Every Person Is One Choice Away From Everything Changing
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when i'm in a dilemma and i cannot choose, i flip a coin, and before i look at the result, i think to myself, "what did i hope it would land on while i watched it flip in the air?" and that's my decision.
same works everytime
Yep. Works every time
Thanks for the tip
I do a very similar thing... I ask someone else to tell me what they think... And whatever i wish they would say before they say it i do
Pretty pointless coin toss then innit
And suddenly, Carl awoke, sitting drunkenly at the bench he had sat in years before, realizing he was robbed
By the old man
@@RicardoRodrigues3 no, he is the old man
😂
Oh I get it XD
HAHAHAHAHAHAHA
One of the hardest things I've had to deal with in growing older is the reality that there are thousands of lives I could live but I'll only ever live one.
Everything everywhere all at once movie did that thing miraculously!
@@ivapolovic5488 “So, even though you have broken my heart yet again, I wanted to say, in another life, I would have really liked just doing laundry and taxes with you.” 😢
It truly is. Ive managed to sabotage my life to some degree and rather would not look into the past and think about all those possibilities of "ive could have been x, y or z" and move on with life, yet, i really dont know what i want to do with my life in the future either. I kind of feel like no matter which path i take im going to have regrets, so its hard to make any sort of decision whatsoever. Yet, i kind of feel like im definately forced to make some sort of game move, since if i spend my whole life wondering on what i should do and never progress in any direction, i think would regret that the most.
There's just this omnious feeling of me looking back one day realising i should have took another path.
That's deep!!
Well..until you decide to change ypur your path, you'll only live the life you've chosen earlier.
“Whichever you choose, there’s always something there to love and to dread”
Life changing quote
Answered so many questions in my mind with that just one mere quote
When I was at the lowest point of my life my father said this to me :
"We don't make right choices.
We make choices and prove them right."
Well done, dad. Amen
But the pain, loneliness and boredom remain.
Or wrong.
Tell that to a dead heroin user or a death row inmate or impatient driver etc etc, people make bad decisions everyday that end their lives or cause suffering and misery to others, big part of human history isn't it.
"We don't make right choices.
We make choices and prove them right." - Sujata Rai's husband
Its funny how every decision you’ve made in life led you to my comment
It's funny how every decision you've made in your life lead you to reading my reply.
haha XD
Damn
@@supercomputer0448 it is funny how every decision today, led me to waste my time answering you at 01.40 am. Beep boop beep.
This is the only meaningful thing in my life
The older I get the more I realize that there is no "right path." There's no guarantee that everything will work out. You're still going to run into new problems regardless of what you choose. So just do what feels right to you. The most important thing is that you made the choice yourself. Every single time I made a choice based on another's opinion or was meant to please another, rather than aligning to my core, I always ended up regretting it.
“There is no right or wrong path, there is only the path you choose”
I am stuck in a choice of having a secure and bright future with a man i am not attracted to.. He is a good man but I don't feel any connection. Hes getting home and hes expecting us to get married nextmonth. And I'm thorn between finding myself or choose the secured life.. Hate it but I'm being pressured.. Help.. I want some other perspective to look into my situation. Thank you in advance.
@@thefunkypet9402 hello, hope you are fine, I pray to God to help and guide you, for me (I am the old man, you have to choose by yourself don't take it too serious bcz this is ur life) why you are pressured? What is the thing that makes you pressured? Breath, relax and think well to answer, do you think you worth it? (This relationship), what are your perspectives in life, have u ever imagined your future life like that with someone you are not connected to , idk for me, find yourself first, and love urself then the love of your life will come immediately, perhaps by choosing marriage now you will feel the boredem in your relation, so think twice and be honest with youself and with him... I wish u the best peace..
@@thefunkypet9402well, I’m a month too late, but I’m a woman with life experience and have suffered many losses. So I will tell you what I would do if I had to do it over again. First thing, know yourself. Do as many personality profile tests as you can. The Myers Briggs is a great one and gives you fabulous self insight. See if you can figure out his type too. Second thing, cultivate intimacy with your inner self. Listen to your instincts throughout the day. The connection will grow stronger. Ask yourself, does this person share the same core moral values I do? And does he value the same things (to a degree) that I do. Are we going in the same direction? And do I respect him? If these are in alignment, you will fall in love over time. Because no one gives us happiness. We experience happiness by the sum of our tiny choices in our daily lives and the freedom of our beliefs. Hope that helps. ❤
Yes! I totally agree when you write "Every single time I made a choice based on another's opinion or was meant to please another, rather than aligning to my core, I always ended up regretting it."
Someone once told me ”it’s better to do something and regret it than not to do something and regret it“
is that true....... i wonder :(((( /really kind of regret a decition and still wondering what i shoud do
@@editboris Don’t regret buddy.. every mistake we’ve made has to happen in order for us to learn. We are not computers that can compute every outcome. We are human, and our brains can only do so much of that, not to mention inaccurately most of the time. Plus, as I said, you had to make that choice in order to learn a lesson that could prove valuable in the future. Imagine for example.. a man starts a small business with his entire life savings. He makes one wrong choice and the business goes bankrupt. He’s broke, he’s sad, and has nothing left. He could have been making a few thousand in profits a month. He spends the next few months working a job he hates, regretting that once choice he made, but then one of his old employees offers him a job somewhere else. Through conversation and meeting people, the man embarrassedly tells an investor about his failed business venture, and how he had plans for other businesses in the future. The investor likes the bigger plans and now gives the man a fortune to invest and try again, this time with a bigger fund than ever. The man comes to a point in the business where he’s gotta make another important choice, and this time because he failed in the past, he has learnt to not make the same mistakes. He goes about it correctly, and in some time his business is bringing in six figure profits per month. If he hadn’t made the wrong choices in the past, he would have squandered that investment and lost it all. He went through failure and made a choice he regretted, but in the end, that choice did him a lot more good than if he had chosen the alternative. Instead of a few thousand per month, he’s making hundreds of thousands in profits all thanks to his mistakes.
It was said by the Butthole Surfers.
Idk...
So is this applicable to a person murdering someone and regretting it?
"Successful people don't make the right choice. They make their choice right."
I Know, Right?😊
Cringe
Bruh that quote was not even in the video, and if that is so then why is it that sooo many successful people are depressed or have a lot of problems a normal person wound not have? There is still going to be a downside to your discussion.
O O if they’re depressed then they’re not really successful? Depends whether your definition of success is financial stability and a high ranking career, or happiness and satisfaction in life.
I understand that probably came off like some lame Instagram quote lol, but "Successful" doesn't mean success in the modern sense (I.e. Financial, career, impact). It means to embrace and make the most of a situation and find happiness through it all. In this video's case, Carl is damned if does and damned if he doesn't - so since his course of action doesn't guarantee his happiness, it's not on his decision, but on his willingness to accept/embrace his decision voluntarily is the "success".
'Karl went on a walk around a city by himself moderately drunk , he walked down the edge of the city along the harbour ..................................................'
- Ah shit , here we go again
It's strange how he didn't realize the same old man three times
Ryan Fong it was supposed to be almost a dream or just a small look into the future, which is why despite Carl “aging” twice; he is still young at the end. It’s very much open to interpretation though on how he got those insights. So he didn’t actually see the old man three times
@@jasminelouise6100 ok
I didn't get this at first but 😂😂😂😂
@@jasminelouise6100 Personally, I think he did see the man three times. His time kinda loops when he sits at the bench and closes his eyes
At age 64, I look back and I can see that life has often been like driving through a large town, without a map, and randomly choosing when I turned left, right, continued straight, or even made a u-turn. And how different it would have been, if I had just made even the tiniest decisions differently along the way.
All of our lives are interconnected in ways we cannot even fathom. The death of just one of us can have domino effects that spread out across the world.
It’s quite a total mind-phq, if you stop and think about it.
damn
This is life . No matter the choices we make there are always regrets. For me, I would rather regret missed financial opportunities than regret not spending time with my friends and family while we are all still here and healthy on this earth together.
I just want to gently suggest that it is also possible for there to be no regrets, no matter the choice.
@scrubfive I completely agree with you. Money comes and goes…it is those special people in our lives that really matter,
But sometimes something just drives you elsewhere. A passion, a relationship. The things and people you love are sometimes not in the same place and you have to make a decision.
Yes, friends and family sound great. But your family is in one place and your lifelong best friend is in another. Do you choose the family you were born into? Or the family you chose?
If you’ve found your way here, i hope you’re doing alright.
thanks man
thank you ma man hope ur alright to
I am consumed by existencial dread
@@LarsMartinGihle Me too
Can we just talk about how Carl single handedly made Novak's business fail.
😂
lmao xD
😂😂😂😂😂
😂😂😂😂
You didn't get it. The substitute for Carl that Novak chose turned out to be rather intelligent and helped the business out when things got difficult. Carl was no worse than any other partner in the business. But in the alternate timeline, Carl's substitute was much smarter.
The business was never likely to succeed - because, statistically, businesses ARE difficult. You just get lucky.
This is like a much longer, more artistic version of the famous quote by Søren Kierkegaard: "Marry, and you'll regret it. Don't marry, you will also regret it. Marry or don't marry, you'll regret it either way." I love this video.
Kierkegaard sucked.
Can't remember the author of this poem:
When you're a spinster of 40
You're reduced to considering bids
From husbands inclined to be naughty
Or divorcees obsessed with their kids.
So perhaps you should wed in a hurry
But that has its drawbacks as well
The answer? There's no need to worry
Whatever you do life is hell
At 27 Carl felt an urge to leave home and forge a life for himself “while he was still young.”
Sigh, it’s this kind of thinking that sucks all hope away for those who are older, like every risk you take has to be when you’re young.
I’m 49, I don’t see myself as old, and I made a radical, life changing decision over a year ago.
I’m currently selling everything I have, 25 years worth of my life, and I will soon be moving across the country and starting a new life. I am pursuing a dream and I left a relationship of 14 years that, though financially secure, was toxic. Being yelled at every day by a man who saw the worst in me was not the life I had envisioned for myself.
I am teaching myself 2 other languages and preparing to go back to school and train for a new career.
It is NEVER too late, you can always take risks and make radical changes and you don’t have to be “young” to do it (although people older than me applaud me for my move saying I’m “still young enough” to make such a change, and that makes me sad; it shows this attitude that youth is a requirement of change is one held by all age groups).
I have my whole life ahead of me, I have zero regrets and I can’t wait to start a happier and more prosperous life with my 2 dogs on the east coast.
Yes, it was a little more complex - I owned a home with my ex and couldn’t just hop in a car and leave, I had to wait to get bought out for my half of the house, plus I had decades of accumulated stuff I had to part with. I’m leaving with my dogs and whatever belongings will fit into my car, that’s it. It has been freeing to sell, donate, recycle and throw away decades of unnecessary purchases. The only things I am taking with me will fit into my small car. I’m also letting go of friendships with those who don’t encourage and support me. You really find out who your true friends are when you make a major change in your life.
You can always make radical, positive changes, at any age, as long as you have your mind and your dreams. Don’t stay in that secure but horrible relationship with someone who no longer loves you, treasures you or gets you, don’t stay in that high paying but stressful job. You can change at any age.
At 72, 28 years after becoming a paraplegic and initially spending a year in physical therapy to be able to walk with crutches, I got on a plane and flew to a country on the other side of the planet which I had never been to. For me, it wasn't much effort to give up my settled life in the US to finish my years in the Philippines. I got on that plane enthusiastically with absolutely no hesitation and I have been here for six years now. I don't expect to ever go back. Life is life, but don't forget the element of adventure and meeting new people. I am happy now in the tropical sun in my second life, riding my small motorcycle around every day. "Dare to do it" is my advice!
Your story is very inspiring. Hope you are still happy with your decision!
thank you for sharing.
I think that “while we are still young” is now just a colloquial phrase we use to say “while we are open to change/before we get rooted down”
It’s my personal opinion that if you want and accept your life changing without regret, then you can do it.
It’s fatalistic to think that it’s only in youth, but i think the point is we refer to youth as “youth” because it’s a position where they are free’er than us.
I’d consider you more youthful than myself who is approaching closer and closer to 30. Why? Because i can’t see a deep enough want to change myself out of my position.
So you’ve got this bruh ❤️
You are so perceptive and right! I like your open minded perspective around age and change. You've made a courageous decision that must have been tough in many ways but you carried on anyway. It sounds like an exciting beginning to a new chapter in your life that will bring adventure and joy. I wish you the very best on your new journey. Joe (51!) UK.
Carl then moved the DMT pipe away from his face.
lmao
Lmaoooooooo, i died
im dead
Lol.
😂 😂 💀
For being only 20 minutes, this video felt like an hour.
Brilliant.
watched while mindlessly playing games, it works
Yeah, pretty boring.
Felt like 2 lifetimes to me.
@@3lit3gn0m3 dang. That's a good one
@@3lit3gn0m3 Lol nice one
This video made me feel weirdly comfortable to be living my own life, just thinking about the amazing uniqueness of your life, meaning no one could live it exactly like you, and no one could ever have the exact same experiences..
When I was in my senior year, I decided to ask a bunch of people what career would be right for me. I needed guidance. They all gave me answers based on their life and their choices, they claimed I would be a good fit, disregarding my passions and dreams. I realized then that no one could make such a decision for me, despite their advices, I followed a completely different route. I am happy that I did but we need to understand that choosing one option over the other is not the end. I still make many choices and direct my course according to my values. There is never an end point to reach. Set sail and direct your course as the wind blows. Because that’s all one can do.
i am a humanities student and i freezed my seat at a university for bballb( business subjects +law) and now i feel like i shouldn’t have. i hope it wouldn’t be a torture to my brain in the upcoming year in which i have to study these subjects i’m not even a bit familiar too. i should have waited to get ballb(humanities subjects +law). i don’t know why i complicate my life so much when the easy path could also lead to the same outcome. i freezed my seat thinking subjects like maths, accounting, finance and management would help my brain foster and increase my problem solving and critical thinking abilities which i consider i don’t have much now but who cares bro i have to complete my degree with the subjects i like and score A+ in and the worst part is i can’t unfreeze. i feel like i complicate things when i don’t even intend to but i also believe that i opted for bba llb because i felt like in subjects like political science and sociology i can score 100/100 but i don’t see myself enhancing and fostering that part of my brain which would help me perform at my greatest potential in the corporate sector which i plan on to go in later. i have always put grades over knowledge and i wanted to change that. so i don’t know if i did the right thing or not
@@arukshitadeswal Hey! It seems to me you have made a choice based on a set of values you have. It doesn't have to be right or wrong. Maybe you could reach the same outcome with both degrees but you know yourself the best. If you feel like this choice will make you learn more and improve yourself, then go for it! Believe me, sometimes you might think another option would be easier but every option has its own challenges. You will beat them as they come, don't worry and focus on your growth which matters the most. I wish you all the best.
@@SirRegenerator thankyou so much
To the person so reading this, we don't know each other, probably never will. But I felt the need to tell you that we are going to okay. The problem you face right now is temporary, temporary because we all end the same way. New love and opportunity will present itself when you're ready for it. Keep yourself open to change. I know it hurts and the pain of your loss in completely unbearable but you're not alone. I feel it too, I'm going to be okay and so will you. Please take care of yourself. I love you.
❤️❤️❤️
You my kind commentor friend are a love-able and amazing person and deserve all the happiness you receive in this life. I hope you have a wonderful day and a wonderful life :)
Hey buddy how are you? Stranger here from Germany :)
Wow, it's weird, what I'm going through right now, your comment...fits? Works? I donno
...but it's uncanny.
Thank you brother. I wish you the same
I showed this to my little brother and he thought that the old man was his future self.
I thought that too..
Same!
I thought the same
I thought the same
same
What I took away from this: Its more important to be at peace with the choices we make than to toil over which choice was “right.” We'll never get it quite right. We'll never have enough information to make the best choice in every situation. We’re all destined to make bad choices…eventually. We always give up something when we take something else-one is not better than the other; they’re just different. In the end, it seems wisest to free yourself up to make as many different choices as you can, stay flexible, and keep moving.
This is exactly what I took from it. I feel like with a combination of a few different practices, such as right thought, right action from Buddhism, a bit of Taoism, and the idea that when faced with a fork on life's road, whichever path you take, even the one that appears more difficult and potentially like there's no way back, then it's the right decision. Also, inaction is action. The idea that we sit back and remove ourselves from the equation while being affected by it and not judging the effects seems totally alien to a lot of Western thought. Yet it's a freeing way to look at how not doing anything at all gives the universe room to make some of the damned decisions itself. It knows where it's going. So let it go there.
In situations like this, it helps to ask yourself “if I make this choice, and it ends up failing, will I still be glad I made it?” If the answer is yes, then you have your decision.
Decision making like this also depends on passion, and a lot of faith. Carl seems to lack that severely in both scenarios that played out, and only has the groundwork for it at the end. His friend offered him an opportunity. Not deciding is also a decision, and him not jumping on it after taking some time to reflect indicates he’s not that passionate about the idea to begin with. Ergo, he’s already made his decision.
Also, Carl is limiting his life into what’s possible and what’s not. Who says that’s the only opportunity for him to move to Australia? There could be a 3rd scenario where he rises high up enough in his company and asks to be transferred to Australia, and his wife is more open to it at that point. And his wife seeing him hang out with his best friend and their kids makes her change her mind and they start their own family. Boom, he gets everything he wanted then.
Right?
Also the option of moving to Australia in that moment was offered to him, meaning he didn't looked or searched for it.
I think maybe Carl was never really in control of his life.
Your first point is spot on!
@@MrCassett If you think about it, maybe it applies to all of us too? That we're molded by our surroundings to a large extent.
I guess the antidote would be frequent questioning of the status quo and not falling into compulsions.
Carl should have moved to Thailand and opened a 7-Eleven. Slipping the horns of the dilemma is usually the best path.
Literally all the point you made are good
"the possibilities are limited only by your imagination" -anyone who's ever done LSD
I guess not because of imagination instead because of consciousness of being present or thinking
@@Representing4II0I7 This ain't the imagination, it's visual thoughts.
@@Representing4II0I7 This ain't the imagination, it's visual thoughts.
Damnit, I am too afraid to do acid because of my traumatic history. I wish I had the balls.
@@mgal6234 do it when ure over 24 so u dont mess up your brain
It's crazy how detailed your stories are.
He’s a good writer, that’s for sure
wait so the stories aren't real?
Muntazir nigga they’re like dramas the Greeks used to do
@@yashdhikle4825 oooh ok
thats why his father magically comes back to life 5 weeks after he died. other than that loved the story
I am crying my eyes out... this is exactly what i am going through right now. i guess the reason why i keep on going back and forth in making the decision is that i am so desperate to make the right choice that will make me ultimately happy. I am scared that if i take on this amazing opportunity that entails me leaving everything behind even foregoing my responsibilities to my family, i would somehow still end up being miserable. I have been dreaming for so long of moving to another country that i make myself believe i will be content once i move out and live the way i want to. but as you grow older, you know that's not how life is. Perhaps i should stop romanticizing this path as the happily ever after route.
"no matter what path i go, there will always be something to love and there's always be something to dread." This is the real world.
Thank you so much for this :')
I am also making this decision but I have a lot of time to make it. I feel this video found me at the perfect time and even though it doesn’t tell you what decision to make, I feel I now know what one is more true to me. I hope your choice is going well and if it isn’t, you never know how bad the other option would have been.
I feel this way too. It’s overwhelming, but I find it’s best to meditate every now and then and try to get in touch with your inner child, and understand what it really is that you want. For you, regardless of how peoples opinions have shifted your judgements. And then when you’re done meditating, come back to where you are now, and compare what you desire to where your path has led you.. it should help give you some sense of direction, and hope
17 years ago, I did the same decision, I move to another country had a career, while the years passed by. One by one my family members I left passed away, some still alive and unwell. The nephews and niece I left behind, they're all grown up and I wasn't there to guide them along. Communications with siblings have soured mostly, and now I don't know If I should regret my decision on leaving, but here's what I do know - career is nothing, working for a company, in an office setting where you're getting paid well but you don't love the work, affects everything around you, including relationships.
This is too relatable
As a person that moved from the UK to Canada sherely and surely at the freedom to be my fullest self with utmost passion, never feel iit's too late. The choices and plans you're able to make to fulfil your dreams, can ultimately help in the success of that dream, considering unpredictable variables also. It's the faith that no matter what hurdles, you'll make it t:)
This reminds me of something someone said to me when I was a teenager trying to figure out a problem. I don't remember what the problem was. Or who said this to me. But I've never forgotten those words. They were "Wherever you go, there you are". I didn't understand it at first. But as I grew older I realized that no matter what decisions I made, I was still there. Time didn't stop for me. Problems didn't disappear. I was still there. Wherever 'there' was. I still ponder this from time to time. This video just brought that back to me.
"Do it or do not do it, you will regret both" - Søren Kierkegaard
Somehow this video reminds me of this quote.
Indeed, I think that's the heart of what they're getting at. The fact that choosing one option always means rejecting another leads us to feel regret for the potential joy sacrificed by not making the "right" choice. As with the the story though, I think it's important to realize that there is no "right" choice, only choices.
So dont regret amything
It's "Do or do not. There is no try".
It’s like damned if you do, or damned if you don’t, but you don’t get damned.
Reminds me of a quote from a character in a Mark Twain story, 'I never in all my life ever did anything, good or bad, that I didn't repent of in 24 hours'
Why does it feel like I’m watching a horror movie whenever the scene with the old man comes up?
Same, esp with the bgm lmao
Frikin three times
It’s the music. It gets creepy.
Lmao ikr
😭😭
I think it’s important to point out that the outcomes of either decision ALSO depend on the thousands of smaller choices made every day. I think those are the most important ones because no matter what the situation is, you always have the chance to pivot and make the most of the situation. We get too hung up on the big decisions and forget that we can change our lives through small decisions too
Agreed. The weird thing about the video, is that in each case, there are hundreds or thousands of decisions being made between what seem like "The Big Decisions" every single day. Those decisions, and how you view everyday life with the people around you, THAT is your life. I actually feel the video is about the opposite of what it appears to be about. The fork has many other forks and it can be endless, really, but a way of approaching life and how you react (or not, cause that's an option) to the results of either decision is what your life consists of. That approach arguably determines more of how you feel about every decision than the outcome of the decisions.
@@WoodsUlmannwell said
I always go back to this video whenever I'm having trouble choosing a major decision.
there is no wrong choice, everything is a life experience.
Well, he had two right situations to consider. He had to figure out which would be better.
Paedophilia is, I think, generally accepted to be a "wrong" choice, no?
@@swine13 generally accepted to be wrong yes. I don't think they compile a pros and cons of paedophilia though.
I hope not. If we can’t make wrong choices, how will we learn to make right ones?
I am not Sean Lock mood killer
Never take advice off people who don't have to live with the consequences
Therefore never take advice from anyone?
@@ella8764 nah but people who know what they are talking about
I wouldn’t say advice but definitely important choices that pertain to you
Take their advice and analyze how it can be useful to your situation, but don't make decisions solely based on that.
@@ella8764 That's not really the point, like he took advice from his dad because if he left his dad would still have consequences
It's important to know that every tiny decision you make affects the rest of your life. You won't even realize in the moment, so choose wisely.
That's actually not how it works. The true fact of the matter is that your decisions are limited by the decisions (and pocketbooks) of others. 💪😎✌️ Unless YOU are rich and powerful. Then, you can do whatever you like with very few consequences.
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@@Novastar.SaberCombat mmm… the butterfly effect effects all
You can't choose wisely, as said in the video, you want the right choice but you don't know which one will lead to the right one, eventually as shown in the video, both equally suck and both is equally nice, one, you get to do what you always wanted but there are sacrifice to be made and hardships to face, the other you get to live a comfy life but holy shit it's as boring as hell and the sight of someone choose a path you didn't and is happy about it makes it so fucking worse, in the end you can't have everything and regret or hardships are inevitable, maybe the better question for deciding is which option are you willing to put up with your life?
Knowledge is knowing which choice to make, Wisdom is knowing you never had a choice at all.
That’s not a good philosophy, it’s paralyzing. Make hard decisions, take risks, you can’t always know what is “wise” so don’t live with stress and regret
A choice made by another person for you will always be wrong. If you, yourself, make the wrong choice, your sense of responsibility can help you get out of it. But if you let others do it and it goes awry, it traps you in cycles of blame that ultimately locks you in a miserable life. Great video!
I am starting to think that the CZcams algorithm is trying to kill me.
Lol😂
😆 LOL....hopefully not.
This one was a bit too dreary..
Honesty me too. It's keeping me stuck in one spot
Or that I'm consciously and subconsciously speaking with a panopticon and cannot tell whether I'm being lead or leading myself to the videos that tell me things I have long felt and not been able to articulate.
Storytelling is the best technique to deliver any idea. Good job POW.
Exactly. Through one of these Videos u learn more for life than any "life coach" will ever be able to teach you.
I saw POW and my brain immediately went to prisoner of war, yikes.
@@Turtle828 same
Turtle I’m glad I’m not the only one who’s mind jumped there 😂
Turtle good thing that I wasn’t the only one
After two months of watching this, whenever I think about the tough decisions I'll have to make in the future, I recall this story and feel more confident and at ease. It has truly changed my perspective on that matter, and I am very thankful to whoever helped in making this.
This is beautiful,"there's no right choice".
Every person is one choice away from changing everything.
**anxiety has entered the chat**
nobody in particular ... yes I have endless choices to make even as I come to the age of 38. Choices that made me childless. Some choices seem fateful as if it wasn't meant to be. Other choices to stay when maybe I should leave. Waiting for others to change that will not change but wanting to be with them well wanting to be somewhere else with them. But they want to be where we are and not be somewhere else. Could get any degree I want paid for by the VA and which is the best degree to choose and how will it affect my needs and wants. Will I ever have a business of my own or work for somebody else. Will I get to work with kids and old people or will I find a new love interest and leave my wife. Or will I satisfy everything on my wife's honey doo list and never have any children of my own. Would it even be ethical to have children in a world of 7.8 billion people. To stay with the wife and not leave to wonder into the wilderness or move to a new country and learn to live off the land. Is it ethical to be driving a car on a road and typing on a computer or to own a smart phone and digital currency that use insane amounts of energy. It's not ethical. I know this. It's not ethical to have children. It's not ethical to use medicine. It's unethical to eat farmed foods and to domesticate animal. It's unethical to travel by any means besides our own feet. I know this ... the choice is there to walk away from the modern world and suffer to survive ... but then that is ethical. To live and die like a wild animal. It's the only pure form of living a moral life. The Life of a Human Being.
You can not fast travel while making decisions
Xanax enters chat and knocks out anxiety for a bit.
So now when you even make a simple choice like going to the bathroom before you leave, realize that could cause you to get into a fatal accident. Contemplate every little decision or die! 😈
@@jeramykennedy6813 lol!
I needed to hear this today.
Same here.
Same I don’t know how but this is exactly what I needed
Yup u are not alone
Same, and I'm really grateful
SAME
I remember I was going on a walk when I randomly decided to walk in a different street. That's when I saw someone I haven't seen in a very long time. After having a conversation with him, we both went our separate ways. I thought to myself while I was walking back home "If I didn't walk down that street, I wouldn't have had that conversation with him. I wonder how many conversations I've missed and people I didn't meet because of these small decisions I make. What if I didn't choose to go a different route? What did I miss out on when I changed routes? What are some other small decisions I made in life that had a big impact like that?"
There's also this scary thought that comes to my mind very often when I'm driving and someone's with me "By simply rotating this steering wheel, I can literally end my and this person's lives in a blink of an eye. Or we can have irreversible injuries. A lot of people will come to our funeral or to the hospital to visit us. So many lives will change forever if I decide right now to simply rotate the steering wheel."
Achieving your dream at the cost of everything is not worth it if you don’t have the people you love to share it with.
Very true. I have savings now, I have what I can call career, working in an office setting. But I'm not happy, and I want to live a life different from what I have now. My dad passed away, my mom is sickly, and I lost many years of precious moments with them. I wasted so much time, wasted my life moving overseas and working, and focusing on my career. Family is the priority.
"The child could not make a choice because he did not know what would happen, but now that he knows what will happen, he can not make a choice."
Mr Nobody
My favourite movie btw
odix glad someone else remembers this movie 💕
Great movie. A favourite. No doubt part of the inspiration for this video.
concept of free will is meaningless therefore we are committed to the belief that choice is an illusion
@@carnap355 control is a illusion. But at the same time it feels like we have it. So why should it matter that we don't actually have choice? It makes no difference if we have choice or don't have choice
This movie came into my mind the moment I read the title of this video.
I have literally been thinking about leaving everything behind and moving to Australia from denmark for the past few days. Who is spying on me?
Maybe it's a sign ?
@@demeta3201 ya, but at 18, its not going to be easy, and i will probably have some time pn the streets in the beginning
Gumball089 just remember that its your choice and that there is no wrong choice
Australia is a ruin. Denmark is a functional country.
@@whocares2087.1 Yeah, but i os a VERY small country, i cant get away from the people i know, i need a new start.
I'm currently living in Japan, and was given an opportunity to work at a university in Istanbul (a city I visited and really enjoyed). It literally took me two months to decide, but ultimately chose to stay here due to a variety of factors. I do questions if it was the right move, but then again, I'm sure I would have questioned it if I had decided to move.
Fantastic video. I wish I had discovered it two months ago.
i think about this often and it makes my brain hurt
I HAD SEVEAR CHILLS when the old man said that he would choose for him the second time
Bruuuuhhh riiiiiggghhhttt 😩😩😩 I was like wait wAit wahaaaaatt?
I had to sit up for that one!
I was like "wait did i just went back in the video by accident?"
@@Josuh me too
Life is a journey to be experienced, not a problem to be solved.
It is what is is. That for certain, perhaps, maybe.
@Caishen Salelius 6022 come on no its not
The problem is that the only thing to experience in life is suffering. Why would I want to keep going in this journey?
@@franacha I can only hope that you find some joy in your life, and that you keep looking. Best wishes.
Life is a journey of misery and suffering. This world is the true hell
I’m 42 and can go back and think about different decisions I made throughout my life. Some good, some dumb, some embarrassing at the time, and everything in between. Suffered through my own personal struggles like everyone else.
Then I come back to the present and my 3 month old baby boy is smiling at me and seems to think I’m a pretty funny guy. If some of that stuff led me to him then I wouldn’t change anything. Life Is certainly not easy. Sometimes it’s quite painful. My only advice I suppose is just hang in there. Try not to take yourself to seriously and just do your best. When you make mistakes just learn from them and give yourself a break and keep at it. Peace.
life is so easy ... we just continue to make it difficult not easy
@@UnlimitlesslyFunnyDude
I agree. For the most part we make it more difficult
@@tomd1434 its just our perception of feeling hard and easy,
things are not actually hard or easy they are just physical static/kinetic bodies
I've listened to this one many times. Played it to other people too. And everytime without fail for my self and for the person I'm introducing it to, are absolutely blown away by the story. The flow, timing and narration make it all that much better too
Thank you Persuit of Wonder
Every path is the right path. Everything could've been anything else. And it would have just as much meaning.
Mr nobody
There's no right. You prove your choices right.
Best movie
I also thought exactly of that Movie.
Do I
A.) Go in a murder spree
B.) Be a normal human
Option A is the right path
@@__Pre We all will...
1) Make genuine comment and interact with you
2) Ignore stupidity
Option 2 is the right path.
This channel can not be expressed by words
It can by numbers though 9.5/10
It can, there are subtitles...
@@cesarpitruzzello6022 you didn't understand my comment I guess
Ineffable
You just did explain it by words
I watch and follow a ton of philosophical, spiritual, historical, and universe/scientific channels and I have been in a constant search of answers. In a way, this video has brought me more comfort than I’ve had from any of the above in years. Thanks!
Before watching this video I was feeling really lost and weirdly insecure about myself. It really helped me change my perspective. Thank you xx
Carl is not happy but he isn't unhappy. He's a mix of both, depending on the time or day.
*Carl is me.*
Carl is all of us. That's the point. There's no such thing as a happy life or a cursed life, only life.
That's bipolar syndrome
@@lolkitchen2208 wtf?? 😒😒Kbye
Redie Bear exabior中华大病毒 what? He said its bipoler syndrome. Hes not insulting you.
@@user-gc2cv6qw6i ikr
"He isn't happy. But he isn't unhappy. He is a mix of both, depending on the time and day" Thank you so much for this video, The past few months I've been feeling like that, this made me realize I should stop overthinking the situation and start being more grateful for what I have.
Right. And remember new mental patterns take time to develop.
Same here!
I just watched this video and saw your comment from 8 months ago. I'm an overthinker myself so I can relate. I hope you're doing fine!
Yoou don't need to thinkk FEEL IT.
That’s the case with almost everyone, even people who look like they have perfect lives aren’t happy all the time
Every once in a while this video comes back on my recommended and I watch it. Each time it gives me chills and I cry a little
This reminds me of my second boyfriend. We were stationed together in Germany.
We knew each other when I was with my fiancée, but never let me know how he felt.
When my fiancée wanted a kid, until our kid was a year old, the second boyfriend and I were together for three years.
He finally said he loves me, loves the kid, but can’t imagine raising someone else’s kid. He wanted a relationship to be about him (I was 23-27, he was 27-31).
I was disappointed I gave the rest of my youth and my sons early formative years to him, but I cared about him so thanked him for his honesty and we’ve kept in touch over the years.
I’m now in my mid 40s and he’s in his late 40s.
He found his Catholic roots and found himself a good girl from a southern family.
And he got what he wanted I guess… she can’t have kids, so it’s always been about him. And he gets to support her because she’s not going to work!
I feel kind of bad telling him about my life working in the woods, fighting fires, living overseas when my son was younger.
He expressed envy when I got my pilot license during COVID because he started his as a teenager. He says he has to work work work to pay for retirement for him and his wife.
I have regretted a lonely life as a single parent, and not being able to follow my dreams, but at least I have a fantastic son and good memories to show for it.
I don’t dare ask him if he has any regrets, because that’s all I can sense when we talk.
" I tried so hard and got so far but in the end it doesn't even matter"
Is this Numb?🎧🎸
"in the end"
Linkin Park
@@cheekybastard1018 tom torero is that you
I think that way sometimes, but when I realize that each of us are all special beings, it does matter in the end. Cheer up; I know how you feel.
As a kid, I used to hate the quote “Life is like a box of chocolates, you never know what you’re gonna get.” And whenever there was a box of truffles, I would just get the guide for which flavors were which. However that changed when one day there wasn’t a guide, and while I ravaged the box looking for one my Grandma just said, “Just pick the one you think looks best and eat it dammit.”
And to be honest, eating the truffles without a guide made them taste better. So, thank you Lola.
If only life came with a chocolate box description before you bit into it ,and decided whether you liked it or not ,or like life can be:it sends nuts to thoses without teeth lol.
lola sounds like a great name
I thank my lola too
THANK YOU!! MOW I WANT TO EAT CHOCOLATE THANX TO YOU
:-(
u a filipino
this was phenomenal! there is no right or wrong choice. there will be pain and joy no matter what you do.
Karl still couldn't choose after meeting the old man so he moved halfway to hawaii. He was able to live a moderately decent life he runs a burger shop that is known as the 5th best burger shop in Hawaii. He has 1 child and still wonders about each option but is somewhat ok with his decision.
I have eaten there and this is 100 % Accurate like this CZcams from Liam czcams.com/video/uuXB-agCffc/video.html
Moral of the story:
"You will never be fully satisfied with whatever decision you make in life, be content with what you have, because happiness is within yourself, not outwards. Only you can make yourself happy, not anything, nor anybody can do that for you."
It's your choice to make. You can choose to be happy with what you have (making you grateful and happy), or you can choose to hate what you have (which can make you miserable and live with the "what if" all your life).
*But that's for you to choose. You cant blame anybody because the choice is yours to stay where you at or go where you want to be.*
Thank you.
Nice
Thank you! 🙏
youjohan shinwa taikei
Ploploo
Moral of the story: Getting drunk and starting to drift around the city at 2 am will solve all your problems.
The sailors wisdom indeed.
This just got me 😂😂
😂
🤣🤣🤣
Only for men tf
this was so beautiful, it made me cry for no apparent reason.
i guess it just makes you at peace with the choice you made, and are going to make.
I like this vid. The message and the script. Helped me through the problems I didn't know I kinda had. Thanks man! :D
One of my friends used to say: "Perhaps I made a wrong choice but I did what I believed to be right"
Yes. This is what we all do. We all fuck up and others look at us and might say “wtf were you thinking?” But at the end of the day, we all do what we believe was right AT THE TIME.
Every decision I’ve ever made, I made because I believed it was the right thing to do at the time. Sometimes it wasn’t. That’s where regret comes in.
So I always try to not judge people based on the choices they made in the past.
Your friend is right!
Was your friend Hitler?
So what? Your friend talks too much about nothing.
@ayla8345 at least we tried than doing nothing.
My life asked me to choose between this video and a gaming video, I chose this and it changed everything
Not quite.... But you almost got the message
Even when you know the outcome of all possible choices, it will still be impossible to choose.
My favorite movie about this is Mr. Nobody.
One day, I was driving back from work and realized there was heavy traffic up ahead. I had the choice to make either a left turn, or a right turn, to skip the traffic. Without having all the information at hand, I just took the left turn and hoped for the best, but I found myself stuck in traffic. I regretted not taking the right turn.
The next day, I was driving back from work and realized there was heavy traffic up ahead. This time, I took the right turn instead thinking it would be better, but I found myself stuck in the same traffic as well. Instead of regret, I laughed.
And that's why I always use Waze!
Did you really just leave us on the best cliffhanger of all time.
No, I know how it ends.
Carl looks at the man and sheds a tear, the man asks,”well....which is it?”
Carl slowly opens his mouth and responds,”neither”
The old man looks in confusion,”excuse me..?”
Carl pulls out a glock and says,”nothing will work out, I’ll just be wasting my life, so why do it, why live...” Carl proceeds to put the gun to his head and blows his brains out
@@cheesymac6732 boo
You missed the whole point of this video if youre asking what he chose, it doesnt matter
@@Smokeymkd00912 just like Inception's end, everybody asked for the answer, was that a dream or not? So many people didnt realise that it doesn't matter whether it was a dream or reality. To Cobb, that was his reality which he was happy in.
Even Nolan confirmed this himself in a speech in Princeton University.
_"Should I Stay or Should I Go" starts playing_
It'd be easier I know. I can't feel a thing from my head down to my toes.
They should play that the whole time he is talking to the old man. Like full volume blast so you can't even hear them talk.
Now it's stuck in my head.
God fucking damn it, do you know how hard that song was to get out of my head after listening to it, then listening to it again while watching stranger things...
This song is gonna haunt me for the rest of my life lmao
This song is literally my life's Rick Roll
This video really helps me get through making tough choices. It's the best video I've ever watched. Thanks for making it.
It helped me relieve a little about my horrible decisions in the past few years, because of those now I know exactly what I want from life, but at the same time I 've suffered and wasted a lot of time.
Maybe our life isn't determined by a few choices, but by how well (on average) we make our thousands of daily decisions.
No matter our past mistakes, we are continually offered the possibility to get a better life.
Ludovic Paul: self-help & more so true😔✊
perhaps there is no such thing as a right or wrong decision...sure, we might disagree with another person's ideas and beliefs, but when it comes to ourselves, probably the best option is to try to enjoy the path we're walking on, without focusing so much on what might have been and what if's...
but who knows? Life feels like a lottery ticket. You know what you get, only after you spent your buck on it...
Ludovic Paul: self-help & more yep - atomic habits
the Tao Robert show I think there is such a thing as a wrong and right choice in relation to what you want - if you don’t choose then someone else might for you and you might not be living the life you actually want i.e. the ‘right’ one
“Has it ever struck you that life is all memory, except for the one present moment that goes by you so quick you hardly catch it going?”― Tennessee Williams
Eye opening.
Read the power of now! By Eckhart tolle
Is it not also imagination?
😱
I like him almost as much as South Carolina Johnson.
This is definitely your best video that I have seen. I’ve watched many of your videos over the past year and this one had a profound effect and deep meaning.
This brought me to tears , you have such a unique and beautiful way of storytelling. Thank you
When I was 14, I ran away from my dad & stepmoms house to live with my real mom who lived a city away. Between that time & now alot has changed for me & my sister. She has 3 kids, I have 1 on the way. I randomly get the feeling every now & then that if I would have never ran away alot of things could/would be different. My choice to run away led to all kinds of changes. My sister would have never met her children's father, who passed away in 2010. I probably would have never met my gf who is my soon to be wife. My life has been a movie so far. Anyways just thought I'd share a little piece of my life story with all of you.
Amazing! Id love to hear even more if you don't mind : )
Thanks for sharing your story
@@fantasi4037 too much to put into words that I don't even know where to begin. I just know my runaway has caused alot of changes in people's lives around me. I hope I'm not sounding selfish by saying that but I feel like it's TRUE. If I never had runaway, my sister would have never met her late bf. I would have never met my future wife. My brothers & sisters lifes would probably have been different since when I came back in the picture it brought all my brothers & sisters closer again. My mom has 9 kids. Before I started living with my mom again, everyone was distant living in different parts of the city. When me & my sister came back in the picture people started coming around, most started even living with my mom. If you really wanted to hear my lifes story I would have to tell u in person. It's too complicated to put it all in text form. I just hope me running away was the right decision. I sometimes wonder what life would be like if I'd never have ran away. Would I be more successful? Would I have killed myself if I continued to live with my dad & evil stepmom? Idk. All I know is I'm happy that I did runaway. Because I'm having a baby girl on the way. & right now she is my everything. Hope you all have a wonderful blessed day.
@@genesis11am Such a story.. the fact that you ran away and changed so much is just, its amazing.
But let me ask you this, what made you make that choice that you did when you ran away? How did you even know it was the right decision to make in that moment?
are you mr nobody?
"The only thing I know is that on the other side of a decision, I'm there. And if I'm there, no matter what path I go, there'll always be something to love and there'll be always something to dread." So true.
That line made my day
Me too
Oh my, I can't believe it took that long for CZcams to recommend this channel to me. Another favourite one!
Good job everyone! Great work!
This video gave me so much insight, thank you. This is the first time I have ever commented on a CZcams video after watching hundreds of them and all I want to say is thank you from the bottom of my heart ❤
Sometimes wrong decisions end up being the most valuable choices to get us to where we need to go
I felt this on a spiritual level.
I hope so. I'm still suffering the consequences of my choices waiting on God. Hoping that I can endure this period in my life.
@@chantelltaylor4461 you can
Taking risks vs bad choices and decisions is separate. Deciding to drink alcohol and drugs then getting hooked and going into crime for example. I have made a series of bad choices my whole life. If I didn't have my loving family I would be on the streets.. If I made good choices my life would be completely different and better off. So if you have the option to make a good choice vs bad. I would go with the good always. However I would have not learned this without making those bad choices first.
@@chantelltaylor4461 any update?
it sounds like i need to get drunk somewhere an wait for an old man.
or maybe smoke something that will make the old man appear
Why would you need the old man,,,
wear a buttplug
And why can’t it be an old woman you evil misogynist?
@@Gaggerlotion well shii. Tbh I'd much rather listen to an old lady. They seem too know so much more
These videos genuinely make me want to cry but like damn this is beautiful I love it so much
I knew by just listening he wasn’t happy because he was letting people think for him, lastly it took him multiple experiences for him to finally understand that he is the author of his story and he has to write his chapters not anyone else.
"Do it or dont do it, you'll regret both" that's the message i take from this video
I thought that too for a bit but that's too depressing. More like pick something and live with it. Never wrong
It wounds negitive but that's what I got from it too. Thinking back to the major desictions in my life I've made, I almost feel like I regret them all. I'm certain there are some I'm glad I made, but the ones that come to mind first are the "wrong" ones. Is it that when you make the right desicion, you take it for granted? You never think back years later and have regret?
The way I see it as that if you're truly on the fence about something, and you're so close to just upping and starting fresh, it's always worth the risk. Worst case scenario, you end up feeling the same thing once again, but with the experience.
I took the moral to be that there is not a right or wrong choice, each will have their problems and regrets. All you can do is choose one for yourself, that way you can regret your own decision instead of someone elses.
Michael Scott I like that Michael, that’s a good way to look at things.
i believe that you should be happy with what you have and worked for. no one is going to be happy on their deathbed or in their last moments unless you believe in an afterlife in which case you are alright with it but it’s still a scary thing. be happy with what you have in that moment and try your best to keep your spirits up. we came into this world with nothing and that is how we will leave it.
The old man was himself that went back in time to try to help himself and he knew that it would take 3 time loops before he was able to exit with the right choice.
Dark
I think it was just his mind and his way of making a content decision. Bc I have something similar in my life that I have already decided on and the first time the old man approached I was like damn this is like me except the old man was just in my head.
I thought the same, that when he was old he would come back and tell himself
No, I think the old man didnt actually exist, and is just his mind, I mean it is implied when he gets up and the old man is just gone.
The thing is... there's infinite loops. Whatever choice he made, there's then another choice later that can affect it all. Maybe the best choice was not to make it such a binary decision to begin with.
Made me tear up just a little bit. For someone who's out of their home country, I can truly resonate with Carl's circumstance. Now having to listen to the video, I say it added some comfort in every decision "I" make based on my own experience.
“Life doesn’t come with a purpose. Never has. You’re the one who gives your life purpose.”
I thought the old man was just himself, knowing both outcomes.
Nauzet 1387 same
Thats a concept thats been ingrained into the collective psyche
@@rolandhatton2668 huh
@@samuelbrott that premise has been done in many ways
He was...
One of the greatest things I've ever heard is: damned if you do, damned if you don't.
You ought to get out more.
is that a j cole lyric lol
Thats what i have been saying the past few days. Without our health we have nothing, follow your gut, not money, and god would never give us anything we cant handle. So glad you said these words. Thank you. 💃
butters getting philosophical
@@ratrad1597 No wtf
man this video is just awesome,the work that has got into it is a lot,trust me...this shit takes time,and the way this story has been told is just awesome
Man, that one struck me real hard (I'm just in that place where some decisions need to be made) - and still, it brought me some sense of serenity. I also think it would be great to see a movie based on such a nice script (not that there aren't any similar out there but in that particular fashion;) All in all, such an outstanding video - thank you.
This is literally my life right now. 27, sitting on the couch, staring at the ceiling, trying to decide should i or shouldnt i move to another city, leave everthing behind and start fresh.
Tell me something about the situation and I'll tell you what to choose
Reprogramming your mind is must.
Before you can change your external
i do not know you nor your situation, but assuming that you have a roof over your head, food in your fridge, and at least $1,000 to your name... as long as you do n't have severe limitations, be legal or personal, that will restrict your ability to move away from your city, you should leave everything and move to another city! (if you don't like your current city). Reason i say this is because one day you won't be as young as 27 and won't have the freedom to pick up your bags and start your life somwehere else. you might have more responsiblities, or just a different life situation that may not allow you to have the freedom to do somethingn like this if you want to (in the future). If there is a part of you that wants to and has wanted to for some time now, then jump. Who knows what tomorrow may bring. You are alive today because the universe chose to keep you alive, and one day we'll all be gone. Long story short, if you don't like your city, move, see what being naked in the world feels like. Take that jump. Make that leap. You don' tknow what's on the other side until you do it.
Much love from the Bay area to you and everyone reading this,
P. S.
Same here just 25
You could get robbed or something sleeping out here
It's funny, I'm in a similar situation as Carl. And when the old man said "you're staying" I immediately knew that I would NOT be staying. So I guess I have decided now...
Good luck then
@@thejuicymop8128 thank you 🙏
@@OneMeInMyself ur welcome
@@OneMeInMyself I hope you doing good
How did it go?
There's no destiny, just present.
And the past is only memories.
"The solutions all are simple - after you arrived at them. But they're only simple when you know already what they are."