Is Vaginal Birth Better?
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- čas přidán 12. 06. 2019
- Women face a lot of pressure when they become mothers - whether that pressure is from yourself or others. And one of the first pressures a woman faces involves birth and the pressure to have a natural, vaginal birth. But we think that whatever way your baby is born is fine, as long as they arrive safely. Watch us discuss the pressures about vaginal birth in this episode and share your story in the comments!
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This background music is way too much.
I agree, it was a little loud
Yep needs to be quieter, hard to watch
I agree I can’t focus with it
For me it was ok
I had a drug free vaginal birth but I wouldn’t call 11 hours of back to back contractions “wonderful” or “beautiful”. It was extremely painful and scary, but it was what I set out to do and it’s what I want this time too. Making light about “wonderful” vaginal birth (as in this video) may lead new moms to believe that maybe they will luck out and get some sort of painless ecstatic birth. New moms should go in with an expectation of intense pain so they can prepare mentally to surrender to the experience. It was certainly the worst pain of my life, but it was over once the baby was out!
I can relate so much to this. My friends who had given birth naturally before me discribed their experience as a breeze... I was healthy, fit and young (28 then) and thought my experience will be similar... Lol, i was so wrong. I was asked if I wanted any pain relief medication early in the labour and I declined... By the time I was asking for them they said it was too late, I just had to bear the pain. I had a vaccum assistant delivery and the stupid thing kept failing. My delivery experience was just traumatizing. If my husband wasn't there by my side, praying for me and encouraging me.. I don't know how I would have made it. My son came out with a swollen head (from the suction) but the doctor assured me it will be normal after a few weeks. Most of the swelling was gone within a week.
My experience was so bad the doctor adviced me to give birth c-section next time... Well, 3 years later, healthy toddler and 9 weeks preggies... I still want a virginal birth, even if it's twins it will be my first option.
One positive though is that I healed very quickly. It was just amazing. Two days after giving birth I felt great. Most important I just thank the Lord for seeing me through that experience and protecting my baby and I.
If you have a low tolerance for pain, I'd advice you consider a c-section. In my country, South Africa, elective c-section deliveries are very common in private hospitals. But government hospitals will only perform it if it's an emergency.
I wish this video came out a few months ago. During my whole pregnancy I HAD to have a vaginal birth, c-section was not an option for me personally. I labored for 29 hours, started to get a fever, cervix swollen, and only dilated to an 8 before my doctor said a c-section was necessary to get the baby out safely. I was so scared, but in the end none of that mattered. I had a healthy baby boy AND I was recovering perfectly. I never had pressure from my doctor, but I pressured myself for sure.
Oh mom shaming....
I had gestational diabetes. I struggled with my weight before I got pregnant, and I had friends who were thin as rails with it, but everyone pegged me as irresponsible and at fault because I was overweight (not morbidly obese). He was a healthy 7 pounds 15 ounces because I worked my toosh off to keep my blood sugar controlled.
C section after 32 hours of labor. I was fully dilated to 10 cm for 10 hours and he was 100% stuck. He wasn't too big, I was too small. Again, I got a lot of "well if you had been in better shape..." Nope, sorry, won't change the size of my pelvis.
I worked with a lactation consultant, took supplements, went to clinics, used 3 different pumps and guess what? I made next to no milk. We supplemented and switched to full formula 1 month in so that my baby could thrive. There was nothing more I could do and the physical and emotional toll breastfeeding took on me was astonishing.
Oh, and my now 2 year old watches 1 hour of tv in the morning so I can get dressed, wash dishes, start laundry, make beds, and get our day going so we aren't in pjs at noon...so obviously now I get the "you know screen time is detrimental to their speech development"....oi, bug off lol
I have experienced both and I definitely prefered my vbac experience. My doctor with my first son definitely pressured me for a c section. After so told him I wanted to do a vaginal birth he still asked me like 3 times during my labor "are you sure you don't want a c section?". It's a long story and I'm grateful that in the end both my son and I came out safe and well but I'm glad that the second time around I had a doctor who actually cared about what I thought and told me my options without pressuring me for no reason
Being ‘proud of a friend for having an open mind’ is 👌🏻. I think sometimes if you do have a vaginal birth there can be a weird kind of reverse shaming where people 🙄 because they assume you had some kind of magical wonderful experience and that you’re judging them for having a different experience! I want my friends to be able to discuss their births with me if they wish and me mine without anyone feeling judged or compared. It’s ok if you don’t want a vaginal birth or if it didn’t work out that way. But it’s also ok to be really proud of what it took to have a vaginal birth! All strong amazing women however we did it! 😇
Loved this video :) it would be lovely if the backing music was a little more relaxed. Looking forward to the next one
C-sections don’t “seem” to be increasing, they are increasing. And doctors definitely do get a higher insurance payout with them. I think we as moms should feel empowered to make the choices we want, but we need to educate ourselves-and not just on our dream scenario, but on ALL the options. That is an empowered birth! I totally agree that holding too tightly to one idea is just setting yourself up for failure and truly the last thing you want when basking in the presence of that new little baby is to be fighting guilt. We are all making the best decisions we can for our families and our lifestyles.
Actually most obgyn’s are salaried and don’t make more money with c-sections. I’m a midwife and nearly all of my midwifery friends make more money from a natural birth than an obgyn makes when doing a section.
It’s more likely an ob does sections for fear of malpractice than money
I couldn't have cared less how my daughter was born. I just wanted her to be out of my body (hyperemesis mum here, so I was literally violently throwing up for the entire pregnancy). I was induced at 38 weeks, but baby girl couldn't move down because my pelvis was too narrow. I ended up having an emergency c-section.
Do I wish I could have had a vaginal birth? Not really.
I had a planned c-section and I 100% would make the same decision!! I actually enjoyed my entire experience 💕 I got SO much shit from my friends for wanting a c-section and they kept trying to pressure me into having a natural birth. But just like Susan said, I’m a planner and I felt SO much better about having it all planned out and I knew when he was coming! Just ignore what others say and do what you want! It’s your body and your experience!
Same situation. I was very happy with my planned c-section. I felt prepared and recovery was actually better than I expected due to how horrible everyone made it sound
Same here, and don't regret it one bit
I’ll do the same! We live in the 21st century why don’t take advantage! ?
Doctors can pressure you! It happened to me! And they do make more money if you have a c section
Emma Miller not necessarily. It depends if they are salaried, an on call laborist, your primary OB, or hospital vs private practice. Not all doctors are paid the same. Making this assumption is fundamentally flawed.
My baby was 10 pounds and my epidural failed. After two hours of natural active labor(not natural by choice) and an episiotomy I so wished someone offered a c section. Plus I didn’t get skin to skin right away anyways because he wasn’t breathing from the cord being around his neck. I think he would have been safer in a c section.
Yes Doctors pressure moms into belly births all the time when they are not needed. breaks my heart if that is not what mom wants.
I had an emergency c-section because my daughter had a really low pulse, and after birth a lot of people judged me, but they don’t know I had contractions for 2 days and really wanted to have a natural birth
Preach! I am so happy that someone said it. And I can't stand when ppl elevate themselves bc they had no epidural. Who freaking cares!? We all have these babies one way or another and we all heal and all are champions!
I’m glad you made this video to take away any guilt a mama might have after a c-section birth! I wanted to add that being in the birth world I find it hard to educate and allow mothers to be empowered as they know the information and can make an informed choice as it is seen as shaming. In examples of c-section vs vaginal I feel it is important that mamas do know all the risks and benefits before the decision, in this video it isn’t talked about and can see someone just deciding to elect a c-section as it looks seemingly easier which it is not. Same with breastfeeding vs formula, what is a good way for us to share information about important topics without the education being seen as shaming or guilt ridding mothers? 💛
Love this video, both my baby boys were emergency c sections. I also had infertility problems so just getting pregnant was difficult and then on top of that I had problems delivering. Both births were extremely scary and terrifying experiences. My second was more traumatic he was born early because of my preeclampsia and got life flighted to a larger hospital where he spent 16 days in the NICU. He is a little over a month old now and doing well at home. It's sad though that I totally felt mom pressure and I'm pretty sure I have postpartum depression from it. It's so hard being a mother and being told so many things. The nicu nurses even told me that I couldn't breastfeed my second son full time and forced me to use formula when I knew that it made him sick. He is exclusively breastfeeding now and doing fine. I finally had to tell myself that I need to just do what works for me and stop listening to unsolicited advice. Every baby is different, every mom is different and we need to just respect each other's choices because mom shaming is real and needs to stop.
Thank you Susan and Sharzad for sharing your stories. I'm not a mother (yet), but listening to your stories and experiences makes me appreciate mothers all the more, and I think I can prepare myself better when the time comes for me to become a mother myself. I live in a quite conservative environment, I don't think I can ask people around me all these things and not get the weird looks, you know? So yeah, thank you.
I’m pregnant and a few people have asked me what my birth plan is already (I’m still only in my first trimester!) and I just say “to get it out” lol! I don’t care how this baby is born as long as we are both safe and healthy at the end of it!! I don’t have anything against epidurals, if I can do it naturally, cool! If in the moment I want the drugs, give them to me! Just get this kid out 😂😂
Yay this video is great as all! When you touched on the birthing plan, i so agree. Those things make you have your hopes up and for a lot of moms they cant imagine not sticking to it. When i was pregnant i nannyed for an OB dr, i asked her thoughts on o birthing plan. She told me dont set your mind on something because things can change and you will be too hard on yourself. Get informed and educated on your options and know what your are comfortable with. And that what i did
Mom pressure and mom guilt are real! I love this new "series" already!
I've never felt pressured by anyone else to have vaginal births, but it's certainly something that I myself have strived for. Both of the deliveries that I have had have turned out to be vaginal births, but I can actually imagine myself feeling disappointed in myself if I had had to get a c-section. Which is so sad!
Since elective c-sections aren't really allowed where I live and there is a very strong discourse around vaginal births being (in general, not in every case!) the medically best way to go for baby and mom, in my head vaginal is just what you should strive for. But that is honestly an opinion that I'm slightly ashamed by and that I try to keep to myself, because obviously I would never want to shame someone else or make someone else feel pressure or guilt to have a vaginal birth if they for whatever reason don't, or don't want to!
I guess at the end of the day... this is a tricky subject. And I'm so glad you guys brought it up!
Also, in regards to bonding and loving your baby - and that possibly being lessened by having a c-section - that just sounds stupid to me! I didn't bond properly with my first until he was about a year old (it was an incredibly tough thing to go through by the way, and would be a great topic for a video because it's something that people don't want to talk about and associated with SO much guilt)! And like I said, my kids came out "the old fashioned way". Bonding is such a complicated, psychological thing. There's so much more to it than how the baby comes out of the womb!
Thank you so much. I’m sobbing. I had a “failed” birth center birth lead to emergency C-section. I’m healing from the emotional trauma and working on laying down these expectations. Because my child is here! He’s beautiful and I love him more than words express. I’m learning that these things don’t make anyone a better mom. Same with breastfeeding. I did it for almost a month and then many things lead to its end. And I’m NO LESS BONDED TO MY CHILD. Being a mom is hard y’all…let’s not make it harder than it needs to be.
i am literally watching this, waiting for my water to break :-)
Blessings to you and baby. You'll soon be snuggling each other🤗😘😘
@@heyalexiajanee Thank you dear! ❤
Did you deliver yet?
I had a c section because my daughter was double footling breech. The cord was wrapped around her leg when my doctor pulled her out. I had midwives who advised me not to have a c section. Midwives are also in the business of being born. My doctor saved my baby and my life. I'm sure there are some greedy doctors but don't think midwives can't also be greedy opportunists. You really have to trust your gut feeling about people. As a mom you will do the right thing. I did and so will you. Only you know your body and your baby. The midwives I had called me the day I got home from the hospital and asked if I would be taking legal action against them for their horrible medical advice. Don't put the life of your most precious person in risk because you feel pressure from other women.
It’s been 9 months since my emergency C-section and I’m still having so much trouble overcoming the guilt I feel. I had wanted the drug free - natural birth experience and I wasn’t informed enough about C-sections to know what to expect afterwards. I’m definitely coming to terms with it now, but you’re right when you say that there is so much PRESSURE on new moms about their births. It’s hard enough to come to terms with the birth yourself, without other people’s comments making you feel worse! I was told by my MIL that my baby would get sick more often because she was a C-section baby 🤔 craziness!!
Thank you ladies for this ♥️ it’s good to know that I’m not alone in my emotions, and some people are just bonkers with their opinions on new moms. My baby is happy and healthy, and I would have had another million csections to get her here safely
Don't feel guilty. Your situation is why there are C-sections. Your decision saved you and/or your baby's life. Everything doesn't always go as planned and that's life. I'm sorry you have to hear unnecessary negative comments.
Don’t feel guilty! I had the same thing. At the end of the day, birth is a messy painful horrific experience and also beautiful and magical no matter how the baby comes out. They just came out of a hole slightly higher on your body! You didn’t miss out on anything and neither did they.
Ahhhh too much pressure that we put on ourselves!! I delivered vaginally and didn't want a c section only because it was scary to me that you were awake during it, but we all bond with our babies by loving them. I think c section moms deserve a medal, that is some scary ish. I didn't really have a birth plan, just give me an epidural. I didn't see the need to suffer when God gave us the gift of epidurals🤣🤣. I didn't tell many people because i didn't want anyone talking me out of it, and it was a pleasant experience. Great vid amigas🤗😘😘
alexiajanee same here, and I second your c-section opinion! I don't know why there aren't more people who think SC moms are survivors. SC is a huge surgery.
I do however have to make a note on Sarah's point on how doctors can't possibly risk your life to earn more money through surgeries-at least, in my country, this happens all the time (not just for birth but in general).
*Susan not Sarah. What TH. Sorry, mom brain.
@@menakjulia5263 Bwahahahahaaa!!🤣🤣 Mom brain! Me too girl!! I'm surprised my comment even made sense!
May I ask what country you are from? I'm from the US and I hardly know anything about delivering babies and hospital procedures, never thought I'd be a mom😁
alexiajanee I'm from Indonesia. The stuff I know also just comes from friends who had gone through it; I only started reading about childbirth on my fifth month pregnancy and was completely lost during my first ob visit
I had a vaginal birth cause my family pressured me to... REGRETED IT!!!! my friend who had her baby a day before I did had a C-section.. and she recovered faster!!!!! Moms.. never give into the pressure...you do you!!!...❤
@Smashing Glass Houses yes.. I agree. But I honestly feel a c section would have been better for me.. I wasn't trying to imply that it's the best option. Like I said 'you do you". I just meant that every momma had to get to decide which method she chooses, without being pressured by others.
These mom pressure videos are so great! 👍🏻
I had a friend who just had a baby say to me, “Labour didn’t go to plan.” I was like, “Labour never goes to plan, don’t worry about it!” (Except in Brandi’s case, but that was pretty exceptional). I am all for eradicating mom pressure! Healthy, happy Mummies and babies is all we need!
such a good video girls!!
I'm 16 weeks pragnent! Now that everyone knows I'm pregnent they love to give there own horror storries about any baby related topic. I kind of smile trough en figure it's done with love. I'm deciding to stay chil and positive. I have a wish for what i would like my bith to be, but anything can happen so I will have to wait and see.
I had to have a c section bc when I was 16 weeks pregnant I found out my son had gastroschisis so I didn't have a choice and I was heart broken bc I wanted to have a vaginal birth but all that mattered was my son and him getting here safely, my c section wasnt bad at all I recovered so fast! He is now almost 2 he is happy and healthy! I am very blessed to have him here and at the end of the day all that matters is getting your baby here safely weather it is vaginally or c section!
How did your son survive being born at 16 weeks?
@@emilybryant8461 he was born at 38 weeks when I was 16 weeks pregnant with him thats when I found out he had gastroschisis.
Actually...I really cannot understand all this pressure that women put on themselves. During my pregnancy I did yoga and prepared myself for vaginal birth, then it was not an option since my baby was in breech position and I was at my first pregnancy, so I had c-section. Absolutely comfortable with the decision. Focused my time on reading about breastfeeding and how to correctly latch the baby, focused to read basics about how to take care of my baby. I really do not regret this. Once I gave birth I was able to breastfeed him and still do it now and he is 8 months old :) and I was able to take care of him and not to panick if he cryed, sneezed...
Thanks for sharing! To the Parents out there.... try not to put pressure on yourselves for how your child enters the world. Just remember what the goal is and keep your on eye on that...The goal? To have a safe healthy and happy pregnancy, delivery, & baby. I had really had my mind set on a vaginal birth, I was tired of being pregnant, and excited to meet our son so when my ob/gyn suggested an induction... I happily agreed. I had 2 failed inductions cuz none of the meds they gave me worked. Then a last minute ultrasound showed my son was bigger than previously thought so my ob/gyn said C-section. I asked which is safer for my son and she said C-section was safer so I immediately agreed. He was born 3 days late & we are the happiest parents of our toddler. You may have a plan but children can change things so you might as well let go of the “pressure”.😀👶🏻
Please do a video on breastfeeding :) I exclusively pump and at first I felt like a failure but it’s what works for me.
Love you’re videos, thanks!👍🏾
Wonder video,thank you!!!
I’d love to see an episode about mom pressure to exclusively breastfeed!
Its up to me as a mom whatever I want and whatever is best for me and my baby. I don't feel bad or judged by anyone!!
The music is so annoying I am sorry 😅
Do you have any tips on what easy exercises to do to get ready for birth?
Why the loud music guys? Gave me a headache 🤕😏😒😔
I had an emergency c section. Was told I was a terrible parent but my daughter was premature... ok I'll stay pregnant and both die! As a young mum it's so hard to ignore the pressure
in estonia, giving birth is 100% free, you dont have to pay for absolutely anything, but we don't get to choose how we deliver, they do c-sections only in case of true emergency. even if your baby is really really big, you have to have it vaginally. we can only choose if we want medications or like a waterbirth or something.
Same in the Netherlands. But we do have great midwifes and great after birth care so I didn't have a problem with not having the option of an elective c-section.
@@michellezevenaar same in Germany
I'm moving to one of these countries then. The US is the worst developed country to give birth in. I would know, I've done it.
@@sarathurman4838 Google daft, dutch America friendship treaty.
I’m 30 weeks pregnant with my first right now and my doctor told me early on I would most likely need a c-section. I was devastated at first because I felt exactly like you said. I needed to have a drug free birth with a baby swimming beautifully out of my who-ha. I started researching c-sections and talking to mom friends who went through them and now I’m looking forward to mine. I would love to have a vaginal birth and my doctor said she’s still keeping it on the table, but I will be happy with a c-section. In the end as long as my baby is healthy and happy, I don’t care how he comes into this world. I’d rather elect the c-section than to put myself or my baby at risk because of pressure or guilt from society.
I am so glad you are getting more comfortable with the idea of a belly birth. You did state that you would still love to have a vaginal birth. Just know it's not too late to get another doctors opinion on the matter. Maybe you can find one who will support you more and not just keep it on the table. What's most important is that you feel empowered in your decision and don't feel pushed into it. However you deliver, you are a strong mama, and your birth will be beautiful. If you do plan a belly birth look into gentle cesareans. there are many things that people do during vaginal birth that can also be done during belly births. See if any of that interests you. Congrats on the baby!
I wanted to have an all natural vaginal birth. I didn’t feel a lot of pressure but I just wanted to try it for myself. In the end, I needed laughing gas and fentanyl and if my labor were any longer (it was a total of 8 hours from admission to delivery) I probably would have gotten an epidural. I was happy with my birthing experience but it did hurt like hell lol. Moms should have every say in how they want to deliver their baby.
I had two vaginal births and both babies had to get their stomachs pumped from too much amniotic fluid and one has asthma from the fluid in his lungs. 🤷🏻♀️ you cant prevent what is going to happen in most things so don’t waste your pregnancy worrying about that! Enjoy it and take everything as it comes.
i am just 2 months prego but i am scared to death thinking about vaginal birth coz i am so concerned about my bottom. even a pimple there just put me to tears. and i want no tears no episiotomy there. otherwise i will get sick i know. anyone pls guide me what to do. i havent even talked about this with my obgyn coz i dont know how to tell them thats what i feel. i can manage a csection well but vaginal birth i cant. my frnd got epi and tear upto her butt and 5 months postpartum she is still struggling with urine issues. last time i had uti due to some meds i cried whole sitting and was just sitting in the toilet for whole night . please help me dont know what to do where to start
I had a C-section with my first after a failed induction 35 weeks pregnant now with my second and will have another one if it's allowed. It not a done deal in my country and doctors more than you get to decide although I have made my preference know. I love my son more than words can express and pushing him out wouldn't have made a difference. The goal is a healthy baby. My mom and sister all have had natural birth and say it what's best I just ignore them they are not me and my medical needs are not theirs. Do what's best for you and your baby.
Thank you!
I was too tired to push her out. I didn’t sleep for over 40 hours, went totally unmediated. Pushed for 2.5 hours and had to be assisted by my midwife. Basically she reached into my vagina, with her gloves hands, and pulled my baby out of me. I would NEVER guilt a mom to go through a birth like I did. It was SO hard. But I wanted it as natural as possible. I wanted it and I appreciate going through it. I had the birth experience I wanted. And I want EVERY mom to have the birth experience they want - no matter what it is. Even if they need to change their plan mid labor, I just want them to feel empowered.
Can you two do a video on how to find the right obgyn pls.
20 weeks prego and I don’t have a birth plan due to not knowing what will happen... I hate when plans don’t goes as planned so I’m literally gonna wing it. Like they said as long as baby is healthy and mom is healthy
I wish you guys would’ve made this before April 23 I kept telling everybody how I wanted to have a C-section because I wanted my daughter who is due May 12 to be born May 9 which is my mother who passed away his birthday and everybody kept telling me not to do a C-section to do a vaginal so after months of hearing it I finally decided to change my mind and on April 22 they had to induce me for my High blood pressure and 15 hours after they started the induction I had not progressed at all and then ended up having to do an emergency C-section anyways
I'm a nurse from South Africa and there are OBGYNs here that tell you either a C section or go to anther Dr. Because they believe that being on a schedule is better and they make more money that way.
I was not able to eat much while pregnant since my belly was not able to expand much. The day before of my scheduled deliver, I was not able to eat. I thought that I could have a natural deliver. He was born at 37 weeks. The contractions were stressing the baby. I did plan for epidural and i still have pain. I have no choice but c section. I didn't want to risk my baby's life. The baby's health and safety has been my priority the whole time. No woman should feel pressure. He was born 5 pounds 6 ounces healthy. I even bought bigger pregnancy clothes thinking I was going to gain a lot of weight. I actually gain weight after deliver because I was finally able to eat. My advice is do what's best for you. Everyone is different and have different medical conditions. Just love your baby and pray for him to be healthy.
I had two unmedicated births and fuck that shit is not fun the pain is fucking unbelievable.....
The positive thing I got out of it is quick recovery....
The pressure of not formula feeding and only breast feeding
I felt mom guilt and pressure when l couldn't breastfeed my baby for more than 2 months. I had 5 c sections under General anesthesia as epidural was contraindicated for me because of a spinal surgery in childhood .
I always had anxiety couldn't feed in 12_18 hours .My kids were given bottle feed initially. But l tried my level best .Supply is always low never had leaky boobs
Can you just choose to have a c-section in america? On my country it’s almost impossible to get one
I just had my baby girl 6 days ago, 24 labor, fever, stayed 9 cm for 7 hrs, baby did not respond well to pitocin, it was a rollercoaster! Doc told me we need an emergency C-section. After everything I dilated to 10 right after and delivered vaginally. Took me less than 20 minutes to push her out! What an experience
Wow, thanks for sharing your experience. Just out of curiosity, what got that last centimeter going?
What about a discussion on "when are you having a baby?"
Yep so true pressure all the way and as a first time mum you don’t really know what you are supposed to do but yeah towards the second baby it stops coming from people as they assume you have your mind made up ha!
I was in labour for 3 days had my daugther on the 3rd day at 7 pm it was crazy lol
So.... which is better?
My ob has been pushing me to have a vaginal birth. When I first got pregnant I was 100% wanting a c-section but now at 25 weeks I'm all in to try a vaginal birth also because me husband is scared for me to go under the knife.
How was it??
I stopped watching video in between because the music is way tooo much
Did anyone have a natural birth without the epidural?? I am due next month, first baby 👶, few of my friends and family told me to skip on the epidural, it's bad for you so now I'm kind of nervous about the whole epidural thing. Lol can anybody tell me their experience.
Soukaina Benjelloun i gave birth 10 weeks ago. Vaginal delivery with no epidural. Every experience is so different so it’s hard to give you comfort because our bodies are not shaped the same, we are different people. My labor went very fast. 4 hours and he was here. I never was on my back throughout the process. I was in the shower for the first hour of laboring, then I was on all fours in the hospital bed, then I was squatting and that is the position I gave birth. I’m also very active, did yoga throughout my pregnancy and literally did like 30 squats a day paired with breathing exercises. I read books on anatomy and the way our bodies work during labor. So it was truly a learning experience for me and I tried very hard to think mind over matter and be with the experience knowing that it would pass. That being said, some women have very real medical reasons that they could not give birth like I did. Trust yourself and the knowledge you have within you of what you are capable of and move from there. Good luck!!!
I have 4 children, all vaginal births and all without an epidural. I hope your labour went well 🥰
@@Chantelle-dj3fm amazing ♥️..so brave
I just wanted healthy children . I did not care how they got here. I had 2 natural births with epidurals and induction at 39 weeks.
C section rates ARE going up. Doctors don’t get more money, but hospitals get around about twice as much money for c section. OBs give labouring mothers arbitrary time frames of when they should be in the pushing stage, and when they don’t meet that time limit they are labeled ‘failure to progress’ and go for a c section. LITERALLY because they want to go home.
If you haven’t had a c section, don’t comment on what it’s like. Don’t tell mums that all that matters is a healthy baby. Of COURSE that effing matters, but we can still grieve our birthing experience. That just makes us feel guilty if we are feeling sad about having a c section.
I always love the topics you two choose to share your opinion on, but sometimes I feel like you aren’t educated in the entire issue before you talk on it. The reason people aim for a vaginal, unmedicated birth is not to be this beautiful flower loving goddess but because it is the healthiest thing you can do for your baby. Susan mentioned amniotic fluid and lung strength, that is one part of it. Another is that the baby attracts all the healthy bacteria from the birth canal which the breast milk has antibodies for, which jumpstarts the passive immunity of the baby. A c section baby unfortunately doesn’t have that chance. Unmedicated vaginally birthed babies also tend to be more alert and able to breastfeed well from the start, where as if you have an epidural, the baby can be very sleepy in the first few days making breastfeeding difficult. Many hospitals also do not allow skin to skin after a c section which can affect the future breastfeeding relationship which in turn affects their chance at developing jaundice or other illness as newborns. Of course parents should feel empowered no matter what their situation, but I think there is generally a great lack of information surrounding the potential effects of your birth choices. Informed is best!
Very little of this was actually about vaginal birth.
There are good and bad doctors who do anything to make more money. Don't be afraid to ask for what you want and what's best for you.
I felt like it was profound as well. The wildest feeling I’ve ever felt. Immediately after it ended I wanted to feel what it felt like pushing him out all over again. The memory of that feeling keeps fading (my baby is 10 weeks old) and i truly want to feel it again and let me just say it was verrrry painful but not in the way someone just punched me in the face pain, it’s different, a pain that is unlike any other.
Honest question: if you don't think doctors pressure women because they make more money, how do you explain the difference in attitude to C-sections (and elective inductions for that matter) between America vs countries with socialised/free/ tax-funded medicine?
It's the illusion that the doctor is always right.c-section were created for emergencies. There needs to be more education about birth and having healthy pregnancies. I had a non-epidural vaginal birth. C-sections do increase health risks, so I really don't understand how elective C-sections are the right thing? To me it's like breastfeeding, it is better for the baby than formula. But a fed baby is better than starving. So if surgery is needed it's needed but if it can be avoided that is better. Education is empowering, but hearing some the reasons for C-sections it's sad that those who even have them in emergencies feel guilty.
*And when I say elect, I'm referring to there's absolutely no medical reason its purely a choice.
@@ADWebTV I agree 100%. Here in Germany doctors advise very much against elective C sections, or elective inductions for that matter (since there's a risk of emergency c-section), so pretty much nobody gets those, though technically it's legal and if a patient insists on having one, the healthcare providers have to comply. But it's so strongly discouraged, I don't know anyone who had one
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I'm underweight and pregnant I'm really scared I'm 88 pound and I'm 20
Iam 31 weeks and I am freaking out cuz with my first I had an episiotomy that led to a traumatic recovery and I don't want that and I have explained to my Dr and I openly said "I would rather have a c-section then that" she laughed and said "well of course your gonna rip but we'll sew u up"
I am scared and it's causing anxiety
Well that's not an okay response from your doctor. Maybe next time bring some one that you are comfortable with being there and explain what you want... It will be harder for them to brush you off when someone else is in the room to call them out on it .. good luck!
@@HeatherAnne10 thanx I made my next app. With another Dr in the same office to see what she will say!
@Smashing Glass Houses yah well I would rather go through that than the traumatic delivery I had and my daughter almost dieing during delivery because stupid doctors want natural delivery.
@Smashing Glass Houses as long as u and the baby are fine
@Smashing Glass Houses I would chose a c section anytime over having a natural then seeing ur baby come out unresponsive no breathing or movement from being distress at birth and almost dieing it was the most terrifying thing in the world. One minute they see the heart rate the next I am pushing so hard so she doesn't die. Honestly I am terrified.
You should try to have a vaginal birth if possible because a csection is a major abdominal surgery!! The recovery I honestly think is more difficult for csection (for most women, my sister didn't have an easy recovery with one of her boys).
Also my doctor is pressuring me to have a csection because my baby is breech, they want me to have csection at 39 weeks. Why not wait till labor and see if baby flips at the beginning of labor and decide from there??
With each csection you increase the chances of complications too... I will have one if I need one, but i would like the better faster recovery.
4ever loved because it’s more difficult to get an OR at short notice and after 36-38 weeks it’s much less likely they will flip on their own. By scheduling it ahead of time it makes it safer because there is no emergency, when you wait for the emergency you are at risk for not having an OR open when you need it causing higher risks to mom and baby. 🤷🏼♀️
Do you have a doula? You can do some movements that encourage the baby to change position.
@@ADWebTV yes we do have doula. We have been trying sprinning babies and I have been going to the chiropractor etc... maybe there is a reason she hasn't turned? Who knows. Just the idea of a surgery doesn't settle easily on me when I have 2 year old to chase who loves to run. Fortunately my husband gets 2 weeks paid leave... so that will help.
C-sections are for situations like this. My hypnobirthing teacher hates Western medicine in situations like this, because your right to wait till labor because your baby may very well move in to position when their ready to come. Your doc is causing unnecessary stress.. I'm sorry your doctor isn't more supportive of your (in my opinion) wise decision. I'm realizing now how beneficial it would be for there to be a class on C-sections (or to be apart of birthing classes) knowledge is empowering. I encourage you to try to avoid all negative birth stories every birth is unique regardless of C-section or vaginal birth. 3 of my friends have had C-sections. They had no complications and were moving around afterwards. Moving around after is actually encouraged. Doulas offer postpartum care or if you have some supportive family and friends who want to help have them assist with the older child's care. If you have to have C-section that's ok, and it's awesome your trying to get baby to move into position and waiting. I hope everything (mentally and physically) goes smoothly for you either way.
I have nothing against c-sections. But I do not understand elective csection. Why would you opt for major surgery? If you want to schedule you can have an induction..
For some people a c section is less scary then a vaginal birth. Too each their own. If you've had abdominal surgery before and know what it feels like to recover from that, it's more comforting then not knowing what it will feel like to possibly/literally rip apart your vagina.
heather petersen fair enough!
Can you guys consider doing a segment on the difficulty of trying to conceive for those dealing with that?
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The same is in India... We get to here this alot here that v birth is best n you don't get attach to baby if u opt for c sec... Now after this I got to know it is everywhere... Why women need to suffer so much🙄
Not even going to watch the video: Yes. a Vaginal birth is better. It is the natural way you are supposed to have a child. The alternative is surgery.
This is coming from someone who had an AMAZING planned c section (for medical reasons) less than 6 months ago. It was the most pain free, relaxing experience. Was up and running in less than a week and hae been breastfeeding very successfully and back to my pre-pregnancy jeans in 2 months. However, just because i had such a great experience and my friend who gave birth vaginally still has hemorrhoids, does NOT mean it is better to have a c section.
How did you prepare yourself mentally for a csection
Lucky Flakes I had a very painful abdominal surgery a year prior where they removed some fibroids and going through it helped me to prepare for the c-section. There is no right way to mentally prepare but just know your body is capable of sooo much! In the moment don’t be afraid to speak up and say how you feel. The anesthesiologist has magical things that will make you feel better!
Mine was great too
So doctors would plan a CS with no indications? But as doctors, we swore not to do harm. And a CS with complications that might reach up to death is unnecessary harm. What’s wrong with delivering as god made our bodies behave, unless of course god plan was otherwise and I have an indication for the CS, maternal, fetal distress, bleeding or no progress in labor
Not married yet, but already wanted an elective c-section. Already at my late 20s and people think I'm crazy to not consider natural birth.
I’m being told to not get the epidural because it’ll cause long term back pain.
EyeMCindy it’s a rare complication in a minority of epidurals. Speak to an anesthesiologist or OB about your risk factors and they can tell you if it’s more likely or less likely.
That's super rare. I had an epidural and haven't suffered any back pain. Would 100% reccomend
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I first want to say that no matter how you birth your baby you are strong and amazing. Belly birth and vaginal birth is birth.
I do want to say that the place you deliver and the doctor/ob/midwife you deliver with really can impact the way you birth. If you go somewhere with a 15% belly birth rate compared to a 50% belly birth rate that impacts your chances of vaginal birth.
Even if doctors do or don't make more.... I will say that sometimes decisions are not made because of what is best for mom and baby. Sometimes they are made because of policy.
"we don't "allow" moms to push for more than two hours" Even if mom and baby are ok if that is the policy the doctor will push for a belly birth.
Also, there may be less risk for the doctor in lawsuits if they go to belly birth sooner.
Also, everyone defines risk different. Even doctor to doctor it varies and every parent. What is most important is that the mom understands the risk of both sides and get to make the decision.
Whatever decision she makes is great.
(The world health organization recommends a 10-15% c-section rage. )
But with a 32% belly birth rate. there are unnecessary c-sections being performed. Now if all the moms having them done are ok with that, that's fine.
What's not fine is when they personally don't want one and it happens and does not HAVE to.
So doctor pressure is a real thing!
So mamas do what is best for you!
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What annoys me is the excuse for elective csections being “I don’t want to ruin what I got going on down there.” Like, that is nature, what it’s meant to do. It goes back. I just seems childish and reminds me of something a teenager would say. Like grow up.
Healthy baby and mom = Successful birth 👌
Just Jessi never say this to a c section mumma. Being grateful for being healthy and having a healthy baby while grieving your birthing experience are NOT mutually exclusive. Saying the whole ‘healthy mum and healthy Bub is all that matters’ just makes us feel guilty 👍
@@emilyrosin1369 I get what you mean but my point was simply there's no wrong way to give birth. Being strong and changing the plan you wanted for the safety of the baby is something to be proud of.
Just Jessi I understand where you are coming from, and I agree. I just think it’s important we remember the words we use might come from a good place, but may have a different meaning for someone else ❤️
@@emilyrosin1369 Yes and I wouldn't want any mama too feel bad about what I said. Mothers need to be supportive with other moms decisions and choices and thank you for sharing your point of view/experience