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They also seek and know this about each other and this is the further special eternal aspect/stroke in each action of caring and stroke one makes to one another. I would add that the reality of touching love in reality. More another time but thank you Sadia for what you said. Lenny
I agree. I enjoy nurturing my husband. However, with men who come to always expect this or never reciprocate nurturing acts - it starts to feel like mothering, which turns women off. Make sure if you have a woman who does this, reciprocate the same thoughtfulness in different ways.
And then those men wonder why their relationship/marriage is sexless and they have affairs. A woman is not interested in having sex with someone she considers as another child to look after. And Men are not interested in having sex with someone that reminds them of their mother. Reciprocating and being of service to your loved one is so important for an enjoyable relationship /marriage.
It’s honestly my favorite part of being a wife. Nurturing my husband and being one step ahead when it comes to his needs is how I express my love. He’s always so surprised and never understands how I just “always know.” It’s the best feeling 😌
Literally can’t wait for this ! God willing I yearn to cater to my future husband and family! It’s a serious yearn so that lets me know I was made to do this.
very inspiring!But doesnt thoughts like “ i m not his mother” bother you?Also doesnt this make a man take you for granted eventually?Does this make a man love and Respect you at the sane time
As a woman I used to be this way in relationships. I think it signaled to those men that they could take advantage of me. Now I would love be nurturing and caring toward someone but it would take a lot for me to let my guard down after being manipulated and abused and left. Some people just take.
Me too~ a lot of men only want servants to wait on them, and I'm just not going to do that anymore. It would take a miracle to be able to let my guard down, but like you said....too many takers, and the narcissism levels now are just off the charts. No thanks...I'll stay happily single, with my art, pets, and volunteering...in complete control of my own home, finances, body, and heart. Take care❤.
Oh please. Most women do the majority of household chores and child care and family management and taking care of the husband even when they work outside of the house. Men just now appreciate it more because it's a privilege as it should be not demanded by law and forced by culture as in the past, then they acted like tyrants to their wives and didn't appreciate them
Yeah same - she’s smart and got some good stuff but this is the best - she should just focus on this core message & statement now > everything else is less of a priority
Absolutely!! But the thing is; always be thankful she chose to do those things for you.. that’s how people grow apart and relationships end. Always acknowledge what she is doing and understand that she easily could of chose not to do it for you.
I realise it's not for everyone, but I personally LOVE to cook a good meal and serve it to those I love, I enjoy paying attention to little details that make someone's day a little better, a little easier perhaps, and show that I care and am thinking of them. When someone APPRECIATES the effort and the love put into a meal, it creates connection, respect for what each person brings - these are the little moments that make up our life time, the every-day little acts of kindness.
@@elvismacghee3703 Haha that is funny! 😅Although I giggled, I feel a little sad that we have learned to not trust other humans. Maybe we see too many bad news stories now. I also have a cooking passion, as I get ideas and enjoy discovering how to make new meals, and without someone to share it with/give, there is a lot of waste 😂 Hope you have a good week!
@@AussieGem i think I'm finally getting it at 40... Before I can ask anything of my partner I need to be able to give it to myself and be able to offer it to her first. There's nothing like coming home after being out in -40, cleaning yourself up then having your face held even for a few seconds...it's the softness and gentleness is what we need. I think it's harder if you take pretty good care of yourself, I get younger women trying to get my attention with their bodies, that's not intriguing. We're interested in women with talents and passions and self respect, someone we treat as an equal and we can look up to...nobody cheats on someone they care about. No man can argue with a woman like that. Have you ever asked yourself about Alexander's armies and the types of men they were composed of? Some looked their first wives in the eyes and said they'd be back but took local wives anyways, lots of them did. Some men died on the way home trying to keep their word to their wives and some men made it home alive. Of the men who made it home, some were so scarred from war they beat their families upon return. Then there's the type of man I sure hope I'd be...smart enough to survive and collapse in his wife's lap, grateful he had the chance to see her once again. I think a lot of women currently pick men for absolute s**t reasons.
Being attentive and considerate is a mutual form to show love. But there is a balance, a woman should not become his mom in order to keep him. Men stay or not if they want to, regardless of how attentive or nurturing a woman is. Self respect is critical.
So giving a man a coffee or ironing a shirt is "being a man's mother"? It's women like you that makes men say their isnt any good women left out here. Just a bunch of argumentative feminists & misandrists.
Yup! You can be as respectful and nurturing, but he can/ will leave anyway if the "packaging" is not to his liking or in vogue enough. There is always the far east.
It goes both ways. Women are epecred to act to please and service her husband and family. Men must be nagged, reminded and pushed to do their "chores".
I melt when my wife takes care of me like those exact words, food, tea/coffee, clothes, even before I know I need them. She is the best thing to me and I am able to grow only because I have her in my life. I am grateful to all gods that I have her.
Lol, no. Most often people become attractive or not because of their attitude. I have come to find the most gorgeous women very ugly because her attitude.
A very ugly out of shape nurturing girl wouldn't be the first option for a successful guy. Maybe for a below average dude! Kindness is key for longterm pair bonding but you have first to develop intimacy !
There is the other side of the story. In South East Asian culture , especially , many men are brought up with the mindset that women are there to serve them continually- women's love and caring is taken for granted and not valued
The relationships between man and a woman are not easy. A man wants a feminine woman. Women want a masculine man. A little cup of coffe in the morning is definitely a winner. Let's look after each other.
M tired of telling this to people . We are overly complicating stuff with things for both men and women . Fact is , we are designed in different ways for a reason . Alas , only if people listened
Exactly. Sometimes this woman is spot on, sometimes she just generalizes. At times, she paints men as these oversexed demons, as if nurture doesn’t play a big role in how a man conducts himself sexually. Then she’ll say shit like this, as if it is not a two-sided thing.
...the love and nurturing of another human being! Why the tender and the nurturing deeds are always expected from women?! All women (also straight women) long for a nurturing partner too!
This is something I appreciate very much. A nurturing woman who can anticipate what I may need is fantastic. Of course we men have to treat these women right too.
That's disgusting. The fact that she does the same thing for u indicates that u also want someone to treat u like a child. You are such an insecure man and want mother in the name of wife.
I was like that with my husband, he loved it alright, he took and took and took till I was completely dry. Was the most lonely I’ve ever been. 11 years single now. I give all my love to my children and myself. We are very happy.
I don’t think she meant that you shouldn’t have expectations or needs being met. I think maybe he wasn’t right for you.. an honest man appreciates and reciprocates. I do that for my wife to this day. Good luck to you..
@@daviddawes293 David. Respectfully l, you’re an idiot. She will make sure you get the least amount of respect from women as possible. You are trying to listen to a woman who won’t even talk to you without fake hair, nails, makeup, and all that other stuff. Before you take her advice at least have her jumó in a swimming pool and be real with you.
She hit the nail on the head with this one if more women did this more relationships would last.. it does feel really good when someone thinks of you and takes care of you like that
There's no better feeling than nurturing the one you love ❤ Men go through alot more than we tend to realize and it's not difficult to show a man you care and appreciate him.
Nurturing is much more than having things ready. It's supporting his goals to be the best man version he can be, such as privately calling out pitfalls, etc.
Valid point but if he is self sufficient & successful ; like she said a nurturing woman would complete his life to bring peace etc …depending on his love languages
A nurturing woman is absolutely the best. It is instant love. Instant love. So true. Also raise your children with nurturing and never verbally abuse them. Trust me. You can guide them and coach them..teach encourage and coach them. And tell them you love them.
This is true I’ve been with the same girl 10years because she is kind like that and cares to make my life easier with these little things, it makes me want to give her the world
Makes you give her “the world”, yet you don’t even have a decency to put a ring on her finger😂 Talk about being traditional. Sound like you just have a domestic slave, good for you😅
It's a two way street. If a woman does not receive this kind of fore-predicted love and service and appreciation in return for the service she does for him.. eventually she burns out. It feels one sided. Like one is expected to give it all and the other to just receive. When both show acts of love of service for one another in this way and are both considerate of one another, then neither minds doing it for the other. If anything, it will bring them both joy. It requires us both to leave our ego behind.
Exactly. If a man did these things for a woman (who is likely also working too) most sane women would reciprocate. It was easier for precious generations because most were stay-at-home moms 😂 All I’m saying is, if you expect this kind of behavior, definitely be ready to give it. Reciprocity, period.
@@apontutul Being dense about sensible things is the best way to end up in a dead bedroom. If you don't understand simple concepts like reciprocity...good luck with sustaining a healthy relationship...
I agree that usually high-end men are conditioned in their business, and when a partner attend to them in an endearing way, it is a pleasant pause for admiration and love!
Hence why they date their secretaries. I'd make a lousy secretary or manager of a sports team. I'm a coach and a teacher . I lead in what I do and follow when I'm learning to lead
I said to my woman, I might be getting set up and have to call you from the police station. She replied, I'll support you no matter what happens x. My heart melted when I received that txt.
This is how I plan on finding a partner, I love cooking and caring for someone and giving hugs just because. Just like the old saying; the way to a man’s heart is through his stomach. 😊
It’s the role of a good woman. Women don’t do it because a lot of men don’t appreciate good women until their gone. Now there’s a wave of women from bitter broken mothers
That is not unconditional love - a housekeeper could do all of that for you. Those are thoughtful acts of service. Romantic love is never unconditional.
@@sugarwaterpurple5280 it is obvious you don’t understand unconditional love comes in many forms- I’ll been married 40 years she was the only women that “by actions” thought of more than herself in situations that I needed her to step up without talking about- so yea unconditional . Like Jesus died for your sins unconditional- love comes in many forms- self center person like yourself will never think of the man first..
@@markgroom5337 Unconditional love is love without conditions. Period. The closest thing to it is a parents love. In romantic love, we all have conditions for love. For example if she breaks every one of your marriage vows...you still in love? If she decides shes now a man, you still in love? This is is such a childlike way to think. Seems more like a mother-son dynamic.
@@sugarwaterpurple5280 when you find out who create marriage the same God who created unconditional love not lust, puppy, monogamy one person at a time …( man and women) ( I dated my wife for 6 years before we got married) you can pervert a relationship however you want… that make you (them) their your own god !! So, do you date to get laid or to get married… the greener grass relationships.. moral compass is broke!!!
Romantic love can be unconditional, relationships have conditions. People can’t tell me that when someone cheats on you (breaks a relationship condition) that all of a sudden the love goes away. Especially if you have been together a long time it’s simply not true. I can be in love with someone and not have them in my life because they treated be badly. But the love I have for them is still there because it’s unconditional.
This is exactly true. My husband LOVES that I always anticipate his needs and provide the solution without him having to ever ask. I’ve only heard him verbalize it to a group one time; but the smile on his face whenever there’s a coffee ready, or his lunch packed, or his work clothes clean & hung up, makes me feel like I’m fulfilling my purpose as a wife and homemaker.
Sharon my bro man, this is something everyone loves, especially men, whether your father, friend, or husband. It has nothing to do with the coffee, at all. What it actually is, is you're saying "I love and care about you." AND making his life easier. So not only are you filling him up with love, you're freeing up his time and energy to return even more love to you.
Yes this is beautiful for a woman to do, but make sure you as the man are also taking on your duties as the husband seriously, appreciate her efforts and she’ll appreciate you. Women naturally “ double” anything a man gives- buy her groceries, she’ll cook you a meal, give her compliments and she’ll go above and beyond in taking care of herself. Give her sperm and she’ll give you a baby..etc. Don’t burden your woman though, don’t let her work 50+ hrs/week And make her cook and clean everything in your home. Ease her burden, give her rest.
When he is nurtured , he will love you and take good care of you w all his heart ❤️....your his loving nurturing lady . Forever in is heart 🙏❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
African men are conditioned to expect this and more and DEMAND this. It"s a little bit of a different dynamic. Just some different persepctive, not arguing.
Two way street ... most women expect men to pay for dates, lift heavy stuff, fix car, fix house, protect against other men animals or spiders 😅 Add they're entitled to chivalry like proposing buying a ring 💍 at ridiculous prizes. Asking for a coffee ☕️ or a gentle gesture seem like excessive? 🤣 Narcissism is hell of a drug
So true. It’s not just about the physical connections for men; does your partner actually care for your needs? Way more important and you value that way more than anything else.
I was raised in Jamaica to do everything you speak of that’s why when I came here my mom never wanted me to worry about going to school or getting an education because she wanted me to just worry about having a husband and taking care of him and being a loyal submissive wife because I’m a female, school was not important for me to attend it was just to have fun, but because it’s a requirement to let your kids attend school in America she had to let me go or else she’d be in trouble. I always wanted to fulfill my dreams wether I came to America or not that’s why I always got mad when I was never allowed to do things I wanted to do even though I was already an adult. It not fair. I can do all the things a man needs and still get to fulfill my dream(some folks call it hobby) idc I still want to be able to pursue something I am passionate about while I’m here. Why should I only dedicate my life to a man 😢I can give him and the kids 90% and I get the 10% to myself. That’s fair☝🏽
I did all ALL of this, plus pack the lunches, wrote the love notes saying thank you for providing, hang up his clothes , take care of the shopping. He comes home to his favorite food and home made dessert almost every day…. He told our couples therapist that he feels like a child and I’m his mom and I’m not speaking his love language, I’m speaking mine 😑
As a man I genuinely believe we are easily pleased just by those little things, and we would go through anything to make them happen and make those girls happier
She is just lovely . . And I appreciate her explaining these things so beautifully . . I want to relax back into my feminine . . Which is authentic for me ❤
Same for women, then men complain about "not being mind readers" 😂😂😂 honestly if you know someone long enough,you should know their favorite coffee, their favorite meal that kind of stuff. Not everything needs to be spelled out
Ideally both partners will be in tune with each other and seek to help each other and make each others life better. That said, in my anecdotal experience, women in my wife (including my wife) have expressed disappointment that I did not get their hints or understand they wanted something from me without telling me. I think many women do have a desire that their men will do something they want without asking. That is a desire. But it is still a bit unreasonable if only because it can be ineffective. Do ladies expect their female friends to do favors telepathically without being told? Part of this is probably a difference in communication styles. Women are encouraged to speak more indirectly; men are the opposite. I love my wife and would do almost anything for her. But the communication style is more like love languages. Acts of service may not be yours. So it won’t resonate with me if you do acts of service no matter how thoughtful. Likewise the way some (not all) women communicate (obliquely) may not get picked up by the men. It’s not their language or communication style.
I disagree, different roles, we provide you nurture, different language, and we’re not mind readers, for example: I’m not expecting a cup of coffee, it’s a nice surprise. You expect to be told you’re pretty when you’re fat, most relationships guys experience conditioning to be a door mat, when they resist, they get crazy moods and no sex…
Should? I'm here to anticipate someone else's next move. I'm not going to dress someone who wants to dress themselves . I don't want someone dressing me or having that kind of focus
True. i think that often comes with true love. If someone loves another, often they notice the smallest things. If a man (myself being one) not knows some of the everyday things of anyone for that matter, is often a lack of interest in that person on my part.
i used to be like this with my ex he took me for granted, cheated, never complimented or gave any hugs compliments or suprises. eventually i ran out and had nothing left to offer
My partner loves when I anticipate what he needs and makes a big fuss over it to me. After 5 years he should expect it but he never acts like he does. I love nurturing him it brings me such joy! 🥰🥰🥰
My dear, I tried, even to want to spend time with them to love on and be loved, and he called me needy and insecure. Well, we are no longer together. And the other ex who didn't grow up in a family who physically abd verbally expressed love did t appreciate my love and even efforts. In the end, they all came back after the fact, but when you see people's worst in the worst way, not in a i am trying to be a better person and I love you and want us, you don't ever have the same desire to go back to that. Because when tough times do happen, he is going to respond the same as before and guess who is very hurt again? You. But worst because you should have known better from the first time it happened
She’s absolutely right on that. Once fell for a girl because she used her umbrella to cover me. It was raining like crazy. We both walking to sociology class. That was the moment I fell in love with her. We never got together tho.
My pa raised my brother and I to be helpful without having to ask. He was in The Marines for 29 years so I myself and pretty self-sufficient & an independent young lady. As a Barber more recently I'm realizing that my job is in a sense is so Caregiving & somewhat Intimate. Men no matter if he voices it or not deep down, always want to be taken care of. To me, men equally deserve a "Spa-esque" time & relaxation just as much as us women. Jealous women will bash down thus Truth, but a loving & maternal women embrace this and are the Happiest!
I come from an old fashioned family and my dad would faint if he had to do chores or make himself a sandwich. I think women no longer feel the need to show this side because they are working or in 50/50 type of relationships. The funny thing is that men love these things but when women feel like they are having to constantly contribute their income play wife and mom. It’s either gonna come up short in the bedroom the kitchen or in chores. We can’t be 10 out a 10. Sprinkle Sprinkle! 🎉
Thing is, it's not just men who love nurturing and kindness. I guarantee you that the majority of women would just *melt* if their man made them a coffee, did the laundry without being asked or changed the baby's diapers while letting her get some rest.
My father would help my mom out with chores whenever she felt sick, and couldn’t handle the chores. It’s not much about tradition, it’s all about mutual exchange. But people today are too selfish, both the left and the right. They only concern about their pitiful selfish needs.
@@diutrinh1240 Of course you can help each other, but you cannot just hand over your responsibilities to the other person like many people are doing nowadays.
The issue only arises when it’s not reciprocated and the receiving partner isn’t grateful. When it becomes expected and no thanks is given it’s gotta stop.
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Very nice, what she's saying but you'll probably find one in a million, so better continue using them for one night, not for a serious relationship.
This girl is pretty, being in front of her is being in front of a Scanner and I'm not kidding.
Facts, best quality a woman can have
A very deep and beautiful insight. I would add that the women does not know he is a rightous holy man or she is not a righteous
They also seek and know this about each other and this is the further special eternal aspect/stroke in each action of caring and stroke one makes to one another. I would add that the reality of touching love in reality. More another time but thank you Sadia for what you said. Lenny
I agree. I enjoy nurturing my husband. However, with men who come to always expect this or never reciprocate nurturing acts - it starts to feel like mothering, which turns women off. Make sure if you have a woman who does this, reciprocate the same thoughtfulness in different ways.
And then those men wonder why their relationship/marriage is sexless and they have affairs.
A woman is not interested in having sex with someone she considers as another child to look after. And Men are not interested in having sex with someone that reminds them of their mother.
Reciprocating and being of service to your loved one is so important for an enjoyable relationship /marriage.
You nailed it!
100% accurate
Perfectly stated! Someone I like on the internet😂😂😂😂😂
This ^^^^^^!
It’s honestly my favorite part of being a wife. Nurturing my husband and being one step ahead when it comes to his needs is how I express my love. He’s always so surprised and never understands how I just “always know.” It’s the best feeling 😌
Literally can’t wait for this ! God willing
I yearn to cater to my future husband and family! It’s a serious yearn so that lets me know I was made to do this.
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Wow, that's so nice to hear, no wonder you two are "stuck together like cement". I pray that God will bless you as you always appreciate each other.😊
Keep winning 😊
very inspiring!But doesnt thoughts like “ i m not his mother” bother you?Also doesnt this make a man take you for granted eventually?Does this make a man love and Respect you at the sane time
I can confirm this. My husband always praises me for things like this. In turn, it makes me feel appreciated and it makes it rewarding.
Those small acts might seem small, but they really make a huge difference.
Some of us have naturally done all that but it went unnoticed and even worse they took all we do for granted.
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This is the comment right here!
As a woman I used to be this way in relationships. I think it signaled to those men that they could take advantage of me. Now I would love be nurturing and caring toward someone but it would take a lot for me to let my guard down after being manipulated and abused and left. Some people just take.
Me too. Now I'm a bitch and get treated so much better. It's sad and deep down makes me hate men but I try not to think about it
Was it Chad or Tyrone? (Edited for grammar)
In other words, you've run the red light one too many times.
Yes, same here
Me too~ a lot of men only want servants to wait on them, and I'm just not going to do that anymore. It would take a miracle to be able to let my guard down, but like you said....too many takers, and the narcissism levels now are just off the charts. No thanks...I'll stay happily single, with my art, pets, and volunteering...in complete control of my own home, finances, body, and heart. Take care❤.
Reciprocity is critical both ways for a healthy relationship.
That's a much better word than equality
You are correct! A beautiful, feminine, and caring woman will melt the hardest heart.
This is sad but so true. For some men they don’t know how to receive a nurturing woman.
Oh please. Most women do the majority of household chores and child care and family management and taking care of the husband even when they work outside of the house. Men just now appreciate it more because it's a privilege as it should be not demanded by law and forced by culture as in the past, then they acted like tyrants to their wives and didn't appreciate them
@@rene3759Period.
To be honest...that was the realest shit I heard her say.
Agreed!
I think I’m stalker material now
💯💯💯💯💯💯 she nailed it
Yeah same - she’s smart and got some good stuff but this is the best - she should just focus on this core message & statement now > everything else is less of a priority
She still needs to be canceled because she is following. The death codes of feminism.
You’ve just described my wife of 25 years!! Met in the 6th grade, started dating in the 9th grade, married after 1 year of college.
That’s so lovely. I’m happy for you guys
How nice of you to recognize and praise your wife
U r one lucky man
so sweet
Lucky man!
Absolutely!! But the thing is; always be thankful she chose to do those things for you.. that’s how people grow apart and relationships end. Always acknowledge what she is doing and understand that she easily could of chose not to do it for you.
Right On 👏🏽👏🏽
I realise it's not for everyone, but I personally LOVE to cook a good meal and serve it to those I love, I enjoy paying attention to little details that make someone's day a little better, a little easier perhaps, and show that I care and am thinking of them. When someone APPRECIATES the effort and the love put into a meal, it creates connection, respect for what each person brings - these are the little moments that make up our life time, the every-day little acts of kindness.
If a woman that looked like you did those things today? I’d think she was a spy...
@@elvismacghee3703 Haha that is funny! 😅Although I giggled, I feel a little sad that we have learned to not trust other humans. Maybe we see too many bad news stories now. I also have a cooking passion, as I get ideas and enjoy discovering how to make new meals, and without someone to share it with/give, there is a lot of waste 😂 Hope you have a good week!
@@AussieGem i think I'm finally getting it at 40...
Before I can ask anything of my partner I need to be able to give it to myself and be able to offer it to her first.
There's nothing like coming home after being out in -40, cleaning yourself up then having your face held even for a few seconds...it's the softness and gentleness is what we need.
I think it's harder if you take pretty good care of yourself, I get younger women trying to get my attention with their bodies, that's not intriguing.
We're interested in women with talents and passions and self respect, someone we treat as an equal and we can look up to...nobody cheats on someone they care about. No man can argue with a woman like that.
Have you ever asked yourself about Alexander's armies and the types of men they were composed of? Some looked their first wives in the eyes and said they'd be back but took local wives anyways, lots of them did. Some men died on the way home trying to keep their word to their wives and some men made it home alive.
Of the men who made it home, some were so scarred from war they beat their families upon return.
Then there's the type of man I sure hope I'd be...smart enough to survive and collapse in his wife's lap, grateful he had the chance to see her once again.
I think a lot of women currently pick men for absolute s**t reasons.
Being attentive and considerate is a mutual form to show love. But there is a balance, a woman should not become his mom in order to keep him. Men stay or not if they want to, regardless of how attentive or nurturing a woman is. Self respect is critical.
Exactly. No partner should do these basic things for the other. It's disrespectful
So you missed the point. Got it.
So giving a man a coffee or ironing a shirt is "being a man's mother"? It's women like you that makes men say their isnt any good women left out here. Just a bunch of argumentative feminists & misandrists.
Yup!
You can be as respectful and nurturing, but he can/ will leave
anyway if the "packaging" is not to his liking or in vogue enough.
There is always the far east.
It goes both ways.
Women are epecred to act to please and service her husband and family.
Men must be nagged, reminded and pushed to do their "chores".
She’s always on point 🎯🎯🎯
I melt when my wife takes care of me like those exact words, food, tea/coffee, clothes, even before I know I need them. She is the best thing to me and I am able to grow only because I have her in my life. I am grateful to all gods that I have her.
That's not what attracts men but that's what can incite him to stay 100%
Lol, no. Most often people become attractive or not because of their attitude. I have come to find the most gorgeous women very ugly because her attitude.
@@coolGrap199 That's my point exactly
You mean thats not what attracts "boys'😅
A very ugly out of shape nurturing girl wouldn't be the first option for a successful guy. Maybe for a below average dude!
Kindness is key for longterm pair bonding but you have first to develop intimacy !
@@coolGrap199Vice versa. A very handsome man can repel beaceuse of his attitude.
There is the other side of the story. In South East Asian culture , especially , many men are brought up with the mindset that women are there to serve them continually- women's love and caring is taken for granted and not valued
you think Indian/Pakistani men are bad, you should see how African men are. They expect NOTHING short of being worshipped by their wife.
Do your own podcast
So true especially in India. I see how easy it is to take duty for granted. But it's expected to gush and respect men's work and salary.
Exactly. Young girls see this and don't want to do it anymore and then they'll blame feminism.
Don’t forget African culture.
This woman is so on point! Thank you!❤
This is 100% true!!! Men want nurturiers and women want protectors.
The relationships between man and a woman are not easy. A man wants a feminine woman. Women want a masculine man. A little cup of coffe in the morning is definitely a winner. Let's look after each other.
M tired of telling this to people . We are overly complicating stuff with things for both men and women . Fact is , we are designed in different ways for a reason .
Alas , only if people listened
As KS said MANY times about women: "Fit, Friendly and Feminine"
Every human being appreciates the love and nurturing of a mother.
Not all mothers are nurturing. My friend.
@@AngeAries Agreed!!
Exactly. Sometimes this woman is spot on, sometimes she just generalizes. At times, she paints men as these oversexed demons, as if nurture doesn’t play a big role in how a man conducts himself sexually. Then she’ll say shit like this, as if it is not a two-sided thing.
...the love and nurturing of another human being! Why the tender and the nurturing deeds are always expected from women?! All women (also straight women) long for a nurturing partner too!
@iachavela1683 well men nurture differently. In this particular way she is correct
This is something I appreciate very much. A nurturing woman who can anticipate what I may need is fantastic. Of course we men have to treat these women right too.
A couple that genuinely love each other are automatically kind and sweet to each other.
YES. It’s also a good indicator that she’ll be a good mother to your children. That’s a big green flag
Saying “your children” is such a weird way to word that.
That's disgusting. The fact that she does the same thing for u indicates that u also want someone to treat u like a child. You are such an insecure man and want mother in the name of wife.
@@joselingcastro8538how😂
I couldn't have asked for a better mother or grandmother.
@@joselingcastro8538'your' can also be read as plural. The fact that you chose to interpret it in the way that you did says a lot about you.
I was like that with my husband, he loved it alright, he took and took and took till I was completely dry. Was the most lonely I’ve ever been. 11 years single now. I give all my love to my children and myself. We are very happy.
The worst thing for a woman in a relationship is being taken for granted .
Seen this happening so many time 💔
If there’s one thing I learned over the years, there’s two sides to EVERY story.
Agreed. She's teaching codependency
I don’t think she meant that you shouldn’t have expectations or needs being met. I think maybe he wasn’t right for you.. an honest man appreciates and reciprocates. I do that for my wife to this day. Good luck to you..
@@daviddawes293 David. Respectfully l, you’re an idiot. She will make sure you get the least amount of respect from women as possible. You are trying to listen to a woman who won’t even talk to you without fake hair, nails, makeup, and all that other stuff. Before you take her advice at least have her jumó in a swimming pool and be real with you.
Amen! That is a women that we can see ourselves building with as a team 🤷♂️
❤ those actions would make me so devoted to my family that loyalty would never be lost. My queen would be treated like so.
A small compliment about how we look would be really nice too
Not. One. Lie. Told. She has found my melting point and it's unexpected kindness.
She hit the nail on the head with this one if more women did this more relationships would last.. it does feel really good when someone thinks of you and takes care of you like that
There's no better feeling than nurturing the one you love ❤ Men go through alot more than we tend to realize and it's not difficult to show a man you care and appreciate him.
Nurturing is much more than having things ready. It's supporting his goals to be the best man version he can be, such as privately calling out pitfalls, etc.
Yes, doing things like serving a man is disrespectful.
Valid point but if he is self sufficient & successful ; like she said a nurturing woman would complete his life to bring peace etc …depending on his love languages
A nurturing woman is absolutely the best. It is instant love. Instant love. So true.
Also raise your children with nurturing and never verbally abuse them. Trust me. You can guide them and coach them..teach encourage and coach them. And tell them you love them.
😅 She can be all that and more. And they will still cheat and act like they don't know why you divorce their ignorant slow, foolish a**
It goes both ways. I would love someone to get me a coffee without asking.
Nurturing, feminine, honest, intelligent.
This is true I’ve been with the same girl 10years because she is kind like that and cares to make my life easier with these little things, it makes me want to give her the world
Makes you give her “the world”, yet you don’t even have a decency to put a ring on her finger😂 Talk about being traditional. Sound like you just have a domestic slave, good for you😅
Men like you are not impossible to find but rather hard to find & I hope to find a man like you who knows the value of a good woman😊
I’ve been doing such things for about 20 years to my husband, and now he thinks it’s a normality. He ignores me and doesn’t appreciate me anymore.
This is common, hence why women don’t care to do it. That and because now we help contribute to the income.
Adress the issue, communicate it.
Common, and why most women aren’t interested in doing it.
Just listening to her speak these words already makes my heart open up...
I tried to explain this to my wife but couldn’t find th me words. This is spot on
It's a two way street. If a woman does not receive this kind of fore-predicted love and service and appreciation in return for the service she does for him.. eventually she burns out. It feels one sided. Like one is expected to give it all and the other to just receive. When both show acts of love of service for one another in this way and are both considerate of one another, then neither minds doing it for the other. If anything, it will bring them both joy. It requires us both to leave our ego behind.
Exactly. If a man did these things for a woman (who is likely also working too) most sane women would reciprocate. It was easier for precious generations because most were stay-at-home moms 😂
All I’m saying is, if you expect this kind of behavior, definitely be ready to give it. Reciprocity, period.
Absolutely
So a man can leave his job will the woman be ok with it? If not then stop comparing. Love is defined differently by both genders
@@apontutulyeah most women work full time. So you “working” isn’t an excuse.
@@apontutul Being dense about sensible things is the best way to end up in a dead bedroom. If you don't understand simple concepts like reciprocity...good luck with sustaining a healthy relationship...
I agree that usually high-end men are conditioned in their business, and when a partner attend to them in an endearing way, it is a pleasant pause for admiration and love!
Hence why they date their secretaries.
I'd make a lousy secretary or manager of a sports team.
I'm a coach and a teacher . I lead in what I do and follow when I'm learning to lead
I said to my woman, I might be getting set up and have to call you from the police station.
She replied, I'll support you no matter what happens x.
My heart melted when I received that txt.
This is how I plan on finding a partner, I love cooking and caring for someone and giving hugs just because. Just like the old saying; the way to a man’s heart is through his stomach. 😊
It’s the role of a good woman. Women don’t do it because a lot of men don’t appreciate good women until their gone. Now there’s a wave of women from bitter broken mothers
You’re 100% right… it’s not being so self-centered. That is showing unconditional love. It’s very rare today on both sides.
That is not unconditional love - a housekeeper could do all of that for you. Those are thoughtful acts of service. Romantic love is never unconditional.
@@sugarwaterpurple5280 it is obvious you don’t understand unconditional love comes in many forms- I’ll been married 40 years she was the only women that “by actions” thought of more than herself in situations that I needed her to step up without talking about- so yea unconditional . Like Jesus died for your sins unconditional- love comes in many forms- self center person like yourself will never think of the man first..
@@markgroom5337 Unconditional love is love without conditions. Period. The closest thing to it is a parents love. In romantic love, we all have conditions for love. For example if she breaks every one of your marriage vows...you still in love? If she decides shes now a man, you still in love?
This is is such a childlike way to think. Seems more like a mother-son dynamic.
@@sugarwaterpurple5280 when you find out who create marriage the same God who created unconditional love not lust, puppy, monogamy one person at a time …( man and women) ( I dated my wife for 6 years before we got married) you can pervert a relationship however you want… that make you (them) their your own god !! So, do you date to get laid or to get married… the greener grass relationships.. moral compass is broke!!!
Romantic love can be unconditional, relationships have conditions. People can’t tell me that when someone cheats on you (breaks a relationship condition) that all of a sudden the love goes away. Especially if you have been together a long time it’s simply not true. I can be in love with someone and not have them in my life because they treated be badly. But the love I have for them is still there because it’s unconditional.
thank you for sharing you became so used to doing for yourself it's nice for someone who is thinking about you 😊😊😊
The bit at the end had me creasing I can see many men doing that 😂
This is exactly true. My husband LOVES that I always anticipate his needs and provide the solution without him having to ever ask. I’ve only heard him verbalize it to a group one time; but the smile on his face whenever there’s a coffee ready, or his lunch packed, or his work clothes clean & hung up, makes me feel like I’m fulfilling my purpose as a wife and homemaker.
You're his mom and maid and who
She is INCREDIBLY beautiful and incredibly smart. What an amazing woman
Sharon my bro man, this is something everyone loves, especially men, whether your father, friend, or husband. It has nothing to do with the coffee, at all. What it actually is, is you're saying "I love and care about you." AND making his life easier. So not only are you filling him up with love, you're freeing up his time and energy to return even more love to you.
@@n9mone "Wife" is the word you're searching for.
Yes this is beautiful for a woman to do, but make sure you as the man are also taking on your duties as the husband seriously, appreciate her efforts and she’ll appreciate you.
Women naturally “ double” anything a man gives- buy her groceries, she’ll cook you a meal, give her compliments and she’ll go above and beyond in taking care of herself. Give her sperm and she’ll give you a baby..etc.
Don’t burden your woman though, don’t let her work 50+ hrs/week And make her cook and clean everything in your home. Ease her burden, give her rest.
So true. I had a girlfriend iron my shirt and pants before she flew home (long distance relationship) and I literally cried.
That’s so terrible lol
@@bigtreecombatacademy2927can you say you’re bitter without saying you’re bitter 🤭😂
So sweet awe!
Yeah cuz u lost ur mother na. Stop making women do these things for u
You're looking for a mom, not a gf
When he is nurtured , he will love you and take good care of you w all his heart ❤️....your his loving nurturing lady . Forever in is heart 🙏❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
This woman is incredibly insightful. Love it
African men are conditioned to expect this and more and DEMAND this. It"s a little bit of a different dynamic. Just some different persepctive, not arguing.
My experience is most men feel entitled to this and so expect it- idk where she’s living
Two way street ... most women expect men to pay for dates, lift heavy stuff, fix car, fix house, protect against other men animals or spiders 😅 Add they're entitled to chivalry like proposing buying a ring 💍 at ridiculous prizes.
Asking for a coffee ☕️ or a gentle gesture seem like excessive? 🤣 Narcissism is hell of a drug
@@andersongomez636no, she’s right. You sound very bitter and untitled. And like a domestic invalid 😅
So true. It’s not just about the physical connections for men; does your partner actually care for your needs? Way more important and you value that way more than anything else.
Very true. Unconditional love and naturing melts even a stiff man
As a man, to be seen and heard makes me fall for someone. We have to connect on a deep mental level. If that occurs i go crazy 😅👌
I love to do these things for my husband, not because I have to but because I want to. I love him so I want to look after him in my way ❤
I was raised in Jamaica to do everything you speak of that’s why when I came here my mom never wanted me to worry about going to school or getting an education because she wanted me to just worry about having a husband and taking care of him and being a loyal submissive wife because I’m a female, school was not important for me to attend it was just to have fun, but because it’s a requirement to let your kids attend school in America she had to let me go or else she’d be in trouble. I always wanted to fulfill my dreams wether I came to America or not that’s why I always got mad when I was never allowed to do things I wanted to do even though I was already an adult. It not fair. I can do all the things a man needs and still get to fulfill my dream(some folks call it hobby) idc I still want to be able to pursue something I am passionate about while I’m here. Why should I only dedicate my life to a man 😢I can give him and the kids 90% and I get the 10% to myself. That’s fair☝🏽
Many times it isn’t appreciated or seen even as a weakness because they feel like they’ve already gotten you.
Facts. A female friend gave me her water bottle after my last set on bench and I almost cried.
Men are deprived from acts of human decency from women on avg, and well here we are
damn the bar is low
Sadie’s videos are so spot on. She has helped me understand my toxic ex and my needs at the same time.
SHE helped you and not ANY of the Red Pill podcasts? lol
I did all ALL of this, plus pack the lunches, wrote the love notes saying thank you for providing, hang up his clothes , take care of the shopping. He comes home to his favorite food and home made dessert almost every day…. He told our couples therapist that he feels like a child and I’m his mom and I’m not speaking his love language, I’m speaking mine 😑
A part of myself melts each time I hear this beautiful woman speak, and her wisdom is again so very refreshing.
But that also makes some men think that it is just a women's job and they dont show their love for the tiny efforts
As a man I genuinely believe we are easily pleased just by those little things, and we would go through anything to make them happen and make those girls happier
Did all that for 5 years. He took me for granted, used me and took all my money and left the first second he got.
You are so correct. Please keep up your youtube /facebook posts, I find them spot on, sometimes challenging and helpful.
She is just lovely . . And I appreciate her explaining these things so beautifully . . I want to relax back into my feminine . . Which is authentic for me ❤
WMAF - She's talking about my wife. ❤
You're blessed by God my guy, you're a lucky man.👌
As a man, this is 100% accurate
Out of thousands of female psychologists/ therapists, how is she the only one who understands & is sharing her insights
Same for women, then men complain about "not being mind readers" 😂😂😂 honestly if you know someone long enough,you should know their favorite coffee, their favorite meal that kind of stuff. Not everything needs to be spelled out
Ideally both partners will be in tune with each other and seek to help each other and make each others life better. That said, in my anecdotal experience, women in my wife (including my wife) have expressed disappointment that I did not get their hints or understand they wanted something from me without telling me. I think many women do have a desire that their men will do something they want without asking. That is a desire. But it is still a bit unreasonable if only because it can be ineffective. Do ladies expect their female friends to do favors telepathically without being told? Part of this is probably a difference in communication styles. Women are encouraged to speak more indirectly; men are the opposite. I love my wife and would do almost anything for her. But the communication style is more like love languages. Acts of service may not be yours. So it won’t resonate with me if you do acts of service no matter how thoughtful. Likewise the way some (not all) women communicate (obliquely) may not get picked up by the men. It’s not their language or communication style.
I disagree, different roles, we provide you nurture, different language, and we’re not mind readers, for example: I’m not expecting a cup of coffee, it’s a nice surprise. You expect to be told you’re pretty when you’re fat, most relationships guys experience conditioning to be a door mat, when they resist, they get crazy moods and no sex…
Should? I'm here to anticipate someone else's next move. I'm not going to dress someone who wants to dress themselves . I don't want someone dressing me or having that kind of focus
I love hearing this. I LOVE to give but ive also (ex) him critize that it wasnt enough/the type he wanted/or his preference. Kills the gift
True. i think that often comes with true love. If someone loves another, often they notice the smallest things. If a man (myself being one) not knows some of the everyday things of anyone for that matter, is often a lack of interest in that person on my part.
That feeling is called appreciation.
Well said, the effort the person puts into doing things is what says I care. The rest sorts itself out.
i used to be like this with my ex he took me for granted, cheated, never complimented or gave any hugs compliments or suprises. eventually i ran out and had nothing left to offer
My partner loves when I anticipate what he needs and makes a big fuss over it to me. After 5 years he should expect it but he never acts like he does. I love nurturing him it brings me such joy! 🥰🥰🥰
I hope you are also being...nurtured.
This is what I like in a woman ❤🥰🙌🏾🙏🏾👏🏾
Spot on, my friend! Spot on. 🙏🏾😌🎯
I was like that before lol and my husband took me for granted. He has said I should now work full time and don't bother doing anything
My dear, I tried, even to want to spend time with them to love on and be loved, and he called me needy and insecure. Well, we are no longer together. And the other ex who didn't grow up in a family who physically abd verbally expressed love did t appreciate my love and even efforts. In the end, they all came back after the fact, but when you see people's worst in the worst way, not in a i am trying to be a better person and I love you and want us, you don't ever have the same desire to go back to that. Because when tough times do happen, he is going to respond the same as before and guess who is very hurt again? You. But worst because you should have known better from the first time it happened
I truly cannot wait to do all of these things for my man. It genuinely makes me happy
You are so sweet ❤
Good for him. The best is when he reciprocates too!
You are so right ⭐️🥊
Did she say we're UNAWARE of that? Oh, my sweet summer child...
She understands men better than most women
She's spot on!🎉
She’s absolutely right on that. Once fell for a girl because she used her umbrella to cover me. It was raining like crazy. We both walking to sociology class. That was the moment I fell in love with her. We never got together tho.
If she makes me coffee before I ask for it, she has all my heart.
Most modern women don't realize this OR how to love a Man
. Truth is spoken 🙌🏾. Awesome Articulation.
They watched their mothers and learned.
This women knows what's up with me better than I do. I do love that and it makes me feel loved idd now that she mentions it
Empathy is THE key.
close your eyes and imagine those things for a moment, I'm melting rn.
A woman thats aware and understands... ❤
this is what *everyone* wants
but only women are told
to offer.
please tell men to offer the same.
we are tired.
My pa raised my brother and I to be helpful without having to ask. He was in The Marines for 29 years so I myself and pretty self-sufficient & an independent young lady.
As a Barber more recently I'm realizing that my job is in a sense is so Caregiving & somewhat Intimate.
Men no matter if he voices it or not deep down, always want to be taken care of.
To me, men equally deserve a "Spa-esque" time & relaxation just as much as us women.
Jealous women will bash down thus Truth, but a loving & maternal women embrace this and are the Happiest!
You finally said something that makes sense. No tell us how does a full time working modern woman finds time to do that now in days
😂 what men?
From my experience they take it for granted or see it as weak.
The losers that you always pick don't want anything but to smash you. Pick better men, you know, the ones who are invisible to you.
I come from an old fashioned family and my dad would faint if he had to do chores or make himself a sandwich. I think women no longer feel the need to show this side because they are working or in 50/50 type of relationships. The funny thing is that men love these things but when women feel like they are having to constantly contribute their income play wife and mom. It’s either gonna come up short in the bedroom the kitchen or in chores. We can’t be 10 out a 10. Sprinkle Sprinkle! 🎉
That's absolutely true. That's why I don't understand the women that think they can be all things to everybody. It's impossible.
Thing is, it's not just men who love nurturing and kindness. I guarantee you that the majority of women would just *melt* if their man made them a coffee, did the laundry without being asked or changed the baby's diapers while letting her get some rest.
What’s so bad about helping your spouse by doing some of their chores and lending them a hand?
Is it that bad to help your loved one out?
My father would help my mom out with chores whenever she felt sick, and couldn’t handle the chores.
It’s not much about tradition, it’s all about mutual exchange.
But people today are too selfish, both the left and the right. They only concern about their pitiful selfish needs.
@@diutrinh1240 Of course you can help each other, but you cannot just hand over your responsibilities to the other person like many people are doing nowadays.
The issue only arises when it’s not reciprocated and the receiving partner isn’t grateful. When it becomes expected and no thanks is given it’s gotta stop.