BOUNDARIES IN DATING PT 1| EMOTIONAL INTIMACY

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  • čas přidán 28. 04. 2020
  • Hey All,
    I thought I would share some of my thoughts around boundaries in dating as Christians! Part 1 deals with Emotional Boundaries. I hope you find this video helpful.
    Let me know what areas around Emotions you guard when approaching dating!
    p.s. please forgive the sound quality (cars passing and maybe kids screaming in the distance lol). My audio file got deleted so I had to work with what I had!
    I hope you enjoy x

Komentáře • 36

  • @misschi6569
    @misschi6569 Před 4 lety +18

    Yes! Very useful vid. Word! Emotional promiscuity - I shared a bit too much with someone once (those blurred friendships) and felt I had given them access to a part of my heart (it was about a past stronghold). They had this secret knowing about me. So I decided to confess (we are overcome by the word of our testimony) to my church family as a testimony of what I overcame. I'm glad I did that because it was freeing.

    • @NickellaBian
      @NickellaBian  Před 4 lety

      That’s so powerful . Anything kept in darkness has the power to control your thoughts, emotions and actions. Exposing it to the light disempowered shame. The moment you did that you reclaimed your power by taking your story back into your own hands. I pray more people would be courageous like this so they can properly heal too. Thank you for this! xx

  • @SoraAdams
    @SoraAdams Před 4 lety +18

    I just got out of a relationship. This is indeed timely.
    I want to be pursued too, a guy recently told me I look too independent so I scared him away. 🤷‍♀️ - such a clown.

    • @NickellaBian
      @NickellaBian  Před 4 lety +14

      Thank you for sharing ❤️…Independence can either be a sign of strength or a sign of insecurity. Too often women’s assertion of independence is really a fear of losing control or a fear of dependency. Healthy independence is so important in relationships as it helps to distinguish what's yours and who you are. Interdependence on the other had is also good, but only when greater commitment is established i.e. marriage. If a man walks away because of a woman’s independence (outside of marriage), strength, or confidence, it really reveals intimidation and insecurity in him. Get lost in God and pursue purpose. God will send the right person who recognises and values you.

  • @tutsy7612
    @tutsy7612 Před 4 lety +5

    This was a much needed video. There are lots of conversations in the church about physical boundaries in relationships. You're the first person I've come across who's addressed emotional boundaries. I wish someone had told me this sooner

  • @gayletroko6908
    @gayletroko6908 Před 3 lety +5

    OUCH! this came for my life! Emotional promiscuity, oversharing of past sexual experiences, using a man for emotional intimacy until the real husband comes along! WOW WOW WOW. These are serious revelations that I didnt realise were the reasons for a lot of the problems i was experiencing in my past relationships and here's me blaming the guy when I am as much at fault. God help me to be responsible with my own body and emotions and not to awaken love/marital benefits before their time.! Thanks so much for this Nickella. I will click over to part 2 but I need to meditate on this a little longer first! Gosh! I wish this was taught in many churches to singles preparing for relationships or even young/new couples who are courting. them pitfalls are like sinking sand once your in them. Better to be forewarned!

  • @veesthoughts7613
    @veesthoughts7613 Před 4 lety +1

    You have no idea how true this is 😅
    Initially I was avoiding playing dating games, but I'm now realizing there's a difference between games and wisdom.

  • @channelchanel123
    @channelchanel123 Před 3 lety

    girl, this word is so powerful. people talk a lot about physical boundaries, but not that much about emotional ones, which are just as important. and emotional promiscuaty is really a thing. for a long time i thought that if i was not giving my all from the start, then i was being fake. but that's not true. that's not how god designed it to be
    thank you for sharing

  • @AlexysLifestyle
    @AlexysLifestyle Před 4 lety +4

    Can't wait for part 2!

  • @mandyanukam5231
    @mandyanukam5231 Před 4 lety +6

    Everything about this is gold!

  • @theafricanqueen6380
    @theafricanqueen6380 Před 4 lety +3

    Thank you for sharing this. Getting into relationships seems more complicated than it looks. Still single but definitely already made most of the mistakes you have mentioned . But really have some fear about relationships.

  • @AlexysLifestyle
    @AlexysLifestyle Před 4 lety +4

    yesss girl you're absolutely right. I took notes cos Lord knows i needed to hear this.
    God bless

  • @withlovebyads
    @withlovebyads Před 4 lety +5

    Everything you said in this was absolute truth! Thank you Sis xx

  • @jans4078
    @jans4078 Před 4 lety +4

    Great video!!! So much wisdom & so much insight

  • @animaacheampong609
    @animaacheampong609 Před 4 lety +4

    Thank you for this. I needed to hear this.

  • @TheNewSong2003
    @TheNewSong2003 Před 4 lety +4

    Loved this! Wise woman you are. Thanks for sharing this sound advice ❤

  • @sherriemorris9909
    @sherriemorris9909 Před 4 lety +4

    bringing the wisdom! 🙌👏💓

  • @yasminjaime9092
    @yasminjaime9092 Před 3 lety +1

    Wow I needed to hear this teaching. We need more content! X

  • @aquariuschild0710
    @aquariuschild0710 Před 4 lety +1

    I needed this!!!!

  • @youtubechannel_990
    @youtubechannel_990 Před 4 lety +4

    such a great video and so needed thank you x

  • @LivingLifeWithDeeDee
    @LivingLifeWithDeeDee Před 3 lety +2

    Such a great and insightful video! Thank you🙌🏾

  • @gcinazulu35
    @gcinazulu35 Před 3 lety +1

    Thanks Nicola, this is helpful!

  • @MegaGospelLover
    @MegaGospelLover Před 4 lety +1

    Encouraged by this x

  • @kashyantonio3279
    @kashyantonio3279 Před 3 lety +1

    I love this you should make more videos!

  • @AbigailMekonen
    @AbigailMekonen Před 4 lety +1

    Excellent video! Thank you

  • @EatnPray
    @EatnPray Před 2 lety +1

    Thank you for this 🌸

  • @danineal1881
    @danineal1881 Před 3 lety

    This was so very helpful

  • @susieanang3183
    @susieanang3183 Před 4 lety +1

    Pure facts 🔥

  • @amyvolk3571
    @amyvolk3571 Před 4 lety +4

    Thank you

  • @mytestimonypodcast5369

    Good!!!

  • @mirabelobasuyi8643
    @mirabelobasuyi8643 Před 2 lety +1

    This came for me. What happens when you have overshared these information's with someone of the opposite sex. What happens when you have engaged in emotional promiscuity. How do you get back from that please

  • @Jessica-md4hb
    @Jessica-md4hb Před 4 lety +2

    Can you do a video in how your husband pursue you?

  • @maudboadu
    @maudboadu Před 4 lety +3

    All I want to say is that you are so beautiful ❤️❤️❤️

  • @LoveToday8
    @LoveToday8 Před 3 lety

    I don't have any plans to marry but I'm still very intentional with dating. It's totally possible to date with intention even if your goal isn't to marry.