ADHD Tip: Focus on Starting, not Finishing
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- čas přidán 19. 10. 2014
- www.digcoaching.com. Jeff Copper is an ADHD coach and host of Attention Talk Video which is part of the Attention Talk Network, www.attentiontalknetwork.com.
ADD Crusher™ Alan Brown (www.addcrusher.com) Zen hack: Focus on starting, not finishing. You can’t finish if you don’t start. It is about the process, not the outcome. Watch this interview as we discuss how to get past hard.
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I am going crazy here and this video gives me hope. Great work guys can't thank you enough.
+hasseb waqar Hope is POWERFUL! Keep pluggin!
+hasseb waqar So glad this "brain hack" could work for you!!
right!
thankyou
As someone who suffers from ADD, this helped tremendously...simple yet powerful!
Totally Awesome!!
So glad it was helpful to you! Jeff is such a great interviewer -- he knows how to get to the "marrow" of tips/tricks. -Alan
CrusherTV Thanks! And he really is! I've been applying this "just start" mindset to different tasks that are normally difficult to get started on & complete, and though I still struggle, I'm much more productive because of it.
This was made 8 years ago and this is my first time seeing and I honestly don’t regret watching this video because starting is always the problem because your thinking about omg when will I finish it ? And therefore you never start anything. But got it ! Just start even if you don’t finish it ❤️🤗
Booya!!!!
Yes, you totally NAILED it Misz Yasmin! Keep starting. On start at a time. It's the only way to FINISH!
Thanks okay. I had begun to use the "start" of the NEXT project to power me through completion of the ...one that's been running way way over time. Will try to shift into start/start mode. Should work so long as I do a lot of "REstarting".
I'm watching a lot of ADHD videos, trying to see patterns and collecting strategies. I call it 'circling a problem.' And I've noticed one huge predictor of whether a video is going to be helpful.
It's not how old the video is, it's not someone's scientific pedigree, it's whether someone is ADHD themselves.
And there are two ways to know whether that is the case: does the video start quickly and to the point, in ways that engage attention, and does the person talk from their own ADHD perspective.
I just came from a ten-year old video of an ADHD "specialist" giving "advice" that people with ADHD should be structuring our days, work towards healthy sleeping habits, and build routines. Basically: living our lives as if we don't have ADHD.
It's like telling a person in a wheelchair that they should be working towards walking on their legs because it's so much easier and more convenient than using a wheelchair.
And then there is your old videos, still as relevant today as they were then. And I'm so happy that more and more people with ADHD are finding each other now, so that we can think and work together on making our lives easier in ways that work with our brains.
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What a nice, well articulated and insightful post. Thank you for taking the time to write it.
As for your analysis... i agree!
@@AttentionTalkVideo 🤗
I'm so glad @radishthefool that you see the great value in @AttentionTalkVideo's short vids by Jeff Copper. This is what Jeff does best: gets to the point, and always offers actionable solutions. Proud be in his videos! -apb
That was the most productive chat I heard in a long long time. Negative self talk is so bad and completely underestimated. THANKS
you're welcome
I'm good at starting. Go crazy learning everything I can about something. Spend money on the best stuff. Start doing, get almost far enough. Then abruptly lose interest. Never finish anything.
I'd be interested in your thoughts on my videos titled foraging for information and the one on unfinished projects.
@@AttentionTalkVideo i finally found the search function and I agree with your points. Thanks for putting a solid explanation out there. So many facets to this condition. So easy to dig in and get stuck. So hard to find a decent doctor and proper meds. I'd like to see a therapist but there aren't any available where i live.
@@smashy_smasherton Thrilled I'm helping you make sense of things. Keep the faith!
Thanks a lot for sharing 🙏. Please continue to give us HOPE.
With comments like this... we will.
Thank you! I may or may not have ADHD, but I definitely have a driving phobia. Sometimes I just have to get my shoes on and get out to the car, and once I'm buckled up, I can almost always get myself to drive. Same concept, just get it started and don't think so negatively the finish line. I'll do my best to apply this to my chronic procrastination. It's a struggle, but I can't give up.
Keep the faith and keep focused on what you have accomplished. You can do it again.
Yes indeed -- what Jeff says. Keep at it with little hacks like that and never give up!
I liked this- very helpful! I liked the Crusher.
This is one of the most helpful practical tips I have found. Works for me.
Glad it helped!
This is awesome. What I do is I try to make myself finish it in a certain time period...then I get overwhelmed...and then I sort of give up...
Pressure often paralyzes those with ADHD. Focusing on starting indirectly impacts that and can be an effective brain hack!
thanks for the post.
Jeff talks about that paralysis -- so common and frustrating, especially when we "try to make [our]self finish in a certain time period" -- just adds to the stress. Which is exactly why I say, don't worry about finishing. Just worry about STARTING! Keep starting and the finishing will happen. Hang in there and keep on crushing it!
I just found this channel. I am amazed!!!! Is the first time I feel someone can understand what is going on in my brain. Thank you so much for all the videos. I have spent hours watching all the videos. Again, thank you! 🙌✨
You are so welcome. Hope you find value in our other videos and in my videos with Alan
Great that you found @DigCoaching and Jeff Copper! He's the real deal, and we've done some great videos together, but ALL of his stuff is great. So keep exploring! -apb
@@ADDCrusher Total respect for "the" Alan Brown. Check out addcrusher.com
I really appreciate this, thank you so much
You're so welcome!
Hey, ADHD. Now you're motivated and happy with the advice, but tomorrow you'll forget it.
So, another GREAT tip for you ADHD: watch this video everyday OR read your notes (from this video) everyday.
You're not only "ADHD" you have a ADHD Brain with ADHD habits. If you do not remember yourself of those tips and apply them YOU WILL FORGET AND GET BACK TO THE "OLD ME".
Great post! Thanks
Great advice @MrDavi2751 -- repetition and reinforcement as so KEY to our success in learning and putting things into action! Nicely done...apb
This was hopeful! Thankyou!
awesome!
thanks for the advice guys
Anas Ahmad hope you got something out of it!
Maybe this video has tidbits of truth, but my house is filled with lots of starts that are unfinished...
repair this, paint that, pressure wash this, build that..... a lot of things that I got exited about starting, but never finished... and my wife is frustrated with all the unfinished things around the house and yard too...
So permission to start is good, but I got to finish, and that’s my issue..
Starting not finishing is a brain hack to shift your mindset. Often i find project hit the skids for those with ADHD when they are just plain boring. In such situations consider doing it with another person. The other reason (like 75% of procrastination) is rooted in ambiguity. Struggling to make a decision, not clear what to do, were to find something, or unclear on how something works. If that is the case the key to moving forward is to identify what isn't clear and solve for that.
So true
yes it is!
I tried this and it worked, good tip
excellent
my left ear really appreciated this
sorry for the technology issue. this was shot years ago. content is good.
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YES!!! 👍👍👍
thumbs up back at ya
if i just know this tip earlier but as we say to come late is better than not coming
Well said!
@@AttentionTalkVideo thank you 💜
Can you update the audio mixing?
This will only play through the left audio speaker.
Unfortunatly no. Back then my mic was messed up and didn't know it.
There's a saying I used to use, but I...uh forgot about it. "Something's not nothing." So *starting* anything means you got something done, even if it's 5 minutes or even 1 minute of progress.
Amy Brown you "crushed it"!
Yep -- Amy Brown you nailed it. And think of the POSITIVE cascade that results when you feel you HAVE made progress, even if just a millimeter…vs the negative emotional/physical cascade caused by stress and frustration when we don't "finish" something. -Alan
Apparently I did crush it, beneath piles of clutter and depression. OOPS.
I do find that the starting usually gives me enough motivation and increases my self-esteem enough to actually keep going. So the five minutes I intended to spend may turn into an hour of doing this project and finishing it too, WHOA!
But this was a great reminder and was highly motivating. Really very interesting learning about the cortisol production when our body is in certain positions. That's really fascinating and makes a lot of sense. Thanks to both of you for putting it together :D
Amy Brown ***** Thank you... we do what we do because of comments like yours!
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Booya!
Okay I’m going to start. I got to go outside and cut the grass. Yard is a mess. You would panic if you were to see it. I’ll time myself. 20 minutes! Wish me luck.
Yea! you started!
Thing about cutting the grass is you have a lot of starts in your future.
3 videos later, I'm back to finish this video :L
True, I love starting stuff, I'll try considering each resume as an enthusiastic new thing.
booya
Another talk I watched gave the insight of learning & research, each project I start I tend to do until the point of having gained the knowledge I initially sought from implementing it, the interest peters out because the gains diminish, so with each 'unfinished project' I have actually 'finished' some of the underlying reasons for starting it. Avoiding self negative talk is always worth doing, nothing good comes from a point of stress.
Great post. in another video i talk about how often a project is to learn what it is like to do something. Once learned you move on. Thus you learned what it was like to be a carpenter but the remodeling of the bathroom isn't complete.
this is very common for those with ADHD. Awareness of this helps you plan and make decisions from you choose to proceed.
@@AttentionTalkVideo Well, that explains my interest in lots of things, the impulsive purchases, and then ... nothing. UGH! Now to try to reframe it into the positive side of just learning about things as being ok. ??Why is being positive so painful??
Speaker only working in right ear
+Good Christian sorry... we fixed it in future interviews! hope you learned something!
AttentionTalkVideo Yep, good video. Though I did not finish it ; ) Jk. Nice tips because I have the problem of not beginning important things for months because I focus on the results and get so scared that I don't start and end up worse :( . About the sound I just wanted to inform in case you aren't aware. Was not trying to be mean : )
+Good Christian one of the single most important things i've learned in coaching is pay attention to the "individual's" process. Focus on the process and the outcomes will come. All to often people focus on the process they are told to do or ruminate about the outcome and find themselves STUCK as STUCK CAN BE.
thanks for the comments on the sounds. the more people looking out for me the better!
Your headphones were on the wrong way :L
2:22 worst advise ever I now have around 500 started projects and can barely move around my house due to clutter from unfinished projects
I'm not sure it is bad advise. It might not work for you but for some it does work.
Respectfully, thanks for sharing your perspective.
guess i was a bit impulsive and reactive with that, maybe it would work for digital projects.. then again my computer is a mess of files too!
Dwayne Christie in older comments described it perfectly for me " buy all the best things for the job maybe start then lost interest and onto the next thing" ill look into some of the suggestions you previously recommended him.. or at least put them on another list 🤣
so finish them dumbass
"You don't have to finish anything." Worst advice EVER.
I think the idea is to focus on starting so you move towards finishing. Many are so paralyzed focusing on finishing... they never start.
Jess Stuart just start everyday and see things getting automatically finished