How I dealt with female attention towards my man
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- čas přidán 14. 04. 2015
- Hey guys,
I thought I'd do something a bit different in this weeks video. I decided to address how I felt when women interacted with my man...
In this video, I share a bit about what NOT to do in confronting the situation and a couple of things you should actually do before confronting him.
I discovered that there is a huge difference between discernment and suspicion. I learned that although boundaries should always be recognised and respected, not everyone had ulterior motives.
(P.S. I will try and make my videos shorter from now on! lol)
Enjoy x
From one pastor’s wife to another:
Stay the course...be as wise a a serpent and harmless as a dove...Stating your feelings are not really sowing seeds of judgement or condemnation...You seem like a wise virtuous woman. Your intuitions and discernment are not judgements.
Trust a woman with 40 years of clergy spouse life experiences. I don’t mean to scare you. I’m affirming you.
Don’t underestimate the enemy.
God gave you discernment for a reason. You are quite on the right track...God is live and expects you to be respectful and kind yet many women do have entirely evil motives...trust me.
The enemy will wait until your husband is in a weakened spiritual, physical, and or emotional state and then the enemy presents one of those “strange females with all the tool, flavors, and demonic skills. Your husband won’t know what hit him. That’s when and where your God given gifts of discernment and Intuition step in. And then with grace, sweetness and the authority to trample over serpents and scorpions you stand on His word, come in and don’t apologize. Please trust a word to the wise.
Thanks for sharing.
What's your advice on that?
As a man, I found this very useful. I'd like to hear your husbands perspective.
Beautiful Woman Of God,I Just Discovered Your Postings Today,Binge Watching You So On Point,After Years In My Relation ship,I Still Have To Catch Myself From Going Off Sometimes
Honest conversation!!
so helpful!
Amazing father God please help me in all these issues
Whilst I agree with you and everything you said. I also strongly believe It is alright to feel a certain way, there is nothing wrong with questioning things and asking questions? I guarantee if the tables were turned, he would feel totally the same way about you. Normal human feelings. I think it is important to communicate things in a healthy manner where the partner should reassure you and yes he should have boundaries. It is what it is, we question things when we feel threatened and unsafe, and even more so when we care and are vulnerable. I think its ok. What is not okay, is when we lie to ourselves and accept it when truly deep down we are not happy about it. God is awesome to reveal things to us when we ask him to. I think what you felt was normal but its all about communication! xxx
Thank you sister I needed to hear this becuase I have been dealing some of this with my man because of fear. My man is just as known as yours is. It can be tough at first but this strengthens and teaches us how to deal with it which also comes with wisdom and understanding during this process. much love 💖💯🙏 God bless you.
I am happy w a man in the fashion & entertainment business; and we have have a strong faith as well. His mother is a Pastor.. I am so blessed to have bumped into this video as it helps me to feel like I have a "friend" who understands.. and who offers pure wisdom without unpure motives. Honestly, thank you. I understand you! Thank you for understanding me!
Oh em G... So glad you did this vid! So true in most relationships.
Love your outlook on it. X
wow powerful content Nickella, i can soooo relate and i find this very therapeutic. I know you are newly married and have a little one but please keep these coming and be consistent, you have soooo much to share/give.
I know this is an old video but just came across your channel today
I respect your honesty. I think this is a very common feeling experienced by many woman regardless of whether they are married, engaged or single.
It would be interesting to hear your husband's perspective on this subject as well.
I appreciate the longer videos xx
Look at God. I am here singing "He gives beauty for ashes
Strength for fear
Gladness for mourning
Peace for despair" This is so transparently done.
Your words are on point all the time. also your sound tracks!!
Wow, that is an important topic. Reason, why is cos the female-female interactions in a new relationship are the most difficult. Enforcing boundaries on overly friendly females, particularly married ones who exert themselves in a place meant for you is really tough. Some will think nothing of it and just keep going until someone points it out as improper. Though I think it has a lot to do with respect and upbringing.
Omg this is how i feel at times... i found ur chanel at the right time ....God bless you
Thank you so much for this. Good timing 💃🏻
Oh my goodness girl I loooooved this , its exactly where I am at thank you so much for allowing the Lord to use you. God bless wonderful video! Your hilarious
I’m sorry you struggled so much with that. I have not dealt with that yet; but truthfully I’m not possessive at all. I will pray for you though:)
So glad I came across this. I’ve dealt with this before and am still dealing with sometimes feeling this way
Love your honesty!
Nic...This is SOOOO good. Like...the wisdom. Sigh.
You are a remarkable and amazing woman of God Nicola. Thank you for this! If I ever set up a women's conference I'm calling you!!! God bless you!
This is beautiful. Wise words
OMG!!!! FIIIIXXXXXXXX IT JESUS! but you know this alone made me scream at least 14x!
One for the future books! Thanks for your transparency and honesty beautiful
Im sorry but I think you have every right to hold him accountable for why he hasn't set (enough) boundaries and he has no right to just "shut down". He's supposed to love you like Christ loved the church which, imo, includes to reassure you and leaving no doubt about your position and setting clear boundaries for others to not surpass. Afaik the bible even tells us to not trust our own heart, so even if he might not have any wrong intentions at that moment when he's in a certain situation, he might still get tempted to develop wrong intentions, which is why we are told to FLEE from temptations imstead of putting ourselves into situations thinking we are strong enough to resist.
Awesome video! ❤️
Thanks for being transparent
Loved this video
@NickellaBian. Well giirrrl i can relate to you on that but as a queen and a virteous woman we need to keep our cool and hold ur heads up high so our crowns do not fall. We r daughters of zion. Keep up the good work n im sure the Lord will bring this work to a perfect conclusion.
ps congrats to u and Tobi and i know you will be a great wifey and cater to ur Boaz..x
Queenie A I completely agree..Nicely put! Thank you so much. x
I just found your demo l had to comment thanks for the teaching.. our flesh get in the way we must allow wisdom of the spirit of God to lead and guide our emotion's thanks sister.
I wish someone had told me this years ago
You should make a book!
I am in my mid fifties and love it
thumbs up girl :)
Beautiful! More videos please.
I like that you are very real. It’s make it easy to relate to what you saying and get blessed
I can relate to you hun! you are so real, love your channel! I would love it if you could stop by my channel when you have the time, hopefully w`ll keep in touch!:) God bless.
LOL #FixItJesus