To stop bullying in America depends on the neighborhood and city: In Chicago Illinois.... to stop bullying it's done with a gun and someone ending up in the morgue. Inside the school at MIT... to stop bullying it's done by technically sabotaging the individual such as their car no longer works. Inside some preppy high school... it's done with social media pressure of other students and maybe the school.
Ikr, a few years ago we had some presenter come in and give this huge 2 hour assembly about bullying and how to stop it. Here is a summary of what was said: “They’re just words, ignore them” “Slurs are just words that we choose to be offended by” “Be kind to the bully”
@@arrypotter9472 Being a snitch in the US is only considered “bad” by the people actually being snitched on. They’re just mad they got in trouble for being assholes.
If anyone here is bullied: don't ignore it, or it will never stop. I ignored it for 4 years. It only got better when I humiliated them verbally (and no adult ever helped, of course)
Sometimes being a Saint will only make bad guys think it’s ok and hurt even more people. You’re absolutely right and everyone should be taught to just stand up for yourself. Ok one bully gets hit in the face and their parents upset, but it teaches important lesson for both the bully and also the other kids around.
@@SuperLol I agree. If no one will defend the kids who get bullied, they need to feel allowed to do it themselves (not with a mass shooting or anything like that, though, murder is not standing up for oneself)
My younger brother got bullied at one point. He complained to me about it, so I told the bully that if he were to ever even look at my brother the wrong way again, the said bully would need to go to school on all fours. Needless to say, all of my brother’s bullying problems were resolved henceforth. To take down a bully, you need a stronger bully. Force is the only language those people understand. Period.
When my daughter was being bullied in junior high school, the faculty wouldn't listen to my complaints because the kid who was bullying "is such a nice boy." My son is older than daughter, and was in high school at the time. He and his friend waylaid the bulky one day, and told the bully, quietly and clearly, exactly what they were going to do to him if he didn't stop bullying. Instant cessation of bullying.
Some are so dense that not even violence will work, because they usually already have a stronger bully at home and are just venting. You adding pressure to that will just change the direction, but not the necessary vent. You just added fuel.
@@jeepstergal4043 There is a pretty good chance that he just switch targets. Bullies don't like resistance, sure, but bullies won't stop being bullies just because.
I remember the anti-bullying at my school in the Netherlands. Keep in mind, there was no bullying before this right. The kids were too young, they still needed to learn how to do that. "Wait, how are we going to teach kids that bullying is bad?" "Make a story out of it, and make sure to add as many different forms of bullying as possible. We want kids to know that all of this is bad." So yeah, the anti-bullying at my school actually introduced and taught kids how to bully, not how to stand up to it. Great job! PS.: The teachers also like to bully kids for being irregular, and would ignore anyone who needed help. Unless you were a (regular) girl, then you got help and favours whether you needed it or not. You could also be treated better if you were blond with blue (or sometimes green) eyes and were loud, nagging and rich. If you were quiet, polite, and had a regular income you had no privilege and were forgotten about. Though if you were blond, with blue eyes but you were Polish you got nothing as well. That school was sh*t, others were way better.
My son experienced bullying when I switched him from public school to a private, "church" school in 1st grade. I hadn't realized or remembered how mean kids could be at such a tender age.. when he told me that he would get in trouble if he 'fights' back, I told him, "Never hit some one, but if someone hits you, you hit them back as hard as you can and I'll be the on who deals with the school." Also, I have always told my kids, "Evil is allowed to persist if others just stand there and do nothing! You won't be in trouble with me for helping to defend other kids getting bullied, in fact I will reward you!" Great video!
@Jamolly I love this so much!! I have preached the same thing to my kids from the time they were little now into their teen and college years. I mean almost verbatim what you said, right down to the “I’ll be the one who deals with the school” and “evil is allowed to persist if people stand by and do nothing”. Kudos to you! Whereas my kids were bullied from time to time when they were little, now they are looked at as leaders among their peers with strong boundaries and nobody dares to mess with them, and other kids know they can come to them with problems. I am so proud of them for standing up for other kids, and for having the self-respect and presence of character to deter themselves from being targeted by others.
As a student who successfully combated verbal, psychological and cyber bullying from half of the class over the span of 2 years until it got physical. Right after a physical assault i pressed charges (and almost ruined the bullying leaders' future career, he planned to work for the government and him getting on the watchlist would put a cross on these plans)
@@FBI.Open.Up. well you see, how do I say this... Russia has a lot of features, one of which is almost all rules are way less strict if you have personal connections to the person enforcing the rules. Also, influential people usually get away with stuff easily. Despite the aforementioned, it was quite close, and it was firmly promised that the next instance will be punished. However, I never learned if that would actually happen if the case repeated or not.
My son had a bully who pushed him down a flight of stairs at school! The teacher did nothing! My son told me and I talked to the principal who knew and was not going to report it to me until I confronted the school. They all knew it because the girls in class reported it to the teacher. Just be aware these schools will cover for the bully and themselves.
@@marineb9666 I went to the school and the principal knew already and we had a meeting! I contacted the school district and I then filed a police report on the kid. The police went to the school! The parents were contacted then! My son was 9 yrs. old and his back was hurt from being pushed from behind down 16 stairs. My son was being hit in the classroom also and the teacher did not notified me. There is a rage when you child is being hurt and my son is very kind, smart and shy. These bullies love to attack quiet kids! I was not going to let it go and my spouse knew I was on the attack.
@@Theo1000ification I have two words for you and your kids, Krav Maga. It's not karate but takes all the best of every self defense practice and uses it to help protect in real life situations involving many different attack scenarios & helps one to disarm any/all threat. It has helped our family, I highly recommend it for the whole family self-defense program.
I mean isn’t exposing the bully what we want to do though? Sure it almost never works successfully but how else is proper justice gonna be served if the bully is never exposed? Sorry if that sounds cheesy lol but I hope I got my idea across
I dealt with a lot of sexism in elementary school for being a tomboy. I was bullied by my classmates and during lunch I would go out and play soccer in the field every day. The rest of the people out there playing were guys, I was the only girl, and a lot of boys bullied me for it. They would insult me, bump into me, try to twist the rules and say I did a foul when I didn't. The only people who stood up for me were some of the guys on my team who just wanted to win, then the next day I wasn't on their team and they would bully me too. I think part of it was I was really good and that made their fragile little manhoods feel in danger. I even got beat up sometimes. When I told the adults, these were their very words, "Then don't play" "Go on the swings with the other girls" So they weren't the ones that needed to change, I did. I can't be a girl and enjoy physical activity apparently. Soccer was my passion, but they wanted me to give it up. Not only that, but I was also talked to by adults in the past that I wasn't ladylike enough(which was frustrating as hell because I was a very well behaved kid but they treated me like a savage anyway. A girl who doesn't care about getting her clothes dirty? WHAAAT?! SHE MUST BE THE SPAWN OF SATAN!), or I only liked sports because I was being rebellious, but they didn't seem to understand that I just genuinely love physical activity. One time a boy tried to beat me up after school and I just ran away and he couldn't catch up to me. That happened a couple more times then one time he grabbed onto my backpack, I didn't have much of a choice so I fought him and won. Apparently, that REALLY hurt his fragile manhood because he came with a group of people, some of them holding ROCKS, and beat me up with that. It was really painful, and I got out my insulated metal water bottle and whacked a couple of them with that, I broke 2 peoples noses and gave one of them a concussion, and they ran away after a couple swings. They told some adults, I told my parents and some adults, and the school wanted to suspend ME for hurting them. Nevermind that THEY were the ones who started it, and they've been bullying me for a long time, and they gave me a lot of bruises and SPLIT MY CHIN OPEN. No, you can't fight back against someone beating you up and breaking noses isn't "ladylike". My parents were furious and sued the school, thank God they won and I didn't get suspended. I was still bullied after that, but it wasn't quite as bad, people didn't mess with me as much because they knew I fought back and my parents would support me. I only had 2 people try to hit me after that and I got detention for fighting back, but at least the other kids did too.
I love how you were lectured that fighting back and breaking noses isn’t “ladylike”, but by their own sexist logic, these adults should be telling these boys that fighting a girl isn’t very gentleman like(though it’s not about gender and just basic decency to not beat someone up regardless of gender). The people in your school sound like those sanctimonious moral high ground numbfucks, who favor something absolutely worthless as being moral(like gender roles), over actual issues. I hate those smug stuck up people. They r the worst type of evil imo.
Shame on the school tbh. Apparently, trying to defend yourself is considered bullying and harassment to others. The school system really sucks, and thats a fact. Hope you recover from all that. :)
@Bibi Pc Thank you, I have pretty much moved past that, although due to those experiences, I think I feel like I have to try harder because I'm a woman and prove them wrong. The way schools are handling situations like this is so stupid. Like why do they reprimand the victim for punching their attacker, when it was the attacker who also punched the victim AND started it. The victim usually gets in more trouble than the bully!!! If you want to promote bullying people, I can't think of a better way to do it. Don't they think they should punish bullies so they learn not to be dicks when they grow up? And why do they punish someone for standing up for themselves going, "violence isn't the answer" but what do they expect them to do, LET them be beat up and potentially seriously injured? Won't that also teach them to be walked all over when they grow up?
This makes me somewhat thankful that I went to private girl school and the teachers there were terrifying, so the bullying was mostly verbal. It never became physical for me thanks to our fire breathing dragons of teachers.
The American one was soooo accurate. 😭 It used to make my blood boil when my fourth grade teacher would hold assemblies about how bullying is bad, but she was the biggest bully to the poorer kids in class, and would deliberately go out of her way to humiliate them.
Dude this is so real. Poorly trained teachers and faculty with narrow minds and probably coming from a spoiled, pampered, privileged background are the real bullies. I've seen so many teachers excessively blame the child and fail to realize that they're probably just falling behind in class because of problems at home.
@@redgent7058 while in my experience, the teachers who WERE a bully or so called bad kid, becomes the ones who know how to handle the students and are most respected, most of the time.
In our place, teachers are so underpaid, one teacher with the school for 4 years (and a really good one) - left and started working at a McDonald's just to prove the point of ridiculous salaries.Parwnts found out and were livid - he was called back. Pay structure was (slightly) revised. Teachers are extremely underpaid in many Private schools.
My son experienced bullying for years and the school did nothing to stop it. Their “anti-bullying policies” said the exact same things listed in this video. They were told to never fight back. I told my son to ignore their stupid advice and the next time he gets hit to hit the bully back twice as hard. I told him that he would probably get in trouble but it’ll be worth it because the bullying will stop. He took my advice and he hit the bully back and he did get detention but the bullying stopped. Bullies only pick on kids who don’t stand up for themselves.
True I remember in first grade when I was this shy and not as talkative kid, this rude kid would throw stuff at me daily and spat on my neck from at least 5 feet (evan now at 21 it gives me the creeps) it wasn't until I threw food and later explained why I did it he actually stopped
I was bullied really bad in 1st grade, but luckily he moved away. Then as soon as I entered middle school, I was socially bullied till the day I graduated. To anyone out there who may have similar experiences, please know that you are more special than you can imagine.
See, I was really lucky. I went to a high school where bullying just wasn't really a thing. Everybody either minded their own business or there were friends across all sorts of weird groups, like popular rich jocks hanging out with the nerdy weebs who would Naruto run in the halls. We even had an "anti-bullying" assembly and when the speaker asked the students "what do you do when you see someone bullying someone?" everyone just kind of went, "Uhhhhh...... That doesn't happen here?" That said, I've heard absolute horror stories from other friends and family members at different schools and it is incredibly sad how some kids can just get away with that crap. As an awkward dorky kid myself, I am pretty sure if I had gone to any other school, I probably would have been bullied relentlessly.
I have several stories of bullying and how I solved them, but one time in about 7th grade I began to get bullied by this group of 6 boys two years lower than me (despite them being younger, I was still a really tiny girl so I couldn’t fight back). I mean it was baaad they kept throwing things at me, pushing and hitting me, and calling me names for no damn reason and it was constant. I told a teacher and she said “what do you want me to do about it?” So one day during recess I decided to ask for help…. By walking to the “popular kids” bleacher and going straight to the most popular boy in my entire school. I told him I was being bullied and he brought out a yearbook and made me point out every boy who was bullying me. To this day, I have no idea what he and his friends did, but I was never ever bothered by that group of boys again. 😂 It was a risk though, he coulda joined the bullying, but he turned out to be such a good person. Thanks, Josh!
This was actually a pretty smart and safe plan. Unlike what American movies and television show, the bullies are usually on the edge of the popular group (if connected at all) and not the top
I feel writing a letter will lead to jail time. we express verbally in writing so I can see a threat being included which can be turned over to authorities. but that’s what the system wants anyway
In middle school we had to watch a video about stopping bullying. In the acted out skit the solution was going up to the bully and firmly saying "Hey! This school has rules!" The bullies would then (according to the video) run away terrified. This definitely stopped bullying. It definitely did NOT result in an entire school of preteens randomly shouting "Hey! This school has rules!" in the hallways and everyone in the vicinity erupting into hysterical fits of laughter. And it certainly didn't result in is STILL making fun of it 20 odd years later.
Because there is only 1 way to handle a bully. Hurt them just slightly more then they've hurt you. Then they respect you and kiss your behind like the lowly mongrels they are, and you can discard them. You have to do it with enough precision so you don't receive repercussions though.
😂 my school was even worse! They made us go up to the bully, stick out our hand like a stop sign✋🏾 and then shake our other finger☝🏾 whilst saying " *stop! I don't like it* " Im honestly glad I didn't follow their useless advice, it probably would've made the bullying worse or prolong it 🤦🏾♀️
I was at high school in the UK in the 90s. Fortunately at my school we had our own highly effective method for stopping bullying. It was known as 'punch the git directly in the face'. Not only did this stop the bullying right away, but a nearby PE teacher witnessed the exchange, walked over and patted me on the back for standing up for myself. He did offer some advice though "next time wait til you're outside of school, because some other teachers have modern ideas and you might get in trouble". Those were the days.
Haha yeah same here, we used just to fight, but if you have the wits to publicly embarrass that works even better and you don’t have to get your hands dirty
Yep. Im indonesian, i was bullied, and im agreed to this because i did the same thing. Instead use my fist, i use a ruler. Its the only thing that can work to stop bullying.
my cousin was builled because he was fat. one day they went straight to his house to beat him after knowing that i got some of my friends ambushed every mfking bullies one by one 4 of them got sent to hospital and after getting discharged i still went hunting after them after a while police got involved thankfully there were no cctv which could have been bad. well I'm just gald in the moment of rage i didn't killed any one.
So only strong people get to not be bullied? Nice. Hey, us disabled people deserve UT cuz we can't " stand up for ourselves", right? Oh, or aren't pretty enough to get a strong boy to help. Fuck off.
My little brother had been constantly bullied in his middle school (the school is known for not caring, take note for later) and It had gotten to the point that it wasn't bullying anymore, it was straight up ASSAULT. So we called the school and after 3 different occasions of assault and reporting, the kid finally got on trouble... he got a fucking PHONE CALL home. Didn't happen for a month after that, but when it did, my brother was recording it because he was out of the schools camera view. After showing the school proof, my brother got SUSPENDED for recording on school property and the other kid just got in school detention. We pulled my brother out of school and made him homebound. He returned in 7th grade, 2nd week of school and he was held down by 4 kids and beaten up by a 5th. Nobody apparently saw even though it was during class exchange. A few days later, I opted to walk my brother down the school path and i waited and then I saw my brother walking down. He was playing on his phone and I saw this group of 4 kids rush up behind him and I swear I've never ran faster in my LIFE, 1 kid ripped off his mask and shoved him to the ground, 2 kids started to beat on him and the 4th was recording it and laughing. I got up there and I grabbed the 1st kid by the bag and threw him into the ditch, then I pushed the 3rd and 4th kid to the ground and started to beat the shit out of them while the 1st and 4th kid ran away and I screamed "Don't you ever fuck with my brother again you little bitchass pussies" at the top of my lungs and I helped my brother back up while the other kids started to run away. I comforted him and called my parents and explained they needed to come and pick us up since my brother vomited while being kicked and he could have gotten an injury inside that we couldn't see. He had bruising up and down his back, stomach, and arms and I picked him up on my back and walked up into the school to get the nurse. I remember it all so brightly and the rage I still feel when I think about it makes my blood boil. He's back on homebound now and going back next year and I hope nobody fucks with him ever again. Being in wrestling for 4 years paid off in muscles. The American school system is so horrible. For an update, since the school decided to so nothing about it even though they have the kids identified, we are suing the school and we have an amazing lawyer and we have so much evidence that they barely stand a chance. Wish us luck. Edit: Nothing has been done (not huge) but our lawyer has been collecting info and working his way around the law. The courts are backed up, the earliest time we'll get in is around July, which sucks.
I got outed + bullied for 3 years straight in secondary school. But when an admin heard about it, I was the one who got into trouble because the girl who was gunning for me the hardest apparently had “parental issues and trauma.” Tldr, this girl was an _absolute psycho._ But the funny thing is, she and I actually had very similar origin stories! I made that very clear to the teacher as she gave that excuse, and the school’s final decision was “…yeah, well, she told us first so you’ll just have to deal with it” 🙃
I was a child of teachers, and I now teach at university and I can promise you that teachers bully each other and talk behind the students' backs, and often show staggering lack of awareness of economic and social factors that put students at a disadvantage. *In a psychology department* Thank you for speaking up against it. Also, thank you for speaking up about politics-based bullying online. Regardless of which "side" people are on, stooping to that level is just hypocritical.
Yeah this is accurate, I hate how american schools just tell kids to ignore it like its that simple. I love your videos. Thank you for all of the laughs.
It's this individualistic passive mindset that makes people with issues get worse. Instead, they should talk to those who are evil because if there's no feedback there's no knowing
To be fair it's most schools in the world not just American ones, heck in SEA but specially Philippines, most of the time parents doesn't even care if their child gets bullied and school staff has zero intervention due to schools being over crowded. Also I'm pretty sure that the "Stop" in Korea didn't work so well since bullying is still very common.
It’s applying adult logic to kids that doesn’t really work. It’s called the grey rock method to act boring and uninteresting to a abusive person or manipulative behavior. Abusers get bored when they can’t get a rise out of you. This only works with abusers that want a reaction from you though and you don’t withdraw socially from everyone so it doesn’t work with kids that dogpile one person and bully because they like feeling bigger
Ok so I am from a third world country and I am genuinely shocked to see that bullying is so common in other first world countries, like I went through all my high school and never encountered 1 bully nor any bullying incident. like if he called me fat then I am legally allowed to curse out his entire 14 generations that's just given and no one will question it . If you don't want your 14 generations to get cursed out don't start shit in the first place
@@Yukis.aviation Hmm when u get offended by verbal insults, is that getting bullied? I mean yeah it hurts but I don't think it's possible to get a pass in life from physical or emotional pain, I guess the level of bullying to different people depends on their persepective of "bully," I mean even within families, members hurt each other, just depends on how someone handles it ig lol, their emotional/mental stability etc etc
There was this one kid in my class that I HATED! No one in the class liked him and the teachers hated him. He was always annoying others, he was very distracting in class, he got in pointless arguments and generally there was nothing good about him. An important thing to know, is he was a coward. A bit like a chihuahua always barking, but as soon there was any danger, they run away. At one point we arm wrestled and I won. Then he said “let’s try again”, I won. The third time I also won. A couple of days after that (I don’t remember why) we got into an argument. I was having a bad day and the teachers were gone. He said something VERY personal and I just snapped. I got up and (the tempo between running and walking) went towards him. I began shouting and grabbed him. I shakes him and let out a lot of steam (how I really felt about him). He was scared and I pushed him hard away. After that he didn’t bother me. My dad also had problems with bullying, so he slammed a heavy door in the bully’s face. Remember to do it when the teachers are away. I was told on the previous schools to “JusT IGnoRe IT” and “SaY stOP” and “TeLL a TeaChER” and “tell THe BuLLy’s ParENts” The parents just said the previous bully was “misunderstood” and “wanted to be friends” I don’t see how calling me an ugly idiot and pushing me in the hallway is a sign of friendship (he only did it when the teachers weren’t there) Words don’t help. I’m normally not for violence, but it’s the only sure way to stop them. They need to know that there are consequences if they bully you.
I dealt with bullying by laughing with them. Turns out, it isn't so fun to bully someone when they creep you out... People generally steered clear of me after that. 😂
Omg yeah, i just joke with them and do weird stuff Not, weird stuff like doing a backflip on the window As in, react in a way nobody would expect you do it Actually, because i always do that, i get sympathy points from others, and the bullying just.....arent intrrested, yes they tease, doing weird stuff to....i guess make fun OF me...but thats about it And then they treat me like im an autistic person who happens to also be someone who doesnt touch grass But, never as bad as the bullying part So.....yay?
That "teachers gossip about students and other teachers" is so accurate. I had a toxic friend who stole my homework and got me punished. After she was exposed for theft, the teacher in charge immediately gossip about her with other teachers during recess. Not much longer a lot of teacher knew about it and taunted her when they came to our class. She who joined the bully and backstabbed me was given an UNO card. Note to everyone who is being bullied, just spread rumors about your bully to teachers and they will take care for the rest.
@@oneonelee1826 that's the exact opposite of what you first described and is normal. It's to teach group accountability. If one person does a thing and doesn't fess up to it, and someone else sees them and doesn't tell either, then the whole group is punished. That feels unfair (and is to the people who weren't involved by deed or as a witness), but it's a good model for being an adult citizen later on.
As a victim of bullying, which happened about 20 years ago before smartphones existed, I hid it from my parents. I feared they would feel embarrassed about me being bullied, especially as my grades suffered during that period. I remember my teacher knew I was being bullied; sometimes she even humiliated me in front of other students for fun, making her a part of the problem. When the bullying escalated to near harassment by a classmate, I confronted the teacher. I told her that if she didn't intervene and stop the bullying, I would take serious action. It was only then that she began to make an effort to protect me, likely out of fear that I might report her to the Ministry of Education or higher authorities. I was left feeling desperate and alone. I feel sad after watching this video and realizing how little had changed since my teenagehood.😢
I remember in Japan there’s one old method of forcing bullies to confront their victims, the teacher literally would put them center stage and tell them to read out a handwritten apology to the student they were bullying. It doesn’t only restore some honor to the bullying victim to see their bully be put in such a position, but it also creates accountability of the bully promising to not bully again.
@kneecaps blaster can confirm Krav Maga ended my bullying problems quick after my bullies ended up needing to see the nurse for a broken nose, black eyes, and lots of bleeding.
I got two weeks suspension when I was in school because my bully started hitting me in the face and I hit her back. What was her punishment you might ask. Two days detention. Apparently, the fact that I defended myself was way worse then her starting a fight. My dad asked the principal what I should have done instead. She told him I should have gotten on the ground, curled up in the fetal position, covered my head with my hands and waited for an adult to come break up the fight. Which sounds like a great way to get brain damage. So my parents used it as an opportunity to take a vacation and took me to Disneyland. My dad told me I had done nothing wrong and that it's okay to defend yourself. However, he told me if I ever started a fight, instigated a fight, or tried to bait some into hitting me first my punishment would be as severe as my principal is stupid.
@Yusinu my parents were really good at not punishing us for things we shouldn't be punished for. I think it helps my dad is a little older. When we were 19 we threw a party while they were out of town. We put away anything that could break, covered all the tables with tablecloths and blocked off the upstairs and would let anyone go up there, it's where the bedrooms were. I remember my mom wanted to punish us for having the party but my dad asked us if anyone was drinking, we said yes. He asked if anyone drove drunk and we told him if they didn't have a sober driver we let them sleep over down stairs. So in the end we didn't get in trouble because the house was clean, nothing was damaged, and while we did bend a rule we did so responsibly and made sure people were safe. It kind of taught us both some big lessons.
@had better days yeah, it's cause I'm in that geriatric millennial age group. Which was when the government started interfering with schools. So they created the zero-tolerance policy around violence and in their genius decided to make the person defending themselves more guilty than the person who started the fight.
I'm a former teacher. I was constantly infuriated by the pushback from admin whenever I tried to get bullying to stop. I would actually be reprimanded for using the word 'bullying' in any official emails because it 'created a paper trail'. The sad truth is that teachers often have less means at their disposal to stop the bullying than the kids do. At least if a student of mine beat the shit out of a bully, I could do my best to keep them from getting punished too hard. Since admin was afraid to discipline anyone.
Same thing just happened to me. Filed a report with the word "bullying" in it. Admin asked me to remove it, said I should "empathize" with the bully. Victim had to take 2 weeks off of school for mental health reasons as the school refused to properly reprimand the bully... senseless.
@@superatomic9761 schools are businesses and anyone who isn't a stockholder doesn't matter. if there's potential for a lawsuit in the future, then destroy evidence before it can be created.
@@superatomic9761 It depends. In my school, admin was constantly being pressured by the district for 'better numbers', which meant less discipline problems. The easiest way to achieve that was to keep teachers from filing or reporting discipline problems. Lowered the official numbers, but obviously created a garbage environment to work in, let alone try to learn as a child. Damn near everything had to be handled in class, by me, either by working with the parents directly or a very hands on and direct approach with the students. Not saying I did the best job with it at all, but I tried to be honest with them about my limitations and mistakes. Once one of my (10 year old) students reported to me that she was petitioned to 'come inside and see his bike' by a strange guy while she and her sister were walking to school. Being a sassy little thing that no one (including me) could tell anything, she told him to f- off and ran with her sister away from him. But she was shook up enough about it to tell me, so I emailed the admin about it. Got chewed the fuck out because it 'created a paper trail' and now the admin had to do something about the issue. Not that I gave a shit, but that's what I was working with, push back on reporting what was obviously an attempt at kidnapping or molestation. Pretty sure the only thing my students actually learned in my class was how frustrated I was with the system.
Whatever "punishement" a school can carry is ... meaningless really. Beat the bully, get "suspended" which is just free vacation, and when you come back, no one messes with you ever again. Because you now have a reputation, if you mess with that guy, he will mess you up. He's not afraid of anyone. If you can't beat the bully, get stronger until you can. I was always the shortest guy in my age group, so the prime target for bullies. I already had a reputation in my old school. When i changed schools, they didn't know about me, on the first day someone tried to trip me in class, not only did he fail but I tripped him right back that same day, and waited for him outside after class to settle him. Just the fact that I was ready for confrontation made him back off and apologize and become friendly to me since then. You gotta stand up for yourself. Respect is earned.
As a child in america who has been bullied, this is scarily accurate. I was almost suspended for telling a kid to shut up when he was saying alot of rude shit. Luckily, I switched schools half way through the school year and I didnt have to deal with it again.
lmfao if u have a violent older brother just ask him to teach you skme moves and then just beat down the bully. Show NO REmORSE as hesitation will break your mentality and therefore your strength
Back in my day in Korea, you were to do 3 things to deal with bullies: 1) You beefed up for a month and learned judo moves the kids wouldn't know hot to counter just in case you actually gotta fight them fair. 2) Write a note or email to your home room teacher that you were getting bullied a day prior to "the day." 3) On "the day," you fill up a sock with 500 Ws and swing it in the face of the leader of the group while he's unsuspecting when the teacher leaves during the 10 minute break. Keep pounding the kid's face until the noise attracts one of the teachers. Yeah, you might get suspended. But fuck the consequences. Better that than live with constant depression and anxiety that carries over to your adult life. Teachers didn't do shit back then. You had to stand up for yourself and fight back to survive.
I didn’t beef up, but I did snap.. and after beating up my bully they stopped bullying me and others.. I think there needs to be a ring in the playground where peolle can fight it out.
Im not in Korea but like ong bro teachers always be like you don't deal with it yourself we will deal with it. Quit the cap man if someone's messing with you and they try to hurt you. You got to beat the shit out of them spare them no mercy so they and anyone else who wants to mess with you wont want to anymore. Make a example out of your ops.
lmao fr, high school was toxic af and once my teacher let us students tell our problems in class and told us that it stays in the class. when i went to the faculty room to pass an assignment, i heard her spitting out all our family problems and personality issues to other teachers. some would be judging too tf
@@MasterMultitaskerZed fr, teachers even bully you. One time my teacher took sides with my bullies and called me names like a fucking child during a lecture on 5th grade (I did nothing and just answered a question wrong). I for sure would not want to be like that monster.
This hit home wayyyyy too much for me. I was one of those kids who ate that kinda crap at school, now, in high school I finally understand the issues surrounding it. It hurts.
In 7th I had this rude bus bullies who made the way to home and school awful like they would make sexual harrassment things at me and it was horrible one thing led to another I ended up hitting them and the kind bus driver actually reported what they did to me by them doing it constantly. I would say that's the end of the story but no, unfortunately the school saw the footage and I got in trouble and the 3 out of 4 f the boys walked away clean and I'm here so angry that the school administration is just stupid. But at least the bus driver was the hero for actually moving me where I felt comfortable so not all adults were bad
Thank God bullying is not actually a thing in my country but i have watched a lot of Hollywood and K dramas and most times i get angry as to how people cant just stand up for themselves cus in Nigeria u can only bully someone at ur own risk cus everyone here does not take shit from nobody And growing up i have never heard of or experienced bullying and i have recently started to know that bullying is actually a big issue outside my country I sympathize with anyone that was or is a victim of bullying
I’m a first generation immigrant. My Dad taught us to never start a fight, but if it was brought to us, we should end it. He taught us to box, grapple, kick in their knees, toss them by their ears or hair, do what we needed to end it. This was NYC in the late 70’s and early 80’s. It was a very dangerous time with high rates of violent crime. School was akin to gen pop in prison. I’m so glad he taught us to defend ourselves.
my father taught me taekwondo, but I also took it to extreme and broke the rules. So everyone were afraid of me, and nobody messed with my little sister as well 😅 we were 2 out of 3 Asians in our school, so it was challenging
I was bullied terribly until the 8th grade. I was 14 years old when 3 of my bullies picked a fight with me after school. I tried to just get my stuff out of my locker and leave, but they wouldn't let me. I started verbally fighting back, and the leader didn't like my quick, sarcastic ass and decided to punch me in the face. To this day, I don't remember hitting her back. What I do remember is her laying spread-eagle on the floor a few feet away from me with blood pouring out of her nose and down her face with her friends crowded around her. When I grabbed my stuff and started to leave, one of her friends that wasn't even involved in the altercation hollered "Yeah, well I bet she could have kicked your ass anyway!" I just snorted and kept walking. We were still in the school. Right by lockers and classrooms, about 15 minutes after the bell rang dismissing us for the day. Not a single person, no janitor, teacher, or student intervened or tried to stop things in any way. Nobody ever contacted my Mom (Dad was in Saudi Arabia/Iraq at the time), not even her parents. I never got in trouble by anybody, and the bullying pretty much stopped. What little crap I did catch afterwards I was able to cut off with my well-honed sarcasm and lack of fu€k$ given about getting in trouble for it. Don't roll over and take their abuse! Bullies usually prefer easy prey. If you fight back it takes the fun out if it for most of them because it takes too much effort to try and get you back under their control. Ignoring it only makes it worse. Stand up for yourself, because you need to do it when you're and adult too, so you don't get taken advantage of and walked all over!
Easy for you to say. Sounds like you just have a natural berserker switch, a kill instinct. You didn't even remember what happened. Easy to fight back when you don't even consciously do it.
Nothing wrong with sticking up for yourself. If you have to resort to physical violence to get bullying to stop, oh well. Ignoring it is the worst thing you can do.
My answer was to be a bully myself without even realising it. And, to be honest, i didn't even notice most of "bullying" - my head was too full of abuse from home. Years later my friend helped me realise that i was also a bully, just not in a "traditional" way. I passive aggresively treated people like they were all mentally slow. I regret that now, i wish i was stronger and chose kindness as my shield. I also did it to my dad, but that i don't regret. When a person regularly says he'd crush his daughter's hand with a hammer or something like that and keeps screwing up family money, the person deserves to be called d.u.mb.
Glad you grew up as a person. Passive aggressive picking feels imho worse than being beaten. As someone who experienced that at home, as well as in school, being honestly beaten was a relief, because naming "they diss me and play ignorant and laugh at me when i try to confront them" is very hard for a kid, and makes you really confused and hurt.
@@sallagronlund643 , not sure i grew)) I am very sory you went through that. Do you still live with your family? I was never beaten, so i can't compare. For me hidden was better, because i didn't see stuff unless it was right up my face. I have aspbergers, so it's a bit hard for me to read subtext. I mean, it turnes out people spread rumors that i'm an alien and laughed about it. It was so much behind my back that i didn't know about it 🤣. There for that particular trauma is not with me and there is no lasting damage cause It's too wacky to harm my reputation anywhere past middle school. Also being an alien is cool. Edit: i did sometimes hear some comments that seemed random and only made sence after i found out about the "alien theory".
I have my own family now. And yeah, understanding the subtext is one thing, but when you see _something_ is wrong but you don't have the words to address it, that is hell. "They are kinda bitchy, they talk bad about my personal traits they know i am sensitive of, but when i try to say please stop this, they brush it all off and say i am hypersensitive". You do not need to be beaten, you beat yourself. But yeah. I lived with abusive parents and i had broken bones all the time. Still, the mental abuse was worse, because I never had the chance to put it to words. Sorry for the novel, just had to vent :'D I wish you everything good. Keep growing and making the world a better place for the next generation! Edit: typo question mark
@@sallagronlund643 , oh yeah, my parents did that too. By denying and gaslighting they were protecting themselves from all the fuss and reality of our situation. Your are provably the same. I was the emotional punch bag. I used to sometimes do stuff on porpose to make them angry (didn't take much, like dropping a fork). Because after they've yelled at me, called me useless or something, they at least didn't yell at one another or at my little sister. How were you not taken away if you had broken bones? I don't know if it's ol to ask, you don't have to answer if you don't want to - can you tell me an example of confusion you felt. My confusion was with social cues in general, my parents motivations of abuse were very clear, so i don't fully understand what you mean when you say you couldn't put it to words.
@@peachesandcream22 unfortunately my sneakers chancla did not work because hes a spoiled rich kid and he had good grades ah you know where is this going i have awful mathmethics his parents does defend him i got accused apparently if i could go back in time i would incite myself to combat my parents still support me also i can get extremely spiteful like creating false harm accusations or harrasment death threats etcs excluding sexual assault i dont want to ruin a person life
Nice meme but in reality most bullying victims are weak and cowardly, but even if they pull some courage out of their ass they will just get beaten like a dog and then the teachers will just treat it like a “fight”and not a case of bullying. the best case scenario is the bully comes to respect his victim and they become friends, fortunately for bullying victims this is more common than you would think. Especially with Pakistanis in the northern UK, in my experience.
They say “bullying is over and over, not one time” but also say “if you fight back, youre the bully now and will get in trouble for not telling a teacher” what was the definition of bullying again?
as a teenager, even teachers can't trust you, and sometimes even pick on you aswell. it's pretty much a battlefield. us teenagers need more respect tbh
My school, we just roast them back, we've been going back and forth with friendly banter for years now, and my friends and I have started a demon ritual where we hug teachers when they look stressed. (We're all girls, we only hug girls, the boy teachers hug each other, no students required)
@@MasterMultitaskerZed no they don't do like that 😂😂 you can watch the bullying scenes in korean dramas trust me it's not exaggerated it's real. The bullying you see in kdramas happen just like that in Korea.
With the type of bullying happens in Korea, that anti-bullying video is going to do nothing. 😂 I literally laughed hard at "Stop It". This is so funny.
you caved in. NEVER CAVE IN TO BULLIES. fight them. even if they tell your parents. and if your parents punish you for it, fuck them as well. they donot know or care how important it is to stand up for yourself.
"Whatever happened to standing up for yourself against bullying?" O. M. F. G. That's what I want to know! I was one of those kids who was always told to just ignore it, which didn't help, when I told an adult about it anything they did amounted to jackshit. The few times where I actually fought back, or tried to, I'd be the one who got in trouble while those little assholes got at worst a slap on the wrist. I fucking hated being a kid.
idk about america but it's common in asia for schools to ignore bullying or silence the victims to maintain their school's reputation. yk like those schools who promote themselves as bullying-free or have anti-bully campaigns, their headmasters just cover everything up no matter how badly kids are bullied. they are more concerned about victims speaking up than victims being bullied itself
ok at least my teachers do give a crap about bullying but lectures dont work for them as theres no repercussions for their actions karma also comes too slow i know its timed but instant karma is satisfying
I had a friend in primary school who was bullied. One day, he picked up a stone smashed against his bully's ear, which started to bleed. He was never bullied again by that child.
I got bullied in school from 7th to my 11th grade year. At one point one of them started messing with my hair(it started getting longer) and I got real tired of it, real fast. The bullying stopped when I broke 3 of his fingers. I Never got in trouble, as he didn't want people to know that someone half his size broke 3 of his fingers in 1 very swift movement, with my back back to him, since he was going to pull at his hair.
I'm from Brazil and here things work this way: our parents say to us tell our teachers if someone is bullying us but if the teacher doesn't do anything about it... we're free to break the bully in pieces.
I remember the times i get bullied. I just remain silent. Or asking to go away. Some people can't listen to sb else, so they must face the consequences... 1 broken nose later, everyone points at the bully as the starter, i explain everything, getting sent to psychologist or principal, then just: "I know he was an absolute jerk. Not the best way to solve it, so please don't do it again."
When I was in primary school, I was beaten up by someone who moved down from high school to primary. This led to my confidence dropping and when I was in high school I was bullied throghout school because of my confidence and how I didn't talk much because of it. I tried telling them to stop, telling the teachers, my parents and nothing happened. I wish I had fight back as I had done tie-quondo in primary and knew how to defend myself but, i didn't because school told us not to fight back. I now have friends and am not being bullied anymore. I still struggle with my confidence to this day but, it is slowly getting better.
was a girl who had to wear potato sacks, because clothing did not always fit into the budget of her poverty-stricken family. You think she wasn't humiliated and bullied by other kids ? can u even imagine this? her name is Oprah Winfrey
Moved down from high school to primary school. Was a bully. I'm seeing some connections going on there. Somehow I doubt they're very happy in life now, presuming you're both grown up.
not speaking to anyone at high school, yeah i was bullied all day today for that. cunning comebacks with my hidden crippling anxiety and deepression who made me not give a fuck, made me too op for them fake it till you make it ig, but i'm happy you have friends now
It reminds me of a case that happened recently at a university in my country, there was a boy who was harassed and beaten daily, in addition to being insulted with racist slurs, one day he defended himself and hit the bully and scream to him to stop harasing him, they expelled him after that. Apparently the bully was from a rich family, while the bullied boy managed to enter because a scholarship and had almost no money because his mother was undergoing cancer treatment, so that's why the school allowed the bullying, even though there were already recordings and complaints about what was happening. The case went viral, and the university received a lot of criticism, but I don't know what happened to the guy, or if the bully was finally expelled.
@@eldenemerald7962 So I investigated more and it wasn't in a university, but in a high school, it was at the Tecnológico de Monterrey high school , in Mexico City, apparently the bully was also expelled from school at the end. From what I saw on the news, his classmates let him know when he shouldn't go to school, because they were waiting for him to hit him, or make fun of him, besides they told the directors what was happening, but other than that there wasn't much more they could do.
The worst part of my bullying experience is that I was bigger than my peers for most of it and could have beaten them up once and saved myself years of torture and subsequently years of therapy but everyone including authority figures just had it out for me so it didn't stop until I changed schools
THANK YOU. Public school in America can be absolute hell. The entirety of the staff were worse than the kids in my experience. They encourage it and almost get off from the shit they cause and pretend not to see.
I was bullied as a kid for a while. At first I tried ignoring it, didn't work. Then one day I fought back, and then they never spoke or came close to me again. Stand up for yourself, people.
i was bullied in elementary but since at our school physical assault is basically the rape of today, it never got physical because even lying about getting physically assaulted could get the alleged assailant in trouble. so all there was left was verbal "assault", and you could easily dodge the bully by just roasting them and their family alive (in game) and there was nothing they could do about it since if the teacher caught them throwing fists they were a goner
The one year I went to the US as an exchange student I saw the wildest bullying related things I've seen, I remember seeing a friend get sprayed with crazy foam in her hair by another girl that was constantly bullying/annoying her, she obviously got angry and hit her and the other girl started to fight back, I started to laugh but eventually tried to separate them both (didn't hit anyone at all because A) wasn't my problem and B) A guy hitting a woman doesn't end well for any of the parties involved basically ever), then the teacher caught us and apparently the 3 of us were all guilty of the situation happening in the first place, at the end they just scolded us and let us be, I remember saying something along the lines of "let me get this straight, you think that this was partly my fault?" And the burst out laughing partly because it was surreal and comical for me and partly because that's what I do when I get nervous and then the teacher insinuating that I was lucky they were leaving it there since my physical contact could be "missinterpreted", like, dude was treatening a 14/15 year old at the time
In Canada back in the '90's my older brother saw a crazy 17 year old draw a knife on a scrawny 14 year old. My brother grabbed the 17 year old and slammed him into the lockers making him drop the knife. The 17 year old got a 3 week suspension, just before the Christmas holidays, and was allowed to come back immediately after the holidays because the holiday counted as part of his suspension. My brother got a 3 day suspension for fighting. My parents were pissed and there were several angry but pointless calls and meetings.
In my school it was weird. Since we were a bunch of sheltered kids the bullying wasn't as bad. I was bullied all through elementary school, I was called names, I was ridiculed, I was ostracised, I got my pencil case thrown in the trash once, had food thrown at me, and the occasional ball (usually a volleyball) thrown at my face or with excessive force. But I mean, I've heard instances of worse cases. Anyway, I tried telling them to stop, telling teachers, having them reported and suspended several times, trying to verbally fight back, trying to comply with what I figured would help me befriend them, and even getting physical. Nothing ever worked.
Really sad to know it friend, Try to distance from them as much as possible although it becomes impossible in schools, I understand. Try to socialize with many friends and become a part of club so you will have people to help. Hit Gym, get strong so you will be less targeted. Don't talk too much, observe peoples behaviour and talk to those who are friendly and try to have good friendship. Stay Connected to teachers, like talk to them, ask for help and show that you can stand for your self and you have good communication with teachers. I am very sure you aren't in school or the age to be bullied anymore, however this may help kids who had similar experience.
Try laughing at what they do to you. Make it seem like you want them to do it. If they get in a problem help them. Show them kindness no matter what. Showing kindness no matter what doesn't mean you don't stand up to them or tell adults. No promises this will work, but it's worth a shot.
1:49 Lmao I can’t… HAHAHAHA 😂 the way the friendly music just came back with the teacher says something so hypocritical while the dude who asked the question is speechless is funny ASF.
I'm only 29 years old and I still remember the way you handled a bully was either meeting after school and whipping some ass or fight them right then and there. That established that you were too much trouble to bully anymore, did you get suspended yes but did you have a easier time in school also yes.
It was different for me. Schools in my countries were and are still obsessed with "image". They wouldn't let anything bad leak out to avoid the decline in reputation. Fights, bullying, drugs dealing and all those stuff would be shut quiet by the headmaster. So that time i got bullied in 2nd grade, the school just paid my mom to ignore it and made up promises about expelling the bullies and shit. They didn't get expelled since it was their last year in primary school. Because of that, i didn't even bother to tell anyone the other time i was bullied, in the same school, grade 4, by my own "friends" and teacher. Wasn't good for my mental and physical health ofcourse, i was depressed and suicidal at the age of 10, and that went on for 2 years. Glad i got out of that, ended up being a bit more mature and had my mental illnesses treated. Man i'm never letting my kids undergo the same thing.
I have a daughter in kindergarten and she's the youngest and smallest kid in her class. Sometimes the teacher tells me she hit someone. I've tried asking my daughter about what happened and who started it, but she gives unreliable accounts... I'm still trying to figure out how to particularize my approach to it. Is she being bullied and she's standing up for herself? Or is she the one bullying other kids that are bigger than her? In preschool she was bullied a little and I advised her to stand up for herself. Maybe she's following my past advise but hasn't yet developed the sense to determine who's being reasonable. So, now I've been discouraging the hitting and teaching her to walk away from agitating situations, i.e. anger management. But it could be the wrong advise if she's the one having difficulties. Nothing about parenting is straightforward.
I love how accurate the American one is 😂😂😂
To stop bullying in America depends on the neighborhood and city:
In Chicago Illinois.... to stop bullying it's done with a gun and someone ending up in the morgue.
Inside the school at MIT... to stop bullying it's done by technically sabotaging the individual such as their car no longer works.
Inside some preppy high school... it's done with social media pressure of other students and maybe the school.
EXACTLY
Exactly
Ikr, a few years ago we had some presenter come in and give this huge 2 hour assembly about bullying and how to stop it. Here is a summary of what was said:
“They’re just words, ignore them”
“Slurs are just words that we choose to be offended by”
“Be kind to the bully”
Exactly, my dad always complains that schools and laws are like this!
“The little snitch tells the teacher”😭😭😭
lol. The worst part is that in America, it would be bad for someone to be a snitch. But in Korea, they use it to their advantage to stop bullying.
@@arrypotter9472 Being a snitch in the US is only considered “bad” by the people actually being snitched on. They’re just mad they got in trouble for being assholes.
@@JosepiThe13th THIS^^^
Snitches get b%$ches, is what the policeman said.
@@sworddomo1951 LOL yAaass xD
Are we not gonna talk about-
“1:55 There’s verbal, EEEehEee and then, the worst of all, cyber bullying EaEeeEEH”
I died when I heard that (this is my ghost typing)
bruh at first thought your comment was related to verbalase 50k
IM DEAD LOL
“But even you cyber-bully all the time” 2:03
I thought for verbal he said “iccckkyyyyyyeeeee”
''STOP''
''Then the little snitch tells the teacher'' 💀💀
If anyone here is bullied: don't ignore it, or it will never stop. I ignored it for 4 years. It only got better when I humiliated them verbally (and no adult ever helped, of course)
frl same :/
For those adults who didn't help:
Scumb4gs! 🤬
For you: I'm glad it got better and I hope you feel better now as well 😊
Sometimes being a Saint will only make bad guys think it’s ok and hurt even more people. You’re absolutely right and everyone should be taught to just stand up for yourself. Ok one bully gets hit in the face and their parents upset, but it teaches important lesson for both the bully and also the other kids around.
@@SuperLol I agree. If no one will defend the kids who get bullied, they need to feel allowed to do it themselves (not with a mass shooting or anything like that, though, murder is not standing up for oneself)
Same thing, I had to scream like a mad person and insult them to death then they started to avoid me lmao
My younger brother got bullied at one point. He complained to me about it, so I told the bully that if he were to ever even look at my brother the wrong way again, the said bully would need to go to school on all fours. Needless to say, all of my brother’s bullying problems were resolved henceforth. To take down a bully, you need a stronger bully. Force is the only language those people understand. Period.
Is that all you told the bully? To walk on all fours? I'm asking incase if in the future my friends or me get bullied
When my daughter was being bullied in junior high school, the faculty wouldn't listen to my complaints because the kid who was bullying "is such a nice boy."
My son is older than daughter, and was in high school at the time. He and his friend waylaid the bulky one day, and told the bully, quietly and clearly, exactly what they were going to do to him if he didn't stop bullying.
Instant cessation of bullying.
@@jeepstergal4043 aww what a good brother!
Some are so dense that not even violence will work, because they usually already have a stronger bully at home and are just venting. You adding pressure to that will just change the direction, but not the necessary vent. You just added fuel.
@@jeepstergal4043 There is a pretty good chance that he just switch targets. Bullies don't like resistance, sure, but bullies won't stop being bullies just because.
Haha I'm a Korean student and the 'Stop it' thing got me🤣🤣🤣 It's a meme now in Korea
I remember the anti-bullying at my school in the Netherlands. Keep in mind, there was no bullying before this right. The kids were too young, they still needed to learn how to do that. "Wait, how are we going to teach kids that bullying is bad?" "Make a story out of it, and make sure to add as many different forms of bullying as possible. We want kids to know that all of this is bad."
So yeah, the anti-bullying at my school actually introduced and taught kids how to bully, not how to stand up to it. Great job!
PS.: The teachers also like to bully kids for being irregular, and would ignore anyone who needed help. Unless you were a (regular) girl, then you got help and favours whether you needed it or not. You could also be treated better if you were blond with blue (or sometimes green) eyes and were loud, nagging and rich. If you were quiet, polite, and had a regular income you had no privilege and were forgotten about. Though if you were blond, with blue eyes but you were Polish you got nothing as well.
That school was sh*t, others were way better.
The DARE the program in a nutshell. Lmfao. Taught us how to identify and use drugs.
My son experienced bullying when I switched him from public school to a private, "church" school in 1st grade. I hadn't realized or remembered how mean kids could be at such a tender age.. when he told me that he would get in trouble if he 'fights' back, I told him, "Never hit some one, but if someone hits you, you hit them back as hard as you can and I'll be the on who deals with the school." Also, I have always told my kids, "Evil is allowed to persist if others just stand there and do nothing! You won't be in trouble with me for helping to defend other kids getting bullied, in fact I will reward you!" Great video!
Thank you for doing parenting correctly.
You know it, I admire your parenting
Awesome parenting! Keep up the great work!
I'm glad to see this comment
@Jamolly I love this so much!! I have preached the same thing to my kids from the time they were little now into their teen and college years. I mean almost verbatim what you said, right down to the “I’ll be the one who deals with the school” and “evil is allowed to persist if people stand by and do nothing”. Kudos to you! Whereas my kids were bullied from time to time when they were little, now they are looked at as leaders among their peers with strong boundaries and nobody dares to mess with them, and other kids know they can come to them with problems. I am so proud of them for standing up for other kids, and for having the self-respect and presence of character to deter themselves from being targeted by others.
If you get bullied at school, serve your bully a nice hot bowl of Buldak 2x spicy instant noodles as a peace offering, then watch them disintegrate
Omg yes
Add some extra ghost pepper for good measure.
Why not 3x?
@@cariolaroelena6614 omg no 10000x so they explode everything
EXACTLY
This is too true, people that are bullied people are punished even for standing up for theirselves
Soon, or maybe it's already a thing, they're being set up to be punished without cause 💀
As a student who successfully combated verbal, psychological and cyber bullying from half of the class over the span of 2 years until it got physical. Right after a physical assault i pressed charges (and almost ruined the bullying leaders' future career, he planned to work for the government and him getting on the watchlist would put a cross on these plans)
@remixgamey1172 why almsot? You pressed charges right? It seems like no one ever wants you to punish v these bullies
@@FBI.Open.Up. well you see, how do I say this... Russia has a lot of features, one of which is almost all rules are way less strict if you have personal connections to the person enforcing the rules. Also, influential people usually get away with stuff easily. Despite the aforementioned, it was quite close, and it was firmly promised that the next instance will be punished. However, I never learned if that would actually happen if the case repeated or not.
What the hell is "cyber bullying"? I mean the kid can just log off and read a book, right?
My son had a bully who pushed him down a flight of stairs at school! The teacher did nothing! My son told me and I talked to the principal who knew and was not going to report it to me until I confronted the school. They all knew it because the girls in class reported it to the teacher. Just be aware these schools will cover for the bully and themselves.
And did they do something after you intervened?
Ikr what did they do after u talked to them?
@@marineb9666 I went to the school and the principal knew already and we had a meeting! I contacted the school district and I then filed a police report on the kid. The police went to the school! The parents were contacted then! My son was 9 yrs. old and his back was hurt from being pushed from behind down 16 stairs. My son was being hit in the classroom also and the teacher did not notified me. There is a rage when you child is being hurt and my son is very kind, smart and shy. These bullies love to attack quiet kids! I was not going to let it go and my spouse knew I was on the attack.
@@snakeau7175 The parents were shocked about the police and that their son did that and he never touched my son again!
@@Theo1000ification I have two words for you and your kids, Krav Maga. It's not karate but takes all the best of every self defense practice and uses it to help protect in real life situations involving many different attack scenarios & helps one to disarm any/all threat. It has helped our family, I highly recommend it for the whole family self-defense program.
“How to stop bullying”
America: “guns. shoot them.”
Korea: “collectively we will expose and embarrass the bully”
😭💀 broooo
Yup
😭😭😭😭
The American one, sounds like the best choice to get rid of the bully.
I mean isn’t exposing the bully what we want to do though? Sure it almost never works successfully but how else is proper justice gonna be served if the bully is never exposed? Sorry if that sounds cheesy lol but I hope I got my idea across
Expose and humiliate the bully...unless the class is on their side.
I dealt with a lot of sexism in elementary school for being a tomboy. I was bullied by my classmates and during lunch I would go out and play soccer in the field every day. The rest of the people out there playing were guys, I was the only girl, and a lot of boys bullied me for it. They would insult me, bump into me, try to twist the rules and say I did a foul when I didn't. The only people who stood up for me were some of the guys on my team who just wanted to win, then the next day I wasn't on their team and they would bully me too. I think part of it was I was really good and that made their fragile little manhoods feel in danger. I even got beat up sometimes. When I told the adults, these were their very words, "Then don't play" "Go on the swings with the other girls" So they weren't the ones that needed to change, I did. I can't be a girl and enjoy physical activity apparently. Soccer was my passion, but they wanted me to give it up. Not only that, but I was also talked to by adults in the past that I wasn't ladylike enough(which was frustrating as hell because I was a very well behaved kid but they treated me like a savage anyway. A girl who doesn't care about getting her clothes dirty? WHAAAT?! SHE MUST BE THE SPAWN OF SATAN!), or I only liked sports because I was being rebellious, but they didn't seem to understand that I just genuinely love physical activity. One time a boy tried to beat me up after school and I just ran away and he couldn't catch up to me. That happened a couple more times then one time he grabbed onto my backpack, I didn't have much of a choice so I fought him and won. Apparently, that REALLY hurt his fragile manhood because he came with a group of people, some of them holding ROCKS, and beat me up with that. It was really painful, and I got out my insulated metal water bottle and whacked a couple of them with that, I broke 2 peoples noses and gave one of them a concussion, and they ran away after a couple swings. They told some adults, I told my parents and some adults, and the school wanted to suspend ME for hurting them. Nevermind that THEY were the ones who started it, and they've been bullying me for a long time, and they gave me a lot of bruises and SPLIT MY CHIN OPEN. No, you can't fight back against someone beating you up and breaking noses isn't "ladylike". My parents were furious and sued the school, thank God they won and I didn't get suspended. I was still bullied after that, but it wasn't quite as bad, people didn't mess with me as much because they knew I fought back and my parents would support me. I only had 2 people try to hit me after that and I got detention for fighting back, but at least the other kids did too.
I love how brave you are , proud of you
@@Artist_lakshitasharma thank you 😊
I love how you were lectured that fighting back and breaking noses isn’t “ladylike”, but by their own sexist logic, these adults should be telling these boys that fighting a girl isn’t very gentleman like(though it’s not about gender and just basic decency to not beat someone up regardless of gender).
The people in your school sound like those sanctimonious moral high ground numbfucks, who favor something absolutely worthless as being moral(like gender roles), over actual issues. I hate those smug stuck up people. They r the worst type of evil imo.
Shame on the school tbh. Apparently, trying to defend yourself is considered bullying and harassment to others. The school system really sucks, and thats a fact. Hope you recover from all that. :)
@Bibi Pc Thank you, I have pretty much moved past that, although due to those experiences, I think I feel like I have to try harder because I'm a woman and prove them wrong. The way schools are handling situations like this is so stupid. Like why do they reprimand the victim for punching their attacker, when it was the attacker who also punched the victim AND started it. The victim usually gets in more trouble than the bully!!! If you want to promote bullying people, I can't think of a better way to do it. Don't they think they should punish bullies so they learn not to be dicks when they grow up? And why do they punish someone for standing up for themselves going, "violence isn't the answer" but what do they expect them to do, LET them be beat up and potentially seriously injured? Won't that also teach them to be walked all over when they grow up?
This makes me somewhat thankful that I went to private girl school and the teachers there were terrifying, so the bullying was mostly verbal. It never became physical for me thanks to our fire breathing dragons of teachers.
The American one was soooo accurate. 😭 It used to make my blood boil when my fourth grade teacher would hold assemblies about how bullying is bad, but she was the biggest bully to the poorer kids in class, and would deliberately go out of her way to humiliate them.
Glad I'm not the only one with bad experiences with 4th grade teachers
Dude this is so real. Poorly trained teachers and faculty with narrow minds and probably coming from a spoiled, pampered, privileged background are the real bullies. I've seen so many teachers excessively blame the child and fail to realize that they're probably just falling behind in class because of problems at home.
@@redgent7058 while in my experience, the teachers who WERE a bully or so called bad kid, becomes the ones who know how to handle the students and are most respected, most of the time.
Forgot the seventh American option: *loads AK*
In our place, teachers are so underpaid, one teacher with the school for 4 years (and a really good one) - left and started working at a McDonald's just to prove the point of ridiculous salaries.Parwnts found out and were livid - he was called back. Pay structure was (slightly) revised.
Teachers are extremely underpaid in many Private schools.
My son experienced bullying for years and the school did nothing to stop it. Their “anti-bullying policies” said the exact same things listed in this video. They were told to never fight back. I told my son to ignore their stupid advice and the next time he gets hit to hit the bully back twice as hard. I told him that he would probably get in trouble but it’ll be worth it because the bullying will stop. He took my advice and he hit the bully back and he did get detention but the bullying stopped. Bullies only pick on kids who don’t stand up for themselves.
if the kid never learns to fight back, he is steamrolled by the entire world for the rest of his life, im jealous man.
Sad how I had to learn this the hard way
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True I remember in first grade when I was this shy and not as talkative kid, this rude kid would throw stuff at me daily and spat on my neck from at least 5 feet (evan now at 21 it gives me the creeps) it wasn't until I threw food and later explained why I did it he actually stopped
But people who get bullied are usually weaker than the bully and can't fight back
I was bullied really bad in 1st grade, but luckily he moved away. Then as soon as I entered middle school, I was socially bullied till the day I graduated. To anyone out there who may have similar experiences, please know that you are more special than you can imagine.
You are special ❤
See, I was really lucky. I went to a high school where bullying just wasn't really a thing. Everybody either minded their own business or there were friends across all sorts of weird groups, like popular rich jocks hanging out with the nerdy weebs who would Naruto run in the halls. We even had an "anti-bullying" assembly and when the speaker asked the students "what do you do when you see someone bullying someone?" everyone just kind of went, "Uhhhhh...... That doesn't happen here?"
That said, I've heard absolute horror stories from other friends and family members at different schools and it is incredibly sad how some kids can just get away with that crap. As an awkward dorky kid myself, I am pretty sure if I had gone to any other school, I probably would have been bullied relentlessly.
I have several stories of bullying and how I solved them, but one time in about 7th grade I began to get bullied by this group of 6 boys two years lower than me (despite them being younger, I was still a really tiny girl so I couldn’t fight back). I mean it was baaad they kept throwing things at me, pushing and hitting me, and calling me names for no damn reason and it was constant. I told a teacher and she said “what do you want me to do about it?” So one day during recess I decided to ask for help…. By walking to the “popular kids” bleacher and going straight to the most popular boy in my entire school. I told him I was being bullied and he brought out a yearbook and made me point out every boy who was bullying me. To this day, I have no idea what he and his friends did, but I was never ever bothered by that group of boys again. 😂 It was a risk though, he coulda joined the bullying, but he turned out to be such a good person. Thanks, Josh!
Wow, Josh is a real one! Thanks Josh :)
W josh
*mafia music plays*
Seriously, cheers to that kid for helping out.
This was actually a pretty smart and safe plan. Unlike what American movies and television show, the bullies are usually on the edge of the popular group (if connected at all) and not the top
Woww Josh is an icon but so are you for being brave enough to take that risk! Have you kept in touch with him at all?
"write a letter to the bully"
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Death threats always work 😩👌
I know where you live, and i know your favorite meal to eat at 12 PM
I feel writing a letter will lead to jail time. we express verbally in writing so I can see a threat being included which can be turned over to authorities. but that’s what the system wants anyway
Ted Kaczynski approved method.
In middle school we had to watch a video about stopping bullying. In the acted out skit the solution was going up to the bully and firmly saying "Hey! This school has rules!" The bullies would then (according to the video) run away terrified.
This definitely stopped bullying. It definitely did NOT result in an entire school of preteens randomly shouting "Hey! This school has rules!" in the hallways and everyone in the vicinity erupting into hysterical fits of laughter. And it certainly didn't result in is STILL making fun of it 20 odd years later.
Because there is only 1 way to handle a bully. Hurt them just slightly more then they've hurt you. Then they respect you and kiss your behind like the lowly mongrels they are, and you can discard them. You have to do it with enough precision so you don't receive repercussions though.
😂 my school was even worse! They made us go up to the bully, stick out our hand like a stop sign✋🏾 and then shake our other finger☝🏾 whilst saying " *stop! I don't like it* "
Im honestly glad I didn't follow their useless advice, it probably would've made the bullying worse or prolong it 🤦🏾♀️
“then the little snitch tells the teacher😒”💀💀
I was at high school in the UK in the 90s. Fortunately at my school we had our own highly effective method for stopping bullying. It was known as 'punch the git directly in the face'.
Not only did this stop the bullying right away, but a nearby PE teacher witnessed the exchange, walked over and patted me on the back for standing up for myself.
He did offer some advice though "next time wait til you're outside of school, because some other teachers have modern ideas and you might get in trouble".
Those were the days.
Haha yeah same here, we used just to fight, but if you have the wits to publicly embarrass that works even better and you don’t have to get your hands dirty
"Modern ideas"
Oh boy, he knew what that meant.
Yep. Im indonesian, i was bullied, and im agreed to this because i did the same thing. Instead use my fist, i use a ruler. Its the only thing that can work to stop bullying.
my cousin was builled because he was fat. one day they went straight to his house to beat him
after knowing that i got some of my friends ambushed every mfking bullies one by one
4 of them got sent to hospital
and after getting discharged i still went hunting after them
after a while police got involved thankfully there were no cctv which could have been bad.
well I'm just gald in the moment of rage i didn't killed any one.
So only strong people get to not be bullied? Nice. Hey, us disabled people deserve UT cuz we can't " stand up for ourselves", right? Oh, or aren't pretty enough to get a strong boy to help. Fuck off.
My little brother had been constantly bullied in his middle school (the school is known for not caring, take note for later) and It had gotten to the point that it wasn't bullying anymore, it was straight up ASSAULT. So we called the school and after 3 different occasions of assault and reporting, the kid finally got on trouble... he got a fucking PHONE CALL home. Didn't happen for a month after that, but when it did, my brother was recording it because he was out of the schools camera view. After showing the school proof, my brother got SUSPENDED for recording on school property and the other kid just got in school detention. We pulled my brother out of school and made him homebound. He returned in 7th grade, 2nd week of school and he was held down by 4 kids and beaten up by a 5th. Nobody apparently saw even though it was during class exchange. A few days later, I opted to walk my brother down the school path and i waited and then I saw my brother walking down. He was playing on his phone and I saw this group of 4 kids rush up behind him and I swear I've never ran faster in my LIFE, 1 kid ripped off his mask and shoved him to the ground, 2 kids started to beat on him and the 4th was recording it and laughing. I got up there and I grabbed the 1st kid by the bag and threw him into the ditch, then I pushed the 3rd and 4th kid to the ground and started to beat the shit out of them while the 1st and 4th kid ran away and I screamed "Don't you ever fuck with my brother again you little bitchass pussies" at the top of my lungs and I helped my brother back up while the other kids started to run away. I comforted him and called my parents and explained they needed to come and pick us up since my brother vomited while being kicked and he could have gotten an injury inside that we couldn't see. He had bruising up and down his back, stomach, and arms and I picked him up on my back and walked up into the school to get the nurse. I remember it all so brightly and the rage I still feel when I think about it makes my blood boil. He's back on homebound now and going back next year and I hope nobody fucks with him ever again. Being in wrestling for 4 years paid off in muscles. The American school system is so horrible. For an update, since the school decided to so nothing about it even though they have the kids identified, we are suing the school and we have an amazing lawyer and we have so much evidence that they barely stand a chance. Wish us luck.
Edit: Nothing has been done (not huge) but our lawyer has been collecting info and working his way around the law. The courts are backed up, the earliest time we'll get in is around July, which sucks.
Hope it goes well, best of luck
Good luck, a school running on a system that rotten needs to go down
Ooh, we need an update
Good luck, hope you win the case
You are a hero. I hope the case goes well. Please update us!
I got outed + bullied for 3 years straight in secondary school. But when an admin heard about it, I was the one who got into trouble because the girl who was gunning for me the hardest apparently had “parental issues and trauma.” Tldr, this girl was an _absolute psycho._
But the funny thing is, she and I actually had very similar origin stories! I made that very clear to the teacher as she gave that excuse, and the school’s final decision was “…yeah, well, she told us first so you’ll just have to deal with it” 🙃
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broi this si soooooooooooooooooooo tru even in america basically trama=get away with anything
I was a child of teachers, and I now teach at university and I can promise you that teachers bully each other and talk behind the students' backs, and often show staggering lack of awareness of economic and social factors that put students at a disadvantage. *In a psychology department* Thank you for speaking up against it. Also, thank you for speaking up about politics-based bullying online. Regardless of which "side" people are on, stooping to that level is just hypocritical.
Bullying a bully is hypocritical? So I guess fighting back makes you a bully too
Yeah this is accurate, I hate how american schools just tell kids to ignore it like its that simple. I love your videos. Thank you for all of the laughs.
It's this individualistic passive mindset that makes people with issues get worse. Instead, they should talk to those who are evil because if there's no feedback there's no knowing
To be fair it's most schools in the world not just American ones, heck in SEA but specially Philippines, most of the time parents doesn't even care if their child gets bullied and school staff has zero intervention due to schools being over crowded. Also I'm pretty sure that the "Stop" in Korea didn't work so well since bullying is still very common.
Or tell a teacher as if THAT will help
@@HawkinaBox Damm right. Never helped me except once.
It’s applying adult logic to kids that doesn’t really work. It’s called the grey rock method to act boring and uninteresting to a abusive person or manipulative behavior. Abusers get bored when they can’t get a rise out of you. This only works with abusers that want a reaction from you though and you don’t withdraw socially from everyone so it doesn’t work with kids that dogpile one person and bully because they like feeling bigger
Ok so I am from a third world country and I am genuinely shocked to see that bullying is so common in other first world countries, like I went through all my high school and never encountered 1 bully nor any bullying incident. like if he called me fat then I am legally allowed to curse out his entire 14 generations that's just given and no one will question it . If you don't want your 14 generations to get cursed out don't start shit in the first place
Well it’s more or less a problem in every country as long as we all have feelings
Lol the 14 generations caught me off guard, same tho I'm from philippines 3rd world country and studied in saudi but never experienced bullying
@@Yukis.aviation Hmm when u get offended by verbal insults, is that getting bullied? I mean yeah it hurts but I don't think it's possible to get a pass in life from physical or emotional pain, I guess the level of bullying to different people depends on their persepective of "bully," I mean even within families, members hurt each other, just depends on how someone handles it ig lol, their emotional/mental stability etc etc
Same in Caribbean, you curse them out the teachers don't give a fuck you could fight them to, teachers only care if someone gets seriously hurt
oh there are bullies in 3rd world countries u just never experienced it.
There was this one kid in my class that I HATED! No one in the class liked him and the teachers hated him. He was always annoying others, he was very distracting in class, he got in pointless arguments and generally there was nothing good about him.
An important thing to know, is he was a coward. A bit like a chihuahua always barking, but as soon there was any danger, they run away.
At one point we arm wrestled and I won. Then he said “let’s try again”, I won. The third time I also won.
A couple of days after that (I don’t remember why) we got into an argument. I was having a bad day and the teachers were gone.
He said something VERY personal and I just snapped.
I got up and (the tempo between running and walking) went towards him.
I began shouting and grabbed him.
I shakes him and let out a lot of steam (how I really felt about him).
He was scared and I pushed him hard away.
After that he didn’t bother me.
My dad also had problems with bullying, so he slammed a heavy door in the bully’s face.
Remember to do it when the teachers are away.
I was told on the previous schools to “JusT IGnoRe IT” and “SaY stOP” and “TeLL a TeaChER” and “tell THe BuLLy’s ParENts”
The parents just said the previous bully was “misunderstood” and “wanted to be friends”
I don’t see how calling me an ugly idiot and pushing me in the hallway is a sign of friendship (he only did it when the teachers weren’t there)
Words don’t help.
I’m normally not for violence, but it’s the only sure way to stop them. They need to know that there are consequences if they bully you.
Kids defend your self
stand your ground
don’t let nobody hurt you physically!!! be brave when you show someone you brave they will leave you alone
I dealt with bullying by laughing with them. Turns out, it isn't so fun to bully someone when they creep you out... People generally steered clear of me after that. 😂
Genius 👏
Same did that too. I eventually ended up telling them when I left the skl and they were so annoyed the cried😂😂
I should try this! It's come to mind but I've never put it in action before.
Omg yeah, i just joke with them and do weird stuff
Not, weird stuff like doing a backflip on the window
As in, react in a way nobody would expect you do it
Actually, because i always do that, i get sympathy points from others, and the bullying just.....arent intrrested, yes they tease, doing weird stuff to....i guess make fun OF me...but thats about it
And then they treat me like im an autistic person who happens to also be someone who doesnt touch grass
But, never as bad as the bullying part
So.....yay?
This is some joker level shit
That "teachers gossip about students and other teachers" is so accurate. I had a toxic friend who stole my homework and got me punished. After she was exposed for theft, the teacher in charge immediately gossip about her with other teachers during recess. Not much longer a lot of teacher knew about it and taunted her when they came to our class. She who joined the bully and backstabbed me was given an UNO card. Note to everyone who is being bullied, just spread rumors about your bully to teachers and they will take care for the rest.
But this was a good thing right!
Yikes! Sounds like you went to a terrible school full of unprofessional teachers.
@@NicciGemz I think so because they would rather punish the whole class for a period because someone misbehaved
@@oneonelee1826 that's the exact opposite of what you first described and is normal. It's to teach group accountability. If one person does a thing and doesn't fess up to it, and someone else sees them and doesn't tell either, then the whole group is punished.
That feels unfair (and is to the people who weren't involved by deed or as a witness), but it's a good model for being an adult citizen later on.
@@NicciGemz Wrong, teachers these days have little to no power!
As sad as this situation is about bullying, I could not stop laughing. Thanks for making me laugh!
As a victim of bullying, which happened about 20 years ago before smartphones existed, I hid it from my parents. I feared they would feel embarrassed about me being bullied, especially as my grades suffered during that period. I remember my teacher knew I was being bullied; sometimes she even humiliated me in front of other students for fun, making her a part of the problem. When the bullying escalated to near harassment by a classmate, I confronted the teacher. I told her that if she didn't intervene and stop the bullying, I would take serious action. It was only then that she began to make an effort to protect me, likely out of fear that I might report her to the Ministry of Education or higher authorities. I was left feeling desperate and alone. I feel sad after watching this video and realizing how little had changed since my teenagehood.😢
Worked in a public high school for 17 years . The worst “bullies” were the people consistently in charge of the bullying prevention programs.
Bully: Stop bullying you fat sack of useless shit, oh my god how hard is it to understand?!
They're the scummiest dipshits.
I remember in Japan there’s one old method of forcing bullies to confront their victims, the teacher literally would put them center stage and tell them to read out a handwritten apology to the student they were bullying. It doesn’t only restore some honor to the bullying victim to see their bully be put in such a position, but it also creates accountability of the bully promising to not bully again.
I remember watching a silent voice and that was used
@@hadbetterdays8118 it does not work
Krav Maga is the answer then
@kneecaps blaster can confirm Krav Maga ended my bullying problems quick after my bullies ended up needing to see the nurse for a broken nose, black eyes, and lots of bleeding.
@@vehicleunhandler you wouldn't be talking about one Na Hwajin now would you 😏
Too bad it’s not effective. Humiliated bullies often lash out worse.
I love your hand motions describing each type of bullying lol.
HELP THE HAND EMOTIONS AND SOUNDS💀😭
I got two weeks suspension when I was in school because my bully started hitting me in the face and I hit her back. What was her punishment you might ask. Two days detention. Apparently, the fact that I defended myself was way worse then her starting a fight. My dad asked the principal what I should have done instead. She told him I should have gotten on the ground, curled up in the fetal position, covered my head with my hands and waited for an adult to come break up the fight. Which sounds like a great way to get brain damage. So my parents used it as an opportunity to take a vacation and took me to Disneyland. My dad told me I had done nothing wrong and that it's okay to defend yourself. However, he told me if I ever started a fight, instigated a fight, or tried to bait some into hitting me first my punishment would be as severe as my principal is stupid.
That’s so sweet of your parents and the school’s advice stinks
@Yusinu my parents were really good at not punishing us for things we shouldn't be punished for. I think it helps my dad is a little older. When we were 19 we threw a party while they were out of town. We put away anything that could break, covered all the tables with tablecloths and blocked off the upstairs and would let anyone go up there, it's where the bedrooms were. I remember my mom wanted to punish us for having the party but my dad asked us if anyone was drinking, we said yes. He asked if anyone drove drunk and we told him if they didn't have a sober driver we let them sleep over down stairs. So in the end we didn't get in trouble because the house was clean, nothing was damaged, and while we did bend a rule we did so responsibly and made sure people were safe. It kind of taught us both some big lessons.
@@wifeofsauron1658 woah that’s some really good parenting! I’ll take screenshots so I can remind it when I have kids
Man what kind of a crazy school did you go to like that is so freaking stupid nobody respects a pushover
@had better days yeah, it's cause I'm in that geriatric millennial age group. Which was when the government started interfering with schools. So they created the zero-tolerance policy around violence and in their genius decided to make the person defending themselves more guilty than the person who started the fight.
I'm a former teacher. I was constantly infuriated by the pushback from admin whenever I tried to get bullying to stop. I would actually be reprimanded for using the word 'bullying' in any official emails because it 'created a paper trail'. The sad truth is that teachers often have less means at their disposal to stop the bullying than the kids do. At least if a student of mine beat the shit out of a bully, I could do my best to keep them from getting punished too hard. Since admin was afraid to discipline anyone.
Same thing just happened to me. Filed a report with the word "bullying" in it. Admin asked me to remove it, said I should "empathize" with the bully. Victim had to take 2 weeks off of school for mental health reasons as the school refused to properly reprimand the bully... senseless.
why exactly is this? what is the reason(s) why admin refuses to intervene?
@@superatomic9761 schools are businesses and anyone who isn't a stockholder doesn't matter. if there's potential for a lawsuit in the future, then destroy evidence before it can be created.
@@superatomic9761 It depends. In my school, admin was constantly being pressured by the district for 'better numbers', which meant less discipline problems. The easiest way to achieve that was to keep teachers from filing or reporting discipline problems. Lowered the official numbers, but obviously created a garbage environment to work in, let alone try to learn as a child. Damn near everything had to be handled in class, by me, either by working with the parents directly or a very hands on and direct approach with the students. Not saying I did the best job with it at all, but I tried to be honest with them about my limitations and mistakes.
Once one of my (10 year old) students reported to me that she was petitioned to 'come inside and see his bike' by a strange guy while she and her sister were walking to school. Being a sassy little thing that no one (including me) could tell anything, she told him to f- off and ran with her sister away from him. But she was shook up enough about it to tell me, so I emailed the admin about it. Got chewed the fuck out because it 'created a paper trail' and now the admin had to do something about the issue. Not that I gave a shit, but that's what I was working with, push back on reporting what was obviously an attempt at kidnapping or molestation. Pretty sure the only thing my students actually learned in my class was how frustrated I was with the system.
Whatever "punishement" a school can carry is ... meaningless really. Beat the bully, get "suspended" which is just free vacation, and when you come back, no one messes with you ever again. Because you now have a reputation, if you mess with that guy, he will mess you up. He's not afraid of anyone.
If you can't beat the bully, get stronger until you can.
I was always the shortest guy in my age group, so the prime target for bullies. I already had a reputation in my old school. When i changed schools, they didn't know about me, on the first day someone tried to trip me in class, not only did he fail but I tripped him right back that same day, and waited for him outside after class to settle him. Just the fact that I was ready for confrontation made him back off and apologize and become friendly to me since then.
You gotta stand up for yourself. Respect is earned.
I hate bullying more than anything in this world. I myself was a victim of bullying in my entire elementary school.
Kids can be cruel sometimes..
As a child in america who has been bullied, this is scarily accurate. I was almost suspended for telling a kid to shut up when he was saying alot of rude shit. Luckily, I switched schools half way through the school year and I didnt have to deal with it again.
lmfao if u have a violent older brother just ask him to teach you skme moves and then just beat down the bully. Show NO REmORSE as hesitation will break your mentality and therefore your strength
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Wait, you didn’t tell the school what he was doing?..
as an american i can comfirm
Back in my day in Korea, you were to do 3 things to deal with bullies: 1) You beefed up for a month and learned judo moves the kids wouldn't know hot to counter just in case you actually gotta fight them fair. 2) Write a note or email to your home room teacher that you were getting bullied a day prior to "the day." 3) On "the day," you fill up a sock with 500 Ws and swing it in the face of the leader of the group while he's unsuspecting when the teacher leaves during the 10 minute break. Keep pounding the kid's face until the noise attracts one of the teachers.
Yeah, you might get suspended. But fuck the consequences. Better that than live with constant depression and anxiety that carries over to your adult life. Teachers didn't do shit back then. You had to stand up for yourself and fight back to survive.
I didn’t beef up, but I did snap.. and after beating up my bully they stopped bullying me and others.. I think there needs to be a ring in the playground where peolle can fight it out.
we cant fight back anymore :(
Im not in Korea but like ong bro teachers always be like you don't deal with it yourself we will deal with it. Quit the cap man if someone's messing with you and they try to hurt you. You got to beat the shit out of them spare them no mercy so they and anyone else who wants to mess with you wont want to anymore. Make a example out of your ops.
It's sad. How long has been the school bullying a thing(that severe) in SK? Why it's normalized?
They don't do shit now either
2:09 genius
So funny i legitimately had to wipe my eyes. Love the teacher on social media. The personality change and the funny kid who exposed them…
lmao fr, high school was toxic af and once my teacher let us students tell our problems in class and told us that it stays in the class. when i went to the faculty room to pass an assignment, i heard her spitting out all our family problems and personality issues to other teachers. some would be judging too tf
Shit that's messed up, sorry u had to experience that, I'm guessing u got trust issues after that, I would lol
@@MasterMultitaskerZed fr, teachers even bully you. One time my teacher took sides with my bullies and called me names like a fucking child during a lecture on 5th grade (I did nothing and just answered a question wrong). I for sure would not want to be like that monster.
@@ecrin7065 these type of teachers are the worst .....
@@ecrin7065 Are u sure? In what country?
@@lisafiore7081 from the PH bro, it was also a private school. my experiences there destroyed my ability socialize
This hit home wayyyyy too much for me.
I was one of those kids who ate that kinda crap at school, now, in high school I finally understand the issues surrounding it. It hurts.
solve it asap man. you need to fight the bully once, physically or verbally, so that you never have to fight again. i never could.
be snarky and show them they might push you around, but you're not moving
In 7th I had this rude bus bullies who made the way to home and school awful like they would make sexual harrassment things at me and it was horrible one thing led to another I ended up hitting them and the kind bus driver actually reported what they did to me by them doing it constantly. I would say that's the end of the story but no, unfortunately the school saw the footage and I got in trouble and the 3 out of 4 f the boys walked away clean and I'm here so angry that the school administration is just stupid. But at least the bus driver was the hero for actually moving me where I felt comfortable so not all adults were bad
“Bad guy, please stop hurting me”
“... I’m a bad guy. I am not going to stop”
Thank God bullying is not actually a thing in my country but i have watched a lot of Hollywood and K dramas and most times i get angry as to how people cant just stand up for themselves cus in Nigeria u can only bully someone at ur own risk cus everyone here does not take shit from nobody
And growing up i have never heard of or experienced bullying and i have recently started to know that bullying is actually a big issue outside my country
I sympathize with anyone that was or is a victim of bullying
In germany there is no way the bullys will stop if i tell them to stop 😭
You need to kick their butt
KNUCKLE It out yea give the RASCALS a good whallop!
@@badasstrapbass2313 not as easy as you think , just visit Germany
Ist halt so 😭
If you say stop they just continue
REVENGE IS THE ANSWER
the "stop it" he said in that tone was too much for my diaphragm 💀
Diaphragm...damn how did you even think about your diaphragm? I almost forgot that such thing exists in our body...
I think as long as nobody gets hurt, do whatever it takes… but once someone gets hurt it’s not okay, never physically fight back.
As an American, I cried because of how true it is
I’m a first generation immigrant. My Dad taught us to never start a fight, but if it was brought to us, we should end it. He taught us to box, grapple, kick in their knees, toss them by their ears or hair, do what we needed to end it. This was NYC in the late 70’s and early 80’s. It was a very dangerous time with high rates of violent crime. School was akin to gen pop in prison. I’m so glad he taught us to defend ourselves.
School is like that in NYC right now. The whole city is a shitfest.
my father taught me taekwondo, but I also took it to extreme and broke the rules. So everyone were afraid of me, and nobody messed with my little sister as well 😅 we were 2 out of 3 Asians in our school, so it was challenging
I was bullied terribly until the 8th grade. I was 14 years old when 3 of my bullies picked a fight with me after school. I tried to just get my stuff out of my locker and leave, but they wouldn't let me. I started verbally fighting back, and the leader didn't like my quick, sarcastic ass and decided to punch me in the face. To this day, I don't remember hitting her back. What I do remember is her laying spread-eagle on the floor a few feet away from me with blood pouring out of her nose and down her face with her friends crowded around her. When I grabbed my stuff and started to leave, one of her friends that wasn't even involved in the altercation hollered "Yeah, well I bet she could have kicked your ass anyway!" I just snorted and kept walking. We were still in the school. Right by lockers and classrooms, about 15 minutes after the bell rang dismissing us for the day. Not a single person, no janitor, teacher, or student intervened or tried to stop things in any way. Nobody ever contacted my Mom (Dad was in Saudi Arabia/Iraq at the time), not even her parents. I never got in trouble by anybody, and the bullying pretty much stopped. What little crap I did catch afterwards I was able to cut off with my well-honed sarcasm and lack of fu€k$ given about getting in trouble for it. Don't roll over and take their abuse! Bullies usually prefer easy prey. If you fight back it takes the fun out if it for most of them because it takes too much effort to try and get you back under their control. Ignoring it only makes it worse. Stand up for yourself, because you need to do it when you're and adult too, so you don't get taken advantage of and walked all over!
Easy for you to say. Sounds like you just have a natural berserker switch, a kill instinct. You didn't even remember what happened. Easy to fight back when you don't even consciously do it.
Are you male or female?
@@HSdirectioner5 why does that matter??? she hit them. Idc what gender you are if you hit me you're catching these hands
@@ACDBunnie You can do it too.
lmfaooo you know this didn't happen. you're lying on the internet🤣🤣🤣
Nothing wrong with sticking up for yourself. If you have to resort to physical violence to get bullying to stop, oh well. Ignoring it is the worst thing you can do.
Thank you, I haven't laughed this hard in a long time.
My answer was to be a bully myself without even realising it. And, to be honest, i didn't even notice most of "bullying" - my head was too full of abuse from home. Years later my friend helped me realise that i was also a bully, just not in a "traditional" way. I passive aggresively treated people like they were all mentally slow. I regret that now, i wish i was stronger and chose kindness as my shield. I also did it to my dad, but that i don't regret. When a person regularly says he'd crush his daughter's hand with a hammer or something like that and keeps screwing up family money, the person deserves to be called d.u.mb.
Glad you grew up as a person. Passive aggressive picking feels imho worse than being beaten. As someone who experienced that at home, as well as in school, being honestly beaten was a relief, because naming "they diss me and play ignorant and laugh at me when i try to confront them" is very hard for a kid, and makes you really confused and hurt.
@@sallagronlund643 , not sure i grew)) I am very sory you went through that. Do you still live with your family? I was never beaten, so i can't compare. For me hidden was better, because i didn't see stuff unless it was right up my face. I have aspbergers, so it's a bit hard for me to read subtext. I mean, it turnes out people spread rumors that i'm an alien and laughed about it. It was so much behind my back that i didn't know about it 🤣. There for that particular trauma is not with me and there is no lasting damage cause It's too wacky to harm my reputation anywhere past middle school. Also being an alien is cool.
Edit: i did sometimes hear some comments that seemed random and only made sence after i found out about the "alien theory".
I have my own family now. And yeah, understanding the subtext is one thing, but when you see _something_ is wrong but you don't have the words to address it, that is hell. "They are kinda bitchy, they talk bad about my personal traits they know i am sensitive of, but when i try to say please stop this, they brush it all off and say i am hypersensitive". You do not need to be beaten, you beat yourself. But yeah. I lived with abusive parents and i had broken bones all the time. Still, the mental abuse was worse, because I never had the chance to put it to words.
Sorry for the novel, just had to vent :'D
I wish you everything good. Keep growing and making the world a better place for the next generation!
Edit: typo question mark
@@sallagronlund643 , oh yeah, my parents did that too. By denying and gaslighting they were protecting themselves from all the fuss and reality of our situation. Your are provably the same.
I was the emotional punch bag. I used to sometimes do stuff on porpose to make them angry (didn't take much, like dropping a fork). Because after they've yelled at me, called me useless or something, they at least didn't yell at one another or at my little sister.
How were you not taken away if you had broken bones?
I don't know if it's ol to ask, you don't have to answer if you don't want to - can you tell me an example of confusion you felt. My confusion was with social cues in general, my parents motivations of abuse were very clear, so i don't fully understand what you mean when you say you couldn't put it to words.
most grow into stronger bullies and turn to more sophisticated forms in order to torture normal people . once a bully always a bully
If you or someone is getting bullied, there is no need to say “stop it!” You can just take your shoe and slap them across the face and blame them 👌
No one can stand the legendary La Chancla.
if you are getting bullied just be an asian mom they will be scared of you after that
@@peachesandcream22 unfortunately my sneakers chancla did not work because hes a spoiled rich kid and he had good grades ah you know where is this going i have awful mathmethics his parents does defend him i got accused apparently if i could go back in time i would incite myself to combat
my parents still support me
also i can get extremely spiteful like creating false harm accusations or harrasment death threats etcs excluding sexual assault i dont want to ruin a person life
Nice meme but in reality most bullying victims are weak and cowardly, but even if they pull some courage out of their ass they will just get beaten like a dog and then the teachers will just treat it like a “fight”and not a case of bullying.
the best case scenario is the bully comes to respect his victim and they become friends, fortunately for bullying victims this is more common than you would think. Especially with Pakistanis in the northern UK, in my experience.
1:55 There’s verbal bullying, EEEEeeEeehHhH
And the worst of all, cyber bullying, EEeEeeEeeEHHhHh
that just killed my head off XD
1:36 that’s basically what my school said but they said even more dumb stuff with that
They say “bullying is over and over, not one time” but also say “if you fight back, youre the bully now and will get in trouble for not telling a teacher” what was the definition of bullying again?
“Did you know bullying is bad? *gasp*” had me rolling on the floor 😂😂😂❤
as a teenager, even teachers can't trust you, and sometimes even pick on you aswell. it's pretty much a battlefield. us teenagers need more respect tbh
Fr. It goes to show humans are humans. All we gotta do is vow to God or ourselves that we won’t ever grow up to become like these horrible adults.
My school, we just roast them back, we've been going back and forth with friendly banter for years now, and my friends and I have started a demon ritual where we hug teachers when they look stressed. (We're all girls, we only hug girls, the boy teachers hug each other, no students required)
Love you! This needs to be said so badly. Huge service to humanity. ❤️🔥💪
from the kdrama I've watched, the kid yelling out "stop it" is gonna have the whole class gang up on him 💀
I can't stop laughing at the Korean School Anti Bullying video😭😂😂
Hmm I wonder if they really do it like that in korea
@@MasterMultitaskerZed lmao Idk but if they do that then it's kinda f up
@@Clasher_Wrecking sorry what? Everybody saying stop it is messed up? Hooowwwww
@@MasterMultitaskerZed no they don't do like that 😂😂 you can watch the bullying scenes in korean dramas trust me it's not exaggerated it's real. The bullying you see in kdramas happen just like that in Korea.
With the type of bullying happens in Korea, that anti-bullying video is going to do nothing. 😂
I literally laughed hard at "Stop It". This is so funny.
So yeah, I retaliated a couple of time against my bullies and had to beg the runner of the Boys and Girls' Club not to punish me or tell my parents.
you caved in. NEVER CAVE IN TO BULLIES. fight them. even if they tell your parents. and if your parents punish you for it, fuck them as well. they donot know or care how important it is to stand up for yourself.
The Korea version of stopping a bully only took 2 seconds, I wish it was like that at my school
I love it peers shouting stop it should work😂😂😂😂😂😂😂LOL why didn't we think of that LOL😂😂😂😂😂
3:22 Lmao why did they have to call him a little snitch? 😭😭
"Whatever happened to standing up for yourself against bullying?" O. M. F. G. That's what I want to know! I was one of those kids who was always told to just ignore it, which didn't help, when I told an adult about it anything they did amounted to jackshit. The few times where I actually fought back, or tried to, I'd be the one who got in trouble while those little assholes got at worst a slap on the wrist. I fucking hated being a kid.
i bow down to you winner. fuck the trouble. they are all pussies. you stood up for yourself and i respect that
That is so stupid of schools why the heck would the person getting bullied get in trouble? Pure stupidity
The bully already knows ..thats why he/she keeps bullying you
ahhh I love how he mimicks the korean one so good!!
idk about america but it's common in asia for schools to ignore bullying or silence the victims to maintain their school's reputation. yk like those schools who promote themselves as bullying-free or have anti-bully campaigns, their headmasters just cover everything up no matter how badly kids are bullied. they are more concerned about victims speaking up than victims being bullied itself
ok at least my teachers do give a crap about bullying but lectures dont work for them as theres no repercussions for their actions
karma also comes too slow i know its timed but instant karma is satisfying
I had a friend in primary school who was bullied.
One day, he picked up a stone smashed against his bully's ear, which started to bleed.
He was never bullied again by that child.
Remember kids, if you say "no" the bullies legally aren't allowed to bully you anymore
the way he say "stop it" in korean is cracking me up
I got bullied in school from 7th to my 11th grade year. At one point one of them started messing with my hair(it started getting longer) and I got real tired of it, real fast. The bullying stopped when I broke 3 of his fingers. I Never got in trouble, as he didn't want people to know that someone half his size broke 3 of his fingers in 1 very swift movement, with my back back to him, since he was going to pull at his hair.
How did you break 3 of his fingers? Like did you get expelled or something
Lmaoo you rock 😂3 of his fingers!! Deserved 😂
@@hadbetterdays8118 bend them backwards?
I'm from Brazil and here things work this way: our parents say to us tell our teachers if someone is bullying us but if the teacher doesn't do anything about it... we're free to break the bully in pieces.
I remember the times i get bullied. I just remain silent. Or asking to go away. Some people can't listen to sb else, so they must face the consequences...
1 broken nose later, everyone points at the bully as the starter, i explain everything, getting sent to psychologist or principal, then just: "I know he was an absolute jerk. Not the best way to solve it, so please don't do it again."
As someone who goes to an American school, standing up against the bully actually is encouraged.
When I was in primary school, I was beaten up by someone who moved down from high school to primary. This led to my confidence dropping and when I was in high school I was bullied throghout school because of my confidence and how I didn't talk much because of it. I tried telling them to stop, telling the teachers, my parents and nothing happened. I wish I had fight back as I had done tie-quondo in primary and knew how to defend myself but, i didn't because school told us not to fight back. I now have friends and am not being bullied anymore. I still struggle with my confidence to this day but, it is slowly getting better.
was a girl who had to wear potato sacks, because clothing did not always fit into the budget of her poverty-stricken family.
You think she wasn't humiliated and bullied by other kids ? can u even imagine this?
her name is Oprah Winfrey
Moved down from high school to primary school. Was a bully. I'm seeing some connections going on there. Somehow I doubt they're very happy in life now, presuming you're both grown up.
not speaking to anyone at high school, yeah i was bullied all day today for that. cunning comebacks with my hidden crippling anxiety and deepression who made me not give a fuck, made me too op for them
fake it till you make it ig, but i'm happy you have friends now
what is tie quondo
@@hhsea maybe they meant 'taekwondo'
It reminds me of a case that happened recently at a university in my country, there was a boy who was harassed and beaten daily, in addition to being insulted with racist slurs, one day he defended himself and hit the bully and scream to him to stop harasing him, they expelled him after that.
Apparently the bully was from a rich family, while the bullied boy managed to enter because a scholarship and had almost no money because his mother was undergoing cancer treatment, so that's why the school allowed the bullying, even though there were already recordings and complaints about what was happening.
The case went viral, and the university received a lot of criticism, but I don't know what happened to the guy, or if the bully was finally expelled.
what university is this? I am interested to find out what happened later. I hope the bully got in trouble or at least ostracized by the other kids
@@eldenemerald7962 So I investigated more and it wasn't in a university, but in a high school, it was at the Tecnológico de Monterrey high school , in Mexico City, apparently the bully was also expelled from school at the end.
From what I saw on the news, his classmates let him know when he shouldn't go to school, because they were waiting for him to hit him, or make fun of him, besides they told the directors what was happening, but other than that there wasn't much more they could do.
@@spicynoodles2742 thanks for the update! I'm glad the bully was expelled
‘In the playground you called me a fatty and that made me really upset.’😂😂😂
The worst part of my bullying experience is that I was bigger than my peers for most of it and could have beaten them up once and saved myself years of torture and subsequently years of therapy but everyone including authority figures just had it out for me so it didn't stop until I changed schools
THANK YOU. Public school in America can be absolute hell. The entirety of the staff were worse than the kids in my experience. They encourage it and almost get off from the shit they cause and pretend not to see.
How to stop bullying
USA: "Get a gun"
KOREA: "Present palm to bully face"
I was bullied as a kid for a while. At first I tried ignoring it, didn't work. Then one day I fought back, and then they never spoke or came close to me again. Stand up for yourself, people.
i was bullied in elementary but since at our school physical assault is basically the rape of today, it never got physical because even lying about getting physically assaulted could get the alleged assailant in trouble. so all there was left was verbal "assault", and you could easily dodge the bully by just roasting them and their family alive (in game) and there was nothing they could do about it since if the teacher caught them throwing fists they were a goner
bro my bully almost cried after i blocked his kick
Teachers are such hypocrites 💀
It's because they're women
Yeah, they are nasty
@@SUpersaiyajinjerkbag male teachers ceased to exist with only one comment
@@preguicadetu lol
@@SUpersaiyajinjerkbag it is not like that male teachers are also same as hell I have seen it in my life gossip has nothing to do with your gender....
The one year I went to the US as an exchange student I saw the wildest bullying related things I've seen, I remember seeing a friend get sprayed with crazy foam in her hair by another girl that was constantly bullying/annoying her, she obviously got angry and hit her and the other girl started to fight back, I started to laugh but eventually tried to separate them both (didn't hit anyone at all because A) wasn't my problem and B) A guy hitting a woman doesn't end well for any of the parties involved basically ever), then the teacher caught us and apparently the 3 of us were all guilty of the situation happening in the first place, at the end they just scolded us and let us be, I remember saying something along the lines of "let me get this straight, you think that this was partly my fault?" And the burst out laughing partly because it was surreal and comical for me and partly because that's what I do when I get nervous and then the teacher insinuating that I was lucky they were leaving it there since my physical contact could be "missinterpreted", like, dude was treatening a 14/15 year old at the time
I totally relate to the laughing when you’re nervous. It never looks good, and yet I can’t stop it.
In Canada back in the '90's my older brother saw a crazy 17 year old draw a knife on a scrawny 14 year old.
My brother grabbed the 17 year old and slammed him into the lockers making him drop the knife.
The 17 year old got a 3 week suspension, just before the Christmas holidays, and was allowed to come back immediately after the holidays because the holiday counted as part of his suspension.
My brother got a 3 day suspension for fighting.
My parents were pissed and there were several angry but pointless calls and meetings.
"Oh I'll teach you some physical fucking contact"
Omg I love What If questions
Haha so true, they actually did teach my kid to say "Stop it! I don't like it!" to bullies at school.
His asian vs amarican series are best 😭🤌🏼🤍
ah yes amarican
In my school it was weird. Since we were a bunch of sheltered kids the bullying wasn't as bad. I was bullied all through elementary school, I was called names, I was ridiculed, I was ostracised, I got my pencil case thrown in the trash once, had food thrown at me, and the occasional ball (usually a volleyball) thrown at my face or with excessive force. But I mean, I've heard instances of worse cases. Anyway, I tried telling them to stop, telling teachers, having them reported and suspended several times, trying to verbally fight back, trying to comply with what I figured would help me befriend them, and even getting physical. Nothing ever worked.
if you fought and lost, good for you man. you know how to fight them. do so everytime you see one. cuz its really important.
That is so upsetting.. :( bullies are sickos
Really sad to know it friend,
Try to distance from them as much as possible although it becomes impossible in schools, I understand.
Try to socialize with many friends and become a part of club so you will have people to help.
Hit Gym, get strong so you will be less targeted.
Don't talk too much, observe peoples behaviour and talk to those who are friendly and try to have good friendship.
Stay Connected to teachers, like talk to them, ask for help and show that you can stand for your self and you have good communication with teachers.
I am very sure you aren't in school or the age to be bullied anymore, however this may help kids who had similar experience.
Try laughing at what they do to you. Make it seem like you want them to do it. If they get in a problem help them. Show them kindness no matter what. Showing kindness no matter what doesn't mean you don't stand up to them or tell adults. No promises this will work, but it's worth a shot.
@@oliviaelderberry9423 bullies do not understand kindness. They disrespect you even more. They never apologize for what they did to you.
1:49 Lmao I can’t… HAHAHAHA 😂 the way the friendly music just came back with the teacher says something so hypocritical while the dude who asked the question is speechless is funny ASF.
I'm only 29 years old and I still remember the way you handled a bully was either meeting after school and whipping some ass or fight them right then and there. That established that you were too much trouble to bully anymore, did you get suspended yes but did you have a easier time in school also yes.
It was different for me. Schools in my countries were and are still obsessed with "image". They wouldn't let anything bad leak out to avoid the decline in reputation. Fights, bullying, drugs dealing and all those stuff would be shut quiet by the headmaster. So that time i got bullied in 2nd grade, the school just paid my mom to ignore it and made up promises about expelling the bullies and shit. They didn't get expelled since it was their last year in primary school. Because of that, i didn't even bother to tell anyone the other time i was bullied, in the same school, grade 4, by my own "friends" and teacher. Wasn't good for my mental and physical health ofcourse, i was depressed and suicidal at the age of 10, and that went on for 2 years. Glad i got out of that, ended up being a bit more mature and had my mental illnesses treated. Man i'm never letting my kids undergo the same thing.
The school paid your mom? That's interesting. May I ask where you're from?
I have a daughter in kindergarten and she's the youngest and smallest kid in her class. Sometimes the teacher tells me she hit someone. I've tried asking my daughter about what happened and who started it, but she gives unreliable accounts... I'm still trying to figure out how to particularize my approach to it. Is she being bullied and she's standing up for herself? Or is she the one bullying other kids that are bigger than her?
In preschool she was bullied a little and I advised her to stand up for herself. Maybe she's following my past advise but hasn't yet developed the sense to determine who's being reasonable. So, now I've been discouraging the hitting and teaching her to walk away from agitating situations, i.e. anger management. But it could be the wrong advise if she's the one having difficulties. Nothing about parenting is straightforward.