Things I wish I knew/was told before I got married!
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- čas přidán 26. 06. 2024
- Hi Guys I'm back with video number 2! (Make sure to watch it in HD 1080p)
Thank you so much for the support in my first video, I honestly couldn't be more chuffed :)
This video is about some of the things I wish I knew or I wish someone would have told me before I got engaged/ married! I told my self I was only going to do 5 points, but I got a bit excited and started running wild so forgive me for that lol.
Please also excuse the lighting issues!! Filming with natural light can be a bit crazy sometimes, especially when you live in London!
Anyway I hope you enjoy this video!
You can also follow me on instagram @nickellabian
Caio x
When you get engaged and married you will learn who your true friends and family members are. Yup
Can't wait to marry me a pretty Hot Chocolate woman like Erika 🤣
So true!!!
It's a wonderful thing to hear a woman understand the magnitude of showing respect and honor to their husband. It's like the difference between Esther and Vashti or the contentious woman who tears down her own house. Hands down.
The hardest part about marriage is all the "training" you have to go through.
Please do another video of this! I learned so much as I’m expecting to be married really soon!
I loved this!!! Good advice girl
Love this so much 💕
Right. Marriage isn't about power and control, it's about helping one another in partnership, building each other up. Love that you spoke on the difference in thinking, that's one thing that's hard to grasp is that priorities and the way we reach goals are so different from each other. Thank you for sharing in such a heartfelt way.
Three things that strikes me:
'you have to get down for your man' lol That was so honest but indeed that's what many women are unaware of. Being humble enough to acknowledge your spouse's needs and take responsibility for actually making him feel loved. That's also something for men to learn, that we women need that caring touch without the suspicion of him trying to use our sexuality.
Another good thing you've said is about realising that the woman is not a head but a neck. That woman's power is in gentleness and in her subtle influence. that's a true feminity. It's wisdom.
The end point was very beautiful: The love is not just a feeling but also a choice. It will be challenging but it will definitely increase the good feeling.
Thank you and God bless you :)
TY, for your kind observation. Can you do a vid on some things men need help with?
My issue with men in my life they say hurtful things to me, then say I'm too sensitive ...
and I disagree. It's like they let words just fall out their mouths (kinda like the child saying a person is really fat), 'well we don't blame the child; however, men I feel should stop and think about what they say.
Jolanta Ol
Just a correction, the woman is not the neck.. She's the body. Just like Christ is the head and the church is the body.
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"I'm not the head of the house I am the neck and I can turn it however I want too" yesss girl
Reppin _haiti but without the head the neck has no function
Yes true I just loved the way you put it all together
Tanzania Lane without the neck the head has no function
Reppin _haiti am a man and all you ladies cheering this bullshit on. am not the head am the neck shit. lol. you dont want no man to control your son but u want to play with other ppl sons lol. the head and the neck is very important to the body. u never see a head without a neck unless its shoped off.
tyerek smith nigga what ?
You shouldn't wait for a man to nurture and make you grow as a woman. You should trust God and work hard so you can have self growth and purpose as an individual.
Yesssssss I agree with you
Crissy samuels one of her points was that your growth is your own responsibility...
Yassss honey! Marriage is such a spiritual thing. There are so many secular ways of dealing with marriage and not enough people like you! Thanks for allowing God to use you to reach out to people like me soon to be married. Sometimes it's nice to hear advice from a fellow christian sister who knows she isn't perfect but has learnt from her mistakes and is now sharing that wisdom. God bless you and your husband hun. Really appreciate your videos. Keep em coming (I'm actually about to share this in my church's marriage counselling whatsapp group) x
I wish men would be much more aware of these facts. Was married 14yrs. I've never been snappy, nor had attitude, was always there for him, did everything he wanted and I did it gracefully out of pure love. But, there wasn't a true exchange. Nickella, exchange is so ever important. And good outright, but timed, communication is vital. One has to be able to talk freely to each other, without wanting to hurt feelings... A relationship is like an enterprise. One has to constantly work on it. Both sides. And that's the problem, men do not see it thst way at all. So, women end up getting really exhausted to do all the work. Besides, the rest of our daily chores and work... It's been way too much for me to handle... Well, I do wish U the best! :)
Sarah Alam
Thanks so much for your encouragement and positive thoughts. Big hugs, have a beautiful weekend. 😚 💗
Sarah Alam 🤗😆😘
Hey find these book The five love languages by Gary Chapman it will help you..Thank me later
Ambriel Apps truee💕
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Thx for the book tip. I've been there many many times!! So, I do know every love language there is! But, thx anyway! (Sorry for replying late. Didn't see your commemt before tidying up my email box!) Take care. 👋
Hallelujah. No Exes allowed! Simple as that.
Cindy John sorry about that.. I think creating a sage space to discuss your hurt without accusation might help. All the best.
Yes!! To cutting toxic people out of your life!! Do it while your young, do not let one of them use your time or energy, or thoughts!
I just listened to almost the exact same message at church this morning!!! Wow. idk what this means but God works in mysterious ways. Can't wait to see what He has in store for me in my future!
Different they are but the world does not revolve around them. We hardly see clips of men talking on SM about what men should do to make a marriage work. They do what they do and all we do is run around looking to solve all the problems we see in the marriage. Understanding and respect from both is what works.
I've watched this 3 times already along with the video with your husband about what you've learned in the past 7 months and I will just say I love these videos!! God bless and keep up the great work :) they are so helpful thank you
Fantastic advice! I am 17 yrs into marraige and have just learnt some of these. Sad that I didn't before but its never to late for change! Thankyou much! God bless your marraige.
im so glad i found this keep bringing the vids girl you are so inspirational
You should have classes for women who have just become engaged. You have a strong spirit of warmth about you. Thanks for the video and God bless’
My husband served me and I served him, he cook, I cook, i do mostly the cleaning but he still help once in awhile ( I'm glad my husband is pretty lay back ) as for me I'm pretty much the same before and after we got married, i never change 🤣🤣🤣 also marriage shouldnt be hard just be your self and relax
Tracy Davis you are a scammer
Tracy Davis people don't even try to contact the person, he will take money from you and run. This is a very famous scam.
Tracy Davis HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA
Jamaican Logan true
Thank you I have said that to my friends that marriage should never be hard, be friends, be humble and relax.
Men were created for women just as women were created for men. They were both created for each other.
bubble gum women were made for men and not the other round this is why men could handle single life better than a woman can
bubble gum No women were created for men that’s it which scripture ever said the opposite?
DARK M00N women have superpowers up until its time to build a house, fix a car or invent something true ;)
@@tstarajayi Yeah fixing a car is a life matter.. lol. For real now? That's the problem with men.. they do smth once in a while and they think that they paid their dept. Not every man has invented something so leave that bs out of it. Maybe most men know how to fix a car but we can live without it. There are cabs and buses and it's again once in a while.. Once in a while.. That's all you can do and you wanna think that you are too important.. Try do the most boring things everyday for you and your family after work like cooking and cleaning for years and years without anyone paying you, like a slave and then come find me.. Let alone raising a child.. We can handle almost everything alone even bringing a human being on this earth like you.. There was once a man who "became" a woman for a few years and then he "became" again a man.. He couldn't believe how unfair this world was for women and how difficult they have it.. He turned again into a man just because of it. He doesn't lose a chance to stand up for women and he admits that he turned into a man again just out of convinience. I always wished men would turn into women somehow magically and see how fucking spoiled, selfish, arrogant, emotionally immature and lazy they are. Yet they think so highly of themselves even though they are pretty useless compared to women.
DARK M00N yeah cause cooking and cleaning is so hard we can do everything you can do better except give birth so congrats for that
So true, i don't usually respond to videos , a lot you've said is true, i'm 53 yrs young , i'm now married 34 yrs, if people told you things or tried to warn you about the issues you run into in marriage you probably would have never married due to fear or opinion of others , in your union you learn as you travel that road , if i may respectfully comment to you both , be fair with each other .
As a muslim woman, we dont believe we were created to serve and satisfy men, rather we were to created for God and for Him alone, to worship and to love Him, and if we find a man you could both go to God together as equals.
Sarah Aslam isn't Paradise supposed to lie at the feet of your husband?
Anna Mae Harkness no where did you hear that? the saying if the Prophet is that Paradise is at the feet of your mother.
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Sarah Aslam Im glad you said this because when she said "women are created for men" I was totally confused I said I don't think it is like that in Islam.
Rose Rose yes thank you, but she is talking about her Christian religion
You seem so gentle and calm lool, loved your video x
lol God can do amazing things in a persons life! Thank you x
You're making a lot of sense...Wish my ex watched this video while we were courting...
Sarah Destiny she does! lol.
Sarah Destiny 💖💖🙌💖
Rudiano, she/he definitely wasn't for you. I'm going through a situation right now that I feel isn't right. They say guys are usually dragged into making a relationship work. But in my case, I strive to do the working. I don't know why a lady would refuse to study/watch materials that would help her grow, especially in her relationship.
Ignorance is really going to hurt you. I've learned to keep my head up and move on if the other party ain't ready.
Relationship is WORK. If one is not working then it's not working.
I know God's got my heart and will lead me aright to the right one.
If I could like this video a thousand times, I would!!! Marriage is hard work and you hit so many things on the nail!! I’m almost 3 years into my marriage and I’m learning sooo much about myself. The growth I am experiencing is beautiful because it is internal growth. I have been able to start looking at external things as the issue and I have turned the mirror INTERNAL. I have connected more with God and I realize everything just started flowing in the right direction. I felt your passion as you spoke and I identify so much with everything you’re saying! Its like hearing myself talk! God bless you for sharing and may God continue to strengthen your marriage!!!
Omg!!! I praise God for you, Sis! I’m so glad that I decided to click on this video. This is just what I needed! I’ve been thinking about these concepts for several weeks now and to see them lined out here like this is amazing! Thank you for letting God use you and for sharing your thoughts with us. #NewSubscriberHere I need Godly advice from married men and women of God in general. But this definitely helps in my courtship. Some people are unhappy about it and it almost made me cry but I’m more than a conqueror! #MustStayPrayedUp
your arms are goals
By far one of the best videos I've watched on CZcams! Girl, you're so soft spoken but you deliver powerful messages! 100% agree with all the points you put across and every woman needs to watch this, single, engaged or married! New subbie! xo
Cause no matter what anyone says she speaks with love in her heart. For her, this ain't about nothin BUT the love between a man and a woman. God bless her and women like her, we need ya'll, maybe not as bad as ya'll might need us, but there ain't a lotta debate when it comes to shit you need in life. Ya either need it or ya don't lol
And we NEED each other haha
frexandbera Vinc And she's exalting God BY Exalting her husband and taking care of her heavenly duties.
But please, tell me some more way in which women AINT supposed to love and look up to their man? Give me another way that women need to DEMAND respect, but not earn it. Go ahead sweetie, educate me on what the fuck I don't know but you clearly do. PROVE ME WRONG gorgeous
Except you can't....cuz you know I'm right, and you know this woman was right.....and you know you're wrong.
Stop being wrong, sweetheart. That's all there is to it. Love and care for your man, and if he doesn't repay your love in SOME favor, then you with the WRONG guy. And if ALL the guys you with don't properly care for you they all the WRONG guy.
Yea she did, but us men basically say a lot of the same things, and women disagree.
Andre Villanueva When you start to realize bro, I'd say......mmmmmm....probably 89% of women's accusations against men are REALLY.....just them projecting onto us the TERRIBLE shit they ALL do lolololololol
Like how they NEVER listen to Men or what we say is Right. Hell, just look at feminism. Could you imagine how crazy they'd go if a MAN was in charge?????? But.....I thought the genders were equal.......
Trust me bro, misogyny in the right doses is a GREAT thing ;)
frexandbera Vinc
(I using caps lock for emphasis, I ain't yellin, promise)
Cause having love in your heart aint ALL ABOUT FUCKIN YOU CHICK!!!!! lolol goddamn girl, every word outcha mouth is "But....but....but what about MEEEEEE" :p
Sometimes, this shit is about US, beautiful, and THAT is why/how a woman can have love in her heart.
If you think love HAS TO ALWAYS INCLUDE YOU, then you don't think that much about love. Cause Love is the one force down here that moves E-V-E-R-Y-O-N-E.
"Love" ain't got shit to do with women, or men, it's got everything to do with God, His Word, and following his Good Word down here. If you want a non-religious explanation, then Love is about following the Truth and doing what is Objectively Right by ALL the people you love in your life (not on social media or some bull shit).
A woman doesn't NEED to worry about nobody in HER LIFE as much as she NEED to worry about her man. But, hey, I'll say the same thing on the guy too here so I'm not playing unfair. His greatest need for concern is that her well-being is taken care for.
The problem is you goofy girls worry FOR us, rather than ABOUT us. When ya man's stressed, do you try and solve his problems, or do you just try and comfort his ass and help push him to achieving his goals? Be real now, I've seen a LOOOOOT of realtionships lolol so you'd be the fuckin 10th if you're the 2nd girl lol, no hate tho.
I ain't sayin it's easy. I'm saying it's right. That's why I do it. Hell, I ain't even sayin you NEED to agree chick. Cause here's the thing, NOTHING you say is gonna change my mind. Not cause I'm being disrespectful about it, but cause I know pretty well what the hell leaves my mouth. And I also know what comes outta other peoples. And nothing you saying here is anything new to me. It's the same old sayings that are dying with my parents generation. And ya know what....I'm fine with lettin those sayings die lol
Cuz we can do better.
"Your growth is your responsibility" Such powerful words! I wish everyone understood this! Weather they want a relationship or not, it's for your family, your friends, and human kind in general!
I subscribed the moment you started talking about the spiritual aspects. Love you sister! Keep posting these videos.
So freaking wise this girl!! I have been married for almost 3 years now and I am struggling so hard with being the „woman“ in the relationship. My husband hates that and that is also our biggest issue.. I love him, but I do feel like I loose myself by giving in and listening to him... you kinda made me look at everything differently 😓 thanks for this 🙏🏾
Why don't more women share this with young women?! Thank you! I so appreciate your willingness to share! We need to hear it, no matter how much it goes against the grain.
Also I think you might enjoy reading these three books:
For Women Only by Shaunti Feldhaun
Sacred Marriage by Gary Thomas
Love and Respect by Emerson Eggerichs
They each reinforce your points.
You have just blessed my marriage, Thank you. I am taking all of this advice, I'm a newlywed.❤
Mrs.Beauty Subscribe to our channel Hun we'd love your support 😘
malik malik congratulated on your Mexican woman 🎉 obviously you still want a black woman because you wouldn’t be on this post butt hurt 🤣 the only reason why you black man go to other races because we didn’t want you in the first place well for me my child father is a damn good dad and I’m happily married for 7years to a black man I’m a Nurse 👩🏽⚕️ so your argument is not valid here 🤷🏽♀️
B_DAFAB1 fuck off bitch!
B_DAFAB1 Temp
Just come from a Mexican Man and Ghanaian Woman's beautiful wedding. czcams.com/video/gZ1Fz11deqM/video.html
Notice the Black man commenting here is not married to the Mexican woman. He's about to add her to this statistic reported by SSRN which states:
92% of biracial out of wedlock kids by AA men. 82% of the kids on welfare.
papers.ssrn.com/sol3/papers.cfm?abstract_id=2625893
malik malik has it ever occurred to you that maybe YOU might be the problem? There's no point in demonizing "black bitches"
I am a woman who understands love like you say a man does. Honour, respect and sex show me that I am loved. Dependence makes me very uncomfortable. This kind of messaging is not applicable to everyone and every relationship must establish a balance where both parties are shown love in the ways that are important to them. I am glad that you have found that, but obviously every relation cannot follow the same dynamic.
Cynthia Sawatzky true Cynthia--she can say that is her own view but not everyone would have the same perspectives
Ephesians 5:22-33
"22 Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord. 23 For the husband is the head of the wife even as Christ is the head of the church, his body, and is himself its Savior. 24 Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit in everything to their husbands.
25 Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her, 26 that he might sanctify her, having cleansed her by the washing of water with the word, 27 so that he might present the church to himself in splendor, without spot or wrinkle or any such thing, that she might be holy and without blemish.[a] 28 In the same way husbands should love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. 29 For no one ever hated his own flesh, but nourishes and cherishes it, just as Christ does the church, 30 because we are members of his body. 31 “Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and hold fast to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh.” 32 This mystery is profound, and I am saying that it refers to Christ and the church. 33 However, let each one of you love his wife as himself, and let the wife see that she respects her husband."
And if you have a man who understands love the same way, you'll clash if both of you only "want" honour and respect but cant give it back the same way. A home, just like a nation, can't have two heads! Unless, their characters blend in ie what's one's strength is the other's weakness and vice versa. Yeah, not everyone is the same so generalisations are to be taken with much caution. Some things are based on unfounded stereotyping. E.g. am a female but am not a fan of pink but blue, am feminist but I don't split the bill when a man takes me on a date and am both tough and very soft as a person, it depends on the situation.
What you brought out are character differences which is something thats universally indisputable. But there are things that we "choose" to learn through teachings so we can be better people because life isn't just about "us"... because we might be operating in the unconscious incompetent phase mentioned in the video!
Danelia Bray Thanks for the word! One thing that ALWAYS surprises me is that when people quote that scripture, they leave out the first part of the scripture that has *"submit to one another"* . It always perplexes me really, that people choose to put the heading "teachings on marriage" after that scripture using an assumption that there is no way the author of that book could suggest submission is a two way thing. I think it's time people started to read the "full" word. Not in parts and pieces or sticking to "famously quoted" passages. And as they read they should be aware of the input of the interpreters (ie from the original Hebrew texts to english). Where all the headings that they put correctly placed? Did the original text place the headings at the same place? Or did it even have headings in the first place? Questions have to be asked so the Holy Spirit reveals certain things as we study God's word.
Fatima Sow well said.
Your skin tone and makeup is gorgeous 😻
Gamerher A I was thinking the same thing. I am very dark skinned, and I am too broke to so far to buy lighting that helps show my deep tone. Right now I look 7 shades lighter in my videos, but someday. 😊
IamJoan P honey. Believe me when I say that you do not need lighting cream. You are gorgeous as you are! There's only one you
Mchella I get you girl 😊 I was not talking about that type of lightening. I am talking about camera light. You should checkout my channel, and you will see what I am talking about.
IamJoan P sounds like you have self-hatred issues.
Gamerher A her hair is slayed too, I can tell even though it's in a ponytail.
The world needs people like you.Telling the truth without caring who gets hurt.
Such a powerful message! I found you by accident and I'm so glad I did - your points were exactly what I needed to hear. I'm in a new relationship and until very recently I was operating full steam ahead in the unconscious incompetence. I've now shifted to the conscious incompetence and I have a strong desire to increase my competence so I can be a better girlfriend for my boyfriend. I like your 21-day reference so I will make that my first challenge - to be a proverbs 31 woman for the next 21 days. I too have a snappy temper and can say the meanest things - I want to change for my partner. I'm happy to see I'm not the only one and that change is possible. Thank you for the video .I just subscribed to your channel!
this is awesome..."fighting for independence" a lot of people struggle with this....it kills the relationship....good video!!!
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How does one fight for independence? Can you name a true example ?
So much Jems in this vlog!! The amount of times I had to pause and just clap... you spoke well and highlighted points that are honestly not discuss enough. Last but not least it warms my heart to see young black people well presented and doing something positive. #TwoThumbsUp
I feel like we could easily be friends. I love this. Well said! I love how you said love is a choice. It is! I wish more people from my generation knew that. My grandmother told me that when I was 6. She said "I wrote your grandfather for 2 years while he was at war. I chose to love him through it all and wait for him to return. It took dedication and hard work. Never settle for someone who doesn't choose to love you through it all."
Girl you dropping gems today!!!! AMEN
Really glad I came across this video. I did all those things wrong in my past relationship and it completely destroyed it. Glad I know better and at that time I now know I was unconsciously incompetent
Dear Nickella. You are a God Blessed woman and your husband is a God blessed man. Men and women are created by God and they were created differently is as obvious as could ever be from their form and from their interior behaviours and feelings. You have brought this out so beautifully from your own experience and have in your experience wished someone would have taught / told / elucidated these truths for you. Unfortunately, for you and for millions of women...(especially, the women who want to be equal, equal to man in everything to their own paradoxical unhappiness and unfulfillment) the educational systems and the social media is misguiding these unfortunate women...making them unhappy and destroying the very core of a happy relationship. Thank you for being brave and putting this very true and very real gut-feeling, real wonderful advice to all your fellow sisters. It is best when it comes from a woman to explain the truth to a woman, rather than from a man. You really know. You are a loved child of God. May He bless you and your family and dear ones abundantly.
This is so true!!!!! We need to find a way to re enforce this to people into relationships because without it we are lost. The lies still from us and can and will bring us to self destructiveness robbing us of hopes and dreams. Visit my information site about a church I would like to start based on my own personal experience ( though wasn't married to the person) and how I am planing to move forward from my negative behavior with someone I wanted to marry and build a relationship. @www.keepersofbrothers.com
My personal story and reason for pursuing it is at the bottom of the page. I encourage others to go and visit the site as well. As it is in direct relation to this video.
Thank you so much and God Bless you!
+Shakeba Dennis Not being rude or agianst what u want to do .To build and start a church is not something u desire its a ministry that God gives .and u are chosen by birth to build the church.There are five minstrys
-evangelist
-prophet
-apostle
-teacher
-pastor
these ministries are given to Gods specific chosen ppl. assign for that journey they gp through trainings under spritual mentors before they are anointed.
where else u can desire to be a deacon ,bishop . 1 timothy 3:1..and so on .its good that u want to start a church but pray and ask God the way . consult ur pastor or elders(not exactly grey headed women and men in the) church and surely u'll know exactly what to do.
Gosh girl!! This is the best!! 2 min. in and I subbed. I LOVE how honest you are❤️❤️
Sigh I love you, the first point just had me clicking like it was poetry...YAAAAAS GIRL...*continues watching*
Thank you love x
Thank you so much for posting this video. I want to first, thank you for bringing in the spiritual aspect of marriage. Secondly, thank you for your honesty. I'm engaged now, and will be getting married in September and its been and interesting journey thus far. The good, by far, is outweighing the bad, and I thank God for that. I've been searching for insight from married believers and this was right on time. I just thank you for being honest and sharing your growth. Since I've been born again, there has been a change in me and it has been a blessing. Within this time, I've also had to learn what it truly meant to be a woman. Not to kick against the pricks. That "submissive" is not equated with weakness, but strength. That letting a man, more so your husband, take the lead is okay. My words used to come quick and cut like nobody's business...but I learn about my role in a relationship through the Word. Now that I'm at the point of almost being married, I'm continuing to search for wisdom and guidance, through the Word, as well as through married couples who honor God's word. Thank you for adding unto my growth. I look forward to more videos. Have a great day! Be blessed!
CatzWach Aw thank you so much. I too had been searching for insight.I guess that's where the inspiration to do this came from. So happy you found this video helpful! I hope all the preparations are going to plan...Only a month or so left! I pray for more grace, strength and wisdom over you
You have one of the most beautiful voice i've ever heard!
LOVE LOVE LOVE x
this is great advice! I know you wish someone would’ve told you but I’m glad you’re telling us! God bless girl 💕
You are beautiful and so is your message....thank you so much
+Alexis Mayers Thank you love
Love love love. Can't wait for more
You have spoken the truth sol eloquently. Thank you for your message!
This is such a powerful video (especially # 6!!). Thank you sooo much for this. You deserve a million views
I am impressed that such a young woman has gained such knowledge. It took me years to get the concept of the neck being the power. Who wants equality if it means being alone. Life was designed for couples that's what the creator created. Man and woman through free choices messed it up. Every young woman take heed. You can learn from your own mistakes or you can learn from others. Peace and best Regards!
You have a soft, soothing way of speaking which is wonderful. So is your way if imparting your life experiences regarding marriage. I don't feel like your are "preaching" to me, but talking to me like a good friend would. You are a breath of fresh air! Thank you... 😎😍🌺🌹🏵🌷🎈
I rarely like videos on youtube. But this one definitely deserves a thumbs up!!
Thank you girl for this advice xx
This was great! Such a great learning video! I'm definitely adding this to my playlist! God bless you, your marriage, and all the people you will meet and bless on this platform 😁🤗🙌!!
So happy I found this video! It was so inspiring!
Thank you love!
Reminds me of the 1st year of our marriage... i was sooo shocked to realize that men are from mars and women from venus sayx is sooooo true!!!!! Hubby actually went out got 2 of the books and we read on way to work in d mornxs and discussed at night... that book truly helped us understand each other. Great vid😗😗😗
Well done sis, another great video!:)
I AM SO VERY HAPPY I FOUND THIS VIDEO DEARIE....AWESOMEEEEEEEEEE I NEEDED IT TANXXXALOT
That’s it Woman of God. I can tell that Christ is the center of your marriage by the way u speak
Christina Akomea hey girl
See Christina Kwarteng. 👀🔎🕵️♀️ Hi sis!!!
I love the biblical references in there. I feel that you are a fellow believer and that's beautiful! Great video Nickella.
Nickella, thanks so much, it is my first time here, and i have been built up.
am single(still in college) and the immediate people I interact with are my parents and friends, and I am already putting work into growing who I want to be, according to God's Word. To Love, be humble and diligent etc. I am so inspired by what you shared, and the wisdom in you. All the best, God's very best for you and your home. Love.
Sis! I could not stop watching this video. One of the best videos I have seen. Excellent!!!
Wow you are so good in explaining this! (9 months married) Alot of things I experienced as the same, especially the feeling that it goes against your inner self to change. And the 'unnatural'feeling of being the first to say sorry/ give a compliment after a fight. You explained it like perfectly
I thought this was going to be a nonsensical rant sanctioned by a Lifetime Channel season ticket holder but the sista's insights were on point. Of course we as men bring our own preconceived thoughts, feelings, and baggage to marriage and there will be a mountain of ways of thinking/habits both will need to change. In my opinion everything starts with knowing the Most High, learning/knowing your role as a husband or wife, and being obedient to the requirements of your position. And yes husbands have to be obedient too...he has to obey YHWH and the wife is to obey her husband. Ya is a Elohim of order and decency and this is His order.
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Beautifully illustrated. 🖒 Thank you. All the best😊.
Thank you so much for this! I'm newly engaged and I'm going through all of this. The public needs this!
You hit the nail on the head!
Love Layefa 😰🙌🙌🔥🔥yah, didn't she though❕❕✌💖💜💜💖
Amen, sister! I started fasting for my future husband and when you started talking about God towards the end I got a little emotional! Wasn't expecting that. Woohoo!
Actually, you're not supposed to fast FOR something like a husband, a car, or a job. Fasting is for feeding your spirit by neglecting "flesh" (food) it's to strengthen you spiritually! Just wanted to point that out..
Jessica May exactly. God told me to stop fasting for such because it's idolatry. God knows the desire so just ask for his best version of what you need and also what particular traits to pray for.
there is nothing wrong with praying for a husband. the bible says cast your cares upon him for he cares. So you can go to God to show you who your earthly spouse, it only comes problematic when God feels like you desire it more than him which is probably why he told Helen Enang to stop, or you want God to work on your time when he told you, you are not ready. The bible says from the days of John the baptist the kingdom of heaven sufferth violence, and the violent take it by force. The enemy diverge alot of people from their divinely earthly spouse, or prolong it. I've heard alot of testimonies how the enemy diverge people to meet their husband at their 40s. So like the bible says pray with out ceasing, but just seek God first for anything. God can give anything from a job, more power, wisdom, etc. Don't limit God
Thank you for doing this video! It's LIFE! This is the best advice for marriage I've heard.
Girl. This video legit changed my whole mindset on my relationship. Thank you so so so much!
Wow! I'm late to this celebration of truth & light. You are bold and brave for being so spiritually honest in a world that is full of it's own selfish ways and the love of immorality. Amen for spreading the good news to everyone who needs it!
I love this, so happy that God is showing women this ^_^ Yes Lord! Go you! Thank God for your growth in Christ and in your marriage too x
THIS right here just blessed me today. I dont even know how I came across your channel, but it really hit the nail on the head about marriage. God bless you❤
I absolutely love this video omg. I experienced every single thing here!!! ❤️❤️❤️🙌🏼🙌🏼👌🏼
Thank you. I wish all women knew what you are saying. God bless you and your husband, and best wishes and continued growth and happiness.
you're so beautiful Nicki l needed to hear your words of wisdom l can also be a bit snappy .But God is helping me to be the wife that build's her home .Thanks for the teaching beautiful lady.
Girl you’re very right. I totally agree with you on all those practical points. As a wedding planner, I get a lot of engaged couples go through this lovey dovey courting stage and also the reality of being married. You hit the nail on the head on those points!
I discovered your channel in the early hours of the morning when I couldn't sleep! I saw Bibiana Yetty in one of your videos! I get the family the connection now! !Subscribed! "You is good people"....😁😁😀 Thanks for sharing...God bless you.
We all should study the Holy Bible which guides us and the Holy Spirit will teach us and enable us to be the virtuous woman 📖
Blessed Indeed! Amen
You submit to each other. Both willing to do that as well as fight for each other when things get rough. Meet half way n compromise... change certain bad ways about ourselves to help ourselves grow n then to make our partner happy.😊
Girl you are so soft and calm I think this is the best I've seen so far. You know it all
Girl you are so right!! Love this.
Im getting married in four months
It's 2020 and now I am getting married in 4 months
u so pretty
SISSSSSSS! Omg. Yes, you are my sis now, bc I feel these exact sentiments and I wished the exact same thing. (If someone did, I probably tuned them out, but truthfully I do not believe anyone shared these points w/ me). I have only been married for 6 mo. but girlfriend.. I have already experienced all of the points you made in one form or another, but my husband and I have made a commitment before God and we are both putting in the work to make it last, in the sweetest form ever. Thank you for sharing this beautiful.
Your points were very valuable!! I loved when you mentioned how hard it was to change and say nice meaningful gestures to people or your husband. This popped up twice in my feed and I saisd what the hect let me watch it. The video you made was filling. Your beautiful...God Bless You
Girl! You deserved a noble prize right as you said we were created for men!
A noble prize for realizing that! It's not easy to understand this
No no no god all of for god for his glory not for a men
you look like Karruche
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irene she looks way better than Karruchue.
Queen Nzuri she’s pretty but she doesn’t look better than karruche
Daja Harvey girl bye! That is "your" opinion. Why is Karraochi so much prettier? Because she's racially ambiguous? FOH! This "African" woman is gorgeous and looks better than Chris Brown's leftovers. Goodbye!
Daja Harvey I think she looks prettier than Karruche. But that's just my opinion. She looks nothing like her btw.
You’re soo cute ☺️🧚♀️
Thanks for the video! Synchronised with your heart’s energy at the end of the video so much.
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I love all you have said. I can always refer to this channel in my life's journey. Tears filled my eyes as you spoke more like you were talking to me. God bless you dear.
marriage really seems to be something horrific for woman lol
lucy A 😂😂😂
I’ve been married 18years and I’m 38 now. He is the head but I’m just as strong and independent and we have a ball together all the time. So nope not really:)
It is.
Those statistics are for worldy marriages and unequally yoked marriages. And not for the marriages in which both individuals believe in a follow God's way for marriage so yeah this world can keep it's 40%worldy and 55%unequally yoked divorce rate to themselves ✌️
"i wish i never fought for my own independence" so we assigning roles now. woman, not everyone believes in the historical roles assigned to women.
wowww!! I need your words at this time.. thank you!!
Loved this video! Great points x
wow, my jaw is on the floor. you are so beautiful...
Lovely Poetry Hands off. She's taken! LOL
"honor respect sex!!" u said a mouthful immediately subbed!!
Lol thank you. Glad you liked it!
Spot on. Relationships are so much better when both go into it to selflessly serve each other.