Modern Relationships with Sadia Khan: Cultural Differences, Finances, Red & Green flags
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- čas přidán 23. 11. 2023
- In this candid interview, Yasmine Mustafa sits with psychologist and relationship therapist Sadia Khan to discuss the hurdles of modern dating, Dubai relationships, gender roles, and how to stay happy in a marriage. She shares insights on how to spot red flags and how to deal with them before they become insurmountable problems. We also cover finances, communication, and the dos and don'ts of dating in a Western context.
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Thank you for having me loved this convo
We love you sadia❤️ lots of love from switzerland
your content really changed the whole mindset of me and my mother! we listen to you daily🥰
Love your philosophical take on relationships and the faults with women and men in general. Especially men, good men. Men that mean well and find it hard to express themselves. Sometimes it’s not always easy has most women perceive it to be.
Can you please discuss men who abandon their kids even though the mom doesn't prevent them from seeing their kids?
Show studies or cut the BS
Sadia is great, I feel bad that she gets hate from women. You’re awesome girl :)
How can a blind person be leading a blind person?
preach bro 🤣
@@bashirudada486
Why is a professional blind? So you go to drs when you’re unwell or someone who happens to be healthy?!?
@@peaceloveunityislam sorry someone who is not a doctor or someone who does not have experience as doctor can not treat somebody that is unwell. It's just like some body that has never driven a car before,in his or her life can not teach somebody how to drive a car.
She has all the qualifications and it’s on her website and more so than anything men are obsessed with her it’s not like she doesn’t have options go soo how many men adore her it’s only women without options that have a probekm
As a woman the fact that women hate on her after she’s literally helping you and your relationships and giving you soooo much knowledge on things that no one ever taught us is so crazy to me.🤦🏻♀️ Thank you Sadia
Sadia I am personally amazed by you.
I, and I believe that we all women need you to speak. You point out precisely the problems of today's dating/relationship reality.
Please keep doing what you are doing. Lots of love and admiration
Sadia is a great source of wisdom and inspiration. As a woman, I hugely appreciate her counseling and her kindness, so rare to find someone whose words truly resonate with me. Keep it up and thank you!
but she doesnt know a thing about men. She prolly single herself lmao
@@Jblah She said she is not single and if some one like her is, that is mostly a choise. It is also sad to see, that there is a lot of good womans that does not even want parhner. But dont worry too much, it is what it is. Best thing what mens can do is not give any attention to womans who does not need a man. let them repair their car's and fix those water leaks. When they live in rotten shacks with cats. Maybe they will come to another tought in their old days 🙂
@@AmisCorolla sometimes i agree but she is far from being a orakel. Tbh when she stated that tate is a high value male i almost choked in my drink lmao
You can only hate because you speak from a place of fear, insecurities and jealousy. You might not agree with everything and she cant speak for all the population but there is no reason to hate. Just turn the page if you dont like her. Use words to praise not to say bad things.
Thank you for sharing your knowledge with us. Keep shining!
Yes! Death and life are in the tongue!
As a young woman it’s so rare to find a talk on women that isn’t overbearingly feminist or submissive misogynistic red pill noise.
Fence sitting also sounds a bit feminist today since they're willing to go either way. You're either a submissive, caring, modest, not-ran-through woman, or you're not an option for relationships.
@@phantomform4171 What on earth are you on about. Life is not black and white. Feminists and red pill people are extreme cases. Choosing neither is not “fence-sitting,” it’s called being neutral and unbiased. This is one of the many flaws of red pill bs. Being a virgin doesn’t make you a saint nor does being “ran-through” give any insight on one’s character. Most school shooters were virgins. People who win the medal of honor aren’t. Someone’s past matters less than who they are today
@@phantomform4171 The world is not black and white. Like any ideology, Red-pill and feminism have extremes but both have an element of truth: marriage is important and ofc women should be allowed to provide too. That’s why moderation exists. Plus of your list of “modest, caring, submissive, not ran-through,” only caring is relevant. The remaining 3 are merely personality traits that women - surprise, surprise - do not all entail because they are not the same.
Real simple: Set boundaries from the start and stop chasing validation. If someone doesnt respect your values cut them loose and move on. Dont expect people to change.
As female I love Sadia and I enjoy listening her opinion on many topics She is very wise 🫶🏻and I love how she gently explain big picture and always remember us on some wise basis how people think feel and react ❤️🫶🏻very nice talk and very nice choice for questions you are both very beautiful woman from inside and out
Right?? And she is not just a coach, she actually is an academic, is a physiology and has a phd in how childhood trauma affects individuals. I think bc some people don’t agree 100% with everything she says they just want to discredit her hahah sounds a little childish to me if you ask
You do realise she was married for a month before divorcing her husband not to mention she has step brother and sisters who she and her family refused their father to see.
@@paulaayala5561it depends on your attitude towards understanding yourself I think. Some people are so invested in their identities that they are unwilling to think about any concept outside of their comfort zone.
I'm a guy, early 40's and I think these talks are interesting because I'm rather picky when it comes to personalities and who's in my life and around me and most women are incomprehensible.
I'm not really flattered by blatant physical advances or going to be into anybody for their bodies , you have to be willing to invest a bit more so that I know you understand your worth and that you have a lot more to offer than your body...If I sleep with someone that I'm not that into because they really like me and they're smoking, am I basically not getting used for my body😂
Sadia is great, cute and brilliant.
Not discrediting her, I appreciate some of her points, but she's incorrect in that younger women who go for older men have an absent father. It's actually the opposite, they have an absent mother/mother they don't get along with. They therefore became "daddy's girl" and are trying to replicate the relationship. The same is true for men who go for older women, they had an absent father.@@paulaayala5561
@@paulaayala5561No PhD according to her website, but she does have a Master’s degree in education.She does not specify which institution she received it from.
I feel Sadia when she said she struggled with female comnections. This is the 1st interview I've seen with with a female interviewer, very refreshing.❤❤
Sadia is my favorite psychologist! Her knowledge, femininity, and class combined makes me feel like I’m listening to a caring family member who has my best interest at heart. I always watch her interviews because she gives the best relationship advice!
Love Sadia!!! She makes so much sense that people get mad about it but I appreciate her consistency and showing up speaking her poignant perspective. 👌🏾
Sadia is great. A lot of wisdom for women. Those that hate her most likely are those that cannot face themselves.
Being tense / shy on a (first) date isn't negative. It shows that it is special and gives it a spark. As a woman, I can say that women with no female friends (and no good relationships with women in their family) are a red flag to me. But to each their own. I fully agree on the novelty aspect and actually think that it ties into NOT having friends from the opposite sex.
Such a wonderful woman is Sadia. One of the women who is a real inspiration. Thank you for this great podcast. ❤
Female here. Love Sadia's content!
I totally feel her. She speaks my language. I had no idea how to express my approach to many situations and social agreements in today’s world and now I do.
Thank you for this. I recognize my own truths as well as understanding of others in this episode. 👏
I enjoyed both of the ladies’ input and energy. As I was listening to the words of wisdom, I literally felt my perception on things was changing that previously have been cemented for decades (ex: can men and women be friends)!
Thank you so much, I feel my intellectual mind is blossoming being part of these discussions ❤
Sadia has taught me about relationships more than anyone could have, helping me go through the difficult times & happy moments too!
Huge huge respect to both of ya 🫡❣️
Loved loved loved this!!! Two intelligent warm funny classy women!!! The interviewer was first class. So much wisdom in one video. Thank you for posting. I hope the interviewer does several more with Sadi or has a podcast. She is brilliant!
I don’t always agree with Sadia but always respect and appreciate how she represents and expresses herself.
Wow she's so Excellent at relationship advice! This interview is soooo good!
I really love the way she speaks especially from a logical and reasonable stand point about how we need more self awareness when we date.
Sadia is a pure genius .
I love this so much, thanks for sharing such valuable information 🙏🏽
I BELIEVE THAT EVERY QUESTION IN THIS PODCAST WERE GREAT AND THE GAME AT THE END WAS VERY COOL. YASMINE NAILDED IT AND SADIA IS AMAZING AS ALWAYS😊😊😊😊
Really good questions and really good answers … keep up the good work!🙌🏻
Being gold digger is not gender specific.Even men are gold diggers.They pursue rich women.But no one talks about that.
Yes that is true. I think there are more male gold digger‘s than females.
Sadia is very brave and honest. Thank you a lot
The interviewee asked some really useful and relevant questions about relationships. I’ve been listening to Sadia for a while but I learnt some new things from this podcast!! Thank you to you both!!❤
Thank you for doing the candid interview. Both of you are intelligent and are well spoken about the dynamics and pragmatics about dating and mate selection especially from a women’s perspective. I really appreciated the discussion about the trading of the commodities of mutual interests, attention, affection, sexual intimacy, financial resources and the genetics of physical height and slimness. Somehow this kind of stuff should be explained in school especially if kids come from broken homes and foster care.
I love Sadia, she is so on point
I think she's amazing! I love the honesty! I follow her and appreciate her input
My life is not the same after watching your videos thank you so much for sharing your knowledge love you
I enjoyed this so much! Sadia is always a pleasure, so wise and classy.
A most excellent interview. Thanks.
Loving the podcast
So true and insightful. I have had similar experience most of my adult life especially in the work place environment with female colleagues. I usually get on better with men. Thank you for shedding some lights into this topic at least I know I’m not alone. Love Sadia for her straightforwardness and keeping it real.
Amazing podcast ❤
This was so eye opening and I'm 10 mins in 😮❤
Beautiful!!!! Great work!!!!!
Enjoyed the content. Thank you
100% Sadia was on point every time! Great interview
She has the best advice out there .. I think it’s all common sense
A woman's body count matters more than any other consideration when deciding whether to commit to her or not. It's a heuristic for a host of relevant factors:
1. Her psychological and biochemical ability to form lasting pair bonds based on love, trust, loyalty and respect. Studies show a strong correlation between a woman's number of sexual partners and the chances of her initiating marital dissolution later in life. Women with high body counts get biologically desensitized to dopamine, oxytocin and vasopressin, making it difficult for them to feel genuine love and loyalty.
2. Her need for novelty and how easily she gets bored in a long-term monogamous relationship.
3. Her need for male attention and validation.
4. Her impulse control and ability to practice delayed gratification.
5. Her general outlook on life and her priorities.
6. Her morals.
7. Her level of trauma from prior relationships and sexual encounters.
8. Her suitability as a mother and rollemodell for future daughters. Divorce rates are statistically much higher in women whose parents are divorced. Women initiate 80% of divorces.
9. The possibility of her having an STD (one in four girls have one.)
10. The chance of her having a roster (yuch) and you just being one of many guys on that roster.
11. The possibility of losing sexual access in the future if she suddenly decides to switch to some other man.
12. The degree to which she is dating opportunistically, jumping from man to man, chasing materialistic wealth and status.
13. Her self-respect, and her concept of what a relationship should be.
14. The likelihood of her still having active male friendships while dating you.
15. A high body count could also be an indication that she is a party girl with party girl friends who go to nightclubs, making herself available to other men.
16. The evolved innate preference in men for youth, innocence, sexual inexperience, chastity and purity in women to ensure healthy offspring and paternity certainty.
17. The chance of her causing you future financial loss, humiliation, emotional anguish and loss of social status if her promiscuity causes her to act inappropriately or if she cheats on you.
18. The chances of her comparing you and your performance to past sexual partners.
19. The fact that you'll always know. The mental image of your girlfriend/wife getting plowed by all those men will always bother you. It can fester and grow into resentment.
20. A high body count could also mean that she had her sexual debut at a young age or that she has had past abortions which can further add to her trauma.
There's a whole host of reasons why you should never ever commit to a girl with a double digit body count. Imagine a girl who has slept with 22 men. That's two whole soccer teams of men before you came along. What are the odds of you, number 23, being her last? That's disgusting and insane in an historical context. Before the advent of female contraception, such a woman would have had a dozen kids if she had that lifestyle. Female promiscuity and a high body count is an absolute boundary. A woman's, class, grace, dignity, purity, innocence, manners, self-restraint, self-respect and her morals are instinctively super important for a man when chosing to commit to a woman. They are her strongest assets. That woman will be the mother of his children. If she has her ass all over the internet or if she has slept with a bunch of different men, she's not someone you should commit to. Party girls, promiscuous girls and attention addicts are for non-committed, short-term, no strings attached relations only.
This also applies to men
@@irene4633 Men and women are not the same. We have distinct evolved mating strategies. A review examined the practices of 849 societies from before Western imperialism and colonization. The review found that 708 of the societies (83%) accepted polygyny, where one man has multiple female partners. Only 16% were monogamous and 1% were polyandrous, where one woman has several male partners. Women have historically been willing to share high value men. The same is not true in reverse. The divergent evolutionary mating strategies of men and women help explain why men place significant importance on a potential long-term partner's sexual history, while women typically do not prioritize chastity and non-promiscuity in men to the same extent. This difference in preference stems from distinct evolutionary pressures that have historically shaped male and female reproductive strategies.For men, the emphasis on a woman's chastity or limited number of sexual partners is largely rooted in paternity certainty. In prehistoric societies where paternity tests did not exist, mating with a virgin could increase a man's confidence in the paternity of her offspring. This is because virginity guaranteed that no other man had inseminated the woman in question. This would lead to the tendency of males to seek out virgins as mates, which is still observed in some traditional societies today. Throughout human evolutionary history, men who mated with women who had fewer sexual partners increased their chances of ensuring their resources and protection were directed towards their own genetic offspring. This preference for non-promiscuity in females became a selected trait in males, as it had direct consequences on their reproductive success and the survival of their genes.Conversely, women have historically selected for traits in men that differ from chastity. Women's reproductive success hinged more on securing a partner capable of providing resources, protection, and genetic benefits to offspring. Therefore, qualities like resource acquisition (wealth and status), physical health (indicative of good genes), and social dominance were more critical in female mate selection. In many cases, men who displayed these traits were also those who had more opportunities for sexual encounters, either as a direct result of their status and resources or through their dominance and competitiveness.Moreover, men's ability to father multiple children with multiple partners without significantly detracting from each child's potential survival (given adequate resources) meant that promiscuity did not historically diminish a man's value as a mate in the eyes of women. In fact, a man's desirability to other women could even be seen as an indicator of high mate value, a phenomenon known as "preselection." This is in contrast to the evolutionary consequences of female promiscuity, which created paternity uncertainty and could potentially lead to reduced male investment in offspring.
nope@@irene4633
Wow only 2 mins in and my mind is blown. Thanks Sadia, a true role model for women
I just love this woman. The wisdom is amazing ❤
Not commenting on the content here but The studio is such a stunner! !
Excellent advice! ❤️🙏
Great information ❤❤
Such a Great talk!!!
Ladies... Mrs sadia your wisdom is respected so much... Keep up the good works... God bless..
Omg Sadia, how you break down obvious truths - I’m hooked !
Lots of love to you @Sadia 🎉
This is actually great
Sadia, you're part of my soul tribe❤ seriously...I've evolved and transformed in such a short time since listening to you. Although we don't know you personally, you connect with us at a 5 D energy level! ❤ Soooo happy 🌈🌟🫶🏼
focusing on one person at a time is a great idea. even if yall meet online once you exchange phone numbers or ig handles get off the damn dating apps and explore each other!
until you have met the person in person face to face then you have not met the person.
and yes totally agree with you and Sadia to give full focus and attention to the other once you have met and intend to see each other again (and again, and again) then the app or the 'match maker' is on pause.
She’s a god send!!! ❤ we need more Sadia ❤
I need Sadia in my life and want her advice
I’d pay good money for it!! She’s worth it
So so true ❤
Sadia is such beautiful person, we love you ❤
Sadia Khan is an amazing dating expert love to Listen to her talks
Sadia is amazing!
I love youuuu,I love your energy❤️❤️❤️
Sadia Khan is a gift to the world. She lends very irrefutable and authentic insights on topical issues that bother on not just relationships but the state of the human psyche. You are my GOAT.
Great podcast! ⭐️ thanks!
I think it’s so sad she gets so much hate from women. Sometimes it can come from women who don’t want to face their reality. I love her straight forward self reflection advice. I also understand women hating you for no reason or out of jealousy as that’s been the majority of my experience as well. Sad how women see one another as competition as I’ve never wanted that in friendship however it can be isolating. I desire female friendships as I know it’s important but I also refuse to settle for friendships that are secretly against you. Thank you for always sharing regardless of the hate. We need more people like Sadia speaking truth! ❤️
Ladies... We all need to be patient when we are in love... For love has a beautiful meaning to life at the end... Thanks
An open minded person has a true heart..... An there motives are pure...
Excellent guest ❤😊
As a women i very much love sadia, i know i heard her say compliments make her uncomfortable but truly. The ummah is benefeting from your knowledge. May Allah guide us all and unite us in jannah❤
Ladies... Thanks for understanding how we as men endure the whole process of being loved...
This is the first time I really agree with her. Other times those thories did not seem accurate. But here she is correct (in my opinion) point after point at least for first 15 minutes that I heard
She's amazing
People give her hate because their mind isn’t capable of understanding things the way hers does and that’s why she gets it… she’s smarter that’s it end of story! She gets it ❤ love her!!!
Excellent talk show with Sadia Khan a Psychologist who gives practical advice to all we women who have grown up in a orthrodox family down south India. I am watching this show from chennai
She’s completely abusive to people on the internet
@@NicolasNigglesI love that about her, not only not taking shit from anyone, but also throwing it back. I really enjoy it when I see her doing that
She is a person who helps me realize and separate real woman from instagram zombie and real man from Tates fan club.
Ladies my best experience is when my first date broke my heart... Yet we learn to grow in understanding of what true love is... 😢❤
Favourite phrase of Sadia: In any way shape or form😊
That's exactly what happen in most relationships 😊
Ladies... The most profound part of the relationship is that two people are willing to struggle with each other when both has nothing to start with... 😢❤
The online dating section of this segment couldn’t be anymore true. The addiction and novelty as well as mindset. I personally do not agree with online dating apps. It’s not genuine enough. But overall this discussion was very enlightening and informative. 🙏🏼
New perspective of women being intelligent and source of practical wisdom.
Sadia provides solid advice on developing and maintaining healthy relationships. I hope to be fortunate enough to find a solid partner who will be in it for the long haul. I'm not a fan of dating sites.
She is great
Ladies... Love has no boundaries... As we discover that love is endless...
Ladies... The only flags between two people in love is the chemistry that both feel... Thanks for learning...
The feel I need is to feel loved an happy...
30:33 mark 🎯🎯🎯🎯🎯🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥
Preach QUEEN, PREACH!!
Ladies... What is the most beautiful thing in a relationship...😢❤...One memory that reveal true love right in the first date... 😊
We can’t love a man who we can manipulate! 👍 Thanks
Focus on your Accurate Pool of selection! Genius❤
Many has try being loved an failed yet few exalted you're intelligent... An my heart... Simple....
Making friends with men is almost impossible. Most of them are waiting in the wings to sleep with you or at some point start declaring their attraction and in extreme cases, start behaving inappropriately. I would like to know how Sadia, with her level of attractiveness, how she can maintain pure friendships with men.
There will always be sexual attraction, Its how each individual handles their moral boundaries, both yours and your friends. There are alot of attractive people in the world just like how there are alot of gold diggers, sugar daddies, f....k boys, cheaters, etc. You get what you manifest and it depends on your judgement of character, boundaries, your interaction skills. keep learning and keep reflecting.
@@michaelcui5425 So what are you saying, that women that have no Romantic interest in their male friendships ‘manifest’ these same individuals to take sexual Interest in them? That doesn’t make sense and we cannot control other peoples sexual attraction towards us. I think the issue starts with befriending someone you know you are already sexually attracted to and pretending until the right moment to spring your feelings onto the other.
Mmm. It’s not so simple as just maintaining a pure relationship. The line between the friendzone and ‘true love’ is quite thin. How often have you heard a girl say “I need a boyfriend like you” while you sit there thinking,’ then why aren’t we dating?’. The difference is that you need excitement and a hint of danger. Women want safety while feeling like something could happen to spice things up. As a result, a friend zoned guy is not quite just a friend, but someone she considered could be her partner, if only… Thus, the male friend is actually a backup partner in case things go awry, even if the woman does not know it. She will uncounciously fall back to that man to help her when/if she is crushed because she knows he will accept her when/if the main man rejects her.
In short, no opposite-sex relationship is ever pure. They are predicated on the understanding that nothing more can happen, but that if the paradigm shifts then they can make their move. Most people don’t understand this and dont care to understand it because it’s uncomfortable. Does that mean that such relationships are inherently impure? No.
Just because you can't fathom a strict friendship between a male and female doesn't mean it's impossible for other people. I have male friends where it's a brother/sister relationship. There has to be some level of attraction between two ppl to move it beyond the friendship zone. My rule of thumb is if that person had this friend long before you came into the picture and nothing has happened by then it is a friendship. You're better off not looking insecure when you're with your partner trying to tell them who they can and cannot be friends with.
@@lillyCfields Yeah, my comment wasn’t about how to handle a significant other that has a Friend of the opposite sex. It was more personally as a woman, how can you make real friends with men if your are attractive to them; men are likely to see you in a sexual or romantic way. These feelings will get in the way of developing genuine and quality friendship
Good podcast. Happy holidays from our channel.
Always be comfortable around your partner on the first date... Yet be soft an sincere... Ask the right questions if your inquiry lof his or her back round... ❤
Love Sadia Khan!! ❤
2 beautiful ladies! Gorgeous ❤
How can I blind person be leading a blind person.
Ladies... True value in any relationship is simple... Trust and faith...