"I'm depressed." Every Asian parent (probably): "LMAO you have a house, you eat 3 times a day everyday, you have a cellphone, you have clothes, you have a refrigerator, and we provide you everything you need, so you don't have the right to be depressed shut up."
Dont forget that line where they "at our time we didn't even had a phone ,had so little to eat and had to walk so much to get to school and u r depressed? U have everything"
South asian parent never talk about abortion, because they think' abortion' is bad word..good people don’t do it or talk about it.May be South -East Asian are different from Indian or Bangladeshi.
I think some are too ashamed to even consider that it might be a disorder/ mental illness instead of just being something wrong with them or just them fault, and also too ashamed to consider the possibility of sharing with someone for not wanting to be a burden or a motive of dishonor, disappointment, somethings like that.
As an Indian this is 100 percent accurate . They just say what's depression? Why do you feel depressed ?you aren't doing anything great, you are not the president etc. They just say we as adults have stress and depression why do you have it you just need to study etc..I am currently preparing for my college entrances. And am 18 years old
My parents would say you have a house,we are giving you food , paying for your fees then why are you sad and there are no such things like depression 🙂🙂
I once told my mother I wanted to see a psychiatrist for my mental well-being and my family thought it was to gain attention and said I have no reason to be depressed.
“You’re gay? Don’t worry you’re still a failure” When I came out to my Asian mum she literally said “oh well, not like it’s going to help you in math..” as a joke but it still has me dying when I think about it 💀
Being Asian, I once watched National Treasure as a kid. And the part where the guy yells at his friend and immediately apologizes about after a scene struck me as quite odd. I was like wait this is how people behave that they apologize for yelling and shouting. My mom does at 24/7 and so do my siblings and they never showed remorse and apologized
As an Indian kid, I’m so glad for my parents lol. If I told them I was sad-not even depressed-we’d immediately be on trip to the Bahamas or the Florida keys and my mother would keep trying her best to drive my sadness away. One of my friends actually lost his younger brother to suicide this year (he’s Korean) and his parents had no idea what could’ve caused it but ever since then my mom has been on high alert. Which is also why I refused to take my final exams my last quarter of college. They were just causing me unnecessary stress
Wow you're really lucky to have such caring parents. My parents are also like this, ofcourse they cannot to take me on a trip 😂 but they do try to make me feel comfortable and happy as much as possible. I really appreciate their efforts 🥺
@@chandrayeedey7462 final exams don’t matter as much as mental health and comfort so of course I skipped it. It was really bad for my mental state at the time. My teacher tried to tell me to take the final but she couldn’t make me lol I had an A in her class before the final so I dropped to an A-
I think you worded this confusingly. I’d argue it’s more easy for Asians to get depressed, they’re just going to bottle up and hide it more in these particular circumstances.
As an asian kid with actually halfway decent parents, yes, *_real parents._* We simply do not get depressed, because our parents are already way better than their parents. We are glad we do not have to deal with most of the bullshit that comes with being asian. My parents allowed me to teach myself. I learned to be free. I learned to have my own rights. I learned to stand my ground. I learned to set boundaries. And I learned to talk things out with my parents. I learned that it was right to hit them back. I learned that it was right to tell them what crossed the line. I learned that I had the right to live for myself. I stopped bottling my emotions up. I talked about it, I made them understand. I got mad. I got sad. It was not their right to tell me what I should feel. And so, after all that, I finally have a good relationship with my parents that we can collectively grow. Dragged them back to reality before they could get too far. And hell yes I am glad I argue with my parents. After all, it's through all those arguments we're finally here where we are now. I'm glad my parents were atleast good enough to realize some of their mistakes, and with my growth I was able to correct the rest. I did not end up in a loop of negative emotions, where each time I backed off my parents would grow more and more used to it, thinking it was right. After that first time, everything simply became better. Although they did try to stuff some of their garbage teachings into me, they gave me enough freedom to learn, to understand that they were wrong. I had the luxury of knowing better, and being able to filter out what was right and what was wrong. Despite my parents not being too good at parenting, I was able to correct myself because of the stories everyone passed along. Because of the explanations people created. Because of *_the internet._* And so, in my case, I argue that the internet is a good thing. I am glad I did not end up like one of those retards on twitter/reddit, nor one of those asians that grew up with extremely abusive parents. Even still, I wonder, fear what would have happened had my parents been worse. Who would I have become? Certainly, it was the internet that gave me the knowledge and the right to live for myself.
Honestly same. I'm definitely not depressed. I'm definitely not remembering traumatic events and watch it get to my head even when I try not to let it.
You bring humor and insight to a very important subject. Those who are dealing with depression means you want to thrive;not to merely exist. You deserve to be Your Best Self! You've got so much to offer; start with YOU! Thank you all very much!!
“You’re sad? Just don’t be sad.” We did it. Depression is no more Edit: I checked notifications and I was bored only to find out this comment has 30K likes so thx
asian parents simply dont believe in depression, they think therapy is getting grades and getting a good job and its always the phone that causes depression lmao edit: 1.8k likes??
If they do understand what depression is, they also feel offended. They take it personally. They'll tell you how ungrateful you are despite all they have provided you with, even if that has no relation to your depression. So uhh.. if you're (unfortunately) a typical Asian family's kid, just bottle your depression up. There's not much else that can be done. Bottle it up, and just hope you can see a therapist once you have a job and earn enough money. Your family won't care. P.S. : Removed the "Daughter's get leniency". I used to think they had it better, but after doing some more reading on the net, and seeing some replies here, I realize that was untrue. Being treated as 'Daddy's little girl' is probably just a western stereotype. Here in Asia, that simply isn't the case. Everyone is given the same terrible parenting.
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Hugs and love to everyone dealing with depression, regardless of your background. You matter and deserve to get help! Please know that you are not alone. Sending healing energy, acceptance and love. When I am sad I listen to middle eastern maqam (scales) played on the oud, and it is like very good emotional medicine. But everyone is different.
I've met white peoples parents who will literally say shit like "you're depressed? how about you be grateful for everything i do for you before i kick you out and send you to a conversion camp?" and I feel damn sorry for them
my white mom doesnt know what depression is and just thinks im lazy, i asked her for a therapist but its been 3 months so not getting that ig, meanwhile my friends also white dad just says she wants attention and is narcissistic, not depressed. Where I live most people get unlucky with parents like that
I can totally relate to your video as an "American" scientist who has had the pleasure of hiring outstanding Asian scientists. Several Asian co-workers have taught me how difficult it is for them to talk about depression. We all can learn from people who come from different ethnic, racial, political and religious backgrounds. Thank you once again for teaching us through comedy.
"you're sad because you're spoiled and ungrateful" "just be positive, you're too pessimistic" "it's your fault for not making yourself happy again" "look at how lucky you are compared to some other kids in the world" "you have no right to be sad"
Mmmmmm that's the good ol' invalidating-your-kids'-feelings move. Don't forget to sprinkle in a bit of "it will get harder in the future." Ah, what a classic!
My parents are white and when I came out with my depression and anxiety disorder they just told me I was faking it for attention and then proceeded to not believe my diagnoses. I was only able to get help and support when I moved out from their house. Regardless of race or gender, some parents are just abusive in general and it's not okay. I hope everyone who grew up with abusive parents is able to break free someday and have peace.
Same. But I also have diagnosed borderline disorder. My parents are white too, and for my mother it was like that, she always said that I was looking for attention or faking it to hurt her and my siblings (like, what???) and my father never gave it any importance. My whole family kept telling me to stop being like this, to move, not to be sad... it's absurd. And it has nothing to do with race or anything else like that.
I mean parents need to secure your basic needs like safety, food, healthcare, school, basic socialization. Other than that it's up to you. You have to face life regardless.
@@fergoka emotional needs are also basic needs. if you haven’t learned from parents in childhood how to deal with difficult emotions, healthy self-esteem, boundaries, being able to trust and rely on others, you will have a lot more difficulty in adult life.
"You have no right to be sad." This brought back memories. Imagine being clinically diagnosed for depression and being told that you have no reason to be depressed.
As a black person, telling my mom that I am depressed would lead to her going all "do you want me to take you to a hospital in (random place), huh?? Do you want they do there" like she gets so defensive over these things its freaking ridiculous
I think she took it too personally because she didn’t raise you wealthy enough so that you are depressed. It’s ok man! Sometimes, people won’t understand. You just gotta keep fighting! At least, you told her.
Some parents are really insecure about their "performance". My parents give me everything I need in terms of material stuff, but when I say our relationship is not good they just freak out. They understand they are a failure. As I said, this is the case for really insecure parents.
Mom is the same i think it's becuz she is scared i might do something like end my life. And she is fustrated cuz she doesn't know what to do or say. Her being defensive is an escape from the reality and she knows all drop it if she get mad. All in all she trying to make it all disappear/hoping.
*Yes-* 🙂💦 One day I woke up feeling dizzy (I just got vaccine the day before) so I asked my mom for some painkiller. She asked me why and I replied "I feel dizzy a bit" but she just said "probably becuz you played games too much" I'm speechless and felt like I'm going to cry so I decided to go somewhere else (I think I have social anxiety becuz I always felt nervous around people expecially my mom) then my dad told her about me got vaccinated before- Luckily he's there to told my mom becuz I don't talk with my mom much thanks for my crippling anxiety 😕
@@ashleygoesturu_5599 I don't got issues with myself (Hope you relieve yourself though) But I just get pissed when I hear that line. Not that I can do much ab it anyways.... I've learned to accept it :(
So damn true... I personally don't have asian parents, I have ouest African origins and you know,I was born with a blood sickness, which for, my parents always took it seriously. But now that I was diagnosed with mental problems, all they did was to neglect it and when I tried to seek help from a professional, they treat me like I was a shame, that I had some nerves to go ask help from " outsiders" although I have parents to talk to, and that I was so damn weak for having a depression, that in Mali( The country we're from), people never get depression. I said:" Well, that's maybe because: 1. Mali have no competent doctors for people who suffer from mental sickness 2. The family and society are so judgmental that there is no way to tell it without having horrible repercussions on you ”
@@johnny1846 yeah, but emotion affect your mind, your mindset affect your body. Therefore you're suffering everywhere in ur body. We don't control some of our feelings, as much as we don't control the arriving of a (physical) sickness. One is not easier than another, suffering is suffering, periodt.
My mom says that everytime I call her mom when she's busy doing something. Like 'I'M NOT YOUR MOM KEEP QUIET AND GO AWAY GET OUTTA HERE AND CLOSE THE DOOR' 🧍
“You’re sad? Just don’t be sad!” Years after Josh’s mother told people to stop being said, suicide rates have decreased in large amounts and worldwide peace has been solved. World hunger no longer exist although racism is higher in popularity:
I'm white, but my mum is more like the Asian-style parent. She would say "Depressed people just need something to do. If they didn't sit around all the time feeling sorry for themselves, then they wouldn't be depressed."
Growing up in an African (Ivorian) home, those subjects are so… i don’t know they don’t care. Once, we were watching a tv reality show and one guy admitted he tried to commit suicide. My mom literally laughed and said he didn’t try well enough. It was at a time where I also tried to commit suicide, twice and she never knew. I know she can’t understand. I took my distance and I barely talk to her. Some say I’m ungrateful but honestly I feel so much better being away of her like that’s unbelievable. It’s like I’ve been waiting for this my whole life. Honestly if you’re in a toxic home try to move. It’s not easy but it’s possible. I mean life it’s already though enough. Your parents should be your support not your bullies. It’s not normal to be scared to talk to your parents. I pray I’ll do better than them. That’s one of my biggest desires
Sorry to hear that bro, my advice is to always look at the bigger picture. You can build something into nothing regardless of the obstacle that's in your way, you will find that outlet. As humans we learn to adapt, and we can utilize that habit to our own good, just focus on stuff that builds you up rather than what may break you down.
No don't listen to those who say you're ungrateful man. I think it sounds like you did the right thing, and it's amazing how you just followed your intuition on that, even with many questioning you. That's great. Stay strong and remember, it is never ungrateful to simply look out for yourself! I hope you are doing well. You sound like a superb person!!! God bless you. ~ Prayers from California. ~
Same. I’m distant with my dad all because I’ve been scared of him all my life. And I’ve dealt with mental illness alone and in secret. Me and my dad are both adults now, and find I that we can finally have common ground. But I can sense there are things: his attitude, beliefs, that he can’t change. The fear of a clash on an already fragile relationship with my fragile mind keeps me distant. But my dad is old. Your parents too or will be. It’s a hard ask, but let’s also forgive our parents where they falter. And honor them. Even if they don’t see or admit their faults. And we children are the ones who need to be stronger through our pain for this. It’ll be one of the hardest but the most meaningful things we’ll do in our lives and theirs.
Not trying to minimise the pain but I do think she said that cos Africans go through alot and have developed this mental resilience. Unbelievable shit if you ask me, for this reason they think depression is a choice. Sometimes our parents don’t know better, we should try and see it from their perception. Their own parents provided them with basic needs, they accepted and made the most of it in a tough likely deprived country! To travel abroad and make something out of themselves, they believe children should be grateful. It’s depends, life affects us differently and interpretation of it. Reminding ourselves of the gratitude is important. I think there should be a study on this, why the recent surge in suicide! Depression? (Talking for children who had decent backgrounds/upbringing access to basic things). Is it lack of sleep? Lack of mental resilience? Is it in our food, water etc. it’s needs to be addressed. Or are we not challenged enough? Too comfortable? Or facing other issues? What is causing these chemical imbalances* 😞🥺! If your parents tried to give you the best they had, it’s cos they had very little or nothing x.
"if you're sad, stop being sad." Literally how it works. Depression is a joke and people really expect us to ignore it tbh. But yeah this joke had me rolling
I am German, 30 now and 10 years ago, I had severe depression. One day, I cut both forearms at work. After I got home, my father yelled at me and asked, if I was bored and couldn't just live a life like everyone else. I put then a shirt on to cover my forearms. About 10 minutes later, my father was like "It's okay, you don't have to cover it." What a hypocrisy! Depression is a feeling we just don't choose. You don't have to be ashamed, if you get depressed. The real problem is the bottomless ignorance of this distorted, so-called "civilized" society!
Yep. They think is a choice or just a matter of low animic state, therefore easy to change . All my best for u. Never consider taking your life away. There's no many people that feel the same. You might think you are alone but you're not.
Man, painful to read..I hope youre in a much better situation now. Your parents have cut in an open wound, how terrible..Be a better parent, do everything so that this doesn´t happen in your family lineage anymore. I´ve been living in Germany for 10 years, you have a wonderful country to be born in. Wish you all the strength and blessings, heal and prosper, my friend!
Wtf tut mir leid, dass du emotional so misshandelt wurdest von deinem Vater. Da fehlen mir echt die Worte. Ich hoffe du weißt, dass er damit nicht im Recht war und das du es Verdienst geliebt zu werden und dich von Zeiten nicht gut zu fühlen. Ich wünsche dir alles gute auf deiner weiteren lenensreise. 💚
I'm sorry for your situation, really. But in all fairness i think this video was made for all those kids that use the word "depressed" for everything. So much that it masks the ppl that truly suffer this condition. I think that was his point. We shouldn't take offense to his sense of humor.
Are you sure he didn't learn something in between? Just based on your comment it sounds like he changed his opinion. I could be completely misreading it, in which case please forgive me. It's just that I think it would be terrible if the relationship was harmed over a misunderstanding. I do wish you the best,. You've touched me with your gentle courage.
As a Mexican American, I usually relate to the Asian parent reaction portion, but this is one where I’m glad my Mexican mom actually reacted like the white parent, lol. My Mexican dad on the other hand... this was so word for word it almost gave me ptsd.
I have 2 methods for you: 1. Once you have enough money to move out, you could yell at your dad how useless he is until he has suicidal thoughts. 2. If you are a girl and live in US, you could falsely accuse of your father of rape! The law will blindly believe you. I still wouldn't recommend you to do that because they could find out that you're lying.
Wow so lucky, in LATAM the parents just say “Oh don't say stupid things, just study, you don't have more obligations it's the same with their friends” This type of reaction is so normal here that it is already a joke.
I remember myself growing up in asia my best friend or most people "Oh youre sad, lets just eat it will go away" plus a lot of smack talk. It magically heals
As an asian, this is damn accurate. In my family there is no time for being depressed, being depressed could make us look weak and give off a negative aura. Usually when one of us feels down like what happened to me, the others would just tease me and say that just forget about it and face it like a man because there are no time for such things. It actually worked and helped me to keep on moving forward despite several hardships in life. Whenever I am challenged, I just calm down and look down on my problems while thinking of a way to deal with it while I just seal away my negative thoughts and feelings.
I can understand .and its even more hard for boys to deal if you cry you would be said that you are a mommy's boy.i am girl i face alot of asian hardships.you as a boy have to face many hardships.although i am proud to be an asian but the households are not quite supportive unless you have a really good friend who you can share all these things with.and there is inly one child being so depressed.your mom wouldn't even find out .you tried to sucide.i am getting imotinol .i hope we change this when we are asian parents.our kids wont even think of it.🙂🙂🙂
I actually worry that you may instead bottle up your feelings, which the bottle one day will eventually break because you never 'pour' it. This was actually what my psychiatrist told me on my first visit. I've been struggling with expressing my emotion for decades because I also did what you do. Please know that no matter what your family says, it is okay to have a feeling and being sad. Find a healthy coping mechanism instead of sealing away the negative thoughts and feelings. Talk to people you can trust, those who can be an ear when you need it without being judgemental. I hope you're doing well
Shout out to @茶々 👆👆👆👆 It's okay to have negative feelings. It's part of what being human is. It's okay to cry, to be angry, no matter what the reason is. I know it's hard to ignore what usually our parents or relatives told us because it has such a big impact on our hearts, but always prioritize your emotional and mental health. People say mean things to hurt, control and sometimes they'll even spill their trauma on others, and we can't let their comments hit us. Love yourself and treat yourself as better as you can, because no one will do it in the way you really need it. Nobody knows our needs, what we've been through, to decide/comment on this things. Except a good therapist :) Run away from people who treat your needs as nothing. Start this year recognizing that you deserve to be in peace within yourself, making your heart and mind good places that you deserve to be in.
Sorry mate but being teased and told to forget and _actually being able to do it_ is not really... depression. Depression isn't being down. It's a literal chemical unbalance in the brain. Sealing away negatives thoughts and feelings is not healthy either... you're not getting them away from your attention, you're bottling them, and that shit can consume you from within. Glad you're doing ok but... be careful.
I've heard this somewhere that 'Telling someone who has depression to be happy because there is soo much happiness around, is like telling someone with asthma to breathe because there is so much air around.' God this is soo apt. As an asian I can assure, this is exactly how the better half of my family behaves.
Kind of reminds me of something I saw somewhere else… it’s a little off topic but along the same lines: “Telling someone not to feel bad because someone has it worse is like telling someone they can’t be happy because someone has it better.”
I think it's also hard for a parent to hear this from their child because they probably take it like they've been a failure as parents. They might feel responsible and don't want to face that reality so they deride and stay in denial.
I'm white af and both my parents have had histories with depression. So luckily, when I was diagnosed with anxiety in 4th grade, my parents were very understanding and supportive. And even more so with depression. I love them both so much. I'll never forget how at the end of 10th grade, my mom hugged me and was happy that I was still alive. I became nearly suicidal and went to an outpatient program at a mental hospital. I couldn't imagine dealing with this stuff with unsupportive parents
I'm glad you have supportive parents!! I hope you you r okay now😊 As for me I don't, I'm black and from SA, my parents don't "believe" depression is real and is just made up. They only believe that there's one mental illness which is bipolar. My mom literally punishes me and judges me for being depressed-
sometimes even when parents try to be supportive, its still shaky. my dad was depressed from being out of jobs for years and my mom thought there's bad spirits inhabiting his body. i told my mom im depressed and wanted to kill myself, so she encouraged me to pray more and look to religion instead of letting me go to therapy. my mom tries her best. she put food on the table after my dad lost his job and kept our family from being homeless many times. she just dont understand mental health issues i guess.
Its hard, my father just told me straight up to "kill myself if I dared to and stop cutting my wrist and go directly to it" then he would just donate my body for science. And he wasn't even laughing when he said that. He was angry. Really angry.
No matter who you are and what/which race you are. Be strong and don’t listen to your unsupportive parents. Your struggle is important and there is at least one person who can relate to you. Be strong guys ✨✌🏽
As a white Ukrainian girl, I can say I would always hear “IF YOU WORKED YOUR ASS OFF EVERYDAY, YOU WOULDNT HAVE TIME FOR THIS” And almost every single person older than 40 would say you that here
@Jethro Webber you're saying that like people never bottled up their feelings in the past, just because they pushed trough doesn't mean they weren't experiencing deppression, its not like suicide didn't exist back then Time goes by, people go through different struggles, there's no need to comapare today's issue's to the past, a lot of people were hurt by that mentality, I know that by looking at my own grandparents
@Jethro Webber but its not the case for everybody, those that had enough mantal stability were forced to strenghten up and push through because they were constantly in danger or distrrss, that's mostly thanks to adrenaline. There were still people that commited suicide, and a lot of those that survived still have problems dealing with emotions or empathy, I see it a lot in older generations, both of my grandparents ended up as addicts because they couldn't deal with their emotions in healthy way and pushed it aside. Today is different, we have other things to worry about and other things cause people distress, besides many cases of mental illness are hormonal or a genetical, its just important to get help as fast as possible, in many cases its people with abusive or neglective houses that end up in suicidal states I've gone through depression and anxiety and its professional help, medication and family support that helped me get better We need to stop with the 'people in old times were better, you're just looking for problems' For fuck sake, what's the point, every generations spits on the younger one and its going nowhere
@Jethro Webber depression is not just "feeling sorry for yourself" or "feeling crestfallen", for a lot of people it's DEBILITATING, to the point of not being able to continue living. It's not just something you can just get over and even in the far past it would debilitate and lead people to suicide
As a filipino my mom would just ask me why and continue berating me with How they gave me everything they can and how lucky i am that i live this comfortable life which she didn’t experienced and she would go on enumerating all her hardships from birth to present. So yeah i rather keep it to myself.
Bruhhh the same happened with me. For all time i was the most sorted kid out of us three. And one day i had the major anxiety attack at home and my father just started telling me how he is doing everything for us and everything. It broke my heart. So I'd rather keep my issues with myself.
This is 100% accurate. I’m not Asian (I’m Hispanic) and this is how my Hispanic parents responded of me telling them that I have a depression disorder and they always kept saying that “stop being dramatic” or “get over with it”, like how am I supposed to get over with, if it’s became the scar of a trauma that happened to me when I’m was 13 in the past. It’s honestly sad that parents don’t take mental health seriously and see it as a joke or using it as an excuse to called their kids “lazy”, but in truth, their kids are suffering mentally and emotionally and being overwhelmed with the stress and expectations from their parents/school. Pls take care of yourself and if you ever felt lost or in ever in need of talking to someone, it’s okay and you shouldn’t be afraid of finding help or talk to anyone, cause you’re not alone. We’re here for you.
"I'm depressed."
Every Asian parent (probably): "LMAO you have a house, you eat 3 times a day everyday, you have a cellphone, you have clothes, you have a refrigerator, and we provide you everything you need, so you don't have the right to be depressed shut up."
This is exactly what my mom says, and I'm from Morocco which is in North Africa
You forgot "it's because of that damn phone!"
Hahah I'm not Asian and I wouldn't know but I'm sure this is true for some parents lol.
Dont forget that line where they "at our time we didn't even had a phone ,had so little to eat and had to walk so much to get to school and u r depressed? U have everything"
LMFAOOO and "think about the homeless and the sick, you have it easier than those people so be grateful!"
“you're gay?! don’t worry you're still a failure!”
so inspirational
Hahahahahahahhagagaggagqhgq
@Desiree CC Mikey/Manjiro Sano from Tokyo Revengers.
Okay but your pfp
SO SO INSPIRATIONAL 😂
wait timeline pls i think i missed it
"who told u to be sad???"
most accurate lines ever
“I don’t deserve this kind of behavior”
"Everytime I look at you're report card, this is why we need abortion"
As an asian kid, that's very accurate for me
Hahaahahq
South asian parent never talk about abortion, because they think' abortion' is bad word..good people don’t do it or talk about it.May be South -East Asian are different from Indian or Bangladeshi.
@@pawlace2021 East Asian parents are famous for having no filter-they’ll say straight up rude and embarrassing things to their kids.
@@clod8 bitter truth are more valuable than sweet lies.
@@DccAnh Maybe but abortion after birth is still illegal.
As an asian kid, this is not accurate. We don't have the balls to talk about depression. Because we know how they would react.
that's true.
Bruh
So true
I think some are too ashamed to even consider that it might be a disorder/ mental illness instead of just being something wrong with them or just them fault, and also too ashamed to consider the possibility of sharing with someone for not wanting to be a burden or a motive of dishonor, disappointment, somethings like that.
So true
"You're gay? Don't worry, you're still a failure!"
-Sun Tzu, the art of parenting
@@kgoobee Since when is that my concern
@@ly_lh09 nvm sry
Brilliant.
Implying that there would have been a chance that being gay would have made him not a failure, and that would have been undesirable
😂😂😂
As an Indian this is 100 percent accurate . They just say what's depression? Why do you feel depressed ?you aren't doing anything great, you are not the president etc. They just say we as adults have stress and depression why do you have it you just need to study etc..I am currently preparing for my college entrances. And am 18 years old
a little late but good luck for your college entrances p.s. i'm also from india :)
My parents would say you have a house,we are giving you food , paying for your fees then why are you sad and there are no such things like depression 🙂🙂
@@mi_amour_bts_749 hurts when that happens
I once told my mother I wanted to see a psychiatrist for my mental well-being and my family thought it was to gain attention and said I have no reason to be depressed.
:(
“You’re gay? Don’t worry you’re still a failure”
When I came out to my Asian mum she literally said “oh well, not like it’s going to help you in math..” as a joke but it still has me dying when I think about it 💀
Asian's definitely show no mercy against their kids. And this is 100% percent correct.
I like ur pfp off topic srry
@@melodyyyy505 Thank you! Also it's okay if it's off topic♡
I’m white but I’m parents act like Asians
For me I don’t think . They treat me amazing :) .I don’t think all Asian parents are like that :)
Very true
“You’re gay? Don’t worry you’re still a failure.” That had me dying 😂😂😂😂😂😂🤣
😭😭
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Do you need a med kit?
atleast she isnt homophobic
Q Bert too late, theyre already dead
Being Asian, I once watched National Treasure as a kid. And the part where the guy yells at his friend and immediately apologizes about after a scene struck me as quite odd. I was like wait this is how people behave that they apologize for yelling and shouting. My mom does at 24/7 and so do my siblings and they never showed remorse and apologized
As an Indian kid, I’m so glad for my parents lol. If I told them I was sad-not even depressed-we’d immediately be on trip to the Bahamas or the Florida keys and my mother would keep trying her best to drive my sadness away. One of my friends actually lost his younger brother to suicide this year (he’s Korean) and his parents had no idea what could’ve caused it but ever since then my mom has been on high alert. Which is also why I refused to take my final exams my last quarter of college. They were just causing me unnecessary stress
Wow you're really lucky to have such caring parents. My parents are also like this, ofcourse they cannot to take me on a trip 😂 but they do try to make me feel comfortable and happy as much as possible. I really appreciate their efforts 🥺
Fr
What. You didn't take your final exam? And.... Your parents or anyone didn't tell you anything?
I never knew this could be done.
As an Indian kid I wish all us Indian kids have parents like yours
@@chandrayeedey7462 final exams don’t matter as much as mental health and comfort so of course I skipped it. It was really bad for my mental state at the time. My teacher tried to tell me to take the final but she couldn’t make me lol I had an A in her class before the final so I dropped to an A-
Telling religion obsessed parents that you are depressed:
"THERE'S NO SUCH THING AS DEPRESSION, YOU NEED GOD IN YOUR LIFE"
@sofih mello my life in a nutshell lma9
Or they’ll say “depression is just demons! Demonic possession!” Or that’s my mom’s approach at least.
My mom in a nutshell:
@@Roxysm ld say its true but not just about it.it can be about trauma or our toxic society
"That's just terms those westerners made up, it's not a real thing just keep praying"
That's why it's not easy for Asians to get depressed.
@@cake_404 why isnt there anything
@@blanceatscake281 say my name
I think you worded this confusingly. I’d argue it’s more easy for Asians to get depressed, they’re just going to bottle up and hide it more in these particular circumstances.
hi
"You have no right to be sad.. You failure... ayYAAaaA"
really had me right there xD
As an asian kid with actually halfway decent parents, yes, *_real parents._* We simply do not get depressed, because our parents are already way better than their parents. We are glad we do not have to deal with most of the bullshit that comes with being asian. My parents allowed me to teach myself. I learned to be free. I learned to have my own rights. I learned to stand my ground. I learned to set boundaries. And I learned to talk things out with my parents. I learned that it was right to hit them back. I learned that it was right to tell them what crossed the line. I learned that I had the right to live for myself. I stopped bottling my emotions up. I talked about it, I made them understand. I got mad. I got sad. It was not their right to tell me what I should feel. And so, after all that, I finally have a good relationship with my parents that we can collectively grow. Dragged them back to reality before they could get too far. And hell yes I am glad I argue with my parents. After all, it's through all those arguments we're finally here where we are now. I'm glad my parents were atleast good enough to realize some of their mistakes, and with my growth I was able to correct the rest. I did not end up in a loop of negative emotions, where each time I backed off my parents would grow more and more used to it, thinking it was right. After that first time, everything simply became better. Although they did try to stuff some of their garbage teachings into me, they gave me enough freedom to learn, to understand that they were wrong. I had the luxury of knowing better, and being able to filter out what was right and what was wrong. Despite my parents not being too good at parenting, I was able to correct myself because of the stories everyone passed along. Because of the explanations people created. Because of *_the internet._* And so, in my case, I argue that the internet is a good thing. I am glad I did not end up like one of those retards on twitter/reddit, nor one of those asians that grew up with extremely abusive parents. Even still, I wonder, fear what would have happened had my parents been worse. Who would I have become? Certainly, it was the internet that gave me the knowledge and the right to live for myself.
"Just don't be sad. Who told you to be sad?"
This sounded inspirational, even though they called him a failure almost immediately afterwards.
fr.
bro it isn't that simple, it's like telling someone to not be happy
@@kynanlinjunzhe1317 When did I claim it was that simple? :\
@@kynanlinjunzhe1317 take a joke
@@kynanlinjunzhe1317 woooosh
as an asian, this is 100% accurate
OH
which part of asia are you from?
Welp-
Honestly same. I'm definitely not depressed. I'm definitely not remembering traumatic events and watch it get to my head even when I try not to let it.
Same bro
“U sad be caus u on yo phone” 100percent true
You bring humor and insight to a very important subject. Those who are dealing with depression means you want to thrive;not to merely exist. You deserve to be Your Best Self! You've got so much to offer; start with YOU! Thank you all very much!!
“You’re sad? Just don’t be sad.”
We did it. Depression is no more
Edit: I checked notifications and I was bored only to find out this comment has 30K likes so thx
The best cure
Aiiya who told you to be sad? Who told you to be sad huh?
They did it, Asian Parents solved world depression/j 😶
Look at your cousin...he is earning so much...getting top grades.. and you are here being sad and depressed lol
It works with anything! You feel cold or pain? Just dont feel cold or pain. Got bit by a bear? Dont get bit! Works everytime
asian parents simply dont believe in depression, they think therapy is getting grades and getting a good job and its always the phone that causes depression lmao
edit: 1.8k likes??
fr-
But us true phone is cause a depression is mess ur brain a lot
Why are you describing my black mother
If they do understand what depression is, they also feel offended. They take it personally. They'll tell you how ungrateful you are despite all they have provided you with, even if that has no relation to your depression.
So uhh.. if you're (unfortunately) a typical Asian family's kid, just bottle your depression up. There's not much else that can be done. Bottle it up, and just hope you can see a therapist once you have a job and earn enough money. Your family won't care.
P.S. : Removed the "Daughter's get leniency".
I used to think they had it better, but after doing some more reading on the net, and seeing some replies here, I realize that was untrue. Being treated as 'Daddy's little girl' is probably just a western stereotype. Here in Asia, that simply isn't the case. Everyone is given the same terrible parenting.
@@secretjosh5619 "daughters get leniency"
Not if you're the eldest daughter in an Asian family... : )
Thank you for the laughs that I really need during a very depressing time in my life.❤️
"You are sad because of you're on your phone" soooo true
“You’re sad? Just don’t be sad.”
“World hunger? Just eat.”
True story:
Romania 🇷🇴 is a beautiful, but a very poor country and, for some unknown reasons, we have the highest taxes in the Europe. The majority barely manages to pay them and we struggle to survive somehow and the Government had the great idea to raise and even double a lot of taxes.
However, our Work Minister found the solution for our poverty.
She said:
"It is what it is! Just don't be poor anymore, folks!"
😂 😂 😂
Marie Antoinette de Roumanie
@@cristinacamelia984 true leader 👏😂
"Dead? Just be alive."
@@physicsisawesome696 I think that’s how the Queen on England is still alive!
@@wandabyers9519 make sense 🤣
Asian parents are just built different.
Lmao ur pfp
@@Ejaz100 sucks
@@mazokuthemimic5363 Ass
@@Ejaz100 I get that a lot
1000th like
Hugs and love to everyone dealing with depression, regardless of your background. You matter and deserve to get help! Please know that you are not alone. Sending healing energy, acceptance and love. When I am sad I listen to middle eastern maqam (scales) played on the oud, and it is like very good emotional medicine. But everyone is different.
That "just don't be sad! Who told you to be sad" hit me right in the face.
Well abuse is generally universal, not just Asian. But the video was good.
As a white person, I can confirm white parents can also be like asian parents. It's a 50/50
15/85
I've met white peoples parents who will literally say shit like "you're depressed? how about you be grateful for everything i do for you before i kick you out and send you to a conversion camp?" and I feel damn sorry for them
@@waterman3783 that's not called parents, that's called people that were forced to take care of a child
@@waterman3783 yeah, when I watched this video, I was like: Why is this so accurate when my mom’s not even Asian?!
my white mom doesnt know what depression is and just thinks im lazy, i asked her for a therapist but its been 3 months so not getting that ig, meanwhile my friends also white dad just says she wants attention and is narcissistic, not depressed. Where I live most people get unlucky with parents like that
"You're gay? Don't worry, you're still a failure."
PFFT-
Too accurate.
Edit: Wait how is this my most liked comment in my whole entire life
LOL SO TRUE
I died 😂
Fr 😔
Well at least she accepts him to be gay
Fr! 🤣😂
" you're depressed because you're on your phone,read a book you failure." so damn true like the dialogue I mean every asian parents' dialogue
I can totally relate to your video as an "American" scientist who has had the pleasure of hiring outstanding Asian scientists. Several Asian co-workers have taught me how difficult it is for them to talk about depression. We all can learn from people who come from different ethnic, racial, political and religious backgrounds. Thank you once again for teaching us through comedy.
Its actually very accurate! Depression here is a joke.
Hiyah!
it is tho
Real
Yep 😃
Are you being sarcastic? Lol
"you're sad because you're spoiled and ungrateful" "just be positive, you're too pessimistic" "it's your fault for not making yourself happy again" "look at how lucky you are compared to some other kids in the world" "you have no right to be sad"
So T R U E
This hit home lmaooo
That is a Nigerian parent for you
IFKR!
Mmmmmm that's the good ol' invalidating-your-kids'-feelings move. Don't forget to sprinkle in a bit of "it will get harder in the future." Ah, what a classic!
i have trauma over this but this relieves my past because of how accurately funny this is. love your channel! ^^
The “Just don’t be sad” part is so true…
Asian parents: just don’t be sad.
Depression: understandable, have a great day.
💀
If you're homeless
Just buy a home
You have insomnia?
Just try to sleep
@@parijatttt.exe. i- 😂😂😂
@@gwendolyn7015 precisely 😃
Me: "I'm depressed"
Mexican Parents: "Ponle más salsa a tus tacos"
Me: *no longer depressed*
Extra sauce on taco cures depression confirmed by Mexican Parents 😄👍
They also can say "Pues ya ni modo mijo. Ponte a barrer"
XD
Lol!! 🤣🤣🤣🤣
I caught tacos.
This hit hard but made me laugh at the same time, thank you
Blud knows you gotta joke about it to keep yourself sane
„If you are sad, just stop being sad“ 😂💀
"because you're on your phone." Most accurate sentence in this video.
Scratch that. The whole video is accurate
As an Asian my mom would just say “DRINK MORE OF THE WATER”
So relatable, my mom's asian too. 😂
So you don't run out of water because of crying
@@pawdesu8451 Mom logic, am I right?
Yup same
IKR
Lol my new fav channel
This is hella truth I as an Asian can assure that!
And this guy is a real talent, has the perfect observation on both sides!
As a white (I'm Russian) person, whenever I say "I'm depressed" my mom says "You have a great life and no problems, so stop being dramatic" 🌚👍🏻
"think of all the people who have actual problems"
I have Russian family that came over to the U.S. I know what you mean by this.
@@lucasmcinnis5045 That's actually what depresses me
@@laaaliiiluuu Yeah, its adding insult to injury when you know you're depressed for no real reason and you can't control it
and they also say that you need to work more to not be depressed
My parents are white and when I came out with my depression and anxiety disorder they just told me I was faking it for attention and then proceeded to not believe my diagnoses. I was only able to get help and support when I moved out from their house. Regardless of race or gender, some parents are just abusive in general and it's not okay. I hope everyone who grew up with abusive parents is able to break free someday and have peace.
Same. But I also have diagnosed borderline disorder.
My parents are white too, and for my mother it was like that, she always said that I was looking for attention or faking it to hurt her and my siblings (like, what???) and my father never gave it any importance.
My whole family kept telling me to stop being like this, to move, not to be sad... it's absurd. And it has nothing to do with race or anything else like that.
I mean parents need to secure your basic needs like safety, food, healthcare, school, basic socialization.
Other than that it's up to you. You have to face life regardless.
I think, most parents have to go see a therapist aswell🤷🏻♀️
@@fergoka emotional needs are also basic needs. if you haven’t learned from parents in childhood how to deal with difficult emotions, healthy self-esteem, boundaries, being able to trust and rely on others, you will have a lot more difficulty in adult life.
@@mixlii3878 That comes with socialization but there is no human alive without some kind of trauma in their past.
Everytime you talk to your mum and she’s Asian about feelings and their negative. They always laugh. Like… ALWAYS!
"You have no right to be sad."
This brought back memories. Imagine being clinically diagnosed for depression and being told that you have no reason to be depressed.
As a black person, telling my mom that I am depressed would lead to her going all "do you want me to take you to a hospital in (random place), huh?? Do you want they do there" like she gets so defensive over these things its freaking ridiculous
Ong
I think she took it too personally because she didn’t raise you wealthy enough so that you are depressed. It’s ok man! Sometimes, people won’t understand. You just gotta keep fighting! At least, you told her.
Some parents are really insecure about their "performance". My parents give me everything I need in terms of material stuff, but when I say our relationship is not good they just freak out. They understand they are a failure. As I said, this is the case for really insecure parents.
My african and Christian mom told me the reason why people are depressed is because they just let Satan enter in them 😫
Mom is the same i think it's becuz she is scared i might do something like end my life.
And she is fustrated cuz she doesn't know what to do or say.
Her being defensive is an escape from the reality and she knows all drop it if she get mad.
All in all she trying to make it all disappear/hoping.
As an asian "it's cuz of that phone" is so accurate literally in every situation they say that 🤧
Ikr 😑
*Yes-* 🙂💦
One day I woke up feeling dizzy (I just got vaccine the day before) so I asked my mom for some painkiller. She asked me why and I replied "I feel dizzy a bit" but she just said "probably becuz you played games too much" I'm speechless and felt like I'm going to cry so I decided to go somewhere else (I think I have social anxiety becuz I always felt nervous around people expecially my mom) then my dad told her about me got vaccinated before-
Luckily he's there to told my mom becuz I don't talk with my mom much thanks for my crippling anxiety 😕
@@ashleygoesturu_5599 Can relate😩
@@ashleygoesturu_5599 I don't got issues with myself (Hope you relieve yourself though) But I just get pissed when I hear that line. Not that I can do much ab it anyways.... I've learned to accept it :(
Yeah and when they encounter anything that differs from their view of the world they just bitch out like a baby
LOL OMG we need more of you!
"Just don't be sad" thanks for the advice🤣
"Just don't be sad." "Who told you to be sad?"
"Just don't have cancer." "Who told you to have cancer?"
Same vibe 💀
LMAO 💀
So damn true...
I personally don't have asian parents, I have ouest African origins and you know,I was born with a blood sickness, which for, my parents always took it seriously. But now that I was diagnosed with mental problems, all they did was to neglect it and when I tried to seek help from a professional, they treat me like I was a shame, that I had some nerves to go ask help from " outsiders" although I have parents to talk to, and that I was so damn weak for having a depression, that in Mali( The country we're from), people never get depression. I said:" Well, that's maybe because:
1. Mali have no competent doctors for people who suffer from mental sickness
2. The family and society are so judgmental that there is no way to tell it without having horrible repercussions on you ”
cancer is an illness and being sad is an emotion. Same vibe but the other one is easier to do
@@minatasidibe1006 I can relate
@@johnny1846 yeah, but emotion affect your mind, your mindset affect your body. Therefore you're suffering everywhere in ur body. We don't control some of our feelings, as much as we don't control the arriving of a (physical) sickness. One is not easier than another, suffering is suffering, periodt.
"I'm not your mom"..this line...so accurate..Asian mom's use it so much ...like sometimes I think "will I use it too with my kids?"
„I‘m not your mom“
„God, I wish“
U better not
@@areyouok3963 yess...I wish I won't ..no worries I believe in my nice self 😊🤗
Happened with me too when I was a kid.
My mom says that everytime I call her mom when she's busy doing something. Like 'I'M NOT YOUR MOM KEEP QUIET AND GO AWAY GET OUTTA HERE AND CLOSE THE DOOR' 🧍
New subscriber. Made me laugh out loud. Not just “lol”.
this guy makes my day everytime
“You’re sad? Just don’t be sad!”
Years after Josh’s mother told people to stop being said, suicide rates have decreased in large amounts and worldwide peace has been solved. World hunger no longer exist although racism is higher in popularity:
WoW
"Don't be racist, you are all failures anyways"
@@Noorboomboomshakalakaboom 😂
@@Noorboomboomshakalakaboom racism is dead, the world is finally perfect
@@cosmicandy4620 Nope :| Iz still there, maybe another 20 years?
I'm white, but my mum is more like the Asian-style parent. She would say "Depressed people just need something to do. If they didn't sit around all the time feeling sorry for themselves, then they wouldn't be depressed."
I am sorry but tf is wrong with her..?
My dad does that too
Bro that's what my dad's like, and he used to be a mental health nurse-
ur mum must be very lucky to not have had depression her entire life. Otherwise she'd know her statement was false T.T
Depressed persons don't cheer up to do something
“Just don’t be sad.”
*Emotional support 100*
Discovering this channel helped me realize that I'm Asian, from an Asian family, and Asian neighborhood.
I always knew something was off.
Growing up in an African (Ivorian) home, those subjects are so… i don’t know they don’t care. Once, we were watching a tv reality show and one guy admitted he tried to commit suicide. My mom literally laughed and said he didn’t try well enough. It was at a time where I also tried to commit suicide, twice and she never knew. I know she can’t understand. I took my distance and I barely talk to her. Some say I’m ungrateful but honestly I feel so much better being away of her like that’s unbelievable. It’s like I’ve been waiting for this my whole life.
Honestly if you’re in a toxic home try to move. It’s not easy but it’s possible. I mean life it’s already though enough. Your parents should be your support not your bullies. It’s not normal to be scared to talk to your parents. I pray I’ll do better than them. That’s one of my biggest desires
So sorry you dealt with that. Glad you were able to get away. Build your own family of people who will love and support you.
Sorry to hear that bro, my advice is to always look at the bigger picture. You can build something into nothing regardless of the obstacle that's in your way, you will find that outlet. As humans we learn to adapt, and we can utilize that habit to our own good, just focus on stuff that builds you up rather than what may break you down.
No don't listen to those who say you're ungrateful man. I think it sounds like you did the right thing, and it's amazing how you just followed your intuition on that, even with many questioning you. That's great. Stay strong and remember, it is never ungrateful to simply look out for yourself! I hope you are doing well. You sound like a superb person!!! God bless you. ~ Prayers from California. ~
Same. I’m distant with my dad all because I’ve been scared of him all my life. And I’ve dealt with mental illness alone and in secret.
Me and my dad are both adults now, and find I that we can finally have common ground. But I can sense there are things: his attitude, beliefs, that he can’t change. The fear of a clash on an already fragile relationship with my fragile mind keeps me distant.
But my dad is old. Your parents too or will be. It’s a hard ask, but let’s also forgive our parents where they falter. And honor them. Even if they don’t see or admit their faults.
And we children are the ones who need to be stronger through our pain for this. It’ll be one of the hardest but the most meaningful things we’ll do in our lives and theirs.
Not trying to minimise the pain but I do think she said that cos Africans go through alot and have developed this mental resilience. Unbelievable shit if you ask me, for this reason they think depression is a choice. Sometimes our parents don’t know better, we should try and see it from their perception. Their own parents provided them with basic needs, they accepted and made the most of it in a tough likely deprived country!
To travel abroad and make something out of themselves, they believe children should be grateful. It’s depends, life affects us differently and interpretation of it. Reminding ourselves of the gratitude is important.
I think there should be a study on this, why the recent surge in suicide! Depression? (Talking for children who had decent backgrounds/upbringing access to basic things). Is it lack of sleep? Lack of mental resilience? Is it in our food, water etc. it’s needs to be addressed. Or are we not challenged enough? Too comfortable? Or facing other issues? What is causing these chemical imbalances* 😞🥺!
If your parents tried to give you the best they had, it’s cos they had very little or nothing x.
"You' are sad? Just don't be sad"
*depression left the chat*
That's my parents lol
This is my FAVORITE video of Korean Comic. K
Honestly when the Asian parent said you’re sad because of you’re phone it’s basically like that for all moms
"if you're sad, stop being sad."
Literally how it works. Depression is a joke and people really expect us to ignore it tbh. But yeah this joke had me rolling
Do you mean depression is NOT a joke?
@@poopinjectionxx sarcasm dw
I am German, 30 now and 10 years ago, I had severe depression. One day, I cut both forearms at work. After I got home, my father yelled at me and asked, if I was bored and couldn't just live a life like everyone else. I put then a shirt on to cover my forearms. About 10 minutes later, my father was like "It's okay, you don't have to cover it." What a hypocrisy! Depression is a feeling we just don't choose. You don't have to be ashamed, if you get depressed. The real problem is the bottomless ignorance of this distorted, so-called "civilized" society!
Yep. They think is a choice or just a matter of low animic state, therefore easy to change .
All my best for u. Never consider taking your life away. There's no many people that feel the same. You might think you are alone but you're not.
Man, painful to read..I hope youre in a much better situation now. Your parents have cut in an open wound, how terrible..Be a better parent, do everything so that this doesn´t happen in your family lineage anymore. I´ve been living in Germany for 10 years, you have a wonderful country to be born in. Wish you all the strength and blessings, heal and prosper, my friend!
Wtf tut mir leid, dass du emotional so misshandelt wurdest von deinem Vater. Da fehlen mir echt die Worte. Ich hoffe du weißt, dass er damit nicht im Recht war und das du es Verdienst geliebt zu werden und dich von Zeiten nicht gut zu fühlen. Ich wünsche dir alles gute auf deiner weiteren lenensreise. 💚
I'm sorry for your situation, really. But in all fairness i think this video was made for all those kids that use the word "depressed" for everything. So much that it masks the ppl that truly suffer this condition. I think that was his point. We shouldn't take offense to his sense of humor.
Are you sure he didn't learn something in between? Just based on your comment it sounds like he changed his opinion. I could be completely misreading it, in which case please forgive me. It's just that I think it would be terrible if the relationship was harmed over a misunderstanding.
I do wish you the best,. You've touched me with your gentle courage.
Actually the thing about the phone is spot on.
“You’re sad? Then don’t be sad!”
Best advice ever
just discovered the channel and i love it
it’s a documentary channel remember that
Ayo your videos cool
Lmao same
Haha 69
H E L L O C H E C K M A R K
nah jk i love your videos
"you have no right to be sad you fayyylure"
"read the book you stoopheed"
"read the bible you need the jeeeeesus"
IM FREAKING WHEEZING
I m not your mum haiyaa
@@saitab-6435 "hayiaannn" ALWAYS ICONIC
Im the 69th like
@@RaideN-GTS tysm :D
"When I look at your report card I go hayyyaaaa this is why we need the abortion!"
u got me hooked....just in few hours
The "What the hell is that?" IS SO ON POINT JSJSIWJSIWKWJ AND "You need jesssssuusss." 💀💀💀
Humor is a coping skill for sure, but let us not let it minimize how tough depression is. Sending virtual hugs to those who need them!
Thank you
Virtual hugs from me as well
Your virtual hug surely helps!
As a Mexican American, I usually relate to the Asian parent reaction portion, but this is one where I’m glad my Mexican mom actually reacted like the white parent, lol. My Mexican dad on the other hand... this was so word for word it almost gave me ptsd.
im literally you, except im dominican. My dad literally said “just stop being depressed”
Same but Brazilian
My family is fully white and their reaction can be best described as "just be happy lol"
I have 2 methods for you:
1. Once you have enough money to move out, you could yell at your dad how useless he is until he has suicidal thoughts.
2. If you are a girl and live in US, you could falsely accuse of your father of rape! The law will blindly believe you. I still wouldn't recommend you to do that because they could find out that you're lying.
Wow so lucky, in LATAM the parents just say “Oh don't say stupid things, just study, you don't have more obligations it's the same with their friends” This type of reaction is so normal here that it is already a joke.
I remember myself growing up in asia my best friend or most people "Oh youre sad, lets just eat it will go away" plus a lot of smack talk. It magically heals
Lol ngl this guy cures my depression
As an asian, this is damn accurate. In my family there is no time for being depressed, being depressed could make us look weak and give off a negative aura. Usually when one of us feels down like what happened to me, the others would just tease me and say that just forget about it and face it like a man because there are no time for such things. It actually worked and helped me to keep on moving forward despite several hardships in life. Whenever I am challenged, I just calm down and look down on my problems while thinking of a way to deal with it while I just seal away my negative thoughts and feelings.
I can understand .and its even more hard for boys to deal if you cry you would be said that you are a mommy's boy.i am girl i face alot of asian hardships.you as a boy have to face many hardships.although i am proud to be an asian but the households are not quite supportive unless you have a really good friend who you can share all these things with.and there is inly one child being so depressed.your mom wouldn't even find out .you tried to sucide.i am getting imotinol .i hope we change this when we are asian parents.our kids wont even think of it.🙂🙂🙂
@@Huda-lz9wr thanks for sharing your story! All the best and take care! God bless and happy new year!
I actually worry that you may instead bottle up your feelings, which the bottle one day will eventually break because you never 'pour' it.
This was actually what my psychiatrist told me on my first visit. I've been struggling with expressing my emotion for decades because I also did what you do.
Please know that no matter what your family says, it is okay to have a feeling and being sad. Find a healthy coping mechanism instead of sealing away the negative thoughts and feelings. Talk to people you can trust, those who can be an ear when you need it without being judgemental.
I hope you're doing well
Shout out to @茶々 👆👆👆👆
It's okay to have negative feelings. It's part of what being human is. It's okay to cry, to be angry, no matter what the reason is. I know it's hard to ignore what usually our parents or relatives told us because it has such a big impact on our hearts, but always prioritize your emotional and mental health. People say mean things to hurt, control and sometimes they'll even spill their trauma on others, and we can't let their comments hit us. Love yourself and treat yourself as better as you can, because no one will do it in the way you really need it. Nobody knows our needs, what we've been through, to decide/comment on this things. Except a good therapist :)
Run away from people who treat your needs as nothing. Start this year recognizing that you deserve to be in peace within yourself, making your heart and mind good places that you deserve to be in.
Sorry mate but being teased and told to forget and _actually being able to do it_ is not really... depression. Depression isn't being down. It's a literal chemical unbalance in the brain. Sealing away negatives thoughts and feelings is not healthy either... you're not getting them away from your attention, you're bottling them, and that shit can consume you from within. Glad you're doing ok but... be careful.
I've heard this somewhere that 'Telling someone who has depression to be happy because there is soo much happiness around, is like telling someone with asthma to breathe because there is so much air around.'
God this is soo apt.
As an asian I can assure, this is exactly how the better half of my family behaves.
That's a perfect way to put it!
Wow
Kind of reminds me of something I saw somewhere else… it’s a little off topic but along the same lines: “Telling someone not to feel bad because someone has it worse is like telling someone they can’t be happy because someone has it better.”
wow, phrase about asthma is amazingly well put!
I think it's also hard for a parent to hear this from their child because they probably take it like they've been a failure as parents. They might feel responsible and don't want to face that reality so they deride and stay in denial.
"You need the...jeeeeeezus" XD
“You are sad because of your phone!”
This is so damn authentic-
😭😭😭😭😭😭
I'm white af and both my parents have had histories with depression. So luckily, when I was diagnosed with anxiety in 4th grade, my parents were very understanding and supportive. And even more so with depression. I love them both so much. I'll never forget how at the end of 10th grade, my mom hugged me and was happy that I was still alive. I became nearly suicidal and went to an outpatient program at a mental hospital.
I couldn't imagine dealing with this stuff with unsupportive parents
I'm glad you have supportive parents!! I hope you you r okay now😊
As for me I don't, I'm black and from SA, my parents don't "believe" depression is real and is just made up. They only believe that there's one mental illness which is bipolar. My mom literally punishes me and judges me for being depressed-
@A S
it's just the asian lifestyle
sometimes even when parents try to be supportive, its still shaky. my dad was depressed from being out of jobs for years and my mom thought there's bad spirits inhabiting his body. i told my mom im depressed and wanted to kill myself, so she encouraged me to pray more and look to religion instead of letting me go to therapy.
my mom tries her best. she put food on the table after my dad lost his job and kept our family from being homeless many times. she just dont understand mental health issues i guess.
Its hard, my father just told me straight up to "kill myself if I dared to and stop cutting my wrist and go directly to it" then he would just donate my body for science. And he wasn't even laughing when he said that. He was angry. Really angry.
@@kwek2243 That's...I'm sorry to say this, but he's not a good father.
"your sad? Then just don't be sad." wise words right there
right, i’ve never thought about that 🤯 genius !
the haiyaah part LOLest
Lmao this made my day
No matter who you are and what/which race you are. Be strong and don’t listen to your unsupportive parents. Your struggle is important and there is at least one person who can relate to you. Be strong guys ✨✌🏽
Thank you 🙏
Okay, but what are you struggling about?
Thank you 🥺🙏🏻❤
“become a doctor and your depression will go away”
Because if you're a doctor you can find cure
@@Ejaz100 the brains on this man
@@pdlp-5487 big brain time
@@Ejaz100 Yeah If I say But- then this will be my parents response xDD
@@Ejaz100 Sometimes I even laugh in the inside cause idk iz funny
I loved it,so funny!!😂😂😂
"If you're sad, just stop being sad."
I high agree with this. My mom always says that whenever I am sad.
As a white Ukrainian girl, I can say I would always hear “IF YOU WORKED YOUR ASS OFF EVERYDAY, YOU WOULDNT HAVE TIME FOR THIS”
And almost every single person older than 40 would say you that here
@Jethro Webber you're saying that like people never bottled up their feelings in the past, just because they pushed trough doesn't mean they weren't experiencing deppression, its not like suicide didn't exist back then
Time goes by, people go through different struggles, there's no need to comapare today's issue's to the past, a lot of people were hurt by that mentality, I know that by looking at my own grandparents
@Jethro Webber but its not the case for everybody, those that had enough mantal stability were forced to strenghten up and push through because they were constantly in danger or distrrss, that's mostly thanks to adrenaline. There were still people that commited suicide, and a lot of those that survived still have problems dealing with emotions or empathy, I see it a lot in older generations, both of my grandparents ended up as addicts because they couldn't deal with their emotions in healthy way and pushed it aside.
Today is different, we have other things to worry about and other things cause people distress, besides many cases of mental illness are hormonal or a genetical, its just important to get help as fast as possible, in many cases its people with abusive or neglective houses that end up in suicidal states
I've gone through depression and anxiety and its professional help, medication and family support that helped me get better
We need to stop with the 'people in old times were better, you're just looking for problems'
For fuck sake, what's the point, every generations spits on the younger one and its going nowhere
@Jethro Webber depression is not just "feeling sorry for yourself" or "feeling crestfallen", for a lot of people it's DEBILITATING, to the point of not being able to continue living. It's not just something you can just get over and even in the far past it would debilitate and lead people to suicide
@Jethro Webber it is not a requirement of clinical depression to want to keep it a secret
If I had parents who were like this I would just leave and never talk to them again of my volition
Saying “if you sad, just don’t be sad” is like saying “oh you’re homeless? Just go buy a house” lmao 😂
BYE😭✊🏻
Like the comparison here, If I start using this in front of my parents it goes like:
But- (they cut me off)💀😆
This guy is great !!!!!!👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽
The Mom's accent thooo 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
As a filipino my mom would just ask me why and continue berating me with How they gave me everything they can and how lucky i am that i live this comfortable life which she didn’t experienced and she would go on enumerating all her hardships from birth to present. So yeah i rather keep it to myself.
my mother would do the exact same
Yeah soooo true
OMFG exaclty
Im a filipino too
Bruhhh the same happened with me. For all time i was the most sorted kid out of us three. And one day i had the major anxiety attack at home and my father just started telling me how he is doing everything for us and everything. It broke my heart. So I'd rather keep my issues with myself.
Asian parents: just don’t be sad.
*depression disappears*
lol
*and then reappears one second later*
^^^
@@kinzey8 whoa you have *3 eyes-*
"You're sad, just dont be sad"
i've never thought of that thanks
What's with that hyyyyaaa 😂😂🔥🔥
This is 100% accurate. I’m not Asian (I’m Hispanic) and this is how my Hispanic parents responded of me telling them that I have a depression disorder and they always kept saying that “stop being dramatic” or “get over with it”, like how am I supposed to get over with, if it’s became the scar of a trauma that happened to me when I’m was 13 in the past. It’s honestly sad that parents don’t take mental health seriously and see it as a joke or using it as an excuse to called their kids “lazy”, but in truth, their kids are suffering mentally and emotionally and being overwhelmed with the stress and expectations from their parents/school. Pls take care of yourself and if you ever felt lost or in ever in need of talking to someone, it’s okay and you shouldn’t be afraid of finding help or talk to anyone, cause you’re not alone. We’re here for you.
As a daughter of "parents who won life" this is 100% accurate PLUS I'd gain 1h of them telling about the 5km they had to walk till school
Are you from Brasil? This is so brazilian mom talking
@@Caldy94 simmmmm
Sabia! 🤣🤣🤣
Lol knew it! "Eu ia 5 kilometros a pé até o ponto de onibus todo santo dia!" "Que depressao, você precisa é rezar, isso sim!" Kkkkkkk
I knew you were brazilian just by the 5km your parents had to walked lol. Then I saw your username and it was confirmed. It's always the same
" you need the jeeeeeesus" part had me cracked up
This just cracks me up! 😁