@@CaptainAbmerica I have to disagree with you. God created woman to meet the emotional needs of a man. Nowadays it's the other way around, no wonder divorce is on the rise.
Marriage is a religious concept the problem is that men are marrying women that aren’t religious that’s why they have no problem filing for divorce (instead of honoring the vows till death do you part)
Smart man . Andrew Wilson said it one day( btw if you don't know him you should definitely check him out he is really a beast) he said that marriage is for religious peoples. Its a religious institution. Liberals and the likes shouldn't get married because they believe in secularism and have no moral compass aside from the laws of the country which are subjective.
Those vows are in Christianity not in Judaism Note: our religion is thousands of years older than yours So pointing out those vows are not the one to be kept 😂
What of women marrying men who aren't religious. Problem is that people nowadays aren't religious even religious people themselves, do you know how many Muslims don't know the atrocities committed by Muhammed. And the Jews are still waiting for their Messiah, if not Jesus than what kind of Messiah, a warmonger? People have now turned Christianity into some kind of badge they can remove when it suits them, don't even know the teachings of Christ.
Your country is just a piece of crap. In my country Arrange marriages happen. And Arrange marriages is happened in front of whole family including far relatives. So when anyone decides to divorce then the whole family turns to them, make them understand and try their best. So it's very rare to see divorce in my country ( states that are infested with Western mentality is excluded ).
Have been married 26 years. One of the best decisions of my life. This is why America has a problem today. It's your kind of thought process that leads to a broken family.
His thought process protects his sanity, Do you know what happens to divorced men financially? And the justice system being unfair? Keep your self important crap to yourself lol 💀😂
As Muslims, that’s what we do as well. The government has one set of laws. Islam has another set of laws. And for us, God’s commands in the Qur’an come first before any man-made law.
How to get married without government involvement? If you cant answer that then being of any religion involced is pointless since the government has the last say. Thats now how marriages were designed
If you're looking at it from a western standpoint, what you're saying make possibly. Nevertheless it's not biblical to have to have the government involved in your marriage. So, this Western marriage is not true biblical Christian marriage.
This is why I love Nigeria. In Nigeria, most people do traditional marriages, which means that the court isn't involved in the marriage. So if anything happens, 100% of your Assets (or liabilities) goes to you. We don't want our useless government to be involved in our marriage.
its crazy cause my parents literally did this. i never found out or asked about it until i was 17 realizing that they werent even married yet we all did the things families with married parents would do. they are smarter than i give them credit for tbh
@@1reviravoltanotempo611they give him a pass cas he’s a famous footballer only there for 2 years. If I spent half a billion tax free money on a footballer I’d look the other way too
It makes perfect sense in that regard. A woman is taking on a huge risk when she has a guys children. If he decides to bail on her she's stuck with the kids. He's out there roaming freely and her life is altered forever. Women deserve the protection of the government marriage contract.
@@sentry8992yes but on the other hand the wife has to be loyal, the problem is there is no actually way to tell if a woman is cheating, if a man leaves, well that’s visible. If there was a way the man can get guaranteed loyalty, men would be much more open to marriage. Maybe really big punishments for getting caught cheating? Idk
That was how it was used back in the day and surprisingly in some situations still happens a lot of rich families that have had generational wealth for many years only get married to other rich people. But I most cases now is for love
@@hot_whelzwell said especially the Royal family, they only Mary people who very rich or have certain bloodlines, that’s been happening for years, LA Rams owner Kronke married daughter of Walmart owner, or even you see it in shows like game of thrones were people Mary people from certain houses
I don’t mind getting married it just simply won’t ever be in U.S. The percentage of healthy long lasting marriages/relationships outside the USA & UK is significantly better. REALTALK
Checkmate, the ruler of this world benefits. Your problem is the corruption of having sex like a handshake... Then you are left with no godly reason to get married, further corruption is when you get married in Middle age when the person you are getting is a corrupt opportunists. If God says "delight in a wife of your youth" if you intend to get married past 30yrs then you know what you are looking for. Pull out stats of those who got married between 18 - 25. 😉
*FACTS!!! He is not lying here one single bit!* I actually feel sorry for all the men who didnt understand these simple facts and let malicious women violate them financially through divorce.
I literally just signed my divorce papers hours ago. This is all true. And definitely in the future if I was ever to find a woman and saw the need to marry, I would definitely do what is said in the video. Have the wedding the lady desires, get a ring, live together, have kids, last name change ect, all without doing it through the government legality and paperwork. It would still be a just as great. Just without the government involvement and bounds. I was young and happy to get married initially and signed all the paperwork because that’s custom and no one tells you otherwise. But even if you don’t think anything would happen to your marriage even putting that aside why would you want the government and a contract bounding the terms of your relationship.
@@flasheditz786 thankfully I ended up not too bad off. Kids are week on week off evenly. I don’t owe any child support. Able to split claiming the kids on taxes. We each kept our own debts and vehicles, retirement accounts. And I got maybe a third of the house value in cash which isn’t much and that part sucks, but all things considered I didn’t lose too much In this considering majority of men end up owing child support or spousal support for years and years. This whole process took a year and a half of legal battles and was hell on earth, she was literally trying to take everything from me and give me nothing, and I ended up going to a therapist due to mental pains. I got lucky and it’s not a easy or fun process.
People say this but i haven’t seen much in people explaining how to realistically play this out for those who want a family. Don’t get married okay cool, but how does all that work with kids, living together, who owns what, common law, passing things down to your kids etc. etc. etc.
DO NOT do this. if you buy a house with someone you are not married to, or have stuff signed in both of your names, the other person could walk out and leave you with the cost of those items, (a lot of debt).
If you’re living for yourself and not for the Lord then you need to really consider if you’re ready for marriage. Marriage is about sacrificing the egotistical self and a big tool in the process of sanctification. It’s been the most challenging thing and fruitful path in life. Trophies are fun, but treasure is worth protecting. Good women do exist brothers
Okay but, what does marriage have to do with the government. From my understanding the government contract to marriage don’t even follow the Bible and aren’t religious. From the jump I never planned to get married by government contract but, by my church, community, and God.
This is kind of sad. Working in hospitals ive seen non-married people who arent allowed to make decisions for their S/O. Marriage isnt for everyone but its beneficial with the right mentality.
@@abdelkader8556next plan of care, especially if the partner is unconscious or unable to make decisions for themselves. I believe some examples could be whether to move them from ICU to hospice, whether to do a risky surgery, whether to keep them in a coma they don’t seem to be waking up from
@@abdelkader8556 yes. If you’re not married you have no decisions at the end if theres an unfortunate experience. I’ve seen family members kick out the S/O and wouldn’t let them see the individual transition
it's only crazy expensive in the US. it is so frustrating to hear your comment on why women wants to marry. Seems like you haven't met a woman with substance, who are financially great and wants to marry for love, emotional support, building the magic together as a power couple.
Nope. This is Mainly in the United States, because everything is a Business. Love and Marriage are treated like a drive through. Y’all gotta travel and experience the world outside. Not all women think this way, this mainly occurs with women raised and born in America. Y’all seriously gotta see what the world has to offer, not the women in your town.
I'm a Man and quite frankly this strategy will not hold up under scrutiny. Reason being, guys would be essentially asking a woman to commit to you without any protection that the government contract provides. What woman would go for that? If some dude had plans to impregnate my daughter and have her raise his kids without being married, there would be hell to pay. Most successful Men admit that their wives played a huge role in their success. In alot of cases she is entitled to that 50%. With the exception of professional athletes, most conventional careers and wealthy households were built by the couple building the fortune together. This concept only applies to guys that have managed to build significant fortunes on their own.
Marriage is a guarantee for the woman that the man won’t just get up and leave one day and leave the kids behind. If men got a guarantee that their wife wouldn’t cheat, it would be fair, however the former is much more visible than the latter so tough situation
Only Desperate Men with no options would consider marriage...just "kick it' with her..and if she changes or you both get bored..split up. No government intervention. ..no payouts....kitty is 25 for a penny today...marry it????
You will always end up splitting up living in that reality though. Because realistically women past a certain age are not gonna stick around to be "boyfriend/girlfriend" / pretend married to a guy forever. Even if they say at the start it's no problem she'll see her friends getting married off to their former boyfriends you'll be attending those friends' weddings and her clock will be ticking all the while she'll start to resent you eventually and you almost 100% will split it's not if she changes it's more when following that logic. Because It's not worth it to them either to do that...especially if there is a possibility of you having kids with her intentionally or by making a "mistake" based on how much you two are getting at it over time no woman would want to stay in that kind of relationship, get knocked up, and get dumped when you get bored to become the girl who has a kid from some other man back on the dating market. But for sure not getting is married is great and sensible as long as you accept that your chance of being with the same person even if you find a "good" one is between slim and none and slim has its foot halfway out the door already after 2-3 years of "cohabiting". As long as you accept it and don't get annoyed when they leave after however long it's cool and like you say low maintenance.
@@tegathemenace You're funny. So unless you're 1 specific person out of the 8 billion the rule doesn't apply okay...you went for the most extreme exception possible lmao. And I am Nigerian actually...maybe you are too...and if you are then you know that you don't want to open that can of worms at all right now 🤣.
This is exactly what I did. No legal contract. Wedding ring church and family blessings. No paper work. She went and did a legal name change in the court later
The problem is people forget. Marriage is a Biblical concept that was created by god. You're not supposed to just marry. You're supposed to pray and ask God to guide you as to who will be your wife. Whoever God has for you will not lead you to divorce. They will not be a yoke around your neck but a blessing and a source of strength. This modern idea about hating marriage is because people don't believe in God anymore that's the problem
I have no problem with getting married so long as it’s kept between the 2 families with no government affiliation. Just make sure you live in a state that doesn’t recognize a shared home as legally married.
I go back & forth with this because on one hand I do want to be married but on the other hand I don’t want what comes at the end so I just kinda leave it there
This is a fantastic take. I was always thinking the same thing as a teenager. What’s the point of signing papers when we can do all the things that marriage consists of.
Marriage is all about you, your spouse, and how much respect and love y’all show each other. Theirs a reason our grandparents are still married, and are happy with each other.
If you get into a marriage with this kind of thought, of course things are gonna go wrong!! You're already defeated from day 1!! Marriages end because people don't wanna work out their differences. When problems hit, first thing they think about is drifting away
Terrible advise. The fact that marriages today have been tainted and people no longer understand the marriage covenant (hence divorces) should not invalidate this sacred institution itself. Strong societies are built on strong moral and family values. The promotion of sexual promiscuity and normalisation of premartial sex feeds into the immorality of society and is actually one of the reasons the divorce rate is so high.
As a Christian, marriage is beautiful as its God uniting man and woman till death parts them. Through that commitment, man to woman and woman to man, a family can be established. It’s sin, or it’s wrong, to have sexual relations outside of marriage (fornication and sexual immorality). Our society is seeing the consequences of not defining marriage the way God instituted. So now there lack of self control, children out of wedlock, soul ties and broken families and relationships “Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother and hold fast to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh' So they are no longer two but one flesh. What therefore God has joined together, let not man separate.” Matthew 19: 5
Agreed I'm a millennial and it's sad that people my generation don't want to get married, they don't want to make it work, therefore breaking our hearts.
Bro doesn’t know marriage can be done in church in front of a pastor without getting the government involved. You can say your vows and get married through God. Forget the government. You should be finding a God fearing woman, those types of woman don’t just get married to for the idea of marriage. They get married because they found someone they want to be with for the rest of their life
I got me a good one. Married 14yrs and we have 4 kids. Weve been together for 17 so whatever you do, date for a loooong time so you get a good idea of who you're with.
In some states you can be married under "common law marriages" and some things like kids and buying a ring will be considered in court when determining if you were married under common law.
I agree mostly. However, if you are to get married I’d get married young, don’t engage in hookup culture, make sure the person you are with actually shares your values because that is a big factor, and also make sure you protect your assets.
The thing about marriage is that it benefits the man when it comes to children. If you want children I'd HIGHLY suggest getting legally wed. Its already hard enough for married men in divorce court. If you're just the boyfriend? You can kiss your son and daughter goodbye because you will have NO rights over them
Seen alot of older Black men as a nurse not able to go and live alone being shipped to nursing homes to eventually die alone because all their lives they had this type of mentality and chose to be an individual and not work or commit to a relationship. When women have children they desire stability and part of the package for a quality woman would include marriage. A prenup to protect the assets you acquired before me is fine but after the marriage…no.
Yea, but women have relationships with who they want to now, and sometimes they choose the wrong guys. Young women have to commit to a relationship too!
@ThatBoyDontPlay Yes you are correct. People have the option to do whatever they want but just know there are consequences to all of the choices we make in life.
@@tonih4887 I wouldn't call it a consequence for guys. If you can watch the TV show Law & Order: Special Victims Unit: Season 14, Episode 16 Funny Valentine. It shows a young woman (Misha) choose to love/support a guy who killed someone. She was facing penalty of perjury by lying on the witness stand. After court, Misha ran away with him to some yacht, they start to kiss a little, and then the guy's cell phone dings with a text message from another girl. Misha says to him, who's that? He then suddenly gets angry at her, and ends up strangling her to death on the yacht! Her body was found floating in the water a few days later. This goes to show that young women generally need to make better decisions when choosing guys to be with. They don't always need to be bad boys.
@@ZZGabrielthen why get married? Literally no reason to get married if you’re not religious other than to show off. And that most likely won’t be a lasting marriage.
It's a shame that many don't want to get married. I think people now are too selfish to get married now hence why you get 50% divorce. I'm a happily married man and I think it's amazing.
We do want marriage, we DONT want to risk half our assets being seized and being dragged through court for 2 years just to end up paying alimony at the end after paying so much already to a lawyer who didnt help cause the law fucked us from the start.
There’s no point in getting married to someone you think might do you wrong. Marriage is through everything. Abuse and cheating is when you get divorced not any other reason. Marriage is a relationship between you, your spouse and God. When you don’t ground your marriage on what it is to be grounded on you get that 50%
@@moy9228 it goes both ways, you also shouldn’t need a prenup if you’re never going to divorce. You having her do that already starts your relationship off on a foundation of the possibility of you getting a divorce
i m sure a lot of states have defacto marriage laws where you re legally considered to be married, youre spouse having a right on u re property and all, if you cohabitate for a given period with ur spouse.. so if u live togather a given no. of years then u cant escape
I don’t even blame the women, I blame the system. Example: If you were allowed to go into a store and steal whatever you want without the punishment of getting arrested, sued, or any other consequences would you do it? Give something to someone that benefits them without consequences and they’ll take up on it.
100%. This is why you have the incessant looting in California and other localities where the prosecutors decided to quit prosecuting theft under $1K per head. The quip uttered by Buscemi’s Mr. Pink in Reservoir Dogs really sums it up well: “Don't give me that. She don't make enough money that she can quit. / I don't tip because society says I have to. All right, if someone deserves a tip, if they really put forth an effort, I'll give them something a little something extra. But this tipping automatically, it's for the birds. As far as I'm concerned, they're just doing their job. / These ladies aren’t starving - they’re making minimum wage. I used to make minimum wage and when I did, I wasn’t lucky enough to have a job that the society deemed “tip-worthy” /… and it ain’t the “college” bullshit… *learn to fucking type* “. Only someone as blunt as Tarantino could come up with such epic dialogue that holds true today. Once enough men generate a sufficient critical mass, the lawmakers won’t have much choice but to get to sorting this out.
Although I would love to be married someday but if not I’ll just fine with a longterm relationship. I don’t need a piece of paper declaring my love for a woman when my heart already does it
Pre-nups aren't worth the paper they're signed on. The woman only has to tell the court she signed "under duress" and they will throw out that prenup faster than used toilet paper.
@thewheelofafox Excatly. I know of a situation where the woman cheated, divorced the man, and got damn near everything. Dude told me, and I quote, "The bitch took everything but the black off my ass." 😂😂🤣🤣
Depends on what you put in the prenup! If there’s a cheating stipulation on the prenup then It’s your fault as a man allowing such a stipulation to break that prenup. Don’t put a cheating clause on your prenup and u’ll be good.
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You do know that there is something called no fault divorce right?
Bro, become Muslim & go to Somalia or Morocco for beautiful loyal sisters. You need to spreed your handsome DNA but inshallah become Muslim ❤
Just become muslim AD
I read that wrong i thought it said here is why I will never marry a man
this is why Jesus needs to be at the center of marriage
"Most women just want a wedding & the validation of being called a wife......" 100% truth!!!!
True but God created her to want that.
@@CaptainAbmerica I have to disagree with you. God created woman to meet the emotional needs of a man. Nowadays it's the other way around, no wonder divorce is on the rise.
@@tm-ci7txgood point, don’t know how that flew past my mind before now.
Fr. Kings don give your life for a hoe that ain't worth it.
@@tm-ci7txI would say it’s more the case the woman gets financial stability from a man and gets to lock him down. That means more than validation
The west is truly fucked.
It was always 😂
@@a.m.4148 Those are only a few bad countries
Its everywhere now
Fr
@@a.m.4148less developped while 90 % of the population is depressed
It's sad how people forgot that marriage is a spiritual activity ordained by God😢
I was looking through the comments real quick before I looked at a verse for this… this generation is just corrupt
Tell that to the government and some of these females out here 😴
Women in the bible were virgins
That’s cap 👎🏾
@@JohnDoe-nm4zjyou didn't read the bible
Marriage = 50% of losing half of your assets.
Single = 0% chance of losing half of your assets.
I like that math
So true, being single can be a beautiful thing
Also if you die single, family will take all your wealth.
@@ktube1432 and if you die in a relationship you take it to the after life?😂
It’s higher than 50
Marriage is a religious concept the problem is that men are marrying women that aren’t religious that’s why they have no problem filing for divorce (instead of honoring the vows till death do you part)
Smart man . Andrew Wilson said it one day( btw if you don't know him you should definitely check him out he is really a beast) he said that marriage is for religious peoples. Its a religious institution. Liberals and the likes shouldn't get married because they believe in secularism and have no moral compass aside from the laws of the country which are subjective.
Exactly
Those vows are in Christianity not in Judaism
Note: our religion is thousands of years older than yours
So pointing out those vows are not the one to be kept 😂
What of women marrying men who aren't religious. Problem is that people nowadays aren't religious even religious people themselves, do you know how many Muslims don't know the atrocities committed by Muhammed. And the Jews are still waiting for their Messiah, if not Jesus than what kind of Messiah, a warmonger? People have now turned Christianity into some kind of badge they can remove when it suits them, don't even know the teachings of Christ.
@@GreatTaiwanthere are no vows in a Jewish marriage???
Fellas, Never Sign a Marriage Contract That Only Benefits One Party 💯💊
Such a stupid and ignorant thing to say...
@@BulkierEmu050Why? Women benefit more from getting married than men.
@@BulkierEmu050Wow. How is that? Are you 5?
@@thestruggler7926 no they don't if a divorce is signed it's usually 50 50
@@BulkierEmu050 Get Married And Keep That Same Energy in 10 Years🤣, Keep On Being Naive Buddy!
He speaks facts about this matter tbh
Why none of yall goof balls say anything?
AAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAA
But totally agree.
Noo he doesn’t because Legally you can’t do a lot of things you otherwise could’ve
@@fashionlife5348 you can write them down as your partner when you travel and stuff if thats what your talking about
@@fashionlife5348such as ?
Marriage is the transfer of power, leverage, control and wealth from the man to the woman. RIP husbands. These divorce judges don't play.
when you say it like that damn.
Your just bitter and hurt, thats their retaliation...
@@masternoremac3738 their retaliation is just manipulation. its just shaming language used by 304s to manipulate a man into doing what she wants.
@@marriagecausesdivorce7540 the perfect tool for enormous egos that hate to look hurt
Your country is just a piece of crap.
In my country Arrange marriages happen. And Arrange marriages is happened in front of whole family including far relatives. So when anyone decides to divorce then the whole family turns to them, make them understand and try their best.
So it's very rare to see divorce in my country ( states that are infested with Western mentality is excluded ).
Don't ever sign a contract that benefits a person when and if "they" break it..
Crazy physique ma nigga
Have been married 26 years. One of the best decisions of my life. This is why America has a problem today. It's your kind of thought process that leads to a broken family.
Finally someone said
His thought process protects his sanity, Do you know what happens to divorced men financially? And the justice system being unfair? Keep your self important crap to yourself lol 💀😂
Well, kind sir things have changed a lot now a days
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@alphablitz7907 sounds like your a bitter divorced guy
Being a Christian gives it a diffrent perspective my friend
As Muslims, that’s what we do as well.
The government has one set of laws. Islam has another set of laws.
And for us, God’s commands in the Qur’an come first before any man-made law.
How to get married without government involvement? If you cant answer that then being of any religion involced is pointless since the government has the last say. Thats now how marriages were designed
@@smpiano6605 Church weddings don't require contracts.
Hate to break it to you, but religion ain't in that government paperwork..
If you're looking at it from a western standpoint, what you're saying make possibly. Nevertheless it's not biblical to have to have the government involved in your marriage. So, this Western marriage is not true biblical Christian marriage.
This is why I love Nigeria. In Nigeria, most people do traditional marriages, which means that the court isn't involved in the marriage. So if anything happens, 100% of your Assets (or liabilities) goes to you. We don't want our useless government to be involved in our marriage.
I think it’s like that in a few other countries in the motherland . It should def be like this 100%
I like any african countries tbh, I will even go live in nigeria.
@@samtonnude941 don't go😂
@@TheNotSoRandomDude Nah i would live in nigeria, i'm african lol and i have interest in african cultures.🤦
This is why I love being Nigerian.
I’m happy that I witnessed a new generation of men who have their eyes wide open and have refused to let women finesse them.
If you keep up this mindset you gonna have a lonely ass life
its crazy cause my parents literally did this. i never found out or asked about it until i was 17 realizing that they werent even married yet we all did the things families with married parents would do. they are smarter than i give them credit for tbh
equal cristiano ronaldo and your woman in arabic saudit
@@1reviravoltanotempo611they give him a pass cas he’s a famous footballer only there for 2 years. If I spent half a billion tax free money on a footballer I’d look the other way too
So ur a bastard lol
The marriage is an insurance policy for women
It makes perfect sense in that regard. A woman is taking on a huge risk when she has a guys children. If he decides to bail on her she's stuck with the kids. He's out there roaming freely and her life is altered forever. Women deserve the protection of the government marriage contract.
@@sentry8992Men don't need to bail out, women do..They initiate 80% of divorce
@@sentry8992. Not at the expense of my freedom and sanity, though. Don't ever get married as a man if you can help it.
@@sentry8992yes but on the other hand the wife has to be loyal, the problem is there is no actually way to tell if a woman is cheating, if a man leaves, well that’s visible. If there was a way the man can get guaranteed loyalty, men would be much more open to marriage. Maybe really big punishments for getting caught cheating? Idk
Basically, you are saying marriage is a business😂😂😂😂😂😂
That was how it was used back in the day and surprisingly in some situations still happens a lot of rich families that have had generational wealth for many years only get married to other rich people. But I most cases now is for love
Pretty much a contractual agreement
@@hot_whelzDefinitely not for love....
@@hot_whelzwell said especially the Royal family, they only Mary people who very rich or have certain bloodlines, that’s been happening for years, LA Rams owner Kronke married daughter of Walmart owner, or even you see it in shows like game of thrones were people Mary people from certain houses
@@J.D-df6dn facts bro I wonder back in the days do people needed a contract to get married 💀💀💀
Sometimes , when I watch all these things happening in west , I feel so grateful that I'm born in east.
Same here
North East Asia: Korea, Taiwan,ChinaJapan are also plagued by feminism bro.
South East Asia would be better
@@jkw6196 all the countries you speak of are patriarchal.
This is why marriage is supposed to be a covenant before God and not a covenant before the government.
I wouldn’t do stuff with the western government. I can get married through religious ways
Got to find yourself a woman of God,
All men need to give their life to Christ
And a Good woman your come into your life,
Stay Strong Bros 🙏☦️
As a man, I make MY own decisions
I agree 🙌🏾✝️
Lol woman of God? Where do I find one? On Mars?
I agree...
But still protect yourselves regardless
😂😂😂😂 good question.....becuase most arent from the planet @@parkservice6293
Jesus Christ is king
Amen
True
Jesus wasn't a king. He was just an enlightened man.
@@nicktt500of course He was, He is and He will be the King
Englightend😂 he is god in the flesh, our lord and saviour amen.
I’ll get married and sign the paperwork if she’s richer than me lol 😆
Lmao
What if you become richer than her 10 years down the line?
😂😂😂😂
I don’t mind getting married it just simply won’t ever be in U.S. The percentage of healthy long lasting marriages/relationships outside the USA & UK is significantly better. REALTALK
Checkmate, the ruler of this world benefits. Your problem is the corruption of having sex like a handshake... Then you are left with no godly reason to get married, further corruption is when you get married in Middle age when the person you are getting is a corrupt opportunists.
If God says "delight in a wife of your youth" if you intend to get married past 30yrs then you know what you are looking for.
Pull out stats of those who got married between 18 - 25.
😉
Same
*FACTS!!! He is not lying here one single bit!*
I actually feel sorry for all the men who didnt understand these simple facts and let malicious women violate them financially through divorce.
Engagement is the farthest I’d go, therefore if things go south, I take the ring and save it for the next one
good luck getting that ring back :)
@@diegoalvarez8605 if registered legally as his property, he can get it back.
@@diegoalvarez8605buy a ring from Walmart. They all look the same and women won’t know the difference
That ring is gone tf u on 😂
I literally just signed my divorce papers hours ago. This is all true. And definitely in the future if I was ever to find a woman and saw the need to marry, I would definitely do what is said in the video. Have the wedding the lady desires, get a ring, live together, have kids, last name change ect, all without doing it through the government legality and paperwork. It would still be a just as great. Just without the government involvement and bounds. I was young and happy to get married initially and signed all the paperwork because that’s custom and no one tells you otherwise. But even if you don’t think anything would happen to your marriage even putting that aside why would you want the government and a contract bounding the terms of your relationship.
Did you lose any assets or money?
Well did you find the right woman or eventually you split the assets?
@@flasheditz786 thankfully I ended up not too bad off. Kids are week on week off evenly. I don’t owe any child support. Able to split claiming the kids on taxes. We each kept our own debts and vehicles, retirement accounts. And I got maybe a third of the house value in cash which isn’t much and that part sucks, but all things considered I didn’t lose too much In this considering majority of men end up owing child support or spousal support for years and years. This whole process took a year and a half of legal battles and was hell on earth, she was literally trying to take everything from me and give me nothing, and I ended up going to a therapist due to mental pains. I got lucky and it’s not a easy or fun process.
Yeah did you lose assets or money?
Did you lose any assets or money?
People say this but i haven’t seen much in people explaining how to realistically play this out for those who want a family. Don’t get married okay cool, but how does all that work with kids, living together, who owns what, common law, passing things down to your kids etc. etc. etc.
Reasons NOT to get married
1. You’ll lose your freedom
2. Your sanity
3. Your money
4. Marriage will drain the hell out of you.
Just money, you marrying hobos?
Reasons to be single : 1. freedom - 2. your money is yours - 3. free relationship and fun
@@user-oh6ho3kf7i 💯 facts.
I been thought this crap for 30 years. I worked in prisons, and a jail. I would
Xtra overtime. For the money. And peace in jail. Then home
I get money. But wth you mean by sanity and freedom? You cheat or smth?
DO NOT do this. if you buy a house with someone you are not married to, or have stuff signed in both of your names, the other person could walk out and leave you with the cost of those items, (a lot of debt).
If you’re living for yourself and not for the Lord then you need to really consider if you’re ready for marriage. Marriage is about sacrificing the egotistical self and a big tool in the process of sanctification. It’s been the most challenging thing and fruitful path in life. Trophies are fun, but treasure is worth protecting. Good women do exist brothers
Okay but, what does marriage have to do with the government. From my understanding the government contract to marriage don’t even follow the Bible and aren’t religious. From the jump I never planned to get married by government contract but, by my church, community, and God.
I'm good
This is kind of sad. Working in hospitals ive seen non-married people who arent allowed to make decisions for their S/O. Marriage isnt for everyone but its beneficial with the right mentality.
décisions like what if i may ask ?
@@abdelkader8556next plan of care, especially if the partner is unconscious or unable to make decisions for themselves. I believe some examples could be whether to move them from ICU to hospice, whether to do a risky surgery, whether to keep them in a coma they don’t seem to be waking up from
@@abdelkader8556 yes. If you’re not married you have no decisions at the end if theres an unfortunate experience. I’ve seen family members kick out the S/O and wouldn’t let them see the individual transition
it's only crazy expensive in the US. it is so frustrating to hear your comment on why women wants to marry. Seems like you haven't met a woman with substance, who are financially great and wants to marry for love, emotional support, building the magic together as a power couple.
Stop Coping
Women in their Prime sleeps around with Chads and after hitting the wall they all are settled for an Average
That's how it goes on 😂
Everyone should Google the term "common law marriage" and see what their state's laws are on it.
Common law marrage
Nope. This is Mainly in the United States, because everything is a Business. Love and Marriage are treated like a drive through. Y’all gotta travel and experience the world outside. Not all women think this way, this mainly occurs with women raised and born in America. Y’all seriously gotta see what the world has to offer, not the women in your town.
Get married in the church ⛪️ so there are witnesses and leaving the legal shit out
I'm a Man and quite frankly this strategy will not hold up under scrutiny. Reason being, guys would be essentially asking a woman to commit to you without any protection that the government contract provides. What woman would go for that? If some dude had plans to impregnate my daughter and have her raise his kids without being married, there would be hell to pay. Most successful Men admit that their wives played a huge role in their success. In alot of cases she is entitled to that 50%. With the exception of professional athletes, most conventional careers and wealthy households were built by the couple building the fortune together. This concept only applies to guys that have managed to build significant fortunes on their own.
This honestly breaks my heart
Same here
Sucks, but it's the truth.
You can still ask the man and give him the ring
You didn't need to say that @@phantasam1904
@@Milo-Mikeyou’re gay
Marriage is a guarantee for the woman that the man won’t just get up and leave one day and leave the kids behind. If men got a guarantee that their wife wouldn’t cheat, it would be fair, however the former is much more visible than the latter so tough situation
Only Desperate Men with no options would consider marriage...just "kick it' with her..and if she changes or you both get bored..split up. No government intervention. ..no payouts....kitty is 25 for a penny today...marry it????
You will always end up splitting up living in that reality though. Because realistically women past a certain age are not gonna stick around to be "boyfriend/girlfriend" / pretend married to a guy forever. Even if they say at the start it's no problem she'll see her friends getting married off to their former boyfriends you'll be attending those friends' weddings and her clock will be ticking all the while she'll start to resent you eventually and you almost 100% will split it's not if she changes it's more when following that logic. Because It's not worth it to them either to do that...especially if there is a possibility of you having kids with her intentionally or by making a "mistake" based on how much you two are getting at it over time no woman would want to stay in that kind of relationship, get knocked up, and get dumped when you get bored to become the girl who has a kid from some other man back on the dating market. But for sure not getting is married is great and sensible as long as you accept that your chance of being with the same person even if you find a "good" one is between slim and none and slim has its foot halfway out the door already after 2-3 years of "cohabiting". As long as you accept it and don't get annoyed when they leave after however long it's cool and like you say low maintenance.
@@Drizzydidcould you please summarize all of that into a couple of sentences please? Way too many points formed in a single paragraph.
@@Drizzydid Not if you're Ronaldo.
Or you live in Nigeria and do a trad wedding which is culturally recognized😊
@@potatoisgoodnotacherry How you gonna ask me to write even more sentences by summarizing 🤣. Nah mate read it there's good content in there!
@@tegathemenace You're funny. So unless you're 1 specific person out of the 8 billion the rule doesn't apply okay...you went for the most extreme exception possible lmao. And I am Nigerian actually...maybe you are too...and if you are then you know that you don't want to open that can of worms at all right now 🤣.
This is exactly what I did. No legal contract. Wedding ring church and family blessings. No paper work. She went and did a legal name change in the court later
Marriage for women is an *asset* but where as for men it's a *Responsiblity*
Someone clearly hasn’t found a good woman yet
@@neongecko3065that's what all devils say
Never sign a contract where someone gets half of your thing if they break it
Get married religiously if you're Muslim and have her sign a prenup
The problem is people forget. Marriage is a Biblical concept that was created by god. You're not supposed to just marry. You're supposed to pray and ask God to guide you as to who will be your wife. Whoever God has for you will not lead you to divorce. They will not be a yoke around your neck but a blessing and a source of strength. This modern idea about hating marriage is because people don't believe in God anymore that's the problem
Once you have a kid, prenup is out the door. As a man, you're just fuked.
Pretty much😂😂gotta pick your poison at this point
I have no problem with getting married so long as it’s kept between the 2 families with no government affiliation. Just make sure you live in a state that doesn’t recognize a shared home as legally married.
Never get married.
Never have kids.
Eff everything that moves.
Retire early with all of your assets & income.
-live a life of an egotistical fuck and provide nothing to the world, end up hated and miserable.
😂😂marriage is one thing but not having kids is a tough one. Gotta at least leave a legacy of your bloodline behind.
I go back & forth with this because on one hand I do want to be married but on the other hand I don’t want what comes at the end so I just kinda leave it there
Wonen offer nothing in return
Not even 50 but 80% of marriages nowadays end up in divorce
This is a fantastic take. I was always thinking the same thing as a teenager. What’s the point of signing papers when we can do all the things that marriage consists of.
Marriage is all about you, your spouse, and how much respect and love y’all show each other. Theirs a reason our grandparents are still married, and are happy with each other.
If you get into a marriage with this kind of thought, of course things are gonna go wrong!! You're already defeated from day 1!! Marriages end because people don't wanna work out their differences. When problems hit, first thing they think about is drifting away
That's why we not doing it!
Prenup isn't helpful if no fault divorce exists 🤦
Marriage is holy and it has utmost value in the eyes of God and religious people
Terrible advise. The fact that marriages today have been tainted and people no longer understand the marriage covenant (hence divorces) should not invalidate this sacred institution itself. Strong societies are built on strong moral and family values. The promotion of sexual promiscuity and normalisation of premartial sex feeds into the immorality of society and is actually one of the reasons the divorce rate is so high.
Laugh now cry later
Exactly
As a Christian, marriage is beautiful as its God uniting man and woman till death parts them. Through that commitment, man to woman and woman to man, a family can be established.
It’s sin, or it’s wrong, to have sexual relations outside of marriage (fornication and sexual immorality).
Our society is seeing the consequences of not defining marriage the way God instituted. So now there lack of self control, children out of wedlock, soul ties and broken families and relationships
“Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother and hold fast to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh' So they are no longer two but one flesh. What therefore God has joined together, let not man separate.” Matthew 19: 5
But marriage is a covenant and NOT a contract
Agreed I'm a millennial and it's sad that people my generation don't want to get married, they don't want to make it work, therefore breaking our hearts.
I am a Muslim and I completely agree with you my brother in faith. Even though you are correct we should still sign a free nup. Better safe than sorry
Marriage is nothing special, if you choose to get married then go for it if not then don’t
Exactly
I want to get married because I have a vision of how I want my life to be in 20 years. I want to have a wife, I want to have kids, etc.
Better find a virgin then. Good luck😂
Same men call out women for wanting to be single and tell them they will die alone with cats
Funny because black men do not even have money. What money are black women going to take from them.
he never said he wants to single
Women want to be single, they just want a wedding and your assets..After that they go back to being single which is what they really want.
Exactly
Watch the short instead of commenting by the title
Oh boy just say that you are not ready😂
He’s a fuckboy.🤣
In this country. You can def get married and live elsewhere without the “belt to ass” laws
FACTS! DON’T DO IT MEN! Women behave there best when you hold all the leverage
Holding back marrying her is not leverage... Trust me on that😂
womp womp prenups are not legally viable in India.. we're technically effed
Absolutely! American marriage ain’t design for men’s benefit
this man just saved 40 years of my life 🔥🔥🔥
Bro doesn’t know marriage can be done in church in front of a pastor without getting the government involved. You can say your vows and get married through God. Forget the government. You should be finding a God fearing woman, those types of woman don’t just get married to for the idea of marriage. They get married because they found someone they want to be with for the rest of their life
It's literally what he said did we watch the same clip?
He's just an idiot @@sole008
Common law is the next enemy…
Getting marriage religious still gives her all the benefits and she can still take you to court and take half your shit. What you talking about
No thanks
I got me a good one. Married 14yrs and we have 4 kids. Weve been together for 17 so whatever you do, date for a loooong time so you get a good idea of who you're with.
why are u spending time on this channel old man?
@ Your comment is sad
It's sad these days millennials don't want to get married
@disrespectful
@@XxforevercandygirlXxyep and gen z that are coming even harder
In some states you can be married under "common law marriages" and some things like kids and buying a ring will be considered in court when determining if you were married under common law.
I agree mostly. However, if you are to get married I’d get married young, don’t engage in hookup culture, make sure the person you are with actually shares your values because that is a big factor, and also make sure you protect your assets.
The thing about marriage is that it benefits the man when it comes to children. If you want children I'd HIGHLY suggest getting legally wed. Its already hard enough for married men in divorce court. If you're just the boyfriend? You can kiss your son and daughter goodbye because you will have NO rights over them
Thanks to allah i am Muslim and Muslim women are not like this
Good for you.
It’s The Truth. Take Those Emotions And Go Somewhere Else With Them.
In Africa we don't necessarily have to sign any government contract. Customary marriage & that's all... married to a clean virgin
Seen alot of older Black men as a nurse not able to go and live alone being shipped to nursing homes to eventually die alone because all their lives they had this type of mentality and chose to be an individual and not work or commit to a relationship. When women have children they desire stability and part of the package for a quality woman would include marriage. A prenup to protect the assets you acquired before me is fine but after the marriage…no.
Yea, but women have relationships with who they want to now, and sometimes they choose the wrong guys. Young women have to commit to a relationship too!
"not work or commit to a relationship" this is so funny coming from a woman lol
Thats cus if most men wanna stay single then they CAN
@ThatBoyDontPlay Yes you are correct. People have the option to do whatever they want but just know there are consequences to all of the choices we make in life.
@@tonih4887 I wouldn't call it a consequence for guys. If you can watch the TV show
Law & Order: Special Victims Unit: Season 14, Episode 16 Funny Valentine. It shows a young woman (Misha) choose to love/support a guy who killed someone. She was facing penalty of perjury by lying on the witness stand. After court, Misha ran away with him to some yacht, they start to kiss a little, and then the guy's cell phone dings with a text message from another girl. Misha says to him, who's that? He then suddenly gets angry at her, and ends up strangling her to death on the yacht! Her body was found floating in the water a few days later. This goes to show that young women generally need to make better decisions when choosing guys to be with. They don't always need to be bad boys.
fun fact: portugal has a 92 percent divorce rate
Not 92%, but for every new 100 mariages 92 are divorced. and that was in 2020. now its about 50 divorces per 100 marriages.
Sad to hear ..marriage is a wonderful union always put God first the devil hates what God created
Its mainly religious thats why u get yourself a religious women anything out there will mess you up
They arent really "religious"
Marriage is a sacramental union between a man and a woman, through God and His Church.
Fax bro, most dudes think that marriage is just some sort of game or business contract, when in reality its very holy.
Not everyone believes in God
@ZZGabriel then this guy should say "only for athiests" smh. Maybe even the west. This stuff makes me so mad he just said it out of nowhere
Lol you will soon learn the hard way
@@ZZGabrielthen why get married? Literally no reason to get married if you’re not religious other than to show off. And that most likely won’t be a lasting marriage.
It's a shame that many don't want to get married. I think people now are too selfish to get married now hence why you get 50% divorce. I'm a happily married man and I think it's amazing.
We do want marriage, we DONT want to risk half our assets being seized and being dragged through court for 2 years just to end up paying alimony at the end after paying so much already to a lawyer who didnt help cause the law fucked us from the start.
But how long have you been married though?
It's the government and letting women do anything they want fuck that shit
It's a shame you have to shame people for enjoying their peace and sanity, cry me a river!
There’s no point in getting married to someone you think might do you wrong. Marriage is through everything. Abuse and cheating is when you get divorced not any other reason. Marriage is a relationship between you, your spouse and God. When you don’t ground your marriage on what it is to be grounded on you get that 50%
@@moy9228 it goes both ways, you also shouldn’t need a prenup if you’re never going to divorce. You having her do that already starts your relationship off on a foundation of the possibility of you getting a divorce
Anytime you sign a deal that only benefits one party, you my friend.... have signed a horrible deal.
i m sure a lot of states have defacto marriage laws where you re legally considered to be married, youre spouse having a right on u re property and all, if you cohabitate for a given period with ur spouse.. so if u live togather a given no. of years then u cant escape
Do you know if that sort of law apply anywhere in the Uk?
@@truzs2807 no, but its probable since its a common law statute. You ll have to check there
There are over 6000 languages in the world and this man chose to speak facts
😂😂😂
I mean you can just marry in the church
I heard that the church will ask for a marriage certificate before u can marry through the church
Depends I guess. I'm from Germany. They changed it in 2019 I think so luckily for us we don't have to get the state involved
I don’t even blame the women, I blame the system. Example: If you were allowed to go into a store and steal whatever you want without the punishment of getting arrested, sued, or any other consequences would you do it? Give something to someone that benefits them without consequences and they’ll take up on it.
100%.
This is why you have the incessant looting in California and other localities where the prosecutors decided to quit prosecuting theft under $1K per head.
The quip uttered by Buscemi’s Mr. Pink in Reservoir Dogs really sums it up well: “Don't give me that. She don't make enough money that she can quit. / I don't tip because society says I have to. All right, if someone deserves a tip, if they really put forth an effort, I'll give them something a little something extra. But this tipping automatically, it's for the birds. As far as I'm concerned, they're just doing their job. / These ladies aren’t starving - they’re making minimum wage. I used to make minimum wage and when I did, I wasn’t lucky enough to have a job that the society deemed “tip-worthy” /… and it ain’t the “college” bullshit… *learn to fucking type* “. Only someone as blunt as Tarantino could come up with such epic dialogue that holds true today.
Once enough men generate a sufficient critical mass, the lawmakers won’t have much choice but to get to sorting this out.
Although I would love to be married someday but if not I’ll just fine with a longterm relationship. I don’t need a piece of paper declaring my love for a woman when my heart already does it
Build your marriage on the word of God.
Austin: You really don't have to get the Government involved by getting married.
Government: Common Law = I am still involved.
Pre-nups aren't worth the paper they're signed on. The woman only has to tell the court she signed "under duress" and they will throw out that prenup faster than used toilet paper.
plus you don't get to lose half your assets it's a win win😊
No its haram 😊
MashaAllah brother, if you’re marriage is for Allah SWT, centered around Allah SWT then Allah SWT will put barakah into the marriage InshaAllah
prenups arent safe anymore, it can go in her favour if you cheat.
I mean just don’t be unfaithful to your wife then that should be easy 💀
@@acewarrior55k38what do you do when she cheats?
Should he still have to pay?
@thewheelofafox Excatly. I know of a situation where the woman cheated, divorced the man, and got damn near everything. Dude told me, and I quote, "The bitch took everything but the black off my ass." 😂😂🤣🤣
Depends on what you put in the prenup! If there’s a cheating stipulation on the prenup then It’s your fault as a man allowing such a stipulation to break that prenup. Don’t put a cheating clause on your prenup and u’ll be good.
@@cwasonga7 a trust is much better. Or perhaps legally naming a heir and keeping the property as inheritance is also a good idea.
Never sign a contract where the other is awarded for breaking it
A lot of prenups don't hold up in divorce and men still end up paying out.
“Cheating” and open relationships are much easier when you’re not technically married (but we’re not animals)
Don't be unevenly yolked. That's the number one reason for divorce. Find someone with whom you share the same fundamental values.
and these days allot of woman want to get married so that they can get rich when they slam the guy with the divorce papers
I'm personally not getting married. I will have kids but in the countries where i will have the most leverage.
Unfortunately even a prenup might not cover you
Thats why passport bros exist, also i am a passport bro and its the best decision ive made in my life
Salute bro