1.has goals and a purspose 2.Providing Mentality+Generousity 3.learns from past mistakes 4.Clear feelings about you 5.Not afraid of Responsibility 6.Takes care of himself 7.Resilience Growth Mindset 8.Stands by his Values 9.emotional intelligence 10.Has high integrity Thank you for sharing
I think I have one that finally fills the list… He was kind of shy…it took us a year but when I finally approached him he said everything on the list… we had been watching each other socializing… and he was never inappropriate… I couldn’t see another women touching on him…😂
My man is a High Value Man and I'm madly in love with him. When we were together, I felt the urge to be more femenine, beautiful and cute. Not only I feel I'm being myself, but also he loves this about me, and he told me he wanted to be a better man for me ❤
@@feersinger 🤡s like you try to come on and talk like you're deep!!! You likely have an average man. But you want to say that he's high value because you're attracted to him...
I'm so happy that you cleared it out that the feminine loves a driven and ambitious man.. I'm all for supporting each other through depressing times, but I was put in a dilemma by people normalising couch potatoes as attractive.
Yes, and I believe it shouldn't be normalised for women to be couch potatoes too. I think men like hardworking and energetic women too, not women who are lazy, have no hobbies, and just want to be taken care of. I have seen so many Reddit posts of men complaining about their lazy wives, it's sad.
I feel like the same holds true for a high value woman. I definitely feel less attractive to my partner when my goals are murky or I'm lacking that drive, curiosity, and purpose in my life. I think an ambitious guy who's excited about life's possibilities wants an equally motivated partner! "If you want a Barack you've gotta be a Michelle" :)
I just met a man who is all the things you’ve mentioned and he has allowed me to unleash my ultra feminine energy , he is amazing and everyday I’m grateful that God led me to him. One of the things he said to me in the beginning of our relationship is that he wants the responsibility of taking care of me I’ve been watching your videos to learn how to be a better woman to him because he has been the best to me. I’ve been very masculine in my past relationships because I kind of had to but I’m unlearning all that burdensome behavior Thank you for your videos
I totally get that. I also feel like i'm in my masculine energy and i think its maybe not who i really am. But i dont really know. How did you unlearn that?
@@JillzGuerinwhat happens if I was a 9.5 in high school and college but then my woman that I was working hard to have 8 pack abs and 4.0 gpa left and my belief about women changed. I stopped worrying about tons of money because I was raised rich and don’t really need expensive crap. So now I’m older 42 and still good looking but I can’t find a woman that is worth my time. I don’t even care if you’re a 6.0 but I want a real solid woman as I don’t enjoy dating. Today’s women are tricky because 99 out of 100 are sluts for money. I’d rather she make 3 times as much. Because it means she wants but doesn’t need me. I’m a ride or die type Boyfriend that’s good looking but where do I find a woman that wants but doesn’t need me..?
I used to think my husband and I were equal 50/50 and that meant I could do everything he could do, but I am really interested to note that since stepping back into my feminine energy, he is really stepping up to lead, make decisions, care for me, financially provide, protect me. It is SO interesting! Especially as I know I CAN do all these things for myself, but it makes us both feel better to take on these roles. He is a bit of a couch potato at times but that is resting after a hard day at work. I try to make our home and evenings a refuge for him ❤
Thanks for sharing this. I notice a lot of women not wanting to be feminine and receptive and all that until the man steps up and leads and does his masculine things. But the thing is that masculine and feminine work together, it's a bit of a chicken and egg arrangement, and I think somebody just has to go first (in my opinion it should be the person who noticed the problem). But it really is surprising how one leads to the other - if you take lead and embrace your feminine role it brings the masculinity out of a man, and vice versa
There is a man at my work who portraits qualities that I love and have never seen so clearly in a man. He is so generous with his time and energy, he is such a warm person and everyone loves him. I love how he is with my coworkers and customers and me.
Very insightful! As a man, I actually value myself very seriously on every trait you said, however, between 2 mentioned traits (1 and 7), in the personal growth department, that's actually something I've been actively doing, piece by piece, since 2018, and much of it tied into making myself better in the other traits you described, such as taking responsibility, emotional intellect/communication, and just overall sharpening up anything I notice to lack in, but one thing I get hung up on the most, is the fact that I'm Autistic to a degree of being unable to drive or work, but I get benefits and I always do my best to provide for everybody in my life, especially my grandmother, who I go and spend time with every single day, but as far as romantic relationships go, right now, I'm single but hopeful that I have a chance at finding someone who understands and looks past the things I cannot control, in the career and driving aspect while giving my best in return. Think I still have a shot? Anybody else can feel free to chime in about it too. 😊
My ex husband was lacking the ability to stand up for himself or for me. He was lacking emotional intelligence as well, and in turn lacking growth mindset for our relationship, though he had career goals and strong work ethic. He fit everything else in this and appeared to fit EQ until we got married. Then I think it got too real for him and he completely evaporated on me. We lived like roommates for an entire year and he fought tooth & nail to avoid my request for counseling before I finally had to call it quits. Turns out he has a very avoidant attachment style and a lot of unresolved childhood trauma that caused him to sabotage our relationship.
Thank you for this video. I always doubted my decisions of leaving some unhealthy relationships in the past. But this video made me realise to “not settle” and look out for these amazing qualities in a partner! Thank you 🥰
I made the mistake to marry a man who was some things that you listed, but not all of them. And it’s embarrassing to admit it, but he is painfully attractive so I thought him not being a Provider or Generous type was ok. It is not. In the end we are separating. Ladies, please do listen to her advice, it’s gold 💓
haha no, the "provider" mindsetted men in your friendzone are laughing in the corner. Nor are you worth providing to a sane man because of all the baggage and divorce.
...I'm super grateful to have watched this video! I've been making a sort of love list lately, and, some of the qualities you mentioned were extremely clear. I added them to the list 😊😊...I actually thought, "I'm glad I didn't find my person just yet...these needed to be there."
This feels like you're praising my boyfriend. We're both kind of androgynous, and this is what I want in my life. We can both be feminine and masculine. I watched the video just because i like the way you speak.
I feel lost and don’t know what to do. Because I have a boyfriend that I can see he loves me and he’s such a good boyfriend in many aspects he cares about me and he has a good heart and treats me like a princess but. He’s 30 and he has no purpose. He doesn’t know where he wants to get in life. And I feel soo overwhelmed with the fact that I don’t see how he can built a future for us together with me, even that I really want it. He’s not hot and cold, he’s always hot. But the fact of not having a goal is really affecting everything.
I agree that you should have that difficult conversation. If he is not ready to step up for himself and the relationship he's building with you, there is your answer. But, if he values you in his life, he will quickly step up and do WHATEVER it takes to keep you and keep you happy. Best wishes
Girl… I have a husband that earns great money and is a great father but I’m starting to realize that he’s not giving me what I need. I’m 30 with three kids. I’ve been married since I was 19 years old. I get to be a stay at home mother and I’m soooooo thankful for that but that’s where it ends. My husband works in the oilfield so he’s gone 6-7 months a year. I have to be in my masculine energy to protect myself and our children. I have to raise our children without any of his input. Even when he’s home he doesn’t contribute to life lessons. He thinks that providing a paycheck is enough. I tend to the house. I mow the grass. I’m in the yard doing baseball drills and chasing toddlers.I learned money management and persuaded him into allowing me to direct the dollars. I did the budget and had to be the bad guy in order to pay off our vehicles and home. He seriously told me one time that he worked for the money he should get to spend it. He’s 7 years older than me and got what he wanted. Which was someone to guide him through life without actually getting involved. Now, I don’t mean to dump but what I’m sharing is a snapshot of what life can look like if you don’t figure it out before marriage. If you want someone that’ll actually be involved with all the heavy lifting that life will bring, you need someone with the drive to make things happen. Someone with a vision for the future and goals to get there.
19 and I feel like I'm listening to my big sister I love you JillzYou're changing my mindset and life one video at a time sending love and light from South Africa xoxoxoxo
You did not once mention good with money. He does not need to be rich or high earner, but he should be smart about budgeting, saving, and spending. Money is one of the biggest driver of divorce.
Hmmmm. I am a feminine woman and I would say the most important thing for me in life is purpose. Connection is high up there, but purpose is greater, personally.
I really feel that the big issue here is, with all these videos about masculinity is that even though they say "money isnt everything" they're still not detailing how men can provide in other ways. 1. A lot of women make so much of their own money, so theu literally dont need a man unless he can 'provide' in another way 2. Even if he's financially providing, I have seen thousands of women who aren't satisfied with financially being cared for because to them its an automatic and its not appreciated. Especially long term. Sure he pays for you but is he there to bring you a blanket and cup of tea when you dont feel well? Does he encourage you to rest when you're on your period? Etc This is the providing that is (psychologically/emotionally) much more important and lifelong. Its like what would happen if he loses his job, if theres a pandemic, a war etc
I was surprised to find out that you don't have hundred of thousands subscribers, because your videos are so amazing! I love the quality, the color and the background. I watched a couple of your videos and all of them are so interesting. You have this warm and kind vibe and I feel like I'm talking to my older sister who I look up too.
Great vid! I have a suggestion, maybe do a video on how to overcome internalized misogyny. I know I have a lot of issues with it keeping me from being the woman I want to be
"How does he treat the waiter? How does he treat his Mom?" Also how does he treat children? How does he treat animals? I'm not saying that he has to be a vegan or a vegetarian but you can know a person by their attitude towards animals. Does he treat children like they are people?
@@anilparthip6346 I said treat children like they are people because they are people, not treat them like they don't matter and should be ignored. As in they have a personality, feelings and thoughts. Treated with respect. Treated like they matter. Not to be ignored.
This was great! Definitely on the look out for a high value man. Recently dated someone for a few weeks and he definitely had low value traits- hot/cold , lazy and not ambitious.. yeah no thanks, I ended it and not going to settle.
I love this video because all those mysoginistic podcaster men think being a high value man means having lots of money and having a six pack or being 15 years older. Meanwhile they lack all real traits of a high value man. My boyfriend is great and high value. And hes younger than me. Hes 19. And hes ambitious and amazing :)
Ya its part of the reason he moved half way across the country..to be closer when the time comes. It's part of his purpose snd his GOALS.. its sn actual ACTION MOVE.. that means hes in motion towards what he wants
uhm I am female and I value my purpose than relationships actually. doesn’t mean I don’t care about my friends and family but without purpose I am deeply lost and unhappy and feeling of fulfillment is like a oxygen to me. I’m pretty sure lots of women can relate.
@@seidenschnabelfederflugel5441 no you do not have to label yourself either “masculine” or “feminine” I know society does that and makes us all confused, sometimes even feel like we are wrong to be who we are or give pressure for need to fix ourselves, which is wrong. So you are just you. And it’s better to have purpose of life generally just as a human being than nothing.
@@jasminekim4283 thankyou. Yes, totally. Purpose is so important for me. Otherwise i wouldnt be alive. Otherwise it would not make sense for me to be alive. 😊
I'm a man. I stumbled upon this video and guess what? She's telling the truth 100%! Do not fall for insecure men who may try to sabotage you in the future.
Very helpful to guys to see this.. just don’t act like this is an absolute checklist. You will not have a long term healthy relationship if you hold a man to every one of these ideas. you also need to do some serious self reflection and make sure you have high value.
I love what you share and how you share it, Jillz. Funny story: As I was watching this video, two different potential dates/partners called me to connect -- as if they could feel me checking in with you and raising my standards. Ha ha. xoxo
I JUST DUMPED my boyfriend because of everything that you’re talking about right now. He had this side hustle that he claimed he was “building as a brand“ and then when I got to know him longer turned out he not only bought this little brand from someone but he’s had it for four years and he’s yet to reach a point where he quit his job. While I’m over here working on my side hustle before my full-time job, during my full-time job in between working from home, and after my job, and then on the weekends… In the moment I started asking for an evening by myself on the weekend he started throwing a fit. A high value man would never do that to a woman who’s trying to make some thing of herself. He was also extremely overweight, I was trying to give him an opportunity, turns out even the ones that are overweight and unhealthy are probably not going to treat a high value woman any better so now I’m on the journey to just enjoying being single and working on my side hustle And when I’m ready to date again I’m really really really going to have to be even more picky and I’ve always dreamt of being with a man that was very business oriented and had some thing he was growing on the side into a business or a man that actually was doing what he wants to do working for himself!
Watching how much time women dance around “money, drive, purpose” Which is all code for money lol. If I was in my 50s I need someone who makes money and wants to give it to me. It’s gross lol.
Apart from the great advice, can I just compliment your absolutely gorgeous hair! It's such a beautiful and natural colour, a great style. You clearly take superb care of your hair, really beautiful 😘💋❤
Hi Jillz, thank you for the great video :) I was wondering what you (and anyone else in the comments) would consider the traits that would make a woman marriage material??? It's a topic I have a hard time finding information on and would love to hear a variety of opinions
Im glad i have channels channels like yours to watch and values to adapt from it at such a young age.All Thanks to the good people on the internet who preach these important standards,i will be prepared when my dating life comes.
THIS IS FUNNY - When I was 32 years old. I had started my own company 7 years previously after getting my Masters. Owned 2 homes outright. Never did drugs or even had a drink of alcohol. Never had been married and no children. I'm 6'5" and in great shape. Women would always ask me. Why was a good-looking, well-educated man didn't have a wife or girlfriend. I would always say "I haven't found the right lady yet". It was true. I would date ladies only once or twice before I figured out they weren't for me. That was before I found my wife.
I’m listening to this after over a year of constant waiting for my husband to prove any of this traits in him. I used to work two jobs while he played computer games to provide for us. I have been in my masculine energy for so long, I lost myself completely. By chance, I met a person who fulfills all these traits and my needs. But I’m still waiting for my husband, destroying myself completely. When will this circle end? 😢
This is such an amazing video! So much wisdom being said out loud. Thank you for it! I'm really grateful I came across it, I'm sure it was no accident, I needed to listen to this today.
I have problems with points 2 and a little with 10. In Spain most men are not generous with money. And my current boyfriend earns a lot more than me, cause I'm studying and I moved from my city to come here. I work but I don't make that much money as he makes. He is always wanting to travel and do things I can't afford but still he won't pay for me to go with him... In the other hand, he never asks me for paying the gasoline when he takes me somewhere else. He never asks me to pay for the food I eat when we are in his place... So I don't know. He comes from a very poor family, and from an environment that wasn't healthy as most people around him were people who tried to take advantage the ones from others. So I think that makes him more cautious about money, and more mistrustful. As he comes from a poor family and his parents, especially his mother, are taking advantage of him, he is not grateful with them. They are not mean to him, they are nice people and his father tries to help him as much as he can, but it is also true that they have a lot of problems because sometimes they make unreasonable decissions and then they always want him to solve them. He is fed up of them and he uses to talk bad thing about them, specially her, so I don't know. English is not my first language so sorry if i made any mistake.
I love this video! But would push back some on the idea of relationships being feminine. They manifest different but masculine energy often involves relationships. It’s now thought that “alpha males” were mostly those who marshaled relationships.
Is he in alignment? Is he disciplined, is he responsible? Is he mature? 1) Is he goal- oriented, high value 2) Does he have generosity? 3) Where is he financially and does he have a provider mentality 4) Does he learn from his mistakes or is he super - stuck on his ego? And blames other people and things? 5) Are his feelings clear and consistent or is he wishy- washy? 6) Is he ready to take responsibility? Is he willing to take charge? To go into the leadership role? 7) Does he take care of his body and mind? If a man does not have the discipline and commitment to take care of himself, will he have the commitment to take care of you? 8) Is he resilient? Does he have a growth mindset? As opposed to a fixed mind- set? Does he face adversity and does he try to figure things out? Or does he run away? 9) Does he stand by his values or does he get pushed around and have no boundaries? 10) Does he have emotional intelligence? Is he self- aware and does he understand the emotions of others? 11) Does he have high integrity? Does he fulfill his promises? Does he make you question his loyalty to you? Is he honest? Is he trustworthy? Does he have good intentions? Does he lead with love? Is he kind? How does he treat other people? The waiter? His mom?
Recomend study Bob Proctor, to learn How to be a High Value Man. He does not talk about it, but what he teatch is exacly that. Napolleon Hill and Think and Grow Rich too
This your 4th Video I watched it literally touching my feeling what I want , which kind of change that I want .. thank you and keep it on becauseI need it🎏💕
My ex husband was like that very ambitious unfortunately his behavior was very toxic and possessive. We argued a lot and he wanted to control me all the time. So even though there were great things about him. His short temper and lack of empathy killed everything.
A hint for you guys : you know you are of some high value when they start talking with you about moving closer to her home, and maybe "help her" when she would have kids.
I think it all depends on how the women was raised. But also how the man has grown to detect good women. A beautiful women will attract mostly dushbags and a high value men will attract average women who are good persons. So if you think about it, this is not that accurate But will hopefully help some women out there for sure
I get this space is for women, but someone help a guy out in spotting green flags in a woman or wife/mother material please, anything will help, thanks! 😊
i literally have to mother my boyfriend and he complains that he spends too much on me, has to text me good morning first all the time, and yells at me for expressing my feelings or bcs he’s pissed off like 😢
I dont know If i'm a femine women or if my male energies are more present in me. I feel like a child when a man wants to provide for me. I feel like he is my Daddy and that makes me super uncomfortable. 🤔 Where can i find out wich energies are most present in me?
1.has goals and a purspose
2.Providing Mentality+Generousity
3.learns from past mistakes
4.Clear feelings about you
5.Not afraid of Responsibility
6.Takes care of himself
7.Resilience Growth Mindset
8.Stands by his Values
9.emotional intelligence
10.Has high integrity
Thank you for sharing
thank u for summarizing.
I think I have one that finally fills the list…
He was kind of shy…it took us a year but when I finally approached him he said everything on the list… we had been watching each other socializing… and he was never inappropriate… I couldn’t see another women touching on him…😂
So basically the opposite of every man I've been dating.
@@SanctifiedLadyThat is not a very masculine mature man if he does not have the skill to pursue you, just a thought
None of you deserve a man with these traits.
My man is a High Value Man and I'm madly in love with him. When we were together, I felt the urge to be more femenine, beautiful and cute. Not only I feel I'm being myself, but also he loves this about me, and he told me he wanted to be a better man for me ❤
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Don't lie to yourself
@@professionalpookie When you are unhappy, you can't recognize happiness in others. I feel sorry for you, but I hope you can be happy later! :)
@@feersinger 🤡s like you try to come on and talk like you're deep!!! You likely have an average man. But you want to say that he's high value because you're attracted to him...
when You are in a healthy relationship You don't need to watch content like this and say it out loud, how lucky You are@@feersinger
I'm so happy that you cleared it out that the feminine loves a driven and ambitious man.. I'm all for supporting each other through depressing times, but I was put in a dilemma by people normalising couch potatoes as attractive.
Yes that drive and ambition is so attractive to the feminine 😊
Yes, and I believe it shouldn't be normalised for women to be couch potatoes too. I think men like hardworking and energetic women too, not women who are lazy, have no hobbies, and just want to be taken care of. I have seen so many Reddit posts of men complaining about their lazy wives, it's sad.
I feel like the same holds true for a high value woman. I definitely feel less attractive to my partner when my goals are murky or I'm lacking that drive, curiosity, and purpose in my life. I think an ambitious guy who's excited about life's possibilities wants an equally motivated partner! "If you want a Barack you've gotta be a Michelle" :)
I just met a man who is all the things you’ve mentioned and he has allowed me to unleash my ultra feminine energy , he is amazing and everyday I’m grateful that God led me to him.
One of the things he said to me in the beginning of our relationship is that he wants the responsibility of taking care of me
I’ve been watching your videos to learn how to be a better woman to him because he has been the best to me. I’ve been very masculine in my past relationships because I kind of had to but I’m unlearning all that burdensome behavior
Thank you for your videos
What a beautiful blessing🥺❤️
I totally get that. I also feel like i'm in my masculine energy and i think its maybe not who i really am. But i dont really know. How did you unlearn that?
Yes, what a Blessing..
Where do find this kind of men..?
I haven't seen them all these years..
Same here girl!. I'm dating a MAN. So I want to be a better woman for him. 🥰
That’s beautiful
Let's wait, pray and be prepared girls. Heal and be your best before he who have those traits coming to your life.
Yesss 💕
Emotional intelligence, empathy and communication are key factors! Thank you Jillz. You' re like our virtual CZcams best friend haha. ❤️😘
Aww love that 😘😘😘
@@JillzGuerinwhat happens if I was a 9.5 in high school and college but then my woman that I was working hard to have 8 pack abs and 4.0 gpa left and my belief about women changed. I stopped worrying about tons of money because I was raised rich and don’t really need expensive crap. So now I’m older 42 and still good looking but I can’t find a woman that is worth my time. I don’t even care if you’re a 6.0 but I want a real solid woman as I don’t enjoy dating. Today’s women are tricky because 99 out of 100 are sluts for money. I’d rather she make 3 times as much. Because it means she wants but doesn’t need me. I’m a ride or die type Boyfriend that’s good looking but where do I find a woman that wants but doesn’t need me..?
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I used to think my husband and I were equal 50/50 and that meant I could do everything he could do, but I am really interested to note that since stepping back into my feminine energy, he is really stepping up to lead, make decisions, care for me, financially provide, protect me.
It is SO interesting! Especially as I know I CAN do all these things for myself, but it makes us both feel better to take on these roles.
He is a bit of a couch potato at times but that is resting after a hard day at work. I try to make our home and evenings a refuge for him ❤
That's so exciting! :D
Thanks for sharing this.
I notice a lot of women not wanting to be feminine and receptive and all that until the man steps up and leads and does his masculine things.
But the thing is that masculine and feminine work together, it's a bit of a chicken and egg arrangement, and I think somebody just has to go first (in my opinion it should be the person who noticed the problem).
But it really is surprising how one leads to the other - if you take lead and embrace your feminine role it brings the masculinity out of a man, and vice versa
These points are very important for a feminine woman to feel safe and secure. ❤
There is a man at my work who portraits qualities that I love and have never seen so clearly in a man. He is so generous with his time and energy, he is such a warm person and everyone loves him. I love how he is with my coworkers and customers and me.
Thank you for this video. A reminder to not take the high value man we have in our lives for granted ♥️
Yes so true ❤️❤️
Very insightful! As a man, I actually value myself very seriously on every trait you said, however, between 2 mentioned traits (1 and 7), in the personal growth department, that's actually something I've been actively doing, piece by piece, since 2018, and much of it tied into making myself better in the other traits you described, such as taking responsibility, emotional intellect/communication, and just overall sharpening up anything I notice to lack in, but one thing I get hung up on the most, is the fact that I'm Autistic to a degree of being unable to drive or work, but I get benefits and I always do my best to provide for everybody in my life, especially my grandmother, who I go and spend time with every single day, but as far as romantic relationships go, right now, I'm single but hopeful that I have a chance at finding someone who understands and looks past the things I cannot control, in the career and driving aspect while giving my best in return. Think I still have a shot? Anybody else can feel free to chime in about it too. 😊
It is attractive that you are that aware !!!!!
My ex husband was lacking the ability to stand up for himself or for me. He was lacking emotional intelligence as well, and in turn lacking growth mindset for our relationship, though he had career goals and strong work ethic. He fit everything else in this and appeared to fit EQ until we got married. Then I think it got too real for him and he completely evaporated on me. We lived like roommates for an entire year and he fought tooth & nail to avoid my request for counseling before I finally had to call it quits. Turns out he has a very avoidant attachment style and a lot of unresolved childhood trauma that caused him to sabotage our relationship.
Thank you for this video. I always doubted my decisions of leaving some unhealthy relationships in the past. But this video made me realise to “not settle” and look out for these amazing qualities in a partner! Thank you 🥰
You're so welcome!💕💕💕
I love this! It’s so nice and refreshing seeing a woman who loves to be in her feminine energy. Seems to be really rare these days 💛
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Ikr!!
I'm a man and I really enjoyed watching this video and have listened very carefully to what you've said.... thank you
I made the mistake to marry a man who was some things that you listed, but not all of them. And it’s embarrassing to admit it, but he is painfully attractive so I thought him not being a Provider or Generous type was ok.
It is not.
In the end we are separating.
Ladies, please do listen to her advice, it’s gold 💓
And some people said "better be hurt by a 9 than a 2 kinda man"😭
haha no, the "provider" mindsetted men in your friendzone are laughing in the corner. Nor are you worth providing to a sane man because of all the baggage and divorce.
Every woman choose by the looks
...I'm super grateful to have watched this video! I've been making a sort of love list lately, and, some of the qualities you mentioned were extremely clear. I added them to the list 😊😊...I actually thought, "I'm glad I didn't find my person just yet...these needed to be there."
So glad it was so helpful for you!!! 😍😍
I agree with you Jillz. I am also with the opinion that women should consider these traits as well.
This feels like you're praising my boyfriend. We're both kind of androgynous, and this is what I want in my life. We can both be feminine and masculine. I watched the video just because i like the way you speak.
I feel lost and don’t know what to do. Because I have a boyfriend that I can see he loves me and he’s such a good boyfriend in many aspects he cares about me and he has a good heart and treats me like a princess but. He’s 30 and he has no purpose. He doesn’t know where he wants to get in life. And I feel soo overwhelmed with the fact that I don’t see how he can built a future for us together with me, even that I really want it. He’s not hot and cold, he’s always hot. But the fact of not having a goal is really affecting everything.
I agree that you should have that difficult conversation. If he is not ready to step up for himself and the relationship he's building with you, there is your answer. But, if he values you in his life, he will quickly step up and do WHATEVER it takes to keep you and keep you happy. Best wishes
leave him and get a sugar daddy. I promise they have your future planned out for you.
Girl… I have a husband that earns great money and is a great father but I’m starting to realize that he’s not giving me what I need. I’m 30 with three kids. I’ve been married since I was 19 years old. I get to be a stay at home mother and I’m soooooo thankful for that but that’s where it ends. My husband works in the oilfield so he’s gone 6-7 months a year. I have to be in my masculine energy to protect myself and our children. I have to raise our children without any of his input. Even when he’s home he doesn’t contribute to life lessons. He thinks that providing a paycheck is enough. I tend to the house. I mow the grass. I’m in the yard doing baseball drills and chasing toddlers.I learned money management and persuaded him into allowing me to direct the dollars. I did the budget and had to be the bad guy in order to pay off our vehicles and home. He seriously told me one time that he worked for the money he should get to spend it. He’s 7 years older than me and got what he wanted. Which was someone to guide him through life without actually getting involved.
Now, I don’t mean to dump but what I’m sharing is a snapshot of what life can look like if you don’t figure it out before marriage.
If you want someone that’ll actually be involved with all the heavy lifting that life will bring, you need someone with the drive to make things happen. Someone with a vision for the future and goals to get there.
19 and I feel like I'm listening to my big sister I love you JillzYou're changing my mindset and life one video at a time sending love and light from South Africa xoxoxoxo
You did not once mention good with money. He does not need to be rich or high earner, but he should be smart about budgeting, saving, and spending. Money is one of the biggest driver of divorce.
Hmmmm. I am a feminine woman and I would say the most important thing for me in life is purpose. Connection is high up there, but purpose is greater, personally.
This video makes me feel more confident in myself. Always improving. Thank you.
I really feel that the big issue here is, with all these videos about masculinity is that even though they say "money isnt everything" they're still not detailing how men can provide in other ways.
1. A lot of women make so much of their own money, so theu literally dont need a man unless he can 'provide' in another way
2. Even if he's financially providing, I have seen thousands of women who aren't satisfied with financially being cared for because to them its an automatic and its not appreciated. Especially long term. Sure he pays for you but is he there to bring you a blanket and cup of tea when you dont feel well? Does he encourage you to rest when you're on your period? Etc This is the providing that is (psychologically/emotionally) much more important and lifelong. Its like what would happen if he loses his job, if theres a pandemic, a war etc
I was surprised to find out that you don't have hundred of thousands subscribers, because your videos are so amazing! I love the quality, the color and the background.
I watched a couple of your videos and all of them are so interesting. You have this warm and kind vibe and I feel like I'm talking to my older sister who I look up too.
Aw thank you so much!!!! 🥰🥰
This list is *chef’s kiss*
Every girl in the dating world needs to see this.❣️
Happy Easter!!!!!
Ah thank you!! You too!! 💕💕💕
fully agree!
Thanks for confirming my value. I check all the boxes. Wasn't always the case. This year has been all about rapid self improvement.🙃
The thumbnail though… haha. I always have Chris Hemsworth’s face in mind when manifesting my spouse. ❤
Great vid! I have a suggestion, maybe do a video on how to overcome internalized misogyny. I know I have a lot of issues with it keeping me from being the woman I want to be
Good idea, thank you!
As a man, and after watching this video. I feel pretty good right now. ^^
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It's not about not making mistakes it's about it's about learning from them
"How does he treat the waiter? How does he treat his Mom?" Also how does he treat children? How does he treat animals? I'm not saying that he has to be a vegan or a vegetarian but you can know a person by their attitude towards animals. Does he treat children like they are people?
So true!
Can u pls explain the last part , treating children as adults.
@@anilparthip6346 I said treat children like they are people because they are people, not treat them like they don't matter and should be ignored. As in they have a personality, feelings and thoughts. Treated with respect. Treated like they matter. Not to be ignored.
This was great! Definitely on the look out for a high value man. Recently dated someone for a few weeks and he definitely had low value traits- hot/cold , lazy and not ambitious.. yeah no thanks, I ended it and not going to settle.
This kind of videos are such a motivation source for me. I am sure my future girl appreciates you for making them hahah
I love this video because all those mysoginistic podcaster men think being a high value man means having lots of money and having a six pack or being 15 years older.
Meanwhile they lack all real traits of a high value man.
My boyfriend is great and high value. And hes younger than me. Hes 19. And hes ambitious and amazing :)
Ya its part of the reason he moved half way across the country..to be closer when the time comes. It's part of his purpose snd his GOALS.. its sn actual ACTION MOVE.. that means hes in motion towards what he wants
uhm I am female and I value my purpose than relationships actually. doesn’t mean I don’t care about my friends and family but without purpose I am deeply lost and unhappy and feeling of fulfillment is like a oxygen to me. I’m pretty sure lots of women can relate.
I can relate. Now i'm wondering If i'm more a masculine women? But i dont know. I'm super confused. 😅🙈
@@seidenschnabelfederflugel5441 no you do not have to label yourself either “masculine” or “feminine” I know society does that and makes us all confused, sometimes even feel like we are wrong to be who we are or give pressure for need to fix ourselves, which is wrong. So you are just you. And it’s better to have purpose of life generally just as a human being than nothing.
@@jasminekim4283 thankyou. Yes, totally. Purpose is so important for me. Otherwise i wouldnt be alive. Otherwise it would not make sense for me to be alive. 😊
All of us embody feminine and masculine energy, just the balance is different. It's great to have a purpose, it doesn'tmake you any less feminine!
I'm a man. I stumbled upon this video and guess what? She's telling the truth 100%! Do not fall for insecure men who may try to sabotage you in the future.
Very helpful to guys to see this.. just don’t act like this is an absolute checklist. You will not have a long term healthy relationship if you hold a man to every one of these ideas. you also need to do some serious self reflection and make sure you have high value.
Must say your tips were so authentic and simple and easily understandable... Thank you for the tips🧡😌.
So glad you enjoyed!! 💕
I love what you share and how you share it, Jillz. Funny story: As I was watching this video, two different potential dates/partners called me to connect -- as if they could feel me checking in with you and raising my standards. Ha ha. xoxo
haha love that 😊😊
Ugh I love the masculine energy!!!!
I JUST DUMPED my boyfriend because of everything that you’re talking about right now.
He had this side hustle that he claimed he was “building as a brand“ and then when I got to know him longer turned out he not only bought this little brand from someone but he’s had it for four years and he’s yet to reach a point where he quit his job. While I’m over here working on my side hustle before my full-time job, during my full-time job in between working from home, and after my job, and then on the weekends… In the moment I started asking for an evening by myself on the weekend he started throwing a fit. A high value man would never do that to a woman who’s trying to make some thing of herself. He was also extremely overweight, I was trying to give him an opportunity, turns out even the ones that are overweight and unhealthy are probably not going to treat a high value woman any better so now I’m on the journey to just enjoying being single and working on my side hustle
And when I’m ready to date again I’m really really really going to have to be even more picky and I’ve always dreamt of being with a man that was very business oriented and had some thing he was growing on the side into a business or a man that actually was doing what he wants to do working for himself!
Watching how much time women dance around “money, drive, purpose” Which is all code for money lol. If I was in my 50s I need someone who makes money and wants to give it to me. It’s gross lol.
Apart from the great advice, can I just compliment your absolutely gorgeous hair! It's such a beautiful and natural colour, a great style. You clearly take superb care of your hair, really beautiful 😘💋❤
Thank you for this video 🙌🏻🤍
I need to save this video so that I keep on watching it to remind myself that I don't fall for a man who is not available for me. Thank you Jillz
Hi Jillz, thank you for the great video :) I was wondering what you (and anyone else in the comments) would consider the traits that would make a woman marriage material??? It's a topic I have a hard time finding information on and would love to hear a variety of opinions
I’ll try to do a video on this in the future 💕
I also would love to know. 💟
Thank you! I am high value 😃, now i just have to find a High Value Girl
This was so informative. No one really teaches you what you should for in a partner.
Im glad i have channels channels like yours to watch and values to adapt from it at such a young age.All Thanks to the good people on the internet who preach these important standards,i will be prepared when my dating life comes.
When you talk, I feel like a big sister is explaining some important stuff to me. Thank you Jillz❤
Love from India🇮🇳
music to my ears!!! i needed this today, thank you ❤
You're so welcome! ❤️❤️
Thank you for all your videos. It's really life changing and life-saving, too. Hope you continue to help us women step in our long-lost nature.
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THIS IS FUNNY - When I was 32 years old. I had started my own company 7 years previously after getting my Masters. Owned 2 homes outright. Never did drugs or even had a drink of alcohol. Never had been married and no children. I'm 6'5" and in great shape. Women would always ask me. Why was a good-looking, well-educated man didn't have a wife or girlfriend. I would always say "I haven't found the right lady yet". It was true. I would date ladies only once or twice before I figured out they weren't for me. That was before I found my wife.
This is gold. You’re the bomb! I’ll be honest. I overlook red flags. I’m finally learning ! It took a lot of mistakes.
I’m listening to this after over a year of constant waiting for my husband to prove any of this traits in him. I used to work two jobs while he played computer games to provide for us. I have been in my masculine energy for so long, I lost myself completely. By chance, I met a person who fulfills all these traits and my needs. But I’m still waiting for my husband, destroying myself completely. When will this circle end? 😢
This is such an amazing video! So much wisdom being said out loud. Thank you for it! I'm really grateful I came across it, I'm sure it was no accident, I needed to listen to this today.
I have problems with points 2 and a little with 10.
In Spain most men are not generous with money. And my current boyfriend earns a lot more than me, cause I'm studying and I moved from my city to come here. I work but I don't make that much money as he makes. He is always wanting to travel and do things I can't afford but still he won't pay for me to go with him... In the other hand, he never asks me for paying the gasoline when he takes me somewhere else. He never asks me to pay for the food I eat when we are in his place... So I don't know. He comes from a very poor family, and from an environment that wasn't healthy as most people around him were people who tried to take advantage the ones from others. So I think that makes him more cautious about money, and more mistrustful.
As he comes from a poor family and his parents, especially his mother, are taking advantage of him, he is not grateful with them. They are not mean to him, they are nice people and his father tries to help him as much as he can, but it is also true that they have a lot of problems because sometimes they make unreasonable decissions and then they always want him to solve them. He is fed up of them and he uses to talk bad thing about them, specially her, so I don't know.
English is not my first language so sorry if i made any mistake.
You certainly deserve more subscribers 🌸
Aw thank you 💕💕
I'm not too late for this! Thank you🥰
You’re welcome! 💜
So so accurate, and you are so pretty 🤍
Aw thank you 💕💕
Everything you said describes my dad perfectly.
You know what, i have no idea about what’s like to be with a man like this, kinda imagining but I couldn’t get a clear picture haha
I love this video! But would push back some on the idea of relationships being feminine. They manifest different but masculine energy often involves relationships. It’s now thought that “alpha males” were mostly those who marshaled relationships.
Can you make a video with a high value women, i wanna feel like that.💓
Yes I’ll definitely do this!! ❤️
I lost my high value man because this was my first relationship. He had all the qualities and i took him for granted 😭
Is he in alignment? Is he disciplined, is he responsible? Is he mature?
1) Is he goal- oriented, high value
2) Does he have generosity?
3) Where is he financially and does he have a provider mentality
4) Does he learn from his mistakes or is he super - stuck on his ego? And blames other people and things?
5) Are his feelings clear and consistent or is he wishy- washy?
6) Is he ready to take responsibility? Is he willing to take charge? To go into the leadership role?
7) Does he take care of his body and mind? If a man does not have the discipline and commitment to take care of himself, will he have the commitment to take care of you?
8) Is he resilient? Does he have a growth mindset? As opposed to a fixed mind- set? Does he face adversity and does he try to figure things out? Or does he run away?
9) Does he stand by his values or does he get pushed around and have no boundaries?
10) Does he have emotional intelligence? Is he self- aware and does he understand the emotions of others?
11) Does he have high integrity? Does he fulfill his promises? Does he make you question his loyalty to you? Is he honest? Is he trustworthy? Does he have good intentions? Does he lead with love? Is he kind? How does he treat other people? The waiter? His mom?
Incredible Jillz! Thank you for awesome intel!
Recomend study Bob Proctor, to learn How to be a High Value Man. He does not talk about it, but what he teatch is exacly that.
Napolleon Hill and Think and Grow Rich too
❤️ This list!
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This your 4th Video I watched it literally touching my feeling what I want , which kind of change that I want .. thank you and keep it on becauseI need it🎏💕
according to your videos, i have no red flags and i am 10/10 high value man, god damn
Such good points 💓
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You don’t have to convince him #1 💐💕
Thanks! Please make a feminine equivalent to this video :)
Will do!! 💕
Love this idea!
I think I get all these. But still single.
My ex husband was like that very ambitious unfortunately his behavior was very toxic and possessive. We argued a lot and he wanted to control me all the time. So even though there were great things about him. His short temper and lack of empathy killed everything.
Great advice in all of your videos ♡
Thank you! ❤️
My Gosh, what jewels are those thoughts! Why did I not hear them before I married the wrong guy...
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Can you make a video with having a high value man but also wants to have female friendships outside of the marriage?
great stuff
Again great video thank you. Liked and subscribed.
I have decided to carry out a reality check
A hint for you guys : you know you are of some high value when they start talking with you about moving closer to her home, and maybe "help her" when she would have kids.
damn, I needed this.
being provided for is a necessity for me
this is really The check list
could you do a video on the corresponding for women?
Yes I’ll definitely do one in the future!! 💜
Amen sister!!
My wife just left me, and I'm trying to make sense of it at the moment. Truth hurts, not gonna lie.
Awesome video, really!
I think it all depends on how the women was raised. But also how the man has grown to detect good women. A beautiful women will attract mostly dushbags and a high value men will attract average women who are good persons. So if you think about it, this is not that accurate But will hopefully help some women out there for sure
Ever try having the camera come from the top? Could be a good change of pace
So important!
I get this space is for women, but someone help a guy out in spotting green flags in a woman or wife/mother material please, anything will help, thanks! 😊
I haven't seen/met any men with at least, these traits to begin with.. Am I living in a different world?
Good stuff. 👍🏾
i literally have to mother my boyfriend and he complains that he spends too much on me, has to text me good morning first all the time, and yells at me for expressing my feelings or bcs he’s pissed off like 😢
I dont know If i'm a femine women or if my male energies are more present in me. I feel like a child when a man wants to provide for me. I feel like he is my Daddy and that makes me super uncomfortable. 🤔 Where can i find out wich energies are most present in me?