Narcissistic Supply: Narcissist's Drug
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The Primary Narcissistic Supply is attention, in both its public forms (fame, notoriety, infamy, celebrity) and its private, interpersonal, forms (adoration, adulation, applause, fear, repulsion). It is important to understand that attention of any kind -- positive or negative -- constitutes Primary Narcissistic Supply. Infamy is as sought after as fame, being notorious is as good as being renowned. (From the book "Malignant Self-love: Narcissism Revisited" by Sam Vaknin - Click on this link to purchase the print book, or 16 e-books, or 2 DVDs with 12 hours of video lectures on narcissists, psychopaths, and abuse in relationships: www.narcissistic-abuse.com/the...) - Věda a technologie
I have heard it said that there is no hope for a narcissist. I was raised surrounded by them. and I became one. I honestly believe im on the road to recovery. being a narcissist is a miserable way to live. and they live a complete lie. and hurt others.
Stay honest and take it one step at a time.
THAT ONE STATEMENT..HE NAILED IT, COMPLETELY!! WHAT MATTERS IS NOT THE TRUTH..BUT THEIR "PERCEPTION" OF THE TRUTH!! IF YOU EVER FIND YOURSELF INVOLVED WITH ONE..RUN!! DON'T WALK..RUN AS FAST & AS FAR AS YOU CAN!! BELIEVE ME!!
So true, Carol. Make it No Contact, No Contact, No Contact! If that's impossible (i.e, if narc is a co-worker), just be polite and keep contact to a minimum.
I realize it's kinda randomly asking but does anybody know of a good website to stream newly released series online ?
@Elisha Shawn I watch on Flixzone. You can find it by googling =)
@Elisha Shawn Try flixzone. You can find it on google :)
@@elishashawn3188 Little Shaman is the best I have found. She is on You Tube. Her videos saved me from a world of misery.
It is not WHAT the narcissist wants, but HOW he want these things, HOW he goes about obtaining them, and then WHAT USE he makes of them.
Mine just dumped me 2 days after my birthday. He moved a new supply here 2 days after my birthday. He’s been grooming her for 8 months without me knowing because she lived in a different state. She bought him a motorcycle (Harley $38,000) and a $1,500 watch. I guess I can’t compete.. Do you offer therapy outside of your videos? This just happened 3 weeks ago.
THANK YOU FOR BEING CLEAR THAT THE NICE SIDE IS FALSE AND NOT TRULY THEM
I am the main supporter and chief supply of my narcissistic spouse, and I perform these requirements in spades. When I am unavailable, I pay for it in the form of stonewalling, gaslighting, compartmentalization, and other assorted punishments. It is exhausting. My hormonal response to these traumas (he does not physically abuse; he will not risk his freedom) lasts a while and has left indelible imprints on my brain. I am only as good as my last good deed. I am trying to steadily detach myself emotionally from this nightmare, until I can escape him entirely. Relationships with narcissistic people are not worth the life, agony and time you exchange for it. You cannot love them to decency, compassion, empathy or normalcy.
Fantastic Video, We have learned allot from this incredible video series. Sam Vankin is brilliant and explains things very well.
Vaknin.
Sam Vak tripod is permanently in my web browser favourites list. So insightful. Thank you so much. Glad to find your video here too on CZcams.
Therapists always told me about my mother not being "real", now i know they were talking about her "false self". She acts all sweet, charming and fun in public but behind closed doors she's horribly critical, angry and insecure. She lives for control and will do anything to get it. And I do mean anything. She is a monster..in a dress.
If I had seen this video ten years ago my Life would have been dramatically different. This totally describes not only my exwife, but my own mother and father. I can't help but wonder if a childhood accident involving a lawn dart and my head may have rescued me from this same fate?
This is very good. Thank you.
No matter how hard i tried not to be on their way, They found me. It was like i was stalked.
In my case, my X was the "king" of his "kingdom" which included his friends, who were and are now his "handlers," "personal assistants" or what I called his "Quasimotos," i,.e., his narcissistic suppliers. His Pathological Narcisssistic Space was what I called his "kingdom." During my time with him, I formulated my own lexicon to try to make sense of what was going on. Now, I have your lexicon and have finally, thru your videos, made sense of the insanity I was subjected to. WAS. :) now free!
Hey val i have been doing research and i would like to know more about the covert narcissist, i am wondering if i am one!!! thank you very much!
Positive cues and attention...
I totally want to eat some pizza with ya bro. Good work.
Faccs
I think that a narcissist can never really run out of narcissistic supply then. He/she can simply lash out at a complete stranger in the street and get a reaction (narcissistic supply). Am I correct?
Spring Jackson I’ve done this before, and I always feel bad about it, but feel powerless to change.
Sam, in your opinion, does my husband have any chance of rehabilitation if his therapist says that he possesses "insight?" She is one of the top trauma therapists in the nation and she also recommended your book for him to read.
Brett, this is not always true. It may not be able to be fixed to the extent of non-narcissists’ mindset, but it can be significantly improved if the patient is willing to put in long and hard work. Sadly, most are not.
Good video. Thanks. BTW, kudos on your mastery of the English language. How did you acquire it?
By reading incessantly.
I personally believe they are looking for omnipotence not supply
I understand some of what is meant here.. If one were to attempt to describe this to someone from the outside looking in. How aware, from the inside of a narcissist, is someone that they are living for attention? Addicted to it? Yes, they know what they are doing, and that how they are doing it is wrong... But, how does it look to the addict, emotionall, mentally, etc, when they approach their "fix" of N-supply? Being a disordered personality, it seems like they're not aware of the larger picture, somewhere. If confronted with these facts that they are going from attention fix to attention fix, does it vary from person to person? From their minds perspective, what do they try to rationalize it as, if at all? Or is it so caught up in the thrill of the fix that they can't even rationalize? Much like any addict? Just wondering what the chaos looks like to the one in charge of the storm..
lethimwhoboasts Stop wondering and start watching the 270+ videos on this channel that deal with your questions exactly. Also read this: www.narcissistic-abuse.com/2.html
Sam Vaknin Have been.. for six months or more. Maybe I'm just a slow study, slow to wake up to this. Also bought your book (s).. Rereading the page you linked... Maybe I'm just curious, whether it matters or not, what the "waking up" to NPD looks like to the N.. have also watched a couple of your interviews. Just wondering what the light coming on takes for most N's. The mechanism of the denial, the painful revelation... is there a normal progression of unveiling, regardless of prognosis, other than possibly violent denial followed by eventual acceptance...
As Always Sam, Wow its like you know my Dad and My older brother. But my older brother doesn't create lies from scratch concerning his awesomeness, but embellishes, so the story gets a little more interesting and/or amazing each time.
But I have hear more amazing and accurate accounts from my best friend of 26 years, we are 39 now. But he turns boring stories, into amazing events. but not totally or possibly not at all Delusional.
but as long as everyone else believes it, he can lie to himself
Why does a narcissist need supply in the first place?
A little well deserved praise is good. But to a normal person another who keeps on praising sounds like they want something from the normal. A narcissist seems to keep needing that praise.
The narcissist thinks of themselves as a deity forever needing worship. No worship then suffer my wrath.
What if someone for example wants to be a successful CZcamsr? To be a successful CZcamsr you will need at least some following and a stable amount of positive people that watch your content. Is someone who wants success in the CZcams business narcissistic and only looking for narcissistic supply?
A lot of successful youtubers are narcs..
omg my mother acts like and says god put her on earth to help and save ppl!!!!!! she says she is a saint and marter, but acts evil, yes she demands and extorts!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I am her N supply, that is WHY I got injured 2 times!!!!!!!!!
They are looking for omnipotence
I think it is normal to want to be acceptet and valued by others. My boyfriend who is no narcist, but diagnosed a dependent personality disorder wants to be seen as inteligent and creative etc. as he is as well, everyone wants this, I mean, who wants to be treatend like an idiot by others? We all have achievments made and goals we want to reach, of course you want to be respected for this. A man whitout ambitions is dead, I met such people, theyre were that strange, because they have no life.
OMG, this is a spot on description of Donald Trump!
samvak.tripod.com/faq19.html#trump
@@samvaknin Thanks. The section about his followers and the age of ochlocracy is particularly enlightening.
What do you make of Donald Trump?
+Yve Clark A narcissistic caricature. At least he is obvious.
***** As someone who deals with a narcissist on a daily basis I'm inclined to agree with Sam Vankin. He woos his victims en masse. When they disappoint him the consequences do not bear thinking about. If he wins or if he looses he's dangerous.
WOW! Wouldn't have thought. He seems sincere about making lives better for some. Lowering taxes, bringing jobs back, etc. Are those efforts his "narcissistic mask?"