How to Get on the 16 Personalities' Good Side
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so is this an app version of cliff notes?
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Video request: 16 personalities answer web’s most searched questions about them :).
Good idea
This comment is edited, so the early replies might not make much sense
I wrote some questions down there and now I decided to improve them (for the original comment I typed the beginning of question on Google and then just rewrote whatever appeared there, but now I decided to create my own questions)
I decided to create the questions according to each type's opposing function:
IXFP
Do you like to keep harmony in a group?
What's the best way to support people?
Are you a compassionate and forgiving person?
IXTP
In which situations do you like to be efficient and work hard?
Do you like leadership roles?
Are you good at taking responsibility?
ENXP
Do you like to focus on realization of one goal?
Do you need a purpose to guide you forward?
Are you good at seeing what a certain situation will bring you?
ESXP
Do you like stability in life?
How do you feel about unfamiliar environments?
Are you good at spotting details and learning procedures?
INXJ
Do you like to think optimistically about future?
How often do you seek new ideas?
Are you a hopeful and encouraging person?
ISXJ
Do you enjoy stimulating activities?
Are you easily bored?
Are you good at spotting new opportunities?
EXFJ
Do you value honesty?
Do you want your actions to align with your values?
Are you passionate, romantic and empathetic?
EXTJ
Do you like to analyse situations?
Do you want to be self-sufficient?
Are you good at figuring out how things work?
Oh yes please!
@@fairyfellermasterstroke :0 ty for the questions! im enfp :D
1 - idk about attractive but that’s sweet
2 - i guess popular because it’s easy to relate to different people and take time to understand them so we could have a good time? it’s easy to talk to people and connect for me :D
3 - woo! one i can actually answer! my sister has to deal with this! the biggest thing is probably spontaneous energy bursts for me. my energy kinda goes up and down. im also ridiculously absent-minded so- :3
4 - this is going to be a tough one :D i think it’s just more of being caught up in my thoughts that may make me sad or if there is a gloomy atmosphere, if someone is sad or upset it usually makes things worse D:
tysm!! this was fun!
I’ll answer for enfj.
I’m attractive because I’m just spicy like that ✨✨✨
I’m popular because I’m in like every single extracurricular activity and I make friends in all of them out of necessity.
I’m annoying because I never shut up. Just an absolutely endless stream of consciousness coming out of this mouth right here ahaha
And why I’m rare? I’m just built different.
Basically everyone starts out on my good side. So, just don't be mean and you will be on my good side. -INFP
Agree
From another INFP I absolutely agree.
It's the truest true
For me it's more like "You mess with my love ones? Imma shatter your knee"
Agree
As long as you are not rude to people and animals deliberately you are already on my good side:)) -INFP
Agree 100%
So you hate all omnivores? Jk jk 😭
Pretty much same. -ENFJ.
The moment you threaten to hurt any animal or person though... *fire starts burning in eyes.* 😈
I’m not sure if I’m an intp I might be an infp
-intp who tested their personality 3 times in the duration of 10 months and always got intp
that animal part is really controversial
I want to see
-How the 16 personalities are like when left alone with someone with the same personality
-How the 16 personalities stand up to bullies
I'd love for this to become a thread where everyone gives their two cents, because I think I can answer this first one for the ENFJs.
When left alone with another ENFJ we will either become best friends or hate each other, and we don't like to hate things or people so that's saying a lot. Ones of my best friends is an ENFJ and when we get drunk we go on hour long stints of amping each other up and ranting about people not acting on the things they want, because literally why wouldn't you (big Se energy, sorry ENFPs I still love you lol). Sober we tend to be really sarcastic with each other bc with other intuitives it often doesn't need explaining, and we give each other a lot of advice and listen. We've been friends for 18 years :) My mom is also an ENFJ and it's.... volatile.
For bullies I think ENFJs would be more likely to take the kill it with kindness route. We'd ignore it or be nice and brace ourselves because we feel 100% responsible for the harmony or hostility of a group. At some point in our lives we've been made to feel that way and it stuck, so we'd take bullying hard.
in my opinion if i was with another estp we would hate eachother without hating eachother.. just an insult exchange xd- or become bffs
I love my fellow enfp's. It's an endless party until we realize we are human. Bullying is absolutely not tolerated and we have no problems telling them to shape up or ship out. And we are not going to necessarily nice about it. Even though we are feeling types, if you step on someone else's Fi around us, you get the axe.
@@whitneyd6827 I thank god that ENFJs are rare. I wouldnt stand another person like me
@@Duck-wc9de yeah.. and some ENFJs can be so unexpectedly self centered when you really get to know them. Most ENFJs I know are lovely and caring and funny, but the rest are toxic as shit and are good at hiding it. Unhealthy ENFJs scare me 🫥 I'm glad there's a healthy variety of people in the world lmao
Be honest, open, straight forward, and have a decent amount of intelligence.
Being slightly amusing to watch from a distance is a bonus.
-INTJ
INFJ here, my sister is one and we but heads quite often as i try to teach her that she cant just call out others peoples stupidity and that she has to understand authority isnt a bad thing. How can I connect a little better? She is like 40x more intelligent than I am and lowkey kinda scares me 😂😅
@xraf32 Some authority is good. I very much so think that some authority should be listened to but not respected, and some should be respected and listened to, and some shouldnt be listened to at all. Its case by case. But when it comes to staying off the road and not going where ever she wants in stores, its not safe and she could get hurt. That's when I wish she would listen. And as for calling out stupidity, there is a time and place for it but not on forums for 6yr olds, that's when kids can be hurt. It is all case by case and in some ill back her guts, but in others it isnt ok and she needs to learn.
*edit*
I hate when authorative figures are incompetant. I learned to bite my tongue but some people I wouldnt trust to lead a goldfish 🙄
THIS. - Another INTJ
@MaggieLyz As described, this does not sound like INTJ behavior to me.. not even young INTJ behavior. You might want to do your own type assessment based on the actual theories and observed behaviors rather then rely on the often flawed tests that present MBTI out there on the internet.
Even when I was young, if I thought someone was stupid, I was unlikely to lash out and tell them so. They simply become not worth my time, and I would stop talking to them. In person, I simply go silent and give brief responses until I can get away. Online, I simply leave or stop responding to them directly, perhaps using direct messages to someone I value with all the comments I want to say that I now think they (the idiot) are unworthy of.
In other words I don't waste my time and energy on people I view as stupid unless I value them for another reason such as family, and even then I will only put forth just so much effort.
TBH, INFJs are not being "fake" whenever we try to get on people's good sides. We really just want everyone to get along because we tend to absorb people's negative emotions when they're stressed in a situation. That is why we want everyone to feel good instead so that the emotions we absorb are *positive. I think this is also the reason why a lot of INFJs like to make people laugh because that makes us happy too (we also absorb people's happy emotions). We're just total empaths like that. So please don't judge(!)
Yah! You are totally right
ENFJs have the same problem - accusations of being "fake." How I behave with a person is a choice, sometimes conscious, but often automatic. It's based on what that person needs, and what the situation requires. It's about making sure everyone has a positive experience. Because the world is a better place that way. It isn't "faking" something. That would be like seeing someone in a suit at work, a bathing suit at the beach, then jeans and a t-shirt at a barbecue, and saying, "Every time I see you, you're wearing something different! You're fake!"
Someone once said
Don't mix my personality with my attitude, my personality is who I am while my attitude depends on who you are.
From an INFJ
Wow, you ara totally right about that. Us, INFJ, ARE NOT FAKE!
True!!!
Me: Is an INFP
Others: But you act extroverted
Me: *shows them Frank James' videos*
Them:
I think IXFP's types are more like ambivert tbh, u know bc i can be social and stuff like that but also i really like my alone and introverted time, it just depends on my fi
-isfp
I am an INTP that actually has no ideas what kinds of people I like. But I will be on a good term which whoever has logic and moral sense and cares about my existence, lol.
Fully agree haha
I relate.
- INTP.
Same honestly
Yessir, fellow INTP
I care about your existence! ~ENFP
Easy: Be honest and authentic, bring me cats, and analyze fictional characters with me (using personality types ofc)
~ INFP
Absolutely
Yes, cats are the most important point
1) Be honest and authentic - easy.
2) Bring me cats - I have 8 cats this is too easy.
3) Analyse fictional characters using MBTI - Something I enjoy doing with my siblings so I've got that down.
Only problem is I'm an ESTJ so if I insult you or joke around, please do not take it to heart 👍
YES! YES! YES! YES!
I don't have cats, but that sounds good! 💕
Getting into an *INFJ* 's(my POV) good side♥️-
1) Don't *lie* . (cause we can identify you as a liar & would never probably talk to you again:)
2) Don't *misunderstand* our helpful side and abstract thoughts as 'show off'(cz it's natural).🥺
3) Don't *ignore* us while we're talking to you (cause we start to get into inferiority complex within ourselves if you do!)
4) Show us *your* helpful side ( cz we're unfortunately judging you LoL)
5) Be *positive* and *empathetic* around us( as we're affected by your energy and reflect the same:)🥰
2) - Yes, Ti is our tertiary function after all. High IQ is also not exclusive to thinking-types. (I think some of them are just egotistic and insecure, but not all of them, of course.) Also agreeing with 1), big time. Don't lie because our Ni (dominant function) is too strong for that one.
💫💫
True!
@moon dust lmao you got me there😂🔥
Personally, I don't like talking to people who are not interested in keeping the conversation going. I like flowing conversations that can go deep.
-infp
Honestly when I'm trying to get the conversation going and the other person doesn't seem make any effort I just give up cause I assume they're not interested anyway but then they get angry or confused when I leave. I don't understand humans 🤷♀️
INTJ: Be a competent being.
And be rational.
No small talk, say something of value
indeed my fellow intjs
If someone came to you wanting to better themselves would you find that annoying or respect that?
dragongirl37582 I’d find it stimulating.
INTJs: We like people who are efficent, consistent, and organized.
Also INTJs: Chased by ENFPs and end up becoming friends.
I'm an ENFP btw 🙋
ENFP who chases INTJs here ✌ You guys rock! Efficient....con...consistent...organized 😅 If I'm into something I can be efficient, what is this consistent you talk about? Let's just say I work on my inferior Si 😅
I'm an INTJ with an ENFP friend and she annoys me Almost everyday but i wouldn't trade her for someone else.
DON'T TELL HER I SAID THAT-
-INTJ
@@pjimin219 Awwwww that's sweet. Any ENFP would appreciate a friend like you. I would be so happy if my friends told me that. (Don't worry, I'll keep your secret. 🤭🤫)
ENFP GANG!
INTJ with an ENFP friend who actually does this... I was annoyed at first but once I realised he is not going away I gave up running
For me is: *DON'T* be a jerk, narcissistic and fake person.👍🏻
-INFP
I just hate fake people , it literally turns me off straight away 🙄 -fellow INFP
Agree infp ❤️
So THATS why infps hate me - entp
@@boxofbugs2292 😂😂😂
@@boxofbugs2292 yeah, sorry. We've been meaning to tell you, but that kind of confrontation is very uncomfortable for us.
😄i
I’m INFJ with mainly INFP friends , I’m not really sure why I keep attracting them ? I think it might be because they’re usually quite shy and it makes me feel like an extrovert ! I get to enjoy talking more than usual but I also know what it feels like to be shy , so I make sure to facilitate it and get them talking too! They’re also just very genuine with what they say , kind of raw and unfiltered , most of them are very kind and sweet too , and wouldn’t wish harm on anyone and I really appreciate that . They don’t care about seeming a certain way when they talk to me and they really show me who they are , also the long talks about emotions and hypothetical worlds are nice
How to get along with an ESFP:
-keep the conversation going
-don’t limit us
- beware of our sudden mood changes or bold attitude
-don’t be two faced or fake
- be a good friend and give the same amount of value into the friendship (i hate to be the one always calls or decides to hangout which is a problem w my introvert friends)
Haha already failed because of the first one :D
Also congrats on being an ESFP in the mbti community!! :)
FJ : How to get on the good side of the 16 personalities.
INFJs : thats what we do unconsciously every day with every body 😶
to the amount that we don’t know who WE are anymore...
@@missrobinhoodie so that we feel more creepy when we read about our type
@@missrobinhoodie Nah, that *is who we are. We just want everyone to get along because we tend to absorb people's negative emotions when they're stressed in a situation. That is why we want everyone to feel good instead so that the emotions we absorb are *positive. I think this is also the reason why a lot of INFJs like to make people laugh because that makes us happy too (we also absorb people's happy emotions). We're total empaths
@@millennialsmusicmix but some infj can absorb other peoples emotions so much that they don’t know how they themselves feel about things.
@moon dust 😂😂 the proplem that we enjoy it , and some times we do it unintentionaly☻
INTP - No small talk! Be authentic, open-minded, confident, and don't take yourself too seriously.
The best people, in my opinion, to talk to, are religious people who can laugh at their own religion ( *cough catholics cough* ). Fun to be around. -INTP
PS: I know I made fun of catholics above but babtists actually really don't like being made fun of for some reason so try not to do that I guess. Just a tip.
Small talk is pointless and annoying. Just fricking get to the F*6$+G POINT!
infp (but this works for any type): send me videos of your pet. There you go. You are now my friend, you are now on my good side.
I think thats a thing that goes for everybody
-INTP
@@donttellthem2280 kfkgkgkhkk yeah true, lemme edit that
not sure actually.... you might be boring people out
@@chillero3heftig712 who gets bored with puppy and cat videos?
As an INFJ:
To get on my good side - Be a nice, considerate, genuine person who stands up for what is right. Also don't get on my bad side
To get on my bad side - Be manipulative, narcissistic, greedy, fake, unkind person that hurts others. Also if you betray my trust, RUN.
Tss... Run? At that point, they're already dead
I support this message.
BINGO 👏🏼👏🏼
Add "be noisy" in the bad side
@@cannac6995 lol definitely!
I’m INFJ.
My sibling is a thinker. I know what a deep, consistent and caring person he is. It has helped me to identify and not be “offended” by thinker directness. This is especially helpful in the workplace. I’ve learned some INTJs can appear more direct and not so warm, and others can be direct and more warm. I recall Frank has said, MBTI should be used for growth. Many of the people I am close to are lifelong learners, whether they follow MBTI or not, have maintained growth and maturity as a lifestyle. They are pleasant and engaging people I like to be around on a regular basis. Love that.
Nicely put
Hi there Kimberly, ty :)
New to the channel, a bit familiar with MBTI. I work from home now, but as you might know, workplace dynamics can be a challenge. I’m glad to learn a bit about MBTI in order to survive, lol.
Frank is off the chain hilarious, so fun!
@@christinelikeschrysanthemu9423 Hi, you’re most welcome. I am loving the comedy. New to MBTI as well. Just got a book to help understand it a bit better. I like all the flowers, I think. XD
I like all the flowers too :) there’s a joke to my CZcams name. Best~
Before watching James talk about it, let me see if I can relate when he talk about me.
I'm an INTJ, if you want to be on my good side.
Just be honest, sincere and yourself, also talk about something interesting, not useless mundane stuff.
It's honestly not that hard.
exactly and be able to keep up with me everyday since i have shit ton of interests and topics that i would like to analyze with someone
@@khalilmoallaqat8999 Same lol
It's hard when you have your whole " Friend Group" Being extroverts and not understanding what you mean most of the time.
-INTJ
INFP here. Amusingly enough, I tend to come across as an INTP in conversation, because I often convey my enthusiasm for my interests through (at least semi-) analytical thinking.
I have the distinct memory of a day in my AP Lit class in highschool. It basically functioned as a book club, where each day we took a quiz on the assigned reading for that day which was written by a different one of us students each period.
One day we did an exercise where we assigned a percentage value of ourselves between thinking and feeling. Then we wrote down predictions for everyone else. Everyone was floored when they saw I had self identified as 60% feeling 40% thinking. They all put me down as like 99% thinking lol
I used to think my type was a thinking type because I'm very analytical as well but turns out I'm just an infp/infj
@@aestheticchild6414 Same here dude, I think its the Ne and Si (imagination checked with reality).....
I can relate with that!
Can relate, people think I'm Ti dom at first impressions when I'm just an INFJ
I am INTP and my list goes something like:
-Don't smalltalk with me, my family already does it and it's annoying enough
-Get used to silence, silence is peace
-Tell me what you think, always be honest
-I am not a fan of physical contact so don't be abrupt with it
-I can't start convos unless they are about the most random shit I can think of, if you want to talk about something you start I'll keep up
-Teach me stuff I don't know
-Animals
Everyone starts off stupid and annoying in my head and you gotta prove yourself to me first.
I can relate too🙂🤜
I'm ISTP and the "always be honest" and "silence is peace" HIT ME HARD,HELL YEAH.
exactly!! animals!! - intp
I mean, stuff like this is kind of subjective isn’t it. I personally don’t really like silence especially if I’m with someone I’m not really close to. I’ll prefer maybe some show or music playing in the background.
Random stuff is definitely interesting and I do talk random stuff more than an average person but I wouldn’t really say thats all I talk about.
Also, I personally like physical touch from people I’m close to.
-INTP
@@joesr31 I don't mind physical touch if it's implied it's gonna happen, but when someone does something out of nowhere, even if they're my best friend I would freak out.
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0:49 Blinkist
2:06 Thinkers vs Feelers
5:16 Sensors vs Intuitives
8:31 Judgers vs Perceivers
The INTJs, for sure, appreciate you.
@@kendralewellyn2654 its an honor
@@alliegyuh1984 It’s a double honor
How to get along with an INFP:
- Be your genuine self
- Be able to keep the conversation going
- Respect their beliefs and ideas
~ From an INFP :D
Works with ENFPs just the same! :)
@@ww_artemis Cool! :o
- Be at least somewhat competent
- Don't do small talk, if you are going to talk to me say something of value
- Your ideas, and abstract systems are things I would like to hear about
(Also please at least try to understand mine)
- Don't lie to me to 'spare' my feelings, that's not important with me lol
- Don't be an asshole to my cats
- Let me help with projects, but don't obligate me to that
- Creativity
- Please don't gossip, especially not about people we know
- I will most certainly have plans, and schemes ofc, so please don't go out of your way to surprise me
-- INTJ
As an INTJ, how would you feel if I came over to you and said: "So the other day I saw on the news that they were going to close down a certain part of town because the infection rate was nearing the threshold of 0,5%, and I thought about how that's an arbitrary threshold and then for some reason it occurred to me that arbitrariness in itself is arbitrary because you can't posit any objective criteria for when criteria for drawing a line between two phenomena are sufficiently rational to not be called arbitrary. And that got me thinking that this means that "arbitrary" is an adjective which describes itself, and I thought: 'What other adjectives are there which describe themselves?' and I couldn't think of any. Bigness is not big. Tiredness is not tired. Opaqueness is not opaque. Jejuneness is not jejune. But arbitrariness is arbitrary..."?
Would that be considered small talk or value or something else?
- INTP
@@JackyVSO it wouldn't be considered small talk, because that actually means something. That pretty clearly has thought behind it, and a fair amount of discussions to arise from it. If you came up and said "I just saw on the news the other day that they were closing a certain part of town because the infection rate reached 0.5%, wOw iT SUrE Is SpREadINg fAsT" then it would be small talk.
@@13Rats Glad to hear!
I just came to tell you that your discussion took me places.
@@anushree9036 What do you mean _places?_ like hell or Neverland or to a shitty job... perhaps your roommates mini fridge
Or is this a metaphor for zoning out and thinking about everything for way longer than your loved ones suggest
Another thing to consider. If someone is wearing ear buds, or reading, they may not want to engage in conversation.
Sometimes, the best way to stay on their good side is to refrain from bothering them when they don't want company.
-INTP
I honestly sometimes forget that my INTP sister is wearing headphones and I just talk to her (myself) for a good minute before I realize she couldn't hear me.
I wish I could give this a million likes
INFJ
@@redbest1943 Haha I'm an INTP and my ESFJ sister does this all the time! It can be annoying sometimes but honestly it's something about her that I'm fond of; she's just so passionate about something she wants to share it with me and forgets anything in the way. As we've both matured, I've gotten more tolerant of interruptions, and she's learned a little more self-restraint... at least enough to ask if I'm busy before launching into what's on her mind. XD
How to be on an ENFJ's good side:
1. Be nice
2. Be reasonable
3. Laugh at my sarcastic comments
Edit:
4. Be open to very personal / philosophical conversations. Not a necessity, but you get mega bonus points
@Oliver Erz we consider friendly bullying to be nice, in fact I usually *am* the friend bully lmao
How to start a conversation with an ISTJ:
”So hypothetically speaking…”
So hypothetically what kind of hypotheticals are we talking about?
I say that a lot not istj tho :)
You're being sarcastic right
Hahha exactly
how to get on my good side: teach me something i never knew. if we’re going to china, i want you to tell me the history of the great wall or the history of chinese rulers, maybe tell me some traditional chinese stories or urban legends. the people that leave an impact on me are the people i will always remember
~ i n f j ~
Yeahhh
Ooooooooo
Yessir
-INTP
That’s actually pretty fecking cool , and I do agree ! But also as an infj I just like it when people show me who they are , so head of staying aloof or mysterious
How to get on [this] INFJ's good side:
1.) Be genuine, honest, not fake
2.) Be kind (aka don't be an asshole)
and 3.) for the love of God, PLEASE use your brain
I have INFJ friend, when we talk about something weird we both actually losing our brain lol
@@starlust1132 oh crackhead energy is losing your brain in the best way lol 😂😂😂
I can be kind but not to the INFJ extent, my Fe is not the best
@@Lea-ov8vq you don't have to be kind like an INFJ, be kind like you. ❤
@@sassylittleprophet thank you, I will be :)
As an INTJ, if I were to put people on my good side, I would need to see resilience and a desire to improve, fire within.
Agreed ✋🏻
As an INTJ I feel like we strongly value analysing our options when it comes to a concept and overall ranking which options will have the best outcome. We kinda think like robots but its just what were best at yk haha. I dont really get the whole "INTJs are emotionless" thing because as an INTJ I rly do care about how people feel, its not like im gonna treat you as cold-hearted as possibe-
16 personalities playing games.
As an INTJ: I once went to a friend's house for games night. we didn't make it through the first turn because her boyfriend made a stupid move and I would not let it go. I ended up directly telling both of them I did not support their relationship.
Bwahahaha, isn't this what Games Night is for?! (I/ENTP)
I think I've got it almost locked down on each type
INTP: Personal growth and honing knowledge
INTJ: Abstract concepts that don't exist
ENTJ: Meeting levels of excellence and power, a mutual respect of being a boss
ENTP: Just don't get offended with the arguments and keep them light hearted
INFP: Authenticity
ENFP: I don't actually know how you could piss this type off, but to really be friends with them, I usually end up having people oriented conversations and living up to acceptance
ENFJ: Talent in all forms, No matter what talent that is. PASSION
INFJ: SHOW ME!! YOUR SPIRIT!! SHOW ME YOUR SADNESS!! (Me)
ESTP: "My friends really do like having me around but I can't seem to ever talk about me without being babied so keep it to yourself"
ESTJ: Let them complain about people and be toxic with them
ISTJ: have a good sense of logic, if you keep lying to them, withholding info, they will see you as lower being
ISTP: start mentioning something that their interested in. like if they're into animal sciences, biology.
ISFP: Let them stay true to themselves and respect their private intimacy between the two of you
ISFJ: For me honestly this type enjoys most of trying to work with people who will be better for them, while also just relaxing and being a little more tidy if you come to visit
ESFJ: OK this is simple. Don't trample over their traditions
ESFP: "do you want to buy me food?"
EDIT: LET ME KNOW IF I GOT SOME STUFF WRONG
Wow
I like this, but as an ISTP here is something you can add.
I will talk your ear off if you start mentioning something that I am interested in. And in my case, that would be animal sciences, biology, science etc. So, yeah, I will be quiet unless you( or myself ) can get me interested.
That’s a good list:)
Perfect.
For intjs it's more like concepts that are abstract for ordinary people really
As someone who currently has a crush on an ENTP, this is an extremely important video... - INTJ
Unless you enjoy arguing and constant criticism, RUN. They are admittedly interesting conversationalists. But not good for sensitive types. Good luck.
@@OctoganicAngel that is a huge generalization. Well rounded NTs can be sensitive and ultra warm people, I know quite a few. Well rounded sensitive types can also be more assertive and confident and they will have a healthy ego and take jokes and constructive criticism quite well.
It's all about perspective and own self development... Entjs, Entps and Istps estjs have taught me the most useful lessons of all types... eye opening.
Our reaction is how we feel about ourselves not how anyone feels about us.
My subjective view on Entps is that they rather joke not attack, and they love to explore hypothetical theories and every side even the complete opposite, which infjs do also.. What ifs... I don't mind the Entps talking and being too much, just like I don't mind inquisitive hyper psychoanalysing and overthinking infjs. I consider these their natural assets. It can be even hilarious and take that from HS person. :)
Nothing to be scared about.
@@DiscoveryWonders Fair. But we’re generalizing in the MBTI rhetoric.
I’m entp when I’m in a bad mood and enfp when I’m in a good mood. I don’t know if this applies to all entp’s but just cheer them up or interest them and they’ll probably like you I’d say.
@@OctoganicAngel I'm trying not to:) :P
Video request: How to make each of the 16 personalities angry
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How to make INTPs angry: be really ignorant, don't listen to their logical reasoning and act like you've won the debate even though you haven't.
@@arianam9977 as an Infp, it also makes my blood boil when someone is being stupid and still acts like they've won the debate, with me or anyone else. like- please delete yourself from this earth.
Yes. Even tho it's rather obvious by now.
I NEEEEED THIS!!!!
Honestly it’s hard for anyone to get on my bad side, you have to be pretty darn annoying or rude or mean lol there are very few people I can’t stand
-ISFJ
I know, right? Someone would have to be consistently mean and/or rude for me to avoid them. I don't really have a "bad side" per say; I will just magically float away from someone who is mean 😅
Same here 😀 ENFJ
@@sunnyvirtue4498 lol same
~a INFJ
Is that a challenge ?
-ENTP
i feel the same way! - a fellow isfj :)
As an istj:
-being honest (especially when something i do is bothering you)
-trying to explain things in a calm logacly way
-being independant
-not being clingy or always loud and attention seeking
-not taking me being reserved and needing alot of alone time personally
-accepting boundaries
-not labeling me as being boring or fussy before getting to know me better
-being friendly, funny and authentic
I am an INTJ and have many text conversations with an ENFP throughout the day. This video made so much of our dynamics and conversation make sense.
Frank, you're very clever and explain things well. Each video adds another layer of understanding myself and others I interact with. I appreciate your work.
I am an ENFP who has a friend who is an INTJ :0
Dude, this is absolute gold from someone who is so clueless on conversations sometimes!! THANK YOU.
*How to keep me on my Good side:*
- Don't be fake (I can smell your acting)
- Don't be Arrogant and act as you are above others (I will get annoyed or I will be making fun of you in my mind or in real world)
- Be Respectfull
- Don't ignore me (But if you want to talk and think I'm talking too much, tell me and I will stop)
- If you say something, give me the reasons you think that way (even if it is the "It Feels Right" reason, I could make the conection for you)
- You can bring to the table any Topic/Theme and I can talk about it. Don't shy away
And when we are talking, Always remember, *_Understanding_* and *_Agreeing_* are two different things.
If you wanna get on my Bad Side, do the opposite of what I said. Is hard to make me mad, Though.
- ENTP
At first i didn't see wich personality type you were talking about and i think "damn you're too annoying"
...
i'm Entp and i just realise that i don't like other Entps
@@cadoomer9362 Lol xD
One of my parents is ENTP (I'm an INTP) and this sounds about right lol. We get along a lot of the time by knowing that "not being understood" is more stressful to both of us than "disagreeing" most of the time.
Infp: Think Happy Thoughts!
ENTJ: THINK USEFUL THOUGHTS!
I’m ENTJ btw
Accurate ~INFP.
but happy is actually useful !
@@auroraborealis6398 happy is useful
Both satisfied
Agreed
Finally found an ENTJ here
as an INTP, you start out as neutral in my eyes. to get on my good side, honestly, just pay attention to the things I say. I feel like because I'm quiet and laid back, people walk all over me in conversations, so I love it when people seem to genuinely care about my input. I also really enjoy people who are wacky and eccentric.
Everyone starts out on my good side, just be kind, honest and genuine 😁
ENFP
true
good traits to have
Interesting topic idea! 😃
To get on the good side of an ENTP - just try to follow the exploration of the out of the box ideas we create together in the moment. Make it interesting or you loose us quickly.
Not an ENTP but that sounds like my favorite way to communicate
Well said! 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻 As an ambivert ENTJ who mostly sides with being introverted, I’m a loaner, it’s just me and my kid out about exploring so when I do meet someone who interests me, let’s explore deep conversations and will often use my intuitive side more, don’t even come at me with small talk. Hate it.
Thank you Frank. This is a really great video and I really appreciate all of the time and thought you put into it. Love you much!
*Me, an ENFP, having dinner with my aunts family* : "So, if everyone at this table had our own unique set or horns (or one horn, or many horns) that represent who we are as people, what do you think they would look like?"
*My aunt's family, every single one of whom is a very strong sensor* : ಠ_ಠ
Lollllll
My dad (an INFP), and my sister (an ISFP) would actually take this convo seriously
My sister is literally a biology major and absolutely loves dragons, so she'll def be interested
And I'm an ENFP too, so ofc I'd say my horns would be the most flashy yet angel-like of them all
Hmmm, but to be specific, there's gotta be light blue crystals hanging off my white and sparkly antlers... bUT MY ANTLERS CHANGE COLOR WITH MY MOOD YO THAT'D BE SO SICK-
...
Meanwhile, my mom, an ISTP would just call the rest of us crazy 😂😂😂
@@SakuraTsukino27972 haha oh my god, that's hilarious, I also love dragons so I found this thread just fascinating.
@Oliver Erz i love that!!!!
Hehe... The metaphorically speaking efps :) Robert Downey Jr says similar cute stuff. :))
@@chrisj4288 dragons!? Was I the only one imagining goat devils and unicorns????
Thank you, Frank. I was just started to be scared of people.. It's good to see these kind of videos.
I'd love to see more content about the life of your guitars. They sneak into many of your videos and are both cool and attractive.
How to be on the good side with my ESFJ acquaintances:
1. Bring a simple gift
2. Shut up and listen, nod your head while they're speaking
That's it.
That's basically an IS-J.
this is a good video. learning all the types is quite a big goal but you're doing great with it. i'm an INTJ and i've learned to appreciate myself and the other types.
Great point, you're giving me something to think about.
I like the idea of diving into another person's preference, to help them. Being a little more versatile so we can communicate with people more effectively.
Great, I like it. 💛
How to soothe the 16 personalities insecurities?
Hope to see this sometime.
Good one!
Intp, I'm afraid I don't know how to morn. :)
How to get on my good side: remember a small detail about me (like my favorite food or whatever) and I'm yours to do with as you wish -infp
Aw yes same :) I usually remember those things about other people.
also someone remembering my name is pure happiness for me ahhhhhh~
That's also how you can creep out an INTJ. 😂🙈
As an INTP I never remember birthdays; what I do remember depends on what we talk about lol. If we exchange interests on a regular basis, then I'll likely remember what you like. :)
But if we're at the same table in class but never use each others' names, then yea I ain't gonna know yours lol
Nice, I think everybody loves that, except maybe dismissive people who will find that creepy.
This is so nice especially coming out of quarantine! I'm meeting new people and will take all the tips I can about being social :)
Frank, you have the BEST sponsor ads. I get so very annoyed with every utube sponsor or ad but I have to say that I've signed up with everyone of your sponsor ads and love them.
I really don't understand how there are actually any down likes on this. This is actually one of your best videos.
Same. But yt sees dislikes as likes so it does not matter.
As an ENTP-
Own up when you’re wrong
Don’t be afraid to argue u w me when you think I’m doing something wrong
Don’t be dry with me. I want enthusiasm!!
I'm newer to your channel, but it's refreshing watching you over the years slowly creep out of your depression. Glad you could find some happiness 😊🙂
Thank you, Frank! This is very informative and I can only thank you for helping me understand better on how to deal with my people (I know that by saying this you already know I'm an ENFJ lol) Just enjoying and learning a lot.
I feel like everyone has the same or a similar sense of how to get on their good side. They just list their MBTI on top of that, but people from other types agree. Getting on someone's good side isn't really a type specific thing, right? For every comment here, even though they list their type, it's really just their own personal opinion, which is just be a decent and honest person, and you'll be likeable. I don't see how types have anything to do with it. Be a good and unique person and you'll probably get on the majority of people's good sides here.
well he’s just explaining how these types think so knowing that can help more, most people won’t go this far to get on a persons good side but it’s cool to know
@Oliver Erz Yeah, the majority of people who care about the MBTI are just certain types. Others, especially sensors, have other things to worry about rather than some personality typing. And others don't believe in it at all.
"u prefer to be on peoples good side rather than bad side"
ENTP's: heres where u are wrong
Yep. Sometimes pissing people off is more fun
As an INFJ who divorced an ENTP, this tracks.
Can confirm this. (And silently contradicted FJ as he said it.)
lol
Yes but no...
Thank you for having chapters!
Super excited for this!🖤
Yeah ,,, finally found it 👍
@@Anonymous-di9py yayyy🖤
I'd rather talk to someone that doesn't make me feel like I'm being messed up with. Just be yourself, your true self will show up in the end anyway.
Your type?
HEY FRANK! Can you make a video about how the personailities act in fights/arguments and conflict? I am an INFP and it's so frustating how my best friend ISTP is handling communicating his emotions!
This would be really helpful. I need to learn not to be offended by judgers since I am stuck with them. Puts headphones on
Oh my, i am on
Great video. I agree it's not about manipulation. It's just about building better relationships with people. Have also been using blinklist for 4+ years very good resource.
I love how you are so real more so than the other you tubers I eat even though I love them because they are also we all put on faces sometimes but you seem most genuine I appreciate that and trust you and your judgement! Thank you!
How to get on an INTJ's good side
1) Don't talk to me.
Yes, that's all.
You may leave, my social battery ran out
LMAO I was gonna comment about ur pfp saying the contrary but then I read the fine print 😂😂😂
Blinkist summary of this video:
Want to be on people's good side? Mirror them.
This is such an interesting and helpful video!!!!
Loved your little sidebar about types wanting to talk about opposite functions!! I feel very ESFP when I socialize, as an INTJ 🥴
I will accept you in an open arms no matter what kind of person you are.
Virtual Hugs, *ISFJ*
Be open and understanding towards people who are different or think differently from you. Don't be judgemental, show care and think things out. Show your quirks 😄
Love "show your quirks"! I adore that!
The summarisation of what I intended to type 🙌🏻
P.s I don’t know what it’s called but the art work on your channel banner (?!, I guess) is simply amazing the dog,cat,giraffe,absolutely stunning colours too. Did you draw it yourself?
@@BeckyPhelps 😊 I'm really drawn to people who are willing to risk standing out a bit! 😄
@@MoonLight-lc8qg Thank you! That's really kind of you to say! Really made me smile! 😊 channel banner is correct, yes they are mine 😊 I'm very slowly getting some pieces together to put on Instagram, but I don't want to find a way to overwhelm myself so I'm making sure I have a few done in advance 😅
@@ArtistIntuiting I totally agree! It's like....."You're goofy as crap.....I like you!"
Love your videos
I think it is amazing how you keep these types all sorted out. I'm starting to get it though.
All the fellow INFPs already said it, you basically already are on our good side, just don't get yourself out of there.
(Just to add, being on our good side doesn't mean your our friend, but you might be)
"So are we just talking about manipulating people?"
- ENTP's want to know your location
Please explain?
@@definitelyreal. ENTP = master manipulator/ debator
@@BulaienHate ah. Makes sense now. Thank you.
This really helps put things in perspective
THANK YOU!! Lord knows we all needed this....Lol.,,
It's wierd that all the comments keep saying "don't be mean" when there isn't a single type who likes people who are mean to them
I mean... masochists? XD
No, but people have different levels of tolerance for things, and some people prize different aspects of people - e.g., intelligence, usefulness, funness - over kindness.
There’s a difference between being mean in general and being mean to people you care about. I don’t tolerate assholes at all because of my Fe, but I have friends that do.
I like pointing out how stupid those people are. Their existence and perseverance is comical.
-ENTP
It's true that nobody likes people to be mean to them, but when I say "mean" people get on my bad side as an INFP, I refer to people who are mean to anyone. A surprising number of people try to get on my good side by comparing me to other people and putting them down to make me look better, or try to make me laugh by making fun of other people in front of me. Many gossip and complain to me about their other friends (which makes me think, what's stopping you from talking about me behind my back too?). Some personalities appear to appreciate this behavior or at least aren't bothered by it, but I hate it. I respect people who are equally kind and respectful towards everyone- regardless of who or what they are.
As an INTP:
- *DO NOT* talk about useless, meaningless or uninteresting things. We don't care about your aunt's new dog, or how your friend got divorced.
- But *DO* talk about complex things. It can be about anything really. Art, sociology, chemistry, ecology, economy, politics (although not everyone likes talking about it so maybe don't go for that one too soon), astronomy, space, science, technology or even animals (but again, not one particular animal, make us learn stuff, discuss knowledge)
- *DO NOT* expect us to lie to you. INTPs are usually pretty honest, so please try to show us what you want us to say when you ask us something. Don't be surprised if you get a negative response to the question "What do you think of this outfit?", you asked us what we thought about it, and we told you. If you want comfort or validation, try to ask us "Does it look good?" or "Do I look good in this?" as you're already implying a positive answer.
- *DO NOT* however, be blatantly mean ("Wow, you're an asshole.", "You really suck at social interaction.", "If you weren't mean to me I wouldn't have done that.", "You get what you deserve."). When we say our thoughts on something, we usually don't mean to upset you or make you sad. Most of the time we'll seem hesitant about telling you what we think, so you can prepare for negative or critical feedback. If you're honest, it doesn't matter. However, if you just say mean stuff, without a good reason, or go too far, then we'll start to dislike you.
- If you want us to see you as an interesting and likeable person, the most important things are respect and honesty. Respect us when we tell you we don't want to hang out this time. Try to do things that are interesting to us: discuss a book, TV show or a video game, talk to us about some interesting fact you saw, tell us some (preferably not too long) story that happened to you, talk to us about your interests, tell us what you like, etc.
That's all I can think of for the moment, maybe I'll add some stuff. Please keep in mind that I am gifted (I don't like that word because it's not really a gift but anyways), have anxiety and high social anxiety, so what I'm saying might not be true for some or most INTPS.
Oh no, I missed the premiere this week 😥I agree with the point you made about judgers vs perceivers, I've never been good at coming to a conclusion in conversations, my mind gets distracted by new thoughts and wants to jump to the next topic 😅 I'll try to keep what you said in mind when I think I'm talking to a J type though, and try to narrow down my thoughts
Thanks for another cool and informative video, Frank 😎 Have a good week!
Definitely perceiving.
I don't often show my good side. To tell the truth, I almost never do it because none of my peers can be totally honest or a good listener. They only do what they want without respecting the ideas, thoughts and actions of others. They also try to use or manipulate you.
And that's because I don't show my good side 😂
For me as an INTJ, people get on my good side when they are honest about themselves while not acting bad towards others? I want to be able to trust you.
Also, if you listen to me talk for hours about my thoughts and actually bring something to the conversation, then there is no way to dislike you.
As an INTJ too I agree with everything
Yee
The problem is when you find out that they didn't understood anything that you said and that you talk to AI instead of humans. You will find out that the information that you have is too specific for others to understand, which will trigger an existential crisis in you as you will long for connection with others.
Because the point of information sharing is to solve a problem and also connect with the other because of it.
So basically most ENFPs, got it ;D
XD Agree they like to be listen
Thanks Frank. Even that sponser ad thing was interesting.
You just gave me the answer I was looking for ouo thank you
I swear, if he says to get on the good side of an ISTJ you have to be organized, hardworking, and on time, I will RAGE. 😡
I agree. I'm ISTJ and just because I have those characteristics doesn't mean I look for them in other people. Maybe the 'on time' one I do but not the other two.
Oh, cool, maybe I'll finally get feedback!
I've always had magical relationships with ISTJs. I'm not even sure why, but they're calm and open around me. I dropped their thousand part screwdriver kit once and it ended well - not for next person near it.
Another one told me upfront "No matter how rough your feedback is, I still feel like it's from a good place and you never judge." And "It's a relief that don't feel the need to manipulate you because I somehow know it won't work."
I'm an ISFP, so my guess would be... Respect their Fi at all times, but stay down to earth and rational. I guess they make me much more comfortable with my Te too, so we can easily commubicate and come to agreements.
Why, I think ISTx are the worst bosses
@@jennifermartinez8550 I barely even have those characteristics. Lots of the ISTJ stereotypes are false. :(
@@5idi The main thing I need in a friendship is honesty. Just plain honesty. Don't fake who you are and I should be happy.
Since I can only be in a real conversation with no more than two other people this advice is doable 😂🤣😐 #INFJ
Well done James 👏
I love you man I'm addicted to your channel at the moment. Also you look like Eric from the little mermaid. Not sure if anyone has told you that. But they probably have
Just don't be stupid. I'll be fine with what you do.
- ISTJ
I would try but you are asking for too much
-ENFP
@@btsarmylifegoeson986 lol i swear, enfp comments always make me laugh smhw.
-Infj.
💜💜Aaaaaarrrmyyyyyyyy💜💜
@@lonesoul17 Happy to make your day, woo-hoo! INFJs are so sweet I wanna squash them in a hug uwu :D 💜💞💛💚💙❤💟💝💗💕💓
@@btsarmylifegoeson986 yes please! I rlly need smone to squash me in a hug... (つ✧ω✧)つ
My friend who is an ESTP came over to my house the other day!!! I’m an INTP, so her and I were able not talk, but rather discuss and I love that so much!! We talked about LGBTQ, Palestine, racism, and school, but we were still able to gossip and have fun with it. I think that’s the first time I’ve ever been able to just sit down and have a civil discussion with someone. My other friends are mostly feelers and/or don’t like talking about politics/serious issues or topics, so usually we find something to do. But her and I just chilled and talked about this stuff. It was nice to say the least. She’s a chill extrovert so she was able to stop talking when I did, and I haven’t socialized in months (face to face/not with family) so I was able to talk when she did.
FJ, your ad timing is unparalleled! If there are going to be ads on a CZcams video, and I know they're important for creators, the pause and wink you did are amusing and so much better than being unexpectedly interrupted :)
Also, I would like to see more help for differentiating one's own type from a few different perspectives, especially for types that are hard to tell apart. I'm honestly not sure if I'm INFP or ENFP and I relate to one or the other depending on the day and the description... Sometimes even INFJ or ENFJ... (At least I know I'm NF!!) 🤪