sure that you do not regret the decision. you also have to be of a certain age so that you are mature enough to make such a big decision that will impact your life forever. only after all these are you allowed to transition.
Let me get this straight she's being punished for making a decision about her body and her life
Yeah, you heard that right. Pisses you off, doesn't it? I know it pisses me off....
Poor misguided souls
This is what the left does. They are just pure evil.
It's because people have lost their minds and they are bored. Honestly, these "activists" that act all crazy, need another outlet and a purpose. That's why we see all of this. The generations before that had a unifying cause that brought them together to fight against, these folks don't and never did so they create issues to fight for. Not saying trans people shouldnt have rights or the ability to live as they choose, but they are taking it to dangerous levels.
Yeah, because it doesn't support the narrative and agenda of the "woke" left
People talk about strong and brave willing to admit things and talk about them so openly these are strong women
Blaire has been grifting for Right wingers to get that fats stack of cash 💵
Consider yourself lucky Dave, you got both the Tankie Trolls replying to you, and I’m still not convinced they’re just not the same very sad person.
@@Longshanks1690 People should just ignore them, let them punch themselves out until they ran out of steam.
@Brittany Du are you saying that people who detransition are on the same level as Nazis who brutally slaughtered Jews?
You people don't understand what strong and brave means
I didn’t realize that the content creator is trans. That gives me more respect for you in that you cover the topics that you do. I find most members of that community are so close minded generally. Some of the videos you make PROVE that it doesn’t have to be that way.
I have several trans people in my life. None of them want to be known as trans. They want to be recognized as their identity. I find that distinction to be a defining line between the truly gender dysphoric and those involved in a contagion.
Do you mean that the creator is a man?
@@faroulalou7641 Ultimately, yes. However, my most emotional, gut opposition (as opposed to ideological, which would be the deliberate misrepresentation of basic realities) to the trans movement is its authoritarianism and entitlement.
No one compels my speech. If that’s a person’s stance, I will mis pronoun them all day long. Blair makes no demands, and recognizes objective truth.
@@faroulalou7641 Yes.
great points
I can't imagine feeling so alone, then finding a community of people who make you feel loved and supported, and then once you realize, "maybe this isn't exactly what I wanted" then all those people turn on you simply for being who you are. So sad.
I (19 F) thought I was trans from the ages of 12 to 16. I fully planned on transitioning and I really wanted to start taking testosterone. I'm so glad I didn't because when I was 17, I realised I wasn't trans; I was just uncomfortable with my femininity.
Which is crazy as nowadays I'm extremely femme!
My heart goes out to all you lovely detransitioned folk. I wish you nothing but the best. ❤️
I blame social media , girls are so girly its ridiculous, as a 50 yr old man I can say girls were never like that when I was younger, it was acceptable to have a GF who didn't want to be particularly Fem in everyday day life , I definitely see a big difference in girls these days and can see who it may be confusing if a girl dosnt fit into the box of a typical girl walking around with make up and hair done all day
Yes, it was the same with me. I only wore long polo shirts and baggy pants until the age of maybe 17. I felt so uncomfortable with my body changing to a more feminine appearance (actually, I felt like I was going to explode even though I habe never been oberweight). Compared to some of my female classmates, I was proud for not having developed my breasts as fast as they had. Nowadays, I've had the chance to have made a lot of sexual experiences, I feel confident as a female. I do have very short hair but not because I want to look like a boy. It is because I can proudly say that I dont need hair to embrace my femininity.
Back in my earlier teens I actually also did not really know about transgender communities and stuff like that (no internet provider for young me)...
Proud of you
@@goth_dude6874 yeah, and with social media, little girls have easier access to images of rich, privileged, body modified/enhanced women from all around the world. It’s definitely affected me, and even as an adult woman now, it still fucks with me pretty badly. I never think my body or curves or femininity are good enough. It doesn’t help that I’ve also always been a tomboy.
I don't think you can just start hormones at that age without a medical prescription
In my country we don't just "pay and go"
We talk with our therapist, and talk, and talk, it's been 6 months for me and my therapist told me that we need more time. Sometimes gatekeeping is necessary
More education, research and funding is necessary... not gatekeeping
@@ThePlagueRattt What kind of research? What if it finds something "transphobic"? I'm pretty sure that the current climate doesnt really allow for an unbias independent research. Looking at how the community reacted to a 60 Minutes report says enough.
Gerardo, in America the respectable practitioners don't do the "pay and go" either but there are ALWAYS those in ALL COUNTRIES (get it?) who put $ ahead of the patient's genuine well-being.
Gatekeeping??? Even at the gate they stop u??!
Sounds sensible!
Grace is a beautiful girl, I wish her all the best
Blaire’s open mindedness and maturity is amazing and refreshing!! (This is the second video I’ve watched.) Hearing both sides and THINKING is SO important!!
She was brave to transition. She's even braver to admit she'd made a mistake and detransition. A lot of people wouldn't have that much courage.
Their pocket later teaches them....
It wasn't bravery. She is a VICTIM of medical profetionals!
It is very stupid to go against biology, it's not brave. She's wise for realizing it was wrong.
Detransitioned almost two years ago, I wouldn’t wish this on my worst enemies.
how you doing now?
Please hang in there.
Jesus can give you love , forgiveness , and mercy . He is love and comfort . Give all your hurt Jesus ! Your identity is in Jesus Christ.
I’m so sorry 😞 I hope things get much better for you in time 💕
@@abhishekdev353 could be worse. I have a job and I started skateboarding again to have a reason to leave my flat.
Can we talk about the link between traumas like s*xu@l assault and people mistakenly thinking the are non-binary and trans? Especially ftm? I have noticed some very clear trends about trauma and the response being well I want to get rid of anything that could get me harmed again and feeling disconnected to their bodies? It seems so common that this happens now a days, though with TikTok now we have 14 year olds making it a trend 😕
Yup. When I thought that I was a trans boy, it was because of the desire to be a part of something (labels and status. But I wanted so badly to be just a boy, not a trans), my traumas, sexual assault and the hatred and fear of misogyny and sexism. I thought that if I were a boy, I could fix, deal and hide all my problems and mental illness. I could be more attractive, more valid, more respected etc It was just a response to my traumas and anxiety. It was just a mechanism and I was struggling against female puberty, because it can be really hard at age 12/13/14 - especially when it is precoce XD -, I was really, really sad, and I hated my body so much for several reasons. And just because I was most like a masculine girl, the internet was saying to me that I was actually a boy, so I couldn't accept my femininity and the fact that I was a girl and that girls things just don't made me comfortable because the idea that what is feminine, is vulnerable and futile. It was just a young confusion that could be fixed by a simple conversation. Now I'm 14, and I like to be a girl, I would never be happy If I were a transboy. So I'm thankful that I never did these surgery and took testosterone. I'm good and more happy being like this, what I actually am. It's easier to live accepting it now.
Blaire: intelligent and understanding, as usual.
Grace: deserves all credit for her honesty and courage.
I knew someone, about 20 years ago who transitioned & she was required to go through a year of intensive therapy before they would even consider hormones. She fully transitioned but she was extremely glad for the therapy. She did a lot of soul searching before making the final decision. The fact that they no longer do this is really shocking, unsurprising but still shocking. The conversations need to happen. Thanks for all you do & best of luck to you both.
I agree. A psychological path is really important. Unfortunately psychology isn't taken seriously today
@Marie Ortuno it's still required In every country USA including.
@Brittany Du Wrong, adults also need counseling. Yes you can do whatever you want but it’s better to seek for help before making such a big change.
Even though I started transitioning in 2018, I decided to take this route. I went to therapy for a year before starting hormones and I was the best decision of my life. I encourage it so much, it’s just necessary.
I had to go through 4 years of that shit, it was living hell, if i had to do it again i would rather kill myself, forcing me to do that for the benefit of other people, is simply wrong, i am an adult i can decide what i do with my life myself.
Detransition scarred me so deep it will take years and years to recover, and some people claim that it's better to transition and be wrong than not transition... Can you not? I was so sure in me dysphoria I did everything I could at a young age to socially and physically transition, but now the feeling is reversed. I wish someone just slapped me and told to wait and see
Do your body go back to how it was before?
@@dianahaymze623 nope, you can`t undone the changes if you`ve been on testosterone/estrogen for far too long
@@El-marino-loko780 I've spent some time on the detrans subreddit and I notice that people say that their period came back and that their voice softened. I was pretty shocked about the voice part. I think the main issue was the hair but that is something that can be fixed with laser.
That’s scary.
Yeah I've done the whole wait and see thing, biggest regret of my life, that decision has brought me literally nothing but pain.
Seams like de-transitioners get as much hate as ex-vegans. I find it's a really important topic to talk about. People have to understand the risks. Definitely great you are covering this topic. Much love to you and to Grace.
Yes because the vegan community and the trans community are both cult like
I had extreme body dysmorphia until just a couple years ago literally and I just turned 50… I was born female and never questioned that. I’m very grateful for that. It’s heart breaking to see the suffering in the world. Thank you grace for your honesty in facing this painful experience
i know 2 people who stopped their transition after they addressed other Mental Health issues. they were not deeply questioned by professionals. their depression, eating disorder, childhood abuse was not considered. RED FLAG
As someone who's spent a lot of time in and out of mental health services, I can attest to the lack of competent "professionals." They are after all people and we are all capable of being useless, but for some reason many assume that doctors or therapists are in some way above us mere mortals and they absolutely are not. Many of them can do far more harm than good, as I myself experienced, and there is no recourse. You just have to continue your life with the additional damage inflicted upon you due to supposedly enlightened and superior people who were paid to help you being unable to see that they are the problem. It's never surprising when someone says a doctor or therapist was useless. They just have enough confidence to lie about how useless they really are, at the expense of their desperate patients.
@@mydogeatspuke ... same here. from my experience (almost 50 years now ... starting as a child) .. it's about 1/10.
1 in 10 are *actually* helpful.
most are useless. they just repeat something they read in a book.
and then there's 2 in that 10 who fk u up MORE. from the stuff they say & get you to say to meds. they do damage.
but even the useless ones will give u meds to "try out" .. and they don't know exact side effects; they literally repeat what the pharmaceutical companies told them. give you "studies" done by the company that's trying to make a profit off of mental illness.
like the woman interviewed by Blair; depressed? body issues? .. Have you tried transitioning? .. 🤡
@@emmapeel8163 the medications are almost worse, especially when the reps lie about the side effects (Pfizer and gabapentinoids for example), then the so called professionals tell you that these meds work for everyone else so it must be you, not their poor diagnosis or just they're lying to you to save face. Everything is the patient's fault. Sigh. The weight gain alone for some of these medications can be enough to push someone over the edge, but they don't warn you that you'll literally double in size and still wish you weren't alive. 1 in 10 is probably a tad generous in all fairness, but yes it is very low. It's no wonder at all that there's a "mental health crisis" when nobody's mental health is actually being addressed or taken care of.
@@mydogeatspuke .. i gained 10lbs in 2 weeks on Serquel (?) then i stopped taking it.
i saw people get the "neck rolling" after 10 days on another med they tried to give me. some of those physical ticks are long term! (recently i saw a tv commercial for *another* drug that lessens the body/face ticks. so layers of meds onto someone already struggling)
many of the psychiatrists i saw were "crazier" than me. one therapist was sucking on her hair for an hour. some male "health" professionals repeatedly asked for (sex) abuse details over & over & over .. frogging pervs!
the most smartest, sharpest, creative people i have ever met were in Psych wards.
everything u posted has been my experience too.
but these young people, children & parents take whatever "professional" says as Truth & exact Truth at that!
it used to be clitoris burning for "promiscuous" (or even wives who enjoyed sex "too much") to lobotomy to mind numbing meds to mutilated reproductive organs for a "gender disorder" .. full circle for women.
Disgusting!
Also consider being possibly on autism spectrum! Reaaaally a huge red flag cause it affects testosterone levels of babies and women and the gender experience in general. Now it is scientifically proofed that autism and gender identitification problems do correlate. Plus of course the culture we live in, medication, pollutions etc, family we grow up in, the generational traumas... Maybe there is no reason to transit if these things were just properly discussed and understood. No need to go under the knife. And get more trauma.
There's a reason why children (people under 18) can't make their own medical decisions. Their brain hasn't developed enough to be able to make those decisions, weighing up the risks and benefits and understanding exactly why they're doing it and if it's the right choice.
at 18 their brains still arent developed
And unfortunately they preach LGBT in cartoons and confuse children.
That’s not the reason legal age is 18. You realize many are still dumb as bricks at 18?
Yep that pre-frontal cortex can actually take into the mid 20's to fully develop. That part of the brain is so crucial for emotional regulation and impulse control. Also why we have smoking and drinking ages. I think we should talk to kids and youth when they are ready. When they're ready they will start asking you questions. Everybody develops at different rates after all.
People under 18 can't have transition surgery btw.
Grace- your were perfect before and you must believe your are even more perfect now!! Why??? You have insight and experience millions do not have and can't even buy!
Your experience is a lesson you teach others. Your helping so many to understand. Thank you for this conversation.
This shouldn't be a taboo subject, these perspectives are important to take into account. We should give these people our support and love, would we send massive hate to people who got tattoos that they then regret?
@Brittany Du Why do you feel like this is transphobia?
@@mrs.hopwinkle6034 it's not. These are people that believe that you're transphobic if you dare disagree with them in any way. They're funny. Just laugh and be happy you're not them.
It's 202X. We're in the decade of tabooing everything.
You can't talk about police statistics, voting security, or even the pandemic that wrecks the world for all the wrong reasons.
@Max Mac Lochlyn I feel like it's less of a ban, and more of a request for more of an understanding and support network so people don't make big, life changing decisions before knowing that it's truly right for them.
@Brittany Du see! Lol you're so predictable...I love it!
Detransitioner here (ftm) I've spent 3 years as a man, then realized it was bc of trauma of getting S*xually a**aulted at 13 and wanted to become what hurt me so that I could not get hurt again. With this being said, I fully support the transgender community and I don't think that everyone transitions bc of trauma, i would never want to invalidate trans people, they are really brave! It just wasn't my case.
@Max Mac Lochlyn lmao no one is taking away ur rights, max 🤡
Similar happened to me. Was out as FTM for 3 years (16-19) after a s*xual a**ault at age 16. I thought transitioning would let me get strong and eventually get revenge. I was already a tomboy anyway. After many years of waiting I ended up at the clinic, but what happened to me got flagged. I also mentioned that in the past I was suspected to be autistic. I got an assessment and it turns out I am autistic and I also got trauma therapy. I detransitioned and am much happier, my dysphoria resolved after I got the correct diagnosis of ASD and after trauma therapy.
Thank you for sharing your story, it helps alot when trying to learn about the psychology of things like this. Don’t listen to anyone who might disrespect your personal choices.
@Max Mac Lochlyn Seek help! So no one cab share their story unless its aligned to what you want to hear ... sad!
Why must we always put disclaimers that we support them? Does doing the opposite of what the trans community wants mean you hate them/don't support them?
I don't get it? I don't hear straight people asking trans people to mention "oh by the way me being Trans doesn't mean I hate straight people. I support straight people!!!"
Would never send any hate!! She has been through so much grief and hard times physically, mentally, emotionally adding to that is just plain CRUEL!!!
💯
Hundreds of cases like this one will start to pop up endlessly very soon and there will be no consequences for those who pushed and supported this delusion. The amount of lives ruined, the amount of children which are being forced down this path... its just harrowing.
Hopefully the doctors will have consequences as detransitioners are starting to bring lawsuits.
As a detransitioned woman, I know this will be a very hard watch for me.
Nice to see you here. Its hard to find others like me. I almost became trans as a teenager
Give all your hurt to Jesus Christ . He is love .
@@aprilsims8309 Amen!!
Same sis
I went through it too. But i never got into female hormones. It was very difficult living as a transwomen for the short time I tried it out. Especially when I lived in a all women's homeless shelter. The everyday name calling and harassment is awful .
Idk why Blaire gets so much hate she keeps it real .
She manipulates her audience
You just answered your own question
@@milflover6969 how?
@@milflover6969 how does she manipulate people? She doesn't seem to be forcing her opinions on others.
Because reality and gender cultists are sworn enemies
I think it’s really cool that both of you can talk about this.
Your voice and face are just fine young lady. You are lovely. I pray you have folks around you that love you deeply because you deserve it. Be well.
without starting at the beginning, i just saw her and thought she was beautiful. she has very striking features so i was in awe for a second. i hope she has happiness in her life, and thinks she’s beautiful. i’m so ashamed of the LGBT community for bashing her
she is very beautiful - she has great eyes and bone structure. very brave to tell her story, i hope it can help others going through the same thing.
I completely agree! And the girl with glasses is pretty cute too, I guess.
Yes! I thought this too! I looked at her and thought she was stunning and wish I had those cheekbones lol. And she exudes an inner beauty to top it off. She comes off very thoughtful and intelligent.
@@dannieryland7223 honestly agree w/y’all I just thought she looked absolutely stunning.For all she went through she’s still a very lovely,bright,and wonderful person!
I wish her nothing but the best
n every happiness.
I think she’s beautiful too!
I detransitioned from ftm back to female. My voice is still strained from forcing it to be deep all those years. I was trans 13-16. Its only until I went to therapy and actually learned more about myself that I realized it wasnt for me.
May I ask why you believed you were trans? 13 is very young.
@@Lesnooch social media
Ohhh... Stay strong ❤️
@@Lesnooch older friends and other teens told me that my doubt of being a girl was immediately dysphoria.
Reading these things makes me wonder... I'd be confused too if I had exposure to social media. I was never a girly girl but in my circle that was never seen badly. I keep wondering if I had family members telling me to be more feminine, added with huge body dysmorphia and an online community endorsing it, I'd have completely transitioned in my teens and regretted it. Hating our bodies is a kind of experience shared by many teen girls, most grow out of it.
As a pretty progressive Democrat myself, I am so confused why so many Dems have an issue with conversations about detransitioning. I don't get that at all! We should be weighing both the pros and the cons about these types of decisions.
Yeah, we need to be asking THAT question about A LOT of issues lately -- WHY CAN'T WE QUESTION IT or SHOW MORE THAN 1 POV (without demonizing the person or groups doing so)??
It's antithetical to freedom, yet we're seeing it as a large trend coming from government and entertainment; in Canada, USA, UK, Scandinavia...
I think we kinda know the answer has something to do with power (even more than money) and still aren't prepared to face it.
Two beautiful (no not just on the surface) people trying to understand perspectives & experiences, not being afraid to speak ...absolutely SPLENDID. Well done & thank you for sharing such important information - it's going to help people understand themselves & their own choices fully, before they are made. That then becomes actual hindsight for them & reduces that risk of making some choices for the wrong reasons. Some may find that they may be truly happier transitioning, or, they may be truly happier in themselves without that specific change or through some other types of change - it's not a magic wand (for some, it is) but to have support in knowing that difference because people are discussing it, is just excellent. In the end, all leads to genuine happiness for everyone x
I really hope Blaire reads this comment:
I'm a lesbian. In my childhood and teenage years (11-16) I struggled a lot with my identity. I always related to male protagonists and liked male clothing styles. On the internet I pretended to be a boy because I felt that presenting as female wasn't really who I was. I also cut my hair and took pictures looking like a boy. I had wished every night to just wake up the next morning as a boy, it was truly awful. Over the years I've become more comfortable with my body though and I fully identify as female now. The dysphoria was... gone. Just like that. I was so happy I hadn't made any changes to my body.
I spent a part of my childhood in Iran where women are oppressed and I envied boys because I wanted the romantic attention from girls as well. Plus, I'm a tomboy. I believe these factors played a big role. In that age you SHOULDN'T (!!!) make any rash decisions.
I can relate. I had a rough childhood/teenage years and was a total tomboy. I only wore boys clothes and even kept my head shaved for a while. If I was given a choice at that age, I probably would have said I was trans. I hated being a girl. I hated my body. 20yrs later I love myself.
I'm glad that transgenderism wasn't big when I was a kid because I would have been in the same situation as Grace.
This sound extremely like my experience. OMG. I didn't know there was someone who went through the same.
From 8 to 16 I went to sleep crying and wishing to be boy the next morning. I couldn't handle the idea of growing up to be like my mom (physically) or any princess. I wanted so bad to grow up to be cool, free, strong and incredible like Max Steel, superman or strong like the men from the gym; I didn't want to grow up to be pretty, to be picked to get married, to worry about having a nice butt and not being fat because that was how I saw other women as a kid.
Now I'm in therapy and I don't have dysphoria anymore. But It's hard to feel vulnerable, hating my unattractive body and being pushed to to like thinks I just don't.
You must have envied the boys freedom as well, to just walk the street without such intense inspection and such strict expectations of compartment. To just be. To just talk loudly or laugh crazily and run fast.
@@carolsimpson4422 Yes, absolutely!
@@donaja2304 my exact situation. My parents were accepting, but told me to wait until I’m 18 when it comes to hormone therapy and surgeries. I’m glad they did, because I am in fact not trans.
If I was born in todays time, I would have ended up like Grace. When I hit puberty, it was definitely uncomfortable and I hated being a girl on my teens, I hated getting periods, I hated how men and guys ogled.
I hated giving up some opportunities due to my periods.
But in a few years, I got used to the changes and I’ve loved being a woman for the rest of my life. I’m 33 and I enjoy being a woman.
I agree 100%. Puberty and my teenage years were so hard on me but as Ive aged im more and more grateful to be me.
Same, I absolutely despised puberty for all the reasons you did. It took a while for my psychological womanhood to catch up to my physical womanhood, but now I enjoy being feminine. . . But I still wear Carhartts and work boots when I do "guy" work. And I didn't ruin my bone density with Lupron to delay puberty. Too few kids realize how much fragile bones could complicate their lives.
I hit it when i was 9 and it’s been over 15 years. Still suic--l & confused… am I weird
@@Yaya-bd7ml you are you. Don’t let anyone make you feel that you are weird or anything. What you feel is unique to you and I don’t think someone else can truly understand that.
@@Yaya-bd7ml and at 33 I still hate it when I get my period. It makes me super uncomfortable and at times I get really depressed around those days.
That is the only think I hate about being a woman. Other than that I am okay being a woman.
So whatever your feelings are, they are valid and they make you. You are unique. Just remember that.
Grace, you are so much braver than the hordes of people “coming out.”
Thank you for speaking out Grace. My heart goes out to you
When I was a kid in the 90's I wanted to be a boy so bad. I didnt have gender dysphoria I just wanted to be the best, fastest, strongest and smartest and I equated being a boy with all those things.
Me too Tonya. I also had a short phase in 2015 where I was way too into tumblr feminism and had an identity crisis. Glad I had a half a brain to not make any rash changes.
Yep, I was right there with ya lol
I relate to this, i also remember thinking as a kid that boys would respect me more if I wore boys clothes
Just curious, how do you think it would have affected you if you were taught about gender dysphoria and trans people and you ended up transitioning back then?
That's sad that you equated those things with boys, girls are just as capable albeit different in some ways.
Before transitioning you need to figure out if it's gender dysphoria or just general self hatred.
I'd imagine that a very hard thing to figure out. Hating yourself is a very confusing thing in general. :/
@@katherines6322 Of course it's difficult, but that doesn't mean it's not worth it, especially if you end up hating yourself more after transitioning.
I don’t remember who said it. Maybe Jordan Peterson.. but it was wise words.
Here’s what I remember
“You don’t hate yourself. When you hate someone you wish failure upon that person... you don’t wish failure upon yourself , you don’t want to not get a job you’ve been trying to get. You don’t hope for a girl to reject you when you ask them on a date. So it’s not self hatred... “.
Id say it’s probably victimizing yourself , feeling sorry for yourself. And you gotta break out of that.
@@katherines6322 that's why therapy is needed
@Brittany Du Imagine being so stupid that you think everyone else is dumber than you.
I want to thank you both for sharing your stories with us all. You helped someone very dear to me to think more critically about their deeper issues rather than making an irreversible decision. The clinics locally are truly scary with how little they talk to these kids & how day 1 you can walk out with hormones. Thank you for your bravery, you helped my family more than you know. I hope that one day ppl will see that there are success stories like yours & ppl that experienced a rough road...but that is how life is so I wish ppl would support detransitioners as they should not have to struggle alone or be attacked simply because it didn't work for them. I will never get why these ppl that have had rough experiences are abandoned by their that claims to be all about love & acceptance. I just wish only good things for you both. Thank you for sharing. 💜
I cannot even imagine having these feelings let alone, feeling like you have to change to be yourself, but my heart goes out to these people. Blaire,this is the last channel that i have ever thought i would be sitting around watching but thank you for sharing. It felt like i had to turn 40 to actually be happy about the body that i have & the way that i look & i am straight. But then again, hubs had turned 40 & started wearing women’s undies, thigh highs & things that i thought were bedroom play. But now he will dress in entirety & has his own set of feminine clothing. Besides being more expensive to dress, i didnt get it. Still not 100% sure where its coming from & why, but i am trying & I appreciate you & your courage. Thanks you & i hope you love Texas. Just made it to Houston for the 1st time last week. No matter who or where we are, people are a lot closer to each other than we know…
Two years ago when I looked up detransition I found three videos, three people... now it's literally thousands.
I’m a straight male, and pretty cold hearted, but when she said “my breast are gone forever” I wanted to give her a hug..
Not so cold hearted
I feel her pain though mot having been through what she has id happily give her mine because they are a pain to deal with. At 40 im done with the vanity of having them. Lol
LMAO. Out of all the things that could make you emotional.
Being "cold hearted" is not a flex.
@@ImTheCookieMonster95 he didnt say it was, he mentioned it to emphasize that he felt sympathetic towards her
"Let's all have nuanced conversations, please"
A great closing sentence to a very good conversation.
Thank you.
so they want you to transition but don't dare to detransition it is self revealing what this whole thing is about
It’s a cult dude and I feel awful for the detransitioners
My prediction is that we'll see a large number of people detransitioning in the next 5-10 years. Large enough of a number that they won't be able to continue ignoring them. I'm so sorry you're going thru this at all, Grace. I pray you find happiness and comfort no matter what. 💜💜
isn't there already a wave of female to male detransitioners?
Problem is now people r now just slapping on a wig or grow hair longer and put on dress and make up and claim to be women.
@@KrillWhisperer lol because men have it easier right? When in fact women gets all the perks, that an actual women would want. MEN will always serve women, because bottom line is a true man just wants to be a successful provider.
On the opposite spectrum male to female transitions are those who give up the challenges if Men. And now we see biological men dominating in female sports.
I agree, and a lot of lawsuits from the kids who been messed up now
@@csl9495 where is the domination in female sports?
Just as you wouldn’t want to be judged simply for being trans, don’t judge someone who wants to detrans. The hypocrisy is real.
I don’t care if some just personally wants to do that. My concern is when people use that to try to say that the kids should never be allowed to use reversible puberty blockers and stuff.
I just recently found your page and I’m beginning to love you for being a middle ground between these two extremes. Thank you for giving this detransitioner a platform to tell her story❤️
The amount of pressure to have young kids transition so early, they're will now become more and more, people suffering through detransitioning. She's beautiful and so very brave! I'm watching this a year after this was posted. I hope all is well with her.
When she is talking about how transitioning feels powerful and gives you a sense of control, it sounds eerily similar to anorexia...
A lot of psychologists have also made that connection and that's why they advise not to rush things especially around puberty
Megyn Kelly had Abigail Shrier on her show and Abigail discussed this. Super interesting.
I've seen many people make that connection!
@@mf8080 agreed. I wonder how may more young adults that made that decision with haste will want to detransition as well.
You're right. It does.
I am so grateful I grew up during an era where the term "tom boys" was a thing for girls and it was celebrated for us. If I grew up in the society now I would have probably gone mad questioning my gender identity.
Exactly.
I had my phase of being a tomboy when I was 14-15
Since I was 18, I have been a very girly girl. A feminine woman.
Looking at my pictures from my teenage years, a lot is my lgbtq friends tried to convince me that I’m Bi.
They said the only reason I believe I’m straight because the society conditioned me to believe that.
I feel sorry for the young kids these days. They have to grow up with this confusion and peer pressure!!
Same. And I have stayed boyish all my life, but never wanted to be a boy. If i was growing up now, I suspect I'd have a lot of people tell me I should question my gender. I'm 53 and rarely wear girly clothes, except for dresses when the weather is really hot. I'm most comfortable dressing in a boyish way, never wear makeup and don't like traditionally girly things. Never had kids, thru choice. It also turned out I was bi, imagine growing up now as a boyish girl who likes both sexes and doesn't want kids! Yikes!
I was a tomboy too! Still am and proud to be one! I love being a confident woman who can wear boy clothes and still feel free and feminine in them. And I love my boyfriend who sees my tomboy side as sexy and strong and there is nothing wrong with that. I can play and work with the boys and go out and dance with the girls and that’s life man. Like you said “tomboy” was a celebration for women 💯 - I never needed to explain myself for what I wore or what I wanted to do I just did it because it felt good. Today, everyone needs approval for just waking up in the morning. People have to stop thinking the world revolves around them and start being part of their community. Maybe they’ll find meaning in their actions and not in their status.
But there's no money in tomboys. How do they benefit the pharmaceutical industry? 😒
Well, I guess you better like pink, try out for cheerleading, and wear high heels, or someone will come after you. Say whatever you need to say to get them to leave you alone, and once they're gone, just do whatever you want again. That describes teenage life in my time, too! ;)
Thank you Blaire and Grace for your courage in sharing this intelligent, insightful conversation. As a Reiki practitioner, I understand how one could feel as if their energetic body isn’t in alignment with their physical body, but I wonder how much individuals considering transition are influenced by internal self esteem and fear based issues vs external issues revolving around societal pressure/pressure to perform/interact in the world. As Grace mentions around 11:11, there are many factors in life about being female that are cause for great concern/responsibility. No one is born with a guidebook to life and life in a female body and all of these thoughts are common for all of us in a female body. It is the presence of mothers sisters aunts friends and other mentors that support and guide us. I wonder how many transition choices are fear based responses- choices that are viewed as some sort of “magic wand” solution. “If only I could switch my gender, I will be happy.” Life is messy and challenging for all of us on this 3D plane. Graces story concerns me for young people that are immature naive or not being supported or guided properly that they are enticed into this process, thinking it will solve all of their problems, when many of those internal dialogues are about self acceptance and vulnerabilities. Prior to this interview my feeling on transitioning was “I believe rare individuals feel in their heart and soul it is the right path for them, but many are disillusioned into thinking this change will solve their life problems and it’s their responsibility when it doesn’t. Now, I see that there is a lack of responsibility in the medical community and a misrepresentation of this process which should be only embarked upon with great consideration and assistance from mental health care providers as well as spiritual support in conjunction with physicians. We are all so much more than flesh and bones-the heart soul and spirit if an individual need to be at the forefront of any decisions here and our medical community is treating these people in great need like bodies, not souls. Keep these dialogues going girls! Awareness and support are key here! God bless!
It’s sad that a minority of people can have such control over everything. The idea that she is under attack is insane.
Two people with different experiences talking about something personal, painful, and difficult with respect and care. Thank you both for your humanity and grace.
Amen to that, so refreshing and comforting on a stressful day. They are beautiful women in countless ways. I'd protect them at all costs.
Absolutely. I have such respect for them both.
What reality is this I didn’t think this was possible 😂
❤️
Don't wanna fight with anyone here, Blaire said that Grace has been getting a lot of hate so I just wanna try to balance it out with my little voice/comment and send all the positive vibes I can to her. I hope things will get better for you Grace, you're beautiful in and out, and I wish you nothing but the best ❤️
Grace made me cry, she seems like such a sweet girl and honestly she is a cutie and I hope she can can get some relief.
@Mike Hunt When you compliment a person and wish them well, you do it just to be nice or encouraging because it can put a smile on their face, everyone knows that it doesn’t magically erase problems yet we all do it, it’s not that deep. I really don’t think I’m asking for much, to keep one comment section free of anything that could lead to arguing cause guess what, doing that on CZcams is also *not* gonna help her haha. Have a nice day :) !
Don't understand how some people can be so mean to others in pain. Grace and all the people like her need and deserve so much support, love and understanding.
No one should be hated for detransitioning in the same lens that no one should be hated for being trans. Hate comes in many forms. Denying trans people the right to medical care as children is either hating trans people, or denying their experience or existence.
@Brittany Du Te feck you talking about?? Where is the ignorance, bigotry and "have", because she wanted to detransition? Why does she NOT deserve love, support and understanding, for detransitioning?
Thank you so much , Blair. It's important that people hear both sides in order to move forward, secure in their decision.
Thank you for sharing Grace this is a difficult topic that needs to be shared and medically addressed
My honest concern is that the media is making it “cool” to be trans, introducing the idea to young children and some of them are making decisions that they are too young to make, without the psychiatric support they need to ensure that this IS the right thing. I feel for her and wish her the best.
The media really is corrupting the youth. I'm fearful of the ton of parents who are going to mutilate their children, at the end of the day it's like circumcision: genital mutilation
@@ferrisbueller9991 I agree the media can definitely influence young people who would have no idea about these kind of things if it weren’t for the internet, there’s so much information that they can go down rabbit holes and come out with the conclusion that they need to remove body parts and with the amount of toxic positivity for lgbtq they are told that these fantasies are valid and should be acted on because it’s “the way they are born”
Yes it is a fad right now...Much like anything else. Kids should not even know about it until they are older and truly should not be able to DO IT until they are on their own. It isn't right. Kids cannot make life changing decisions like this.
nobody thinks it’s cool to be trans. literally nobody lol
@@babygirl-nl4im Exactly I like blaire but some of her followers are fear mongering dumb as brick morons. Just like you don't make people gay you don't make people trans. Yes detrans do exist but the majority of trans people stay trans. They're making the kids x by pushing it in the media is just a bs exertion. Also a lot of people don't feel male or female. It's still gender disphoria. And conservative "they're only two genders" types don't help with that. A lot of third gender people rush off to surgery but due to their gender identity being really neither woman or man they will still feel uncomfortable after transition. Like don't pretend to care about detransitioners if you ignore this. Also don't pretend to care about detransitoners if you make the claim to have your gender identity taken seriously you have to do the sugery
why are people mad at her for being detrans. they're doing what they want with their body. chill out and worry about yourself
she* is doing what *she wants
@@auroras7131 v: you know either way it's proper english right? Because they is also used to identify something already mentioned. Layers to words; lets not forget that.
@Brittany Du what are you even talking about lol? You sound hella crazy.
Im not mad at her for being detrans I'm mad she called herself trans in the first place cause she clearly wasn't and had to suffer the consequences. And now makes the rest of the community look bad all because she couldnt commit to a decision about herself that SHE made
@@chickinbrasket7837 v: did she not transition? I don't see your point ; nobody is judging the trans community for transitioning and detransitioning besides Literally people in the community like yourself.... usually because they can't accept something that is outside the normal experience of a trans person. Believe it or not;not everyone is happy with their transition and fun fact not everyone has the same reason to transition nor the same experience. I recommend you worry about yourself and let people do what they wish with their body.
Dear Blaire
I just found your Channel. I was really very much against trans people because they really seem to be mentally completely instable. Listening to you makes me so much accepting and empathetic towards your life experiences and the difficult feelings you had to go through. I want to thank you for what you do. THIS helps to Raise true awareness and empathy towards trans people. I personally wish you all the best for your life! Love!
THANK YOU GRACE!!! YOUR HONESTY IS POWERFUL AND YOUR TRUTH IS NEEDED! Grace is an angel for sharing her story. I can't even imagine how hard it is just to explain what you've been through personally knowing that you are going to get hate for just speaking your truth. That sounds like insanity to me that you can't even share your life without having to worry about other peoples negativity about it. I'm so sorry you have that experience. I thank you for sharing in such an open and honest way with the depth that you do. I am so glad you are healing and finding a way to move past and pray you find a way to not allow others opinion of you change your opinion of yourself.
Blair: I am a 75-year-old woman who last year was confronted with the whole transgender movement. I tell you honestly that I found, and still find, it to be puzzling and, for many, destructive. I worked with children diagnosed with PTSD secondary to sexual abuse for many years and my heart breaks when I see stories of young women who decide to transition to male because they faced sexual trauma and believe that to become a man would make them "safe." I see you as a SANE VOICE from whom we can learn much - I know I have. Thank you for your life and your work.
Well said Janet! I'm 36 and this whole thing feels alien to me too. The thing that bothers me the most is the whole "us" and "them" dynamic that is so prevalent in discussions now, everyone suddenly has to be part of a group or a community and then suddenly people stop seeing the individual.
This adversarial way of viewing the world is becoming so damaging now, "if you're not on my side, you're wrong"
Oh Janet, psychology changes over time so chances are what you learned in school 50+ years ago is almost completely irrelevant at this point.
@@jesusweeps420x What makes you qualified to make those patronising assumptions? Ironic that you mention "irrelevant". Did you have a point to make Mr Troll Account?
@@HuwPewPew generally history is my reason. Someone who was in school during Vietnam might not be the most up to date on their education.
Also this account is like 10 years old so I don't think I made it just to troll babycakes.
@@jesusweeps420x Again, you're not qualified to dismiss anyone's knowledge when it is obviously superior to your own.
Troll account:
-stupid name
-stupid account picture
-pointless and inflammatory statements with no substance.
Checks the obvious boxes for a troll account. The fact it's 10 years old just tells me you've been doing it a long time.
Having an extremely high voice was her saving grace because her voice now can still pass as female no questions asked.
I’m a cis woman and my voice is deeper than hers!
Her voice kind of sounds like Zoey Dechanel.
I’m a cis female and my voice is deeper than hers
Mines deeper than hers too
She could utilize the voice training that mtfs use too tbh
This is priceless! Thank you for having a platform to be real!
I always felt different when I was young, I rejected feminine clothes and specifically didn’t “identify” with being female. But the only label I knew was “tomboy”. Fast forward all these years and I’m thinking how many unfeminine women think that maybe they should transition. I grew up and have become very comfortable in my skin. Some days I feel more feminine and other days I am good dressing down in a non binary way. What I probably rejected earlier was the fact that women are not being given the same opportunities as men and that’s why subconsciously I wanted to be a boy. I feel there are so many pre teenagers who probably feel the same way because you’re not comfortable in your body and it’s an awkward time. Trans people who are happy after transitioning are probably different, maybe they know they’re a boy or a girl with more conviction. I think there definitely needs to be more open conversation surrounding all this when clearly the damage is irreversible.
That’s a really interesting point I never thought of before: that females will respond to body image issues by transitioning, when they might not actually be trans. They may have dysphoria-just not gender dysphoria. I’m glad this was brought up because it’s one of those things where you never thought of it before but it makes sense.
It happening TONS. It’s just not getting much attention. In fact there was a book about it that got banned from loads of stores. It was just a book a women wrote about talking to these girls and their families…
This is happening with a ton of men
@Brittany Du yeah okay
@@ferrisbueller9991 not really. standards for mens bodies arent the same for women.
@@rmg8717 whats it called?