Strict Asian Parents & Stressed, Pressured Youth - College Process
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Child: *blood types B*
Asian parents: *disappointed*
Duh😂
Hmm I see u have been watching chonny
B pos is still not good enough, not til I get A pos
😂😂😂
Ooof am O positive. And will never be A positive lmao
These parents think they are making their kids succesfull but in reality they are making them depressed and unsocialized
And soon develop mental disorder..they push their kids to the breaking point
Plus an unsocialised adult is not a successful one...
These parents are turning their children into robots.
wiktoria kohman they can be social when they are rich and successful
@@ty9392 you can't be rich of your not social. Your not gonna be able to find connections or pitch a idea
“The greatest burden a child must bear is the unlived life of its parents.” - Carl Jung
Omg I never even thought about this, this is such a good quote thank you for sharing this
The girl that got accepted in yale didnt cry because she got accepted but cried because her mom finally hugged her
LMAO AHAHAXHAHAHAHHA
Wouldn't be surprised if it was her fist time.
"unless she got 800 then i would hug her" damn i feel so sorry for these kids
Lewi i started crying when I heard that
Damn right you should😂
Hmm... Welcome to my daily life
@@shrutis damN I feel you 😔
They’re so lucky, i wish my parents were like that. I naturally love studying tho. But motivation like that would be good.
Parenting 101:
*Don't live through your kids*
I said that too. And if I do have kid I want them to live for them self. I don't really find enjoyment letting someone else do what I wanted. If that wanted to do it to that's fine but I want to do it for my self.
Drenched in black
I don't want kids
Until I'm 32 years old
@@theroadtocosplayandcomicco5840 big mood
@@QuanBrown27 What does "live for them self" even mean? Children are molded by their environment. What you are proposing is a fool's errand.
The Asian Grading Scale:
A-Average
B-Bad
C-Can't Eat Dinner
D-Don't Go Home
F-Find a New Family
haha! child abuse so funny to joke about right?!!!!
@@ohno685 Fuck yeah
@@ohno685 its reality most of the times
Copy and paste
@@ohno685 yep
You cannot live your failed dream though your kids. The kids has their own dream to fulfill.
Indeed.
That is exactly what happened to Sophie’s dad. None of his 3 children attended Ivy League schools.
Nature, wherofore doesn't hesitate to turn the tables on such a person. That's exactly what betides when you have a nimiety of expectations.
unfortunately, they didn't get that memo.
Living vicariously through their children is a hobby for most Asian parents. My mom did not care if I get into an Ivy or not as long as I become financially successful. Have to agree. You can't eat a dioloma or give it as a deposit for a house.
when sophie was overflowing with joy and called her dad only to be disappointed yet again, i felt that
honestly she looked so sad 😢
At wat time?
time?
Timestamp?
@@void-xt8pw 7:24
“You can’t argue with a stubborn Chinese man”
Words of wisdom.
M2RC0 expect a black woman can...
Heh 666 likes
@@BlueberrySummertime oof only if they weren't stubborn 😂
PREACH
I just recognized am so so lucky from minimal pressure of a Chinese background family - am rarely lucky to have a stress free childhood
The look on Sophie's face when her dad wasn't that happy with her getting 760 on both subjects just sucked the life out of her.
Her dad's so fickle in his thinking. My God! For heaven's sake, make up your mind.
If I was her I will abandon him later. Fuck that, they think they can just fck and have a baby without fulfilling the baby's emotional needs. Disgusting. I'm asian and I loathe this.
Imagine if she responded by saying “YOU KNOW HOW MUCH I SACRIFICED?!!”
My parents reaction with my marks:
40 below: wtf is wrong with u?
50-60 : dis is not i want
70-80 : pass below 90!
90-99 : why don't u get 100 instead?!!
100 : hmmm.. Don't be too proud of yourself, maybe the test was too easy
I usually get only 93-97 and my parents keep asking me why I don’t get a 100 but, when I do get a 100, they say that maybe it was too easy and to get a 100 on tests that are hard.
Gets 0: get the hell outta my house
what about 40-50
I bet that Indonesian or malaysian parents lol
@@mysticalx7974 Out of house?
More like executed
What breaks me the most is when I hear their voices. Their tones express all their feelings. You can just hear their exhaustion and emptiness.
Their soul and spirit already left their body..They just operate on auto pilot mode.
we get used to it
@@ira5290 At the end of the day those people who you are trying to please will pass away and you would be left with a life and degree you never wanted that you stressed to achieve. You better do what you love so you dont regret later; stop trying to live their failed dreams and live yours instead.
@Xushi1sMissing At the end of the day those people who you are trying to please will pass away and you would be left with a life and degree you never wanted that you stressed to achieve. You better do what you love so you dont regret later; stop trying to live their failed dreams and live yours instead.
“I’m not special enough” when she said that, it broke my heart
True dat. She needs to be more special . Cookie cutter doesn’t work.
It’s cause she doesn’t do extracurricular activities smh
Her parents
April Dong that’s not enough. You need to show some special skill or achievement. Be unique. They don’t want cookie cutter.
The daughter will be next strict asian parent too... they are same 😂
just boils my blood the type of kids that usually feel this way go on to commit suicide or eventually breakdown and lose themselves
“you can party when you get older”
“you can party after school”
“you can party when you get into harvard”
“you can party when you get a job”
“you can party after work”
“you can party when you retire”
“haha too bad you’re dead now”
so true
i hate being a "good kid"
i rather be differnet than a puppet
But you can party for eternity in Heaven.
@@TempleofBrendaSong not everyone believes in Heaven and we don't know if it exists.
and i'm pretty sure God didn't tell us to work ourselves to death all the time.
@@TempleofBrendaSong What's the point of partying in heaven anyway if u wasted your whole life living like a robot.
The parents will regret this later once the resentment boils over from their children. Once their kids move out, they will learn that their biggest regret was not bonding with their children.
They will wonder why their kids do not call or talk to them. But they will never learn.
@@PungiFungi And they will die alone and not even meeting their child’s family and will be forgotten and die empty.
@@firemangan2731 Very poetic. When the internet is more emotional mature than the AP themselves.
@@longwlenguyen4214 Thanks.
True then wonder why they’re kids don’t call or come around as much.
If Sophie was allowed to take extra curriculars such as dancing and she excelled in it. It would have most likely boosted her chance of getting into an ivy league
Yep
That's the thing that hurts
100000 subs without video challenge yea it doesn’t even have to be academic or athletic clubs. It can be about anything you are passionate about. Create your club or join clubs that really interest you.
There are no chances that implies some system of logic to this. After a certain threshold, it’s all arbitrary
Hell no. Without a perfect score, perfect gpa your chances are lowered. And that’s 2010
Kid: I got a perfect SAT score!
Parents: Not good, but not awful.
Avocado Cado it funny how I saw the reaction to the SAT score coming.
“Not good, but not awful” - sounds like something I would tell my child if they showed me a report card with full of B’s and C’s.
That's pushing it.
That's what my parents would say if I got an A- on my report card ( I'm not asian, I'm black)
@@GuardianDiancieSome Asian parents would use this grading scale:
A = Average (or Acceptable)
B = Below average
C = Can't eat dinner
D = Don't come home
F = Find a new family
Asian child: "I got an A+ on all of my finals!"
Asian parent: "That's OK, you could do better."
Normal
A = Excellent
B = Above average (Good)
C = Average (just Ok)
D = Below Average (Poor)
F = Failed (Very bad)
Western child: "I got an A+ on all of my finals!"
Western parent: "Wow, that's really awesome! I'm so proud of you!"
@@aaronchao7562 Omg true, since I've been living in the US I would say my parent's "grading scale" is a mix of both when I was in 6th grade since my average GPA was 3.8, but in by the end of 7th grade my GPA throughout the entire year was a 4.0 so now my parents always expect me to get all A's while for my OLDER brother 2 B's are fine.
Apparently not long after this documentary was filmed, Sophie was arrested for possession of marijuana. Can't say i blame her. Maybe if her Dad was more supportive of her 760 score she wouldn't have relapsed. Karma.
Source?
Wheres the source
Relapsed?
*ITS JUST WEED*
source? also weed should be decriminalized everywhere
@@juniper154 people have a poor understanding of how one gets into drugs
If the cameras weren’t there.... the parents would’ve taken out the old sandal...
Nah man probably the belt and the slippers. double damage!
@@racheltlytly1178 you forget wires
my mexican parents : the voy a dar la chancla
There’s the metal pole for me.
the broom and the stick
Asian grading system
A: acceptable
B: Beating
C: can’t have dinner
D:Don’t come home
F: Find new family
That's clever
I am asian but thank God my parents are not like them
Same, that's too much.
A: a is for average
A - average
B - bad
C - crap
D - dead
F - fucked
Child:listens to cardi B
Parent : LISTEN TO CARDI A!
This comment is so underrated
Lmfao
😂😂😂
Lol
Lol
this is a perfect example of conditional love. their affection towards her is based on her academic success.
Chinese Parents : " Get good grades "
Children : " What's the highest you guys have ever gotten "
Chinese Parents : "You want beating!?"
Me an edge lord: do you want to drown in your own blood?
@@veevee1111 nah, after school they just forget shit. Like me- Whenever I ask my Korean mom, she just tells me to go finish my work-
@@veevee1111 they meaning my parents-
My mum got straight A and scholarship, this will never work
She gets rejected not because of her grades but because in her application she lacks character, due to her parents making her study all the time that means she doesn’t to sports, after school activities and she doesn’t have other commitments so universities don’t see what’s so special abt her
Jimmy Neutron that’s true and even though colleges indeed require after school activities
Exactly, you need a balance between the two
Yes but asian parents don't see that if there was a parent who would the older generations would say no
Jimmy Neutron agree
Number Five absolutely. As a professor I can tell you grades is only one factor
Poor girl has no me-time. If I was her, I would’ve had a mental breakdown
Elena Lina Unlike asians we would rather choose to not be stressed out to the point of killing ourselves. Us blacks, hispanics, and white people would rather be truly successful and happy.
@@heavensangel7882 That is very true, but do you think we have a choice in not following our parents' words? They would disown us if we didn't act according to their wishes.
Julie Song I know that you don’t have a choice as a child but I was replying to the person who said that Hispanics, blacks, and whites were less successful than Asians just because our parents don’t stress us out with unnecessary work and pressure.
My parents are a lot like this, it would just be a step up.
@Elena Lina top 10 richest people in the world: *white*
There are three types of birds
1. Those that learn to fly early
2. Those that learn to fly late
And
3. Those that don’t bother flying and lay an egg to make their children fly.
I believe most asian parents are 3.
Yessir
so sorry you dont understand your parents. maybe you will when you have children
@@Boymanjusri tried to understand them a lot for all my life of 21 years... But I don't know how many times I found their obsession to success as reasonable. Like, what if kid doesn't like and it u force it on them?! I always dreamt of studying business administration and my parents said "it's not for girls" and forced me to study computer science which I hate the most and they still expect me to top in it! Yeah I understand them.
@@army_4ever748 It's really hard. I've been this same situation. But atleast I can choice with my own.
@@army_4ever748 actually, I have also tried to think in their pov and I think I can understand them. The thing is that Asian parents want us to achieve the things that they never could achieve. They think that if they push us to have good grades, atleast we will be able to get into good colleges and get a good job and earn money. I am sure they also feel regret somewhere in their life and thus, making us do things. I believe this kind of parenting is not healthy and should never be encouraged. A kid should have the freedom to choose whatever they want to become in their life. This kind of parenting runs in the family. My grandmother used to beat up my mom when she was younger and she was also verbally abusive but they never realised it. So now my mom also does the same to me. Honestly, I am just gonna start being independent and start earning my own money and then move out when I turn 18.
10:50 those parents are just acting calm in front of the cameraman. They just waiting for the camera man to leave.
My thought exactly. If they are open enough to criticize as little as they were on camera I don't even want to think about what they do when the camera man is gone.
They would beat them up after
@@jeffreywong7244 yess so true I got some scar on my body because of my mom misunderstanding and blaming
@@jeffreywong7244 I don't even did what she say but it happens and she don't believe me then she blame me and beat me I remember that time it still bleeding
@@jeffreywong7244 I hate it Im not even allow to send help because im in Malaysia everyone saw this scene as normal everyone just sick
They didn’t accept her because she didn’t join any clubs or activities. Like colleges want more from a student than number
right, these schools want well rounded individuals, not just doing well on tests. your extra curriculars, communication, and volunteer work matter.
Yeah but she couldn't do any because her parents made her study all day
From what I heared the only important thing is 1. Being great at a popular sport 2. Having a bullshit amount of volunter work
Little Blue it’s more like showing passion and initiative in a specific field of interest, so if that passion happens to be a sport yeah
You're an idiot. All colleges want are students with the best scores. Clubs and other activities have no importance to being a well rounded person.
Child: *gets 760 out of 800*
Parent: *"noT So Bad, NoT sO gOoD"*
Honestly I'd like to see them do better
Ikr
It was actually 770..
Sadly every Asian parent is like that sooo..
@James the said thing is that those parents want their children to live THEIR ideal life not the life the kid want, sad honestly
asian parents want their kids to do better than they did. This includes scores on tests, SATS, really anything. So the kids probably would be better but honestly, I think the parents are doing good at what their doing.
grew up in HK, I hate the way HKers, mainland Chinese, or some other Asian parents raise their children. In my childhood, 80% of parents around me talked to their children in a very traditional way which includes scolding, yelling, blaming, abusing, everything was just too negative. But now I think things got better and may be half of parents are like that. On the flip side, majority of parents in China still talk to their kids without respect, as if children have no feelings like robot. I personally think that children need love, care, encouragement, company , and respect way more than just lecturing or threatening. I am treating my children like my friends, I joke with them, I talk to them with respect, I play and share my experiences with them. I praise and encourage them a lot too. I get serious sometimes only when they cross the boundary. They do feel motivated to learn things when they get recognized and complemented by me. When I was a child, I never got complemented by my parents, they would just said I was stupid and useless, and compared me with other better kids. What's the damn point of hurting your own kids' feelings I mean. Furthermore, adults talk to adults in very negative way too, I understand that human get jealous sometimes , but there's no point to cut someone's head to make yourself feel taller. Moreover, most of the teachers I met also verbally abused their students, they basically gave up on those students that didn't do well at school. Western values and cultures are just too different. In comparison, western parents would say " love you" to their kids almost everyday. But a big portion of Asian parents would not even say that to their children in the whole life. Don't get me wrong that Asian/Chinese Culture is all bad, they study hard, work hard, they are family oriented etc etc...But when it comes to parenting and teaching at school , it's just too cruel. Children with a fragile heart deserve more love, encouragement, patience, recognition and positive complements.
💯
Asian culture is not touchy feely. A lot of things are left unspoken but are understood. But Asian parents do have a tendency to treat their children like toddlers way after adulthood.This is why my siblings and I do not go out of our way to speak to her. We are all now middle aged adults and yet she still talk and lecture to us like we are toddlers… still complaining that our lives didn’t went in the directions SHE expected.
Same here in India.. it's hard really really hard.
In Asia, True Happiness cannot be found. But you could become so rich there.
I’m 16, Spain. My mom doesn’t really care about grades, she just wants me to pass so I can study whatever I want later on. She also lets me go out whenever I want until whenever. I’m really grateful for that. It normally doesn’t happen, but I guess freedom is a very important value in my family as well as having as many options as I can.
My parents are Asian and they allow me to be anything I want as long it’s safe and I’m happy for
Pain but with an s
same with me
I am so happy for you!!
That's why many Spanish are super unemployed
Did these Asian parents ever think that their kids aren’t getting accepted because they aren’t well rounded? Their kids are all academic, don’t participate in anything. The kids don’t have time. If you only have the grades, you aren’t getting into an ivy.
girl got into Yale but seriously I wanna join Harvard I do get straight As but I only can draw anime oof
My Asian parents can't understand this. I take part in orchestra and since I need to practice a lot, I didn't study as much. My grades was still the same though, the typical between 70-90 which they are always so disappointed in. My mom keeps saying that orchestra is affecting my grades and tells me to quit orchestra. I tell them that co-curriculum marks are important too but guess what my mom said? She said that universities prioritize grades more than co-curriculum activities. I honestly don't know how to convince her to understand...
Sorry you had to listen to me rant
It's just how differently the college process works in China. It's literally your score on a single test that decides everything iirc. Still extremely upsetting to think about, though.
I’m Asian and my parents gave up on me when I was 10
@@AngelicaStar I'm really sorry they don't understand. Perhaps they don't know that universities don't just consider grades as a path to success. Extracurricular activities, community service hours, GPA, SAT scores, and a good character are all incorporations which decides if colleges are going to accept you or not. Sorry if I don't have much to say to this but I feel really bad that your mom is harsh on you like this. I'm Asian and I guess my parents are the same, especially they push me so much to rant and work about on SATs and sometimes it's just really, really annoying.
*Gets 100% on SAT*
Asian parent: Do better.
FBI... open up
Why is that soo true? I got a 4 and 4 is the highest in our school system and my dad said get a 5 next time when 4 is literally the highest!!!
Say it with a Chinese accent lol
Extra credit
IT IS I DIO! Lmao make your own questions and answer them 🤣🤣🤣🤣
I’m grateful that my Asian parents don’t pressure me when studying.
Sameeeeeeeee! My parents are very very fun but a little bit serious and too pushy and and I can't get a break when my mom is screaming a lot sometimes and I love listening to music and art and also expressing myself and having fun PS I'm 17 years old and I'm half Filipino and Canadian.😂😂😂😂😂😂🇵🇭🇵🇭🇵🇭🇵🇭🇵🇭🇵🇭🇵🇭🇵🇭
Same. My parents aren’t too bad either. I’m filipino as well. 🇵🇭
You lucky individual
"I hope you will yell at yourself."
"FOR WHAT?"
is the single most relatable thing ive ever seen
Unreal that her Dad said that to her.
Those parents are horrible AND HE'S ENCOURAGING SUCH MINDSET
Bro it’s like the only F she ever received was her gender on her report card.
Ikr😂😆
Then how bout m oh yeah the word start with silent *a* ...m
hi directioner!
Her parents where probably mad at thst lmao
this remind me of that amazing world of gumball episode
these parents think that they would be embarrassed if their children don’t get in good universities but little do they know that it’s more embarrassing for ppl to know how much you tortured your children for something that you “couldn’t achieve”.
The parents more concerns about kids further, the better college means higher chance to have a good life. As a Chinese, I would do the same thing like my parents required me, higher degree and better school gave me more chance than other peers. I don’t want my kids live in a poor families in the future.
Chad lee I understand but they still need a social life. Going to school and straight home, you will develop no social skills. High school is a very important time of their life, but also their last time as a minor. After high school they’re going to be working for the rest of their life.
@@chadlee870 yeah that might be one of the reasons but Nhi Le is also right as well, my parents who are Vietnamese consider any college or university with a 40% or higher acceptance rate as easy to get in which means that it isn't worth aiming for. They see it as an embarrassment to themselves if they let me go to any university or college that is "easy" to get in.
you obviously dont understand Chinese parents. the parents dont care about their face, they care about their children's future.
T yeah by forcing them to do something that pays well but is boring to the child and making the rest of their life: work/eat/sleep.
Seeing this video made me realize what amazing parents I have. I have always being good with grades and all, but there are times where I have too much pressure and get C’s or B’s and my mom always hugs me and tells me how proud of me she is because she sees that I am working hard and that even without an A or a perfect SAT score, she believes on me and that I will have a very good future. I could not ask for better parents ngl. ❤️
It's so sad that parents and school influence students to believe their self-worth depends on getting into a top-tier university.
maybe top tier schools arent even worth the crazy student loan debt... ugh.. i read a post of a kid pressured to go to one has like 120k debt.. nothin g wrong with community college and state school
@@yoleeisbored there is absolutely NOTHING wrong going to community college or state school. Actually that’s the smart thing to do. Biology is biology. Harvard isn’t teaching voodoo magic ok. Same shit
"Dad is gonna be so happy about this."
7:41 her reaction though... it makes me want to cry too..
Ame thyst That’s so sad!
It happens to me everytime
They just wanted her to be smart and successful so that they could live in her life and house later on
“Unless you gets 800 I would hug her.” Ok I can say that this parent failed as being a parent.
Zack Tom
Damn. Here in my family my parents are the one who consoles me whenever I get shit grades. Always telling me that Im already doing my best and that I shouldn’t stress over it. Hell they’re happy as long as I pass, and get excited when I get on top of class. (I usually got honors from Elementary to Senior High and 90+ on cards but I don’t see myself as a smart guy since I have to make a huge effort and study time with my friends just to pass Math in Senior High). Compared to this girl I was very average when I was her age, yet my parents always bragged about me to their friends (I dont know whether to feel embarrassed or happy lol). Really puts things into perspective. Glad I don’t live in a family where grades equate to your parents love.
My parents never really congratulate me when I get good grades and I'm never rewarded for them, and they also never console me when I get not so good grades lol they just tell me I need to study that subject harder and not so much phone 💀💀
@Benjamin Miller haha too bad for you guys. my race, black, we get diversity. what a shame for y'all
@@Nope-en9bo here my Asian parents
First they say if u studied that’s what matters then they don’t actually care what grades I have they check like once a month and don’t really care at all, I have 93+ grades so a 4.0 gpa, I play like video games a lot go out a lot and study a lot. When a exam comes up u put more time into studying and less in games but I still play games since it helps and is fun.
@@Nope-en9bo plZ say dang
When she says that if Harvard (or some other Ivy League) doesn't accept her, then they don't know what kind of person they'll accept. How about someone who does sports, interacts with the community, and is helpful rather than just studious.
Goku Black yes I agree
I’m Asian and I understood this was the early 2000s but dude, this is crazy af. My parents were immigrants and so am I. They never got a chance to study high school due to financial difficulties yet they’ve built a quite comfortable life completely from scratch. Education is important but seriously, as long as ur kid can get a job and be able to feed themselves when they reach adulthood, why stress them so much?? It’s sad to watch this video, it’s even sadder that we still have the same pressure in our school system nowadays.
3:23
Dad: I hope you will yell at yourself.
Daughter: For what?!
I burst out laughings.
Lol
Judging if that were my dad/mom, they mean that every single thing that they expect me to do (a crap ton) should be done before they think that you've died and come to jabber for half an hour about how their friends' kids are more responsible and could get into Ivy Leagues.
This is making me so angry. No child should every be pressured like this😠
Fuck those parents
But sadly this is the condition of several Asian students (Particularly Indian ) I personally have seen a lot of my friends here in India have parental pressure like insane
Tech Wiz my parents are asian and Arab and it’s really tuff dealing with the pressure
Bebe Kingham ikr but fight on dude....and you’ll achieve your dream on your own way
I agree with u bro
These parents should know that these “good” schools are actually just tougher and gives you a degree with a better title
they hardly do that
@@ohno685 What do you mean? On getting degrees?
@@CaptainBones222 at the time i was referring to the fact that they wont be tougher, however tbh it is varying based on the school.
Also do not forget, it is important to go to a "good" schools. Even though you learn the same thing, you get better connections, and resources which help you succeed in life. Every wonder why people graduate and go on to earn a higher median salary? its cuz of this.
I have Indian parents, which for most of my childhood wouldn’t accept anything other than As. But when I got into 8th and and freshman year, they started to realize that if I focused on acing hard AP classes, that’s all I would be able to do and nothing else. My parents are super supportive of me now. Of course they won’t be extremely happy if I got a C, and they still prioritize my studies and grades, but they understand me and let me explore what I want to.
same, except mine are biracial (mom is black dad is white).
@semi that’s great news
Oh my god, my parents learned that around the same time too.
Yes, I can relate this!
Wanna have an estranged relationship with your kids? Do this. Force them to do what you want. Treat them as numbers. I promise you will be hated when they move out.
Exactly
lol then they 'll pretend of being choqued about why their kids hate them
They probably gonna pretend part of their paychecks
you dont know asian parents. so shut the fuck off you mouth.
asian parents gave lot of love to theri children, much more than white parents
Aww how cute, you kiss your mother with that mouth kid?
It broke my heart how she was excited to call her dad, and when she did he wasn’t even happy for her.
7:34
Camille Villa so so sad
This definetly is not parent love, everything is supperficial and conditional is so sad
She will end up hating them
I honestly will never understand why Asian parents put so much pressure on the child and when they finally get the grades they deserve, their parents just put them down and that causes a bad attitude, stress, and low self-esteem in asian teens.
Villainøus Extremity they do love her they just want her to do her best
the problem is that after they are forced to live up to insane expectations, they don't live a happy life as adults. Yes, they are academically successful, but that is only a small piece of what makes a happy life. These people probably lack other skills, such as social interaction, relationships, self esteem and so much more.
alot of asian parents dont let their kids inreract and socialize with other children.. which damages them, cant network, dont do well in interviews, they have a harder time standing up for themselves, more likely to be targeted for bullying, etc.. also physically abusive too
7:37 I feel her pain. It's like 100 punches in the stomach when you realize that whatever you do, it's never enough for your parents.
780 in math??? Holy shit, give her some credit. Do these parents realize how high these test scores are?
No. Since they all stressed and a show off, they just don't see this world is just sad WHY is no-one doing anything about this!?
Affirmative action isn't perfect. It's supposed to level the playing field but it isn't because the system is way past broken. Asians are getting screwed for doing well, and it's mostly middle class or lower income white women that benefit from affirmative action. It needs an overhaul.
Alan Xiong I hate how African Americans get more points added to their scores instead of Hispanics. Hispanics deserve those points more
David Morales Why? The race insulting on this topic is so unnecessary. First of all, Hispanics and black people are on par with college statistics due to affirmative action, in some fields Hispanics are actually higher up smartass. In terms of test scores, Hispanics tend to score slightly higher than black people, thus the point advantage for black people which in most cases isn't significant enough to make a difference. The numbers based on population look worse for Hispanic students in some areas because there are so many more of you. Besides, affirmative action was invented to help remedy the centuries of negative impact slavery, Jim Crow and segregation has had on black students. While there is an obvious mistreatment of Hispanics (especially those from immigrant, non-English speaking, low income households), it is not on the same level of what we've been through systematically. Hispanics are actually benefiting from race equality initiatives more than black people. Let's not get into who's more "deserving" of these points. That's an argument you will lose.
Justin Nizza
That is sat II math. Its a sat subject test. The majority of ppl get 800's because of the curve.
I’m Asian myself and if I went through this, I would’ve honestly killed myself. All this stress, peer pressure, anxiety and no love. I pray for these children.
I’m Asian and I’m going through it and honestly, I push myself harder than my parents.
@@Evili555 GOD STILL LOVES YOU
@@_also__also_5170 nice
@@_also__also_5170 btw, I want to take 5 APs next year for sophomore and my Asian parents(which value education) and they are like bruh, most kids only take 6 APs for entire 4 years at Highschool at my school and I’m like bruh, let me work harder. Smh
I wouldn't be surprised if she's a bit suicidal too tbh
Girl: "Dad!, I got 760!"
Dad: "aw I wish you did better"
I am Indian so we are very similar to other Asians culturally when it comes to material successes. This was me in the 9th grade when I showed my mom my report card full of straight B's and B+'s. My parents had moved to a school district with more rich white people so i would get a better education. So my basically spit on report card and started yelling about what disappointment I am and how they had to sell the house to move here. I would get around 80-87 on my exams and would get As on report cards the next semester and that still was not good enough! and from they were comparing me to they were right. The sons and daughters of their indian friends had straight As and not even A-'s. They were honor roll kids who were excelling in school, my parents held me to that standard when I knew i could never compare self them to those kids and never wanted to. It was all about pleasing my folks and not thinking for myself. I was close with my English teacher and told him about the pressures I had home, he even would send notes in report cards stating how much of good job i was doing and told my parents to appreciate the progress I'm making. Eventually he even got my guidance counselor to set up a meeting with my parents, they brought in research showing that pressurizing adolescents to excel and constantly telling them that they are no good is detrimental to their mental health. Anyways they did not care to listen to information on how to raise their kids by white people. They also made the point on how I am an first generation immigrant that does not have the luxury of being like other white kids, and that I have no family or relatives in America to take care of after they are gone. So unlike spoiled white kids I was going to have to provide for myself. I had my own issues and i'm not entirely blaming my parents as I do take responsibility for my life but this pressure to be brilliant pushed me downward spiral of mental health issues. Fast forward with legal issues and few stays at rehab, I ended having to drop out of high school. I understand that all parents want is for their kids to live better than they did, but this pressure to go above and beyond has great possibility of Back firing and could make the kid revolt against what their parents want. I've grown being ashamed of indian culture because of all this and honestly am not proud of my heritage. A great problem with our generation is that we crave material things so much, well that how we are raised to be!! dont just call us entitled millennials! your reap what you sow! which is our fucked generation of adults. Anyways I'm in college now and chose a liberal arts school full of music majors, there's a lot of hippies and stoners at my college that are living life one step at time and thats they way it should be
dont indian born in america kids their parents try to set them up for arranged marriages? i was reading a forum post of an indian girl who got smacked for not wanting an arranged marriage
@@yoleeisbored yeah that's also a thing in some really traditional families. I think my parents hated the fact they were forced into marriage with each other so they told me I had no need to get married and if I should at the most get a girlfriend. so they're a bit modern in that sense. but some are really still conservative and I would tell that girl to pack her bags and take off
@@neelchaudhuri1759 ah okay. i was reading reddit posts of chinese parents kinda doing the same thing (drag, yell, and hit their kids to meet family friend's son/daughter). its wild my korean parents are probably gonna try that too
im not going to hold you i didnt read this but i do wish you the best of luck
@@yoleeisbored Yeah it’s true, sad but it’s true
The dad that said that he was happy with the 770 honestly seems like a great, loving guy. Surprised nobody else noticed.
They probably arent getting accepted because they’re only focusing on their grades
Some else said that in the comments too.
Exactly! It takes more than grades to be successful. I'm a Harvard graduate and I'm studying law there. When I first got accepted, I was making A's and B's (mostly A's, maybe one B) my junior year all the way through my senior year, and a 1508 average for the SAT but I was very well rounded and got involved into the community. That's all there is to it. They aren't looking for the perfect-grade students, but students who are well-rounded.
Anonymous Anonymous
One question, what was your gpa?
Sumaiya Fatema, my GPA was 3.8, I believe.
And the lawsuit against Harvard shows that is false. That is the dumb myth perpetuated by the Ivy's to justify why they have so little Asians. Say that against the Blacks and its racism. Say it against he Asians and it's "the truth".
Asian kid: *Listens to 50 cent*
Asian parent: *Y u no listen to 100 cent*
If asian parents see you listen to rap they'll yell at you and be racist and compare you to black kids in a bad way.
@@PENSDYNASTY for 1st gen immigrant parents yes but not for 2nd and 3rd gen.
PENSDYNASTY 2020 lmao that may be true in most cases, but I’m asian American and I listen to rap with my parents in the car and they like rap too😂😂
Lmao
@@PENSDYNASTY my parents are first generation and my dad loved tupac when he came here so...
imagine spending ur entire childhood studying. goes to college, the med school. then u finally become a doctor in mid 30s. works stressful job till ure 60-70. what a waste of life. u lived ur entire life making money that u never had the time to enjoy it when u were young and youthful.
glad my Asian parents aren’t like this lol
So then what type are they? My friends parents are painters and they let their son be whatever they want
As a Chinese,i can't stop cursing while watching this video,they are your offspring,not slaves,holy fuck!
LOL
lol I feel bad for these kids, studying is worth nothing if you don't love the subject that you are studying.
My parents don't really care what university I go but I want to go to a good university
YES EXACTLY WHAT I WAS THINKING
I wanted to play the piano
but nope
not enough $
I think if she had gotten 800 they would have been like why not 900?
@@andrewtaylor2430 it did
@@andrewtaylor2430 r/woooosh
Andrew Taylor it’s called a joke.....
Like the other comments saying, why %100? Why no get %150?
Lucy Nguyen I bet if she got 900 they would be like “U need to get da 1929847573929299494 dumb child”
900 why not 9000
It's true that all Children deserve parents but not all parents deserve children
"I hope you will yell at yourself."
wtf...that dad dosnt know how teens work.
wow - shits real 😂😭
that's my parents as well but indirectly
i cracked when he said that , lmao...and myself is Asian
it would be nice to be in a world where teens could let be free to go fish, play basket or soccer as they wish and then when they are 20-25 just give to them a desk where they can do a job and raise several Ks to buy a fancy house and feed a family with 5 kids that will live the same way.
But unfortunately we don't live in such a world.
Unfortunately what a person needs in their 20ies is that his parents took good care of them when they were younger and hot-headed.
puffolotti you can have fun and also buy a good house at the same time you know, you have to find some balance there, besides, just studying school works alone really isnt healthy to their mind, i say parents should help kids find and explore what they truly love and good at, its easier to be successful that way too. you dont want kids to grow up and wishing that they had a good childhood/teenage because iit would be too fking late...
WTF 770 is fucking damn near perfect
Yeah, but according to these parents, near perfect=complete failure.
May be but they robbed their child of a childhood by making her learn math and crap at 4 she needs that age to play and have fun
I'm from australia so can you explain to me like whats an average and like whats it out of. Idk any of this shit, we don't have the SAT's
420PhanIt
i'm also australian and i just spent some time looking into it
there's an old PDF here that looks at converting SAT scores to UAI: davidpratten.com/wp-content/uploads/2006/10/SAT1%20Assessment%20Schedule%202006-Sep-15.pdf
apparently you can ask the UAC for a copy of the "Common Assessment Schedules for converting SAT and AP scores to their equivalent ATAR" but there's nothing online that i could find and this whole "old SAT vs new SAT" shit is mindfucking me so hard, i can't find anything to do with 770, in fact, everything i've come across says that 840 (or 1200 depending on the SAT test?) is a mark that the lowest 25% would get in the SAT's but this is literally 10 mins of research at almost 3am in the morning
the most common answer seems that there isn't a logical approach to it as most people can't figure it out so honestly it's probably not even worth considering unless you care enough to call the UAC up but they are a bunch of cunts
Lol ikr, a 770 in literature is like a 35 on act english!?
As a Japanese who was born and raised in Kyoto in the most traditional way, these american asian kids have it SO easy.
My parents were 10 times stricter and harsher on me. I didn't have more than 3 hours of sleep a day from age 12 to age 18. I studied 18 hours a day then had to go to martial arts lessons. If i had complained even once my parents would have kicked me out of the house at 15 years old and told me to manage by myself and i would have never seen them again.
And i am a man i had it easy, because girls had to study twice harder because their mothers wanted them to succeed while their father told them that all they needed to do was marry a rich man and have kids (and become slaves of their mother in law). Plus girls on top of studying constantly had to also take care of everything in the house, cleaning, cooking washing up, laundry, and on top of that piano and violin lessons, and in even stricter Japanese families had to learn the tea ceremony, incense ceremony, flowers arranging, calligraphy, etc, ...
For me, the lives of these american asian kids feels like a spa. And i should not even complain, at least i am Japanese, if i were Korean, it would be even harder, because there the pressure is twice harder than Japan and the parents also starve the girls to death and send them to plastic surgeon to make sure they look like models, and boy are expected to look like GI Joes (which eventually completely destroys their self-esteem).
Asian parents are insanely toxic and the most toxic thing of all is that love that parents have for their kids is not unconditional, you have to deserve it and earn it twith straight A's and impeccable behaviour and when you fail they will scold you and make you feel like you have shamed the entire family since the first ancestor and for generations to come and will tell you that they curse the day you were born, that you are worthless and useless and cost them only worries and money.
In the west if a western kid bring home 9 A's and on B the parents will be thrilled and overjoyed and will maybe even get a present for the kid, when i did this, my parents scold me for 3 hours for not getting 10 A's and sent me to my room to study for a full month and brought food to my room, and i was only allowed to leave it to use the toilets, bathe or go to school. And the door was constantly open so that my mother could check on me all the time.
When i am asked why the suicide rate of people between age 10 and 18 is so high in Japan, i always answer that my only surprise is that it is not higher.
18 hours????? Are they insane??????????
@@noshitsherlock9709 Nope that was the norm for every one in those days and when everybody does the same thing, then it can't be called insanity anymore !
It is crazy how different our cultural backgrounds can be. Im a caucasian American. My parents hardly raised me at all and gave no guidance and had no expectations for grades.
Simply put, im not very smart. I never have been. I dont grasp very basic concepts easily. Although I wish I had parents who have me more structure and cared about my success. I think I would have literally been abandoned if I grew up in a strict Asian household or I would have killed myself.
when you become successful leave them alone so they will regret abusing their child whos 100x smarter than them and 100xmore disciplined then them
I don't know what to say. My parents are 109282810x better than this. Like seriously. They were disappointed in me at times. But that's it. They never intentionally put pressure on me. I'm sure you must feel like I'm in heaven. Sorry for you bro.
The problem here is focusing too much on grades makes other aspects of your applications weaker. But these are expectations colleges themselves place on asian applicants. URMs have it easy when it comes to colleges.
"You can't argue with a stubborn Chinese man."
Roasted
I am Asian and my parents do not force me to study everytime.
Batukhan Kipçakoğlu fr
Batukhan Kipçakoğlu for real. And they didn't even want me to go to those " tops colleges ". I was jokingly said " i'll become a doctor in the future " and my dad said " no! It's hard and really tiring "
Lemon Juice lol same I would joke around like that with my mom and she would be like nah what you saying you suck at math, science, and english there is no hope of you getting a high paid job
If my parents did this to me I'd be depressed. I feel bad for these kids, all they want is some free time.
Yeah most Asian kids ARE pretty depressed.
Little Cube k
Little Cube I have Asian parents but they’re not as strict as them! Kids to have time to themselves and to live their lives cause you only have one childhood!
I just play video games and eat and sleep and I'm still depressed
Bro this is my life right now if someone ask me how’s your childhood it what is childhood lol
as an asian son, i must say im so glad my parents aren't like this... i live in an upper middle class family, and obviously the expectations to be the top of the class will always be there, but my parents say their top priority for me is to do what i love. knowing that they will support me no matter what i do is what gives me motivation to study harder. i cant imagine how i would be if my asian parents were like the ones from the video
Lucky you man. I wish mine were like this.
“Everything else is lower class”
My goodness! Sophie’s dad is…something else smh
parents : next time, 500 atleast
also parents : 770 is not good
also the parents : 800 minimum
Wow, I’m Asian and I’m so glad my parents are not like that!! Yes, they do care about my grades and want me to do well in school, but all they care about is that they want me to be happy in life. They don’t care what job I have, what school I go to, etc. They want what’s best for me and also my siblings. I feel bad for them and I really hope they can find happiness in life and that what their parents can realize what they’ve done and become better people.
Grace Lieu You read I love yoo too
Kocoa Butter, YEP!! :)
That's all parents but they need to have a life as well
My parents are exactly like that too.
Same for my asian parents. They don't really care about my grades as long as they aren't a C or lower, or if I really tried my best. They only care about my health and happiness
I think it is important to let their kids pick what career they want to follow with guidance of course. But still leaving the path entirely to them. That’s what my mom did for me. When I was younger I wanted to be an art teacher and my mom said ok. Then I wanted to be an author and she said ok I’ll support you. Then I said I wanted to be a cop. Through all of that she supported me, and I always really appreciated her for that.
As a person who born and live in asia, a lot of asian parents just care about their pride and external validation
Also Asian Parents are literally fvcking selfish, inconsiderate and ignorant
^ FACTS.
He thinks UCLA is lower class?! That’s my dream college!!
RIGHT, its mine too :D I live in Cali so its also conveintent but the campus and everything else just makes me want to go!. I hope they accept me. (I have three years left of highschool) and I hope they accept you whenever you apply.
@-_*SlickySlickDo* _- Its a religion.
Back in his day college admissions weren’t as competitive
Socializing her to look down upon Rutgers. Gtfoh
In 2010, UCLA wasn't nearly as reputable as it is now. As of 2019, the acceptance rate is around 11% which nears less competitive ivy leagues.
It broke my heart when that girl didn't get into any of the colleges her parents were pushing her to go to, and she said "I'm not special enough"
I understand that these parents are wanting the best for their children. But this obviously isn't good for their mental health. These parents I think forget that these kids have emotions, and they feel and think things, based of their parents approval, because she knows her parents are probably dissappointed in her that she didn't get into these schools. She thinks shes not special enough. Her parents need to drop the pridefulness, go in there and hug their child. If what they say is true, that girl went off and got caught smoking weed when she got into another college, I really don't blame her.
mya619 its Asian tradition and culture that's the way it is.
And a lot of people die from this system in China, Japan and South Korea and suicide is normal there for young age.
***** It's apart of their society I understand that. I understand that students in a lot of these asian countries have a high suicide rate. It's just crazy to put that much pressure on the human brain like that. You can never have too much knowledge, but mental abuse is never okay, that stays with people forever. South Korea is actually one of the most top rated countries where students commit suicide. That's why there's such a high demand in becoming kpop stars in Korea, if they feel like they have talent and attractive, they can have a shot at becoming a kpop star, where they won't have to have all the pressure of the school system and their parents constantly pushing them.
mya619 The main reason I think is because the parents looking up to some other kids. Could be a relative, friend our college kids.
Since they think wow he/she gets straight A you can do it to!
NO the world doesn't work that way because not EVERYONE can get straight A, but Asian parents are to stubborn to understand and wont except this reality.
Many Americans go to Harvard our Yale and at the same time they staying happy and have a social life.
There is more then one way to succeed in life and I believe a lot of the Americans have that succeed. Americans ARE very good with motivation compared to the Asian parents.
***** Well I agree and disagree. Most Americans who are Ivy league students, have been pressured by their parents. But we just have a different method. Yes there is harsh studying, restrictions on a lot of things during childhood, and shelteredness. That's why when these kids go to these colleges, they want to party, smoke weed, and do other things that their parents forbid them to do when they were growing up. That's why they seem happy when they go to college. But alot of american parents aren't going to be as mentally abusive like a lot of asian parents.
You will hear more support like "You can do it." "Do your best." " You'll get better text time." Those are the things I don't think a lot of Asian parents say to their kids. They expect their kids to get good grades as if it's like brushing their teeth or taking a shower. "You're suppose to get nothing but A's in all your classes. Why should I praise you for that?"
I think what the flaw is, is rewarding your child to make them feel good that they accomplished something. But I'm not Asian, so I don't want to step over my line on what they should and shouldn't do.
mya619 You make up a good point.
I am Asian Chinese so I know this from my own parents and other relatives and friends.
The things you said that American parents they applaud their kids, motivates them and also encouraging them to work hard.
Asian parents are very abuse specially psychological abuse.
When you get straight A there almost never any good job our present because in their eyes getting A in every class is like breathing.
American parents push their kids, but not the same way Asians do.
The only time Asian parents realize when they gone to far is when their children s commits suicide. And that is way to late and I don't feel sorry for those parents they got what they deserved I feel sorry for their kids who died very young.
I think this was also one of the things that really fucked me up as well. My parents expected me to do SO WELL that my grades actually started to slip. I hated it, I damn near went into a spiral of depression and lack of motivation and loathing myself. It wasn't until I moved away from my family that I learned that not everything is all based on grades. Right now, I'm going to my dream college, I've got a whole lot of connections and I'm excited to see where the future leads me.
I'm lucky to say that my parents always support me even when I fail. This pandemic was really challenging to me especially i don't know how to use gadgets that much. When the time comes where it was giving of grades, I was shocked to see a 75 grade in one of my subject. I cried because I was so scared since it was my first time to have that low in my card. I cried so much and trying to figure out how to tell it to my parents. Then my father entered and saw me crying. He saw my card and I told him I'm sorry for that grade. He just hug me and told me he was proud of me. He said he didn't care about the grade because he always see that I was working hard for my studies. And that is enough for him. My mom also told me that every one fails in one point in their life but she told me that they will always be there for me. I'm so lucky to have them.
Kid “mom I got stung by a bee” mom why you not stung by A”
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Brilliant .🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
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Stealing this and posting on another vid
These parents are delusional. These schools look at extracurricular activities, job experience, community service, letters of rec etc. GPA and test scores is at the bottom of the list now a days. The schools also accept various GPA since we’ve already seen someone with a 3.7 rejected and there’s been cases when someone with a 3.4 gets accepted. It all depends on whether your application stands out in various sections.
I'm sorry, but GPA And Standardized Testing are STILL the primary way to weed out applicants in extremely selective schools. Just take a look at the 25th percentile math section score for the SAT for MIT students. It's 790. Which means 75% or more people who attend MIT have an SAT math score of 790+
Sure extracurriculars matter, but grades are still the most prominent factor in your college application, unless you created and insane invention that helped the world. The fact of the matter is that the kids in this video just didn't have good enough scores to even be average at IVY league colleges
grades doesnt matter just attitude and discipline
and you have a brain think
GPA (and test scores to a lesser extent) is the minimum to get in now. Top universities are now looking for students with good stats, but also have ECs, job experience, and essays that stand out. 3.7 unweighted GPA is now considered on the low end, and top schools will need either extenuating circumstances or outstanding extracurriculars (for example being nationally recognized in a competition) to compensate.
@@aarohgokhale8832Most of these schools are now test optional, so this matters even less. Sure no one is going to get into the Ivy league with abysmal grades, but the reason why you can see a 4.0 GPA get reject, and a 3.5 GPA get accepted is because they don't just rely on academic accomplishments. They want well rounded individuals.
@@piscesgroovesupreme GPA is a minimum though. You can still look at the grade distribution for non legacy college applicants and there is a clear pattern. Grades allow you to be considered at the very minimum. Getting into an ivy with a 3.5 is not the norm.
Every child deserves a parent, but not every person deserves a child.
^ Sophie’s dad
@@WaywardFanboy Oh, you cannot imagine how much I wish! If I had a daughter, I would make sure she would grow up with tons of love and support to do whatever she wanted to do with her life. 😊
@@godnyx117just hearing you say that makes me believe that you’ll be an amazing parent one day! :D
@@WaywardFanboy Thank you for saying that! It really makes my day! What about you? Do you want to share your plants?
@@godnyx117sharing my plants?
B's make honey, A's make money
thx im gonnA use that phrase from now on
I dislike how her mom keeps comparing her to her brother
comparing siblings is honestly one of the worst ways to be a parent tbh
Jasmine Love Ha its funny you say that because that's 99% guaranteed to happen in every Asian family.
Jasmine Love eh when you have a twin people compare you to everything
Like my parents don’t compare every single thing me and my brother do
michael a sav tho
If sophies parents let her do extracurriculars she might have been accepted because colleges especially ivy league ones look at that, the schools dont just want robots, im not saying scores arent important but extracurriculars help
Nah, most people who even apply to Harvard Princeton Yale have full score acts and full scores on 3-4 SAT subjects tests. For Asians, that's practically expected for any applicant. You need extracurriculars and leadership on top of that. Even non hyp like Penn, Dartmouth, Cornell, and Brown have like a 2-3% acceptance rate for Asians, and most of them applying will have full scores. It's crazy.
Maybe for Harvard but Ik plenty of Asians who still get into Cornel and Dartmouth just because they had great GPA and a good essay
Arctic Zombie nah lol I’m asian as hell too. In asia it’s pretty normal that students do no extra curricular and mainly focus on exam scores. I remember at my my high school(USA), the seledectorian wrote a long ass Facebook post on how he was depressed af since he didn’t get into Stanford and only focused his GPA. He blamed not doing any extra curricular and his obsession to his school rank. He ended up going to Cornell. Other stories like this were not uncommon in my school.
I'm getting depressed watching this. My immigrant parents never fit the stereotypes of a typical immigrant parent. They didn't pressure me, they made me love learning and as long as I got an education they'd be happy wherever I went. They actually encouraged me to go to a good community college so that I wasn't stressed lol. They made sure that I had fun in my teenage years. I ended up going to Princeton and no I didn't have perfect scores or so many APs, I had my ups and downs, didn't do 1000 ecas. I was just passionate about one thing and I focused on that.
And what was that one thing?
my dad is a foreigner but nothing like them. I am currently attending a very prestigious school, and have maintained a 4.0, but have never felt pressure from any of my parents to succeed. watching videos like these make me feel so blessed.
Lmao this guy thinks that Duke, Stanford and MIT are “lower class”
Duke is pretty trash, though. Stanford and MIT are much more reputable and aren't filled with snobby, overly pretentious white kids.
FireNinja606 tbh every prestigious college in the US is filled with snobby white kids, majority are mostly, if not, all white. I know because I go to UPENN.
also lmao MIT is pretty much the top uni in the world right now
@@timbat5324 *Jewish
@@zoeguan9941 you mean Princeton right? MIT is the top tech university in the world, not THE top university in the world.
Being honest, if my parents were like this I would run away.
same
I wish if it was that easy to escape, unfortunately there is nowhere to run.
Honestly, I don't know if I would want Asian parents, but I wish I had parents growing up who would've believed in me and pushed me a little more.
It's not certain you would make money off of video games, and i understand completely how the parents think. Asian parents come to America living a hard life. Taxes cost a lot. College costs more here than anywhere else in the world. People said America was the land of opportunity, it turned out to not be much better here. But they don't want their kids to live like they did, so they work hard, have their kids study hard, and have them go to a good school so they can make money and be happy in life.
J Ho but depriving them from things they want to do is just horrible. They should be outside, hanging with friends, or something they want to do. Obviously they should still work hard in school but there should be a balance. Are the parents really gonna waste their kids childhood? Like someone is gonna ask them one day when they're older and be like "man don't you ever just wanna go back to your childhood" they're gonna say fuck that shit cause all they did was study. I'm savouring my childhood for as long as I can because I only have a couple years till I'm an adult.
I hate it when parent try to live through their kids
^ And then use them to brag to their friends in order to feel good about themselves
They reminded me of myself when I studied in my home country for seven years. Everything even ur future is based on how well u did academically. I was at school from 6 am to 5 pm and then when I get home I eat, do my hw, and sleep. That was my whole routine five days a week for seven years. On the weekends I catch up on some sleep and cry a little
bit.
How unbelievably SAD! These kids are so hard working yet its never enough for their parents! This is why the suicide rate in South Korea and Japan is so high, Asian parents drive their kids to death. The girl who got into Yale looked more relieved then happy because she knew her parents would lay off her! I felt so sad for the girl who got 760's on both her tests and all her dad could say was "it should have been 800" un fucking believable!
LOL the parents in this vid were totally un fucking reasonable like wtf, I wanna see them try to get a fucking perfect score on the SATS
China is climbing up the stares on the suicide rate.
I know. Even in America, in most states out west, hard-working kids are like trash to the education system. My cousin in LA gets so stressed out from trying and it's never enough. Even I go through it sometimes. This is why I DO NOT TAKE STAIRS CUZ I NEED TO KEEP ENERGY FOR OTHER CLASSES I take the elevaida since I do it to destress myself.
I'm not going to say anything about it but it's the reason teens are exponentially more stressed than adults nowadays.
*she always tells her friends and relatives I'm never satisfies with her*
"I'm proud of you"
YEA ONLY AFTER SHE GOT ACCEPTED INTO A HIGH UNIVERSITY
xoxo xoxo fr that’s also what I said lol
That's so sad :( that's probably the only time she feels loved by her mother
For everyone who needs to hear this now .. NO MARKS DO NOT MAKE YOUR SELF WORTH .. NO FULL MARKS ARE NOT SUCCESS .. YES YOU DESERVE FREE TIME YOU DESERVE TO BE HAPPY .. YES YOU ARE STILL WORTHY EVEN IF YOU FAILED YOUR LAST EXAM .. AND YES I SUPPORT YOU :D
I also worked for an Asian (Chinese woman) and her son was so sick of her pressure he told me he wished his mom was dead: that shocked me.
She was awful though
*there is a difference between being truly smart vs. being forced to study for a particular exam to get the particular grade. the person who makes the video game always makes more money than the best player playing the game.*
Chris USA Damn dude!!!
You are Awesome!!!!!
Chris USA my classmate who game is all top scorer
Ninja thoooo
Chris USA, what you wrote is rather stupid.
"the person who makes the video game always makes more money than the best player playing the game."
Firstly, this is false equivalency.
"there is a difference between being truly smart vs. being forced to study for a particular exam to get the particular grade"
Secondly, this attitude encourages the glorification of unearned natural talent, while scoffing at hard work and perseverance.
Aadi Saha but epic games is making billions
I really want asian parents to go through the education and tests with us, then judge our academic achievement
except they did go through the same crap, except they didn't have access to the internet which helps us much more. Our parents had it way harder.
Me: I want to be an Actor
Parents: you need to study maths first
This really hit me hard. I had a short breakdown just a few minutes in the video. My mom had never been too strict with my grades before college. But, she had always wanted me to follow her footsteps and become a nurse. The thing is, my parents have often told me that I didn’t have the brightest of minds and that my little brother was smarter than me. Yet, my parents are forcing me to be a nurse. I’m so afraid to speak up and say that I don’t want to be what they’re envisioning me to be.
Don't break down. After highschool, you can study whatever you want. There are so many other fine proffesions out there. Don't let them force you into a lifetime of "I wish I had not fallen into my mothers pressure to work this shitty job." You will be living the life of regret if you listen to them. Don't.
@@lampyrisnoctiluca9904 Thanks! It’s okay though. My mom is also a nurse and she only works 3 days a week. When I fulfill my mom’s wish of becoming a nurse, I can finally pursue everything I want to do. I just have to suck it up for now.
@@abbasturd I wish you luck.
@@lampyrisnoctiluca9904 😊 Thank you!
i got a 790, my parent's reaction? why not 800?
we're Asian....not Bsian or Csian for a reason.
that's a good one
oof. 😂 I felt that.
Us asian have it hard mann even if my parents dont pressurise me i still care about my education
Than Africans and Arabic also Americans should be straight stressful ass A
So original 😂