@@ExitStrategies Telling people to kill themselves is a step in the wrong direction. There's a reason why the French revolutionaries didn't kill the monarchy supporters. They did think about doing it, but it's extremely morally wrong.
What troubles me is that my dad has been present my entire life, he’s threatened to leave multiple times, but he hasn’t. The weird thing is that he’s always home yet I don’t really feel like he’s there, he’s like a roomate. The last time he wanted to leave, I was happy because the house would be peaceful. Whenever he leaves on one of his trips the house is so much more peaceful.
My father left when I was six months old and started another family. I occasionally saw my half siblings. They were a very tight family. I was always on the outside looking in. 63 years old now and it still hurts.
@jayEast07 Guard your heart, brother. If something good comes out of it, cool, but if not, don't let him mess with your mind. Also, if and/or when you have kids, do your best to be there for them. Stay cool!
Mine left my mom while pregnant with me , he took her to the doctor to abort me and mom said no and walked away from that man , he also left my five older brothers and sisters at the same time ,we were so poor ,,but yes i feel your pain ,same age as you.
I grew up without a father, I always thought it never made a difference, I actually developed so many maladaptive/anti-social behaviours through having no male guidance growing up. Took a lot of education and reinventing myself to become a well rounded person from the age of 23-28 and still working on it.
My Dad died in my arms of a massive heart attack when I was 15 years old at the end of the Eagles Cardinals Football game. Talk about a life changing experience. I had to grow up real quick. I was all of a sudden the man of the house. My Mother NEVER went out with another man the rest of her life. I feel like she gave up her life for me as I was her only child. She recently passed away and the last few years were very hard. I took care of her alone. I gave up my life as she did hers and she was able to pass away with me here in her own home. May God Bless her and my Father up in heaven!!!!
Holy cow. Like at the actual football game? That's rough brother. I always imagine when my pops dies I'm going to fall apart. I need to realize that it could happen any day.
My mom took both responsibilities as a mom and a dad and raised all 7 of us. She taught me how to drive, cook, clean, change my car oil and car tires, etc. she’s a Wonder Woman.
My Dad never lets me down. He's nearly 70 now, and he's still going strong. I never realised until I was older that there are some people who don't have that. Cheers Dad. And solidarity to all the people who dont have that, be the person you never had and be there for your family. x
I didn't realize the importance of a father figure in life until I reached my adult years and I realized all the ways a man needs to know how to be a man. I learned a lot of lessons the hard way
John Allan mid twenties is around the time it all sort of clicked, like, "man, i need to stop being so weak, stop letting people take avantage of me, stop feeling sorry for myself, and so on..." i still dunno if im there but ive definetly changed paths
My dad was always there, but he didn't teach me shit about being a man. Taught me to fish, taught me horses and cards (gambling) thaat was it. And not to run out on your kids, I guess.
I told my 22 y/o son "I feel like a pos because of how I was raised" and he replied "dad, I never feel like that". One of the best moments of my life.....
This simply isn't always the case. The two guys you're watching in this video have some kind of clue but Rogan doesn't always talk about his first kid does he. There's also a huge crisis with fatherless children in the US that has been swept under the carpet. I'm gonna stop here and say: Yeah some people do amazing without dad's but some absolutely go the other way and make utterly horrible fathers and human beings.
@@redbeard3946 you use joe Rogan talking about his kid as a measure of if he's good dad or not? Dude, my IQ is pretty fucking low, but I think yours might be lower
@@regalsteel7074 Sorry champ but your self deprivation is worse than your reading comprehension. You keep looking for black and white to a nuanced issue though ok? I'm sure the next few lines of text you write will benefit humanity entirely.
@@redbeard3946 I'm too tired to write up some witty response to your intelligence declining comment. Sorry to disappoint, but my comment won't be benefitting humanity today. A shame some people just don't have a sense of humor, isn't it?
This is how men should communicate with one another instead of reserving their emotions for the next bint that walks through the same door she'll walk out of. This is how brotherhood is built.
Totally agree. So appreciative for the ability to access this type of teaching of how to be a man. It gives me hope that all men will be will not just want to be better but know how to be better. If not with us but the future of my 3 year old son. Thanks for your comment.
It’s so fucked up to. Many men are roasted to bottle up their emotions , if not , they are in environments that discourage it. We need to break the cycle.
I lost my dad 19 years ago and now being 53 yo, I think about him every day. I would give 10 years of my life to see him and talk to him for 10 minutes. 💔
I’m sorry for your loss. He must’ve been a great guy for you to miss him so much. I’m 27 and I lost my mom 2 years ago. I feel sick when I think about it and let my thoughts run wild. Staying busy, whatever it may be helps just a little bit I guess. Stay strong.
We girls need our dads too. When we don't know him we spend our lives fantasizing about a man who loves us unconditionally. Then we do stupid things to convince ourselves that other men are that man.
I met a lady that didn't know who her Dad was and she fell in love with me but I thought she just wanted any man to be with her. We broke up because she had trust issues that I couldn't deal with, but I miss her so much now.
Saul Espino dont you worry bro the same thing happened too me, the best thing to do is move on. Don’t pay attention to her and focus on yourself and she may comeback, search up the push and pull technique for women
as a middle eastern girl, my dad is my best friend. he gives everything to me. always. he always gives me his ALL. his 100%. no matter what. he would rather starve than something ever hurt me. i would die for him in a split second without thinking. i appreciate it. every day
My pops was always there for me. Had my back 100%. He taught me how to be the best version of myself. Guided me in the right direction, but let me make my own decisions. Taught me how to draw, unclog toilets, build brick walls, rebuild carburetors, be a public speaker, and everything in between. There seriously isn't a single complaint I have about him. Lost him 5 years ago to cancer. I miss him every single day. He was born to be a dad. The thing is, he grew up without one. I model my parenting after him (and my mom, too!), but I have no idea how he learned to be a good dad...he just was.
It's comforting knowing Joe Rogan didn't have a dad in his childhood and still made it far. I always felt like I missed something and I never got taught to be a man but I guess some struggles just make you a better person
i completely relate man it scares me sometimes but i think there’s something also amazing about growing up with all women (2 sisters and mom) they definitely teach you not to be a moron of a male
I think it’s cause he always probably had a solid group of friends that were driven in the ju jitsu community. If he went and got friends who did drugs and dropped out of high school he most likely would have turned into that.
I grew up with my grandpa and I feel like I was the luckiest person because I had the best childhood and even adulthood. I could always count on that man. I miss him now that he's gone.
It's crazy, I never realized how much of a disservice it was to be raised with no grandparents or father in my life. I'm trying to change everything about myself and rewrite the way I think about things, it's not easy but I'm working on it one day at a time.
I was in my son's life till he was 6.5 years old. My ex found someone on Facebook that she was infatuated with. I tried to work on the relationship but she was just done and filed for divorce and and took out a PFA against me because her attorney said it would strengthen her claim to have primary custody. I never even hit her once, called her abusive names, or cheated on her once during the 20 years we were together. I haven't been allowed to see my son in 3 years nor have I heard from him. He is now 10 and I feel empty inside. If men are just as important in raising a child then why do they get the children 93% of the time. Did you know that men commit suicide 300% more than women and I believe it's because they lose everything in divorce and I know how that feels.
Same story here. This guest's mother was offended because he asked about his dad. Sounds like Joe or this guy could be (and their fathers) victims of NPD mothers. Now I am not saying this is absolute and I am sure its possible their dads were horrible men, but did they get to say their side of the story. My dad raised me telling me my mom abandoned me - 30 years later he admits it was a lie and he took us out of the state.
As a father I know how much that can hurt, just don't let depression or the heartache ruin you. I believe one day your son will be back in your life. You just stay true and god will handle the rest
I work at a hotel and have a guy who divorced a year ago and is living in the hotel and he trash talks his wife like he didn’t really care about her but when he started talking about his 10 year old son I saw his soul begin to be crushed through his watery eyes and his voice cracked. Man he really loved his son but his exwife hates the father. But he’s a good guy
Lee Allen aye man my dad tried so hard to be in my life but my mom didn’t want anything to do with him, my dad has been through sum shit and he spread his wisdom with me at a young age I matured because of him and how women like my mom r jus evil so be carful of who u marry but I still love my mom but my dad made me who the man I am today even tho I only saw him on school breaks.
My dad left me and my mom when I was 12. My mom became depressed, and I rebelled. When I became 17 I cried for the first time about it all, cos all my friends were being accepted to good colleges and I was living a low life. When I was 19 I got a job on the railroad, and saw all walks of life. All levels of hardship. Now I'm 25, my mom's passed, my dad's been out of my life for 10+ years, and I love my daughter more than anything in the world. She's napping right now, so I'm watching JRE and eating lol.
This kind of reminds me of myself in a way, my dad was abusive to my mom so I never saw him. But my mom was driven crazy by life, she’s pretty mean to me, but I still love her. I feel like a loser from time to time because I’m insecure in a lot of ways, but people would never guess it. God has been helping me so much, I’m not the same person I was a year ago
Excellent, and I join the user above me in saying sorry you went thru that. I imagine it’s hard, and I relate to it a bit. My own journey to higher success and education is really just starting at 22, and I know folks my age who did it far earlier. I know much more of what I want though, and I guess I have some natural or learned tendencies that have allowed me to father both myself and others. Here’s to fatherhood, and people not skipping out on that. In truth, it infuriates me deep inside when I see or know that someone is being a bad father. It hurts, no child in my mind deserves that. I know though that every day there’s some shit, and good fathers get taken away.
It’s so true! The love you have for your babies is like a high. It’s so pure and deep and unlike anything else. I can’t imagine the stress of raising multiple children but I totally see why people do. It’s so rewarding!
What you’ll learn next is that the mindset you developed from an absent father and narcissistic mother isn’t necessarily rooted in ‘reality’. You weren’t surrounded by good examples of outlooks on life. That doesn’t mean you won’t ever be mentally healthy though. You’ll have lots of lessons to learn, but make sure you LEARN. You will see progress. It’ll be exhilarating. Cheers
Yeah, but that's a self fulfilling prophecy, because it's your choice how you conduct yourself. Make sure you're someone others can rely on. I mean, be picky about who you choose to committ yourself to, but choose the people you're going to love, and be a person they can rely on.
Stepfathers are just the dude shagging the mother. No sex with the mum, then the relationship ends and he doesn't give a damn about the kid - it's not his kid.
Same here. Grew up no Father in life, missed out on all of that comes with that. At 38 I meet a girl, single Mom to a 4 yr old little girl and here I am about to watch my daughter graduate at 21 from the State University. Awesome shit man!!
I totally relate to this, my dad died when I was 8 from suicide. I’m now a college graduate and an engineer-all the statistics were against me growing up in a single parent household, but I learned not to be a product of my environment.
Michael P not looking for any “sorrys”, though I appreciate it. I’m just trying to give people in similar situations hope that there is opportunity where there is adversity.
@lunit00n68 hey brother, i am so sorry he did that too you. I hope you have lots of love and supportive people in your life and I hope you are doing well.
I’m 41 and this has and still does have an impact on my life, self worth, confidence, trust issues, rejection ruins children, when I fight my anxiety and self doubt is my biggest opponent but I somehow need to prove to myself that I am good enough even though I never do believe it . .
I never met mine, my mom did tell me who he was. He died last Christmas... I felt bad at the time. It was like damn, its a shame I never met him. Then again, he lived 15 miles away my whole life and never made an effort to reach out. The weird thing is that on the night he died I was having really weird and unpleasant chest pains, then the next day I found out he died of a heart attack. Very strange stuff
Be careful a lot of the times the woman denies access to the kids. Then plays it like the father had no interest in the kids at all when that was far from the truth. Women are very VERY vindictive.
My grandpa died a few months before my dad was born. He did an absolutely terrible job as a father, a role model, and a husband. It’s my mission to not be him
There's a huge conversation that needs to be had for fatherless children that is never had. And unfortunately, it never happens and these kids just fall through the cracks.
Man I feel so lucky my dad is such a loving, supportive, solid and upstanding man. For yall who never had a dad, be the father to your kids that you would've wanted to have. Dont repeat the cycle gentlemen.
My dad had zero interest in me but my brother was his golden child. I haven't talked to my dad in 20 years and he's never met my sons who are already college aged.
Man, my dad left when I was 6 too. Suffered some real damage from the years he was around and the years he wasn't. CPTSD is such an unrecognised problem existent with children of trauma. Hopefully soon there will be more acknowledgement and support around this. All I can hope for is to one day father my own children and do it right!
It's actually a biological fact. There is a form of addiction that keeps us close to our kids. Likewise there are addictive stimulants I the milk mothers produce in order to help ensure children stay close to their mothers.
That doesn't get talked about enough. To have no dad. Or to have an abusive dad. Or even a dad who doesn't even talk to their kid hardly. No kid deserves that, but no dad is better than the abuse I imagine.
My dad was in and out of my life due to alcoholism and drug addiction. And unfortunately lost his battle with his diseases on the morning of my 20th birthday. But what I do remember of him is having this contagious, glowing spirit. Help people that need it y’all! That’s not who they truly are. I wish I would’ve helped him more instead of chalking off his addictions as selfishness.
notice how no matter what joe says this other dude goes on to talk about himself like yeah i've been through something worse, this reminds me of everyone today, people need to start listening.
When you have a dad but your dad sucks at life and in a subtle way tells you to not be like him. It hurts too man. I understand the pain some people have to go through being raised without a father but being raised by a poor quality father is also painful. It makes me jealous of those who have perfect role model dads.
Amateur Professional I agree iv always been jealous of people who’s dads left so they could just move on as opposed to someone who no matter how hard you want them to love you and care they just fail you every time and shit on you for their failures. T
Im a female who grew up with an abusive mom and I can totally relate to what you said about being jealous of people with role model parents. I'd always wish I had my friend's moms instead of mine when Id be at their house and saw how great their relationship was.
@@AugustAdvice I also had a somewhat abusive mom growing up although she's gotten better now, she may even be cured. But my dad has crippling depression that he still has to this day. Sometimes life just loves to throw heavy obstacles at random people, only good thing I can think of that comes out of it is a stronger person with hardship experiences.
mine retreated back to his parents house and left me with my mentally and financially unstable mother. was conveniently never there when i needed him the most. he is a poisonous person who tries to talk me out of achieving my dreams because he is a loser who is alone and has lived with his parents for his whole life and doesn’t want me to do better than him
Damn I relate to this super hard. My dad bounced about the same age. I feel the same way about everything you said about friends and family and loyalty. Fewer you have the more important and closely you hold them.. it's different growing up without a big family. You just learn to extend it over years. I've always said I don't have friends, I only have family. No need to be blood to be my family. Good listen, thanks Joe.
I didn't meet my dad until I was almost 19 with a kid of my own. Now we get along great and he's great to my kids. Wish we didn't miss out on that time
Never met my dad, and it never really bothered me. But once I had my children I could never understand how he left me my kids are my fucking world the way they make me feel is unexplainable and he never got that. That’s the saddest part
I never understood how my father could leave his children and start a new life. When my first child was born though, my confusion went to a whole other level. I used to think maybe one day I could reconnect with him. Now there’s no chance in hell I would give him the time of day. My children will never ever feel that way about me though. There has never been a single day that I haven’t at the very least spoken to them.
You’re amazing 😉 I think the same every time I look at my 11 yr old daughters face. I feel he thinks he’s a winner but in reality he’s loosing out every day he stays away (less than a mile) I never say a bad word about him and she’s genuinely happy 😊
My cousin has only ever met his dad once when he was 14 he randomly picked him up from school and took him to McDonald’s. He’s never really seemed bothered about not having his dad around either. His mom is my aunt and she’s a brilliant woman, a mom and dad rolled into 1. My cousin has turned out to be the most remarkable man, successful and a father to 2 great kids. My aunt did a hell of a job! Shout out to all the single moms out there!!
I lost my Dad when I was 21. Although I cherish the time I had with him, i’ll always feel like I never really knew him because I never got to know as a man and a father myself
When I was younger, I was mad at my father for ditching my mom. My mother worked two full time jobs by the time I was in high school. Then it dawned on me that if my mom didn’t see fit to be angry at him, why should I? It was hard for mom but she’s ok. She’s retired and keeps herself busy enough she isn’t calling me every day. She has hobbies and has friends. We have dinner every other week. She raised two boys who don’t live in her basement.
My dad was there and provided to me the best he could. He did not know how to love me... which caused me many a theapy session, unhappyness and self dought. On his death bed I told him that I loved him ( for the first and last time). He could not speak anymore.... but in his eyes I could see his love. And as I turn 50 that is the most precious memory I will ever have of him. My dad loved me.... even if words failed.
My mom left when I was 10/11. If you told me at 9 she was going to be leaving/I never would see her again I would’ve had a panic attack and bawled my eyes out, but now it’s so normal I can’t imagine her in my life. It makes it hard to get close w literally anyone bc you’re always reminded of how fleeting relationships can be
People either have No dad A dad that left when they were young A dad who is around but drunk/abusive. A dad who is around, but pushes them too hard/too strict/too competitive A dad that pushes them to do the same job/same things they do etc. A pretty good dad but who is on the road all the time/focused on career. A good dad It seems like the last one is a pretty low percentage, but those who have them appreciate it.
A good dad is rare because men are human, but they have to take responsibility for the entire family. That's a huge responsibility, and life isn't fair so they may not have the opportunities to succeed easily. At the same time, women and feminists go out of their way to shit all over men. Don't point the finger at dads. Examine moms a little closer instead. The epidemic of fatherless children is due to women and feminism.
My dad was always working. He ran his own private optometric business. I begged him to give me one day for just me. The first day of deer season. I said in January just put a big red X on this day on November. He refused/ignored/dismissed my request. Well as the father of 5 children now myself I have focused on being open, emotionally available, interested in their lives and their hobbies. As a result of deciding to be different I have a great work life balance and a great relationship with my children. A bad day can be made a great day just hanging with one of my kids being nothing more special than just plain old Dad…and I love it. I made sure my sons knew and saw how I treated their sisters and their mother. Made sure my daughters saw that also so they would demand the same respect I gave their momma. So far all the effort to be different has given vastly different outcomes x 5.
I remember this. I always felt weird for having my mom AND dad because honestly there’s few people I know that have that. I grew up seeing it on tv and living like they did on there. Went to Christian school till middle school and that was a real eye opener. As I got older (23 now) I see how fucked up the world is and honestly it doesn’t get better from what I’ve seen and experienced
I am 16 years old i am currently being raised by my single mother, I know my dad however i wish i never knew him when i was 6 years old on christimas morning he broke my nose by kicking my back and making me hit my nose on the floor when i have kids i am going to be the best dad i can be! hey guys.. it has been a full year since i wrote that.. um my relationship with my father remains the same he lives in brazil and i am here in Europe. I am grateful for all the positive comments however, for those saying "have a rematch" or "hit him when you are older" i do not think that punching him in the future or ending this story with violence is the best way. we are all on this earth to develop ourselves as we grow each day and get wiser, if his decision was to kick me in the back and making me hit the floor and breaking my nose. Hey that's all his energy. Not mine. I live each day trying to improve myself and not look back at the past and let things like this stop me from doing what I have to do in life once again thank you all! and have a blessed day.
Meanwhile my dad isn’t dead, he’s just never around. I remember he pulled up to my house one time and he asked “which one is your room” and it really hit me that this man was not in my life.
My dad left and never came back - I have a daughter now she’s 20 and I couldn’t imagine not being in her life it would kill me. I feel sorry for my dad now because he really lost out on both me and my daughter- he is the one without memories in our lives and that’s an awful thing for him to live with and I know people say he doesn’t care but I think everyone does even deep down and regret is an awful feeling to live with
My parents split up when I was 2 and my dad came to visit every now and then. But he died when I was in 6th grade... Now I'm 25, the age he had when he had me... Learning how to be a man from square 1 and then on top of that have a single mom imprint herself on you is fucking tough. She's a great mom, did everything she could to make sure I'm ok... But at the end of the day, the anxiety and depression you rack up trying to figure so many things out without the proper point of reference is fucking tough
Right, my dad was never the most sensitive an didn't say many words, never really taught me anything but i feel bad cause he never had a father growing up an i feel like my guy just had to learn on the go, but one thing i saw was his work ethic an for that I'm forever grateful
There is a small part of me that thinks it's possible things would've been better. But I gotta tell ya, you and I are in the same boat. Mine never being around resulted in a pile of other blessings. One being I had MANY fathers all with different flaws and strengths. 30 years in it's hard to imagine having one. He's somewhere in NC and I have the time, money, and resources to meet him. But for some reason, I would rather jerk off. Unlike many I speak with fatherless who say things like "I would punch him" etc. I, like you, wish him the best.
My dad was in and out of my life up until I was 14 and I still remember the day he left and never came back like it was yesterday. I’m currently 21. One of the soul purposes in my life is to be a better father than he was but the fucked up thing about it is that everyday I notice myself doing things and treating people the same way he did.
My father passed away when i was 3. Mother re married when i was 13. Had 2 brothers. Step father passed away 10 yrs ago. My mother 1 year ago. Now living with my 15 and 16 yr old siblings, my wife, my 3 yr old son and an upcoming baby on the way. This life hasnt been easy, sometimes i think its unfair, but its not a reason for me to stop trying to bring the best life for them. I hope they wont live and have the issues i have had for like as long as i can remember. Im still just 30. 😅 Shit sucks man. Keep living brothers! There will be sunshine.
Damn it’s sad to see how many of us don’t have our dads in our lives if ever. I’ll never understand how something so natural like being a father and loving your kids isn’t natural for some people. I’m a dad of two boys one being special needs I couldn’t imagine them not having me in their lives. An absent father is detrimental to a kids future in all forms. Keep your head up fellow fatherless brothers. What doesn’t break you makes you stronger!
My youngest brother died a month ago and he left behind a 4 year old boy, he was a great father and I fear that his son's life will not be as good now without him.
Really sucks hearing stories like this and stories in the comments....my life was totally different. My mom passed away when I was 18 months old from heart failure probably due to partying in the 80s, so I was raised by my father with a little help from my grandparents on my moms side. After living a life with the dad that I have, I could NOT imagine being fatherless. He’s been my best friend my entire life and the best dad I could ever ask for. However, I’ll never experience having a mother in my life either...
I've never met my dad, watching this made me tear up because it was so relatable. This podcast has honestly helped a lot filling in the "guy gaps" I've missed.
Having a dad to look up can be super important for a young man’s development. My dad‘s a failure but joe is a perfect example that it’s possible to grow into a successful man without having a dad as an example.
@@booshank2327 Definitely. I seen my dad in 3rd grade then 21 yrs old... He looks at me like shit... I should of been there for her. Since he died, he's always around me. Sad that it took death to bring us together...
I have a similar upbringing as Joe did - I only knew my dad up until I was about 4 years old. Saw him in prison when I was 18 (he was always in and out of prisons) and once more a year later. That's it. He was more like some stranger that shared my DNA. Like the other guy, my mom also got really upset when I asked about him. But I understand she was coming from a place of hurt and didn't want the horrible person my dad was to have an influence on me. But I want to say this to those young ones that are reading this and also don't have dads in their lives. You may have trust issues with other guy friends or even women and you may have a small inner circle and are fiercely loyal (seems a common denominator among guys that grew up with no dad) but you can become great fathers in spite of all that. What the absence of my dad taught me was "When I grow up and become a father, I now know what not to do. I will make sure I am there for my kid." My daughter is now 18, in college, has a boyfriend, a job and is an awesome, wise, loving human being. The circle of ignorance ended with me. It is a LIE that you become your parents or if someone says "I'm like that because my father was like that." a huge lie. I was always there for my daughter and we have an incredibly close relationship, So, if you are younger and not yet a father you too can break the circle of ignorance and forge something new. Don't let a bad dad (or mom) teach you how to be. Find your own path.
I never seen or met my dad. Left when i was 2, when u was 9 i asked my mom to meet him, she reached out to him he said leave me alone so i know i am unwanted. My mom is amazing but she never ever got a boyfriend, so i never witnessed love or relationships in my life. Now in my 30's, i am alone, no friends, no girlfriends and very lonely. If i ever make it out of this and father a child one day, i will NOT let my child suffer like i did and still am every day. You really have to be a selfish man to abandon your child because let me say from experience, that child will struggle a lot in life because of your selfish decision. If you are a young man, don't abandon your child, even if you hate the mother. Bless all.
Well here is a update those who commented. 7 months ago i quit weed, used to smoke 100$ a week minimum. 6 months ago i started dating a girl i knew in my early twenties, she has a kid, i'm a step father now, 1 month ago, amid the covid19 madness, i moved in with her as the back and forth was feeling dangerous. 4 months ago i lost my virginity to her. She is amazing, we love and respect each other. I have never been happy before all of this, my life made a conplete turnaround. It's still a little surreal when i think about how much has changed. Thanks for the comments guys!
The only thing my dad ever taught me was to not be like him.
Doppel Ganger909 some deep shit
I know that feel, and it did more to see me right than anything
lmao no dad having ass
Senju Uchiha I have your mom though so we good senju
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Dad issue is real. Don't repeat the loop gentleman
@@ExitStrategies Telling people to kill themselves is a step in the wrong direction.
There's a reason why the French revolutionaries didn't kill the monarchy supporters.
They did think about doing it, but it's extremely morally wrong.
Exit Strategies you tried so hard to troll.
Burt Sampson I’m sorry you view men’s issues as trolling
@@ExitStrategies you sound like a weak cry baby
What troubles me is that my dad has been present my entire life, he’s threatened to leave multiple times, but he hasn’t. The weird thing is that he’s always home yet I don’t really feel like he’s there, he’s like a roomate. The last time he wanted to leave, I was happy because the house would be peaceful. Whenever he leaves on one of his trips the house is so much more peaceful.
My father left when I was six months old and started another family. I occasionally saw my half siblings. They were a very tight family. I was always on the outside looking in. 63 years old now and it still hurts.
@jayEast07 Guard your heart, brother. If something good comes out of it, cool, but if not, don't let him mess with your mind. Also, if and/or when you have kids, do your best to be there for them. Stay cool!
Your father let you down big time. Not your fault. A bad father. Wishing you healing ❤
@@shiva_productions Thank you.
That’s insanity.
Mine left my mom while pregnant with me , he took her to the doctor to abort me and mom said no and walked away from that man , he also left my five older brothers and sisters at the same time ,we were so poor ,,but yes i feel your pain ,same age as you.
I grew up without a father, I always thought it never made a difference, I actually developed so many maladaptive/anti-social behaviours through having no male guidance growing up. Took a lot of education and reinventing myself to become a well rounded person from the age of 23-28 and still working on it.
Keep going Daniel, you can do it. Life can be beautiful. 🤗🤗🕊🌳🌲🌳
That is so true brother
I feel that man! You’re not alone.
Shit, man. I think I think I'm going through the same but I'm not too confident I'll ever change
Yeah. I have no dad AND i have autism. 😂
My Dad died in my arms of a massive heart attack when I was 15 years old at the end of the Eagles Cardinals Football game. Talk about a life changing experience. I had to grow up real quick. I was all of a sudden the man of the house. My Mother NEVER went out with another man the rest of her life. I feel like she gave up her life for me as I was her only child. She recently passed away and the last few years were very hard. I took care of her alone. I gave up my life as she did hers and she was able to pass away with me here in her own home. May God Bless her and my Father up in heaven!!!!
Crazy shit. Keep your head up king, they’re with your forever. 🙏🏼
@@loober.6500 thank you.
I wishing you all the best brother💪 y
@@gk-zr4pk Thanks brother. My life will never be the same!! Life sucks.
Holy cow. Like at the actual football game? That's rough brother. I always imagine when my pops dies I'm going to fall apart. I need to realize that it could happen any day.
Where’s my fellow dad less brothers at?
:(
here
My dad walked out on me and my siblings when I was 18..
We’re really our own dads.
Here :/
When one has not had a good father, one must create one.
- Nietzsche
how?
@@vintageb8 a good father figure probably
Yes how? People don’t care.
He really said that?
More like be one.
My mom took both responsibilities as a mom and a dad and raised all 7 of us. She taught me how to drive, cook, clean, change my car oil and car tires, etc. she’s a Wonder Woman.
I want to be your mom.
My husband passed away and I'm so afraid of whatever my son , 18 m/o, has to go through
The worst is when your Dad is around and it's like he isn't even there
for real :(
For real bro it sucks :(
Hey man atleast you can see him atleast hes there in the flesh
I relate to this :(
😔
Me and my dad like to play hide n seek. 30 years I’ve been looking for him. Dads such a joker.
hahaha, sad. I feel ya.
Maybe you should dig him back up from the basement
He is hiding in a strip club
World champ
Danny Bobby I laughed out loud, well played sir
My Dad never lets me down. He's nearly 70 now, and he's still going strong. I never realised until I was older that there are some people who don't have that. Cheers Dad. And solidarity to all the people who dont have that, be the person you never had and be there for your family. x
Amen! Couldn't have said it better myself!
seeing 2 adults talk about life and get emotional actually makes me feel good... I can accept me.
Fuck yeah bro
I didn't realize the importance of a father figure in life until I reached my adult years and I realized all the ways a man needs to know how to be a man. I learned a lot of lessons the hard way
Soo true. Story of my life. Late teens to mid twenties were a living hell for me
John Allan mid twenties is around the time it all sort of clicked, like, "man, i need to stop being so weak, stop letting people take avantage of me, stop feeling sorry for myself, and so on..."
i still dunno if im there but ive definetly changed paths
My dad was always there, but he didn't teach me shit about being a man. Taught me to fish, taught me horses and cards (gambling) thaat was it. And not to run out on your kids, I guess.
Retro Renaissance What are the other things you felt like you needed to learn from a father figure?
Strangely enough, I felt okay from 18-35, but now, at 42, I miss not having a father in my life (he died in my childhood).
I told my 22 y/o son "I feel like a pos because of how I was raised" and he replied "dad, I never feel like that". One of the best moments of my life.....
Who the fuck is cutting onions in here....
That's HUGE.Much love Brother
God damn I don’t even want kids but that almost made me feel something
What’s a pos?
hennihaze piece of shit
Shout-out to all the moms who play both roles as best they can.
and single dads as well, being single parents is hard on both sides
It drives them crazy though, it’s a sad cycle.
@@noellealdi881 even worse if your dad is abusive towards your mother
The best fathers are the ones who didn’t really have one
because they learn what the kid needs
This simply isn't always the case. The two guys you're watching in this video have some kind of clue but Rogan doesn't always talk about his first kid does he. There's also a huge crisis with fatherless children in the US that has been swept under the carpet.
I'm gonna stop here and say: Yeah some people do amazing without dad's but some absolutely go the other way and make utterly horrible fathers and human beings.
@@redbeard3946 you use joe Rogan talking about his kid as a measure of if he's good dad or not? Dude, my IQ is pretty fucking low, but I think yours might be lower
@@regalsteel7074 Sorry champ but your self deprivation is worse than your reading comprehension. You keep looking for black and white to a nuanced issue though ok? I'm sure the next few lines of text you write will benefit humanity entirely.
@@redbeard3946 I'm too tired to write up some witty response to your intelligence declining comment. Sorry to disappoint, but my comment won't be benefitting humanity today. A shame some people just don't have a sense of humor, isn't it?
Having a child is like having your heart walk outside your body.
Wooow that is fucking beautiful!
Abigail B this made me choke up.... great analogy
Yup, sometimes your heart is a piece of shit, and your child gets all the horror contained in it.
This is the gayest shit ive heard in a while. 😂😂💀
Beautiful, yeah. I felt bullet proof before I had kids.
This is how men should communicate with one another instead of reserving their emotions for the next bint that walks through the same door she'll walk out of. This is how brotherhood is built.
Totally agree. So appreciative for the ability to access this type of teaching of how to be a man. It gives me hope that all men will be will not just want to be better but know how to be better. If not with us but the future of my 3 year old son. Thanks for your comment.
We gotta look after for our brothers and sisters
@Nocentre Noborder Talking about your emotions can be the right thing you have to get up and do
@Nocentre Noborder The entire scientific community of psychologists and psychiatrists disagree to both statements.
It’s so fucked up to. Many men are roasted to bottle up their emotions , if not , they are in environments that discourage it. We need to break the cycle.
Two person share the same sorrow will have the best deep conversation ever
I lost my dad 19 years ago and now being 53 yo, I think about him every day. I would give 10 years of my life to see him and talk to him for 10 minutes. 💔
I’m sorry for your loss. He must’ve been a great guy for you to miss him so much. I’m 27 and I lost my mom 2 years ago. I feel sick when I think about it and let my thoughts run wild. Staying busy, whatever it may be helps just a little bit I guess. Stay strong.
Take his glasses off and his mustache, nose and eyebrows come off too.
Then he'd just be a plain potato.
mad how much his nose n specks look fake, or vice versa🤣
Lmaoooo
This is the funniest comment!!!
SauceDonkey I was about to say that!!
We girls need our dads too. When we don't know him we spend our lives fantasizing about a man who loves us unconditionally. Then we do stupid things to convince ourselves that other men are that man.
I met a lady that didn't know who her Dad was and she fell in love with me but I thought she just wanted any man to be with her. We broke up because she had trust issues that I couldn't deal with, but I miss her so much now.
Saul Espino dont you worry bro the same thing happened too me, the best thing to do is move on. Don’t pay attention to her and focus on yourself and she may comeback, search up the push and pull technique for women
@@julianc7685 Thanks for the reply bro
PREACH SIS
Julian C
Didn’t you just read that the lady he was dating had trust issues which probably root cause is because she didn’t have a father?
as a middle eastern girl, my dad is my best friend. he gives everything to me. always. he always gives me his ALL. his 100%. no matter what. he would rather starve than something ever hurt me. i would die for him in a split second without thinking. i appreciate it. every day
I was so lucky to have a great “step” dad……so damn lucky…
He's not your step dad. He's the dad that stepped up. Good on him.
@@SteveCabana-ir7jt bro, that's great! "Dad who stepped up"
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My pops was always there for me. Had my back 100%. He taught me how to be the best version of myself. Guided me in the right direction, but let me make my own decisions. Taught me how to draw, unclog toilets, build brick walls, rebuild carburetors, be a public speaker, and everything in between. There seriously isn't a single complaint I have about him. Lost him 5 years ago to cancer. I miss him every single day. He was born to be a dad. The thing is, he grew up without one. I model my parenting after him (and my mom, too!), but I have no idea how he learned to be a good dad...he just was.
That's extremely impressive.
Lucky
1eljugo may your father rest in peace
He learned by seeing what he felt we wish he learned earlier in his life and all the holes he was missing he made sure that you wouldn't have those.
KefirMMA true. I think his philosophy was: be the dad you never had
It's comforting knowing Joe Rogan didn't have a dad in his childhood and still made it far. I always felt like I missed something and I never got taught to be a man but I guess some struggles just make you a better person
Maybe it's best not to have a dad. I've seen people who are fatherless and are successful. I have friends who lacks a dad and have a decent job.
i completely relate man it scares me sometimes but i think there’s something also amazing about growing up with all women (2 sisters and mom) they definitely teach you not to be a moron of a male
Same here, it's not easy but it makes you
Mii 2.0 study’s show that kids with no dad including myself are 80 more times likely to be incarcerated or drop out of high school
I think it’s cause he always probably had a solid group of friends that were driven in the ju jitsu community. If he went and got friends who did drugs and dropped out of high school he most likely would have turned into that.
I grew up with my grandpa and I feel like I was the luckiest person because I had the best childhood and even adulthood. I could always count on that man. I miss him now that he's gone.
It's crazy, I never realized how much of a disservice it was to be raised with no grandparents or father in my life. I'm trying to change everything about myself and rewrite the way I think about things, it's not easy but I'm working on it one day at a time.
Recently I gave myself permission to have wanted that stuff and the right to have wanted it or be sad about it
I was in my son's life till he was 6.5 years old. My ex found someone on Facebook that she was infatuated with. I tried to work on the relationship but she was just done and filed for divorce and and took out a PFA against me because her attorney said it would strengthen her claim to have primary custody. I never even hit her once, called her abusive names, or cheated on her once during the 20 years we were together. I haven't been allowed to see my son in 3 years nor have I heard from him. He is now 10 and I feel empty inside.
If men are just as important in raising a child then why do they get the children 93% of the time.
Did you know that men commit suicide 300% more than women and I believe it's because they lose everything in divorce and I know how that feels.
Lee Allen your son will be old enough and be curious soon. And when that time comes, just be the best father you can be brother. Don’t give up!
Same story here. This guest's mother was offended because he asked about his dad. Sounds like Joe or this guy could be (and their fathers) victims of NPD mothers. Now I am not saying this is absolute and I am sure its possible their dads were horrible men, but did they get to say their side of the story. My dad raised me telling me my mom abandoned me - 30 years later he admits it was a lie and he took us out of the state.
As a father I know how much that can hurt, just don't let depression or the heartache ruin you. I believe one day your son will be back in your life. You just stay true and god will handle the rest
I work at a hotel and have a guy who divorced a year ago and is living in the hotel and he trash talks his wife like he didn’t really care about her but when he started talking about his 10 year old son I saw his soul begin to be crushed through his watery eyes and his voice cracked. Man he really loved his son but his exwife hates the father. But he’s a good guy
Lee Allen aye man my dad tried so hard to be in my life but my mom didn’t want anything to do with him, my dad has been through sum shit and he spread his wisdom with me at a young age I matured because of him and how women like my mom r jus evil so be carful of who u marry but I still love my mom but my dad made me who the man I am today even tho I only saw him on school breaks.
My dad left me and my mom when I was 12. My mom became depressed, and I rebelled. When I became 17 I cried for the first time about it all, cos all my friends were being accepted to good colleges and I was living a low life. When I was 19 I got a job on the railroad, and saw all walks of life. All levels of hardship. Now I'm 25, my mom's passed, my dad's been out of my life for 10+ years, and I love my daughter more than anything in the world. She's napping right now, so I'm watching JRE and eating lol.
Sorry you had to go through all of that brother
It gets better🙏❤️
This kind of reminds me of myself in a way, my dad was abusive to my mom so I never saw him. But my mom was driven crazy by life, she’s pretty mean to me, but I still love her.
I feel like a loser from time to time because I’m insecure in a lot of ways, but people would never guess it. God has been helping me so much, I’m not the same person I was a year ago
Cute😍
Excellent, and I join the user above me in saying sorry you went thru that. I imagine it’s hard, and I relate to it a bit. My own journey to higher success and education is really just starting at 22, and I know folks my age who did it far earlier. I know much more of what I want though, and I guess I have some natural or learned tendencies that have allowed me to father both myself and others. Here’s to fatherhood, and people not skipping out on that. In truth, it infuriates me deep inside when I see or know that someone is being a bad father. It hurts, no child in my mind deserves that. I know though that every day there’s some shit, and good fathers get taken away.
It’s so true! The love you have for your babies is like a high. It’s so pure and deep and unlike anything else. I can’t imagine the stress of raising multiple children but I totally see why people do. It’s so rewarding!
My dad taught me how to abandon. Fucked me up. I realize it now. We live and we learn.
I grew up without a Dad and a narcissistic mother, you learn you can't trust anyone and that really you're very much on your own in this cold world
I hear you. Ive also felt very alone. My single mom was very mentally unpresent.
True. So sad.
What you’ll learn next is that the mindset you developed from an absent father and narcissistic mother isn’t necessarily rooted in ‘reality’. You weren’t surrounded by good examples of outlooks on life.
That doesn’t mean you won’t ever be mentally healthy though. You’ll have lots of lessons to learn, but make sure you LEARN. You will see progress. It’ll be exhilarating. Cheers
Yeah, but that's a self fulfilling prophecy, because it's your choice how you conduct yourself. Make sure you're someone others can rely on. I mean, be picky about who you choose to committ yourself to, but choose the people you're going to love, and be a person they can rely on.
same here
My dad was never around but i was blessed with a step father who stood by my side till the day he died .... Stepdads are fathers too 👊
I hope that my step son feels that way about me.
He may have been your father, but he wasn't your daddy 🙂
It's easy to be a father, but it's hard to be a dad.
Stepfathers are just the dude shagging the mother. No sex with the mum, then the relationship ends and he doesn't give a damn about the kid - it's not his kid.
Some times it’s better to be farther less then having some of these dads out here ...
deadass
Exactly 💯
Same here. Grew up no Father in life, missed out on all of that comes with that. At 38 I meet a girl, single Mom to a 4 yr old little girl and here I am about to watch my daughter graduate at 21 from the State University. Awesome shit man!!
He looks like someone who disguised himself to get back on the Joe Rogan podcast.
M Gilbert lmao!!
had one of those glasses toys as a kid
🤣
Stop 🛑 🤣
😂 mr snrub
I totally relate to this, my dad died when I was 8 from suicide. I’m now a college graduate and an engineer-all the statistics were against me growing up in a single parent household, but I learned not to be a product of my environment.
Congratulations keep up the hard work and continue to do great things
Michael P not looking for any “sorrys”, though I appreciate it. I’m just trying to give people in similar situations hope that there is opportunity where there is adversity.
🙌👏👏👏
I’m very proud of you and your mammy. Well done 🦋💖
I'm sorry for the dad part, but I really don't get the sense of accomplishment for being a college graduate and an engineer.
My dad has been ruining my life since I was born he drove me to the brink of insanity I get so mad thinking about him it’s incredible how angry I get
I kind of want to know what happened if you care to share
@lunit00n68 hey brother, i am so sorry he did that too you. I hope you have lots of love and supportive people in your life and I hope you are doing well.
I’m 41 and this has and still does have an impact on my life, self worth, confidence, trust issues, rejection ruins children, when I fight my anxiety and self doubt is my biggest opponent but I somehow need to prove to myself that I am good enough even though I never do believe it . .
I never met mine, my mom did tell me who he was. He died last Christmas... I felt bad at the time. It was like damn, its a shame I never met him. Then again, he lived 15 miles away my whole life and never made an effort to reach out. The weird thing is that on the night he died I was having really weird and unpleasant chest pains, then the next day I found out he died of a heart attack. Very strange stuff
you and him were still connected
Fuck, my father passed Christmas Day 2015 due to a sudden heart attack 😞
@@MMRAY2001 Sorry to hear that. My condolences
Be careful a lot of the times the woman denies access to the kids. Then plays it like the father had no interest in the kids at all when that was far from the truth. Women are very VERY vindictive.
Matt Murphy that’s rough man. Stay strong.
My Dad’s dad died when my dad was 9. He was worried about being a bad father because he didn’t have one to learn from. He did a good job.
Dad's dad left when he was 7, my dad was worried about the same thing. Bless our fathers for their efforts.
My grandpa died a few months before my dad was born. He did an absolutely terrible job as a father, a role model, and a husband. It’s my mission to not be him
@@anatomicallycorrectmuppets8180 ^^
My died when I was eight but sick since age three. No good step father he died too.
dad's dad? you mean grandpa? lol
As a fatherless child, this really spoke to me
There's a huge conversation that needs to be had for fatherless children that is never had. And unfortunately, it never happens and these kids just fall through the cracks.
Man I feel so lucky my dad is such a loving, supportive, solid and upstanding man. For yall who never had a dad, be the father to your kids that you would've wanted to have. Dont repeat the cycle gentlemen.
Word up bro 👊
Yeah, you're very lucky. I wish I had one.
I couldn’t imagine my life without not knowing my dad. And I could not imagine my life not being around for my 2 boys & my 2 dogs (girls).
My dad is the greatest ever. I do everything like him. Without him I would have been nothing. Shouts out to him
Joe "have you tried having kids ? They're like drugs" Rogan
He has kids fam :)
@@GavinJBerry-kq1jq you
@@GavinJBerry-kq1jq joemama
My dad had zero interest in me but my brother was his golden child. I haven't talked to my dad in 20 years and he's never met my sons who are already college aged.
oh well life goes on
Man, my dad left when I was 6 too. Suffered some real damage from the years he was around and the years he wasn't. CPTSD is such an unrecognised problem existent with children of trauma. Hopefully soon there will be more acknowledgement and support around this.
All I can hope for is to one day father my own children and do it right!
Joe “kids are drugs” Rogan
It's actually a biological fact. There is a form of addiction that keeps us close to our kids. Likewise there are addictive stimulants I the milk mothers produce in order to help ensure children stay close to their mothers.
Jesse Gonzales wasn’t that deep bro😭😭
Lenny “ I drag dead jokes on and on because of the lack of humor” dilorenzo
Noobmaster69 well as of right now, 283 people thought it was funny so u look dumb
lenny dilorenzo
And 2 yrs ago that number would’ve had a K behind it. You look dumb from the start.
Also having a physical present father , but he’s emotionally absent.
That doesn't get talked about enough.
To have no dad.
Or to have an abusive dad.
Or even a dad who doesn't even talk to their kid hardly.
No kid deserves that, but no dad is better than the abuse I imagine.
yes!
Some people have trouble showing emotion
Alexander Supertramp just stating a fact.
@Nocentre Noborder Humans have emotions. Grow up and deal with it
My dad was in and out of my life due to alcoholism and drug addiction. And unfortunately lost his battle with his diseases on the morning of my 20th birthday. But what I do remember of him is having this contagious, glowing spirit. Help people that need it y’all! That’s not who they truly are. I wish I would’ve helped him more instead of chalking off his addictions as selfishness.
notice how no matter what joe says this other dude goes on to talk about himself like yeah i've been through something worse, this reminds me of everyone today, people need to start listening.
When you have a dad but your dad sucks at life and in a subtle way tells you to not be like him. It hurts too man. I understand the pain some people have to go through being raised without a father but being raised by a poor quality father is also painful. It makes me jealous of those who have perfect role model dads.
Amateur Professional I agree iv always been jealous of people who’s dads left so they could just move on as opposed to someone who no matter how hard you want them to love you and care they just fail you every time and shit on you for their failures. T
Im a female who grew up with an abusive mom and I can totally relate to what you said about being jealous of people with role model parents. I'd always wish I had my friend's moms instead of mine when Id be at their house and saw how great their relationship was.
@@pinkpotatoz yep
@@AugustAdvice I also had a somewhat abusive mom growing up although she's gotten better now, she may even be cured. But my dad has crippling depression that he still has to this day. Sometimes life just loves to throw heavy obstacles at random people, only good thing I can think of that comes out of it is a stronger person with hardship experiences.
mine retreated back to his parents house and left me with my mentally and financially unstable mother. was conveniently never there when i needed him the most. he is a poisonous person who tries to talk me out of achieving my dreams because he is a loser who is alone and has lived with his parents for his whole life and doesn’t want me to do better than him
Joe is such a sweetheart.
I love him, he's like a father figure
He cheats on his wife tho
jooreuable you don't know shit stfu
@@jooreuable it's not confirmed + they might have an arrangement you never know dude
Nice profile picture
Damn I relate to this super hard. My dad bounced about the same age. I feel the same way about everything you said about friends and family and loyalty. Fewer you have the more important and closely you hold them.. it's different growing up without a big family. You just learn to extend it over years. I've always said I don't have friends, I only have family. No need to be blood to be my family. Good listen, thanks Joe.
I didn't meet my dad until I was almost 19 with a kid of my own. Now we get along great and he's great to my kids. Wish we didn't miss out on that time
Never met my dad, and it never really bothered me. But once I had my children I could never understand how he left me my kids are my fucking world the way they make me feel is unexplainable and he never got that. That’s the saddest part
I had my dad and I feel bad for dads who leave their children , they're blessings
When a father can’t feel that natural connection to their kid it’s because they are probably a socio path
I never understood how my father could leave his children and start a new life. When my first child was born though, my confusion went to a whole other level.
I used to think maybe one day I could reconnect with him. Now there’s no chance in hell I would give him the time of day.
My children will never ever feel that way about me though. There has never been a single day that I haven’t at the very least spoken to them.
You’re amazing 😉 I think the same every time I look at my 11 yr old daughters face. I feel he thinks he’s a winner but in reality he’s loosing out every day he stays away (less than a mile) I never say a bad word about him and she’s genuinely happy 😊
33greenleaf good for you, enjoy your kids the little moments get us through 🦋💖
Joe “my dads name is joe rogan” rogan
c. Rob you too much!! 🤣
He became his own dad hahaha
Damn Joe Rogan’s Dad Joe Rogan really went to go get milk 😭
Yeah, that joke went right over that guys head lol
@@joshuaha7661 wasn't a joke you tool. his dads actual name is joseph rogan like his
My cousin has only ever met his dad once when he was 14 he randomly picked him up from school and took him to McDonald’s. He’s never really seemed bothered about not having his dad around either. His mom is my aunt and she’s a brilliant woman, a mom and dad rolled into 1. My cousin has turned out to be the most remarkable man, successful and a father to 2 great kids. My aunt did a hell of a job! Shout out to all the single moms out there!!
I lost my Dad when I was 21. Although I cherish the time I had with him, i’ll always feel like I never really knew him because I never got to know as a man and a father myself
When I was younger, I was mad at my father for ditching my mom. My mother worked two full time jobs by the time I was in high school. Then it dawned on me that if my mom didn’t see fit to be angry at him, why should I? It was hard for mom but she’s ok. She’s retired and keeps herself busy enough she isn’t calling me every day. She has hobbies and has friends. We have dinner every other week. She raised two boys who don’t live in her basement.
She’s an amazing woman! Always show her kindness 😉💖
No one cares
Mr. Potato Head finally got an interview.
How original
My dad was there and provided to me the best he could. He did not know how to love me... which caused me many a theapy session, unhappyness and self dought. On his death bed I told him that I loved him ( for the first and last time). He could not speak anymore.... but in his eyes I could see his love. And as I turn 50 that is the most precious memory I will ever have of him. My dad loved me.... even if words failed.
My mom left when I was 10/11. If you told me at 9 she was going to be leaving/I never would see her again I would’ve had a panic attack and bawled my eyes out, but now it’s so normal I can’t imagine her in my life. It makes it hard to get close w literally anyone bc you’re always reminded of how fleeting relationships can be
This dude looks like he's wearing those dollar general mustache glasses
Chris this is so underrated
He actually has only a mouth
Omm🤣🤣🤣
People either have
No dad
A dad that left when they were young
A dad who is around but drunk/abusive.
A dad who is around, but pushes them too hard/too strict/too competitive
A dad that pushes them to do the same job/same things they do etc.
A pretty good dad but who is on the road all the time/focused on career.
A good dad
It seems like the last one is a pretty low percentage, but those who have them appreciate it.
A good dad is rare because parenting is hard
info781 You forgot the helicopter dad. My old man used to smother me, although it’s waay better than what most have.
There's also the dad who wishes he wasn't there, or isn't there by having a side chick. In that situation, Id prefer he dead.
A good dad is rare because men are human, but they have to take responsibility for the entire family. That's a huge responsibility, and life isn't fair so they may not have the opportunities to succeed easily. At the same time, women and feminists go out of their way to shit all over men. Don't point the finger at dads. Examine moms a little closer instead. The epidemic of fatherless children is due to women and feminism.
My dad is the one before last, I have never lived with him for more than 2 months per year
My dad was always working. He ran his own private optometric business. I begged him to give me one day for just me. The first day of deer season. I said in January just put a big red X on this day on November. He refused/ignored/dismissed my request.
Well as the father of 5 children now myself I have focused on being open, emotionally available, interested in their lives and their hobbies. As a result of deciding to be different I have a great work life balance and a great relationship with my children. A bad day can be made a great day just hanging with one of my kids being nothing more special than just plain old Dad…and I love it.
I made sure my sons knew and saw how I treated their sisters and their mother. Made sure my daughters saw that also so they would demand the same respect I gave their momma.
So far all the effort to be different has given vastly different outcomes x 5.
I remember this. I always felt weird for having my mom AND dad because honestly there’s few people I know that have that. I grew up seeing it on tv and living like they did on there. Went to Christian school till middle school and that was a real eye opener. As I got older (23 now) I see how fucked up the world is and honestly it doesn’t get better from what I’ve seen and experienced
I am 16 years old i am currently being raised by my single mother,
I know my dad however i wish i never knew him when i was 6 years old on christimas morning he broke my nose by kicking my back and making me hit my nose on the floor when i have kids i am going to be the best dad i can be!
hey guys.. it has been a full year since i wrote that.. um my relationship with my father remains the same he lives in brazil and i am here in Europe.
I am grateful for all the positive comments however, for those saying "have a rematch" or "hit him when you are older" i do not think that punching him in the future or ending this story with violence is the best way.
we are all on this earth to develop ourselves as we grow each day and get wiser, if his decision was to kick me in the back and making me hit the floor and breaking my nose. Hey that's all his energy.
Not mine.
I live each day trying to improve myself and not look back at the past and let things like this stop me from doing what I have to do in life once again thank you all! and have a blessed day.
Winter Robot lol yea
イアン that’s a manly thought. You are already a better man than your dad. Respect bro
@@winterrobot1942 oh yea that going to fix everything isn't?
You 16 bro, got get a rematch
Wtf why?
I feel blessed for having a father
Same 😭
Fuck u both
ugblox90 😂😂😂 yo I’m crying
@@mohamadosman7451 😂😂😂😂😂
@@lilbeavis7561 bruh why?
Meanwhile my dad isn’t dead, he’s just never around. I remember he pulled up to my house one time and he asked “which one is your room” and it really hit me that this man was not in my life.
And I'm looking for Joe's reaction to Dad and Sister
Hes not gonna react to it
The way Joe described the love between a parents and child was spot-on with my own experiences. Very touching.
When your dads truly gone (passed) you finally realize his importance the older into adulthood u get
That’s so true
💯
Not Necessarily
My dad left and never came back - I have a daughter now she’s 20 and I couldn’t imagine not being in her life it would kill me. I feel sorry for my dad now because he really lost out on both me and my daughter- he is the one without memories in our lives and that’s an awful thing for him to live with and I know people say he doesn’t care but I think everyone does even deep down and regret is an awful feeling to live with
I was 7 the last time I saw my dad and always had a hard time trusting people. Honestly, I never gave it much thought but now I realize why.
My parents split up when I was 2 and my dad came to visit every now and then. But he died when I was in 6th grade... Now I'm 25, the age he had when he had me...
Learning how to be a man from square 1 and then on top of that have a single mom imprint herself on you is fucking tough. She's a great mom, did everything she could to make sure I'm ok... But at the end of the day, the anxiety and depression you rack up trying to figure so many things out without the proper point of reference is fucking tough
Regular every day normal guy facts dude being raised by a liberal ass mom who only showed me what she knew
real talk. I can relate to this...
Amen
At the end of the day our mothers can't teach a boy how to be a man. Because I think they have no idea what that entails.
Yeah, my mom was a wonderful mother, but there are things she couldn't teach me.
Makes me realize how great my dad is! Never abandoned me or my siblings. Keep your head upguys!
Right, my dad was never the most sensitive an didn't say many words, never really taught me anything but i feel bad cause he never had a father growing up an i feel like my guy just had to learn on the go, but one thing i saw was his work ethic an for that I'm forever grateful
@@guillermovazquez1084 same man
Joe, you have gave me a lot of fatherly lessons over the years. Thanks
one of the best things that happened to me in my life, was my dad not being in my life. I didn’t miss much. I wish him peace and happiness.
There is a small part of me that thinks it's possible things would've been better. But I gotta tell ya, you and I are in the same boat. Mine never being around resulted in a pile of other blessings. One being I had MANY fathers all with different flaws and strengths. 30 years in it's hard to imagine having one. He's somewhere in NC and I have the time, money, and resources to meet him. But for some reason, I would rather jerk off. Unlike many I speak with fatherless who say things like "I would punch him" etc. I, like you, wish him the best.
My dad alone raised me
Lmao😂😂😂💀
Oh so you're fine better than being raised by a woman
Pete Poteet salute to u pete..... men like u are appreciate rt
Love and respect to your father!
@Pete Poteet You're a good man in my book too! Love and respect! I wish my daughter had a father who cared.
Life Without Pain is Life Without Growth
I must be a giant then
My dad was in and out of my life up until I was 14 and I still remember the day he left and never came back like it was yesterday. I’m currently 21. One of the soul purposes in my life is to be a better father than he was but the fucked up thing about it is that everyday I notice myself doing things and treating people the same way he did.
My father passed away when i was 3. Mother re married when i was 13. Had 2 brothers. Step father passed away 10 yrs ago. My mother 1 year ago. Now living with my 15 and 16 yr old siblings, my wife, my 3 yr old son and an upcoming baby on the way. This life hasnt been easy, sometimes i think its unfair, but its not a reason for me to stop trying to bring the best life for them. I hope they wont live and have the issues i have had for like as long as i can remember. Im still just 30. 😅 Shit sucks man. Keep living brothers! There will be sunshine.
Joes ability to be surrounded by those things, and still wanting to help, as well as curving the temptation to join in. Great character.
When he said about his mom “I’m happy that she’s happy in the later part of her life” I felt that.
Damn it’s sad to see how many of us don’t have our dads in our lives if ever. I’ll never understand how something so natural like being a father and loving your kids isn’t natural for some people. I’m a dad of two boys one being special needs I couldn’t imagine them not having me in their lives. An absent father is detrimental to a kids future in all forms. Keep your head up fellow fatherless brothers. What doesn’t break you makes you stronger!
My youngest brother died a month ago and he left behind a 4 year old boy, he was a great father and I fear that his son's life will not be as good now without him.
Really sucks hearing stories like this and stories in the comments....my life was totally different. My mom passed away when I was 18 months old from heart failure probably due to partying in the 80s, so I was raised by my father with a little help from my grandparents on my moms side. After living a life with the dad that I have, I could NOT imagine being fatherless. He’s been my best friend my entire life and the best dad I could ever ask for. However,
I’ll never experience having a mother in my life either...
I’m so sorry for your loss sending love 💕
Your dad never dated or remarried?
Better that way ur probably good man 🙌🏻
I've never met my dad, watching this made me tear up because it was so relatable. This podcast has honestly helped a lot filling in the "guy gaps" I've missed.
Having a dad to look up can be super important for a young man’s development. My dad‘s a failure but joe is a perfect example that it’s possible to grow into a successful man without having a dad as an example.
Shouts out all the ppl that grew up with their mom holding it down we standing strong
As a kid, when people used the term"my dad..." it seemed very strange and foreign statement to me
Yup, then by about 11yo it gets awkward.
Same. I couldn't believe my friend's had two parents growing up..
@@booshank2327 Definitely. I seen my dad in 3rd grade then 21 yrs old... He looks at me like shit... I should of been there for her. Since he died, he's always around me. Sad that it took death to bring us together...
I know how it feels man
Thought it was just me
Joe’s fighting back tears at @2:18 You can hear it in his voice... really heartwarming. Lucky kid has an awesome dad.
This is such a great bit. Thanks guys needed it.
I have a similar upbringing as Joe did - I only knew my dad up until I was about 4 years old. Saw him in prison when I was 18 (he was always in and out of prisons) and once more a year later. That's it. He was more like some stranger that shared my DNA.
Like the other guy, my mom also got really upset when I asked about him. But I understand she was coming from a place of hurt and didn't want the horrible person my dad was to have an influence on me.
But I want to say this to those young ones that are reading this and also don't have dads in their lives. You may have trust issues with other guy friends or even women and you may have a small inner circle and are fiercely loyal (seems a common denominator among guys that grew up with no dad) but you can become great fathers in spite of all that.
What the absence of my dad taught me was "When I grow up and become a father, I now know what not to do. I will make sure I am there for my kid." My daughter is now 18, in college, has a boyfriend, a job and is an awesome, wise, loving human being. The circle of ignorance ended with me. It is a LIE that you become your parents or if someone says "I'm like that because my father was like that." a huge lie. I was always there for my daughter and we have an incredibly close relationship,
So, if you are younger and not yet a father you too can break the circle of ignorance and forge something new. Don't let a bad dad (or mom) teach you how to be. Find your own path.
The only thing my dad taught me was how to leave people and not care🙄
I never seen or met my dad. Left when i was 2, when u was 9 i asked my mom to meet him, she reached out to him he said leave me alone so i know i am unwanted.
My mom is amazing but she never ever got a boyfriend, so i never witnessed love or relationships in my life. Now in my 30's, i am alone, no friends, no girlfriends and very lonely. If i ever make it out of this and father a child one day, i will NOT let my child suffer like i did and still am every day. You really have to be a selfish man to abandon your child because let me say from experience, that child will struggle a lot in life because of your selfish decision.
If you are a young man, don't abandon your child, even if you hate the mother. Bless all.
That was really heartfelt! Best of luck in life!! 😊
keep your head up man, I believe you can make it out.
Brother, you wrote this almost a year ago. I hope you've made some strides in these 8 months. If you haven't, start today! Much love
Alex Bisso can I give some helpful advice? Question - is it right you’re still suffering from the bitterness, did I read that right?
Well here is a update those who commented. 7 months ago i quit weed, used to smoke 100$ a week minimum. 6 months ago i started dating a girl i knew in my early twenties, she has a kid, i'm a step father now, 1 month ago, amid the covid19 madness, i moved in with her as the back and forth was feeling dangerous. 4 months ago i lost my virginity to her. She is amazing, we love and respect each other. I have never been happy before all of this, my life made a conplete turnaround. It's still a little surreal when i think about how much has changed. Thanks for the comments guys!