I agree with that statement until you realize its usually broken men trying to raise boys to men, especially nowadays. So what do you do if the children grow up to be brokenly strong?
Whole generation of men who abandoned their children, all of my friends including me were raised by our mothers. And our dads are full of excuses and nonsense and expecting everything but did none of the actual work.
I’m in my early 20s and it’s nice to see most of my family members my age haven’t abandoned their kids, but one of my close cousins lowkey did. I’m not having kids anytime soon until I’m healed from father issues/ find a good partner. If either doesn’t happen I’m not gonna have kids Lol I’m not trying to raise more emotionally messed up human beings. Or atleast be the reason they need to take years to figure out how to be healthy individuals
What about a whole generation of men who are trapped into marriage and then divorce hut still not abandoning their children? Nice generalization about men overall btw maybe it's all the s***** mothers and wives that drive men away. And a girl being raised by a bunch of women? Can you say radical feminist when she grows up? And you wonder where all the good men have gone? gtfo
Same here, except my mother was there for me up until I was 14, then forsook me, and then entirely abandoned me at 18. My father had utter bull shit to tell me when I asked him why he wasn't there for me. He blamed my mom and everything. My father still isn't here for me. He's a deadbeat.
@@shadowdoglaw257happens all the time. It's conditioned from sociality. The system is designed to remove the father. Eventually the mother will get removed as well. Then the children will be free of any parents and than can be sex trafficked . That's the direction USA is heading. Because USA sex trafficking children
Being a good parent is hard because you have to find the perfect balance of making sure your kid doesn’t hurt the world, but not at the extent that you end up hurting your kid.
i'm about as non religious as one can be. in fact to say i'm not a fan of god is an understatement. that being said after hearing some radio interviews with Neale Donald Walsch i decided to read The Complete Conversations With God series. fucking amazing! highly recommend it. one of the topics discussed was parenting and how in evolved societies children are raised by the community as a whole, especially by the elders. granted, their entire set up is different than what we've created. anyway, it makes sense children will be raised better by a large group of elders. this doesn't mean the parents are cut off from the children or have zero input, but it does mean children are raised with a great awareness and realize there is more to the world than just what's in front of them. think about it. if humans took care of themselves, barring an accident or crime we could easily live past 100 and be basically healthy. a little slower physically with some aches and pains, but by and large functioning at a decent level. yet our most fertile ages are teens-30's. do you see the problem? most people reproducing haven't lived enough life to competently raise their offspring.
Shayne that's actually an amazing statement, because it's so obvious that it is overlooked in parenting, children's aid services, adoption, people's early life trauma as a real societal cost, etc. When people talk about having to *become an adult* at four or six years or some too-early age, they are not kidding. They actually lost a important part of their life that they will always try to functionally compensate for, this thing that they're missing inside. It's stressful and frustrating.
I remember once as a kid I was at a party where my parents and all the other adults were drinking. I stepped barefoot on a rusty nail, got it stuck in my foot, bleeding all over the place and went up to my drunk parents where were talking with the other adults and it took over a minute to get their attention. This is something I’ll never forget
My dad would get drunk and come after me and my brother with a BB gun. Every weekend. It just sucks I can’t say this in person to new people I meet to make them understand why I got some issues. But on the bright side my daughter lives a happy safe life.
@@billehbutcha6625 well don’t be edgy about it. Obviously you can’t go around yelling ur ducked up. Go to the proper place… and not every psychologist is the same. Sometimes finding the right therapist is it’s own damn trauma and journey too. Good luck to you fellow human
Parenting needs to be a mandatory highschool class, too many people grow up never completely emotionally or mentally stable and a decent bit of it is fixable with relatively small changes in how one addresses parenting.
Never thought of that. That’s a really good idea. The reason society is becoming more and more hedonistic is because people children are being neglected rather than taught or disciplined. People are so unaware that without teaching the order to the youth the chaos arises.
@@ButterBallTheOpossum like I said relatively small changes, not "radically forcing all parents to use my ideals" as in "please don't do x,y and z and please do a, b and c if you want your child to grow up without long standing psychological issues"
@@ButterBallTheOpossum Exactly. With the stuff they're pushing in schools now, if they started a parenting class it would be about how to transition your 1 year old
Someone with their head that far up their ass has no idea that Joe is talking about themself. There's some serious dunning-kruger going on. The worst part of the whole story is that that cunt thinks that he's a good dad while his kid goes around getting addicted to heroin and punching other kids. Like you're right, there's justice, and it's always good that everyone knows that that's a bad dad, but bad dad has no idea.
You know that guy, the Dad feels like a total piece of shit after this show. Now he'll probably changes ways and at the very least he'll think twice about letting his kid run wild at a social gathering
The Benevolent Sun: parents like that, don't give a shit. They just defend their kid no matter what, and teach their kid that they're better than other people. The apple doesn't fall far from the tree.
My dad was a drill sergeant. I have autism. He literally thought making me homeless would cure my autism. It makes me cry to think how many disabled kids are neglected.
@@bpaajcisna5595 im good now. Honestly, government programs to help autistic people are improving Government programs for disabled americans are a good thing.
I was a store manager for 25 years with a major retailer. I really liked my career, even though at times it could be “retail hell”. Some of the worst times was with some of the “upper middle class non working, hubby makes a ton of money” moms. Super entitled attitudes that allowed their little spawns of Satan to tear the store apart while running and yelling down the aisles; like it was their own personal indoor playground, and me feeling forced to babysit while Mrs. Entitled turned a blind eye and deaf ear to the goings on. Dealing with that type of parent was an exercise in restraint from not slapping the moms and kicking the kids. You current and ex retail folks know exactly what I mean.
In costco canada the muslin mothers let their 7 year old sons run around and injured themselves from climbing and then the mom demands for a doctor in Canada. I laughed in her face , told her to go to front and ask for an ambulance or some first aid from the box
@@whathandleUtalkabtI’ve seen that. Ethnic moms with multiple children. In my mind, I’m thinking of the family as a zoo and the mom’s a zoo keeper. I should not have to put up with their wild kids.
Stop being like the parents yourself and blaming the kids. Kids are never to blame. It IS ALWAYS the fault of the parents and adults. You are part of the problem we have in society - a disdain and hatred for children.
its not that bad. when you are drunk, you dont notice the pain in stuff like that. Idk if its like that sober too but when I got beat while drunk and high as fuck and it didnt even hurt
I grew up with neglectful parents . . yes I was provided shelter and the bare minimums of education ect.. I just think if your going to have children and attain the "bare minimum" for them you should not have children at all. You must have your own issues sorted and have a degree of financial freedom, and a strong sense of self to have children. You must be able to adapt to change and deal appropriately when situations arise. I strongly despise those that have children without any recognition of the above.
I never had even a one minute conversation with either of my parents through 18 years under my father's roof. My father never touched me except to punish me.I can't remember even one hug from my mother. I do rememember her slapping my face and saying "you're hysterical" when i complained one time about my brother who bullied me for years , and told me once that every morning when he woke up he planned how he could ruin my day. We lived in the middle of no where and for 6 years i never saw another child except at school. All the kids there were german and related to each other and went to the same church. They had no interest in me. In 1970 i went to basic at fort Leonardwood, no one was there to say goodbye. I was surprised that other "trainees" got letters, i didn't. 5 years later i joined the Navy, also during the Vietnam war, because i was homeless and had nothing to eat. I was released about 14 months later with a diagnosis of schyzophrenia and sent to the same govt. hospital that an aunt of mine had spent her life in alone with the same disease. Some how my mother knew i was there and came and bitched about my father divorcing her and then left. I never saw another family member again to this day. There's plenty more to my story of unbelievable suffering because no one in my family cared if i lived or died. But God cared and healed me instantly may 10 of 2017. Now,4 years later i am finally a human being again after 50 years of never knowing for sure what was going on around me. I'm beginning to live for the first time at age 70, but i may not live very long? If there's one good thing in your life your much better off than millions of people with schyzophrenia who can't even comprehend let alone receive any warm feeling that we call love.
This is a late reply so maybe you’ll never read this but I just wanted to say that I’m really sorry that you had to go through all of this in your life but I’m glad that you’re glad that you finally have become a living person again and I hope you have more years to get to experience whatever it is that you never felt you did all this time before. Good luck, friend, I hope you can continue to find more in this world that helps you feel human and wanted. I struggle with feeling loved too and am also trying to do better!
Hi Daniel, thanks for sharing your experience. I am so sorry for what you had to go through. Nobody deserves that kind of treatment. I hope you find peace in your life by really healing from those experiences. How is your experience with schizophrenia now? Would like to hear from you. It is all about love, and that is the fundamental of evolving as a person.
Fortunately raised a really good young man, and although I made my share of mistakes, the one thing I did right was spend a ton of time with him. He spent more time with me than he did with his friends, and I loved every moment of it.
The worst parents are the ones that disconnect from the world when their kids scream and cry and make a ruckus and they don't even try to discipline them, it frustrates me!
And I’d argue the vast majority of people who should never have become parents knew that before having kids. But they were careless, overly image conscious, thought it was the natural next step, or any number of other reasons except wanting to raise and love children so they become good adults.
@J M That's a welcome change in tone. I know it's not an easy topic, and I've been there as well. The difference is whether it's a personal choice and right to do it or that it should be flat out denied for everyone, regardless of religious view, etc..
@J M It's impossible to offend me with facts, and it's extremely rare to see such reflecting online these days, such as what you did. I wish more people were like us. Now, have a good day, sir.
Parents need to remember that you can't expect a child to come up to your level. You have to come down to theirs. Kids only know what they've learned up to that day. No life skills or experiences to draw from.
Very well said! How will a kid know a complex solution that only comes with life experiences? We forget that there is very little solutions at that young of an age experience. That’s why we have to be there for them to help them figure out those more complex solutions.
I’m not one to feel sorry for myself, but I grew up in a really neglectful environment, as did my mum. Then breaking that cycle of behaviour has been the hardest thing ever. Love your kids people - give them affection, guidance, be a great example to them. Take the time to listen to what they want to tell you, and try to answer their questions. I know it’s frustrating but it will pay off in the end. ✌🏻
I was on a vacation recently and the people next door in the resort had a kid that was about 6 or so, and he shouted and yelled at the parents, and basically treated his parents like garbage. I overheard the parents talking next to our shared wall with a connecting door that was locked (so easy to hear everything without trying and sitting anywhere in our room) and the mom was telling the dad he needs to do something about their son. His response “I’m on vacation.” The mom spent about an hour each morning and another each night “explaining” to the kid how he is not acting properly and should behave because there are “others staying at the resort” and the kid would just holler and scream at her. He seemed to be normal kid whenever we saw him outside in the public areas, so doubtful he had any medical issues as they ate at a table next to us one night and he seemed just like a regular kid then, and also when at the swimming pool. Whenever we’d run into them coming in/out of the rooms the mom would apologize for her kid. When you have kids and you take them with you anywhere, you are still a parent 1st. It took a lot of restraint to not chew the parents ass out, especially the slug of a dad. But I figured they’d have enough problems in a few more years as that kid will run wild over them because he basically already was.
Joe to Security: "Everything is gonna be okay, he's just gonna choke him out." I DIED. Hahahaha.
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I hope he gets sued... im facing 3. felonies. for only. saying. something to. someone who wouldnt leave me alone... but dudes can get away with blood chokes? wtf tho
Yeah. I do find it ridiculous that normal people would be pushed or yelled at . But since they recognized joe, people have a habit of just saying it’s cool . Wait till this happens to you. You’ll be pissed if your facing felonies for some drunk that wouldn’t fuck off .
That’s one thing that seriously infuriates me, when you literally see something happen and someone looks you right in the face & says it didn’t happen 🤬
This genuinely opened a lot of thoughts for me having a single mom that had to work and an army uncle who I looked up to, I can now call my dad at this stage of my life
nice. i had a single mom to. but no real male figure to look up to. now i am learning what is to be a good male role model for myself and others. on my own. self made man as they say. but i do thank my mom even if she had to work. she still made time fo rme. but she can't teach u everything
@@thishandleistaken1011 Kids don't often have control to reject negative influences, it's the parents' job to prevent/minimise these and teach them to reject them. Neglectful parents feed negative influences and it becomes the only thing these kids know.
I've grown up with a shitty childhood, and i've seen far too many kids being raised by neglective and abusive parents. I absolutely refuse to be anything less than a good father to my kids. I just wish more people shared the same attitude.
I’ve been raised with a shitty childhood too. I’m a mom now and I never neglect my 6 month old baby boy. I’m gonna make it my mission to make sure he has a good childhood and won’t experience what I’ve experienced, because I don’t want him to be depressed at such a young age.
I never had kids but I have to say, if I did, I would spend TIME with them and discipline them. It HAS to be that way! Biggest things I'd teach? Respect, good manners, self-esteem and general politeness. I gush over a polite kid.
there’s so many bad things about a parent being emotionally and physically abusive, but there’s also those type of parents who are in denial about their kid’s bad behavior. this type of parenting allows their children to think that they can truly get away with anything they do or so because their parents will be the first to protect them. i can feel joe’s anger when he talked about the dad and son situation, i have guy cousin who is now 18-19 and his outcome from his mom’s bad parenting is truly what i expected for it to be. everyone in my family dislikes him because he barely faced any consequences from harming others. he went as far as sa a younger cousin of mine and his mom still defended him and try to denied that he would never do such thing even though when he was in elementary school he would always annoy a girl he had a crush on (and yes the girl made multiple complains to school about his behavior and nothing was done about because of his mom) it’s bad parenting like this that boils my blood because all the awful things my cousin did to others could’ve been avoided if it wasn’t for him mother.
I'm glad you do something about it though. At a wavepool, a kid was struggling so they were on the edge of the wavepool. The lifeguard blew their whistle to tell the kid to get off. I know you can't hang on the edge but that's why you help them get off and take them to a part of the pool that they are safe in.
John Atanassov I was a lifeguard as well, if no parent is in the pool you’re free to kick the kid out. If theres a parent around you’re free to kick them both out for something as simple as the parent not watching their kid or the kid not following rules. You have a lot more power than you think!
Oh man. When I was a guard, it was very easy to spot the bad parents. They're on their phones ignoring their kids, occasionally looking up to smile at them, and then looking back down at the magical glowing rectangle. And these are the same people who wonder why their kids act out so much. smh
Same. I was in college and I can't even tell you how many kids I saved whole moms were reading 50 shades of gray and getting a tan. I also had to brake up a bunch of fights between siblings.
I remember wanting to tell my parents things that made me happy or what I was excited about and had to bury it inside because they would destroy my happiness
Yep same here. Mine never taught me about credit, ownership of ANYTHING, just relied on strangers to teach me. Also when your doing better than them at a young age they find ways to still put you down. It’s that old school mentality they were so miserable back then
I can understand that. I realized that when I was having a conversation with my parents, the conversation will always be one sided. They were busy talking, talking and talking that they don't even bother to listen to me. I literally give up on them. In terms of skills, they are very bad at it. They don't know how to nail properly or to fix a simple thing etc. But.. they'll criticize me on everything as if they are the expert. My mother always criticizes my painting but she can't even do a simple drawing. Ironic.
Its even more confusing when they say they love you with words but their actions show the opposite. When I think of all the money I have had to spend on therapy to try to correct their wrongs it makes me so mad that I can't sue them to get my money back :(
@apopuffkin1717 I feel you bro. From the outside my parents look so nice and supportive, but they are empty and violent in ways that nobody understand.
When are such parents going to realise the seriousness of not bringing their children up with decency & respect, it’s massive & effects the rest of their lives.
I'm a teacher and deal with this all the time. The worst ones, 90% of the time I find out that the parents are absent from their lives. Don't have kids if you don't want to raise them. Babysitters and nannies are not a substitute for a parent.
A neighbor of mine, she could stay home and raise the kids because the dad makes $200,000 a year but works all day instead so she can “pay for the nanny and feel important”
I was freaking blessed enough to be able to stay home and raise my son for 10years, then get an IT job at a hospital whose hours worked perfectly with school, I had a wonderful provider husband (he and I were making the same income before I quit). We made sacrifices but made it work. I thank my husband and the almighty for those times I got to spend with my son!!!
FACTS!!!!!! I’m a sitter and I been through this not even a month ago worked for the family 2yrs and watched the defiant behavior progress from 2 to 4yrs old I was disrespected my home disrespected other children disrespected and I hear you can’t expect kids to be perfect everyday there was many excuses made for the behavior and each excuse upset me more to the point I was shaking therapy is definitely needed but apparently the parent doesn’t think so. I could go on and on it pisses me off so bad
The biggest problem is the “he didn’t/wouldn’t do that” parents. Parents who enable their kids and refuse to believe they would ever do anything wrong.
Yes, that's true. They forgot that everyone has a multilayer personality. Just because your child behave in front of you, doesn't mean she'll do the same behind. This type of parents think their child as an angel. Most of my friends (not all, of course) are doing this with their toddlers. They just let their kids running here and there causing havoc and then claim that those kids will never hurt other people.
Been there with those parents.. Im straight with them. No one likes me lol "Your youngest stole my girls doll, and I watched her throw it in that dumpster. You need to attend to that." "She wouldnt do that. No way she did that." "Listen, *what possible good reason would I have to lie to you about your child?* I saw it happened. And thats why we are talking now"
I'm actually dealing with that right now. On my Church's band, there's a woman with a 8 year old who's been pretty roundy for 3 years. Whenever he plays drums, his timing and beat is way too sped up and when we try to tell him to slow down, his mother tells us to leave him alone. It messes up the flow and whenever our Pastor plays with us she doesn't do any of that. Even after we play, the mother tells the son 'Don't go around the other members. They're jealous of your gifts.' I remember one Sunday me and my cousin were setting up for service and the kid came in messing with the sound system. When we tried to move him away, he went to his mother and lied, telling her that we tried to choke him. Didn't even touch his neck. Now we're finally bringing the issue up to our Pastor
I've seen both types. The "My little poopsykins wouldn't do that" and "I don't give a shit what my kid does, if he kills someone I don't care". We have just a society with narcissism going rampant.
This shit is so true! Shitty parents are the worst! I remember being at back yard bbqs and there’s always a shitty POS kid. I went to one one time where this couples little boy had a toy sword and was going around hitting ADULTS with it and the kid came up to me and tried it and I said “woah bud we don’t do that” and my now ex talked to me outside and was like “you really offended his parents because they raise him a certain way they want to raise him” and I’m like “let’s leave. I am not being hit with a stupid toy sword and neither should anyone else” wtf raises there kids to have no respect or boundaries???
That permissive parenting for ya. These people believe parenting is about making sure your kid is ALWAYS happy. But see, the think is, when parents do that, the kid becomes a little moster and then grows up to be a massive prick. I know. I had ADULT FRIENDS who act like that spoiled brat you had to deal with at backyard BBQ. Worst. People. Ever. They were so rude and disrespectful. They have kids themselves. They are neglectful like their parents.
Gosh that sounds like a nightmare. This child will grow up with no friends and won't even know why nobody wants to spend time with him. There is nothing worse than the parents who think they're some kind of second coming of Jesus but instead they're just ruining their kids life.
A lot of the problems in society (drunk guy, shitty parents & kids) is because there are no consequences anymore. People are even too afraid to say anything to people who get out of line, let alone give them the beat down they deserve.
How about a kid is at a small crowded park here in Philly just throwing a frisbee with disregard for children and adults. He almost hit me. He almost hit a few people. I take the kids frisbee and tell him he can't just throw the frisbee without looking at where it's going and if he does it again I will talk to his parent. Then the dad sees me and half walks over. "did he hit you?" he asks. I told him that his son almost hit a lot of people, but not intentionally. The father had been watching everything, by the way. He tells the son, "hey, watch it with the frisbee" then sits back down on a bench. The boy picks the frisbee up and hurls it vertically. I catch it before it hits someone. So I take action. I already talked to the dad. I already took the frisbee once. I look at the kid and say, "come over here and let me show you how to throw this". Then I proceed to teach him how to throw the frisbee the proper way, which is probably what he wanted to do with his dad in the first place. I did this for ten minutes while my kids played on the monkey bars. The dad still didn't get the message,. but I did what I had to do.
Ned’s parents were neglectful hipsters, but Ned took a radical treatment which involved being spanked for a whole summer straight. The treatment was a success except for the fact that Ned was for the most part unable to display anger. Just a fun Simpsons fact
I understand the mentality that parents should be present to raise their kids, rather than focusing solely on a career or recreation, but I had a mom that didn't work a day in her life. All she did was stay home and hover over my brother and I. This caused a lot of resentment in her which she usually took out on us. She had other issues too, like a traumatic childhood. But I think it's important to strike a balance between your own needs and raising your kid(s), otherwise it becomes unhealthy and creates a lot of negative energy that your kid is going to feel. Not saying it's easy, being a parent is probably one of the toughest things to do. But I think spending too much time worrying about your kids can be just as bad as not spending enough. Make the time you spend with them count and lead by example by taking care of your own needs too.
Yeah that's unfortunate that's why I think it's based to try to solve some of those internal problems before u have children and know your weakness and strengths
I don't know if this is just me, but “disciplining a child” became taboo where I live. Telling kids “no” makes me look like a monster where I live. I'm not saying I do that, but because I discipline my kids and they are not allowed to be picky eaters, many parents see me as a horrible mom who doesn't love my kid the “right way.”
It’s not hard, almost everyone “practices” murder daily. If you drive a car you can murder a pedestrian walking across the street. Almost anything you do can result in an accidental murder.
I had a coach who was a dickhead. He treated me like shit. We lived in a small rural town so everyone knew everyone. When the coach quite my father saw him at the local store and told him if he ever got close enough to him to get a hold of him he would kill him. I only found out later when I was in the car with my dad going back to that little store and said, why is the coach running to his car like a girl. My dad so casually says well I told him I would kill him if I got close enough to him. I was always a daddy's girl, but that day I when just how much he loved me back.
My father is a narcissist, he was highly abusive my whole life. After 36 years, I decided to go “no contact”. I told my mother, not to tell me when he’s dead, I won’t be attending his funeral.
SmashFinale - Yes, but if I delay my happiness until that date, I’ll have wasted my life too. I’ve already buried him, psychologically. I’ve accepted I’ll never have the opportunity to experience the love of a father, and all the positive flow on consequences that would have come with that. So I’ve said “goodbye” to what could have been, and accepted 100% what is.
Dan0101010101010 Thats what I don’t quite understand. I would want better for my kids, I want them to grow up with a father and to have things I never had. How does this mindset become anything but the norm?
Soooooooooo many people have kids who are in no way ready or committed enough to raise them. Everyone wants to have kids and take cute pictures of them when they are babies/toddlers, but few consider the constant supervision and interaction necessary to raise them right.
My mom had a kid at 18 . Then had me at 32 worse mistake ever. Teen moms never grow up okay? She’s 58 now still the same. My older sibling been left the family. I’m stuck.
Sounds like my mom. She has had been a mother figure in her life since the age of 8 or 12, basically her mom killed her self and she was stuck being the only daughter with 5 brothers. To this day she’s very self centered and childish on a lot of things and i cut ties with her after she yelled at my fiancé’s young sibling (8 y/o) about not paying attention and called him fat ass and stupid. when I confronted her and asked her why can’t she just see how happy my girl makes me and being that I was depressed for a while you’d think she’s shove her ego to the side and be happy for us. nope. she said how I’m ungrateful cuz she let me use her car when I moved out, (mainly complaining about how many miles I put on it, which is about 12K I’m over a years time, I live in miluwakee and would drive to Chicago to see her and other family) Anyways we now hardly talk and although yeah I miss her and wish we could have a great relationship, she’s just too immature and stuck in this self centered mindset where it’s super toxic and I don’t have the deal with that, it’s the greatest feeling ever.
Teachers deal with parents like that multiple times a day every day of the week. You can watch a kid have a complete breakdown, physically assault another child and/or adult and their parents will say "not my kid" or "they never do this at home". The worst though is when you know the home life for the kid is dangerous but calling CPS only brings retribution on the kids from their "guardian"
Spend time with your kids. If not they will be 18 before you know it and they will be gone. My shitty parents had me at 17. Hate my mom and sister, no communication. Talk to Dad on birthdays and major holidays. That is not a family. Every aspect of my life suffers from the trauma I still carry from no one giving a shit while I was growing up
Daniel Lion Yeah, same here. Divorced family, mom was bipolar so I lived with Dad. Dad got married to a Cali blonde and realized she was an idiot. He became disillusioned with his life and didn't participate in our lives at all.
Daniel Lion Know what that feels like. I have a shitty dad, but my bros (some) and sisters learned not to fuck up like he did. It happens and unfortunately we have to go through it. But I will be test in the future if I have kids, whether to be like my dad or be better.
bully parents should be treated as we treat other types of child abusers.. they belong on a register and honestly would be best served living in a secure sheletered acommodation .. defeinitely should never be employed in management or government jobs
Dude I love the part where the security guard just completely ignored the whole situation once he seen Joe I bet he just lit up with happiness while some dude getting choked tf out lmaooo
My sister threw a house party with some friends, most of whom she met at a pregnant Mom's club or whatever, so they all had kids the same age (2). Everyone was kind of watching out for everyone's kids, but also socializing and drinking indoors and in the yard. One kid just starts peeing all over the living room, and absolutely every single Mom pitches in to get him and the room cleaned up, EXCEPT the parents of the kid, who just stayed out in the yard. I think they even said something about this happening before, and then casually went on with their evenings. They weren't invited to any more parties.
I love how he describes his entire human thought process. “If I didn’t look at him as a human”- like the growth is too obvious for words. That’s why I respect him.
I work in an elementary school with kids who need additional support and if people just tried harder at being parents and actually spent time teaching their kids the basics at home, the kids wouldn't have so much trouble in school.
While, it's no doubt that the weight gain and other funky physical feelings from the medication on top of the heartless bullying are creating an unpleasant experience for your little brother. But may I suggest that his change in personality could be from the fact that your little brother had a major existential experience. Think about it, he had to face the reality of death at such a young age. Very few people ever even muse on death during adulthood. He must have some very deep thoughts and very confusing feelings over it. He needs to talk about that experience and sort out his thoughts over it. It takes a lot of work to be able to articulate them well for an adult, imagine how hard that is for a kid. The silver lining in this is that a difficult experience like that, at an early age, is the hallmark of brilliant artists, writers, poets, innovators, philosophers. A sketch book is a good place to start. Images can express things you can't put words to yet. Sketchbooks can also be used to record phrases which you can begin to piece together as the years go on. I had a very difficult childhood due to chronic health issues that led to severe bullying and chaotic family life, and I have stacks and stacks of notebooks, sketchbooks, photography albums. Life sucked, but I have turned it into an advantage.
I used to work as a substitute teacher in government school and also as a tutor in tuition centres. I'm amazed to see that most parents expect their children to learn about everything just because they are being sent to school. And I'm also surprised to see that most of the teachers here (not all, of course) expect those students to be taught in one way system.
I grew up in a household where my mom was angry 24/7, she’d yell, throw things, grab me, hit me, destroy and rummage through my room multiple times a day while my dad just sat there drunk and watched. Maybe a halfhearted “stop!” from the other room while he read the paper. Life was rough. Just recently got out of a 6 year mental downward spiral. I’ve had to pull myself out of every hole I’ve ever been in. I know other kids have had worse childhoods but for growing up in the suburbs it was pretty shit. I didn’t even realize I had been abused until last year.
Ankur Mudugu It’s difficult to love a child who probably has emotional issues because his/her biological parents abandoned him or her or lost them. It’s tough.
100% agree with you... most people nowadays think housewife’s are a sexist thing but it’s 1000% beneficial for the kids and also for the father who might have a career
Cameron Fletcher it doesn’t necessarily have to be a stay at home mom. Women can have successful careers while the dad takes care of the children. Generally though it’s super beneficial for the kid to have a parent around majority of the time
I once helped this little boy, maybe 3 or 4, who was lost on the beach. He was crying and following me, apparently the tide had carried him further down the beach than he should have been and he didn't know where he was. I was bringing him to the life guard when the guard met me half way and took him. Maybe an hour later I was walking on the beach and saw the boy again. His mom was asleep and her kids were running around unwatched. Great parenting, really safe. Your kid could have been dead or kidnapped and you don't even leave the beach after he's found. You fall asleep to let it happen again. Great.
Yknow i remember being in that situation when I was quite young. I believe it was a nice old lady who had helped me out. You never really think of these things as a kid but my mother and her boyfriends were not good parents. Not parents at all really.
The one guy from Triggernometry recently said “you don’t truly become an adult until you have a child.” One of the most ridiculous things I ever heard.
I was on a flight once with two kids next to me and I tell no lie........ their mother gave them a microphone attached to a speaker system so that they could practice public speaking. Those kids drove our section crazy and the section behind that could also hear them crazy. Then the flight attendant walked up and said sorry but you are disturbing everyone and the mother said but how could his little voice be annoying to anyone. Five minutes later, the pilot said we were landing in another city and they got kicked off the plane !
WTF, parents bought the tickets for themselves in a business class and threw their kids into the coach, seriously???? Those parents ought to be thrown off the plane screaming!
Gordon Ramsay the chef you might be referring to His rationale for going business and sending kids to coach was not cruelty it's simple , they don't earn money yet and they will appreciate the difference when they do. He's not leaving a baby there just kids who are behaving themselves.
My dad pulled a gun on me tonight. I'm a 54-year-old man visiting him with my son and all he does is scream and put us down. I told him that I'm not putting up with that and you have been doing this my entire life. he simply cannot take any criticism at all in any small manner, he went to get his gun after telling me "I need to be put down and shot"… Obviously we got the fuck out of there. But it just crystallized my life and why I've had so many screwups!
“It is easier to build strong children than it is to repair broken men.” - Frederick Douglas
P u s s a a y
@@user-ne1tb2cm4d yeah we know you are one. Don't feel bad. It's ok.
Douglass*
Pretty sure that is the philosophy of the Catholic Church.
I agree with that statement until you realize its usually broken men trying to raise boys to men, especially nowadays. So what do you do if the children grow up to be brokenly strong?
This guy's face looks like those disguise glasses.
Holy shit 😂
LOL dayum
Groucho Marx
Jay S underrated comment
LMFAO😂😂😂
Whole generation of men who abandoned their children, all of my friends including me were raised by our mothers. And our dads are full of excuses and nonsense and expecting everything but did none of the actual work.
I’m in my early 20s and it’s nice to see most of my family members my age haven’t abandoned their kids, but one of my close cousins lowkey did. I’m not having kids anytime soon until I’m healed from father issues/ find a good partner. If either doesn’t happen I’m not gonna have kids Lol I’m not trying to raise more emotionally messed up human beings. Or atleast be the reason they need to take years to figure out how to be healthy individuals
What about a whole generation of men who are trapped into marriage and then divorce hut still not abandoning their children? Nice generalization about men overall btw maybe it's all the s***** mothers and wives that drive men away. And a girl being raised by a bunch of women? Can you say radical feminist when she grows up? And you wonder where all the good men have gone? gtfo
Same here, except my mother was there for me up until I was 14, then forsook me, and then entirely abandoned me at 18. My father had utter bull shit to tell me when I asked him why he wasn't there for me. He blamed my mom and everything. My father still isn't here for me. He's a deadbeat.
Did you guys actually talk to your fathers about what really happened?? Maybe the mother alienated you from your dad
@@shadowdoglaw257happens all the time. It's conditioned from sociality. The system is designed to remove the father. Eventually the mother will get removed as well. Then the children will be free of any parents and than can be sex trafficked . That's the direction USA is heading. Because USA sex trafficking children
Being a good parent is hard because you have to find the perfect balance of making sure your kid doesn’t hurt the world, but not at the extent that you end up hurting your kid.
Most parents aren’t good though, just decent.
Precisely. It’s a constant tip toe on the fine line between the two. 😫
such is life. EVERYTHING is balance. part of me wants kids part of me does not. i have dogs. and that can be a handful enough.
Your a bad parent lol
Dude getting choked out
*OMG ARE YOU JOE ROGAN??*
Priorities, man. Priorities.
“Can I get a picture bro?” 😂
Or is he Roe Jogen? the world may never know
Myem this would most likely be my reaction too lmao
Literally me if I was the security guard
Childhood is the most important part of a person's life. It all starts with Childhood.
i'm about as non religious as one can be. in fact to say i'm not a fan of god is an understatement. that being said after hearing some radio interviews with Neale Donald Walsch i decided to read The Complete Conversations With God series. fucking amazing! highly recommend it. one of the topics discussed was parenting and how in evolved societies children are raised by the community as a whole, especially by the elders. granted, their entire set up is different than what we've created. anyway, it makes sense children will be raised better by a large group of elders. this doesn't mean the parents are cut off from the children or have zero input, but it does mean children are raised with a great awareness and realize there is more to the world than just what's in front of them. think about it. if humans took care of themselves, barring an accident or crime we could easily live past 100 and be basically healthy. a little slower physically with some aches and pains, but by and large functioning at a decent level. yet our most fertile ages are teens-30's. do you see the problem? most people reproducing haven't lived enough life to competently raise their offspring.
use punctuation please
@@johnmckeown6573 stfu
Yea, no shit Confucius
Shayne that's actually an amazing statement, because it's so obvious that it is overlooked in parenting, children's aid services, adoption, people's early life trauma as a real societal cost, etc.
When people talk about having to *become an adult* at four or six years or some too-early age, they are not kidding. They actually lost a important part of their life that they will always try to functionally compensate for, this thing that they're missing inside. It's stressful and frustrating.
I remember once as a kid I was at a party where my parents and all the other adults were drinking. I stepped barefoot on a rusty nail, got it stuck in my foot, bleeding all over the place and went up to my drunk parents where were talking with the other adults and it took over a minute to get their attention. This is something I’ll never forget
My dad would get drunk and come after me and my brother with a BB gun. Every weekend. It just sucks I can’t say this in person to new people I meet to make them understand why I got some issues. But on the bright side my daughter lives a happy safe life.
@@billehbutcha6625 well don’t be edgy about it. Obviously you can’t go around yelling ur ducked up. Go to the proper place… and not every psychologist is the same. Sometimes finding the right therapist is it’s own damn trauma and journey too. Good luck to you fellow human
Maybe wear some shoes 🤷♂️ 😂
you see cocksuckers like this guy like to make jokes^ let the pain mold you better not break you. Fuck everyone that doesnt understand
@@billehbutcha6625 I’m sorry that happened to you. That’s awful.
Parenting needs to be a mandatory highschool class, too many people grow up never completely emotionally or mentally stable and a decent bit of it is fixable with relatively small changes in how one addresses parenting.
Never thought of that. That’s a really good idea. The reason society is becoming more and more hedonistic is because people children are being neglected rather than taught or disciplined. People are so unaware that without teaching the order to the youth the chaos arises.
Who gets to decide what is and what isn't good parenting?
@@ButterBallTheOpossum Fulfilling basic needs is a neutral one, emotional, physical and obviously nutrition. How to kickstart there learning.
@@ButterBallTheOpossum like I said relatively small changes, not "radically forcing all parents to use my ideals" as in "please don't do x,y and z and please do a, b and c if you want your child to grow up without long standing psychological issues"
@@ButterBallTheOpossum Exactly. With the stuff they're pushing in schools now, if they started a parenting class it would be about how to transition your 1 year old
Joe “I Practice Murder On a Daily Basis” Rogan
Barry B Benson “I just murder a punching bag or run up hills” 😂😂 I’m fucking done
That's a great line
*Y O U L I K E J A Z Z*
Shut up, 🅱️arry 🅱️ 🅱️enson.
Courtie Shay it’s funny every time
Imagine the dad watching Joe rogan absolutely roast the shit out of him on a personal level in front of millions of people.
Someone with their head that far up their ass has no idea that Joe is talking about themself. There's some serious dunning-kruger going on. The worst part of the whole story is that that cunt thinks that he's a good dad while his kid goes around getting addicted to heroin and punching other kids. Like you're right, there's justice, and it's always good that everyone knows that that's a bad dad, but bad dad has no idea.
You know that guy, the Dad feels like a total piece of shit after this show.
Now he'll probably changes ways and at the very least he'll think twice about letting his kid run wild at a social gathering
Liked because Tool :)
I gave your 1000 like lol
The Benevolent Sun: parents like that, don't give a shit. They just defend their kid no matter what, and teach their kid that they're better than other people. The apple doesn't fall far from the tree.
My dad was a drill sergeant. I have autism.
He literally thought making me homeless would cure my autism.
It makes me cry to think how many disabled kids are neglected.
sorry, man. hope you're doing well now.
@@bpaajcisna5595 im good now. Honestly, government programs to help autistic people are improving
Government programs for disabled americans are a good thing.
Prevention is the cure. Autism is hereditary. tell your old man that.
I was a store manager for 25 years with a major retailer. I really liked my career, even though at times it could be “retail hell”. Some of the worst times was with some of the “upper middle class non working, hubby makes a ton of money” moms. Super entitled attitudes that allowed their little spawns of Satan to tear the store apart while running and yelling down the aisles; like it was their own personal indoor playground, and me feeling forced to babysit while Mrs. Entitled turned a blind eye and deaf ear to the goings on. Dealing with that type of parent was an exercise in restraint from not slapping the moms and kicking the kids. You current and ex retail folks know exactly what I mean.
Don't you just wish you could print a photo of those people and tack them up in a front window "Banned from store for being a shit parent."
In costco canada the muslin mothers let their 7 year old sons run around and injured themselves from climbing and then the mom demands for a doctor in Canada. I laughed in her face , told her to go to front and ask for an ambulance or some first aid from the box
@@whathandleUtalkabtI’ve seen that. Ethnic moms with multiple children. In my mind, I’m thinking of the family as a zoo and the mom’s a zoo keeper. I should not have to put up with their wild kids.
work at a toy store rn, some of the people are insane.
Stop being like the parents yourself and blaming the kids. Kids are never to blame. It IS ALWAYS the fault of the parents and adults. You are part of the problem we have in society - a disdain and hatred for children.
Imagine being Drunk and you unknowingly pick a fight with a professional MMA fighter.
Rich B that dude probably doesn’t even remember if he thought these guys were in his place
Always look at someone's ears before starting a fight
TAIT Fletcher
its not that bad. when you are drunk, you dont notice the pain in stuff like that. Idk if its like that sober too but when I got beat while drunk and high as fuck and it didnt even hurt
"Dunk". You clearly ARE drunk. Lol
Childhood abuse includes neglect, not just physical abuse. Thanks for this clip.
William Robinson agree! Some kids actually behave like shit because that’s the only way they will get attention at all.
Boxing Supraves a) I wrote „some“ children and b) neglect IS a form of child abuse
Boxing Supraves neglect IS abuse. no one said shit about not paying attention to your kids for short periods of time. he said NEGLECT
Neglect is how your kid ends up getting molested or worse
You forgot narcissistic abuse.
I grew up with neglectful parents . . yes I was provided shelter and the bare minimums of education ect.. I just think if your going to have children and attain the "bare minimum" for them you should not have children at all.
You must have your own issues sorted and have a degree of financial freedom, and a strong sense of self to have children. You must be able to adapt to change and deal appropriately when situations arise.
I strongly despise those that have children without any recognition of the above.
I hear you and I agree 1000%! I also want to take things a bit further and have this enforced by law.
Ditto.
same here, hope you’ve healed. I’ve been working on it for years
I never had even a one minute conversation with either of my parents through 18 years under my father's roof. My father never touched me except to punish me.I can't remember even one hug from my mother. I do rememember her slapping my face and saying "you're hysterical" when i complained one time about my brother who bullied me for years , and told me once that every morning when he woke up he planned how he could ruin my day.
We lived in the middle of no where and for 6 years i never saw another child except at school.
All the kids there were german and related to each other and went to the same church. They had no interest in me. In 1970 i went to basic at fort Leonardwood, no one was there to say goodbye. I was surprised that other "trainees" got letters, i didn't.
5 years later i joined the Navy, also during the Vietnam war, because i was homeless and had nothing to eat. I was released about 14 months later with a diagnosis of schyzophrenia and sent to the same govt. hospital that an aunt of mine had spent her life in alone with the same disease. Some how my mother knew i was there and came and bitched about my father divorcing her and then left.
I never saw another family member again to this day. There's plenty more to my story of unbelievable suffering because no one in my family cared if i lived or died. But God cared and healed me instantly may 10 of 2017. Now,4 years later i am finally a human being again after 50 years of never knowing for sure what was going on around me. I'm beginning to live for the first time at age 70, but i may not live very long?
If there's one good thing in your life your much better off than millions of people with schyzophrenia who can't even comprehend let alone receive any warm feeling that we call love.
This is a late reply so maybe you’ll never read this but I just wanted to say that I’m really sorry that you had to go through all of this in your life but I’m glad that you’re glad that you finally have become a living person again and I hope you have more years to get to experience whatever it is that you never felt you did all this time before. Good luck, friend, I hope you can continue to find more in this world that helps you feel human and wanted. I struggle with feeling loved too and am also trying to do better!
Hi Daniel, thanks for sharing your experience. I am so sorry for what you had to go through. Nobody deserves that kind of treatment.
I hope you find peace in your life by really healing from those experiences. How is your experience with schizophrenia now? Would like to hear from you. It is all about love, and that is the fundamental of evolving as a person.
Thanks 🙏 for Sharing, You're a brave man indeed
When a parent’s trauma overrides their ability to think, their children will experience the fallout.
So damn true
Absolutely 💯 👍👏
Yep that’s fs
so fkin true
Absolutely! Physical adults with emotional intelligence of 10 year olds. Unresolved childhood traumas
“He’s fine don’t call the cops”.
Dumping body in nearby river.
Underrated
Liz Marian Torres seriously
@G H hydrochloric acid to be exact.
G H don’t use the bathtub doe
@@saturatedneowax ayyyy
Fortunately raised a really good young man, and although I made my share of mistakes, the one thing I did right was spend a ton of time with him. He spent more time with me than he did with his friends, and I loved every moment of it.
The worst parents are the ones that disconnect from the world when their kids scream and cry and make a ruckus and they don't even try to discipline them, it frustrates me!
Some people should seriously never be parents. Sorry he is a good kid isn't a solution.
And then there's still the debate over abortion...
And I’d argue the vast majority of people who should never have become parents knew that before having kids. But they were careless, overly image conscious, thought it was the natural next step, or any number of other reasons except wanting to raise and love children so they become good adults.
@J M Well aren't we being a bit self-righteous. Religions kill people, therefore religious people are murderous maniacs by default?
@J M That's a welcome change in tone. I know it's not an easy topic, and I've been there as well. The difference is whether it's a personal choice and right to do it or that it should be flat out denied for everyone, regardless of religious view, etc..
@J M It's impossible to offend me with facts, and it's extremely rare to see such reflecting online these days, such as what you did. I wish more people were like us. Now, have a good day, sir.
Parents need to remember that you can't expect a child to come up to your level. You have to come down to theirs. Kids only know what they've learned up to that day. No life skills or experiences to draw from.
I respectfully disagree. Kids rise to the level that you set for them.
Very well said! How will a kid know a complex solution that only comes with life experiences? We forget that there is very little solutions at that young of an age experience. That’s why we have to be there for them to help them figure out those more complex solutions.
Stephanie Zimbalist lol yeah sure however you wanna say that, but they won’t be on your level 😂 their fuxking kids , you ducking look after them
Short of the child having learning disabilities, children rise to the level that you expect of them.
Stephanie Zimbalist if you put too much pressure on kids though, which a lot of parents do, they work themselves too hard to reach that level
I’m not one to feel sorry for myself, but I grew up in a really neglectful environment, as did my mum. Then breaking that cycle of behaviour has been the hardest thing ever.
Love your kids people - give them affection, guidance, be a great example to them. Take the time to listen to what they want to tell you, and try to answer their questions. I know it’s frustrating but it will pay off in the end. ✌🏻
I was on a vacation recently and the people next door in the resort had a kid that was about 6 or so, and he shouted and yelled at the parents, and basically treated his parents like garbage. I overheard the parents talking next to our shared wall with a connecting door that was locked (so easy to hear everything without trying and sitting anywhere in our room) and the mom was telling the dad he needs to do something about their son. His response “I’m on vacation.” The mom spent about an hour each morning and another each night “explaining” to the kid how he is not acting properly and should behave because there are “others staying at the resort” and the kid would just holler and scream at her. He seemed to be normal kid whenever we saw him outside in the public areas, so doubtful he had any medical issues as they ate at a table next to us one night and he seemed just like a regular kid then, and also when at the swimming pool. Whenever we’d run into them coming in/out of the rooms the mom would apologize for her kid. When you have kids and you take them with you anywhere, you are still a parent 1st. It took a lot of restraint to not chew the parents ass out, especially the slug of a dad. But I figured they’d have enough problems in a few more years as that kid will run wild over them because he basically already was.
Sounds like the mom is a married single parent. Kids need their dads.
The best part is there's a good chance the guy he's talking about has seen this.
Lmao which guy? 😂
Milo McCabe the coach who tf else
@@wallinggriffin multiple unknown guys getting fucked in the video though
@@wallinggriffin but yes ik it's the coach
Plot twist: its you
Joe to Security: "Everything is gonna be okay, he's just gonna choke him out."
I DIED. Hahahaha.
I hope he gets sued... im facing 3. felonies. for only. saying. something to. someone who wouldnt leave me alone... but dudes can get away with blood chokes? wtf tho
Carl James that wasn’t a blood choke lmao he put him to sleep because he was drunk and threatening them lol
OhLeahLRae call me gurl dayum
Same haha
“And then I took pictures with them.” Dead hahahaha
Yeah. I do find it ridiculous that normal people would be pushed or yelled at . But since they recognized joe, people have a habit of just saying it’s cool . Wait till this happens to you. You’ll be pissed if your facing felonies for some drunk that wouldn’t fuck off .
That’s one thing that seriously infuriates me, when you literally see something happen and someone looks you right in the face & says it didn’t happen 🤬
This genuinely opened a lot of thoughts for me having a single mom that had to work and an army uncle who I looked up to, I can now call my dad at this stage of my life
nice. i had a single mom to. but no real male figure to look up to. now i am learning what is to be a good male role model for myself and others. on my own. self made man as they say. but i do thank my mom even if she had to work. she still made time fo rme. but she can't teach u everything
"There is nothing I can do, my kid wont stop eating all the sugar I give him"
Road Man this is the most important part to understand, kids will take everything you give them, not just food.
I've tried nothing and I'm all out of ideas!
@@zach_bot8210 what do you mean?
@@thishandleistaken1011 Kids don't often have control to reject negative influences, it's the parents' job to prevent/minimise these and teach them to reject them.
Neglectful parents feed negative influences and it becomes the only thing these kids know.
Basically my parents when I was growing up
I've grown up with a shitty childhood, and i've seen far too many kids being raised by neglective and abusive parents. I absolutely refuse to be anything less than a good father to my kids. I just wish more people shared the same attitude.
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@@amadeuschavez. you're thick.
I’ve been raised with a shitty childhood too. I’m a mom now and I never neglect my 6 month old baby boy. I’m gonna make it my mission to make sure he has a good childhood and won’t experience what I’ve experienced, because I don’t want him to be depressed at such a young age.
Not saying anything about you specifically cause I don’t know you but most terrible parents would say they are good parents
Yes my parents were so great..they taught me how to NOT treat my children.
I never had kids but I have to say, if I did, I would spend TIME with them and discipline them. It HAS to be that way! Biggest things I'd teach? Respect, good manners, self-esteem and general politeness. I gush over a polite kid.
so true. same with me. about everything u said. i don't have kids yet. idk if i will. but i cant help but smile when a little kid has manners.
there’s so many bad things about a parent being emotionally and physically abusive, but there’s also those type of parents who are in denial about their kid’s bad behavior. this type of parenting allows their children to think that they can truly get away with anything they do or so because their parents will be the first to protect them. i can feel joe’s anger when he talked about the dad and son situation, i have guy cousin who is now 18-19 and his outcome from his mom’s bad parenting is truly what i expected for it to be. everyone in my family dislikes him because he barely faced any consequences from harming others. he went as far as sa a younger cousin of mine and his mom still defended him and try to denied that he would never do such thing even though when he was in elementary school he would always annoy a girl he had a crush on (and yes the girl made multiple complains to school about his behavior and nothing was done about because of his mom) it’s bad parenting like this that boils my blood because all the awful things my cousin did to others could’ve been avoided if it wasn’t for him mother.
And in denial about their own behaviour
Ive been a lifeguard for 2 years now. The job should be renamed to toddler guard because we're basically baby sitters
I chose to swim independently as I got into teen years and etc but yeah its sad what society is
I'm glad you do something about it though. At a wavepool, a kid was struggling so they were on the edge of the wavepool. The lifeguard blew their whistle to tell the kid to get off. I know you can't hang on the edge but that's why you help them get off and take them to a part of the pool that they are safe in.
John Atanassov I was a lifeguard as well, if no parent is in the pool you’re free to kick the kid out. If theres a parent around you’re free to kick them both out for something as simple as the parent not watching their kid or the kid not following rules. You have a lot more power than you think!
Oh man. When I was a guard, it was very easy to spot the bad parents. They're on their phones ignoring their kids, occasionally looking up to smile at them, and then looking back down at the magical glowing rectangle. And these are the same people who wonder why their kids act out so much. smh
Same. I was in college and I can't even tell you how many kids I saved whole moms were reading 50 shades of gray and getting a tan. I also had to brake up a bunch of fights between siblings.
I remember wanting to tell my parents things that made me happy or what I was excited about and had to bury it inside because they would destroy my happiness
Yep same here. Mine never taught me about credit, ownership of ANYTHING, just relied on strangers to teach me. Also when your doing better than them at a young age they find ways to still put you down. It’s that old school mentality they were so miserable back then
@@keanureeves9802 Word.
Living through that rn
I can understand that. I realized that when I was having a conversation with my parents, the conversation will always be one sided. They were busy talking, talking and talking that they don't even bother to listen to me. I literally give up on them.
In terms of skills, they are very bad at it. They don't know how to nail properly or to fix a simple thing etc. But.. they'll criticize me on everything as if they are the expert. My mother always criticizes my painting but she can't even do a simple drawing. Ironic.
@@keanureeves9802 word
I had shitty parents. They didn't drink, they didn't beat me or abuse me in any way. They just didn't love me, and this fucked me up badly.
Its even more confusing when they say they love you with words but their actions show the opposite. When I think of all the money I have had to spend on therapy to try to correct their wrongs it makes me so mad that I can't sue them to get my money back :(
@apopuffkin1717 I feel you bro. From the outside my parents look so nice and supportive, but they are empty and violent in ways that nobody understand.
When are such parents going to realise the seriousness of not bringing their children up with decency & respect, it’s massive & effects the rest of their lives.
I'm a teacher and deal with this all the time. The worst ones, 90% of the time I find out that the parents are absent from their lives. Don't have kids if you don't want to raise them. Babysitters and nannies are not a substitute for a parent.
A neighbor of mine, she could stay home and raise the kids because the dad makes $200,000 a year but works all day instead so she can “pay for the nanny and feel important”
I was freaking blessed enough to be able to stay home and raise my son for 10years, then get an IT job at a hospital whose hours worked perfectly with school, I had a wonderful provider husband (he and I were making the same income before I quit). We made sacrifices but made it work.
I thank my husband and the almighty for those times I got to spend with my son!!!
My wife is a teacher too and she tells me the same thing
FACTS!!!!!! I’m a sitter and I been through this not even a month ago worked for the family 2yrs and watched the defiant behavior progress from 2 to 4yrs old I was disrespected my home disrespected other children disrespected and I hear you can’t expect kids to be perfect everyday there was many excuses made for the behavior and each excuse upset me more to the point I was shaking therapy is definitely needed but apparently the parent doesn’t think so. I could go on and on it pisses me off so bad
@@vivianjones9749 Just thank your husband. There is no “almighty”
The biggest problem is the “he didn’t/wouldn’t do that” parents. Parents who enable their kids and refuse to believe they would ever do anything wrong.
Yes, that's true. They forgot that everyone has a multilayer personality. Just because your child behave in front of you, doesn't mean she'll do the same behind. This type of parents think their child as an angel. Most of my friends (not all, of course) are doing this with their toddlers. They just let their kids running here and there causing havoc and then claim that those kids will never hurt other people.
Been there with those parents.. Im straight with them. No one likes me lol
"Your youngest stole my girls doll, and I watched her throw it in that dumpster. You need to attend to that."
"She wouldnt do that. No way she did that."
"Listen, *what possible good reason would I have to lie to you about your child?* I saw it happened. And thats why we are talking now"
I'm actually dealing with that right now. On my Church's band, there's a woman with a 8 year old who's been pretty roundy for 3 years.
Whenever he plays drums, his timing and beat is way too sped up and when we try to tell him to slow down, his mother tells us to leave him alone. It messes up the flow and whenever our Pastor plays with us she doesn't do any of that. Even after we play, the mother tells the son 'Don't go around the other members. They're jealous of your gifts.'
I remember one Sunday me and my cousin were setting up for service and the kid came in messing with the sound system. When we tried to move him away, he went to his mother and lied, telling her that we tried to choke him. Didn't even touch his neck.
Now we're finally bringing the issue up to our Pastor
I've seen both types. The "My little poopsykins wouldn't do that" and "I don't give a shit what my kid does, if he kills someone I don't care".
We have just a society with narcissism going rampant.
same problem with dogs
This shit is so true! Shitty parents are the worst! I remember being at back yard bbqs and there’s always a shitty POS kid. I went to one one time where this couples little boy had a toy sword and was going around hitting ADULTS with it and the kid came up to me and tried it and I said “woah bud we don’t do that” and my now ex talked to me outside and was like “you really offended his parents because they raise him a certain way they want to raise him” and I’m like “let’s leave. I am not being hit with a stupid toy sword and neither should anyone else” wtf raises there kids to have no respect or boundaries???
That permissive parenting for ya. These people believe parenting is about making sure your kid is ALWAYS happy. But see, the think is, when parents do that, the kid becomes a little moster and then grows up to be a massive prick. I know. I had ADULT FRIENDS who act like that spoiled brat you had to deal with at backyard BBQ. Worst. People. Ever. They were so rude and disrespectful. They have kids themselves. They are neglectful like their parents.
Gosh that sounds like a nightmare. This child will grow up with no friends and won't even know why nobody wants to spend time with him. There is nothing worse than the parents who think they're some kind of second coming of Jesus but instead they're just ruining their kids life.
Left hook and i would win.
lol. back in the caveman days if a lil cub did that u could bop em on the head so they would learn NOT to do that.
@@banderas2000 I’ve raised a lot of kids and you’re 💯 right 😂
A lot of the problems in society (drunk guy, shitty parents & kids) is because there are no consequences anymore. People are even too afraid to say anything to people who get out of line, let alone give them the beat down they deserve.
How about a kid is at a small crowded park here in Philly just throwing a frisbee with disregard for children and adults. He almost hit me. He almost hit a few people. I take the kids frisbee and tell him he can't just throw the frisbee without looking at where it's going and if he does it again I will talk to his parent. Then the dad sees me and half walks over. "did he hit you?" he asks. I told him that his son almost hit a lot of people, but not intentionally. The father had been watching everything, by the way. He tells the son, "hey, watch it with the frisbee" then sits back down on a bench. The boy picks the frisbee up and hurls it vertically. I catch it before it hits someone. So I take action. I already talked to the dad. I already took the frisbee once. I look at the kid and say, "come over here and let me show you how to throw this". Then I proceed to teach him how to throw the frisbee the proper way, which is probably what he wanted to do with his dad in the first place. I did this for ten minutes while my kids played on the monkey bars. The dad still didn't get the message,. but I did what I had to do.
sea doo lol that's fucked up dude but you didake me laugh so I guess it's ok
i have a park next to my house, so many parents just sit there on their phones not playing with their kids
Gregory Everson google
NICE. SOME PEOPLE JUST DONT GET IT. WHEN THE KIDS GROWS UP AND IS TROUBLE THE PARENTS WONDER WHY. TIME FOR YOUR CHILDREN COSTS YOU NOTHING
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I didn´t know Ned Flanders was based on an actual person.
😂
🤣
Ned’s parents were neglectful hipsters, but Ned took a radical treatment which involved being spanked for a whole summer straight. The treatment was a success except for the fact that Ned was for the most part unable to display anger. Just a fun Simpsons fact
Ned kinda screwed his childrens social life tho
Looks more like millhouse tho
I understand the mentality that parents should be present to raise their kids, rather than focusing solely on a career or recreation, but I had a mom that didn't work a day in her life. All she did was stay home and hover over my brother and I. This caused a lot of resentment in her which she usually took out on us. She had other issues too, like a traumatic childhood. But I think it's important to strike a balance between your own needs and raising your kid(s), otherwise it becomes unhealthy and creates a lot of negative energy that your kid is going to feel. Not saying it's easy, being a parent is probably one of the toughest things to do. But I think spending too much time worrying about your kids can be just as bad as not spending enough. Make the time you spend with them count and lead by example by taking care of your own needs too.
Yeah that's unfortunate that's why I think it's based to try to solve some of those internal problems before u have children and know your weakness and strengths
it's a balance. lots of ppl need to practice balance .
I don't know if this is just me, but “disciplining a child” became taboo where I live. Telling kids “no” makes me look like a monster where I live.
I'm not saying I do that, but because I discipline my kids and they are not allowed to be picky eaters, many parents see me as a horrible mom who doesn't love my kid the “right way.”
If I was a kid & had to pick which Mum I had to have in that place, I’d choose you. Like choosing a starter Pokemon.
Raising kids properly is not an easy Job. It’s a daily job.
"I practice murder on a daily basis...." 😂 True story of martial artists 😂
So true.
Except Steven Seagal ....
It’s not hard, almost everyone “practices” murder daily. If you drive a car you can murder a pedestrian walking across the street. Almost anything you do can result in an accidental murder.
I had a coach who was a dickhead. He treated me like shit. We lived in a small rural town so everyone knew everyone. When the coach quite my father saw him at the local store and told him if he ever got close enough to him to get a hold of him he would kill him. I only found out later when I was in the car with my dad going back to that little store and said, why is the coach running to his car like a girl. My dad so casually says well I told him I would kill him if I got close enough to him. I was always a daddy's girl, but that day I when just how much he loved me back.
I could watch this all day because it’s soooo accurate 😂
My father is a narcissist, he was highly abusive my whole life. After 36 years, I decided to go “no contact”. I told my mother, not to tell me when he’s dead, I won’t be attending his funeral.
I'm 17 , bet my father ,kicked the shit out of him now I'm alone and happy
You'll miss the chance to dance on his grave
SmashFinale - Yes, but if I delay my happiness until that date, I’ll have wasted my life too. I’ve already buried him, psychologically. I’ve accepted I’ll never have the opportunity to experience the love of a father, and all the positive flow on consequences that would have come with that. So I’ve said “goodbye” to what could have been, and accepted 100% what is.
Me neither. Mine is an alcoholic abusive piece of shit, my mom is the same minus the alcohol. Some people shouldn't be parents.
Donato Doley - I agree, My father is also an alcoholic.
"I didn't have a good childhood so for me its important to be a good dad" - Joe Rogan: If only everyone had a good IQ and morals
Dan0101010101010 Thats what I don’t quite understand. I would want better for my kids, I want them to grow up with a father and to have things I never had. How does this mindset become anything but the norm?
Ramb0 many people are selfish, including myself
classic signs of immature and narcissistic parenting. it's a real thing. 🙏
My dad NEVER stood up for me and my brother so thank you for doing that for your son ❤
Soooooooooo many people have kids who are in no way ready or committed enough to raise them. Everyone wants to have kids and take cute pictures of them when they are babies/toddlers, but few consider the constant supervision and interaction necessary to raise them right.
They like the idea of kids but not the reality of them
They do the exact thing with dogs especially women
Kids having kids
@@ghost_of_jah5210 yes.. i know of a 17 year old who had a kid at 14. Now she is pregnant again.
@kevin pierson like, "yay for sex", right?-we ALL get that part. But geez...wrap it the fuck up gentlemen.
My mom had a kid at 18 . Then had me at 32 worse mistake ever. Teen moms never grow up okay? She’s 58 now still the same. My older sibling been left the family. I’m stuck.
Just stop talking to her or talk ti her less, problem averted
Set the example. Be motivated, driven, and accomplish your goals. But first things first, clean your damn room.
@@SilverShadow02 Jordan Peterson is a godsend
Sounds like my mom. She has had been a mother figure in her life since the age of 8 or 12, basically her mom killed her self and she was stuck being the only daughter with 5 brothers. To this day she’s very self centered and childish on a lot of things and i cut ties with her after she yelled at my fiancé’s young sibling (8 y/o) about not paying attention and called him fat ass and stupid. when I confronted her and asked her why can’t she just see how happy my girl makes me and being that I was depressed for a while you’d think she’s shove her ego to the side and be happy for us. nope. she said how I’m ungrateful cuz she let me use her car when I moved out, (mainly complaining about how many miles I put on it, which is about 12K I’m over a years time, I live in miluwakee and would drive to Chicago to see her and other family)
Anyways we now hardly talk and although yeah I miss her and wish we could have a great relationship, she’s just too immature and stuck in this self centered mindset where it’s super toxic and I don’t have the deal with that, it’s the greatest feeling ever.
Test Account adversity makes you stronger
Joe: “I stay calm by practicing murder on a daily basis”
“Blessed are the founding fathers… a nation reborn”😂
🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
Why do I hear sirens and final boss music?!?!?
@@hdhellion4128 LMFAO😆😆😆
Teachers deal with parents like that multiple times a day every day of the week. You can watch a kid have a complete breakdown, physically assault another child and/or adult and their parents will say "not my kid" or "they never do this at home". The worst though is when you know the home life for the kid is dangerous but calling CPS only brings retribution on the kids from their "guardian"
Joe "Everything's gonna be fine, he's just gonna choke him to sleep." Rogan
Spend time with your kids. If not they will be 18 before you know it and they will be gone. My shitty parents had me at 17. Hate my mom and sister, no communication. Talk to Dad on birthdays and major holidays. That is not a family. Every aspect of my life suffers from the trauma I still carry from no one giving a shit while I was growing up
Daniel Lion Yeah, same here. Divorced family, mom was bipolar so I lived with Dad. Dad got married to a Cali blonde and realized she was an idiot. He became disillusioned with his life and didn't participate in our lives at all.
Daniel Lion Know what that feels like. I have a shitty dad, but my bros (some) and sisters learned not to fuck up like he did. It happens and unfortunately we have to go through it. But I will be test in the future if I have kids, whether to be like my dad or be better.
USASPORTSCARDS man you just described my life
You doing ok man?
Same here. To the point where there's hardly food in the house. I'm so tired
Whose the Tate guy ? Andrew and Tristan ?? I'm confused
Tait Fletcher
There's all kinds of shifty parents
Definitely and some people will try to use its hard being a parent as an excuse for being a bad parent it's really stupid
Security guard having a mild celebrity crush moment while a guy gets choked to sleep.
I got reccomended a couple joe rogan clips, then i started watching the whole podcasts, now my entire youtube feed is down the j hole
The j hole is a fucking hilarious way to put it but it's accurate
Mungo Jerrymungo 😆😆😆😆😆😆
Godam.get a life
@@jordanrodriguez6412 no
That’s how we all started out. Now we are stuck and can’t get out but I’m happy here
bully parents should be treated as we treat other types of child abusers.. they belong on a register and honestly would be best served living in a secure sheletered acommodation .. defeinitely should never be employed in management or government jobs
Dude I love the part where the security guard just completely ignored the whole situation once he seen Joe I bet he just lit up with happiness while some dude getting choked tf out lmaooo
When a parent says "That never happens" almost 100% it happened.
My sister threw a house party with some friends, most of whom she met at a pregnant Mom's club or whatever, so they all had kids the same age (2). Everyone was kind of watching out for everyone's kids, but also socializing and drinking indoors and in the yard.
One kid just starts peeing all over the living room, and absolutely every single Mom pitches in to get him and the room cleaned up, EXCEPT the parents of the kid, who just stayed out in the yard. I think they even said something about this happening before, and then casually went on with their evenings.
They weren't invited to any more parties.
Wow drinking alcohol in the presence of a bunch of children?? 👏
MEanME this story is true, I was the piss
Yooo, I was the living room!
@@stickerlady1774 sadly alot of people
@@stickerlady1774 doesi t matter?
I love how he describes his entire human thought process. “If I didn’t look at him as a human”- like the growth is too obvious for words. That’s why I respect him.
I did everything in my power to make sure I raised my kids properly. I succeeded
Biggest pet peeve is shitty parenting, you need to find that balance of being a friend and still guiding and disciplining them
No actually, you don't need to be your kids friend.
If not a friend, the parent needs to see that the child is a human being and not an object.
MOOD FM Child although I'm 21 haha
Blessed with great parents
Discipline the fucking shit out of em.
A jamaican lady told me "Busy White people are terrible parents" 🤣🤣
So are busy black parents. Or asian parents. Or busy Zeta Reticulan parents.
@@Blexxor12 fuck those white parents in particular though
@@cjpccelerity29 why? Because they're white? You fucking ignorant swine
@@Nikki_Iguess I think he was joking
@@Nikki_Iguess he's being sarcastic to guy who took a funny quote to seriously. Grow up keyboard warrior 🤣👏
"I practice murder on a daily basis" that's definitely gonna be taken out of context lol
Haha yeah watch the animated version
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sometimes children deserve parents but parents don't deserve children
"All he does is (proceeds to explain a mortal kombat combo)"
I work in an elementary school with kids who need additional support and if people just tried harder at being parents and actually spent time teaching their kids the basics at home, the kids wouldn't have so much trouble in school.
While, it's no doubt that the weight gain and other funky physical feelings from the medication on top of the heartless bullying are creating an unpleasant experience for your little brother. But may I suggest that his change in personality could be from the fact that your little brother had a major existential experience.
Think about it, he had to face the reality of death at such a young age. Very few people ever even muse on death during adulthood. He must have some very deep thoughts and very confusing feelings over it. He needs to talk about that experience and sort out his thoughts over it. It takes a lot of work to be able to articulate them well for an adult, imagine how hard that is for a kid. The silver lining in this is that a difficult experience like that, at an early age, is the hallmark of brilliant artists, writers, poets, innovators, philosophers. A sketch book is a good place to start. Images can express things you can't put words to yet. Sketchbooks can also be used to record phrases which you can begin to piece together as the years go on. I had a very difficult childhood due to chronic health issues that led to severe bullying and chaotic family life, and I have stacks and stacks of notebooks, sketchbooks, photography albums. Life sucked, but I have turned it into an advantage.
Maybe schools the problem. Ever considered that? Then when they dont fit in they're labeled ADHD and handed a speed addiction from a trusted Dr.....
The blind leading the blind! SMH..
I do the same and I agree 100% with you. It takes patience and just time.
I used to work as a substitute teacher in government school and also as a tutor in tuition centres. I'm amazed to see that most parents expect their children to learn about everything just because they are being sent to school. And I'm also surprised to see that most of the teachers here (not all, of course) expect those students to be taught in one way system.
Thats actually hilarious. I would so leave 3 kids in coach while im drinking champagne in First class lmaooo
You let your kid get away with everything. One day that kid is gonna meet someone who won't. And that kid will have to suffer for it.
I'm glad Joe rogan officially has clips like this now. so many people have been straight ripping and reuploading segments
you can think of it as bootleggers and pirates but i think of them as fans doing fans a service.
stride7860 you both make valid points...i prefer my freak bitch greeting tho
Joe Rogan said it himself, he doesnt mind people doing it because its free publicity.
JohnKing THANK YOU. Joe Rogan has specified he does not care about it.
it's better that joe is doing it now tho
This guy looks like a wii character
The best part is there's a good chance the guy he's talking about has seen this.
Being a parent appropriately takes work and genuine human caring, CONSISTENTLY! Consistency is the main ingredient
I grew up in a household where my mom was angry 24/7, she’d yell, throw things, grab me, hit me, destroy and rummage through my room multiple times a day while my dad just sat there drunk and watched. Maybe a halfhearted “stop!” from the other room while he read the paper. Life was rough. Just recently got out of a 6 year mental downward spiral. I’ve had to pull myself out of every hole I’ve ever been in. I know other kids have had worse childhoods but for growing up in the suburbs it was pretty shit. I didn’t even realize I had been abused until last year.
"I practice murder on a daily basis" lmao
Stoven Stephano well the outside world is shit so ur just protecting ur own reality
People really need to stop having kids.
especially with the how the world is today, having kids nowadays is just not smart.
No we don't, only the people that don't want children should stop.
Agreed! At least for a year. Or ten.
Ankur Mudugu
It’s difficult to love a child who probably has emotional issues because his/her biological parents abandoned him or her or lost them.
It’s tough.
Exactly!
Ignoring your children for your career is abusive parenting.
Imagine going to break up a fight and joe rogan is just standing there commentating 😂
LMAO
Yeah, I am not having kids until I know I'm ready. I think I would be a decent dad, but not while I'm still trying to figure my shit out.
Im never having kids id be a terrible mother
I respect that
That’s how it’s supposed to be.
Now, your assignment is to find a woman who has your idea in mind.
I’m with you on this. I wish everyone shared this view on parenthood. Too many people have a kid just for the sake of it
If your aware you need to be a good parent, your ready. Its the shitty people who accidently have kids, and then don't raise them right.
“People think they can have kids and also have careers.” So true. The stay at home mom is a dying thing and it’s absolutely tragic for our children.
Woah you are getting into some sexist territory(I’m just kidding I do agree with you)
My mom’s a stay at home mom and I’m so glad
100% agree with you... most people nowadays think housewife’s are a sexist thing but it’s 1000% beneficial for the kids and also for the father who might have a career
Cameron Fletcher it doesn’t necessarily have to be a stay at home mom. Women can have successful careers while the dad takes care of the children. Generally though it’s super beneficial for the kid to have a parent around majority of the time
Durjoy Maitra yep I agree... I just think it’s stupid that if a mom does decide to do that they shouldn’t be looked down on
I don't know what I like the most about this one, Joe's fury about the topic or that he's right about it.
Love this podcast. Keep it up
1:40 is where Joe’s most bi-polar swing in podcast history happens lmao
It's 11:42 PM. I'm 25 with no kids watching this...um thanks Joe Rogan 🤷🏽♂️
Carlos Yanes it is 11:42 PM where i am, i’m 15... um thanks Joe Rogan
Its 12:42 PM. Im 24, about to be 25 in 2 months with no kids. Um... thanks joe rogan 🤷🏽♂️.
11:23pm and feeling oddly connected to you guys
Carlos Yanes exact same only its 2:44am lol
It’s 11:42 PM. I’m 16 with no kids watching this...um thanks Joe Rogan🤷🏽♂️
I once helped this little boy, maybe 3 or 4, who was lost on the beach. He was crying and following me, apparently the tide had carried him further down the beach than he should have been and he didn't know where he was. I was bringing him to the life guard when the guard met me half way and took him. Maybe an hour later I was walking on the beach and saw the boy again. His mom was asleep and her kids were running around unwatched. Great parenting, really safe. Your kid could have been dead or kidnapped and you don't even leave the beach after he's found. You fall asleep to let it happen again. Great.
You are an angel on Earth for that God Bless You!
Thats why we have child protective services, as much as (insecure) people hate it, luckily it IS illegal to make children and refuse to raise them.
Yknow i remember being in that situation when I was quite young. I believe it was a nice old lady who had helped me out. You never really think of these things as a kid but my mother and her boyfriends were not good parents. Not parents at all really.
I had no idea joe knew andrew tate so long ago
It’s not Andrew tate
The one guy from Triggernometry recently said “you don’t truly become an adult until you have a child.” One of the most ridiculous things I ever heard.
*Joe* "Hes just goung to choke him out"
*security guard* "oh ok, can i get a pic bro?"
Does he shave the surprised look into his eyebrows?
ROTFLMAO............
Ahahahaha true
philbelfrage Oh my god, I just realized ahahahhaha Can you imagine him on a funeral
"hey you're a real azzhole you know that?"
His eyebrows are illuminati
I was on a flight once with two kids next to me and I tell no lie........ their mother gave them a microphone attached to a speaker system so that they could practice public speaking. Those kids drove our section crazy and the section behind that could also hear them crazy. Then the flight attendant walked up and said sorry but you are disturbing everyone and the mother said but how could his little voice be annoying to anyone. Five minutes later, the pilot said we were landing in another city and they got kicked off the plane !
sounds like bullshit
Yes! ‘If everyone’s working who’s bringing up the kids?!’ Thank you, child care is a real thing ❤️
"Don't let your kids do anything that makes you not like them" - Jordan Peterson
Yep. These parents are worthless.
Nah... a shitty parent wouldn't care.
@72vince27 there’s more than one type of shitty parents. It’s like a spectrum dude
Shitty = shitty
@@72vince27 true. Jordon is just warning you BEFORE you become a parent
WTF, parents bought the tickets for themselves in a business class and threw their kids into the coach, seriously???? Those parents ought to be thrown off the plane screaming!
Just like the parents from Home Alone
Kids getting raised by the internet now. Then that's used to justify censorship.
@@drifter402 its sad man...
Gordon Ramsay the chef you might be referring to
His rationale for going business and sending kids to coach was not cruelty it's simple , they don't earn money yet and they will appreciate the difference when they do. He's not leaving a baby there just kids who are behaving themselves.
Every child deserves a parent. Not every adult deserves to have child.
My dad pulled a gun on me tonight. I'm a 54-year-old man visiting him with my son and all he does is scream and put us down. I told him that I'm not putting up with that and you have been doing this my entire life. he simply cannot take any criticism at all in any small manner, he went to get his gun after telling me "I need to be put down and shot"… Obviously we got the fuck out of there. But it just crystallized my life and why I've had so many screwups!