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“Every time we exercise self control, we gain self respect, and every time we gain self respect, we gain self esteem.” That rang so true. Nice one Sadia.
"A man that doesn't give into his impulses is the most free man in the world," is a brilliant commentary. If you are beholden to every desire or temptation, how truly free are you?
She literally is saying the same things Tate says. And she’s really spot on about modern dating psychology. But the part she’s shocked abt guys being traumatized abt approaching girls made me lose a little respect for her and tells me literally women have zero simple empathy for men. Like how do you not understand talking to strangers and risking complete embarassment and public rejection is hard? It doesn’t take male genitalia to understand bravery
Give up into “HIS” impulses not other people’s grandiosity and narcissistic traits. A free man does what he wants without negatively impacting others and his own integrity
Her answers are extremely intelligent I must say. The way he interrupted her but she still listened to what he has to say… that’s the next level of patience. And also when she took down the red pill theories and talked about self control really got me liked and subscribed this 100%
I don’t understand why people in these younger generations don’t understand that the benefits of relationships come with sacrifices. You don’t get something for nothing!
I agree. Perhaps perceptions of a real man are based upon stereotypes modelled on gangsters and pimps . The media doesn't help when sex and violence sell and friendship and humility are ridiculed. Bullying in cyberspace is epidemic and good role models are feeling discounted. Perhaps people envision a world run by abusers who will bring affirmation to those who are insecure so require gangs to validate debasement. No doubt they will respond to this with threats but then that is democracy in the free world init. Lot of good folk out there but social media is dominated by abuse and violence. We need to grow and learn a new language where love is not a dirty word perhaps?
Naw the younger generation is trickin and simpin and the women are using an abusing 😭not entering a relationship for the right reasons unless it’s a trade off your setting yourself up for failure 🤦🏿♂️
@@Dipset415Dude. Huge numbers of men have always simped, and huge numbers of women have always been golddiggers and monkey-branch at the drop of a hat. The only difference today is it is much more obvious and accelerated.
Getting any woman you want is very easy. The secret is to train yourself to only want the ones who want you first. Read up about body language while you're at it. Being desired by a woman should be the only requirement that makes you even take a second look at her, then you can decide if you are attracted to her. No matter how beautiful she might be, if a woman isn't giving you the right body language signals, just don't waste your time with her.
For man it is not easy to get any woman you want, even those who check all the boxes female desire. For woman is very easy to get any man she wants, social media proves this, even bellow average get attention. Woman could be attracted to you one day, and cold to you second day. Some of them could be really into you, and this will be obvious.
I met my woman one year ago when i was broke and homles. One year later i have my dream job (working with the youth of the street) i have my home, i al a artist and my art is better and better and slowly i start Selling my art pierces. I start from Rock bottom and she is still on my side. It is a challence because she is high class but because of her i find more and more the best version of myself. I thank God for her.
Sadia 4:56 The ultimate source of high value is self control . YES ! He said at 8:40 "You should do somthing that scares you every day" Sadia 14:35 ....The ppl that spend the most time in social media usually are'nt that happy.
Say that to my balls that need to be drained, I don’t believe in one partner anymore, the world screwed me over, I can’t unsee or unknow the things I know
@@ktfoent Even if you look for a fling, it still makes sense to choose wisely. See it as experimenting to build up your understanding of people (not to collect as many as possible), instead of using yourself and them. Different mindset, different outcome.
@@aronhighgrove4100 This is actually very true. You can exercise discernment even in hook ups rather than just taking anything/everything that comes your way.
The search for a faithful woman is a daunting one, indeed. For such a woman is a rare and precious gem, one that is worth more than all the gold in the world. She is a woman of virtue and integrity, who is committed to her partner and her vows. She is a woman of strength and resilience, who will stand by her partner through thick and thin. She is a woman of love and compassion, who will always put her partner's needs first. If you are fortunate enough to find a faithful woman, cherish her. She is a gift beyond compare.
A 1% woman is a attractive grown woman who is a virgin or a body count of 1 ! She dresses modestly and doesn't advertise herself on social media. That type of woman all heterosexual men would respect and other women would try to put down and smear- because she is what they aren't and will never be !
Yep it does really sound healthy, but on the other i dont know.Why not to add some more romantic element to it, or something you wouldnt to with anyone so you show your intentions with doing something opposite from your life.
I’m in Walmart listening to this and picked up a pack of cookies RIGHT when he mentioned getting in shape and discipline. I put the fxking cookies back!!
Fascinating. As the interview progresses it was almost like they were evaluating each other as potential partners, without even realising they were doing it. I can't be the only person that saw this, the human mind and psychology is amazing.
I believe, (maybe subconsciously) that's what you wanted to see, so you saw it. I'm certain they were attracted to each other, as they're both good looking people. That said, I didn't see any evaluating going on (conscious or otherwise), at least not for the purpose of being partners.
Unity is what every successful relationship has in common. Going way on trips with your friends while you are married could lead to a breakdown of the Unity. 😎
I am so glad I found this podcast, wow. So many golden nuggets in here. Also great to hear these things from a woman's perspective, I've never heard the exposure element explained in that way before. It's always bothered me but I've never been able to articulate it properly.
I once asked a coworker what kind men she was into . She wanted man who can make her laugh and handy man who can fixed things around the house . I told her get a clown on the left side of your bed and a plumber on the right side of your bed , hahaha that was a good one she said 😂😊
I lived in Dubai 10 years. I wish I knew about Sadia earlier)) and I wish everyone why lives there (and not only there) watched this podcast! So good. Thanks for making it you guys!
When you really like your partner, you don't need that much self-control. And when you exercise a lot of self-control, you are in a relationship with a friend.
I agree 100 percent. Men should stop making excuses that nature controls their desires. Simple, if you have a desire to cheat than you don't care about your partner as much as you think.
This is so densely packed with some of the most true, insightful facts on CZcams. So many content creators should just take a break and listen either/both of these two.
Gosh I just saw your video and you spoked everything real about what my wife is doing behind me and my daughter’s back! And about my self control to doing betrayal to my wife even when I have all the evidence of what she has been doing outside with those men whom you had mentioned that she had made herself available opening up her blouse and skirt. I even gave voice recordings of them! Even me trying to get my six-pack! So so true! So happy to hear you mentioned that about loyalty, coming from a woman! ❤
I’m a high value man. I’m still single at 66. Just proving western women are too far gone. Been celibate 17 years, a physique a 20 year old envies, handsome, degreed engineer, own a successful business, emotionally, mentally and spiritually in tact after decades of counsel and self improvement, a God fearing man and… still far from perfect. It’s called respect for oneself, self discipline, love your neighbor as yourself and do everything to the best of your ability.
After 20 years of opposite sex "friends" I finally closed all the relationships, it is a boundary illusion. Sadia is rapidly contradicting herself in the video and not acknowledging it. As a partner you cannot put your own boundaries according to how sexually attractive you find the partner's friends, unless you are a hypocrite. Men have almost to no benefits from being friends with women, women have multiple, including reality checks, not provided normally by females friends, also attention, validation, help etc.
Interesting, as a woman I'm thinking male friends have zero benefits to me lol. He is seen in public with me, emotionally nurtured and supported by me and probably not even paying for stuff because we're "just friends". And then he's probably still hoping to get a chance to sleep with me. What a great friend! Plus other men might not want to approach me when seen in public. I would rather not have male friends honestly. It's not true friendship anyways.
@@Blossom835 true friendship is genderless at every step. Most of the time true friendship exists only between men, most of the time. A communication other than relationship between opposite genders, is usually caused by an overdeveloped opposite gender traits in one or both identities. Men have women friends most of the time only for two reasons, 1) to have sex with them, they keep playing around and waiting, 2) men have feminine traits.
Finally ! A man and a woman having a conversation that is almost non-existent in the current culture. For the love of all that is holy, these two need to continue this conversation, maybe even explore a relationship.
When I was in my 20's & 30's I strived to ask at least one lady out each & every day. Even if the lady says no, she then knows you are interested, and tomorrow is a new day!!🥰
I just found this channel, liked and subscribed. She seems close to the type of lady I would like to be with. He is a bit full of himself. I’ve seen guys like this get the rug pulled out from under him.
I would suggest that the "options = freedom to walk" hypothesis is one side of a coin. The other side of that same coin is "having the option to have whomever you want, but CHOOSING to be committed to the partner you are with is the highest level of commitment." Because you DO have the option to walk away. You could hermit crab up to a bigger shell. A new person. Or just go to that perceived greener grass. Because it will always be greener somewhere else, if you're only looking for that. However! If you choose the person you are with and you're with them because that was an active decision and a garden you put daily effort into, you are there because you WANT to be and not because you HAVE to be. I think that settling for someone because you feel like thats the upward limit for your ability is.... well dangerous to a relationship. Because it means the only reason they're not cheating isn't because they WOULDN'T, but because they CAN'T. ...until an alternative arises.
Also I 100% agree on rejection. I think the thing that makes it worse is when you get the nerves to talk to someone and the expectations are high on the outcomes of them accepting you. Everything's based on that and when it goes left... it crushes everything... mix that in with 2-4 in a row, you tend to lower your standards a bit out of desperation which ultimately becomes your downfall. There are people who swipe away from people they would love to be with, but know it wont happen simply because of how the person looks.
That's why you only talk to women you know you have a chance with. It's that simple. Men keep getting rejected because they keep pursuing women who never gave them any indication that they were interested in them. It's especially bad when men approach complete strangers or taken women for romance. It's better to approach women you have built rapport with, whether that be at church or some kind of book club or work. (Though, work is still risky)
@@avaliausd. I say never approach women ever. It's not worth it and the only reason why women don't do it is because they like being in the seat of power to accept or reject you. Women not approaching men isn't some cultural thing about being reserved it's purely about power.
I haven't seen in a while in the online environment such a beautiful conversation and healthy....just two people talking and not sending hate to each other. You can see from miles away they respect each other and want to bring the best quality on the table. Well done guys.
Big respect to this man for real . Also Sadia you are not strict at all , that’s just a traditional woman’s behavior and there is nothing wrong with that at all . My wife is the same way , and I’m the same way as well , and trust me I have a lot of options but I have disciplined so no I don’t cheat nor does she , married for 15 years and we act goofy like we are still boyfriend and girlfriend.😂 she’s into my hobbies now like working out and building cars , so when I’m out sometimes she knows where I am 9/10 of the time , but also we think traditional when it comes to relationships that’s why our relationship doesn’t feel like a burden of some sort .
Traditional values have been eclipsed by pop culture, unfortunately. People have become what they see and hear on the tv/social media and media in general. It's refreshing to hear Sadia reflect on the importance of old fashioned behaviors between men and women in a relationship. Most couples I know who are very successful and loving in their marriage is because of that. Their core VALUES and not necessarily their monetary status are similar of not identical.
Thank you for your channel. I feel that you know me, as I know myself this way, Sadia. It is a releif to see your commitment to the science on this. I will follow, so I can hear how you organized you this way.
Wow, that was all much more engaging than I expected it to be! Especially 23:54 to 28:46 which helped clear up a quandary I've run up against repeatedly, about how not to end up locked into the friendzone by a highly attractive woman who really likes me as a friend. It's just not worth it. Yet they'll truly chase me down to keep me there.
It's a good rule of thumb to look for adventure in someone, try doing things you wouldnt normally do & sharing that experiance, or things you don't do so often it could be 10 pin bowling lazer quest, there are so many options, originality can often impress & can be fun
"Do you think people attach to people who give them more drama?” Absolutely, positively, 100%, *NO!* There’s enough drama in life without coming home to it as well.
Exactly! She and her partner can have friends of the opposite sex as long as his friends aren't that pretty and everyone is following "her" boundaries. Female brains can be such a joke. 😂😂😂
22:30 damsel in distress, spot on, so true, my "friend's" younger daughter is just that and he BF steps up and takes care of everything. Older daughter the opposite.
High Value Woman "by most men's standards" goes as follows… She understands natural beauty. The less cosmetics the better but still beautiful. Nothing fake on her. She has a healthy diet and a healthy fitness routine to preserve her beauty. Intelligently stimulating. Confident but not overly confident. Talking with her is exciting and makes her irresistible. She is a woman that conscientiously brings peace to her man with smiles. Doesn't bring a bad attitude to the table. She doesn't shame, insult or make her man feel guilty. She also doesn't have a need to be right! She is discreet. She doesn't arouse sexual desire or interest deliberately publicly. She doesn't constantly run her mouth or express "big personality". She is feminine. Women that practice masculine posture, talk and attitude are a turn off to men! She isn't easy to bed. Has a low body count or even better a virgin saving for marriage. Religiously against infidelity. Loyal. High pedigree. Nice upbringing. Good parents. Nice family. Hard worker with home, can cook and has motherly aspirations. Low maintenance. She doesn't ask or need a lot. She is not materialistic. Is sexy in the "bedroom". Can make her man's recreational interests her interests. For example loves boating, football, golfing etc. When "important decisions" need to be made she is cooperative, agreeable and submissive in to her man's program. Trusting her man's decision making and supportive. College degree. Before having children and after the children are grown she is determined to work and support the household financially "if asked". Women aren't born with these qualities. It takes time, training and growth. For a woman to have all of these qualities she would be nearly perfect. A very high quality woman. This woman doesn't exist. A man today could only hope she has most of these qualities! Also, different men prioritize different characteristics. Some men just want gorgeous and fit in appearance and not care if she is materialistic with a bad attitude. Or one may just want feminine, socially and intellectually stimulating, mediocre in appearance. Obviously, Religion and political views are very important in a life long companionship!
Rejection from women is mostly about you though. As a man, you have to look in the mirror and figure out how you can improve so women have less things to not like about you.
It’s hard to remain faithful in this day and age to a very weak person.. someone whose strong and in control of themselves,, remaining faithful is a simple walk through the park!! Only you can control you so take accountability for your actions..
It's kind of funny, having gone through various dating scenarios. Namely targeted dating, hunter dating and exclusive dating, etc. Going to a supermarket and walking out with three separate women's phone numbers is kind of fun 😂❤
Sadia talks about all these things and all about “average man” whereas she herself won’t go for an average man. She complains about men who are rich rewarding onlyfans girls or models etc in Dubai. Whereas, she will never even respond to an average guy and will go for high status man
Interesting guy and insights revealed through personal evolution. ... ... ... Kudos to Sadie & Mike for the great interview. Dropping absolute truth bombs within an intelligent, adult, realistic, pragmatic conversation. Is it not almost painfully obvious beyon the pale... (?) In this life construct, It all comes down to choosing a path of "personal discipline" in a world that exists to fully exploit your lack of it.
Sadia what lab were you made in? Why are you the only woman who understands boundaries? Don’t put yourself in a position to fail, it’s simple. Thank you for letting me know I’m not crazy!
“Every time we exercise self control, we gain self respect, and every time we gain self respect, we gain self esteem.” That rang so true. Nice one Sadia.
Amen
every time i exercise self control i end up kicking myself 😂
@@fatgirlboy9341Same. Still thinking of that hot Scottish girl I turned away from.
@@Neoteny374 amen 😂
😂😂😂😂😂
"A man that doesn't give into his impulses is the most free man in the world," is a brilliant commentary. If you are beholden to every desire or temptation, how truly free are you?
I don't give in to temptation i live freely
She literally is saying the same things Tate says. And she’s really spot on about modern dating psychology. But the part she’s shocked abt guys being traumatized abt approaching girls made me lose a little respect for her and tells me literally women have zero simple empathy for men. Like how do you not understand talking to strangers and risking complete embarassment and public rejection is hard? It doesn’t take male genitalia to understand bravery
@@alvinsheczlek5243 Great point.
Give up into “HIS” impulses not other people’s grandiosity and narcissistic traits. A free man does what he wants without negatively impacting others and his own integrity
Just ignore your natural desires bro
Her answers are extremely intelligent I must say. The way he interrupted her but she still listened to what he has to say… that’s the next level of patience. And also when she took down the red pill theories and talked about self control really got me liked and subscribed this 100%
Self-control is true freedom.
She's right absolutely 💯.
I don’t understand why people in these younger generations don’t understand that the benefits of relationships come with sacrifices. You don’t get something for nothing!
I agree. Perhaps perceptions of a real man are based upon stereotypes modelled on gangsters and pimps . The media doesn't help when sex and violence sell and friendship and humility are ridiculed. Bullying in cyberspace is epidemic and good role models are feeling discounted. Perhaps people envision a world run by abusers who will bring affirmation to those who are insecure so require gangs to validate debasement. No doubt they will respond to this with threats but then that is democracy in the free world init. Lot of good folk out there but social media is dominated by abuse and violence. We need to grow and learn a new language where love is not a dirty word perhaps?
so true!
Naw the younger generation is trickin and simpin and the women are using an abusing 😭not entering a relationship for the right reasons unless it’s a trade off your setting yourself up for failure 🤦🏿♂️
@@Dipset415Dude. Huge numbers of men have always simped, and huge numbers of women have always been golddiggers and monkey-branch at the drop of a hat.
The only difference today is it is much more obvious and accelerated.
Men have not changed.....women have broken the social contract.
Getting any woman you want is very easy. The secret is to train yourself to only want the ones who want you first. Read up about body language while you're at it.
Being desired by a woman should be the only requirement that makes you even take a second look at her, then you can decide if you are attracted to her. No matter how beautiful she might be, if a woman isn't giving you the right body language signals, just don't waste your time with her.
For man it is not easy to get any woman you want, even those who check all the boxes female desire. For woman is very easy to get any man she wants, social media proves this, even bellow average get attention.
Woman could be attracted to you one day, and cold to you second day. Some of them could be really into you, and this will be obvious.
yes
Gold..my man you"ve spoken facts!
Sad so many learn/accept that after going through lots of bs..perhaps that's the way for most...
Ekman
only wanting the women that want you first IS NOT getting any woman you want. its getting any woman you can get. so your options stay the same...
Title is clickbait, just 2 people giving their thoughts on relationships
2 perpetually single people giving advise on relationships 😂
Exactly.
@@lapx1well, she's a long-time married woman, though 😁
@@lapx1 I can just imagine what happened post video shooting ^.^
Thanks for saving my time
I met my woman one year ago when i was broke and homles. One year later i have my dream job (working with the youth of the street) i have my home, i al a artist and my art is better and better and slowly i start Selling my art pierces. I start from Rock bottom and she is still on my side. It is a challence because she is high class but because of her i find more and more the best version of myself. I thank God for her.
This is miracle.
Sadia 4:56 The ultimate source of high value is self control . YES !
He said at 8:40 "You should do somthing that scares you every day"
Sadia 14:35 ....The ppl that spend the most time in social media usually are'nt that happy.
Dont forget about God
@@def6420 lol
Lonely ppl are all over the internet
A high-value man can resist temporary desires for long term goals. Who can't respect that?
Yeah 👍
Say that to my balls that need to be drained, I don’t believe in one partner anymore, the world screwed me over, I can’t unsee or unknow the things I know
@@ktfoent Even if you look for a fling, it still makes sense to choose wisely. See it as experimenting to build up your understanding of people (not to collect as many as possible), instead of using yourself and them. Different mindset, different outcome.
@@aronhighgrove4100 that’s a good answer, thank you, something to think about
@@aronhighgrove4100 This is actually very true. You can exercise discernment even in hook ups rather than just taking anything/everything that comes your way.
For men not to cheat, it's not just impulse control, it is placing a high value on commitments he has made and integrity.
The search for a faithful woman is a daunting one, indeed. For such a woman is a rare and precious gem, one that is worth more than all the gold in the world. She is a woman of virtue and integrity, who is committed to her partner and her vows. She is a woman of strength and resilience, who will stand by her partner through thick and thin. She is a woman of love and compassion, who will always put her partner's needs first.
If you are fortunate enough to find a faithful woman, cherish her. She is a gift beyond compare.
A 1% woman is a attractive grown woman who is a virgin or a body count of 1 ! She dresses modestly and doesn't advertise herself on social media. That type of woman all heterosexual men would respect and other women would try to put down and smear- because she is what they aren't and will never be !
Truth
Fact
How many exist?....really. FEW, not enough for a working society. Women are mostly promiscuous.
bravo !!
Waiting on the angry Karen who thinks shes a 1% with kids and multiple baby daddies to comment here. 😂😂
"Pick correctly" ❤ selection is everything ❤ don't choose chaos then get angry cause its chaos, just choose peace.
Wow!
Less will understand but would help the world so much. I wonder how woman pick
People seldom reveal who they really are until they have a commitment
This was so good, and so pointed, it’s insane.
Wow Sadia, you are such a good role model. Keep being true to yourself and the relationships you appreciate having.
“Take her into your world.” I love that so much! There is no other person that I’ve heard present that idea before 💡 This is my new expectation
Right, add that to an already long list of expectations because you heard it on the internet. LOL SMH
Its really the best way to see if a woman is interested in a journey with you. Both find out pretty quick if they are genuine from the get go.
Another expectation? How long is the list now?
Yep it does really sound healthy, but on the other i dont know.Why not to add some more romantic element to it, or something you wouldnt to with anyone so you show your intentions with doing something opposite from your life.
@@MyDk2009 😂😂🤣
Hearing this man is refreshing
I’m in Walmart listening to this and picked up a pack of cookies RIGHT when he mentioned getting in shape and discipline. I put the fxking cookies back!!
"friend" is an elastic and contextual definition..knowing the "position" is the key... :)
Out of 10 approaches, I get rejected probably 8-10 times but I wouldn't trade approaching with any online stuff. There's nothing like it.
The self control bit was the most powerful and important segment and should be shared like CRAZY
You guys hit the nail on the head on every level!
Sadia is one of the most insightful people on this topic.
1. Be attractive
2. Dont be ugly
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Attractive men can't be ugly, because they're rich.
😂
Fascinating. As the interview progresses it was almost like they were evaluating each other as potential partners, without even realising they were doing it. I can't be the only person that saw this, the human mind and psychology is amazing.
😂 facts
I believe, (maybe subconsciously) that's what you wanted to see, so you saw it. I'm certain they were attracted to each other, as they're both good looking people. That said, I didn't see any evaluating going on (conscious or otherwise), at least not for the purpose of being partners.
She's on him
@@jimmyjamessac7171😂😂
100% flirting.
sadia speaking pure unfiltered facts
Beautiful Sadia! This video is a good example of what women say vs. what they will actually do
Unity is what every successful relationship has in common. Going way on trips with your friends while you are married could lead to a breakdown of the Unity. 😎
We need more women like Sadia. She speaks facts.
I am so glad I found this podcast, wow. So many golden nuggets in here. Also great to hear these things from a woman's perspective, I've never heard the exposure element explained in that way before. It's always bothered me but I've never been able to articulate it properly.
this is so good pls do a motivational compilation out of this
I once asked a coworker what kind men she was into . She wanted man who can make her laugh and handy man who can fixed things around the house .
I told her get a clown on the left side of your bed and a plumber on the right side of your bed , hahaha that was a good one she said 😂😊
I lived in Dubai 10 years. I wish I knew about Sadia earlier)) and I wish everyone why lives there (and not only there) watched this podcast! So good. Thanks for making it you guys!
Sadia You're Love. You Talk Sense and purely, Thank you for saying things that weren't talked about before.
When you really like your partner, you don't need that much self-control. And when you exercise a lot of self-control, you are in a relationship with a friend.
Huh?
I agree 100 percent. Men should stop making excuses that nature controls their desires. Simple, if you have a desire to cheat than you don't care about your partner as much as you think.
@@johnre5342 1000% true, its really fucking easy to stay loyal if you are with the right person
@johnre5342 why just men
@@johnre5342partners who cheat are mentally ill. They usually are very high in narcissism.
This is so densely packed with some of the most true, insightful facts on CZcams. So many content creators should just take a break and listen either/both of these two.
I agree Sadia you just go for it and if your rejected just move on and don't let it get to you.
Sadia, you are brilliant the way you analyze things.
Gosh I just saw your video and you spoked everything real about what my wife is doing behind me and my daughter’s back! And about my self control to doing betrayal to my wife even when I have all the evidence of what she has been doing outside with those men whom you had mentioned that she had made herself available opening up her blouse and skirt. I even gave voice recordings of them! Even me trying to get my six-pack! So so true! So happy to hear you mentioned that about loyalty, coming from a woman! ❤
Bro you have to leave her. Cheating women always end up miserable.
I’m a high value man. I’m still single at 66. Just proving western women are too far gone. Been celibate 17 years, a physique a 20 year old envies, handsome, degreed engineer, own a successful business, emotionally, mentally and spiritually in tact after decades of counsel and self improvement, a God fearing man and… still far from perfect. It’s called respect for oneself, self discipline, love your neighbor as yourself and do everything to the best of your ability.
So try women outside of the western world.
😂
Move outside of western. There's 8continent try Africa, Asia, Europe.. but come to 9ja😊
Your word. Your honour. Your integrity. Your self efficacy etc etc.
Thanks. Self control is from committing to ur long term goals. A fruit of the spirit
After 20 years of opposite sex "friends" I finally closed all the relationships, it is a boundary illusion. Sadia is rapidly contradicting herself in the video and not acknowledging it. As a partner you cannot put your own boundaries according to how sexually attractive you find the partner's friends, unless you are a hypocrite. Men have almost to no benefits from being friends with women, women have multiple, including reality checks, not provided normally by females friends, also attention, validation, help etc.
@@n3a1steak curious to state few examples that cannot be fulfilled by male friends.
Interesting, as a woman I'm thinking male friends have zero benefits to me lol. He is seen in public with me, emotionally nurtured and supported by me and probably not even paying for stuff because we're "just friends". And then he's probably still hoping to get a chance to sleep with me. What a great friend! Plus other men might not want to approach me when seen in public. I would rather not have male friends honestly. It's not true friendship anyways.
@@Blossom835 true friendship is genderless at every step. Most of the time true friendship exists only between men, most of the time. A communication other than relationship between opposite genders, is usually caused by an overdeveloped opposite gender traits in one or both identities. Men have women friends most of the time only for two reasons, 1) to have sex with them, they keep playing around and waiting, 2) men have feminine traits.
@@2by3 true, I see this (reasons men have female friends) as well. Both options not desirable in my mind.
@@Blossom835bs
Sadia comes from Pakistani culture where women tend to be much wiser. Plenty of beauti there as well.
And submissive ,not a healthy trait
@@user-yl1ko7sg6tSure it can be healthy. Its just how its shown
I don’t think her being wise has anything to do with her ethnicity…😅
Not wiser but submissive , servant and sharia law follower
Sadia Psychology, you are dropping bars, facts.
1 of 1. Exclusivity is the highest form of value.
Finally ! A man and a woman having a conversation that is almost non-existent in the current culture. For the love of all that is holy, these two need to continue this conversation, maybe even explore a relationship.
sadia says shes married
@@azizrampage and? lol
@@chigeneratorthe person said maybe they need to explore a relationship even though she's married
@@azizrampageyes, that was my point. let's go!
@@chigenerator you should explore beastiality. let's go!
When I was in my 20's & 30's I strived to ask at least one lady out each & every day. Even if the lady says no, she then knows you are interested, and tomorrow is a new day!!🥰
😂😂😂 what a clown way of life
@@lfggolf Only an idiot would generalize someones entire way of life based on 2 short sentences😂😂😂
And you called him that over one sentence.
The irony...
@@lfggolfsimpmaxx 😂
Practice getting rejected and you won’t wind up like Beta Bob
Thanks for posting! This is great information for anyone who is struggling to understand relationships and dating. (Like myself!)
you said correct. And I do appreciate the ideas you both share. Bravo to you both!
Your mindset is absolutely amazing, Sadia!
im loving every second of this
I just found this channel, liked and subscribed. She seems close to the type of lady I would like to be with. He is a bit full of himself. I’ve seen guys like this get the rug pulled out from under him.
I am really captivated by her look and personality
I would suggest that the "options = freedom to walk" hypothesis is one side of a coin.
The other side of that same coin is "having the option to have whomever you want, but CHOOSING to be committed to the partner you are with is the highest level of commitment."
Because you DO have the option to walk away. You could hermit crab up to a bigger shell. A new person. Or just go to that perceived greener grass. Because it will always be greener somewhere else, if you're only looking for that.
However!
If you choose the person you are with and you're with them because that was an active decision and a garden you put daily effort into, you are there because you WANT to be and not because you HAVE to be.
I think that settling for someone because you feel like thats the upward limit for your ability is.... well dangerous to a relationship. Because it means the only reason they're not cheating isn't because they WOULDN'T, but because they CAN'T.
...until an alternative arises.
Also I 100% agree on rejection. I think the thing that makes it worse is when you get the nerves to talk to someone and the expectations are high on the outcomes of them accepting you. Everything's based on that and when it goes left... it crushes everything... mix that in with 2-4 in a row, you tend to lower your standards a bit out of desperation which ultimately becomes your downfall. There are people who swipe away from people they would love to be with, but know it wont happen simply because of how the person looks.
Geez that’s so harsh, yet it goes over females heads, it sounds so dramatic,
People always look the looks, specialy men lol. More hot is the man and woman, more ugly attitue they have, because everybody want them
That's why you only talk to women you know you have a chance with. It's that simple. Men keep getting rejected because they keep pursuing women who never gave them any indication that they were interested in them. It's especially bad when men approach complete strangers or taken women for romance. It's better to approach women you have built rapport with, whether that be at church or some kind of book club or work. (Though, work is still risky)
@@avaliausd. I say never approach women ever. It's not worth it and the only reason why women don't do it is because they like being in the seat of power to accept or reject you. Women not approaching men isn't some cultural thing about being reserved it's purely about power.
If you fear rejection…… don’t ever be a salesman
Gorgeous conversation! Thank you so much guys! ❤👏👏💪
Sadia is just spitting wisdom one after the other. Just amazing
more like common sense lol
many lack that mr professor@@Netwrk72
Self control = self respect. It is a simple yet profound truth
I haven't seen in a while in the online environment such a beautiful conversation and healthy....just two people talking and not sending hate to each other. You can see from miles away they respect each other and want to bring the best quality on the table. Well done guys.
I love BOTH their words and thoughts. They don't make people like us any more.
Edit: I... need a woman like that in my life.
He’s going to hit this
She is a psycologist and is surprized that rejection hurts! Wow she is a genius
Yeah, shes never been rejected im sure. Women that attractive dont get turned down. Not for anything...ever
Big respect to this man for real . Also Sadia you are not strict at all , that’s just a traditional woman’s behavior and there is nothing wrong with that at all . My wife is the same way , and I’m the same way as well , and trust me I have a lot of options but I have disciplined so no I don’t cheat nor does she , married for 15 years and we act goofy like we are still boyfriend and girlfriend.😂 she’s into my hobbies now like working out and building cars , so when I’m out sometimes she knows where I am 9/10 of the time , but also we think traditional when it comes to relationships that’s why our relationship doesn’t feel like a burden of some sort .
Wonderful my friend ! And it's this 1/10th that she doesnt know that is keeping the relationship well maintained .You got this !
Not everyone gets to be that lucky.
Undoubtedly, this one the most intelligent conversation that I've listened to on the subject.
Now, I'm inclined to follow this channel.
I returned to watch this video to listen to the conversation about self control
Traditional values have been eclipsed by pop culture, unfortunately. People have become what they see and hear on the tv/social media and media in general. It's refreshing to hear Sadia reflect on the importance of old fashioned behaviors between men and women in a relationship. Most couples I know who are very successful and loving in their marriage is because of that. Their core VALUES and not necessarily their monetary status are similar of not identical.
Thank you for your channel. I feel that you know me, as I know myself this way, Sadia. It is a releif to see your commitment to the science on this. I will follow, so I can hear how you organized you this way.
lack of options makes one invest heavily in what they have.....words to be etched in gold
Wow, that was all much more engaging than I expected it to be! Especially 23:54 to 28:46 which helped clear up a quandary I've run up against repeatedly, about how not to end up locked into the friendzone by a highly attractive woman who really likes me as a friend. It's just not worth it. Yet they'll truly chase me down to keep me there.
Options = Ego😂
Tell that to the 2,000,000,000 people on our planet that live in less then $2 a day.
@@smarthalayla6397non sequitur
= Andrew tate
@@dronetheworld4k67JAIL, THEN NO OPTIONS BUT RELIGIOUS CONVERSION TO GET OUT OF JAIL??!!😉🥴😂
Unfortunately...🤷
It's a good rule of thumb to look for adventure in someone, try doing things you wouldnt normally do & sharing that experiance, or things you don't do so often it could be 10 pin bowling lazer quest, there are so many options, originality can often impress & can be fun
"Do you think people attach to people who give them more drama?” Absolutely, positively, 100%, *NO!* There’s enough drama in life without coming home to it as well.
Most men don't. Many or most women do.
Finally someone that makes sense
I love how Sadia’s opinion about opposite gender friends changed from “yes” to “it depends” when hot fitness model scenario was presented.
Theory is different than the reality
yes, feels like double standards
She came of as a very jealous and controlling type of partner imo
2 separate brains at work!
Exactly! She and her partner can have friends of the opposite sex as long as his friends aren't that pretty and everyone is following "her" boundaries. Female brains can be such a joke. 😂😂😂
your interest doesn't has to match, it's the values that has to match for a relationship to work.
As a man (a masculine man) I think the world would be a much better place if men listened to Sadia
22:30 damsel in distress, spot on, so true, my "friend's" younger daughter is just that and he BF steps up and takes care of everything. Older daughter the opposite.
High Value Woman "by most men's standards" goes as follows…
She understands natural beauty. The less cosmetics the better but still beautiful. Nothing fake on her.
She has a healthy diet and a healthy fitness routine to preserve her beauty.
Intelligently stimulating. Confident but not overly confident. Talking with her
is exciting and makes her irresistible.
She is a woman that conscientiously brings peace to her man with smiles. Doesn't bring a bad attitude to the table. She doesn't shame, insult or make her man feel guilty. She also doesn't have a need to be right!
She is discreet. She doesn't arouse sexual desire or interest deliberately publicly. She doesn't constantly run her mouth or express "big personality".
She is feminine. Women that practice masculine posture, talk and attitude are a turn off to men!
She isn't easy to bed. Has a low body count or even better a virgin saving for marriage.
Religiously against infidelity. Loyal.
High pedigree. Nice upbringing. Good parents. Nice family.
Hard worker with home, can cook and has motherly aspirations.
Low maintenance. She doesn't ask or need a lot. She is not materialistic.
Is sexy in the "bedroom".
Can make her man's recreational interests her interests. For example loves boating, football, golfing etc.
When "important decisions" need to be made she is cooperative, agreeable and submissive in to her man's program. Trusting her man's decision making and supportive.
College degree. Before having children and after the children are grown she is determined to work and support the household financially "if asked".
Women aren't born with these qualities. It takes time, training and growth. For a woman to have all of these qualities she would be nearly perfect. A very high quality woman. This woman doesn't exist. A man today could only hope she has most of these qualities! Also, different men prioritize different characteristics. Some men just want gorgeous and fit in appearance and not care if she is materialistic with a bad attitude. Or one may just want feminine, socially and intellectually stimulating, mediocre in appearance. Obviously, Religion and political views are very important in a life long companionship!
Ok....now where is she? Nowhere.
@@johngalt6838 Just know what qualities are most important to you and find her.
@@kelsowilz2522 The qualities that every man want? Purity, loyalty, nurturing, dedicated to family? How many exist?........be honest.
@@johngalt6838 In the U.S. she is hard to find. Might have to get a passport and visit a smaller less modern country.
yeah dream on
Rejection from women is mostly about you though. As a man, you have to look in the mirror and figure out how you can improve so women have less things to not like about you.
It was kind of an eye opening video on culture, values and morals. Sometimes the values can cross cultural boundaries, as it seems in the video.
"take her into your world" this is everything.
It’s hard to remain faithful in this day and age to a very weak person.. someone whose strong and in control of themselves,, remaining faithful is a simple walk through the park!! Only you can control you so take accountability for your actions..
Never ask a fish how he wants to get caught. Ask the fisherman.
But the fish don't want to get caught
Fish is a “she” otherwise good point
I. AM A PSYCHOPATH AND I AM GLAD TO HEAR YOU ACKNOWLEDGED PEOPLE LIKE ME. #PSYCHOPATHS ARE PEOPLE TOO
It's kind of funny, having gone through various dating scenarios. Namely targeted dating, hunter dating and exclusive dating, etc.
Going to a supermarket and walking out with three separate women's phone numbers is kind of fun 😂❤
Mike took that male female friends argument apart in 30 seconds. Respect
A conflict of interests is anything that simply appears to be one even when it’s not. A respectful relationship is one without a conflict of interest.
Respect is everything
i love this woman so much 💗
The first few minutes are facts!
Sadia talks about all these things and all about “average man” whereas she herself won’t go for an average man.
She complains about men who are rich rewarding onlyfans girls or models etc in Dubai. Whereas, she will never even respond to an average guy and will go for high status man
The question is: Why isn't she married?
Yep all these female "relationship experts" on CZcams are the same. Grifters and hypocrites.
wow.. what a very interesting conversation, really enjoyed it :)
love the content...hate the closed captions that can't be turned off
Thank ya'll for this.
Interesting guy and insights revealed through personal evolution.
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Kudos to Sadie & Mike for the great interview.
Dropping absolute truth bombs within an intelligent, adult, realistic, pragmatic conversation.
Is it not almost painfully obvious beyon the pale... (?)
In this life construct,
It all comes down to choosing a path of "personal discipline" in a world that exists to fully exploit your lack of it.
Sadia what lab were you made in? Why are you the only woman who understands boundaries? Don’t put yourself in a position to fail, it’s simple. Thank you for letting me know I’m not crazy!
"but not when the relationship is over" I felt that one
Let her come into your world, that's leadership ❤
You can do whatever you want in this life as long as your ok with the consequences
That don't apply to a monogamous relationship