The hardest decision I've ever made
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The hadest decision I've ever made
One of the hardest decisions and time perioids in my life was when I didn't know what direction to go in and today I wanted to share that story with you.
We're currently in the process of moving, and there's somehting about putting down all your life in boxes that makes you reflect and think about life's big turning points and events.
I hope that if you're currently going through a transition phase or some changes in your life, this video can bring you some value or feeling of not being alone, and also, I wish that you have patience with yourself and trust that everything will work out in its own time.
All right, I'd love to know your thoughts on this subject of making hard life decision or choices when things don't go to plan. Let me know in a comment below :)
Thank you so much for watching!
Xx Kika
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If it's any consolation, I'm 53 and I'm STILL trying to figure my career. I learned to just try everything once and be open to any experience. I realised that there is no 'goal' - it's the journey. Best thing for me? It took YEARS to realise that I could just work a few days a week in a job that covers my bills to spend the rest of my time doing what I love. 9-5 jobs can be utterly boring because employers don't understand creative types (they're rare!) but they pay the bills - and it's consistent payment every week or every month. All power to you, at times I find the work that CZcamsrs do online is so so much harder.
Hello Activate Leaerning, did you quit your full time job and started your own business? If Yes, how did you do this? Do you have children? I described my situation above in a comment. I am desperate and don't know how to change my situation.
Hello, I’m one of your subscribers in Seoul. I totally understand what you were worried about. I had learnt drawing from when I was 3 years old until the day I graduated from university. My parents spent a lot of money for me as you can imagine. However, I made the hardest decison just like you when I was 28. At the time I thought I threw up everything I built for such a long time. Because it was ‘my life.’ I have no regret though, I’m still trying to look for my way in joy and in dissapointment at the same time. Your story encourages me this morning ☺️ Thank you for sharing!
+ I love your works!
Self discovery takes time. Few people really know what their true calling is early on in life .It takes a lot of trial and error as well as being honest with yourself to develop the maturity needed to be the best version of yourself.
I couldn’t agree more, and the older I get the more I think of life as a cycle where things come and go in seasons and sometimes it’s just about daring to let go
Just came upon this and it reminds me of what happened with my cousin, 3 weeks older than me, in the late 1970s - she started modern dance at age 12 after contending with scoliosis and she was consumed by it to the point that when she turned 17, she told her parents she was going to forego college in favor of moving from metro Detroit to New York City - and she did this on her own at age 17 (on the verge of 18) in 1974, promptly found work in SoHo at an all-night bakery and joined a troupe. She lived this dream for 5 years, enjoying every second of it, going on tours to Europe, but when she hit age 22 she gave herself a talking-to and said "if I am not principal now, I am never going to be, since I am not getting any younger (at age 22!) and I am going to say thanks and hang up my shoes and see whatever else I can do." She literally pulled herself away from dance and started attending college, found she had an aptitude for science, went to medical school at age 26, became a dermatologist and has been a practicing dermatologist now for nearly 40 years (we are both turning 66 this month). Can you tell how much I admire her? P.S. her youngest of 3, a daughter now in her mid-20's. went to college and majored in dance. The world is wide and I now fully believe that no one has to know for sure what they will be doing in the future, what it takes is a willingness to accept uncertainty and an open mind for adventure. I see how fundamentally you have that, and it is a joy that you share your adventures!
Nicely said.
Totally agree, full time job doesn’t leave so much energy for projects, and I could spend on projects all day long. You made the bravest decision on your life about not pursuing the dancing and not so many people do that ❤️
Ask me. Read my comment above!
Thank you for this! If I may add: you didn't throw away your studies and work" - as you said, the goal was reached (graduating) and all this work and knowledge has shaped who you are in a sense 💕
Hope all the young (and not so young) ones who need to see this, do so. Fear / Worry can paralyse, and understanding that others also have to overcome self doubt is priceless. Well done you for being so honest and vulnerable
As you get older, you will care less about what others think. I've always loved art, but chose to pursue my teaching career. So glad I did. Over 35 years, I dabbled a bit here and there with art, but, teaching feels like a 24/7 kind of career (and I loved it). Now I spend my lovely retirement pursuing my other dream (which includes my art website for sales), without concern of paying bills, health insurance, etc.! It's wonderful to follow one's dreams, but sometimes reality also means that money is definitely a necessity and the lack thereof creates much stress. You are so talented that perhaps you might consider a graphic design position! You would be incorporating your talents and doing what you love at the same time (and earning a pension,too!). Love your videos, Kika!! Best of luck in your new location!
i have *2 questions* :
1. do you *still* like dancing? if you do, *have you ever* thought about dancing on *tiktok* ? i know some people think that’s silly (i’m not sure why they think that) but there are *all styles of dance on tiktok* and you can make up *your own* choreography, whatever that may be!
2. do you *still* like vlogging? i know in the past you were talking about doing *moving vlogs* for finland and you were so excited but i’m not sure you were able to do them. but *if you want to vlog* , i know people will appreciate it (especially me) and it would be nice if you did moving vlogs and even an *apartment tour* but *only if you want to* . also i really think those videos would do well for you! *lol* !
I have been disabled since 2001. I have been ambulatory since 2010. I had worked since 16 and was 46 when disabled. Only go to Dr visits. But I found CZcams recently to b very interesting. I came across Expression (Chandra) was very enjoyable for knitting. BTW I learned knitting on CZcams. I can't knit but I'm learning. Ur site has been very enjoyable because of good English ☺️ and honesty. With good knitting videos with design. Life is full of diff paths which lead to a journey of self discovery. U r a very good teacher. This is ur niche. Stay with ur loves even those that don't pay well but feed ur soul. Congratulations on book. I'm very limited on $ and wish I could buy ur book. Maybe u could have contest on ur site to get free book. Whatever...
I think it's reasonable now that people change their interests and careers after 4 or 5 times in their life. And it's certainly only for the courageous. I have left 2 great careers and I was criticized by some and admired by others. But now I'm at an age where my motto is I do what I want.
Always be true to yourself.
To me you are a woman of courage!
If you find this book called The Top 5 Regrets of The Dying you will discover how to live a regret free life. I recommend this book.
Your energy is so nice. Please do not worry abouth anything. You are a fountain of joy and creativity in all kind of aerea's. It is all energy, let it flow. Just feel what you want to do in the moment and do it! Trust your playfull creativity. That is what the world needs now and you are a very lovely inspiration for us. Thank you so much for being you.
I'm an advocate of if something's worth doing it's worth taking time over. I had planned to move to Oslo to do a master's degree in August '21, but backed out mainly due to financial concerns. This let me pursue my equal passion, and hopefully this will mean I can have a career that I enjoy. Living in a Nordic country is still something I'm pursuing, but because I didn't just jump I can plan better and learn the skills needed to support myself when I do go and have a better time. I'm not suddenly happy where I am or anything but I'm glad I've given myself time!
I think your message here is a lovely one, especially with social media pushing everyone to just do things that are actually amazing. I find it helpful to imagine what my grandparents and great grandparents would think if they knew what we were all doing. It reminds me that what we take for granted is actually extraordinary.
Thank you for this video! I'm going through the same situation at the moment. I've graduated from uni, an English major (from Ukraine) with a bachelor's diploma. And then I've gone on to study there again to get the master's degree, because my mom told me that was the right thing to do, and I did not want to disappoint her. However, I've become extremely discouraged and apathetic. I've gone on a few job interviews and understood that this job is not right for me, and therefore I'm not right for the job. I want to do something more creative. But I don't want to disappoint anyone. And I haven't figured out the alternative, which would entitle me to leave uni. But I feel like as long as I'm at uni, I won't be able to figure it out because I'm so burnt out all the time... This is hard
I relate to this so much. I trained as a classical singer and felt the same way after my first year of university. So much guilt and shame! Still, I struggle because I started a family right after, with wither I cut myself short should I continue to pursue it now...etc. I've grown a love for cooking and become a pastry chef and still now I feel like I'm ready for something new...I guess it's just a journey. Thank you so much for sharing this. It helps so much to relate in this way.
You're always so inspiring , I always get relaxed hearing to you whenever I am in Anxiety . I too feel stuck rn amd was busy comparing myself with others of my age .
Thank you for sharing this .
Hi Divya! I'm so glad to hear you found value from this video, take care :)
@@Kutovakika I adore you so much ❣️
This video was genuinely valuable .
Take care ..
Love from India ❤️
It is quite hard to leave something you pursued with interest behind or even have to pick between interests for that matter. Social media seems not that hard to the lay man,but the amount of work that goes into it is quite tedious. Thanks for sharing your story :)
P.S. It is quite hard to decide to leave the place you have called home for many years.Happy travels for a new journey that is to come...
Thank you. The worry about money is so recognisable. Financial freedom is so important to me. I do a job I am not crazy about but it pays good. In my plan I need 6 years more to reach the place where i want to be....waist of time, you only live ones mindset are not mine anymore. I feel happy I have a goal in life and it comes more and more close. Btw I am 50 year and it took me a long time to figure this out but it is never to late in my opinion.
I found your channel yesterday and have gone down the deep dive! I went back to these vids, your “I’m quitting” really pulled me in and wow. I am relating in so many ways. I feel like I have been in my autumn/winter season for a while but this is helping! Thanks and cant wait to continue watching 🫶
I dont usually comment yt videos, but here we go. I have made a big life change recently, and I am still in a phase of processing it, I would say. I did not finish my studies, I quit after three years, without getting my degree. partly because I couldnt write my final thesis (mentally I am not very well at the moment) but also, I really didnt want to. I knew this career is not what I will do in life, I realised it a few months back that I am really unfit for this and also unable to do this. I made a decision quite late, so I cannot start another studies this year, I have to wait for the next year. So for the following year Im going to have some (probably not great) job, get my sh*t back together, mental health together etc. My family is quite angry and disappointed that I dont even have my degree. But like, if I could, I would finish it. But I cant. Its quite hard right now and lot of people told me that it was a big mistake. But I feel like it is the best thing for me right now. I was thinking about starting a blog, so Im going to take your creative course and I hope I will be able to finally do something that I could be proud of. Thank you Kika, for sharing harder parts of life too. It is extremely, extremely helpful. Lots of love, from one Kika to another :) And good luck with moving.
Thank you for sharing your story and struggle to be where you are now. I think of my younger self and my adult children and their career choices. Life is always full of questions, struggles and choices. I am a grand mother. I am knitting and listening to your story. Keep sharing yiur story. You are a gifted speaker. You speak freely from the heart. I felt an instant connection to you the first video I watched, as you shared your knitting creations. 💖
I'm so thankful that you, Kika, is so open person. I am 34 and it is very important for me to know that it is still possible to do something more. Sure, I need some more money and space for what I want, but it is possible to start now from little steps)
Thank you so much for sharing this! It honestly makes me feel very seen! I graduated from college a few years ago and started working in my field of study only to very quickly realize that I didn’t actually want to do that. I’m still working in that field, but I’m also trying to figure out what exactly the next move is for me.
I can relate... the struggle is real. Thanks for sharing your story. Wish you all the best in your future projects
You are amazing! You have said exactly what I needed to hear to keep going! I recently listened to a talk of Robert Herjavec where he says that you don't find something and then learn to be good at it, but rather find something that you are good at and get even better. I have, like you, tons of creative interests and outlets and I thought that I would have to give up on some of them. You made me see that it is just a matter of the time for that specific thing, not to give it up, but keep working on what is my most favorite and not stop just because I remembered something else I also enjoy! Thank you so much and all the best with all your ventures! :)
That’s such good advice! Yes I’ve definitely found the same to be true. Thank you so much for sharing your thoughts with me 💕
OMG first time I get to the video as soon you posted it! Love it! Blessings on your new aventure!
Hi Elizabeth! Ah thank you so much for your kind words :)
Blessings on you, dear Kika. You grow up and this is wonderful. Live your life, don't be scare. You on the right way. Many kisses. (sorry for my English🤭) we trast in you ❤️
❤ Oh, Kika, you have so many talents, how could you ever focus on just one for the rest of your life?
Even though this video is already 2 years old - I've only just discovered your channel because my old passion for knitting has recently been rekindled - I still want to tell you today that I can absolutely understand how difficult this decision was for you and how much I admire you for really going through with it. My own path was similar up to this point, then I took a different turn and struggled with it for a long time. The difference until then is: I'm a musician, I studied singing and piano and even as a teenager I gave up a lot of things to be able to follow this path. And after my exams, standing on the boards that supposedly mean the world, I realized that this longed-for path can't be mine in the long run. I'm 20 years older than you, there was no generally available internet and I didn't have supportive parents, but above all I chose a bread-and-butter job and thus financial security. I soon had two children and tried to work artistically alongside a full-time job to support my small family, I still performed a lot on various stages, wrote books and gave lectures, painted and drew and so on. Looking back, I can say it's all worked out so far, I have a wonderful family and I like my bread-and-butter job and am proud of what I've achieved. But I paid with my health and I was never able to devote the energy and time to my passion for music that it really needed to mature. In this respect, I find it exciting to follow your decision and what has become of it in your videos.
Right now you have a mini-baby and I still know how wonderful it is to hold such a delicate, fragrant creature in your arms and - for the time being anyway, until they no longer need it as young adults - to be allowed to "keep" it. It's nice to have small children. And it's also very nice to have grown-up children. All my love to you!
Omg I felt the same after I left the merchant navy! I worked so hard to qualify to only do 2 years in rank. Felt like a failure. My identity was locked up in my career. Best thing I did was leaving. My worth comes from me not my achi
I agree. I’m leaving a career I’ve done for 28 years and I’m excited for the change. You got this. I’m proud of you. Gods perfect timing is what I focus on. Everything I’ve done has lead me to where I’m going.
"To live my life on others' expectations" impressed me, and l feel SOO bad about myself... and l almost think you put your finger on my wound
It's simply soothing,just sit and watch you speak 😀
All the best to you in your move!
Big hugs to you, Kika. I truly feel for you.
Thanks for this beautiful video ❤️
Thank you for sharing your modern story! Aussie Lady
Thank you for sharing Kika, totally can relate to that. I felt the same a couple of times when switching gears in life (e.g. when I decided to stop organizing tango events for a variety of reasons). Really miss that part of my life but at the same time I know if it comes back later, it is not now. Also from an astrological perspective this makes sense (I am an astrologer in one of my occupations), there are life cycles and certain timing influences like slower transits for example, they work as triggers for transformation. Neptune btw rules both dance and photography, cinema, arts and music. Mars, Mercury and Venus also are connected to dance and photography and knitting in some way as well. Saturn is one of the planets that bring changes, makes is rebuild and restructure life and routine. Uranus brings abrupt changes which are usually out of our control (but we can choose how to react). Jupiter helps to expand consciousness, have more joy. and Pluto kind of dramatically and very slowly transforms to the core when you are not the same person any more after. *** Look forward to see where your journey will bring you and good luck with the move! 🌻
Lot's of love ❤️❤️❤️❤️
All the best for your new start 👍❤️❤️❤️
I am 58 and what I have learned is life is a journey!!! I used to say to myself that I should have did this and this and this instead of what I did! But now i regret nothing! I just dont care what people think anymore either. We only have one life to live! In a split second it can all be over!!! I was a dance teacher for 25 years till i had so many foot problems I just couldn't continue. I miss it but dance in a few other ways that aren't career related. You will probably come back to your dancing one day. I was so blessed to be able to do it as long as I did! It is very hard for us creative types to do anything else and we get bored and exhausted without variety! I joke with my friends that I am a hobby whore! LOL
I have been blessed with a wonderful husband that has supported me all these years!
Just go with it and you will find your way and have a beautiful life!
Well done and I wish you all the best. Xx
had the same thing and i feel this isnt talked about a lot. after university, i had no idea what to do (studied languages). it all worked out in the end but i would not want to go back in time. thanks for sharing your experience
We are all here for YOU. may you find peace in every endeavour of yours.
I found you because of knitting videos!! Love them. I love your energy and loved this video getting to know a little bit about you story.
I walked away from dance in 2009. It was excruciating like you said, because of that "sunk cost" with how much time I'd invested in it and everything. But the discipline informs everything I do now, none of the time was wasted, even though it was hard leaving it at the time.
your sharing is so perfect for the space I’m in right now….just making the first shakey steps on my own ‘social media journey….and it’s taken me so lomg to get clear …and many stops and starts along the way😀am going to check out your courses…thank you so much for your continued inspiration✨💕🦢
I’m so glad you made that decision about broadening your channel! I did the same thing, originally I thought I was going to have to create a 2nd channel to keep a sub-set of my interests separate and into it’s own “niche” channel but I decided against that and to just continue to incorporate all of my interests on my one channel. Love your videos, no matter what they’re about!
Dear Kika, thank you so much for this video. I am a mother of three, I work full time, nearly 60 hours a week and I need money. My eldest son is studying. I teach online for many hours because the money is very little, but the hours are too much. I don't have time for myself nor for my family. I want to buld an online business with a passive income as part time so that I can spare more time and work less in my online teaching job. But since I have so little time, I don't know how to do this. I feel completely overwhelmed! If I didn't have children and so much responsability, I would have done the same as you. When you are alone, it is much more easy to do what you did. Can you or anybody else here give me an advise? I am desperate!!
I wish you all the best!
Thank you :)
Always remain brutally honest with yourself.
I’m more like your partner. I like to visit cities for a day or two, then please get to the country ASAP! 😊🤗
I understand the confusion and shame about not following the career path you planned on. I graduated from the University of Houston with a degree I never used. I was embarrassed, but realized that it wasn’t what I wanted to do. I’m not sorry for the time and friendships I made during college and I’m happy I graduated. :)
Your soooo inspiring! Thank you so much for sharing your struggle and all the advice from it. Thank you millions
We love you ❤️ remember that❤️
This videos are not just video , this is your memories , of your hardwork 😉❤️ Smile 😁 say eeeeeee
Just a reminder ❤️
You're not alone we all are with you ❤️ kika families ☺️❤️love youuuuuu more
Hey 😯 Don't forget to smile 😁❤️
First one 😃 love your videos and you!! ❤️
That means so much to hear, thank you so much for being here and watching my videos :)
Thank you so much for this video! I feel so related to this!
Whoa ! Stockholm ! You change countries so easy 🙃
I used to travel before quarantine. I can work for 3 month in a year away from my job office. I miss that new city vibe so much. My father handled covid baly. Now I am to scared to catch covid while travelling.
I can relate. I grew up in a college town in Florida. As kids in the 80's and 90's, we were told "go to college, it's the best chance for a good life." I knew I wanted to work, but also have a family. When I said I wanted to be a paralegal (so I could balance home and work), people asked "Why don't you just become a lawyer?" First, there's no such thing as "just becoming a lawyer." It's a lot of education. And being a lawyer doesn't allow for the same work-life balance, especially as a woman. (Maybe it sounds sexist but I don't care, it's the truth. Managing a career and family as a mom is no joke and if you want both, you need a career that allows for both.)
But I did it anyway. I went to college for 4 years, then 3 years of law school, and passed the Bar exam. It was the hardest I've ever worked in my life. And then... I became a paralegal.
I have no regrets. I'll be 42 next month. I passed the bar in 2006. Even though I'm paying for an attorney's education with a paralegal's income, I wouldn't go back and change a thing. Just because you've spent time working toward something doesn't mean you have to be stuck doing that thing forever. Maybe getting the education and having the experience in college was all you were supposed to get out of that field, before moving on to something else. Our brains are still developing till we're about 25 years old, so just as you shouldn't choose a spouse when you're 18, we probably shouldn't be trying to work out our entire careers at that age either. Obviously we have to work and be responsible adults, but that doesn't mean we can't be open to change at any point after that. And sometimes our instincts don't go along with what the culture tells us we should do. Most things take time to figure out and one person's path is not the same as someone else's. We should always be learning and growing, into our old age. So if you want to switch careers at 32 or 92, do it.
I wish that parents, teachers, and guidance counselors would encourage high school graduates to take a gap year before continuing education. During that gap year you can get a random job, work hard, save money for college, and gain experience. Use that year to try new things, take chances, and live poor if you have to.... you won't have any college debt to pay off yet. Then, after that short year, (it'll go by fast) you will have a clearer vision and expectations, and have a little bit of savings. :) Then go to college if you still want to.
Could you make videos of people performing your choreography? I would like to see that. I’m sure enough of your followers would volunteer to be in a video. I think it would be a fun community that you could construct, and not so much of a professional responsibility.
The bitter fact is that only certain creative professionell are well paid and many others
Do not have a fair chance.
You are so inspirational x
Divorce, motherhood and motherhood post divorce ... All incl lifeaspects from all life angles
I'm facing one of these upcoming decisions and it's a bit scary
All my best wishes for you! 🍀
Ummm, hi. I just discovered your channel... it is beautiful, by the way. I just wanted to ask you a question - your name is Kutova Kika as in _Kutová_ and _Kristýna_ ? Are you/your family from Czech/Slovak republic? Thank you for your reaction in advance. Best wishes- Petra
You could always teach dance on CZcams!? Just a thought.
I know it’s a few years old but are you still offering these two courses?
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Dance breaks your body in short order so, good.
Break a leg 🇮🇳 new subr
Beautiful and honest video! I loved it because we all deserve the opportunity to follow our dreams and…dreams shift all of the time! Thanks for sharing your changing dreams with us! 🍍🧶♥️
Thank you for sharing, i am 27 and i feel so lost everyday, you are helping me a lot 🥺❤🩹